17. Don't be your ex's friend!
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- Опубліковано 5 гру 2017
- In this video Rory discusses why you should NEVER be friends with your ex, and how that can ruin the possibility of future re-attraction. Don't do it!
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Being friend-zoned will prevent you from getting back to your Ex romantically and prevent you from moving on.
I made the mistake of accepting friendship when my ex dumped me and I just assumed I would “re attract her” and win her back. I was so blinded, we began texting again and talking over the phone for hours and there I was beginning to believe that I was just about to win her over until.... she broke it to me that she didn’t like me like that and just wanted to be good friends with me.
Take their word for it when they say “just friends” and don’t hurt yourself! Move on
My ex broke up with my via text, after almost 4 years. I went NC and he called me 4 days later apologizing. He even suggested we still go on our planned trip to Paris as “friends”. I told him I couldn’t remain friend, but I’m still going on the trip by myself.
They want the emotional tampon without the consequences of their actions.
Exactly. Never be friends with an ex.
When a woman tells me we can be friends. My response is generally "I already have friends that I'm close with. So no we can not be friends."
friends dont hurt us like that cuh
but why though ?
Why would you want someone that doesn't want you?
no for me
This is exactly what came into my mind today - why you care to help heal someone who doesn’t care about you and your emotions .
Seriously tho
When i first meet them and how things end is like witness talking to two different people. Which traumatized me
Walk away with dignity. Don't give your x the gift of your friendship but your absence ....Yes is what I always do then they start reaching me out pleading , begging and really depressed , but they didn't care enough to keep me , taking me for granted was a big mistake, why should I care now? No way 😉🤗. Rory you are the self worth , dignity and ❤chat awesome Man. Thank you for your wisdom.
Unfriend and block anybody on social media who breaks up with you. You could have been the best MAN or WOMAN to them and if they dumped YOU, it's their loss. LET. THEM. WALK. That means YOU were not that important. If you were not important then, why are you making them important to YOU now? When you're ready, find somebody who will make you a priority, not an option or convenience. They gave up the right to know what's going on in your life the day they broke up with you.
I blocked him for good
Same i blocked him also
Needed this man, she left for no explanation after 4 years left me with the dogs and cars, just went back to her parents home. She’s already fucking people so this shits hard.
@Life Matter If he is using you and taking advantage then cutting him completely off your life is the best. No one deserves to be a doormat.
very true. don't reward for this kind of shitty behavior. People saying we can be friend after break-up are usually quite abusive mentally, financially, and sexually too.
So glad I watched this video. I was thinking about unblocking my ex on social media and becoming “friends” again, as I thought that would be a sign that I’m over the break up and not bitter about him breaking it off. However, after watching this video and other ones, I’ve realised that I don’t need him in my life, in fact, he doesn’t deserve to be in my life. I haven’t been properly single in a long time and I think it’s high time I really worked on myself rather than seeking validation from someone who didn’t love me enough to want to stay.
Did you get better?
When your ex breaks up with you she will always wants to be friends as a compromise. When my Ex suggested that, I walked away and went no-contact.
Richard S did she ever reach out
I hope I can be like you. . Coz it's hard to walked away.
Lol
I don't deal with my exes once they say let's be friends it means they don't want to be bothered anymore just delete they're number delete them on all social media outlets let them go the more you beg them the less respect they will have for you the best way to kill any ex is by simply leaving them alone silence is Golden
The longer I stay no contact with my Ex Girlfriend. It's easier for me to focus on myself and move forward. I have learned alot about the dynamics of women from your videos. Thank you so much for the words of wisdom and encouragement.
Why would you accept friendship when it’s passion that you crave?
"Don't help them through the breakup"... That's how it went for me. I told her I couldn't be friends with her but contact me if you change your mind... But then the tears and the "I miss you"s and the promises of rekindling started and I just was not strong enough. Took 3 months then she cut me adrift.
If you're going to go down this path^ (and you should), you MUST be strong enough to really pull it off...! ¥
Hi, i did the same thing like you did! I was also not strong enough because she reached out to fast. But your ex said that she missed you + the promises of rekindling? Or you did it? What happened in those 3 months you said?
