I mean, why would they say that to you? Won't they think that you'll get hurt more if you become friends with them and be stuck in the "friendzone" or "friends w/ benefits"?
@@BradBrowning Hey Brad what if you have kids together, and you need to keep taking the child there??Oh and what if he already come asking for you to get back in a week or so?Is that legit or not to be trusted?
In my quizz, I stated that we had daily contact, but this is over a yr later. We didn't have any contact at all for over a month. Then we gradually got started talking again. Now we talk or text about every day, but sometimes it might be a week before we actually see one another. We have never talked about relationships with someone else to each other.
What Brad is saying is absolutely true. That's what happened to me when I tried to stay friends with my ex after 7 months passed of being apart ( he was dating someone else when I wanted to get back ) so making them miss you is the key.
I love this channel just because he actually cares! There's so many times i've seen a comment with his reply just below it. You're a wonderful man Brad!
Hello can you help me!! My mom left my dad one month ago because she don't love my dad any longer. My dad has done no contact because he loves her and want her to come back. My mom want dad in the friend zone and she is texting and calling my father every day to see what he doing and she gets angry when his not response and texting angry and coming to our house. What can my father do?? he wants my mom to move back but my mom will not! He loves her very very much please help!!
Hi Kim! You may be too young to handle this. Perhaps share my videos to your parents or your dad? This link in particular: ua-cam.com/video/P-6MMmmObcQ/v-deo.html
I took this advice and stopped being friends with my ex. I’m the kind of person who tries to make things a bright story but I’m so happy I didn’t stay friends with him :) I’m happier now than when I was in a relationship even.
Thank you for this video. I suggested friendship, after he broke up and he accepted it. I then offered to go to the movies together, he refused by being busy. I am now in no contact period. And it makes sense, really. Why would we place ourselves so low as to plead with someone to be with us. It shows lack of self-respect. I offered to meet, he refused, and that's all I can do. The ball is in his side of the court.
You're welcome! I'm glad you're starting to see the importance of doing this. Keep it up and always love yourself first. Anyway if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
so .... i have a question how are they going to miss you if they tried to find someone else ... like if she has company and comfort how are they going to miss you?
That's a great question, Sam. Typically "no contact" will make your ex miss you regardless of they've found someone new or not. However, if there's a new person that's filled the void for them, there are certain tactics that you can employ to ensure your ex thinks of you in a positive light. Go to www.breakupbrad.com
Brad, I have a complicated one. my ex and I were together all throughout high school. we talked about marriage, kids, a life together. I recently moved a state over due to a nasty divorce between my mother and father. she promised she'd come and visit since I was so far away. she worked and I made music for a living. In her free time, she started to not respond to my messages for days and always hung with her friends and never wanted to spend any time with me so I ended it. she didn't even really care and started throwing tons of things in my face like not being there for her when I always was and was one of the only ones there. she recently started smoking weed and drinking alcohol with her coworkers and has become an entirely different person. she used to be down to earth and loved talking to me and spending time together when we could. Now, the only time she messages me is when I message her first. I miss her so much and love her more than anything. she tells me she "Loves me in a romantic way but never wants to date me again" but she wants to be friends. what do I do? I'm very confused and need some advice. any reply would be appreciated. thanks.
Hey man, sorry to hear about the breakup and the situation with your parents. From the looks of it, both of you are having a hard time adjusting to this distance. How long have you been in this long distance dynamic? I say to give yourselves the chance to both adjust to this change, since it's a major one. Cut off contact and let her miss you first, all right? The distance may have frustrated her which caused her to act up since thinking about being in a long distance relationship is very different to being in one, when you experience it firsthand. So stay strong. Watch this, too, to help guide you further: ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html
My now ex-girlfriend and I broke up earlier today. She’s the one who ended the relationship, and she got more emotional than I did. But before we started dating, we were really close friends ever since we were kids. I mean, I’m not gonna go into extreme details, but as friends, we were both always there for each other during our some of our hardest times when we were younger, we always talked out our problems with one another, etc. And hell, that was just us as friends; we were just very close and supportive of each other like that. But her and I really don’t want to throw all of that away😓. Is it still a bad idea to stay friends with her?
It is a bad idea. You both need to heal first. You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Me and my ex did no contact for a month. Its been 4 months since we broke up. The first two months I was not aware of the no contact rule. I begged to get back together and she wanted to but wasn't 100% sure. We sort of faded away and certain things happened (Met new people). We were both furious at each other, so i Insisted on no contact for awhile. We have broke the no contact after 1 month and she said she does not want to make things work right now. But she doesn't want to have me out of her life completely. Being friends feels like it will build more attraction then not talking at all, because If there Is no contact between us, I know for a fact that she will forget and move on.We aren't like most couples, we were insanely close. I've checked out a lot of your videos, but it seems like no contact did no good for me and my relationship with her, so being friends seems like my only other option. I told her we should start fresh and put the past behind us and focus on the future and happiness.
The "no contact" rule is just the first phase of a three-phase process in getting your ex back. It's not the end game. Anyway if you're very close, then being just friends wont' work. Not until at least you've healed and/or no longer want her back as your girlfriend. You both need to transition accordingly since feelings can't be switched off just like that. So you ought to make a tough decision whether you want her back as a friend or as a girlfriend. Remember, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ua-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
I wasn't friends with my ex for a well but it seem like she got over me so I said let's be friends and we're friends but she does the same things we use to do when we were dating
Well, have you been actively trying to get your ex back? Don’t wait for this person to have an epiphany. Keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not, as far as getting your ex back goes. Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
My first experience had a boyfriend who broke up with me, on August 8, 2020, because of his pleading and using his aunt’s demise as a bribe trick me into this friend zone, and I still feel trap by it. I was forced to be a friend and I want to get out of this friend zone, his ex-girlfriend Anna ( the girl before he met me) used these video tactics on him and frankly hurt him badly. she did the right thing and for me will do that on him.
Hi Brad, I am a gay man. Me and my bf broke up a month ago but he has been contacting me for a while. We play volleyball in the same sports complex and one evening he just came all of a sudden and gave me a hug surprisingly to which I gave a very cold reaction because I was shocked. He wanted to catch up on dinner but he canceled it because of my cold reaction on volleyball court. I somehow met him for coffee and apologized for my cold behavior but I also told him that I cannot be "just friends" with him because it's hurtful. He was crying a lot and said that he wants me in his life but I told him that I won't stay as just friends. Me and my bf are taking this week to think whether we want to be with each other or not and will be meeting on Saturday for dinner to express our decisions. If he says no, I will stop all contact with him. Do you have any suggestions for me?
Basically give yourselves time first. Based on your story, I don't think you both went without contacting each other yet? That should be a priority, instead of confusing yourselves more by meeting up and stuff. For the meeting itself, this should help: ua-cam.com/video/JbEoz81in-Q/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, we met and he decided that he doesn't want to be with me because he thinks we are incompatible. I told him that if we can't be together in a relationship then we can't be friends as we both need time to heal and move on. Since then, we haven't been in contact at all. It has been two weeks. DO you think I still have a chance to have him back? I am not sure if he will contact me. I really love him :(
This is my current situation. He asked me, can u plz be a friend, and I want to restart our relationship. But now now my complete romance and attraction gone away. I feel be friends. I still love ur look, character every thing. But i don't feel u as my partner.(.like thiz.and he was sad and painful at that time.) There is no other relationships for him.. Plz help me i love him alot😪
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/v-deo.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
Be only friend with an ex if both of you have no romantic feelings for each other. Be 110% sure no romantic feelings exist at all. Then you can be friends. But if some of you or both have romantic feelings, don't be friends. The goal about not be friend with an ex, is not about get your ex back. It's about get yourself back. But if you really want your ex back don't be friend. Do you really want your ex talking about their new partner and they will be hang out together this weekend? No you don't. It will hurt like hell.
If you still live with your ex, then do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk AND y2u.be/GTjEAGJWTuA I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
+Irish Grace Araño You're welcome! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
Hey Brad, so my and my girlfriend ended on a bad note a few days ago and she had a negative view of me as a insecure and jealous guy. I just landed a job as a therapist and my confidence is riding super high. I asked her if she was already dating someone new and she replied "This is the kind of behavior that separated us apart" and I told her "I'm not asking out of insecurity, right now I'm riding very very high on life and I just landed my job as a therapist". She said "I am happy for you and you are in a great place. good luck to you and take care". I said "Hope all is well for you and the boys. We don't have to end this on a bad note. We're both good people. We can always be friends.". She replied "Yes, friends would be wonderful". Then I reminded her that disneyland is having the pixar fest this friday and if she wanted to go together and just chill. She replied "Sorry, but I'm not ready to hang out as friends. The break up is still new and I need time to heal." I replied "You know somewhere down the line if you're willing to give it a second try, I'm always open to it. Have a great day at work!".. Usually before when we broke up and I said something about giving a second try.. she would say "no thank you", but this time she didn't respond to that one and said "Thank you!" which is over course a reply to "have a great day at work!" I'm wondering if being able to go out with her as "friends" which she knows I'm not trying to.. since we ended as me being very negative and lack of confidence.. she didn't ask to be friends. So if we were to go out one day and I showed the super fun confidence when we went on our first date (we were friends before we dated). What do you think? Is that a good sign that she didn't shoot down that offer of giving a second try? and I am also starting my no contact rule starting today since I ended my text showing a very happy side of me.
