My mother always told me that if I was going to hit a man be prepared for the consequences of my actions. I never grew up thinking that I could do whatever I wanted to a guy and get away with it because I was a girl.
When it comes to things like hurting children women can do anything a man could do to them, but they're more likely to get away with it because they are women. Sexism isn't just an issue with women trying to do 'guy' things it's also guys trying to do 'women' things and until both are addressed we aren't going places. I mean seriously how could a lady be a breadwinner if strangers won't leave the man alone for just looking after his kids.
Right. I don't feel bad for the male nurse, I feel bad that people don't realise they should be diligent with a female nurse as well (not the specific one in the story but female nurses in general).
Zero tolerance policy with fighting is a terrible policy. It punishes victims who defend themselves. It also makes fights far more violent. Kids think "if I'm going to be automatically suspended no matter what, then I'm discouraged from holding back"
I’m going to be honest, treating a vasectomy and a hysterectomy as remotely the same thing is disingenuous, but that said, it still should be possible for the hospital to draft out a legal document precluding the poster from suing them for performing a hysterectomy on them. Just let the lady have it so she can stop dealing with endometriosis, if she regrets it then that’s too damn bad, she’s a grown ass woman and can make that decision.
I was going to comment the same thing until I saw your comment. Removing ovaries or the uterus can wreak havoc on the body and can throw your hormones out of balance, while a vasectomy doesn't. A better comparison would be removing ovaries vs removing testicles (both would significantly reduce the body's ability to produce endogenous hormones). That said, the REASON they won't do the procedure, saying "but what if you want kids in the future?" is insane.
I think the reason it’s seen as a double standard is that the doctors refuse to perform the operation because of the loss of ability to become pregnant alone, not because of the other health risks.
A story of hypocrisy I have: I am in elementary school, and I see my friend in line (we walked to lunch in single file lines). I cut in line to walk with him, when a girl comes and tells me off for cutting, and won’t leave me alone until I got to the back of the line. I do, and proceed to watch as she cuts the line to walk with her friends. I know, not very serious, but still it kinda counts
Yeah man this happened a long time ago I just remembered it as I was trying to think of anything had ever happened to me and was like. Oh yeah. Forgot about that
I'm neurodivergent, so if I like anything, it's considered cringe or wrong. My mom, who is considered "normal", will sing Disney songs to herself and it will be considered cute. I sing Disney songs to myself and people ask if I've taken my meds, like it's a symptom of something crazy. WTH? Why is it wrong for me to like something just because my brain is wired differently?
I assume you are Male which is the problem, not your brain being wired differently, just people being stupid and assigning male/female characteristics to things that aren't. Have fun with your singing, unless you sound like a tortured cat, then have fun with your singing far away from me.
Not sure if it’s legitimately a double standard situation, but I’ve always considered it one. In high school, I found myself in a stalker scenario with a boy I wanted nothing to do with. At first it was just bumping into me in the hallway to chat, finding me in the courtyard before class. But when he asked me out and I rejected him very politely, he just started appearing everywhere. He’d be outside all my classes, standing outside the restroom when I’d go, he’d watch me like a hawk. It creeped me out so I asked him one day in a very full courtyard if he could please give me some space. He replied that he didn’t mean to bother me and I thought that was that. Next day, an unfamiliar car shows up on my street and camps out in front of my house. It comes back for days. Now, I’m not claiming that the driver was this boy. But I’m stating that given my situation with the boy, that is where my mind settled. So when I got to school the following week and this guy was still watching me like a hawk and actually backed me up into a corner in an empty classroom to tower over me and ask me why I was avoiding him, I decided to seek help. I told a female guidance counselor the issue, explained that this boy was making me very uncomfortable and that I had addressed my feelings twice to him. She listened, then asked for his name and told me “I’ll be right back.” She returned with the boy. First thing he did when he sat down was pull my chair closer. I moved my chair back. Guidance counselor said “(boy’s name) wanted to see you.” And I replied, “I just explained to you that his presence is making me uncomfortable and you brought him here. Why?” GC replied “He wanted a chance to spend time with you and clear the air.” Boy smiled and said “You keep making me chase you.” GC then smiled at him and said “I’ll let you two have the room.” And she actually f-ing left! She did not come back. And the boy did not let me leave the room. He just kept asking me why I wouldn’t go out with him, the whole time making moves that looked innocent but felt so violating. There I was tense as hell in my chair, backpack in front of my body, so uncomfortable, and his hand would brush my knee, or he’d grip the chair back, or his leg would brush against mine. Finally, the door opened and some other lady said “bell’s about to ring” and told us to go. The boy left and I just sat there in raging silence. When I left I passed by an open door to what I guess was a lounge and could hear the guidance counselor telling everyone about how she’d just felt so bad for the “misunderstood boy.” Guess who was waiting for me when I left the guidance office?!
@@Ruby...X She was a joke of guidance counselor. And clearly a dangerously incompetent one as well. That was the one and only time I went to the guidance office at that school.
@@kailyns8159fuck, you are right he could kill you. Did you tell your anyone about it like your parents or someone else?Called the police?Did that boy stopped or someone like police had to forced him?
When I was pregnant with my kid I was talking to my dr about the birthing plan and all that. We was almost finished with the appointment which we had to make because I was being induced a few days after and she got a very uncomftorbal look on her face. She had to ask me if I wanted to get my tubes tied. I was one month shy of turning 30 when I had my kid. I told her no and she relaxed instantly. When I asked if she was ok I was told that she had to ask and because of my age and the fact the my kid was my first that the hospital and my insurance would say no even if I had my partner's permission. I don't know who gave her the biggest wtf look me or him. He, being in shock, porcided to ask why they would even need his permission. He was more angry then I was about that one.
It's ridiculously hard for women to get a hysterectomy. When I found a specialist who suggested one right away for my severe endometriosis I was over the moon. I didn't even have to ask. It made a massive difference in my quality of life. Now any time I meet someone who needs/wants one I immediately give them his information.
I a male and I went to the dermatologist earlier and she asked me a bunch of the most ridiculous being have you had a hysterectomy to my face my grandpa just burst out laughing. They also asked if I had been exposed to radiation at least 5 times. Guess they never know😂
@@loffafm My surgery was several years ago at this point but even doctors who already know about it still ask me the date of my last period. They get so used to asking the same questions over and over that it becomes force of habit.
In middle school I got constantly slapped in the ass by some girls. I tried to do report them, but the dean of discipline did absolutely nothing, but when I did the same to fight back once, I almost got expelled and what the dean decided on was to give me Saturday detention for the rest of the year. It was October.
By law forcing a man to penetrate is considered SA, not R. Because of this definition, R on men is 13% of cases of R, while CDC studies have shown if you include forced to penetrate in R it's ~50%. And this artificial discrepancy is used by policy makers to exclude male victims from recourses, punish women perpetrators less, and much much more.
My school had uniforms. All the girls wore skirts. And there were rules on lengths no biggie in theory but this caused so much hypocrisy. As they would have to measure skirts to punish people but not everyone was punished equally. If you were shorter but a bit wider less likely you will have a skirt that will fit you in any size so you either will risk it falling off all the time or just always get detention which happened to one of my friends. Also male teachers would measure girls more often if they were pretty. And I saw some of them looking up the skirts as they were going up the stairs as well. So many creeps at this school. Also any girl who was louder and more prominent in the school were more likely to get the skirt measured. And if you don’t think this does not get any worse the school was also racist and I noticed the non white girls also got measured way more. Luckily I only was ever measured once as I was white, the skirts naturally fit my body well enough and I kept my head down in class. But it was definitely unfair treatment. I think they recently loosened up their uniform rules but I don’t know much. There was a very controversial skirt change though that many protested as it made the skirt fit even less bodies but it did add actual pockets at least.
Also for a bit more context and hypocrisy. Guys also had strict rules when it came to hair length. It could not go past the ears. They also all had to be clean shaven unless they had a religious exemption which only one guy i know of had. So both guys and girls were in theory under strict rules. But guys got challenged way less and could get away with way more. I onlyever saw like 2 teachers and one of the middle school deans ever try to enforce those rules. So guys could slip by a lot easier and go against the uniform rules (as long as they were not too egregious) while girls constantly had the treat of an index card held up to their leg for just a centimeter too short. They did recently get rid of those rules though which i do agree with but the skirt rules I think are still there. The one thing that girls had that guys did not, wad that pants were technically and option for girls. But with how conservative a lot of the school is, and as it was a new option that many did not know they could do, or threat of being picked on and a bunch of other mini cultural reasons not many did this. It was picking up more steam when I left which is good, but the thing about the pants is that when the girls wore the pants they did not need to wear a belt like the guys. Which is a bit unfair in my book. Like yeah i know girls need belts less, but those are snazy belts if my parents allowed me to wear the pants, I would have begged them to get me the belt as well.
@@creightonjason Um yeah racism was a huge problem at my school. Like cry politics and act like I'm some kinda a stupid dumb liberal as much as you want there were full on protests about how bad it got. It was a widespread issue at that school that goes way deeper than skirts. Like there was genuine racism and double standards at the school you were not here so you don't know.
8:44 You are just perpetuating the double standard. If he can't take it, he shouldn't dish it. It doesn't matter if OP just replaced the words, IT'S STILL NOT OKAY FROM EITHER SIDE!
If the gay guy can say derogatory things. Then the straight guy gets to as well. I got so annoyed hearing that. It shouldn't matter. Sexism isn't okay. Gay people aren't special. Can't wait for the U.S. to see that and treat them like they treat everyone else.
One double standard I experienced was I had fights in school. I hit a guy back and I got an in school suspension. a girl back and I nearly got expelled and I got arrested. The worst part is that the girl only got a stern talking to even though she hit me first.