Jens R - In that 3 months she kept coming to me upset and would sleep over, hinting at getting back together etc and I let it happen because I had hope. After that 3 months she got strong enough to walk and she did, leaving me to cope with the void. The pain is unbearable and I've had very dark thoughts. I hope you have better luck than me 💔
So, you were back together? How did she act during these 3 months (just like before)?
Jens R - We weren't really back together. She was just coming around while she weaned off the relationship. Something to be careful of. It's just very hard when you still love and care about that person...and still have hope. But anyway, hope is gone now, and so is she 💔
I'm sorry to hear that, I wish you the best!
I love that sarcasm at the start but underlying encouraging meaning and reminders :)
Rory. Thanks for being alive and doing this. I've been binge watching all your videos and it helps me to find and love myself again. I remember I was a great strong women before I met him and i've lost myself thoughout our relationship. Its not only his mistakes, i blame myself as well.. I was a toxic partner and he was too.. I learned so much. And I hope I will be a better person and partner in the future.
I love this video! If ever I get an incy wincy bit tempted to contact my ex I listen to this video and it brings me back to reality! Move on is the best medicine. We all get a bit curious and tempted to just peak but this snaps me right back! ❤️
My boy, Buddy, sent me your way. Going through a breakup currently. Very insightful and motivational stuff
Love this channel. This is better than therapy
Best explanation and video so far on UA-cam on this topic .
I love it!! You said don't be friends with you ex! don't help an ex through a break up wow that's AMAZING that right there just changed my every thought about everything it did something good to me wow wow wow....I love it! You're awesome!😍 thank you so very much!!!❤
Thank you for your advice. Staying best friends with my ex has been the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I don't want to be best friends right now. Being best friends is what you are when you have been in a committed relationship for a long time. I just want this whole thing to be over so I can move on with my life and be ready to be with someone who is not married or in a committed relationship.
Yep, been their friend, helped them through the breakup.... They found someone else and dismissed me. Lesson learned.
You make it all so uncomplicated! “If you’re not in no contact… Then I would begin right away!”
Lol.... He hit me up with I just want to be friends and catch up rubbish, I said no way I’m worth more than that... see ya! Thank you 💕
I’ve been broken up with my ex girlfriend for about 3 months now and I like the way you interact with the viewer. You’re really helping me. I pray she comes back to me
Colt how are you?
Samantha Houston not good now. I got back with her almost right after I put this comment out. I did everything I could to make her happy. She still did the stuff I asked her not to do but I didn’t end it because I loved her. Things were going good until 3 weeks ago until she asked for the passwords to my social media. I told her if she trusted me then she doesn’t need them. She wanted them mainly because I’m a photographer and sometimes people ask me to take pictures of them and sometimes girls. She is a very jealous and insecure person that has bipolar disorder. She’s doesn’t look like a model but she makes me happy and that makes her the most beautiful person to me. She asked for four days straight and said if I don’t give them to her it’s over. The last day She started screaming, crying, and punching stuff because it made her that mad. Her parents got involved and it was a big mess. From what my she says her friends and family say I should give her the passwords. Before she ended it, I said fine and said I’ll give her to her. Her dad then said we should take that night away from each other and come back together when things have calmed down. I talked to her the next day and she said she’s done and doesn’t wanna continue with me anymore because I put her through too much. The only thing I really did wrong throughout the whole relationship of 2 years was talk to another girl but that’s it. And I told her I would never do it again and I haven’t. She couldn’t let that go and kept bringing it up a year after it happened. I’ve been trying my best to make it good for her. I even had a proposal planned out and I told her that but she said she doesn’t wanna date me ever again and said it was a mistake coming back to me. Today is her birthday and I can’t even say nothing to her. I lost the love of my life over some passwords and something I did a year ago. I feel like I won’t find anyone better that makes me as happy as she did despite the verbal abuse I went through. I just feel lost right now so yeah that’s it
Colt im sorry to hear that. just dont beat yourself up. know you are priority and know that you have an obligation to yourself about your work and be driven by your goals bc that what makes you a high value person. dont let them knock you off balance. feel it and heal it. forgive yourself and forgive for yourself. i know it is hard but you got this. i have been broken up for 4 months now and i hope to reunite and pray for it. i am also working on me by accomplishing some long overdue goals. sending you prayers for healing. maybe rory will do something on boundaries and include negotiables and and nonnegotiables. kind of like making a list of what you want in yourself and in a partner.
