How to Stop Reacting|Regain Emotional Control
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If I am a 'LIFE COACH ', and yes, I wanted to be. But these coaches are making it about money, so these people cannot receive help from me, because they need me healed, to heal them, and I want to do that. When the healing properly cures me, I would happily help everyone that wants it. Without anti depressants etc.,
Observe don’t absorb, respond don’t react.
They prefer conflict rather than peace.
Truth
Very well put!
Yes it somehow in a sick way makes them feel powerful.
The number of people you're educating and helping is immense. Thank you for the positive impact you have on peoples' lives. Your channel is priceless.
Yes! She has helped me so much & I love her for it!💖
Agree completely
Yes! Her commitment is HUGE, deep, wide and unwavering! She is so beautiful and powerful, she is "Great"! She makes such a huge difference! This makes for a "Great life", one that's really worth living for. She has clearly taken a stand in this life. Thank you so much for everything! Lol!😁💗
She CERTAINLY HAS..I can't thank her enough
It’s like a daily battle living with a narcissist
It's a test, designed to provoke an emotional response.
Play dumb games, win dumb prizes
Or a never-ending game, whether family members wish to play or not, the MN is always playing the game.
@@FromSurvivingToThriving I need to remember that. This is no game . it's a nightmare I've been living my whole life and I was blind to it.. Right now I see every experience of my past are based in Narc brainwashing.. My trouble is my mind is racing from one memory to another .. I make headway with one issue and I get hit with another..
@@blrenx write it down, you'll see a pattern. And then you'll be able to begin to "braindump" it to stop the overwhelming thoughts. 👍🏼
@@spaceskipster4412 Thank you
The narcissists knows the wound isn't really there, that's why they use provocation to get you to defend yourself, making it look like they are telling the truth and you are in denial by defending yourself. Once someone is in the defendant's position, they are presumed guilty. . This is the narcissists placing their victims in the defendant seat while they keep the plaintiff status, that's why a conversation with them always leads to you feeling like your on narc trial and your silence is acquiescence to everthing they are saying, especially when they pull these stunts in front of a crowd. It's just one of their many weird projection tactics.
Although sometimes silence works as a great tool for passive defense, by not engaging in the conflict. Mine has sometimes gone on earning for hours trying to wear me down and get me to break into the conflict. Sometimes entering in ends it but usually it makes it worse.
@@GaveMeGrace1 They are counting on you to think that way because it gets them what they want without any backlash. They're bullies and expect no resistance to their ignorance.
It's their double bind. When the want a fight they don't stop. You ignore them - they escalate, if it doesn't work they involve others to provoke you, if it still doesn't work, they point the finger how "difficult you are"for not engaging. Which is the same as if you lose it in the first place. And don't forget the vengeance.
Not suffering, not being in discomfort and not being miserable is forbidden in the narcissist-ruled world.
@@anna2belle783 Spot on!
Simply being quiet doesn't work and will not stop the narcissist's abuse. Even with your silence the narcissist knows you can hear and that the situation is more than uncomfortable for you. It becomes another way of gaining supply.
@@anna2belle783 miserable is something inflicted definitely. Abandonment is a lie, but they want 2make it appear real and authentic... clever! But God promises love, and wants to renew trust. But how is God truly going to stop their power ? When they seem to be able to keep opening wounds
They thrive in chaos , the joy is always in the fight with the narcissist , so you don't provide that.
Yes ive been through this many times. Now im aware and try not to give a reaction because thats how they get their feed
EXACTLY EXTRA FACTS ✔💯💯
Yes! This applies to my mom & my daughter's father
Yes! Same here. So refreshing to not react to insanity.
Michele they are always trying to provoke me into acting negative so they can use it against me .
Stop letting them do this! They'll soon see they can't do this to you & it's gonna surprise them. Soon they'll start respecting you💖
@@AshMcMiller Trying to do that but they won't back down.