Coworker (black 36M at the time) and I (white 34M at the time) used to stop at a gas station after work from time to time. He'd get smokes and get carded every time. He hands me some cash and asks me to grab him a pack of smokes, no one asks to see my ID. Literally BS.
When I was in nursing school, I took a contract at a local preschool to help with a special needs kids. On my first day, this little girl came over to me and was showing me her art. I said things like oh cool, you’re such a good artist and so talented, etc. normal stuff you would tell a 4 year old. The teacher said “Abbie, come sit with me.” And gave me death glares. It was a 6 week contract-I called and cancelled it after the first day and I told them why.
Pregnant story: You can absolutely contact cps even when the baby isn’t born yet. To act like it’s not your business is vile Child support; The line is the father has to press charges for anything to happen… Dad being questioned; I think it’s sadder that seeing dads doing things active with their kids are rare enough that a dads presence is the exception
It's rarer because 1. men work more hours and overtime 2. if a dad does spend time with his kids he gets accused of being a kidnapper or pedo 3. in cases of divorce kids overwhelmingly go to the mom and dads are literally not lawfully permitted to see their kids more than the court ordered dates. So no the problem isn't that there aren't that many dads who want to spend time with their kids, the problem is gendered double standards that act as if childcare is solely a woman thing and all men need to be treated as dangerous criminals until proven otherwise
I absolutely hate it when a woman can do one thing and get away scott free, and a man barley does something that they just did and get in massive trouble. Probably hundreds of people have been jailed because some girl said they u know whated her Edit: It all depends on your local police force, whether or not you are either gender, if they take you seriously. All vicitms need to be taken seriously. All i am trying to say, is that in a majority of situations, whether it is something minor or serious, people will often go to the female first for the story
There are more untested rape kits than there are guys convicted of rape who never touched the woman. Rape has one of the absolute lowest conviction rates of any crime. Successful defense attorneys openly discuss how effective the “sluts“ or “nuts“ strategy is against any rape charges. They say juries are always ready and willing to completely discredit a woman’s testimony if they perceive her as crazy (i.e. upset, hysterical, confused, delusional, vindictive, angry) or slutty (i.e. promiscuous, too easily persuaded to be alone with someone, open to a one night stand, single with multiple partners, divorced, cheating….all things never considered weighty enough evidence to held against the accused. Yet, for a woman, it incites enough moral judgment against her to question every word she says. And so in these courtrooms people pretend the reality of a woman who “likes sex” but resisted her rape isn’t truly logical. Or a woman openly expressing hatred towards her rapist is probably not a real victim. And other very dumb things if you apply it to absolutely anything else.
absolutely, i almost got arrested because my sa’er decided to turn the tables. *she decided to lie to the police and they believed it, just because she was a woman.*
My aunt and uncle deal with the whole "we have to talk to your husband first" bull crap a lot. Whenever businesses insist on talking to my uncle when my aunt is the one trying to do business, he just says "Why do you need me? She's the client, I don't know jack shit." And refuses to talk ti them.
On Uni, I (basic white male) was on a student team with a girl who was according to everyone on campus, less than bright. Our major (engineering) is notoriously famous for the disproportionate amount of guys compared to girls. We applied for the same position with our CVs mentioning the team. The recruitment process was 1 interview with HR and 1 technical interview and then an offer/rejection. I still talk to her and we breezed past the first one, but the questions on the latter were something she was woefully unprepared for, while I received positive feedback (unprompted) from the interviewer. There is a big push from large corporations to promote diversity however. Two weeks after the interview she told me that she got the role and two months later, I received my rejection letter.
8:52 Why is it in bad taste? One is homophobic, one is sexist. Don't dish what you can't take. 🤷🏾♂️ If it's all in a joking context, then everything is fair game.
it's in bad taste because it's a delicate matter Things are changing (for the worse, as it happens) but when you hear someone say "men are stupid" or "women are crazy" you would assume for them to be joking. It's not always like that - some people say that in all seriousness - but most of us joke with sexual stereotypes and we assume others are doing the same. Of course it changes from person to person and from context to context. The thing with gay jokes is that when you hear one you can't be really sure it was a joke. Again, context is important. If you know the other person well enough you know how much you can say and they will know if you're just joking or not. like the italian-black story. But with someone you don't know you can't safely assume they were joking. But worry not. Things are changing. Nowadays so many people are starting to seriously think sexual stereotypes are a valid pov that soon enough we won't be able to safely assume a joke in any kind of situation
From personal experience men don't go to jail when he failed to pay their child support neglect their children and don't show up for visitations it's actually a really big common problem
When I was in 6th grade I had a bunch of kids bullying me. They liked kicking and punching me in the nuts, shoving their hand up my pants, insulting me in every way possible, etc. Several times did I start crying because of it. I couldn't get back at them because I was too unathletic. Neither the principal nor the teachers cared. Why? Because the bullies were in 3rd grade. "They're just playing", they said. One time, I managed to get a kick on one of them. Not even a good kick, I remember damn well hitting him with the bottom of my toes. They go to the principal and now I'm the baddie who hits children. I was even threatened to be kicked for bullying. Yet again, I started crying because not even the principal, who is meant to be the definitive peacemaker, even took me seriously. Just because they were three years younger than me. So I ended up going to urology for five years until I was told I already recovered from it. PD: My mother was also a teacher there. I heard her ask the principal on multiple occations to help me, but she did not care.
Double standards in my family: Older sister can lock herself in her room because “She’s tired off work!!” But I can’t when I’ve been walking around school all day, all she’s done is sit on her computer to work. As soon as I come home, take care of the dog, eat, deal with my misophonia and try to sleep, it’s 3AM and I need to get up at 6 and start the cycle again.
Same, except I don't have a dog and forego doing homework at home to sleep(I rush it in school) so I can sleep around 10 pm, while my older brother sits in his room with a locked door, air-con and does the bare minimum of work
16:52 oh my god, shut up. Fight your bullies, kids. Do not lend a thought to what's "fair" or "justified," because they certainly aren't when they're busting your shit *for no reason.*
One of the stupid ones I know is about the twins of gravity falls. People bash down Mabel a lot for her selfish acts that come from good intentions yet they don’t bash down dipper for his selfish acts that come from selfish intentions.
Story 19, poor girl. Am from Germany as well and it's so unfair they won't remove our uteruses or whatever if we ask for it "because we still might want children" OR, and this one makes me livid, "maybe your husband wants children in the future" YEAH AND 😃 Is HE the one birthing the children!? Doubt it. It seriously needs to be easier... it's horrible 🤦🏽♀️
I just wanna know what happens when a tube is removed. does the rest of the tissue push in to make up the space, or is the opening just left intact but without the relevant organ? maybe doctors also don't know and they're afraid to find out
if someone is touching you (like in some stories of harassment) just use a trick boys (like me) would use against their friend for the funny! if they touch you and this keeps happening like their harassing you and you don't like it just yell out "STOP TOUCHING ME" "I DIDNT GIVE YOU CONSENT IM A MINOR A MINOR!!"
For someone who is apparently romantically/sexually interested in men, you'd figure he might treat men more nicely than that. Return banter is 100% justified.
16:50 I don’t know about anyone else, but my dad would teach me about when he got in fights when he was in high school, and if someone touched him, or even spat at him, he made sure they learned their lesson real hard. What I think of it as is, if you want them to stop, make you show them that you want them to stop, and don’t give them a chance to attack back.
Narrator being soft and pitiful once again. Go to story 13. Dude thinks sexist comments about men are in “good taste” but anything about sexuality is a no no
I remember getting punched in by a bully in middle chool. I got an on-campus suspension, but because the kid who punched me was popular, he *clearly* didn't do anything wrong to warrant punishment.
BIG thing; The man who said that women get help and are believed directly when they are assaulted - that would be nice. But that's not the case. I think he's got a "the grass is greener on the other side"-view of this whole thing. Because most women aren't believed. Don't get any help. And most are getting called "whores" or "that they wanted it" or "that they are lying". I'm not saying it can't be hard for men, I trust him wholeheartedly in his view of how he was met when he told someone about being abused - and it's disgusting. Nobody should be met that way. But don't ever think that women have it easier. This is not an issue that we should be divided on - men against women, women against men. Because it hurts equally much no matter who you are. This is something that everyone HAVE to be united against. Against *all* sexual abuse.
Yeah, it seems that literally no one is believed. Like society doesn't want to admit just how common assault is, regardless of who the victim and perpetrator are.
@@empressmarowynn That's the truth. And when there finally is one that goes to jail, they only get a few years - if that. Many only get some months, or fucking probation! It's insane! Predators, no matter what gender, do not change. They are and will *always* be a danger to others. If anything, they become *more* dangerous over time. So I really do not understand why it seems like the entire world gives out so fucking low punishments for these assholes.
No one ever believes it. the paradigmatic stance "against" sexual assault applies purity culture horse shit to an extremely cut and dry issue. when someone rapes someone else, in this framing, it's that the perpetrator enacted their sexual desires on the weak, helpless victim and took away their purity. it's got plenty of room for people who hear about it to imagine reasons why it wouldn't happen to them; fucking asinine it is, none of us are safe. a few months ago, I watched a video by ALeviCalledBird where he gave I think the best explanation of it: "Society is against a word, not the thing it represents."
Yeah, I think problems with SA in society CAN be tied to sexism and often are (against men and women), but it's also mostly about society and general and the way people view power, popularity, morality, etc. A lot of the time victims don't get believed bc their abuser has some sort of power or is likeable therefore people don't believe it because "but how could such a nice/respectable/talented person be evil? you must be lying about being a victim"
@@empressmarowynn i agree also if a woman has relly bad depression or suicide thoughts or wants to unlivae themselves you hear some men say that the woman only did it for attention. But if a woman seid that about men the backlash the woman would get. Also woman and men don't get there mental health seriously
The divorce court thing is real My uncle lost _years_ of watching his kids grow up to his ex-wife. They lived in the states, and while everything was going through, she just.....moved herself and my cousins to her home country in Europe. Despite the fact the courts ordered her to give my uncle visitation, the country his ex-wife waa from didn't give a crap about American court orders. I remember once seeing those cousins when i was like, 7 or 8, and one was a year older than me, the other a toddler. I didn't see them again till the older was like, 16/17. I think that was one of, if not the first time in _years_ my cousins were allowed to see their dad. The younger cousin didn't even know how to speak English, because she never had time to learn english skills in America. I always feel awful for my uncle who missed out on a vast majority of my cousins childhood because of the double standard and sexism against men.