Hey Sean, you should be watching this. All the tips are here and follow it down to a tee: How To Act Around Your Ex (6 Tips For Handling Post-Breakup Encounters)
Absolutely not!!! When my ex sent me a breakup text he immediately asked me to be his friend. I told him we cannot be friends now that it's over. He became irate and told me me he was blocking my me and to do the same. I replied "Block executed!." Not only did I block him, I called my mobile phone carrier and had him placed on no outbound/inbound text list. NEXT!!
Sorry to hear that. I guess you're moving on? You did great by avoiding falling into the friendzone though. Watch this to help you out: ua-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/v-deo.html
Brad Browning Yes. it was best gor me to move on as much as i love him. He was very narccistic, selfish and immature at 70 years old. You can't change anyone but yourself. Thank you for your valuable advice and kind words. You are awesomeness!
Brad, dating this guy 5months in Riyadh,he went to meet my family to make our relationship official to my parents while on vacation but when i was back discovered he was with another while im away...i left did not freakout..eventually they broke up after a month..now my Ex occasionally hitting me up but ignoring him..now he stopped contacting me...i believe i love him and want him back but reluctant to make my 1st step...what should i do?
Sorry to hear that. Learn the basics here to help guide you: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and/or read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting, and the psychology of how a man thinks and understanding men in general. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Hei i contacted my ex to day after 1,5 Month, he dumpt me bye the way. I asked if he want to just hang out some time. He Said yes wi can, but remeber that we are not in a reallationship, and i dont want to give you false hopes... What do i do? 😭
This is why you have to be subtle and not jump the gun when it comes to meeting up. You're obviously too smitten by him and that's never going to work. Focus on texting and try not to meet up when you both aren't ready yet. The phase you're on is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's q quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're ready. Good luck!
the breakups made her really depressed and reckless so i was thinking that staying would help her come back to me.. i thought staying would have her keep venting her emotions to me and we'd still be talking and then she'll start finding safety with me and then choose to get back with me
I understand what you're saying, man. I really do. The harsh reality, however, is that most dumpers already have the "moving on" mentality or looking to a new direction by the time a breakup happens or even way before they drop the bomb on you. It’s to your best interest to accept that there's nothing you can do about that for the time being. Cutting off contact for around a month is the best choice because doing the opposite will make you look pathetic or clingy... and those traits are very unattractive…as opposed to being happy. If you act happy, your ex will wonder what he/she’s missing. Quite frankly, who doesn’t want to be around happy/fun people? Make sense now? The bottom line is you ought to show that you respect their decision and you're mature enough to deal with whatever comes your way and that you're taking care of yourself and putting you first - irrespective of what your ex does. Read my Ex Factor Guide so you'll know how to go about this at www.breakupbrad.com and pay attention to the stuff I talked about here: ua-cam.com/video/T_W_ilf9x6w/v-deo.html
She's saying that she broke up with me so she wouldn't be a burden to me anymore.. She sees that I'm doing better and it seems to push her further, making her think that I'm better off without her.. I don't know how to stop her from feeling that way
Hey Brad, my ex and I just "broke up" a few days ago and after a day or two, we started talking to each other in a fun and happy manner similar to that of when her and I were together. She made a sort of joking question to be friends and I responded in a pretty unusual way. I told her that I have already made plans to help myself and become better, that being said, I think we can be friends under the impression that I do very much want you back, but we can be friends until we see that have worked on those things. I have asked her if my proposal is clear and she does completely understand that I want her back. According to her best friend (who is also my friend too) she said that my ex still loves me, it's just that she started to feel like it wasn't as strong as it used to be. She also told me that she wanted to be friends for now because she didn't want to hurt me anymore and make the relationship too one-sided. To my surprise, the past few days after becoming friends has brought out the nice and sweet side of her again and one thing I noticed is that she has a sparkle in her eye again when we look at each other (in the end of the relationship, she would hardly ever look me in the eye) and I notice her looking at me more often when we're together. She makes kind of a joking reference to things like "we can't do those things, we're 'friends' remember?" I feel that there is 90% sarcasm and maybe 10% seriousness to it. I don't really know what it going on, but could this be a good thing or a bad thing that me and my ex are going through?
NightMareOSU Hello there, this is a tricky situation that you're going through because people don't change emotions overnight... and this is the part where having no contact comes in, to make you both (especially her) think from a clearer perspective. She also hasn't gotten the chance to miss you and you're at risk for being taken for granted if you technically are always there for her. Make sense? The reason for the breakup, most of the time, is likely due to a loss of attraction and from there, it becomes a process to get her back, sometimes a long one at that, but never to be friends right away after a breakup. You need to rebuild it naturally and that takes time as well. There's just too many things that can go wrong and it's usually too much trouble than it's worth if you stay friends right away. It's also important that you don't overanalyze what she says or do -- again, much better to cut off contact first. I have a full-length video at my website that explains how this process works, so I suggest you watch that presentation at @
+Kayla Shane I'm glad to hear that and you're welcome, Kayla! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
This so true I tried the friend thing at work and no 👎 bad idea so we just went cold turkey 🦃 now it’s as if we dont now each other 😔and we both said being friends not best idea so here we are 3 months broken up and no hope of giving it another try ... slowly moving on I feel it’s getting better I no longer cry 😭 and I think of him lesss
I was only friends with her for 3 days. I couldn't do it because I wanted us back together. So I sent her a heartfelt message that I'm letting go. Though I didn't want to, it was only way we can move forward with growth. Do I wish I can still see her like I used to? You're damn right. She was a damn fine woman, but her insecurities and jealousy just pushed me away so bad. It's about to be a month since I last talked with her.
Hey man, I think I've just answered your concern on the previous/the same video with you asking similar issues in those comments, so please refer to those. :-)
Here's an update, she contacted me after 2 months and she's into a new relationship with this guy who was waiting for us to break up. She's been trying to be "friends" but I didn't really give that vibe. I think the only thing I said to her leaving the door extremely open was im here if you need anything. She tried contacting me again the next 2 weeks and I only gave her a one word response. Haven't paid too much attention to her because I only would want her romantically, and not just friends.
Hey, brad! just wanted to say I love your videos but i need your input on something so please do reply. I did no contact with my ex for about a month and after a month he called me saying oh we should start to text again and talk on the phone etc etc. btw this is long distance. I live in NY and he lives in florida and we have hungout a handul of times. i played it cool and didnt show too much interest and he didnt hit me up for a whole week and then he texted me saying how he doesnt want to be in a relatioship right now but i am the girl he wants to marry. Then didnt talk to me for a week and he calls me in a very rude tone of voice saying how he wants to be just friends and wants nothing from me other than friendship. i acted a little emotional because i was hurt and he still flat out said i want to be just friends and thats all. too play it cool i texted back saying ok yeah ur right we can be just friends, so whats up? and that came off of desperate because its like ok ill be whatever of yours just talk to me and he never texted me back and since that day we havent spoke at all and its been about 5 days. please reply and tell me what to do brad. Please and thank you so much!
It's important to give each other space, especially in this case where your ex is showing signs of confusion. A plethora of emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, watch it to learn a few tips to understand your situation better: ua-cam.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, how do I apply 30 days no contact if we are coworkers, and have to see each other everyday and talk? I am now only talk about the projects we are working on.
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Brad, I don't talk or contact my ex at all anymore, but she still follows me on Instagram and Snapchat and see's the stuff I upload (which is usually me having a good time with friends and some girls). Does this count as "disappearing"? Should I block them from these things so they don't see what I upload and totally disappear, or is this even better?
checkmyformplease1 As long as you're not contacting her in any way, then yes, this is considered as the "no contact" or what I'd like to call the recovery phase. It only gets bad if you keep looking at her profile to see what she's up to as it can go downhill for you and of course, you'd want to avoid that. :-)
That's a blessing in disguise for you to really focus on yourself! Here are the basics to getting an ex back, it helps if you're familiar with it: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Employ the 30-day “no contact” rule first. In order to fully understand how this concept works, you ought to know why you're doing it in the first place, otherwise you’re just following blindly. So watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you (and why you’re supposed to be doing it) than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
Hi brad first I already said yes for become friends but after I text this to her and cut off contact to her ..Hi , I'm sorry .Actually I was thinking . Being friends is not good at all . I was happy being in a romantic relationship with u . If that wasn't working out then It's probably a better idea spend some time apart . I wish you all the best..take care .please tell me is I did right ??
