124: Complex Trauma and the Highly Sensitive Person
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- Опубліковано 7 чер 2024
- How do you see and interact with the world around you?
While some people go through life without paying attention to every little detail, highly sensitive persons pick up on just about everything - and every bit of information is deeply processed within.
On this episode, I talk with trauma-informed psychotherapist Carmen Schmidt Benedetti about highly sensitive persons (HSPs) who have had the experience of complex trauma, particularly complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. We break down the myths and misconceptions around the intersection of high sensitivity and PTSD; how it manifests in people’s lives; and how people can learn to treat their high sensitivity as a gift.
About Carmen Schmidt Benedetti
Located in Sonoma County, California, Carmen Schmidt Benedetti is a trauma-informed psychotherapist for highly sensitive adults. She helps them heal layers of unrecognized childhood trauma and create a sense of calm, balance, and stability in their life. She is also a certified EMDR therapist and guides adults in reframing their past from an empowered perspective, helping them realize they are good enough and that their needs and feelings matter.
Some Questions I Ask:
How did you end up working in the intersection of highly sensitive individuals and complex trauma? (3:07) What are some of the myths about high sensitivity? (10:58) What’s complex trauma? (14:14) Why is complex PTSD so significant for highly sensitive individuals? (23:15) How can highly sensitive individuals who have experienced trauma move forward towards healing? (32:03)
In This Episode, You Will Learn:
What it means to be highly sensitive. (7:12) How complex trauma is different from other types of trauma. (14:47) How complex trauma shows up in individuals. (19:32) How complex trauma affects emotional regulation. (26:17) Why it’s important for highly sensitive persons to seek a therapist who is informed on this trait. (34:00)
Resources:
Carmen Schmidt Benedetti’s Website
The Trauma Treatment Toolbox by Jennifer Sweetens
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel an der Kolk
HS Person Website
Survey Invitation for HSPS who have experienced Trauma
We're in the process of creating resources that are beneficial for Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) who have experienced trauma. We’ve developed a questionnaire in order to best understand what’s most helpful.
If this applies to you, and you’re interested in learning more about this topic, we would love to have you participate in this survey. Your responses are anonymous unless you choose to provide that information. Please feel free to share the link with others!
Link to survey: forms.gle/bmWQrDNFJ8frXT6W9
Lourdes Viado, PhD, LMFT and Carmen Schmidt Benedetti, LMFT
Throw mama from the train voice is ruining this for me. It's contrived and not a natural voice 😂
This explains why I feel like I don't belong anywhere. I'm so glad I found this
I hear you. I told my husband I do not even belong on this planet. Everything feels too loud and too bright and I can barely digest any earthly foods....I came up with this special planet in my brain called Planet PinklePuff. It’s where everything is feathery soft, and gentle pastel tones and sounds are never too loud and everyone just eats soft warm white rice. Haha.
Oh my goodness. You just made a comment. That I have held my entire life basically any where I was. I even told my therapist a couple weeks ago. I’ve just always felt like I don’t belong. I don’t know where I belong.
I'm 15 minutes into hearing about this for the first time and I've never felt like I've understood myself better. Mind blown.
I have your feelings but I am having a hard time understanding this too.
Me too
I was born highly sensitive, it put a target on my head!
My father was a psychopathic!
I was physically, emotionally and sexually abused throughout my whole childhood.
Me and my two brothers were abandoned by our mother and left with our drunken father.
He beat his wifes, they took it out on me.
He killed our pets in front of us.
I was the youngest...the only girl so I spent most of my time in the woods behind our house in Maine.
I was in special education until I ran away from home at 13
I never knew what a real family was or felt love.
I believe that animals are definitely highly sensitive as well !!!!
I can communicate with the birds!
They flock around me,
I have a special way of whistling that draws them to whistle back at me.
It'll be dead quiet before I whistle and they respond every time!
They follow me around town.
I too am like you, but my childhood was much less traumatic. HSP’s see and feel the world differently. Get into therapy so you can heal from your childhood and then you can be the amazing person that you are free from the bondage of a childhood you survived. I’m 57 years old and in therapy i learned about myself. I learned that I am a warrior and a HSP. It’s a journey to heal. Listening to this podcast is the first step.
im so sorry for all you have been through. jesus loves and understands you personally in his body. jesus knows experiencially
Sending love to you my fellow human ❤
I am sorry to hear you had childhood like that. I hope you are doing better.
I am so thankful for the therapists who were able to identify hsp's. It took me 67 years of constant questioning before my questions were answered.
The extreme result of prolonged complex trauma in an HSP is to become a misanthrope. At 69 I'm so exhausted that I've actually been doing well during the forced isolation of the Covid-19 pandemic. I wish it would never end.
NORALEE STONE.
HELLO..SAME AGE..I LIVE IN THE OUTBACK AND DIDNT THINK GOVID AFFECTED ME..BUT LIVING IN A COUNTRY TOWN
WHERE IF YOU KEPT TO YOURSELF THEY JUDGED YOU SO KEPT AWAY AND NEVER SPOKE..THIS IS WHAT HURT ME ND MY PERSPECTIVE OF MYSELF HIT ROCK BOTTOM..
I WONT EVEN LOOK AT ANYONE
NOW..SO THATS IT FOR ME..IM ALSO 69 ..AND TRY SO HARD TO PRETEND IM O.K.
@@krisellis6384 Oh Kris, I've always known there were many others similar to me. It's heartbreaking not to be accepted by your own kind. We see the results all the time in Nature. I've stopped pretending I'm okay, because that's energy I need to stay safe & healthy. I just make sure to keep my personal boundaries well maintained. Sending virtual hugs your way, Kris - because real hugging is too dangerous. LOL
@@KAT-dg6el All that needs to be added is, "Amen." :)
I tried to survive the ride and not lose my job..hindsight it would've been better and help coming faster if I lost my job..or let go then
I made it barely by the seed of my pants now when things getting back to normal I lose everything..trying to hang on has been my life blowing up experience for over 30 years...im 51 and just got proper ptsd diagnosis..Bless you hon.you have made it longer than I have..
Me too. I'm sorry that the world is opening up again, the noise, the crowds, the hustle and bustle. For me the world slowed down for a little while and there was peace.
Yeah that metaphor for the hsp with trauma, that they have no armour at all, is really spot on. Like a hsp with no trauma has a light layer, a "normal" person has thicker armour and then a hsp with trauma have no armour at all.