Samantha Houston thank you I will. I honestly just want her to change into a better person and come back or maybe God has someone totally better in mind
hey! So your story is mine as well! She was insecure and bipolar wanted my passwords and even had a GPS on my phone. I only had snapchat so she can video call me and see where I was. I'm a personal trainer and she always accused me of things. I talked to another woman nothing sexual but through texts a yr ago and she never really forgave me. We broke up 2 weeks ago and it is now her bday. I sent flowers and got back a thankyou text. Hope your ok man. Her and I were together for 2 years now
You are absolutely right.
You are the best coach Larry. Thank you for the video. You are helping me alot. I was broken from within when she left me, I felt rejected and I decreased my self esteem by pleading to her. Now I'm following your advices..
Rory*
This one was VERy good. Thank you!
I feel like I just wasted 19 months of my life on the young lady I was engaged to. She pulled the old I love you and I want to be friends. I considered it a betrayal! I don’t wanna be your friend, I wish you the best and now I don’t wanna see her or hear from her again.
needed this, feeling empowered
I could never go into friends zone with my x or my other xs especially my last one that i put my heart n soul into i well not be happy for her no matter what the cost.
I’ve been watching your videos for the past two years. He dumped me two years ago and he actually came back...after I moved on. Just give it time...you will get over him/her. I did!
I liked how you summed up. I have been watching other youtubers also but I really want to say that Your video is a total package ❣️👏
What I learnt by watching 20+ videos you summed up that in just once. thanks 🙏 god bless you
True.. but it's hard.. thanks for all your videos. God bless
Ex came back after 3 months and she wants to friend zone me. Realizing they are breadcrumbing me all the way. I told her I love you and the kids, but I can’t be friends. I wish you the best, and I’ve walked away again for a week. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I’ve referred to this video several times to pull me back into reality. Thank you Rory! Appreciate you and your advice and I wish I found you earlier instead of listening to the Brad Browning bullshit among others!
I watched all your videos. Thank you for encouragement. . I really need it badly..
My ex and I got back after no contact rule and yet after three months of being together again he broke up with me, I agreed to be his friend because he doesn’t have any close friend we still do the same routine we do except sleeping together . Then after three months he started seeing someone new he didn’t tell me but I figured it out.and because he thinks I’m his friend , he was open to tell me about the new one . I told him I am hurting and I don’t want to be involve anymore, he said he needs me in his life as a friend. I kept talking and hang out with him for another two weeks until I decided I should have self respect. Hopefully I will be strong to let him go fully as he had let me got for a long time .
How are you doing?
He is a dbag! If he cares for you then he should know that you are hurting. It's very selfish of him to force you to be his friend. Block him sister!
Cheer up . Ur ex is so selfish
Thank you for making up my mind...
thank you for sharing this.
U just saved my life..thanks..xo 💝🎈
This is so true. So very true.
I love Ur advice. I was really need it thank u sir
From reading a bunch of the comments, I will just say this: if you have expectations or a hidden agenda, if you don't have open communication, shared values regarding the importance of friendship (other than to "hold on" to memories or out of neediness) and no mutual plan, then you're just shooting yourself in the foot.
How can you even do that and then expect it to work or expect them to change their mind? It doesn't work that way... and I'm someone who is actually friends with some of my exes, though not all. With one ex it was very easy. Literally no blackout period. No issues. Everyone was mature about it and the friendship made sense to both of us. Easy and no problems since. I see them and am also friends with her boyfriend. No issues. She's over me and she loves him and I have an awesome relationship as well now, so it's fine.
With another it was harder and took some work and teamwork since we both agreed it's important and we respected each other's feelings and worked out a strategy (which by the way is not even a guarantee, so tread carefully and don't be naive to believe it's always going to work out: it's a crap shoot and it depends on the people involved and their motivations)---- so I have to say, while it was worth it in the end, it is a hard road of ups and downs and I can see why it's so much easier to just cut the cord. 100%. Our current friendship works because the friendship works. Not because it's an extension of the relationship. You end up having to try to work with a clean slate while paint is still being splashed around, so most of the time it is far from easy.