+deshawn anthony Thanks! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
We were committed for 2 years and then suddenly we ended. But IAM still loving. Now iAm in the 4th year. So I want to get him back 😭 so I tried to be friendly with him. So I had enjoyed a lot the moments by being friendly with him but he was dating an another girl who was my friend. Now iAm very sad. So i stopped messaging , liking and commenting . But he still sending messages . Does. No contact rule work here . Docter
The no contact rule should've been done right away, not 2 years after the breakup. I hate to be the one to break it to you, but it's time to move on. Discussed that here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
This was extremely helpful. After 26 years of verbal abuse in our marriage I divorced him. I saw him a few days ago for the first time since court. He was so distant and cold and was singing his live in girlfriend's praises. I asked him to look me in the eye and tell me he doesn't love me.....He cried and said he will always love me. I broke down too. He asked me if we could be friends???? I had no idea what that meant until I watched your video(I thought he was brushing me off) He said he's moved on but he said he loves me?????
The thing with exes, especially the one who's doing the dumping (or in your case, abusing), is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him/her feel what it's like not to have you in his/her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? You risk too much by staying in touch. Watch this, too:ua-cam.com/video/bSs5qL85cSc/v-deo.html
he knows what it's like; I stayed away for 2 years before the divorce was final hoping he would 'wake up' instead he has in his words" moved on" and is living with someone else in our house.
My ex and I broke up just over a week ago after dating for just over 5 months and being friends since before then. She told me why and after a few days of zero contact and told her I was making an effort to change and asked if we could fix/start over with our relationship. She said no but wants to stay friends and said we can call/text each other whenever. We aren't on bad terms whatsoever. I still love her very much so I accepted which I now know could've been a problem. She contacted me first and did so a few times throughout the week. She did things like ask to borrow a movie from me, told me about something going on outside my dorm (we're in college), a snapchat of a song that came on that read "thought of you," asked to borrow a phone charger and we hung out for a bit the other day which was weird to say the least. I don't know what to do, and while I've been told the best move is to ignore her, she and I have class together twice a week so seeing her is inevitable. Again I still really love her and I'd do anything to get back with her, especially now that the semester is ending. What do I do?! I really need some help
JeRkEy952 I don't suggest being friends with her. It will only let you become stuck more than you allow and yes, that's a wrong move. Watch my other videos on how to get out of the friendzone if you think you're already deep in it with her. You can't ignore her since you're at the same class, but don't go out of your way to talk to her. Again, this stuff is in my videos where you'll get some tips: ua-cam.com/video/ydeES3WU1Uc/v-deo.html
I have same Problem with my ex girlfriend now,she asked me to be friends,and i said ok, but now i don't feel comfort and she tried to control me ,she wait my text if not she don't text me first,since yesterday i have changed ma mind i quit texting and calling her and i will continue at least 30 days and i will see what will happen, hope it will work ,Thank you Bro..
She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
I struggle to find any one video that involves no contact that applies to my situation;1) He started leaving me in July and came back over the summer for 3 weeks (separate occasions) and we were sleeping together over 2 months, he was saying he loved me and wanted to come home.2) We have 3 kids together. So he comes over every morning for the school run and every evening because I work in London.3) I don't know if I count the July era as the start of the break up or when he officially said he was done. exactly one month ago...4) I started no contact for 2 weeks (only speaking about the kids) and then he said "I want to stop all this and aim to be friends", since then we've been messaging jokes back and forth and acting almost like we were except for the elephant in the room , us not talking about feelings. I offer him a coffee each morning and then some days we text back and forth all day, other days we don't text much at all...5) We have been together 8 years, married for one. We have disabled children and debts together. He's moved in with his mum. I've watched so many videos and read so many books, now I'm all confused as to where I am. I sort of did no contact then he said he wanted to be friend, I agreed because us ignoring each other during the kid swap would leave me in tears each time when he wouldn't look at me or come in the house. I am a natural peace maker. So I'm guessing I should try no contact again and fade away like you said?
Sorry to hear that. If things seem hopeless and you're wanting to save the marriage on your own, my clients found their peace by having applied the tips similar to the ones I mentioned on these videos: ua-cam.com/video/F1nFUvtof7Y/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/lvH0STXVqdI/v-deo.html If you're still having trouble, consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
What should I do if I already accepted my ex to be his friend? I already did the No Contact Rule and updated my profile picture, but I don't what else I should do
Peppermint Cookie currently I’m in the same situation. All I could say is think about yourself make yourself better. Yes it’s tough. During the no contact focus on your own betterment meet with new people as he says . Definitely your opinion will change. You will be independent.
Since you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
Do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Brad I have been on and off with this person for three years. When we started out he showed signs of thinking about future etc. But when I asked him about it after going out for a year, he flipped out. He said he didn't mean to give me false expectations. And later we decided to stay friends only, which never worked, as we kept getting back. He cares about me a lot but he has some family problems which can't let him plan about the future yet. So he tries to never say he misses or loves me, but he doesn't mind meeting up. I recently told him I hated that. We got into an argument and I sent more messages. Then I deleted him from BBM and re added him so he would not read the messages. Now he has not added me back. Should I just let it go? Is it possible he has missed the invitation? I emailed this evening with no response yet. I am tired of the repeated hurt and break up but he really was a good friend too. Please help.
+Green Chilli Hi there! Try to see what's causing this on-again and off-again dynamic which has become a cycle. It's possible that you're both too close to the situation to really see what's going on. So, take some time apart and give each other space for at least a month, okay? Don't be friends as it will only blur the lines more and make things more confusing. Go and do your own thing instead while you let him do his and make him miss you as well, in the process. So stay strong, all right? Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/5G1IRS-lCvc/v-deo.html
+Brad Browning thanks Brad. Yes that's what I am doing. I have been thinking long and hard about it, and I believe I don't want to get back with him again. A difficult decision but a right one. Wish me luck ☺ thanks again for your help
Me and my ex boyfriend were together for almost 9 months. He broke up with me before our anniversary. And we had wayyyyy more good memories and very less bad. Do you think he'll crawl back after a 30 days or earlier? We've been threw alot together (in a good way than bad). A week after i cried to him and crap he said he doesnt see a future..then 3 days later he said he does but in the far future. Im the best gf he ever had and same with me. He broke up with me bc of the "disrespect" which i didnt see and bc of our arguements. Our arguements were dumb so dumb. People at my age (15) are going threw wayyyyyy worse but he says stop comparing people to us. -__- i love him he says he loves me and says im always his baby. So i feel like there's an 80% chance of him wanting me back. Idk im lost. Help.
Great video Brad, makes sense. I recently reconnected with my ex girlfriend since October 2020. We've known each other for like 12 years since 2009. I helped her out financially and she paid me back abit. We agreed to be friends. But I still like her and have feelings. Once I got news that she had a boyfriend the whole time and I thought that I might have a chance to rekindle, I was wrong. I Confronted her. Long story short, I did everything for that girl. And if she can't give me what I want, better I fade away slowly and not do anymore favors for her. She wants to remain friends with me. I took it again but I know in my mind I want more. No ultimatum here, me and her booth feel down because I spent way more time with her then her boyfriend these past 5 months. I didnt have sex with her because of covid 19. And I'm waiting on my vaccine first. Should I keep her around still, go cold turkey and not eliminate her completely yet and back of to have another chance with her?? The long history is what keeps this alive?
So in essence, you helped her out financially but what do you get out of it? If you want to take a risk, try to ask her out on a friendly date and see where it goes.
At this point ...and I really hate to say this, you may not have much choice. So yes, cut off contact for around a month. Okay? Besides, what do you plan to do if you don't cut off contact? Text your ex every now and then? That would only make you appear desperate and that's never attractive and keep in mind, your goal is to rebuild attraction, right? Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/9FQFScJOpac/v-deo.html
Sir She said me tht I like some other guy nd then she broke up saying tht I wanna b single then she said tht was a plan to test her bff.. when she broked up she knew I will go to her bff nd ask her about does she really like tht new guy then she wanted to check her bff wat she does nd she also wanted to check me for my trust.. then her bff said to me tht she likes tht guy nd she told me tht.. then now when I said many bad things to my gf she said it was a plan to test her bff... she thought tht I would never say sch bad things to her. now she is hurt by my words.. she is saying tht she wants to b alone donno Hw mch time but she wants to b alone.. now what should I do? she is now saying ki i love u only u don't have this much trust also.... what should I do?
Hey, so my boyfriend broke up with me after a 8 year relationship (6 years living together). Right after the break up i made a lot of the mistakes your other video talks about. ( texting, calling, begging ext) We still have to see each other a lot this month to move all our stuff out of our apartment (which he currently is not stay at with me at this point- but most of his stuff is). When he comes over we usually end up talking and the conversations are nice and not about the relationship (a lot of smiling and laughing) and we sometimes hangout after he comes over (go get drinks). He also said once (after about a week apart) that we maybe could rekindle things with time (said this when meet in person), but then about a week and a half later said " its friendship or nothing" ( in a text message) . I agreed to be friends, and now i'm going to have to see him a lot and every time i do i feel great, but after he leaves i feel down again. Should i tell him i can't be his friend? how should i do that, if i want more then friends, and to get him back (and he said friendship or nothing)? advice?