That's exactly how I feel. I'm so scared by seemingly normal things. I do lots of work with my hsp trained therapist. I just hope I can continue to learn and grow and that things will get better. I've been struggling so much and I still am.
How are you going?
I just recently found out I am a HSP. And right now I am living on the edge of giving up on life. I'm on meds for anxiety because I have had 3 panic attacks in the past 3 months. I'm 66 years old and handled things well until now. How much I can go on... who knows. Thanks for bringing this type of people to the for front. When you don't have health insurance or money, we are left to hurt alone.
Panic can be helped. Drop the fear
I am a dude.
I am a HSP for my whole life.. this podcast is not only for women.
Me too buddy. Childhood trauma and HSP made me who I am today. Predicted Multiverse at age of 10 with pure imagination ! Good Music, Piano, and love of Animals , Cat's Purr, Cosmology is the best treatment.
Yeah the woman/focus thing turned me off - and I'm a woman.
It's for both types sir. GodBless you. Oh course it's in women and men. I'm glad that you spoke your mind I never thought about it. Being in one or the other. Just noticed it in my everyday life since I was 4.
@@kahlodiego5299 me too. I'm a women. The conference makes me want to puke. Just get to the point, you know. We should start are own gathering of normals, just like us.
Arshad, you are so right. The trait of high sensitivity is about equally divided between men and women... Glad you guys aren't letting the context put you off from hearing the important messages.
When she said people are born with this trait. I remember being inside my mother's womb, I remember feeling her grief as she lost 2 children in a terrible accident months prior to becoming pregnant again. I was not a planned pregnancy, so I also felt the rejection that came with it. That always made me wonder if that was the reason I developed hyper sensitivity as my developing nervous system was inside an environment that felt tremendous grief, pain and frustration.
Hi Julie! I was thinking the same! So, do you believe that you became a hsp because of the trauma you went through in your mother womb? For some reason I think I too became highly sensitive in my mother’s womb…. Any thoughts?
@zsuzsannaorthodoxou1658 yes. A fetus feels what the mother feels. My mom's feelings were too intense having lost 2 children in a freak accident being electrocuted. They both died and 6 weeks later she finds out she's pregnant. One of her first feelings was rage. I am a heavy meditator and this I know because of that. I have asked my mom and she has confirmed.
@@juliethkontos Thank you. Unfortunately I can’t ask her anymore:-(
Thank you so much for having lower, calmer voices. This HSP appreciates it. Spot on with the grocery cart in the middle of the isle. How do they not know!???
I was thinking that same thing about the cart!! Sometimes it feels like I’m getting more effected by stuff because other people don’t care at all... lol
I agree , I tend to gravitate to males voices more then females because of the pitch and tone. She has a nice lower tone .
Actually, I find her deep “vocal Fry” very annoying and irritating . I would have a difficult time listening to it in therapy. It wouldn’t be annoying if she was unable to talk differently but it’s a purposeful way for women to use their voice to be more empowering.
Other than her voice, I found the discussion very interesting and informative.
I was at a store just yesterday and two different isles were blocked by people with their carts on one side of the isle and them in the other. I walk around through thg he next isle because i feel resdy to say something like "do you think you are the only one in the store? That's why they have ti put signs up everywhere telling people things like "please don't litter". People can seem so clueless. Is it due to narcisism, like they just don't care to think of others needs or feelings at all?
@@auntmimikassieskidschannel8500 me too. I found it really distracting. I'm very sensitive to sounds, so the vocal fry hurt my eardrums.
As a man I feel like HSP has made my life so much harder. It really put a target on me growing up. I've had sexual, physical, mentally, and emotionally. 30 years later I'm surprised I'm still alive with the thoughts and feeling flying around my head 24/7. I try to get better, and work through stuff, but I don't know. I fall into a black lonely pit on a daily basis, and even though I want to feel better I feel like I don't have the strength. Talking to someone never really helps that much because they don't understand how deeply I feel things. People don't understand I can't just get over stuff. Which just makes me feel like nobody cares enough to see things from perspective. I feel like since ice hidden away for decades, that it's too late to get better. Why bother. Now if you excuse me, I hear numbing drugs calling my name.
I hear you! I totally and completely hear and understand you.
Its never too late ..trust me on that one.Thankyou for reaching out in comment section.
Sending hugs.
It's never too late to get better. You have the tools and ability within, ( even if it doesn't feel that way right now.)
I believe in you!
Damn we have the same life
CRAPPY CHILDHOOD FAIRY. UA-cam. You will find validation and tools for the moment.
Life is such a difficult survival. Wish I was never here. Existing isn't living.
Me either. No answers. You're either misdiagnosed, and this IS the problem I'm experiencing, and overwhelmed for decades on medications or thought, "crazy". This life struggle is not worth it. You mention HSP or trauma and you are ignored.
It explains why I can’t get over the 20 years I spent with an abusive narcissist.
The greatest gift I highly sensitive person can receive is trauma. Highly sensitive people may not know this but they are Alchemists. They are the Masters at transmutation. So it is always a gift to experience pain because the pain they can learn to transmute into power. And the more pain they experience the more powerful they become
🌹🕊️😇
Just found this video cuz I've been feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated. The frustrating aspect of being an HSP is how ppl don't pay attention and I find it hard to understand that others aren't considerate in their actions. This is such a great Podcast for me cuz I've been through so many different kinds of traumatic experiences and finally understanding who I am and now everything makes sense. I remember being a little kid crying for a loved who was sick snd would be teased even into adulthood. I intensely feel for others who are less fortunate. I'm always having to explain myself to others I'm not sad. I'm easily overcome with emotions even when listening to music. When I see others less unfortunate, I empathize so much and feel stuck. As a Nurse for over a decade now, I feel exhausted. But in all, I believe in the Giver of Life and the Supreme God to use this podcast to help improve lives. I am thankful for this educational youtube podcast. Enough said for now!
Being misdiagnosed was just more traumatic overwhelming. Distancing myself from very dysfunctional aka to me unhealthy unhealed humans has been my peace of mind, back to wild and free. We can't everyone to be for us. Once you can discern, boundaries are so easy to set and enforce. Im pretty sure being a Taurus on the cusp of Aries has factored in to the traits of being strong, learning how to cope and adapt fairly well and intact. And now I'm tough to compliment my strength. This information has certainly explained a lot, in fact how I've been trying to destigmatize me myself and I. Being undermined all your life sucks, just sucks. I'm off the road to hell, and leaving those guys to talk amongst themselves, and I no longer exist for them. I never say they are dead to me, I'm not a murderer. I'm not suicidal either, you people need to leave me alone is what I said and ran. I've always created happiness, lol. I wish everyone much fortune in their journey. Knowledge is power.