Well, this one is more about countries sovereignty, not double standards, but I'm sad for your family. This is exactly why in many countries you need approval from both parents for kids to travel abroad.
I remember for the longest time, I got bullied (mainly elementary). The bully was clearly the instigator in all scenarios, if not a very large majority. Reason he wasn’t expelled? He was Afro-Slavic while I’m Filipino and white, but look more white. The principal didn’t want to expel him due to fear of racism. Bro got expelled after I left when he tried to stabbed the principal with a pencil
So many double standards could be avoided if we REALLY focused on equality. Feminism at its best is supposed to merely balance out the rights of men and women, but radical feminism is basically just the same old sexism but gender reversed. In general, I really hate how fighting for "equality" has turned into essentially marginalizing the previously dominant group. Bigots are bad, but becoming as bad as them will only make the issue worse. If our society is to truly get better, rights should be 1:1. Treatment should be EXACTLY the same regardless of race, ethnicity, nationality, gender orientation, sexual orientation, etc. Now, there COULD be exceptions... But those would have to adhere strictly to common sense and even then be limited. For example, it makes sense for someone to get a harsher punishment for hitting a woman if that woman just so happens to be pregnant since their health is more fragile while they are pregnant, so getting attacked can do more harm than it would to a woman who is not pregnant, and thus it would be reasonable to consider the crime done as being worse and deserving harsher punishment. But I can guarantee you we would still more harshly punish a man for doing so than a woman attacking a pregnant woman, when both should get equally as bad a punishment in that same scenario.
The efforts to acheive equality _haven't_ actually resulted in the dominant demographics of people (i.e. men, white people etc) becoming the marginalised ones though. They're still dominant and treated better. To actually acheive equality, either the marginslised groups have to be treated better, and/or the dominant ones shouldn't be superior and shouldn't be treated better. But part of the problem is that some of the dominant ones don't want those things to happen because they benfit from inequality and/or because of their prejudiced beliefs
I've been very lucky that I was taken seriously when I reported a coworker for harassment. I wish everyone could be as lucky, cuz eing invalidated really sucks.
I’m a high functioning autistic teen girl. Everything is a double standard for me. It’s okay when the boy/little kid has meltdowns and is autistic. The girl who cries about the same things is “emotional and stupid” and I’m asked why I’m like this. Luckily most of my teachers are okay with my issues and stuff. It’s just other adults and kids.
Trust me autistic boy melt downs aren't accepted either unless they're the movie kind, as per an autistic friend of mine that is also a boy. And as another autistic person I agree with the "everything is a double standard for me" statement. Sorry if this comes off weird it is 2:30 am
@@sciencewithfun2052 at least people believe boys can be autistic. Though we all have hard with disabilities, girls are just less likely to get properly diagnosed
A stupid very annoying double standard I have to go through is in my old group chat that I used to be in, there was this guy who would always call and say “hey do you guys want to do something” all the time, very annoying, and nothing would happen, But god forbid I send one guitar video because after I sent a video of me playing the guitar, I get kicked out by him because “I don’t want you spamming”
I hate it when people are loud and yell at me and stuff but whenever I talk I'm loud and stuff Ive hot autism and ADHD and that kinda makes me like this so I can't help it but its still a double standard and I hate that
I have to disagree with the gay dude story Even if they were "gay" based fire backs, it's absolutely fair game If gay boy wants to go for the low hanging fruit of "you're a man", he immediately opened himself up for retaliation. Especially if he was being am actual bitch Pansexual married to a dude before anyone accuses me of something stupid
I'm the one with double standards. i tend to trust women way more, even though i'm a guy myself. i was brought up with a single mom and three sisters, so i just instinctively trust women more.
13:33 a vasectomy is reversable for up to 20 or so years, plus they can still pull sperm directly out of the testicles if you wanted to, so it IS different in this case
In middle school the choir (or any music elective really) got no funding. We had to work the concession stand at sport games and give money out of pocket. The choir was the only team in the school that competed and got trophy’s every single year. But all anyone cared about was sports 🙄
For our school, football got all the money and most of the sports got little to no attention or funding from the school. A good amount of funding to other programs such as marching band or cross country do not exist and are paid for BY THE COACHES. It's so sad to see this since football gets all the funding. (They're building a new stadium right now even though the current one is perfectly fine and better than most other schools)
At my first full-time job, me and a coworker who I became good friends with regularly took care of the part-timers during work. There were three of them, two boys and girl, all in high school but completely unrelated to each other (and no, they never were more than good friends). No one batted an eye whenever it was us and the boys - certainly not our supervisor, who was the father to one of them. I did make some dumb jokes that were probably offensive too, but I had regularly told they if any of them he had a problem with any of it to let me know and that I'd stop. It only happened once, but I kept my word, which probably helped when the one with the supervisor dad later came to us with actual problems he was dealing with (nothing bad going on in his family, just personal things outside of family, work, or school - and thankfully nothing criminal, just some people being @$$holes to him). The girl, though, kept drawing a lot of sh^t-talking from the others. Sure, our supervisor and her mom, who was also a coworker, never ceased or even scaled down their defense of us, but the others - all women - just would not believe that a guy in his 20s (me) and one in his 50s (my friend) were not "expecting certain things" from a high school girl. I mean, seriously? No guy - a straight guy at that - can have a perfectly platonic relationship with a young girl? She was never a bad girl, but her mom trusted the two of us to ensure that she never went bad, which she never did. Still, that did nothing to silence those women and their smearing. The fact that they would not accept that we had a good friendship going (which was undoubtedly why she always wanted to spend time with us rather than them) still irks me. Then again, nearly all of them would end up being brought down in a rather massive lawsuit filed by my friend (a long and whole other story), so maybe this was to be expected from them. Still, seriously, platonic relationships exist. Let them exist.
I feel like this could theoretically get political.. Because, personally, the worst and absolute most blatant case(s) of double standards _I've_ ever seen IS political - with the handling and treatment of people/protesters from each side.
i mean politics in general is probably the most hypocritical thing ever. like 100% of the time each party has some form of what they accuse the other side of doing. it’s so dumb lol
@@1c0nic_player agreed, anyone i've ever met that got into politics too heavily was completely detached from reality. they live and breathe that stuff. both sides act like fools and sometimes it's nice to watch the sparks fly lol
5th grade. A girl loaded her bag with aaaaaaallll the books from classes we didn't have homework for and hit me super hard after school. I was almost knocked to the ground and got the wind knocked out of me. I hit her back with my bag but because we didn't have homework, My bag was empty. Didn't hurt her at all. We got equal punishment even though I was hurt and he was clearly proud of it
When our oldest kid was a toddler, my wife and I agreed to both work three days a week, and put our kid in child care for the one day we both worked. I worked in a team of six people, and I was the only male and the only part-timer. Two of the women in the team also had children. One of them outsourced her childcare to her parents, and the other outsourced it to her boyfriend who couldn't work. The first would roll her eyes as she told us of the latest dumb boomer thing her parents did; the other usually spent half an hour a day on the phone arguing with her daughters about something, but also got angry at her boyfriend if he tried to discipline her daughters. But I was the one who got moved out of the team, because they didn't want part-timers. At the same time, my wife successfully supervised a team because she knew how to delegate and manage. Her problem was that her boss didn't like part-timers either. So he kept loading her with extra jobs until she had a bigger workload than a full-timer would have. And then, when she struggled to finish everything, her boss went to his boss to complain, and she was moved out of her position...to make way for one his mates. Within six months most of the team had transferred out of the team because the new supervisor was useless.
You have no idea how many girls expected me to do the whole group project back in high school. But I did not let them slide and just told to make me a sandwich since Ima be doing the whole project and they got super offended that the teacher put me in trouble of hate speech when they were literally talking shit about men. I eventually report the hate and the school did nothing but they pity me by giving me full credit onto me and not let the girls have any credit from the project so I passed the class and they didnt.
The thing about the joint owned bank account might not be sexism. I still have my mom on one of my bank accounts (not for any bad reason it was just created when I was a minor) and I literally can't even do anything as simple as opening another checking account without her authorizing it online or coming with me in person to approve it. So I don't think it's a sexism thing, joint ownership of an account usually means "both people need to approve changes" rather than "either one of them can approve changes"
My own personal one is from my highschool years. I'd see straight couples trading spit and groping in the halls. It grossed me out because I hate PDA, but no one ever got more than a stern look from teachers. When I started dating another girl and we would share a peck on the lips before parting ways? Teachers and students alike glared at us and wanted us expelled. Another was just my whole childhood. Grew up the only girl with brothers. They made messes, they ran around town with their friends, they had no chores. I was expected to clean up after them, and if I tried to step out the door without clear permission first I got chewed out. Also always had to contribute to bills and such, whereas all the money my brothers made they kept.
I have been in a child custody/support situation since 2009. It will end in 2027. While I was married to my (now deceased) second husband and something would go down r/e ex, hubby would say, “I’m not getting involved in this.” and I would say, “Please don’t, I wouldn’t want you involved in this, I wouldn’t want anyone I cared about involved in this, I wish there was some way I could get out of being involved in this!”. It’s too easy for the truth and lies to look the same from outside. I’m sure ex’s second wife is 100% convinced of how horrible I am, and of course everyone around me has heard the dirt on ex. Now, I’d say I’m telling a lot more of the truth than he is, but only the two of us really know what all has gone down.