So think carefully before you try this because it could just as easily go up in flames. It could also be that after you FINALLY end up making a friendship work, you end up drifting apart anyway... and all of that drama would have been for nothing anyway because what made the relationship "exciting" or "feel good" no longer exists in the friendship and is not realistic/feasible. This actually happens a lot more than you think LOL and then you kick yourself for wasting your time and theirs. So, again, be honest. Why do you want to be friends?
You have to weigh all of the potential pain, drama and soul-sucking angst (as well as potential affects on new relationships) against what you actually gain, practically-speaking, and for goodness sake, if you have secret wishes, then know that you're only torturing yourself.
Remember how many people are out there in the world. Do not seek things out of co-dependency or desperation or false hope. Never, ever do that please. And again, this is coming from someone who experienced both success and failure at this. Please take care of yourselves and take care of your own emotional, physical and mental well-being as your priority. If you feel STIFLED in life in ANY way by being associated with your ex (such as you have difficulty moving on or finding new relationships), you need to address this as your priority. It's your life. Just don't be a douche.
Dam it hurts...…Accepting that they don't care about you while you can literally feel them drifting away into a stranger....my heart is still so full of love. jesus I don't wish this kind of suffering on my worst enemy. Its like drowning in air. I cant be her friend... it makes me feel like I'm insane. I know I have to cut her loose...this is definitely one of the hardest things a human can suffer. this kinda pain changes people...
Just followed your advice. We had an amazing relationship full of plans together, then after first fight he started pulling away until there was nothing left for me to hold on. Two months after the breakup he asks to meet, we catch up but dont talk about the relationship, then he start texting me with silly things and also asks me to help him understand the value of our past relationship, he doesn't know if it was out of loneliness. I said I cant help him to figure out his past or present feelings, he needs to find out by himself but as I do have feelings, Im not going to be here again to fill someone's emptiness or void. It hurts me, a lot, because getting those silly messages from him gave me a false sense of closeness, but I want someone next to me for the right reasons. I hope Ive done the right thing... Any thoughts anyone?
My ex told me she is getting married this year, wanting to be friends and keep in touch with me. But i told her its unfair for her fiance/husband. Then she claimed that her fiance/husband allowed her to talk to me. So i just wished her all the best and told her to not to contact me anymore. In the end , i blocked her
I went Into no contact as soon as I talked to my ex fiance the second time after our break up. Maybe 4 days later. After pouring my heart out and making a fool of myself. She said I can only see us as friends. A relation ship of 5 years with a 6 month old daughter and she thought I'd somehow bow down to that. That was the day I started no contact. Its 2 weeks later and I only txt her when it involves me picking up my daughter.
Any update?
Thanks need it to hear this..
i told her when she said we can be friends, i told her i thought & felt we always was friends...
Good Advice
3days after he broke up with me he wants to be friends - i said exactly what this video say. Thank you rory this is not easy to do but i know it will help
me alot and raise my value
what if i am the toxic person and the other had left? and he just want to be a friend. and i really want to show change using a friendship. wdyt?
But what to do if I already agreed to be his friend and now I don't want it anymore? I mean I wish him well, I'll say hi to him if I see him on a street but I don't feel like chatting with him late night when he's sick and he panics about his fever and I'm a pre med student, that's why he feels secure having me around at that time, I don't feel like picking up phone from him, I don't feel like talking to him when he has new naive girl he's telling the same bullshit he used to tell me, how much he loves me and wants me forever only to tell me he's not feeling it anymore after 3 months and only because I reached out and said Hi there's something wrong with our relationship after he was acting different and making other bitches priority when he had no time for me. He hurt me, I loved him, he claimed to love me too, but If it was for that, he wouldn't do what he has done. Everytime I talk to this jerk (or he talks to me because I hardly ever reach out) I feel all of these crapy emotions again. This is time to cut it loose. But how to do it since we have been in this friends situation?