C-PTSD and HSP here. It’s really hard to distinguish a trigger vs. being overstimulated. I have been getting better at it though. I was the caregiver for my narcissistic mother and now I am the caregiver for my father who wasn’t in my life for many years as a child. It’s very nice to know that what I go through daily in my environment and my own mind isn’t weird or strange. I have been trying very hard to do self care. I homeschool my children and I can get very busy with life. I used to always put myself last and now I try much better at self care. I definitely can see how I shut down when overwhelmed and when I am asked to make decisions; I feel that I can not say an answer because I can’t think! But on my relaxing days and not much going on, I make snappy decisions. This can be difficult with children asking many questions during the day and myself as a parent, trying to make decisions. Then I get frustrated and that’s not good.
I have been through trauma therapy which has helped so much. They both together is difficult but they are different. Thank you for this channel. It has helped me tremendously 😊
I'm glad this channel has been helpful to you. And you're right - it is hard to distinguish between a trigger and being overstimulated. This is something I plan to address in future content. Thank you for listening and for sharing your response.
Sounds like we have to form a world within a world for ourselves.
Yes, in many ways we do. Thank you for listening!
I am different I'm highly sensitive person. I'm greatful I'm special. I don't always fit in right away, it takes people a bit to know me, then they know i love life, people, God and I'm highly sensitive. They say I'm great and so full of life. I want to take a class or meet other people like me. We should start our own gathering of normals like us for support. I think highly sensitive is good but what about highly observent. Because I've noticed that the people around me can't observe, "it's in your head ". They say. But then it comes to pass they don't remember you pointing it out. I think their turned off because their caught up in what we're seeing.
That’s the truth right there
I agree
Being highly observant is related to our depth of processing. We notice everything, the subtleties, the nuances, all of it. Thank you for sharing your experience and for listening!
Hardest aspect of healing for me is all the self righteous judgements of my 8 siblings who all have avoidant coping methods of self denial. We were all emotionally neglected just affected at variations. I have always felt so out of place and invalid that I get caught up in their judgements and doubt my self. See, I figured if they all survived then their must’ve been something terribly wrong with me since I struggled so much. I go back and forth with making myself vulnerable and admitting my pain to acting tough and blaming others for my reactions because weakness is so unacceptable in the world that I grew up in. I clearly have a lot of shame about my inability to measure up. It would mean so much if they could receive this information and accept this about me and help me to heal. They keep comparing me on a level of financial success because this is where they hide, in their accomplishments. My sister said that I am bipolar today. That really hurt. They know the painful experiences that I have been having in my marriage the past couple years and they aren’t even sensitive to me about anything I have experienced.
You sound really self aware. Im sure you are on the right road.
Thank you for your courage, strength and vulnerability in sharing your experiences. There is nothing wrong with you. I hope you are able to get the support you need.
Thank you for sharing. I’m with you on this. I am so glad I recently discovered what an HSP was. I’m the black sheep of my family- I was always crying and fighting simultaneously in our toxic/neglectful family dynamic...both with my siblings and parents. They laid the foundation for us to turn against one another and I was the child that was emotional and called our parents out on their lack of support right away and they ensured my twin and older brother saw me in a negative light. I was molested by a neighbor at an early age and was told that if charges were pressed, it would ruin my father’s reputation. I thought for so long I did something wrong and I never wanted to hurt anyone, much less my parents (it didn’t matter they were hurting us, they were our parents and all I wanted was to please them). I lashed out so much at both of my parents on a constant basis but still loved them fiercely-all I craved was love and acceptance but that wasn’t achieved and I still feel so hurt because both of them are dead now. I had just turned 30 when my mom died (one month out of the military) and my father died not too long after that...unfinished business is traumatic in and of itself but to be an HSP who tried to put up a front their entire life has caused me to be a heavy drinker which I hope to stop. Getting a divorce from a toxic person should also help. Again, thank you for sharing a bit of your life, be well and know you’re not alone.
i am sensitive too and these things helper me a lot ,Spirituality was the game changer for me and now i am going to give you resources that will help you for sure
1. Start listening abraham hicks on daily basis (try for 1 week atleast, you will feel burst of energy after listening them , they instantally calm me)
2. Power of now book by eckhart toll ( there is youtube channel too)
3. lorna byrne (youtube channel)
4. Anthony chane productions(UA-cam channel)
ua-cam.com/play/PLwedV0NYuXG0cV7hbleXfTCg0tKw3CviN.html
Watch this playlist it will be helpful this is the playlist about empaths/HSP and how to thrive as that by Christina lopes .. in case if this link doesn't open just type empaths playlist by Cristina lopes on UA-cam
And last your empathy has purpose my dear
I still hear my mother's scornful words to me when I was 4 years old ." You're SO SENSITIVE!"
I took the short test and I have always known I was different mostly empathy and feeling people emoitions when sleepy tired angry hungry.. I feel alone but not lonley..before Covid I stayed inside alot. I can stay inside for days and I am so happy by myself now I know I am recharging I am an insomniac and lost my mom at 12. I have always felt like I'm in a movie. I'M A HSP. I also can feel when the temperature in a room changes and when it going to ran hours ahead...I often know who is going to get illiminated in tv game shows like 100 % of the time realtalk when I go outside everyone is staring and my ears are sensitive so I here comments, like oh! she came out today or a comment about my appearance...I'm attractive never the less you still don't want to be talked about you ..I can here trains at a distance 1/2 mile to a mile away. I am an extrovert a social butterfly so I'm confused I guess I'm faking it ...just walking to my car is hard i get all nervous...I have to report to work today...i need to leave my home i haven't been out for 2 days...real talk
Thank you for listening and for sharing your experience of being highly sensitive.
Another great book is called "Soul Murder".
Especially for HSP people that have been traumatized by narcissists.
In a toxic marriage now with a narcissistic. Attempting to bail out
@Nancy wutzke Thank you for sharing🧡
@Jean Genie I TOTALLY believe you. Same thing happened to me. They're like soul sucking vampires, leaving you an empty shell and years of therapy just to get back to normal.