2:06 I'd have one of my parents/siblings text me something *wildly* concerning. Like something about a grandparent dying. We'll see if she kept doing that.
I'm guessing the feminist that commented here was one of those good ones from the sixties and not the modern ones that are trying to eradicate straight men, otherwise they'd never have posted it.
12:00 Yes, being a single father with full custody was both a green and red flag to different women. One said she was afraid to marry me cause if we had kids, she might lose them to me if we divorced. Other women were fine with it like they found the golden snitch of a good guy.
I can't blame the one who was afraid of losing a court battle or what have you. I have those same fears as a man myself on top of the fear of going on a database just because I looked funny or wasn't up to a girl's standards. That's what happens when you have a revenge system instead of a justice system...
@@BlooMonkiMan Well, for women they assume they automatically get the kids, so if a man has his kids, they know hes steady and rock solid above and beyond most men or else he wouldnt have gotten the kids. So the woman, who probably know they arent the most stable of adults, would lose out in a custody battle when the past was dredged up would be warry of taking that plunge with a good guy. BTW, the woman I was referring to, the last time I saw her she was being pulled over and arrested for a DUI. I got cop blocked.
Idk if story 12 is a sexist double standard. A LOT of companies will have both peoplensign off on a change to an account. If someone gets divorced and never mentions that to the company, they could easily abuse that and make a ton of charges to it, or just completely turn off a service at the other person's home. I'm 95% sure that it has nothing to do with sexism, but with trying to make sure one person isnt trying to screw the other over. Just because they called the husband doesnt mean they dont trust the wife. THAT itself is a double standard.
The only double standards I’m frustrated by are the narrators! End of the last story if a girl defended herself against a male bully in that manner you’d praise her
yeah this dude has never been a highlight of this channel for me. whenever he's on these types of sensitive questions, his bad takes are barely covered by his wishy-washy tone
@@asparagusoffice It's basically a flip of the coin wether I appreciate the commentary or find it in itself to be some gross double standard. There'll be a horrible story and he won't comment on it but then he'll treat some random abuser like a poor misunderstood innocent bean.. but then psychopaths, who're born that way and rarely become a real threat, don't get the same privilege??
In the last story the bully got what they deserved police need to learn not to mess with people I wish when I was in elementary I would’ve known that nowadays I try to defend anybody I can but everyone always does it or I can’t see
I'm fairly tan with dark hair and eyes, my Dad very pale blue eyes, pretty pale skin and medium brown hair- we always got looks when just the two of us went out together. They never said anything but I noticed the looks My two older brothers look like my dad- so people don't even believe we are siblings: awkwardly think we are dating when with the one closer in age 😅 My mom- who I look like didn't ever get any of those looks, even with my mom and not me
You know it's so ridiculous that all logic goes out the window when boys vs girl comes into play. What about respect in general, does anyone remember the golden rule or who started it 1st. IDK 😐
all these double standards relating to gender remind me of an old bumper sticker I once read: when a man talks dirty to a woman, it's sexual harassment yet when a woman talks dirty to a man it's $2.99/minute
No we are not, if there’s 2 primaries on the account we only required the authorization of 1 person like the law states. I worked in various call centers for banks,cellphone companies and even health insurance, we always required 1 authorization.
Story 20, he is just so right. It’s so wrong that men get treated like that after being assaulted when a woman would have been showered with sympathy and praise for being strong and working through it. Obviously it is a horrific thing for anybody of any gender to go through, and we should treat it like that, regardless of the gender. The only bit that matters is who was the aggressor and who was the victim.
Woman with adenomyosis and probably endometriosis here. It's worth knowing that a full hysterectomy with your ovaries removed as well before your mid-thirties can cause health problems. There's more reasons than just reproduction to keep your reproductive organs until a certain age. But, of course, if no other treatment is working, it might be necessary. I'm lucky that extra progesterone has gotten me pretty much back to normal.
As of story 19: I do have doubts about the specifics here. OP claims that she's talking about Germany, a fear of doctors fearing being sued and to adhere to a possible change of mind of her husband. That is highly unlikely. One of these factors _might_ be mentioned, depending on the specific hospital, but the combination of all three? No, not in this day and age, not in Germany. As a matter of fact, it is possible that she has a fossile of a doctor in a very remote and ultra conservative region who would maybe apply factors 2 and 3, but would never think about being sued. In fact, it is even likely possible to sue your doctors for refusing to perform a legal and reasonable medical procedure. There are limitations on some procedures (like abortion) and some are illegal (like actively assisted medical suicide), but this here, causing the patient pain as long as it is not addressed, borders medical neglect.
I did wonder during that if her unique condition might've complicated surgery enough to make it dangerous. But then it never got brought up. Just a weird case in general.
One thing I’ve learned is if u ever need to hit a girl say “I identify as a woman” then once double standard say they attacking u cause trans, after it’s over go back to whatever before, use the double standard
If you have a partner that knows you are long distance and knows you have a busy schedule has issues, it might just be best to rip the bandaid and split. Otherwise, feelings are just going to be hurt, and both can do better for themselves with someone closer
I remember having a substitute teacher in grade... (one? two?) who believed that only boys misbehaved, and therefore only boys were subjected to a "three strike" system for any wrongdoing (three = written up for detention with main teacher the next day)
My last job I had I was a delivery driver and I was the only one that would actually get in trouble if I didn’t have my car topper on so I was the only person who ever had it on and when I left I don’t remember ever seeing another car topper for that business in that town.
8:50 Care to expand on that viewpoint my guy? Sounds like you're pretty ok with double standards to me. Also 13:30, it is fair. Vasectomies are reversible. still a sucky situation for the OP, but that's not a double-standard.
People could easily misremember and overblow a situation. It could be the case that he was a lot ruder to him than vice-versa... although, low-key, the fact that someone was allowed to make a barrage of offensive comments and no-one thought twice implies a subtle double standard.
For the last story. She can cry all she wants, but if i was in the same situation especially after reporting the behavior multiple times. I would argue that she was let out easy by op. I'm not saying that it was ok to do it, but at that point she literally was asking for someone to issue bit of a corrective behavioral teaching to her.
All it takes for a woman to be believed is to cry. It's ridiculous how women can absolutely destroy a man's reputation on false charges and face no repressions when. They are found put
Story 13: how could you call that good? There’s nothing good about a company like that when it allows toxic behavior from anyone in their favorite categories e.g. minority or one of those million letters
I hate it when people act like women are all nice and men aren't. I hated my mother for many reasons. 1. She never really listened to my biggest interests (which was murder mysteries) but she'll probably be okay with it if it was my brother. (I'm ftm btw). 2. When I got my hair cutted the way I wanted it... I can hear the disappointment/disapproval in her voice when she mentioned on how short it is. 3. Remember when I said she doesn't listens to my interests that much? She also got me make-up when I never said I wanted it or even liked it. I'm not saying all women are bad, infact there are a lot of amazing women in my family (which just happened to be from my dad's side.) My parents are divorced and I'm happy my Dad got me, as he feeds us real food (my mom just makes everyone eat fast food).
my mom is very nice somehow, but nobody in her life has ever told her off for her behavior and it shows sometimes. women everywhere are being poisoned by this mentality that they can do no wrong. sometimes they hurt people, fuck up horribly, and ironically they can't even be blamed for it because they're just that ignorant.
Can I say, I love the first story that the brothers are willing to help each other?
the favorite being sympathetic to the spare always tugs on my human spirit
My mother always told me that if I was going to hit a man be prepared for the consequences of my actions. I never grew up thinking that I could do whatever I wanted to a guy and get away with it because I was a girl.
sad thing is, you probably could...
Same.
Good.
When it comes to things like hurting children women can do anything a man could do to them, but they're more likely to get away with it because they are women. Sexism isn't just an issue with women trying to do 'guy' things it's also guys trying to do 'women' things and until both are addressed we aren't going places.
I mean seriously how could a lady be a breadwinner if strangers won't leave the man alone for just looking after his kids.
Right. I don't feel bad for the male nurse, I feel bad that people don't realise they should be diligent with a female nurse as well (not the specific one in the story but female nurses in general).
Zero tolerance policy with fighting is a terrible policy. It punishes victims who defend themselves. It also makes fights far more violent. Kids think "if I'm going to be automatically suspended no matter what, then I'm discouraged from holding back"
exactly. it is 100% pure logic to traumatize or disable your abuser for that reason
Exactly this. This leads to the mentality "EARN that suspension"
Trick
You need A LOT kids to help
Make a shove contest
They all get suspended for (fighting)
More more, the merrier
I’m going to be honest, treating a vasectomy and a hysterectomy as remotely the same thing is disingenuous, but that said, it still should be possible for the hospital to draft out a legal document precluding the poster from suing them for performing a hysterectomy on them. Just let the lady have it so she can stop dealing with endometriosis, if she regrets it then that’s too damn bad, she’s a grown ass woman and can make that decision.
I was going to comment the same thing until I saw your comment. Removing ovaries or the uterus can wreak havoc on the body and can throw your hormones out of balance, while a vasectomy doesn't. A better comparison would be removing ovaries vs removing testicles (both would significantly reduce the body's ability to produce endogenous hormones). That said, the REASON they won't do the procedure, saying "but what if you want kids in the future?" is insane.
A hysterectomy is akin to physical castration - you're physically removing the gonads. A vasectomy is akin to having the fallopian tubes tied/cut.
The equivalent would be a double orchidectomy
I think the reason it’s seen as a double standard is that the doctors refuse to perform the operation because of the loss of ability to become pregnant alone, not because of the other health risks.
Yeah, a vasectomy is a pretty minor outpatient procedure. It is reversible and carries fewer risks than a hysterectomy.