Sonja f As I've said in many of my videos, including the one you've just watch, do not be friends with him right away. Cutting off contact is very important here since both your emotions, especially his, are still up and down and (which is to be expected) things will only get more confusing for you if you stay in touch. I suggest you get my Ex Factor Guide so you'll have a better understanding of things and why you ought to be doing it to increase your chances instead of sabotage it, dear. Things don't look grim as you think it is, six years is a long time, so use that as leverage by playing your cards right and not do the things I suggest not to. Okay? :-) The link is here: www.breakupbrad.com
Thank for the advice , I have more issues now , he told me he is hanging out with anyother girl and they kissed. :-( . He says he unsure about her. And I even told him I don't think I can be friends with him , if there no chance of more. This seemed to change his tone a bit , because now he is saying he is unsure about me that right now he can't say he don't love me or does. He's unsure, even cried talking to me about it. I'm trying now to just go limited contact ( because we still have to see each other once an while at least this month) I took all our pictures down, stopped looking at his Facebook, stopped texting (unless it's bills or apartment related) , stopped calling. I feel discouraged because of this other girl, but I think he need to know what it's like to be without me completely ( because it seems to affect him - the thought of being without me in his life) Any advice on this?
Sonja f Then all the more reason to cut off contact, Sonja. Believe me, you don't have to hear about what he's doing or who he's seeing right now. Don't be friends with him! Have you watched my other videos or better yet, get my Ex Factor Guide? These materials will help you have a better understanding of why you need to do the things you have to. Emotions at this point are up and down, so you two shouldn't be talking unless you want to have more confusion and arguments. Take care!
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
It shouldn't make any impact whether you do that or not. I suggest to focus on your own social media instead because the truth is, you can leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
I agreed to be friends with my ex after the break up and I fought for 4 months for it. We were together for 4 months, he had get divorced a few months earlier and has a child. Since October we were on really good terms. I was patient and I was so happy about the progress. I thought we would be back together, because we ccommunicated like before. Iam so foolish. After 2 weeks of Christmas break he didn't have time for me. I texted him that I was missing him. "What do you want? We're just friends". He's been avoiding me since. He was away for another 2 weeks and he doesn't care to meet me. I love him so much and miss him. What did he think? That I stopped loving him? That I was so committed because I just want to be friends? I cannot stop thinking about him and I am hurt every time he doesn't want to see me. It is like being broken up with again and again :( Why can't I stop caring about him and his son? Why am I so stupid to think that he would fall in love with me!? I know that I should let him go before he finds another girl.
Ah, not very subtle, are you? :-) Go by the golden rules here as much as possible: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html It may or may not be too late, but it’s definitely time to move forward from those mistakes and not repeat those! Don’t be so hard on yourself, though, since this is a fairly common issue and most people are guilty of this at some point. If you'd really want to gauge your chances of getting back together (it may not be all doom and gloom after all) I suggest you take the free quiz on my website and answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
I tried no contact rule for 30 days then I tried to talk . But I get emotional any express my love . He just want to be friends. Because his ex girlfriend also want him back . She is nice girl. He don't want to hurt both of us . He want both of us as friends. But I miss him 🥺.
I have been friend with my ex for 3month during this time she once said she miss me ....but today I jus texted her saying "our breakup means alot to me, it has motivated me to make some changes in my life .I'll be off for a while u might not hear me for somtimes" can u plz suggest something on this
I'd still suggest to give the "no contact" rule a shot because that's still really your best bet, which will work in a sense where you BOTH will get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with each other when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Makes sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? Sometimes it does, but other times (especially if your situation is unique) it won't, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ua-cam.com/video/obBIttQSak4/v-deo.html
Hi Brad. But if I stop being friends with her how can I get her back then? Should I wait until she reaches out first or something? I'm already on the reattraction phase and it seems like nothing works. She only wants to be friends. What should I do?
I suggest you employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here : y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
I am In Different Situation I am following No contact from 2 months MY Ex wished me on My birthday And Asked Me that She Wants to have Fresh start As A freind.. But She Is Dating Another Person.. And I know That.. So I Just Asked Her That It would Be Hard For both us Now I dont Wanna Be Your freind.I wish You do Well and Wish you best. Take Care of Yourself. Tell Me Sir Am I right or Not. I have Lots Of confusion in My mind
Wait for a better time before contacting your ex. This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ua-cam.com/video/hlikXIfMYN8/v-deo.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips. Good luck!
Hey, me and My girlfriend broke up about 3 months ago, and we started talking after a month. We talked about getting back together, but she said she was afraid, so we decided to see what happened. She wanted me to show her that I changed, so I did, I showed her everyday that I thought of her, that I love her and that I'll never make the same mistake. We kissed, went on dated, told each other that I love you. And 1 day she told me she got invited out by her friend.. and that she liked him a little, so she decided to go on that date, and then she told me that she wanted to see how it goes with him, something new... and I was heartbroken.. but I told her that I respect her and will always love her. And later she said that it didn't quite feel right to be with him, but she still wanted to try it out.. and I told her that she should just follow her heart and take some time to think about what she really wants. And she said that her heart lead to me, but she still wants to test something new with that new guy :( She confuses me, but I told her that I'll wait. But she does not want me to meet new girls and she said that I am her number 1, that nothing can come between us.. What should I do?! Help please
Sorry to hear that, man! Go through the basics of my 3R system here anyway. It's your best bet since your ex is likely rebounding: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
What to I do now he has girlfriend I have done No contact rules after I accept his request to remain as a friend. And after no contact for more than a month I started talking to him as if nothing has happened, How do I end this friendship thing and makes him miss me and wants me back . I really wants him back 😭😭😭
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: ua-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/v-deo.html This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ua-cam.com/video/hlikXIfMYN8/v-deo.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/v-deo.html&ab_channel=BradBrowning now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
Hi Brad, My name is Al. I have a unique/weird situation. I was in a relationship for 10 years and my ex express that she wasn't happy. She has insecurities and trust issues. I even suggested that we go to couples therapy and she didn't want to. In March of this year we broke up because she wanted space. I didn't want to do this but I respected here wishes. In the beginning of the split she would call me but the conversations were very short but now the conversations are longer (15-30 mins) but mostly about her job. We don't see each other (No Contact). Just the other day she told me that she's dating and moving on with her life. She been on several dates and none of them have worked out. She blames me for that because she doesn't trust anyone and she lies to her dates when they ask her if she still talks to me by saying no. I told her don't call me if its causing you problems. Her response was I can't stop just like that and you're my best friend. I love her a lot and she means the world to me. I'm respecting her by giving her space I want her back. I'm so lost. I don't understand how she's moving on so fast after 10 years. Do you or anyone have any advice?
Hey Al, she may be forcing herself to move on. As much as you want to help her with her issues, understand that only she can work on that herself or if she wants to date around and however she copes with it, it's her choice and certainly not your responsibility. I don't recommend being friends with her. You need to heal and make her miss you and what it's like not to have you in her life. Watch the free video presentation about this on my website at www.BreakupBrad,com
My ex dumped me 2 weeks ago and we dated for 2 months but had a very strong bond so she wanted to be friends. We are 22 and she couldn't handle her life and trying to find a career/work on college and she had depression issues and thought it would be best to dump me. She really has no friends and I was the closest person she has in her life including her family and she still comes to me with her problems she's has epilepsy btw. We hungout twice as friends and it went well she said she still loves me but not as much as I love her and that she doesn't know if we will get back together because she doesn't want a boyfriend and wants to work on herself but still wants me in her life. Please help
goo boo It's not ideal to be friends with her if you want her back. Watch my other videos on this as well, there's a reason why I listed it as a mistake, and it's not based on theory but on professional experience. Also watch this: ua-cam.com/video/h2KzCNCwsbE/v-deo.html
But.. If I tell him that we can't be friends and start ignore him and then suddenly make contact after 30 days , wouldn't that make him confused about what I want?😕
You won't exactly be friends with him when you reconnect. You can be on "friendly terms" with someone without really being friends. Think of it as like talking to a stranger. You aren't really being friends with them, but you do make it a point to be friendly and courteous, right? :-) If you're not getting my guide, watch my other tips on how to get started on communication to make your ex receptive to contact. Good luck!
look I'm 17 and I really love my ex. and cannot stop thinking about her. she calls me every single day... video call and everything, but swear she don't like me....but shows every signs she does. she gets jealous and everything.....so what do I do...really want her back.
What if they broke up with you over a month ago then randomly text you that they wearing your your shirts to bed that they love you then a week after that let's be friends and hang out? Its confusing
It is confusing. It's all part of the process when one goes through a breakup. Give it enough time where there's no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed signals. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/v-deo.html This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
I tried to tell him I didn't want to be friends, but he kept insisting and wouldn't take no for an answer. I'm confused about how to move forward, and why his behavior is like this.