Wishing you well in your healing journey.
@@D07770 your welcome
@Jean Genie , your comment so resonated with me. I experienced the same. I've become a shell of my self. That's how I've described it. I'm so weary and can't seem to heal. I see narcissists everywhere. I'm so sensitive to it now that I've studied their traits.
Im a HSP and an empath. Im so in my head listening to this video. Crying emotions everywhere. I isolate myself from family and people. People can't say something hurtful to me and I not think about it for a week or 2. I pay attention to little things and I always had a job where the description is "attention to detail". I have to go in solitude and nature. I feel so tired because I take on other people energy. I had childhood trauma and im really sensitive. Alot of people misunderstand me especially my family. My doctor put me on depression medication and I know I might be I never took the pills. I know I am highly intuitive. I just need to learn how to heal.
Laina, thank you for sharing your experiences here. That takes incredible strength and courage. I hope you are able to find the support you need. You CAN heal from complex trauma.
perhaps it's not learning to heal, perhaps instead it may be a matter of giving yourself Permission to heal? ❤️
I share the same sentiment as most people here- I am SO incredibly grateful to have found this podcast! I truly believe God guided me in my UA-cam quest for answers, I have felt so lost for so long, struggling with complex trauma, a term I wasn't even aware of until today, and struggling to determine why I was so messed up, why I feel so alone in my identity, and why I am so broken and at a point where I don't know how to go on. Years of pain and trauma that remain as open, bleeding wounds within me, robbing me of any peace or feeling of being normal. This video was extremely powerful for me to begin understanding who I am and how to heal. Thank you so much.
Thank you for listening Lael and for your kind words. I'm glad this was helpful to you.
This podcasts really deserves more views. It was very informative and great dialogue between them. So much recognition in hsp, cptsd and especially the consciousness part.
But the tone and voice of the one lady. It's too hard to listen to Rachel maddow style babble. A lot of why I rarely listen to women. Get to the point.
Thank you for your kind words and for listening!
I’ve found Pete Walkers book to be very insightful. His explanation of the four F’s-fight, flight, freeze, fawn as well as emotional flashbacks to be helpful in my recovery. Helped me understand myself and engage that inner critic
This has OPENED my eyes completely that I’m a HSP. You are describing ME so accurately!!!
So glad this resonates with you. Thank you for listening!
HSPs in Sonoma County, CA, who can afford therapy are SO lucky to have someone like Carmen Schmidt Benedetti who understands their challenges. I didn't know I was an HSP until I was in my late 50's and my poor mother passed away at the age of 90 never knowing that her sensitivities, never understood by anyone including her, were elements of a genetic trait. The last therapist I spoke to had never even heard of HSP and she was supposedly a trauma therapist. Thank you for your podcast. P.S. I LOVE your laugh! Keep laughing : D
Susie, thank you for your kind words, for sharing your experience, and for listening.
Omg, I've always wondered why it always upsets me really bad when I'm watching tv and a couple may be arguing intensely or there's rape or murder. Anything with really intense emotion would make me ball out cry. I had to stop watching the viral videos of people dying either by homicide or suicide bc they would leave me a wreck for days afterwards.
Holy shit you watched those videos on purpose? I had a friend 23 years ago who surprised me with a Russian soldier getting his throat cut. I feel like sueing him
@@willstevenson9634 I wouldnt want to, but when on social media sometimes you dont realize what your'e about to watch.
Yes, those same things on TV or video are beyond distressing for me - I cannot watch them. Thank you for listening and sharing your experience!
I was brought to tears listening to this.. It feels like your explaining my entire life! Thankyou for this 💜
So glad this was meaningful for you. Thank you for listening!
I've just learned about HSPs and I'm convinced this is me. I started therapy this week (before learning of this trait) so I can't wait to tell my therapist and find out if she's knowledgeable about it... I'm so thankful the way I've felt my entire life has a name, and that I'm now aware of it
I’m happy this video found me. I resonate with this so much. So much childhood traumas, I think I’m going to set up therapy in the morning, first thing first.
Thank you for listening - I'm grateful this episode resonated with you!
I absolutely love the way that you communicate with your guests. You and they are so respectful and encouraging and validating. Even if your videos were not brimming with useful information, just listening to two people be cognizant of each other would still itself be so helpful and gratifying all by itself. Thank you for what you do.
Thank you for you kind words and for listening!
I inherited high sensitivity from my mother but she and my brother abused me physically and emotionally through my childhood,and emotionally in to adulthood(her father was an abusive alcoholic)She was/is an extremely unhealthy hsp and was traumatized by her childhood, but lashed out severely, physically and verbally,almost resembling a person with borderline disorder.Hsp and trauma has almost destroyed me and has been like a noose around my neck.I really wish I wasn't hps as I don't function to well and have pretty severe anx and depression, with a whole host of other problems.life seems like a nightmare for traumatized hsps but a lot less difficult for the lucky ones, who had functional loving upbringings and lives.
Thank you for sharing your experience and for listening. Please know you CAN recover from trauma, and remember that your high sensitivity is a gift - even though it may not feel like it at times. I hope you are able to find the support you need.
It's been 3 yrs since I 'graduated' therapy; I had been doing three years of weekly individual therapy, weekly group therapy, and weekly yoga therapy. It's a long story, but I finally found the therapy and therapist exactly right for me, and I was 46 yrs old then. I did DBT therapy, my diagnosis was such a relief! It was Borderline Personality Disorder, complex PTSD. I suffered many, many years of issues. Depression, suicidal thoughts constantly, anxiety, trauma response to everyone and everything, etc. And I was a single mom through all of it. On top of it all I've been highly, highly, painfully sensitive about EVERYthing, all my life. I've been teased about it, mocked, isolated. Lately, I can't stop crying about it..... it's so exhausting to be so sensitive...I wish I could just be numb. Well, therapy saved me. Or, helped me save me, from my mind (It was mindfulness based therapy). I didn't want to leave, they had to boot me, haha. I loved going deep and analyzing and growing. About two years in, my spiritual awakening started, in full. It was a different kind of painful and exhilarating process. I learned I was a HSP, and a lot more made even better sense, finally. Lately I'm really, really, REALLY sensitive, about everything, and constantly weeping and FEELING everything...I am here because I'm looking for insight on how to desensitize mySelf! 😴 This is much better, and glad I found this. 🙂🌠 So, thank you for this very good information. 🙏🕉️
Even though it may not feel like it at times, there are incredible gifts in being highly sensitive. Numbness and wanting to desensitize are messengers, and they are not caused by being highly sensitive. The task is to discover what's beneath the desire to numb/desensitize. Thank you for sharing your experiences and for listening to the podcast.