A story of hypocrisy I have:
I am in elementary school, and I see my friend in line (we walked to lunch in single file lines). I cut in line to walk with him, when a girl comes and tells me off for cutting, and won’t leave me alone until I got to the back of the line. I do, and proceed to watch as she cuts the line to walk with her friends.
I know, not very serious, but still it kinda counts
You're a kid. Go play outside 😭
@@Tisbilly He probably means he WAS in elementary school, and isn’t in them right now
Yeah man this happened a long time ago I just remembered it as I was trying to think of anything had ever happened to me and was like. Oh yeah. Forgot about that
Mistyped meant to say WAS in elementary
@@Tisbillyan elementary school student wouldnt be able to write that
I'm neurodivergent, so if I like anything, it's considered cringe or wrong. My mom, who is considered "normal", will sing Disney songs to herself and it will be considered cute. I sing Disney songs to myself and people ask if I've taken my meds, like it's a symptom of something crazy. WTH? Why is it wrong for me to like something just because my brain is wired differently?
I assume you are Male which is the problem, not your brain being wired differently, just people being stupid and assigning male/female characteristics to things that aren't. Have fun with your singing, unless you sound like a tortured cat, then have fun with your singing far away from me.
🤦
your singing might just be bad lol, sorry
@@asparagusoffice No, I've had years of choir and perfect pitch!
OK way to show of... I wanna hear you sing let it go now 😂😭@@jessicajayes8326
That mother saying 'i never thought of it that way' gave me hope she improved
Not sure if it’s legitimately a double standard situation, but I’ve always considered it one. In high school, I found myself in a stalker scenario with a boy I wanted nothing to do with. At first it was just bumping into me in the hallway to chat, finding me in the courtyard before class. But when he asked me out and I rejected him very politely, he just started appearing everywhere. He’d be outside all my classes, standing outside the restroom when I’d go, he’d watch me like a hawk. It creeped me out so I asked him one day in a very full courtyard if he could please give me some space. He replied that he didn’t mean to bother me and I thought that was that. Next day, an unfamiliar car shows up on my street and camps out in front of my house. It comes back for days. Now, I’m not claiming that the driver was this boy. But I’m stating that given my situation with the boy, that is where my mind settled. So when I got to school the following week and this guy was still watching me like a hawk and actually backed me up into a corner in an empty classroom to tower over me and ask me why I was avoiding him, I decided to seek help. I told a female guidance counselor the issue, explained that this boy was making me very uncomfortable and that I had addressed my feelings twice to him. She listened, then asked for his name and told me “I’ll be right back.” She returned with the boy. First thing he did when he sat down was pull my chair closer. I moved my chair back. Guidance counselor said “(boy’s name) wanted to see you.” And I replied, “I just explained to you that his presence is making me uncomfortable and you brought him here. Why?” GC replied “He wanted a chance to spend time with you and clear the air.” Boy smiled and said “You keep making me chase you.” GC then smiled at him and said “I’ll let you two have the room.” And she actually f-ing left! She did not come back. And the boy did not let me leave the room. He just kept asking me why I wouldn’t go out with him, the whole time making moves that looked innocent but felt so violating. There I was tense as hell in my chair, backpack in front of my body, so uncomfortable, and his hand would brush my knee, or he’d grip the chair back, or his leg would brush against mine. Finally, the door opened and some other lady said “bell’s about to ring” and told us to go. The boy left and I just sat there in raging silence. When I left I passed by an open door to what I guess was a lounge and could hear the guidance counselor telling everyone about how she’d just felt so bad for the “misunderstood boy.”
Guess who was waiting for me when I left the guidance office?!
He was literally stalking you and she decided leaving you alone in a room with him was a great idea...
@@Ruby...X She was a joke of guidance counselor. And clearly a dangerously incompetent one as well. That was the one and only time I went to the guidance office at that school.
I would have forewent guidance and immediately called the police. Fuck school counsellors, they're all incompetent.
@@kailyns8159fuck, you are right he could kill you. Did you tell your anyone about it like your parents or someone else?Called the police?Did that boy stopped or someone like police had to forced him?
Jeez, I ... honestly alarms are ringing in my head with all the red flags in this. Is she mentally okay!?
When I was pregnant with my kid I was talking to my dr about the birthing plan and all that. We was almost finished with the appointment which we had to make because I was being induced a few days after and she got a very uncomftorbal look on her face. She had to ask me if I wanted to get my tubes tied. I was one month shy of turning 30 when I had my kid. I told her no and she relaxed instantly. When I asked if she was ok I was told that she had to ask and because of my age and the fact the my kid was my first that the hospital and my insurance would say no even if I had my partner's permission. I don't know who gave her the biggest wtf look me or him. He, being in shock, porcided to ask why they would even need his permission. He was more angry then I was about that one.
It's ridiculously hard for women to get a hysterectomy. When I found a specialist who suggested one right away for my severe endometriosis I was over the moon. I didn't even have to ask. It made a massive difference in my quality of life. Now any time I meet someone who needs/wants one I immediately give them his information.
I a male and I went to the dermatologist earlier and she asked me a bunch of the most ridiculous being have you had a hysterectomy to my face my grandpa just burst out laughing. They also asked if I had been exposed to radiation at least 5 times. Guess they never know😂
@@loffafm My surgery was several years ago at this point but even doctors who already know about it still ask me the date of my last period. They get so used to asking the same questions over and over that it becomes force of habit.
In middle school I got constantly slapped in the ass by some girls. I tried to do report them, but the dean of discipline did absolutely nothing, but when I did the same to fight back once, I almost got expelled and what the dean decided on was to give me Saturday detention for the rest of the year. It was October.
saturday detention alone is criminal
By law forcing a man to penetrate is considered SA, not R. Because of this definition, R on men is 13% of cases of R, while CDC studies have shown if you include forced to penetrate in R it's ~50%. And this artificial discrepancy is used by policy makers to exclude male victims from recourses, punish women perpetrators less, and much much more.
My school had uniforms. All the girls wore skirts. And there were rules on lengths no biggie in theory but this caused so much hypocrisy. As they would have to measure skirts to punish people but not everyone was punished equally. If you were shorter but a bit wider less likely you will have a skirt that will fit you in any size so you either will risk it falling off all the time or just always get detention which happened to one of my friends. Also male teachers would measure girls more often if they were pretty. And I saw some of them looking up the skirts as they were going up the stairs as well. So many creeps at this school. Also any girl who was louder and more prominent in the school were more likely to get the skirt measured. And if you don’t think this does not get any worse the school was also racist and I noticed the non white girls also got measured way more. Luckily I only was ever measured once as I was white, the skirts naturally fit my body well enough and I kept my head down in class. But it was definitely unfair treatment.
I think they recently loosened up their uniform rules but I don’t know much. There was a very controversial skirt change though that many protested as it made the skirt fit even less bodies but it did add actual pockets at least.
Really disgusting story
Also for a bit more context and hypocrisy. Guys also had strict rules when it came to hair length. It could not go past the ears. They also all had to be clean shaven unless they had a religious exemption which only one guy i know of had. So both guys and girls were in theory under strict rules. But guys got challenged way less and could get away with way more. I onlyever saw like 2 teachers and one of the middle school deans ever try to enforce those rules. So guys could slip by a lot easier and go against the uniform rules (as long as they were not too egregious) while girls constantly had the treat of an index card held up to their leg for just a centimeter too short. They did recently get rid of those rules though which i do agree with but the skirt rules I think are still there.
The one thing that girls had that guys did not, wad that pants were technically and option for girls. But with how conservative a lot of the school is, and as it was a new option that many did not know they could do, or threat of being picked on and a bunch of other mini cultural reasons not many did this. It was picking up more steam when I left which is good, but the thing about the pants is that when the girls wore the pants they did not need to wear a belt like the guys. Which is a bit unfair in my book. Like yeah i know girls need belts less, but those are snazy belts if my parents allowed me to wear the pants, I would have begged them to get me the belt as well.
Oh yeah I was waiting for 'racism' to surface in the statement... (YAWN)
@@creightonjason Um yeah racism was a huge problem at my school. Like cry politics and act like I'm some kinda a stupid dumb liberal as much as you want there were full on protests about how bad it got. It was a widespread issue at that school that goes way deeper than skirts. Like there was genuine racism and double standards at the school you were not here so you don't know.
8:44 You are just perpetuating the double standard. If he can't take it, he shouldn't dish it. It doesn't matter if OP just replaced the words, IT'S STILL NOT OKAY FROM EITHER SIDE!
Exactly what I was thinking
Bad take form this narrator #957
If the gay guy can say derogatory things. Then the straight guy gets to as well. I got so annoyed hearing that. It shouldn't matter. Sexism isn't okay. Gay people aren't special. Can't wait for the U.S. to see that and treat them like they treat everyone else.
One double standard I experienced was I had fights in school. I hit a guy back and I got an in school suspension. a girl back and I nearly got expelled and I got arrested. The worst part is that the girl only got a stern talking to even though she hit me first.
That racking story is just so irritating. You clap, expect a clap back.
That teacher broke the law by committing invasion of privacy
8:55 if you're against replacing "man" by "gay", you're part of the problem.
Exactly
well obviously gays aren't men, /s
Coworker (black 36M at the time) and I (white 34M at the time) used to stop at a gas station after work from time to time. He'd get smokes and get carded every time. He hands me some cash and asks me to grab him a pack of smokes, no one asks to see my ID. Literally BS.
When I was in nursing school, I took a contract at a local preschool to help with a special needs kids. On my first day, this little girl came over to me and was showing me her art. I said things like oh cool, you’re such a good artist and so talented, etc. normal stuff you would tell a 4 year old.
The teacher said “Abbie, come sit with me.” And gave me death glares.
It was a 6 week contract-I called and cancelled it after the first day and I told them why.