@@craig3714 keep pushing & they'll soon get it! Read my comments I posted for tips!💖 God bless you & I want you to start realizing some of this has to do with us too! Love yourself & know that you deserve better. You may need to distance yourself for a while. It helped me until I was strong enough to do all the things she said
Craig W keep learning and reaching out to sane people. I'm seeing a trauma counsellor and it helps. Don't be hard on yourself for letting them get to you either. Just keep going after healing and it will get better for you. You are awakened to the game they play so you are not going to go backwards in your healing journey 🙋🥀
"You'll Never Be Good Enough To The Wrong Person" Something I think we All need to remember!
Poking the bear is their number one tactic ... Practice mindfulness and ignore it.
A very long journey for me, dealing with the toxic x. 23yrs down the track , after many years apart. A series of chaotic events brought him back in my life. Due to doing the inner work on myself for many many traumas, not only from him and wow, just wow. I'm blown away by how small he seems now. His immaturity in relationships is glaringly obvious now. He had no power over me unless I give it. He is nolonger needed to be "figured" out... I simply accept he is not an energetic match in the area's that are pivotal to my journey of healing and joy. Blessings to all of us on the healing journey 💙🏵
The things that I've learned over the past few years, I wish I had known a long time ago. However, I'm grateful that I'm learning now, and can put them into practice when I'm approached by someone who likes to provoke others. I still feel upset inside sometimes, but I can respond in ways that take the wind out their sails, and walk away with my dignity intact. The provoker(s) can just stew in their own juices. I don't have to. That's very empowering!
I've been his human doer than human being, and since I've learnt that and focusing on me, they hoover
Another outstanding tutorial with specific steps for success. Hey ...wasn't it just a little over five years ago the one thousand subscriptions was a huge moment? 222k ! Wow ! This isnt just an abuse channel, it's a movement.
Don't say anything if you don't have anything good to say Thank you Michele
This video is AWESOME!!!
Great tips....I started using your tips (video was on grey rock, I believe) over a year ago, before I discarded the narc; & it was so very helpful to watch him mumble & stumble trying to get me to react. These tips not only extinguished him, but more importantly helped to keep me authentic.
Thank you!!!
My mom does this! After i not too long ago had my 4th child she'll tell me EVERY TIME she see's me that I need to lose weight. I used to cry then I got to the point where I didn't let that determine my mood! Feels so good that she saw I didn't let it bother me anymore & she backed off. I also recently lost 20 lbs for my health (not for her) & instead now she just praises that lol 😆 it's sort of like she's thinking dang I didn't ruin her day or mood😏😉😜
Ain't that weird. My mom does the same. Who wants to make their daughters sad or upset. It's maddening
TIA Mcneely narc moms that’s who 😻
@@Tiamoya23 yes very weird.... My mother in law tells me she thinks my moms jealous because I have a husband that takes care of me & my kids & he really loves me. My mom & dad divorced when I was in the 2nd grade. It's like she wants what I have
"The calmer you are, the more they react", so very true. My ex wife (NPD) came to tell me that she wanted a divorce. To me, this was like being pushed before jumping, a relief really. I was very calm which seemed to enrage her more. So, she starts with the fists and punches me in the face. I will never forget or forgive.
Don't lose yourself in any relationship, let those who will love and appreciate you, know you so well by being the real you. Everybody wears a mask, it is up to ourselves on how we can remove it and show the true image inside.
I have a friend who told me once, when I was trying to explain how my malignant narc older brother seemed to live to provoke conflict: "He's just throwing his hooks out there, when you're happily swimming along, hoping you'll bite on his hook. Don't be his big mouth bass."
I think about that mental image every time I have to be around him and it helps me stay grounded, happily swimming along! Drives him nuts, too, but he never fails to try at least once or twice, even when he looks and sounds ridiculous to anyone else present.
Hope this helps someone else in their journey - stay strong and never let 'em see you sweat!