As you read the notes below, please know that I have been greatly impacted by this podcast. By far the best in teaching me who I am as an HSP. God bless and heal you as you read the notes.
What is an HSP?
- Finely tuned nervous system
- More impacted by sensory information
- Takes in more information than non-HSP
- Process deeply and feel more intensely
- Overwhelmed and overstimulated easily by both emotion and sensory information
- Perceptive emotionally, energetically and to their physical surroundings
- Tend to pick up on subtleties and nuances that non-HSP might not
- Pick up on expressions and strong sense of empathy
- Aware of how they come across to others and expects others to be paying attention as well
- Make connections and are intuitive
- Taking everything in and connecting so much ( deep processing), makes one exhausted
- HSP is a genetic trait
- Not a disorder or diagnosis
- Comes with lots of benefits
- 15- 20% of the population is HSP
- Very observant and taking everything in
Trauma:
- Threatening experience to one's survival
- Can be subjective ( job stress, job loss, death of loved one)
- Not everyone develops PTSD due to trauma
- Can originate consciousness
Significance of Complex PTSD and HSP:
- HSPs experience the world differently and therefore experience trauma differently
- More susceptible to impacted by trauma due to their innate nature
- Due to susceptibility, HSP needs to educate themselves or seek assistance when going through trauma or deal with past trauma
- complex trauma makes it difficult to deal with emotional regulation
- HSPs have smaller window of tolerance
( metaphor)
- Be aware and find out what helps to you cope and function
- HSP thrive well with therapy
- Practice self compassion ( self-care)
- Learning to self-parent ( taking care of needs not met in childhood)
- Find a knowledgeable and validating therapist
Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart. I love what you have to share to the world. God bless you more.
Thank you for your kind words and for listening!
Amazing, thank you very much for creating and sharing this content.
Wow! Just wow!.. was thinking it was menopause. Was my explanation thru the yrs. I've got intuition, that no Dr, will believe or listen. Even if I've got real testimonies, it still baffles my mind. . I've got a question? Would that explain why I'm so sensitive to Medication? Bad reactions, just about everyone I tried. Now they want to put me on a mood stabilization med. I've told the Dr. I'm not depressed, heart broken, when I talk about anything that is emotional, or have to repeat myself, break down in tears. When I'm not talking about that emotional situation, I'm okay. Laughing, having fun,. Soon as I talk about something ,overwhelming. Heartbreaking. , frustrated or confused. My emotions, go with my voice, When I talk. A lot of people have a hard time handling me. Or dealing with me. Or even wanting to understand me. Hearing this today, Wow! A weight off my shoulders. Ty. I've got a lot of studying to do. That's the one thing, I do best, knowledge, knowledge, how can I make it better. Learned as a child, dont need money , if you really want something. A will is a way, a way is a will. Theirs no T in Can.
Use to hide behind the mask real good. Till, one day it broke, havent been able to hide ,or control my emotions since. Made sure, did best to learn, and raise my girls better, so they didnt have to live the life I did. My physical health, tells me when somethings wrong, Drs, wont listen, till I have surgery that proved, I was right all along. In labor, kepted telling nurse, something wrong with my baby, while I was in labor. Was told to shut up. Or I'll stress the baby. My firstborn was 36 1/2 hrs long. Think I'd remember the Pain. This was different. Ordered for the Dr. He went ahead and broke my water. Turned out, she pooped inside me. Was so relieved, she was okay. 12 hrs labor with her. It's frustrating, when u tell your Dr, somethings wrong, they'll give a reason. I'll so no, it's not that. Soon they'll make me believe it's in my head. Till I either have surgery again, or go see a different Dr. That kinda listens, but finds evidences , it's not in my head.
Its tiresome, being the one suffering day in and day out, till someone finally believes me something isn't right in my body.. barely my temp hits in the 99s. To me it feels like it's in the 100s, and I'm dying.
Yes, HSPs can be incredibly sensitive to medication - actually anything we put into our bodies. The depth of processing and sensory sensitivity aspects of the trait are why. Thank you for sharing your experience and for listening!
Probably the best explanation I've heard to describe an HSP
Thank you for your kind words and for listening!
Thank you so much for this. It has helped me
A lot. I wish I could find a therapist who understands this 💜
Having complex ptsd, from childhood and all throughout life.. its been 1 year coming out of a 5 yr relationship with a narcissist and I know exactly what it's like to feel like a shell of yourself. I never thought I'd ever find myself again.. I thought.. this is it. This is my life, I'm gone forever. Over time, with my own searching, relentless determination to heal, therapy and self care, I'm beginning to awaken and heal. So many people have felt exactly the same. But I promise, if u do the work, and keep crawling through the dark, you will overcome this. And you'll be stronger and wiser than ever before. ✌
Thank you for listening Kelli, and I'm glad it has helped you. I hope you have been able to find the support you need.
@@LourdesViadoPhDMFT yes! I found a fantastic therapist! Thank you!!
Being HSP is like having a demon within you. People freak out that we just hear, feel and see what they don't. For example, I have a co-worker who stands around and talks or is on personal phone calls half of the shift. Our shifts are 12 hours. It doesn't matter how far away she is on our floor. I hear her. I know everything going on in her life. It is annoying and distracting. My supervisor ask me, why does it bother you that she talks so much? How can we help you tune her out? Wow! How about make her do her job and secondly, put tape on her mouth!
Lol
Lol....this use to bother me SO BAD on the school bus. 6am and the bitch behind me is running her mouth like KRAZY 🤬
Sometimes the person on the phone is the same as you,...all reflections of ones self..thats y we can see it.but not in ourselves....im that voice that chatters and bothers people as well as the other way around..I got ptsd.
I am really relating to this and other comments. I have a coworker that talks so loud that it seems like she wants everyone in the building to hear her. It gets annoying. I put in an ear bud in one ear because i would rather listen to podcasts and other things. For some reason it's not as distracting.