Pregnant story: You can absolutely contact cps even when the baby isn’t born yet. To act like it’s not your business is vile
Child support; The line is the father has to press charges for anything to happen…
Dad being questioned; I think it’s sadder that seeing dads doing things active with their kids are rare enough that a dads presence is the exception
Maybe if people stopped accusing every man of being a kiddy diddler, we'd see more fathers spending outdoor time with their children.
dad being questioned - so many people want to be a hero that they end up becoming a sinister mob, tale as old as time
It's rarer because 1. men work more hours and overtime 2. if a dad does spend time with his kids he gets accused of being a kidnapper or pedo 3. in cases of divorce kids overwhelmingly go to the mom and dads are literally not lawfully permitted to see their kids more than the court ordered dates. So no the problem isn't that there aren't that many dads who want to spend time with their kids, the problem is gendered double standards that act as if childcare is solely a woman thing and all men need to be treated as dangerous criminals until proven otherwise
@@MeemahSN does this happen a lot in the us because i don't know if its as bad in the uk than the us
I absolutely hate it when a woman can do one thing and get away scott free, and a man barley does something that they just did and get in massive trouble. Probably hundreds of people have been jailed because some girl said they u know whated her
Edit: It all depends on your local police force, whether or not you are either gender, if they take you seriously. All vicitms need to be taken seriously. All i am trying to say, is that in a majority of situations, whether it is something minor or serious, people will often go to the female first for the story
There are more untested rape kits than there are guys convicted of rape who never touched the woman. Rape has one of the absolute lowest conviction rates of any crime. Successful defense attorneys openly discuss how effective the “sluts“ or “nuts“ strategy is against any rape charges. They say juries are always ready and willing to completely discredit a woman’s testimony if they perceive her as crazy (i.e. upset, hysterical, confused, delusional, vindictive, angry) or slutty (i.e. promiscuous, too easily persuaded to be alone with someone, open to a one night stand, single with multiple partners, divorced, cheating….all things never considered weighty enough evidence to held against the accused. Yet, for a woman, it incites enough moral judgment against her to question every word she says.
And so in these courtrooms people pretend the reality of a woman who “likes sex” but resisted her rape isn’t truly logical. Or a woman openly expressing hatred towards her rapist is probably not a real victim. And other very dumb things if you apply it to absolutely anything else.
SSSniperwolf, for example.
wayyy over hundreds
absolutely, i almost got arrested because my sa’er decided to turn the tables. *she decided to lie to the police and they believed it, just because she was a woman.*
she is now in prison awaiting trial :D
My aunt and uncle deal with the whole "we have to talk to your husband first" bull crap a lot. Whenever businesses insist on talking to my uncle when my aunt is the one trying to do business, he just says
"Why do you need me? She's the client, I don't know jack shit." And refuses to talk ti them.
Based uncle
based af
On Uni, I (basic white male) was on a student team with a girl who was according to everyone on campus, less than bright. Our major (engineering) is notoriously famous for the disproportionate amount of guys compared to girls. We applied for the same position with our CVs mentioning the team. The recruitment process was 1 interview with HR and 1 technical interview and then an offer/rejection. I still talk to her and we breezed past the first one, but the questions on the latter were something she was woefully unprepared for, while I received positive feedback (unprompted) from the interviewer. There is a big push from large corporations to promote diversity however. Two weeks after the interview she told me that she got the role and two months later, I received my rejection letter.
8:52 Why is it in bad taste? One is homophobic, one is sexist. Don't dish what you can't take. 🤷🏾♂️ If it's all in a joking context, then everything is fair game.
It is also stupid as if the gay guy isn't also a man
it's in bad taste because it's a delicate matter
Things are changing (for the worse, as it happens) but when you hear someone say "men are stupid" or "women are crazy" you would assume for them to be joking. It's not always like that - some people say that in all seriousness - but most of us joke with sexual stereotypes and we assume others are doing the same.
Of course it changes from person to person and from context to context.
The thing with gay jokes is that when you hear one you can't be really sure it was a joke. Again, context is important. If you know the other person well enough you know how much you can say and they will know if you're just joking or not. like the italian-black story. But with someone you don't know you can't safely assume they were joking.
But worry not. Things are changing. Nowadays so many people are starting to seriously think sexual stereotypes are a valid pov that soon enough we won't be able to safely assume a joke in any kind of situation
From personal experience men don't go to jail when he failed to pay their child support neglect their children and don't show up for visitations it's actually a really big common problem
When I was in 6th grade I had a bunch of kids bullying me. They liked kicking and punching me in the nuts, shoving their hand up my pants, insulting me in every way possible, etc. Several times did I start crying because of it. I couldn't get back at them because I was too unathletic.
Neither the principal nor the teachers cared. Why? Because the bullies were in 3rd grade. "They're just playing", they said. One time, I managed to get a kick on one of them. Not even a good kick, I remember damn well hitting him with the bottom of my toes. They go to the principal and now I'm the baddie who hits children. I was even threatened to be kicked for bullying. Yet again, I started crying because not even the principal, who is meant to be the definitive peacemaker, even took me seriously. Just because they were three years younger than me.
So I ended up going to urology for five years until I was told I already recovered from it.
PD: My mother was also a teacher there. I heard her ask the principal on multiple occations to help me, but she did not care.
Get stronger
Already have. Could stop a tank now
Double standards in my family:
Older sister can lock herself in her room because “She’s tired off work!!” But I can’t when I’ve been walking around school all day, all she’s done is sit on her computer to work. As soon as I come home, take care of the dog, eat, deal with my misophonia and try to sleep, it’s 3AM and I need to get up at 6 and start the cycle again.
Send yo parents the nursing home. You prob gonna be more successful than them
Same, except I don't have a dog and forego doing homework at home to sleep(I rush it in school) so I can sleep around 10 pm, while my older brother sits in his room with a locked door, air-con and does the bare minimum of work
16:52 oh my god, shut up. Fight your bullies, kids. Do not lend a thought to what's "fair" or "justified," because they certainly aren't when they're busting your shit *for no reason.*
One of the stupid ones I know is about the twins of gravity falls. People bash down Mabel a lot for her selfish acts that come from good intentions yet they don’t bash down dipper for his selfish acts that come from selfish intentions.
2:55 Even if it was case of double standard, woman immediately realized she was wrong and she deserves a clap.
Story 19, poor girl. Am from Germany as well and it's so unfair they won't remove our uteruses or whatever if we ask for it "because we still might want children" OR, and this one makes me livid, "maybe your husband wants children in the future" YEAH AND 😃 Is HE the one birthing the children!? Doubt it.
It seriously needs to be easier... it's horrible 🤦🏽♀️
I just wanna know what happens when a tube is removed. does the rest of the tissue push in to make up the space, or is the opening just left intact but without the relevant organ?
maybe doctors also don't know and they're afraid to find out
if someone is touching you (like in some stories of harassment) just use a trick boys (like me) would use against their friend for the funny! if they touch you and this keeps happening like their harassing you and you don't like it just yell out "STOP TOUCHING ME" "I DIDNT GIVE YOU CONSENT IM A MINOR A MINOR!!"
wait i do this with my friends too
story 17, i dont think it has anything to do with him being a man, just having kids can be a perfectly fine reason not to date someone
there might be more to it then just what he said but idk
Brain must've fell out when you made your point bout story 13 lol
Fr if you can’t take the heat get out of the kitchen 😂
Yeah, I don’t condone calling ppl names but bro what the heck you literally did the exact same thing everyone else was doing like bro
For someone who is apparently romantically/sexually interested in men, you'd figure he might treat men more nicely than that.
Return banter is 100% justified.
16:50 I don’t know about anyone else, but my dad would teach me about when he got in fights when he was in high school, and if someone touched him, or even spat at him, he made sure they learned their lesson real hard. What I think of it as is, if you want them to stop, make you show them that you want them to stop, and don’t give them a chance to attack back.
Conspiracy theorists and the rest of us "doing research" and how inconsistent conspiracy theorists are with their general statements, research or not
Narrator being soft and pitiful once again. Go to story 13. Dude thinks sexist comments about men are in “good taste” but anything about sexuality is a no no
“That’s rough, buddy.”
Confirmed Avatar fan.
I remember getting punched in by a bully in middle chool. I got an on-campus suspension, but because the kid who punched me was popular, he *clearly* didn't do anything wrong to warrant punishment.
BIG thing; The man who said that women get help and are believed directly when they are assaulted - that would be nice. But that's not the case. I think he's got a "the grass is greener on the other side"-view of this whole thing. Because most women aren't believed. Don't get any help. And most are getting called "whores" or "that they wanted it" or "that they are lying". I'm not saying it can't be hard for men, I trust him wholeheartedly in his view of how he was met when he told someone about being abused - and it's disgusting. Nobody should be met that way. But don't ever think that women have it easier. This is not an issue that we should be divided on - men against women, women against men. Because it hurts equally much no matter who you are. This is something that everyone HAVE to be united against. Against *all* sexual abuse.
Yeah, it seems that literally no one is believed. Like society doesn't want to admit just how common assault is, regardless of who the victim and perpetrator are.
@@empressmarowynn That's the truth. And when there finally is one that goes to jail, they only get a few years - if that. Many only get some months, or fucking probation! It's insane! Predators, no matter what gender, do not change. They are and will *always* be a danger to others. If anything, they become *more* dangerous over time. So I really do not understand why it seems like the entire world gives out so fucking low punishments for these assholes.
No one ever believes it. the paradigmatic stance "against" sexual assault applies purity culture horse shit to an extremely cut and dry issue. when someone rapes someone else, in this framing, it's that the perpetrator enacted their sexual desires on the weak, helpless victim and took away their purity. it's got plenty of room for people who hear about it to imagine reasons why it wouldn't happen to them; fucking asinine it is, none of us are safe. a few months ago, I watched a video by ALeviCalledBird where he gave I think the best explanation of it: "Society is against a word, not the thing it represents."
