How to stop being attached to someone you love
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Imagine loving someone more than anything else and then you remember that this person doesnt even exist
It’s true but impossible to stop
Same I am dealing with that!
Idek wt she looks like starting to think it’s just a feeling
Can relate🙂
I got abandoned by my GF so its kinda possibel
Imagine u care someone more than anything but they dont care about you its the worst feeling💔
Going through that right now…. I have become attached to a woman who detached from me
@@joev7014I’m broken mate, my girlfriend was pregnant she lost our baby, i stood by her side through it all and she’s left me and blocked me on everything. I’m hurting so much
so real
😢😢😢
Update, I feel way better and I’m at peace. Thank God it’s over. I can finally focus on things that matter
The fear of being alone.
Practice being OK with loneliness and act on your values anyway, if you’re always being a slave to the loneliness, the brain knows how they react to loneliness let’s give them more loneliness because then they do more compulsion, and I can protect them more. That doesn’t mean to build relationships with his relationships proactively not reactively whenever you feel lonely go on Tinder or something.
Or the fear of rejection
@@StarJesseTaylor my issue is that i dont feel loneliness anymore. i am so ok with being alone that i've accepted the fact of dying single and alone. i dont let other people love me. i am so avoidant that it makes me sad. i've been alone for the majority of my life without friends, relationships, romantic relationships that i just wont let anyone in my life anymore.
@@strangerdaysss same even i dont have any friends and im always alone...im practising to accept that its ok to be alone for now,but i may finx people in future who knows...
omggg literally
Don't let nobody play with you just because you got a good heart
Setting boundaries is important
It hurts it really hurts
I just had a breakup and I don’t think I can survive it. My heart clenches every second and I legit feel like I’m sick. I hate this so much
@@egwuekwechima4463break ups are rough. I had a bad one. Lost a lot of sleep. It takes time, you will be ok. Just give it time.
10 years, not sure how long the pain would stay, its killing me
Burns
@egwuekwechima4463 you're not alone remember that. Next... 😉
I pray in god that all of us here will find love and remember he planned everything
amen
This is so true, I’m just used to thinking about him, but I don’t think I’ll be actually happy with him
Girl same but he's just so fine without me it's just....🤡
I fell in love with person and I felt my whole world click yet.. this person doesn't really see it. Sometimes I feel it's all my fault, and other times I just can't let go. Sometimes I cry so hard, and other times I laugh uncontrollably. But I've come to understand that it's actually ok to make mistakes, to miss that person but much more, to love myself more for who I am and live my life not just for that person but for me. You can do it also.... Don't let anyone steal u're peace... Trust You will be alright at the end of it all❤
❤
People should stop telling other people how to live their life, for real. This things are in trend now. Videos like this changes people mindset, they try to become what they're not. You're pulling an army of people who will follow your instructions that will eventually leads to a trash. Every single people are unique in their own way, one should not teach others how to live their life
I also understand this addiction mostly its because of childhood trauma...whether it can be abandonment issues or parents being over protective and so we not thinking independently from childhood....hence while growing into adult we tend to bond with ppl who are similar and controlling as like our parents so that we may feel protected and secure....hence we get too attached and stick to the dynamics of runner and chaser......I was kind of repeating patterns.....hence its very important to recognise the patterns and act mindfully.....we will definitely encounter fear of loneliness and urge to be in a relationship for validation and that happy feelings....but it's essential to control our emotions mindfully.....we should mindfully take a relationship and dating detox for 3 to 6 months.....focus on building urself....focus on loving urself,becoming healthy,fit,beautiful and chasing ur purpose of ur existence....talk your heart out to a trustable friend....just understand one thing ...we cane alone and we have to leave alone...in that short period of time try to live a purposeful life...then our vibrations become stronger and we become independent....then we ll be able to attract the perfect healthy and balanced relationship.....
How to do all this ooo
Thank you so much, you really made my day better
That childhood trauma thing is so accurate... people mostly tak abandonment issues into their account but there are also people who face trauma because of overprotectiveness too .
Wow, beautifully said.
The fear of losing them
How do you break this pattern addiction? Mines probably from loneliness or the affection i didn't get when i was young, so what do I do to fix me?
Hi Utkaresh! You are breaking the pattern by not acting on the pattern anymore. And instead act on the things that you value mindfully. That means not spending time with your hair trying to control parents, but mindfully acting on your values
@@pamkay1756 I hope you find someone who loves you.
@@richardadorno9187 Awww. Thank you. I.hope so too.
@@pamkay1756 I think if we try to hard for love than it’s not meant to be.
@@richardadorno9187 I agree.
