Why We Eat When We're Not Hungry, and How to Stop | Dr. Jud Brewer, Being Well

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  • @ruthcopely7695
    @ruthcopely7695 10 місяців тому +47

    When I feel a craving, I ask myself what I need. Often it is rest, water or a walk outside. 🥰

    • @S.G.W.Verbeek
      @S.G.W.Verbeek 10 місяців тому

      Hmm.... I want to try those options out next time when I feel craves😊

  • @ayemiksenoj5254
    @ayemiksenoj5254 10 місяців тому +20

    I started over eating due to bullying and sexual assault. Then bingeing came in later on due to mental illness.
    I've known for a while that I find pleasure and comfort in food due to lack of emotional connection and relationships. As well as, motivation and will power do little to nothing to change any of this.
    Yet, I can't force or even drastically change the fact I don't have the kind of connection and relationships my heart and soul need.
    I don't want to keep turning inward, but everything I've researched, been told about, and tried has led to a dead end.
    For a lot of people this is the real issue and it can't be resolved alone(or just in a healthcare setting).

    • @Changeworld408
      @Changeworld408 9 місяців тому +2

      I support fully what you say. Ivknow the sick profit industrie doesn t adress the real cause as you have just discovered from years of understanding and personal experience. Our emotional needs are not fulfilled and whatever is soothing our pain in my case, sugar and wheat and sexual self soothing. But then shame and guilt comes in.

  • @pennyswallow7863
    @pennyswallow7863 9 місяців тому +8

    As a middle-aged woman with two children, a big house and very demanding job I found this conversation very relevant to the needs of people like me who were determined to have it all at any cost. Well, that cost for me has been ignoring my own needs because I simply don't have the energy. Instead, I eat to deal with my unmet needs. I specifically liked the question at the end about how a parent can find the motivation/energy to do anything for their children but not for themselves. I would love to hear more about that topic. Thanks for giving me something to think about and maybe find a better way thorough.

  • @bethra.flowers
    @bethra.flowers 10 місяців тому +13

    ❤❤❤ So on it, right now. I find my greatest challenge after 5 pm after I've already eaten all my calories for the day. I'm becoming aware of the link to loneliness and emotional anxiety or lack of loving relationships. I am confident that the information in this conversation is going to be sooooo helpful on my journey. THANK YOU!

  • @TizianaPerinottiMissTmissme
    @TizianaPerinottiMissTmissme 10 місяців тому +7

    Another great episode!!! Thank you. The question towards the end about caring for our future self and how difficult that is in general really intrigued me, so I’ve done some research and just come across the work by psychologist Hal Hershfield at UCLA who did some studies back in 2007 and discovered that the part of the brain that gets activated when we think of us, our “self”, doesn’t get activated when we think of our self in the future, in that case a different part of the brain is involved which is the same brain area activated when we think of a person we don’t know. I’m simplifying here however this has some implication on how we treat ourself in the present vs the future. Hal Hershfield was interviewed on the TED Radio Hour that aired on Dec 29, 2023.

  • @gulliver7419
    @gulliver7419 9 місяців тому +13

    It would have been good to hear a response to eating when lonely because sometimes a bowl of blueberries just isn't going to do it. For example, if one is a fearful avoidant and feels unable to reach out, carbohydrates are more likely to be your drug of choice because it increases the amount of serotonin in your brain, as it has a calming effect (even though it doesn't solve the problem), something that blueberries can't offer. Also, potato chips contain MSG which excites your brain and makes you want to eat more chips so I don't know if blueberries are going cut the mustard as it doesn't offer the hit that we are looking for.

  • @jenjones6284
    @jenjones6284 8 місяців тому +2

    Dr. Brewer seems like such a great human being.

    • @UmmmOkayThen
      @UmmmOkayThen 7 місяців тому

      He is. His EatRightNow app is wonderful. They do live sessions every week and Jud is there :)

  • @from.memories
    @from.memories 10 місяців тому +3

    Until this year I almost never saw a connection between my eating and a desire. I can’t recall ever questioning why I’m eating, always believing I was hungry, or “earned” a reward. I never interrupted that desire for a snack and thought “why do I want this?” Or “How will I benefit from having this?” Or any of the actual deeper questions that were discussed here.
    Becoming more aware of mindfulness and the driving forces behind particular desires, as well as better practice of interoception was like a light which had been flipped. In the past month I’ve been able to stop and look at these cravings and desires in the moment and make much better and healthier decision.
    Thanks a lot for taking up this discussion. It further reinforced and shed light on what I’ve been experiencing.