Yeah, I think problems with SA in society CAN be tied to sexism and often are (against men and women), but it's also mostly about society and general and the way people view power, popularity, morality, etc. A lot of the time victims don't get believed bc their abuser has some sort of power or is likeable therefore people don't believe it because "but how could such a nice/respectable/talented person be evil? you must be lying about being a victim"
@@empressmarowynn i agree also if a woman has relly bad depression or suicide thoughts or wants to unlivae themselves you hear some men say that the woman only did it for attention. But if a woman seid that about men the backlash the woman would get. Also woman and men don't get there mental health seriously
The divorce court thing is real
My uncle lost _years_ of watching his kids grow up to his ex-wife. They lived in the states, and while everything was going through, she just.....moved herself and my cousins to her home country in Europe. Despite the fact the courts ordered her to give my uncle visitation, the country his ex-wife waa from didn't give a crap about American court orders.
I remember once seeing those cousins when i was like, 7 or 8, and one was a year older than me, the other a toddler. I didn't see them again till the older was like, 16/17. I think that was one of, if not the first time in _years_ my cousins were allowed to see their dad. The younger cousin didn't even know how to speak English, because she never had time to learn english skills in America.
I always feel awful for my uncle who missed out on a vast majority of my cousins childhood because of the double standard and sexism against men.
Well, this one is more about countries sovereignty, not double standards, but I'm sad for your family. This is exactly why in many countries you need approval from both parents for kids to travel abroad.
I remember for the longest time, I got bullied (mainly elementary). The bully was clearly the instigator in all scenarios, if not a very large majority. Reason he wasn’t expelled? He was Afro-Slavic while I’m Filipino and white, but look more white. The principal didn’t want to expel him due to fear of racism. Bro got expelled after I left when he tried to stabbed the principal with a pencil
So many double standards could be avoided if we REALLY focused on equality. Feminism at its best is supposed to merely balance out the rights of men and women, but radical feminism is basically just the same old sexism but gender reversed.
In general, I really hate how fighting for "equality" has turned into essentially marginalizing the previously dominant group. Bigots are bad, but becoming as bad as them will only make the issue worse. If our society is to truly get better, rights should be 1:1. Treatment should be EXACTLY the same regardless of race, ethnicity, nationality, gender orientation, sexual orientation, etc.
Now, there COULD be exceptions... But those would have to adhere strictly to common sense and even then be limited.
For example, it makes sense for someone to get a harsher punishment for hitting a woman if that woman just so happens to be pregnant since their health is more fragile while they are pregnant, so getting attacked can do more harm than it would to a woman who is not pregnant, and thus it would be reasonable to consider the crime done as being worse and deserving harsher punishment. But I can guarantee you we would still more harshly punish a man for doing so than a woman attacking a pregnant woman, when both should get equally as bad a punishment in that same scenario.
Based beyond belief 🫡
The efforts to acheive equality _haven't_ actually resulted in the dominant demographics of people (i.e. men, white people etc) becoming the marginalised ones though. They're still dominant and treated better. To actually acheive equality, either the marginslised groups have to be treated better, and/or the dominant ones shouldn't be superior and shouldn't be treated better. But part of the problem is that some of the dominant ones don't want those things to happen because they benfit from inequality and/or because of their prejudiced beliefs
Gender reversed? Both men and women were oppressed in history.
I've been very lucky that I was taken seriously when I reported a coworker for harassment. I wish everyone could be as lucky, cuz eing invalidated really sucks.
I’m a high functioning autistic teen girl. Everything is a double standard for me. It’s okay when the boy/little kid has meltdowns and is autistic. The girl who cries about the same things is “emotional and stupid” and I’m asked why I’m like this.
Luckily most of my teachers are okay with my issues and stuff. It’s just other adults and kids.
Trust me autistic boy melt downs aren't accepted either unless they're the movie kind, as per an autistic friend of mine that is also a boy. And as another autistic person I agree with the "everything is a double standard for me" statement. Sorry if this comes off weird it is 2:30 am
@@sciencewithfun2052 at least people believe boys can be autistic. Though we all have hard with disabilities, girls are just less likely to get properly diagnosed
it's still not a fair situation, but autism is technically more rare in girls.
still super obvious to someone with credentials
@@asparagusoffice actually it isn't actually rarer it is because of bias
A stupid very annoying double standard I have to go through is in my old group chat that I used to be in, there was this guy who would always call and say “hey do you guys want to do something” all the time, very annoying, and nothing would happen, But god forbid I send one guitar video because after I sent a video of me playing the guitar, I get kicked out by him because “I don’t want you spamming”
Last story, just another example of entitled cop douchebags who use their badge to get their way, and get away with corruption.
I hate it when people are loud and yell at me and stuff but whenever I talk I'm loud and stuff
Ive hot autism and ADHD and that kinda makes me like this so I can't help it but its still a double standard and I hate that
Shame you can't sue the people who called the police for false reports
I have to disagree with the gay dude story
Even if they were "gay" based fire backs, it's absolutely fair game
If gay boy wants to go for the low hanging fruit of "you're a man", he immediately opened himself up for retaliation. Especially if he was being am actual bitch
Pansexual married to a dude before anyone accuses me of something stupid
My sister was aloud to go out with her friends during a storm, but I wasn’t aloud out because it was going to rain in 6 hours
I'm the one with double standards. i tend to trust women way more, even though i'm a guy myself. i was brought up with a single mom and three sisters, so i just instinctively trust women more.
13:33 a vasectomy is reversable for up to 20 or so years, plus they can still pull sperm directly out of the testicles if you wanted to, so it IS different in this case
In middle school the choir (or any music elective really) got no funding. We had to work the concession stand at sport games and give money out of pocket. The choir was the only team in the school that competed and got trophy’s every single year. But all anyone cared about was sports 🙄
For our school, football got all the money and most of the sports got little to no attention or funding from the school. A good amount of funding to other programs such as marching band or cross country do not exist and are paid for BY THE COACHES. It's so sad to see this since football gets all the funding. (They're building a new stadium right now even though the current one is perfectly fine and better than most other schools)
STOP the threat not tickle it not slow it down dont make it think twice, STOP. THE. THREAT.
At my first full-time job, me and a coworker who I became good friends with regularly took care of the part-timers during work. There were three of them, two boys and girl, all in high school but completely unrelated to each other (and no, they never were more than good friends).
No one batted an eye whenever it was us and the boys - certainly not our supervisor, who was the father to one of them. I did make some dumb jokes that were probably offensive too, but I had regularly told they if any of them he had a problem with any of it to let me know and that I'd stop. It only happened once, but I kept my word, which probably helped when the one with the supervisor dad later came to us with actual problems he was dealing with (nothing bad going on in his family, just personal things outside of family, work, or school - and thankfully nothing criminal, just some people being @$$holes to him).
The girl, though, kept drawing a lot of sh^t-talking from the others. Sure, our supervisor and her mom, who was also a coworker, never ceased or even scaled down their defense of us, but the others - all women - just would not believe that a guy in his 20s (me) and one in his 50s (my friend) were not "expecting certain things" from a high school girl. I mean, seriously? No guy - a straight guy at that - can have a perfectly platonic relationship with a young girl? She was never a bad girl, but her mom trusted the two of us to ensure that she never went bad, which she never did. Still, that did nothing to silence those women and their smearing.
The fact that they would not accept that we had a good friendship going (which was undoubtedly why she always wanted to spend time with us rather than them) still irks me. Then again, nearly all of them would end up being brought down in a rather massive lawsuit filed by my friend (a long and whole other story), so maybe this was to be expected from them.
Still, seriously, platonic relationships exist. Let them exist.
I feel like this could theoretically get political.. Because, personally, the worst and absolute most blatant case(s) of double standards _I've_ ever seen IS political - with the handling and treatment of people/protesters from each side.
i mean politics in general is probably the most hypocritical thing ever. like 100% of the time each party has some form of what they accuse the other side of doing. it’s so dumb lol
@@1c0nic_player agreed, anyone i've ever met that got into politics too heavily was completely detached from reality. they live and breathe that stuff.
both sides act like fools and sometimes it's nice to watch the sparks fly lol
5th grade. A girl loaded her bag with aaaaaaallll the books from classes we didn't have homework for and hit me super hard after school. I was almost knocked to the ground and got the wind knocked out of me. I hit her back with my bag but because we didn't have homework, My bag was empty. Didn't hurt her at all. We got equal punishment even though I was hurt and he was clearly proud of it
You seem to have missed a cut at the beggining
i was in fact sufficiently frustrated by this
When our oldest kid was a toddler, my wife and I agreed to both work three days a week, and put our kid in child care for the one day we both worked. I worked in a team of six people, and I was the only male and the only part-timer. Two of the women in the team also had children. One of them outsourced her childcare to her parents, and the other outsourced it to her boyfriend who couldn't work. The first would roll her eyes as she told us of the latest dumb boomer thing her parents did; the other usually spent half an hour a day on the phone arguing with her daughters about something, but also got angry at her boyfriend if he tried to discipline her daughters. But I was the one who got moved out of the team, because they didn't want part-timers.
At the same time, my wife successfully supervised a team because she knew how to delegate and manage. Her problem was that her boss didn't like part-timers either. So he kept loading her with extra jobs until she had a bigger workload than a full-timer would have. And then, when she struggled to finish everything, her boss went to his boss to complain, and she was moved out of her position...to make way for one his mates. Within six months most of the team had transferred out of the team because the new supervisor was useless.
You have no idea how many girls expected me to do the whole group project back in high school. But I did not let them slide and just told to make me a sandwich since Ima be doing the whole project and they got super offended that the teacher put me in trouble of hate speech when they were literally talking shit about men. I eventually report the hate and the school did nothing but they pity me by giving me full credit onto me and not let the girls have any credit from the project so I passed the class and they didnt.