Stand your ground and don't respond unless you really have to. Your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you.The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him/her feel what it's like not to have you in his/her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important. You risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
hey Brad. I didn't make really any mistakes. I didn't beg or cry I just offered suggestions such as councelling. he agreed and then a week later he said he was done. I just let him walk out. was this a mistake? this was about 6 days ago. I think he's panicked because we dated a year and found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant. he said he loved me but wasn't ever in love with me and then asked to remain friends and I said no. I have initiated no contact and have only contacted him to grab me something when I was dealing with morning sickness. he stuck around and looked after me the entire night and leaned into me and subtle touched me. I could feel sparks there then he leaned away and sat somewhere else. I made the mistake and asked if he was back to dating and online dating again. he lied and said he wasn't. why would he lie? I got somewhat angry at him and he was on his way out the door and I apologized for my behaviour and told him I really appreciated his help that night. I he then said "we're still up in the air" and that he hasn't told anyone about us breaking up. he has contacted me a few times with jokes and asked me over but mainly for a booty call. I rejected the first time and then just ignored any further sexual advances. I went out and posted pictures on my Facebook using covert jealousy. but I'm wondering if I should just remove him from Facebook as well?
+celesteagw2 Hi there, sorry to hear that. What type of counseling? Was it couples or individual? Him freaking out due to your pregnancy may be considered a red flag. He may still need some growing up to do or he may not be ready for a committed relationship yet for whatever reason. It's hard to tell without knowing more of the story... consider signing up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Re Facebook, watch this for answers: ua-cam.com/video/_3tnSYEy0W0/v-deo.html
My boyfriend still in contact with Ex wife. Mind you they have no. Kids together. They follow and like each others posts on Instagram. I have told him countless times that I am very uncomfortable with them being friends. But it looks like I keep talking to myself. I most of the time feel disrespected. He always assures me that he is over her and he's not going back to her no more!!!
That's something that only you two can settle. If this is a dealbreaker for you, you can give him an ultimatum than constantly suffer because of what he's doing.
i broke up with my boyfriend 2 mouths ago because he like me and this other girl ...i have him for 8th period and he sat behind me i dont know how to talk to him anymore 😧
+Emily Rivas Whatever the case, don't take things too seriously now since your age is a period of growth and lots of changes. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care! :-)
Thank you im a A student btw.....his girlfriend broke up with him because they hadn't talked at all.....i dont know if i should make a move or move on? I still have feelings for him.
I’m currently friends with my long distance ex who broke up with me a few months ago (she already did no contact on me, before returning and asking to be friends) and considering doing no contact due to some recent friction. The problem is, we’re in a chatroom with a mutual group of friends, and I don’t really want to forfeit my space to her. If I talk in the chat, she usually responds. We both have the more dominant personas in the group, so often when we interact we end up defaulting into this flirty banter mode that takes over the chat. Sometimes it goes smoothly, sometimes she seems to pull back mid conversation - like she suddenly remembered we aren’t together anymore, and other times she teases/taunts me in some rather hurtful ways (although she did that in the months leading up to our relationship too, so I don’t really know what to think).
Sorry to hear. The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then it's good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html
Hey Brad, I did the no contact rule after my ex boyfriend broke up with me for a week and a half and reached out to him again through text. I didn't talk about the past and kept the conversation upbeat and positive. We've been talking more again but he still seems cold and kind of distant to me. I think he still wants to talk because he always says at the end of the conversation to text him in the evening "if I want". He's also been complaining to me about how sad he is about having lost a "good friend" at the university he is attending and last night he was going on about how bored and lonely he was. He makes no mention of appreciating my support or saying he misses me though...yet he seems to want to stay in regular contact. Not really quite sure what to do at this point? At this point he's treating (and thinks of me) merely as a friend and I don't know what to do to get him to "open up" like he used to. And I don't want to overdo or push anything. He also seems to want me to contact him first and he's only reached out to me first once, what does that mean? I haven't brought up anything about the past and have been just keeping the conversations happy and positive even though he seems to be the depressed one now and it used to be the other way around before the breakup. Do you have any pointers about what I can do to get him back?
kuhlekatze Hello there, a week and a half is too soon to be talking again. Realize his words where he referred to you as a "good friend." I hate to say this but you're making things complicated and in danger of getting in the friend zone or becoming an emotional tampon so he can get over this very breakup with you. 5 Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Back Emotions during the first 30 days of the breakup is up and down, and this why it's best to stay away from him and not interact for a good while. You've simply haven't given him enough time to miss you. I suggest to cut off contact right away and stick to within the time I recommended. There is a time to be talking to him again, but it's not now because as I said, it's too soon. Get my guide so you'll get the complete details (it's too long to discuss on here) as to how to go about getting him back. Right now I really suggest cutting off contact for a month. Watch this free in-depth video presentation on my website for starters: www.BreakupBrad.com
hi brad. He broke up with me a month ago. I had a short temper that got a little bit over control. He said that he needed time to find himself and to work on his business. Wasn't going to see anybody any time soon. he said that he didn't love me just loved me as a friend. when that past week he was telling me that he loves me and i was his. i begged and pleaded him to take me back. He said we either be friends or nothing at all. so after that night I sent him a text agreeing with him that we both need to work on ohrselves. a week later I didn't have a ride to the airport and his mom sent him a text asking if he can take me. Well enough he took me. by the time I was getting ready to leave I broke down and asked to take me back again . He told me the same thing. We still talk. ice been gone for 3 weeks now. But the thing that has me confused was that he's hasn't taken down that Facebook photos or status in a relationship.. But on instagram yes. our mutual friends don't know that we ended things.
Use the time apart to work on your own issues, but never be friends with an ex this early on. It's simply a bad idea to be friends. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at ua-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
This is so true.. i am trying hard to forget my ex, but still. Cannot because we are still good friends and help each other’s when needed, but sometimes, I am curious if he has someone in his life and start bothering too much about him. As long as he doesn’t have someone I am happy, but always have doubts if he gets someone. So, we shouldn’t be friends at all. Further, before my ex, the first boyfriend I had, had a bad breakup with me and I completely blocked him for more than a year, after that my feelings were fading away and now I have nothing for him, but for my ex, still have feelings because we are good friends and everyday reminds our past.
I think you both need to give it a time off, too. When a breakup happens, most of the time this means he has lost attraction for you, hence, it's a bad move to be friends with him. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at ua-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
hey...just saying the friend zone isn't being friends with your ex...its when your stuck being friends with someone who you want to date and it isn't going anywhere
I told him that I couldn't be his friend because it wouldn't be fair to me. Then he texted back that he loved me and it was good talking to me one last time. I didn't text back because I don't want to say goodbye. Have I lost him forever Brad?
You're BOTH most likely being emotional. Give stuff a chance to settle first and let him really miss you. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bSs5qL85cSc/v-deo.html
+Brad Browning I'm about 7 days in with the no contact. It's really starting to get to me now. Yesterday I wanted to text him "I miss you so much" but I know that's a no no. Is there anyway to get through no contact smoother?
Thank you very much!!!! Your work is amazing. I wish you the best in life !!!! Your words have a good effect on me, they give me more strength,thank you again!!!!
+Stela Enache You're welcome, Stela! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
I hear you. It's tough indeed. Do your best to keep your conversation strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Give it time first for you both to process the breakup. So give each other space... and if you can still save the friendship, it'll happen with time. Good luck!
Hey Brad,I have been with my ex friends till like,yesterday when I decided that I can't do it like this forever hoping he might want finally get back with me. the only way to not talk to him through what's app or Facebook it was to block him from what's app and unfriend him on Facebook because every time when I said to myself I don't want to talk to him and want to move on and didn't had the power to tell him I have to stop talking to him,he would text me after two days and ask me how I'm doing and turn the world up side down for me again and made me talk to him again and be friends. Yesterday I made the mistake to tell him that I miss him and of course I didn't received anything back and I told him he is playing tough,he said he doesn't want to hurt me with what he could say back,so he didn't answer. that made me sad and I said to myself that it's better to hurt bad once than keep hurting every day. Do you think I did good? Do you think I should apply the no contact rule now? I wish I could just forget about him but,my heart refuse and I'm still thinking maybe I might have another chance to make him want me back like before because he said he loves and care very much about me but he is not in love with me. I need you and your advice again. Thank you for the last video. I love what you saying and your advices are important to fallow. Have a magnificent day Brad and thank you again.
+Stela Enache Sorry to hear that and I do understand where you're coming from. Anyway yes, your best option is still to cut off contact and at least let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, otherwise, he'll just take you for granted, okay? Take care!