I am addicted to my husband, I lived , breathed, everything to make him happy he was my life my world. I felt his pain , I completed his sentences. He was my safety. I depended on him for everything. And then he died 4 1/2 years ago and I’m still in a deep depression
Idk what to say
Your so strong
I dont think i would survive that
I am praying for you ♥️
God protects you ❤️
So Sorry, I Hope You Find A Way To Be Happy Without Forgetting Or Erasing Him From Your Mind & Heart❤️
May Allah (SWT) make it easy on you❤
I just want a soul mate for fock sake ..
To hug me
Exactly. Human primary need and that's fully legit 😊
If you seeing this comment so , please focus on your goal and hangout with friends... That can definitely heal you little by little..... It's my personal experience
I’m just lonely and tired of constant rejection
It’s coming from a place where I feel I won’t meet anyone else like her who understands what I do and all the love and passion I put into everything and it just feels like I’m getting in her way cause she doesn’t care
And I’m putting myself through it because I’m so scared that nobody in this world will understand my hurt my heart. My joy my pride I’ve givin her ALL OF THAT and I’ve done so much for her..but she just doesn’t wanna care like that and it’s hurting me and I know if I stay then I’ll hurt more but I genuinely like her..as a person she’s funny she’s caring she’s wise and I love her so much and I know love is a strong word to use in this situation but I’m not getting love back only kisses cuddles and fuck…
It’s hard to let go of someone you were dating when you thought you found the person of your dreams, or they make you feel like someone you never thought you would ever need in your life.
Yeah😢
😢how you guys holding up? Im struggling so hard right now.
i'm going thru it now😭
@@sunbeamcheeks it’s been 5 months for me after the break up, but officially 2 weeks now not talking to each other anymore. Just cry it out, 🥲that’s honestly all you can do to get better in a way. Feel it all and just process it slowly all the emotions. It’s the only way to heal😭
@@karenreyes8348 no distractions needed, these days i woke up with swollen eyes. I agree with you, that's the only way🥺 thank you, i hope we could heal soon ❤️
The reason I’m addicted to him is because I crave real love. Love I haven’t received in years from family or friends.
In my junior year I met a coworker of mine. She was pretty, smart, and a great artist. It wasn’t love at first sight or anything but she grew on me quickly. No other woman made me feel the same way she did before or since. I felt alive when I finally told he I liked her. The sad thing is that she said nothing back. Not even no. Soon after I moved to a new school halfway through my junior year. It pretty much broke me and I spent my senior year picking myself up. She still lingers in the back of my mind through. No matter what I do I can not move on from her. I decided to join the Air Force and I’m moving on with life. I’m going to have to thank her though later. She was the first person I fell in love with and made me realize feelings I didn’t even know existed.
Thank you my friend’ 🙂 I’ve figured that out’ big time! The problem was the emptiness within me’ hoping’ praying that it could be fulfilled from someone/ anyone else! It never happened! So I became/ learned to be enmeshed within me’ and I’m feeling’ much better these days ❤
Thank you for your appreciation! I’m glad you’re doing so much better
how did you do it
That's great and all but you can't be alone for ever, I was hopping to start a family and get married in the next year now I have to completey change the future I've built for the last 7 years
Bro I think you finally opened my eyes. Thats exactly whats been happening in my life all the time.
In mine too
Its scary how i felt alone even when i was with him but its more scary to think of being alone without anybody.
It is natural to be attracted to those that we feel good around, to go towards to good feelings, and it is also natural to feel good around those who we are compatible with. Those things can be in action whether or not a pattern addiction is present…
I didn’t say anything about that in the video
This is what I'm going through right now, from talking on the phone every day to not even talking no more.
It’s so hard 😭
Thank you man for solving 99%problems of mine.. It's very difficult to control...
Thank you for your appreciation
It’s companionship. Being alone, is lonely. We are meant to have a community and people around us.
I have stopped this pattern addiction and haven't been in love in 10 years and have been focusing on myself for the last 10 years and I don't miss being in love or wanting a person so bad anymore
I have finally understood my pattern. But it goes way back. Being ignored by my father. So, I have unconsciously later turned to partners who are there but not there. Emotionally absent and that's also the feeling I chased and thought was love all my life. How crazy isn't that. But I also see when I face this how my body and soul get like a stress on blows. Then to just give up on myself and give everything of myself. Destroying myself. Put away men in my life who were really there. For them, I thought it was strange. But after a long period of repairing myself. Even reprogramming me. Am I in a different place in life. But no one got a bed of roses without hard work. As well as starting to see a self-worth.Not afraid to be alone anymore. Have myself. The best friend and partner you can have. The other can come later. But it can be done in peace. No stress. Getting to know each other for a long time. So I see what it is I face. Also that I myself have to be open and vulnerable. Have boundaries. Being able to say stop and no. Because I have never dared to do that. So those I have met have gone far beyond my limits. But no more ever.