This time ten years ago my Mother's terminal illness got so bad that we had to provide alternative housing for her, at first for her wheelchair and later when she was bed ridden. The months that I spent in that house were the most horrific months that I ever had to endure. Watching poor Mum get worse and worse until all that was left of her was a memory. While not solving everything Dad eventually moving back home was a tremendous aid to my mental health. My narcissistic brother whenever he is in my company deliberately brings up the subject of the possibility of Dad moving back to that place. It is very difficult not to react emotionally given how awful it would be for me if I had to return there. He is fully aware of this in my view.
My narc older brother is the self-appointed expert on all things related to our 85 year old mom, who completely enables him, btw.
He's tried for years to get my younger brother and me to agree that Mom is "slipping" and might need to go into care. She's not, she's fine and much prefers to live independently, although she is slowing down a bit physically and her memory is sometimes not the best. She's perfectly able to make the decision to move to assisted living.
He cannot process cliches like "Why borrow tomorrow troubles today?" or "Let her cross that bridge when she comes to it." He sputters and stammers, gets very rage-y but has no comeback to a series of cliches. It's hilarious. I never say anything substantive at all, just cliches and "Oh, that's interesting" "You may be right". Drives him nuts and I finally leave feeling like I "won" in the sense that I wasted no time or thought on his ridiculousness.
Breathing saved my life.
Breathe people..... Breathe.
Five min three times a day can safe your life. I started a year ago. I can feel the change.
You get clarity and ability to think.
We lose our ability to think easily and effortlessly to Narc.
After all is taken away..... we have only our breaths left, use it before we lose it as well.
Great teaching.
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This was my former abuser's favorite way to torture me, aside from the physical violence. Then he'd tell everyone who would listen that I was crazy & "verbally abusing" him! I wish I'd had these coping skills then, but at least I can utilize them going forward when I have to deal with him. Fortunately, he mostly stays away from us but every time I have to speak with him, he pushes for a reaction. Wonder what will happen when he doesn't get one?!
When he can no longer provoke you for a reaction you will feel so empowered!!!!!
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How to break the cycle of reacting!! Omg BRILLIANT!!
Sometimes, the solution is to give them a dose of rage they can not stand. They called for it, now handle it.
Turn the table around!
You’re amazing! This stuff is extremely frustrating for me. Dealing with narcissists or toxic people in general. Especially my parents. I feel exhausted and broken from all this crap. I’m gonna do my best to get thru it and create a better life for myself. Thank you for giving good tools and information even for free. Seriously I appreciate you a lot ❤️
Jesse I will be praying 🙏 for U . I’m dealing with the same thing as U , Toxic Mother , I’ve lived with for the past 1 1/2 years 🤣 Even if it’s family U have to get away from these people 🤨They have no Soul , they have a Jezebell Spirit , nothing will ever make them Happy 😊 not sure of Your age , I’m sixty and just now discovered She’s a Narc 😣My whole life has changed knowing I was never the Bad one She made me out to be , that it was always Her brokenness and insecurities She projected onto Me . Since finding this out My whole life has changed . I’m moving out of State to get away 🚶 from Her EVIL 😈 I’m actually excited 😊 about starting over at 60 . Don’t waste another minute of Your life with these Entities. Good luck 🍀 and God Bless You 😇🙏🌞💕❣️🎈
Yes, when we can heal eachother, without medication, well have reached inner peace. We need this, so much .... those who love us need to help more. If we know our loved ones are struggling, we've got to do better to help xx thankyou for your wisdom..
I must admit, I have caught me doing this... When somebody is happy and relax... To bring negative information and so on... 🤦♀️... I apologize deeply and now I am correcgting this and as I feel less needy and less anxious(I also come from years of battle with narcissist family, husband, environment), so now I am reizing I don t need this to survive or to feel better... I try to be a blessing for other people, specially if they are calm... I really pray I get to this point of being totally positive... Or at least learning the right times to express or communicate things that might be painful.