I'm seriously so confused with my ex. We broke up exactly 1 month ago. but we talk every single day after we broke up. he keeps saying he wants to be friends for now and get back once we are better people but DOESN'T wanna cut our connections at all. He wants to keep in contact and force me to go out with him as "friends" but act like we are together. what is he trying to play? :(
+Guía Nadija I think I've just answered your concern on the previous/the same video with you asking similar issues in that comment, so please refer to that. :-)
I didn't want my ex back but I made the mistake of becoming friends again months later. He ended up crying because he realized I wouldn't take him back. It was weird and he started being a pervert. I had to block him on everything. I will never do it again.
What about remaining Facebook friends? My ex didn't delete block or unfollow me. I know this because she's looking at my stories. It's only been maybe 2 weeks. Can she still "miss me" if she's hovering me on Facebook?
my girl & I have been apart for a couple months now. she works at the same gym I train at & I started just not acknowledging her or talking to her last monday. after a couple days passed she messaged me saying she missed me & acting like there was a chance she wanted us to be back together. when I gave in & started talking to her she started acting like she then just wanted to be friends & "didn't know how she was feeling". she's now telling me she was us to be friends & "see what happens" "like we did in the beginning". I should say no, right? my case is pretty unique so idk if maybe she is being for real & I should actually be friends with her & see if our romance rekindles itself.
Tyler Jones Being friends is reserved for someone new so you can get to know them better and it's certainly not advisable for exes unless both parties are okay and don't really care either way whether they get back together or not. Ironically, the best way to get an ex back is to be friends in a sense where you are back in touch and are hanging out. The trick is how you escalate things from these events so she can't help but be subconsciously drawn to you. :-) My Ex Factor Guide offers just that; a step-by-step process of how to get into her psyche so she'll be drawn to you. My advice to you depends on where you are with her as far as progress is concerned. Have you recently started hanging out? If so, then definitely DO NOT bring up the topic of your relationship and just focus on showing her a good time. You need to strike a balance between not being available and not ignoring her. In short, build the attraction back up slowly, you need to be patient on this one. Check out my guide at www.BreakupBrad.com
Can ALL this apply towards a Long, truly invested relationship? I'm 2 and a half years out of a Almost 12 year relationship - birthdays, family deaths, anniversaries.. You name it. We talk on occasion, have even had some "Encounters" to get a quick fix in the intimacy department, have talked to one another About our current or new relationships and even share memes on occasion too. I was the one who ended the relationship due to a family death that hit me too hard and i was doing stupid, stupid things - I never felt like i could redeem myself and i was tired of her being hurt for so many years even After i was working towards making peace with my past. Now, almost 3 years later, i can't simply Move on, go cold turkey or think about my life in the future without her, not something i can shrug at after All that time was spent with her and move on to better things.. May be in denial or just stubborn here. It's such a complicated thing. She's with someone and I'm Happy for her, really.. But i find myself comparing myself to the new guy or wondering what he's got, ect. One thing i Did do was have that "One last talk" with her in person. I let somethings come out that was heard as a ultimatum now looking back But wasn't my intention, we talked about the uncertain future in regards to the both of us and it eventually boiled down to her needing to give this new guy a shot. So with tears in my eyes, i gave her a hug and we both went our own ways. Fast forward, I'm holding on to this.. Somewhat unrealistic idea that we'll get back together eventually.. But it's hurting me constantly. God, where's Steve from the Jerry Springer show to come haul me away? Haha!
These tips are for long, serious/committed relationships, yes. For now, though, you ought to check with a few tips here first: ua-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/v-deo.html My other videos should help out a bit, too but if you still need my help further on this, however, then you and I both ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis. Please check on availability first because I only have a limited number of clients I can realistically manage before I go into spontaneous combustion. :-) Here’s the link: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
I totally agree with you. Befriending with your ex is just dumb.
Yep. :-)
I mean, why would they say that to you? Won't they think that you'll get hurt more if you become friends with them and be stuck in the "friendzone" or "friends w/ benefits"?
yea very true😓
they seem dumb and selfish
What if your ex is ur best friend?
Your girlfriend is probably the luckiest girl on earth since you know a lot about relationship. Thanks a lot for all the advice :)
+Jemilyne Claire You meant my wife, right? :-) Thanks!
Jemilyne Claire yes
true..
@@BradBrowning Hey Brad what if you have kids together, and you need to keep taking the child there??Oh and what if he already come asking for you to get back in a week or so?Is that legit or not to be trusted?
In my quizz, I stated that we had daily contact, but this is over a yr later. We didn't have any contact at all for over a month. Then we gradually got started talking again. Now we talk or text about every day, but sometimes it might be a week before we actually see one another. We have never talked about relationships with someone else to each other.
Being friends with your ex doesn't work.
That's right.
The Cowboy 3 years ago I ended a long term relationship with a guy who is now my best friend and like a brother to me
Sammi did you know befriending exes is a trait mostly shown by narcissists and psychopaths....
The Cowboy my ex called me his Bestfriend..😐 I was confused 😭
What Brad is saying is absolutely true. That's what happened to me when I tried to stay friends with my ex after 7 months passed of being apart ( he was dating someone else when I wanted to get back ) so making them miss you is the key.
Thank you for the support, Sercan! :-)
@@BradBrowning my ex girlfriend getting to her girlfriend why she want be me part of wedding what I do ?????????.
I love this channel just because he actually cares! There's so many times i've seen a comment with his reply just below it. You're a wonderful man Brad!
Although not always on a timely manner as I've been very very busy recently. haha Anyway thank you for your support, I truly appreciate it! :-)
God bless the girl who told me to search your videos
:-)
Hello can you help me!!
My mom left my dad one month ago because she don't love my dad any longer. My dad has done no contact because he loves her and want her to come back. My mom want dad in the friend zone and she is texting and calling my father every day to see what he doing and she gets angry when his not response and texting angry and coming to our house.
What can my father do?? he wants my mom to move back but my mom will not! He loves her very very much please help!!
Hi Kim! You may be too young to handle this. Perhaps share my videos to your parents or your dad? This link in particular: ua-cam.com/video/P-6MMmmObcQ/v-deo.html
Brad Browning should I tell
My
Ex I don’t want to be friends before I disappear?
I took this advice and stopped being friends with my ex. I’m the kind of person who tries to make things a bright story but I’m so happy I didn’t stay friends with him :) I’m happier now than when I was in a relationship even.
That's good to know!
You said everything I needed to hear.
Thank you for this video. I suggested friendship, after he broke up and he accepted it. I then offered to go to the movies together, he refused by being busy. I am now in no contact period. And it makes sense, really. Why would we place ourselves so low as to plead with someone to be with us. It shows lack of self-respect. I offered to meet, he refused, and that's all I can do. The ball is in his side of the court.
You're welcome! I'm glad you're starting to see the importance of doing this. Keep it up and always love yourself first. Anyway if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
so .... i have a question how are they going to miss you if they tried to find someone else ... like if she has company and comfort how are they going to miss you?
That's a great question, Sam. Typically "no contact" will make your ex miss you regardless of they've found someone new or not. However, if there's a new person that's filled the void for them, there are certain tactics that you can employ to ensure your ex thinks of you in a positive light. Go to www.breakupbrad.com
Brad Browning I'm friends with my ex boyfriend and I still wan't him back how do I do that if I wan't him to miss me?
Cara D'agostino Seriously the video above answers to your question. Unless you are deaf, I think you really should listen to the video.
***** >:( I did listen AND I'M NOT DEAF IF U DON'T HAVE SOMETHING NICE TO SAY THEN DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!!!!!!!!!!
So why are you shouting? O_O
Brad, I have a complicated one. my ex and I were together all throughout high school. we talked about marriage, kids, a life together.
I recently moved a state over due to a nasty divorce between my mother and father.
she promised she'd come and visit since I was so far away.
she worked and I made music for a living.
In her free time, she started to not respond to my messages for days and always hung with her friends and never wanted to spend any time with me so I ended it.
she didn't even really care and started throwing tons of things in my face like not being there for her when I always was and was one of the only ones there.
she recently started smoking weed and drinking alcohol with her coworkers and has become an entirely different person. she used to be down to earth and loved talking to me and spending time together when we could. Now, the only time she messages me is when I message her first. I miss her so much and love her more than anything. she tells me she "Loves me in a romantic way but never wants to date me again" but she wants to be friends. what do I do?
I'm very confused and need some advice.
any reply would be appreciated.
thanks.
Hey man, sorry to hear about the breakup and the situation with your parents. From the looks of it, both of you are having a hard time adjusting to this distance. How long have you been in this long distance dynamic? I say to give yourselves the chance to both adjust to this change, since it's a major one. Cut off contact and let her miss you first, all right? The distance may have frustrated her which caused her to act up since thinking about being in a long distance relationship is very different to being in one, when you experience it firsthand. So stay strong. Watch this, too, to help guide you further: ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html
My now ex-girlfriend and I broke up earlier today. She’s the one who ended the relationship, and she got more emotional than I did. But before we started dating, we were really close friends ever since we were kids. I mean, I’m not gonna go into extreme details, but as friends, we were both always there for each other during our some of our hardest times when we were younger, we always talked out our problems with one another, etc. And hell, that was just us as friends; we were just very close and supportive of each other like that. But her and I really don’t want to throw all of that away😓. Is it still a bad idea to stay friends with her?