Thank you for sharing that! Really great to see those things for yourself
The way u described this was impeccable
Thank you!
the desire to love someone and feeling safe
Yes we all have that
I'm addicted like, i paused this video and thought about him for a while then continued watching.. Someone please help
It will pass
Meditation will help and mindfulness. You need to learn to steer your focus
Same 😆
Relatable 🥺😅🙂
Imagine liking a person knowing the reality that you will never end up together but they will be with someone else once they are married.
I love him in every way, I know I’ll never get to be with him but talking him and seeing him smile and laugh just warms my heart❤️
You will love more. Start with yourself. Do actions for yourself
I have the exact same feeling,
I don't know if I love her or I'm just addicted but I know for sure that I'll never get her, never ever.
She's super pretty, being around her seeing her face watch her smile hear her laugh just makes me feel good. The worst thing is she is my neighbor and I know absolutely that she doesn't care about me but since she is that close to my house I'm constantly distracted and I want to get rid of it, that's why I'm watching this video.
Being all alone, then a person enters takes away your loneliness and you start living with them get feelings for them and they leave you breaking all the promises. It destroys even worst when you get hurt by the same person who once healed you i dont know if i will be able to get over her but i first time believed that someone can stay and hold and this thing is eating me badly i cant focus on things just suffering badly
Us bro us 🫂
I thought chemistry was hard
Idk want to say, that I just like the way they are, their humor and jokes, but idk how to stop this addiction, I think it is affecting my mental health...
You feel safe and happy with them conforted
Yeah and the thought of having to start up again from scratch
Imagine wanting someone more then your own mom
Pattern addiction happens to me all the time 😢
When you enjoyed the experiences and the time you spent together
Damn I wish I was emotionally addicted to this person but they treated me like shit for years yet I still want them Becuase I don’t see them as just that even though I get mad and it pisses me off at times and sometimes I would let it out on them. But I really love and care for this person and I’d want to be the best for them.
ur love is so pure. thats all
"You are what you love not who loves you"
Charlie Kaufman
Basically,for those who don’t get it ,why do you love that person
I needed this today
But how do you actually get over it? because I like this person. and we are friends. But i know he doesn't like me in that way. and I've tried everything. I tried new hobbies, making new friends. I just don't know what to do. especially because he's the only one who understands me. What do I do? its kinda got out of control I'm crying over it. I don't know what to do.
I also Know i cant go on like this.
same situation although she's a girl and always unsure of it to the point it becomes platonic
@@chinatsumatsumoto8143 I mean no offence but at least I'm not the only one struggling with this stuff.
How are you now? Im in a similar situation
@@buzz6989I’m not going to lie I’ve managed to get over him just about well more or less he’s still my best friend but I don’t see him as the person I need in my life. And how are you?
All living things are designed to move toward pleasure and away from pain. It is our survival mechanism.
Thanks, needed to hear this
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
This is actually true, I started dating her and now that I am I’m not even happy we’re are breaking up soon
You hit the nail on the head
Thank you!
This guy sounds like he’s doing a bad Christopher Walken impersonation.
This is actually helpful, i want to be free from my problem and this actually motivates me.
THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART!!!
Thank you for your appreciation!
when I told her about what I felt of her, she said, "okay..". and I asked, "what do you feel about me?"..She said, "i dont have feelings for anyone at the moment." I've known her and loved her for 5 years then. it's the 6th year.. I thought i moved on, but it kicked in again. Suffering of it rn..
what I want and what makes me feel good is just simple that I can’t understand why it’s wrong except for the fact that when they aren’t there I feel awful. It’s a terrible life to live. But as soon as I’m in his arms or his company I feel so good that why wouldn’t I want that but then again like I said,the shitty feeling when I don’t have that. Now we aren’t together and I have had to learn how to be ok with being alone again. It used to love alone time and liked my own company until I dated this detached avoidant man who made me anxiously attached when I’m normally not when I’m with a man who isn’t being avoidant. It was probably just as bad as coming off of hard drugs when we broke up. I don’t ever want to feel like that again so much so that I’m scared to try again and I have never been scared to try again.
When the devil can't get any further he sends a women
Thank you for this I started crying when I realized that this is how I am feeling
Thank you for your appreciation!