I’ve got a question, what if you’re civil with your ex meaning you’re not friends but you’re on good terms with them after the breakup. So basically my ex broke up with me but before we got together we had a fwb situation going on & now after the breakup I basically just call her if I’m looking to hookup & chill. But I don’t do those long FaceTime calls I did while I was back in the relationship. Does that still count as being friends with your ex?
I told what u said in the video that directly tell her, after sometime se posted a story telling that we all broke our own rules for someone
@the love chat it’s been over five months we have a baby on the way she told me today she wants to be friends and she keeps going on about it I said to her if you want to be friends ok but I said that because of the baby I want to be there a lot for my daughter have I done the right thing ?
Yo she just said you won't talk to me after I told her I don't wanna be friends what to do?
Hi Rory just want to say I've watched about 20 of your videos some a few times and they are really really helping me.
In a few you have mentioned coach Corey Wayne and coach Craig Kenneth I follow these 2 men as well as luchia from the art of love and a gentleman named Mac McCarthy who has helped me a lot with my recent break up and even made a video about my breakup obviously I allowed him too.
I am still struggling with my break up and that's really why iam asking if I could email you and also get your take on things I mean having 1 person look at it is good but a second can only help, and if you like after you've had a look at my breakup you can make a video too as I think my situation may be able to help others.
Please get back to me and please keep rolling out these amazing videos thank you .
My ex broke up with me 2 weeks ago, her birthday is coming up in 3 weeks. I've already had gotten her a gift before, I've been doing no contact. Should I get in touch in 3 weeks to meet her to give her the gift? Or should I just forget about the gift and give it to someone else or even bin it?
My ex during the break up (I had to live with him for next few mths til I could afford to leave) said we could be Elaine and Jerry from Seinfeld. I told him no. If we can't be together and get along as a couple, how can we be friends? I guess I did the wrong thing by blocking him on everything if I wanted him back; but during the heat of everything, I told him I didn't want him to ever contact me again. Wrong moves. I think about him constantly now and everything. It sucks but I keep trying to put myself first, workout, eat right, etc. Hopefully, eventually, I will have my confidence back and self worth. It's really hard. But I must go on. It's been about 4 mths since break up and 1 mth since I moved out.
I was dating this guy for about a month that had just gotten out of a relationship a few months back and was still dealing with his ex bc she was suing him. Out of nowhere He told me he was too stressed and didn't want to keep trying anymore. He told me we could still be friends on social media but we couldn't talk to each other bc he didn't want to lead me on. I told him no thanks and said if he changes his mind give me a call. After that I removed him from everything. Thanks to this video I feel great. We have a mutual friend so if he cares enough to know he can ask her what's going on with me while I'm over here living my best life :p
What happened? Did he call u?
My ex got mad after I rejected her offer to be friends and stay in contact without intentions. She blocked me lol
Duuuuude exactly what happened to me a few days ago! I said I couldn't be friends after 2 yrs of being together and she exploded and blocked me on all social media the next day!
Justin Adams any news?
I did the mistake of breaking the no contact of 7 days ago 2 months after she broke up with me and I befriended her. About a week ago I asked her if we can work out the things to which she got angry and used harsh words on me... I didn't beg or plead...I politely told her to reach out when she change her mind and I broke off the friendship connection. We were together for 4 good years.
Same situation with me
Any update?
My ex and I broke up about a year-and-a-half but we still see each other and have sex fairly regularly. She doesn't want to get back together but she keeps sleeping with me and calling me regularly. What would you do in that situation?
for new year, birthday and events is it okay to say happy new year back to them? or to thank them if they say happy birthday?
I was dumped but I kind of suggested friendship at some point. I regret saying that because it feels like the no contact I'm doing will be ineffective. It's been 3 three weeks nc. What can I do?
I did the exact same thing, any updates?
Hi rory thank you. I told my ex i dont want to be his friend. To be honest, he just confused me and my anxiety came back. So i told him exactly what you said about give me call, if he ignores me then, as you said I have a high value so i will continue moving on.
So true ❤️
I play in a popular band. Well popular in the area. Lol so what do I do to maintain no contact if she is showing up at my shows but still maintains she only can offer friendship.