Thanks
How true, how true. I live next door to someone who likes to provoke me as you describe, and as a tradesman he has used this to damage my professional reputation considerably, although I can't prove it..Regaining emotional control is something I definitely need to learn
This short video is Golden!! ✨ I just realized that I've been reacting to years of toxic "button pushing" even though these people are no longer in my life. They must of hijacked my mind 😐
Stop reacting and start responding. Take back the power by being calm, being conscious of what is going on, being constructively critical so you can hear the other side of the story. No more blame game.
michele you're always looking fantastic
Thank you!!!!! =)
It's a way they throw your balance off,if you let them do this or notice them doing this get away from these toxic people, don't let nobody take your happiness from you,these people are very tricky, keep your emotions to yourself, they have problems and you just can't fix them.great video Michelle, I would like to go fishing 🎣 where your at lol.
I’m also a calm, peace living person. For so long, I didn’t recognize these games. Now I see them for what they are. It’s easier now, not to react... not perfect at it, but I’m getting better.
These people are so confusing. Like, who the hell actually likes conflict? 🤦🏻♀️
It's driving me crazy, getting more anxious, yes, I was calm. God forsakes me to allow this. I deserve to be properly loved. Being human can be so nasty, no wonder my family are killing themselves. I tried to get back & break the cycle, but he's got me, exactly where he wants me. My punishment for loving. What a disgusting world.
Thank you for sharing this educational UA-cam Video. I went through emotional abuse for years. I appreciate you sharing this UA-cam Video.
Listening to everything that was said by you today...to this day ..I believe it is intentional but that they don't know what gaslighting is..to them it is getting a rise out of you...When he first started this I was very calm as I had trained myself to deal with trauma and abuse years ago and it completely threw me off ..where was this coming from and I tried to talk it out...when it continued on and I started feeling crazy ..I turned into someone I didn't know like I was nuts... I evaluate people after years of abuse and I truly could not grasp this...someone said gaslighting and I was like what the heck is that ..omg that was my life pretty much..So once again I say YES it is intentional...but they are just tortured in their own hell that they are trying to drag you into it with them ..
This is so accurate! I learned through your channel how to stop reacting! I swear the things you post helped me & now the people who were provoking me no longer get a reaction. Now the narcissist people in my life see they can't get to me & now I see the respect I'm getting!😊💖💋
I'm so glad my videos have helped!!!!!! And I'm so happy you are more empowered =-)
@@FromSurvivingToThriving 💖 i appreciate you so much because these tips lead to a better life!😊
Thank You ❤️ for your help, you are so true about how they try to make you feel angry.
So I was just calm to the last one who tried to upset me, but he was the one who got upset because I was calm.
I always start my day by watching your videos. Thank you Michelle. I was slowly beaten down immediately after sayin "I do" I satayed for the kids, which only made matters worse. I now havegrown children that are narcissists or will be a victim of a narcissist. My 21 year old daughter is ready to break free. I am very proud of her. It's been 5 years since the divorce. The 2 boys ages 18 and 24 are still living with the narc. Baby steps...one day at a time. Again, thank you for your braveness and positive information.
What a beautiful setting/background for this video. Keep up the great work Michele. You're helping so many people with the information you put out.
Thank you, from the bottom of my heart for all your help. This is life changing!
Thank you for providing examples of what to say
Really great content Luv and all sorts of true.!?! The Nex who was an Alcoholic and Drug Addict with a ton of sexual addictions and hidden fetishes was this type of person who caused a constant bout of drama every day and even on calm days. The funny thing is that I refused to react to a lot of the things that he and his so called flying monkeys would gather to create unbelievable scenarios!?! I've always been a pretty laid back person, and the calmer I was the worse things were and the very same person's from family to artificial friends would constantly be creating problems that had to be solved, right away but truthfully were unnecessary. When coming from work, or from visiting the family (mine)out of the blue there would be a faulty emergency call and after finding out it wasn't an emergency I stopped responding to any call. The craziness was when he'd ask how can you be so calm about this or these situations when I'm falling apart? I responded with either no verbal reaction, or I read a book and listened to music. In the end after 5 1/2 years(back in 2011),he got locked up, but I was already out of his life for 3 months by the time his mother called me, with a bail bondsman finding out he's in jail. I did not care an never responded and wasn't going to either..Whweeeww...crazy memory! Thank you for sharing and I LOVE the natural place you were at I this video! I would enjoy being there everyday to read, fish, or clod watch all day! At night I bet it's gorgeous under the stars or during a Full Moon!?! 😍😍😍
You’re amazing!