It is a bad idea. You both need to heal first. You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: ua-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/v-deo.html Good luck!
Me and my ex did no contact for a month. Its been 4 months since we broke up. The first two months I was not aware of the no contact rule. I begged to get back together and she wanted to but wasn't 100% sure. We sort of faded away and certain things happened (Met new people). We were both furious at each other, so i Insisted on no contact for awhile. We have broke the no contact after 1 month and she said she does not want to make things work right now. But she doesn't want to have me out of her life completely. Being friends feels like it will build more attraction then not talking at all, because If there Is no contact between us, I know for a fact that she will forget and move on.We aren't like most couples, we were insanely close. I've checked out a lot of your videos, but it seems like no contact did no good for me and my relationship with her, so being friends seems like my only other option. I told her we should start fresh and put the past behind us and focus on the future and happiness.
The "no contact" rule is just the first phase of a three-phase process in getting your ex back. It's not the end game. Anyway if you're very close, then being just friends wont' work. Not until at least you've healed and/or no longer want her back as your girlfriend. You both need to transition accordingly since feelings can't be switched off just like that. So you ought to make a tough decision whether you want her back as a friend or as a girlfriend. Remember, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ua-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
This situation is actually happening to me right now,,
Then you'll know better than to be friends with him. Avoid that like the plague and get out of the friendzone, okay? Stay strong!
They can't feel what you're feeling if they're a sociopath.
Yeah, that's a given, I think?
I wasn't friends with my ex for a well but it seem like she got over me so I said let's be friends and we're friends but she does the same things we use to do when we were dating
Well, have you been actively trying to get your ex back? Don’t wait for this person to have an epiphany. Keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not, as far as getting your ex back goes. Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
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My first experience had a boyfriend who broke up with me, on August 8, 2020, because of his pleading and using his aunt’s demise as a bribe trick me into this friend zone, and I still feel trap by it. I was forced to be a friend and I want to get out of this friend zone, his ex-girlfriend Anna ( the girl before he met me) used these video tactics on him and frankly hurt him badly.
she did the right thing and for me will do that on him.
Yeah, don't be friends on him for reasons I already mentioned in the vid.
Hi Brad, I am a gay man. Me and my bf broke up a month ago but he has been contacting me for a while. We play volleyball in the same sports complex and one evening he just came all of a sudden and gave me a hug surprisingly to which I gave a very cold reaction because I was shocked. He wanted to catch up on dinner but he canceled it because of my cold reaction on volleyball court. I somehow met him for coffee and apologized for my cold behavior but I also told him that I cannot be "just friends" with him because it's hurtful. He was crying a lot and said that he wants me in his life but I told him that I won't stay as just friends. Me and my bf are taking this week to think whether we want to be with each other or not and will be meeting on Saturday for dinner to express our decisions. If he says no, I will stop all contact with him. Do you have any suggestions for me?
Basically give yourselves time first. Based on your story, I don't think you both went without contacting each other yet? That should be a priority, instead of confusing yourselves more by meeting up and stuff. For the meeting itself, this should help: ua-cam.com/video/JbEoz81in-Q/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, we met and he decided that he doesn't want to be with me because he thinks we are incompatible. I told him that if we can't be together in a relationship then we can't be friends as we both need time to heal and move on. Since then, we haven't been in contact at all. It has been two weeks. DO you think I still have a chance to have him back? I am not sure if he will contact me. I really love him :(
This is my current situation.
He asked me, can u plz be a friend, and I want to restart our relationship. But now now my complete romance and attraction gone away. I feel be friends. I still love ur look, character every thing. But i don't feel u as my partner.(.like thiz.and he was sad and painful at that time.) There is no other relationships for him.. Plz help me i love him alot😪
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: ua-cam.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/v-deo.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and the golden rules here: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
Be only friend with an ex if both of you have no romantic feelings for each other. Be 110% sure no romantic feelings exist at all. Then you can be friends.
But if some of you or both have romantic feelings, don't be friends.
The goal about not be friend with an ex, is not about get your ex back. It's about get yourself back.
But if you really want your ex back don't be friend.
Do you really want your ex talking about their new partner and they will be hang out together this weekend? No you don't. It will hurt like hell.
I agree. Thanks for your input!
Not good to be friends with an ex. Big No No!
What you're saying is so true. Great video thanks.
Hyeryeong Park You're welcome! Make sure to subscribe, I'd really appreciate it! :-)
I am so fucked... I have to live with the ex gf who dumped me for 6 months til our lease ends. Is there anything I could do?
If you still live with your ex, then do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk AND y2u.be/GTjEAGJWTuA I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Hi Brad... this really a learning for me.. thank You.
+Irish Grace Araño You're welcome! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
Sure Brad.. thank you..
Hey Brad, so my and my girlfriend ended on a bad note a few days ago and she had a negative view of me as a insecure and jealous guy. I just landed a job as a therapist and my confidence is riding super high. I asked her if she was already dating someone new and she replied "This is the kind of behavior that separated us apart" and I told her "I'm not asking out of insecurity, right now I'm riding very very high on life and I just landed my job as a therapist". She said "I am happy for you and you are in a great place. good luck to you and take care". I said "Hope all is well for you and the boys. We don't have to end this on a bad note. We're both good people. We can always be friends.". She replied "Yes, friends would be wonderful". Then I reminded her that disneyland is having the pixar fest this friday and if she wanted to go together and just chill. She replied "Sorry, but I'm not ready to hang out as friends. The break up is still new and I need time to heal." I replied "You know somewhere down the line if you're willing to give it a second try, I'm always open to it. Have a great day at work!".. Usually before when we broke up and I said something about giving a second try.. she would say "no thank you", but this time she didn't respond to that one and said "Thank you!" which is over course a reply to "have a great day at work!"
I'm wondering if being able to go out with her as "friends" which she knows I'm not trying to.. since we ended as me being very negative and lack of confidence.. she didn't ask to be friends. So if we were to go out one day and I showed the super fun confidence when we went on our first date (we were friends before we dated). What do you think?
Is that a good sign that she didn't shoot down that offer of giving a second try? and I am also starting my no contact rule starting today since I ended my text showing a very happy side of me.
hey brad I see my ex every Friday and sunday for church activities how does that work
Hey Sean, you should be watching this. All the tips are here and follow it down to a tee: How To Act Around Your Ex (6 Tips For Handling Post-Breakup Encounters)
Just the day she broke up with me ,she is asking if I’m angry with her how should I ignore the message?
Just ignore. It's a rhetorical question. Being broken up with not only produces that kind of reaction but a lot of hurt as well.
@@carolinaevelyn5824 okay
this one happened to me and ot doesn't help at all it makes things miserable
Were you friends with your ex or have you cut off contact yet?
Brad Browning on and off slowly I Turning off my phone it's a good way for me
Brad Browning again I appreciate you giving me a little help or hope thanx
Absolutely not!!! When my ex sent me a breakup text he immediately asked me to be his friend. I told him we cannot be friends now that it's over. He became irate and told me me he was blocking my me and to do the same. I replied "Block executed!." Not only did I block him, I called my mobile phone carrier and had him placed on no outbound/inbound text list. NEXT!!
Sorry to hear that. I guess you're moving on? You did great by avoiding falling into the friendzone though. Watch this to help you out: ua-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/v-deo.html
Brad Browning Yes. it was best gor me to move on as much as i love him. He was very narccistic, selfish and immature at 70 years old. You can't change anyone but yourself. Thank you for your valuable advice and kind words. You are awesomeness!
Brad, dating this guy 5months in Riyadh,he went to meet my family to make our relationship official to my parents while on vacation but when i was back discovered he was with another while im away...i left did not freakout..eventually they broke up after a month..now my Ex occasionally hitting me up but ignoring him..now he stopped contacting me...i believe i love him and want him back but reluctant to make my 1st step...what should i do?