She reached out to me about two weeks ago with a phone call after I had not heard from her in a while asked me if I could talk we had been talking pretty much every day and last week she comes out to my show with my band plays. Was acting a little possessive when girls came around me or got up on stage to dance with me while I was playing had her friend take my hat and then started wearing it while she was dancing pretty much marking her territory her friend even said that then between sets comes up on the stage and starts kissing on me then a couple days later is telling me she can only offer my friendship which I replied I cannot be friends with you because that is not what I want but if you change your mind by all means get a hold of me. But I have no interest and just be your buddy.
Should I send a message letting her know I don’t want to be friends?
I’m in a bit of a weird situation where my ex’s (who dumped me) mum has been keeping in touch with me, asking me how I am and giving me advice. I doing no contact with my ex but not sure if contacting her mum still is counterproductive, just don’t want to be rude to her mother.
If you said in the begin off the breakup yes to be friends; what is the best way, after a month no contact, to say to change it in no
My ex definitely wanted this. Didnt wanna see me but would keep reaching out to me every few days to chat. I ended that shit after 2-3 times of it and told her not to contact me again unless they wanted to hangout. What does it mean when they sort of get pissy about that and say something like "fine, next time I wont hit you up just to talk". I replied in a playful , light hearted way and left it at that. Also, I think they went back to their ex of 2 years (3rd or 4th time they've tried at this point LOL). Part of me kinda feels like I pushed her to him by telling her not to talk to me unless she wanted to hangout but what else was I supposed to do? It's been 3 weeks since we had that conversation. So idk
rambo god ..leave it at that. My ex tried to “friend zone “ me and I shut that down immediately . Friendship is earned and not something that is given. If she wants to be in your life she will make every effort. If she doesn’t it’s her loss.
Update ? Has the ex reached out since ?
@@lauraionescu2838 Haha. Nah. Fuck her.
I’ve long since moved on. Happily engaged and living with my beautiful fiancé . That ex is not even a thought anymore
What about Facebook or Instagram re adds? Should they be ignored?
Thank you.
I remember vividly that my ex said about caring me so much, but during our break we couldn’t manage to make it through the month and broke up. Now I’m questioning a bunch of things. I’m well aware that she would care if we were still together. But there was an endless cycle of her and I having breakdowns. So would I have the right to think that she doesn’t truly care if I couldn’t make the changes during the relationship? I wouldn’t want to think that I’m just being ignorant
Thank u so much
am I suppose to break no contact if I originally agreed to be friends?
Wicked work again Rory. 1. Omg I have been an idiot in the past when I have broken it off and an ex wanted me back (him-anxious attachment) but I actually supported him through OUR breakup 🤣🤣🤷♀️🙄🙄 How ridiculous am I? Ok, 2. So, excuse my confusion bc I’ve always been one to be mates with an ex after a lonnnnng time has passed. What about if it was an amicable break up due to conflicting values, say.... and yearrrrrrrrs later, both feeling indifference about the sexual part of the relationship that didn’t work in the past but still care for each other as a human being and friend... is it appropriate to still be there for each other from time to time to help each other out eg he asks me about work contacts and I ask him about digital recording issues.. no flirting at all, just friendship. I’d love to hear your honesty about if I should be doing this still (is it healthy) my good INFJ friend Rory? xxx
I'm going to see my ex tomorrow, she said she bought a present for me. After 3 months and I did no contact but she still kept contacting me and seen me on my work place. I kinda opened for her to think we are friends and she thought is for real but tomorrow I'll have to say the truth, that I'm not comfortable with the situation and I think is better if we are just "Friendly Hi friends" and If she changes her mind about us so then she contacts me, if not too late.
Are you supposed to just ignore them if they say shoot birthday to you then?
Hey Rory, if an ex girlfriend came back after a year apart of No contact and wanted to be just kind of friends things than... Would it be sounds like little creepy to start saying "I love u n adore you and can't be friends like you still hoping for them after year apart.what would be the perfect reply to value yourself ?
Focus on re-attraction and being playful, rather than "love" right now. If you say that word, your ex will run for the hills.
Set a date, don't talk about the relationship (Don't break this rule!), have fun, hook up!