  • @cascade00
    @cascade00 10 місяців тому +7

    Hi Gentleman, your conversations with guests are very much appreciated. Thank you for bringing these perspectives to a wide audience.

  • @flaneliaso
    @flaneliaso 8 місяців тому +2

    Thanks so so much! One of the best pieces on this sensitive topic ❤
    Really got me reflecting, even though I started watching while partially mindlessly snacking 🥲

  • @kerenacrowe7034
    @kerenacrowe7034 4 місяці тому +1

    Wonderful podcast / s
    Life changing even at 67years of age … im developing a growth mindset and loving it !!
    One query … You use the word ‘orthoganal ‘
    I don’t understand its usage herre
    Could you clarify

  • @llyradcynth691
    @llyradcynth691 7 місяців тому +1

    Brilliant video. Relates to just about everything, not nesessarily food. Procrastination, overthinking, avoidance, fear, guilt etc.

  • @peacefulisland67
    @peacefulisland67 10 місяців тому +4

    Have I said lately how much I love you guys and your respective styles of communication? The guests are great but my appreciation is more about how you interact and the tempo used.
    🥰😘🤗🤗🤗

  • @ELDERWarriorz
    @ELDERWarriorz 10 місяців тому +3

    Another great podcast! Thank you!!! Great timing for me, personally, as well. Love, and appreciate you guys! 💜

  • @ILOVE2FeelGOOD
    @ILOVE2FeelGOOD 8 місяців тому +3

    I would love someone to share the step by step process of what's being shared here 🙏 My AFHD brain can't quite get to the clarity needed to action this

  • @jeaninerumble6503
    @jeaninerumble6503 10 місяців тому +2

    Very helpful and interesting. Kindness is truly the important aspect. I’m very grateful for your generosity in providing this important information to the public in this way.

  • @natalie.natalie.natalie
    @natalie.natalie.natalie 10 місяців тому +10

    Super thanks ❤
    This reminds me of Alan Carr' method.
    Also for people who want to work with IFS internal famiily system I can recomend a great book I was able to calm down my overeating habit.
    Its written by Amy Yandel Grabowski with the titel An Internal Family Systems Guide to Recovery From Eating Disorders. ❤

    • @shelleym493
      @shelleym493 10 місяців тому +3

      That book was really helpful for me too

  • @krasav_chick
    @krasav_chick 10 місяців тому +7

    I ask myself, do I need a snack or do I need a hug❤

  • @debsllewelyn230
    @debsllewelyn230 10 місяців тому +1

    thanks for this

  • @ixizn
    @ixizn 10 місяців тому +4

    Very interested in this. I binge eat because of my mental health issues and get no help from professionals because where I live if it’s not heavier (no pun intended 😅) stuff it’s treated as if it can’t be an addiction, so when I try to talk about eating to regulate my emotions basically no one cares and thinks that’s just on me. But then when you go look for resources online it’s very hard to find things that aren’t focused on weight and looks etc which is very triggering too. I’m only at the intro so far but can’t wait to listen to this :-)

  • @peacefulisland67
    @peacefulisland67 10 місяців тому +2

    The last couple of years I've learned first hand that my body will crave sugar or salt to get me back into it; back to my senses.
    When I'm in the throes of reliving trauma and getting confused, or when I'm simply in distress from asthma, food keeps me in the moment until I can come back to myself or get the help I need.
    It works.
    As long as I come back to Self and have people to work through the events with, the food doesn't become blended with me. It's simply a temporary measure when overwhelm or out of control needs help.
    The "will" we have been given is simply a tool to get us from point A to point B. It's a temporary measure when a burst of energy is required. Compare it to pain medication and antidepressants. Even placebo. It's like a bridge when things are iffy.
    But, use that will in alignment with virtuous orientation while letting go of the actual outcome and suddenly will power morphs into a new reality.
    The alignment or partnership is much more powerful than an independent push and becomes the new Way.

  • @elsh332
    @elsh332 3 місяці тому

    Today i was over-hungry and it caused me to become miserable. I was the next stage beyond hangry.
    I ate some meat and was desperately craving dark chocolate and/or frozen berries with biscoff ice magic... or both, so i went out to my mulberry bushes and pucked mulberries until there was none left for me to eat!
    I am still, hours later, craving the frozen berries and biscoff plus the dark chocolate.... so now im going to have both and thoroughly enjoy them ❤

  • @Mel.ani.N
    @Mel.ani.N 8 місяців тому +3

    So how do people who have ADHD find this 'enoughness' when we struggle with poor interception and our brains use food to try to compensate for Dopamine dysfunction? I'm a binge eater with ADHD. This conversation makes sense in theory but I can't trust my brain to react in the typical way or my body to signal correctly.