This shitty boy named Isaac that I have a huge crush on, me and my friends were at the park (he was one of my friends) he took my into the bathroom, (knowing that I had a crush on him)he pinned my up against the wall, and made out with me. This went on for 30-40 minutes leaving me completely flustered, then he stopped talking to me. He turned the other way in the hallways, he sat at a different lunch table, every class we had together he just sat as far away from me as possible. Making me feel like shit. It made me feel like the only way to feel that happiness again would be to go back to him. Then he started talking to me, and started hugging me and sitting next to me. He started ignoring me again, and I’ve been super depressed for months now because my mind tells me he’s toxic, but my heart tells me to run back to him again. It hurts.
sounds like it could possibly be love bombing. they treat you good for a little, then treat you horribly and as soon as you’re almost over them and they realize that they start showing love again whether it’s by compliments or buying you things. that becomes patten and recurring until you’re completely dependent on that person. plz save yourself from this type of person ❤
Either he's intentionally being hot & cold (so he's a manipulative jerk) or, more likely, he doesn't really know what he wants & is following impulses without considering the effects on you (so he's an immature boy who happens to be unintentionally acting like a manipulative jerk). Could be some blend of both. But in any case, that's not a situation you belong in, you deserve better. If someone isn't committed enough to show you they consistently care, they're not good enough to reward them with any part of yourself at all. I get how hard it can be once they've made you feel good especially when you've kissed, that makes it extra intense psychologically, but the sooner you recognize that you owe it to yourself to have firm boundaries, the better. Don't let him use you, even if he's sweet & you really believe he doesn't mean to be. It's not only best for you, but also best for him if he learns not to treat people that way. Good luck
@The plural is actually "asparageese". I'm actually in a much better situation now! I started dating a boy named tristin about 3 weeks ago, and he's treats me so well and he's so understanding of past situations I've been in. I've know him since around 5th grade. And he's likes me Sence about 8th grade (me being in 9th now) he's everything I could ask for. He askes about how I feel before he does anything about how he feels. He always puts me first
@@clover-kun4004 Right on, that's very sweet, I'm glad you're not letting a jerk toy with you anymore :) I hope things go well for you. Be sure you encourage your new beau to consider his own needs and be kind to himself too 😉 Take care young'un (I can't believe I'm unironically saying young'un lol I'm not that old {cries in aging millennial})
@The plural is actually "asparageese". shiit dawg he broke up with me and told me to kms 💀 I'm done dating boys😭 I'm just gonna try and focus on me 😂
that hurts.. THE REALITY MY HEART IS PAINING
7 years has passed, and yet there is still a little bit of faith in me, but with the faith.. there is a huge pain behind it
I definitely needed to hear this today. Tysm
great advice & just subbed
I believe in you! Don’t give up on love . Just work on yourself kings 👑
But what if you love someone because of who they are? It's like you found someone you would love because all you wish in a person is in them.
You still only know hundreds of people in person. There’s billions out there that you don’t know. There’s at least hundreds of thousands that you could be in love with. But you were saying it’s only this one.
@@StarJesseTayloryeah maybe you're right, I hope she likes me back whom ever that person that I like that much.
@@StarJesseTaylorand....how do i know if i really love someone? and it's not just a "patern" ?
@@StarJesseTaylorjust because there are billions out there doesn’t mean you will meet someone for you. Some people never do. Some people only meet one true love in a lifetime. Truly special someone is not many. It’s rare.
Yeah I wouldn't take advice of this guy he's probably someone who never gets a girl and says it because he doesn't want one lol
I’m in love with this man.
Found out that the girl I once loved has a boyfriend, so I’m here to learn how to let go. 😢
I just wanna see her happy (the happiness i never got)
makes so much sense. i am extremely avoidant so i dont do this with romantic relationships but i do see this with other aspects of my life.
The only my way I got over my ex was to literally think like they don’t exist. As far as I know they died. It helped
Welp that explains the feeling I have with the girl I liked for 10 yrs since kids till now and when I ask for a valid reason saying cuz we’re too close… u may sound like a psychopath but trust me I’m not… I just exerted too much effort to the person to the Point that’s I don’t hate her nor love her….
After going through this stuff in real life by myself, ive got to say he's damn right. Losing my girlfriend was hard, realising i maybe never loved her, and just tried to replace the happiness i cant give myself. Life your life and let people come and go, it will help you much more than finding a human who fills something, your supposed to give sourself.