I went into NC after she said she just wanted to be friends, 7/27. I told her that’s not what I wanted. She texted me after 9 days asking if I wasn’t talking to her her, 8/6.
I told her I would love to see her and talk to her, but I wasn’t interested in being just friends going forward. She said that’s all she had to offer so “I guess we won’t be friends, bye.” Today is 9/10. By the way this is my ex wife who I stayed friendly with for years, but we got close again from March-June. We spent most days together and spent the night together in the same bed 5x (no intimacy). I got the cheek most times with hug, but nothing else. She was well aware I wanted her, because I told her that. She said she wasn’t there yet. Anyhow, should I stay in NC?
I am just curious- so as a woman, I will ask what does a man think when his friendship offer is turned down flatly/coldly by his ex gf. Does it humiliate him or does he just not care? My ex bf has many exes who become his back up girls after the breakup when his dating life is not perfect. Now, after I rejected his friendship offer, he is running back to his most recent ex to make me jealous. Our breakup was mutual but I still love and want him back.
After 6 months you might have found an answer, but it's better to be the ex who didn't take him back than like the other ex's. You have value. You deserve more than being a back up plan for him
My ex bf..just liked my post online..Im not gonna be their friend..or lover..nooo
Is this valid even if they offered a "civil friendship" after 3 1/2 months? Not even like a hang-out friend, either...like a Facebook messenger type of acquaintanceship...he said "deep down he still loves and misses me" but he's not interested in trying the relationship again. We were together for 8 years (engaged for those last 4)
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What the fuck is a “civil friendship“?! Sounds like some Gwyneth Paltrow type bullshit to me. 😄
Is this applicable for two months relationship
Mine tried to introduce the friendship option, to which I said I could never just be friends. Then he said it could potentially become more again. And now we're married. I'm glad I told him right away that friendship wasn't going to happen.
Just in the right time
Thank you
what if the ex is part of your friend group
What if we work together? She broke up with me and asked to still be friends I told her no unless its an intimate friendship. She said dont give me an ultimatum so I said talk to me when you want to hang out and do what we used to do which includes intimacy. So everyday when we come to work she speaks to me do I ignore her to go no contact or do I speak?
How’d it go with her??
I have the same situation. Did anything end up happening between you guys?
She still calls me for sex but we not together and I don’t want her. Truth be told ignoring her and not calling is the best solution.
I told my ex we can't be friends, she eventually said she's fine with that. Do y'all think she meant that?
@@mrs.camillewarrenempress3115 you are so right, she is a character but I got her figured out lol
I am in no contact as long as it takes for him to reach out
Any update?
Ex: "I hope we can be on good terms"
Me: "If it means we are drinking champagne naked in the tub, then sure!"
I did want him in my life no doubt.. but now we’re not on speaking terms ,,it’s been three months.. yeah I won’t reach out,, just moving on.
So i went NC with my ex, but she reached out on my birthday. Do i wish her a happy birthday also?
Will Jansen I want torn but in the end I didn't but he did and his bday was a day before mine... he broke up with me...blindsided but a gift... sending you positive vibes for your journey and good luck!
Me and my ex had talked about friendship. The he blocked me in Facebook. I felt like 😳. After 1 week, he followed me in Instagram and I saw his photo with his g.f. To respect myself, I blocked him in Instagram. I don't need to live my life in confusion. And besides I felt comfortable in reaching out my past.
I made this mistake and I will regret it forever
You have the power to end it and that's what i did and im soo relieved rn
Rory 😭 what do I do if I haven’t found this video and I agreed to be friends with them
Tell them clearly that you can’t be just friends
What about this:
You did no-contact for a good amount of time and stuck to it. But you met someone diffrent and maybe even started to date. Let's say you were good friends with your ex before you started to date. Can you be so confident and over the relationship, that you can appreciate your ex as a person and a simple friend? Yes, they dumped you and hurt your feelings really badly, but if you're truly over that and are living a happy life without a romantic relationship with your ex, then could you simply be just friends again?
Well... It takes awhile to get them out of your system. Remember the fact that an ex can say they are 100% you and in a new relationship just to break the newer relationship because they were still hung over their ex.