Thank you Michelle for another very helpful and informative video. Blessings to you! :)
Thank you so much for these videos your voice is also calming to listen to
My 2nd comment. Funny thing is, I knew this about breathing! I used it years ago to help with back injury. Helped in so many ways.
It’s very easy and last night I was able to use this technique without really thinking about it, until I needed it! Made the evening bearable and no
Arguing as usual 😍🥰❤️
Thanks for reminding me I already had this tool !
Excellent insights and tools. Thank you!!!
Very helpful, insightful, enlightening and empowering video🙂 Thank you ♥️👏👏
Amazing thank you from the empathic vegan x
Such a beautiful, soothing setting Michele! Hear that lovely birdsong! Great info and video. Thank you.
What an incredible blessing your channel is to me. Thank you.
I have to remember this on my next case conference. I have reacted to his lies and manipulation the first time, which went bad for me. The court only heard his lies, i didn’t get a chance to even object.The few times i spoke he always interrupted. Sad part is that i had a lawyer and he didn’t, yet he got his way around. He was projecting on me while i was struggling to keep my voice calm. Then i just kept quite which probably was assumed as an admission to guilt, which is not true. It was a disaster.
What do you do when the malignant narcissist constantly criticizes you, and you respond “your right” or “your entitled to your own opinion” and the narcissist response is “so you admit it.
How am I supposed to defend myself? Keep in mind this is done in front of my child, or within ear shot. I don’t live with the narcissist. My child lives with me, but their is visitation.
I love the peaceful setting here Michelle!
You are amazing well done
You are right on the money MIchele. I was an older man with a younger narcissist. People can not understand how a younger woman could have such control over me. I just know that a drop over time can make a hole in a rock and a river in a canyon. I also want you to know that when you make your videos gender neutra is beter for those of us who were hurt by narcissists women. I kind of hate women in general, but I am glad I do not see you as one of those vixens.
Oh WOW! Thank you so much!
I've told my mother, a covert narc, that it is truly an art for her to be able to turn ANYTHING into an argument. Seriously, how do these people do it?
They can't if you don't play the role they assigned you. Takes 2 to argue. . .try just saying "whatever - if that's your opinion" if you aren't discussing a life-or-death issue. (It helps to have something to distract you, like needlepoint, or dishes, or a magazine.)They get bored and walk away, confused and unhappy.
THANK YOU MICHELE I have been on the hunt for a video like this. Even more so during This extremely difficult year. This is the best video ever. Thank you.😭😭😭😭 I feel more in control after getting this knowledge. Thank you.😊😔
A person I was dating is dealing with parent alienation. Hes been divorced for over 8 years and hasnt completely gotten over his horrible marriage. His court case ended in a tie but everyone will go into therapy before he starts coparenting again. His kids hate him right now but hes hopeful. Im wondering what will happen next. His ex did not succeed in putting him in jail or paying him off to stay away from the kids. In fact when she knew she was losing she told the therapist he was such a great father! What a phoney!
Great video and beautiful location! Appreciate all you do Michele.
Thanks Warren - It's been so beautiful out. I'm trying to spend as much time as possible out doors - I decided to record there =) Hope you and your wife are well!!!
@@FromSurvivingToThriving We both are fine, Hope you and the family are good too. We are getting paperwork together to get married here in Mexico.
Thank you for this video. Very good words indeed 🍒
Very helpful. Thank you.
WoW, this helped me so much! Thank you!
Thank you- walked right into it the other night and watched myself react even with a certain degree of mindfulness. Easier to practice 1 &3 And I’ll keep working on 2 as well.
That was a great video. Thank you ver much!
Thankyou so so so much.