I really really REALLY liked this guy. He lead me on for like two months (talked and flirted EVERY day, I went to his house and we made out (which he initiated)) time comes ofc that I tell him I like him and he said he wants to stop flirting and just stay friends because he doesn't like me like that. It hurts so much dude
It’s not an addiction. It’s normal human need and desire. It’s like saying to a baby or a child - stop your addiction to a parent. It’s normal . We are born to be connected and be in unions.
I was traumatized as a child and growing up with this person made me distracted from constantly feeling and thinking about it…. I made them my home without them choosing to be… I’ve chosen them far and way before they even know and could ever now. So now I’m choosing to let them go, and having to heal from making a decision for someone/ a very important role in my life someone never asked to be in.
I remember a guy liking me for this exact reason. I knew that. So I didn’t give him what he wanted. He is now less needy, and he is growing. I am glad I was able to do him a favor by staying away, because I am sure the only reason he wanted that is to feed off of it, and not to help it to thrive. Stay sharp ladies
That’s very aware from you
@@StarJesseTaylor thank you 😊
This is really helpful, thank you.
i love her so much it physically hurts me and i want to continue be in a relationship but i don’t want to smother her by constantly texting her and stuff. it affects my life too because i’m constantly thinking about her. i want to love her but it would be to hard on her and myself for this relationship to remain as one sided as it feels.
She's shy and cute when she talks her voice is soft but on the outside she looks strict and mean. Her small height that's relatively close to mine makes her look beautiful. Shes a really nice person, funny, kind and caring. The thing i love about her is that she's everything I'm missing.
Literally thank you ❤
If you wanna forget the one you love just hate her. Create a negative thinking about her in your mind like she is not beautiful, she is not my type or other etc. This will guide you in forgetting that betrayer quickly.😊😊
No man i just loved him, i don’t need him to be happy but he’s just in my heart 💔
This literally means, i never even fall in love with anyone.. And that life motivation i got from loving(not sure anymore cause of this video) will disappear if i try to kill this addiction that you kept sayin. I will be left as an empty shell again. Not all addiction is bad
If u been with that person for years it's not easy to just drop em I'm having problems n I want peace but I cannot let go
Whoa. This accurately describes me
Thank you. I’m in love with a dream, I need to better myself and stay focused and self confident if I’m ever going to make my dreams a reality. I need to let go of the old so I can embrace the new good things coming my way
He literally made all my dreams about love come true. He made me feel love I never thought would happen to me because I didn’t believe in love. I really thought we would be together for longer. It hurts so much. I never thought I’d find love like that only to lose it. How much I wish we had continued to be friends.
Watch the how to heal your heartbreak video. You will notice that it’s your brain warping your reality because you are spending time on the obsessions
I really like his face and stature, its fucking attractive and hes the most husband core guy I've seen irl
That’s it ! Pattern addiction is what i’ve had my entire life . Thais why i can’t tolerate changes in my life . If anything altered my lifestyle pattern i would become very fearful and insecure . A Pattern of emotional security is of course addictive . It’s like breathing air or drinking water .
Elian if you see this while scrolling troe youtube I love you
Maybe some of us have been alone for 5 years and it is in our nature to find the ideal mate to procreate as God intended. This is what we are supposed to do. Gentlemen hear me out, there is a difference between being alone and lonely. If you can't tough out life on your own without anyone around to help, and happy/content with doing so, then you aren't ready and you need to sort your life out. If you can and have been doing just that for a long time (years) and you are only growing older and lonely because it is in our nature to provide, then I understand.
Loneliness is not good, being alone and accepting it is.
It’s such pain when you fall in love with a older person and things can’t go well even when both of us are in love but due to age gap we have no future it’s so heartbreaking.
Unless one of the people is under 18 that’s not true. Age doesn’t matter in love. You’re brainwashed by social construct.
I met this girl two years ago... We both fell in love in just 1 month, but since we were far away from each other , she was getting tired to accept this fact... It affected her happiness... So she set boundaries
So that she should not feel very dependable on me... But i wasn't ready for all this , she never actually talked about this , or even when she did, i said, it will work out.
I dont know how to set my own boundaries...
My mind is constantly just thinking about her
How can i help myself
She probably seeing someone elses
Thank you so much for opening my eyes ❤.
You are so welcome
I want to be with him because he is literally the man of my dreams, prayers, etc.. but we met at a bad time and so I screwed it all up and now have to let go.
Attachment leads to suffering, whether its a thing, or person.
You are so right my friend.
Thank you!
I was happy with him , I enjoyed our time together,and than the time he actually had left after new job went elsewhere.
I know that this is true but I can’t stop wanting him 😢
I wanted the person too..but the main reason was her story...really sad...I wanted to make her life better..
I hate this emotion of love always ignored it and now not again