I’m like that with criticism that is off. I am perfectly fine with constructive criticism that is intuitively right but if it’s not…
Not that I am never wrong cause I am. I’m married to a man who has narcissistic traits and frequently misjudges emotions due to his childhood abuse and neglect. If I was wrong once he expects me to be wrong all the time and I’m not but it doesn’t matter to him because he just rewrites the story. He’s all about obedience and everything that doesn’t work out is a result of someone not following instructions. He’s annoyed by what others don’t do and always interprets it through the biased story he’s telling. I’m all about the details and facts that make his interpretation impossible, he doesn’t care. Very frustrating :(
Glad I came across this coz I belong to this small population, now I understand why
Awesome positive interview. With my own experience, there are 3 things to do to reduce sensitivity and not to get affected by future traumas. 1) Seeing a good Therapist to overcome existing complex trauma using EMDR etc. 2)Like Carmen mentioned , having healthy boundaries 3) Not many talk about this and is the hardest and best thing that makes a person less sensitive-- That's reducing all your addictions at least by 80% for period of 6-12 months, especially things like social media, TV, video games, even some music, news, alcohol, Caffeine , sugar, smoking, drugs etc. Once you reduce these, you be will be less sensitive to get triggered again while you maintain a healthy level of empathy. So these 3 can help a person achieve the balance and prevent being traumatized or triggered again in my opinion. I managed to become less sensitive to many traumas that bothered me for decades while I'm on the path to overcome and prevent more.
I turned 55 last week and my narcissistic mother just died. My father and brother used the word HYPER-Sensitive. The 3 were a narcissistic cult forcing me into a shotgun wedding with a diagnosed psychopath. I have 2 kids in their 30’s with her and still struggling to go no contact with the 3 of these bullies. 55 years start to finish equals full blown CPTSD. I’m depleted and I’m afraid I’m almost past the point of no return. My narcissistic Ex and her family starred in last week’s episode of 20/20! The happy face killers episode from 11-5. True story, that’s the family I had kids with.
Thank you for listening. I hope you are able to get support in recovering from the traumas you've experienced. It's never too late to recover from trauma (many of my clients are age 50 and up).
My family doesn’t get it and no one will listen. Im out of support because I don’t have “my church” or someone behind me. It’s too late for me im afraid.
What a great video thank you so much for this interview it is truly helpful and educational
Hi
Thank you for listening!
My ex husband used to call me "The Princess and the pea" because i was so sensitive.
Oh my gosh....my mom used to call me that. Then I grew up and got married and my (now ex) husband called me that! Glad I'm not the only one 😀
@@rebeccagreen7241 Hahaha, oh my that's funny! The only positive thing that i could gleen from their roundabout cut down was that at least we were a Princess. Nice to meet you and thanks for sharing. :-)))
@@nancywutzke5392 Nice to meet you, too--from one princess to another!!! 🌹🌹😀😀 👑👑
Were your siblings the same way to you? Also parents?
Patterns?
Thank you for the video, and if i may say you have a very soothing voice
Thanks for helping the world
Very helpful thank you
I always wonder if HSP is a manifestation of trauma (especially considering it alters the brain and trauma inherently makes you more "senstive")...
Thank you for listening and for your question. We will keep this in mind for future content.
This is GOLD 🙏🏼
I don’t live in California, actually on the complete opposite side in Florida. But I so wish I could work with Carmen. I am having to find a new therapist after leaving a facility and not able to continue working with the therapist but so much of what she said, finding the root, I told my therapist that was what I needed in a new therapist as I was preparing to leave!!
Krystal, thank you for listening and sharing your experience. I hope you were able to find the support you need.
Good, very good information. Am deeply researching across many yrs now the unfolding journey from symptoms, symptom patterns, defense mechanisms in place ... process addictions...years of deep emotional pain and dysfunction in finally reaching the understanding of C-PTSD. It hurts so much but is also healing. Now I am first hearing of HSP and it is as deep and rather frightening as the C-PTSD --SO far reaching, all encompassing and so what now do I do...how do I deal. There are absolutely NO therapists here and Ive looked forever who really even understand C-PTSD and none will be adept at HSP. And it all feels so hopeless to me. How can I be my own therapist. Knowing the details and understanding what HSP is is fine but what now??! And one suggestion, maybe be more aware that people with HSP hearing this for first time will be overwhelmed and will not believe based on their initial feelings that there is a light at end of tunnel. Exactly how does one do that laundry list of how to handle...not just the list but how to do each of those things. Suggestion - slightly less laughter which sounds like nervous laughter. And OBVIOUSLY u want a therapist that is knowledgeable but it's incredibly painful to have gone thru a half dozen therapists, hopes high and hust getccrushed.
Thank you for listening Clare, for sharing your experience, and for your suggestion. We will definitely keep that in mind for future content. I hope you have been able to find the support you need.
I was listening till 2:20. I’ve never mattered. Moving on.
I've had issues finding resources for being HSP with the -blessing- of C-PTSD. Thank you so much 💗 it's amazing to not feel so alone...
Thank you for listening Michaela - and you are definitely not alone.
Yes. One is borned with a HSP brain. As in ADHD and other.. But studies have recently shown that emotional stress on the pregnant women can cause this abnormalities.
You mentioned there is a questionnaire... it would be fair to mention it requires a membership with a credit card. There are many sensitive people who suffer with Complex PTSD and can't handle the inundation. They need to take baby steps to trusting someone before being comfortable with a paid membership.. this process is too stressful.
Agreed, scared off just by reading your comment. Not worth the stress
Seriously??! Given your audience why would u do that...here's help, go here ...oh btw it will cost u $ AND require membership to even see if it is appropriate for you. What is the deal wih this "let them eat cake" insensitivity of the persons publicly claiming to offer inf/assistance thru free podcast and then not even noticing the kinds of suggestions they offer. EXTREMELY triggering! And really...of course go find a KNOWLEDGEABLE Hsp therapist..WHERE there are certainly none within 300 miles of where I live!! There are barely a handful who have taken some intro class on EMDR or brain-spotting but who have absolutely no ckue about the condition itself but they have a light bar or a clicker...or a magic wand and do more than good to an HSP who has gotten their hopes up. Speak to that.
No shit. We really want to help people but it's only going to cost you $5,000. I mean if I had it I would have already paid it a long time ago hello.
By the way you can look up free tests.
I just went to hsperson dot com like she said and there is no membership required there is a free test and at the end tells you how to interpret the results
It is really sad that Carman's voice in this video sounds like a low growl sound. Triggering! We have the soft voice of Lourde's voice (which is soothing), and then the low growl sound of Carman's. A dichotomy
I don't understand why people can't speak up these days. I notice it more than ever lately.