The thing about the joint owned bank account might not be sexism. I still have my mom on one of my bank accounts (not for any bad reason it was just created when I was a minor) and I literally can't even do anything as simple as opening another checking account without her authorizing it online or coming with me in person to approve it. So I don't think it's a sexism thing, joint ownership of an account usually means "both people need to approve changes" rather than "either one of them can approve changes"
My own personal one is from my highschool years. I'd see straight couples trading spit and groping in the halls. It grossed me out because I hate PDA, but no one ever got more than a stern look from teachers. When I started dating another girl and we would share a peck on the lips before parting ways? Teachers and students alike glared at us and wanted us expelled.
Another was just my whole childhood. Grew up the only girl with brothers. They made messes, they ran around town with their friends, they had no chores. I was expected to clean up after them, and if I tried to step out the door without clear permission first I got chewed out. Also always had to contribute to bills and such, whereas all the money my brothers made they kept.
I have been in a child custody/support situation since 2009. It will end in 2027. While I was married to my (now deceased) second husband and something would go down r/e ex, hubby would say, “I’m not getting involved in this.” and I would say, “Please don’t, I wouldn’t want you involved in this, I wouldn’t want anyone I cared about involved in this, I wish there was some way I could get out of being involved in this!”. It’s too easy for the truth and lies to look the same from outside. I’m sure ex’s second wife is 100% convinced of how horrible I am, and of course everyone around me has heard the dirt on ex. Now, I’d say I’m telling a lot more of the truth than he is, but only the two of us really know what all has gone down.
2:06
I'd have one of my parents/siblings text me something *wildly* concerning.
Like something about a grandparent dying.
We'll see if she kept doing that.
I’ve seen a few of these and the narrator’s points of view give me a bit of hope in humanity
I'm guessing the feminist that commented here was one of those good ones from the sixties and not the modern ones that are trying to eradicate straight men, otherwise they'd never have posted it.
12:00 Yes, being a single father with full custody was both a green and red flag to different women. One said she was afraid to marry me cause if we had kids, she might lose them to me if we divorced. Other women were fine with it like they found the golden snitch of a good guy.
I can't blame the one who was afraid of losing a court battle or what have you. I have those same fears as a man myself on top of the fear of going on a database just because I looked funny or wasn't up to a girl's standards. That's what happens when you have a revenge system instead of a justice system...
@@BlooMonkiMan Well, for women they assume they automatically get the kids, so if a man has his kids, they know hes steady and rock solid above and beyond most men or else he wouldnt have gotten the kids. So the woman, who probably know they arent the most stable of adults, would lose out in a custody battle when the past was dredged up would be warry of taking that plunge with a good guy. BTW, the woman I was referring to, the last time I saw her she was being pulled over and arrested for a DUI. I got cop blocked.
If you buy a cake, and don't eat it. You've wasted your money.
Idk if story 12 is a sexist double standard.
A LOT of companies will have both peoplensign off on a change to an account.
If someone gets divorced and never mentions that to the company, they could easily abuse that and make a ton of charges to it, or just completely turn off a service at the other person's home.
I'm 95% sure that it has nothing to do with sexism, but with trying to make sure one person isnt trying to screw the other over.
Just because they called the husband doesnt mean they dont trust the wife.
THAT itself is a double standard.
The only double standards I’m frustrated by are the narrators! End of the last story if a girl defended herself against a male bully in that manner you’d praise her
yeah this dude has never been a highlight of this channel for me. whenever he's on these types of sensitive questions, his bad takes are barely covered by his wishy-washy tone
@@asparagusoffice It's basically a flip of the coin wether I appreciate the commentary or find it in itself to be some gross double standard. There'll be a horrible story and he won't comment on it but then he'll treat some random abuser like a poor misunderstood innocent bean.. but then psychopaths, who're born that way and rarely become a real threat, don't get the same privilege??
In the last story the bully got what they deserved police need to learn not to mess with people I wish when I was in elementary I would’ve known that nowadays I try to defend anybody I can but everyone always does it or I can’t see
I'm fairly tan with dark hair and eyes, my Dad very pale blue eyes, pretty pale skin and medium brown hair- we always got looks when just the two of us went out together.
They never said anything but I noticed the looks
My two older brothers look like my dad- so people don't even believe we are siblings: awkwardly think we are dating when with the one closer in age 😅
My mom- who I look like didn't ever get any of those looks, even with my mom and not me
Story 3: gee, I never would've guessed that she'd be terrible at taching!
The lengths both(of the most common) genders have to do to get people to treat them like the other is insane.
Me applying to a front desk clerk job: "Sorry, we are looking for women only. We didn't even think men would apply."
Sounds like a lawsuit waiting to happen...
You know it's so ridiculous that all logic goes out the window when boys vs girl comes into play. What about respect in general, does anyone remember the golden rule or who started it 1st. IDK 😐
all these double standards relating to gender remind me of an old bumper sticker I once read: when a man talks dirty to a woman, it's sexual harassment yet when a woman talks dirty to a man it's $2.99/minute
7:49 They don't care, they are legally required.
No we are not, if there’s 2 primaries on the account we only required the authorization of 1 person like the law states.
I worked in various call centers for banks,cellphone companies and even health insurance, we always required 1 authorization.
Story 20, he is just so right. It’s so wrong that men get treated like that after being assaulted when a woman would have been showered with sympathy and praise for being strong and working through it. Obviously it is a horrific thing for anybody of any gender to go through, and we should treat it like that, regardless of the gender. The only bit that matters is who was the aggressor and who was the victim.
Utilities are a Hassel, like one person may be the owner and you may have combined utilities while moving in for better rates... etc
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Anyone else dead at “that’s rough buddy”?
Woman with adenomyosis and probably endometriosis here. It's worth knowing that a full hysterectomy with your ovaries removed as well before your mid-thirties can cause health problems. There's more reasons than just reproduction to keep your reproductive organs until a certain age.
But, of course, if no other treatment is working, it might be necessary. I'm lucky that extra progesterone has gotten me pretty much back to normal.
As of story 19: I do have doubts about the specifics here. OP claims that she's talking about Germany, a fear of doctors fearing being sued and to adhere to a possible change of mind of her husband. That is highly unlikely.
One of these factors _might_ be mentioned, depending on the specific hospital, but the combination of all three? No, not in this day and age, not in Germany. As a matter of fact, it is possible that she has a fossile of a doctor in a very remote and ultra conservative region who would maybe apply factors 2 and 3, but would never think about being sued. In fact, it is even likely possible to sue your doctors for refusing to perform a legal and reasonable medical procedure.
There are limitations on some procedures (like abortion) and some are illegal (like actively assisted medical suicide), but this here, causing the patient pain as long as it is not addressed, borders medical neglect.
I did wonder during that if her unique condition might've complicated surgery enough to make it dangerous. But then it never got brought up. Just a weird case in general.
As soon as the OP said "racking," I knew it had to be Texas....and what he meant, lol!
One thing I’ve learned is if u ever need to hit a girl say “I identify as a woman” then once double standard say they attacking u cause trans, after it’s over go back to whatever before, use the double standard
If you have a partner that knows you are long distance and knows you have a busy schedule has issues, it might just be best to rip the bandaid and split. Otherwise, feelings are just going to be hurt, and both can do better for themselves with someone closer
2:57 props to her for that
I remember having a substitute teacher in grade... (one? two?) who believed that only boys misbehaved, and therefore only boys were subjected to a "three strike" system for any wrongdoing (three = written up for detention with main teacher the next day)
My last job I had I was a delivery driver and I was the only one that would actually get in trouble if I didn’t have my car topper on so I was the only person who ever had it on and when I left I don’t remember ever seeing another car topper for that business in that town.
First time i have heard of racking and i am a native Texan born and raised. lol
Same, but Texas is big, so it literally could be from anywhere
8:50 Care to expand on that viewpoint my guy? Sounds like you're pretty ok with double standards to me.
Also 13:30, it is fair. Vasectomies are reversible. still a sucky situation for the OP, but that's not a double-standard.
The one at 8:50 is absolutely a double standard from the speaker but what is 1 more hypocrite in this world?
People could easily misremember and overblow a situation. It could be the case that he was a lot ruder to him than vice-versa... although, low-key, the fact that someone was allowed to make a barrage of offensive comments and no-one thought twice implies a subtle double standard.
For the last story.
She can cry all she wants, but if i was in the same situation especially after reporting the behavior multiple times.
I would argue that she was let out easy by op.
I'm not saying that it was ok to do it, but at that point she literally was asking for someone to issue bit of a corrective behavioral teaching to her.
All it takes for a woman to be believed is to cry. It's ridiculous how women can absolutely destroy a man's reputation on false charges and face no repressions when. They are found put
3:45 god this pisses me off to such an unimaginable degree
Story 13: how could you call that good? There’s nothing good about a company like that when it allows toxic behavior from anyone in their favorite categories e.g. minority or one of those million letters
I hate it when people act like women are all nice and men aren't. I hated my mother for many reasons.
1. She never really listened to my biggest interests (which was murder mysteries) but she'll probably be okay with it if it was my brother. (I'm ftm btw).
2. When I got my hair cutted the way I wanted it... I can hear the disappointment/disapproval in her voice when she mentioned on how short it is.
3. Remember when I said she doesn't listens to my interests that much? She also got me make-up when I never said I wanted it or even liked it.
I'm not saying all women are bad, infact there are a lot of amazing women in my family (which just happened to be from my dad's side.)
My parents are divorced and I'm happy my Dad got me, as he feeds us real food (my mom just makes everyone eat fast food).
my mom is very nice somehow, but nobody in her life has ever told her off for her behavior and it shows sometimes.
women everywhere are being poisoned by this mentality that they can do no wrong. sometimes they hurt people, fuck up horribly, and ironically they can't even be blamed for it because they're just that ignorant.