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That’s why I usually go by the phrase heteromantic bisexual/ pansexual, but it’s mainly b/c I just see myself with a woman long term, marriage, and the possibility of biological children together. And with men it’s just a lot of lust, physical attraction and no thought of a future afterwards. Hoped this helped somebody✌🏿
I think it may also be because I just see a “straight-bi” relationship as easier and a “gay-bi” relationship more complicated. I know easier doesn’t exactly mean better but women are just the ppl that my brain just usually seeks more from.
Sorry that user has been blocked as they were not up keeping the respect we expect on this channel. You are more than welcome to share your experiences and I completely hear what you’re saying. Relationships can feel different depending on the gender. It’s ok.
So I’m taking my notes here: For me being romantic means - being able to fall in love with someone so romantic feelings, wanting to hold hands, wanting that person to be someone important for me, seeing them as an important part of my life, seeing them as my future partner, thinking about our future together, making plans, seeing them as my „comfort place” if that makes sense, wanting to be close on an intellectual level like diving in on the deep topics in conversation, wanting to have an emotional intimacy and support from them. Hope that helps someone!
For me, the line between romantic and platonic relationship are the feelings you have in your body. You can have best friends where you have way deeper connection than with your spouse but it is still platonic because you just feel happiness when hanging out with him, but when you start obsessively thinking about this bestie, imagine you and him doing all sort of stuff together, and you feel that blushing pounding in your heart, that's the moment when you realize it has become more than just a platonic friendship. Basically, you can start calling your feelings for someone romantic the moment your thoughts about him continue after you spent time with him, and are unshakable.
I used to believe I was bisexual, but then I eventually learned that I’m actually grey-asexual. However, I still see myself being bi and into both genders romantically.
omg! I have the exact same thing, and I'm grey-sexual because of a trauma. But I'm easily romantically attached to women, but it's very hard with guys. Though I'm sexually only attracted to guys.
Question for you is this kind of a unconscious feeling or a conscious feeling. Because if someone asked me. Would you like a boyfriend? I would say yes, why not? I just never tried it before. I don't know if I actually like it, but I'm willing to try
Excellent advice for those who are questioning. I'm a bit lucky on this front for reasons I'll talk about in a moment but if I weren't this would have been wonderful. How am I lucky? I'm both demi romantic and demi sexual. I'm married to a woman I love and before mutual disability sidelined that part had a good sex life with her. I'm not one to cheat but I've gotten to know a guy on Twitter that I absolutely feel attracted to in both ways and were I free to would date (and pretty much anything else) in a heartbeat. The fact that I can feel this at all for both sexes after spending decades ruthlessly repressing my queerness confirms what I should have known all along had I not grown up in a conservative christian household in the 70s and 80s.
I think im biromantic homosexual (People keep saying that) I'm openly gay guy so obviously romantically and sexually attracted to other guys. But feel like i can be attracted to and possibly be in a relationship with a girl but not ever have sex with a girl (The furthest i would go would be making out) The next part would be how would i tell a girl im interested in her but not sexually that would be the hardest part to say to her.
Ive always identified as straight but i know ive felt sexual attraction to girls, on the other hand i feel both romantic and sexual attraction to guys. I always thought im probably a pervert. I cant imagine being romantically attracted to other women and i know that for a fact so it isnt internalised homophobia.
There are not a lot of sexual thoughts or feelings for me for any gender ( I am a girl) . I didn't concider girls as a possibility anyways when I was younger but I knew I didn't feel sexual for me. So I guess I am ace but I do feel romantic for both genders. Like holding hands, letters, hugs, going on activities together... Mostly cute stuff you know. If it gets sexual I feel so much anxiety
Who is this LGBT community you are looking for acceptance from? You are the LGBT community. You decide whether to accept other people. You are it. I am an internationally recognised bi speaker and activist. I gave key note speeches and hosted Bi Pride UK and Bi Con, the two biggest Bi events in the UK. Take it officially from me. You are bi enough. Period. Now don’t let anyone tell you different.
@@notdefining I don’t have enough words to express how deeply your words touched me. Your message means so much to me, but as someone who’s just starting to understand their sexual orientation and wondering if it's normal or if it will be accepted, it’s difficult. I sincerely thank you and hope to have the chance to see you in person at one of your speeches
Isn't romance still romance regardless of which gender it is... ? Its got too complicated... Some ppl find romance easy and some don't... Im romantic, my ex boyfriend wasn't...
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That’s why I usually go by the phrase heteromantic bisexual/ pansexual, but it’s mainly b/c I just see myself with a woman long term, marriage, and the possibility of biological children together. And with men it’s just a lot of lust, physical attraction and no thought of a future afterwards. Hoped this helped somebody✌🏿
I think it may also be because I just see a “straight-bi” relationship as easier and a “gay-bi” relationship more complicated. I know easier doesn’t exactly mean better but women are just the ppl that my brain just usually seeks more from.
@@Sheshini I mean I did say for me
Sorry that user has been blocked as they were not up keeping the respect we expect on this channel. You are more than welcome to share your experiences and I completely hear what you’re saying. Relationships can feel different depending on the gender. It’s ok.
@@notdefining appreciate you
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If being queer was just as normalized as being straight. I think I would have no doubts that I am bi.