TY,
That was a thorough way to explain ways to identify an HSP😊
Trait: sensory processing sensitivity...TY for sharing the name of this
Namaste
🕊️Peace 🤸 Shalom🐵
Thank you for listening!
Clickable links to the resources would be very helpful if you can...thanks so much.
Listening to this, I feel like crying. Thank you for seeing and acknowledging these things I live with daily. As I grow older, life is even more difficult.
I don’t think my therapist really knows how to help me. I find myself talking so much more than with other therapists I’ve seen, and I noticed I say things in a humorous way and get a few laughs from her. How can I find the help I need?
So glad you felt seen and validated Mary. I hope you have been able to find the support you need. Thank you for listening!
you might have to interview various therapists to see if they know about HSP it is noted in the medical field in brain studies. it was found that we are born this way. so let the therapist know about it. many therapists are willing to expand their knowledge and improve their practices.
Hope you find one. it's very important to do the interviewing especially if it costs you money and your valuable time. there's also FREE PDF BOOKS YOU can download online, 100% free. the book mentioned in this video is also available. 😊
@@SpliffyMeister thank you 🧡
@@marysueper140 your welcome 😊 be well, stay vigilant and strong! Blessings
I am an hsp did not know until some time ago. I am also Christian and 1 thing i observed is that Christianity is fit for hsps because Jesus helps us love ourselves more and teaches us to be more gentle with ourselves. My faith has made me realise that until you understand and love who you are, you can not love other people. Once you understand your gift and know how to control it, life becomes a more pleasureable adventure🤗
I hear you.. I would like to add as a fellow believer in Christ that understanding that you were wired for this level of sensitivity by God, simply to hear His voice. The narcissists we encounter essentially steal our voices through trauma. God created us to use our voices. Our voices are tied to our authenticity.
I wanted to make a difference. I wanted my story to be heard. It’s unique, it’s so complex. There are many many variables. I’m 56 years old and my trauma started in the womb. My family are all narcissistic bullies and I was seduced and trapped by a true psychopath who mothers my 2 covert narcissistic daughters. My brother is the father of one of them. The whole family blames me. I suck
It's hard to get proper therapy when it comes to feeling like you're an HSP, which i been feeling like it really fits who i am for a few years now ever since i found out about this. My ex-therapist had never heard of HSP nor knew what it meant, she kept kinda trying to chalk down my explanations of it into sensory processing disorders because thats all she knew about, im not really sure if she looked into it on her own any further or researched it afterwards as we never quite spoke about it again, but it was difficult to explain to her that its more like a trait and not a diagnosis - when i felt like i had to explain it myself not even knowing too much about it and having difficulty expressing myself, mehow it almost felt like it suddenly wasn't as valid or something and i knew i wouldn't get much insight from the therapist about this. Now that i'm looking for a new therapist (for unrelated reasons) i'm not sure what to do, i'm a bit scared the same will happen and that maybe they wont be adequate to help an hsp...
p.s: i legitimately think she thought i just found some random thing/concept on the internet and went with it, as she was kind of surprised to hear there was a whole book about it and such
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25:00 That’s me! I have no armor. I’ve always been a HSP. After a very traumatic childhood and serving in the USAF, my armor was worn away. I get triggered all the time now.
27:00 I bounce from one to the other. I hyper arouse while self-isolating. I want the arousal but I need it to be in controlled bursts.
28:00 I want my window to be repened.
28:30 The Trauma Treatment Toolbox
I shut down at very young age. Iv never felt like I grew up I do
Adult things an over protect my kids but I don’t trust no one an my husband is very mentally abusive like today I was so tired I just needed sleep an I didn’t cook dinner mind you I did make easy over food like chicken strips an ff but he called me worthless it the same thing my mother would do she called me it all the time. I go back to being that child who is stupid an worthless an I shut down even more. I can’t tell
You the last time I felt love I honestly don’t. In the last few yrs Iv learned about ptsd an being an HSP it strange because I’m a Strong personality HSP. How do I find a dr for HSP with ptsd? The last one I had told me there was nothing else he could help me with because I was able to talk myself threw or into anything an he couldn’t help me an just was done seeing me. So Iv never wanted to see one again because he left me with a family who was abusive mentally an physically an pretty much told me I can handle it!
It's like people assume just because you're high functioning you don't need help. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Look for a trauma informed therapist in your area. It's a start.
You should try getting a black belt instead. A therapist won’t help you. You need to learn how to stand up for yourself and kick ass.
@@zippagraphics I agree I’m getting my power back slowly. My dr is actually making see a ptsd dr this week but I don’t expect much.
@@staceyrosado6402 Look into Taekwondo, Jiu Jitsu, or Kung Fu schools in your area.
Is there a general theme for highly sensitive people and childhood trauma? Thanks
Thank you ! Do you have any books about this topic that you could suggest?
Pete Walker’s CPTSD Guide was the guiding-light during the darkest time in my life.
‘The Body Keeps the Score’ is also great.
Complex PTSD by Pete Walker is the best one Ive found.
Pete Walker's book on Complex PTSD is excellent. Also, Dr. Jonice Webb's books on Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN).
@@frolickingelf I love Pete Walker's book!
This is "extremely" difficult to listen to, I think I need to go have a cleansing cry!!!
Too many people suffer in silence and it will affect your physical health. I have
had some really great doctors {Thank you Dr. Spencer} he was my gastriointestinal
specialist. He was adamant about the affects of this, it was killing me-- literally.
I find it a nightmare being an HSP. I would trade it for not being one in a second. Life has been a nightmare. I’m 58 and ruined because people have targeted me in all relationships. I hate it.
There is some conflation here between HSP and 'gifted'.
How is highly sensitive different than ADD? Have you had clients with both? I'm sure you have had. How do you teach them to differentiate between ADD and their character traits?
Thank you for listening and for your question. I plan to address this in future content.
Brain + Heart Coherence Meditation helps - combined with a prayer of your choosing
THANK YOUUUUUUU! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! Like looking in a mirror for the first fucking time!!!!!