Thank You! ~Peace
I see you've met my SO. I was recommended for anger management because I thought I was the problem, and whenever I stand up to her she threatens to call the police
I really related to ur vdo..... Thanks for sharing this insight 💖
Calm, confused, upset, angry, calm, free..
I like the natural background better than the photos!
I'm not so bad off. I wish the op. Short encounters only when necessary. They aim at desensitisation . Our emotional variety keeps us safe. Inner world.
Right on time! 🙂❤
These are great. 👍
They also target you when you are down.
Thanks u so much
There’s not enough about alcohol and drug abuse being a correlating aspect of toxic behavior. Although there are some (few) that are dry drunks or dry addicts, much of the toxic behavior, I’m certain happens during their intoxication.
What about someone who you are connected to as in grandchild, adult child in the moment to cause a scene to catch you off guard. Anything that is close to you. Its not about me its about him knowing how hurting someone is going to hurt me.
you are awesome , your not showing people how intelligent and amazing you are inside, nice background!
no im not love bombing you let me know if you need someone to talk too your always helping people why?
It doesn't have to be a wound the reason you're reacting. You could be at home calm reading your emails and suddedly the toxic person asks you something that little by little he/she leads the conversation to misunderstandings and when you explain CALMLY the toxic person asks you more questions that put your words and arguments into question until you disengage and then another drama cycle begins because you dared to walk away from the argument. Was there a wound necessarily involved? NO. Did you feel frustrated weather you showd your emotions or not? I bet you did.
Another scenario could be working at the office and out of the blue your toxic coworker accusses you of something that you know it isn't true. You explain or even if possibly show evidence that what you're being accused for didn't happen because of you. The toxic coworker doesn't believe you or pretends that he/she doesn't believe you and creates a smear campaign against you and/or talks to your boss about "what happened" and your boss in now mad at you too. So... you realize that this is unfair and you need to stand up for yourself. Is there a wound there as well?
Because in my opinion it doesn't always have to be the case. And just because you manage to remain calm during the "show" the toxic person creates that doesn't mean you don''t feel frustrated meanwhile or afterwards because you know... you were not responsible for that you were accused of....
Sometimes it's a wound but sometimes all it has to be is a lie or an irrational blaming. Wounds are not always the only reason you react.
These people are just insane! When I start feeling their phoniness... I just walk away and make zer contact forever... 👆🚶♀️🏃♀️
I had been discarded by a narcissist, another narcissist commented during a conversation , your so replaceable. Well that is the message , yes manipulation, its you lol , gratefully didnt work , after all i had been through , learned to seperate truth from fiction , and their poor perceptions , are really a reflection of their inner selfs , healing they refuse
The actions for provoking me into a reaction have typically used sexual abuse. How to I deal with that, minus the use of a taser gun or pepper spray or legal action?
That’s is typically their sadistic pleasure
They do it covertly! He uses others in workplace!!
Does this method of breathing also help stop being stuck in fight or flight?
Yes - when we are in fight or flight our nervous system is activated - it's like our foot is slammed on the gas peddle - the diaphragmatic breathing is the break on our nervous system - but you have to make sure you are doing it correctly =) And then just practice so that you re-train your nervous system to be more relaxed!!
@@FromSurvivingToThriving thank you!
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I will not bow down to humans but of God. I will not follow a beast but a Queen or King.
I love u
Judging by how much red you wear I'd say you suffer from intense anger and shame, considering your a coach I'd say that this is an issue that others need to be aware of to.
lol thank you for your opinion
Shut up!!! She can wear WHATEVER SHE WANTS!!! You apparently like it..
Because your on her channel! Why the hell are you on here? She's helping us!!! Get your lame ass off this channel!!! Don't listen to this loser! You look great Michele 👍
Breathing saved my life.
Breathe people..... Breathe.
Five min three times a day can safe your life. I started a year ago. I can feel the change.
You get clarity and ability to think.
We lose our ability to think easily and effortlessly to Narc.
After all is taken away..... we have only our breaths left, use it before we lose it as well.
Great teaching.
👍👍👍
Thank you so much