Yes totally agree with you
It was easier for me to find out that I was a biromantic, because I am asexual
So I’m taking my notes here:
For me being romantic means - being able to fall in love with someone so romantic feelings, wanting to hold hands, wanting that person to be someone important for me, seeing them as an important part of my life, seeing them as my future partner, thinking about our future together, making plans, seeing them as my „comfort place” if that makes sense, wanting to be close on an intellectual level like diving in on the deep topics in conversation, wanting to have an emotional intimacy and support from them.
Hope that helps someone!
Hey thank you so much for sharing this. It will help someone for sure. Thank you for watching and sharing. I’m so pleased to have you with us.
Thank you for that video. I fell for a nonbinary person. The way you describe the topic does really resonate with me 💜
For me, the line between romantic and platonic relationship are the feelings you have in your body. You can have best friends where you have way deeper connection than with your spouse but it is still platonic because you just feel happiness when hanging out with him, but when you start obsessively thinking about this bestie, imagine you and him doing all sort of stuff together, and you feel that blushing pounding in your heart, that's the moment when you realize it has become more than just a platonic friendship.
Basically, you can start calling your feelings for someone romantic the moment your thoughts about him continue after you spent time with him, and are unshakable.
I used to believe I was bisexual, but then I eventually learned that I’m actually grey-asexual. However, I still see myself being bi and into both genders romantically.
omg! I have the exact same thing, and I'm grey-sexual because of a trauma. But I'm easily romantically attached to women, but it's very hard with guys. Though I'm sexually only attracted to guys.
I love your nails 💅:)
Omg thanks that means a lot.
What if I’m a heterosexual biromantic?
Still valid
That's me too :)
Me too
Question for you is this kind of a unconscious feeling or a conscious feeling. Because if someone asked me. Would you like a boyfriend? I would say yes, why not? I just never tried it before. I don't know if I actually like it, but I'm willing to try
Excellent advice for those who are questioning. I'm a bit lucky on this front for reasons I'll talk about in a moment but if I weren't this would have been wonderful.
How am I lucky? I'm both demi romantic and demi sexual.
I'm married to a woman I love and before mutual disability sidelined that part had a good sex life with her.
I'm not one to cheat but I've gotten to know a guy on Twitter that I absolutely feel attracted to in both ways and were I free to would date (and pretty much anything else) in a heartbeat. The fact that I can feel this at all for both sexes after spending decades ruthlessly repressing my queerness confirms what I should have known all along had I not grown up in a conservative christian household in the 70s and 80s.
Thank you so much for sharing this. So needed.
I’m demisexual, demi-gray-aro, and polyamorous. Your comment is so relatable.
I’m so glad. You are so valid. Sending love.
Hey thanks for sharing. I’m so glad you can relate. 🩷🩷🩷
Hugs lots of hugs
Maybe a bit of kisses
Just sitting together in silence maybe with hand holding
Telling them I love them every 10 seconds
Talking lots of Talking
I don't have many friends they are either assholes or crushes
Hehe thanks. I appreciate that.
You are most welcome and warmly accepted here with us.
@@notdefining thank you
Thanks for making this video :) btw what is that frame on the right with the calligraphy?
Is it possible to be biromantic but not bisexual?
Absolutely
Many people are.
I think im biromantic homosexual (People keep saying that)
I'm openly gay guy so obviously romantically and sexually attracted to other guys.
But feel like i can be attracted to and possibly be in a relationship with a girl but not ever have sex with a girl (The furthest i would go would be making out) The next part would be how would i tell a girl im interested in her but not sexually that would be the hardest part to say to her.
Hey thanks for sharing. It’s great to be able to talk about these nuances in our sexuality.
Ive always identified as straight but i know ive felt sexual attraction to girls, on the other hand i feel both romantic and sexual attraction to guys. I always thought im probably a pervert. I cant imagine being romantically attracted to other women and i know that for a fact so it isnt internalised homophobia.
I am the same, No need to see yourself as a pervert at all
That's bisexuality then
For me romantic attraction just means with whom you fall in love with. Nothing to do with flowers or kissing.
There are not a lot of sexual thoughts or feelings for me for any gender ( I am a girl) . I didn't concider girls as a possibility anyways when I was younger but I knew I didn't feel sexual for me. So I guess I am ace but I do feel romantic for both genders. Like holding hands, letters, hugs, going on activities together... Mostly cute stuff you know. If it gets sexual I feel so much anxiety
Is it ok if I'm heretosexual biromantic?... I'm afraid that the lgbt community won't consider me bi enough to accept me...
Who is this LGBT community you are looking for acceptance from? You are the LGBT community. You decide whether to accept other people. You are it.
I am an internationally recognised bi speaker and activist. I gave key note speeches and hosted Bi Pride UK and Bi Con, the two biggest Bi events in the UK.
Take it officially from me. You are bi enough. Period. Now don’t let anyone tell you different.
@@notdefining I don’t have enough words to express how deeply your words touched me. Your message means so much to me, but as someone who’s just starting to understand their sexual orientation and wondering if it's normal or if it will be accepted, it’s difficult. I sincerely thank you and hope to have the chance to see you in person at one of your speeches
I’m thinking I might be a heterosexual, demi-homoromantic, but also biromantic.
Is that really a thing tho?
Hi i love your videos ❤😊
Thanks so much for taking the time to say.
Isn't romance still romance regardless of which gender it is... ? Its got too complicated... Some ppl find romance easy and some don't... Im romantic, my ex boyfriend wasn't...
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Love those colours. Thank you.