Carmen's vocal fry is SO hard to listen to. A lot of young-ish women do it at the end of their sentences, but she does it almost ALL the time! Dr. Lourdes' voice is way over-the-top soothing--an affectation which I found annoying, but can listen to. There's such great content here, I'm trying to power through. But is there a written transcript available somewhere?? I'd be most grateful. I appreciate these intelligent, insightful women 🙏
@Jean Genie I don't know--it doesn't sound like the voice of a smoker to me...I tried but I just couldn't keep listening :-(
I struggle listening to ppl who talk with ‘vocal fry’. I’m hearing it more and more lately. It seems to be a growing fad. Maybe I’m ‘Highly Sensitive’ to vocal fry??? 😂
Oh, thank goodness, I am not the only one! I really want to listen to this but that fry thing drives me up the wall :/ .
Wow, I am so grateful to hear that others struggled with that voice tone as well. It was an interesting topic and 100 per cent my own experience but I just could not listen any longer...I am very sensitive to tones of voices, as an HSP.
I'm struggling to hear what she's saying because all I can focus on is the vocal fry. 😬🤦
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Excellent information though!
Hope she redoes this vid after she retrains her voice. I have heard it’s no easy habit to undo.
@@4977abc I absolutely love this channel. I'm forcing myself through it and telling myself she just has a cold.
Been managing my whole life not living trying to find somebody to help.
I was wrongly diagnosed at 16 in 86,my whole life has been a nightmare. 3 days before I turned 51 in 2021 I was diagnosed correctly as PTSD. It took me getting sick physically to find it..plz.get help the more aces u have the more chronic illness you get..Everything makes sence now..plz.let go then u will realize its not just moments that are wrong but u see every moment of your life is your illness..same shit different day since u were little...stop the life pattern of tower blowing up when dominos fall every single time right? Example: shit people trying to stop you from winning everytime,,triangulation at work. False friend,car accident or no car now,loss of job,ALWAYS STARTING OVER, and last but not least you get dumped..coming from the heart on my comment.Help is there look for the light in the dark now not after hindsight...Good luck Hon.
Messege for u..
@@nicolerachelle4234 I am 48 and also gone through all that. Different diagnosis here and there. I've tried all the self-help and all of the counselors that a regular Medicare would give me but haven't had much luck there. I don't know what else to do. My brain is full of so much knowledge I don't even know if a doctor could beat me. Trying to do natural pathway doctors but those cost a lot of money and I'm just tired I'm so tired. Big part of it is our society I think. Thank you for your response I appreciate it made me cry.
@@criticalthinker72 I'm on the same path. A month has passed and I can't seem to manage to make a few calls to get the help. Everything is ready, I only need to make the appointments. Also found this video yesterday, can't seem to find the "right time" to press play. But I do have time. It's in my head so messed up. I hope we all get to feel alive and enjoy life. 🌌💖💫
I am a hsp man with abusive neglet traumatic childhood is not only for woman and result in bórderline
can someone with high functioning aspergers also be a hsp?
This is helping me are you located in Florida
I'm not located in FL, but I have trusted colleagues there that I'm happy to refer you to. Please email info@lourdesviado.com if you would like those names. Thank you for listening!
I just want to befriend a few fellow HSPs. It’s so hard to make good friends!
My life unfolding in this talk
How do I become a client ...this is big for me you totally explained me
Is this audio working for people ? It sounds like they have frogs in their throat and quiet raspy . Is it the accent or audio Issues ? So I can figure it out
She sounds like she has a vocal fry. Just sounds like her voice.
Great explanation....what's crazy, is that i almost hate one of their voices tho lol. I wanna click off but its a good convo
Ew. The second voice 😩 me, too!
Yes I agree
I have a jupiter.
What is the difference between HSP and autism?
Why is Carmen's voice a little raspy...maybe crying...? I hope not...but very informative...🙏
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My oldest son is highly sensitive He picks up on energies in a room of people
I have had to leave certain restaurants because he doesn't look ike how it feels
That's how he explains it...he says it has a bad feeling
Are there books or information for just HSP type People not woman
I'd like to give him information that can help him not directed to just WOMAN
It is a family trait in my mom's side
My granddaughter has it
She's only 5 and I can see it
They are very worried if they appear to have done something the view as stupid or embarrassing My sin is a perfectionist
His scenes tell him it's bigger of an issue perhaps than it is
@Stacey Hey, for me it's the same like for your son. If I enter a room and I can immediately sense heavy energy which makes me want to leave.
I can recommend Candace van Dell. You find her on UA-cam. She talks about HSP, empaths, toxic relationships and all that comes with being a HSP. hope that helps 😊
The ONLY things that have helped me are the forgiveness, love, strength, peace and care I receive from my faith. God loves me, and I am not alone, weak, or less than anyone else. He alone always takes care of me. Psalm 139:14 "I will praise thee, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made,, marvelous are thy works, and that my soul knoweth well." Are you saved? The Gospel is 1 Corinthians 15:1-4.
Not trying to be mean but as a super sensitive person to sound…it’s really hard to take in this information listening to the guest’s voice. 😫
Sadly agree with you. I was so inspired by the title but had to give up on the fifth minute. 😮
Can HSP be a narcissist? Do these traits overlap? Can HSP suffer narcissistic traits, is there hope for this sort of person ? Is there a line where an HSP turns into a narcissist
An HSP can have Narc wounds to work through which may be preceived as having Narc traits
Why do non HSP’s often think and say “you think too much!” even when it’s part of an HSP’s identity as you said they are born with it. Aloha 🌺
Yup in the encryption tried to say I was bipolar fed me meds for a month on low dose then. Trama bi polar then severe depression. An so on with labels I have it all
OMG not another vocal fry woman.
I just learned a new term! Sounds like my friend who smokes waaaaay too much weed. Can't stand to listen to him talk. 😖
Is that what it's called? Annoying isn't it?
The interviewer's calm, clear voice is so pleasant. The grindy, froggy voice of the second therapist was very irritating. It's something that can be remedied by voice training and awareness. Watch Dr Aron's videos. She discovered HSP and has numerous books.
The information was great, but as a HSP with noise sensitivities, I find Ms. Benedetti's "vocal fry" really hard to listen to. If that is how her voice is naturally, then my apologies, but if it is adapted or put on...
I am watching this video precisely because I couldnt trust in the licensed mental health professional and their dangerous meds.
as a sensitive person, and not to be insensitive, Dr. Benedetti forces her voice down for that gravely sound; not beneficial for the vocal cords or a listener's ear. it was a popular thing to do about a decade or more ago and has become a habit here, it appears. compare Dr. Viado's voice and Dr. Benedetti's. for a few seconds here and there, she drops it and you can hear her genuine voice.