  • @tessajetta8146
    @tessajetta8146 10 місяців тому +2

    Whenever I feel a craving,even if I just ate, my mouth waters like a dog.

  • @paulam5864
    @paulam5864 10 місяців тому +3

    A lot, if not most “over eat” because they are unknowing or knowingly restricting food either by consciously dieting or always being wary of weight gain so wind up eating Les than their actual bodies needs.A fat person can be anorexic. This may seem odd because of our association with how bodies are “supposed” to be weight wise. Once people stop restricting and eat full meals there is way less chance of overeating. Weight neutral dieticians, medical professionals and therapists are beginning to understand how weight stigma plays into disordered eating. We live in a diet culture and a wellness culture too. The wellness culture just rebranded dieting with food restrictions “clean eating”and shoddy science to prove the diets work to cure many ills. 95 percent of diets fail. Would you go for a drug or cure that someone prescribed to you with that kind of failure rate? Most people who adhere to them long term are usually disordered eaters.
    For more truth about this topic listen to Christy Harrison’s podcasts - Food Psyche and Rethinking Wellness. She is brilliant. May our relationships to our bodies and food truly heal.

    • @ILOVE2FeelGOOD
      @ILOVE2FeelGOOD 8 місяців тому +1

      Thank you for your very helpful comment

    • @paulam5864
      @paulam5864 8 місяців тому

      @@ILOVE2FeelGOOD you'e welcome!

  • @cyndijohnson5473
    @cyndijohnson5473 10 місяців тому +6

    When I’m unregulated, I starve. I wonder how nice it must be like to still enjoy food when you’re struggling.

    • @scofah
      @scofah 9 місяців тому +3

      I'm a little jealous of your situation.... Obviously not the starving part, but the inadvertent fasting seems so much better than extra/too much food... Fasting has been proven to create stem cells in the gut.... Something we need to heal.... So when I'm down and I eat, I'm compounding my problems. There's not really enjoyment there, it's mostly guilt and frustration. Anyway, good luck to you.

    • @ragepig1059
      @ragepig1059 5 місяців тому

      Obviously you don't eant to get addicted to starving but it's the same mechanism. You have to teach yourself to hate the feeling of being overfill and like the feeling of empty, associate "hunger" to wanting more in your life, wanting, hard work, energy, like a hunting lion. It's all in the mind.

  • @corykennedy1043
    @corykennedy1043 10 місяців тому +6

    Guys. Please stop talking so much. You bring an expert on then wax on with your speculation. Let the expert have the time to give his data and research findings. He is the expert, yet you dive into your 3 step approach, then he has to take the conversation back to what he sees in the research that are not your 3 steps.

    • @ragepig1059
      @ragepig1059 5 місяців тому

      Man moment lmao

    • @lydiaszamraj4038
      @lydiaszamraj4038 4 місяці тому

      No kidding. This kid is full of himslf. It's annoying Of course the dad thinks it's adorable. It's not. Forrest is showing off & not actually that brilliant

    • @d.2542
      @d.2542 3 місяці тому

      Actually the way he brings the data can come off very science-y. So when they summarize the points he makes, which is honestly not much in my
      Opinion at all, it truly helps me to digest the topic in a shorter more straightforward manner.
      Also the full of himself comment is screaming some sort of projection.

  • @mariad1151
    @mariad1151 10 місяців тому +3

    Tks for your work Forrest. This doc's work does more harm than good for the discussion of obesity. His potato chips anecdote was disturbing. Two chips after this guy's technique, right?! C'mon! We can eradicate obesity once & for all time! ( It's always a room full of skinny folk figuring out obesity, isn't it?)
    Blank you, doc! Obesity Medicine Society admits nothing is known about hunger, appetite, or satiety. Stop persecuting folks to make a buck off them, & do an honest day's labor. Can't get enough of the Gravy train, can you? Be mindful of when your wallet is fat enough! That's a best practice!

    • @alexperkins8433
      @alexperkins8433 10 місяців тому

      what does blank you mean? (im from AU, never heard that)

    • @mariad1151
      @mariad1151 10 місяців тому

      Lol 🥂

    • @Changeworld408
      @Changeworld408 9 місяців тому

      ❤❤how are you hurting

  • @oatmeal4life441
    @oatmeal4life441 10 місяців тому +2

    Duct tape