Sorry to hear that. Learn the basics here to help guide you: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html and/or read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting, and the psychology of how a man thinks and understanding men in general. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Hei i contacted my ex to day after 1,5 Month, he dumpt me bye the way. I asked if he want to just hang out some time. He Said yes wi can, but remeber that we are not in a reallationship, and i dont want to give you false hopes... What do i do? 😭
This is why you have to be subtle and not jump the gun when it comes to meeting up. You're obviously too smitten by him and that's never going to work. Focus on texting and try not to meet up when you both aren't ready yet. The phase you're on is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's q quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're ready. Good luck!
the breakups made her really depressed and reckless so i was thinking that staying would help her come back to me.. i thought staying would have her keep venting her emotions to me and we'd still be talking and then she'll start finding safety with me and then choose to get back with me
I understand what you're saying, man. I really do. The harsh reality, however, is that most dumpers already have the "moving on" mentality or looking to a new direction by the time a breakup happens or even way before they drop the bomb on you. It’s to your best interest to accept that there's nothing you can do about that for the time being. Cutting off contact for around a month is the best choice because doing the opposite will make you look pathetic or clingy... and those traits are very unattractive…as opposed to being happy. If you act happy, your ex will wonder what he/she’s missing. Quite frankly, who doesn’t want to be around happy/fun people? Make sense now? The bottom line is you ought to show that you respect their decision and you're mature enough to deal with whatever comes your way and that you're taking care of yourself and putting you first - irrespective of what your ex does. Read my Ex Factor Guide so you'll know how to go about this at www.breakupbrad.com and pay attention to the stuff I talked about here: ua-cam.com/video/T_W_ilf9x6w/v-deo.html
She's saying that she broke up with me so she wouldn't be a burden to me anymore.. She sees that I'm doing better and it seems to push her further, making her think that I'm better off without her.. I don't know how to stop her from feeling that way
Hey Brad, my ex and I just "broke up" a few days ago and after a day or two, we started talking to each other in a fun and happy manner similar to that of when her and I were together. She made a sort of joking question to be friends and I responded in a pretty unusual way. I told her that I have already made plans to help myself and become better, that being said, I think we can be friends under the impression that I do very much want you back, but we can be friends until we see that have worked on those things. I have asked her if my proposal is clear and she does completely understand that I want her back. According to her best friend (who is also my friend too) she said that my ex still loves me, it's just that she started to feel like it wasn't as strong as it used to be. She also told me that she wanted to be friends for now because she didn't want to hurt me anymore and make the relationship too one-sided. To my surprise, the past few days after becoming friends has brought out the nice and sweet side of her again and one thing I noticed is that she has a sparkle in her eye again when we look at each other (in the end of the relationship, she would hardly ever look me in the eye) and I notice her looking at me more often when we're together. She makes kind of a joking reference to things like "we can't do those things, we're 'friends' remember?" I feel that there is 90% sarcasm and maybe 10% seriousness to it. I don't really know what it going on, but could this be a good thing or a bad thing that me and my ex are going through?
NightMareOSU Hello there, this is a tricky situation that you're going through because people don't change emotions overnight... and this is the part where having no contact comes in, to make you both (especially her) think from a clearer perspective. She also hasn't gotten the chance to miss you and you're at risk for being taken for granted if you technically are always there for her. Make sense? The reason for the breakup, most of the time, is likely due to a loss of attraction and from there, it becomes a process to get her back, sometimes a long one at that, but never to be friends right away after a breakup. You need to rebuild it naturally and that takes time as well. There's just too many things that can go wrong and it's usually too much trouble than it's worth if you stay friends right away. It's also important that you don't overanalyze what she says or do -- again, much better to cut off contact first. I have a full-length video at my website that explains how this process works, so I suggest you watch that presentation at @
I just wanted to say thank you. Your videos and program helped me a lot !
+Kayla Shane I'm glad to hear that and you're welcome, Kayla! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
This so true I tried the friend thing at work and no 👎 bad idea so we just went cold turkey 🦃 now it’s as if we dont now each other 😔and we both said being friends not best idea so here we are 3 months broken up and no hope of giving it another try ... slowly moving on I feel it’s getting better I no longer cry 😭 and I think of him lesss
That's what they always say, breaking up is hard to do.
You're sooo for real my brother!!!! Lol
I was only friends with her for 3 days. I couldn't do it because I wanted us back together. So I sent her a heartfelt message that I'm letting go. Though I didn't want to, it was only way we can move forward with growth. Do I wish I can still see her like I used to? You're damn right. She was a damn fine woman, but her insecurities and jealousy just pushed me away so bad. It's about to be a month since I last talked with her.
Hey man, I think I've just answered your concern on the previous/the same video with you asking similar issues in those comments, so please refer to those. :-)
Here's an update, she contacted me after 2 months and she's into a new relationship with this guy who was waiting for us to break up. She's been trying to be "friends" but I didn't really give that vibe. I think the only thing I said to her leaving the door extremely open was im here if you need anything. She tried contacting me again the next 2 weeks and I only gave her a one word response. Haven't paid too much attention to her because I only would want her romantically, and not just friends.
Hey, brad! just wanted to say I love your videos but i need your input on something so please do reply. I did no contact with my ex for about a month and after a month he called me saying oh we should start to text again and talk on the phone etc etc. btw this is long distance. I live in NY and he lives in florida and we have hungout a handul of times. i played it cool and didnt show too much interest and he didnt hit me up for a whole week and then he texted me saying how he doesnt want to be in a relatioship right now but i am the girl he wants to marry. Then didnt talk to me for a week and he calls me in a very rude tone of voice saying how he wants to be just friends and wants nothing from me other than friendship. i acted a little emotional because i was hurt and he still flat out said i want to be just friends and thats all. too play it cool i texted back saying ok yeah ur right we can be just friends, so whats up? and that came off of desperate because its like ok ill be whatever of yours just talk to me and he never texted me back and since that day we havent spoke at all and its been about 5 days. please reply and tell me what to do brad. Please and thank you so much!
It's important to give each other space, especially in this case where your ex is showing signs of confusion. A plethora of emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, watch it to learn a few tips to understand your situation better: ua-cam.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/v-deo.html
Hi Brad, how do I apply 30 days no contact if we are coworkers, and have to see each other everyday and talk? I am now only talk about the projects we are working on.
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Brad, I don't talk or contact my ex at all anymore, but she still follows me on Instagram and Snapchat and see's the stuff I upload (which is usually me having a good time with friends and some girls). Does this count as "disappearing"? Should I block them from these things so they don't see what I upload and totally disappear, or is this even better?
checkmyformplease1 As long as you're not contacting her in any way, then yes, this is considered as the "no contact" or what I'd like to call the recovery phase. It only gets bad if you keep looking at her profile to see what she's up to as it can go downhill for you and of course, you'd want to avoid that. :-)
What if he says he doesn't hate you but doesn't say we should be friends. It was a ugly break up
That's a blessing in disguise for you to really focus on yourself! Here are the basics to getting an ex back, it helps if you're familiar with it: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Employ the 30-day “no contact” rule first. In order to fully understand how this concept works, you ought to know why you're doing it in the first place, otherwise you’re just following blindly. So watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you (and why you’re supposed to be doing it) than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
So should I ask my ex now immediately after she broke up with me, to be friends or should I wait, like end of no contact-phase?
Hey! I am so frustrated right now! He asked me to be friends with him but i denied ...but i end up missing him like hell ..and now i am screwed.
Hi brad first I already said yes for become friends but after I text this to her and cut off contact to her ..Hi , I'm sorry .Actually I was thinking . Being friends is not good at all . I was happy being in a romantic relationship with u . If that wasn't working out then It's probably a better idea spend some time apart . I wish you all the best..take care .please tell me is I did right ??
She said if you want I can delete your number 😰. What should I do ??
As long as you follow through and really cut off contact for at least a month, then yes, that was a good message.
Even when you’re around so you have to just disappear they cannot see you
smart guy
+deshawn anthony Thanks! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
We were committed for 2 years and then suddenly we ended. But IAM still loving. Now iAm in the 4th year. So I want to get him back 😭 so I tried to be friendly with him. So I had enjoyed a lot the moments by being friendly with him but he was dating an another girl who was my friend. Now iAm very sad. So i stopped messaging , liking and commenting . But he still sending messages . Does. No contact rule work here . Docter
The no contact rule should've been done right away, not 2 years after the breakup. I hate to be the one to break it to you, but it's time to move on. Discussed that here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
This was extremely helpful. After 26 years of verbal abuse in our marriage I divorced him. I saw him a few days ago for the first time since court. He was so distant and cold and was singing his live in girlfriend's praises. I asked him to look me in the eye and tell me he doesn't love me.....He cried and said he will always love me. I broke down too. He asked me if we could be friends???? I had no idea what that meant until I watched your video(I thought he was brushing me off) He said he's moved on but he said he loves me?????
The thing with exes, especially the one who's doing the dumping (or in your case, abusing), is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him/her feel what it's like not to have you in his/her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? You risk too much by staying in touch. Watch this, too:ua-cam.com/video/bSs5qL85cSc/v-deo.html
Thanks, Brad, so much for caring. I really appreciate you!
he knows what it's like; I stayed away for 2 years before the divorce was final hoping he would 'wake up' instead he has in his words" moved on" and is living with someone else in our house.
My ex and I broke up just over a week ago after dating for just over 5 months and being friends since before then. She told me why and after a few days of zero contact and told her I was making an effort to change and asked if we could fix/start over with our relationship. She said no but wants to stay friends and said we can call/text each other whenever. We aren't on bad terms whatsoever. I still love her very much so I accepted which I now know could've been a problem. She contacted me first and did so a few times throughout the week. She did things like ask to borrow a movie from me, told me about something going on outside my dorm (we're in college), a snapchat of a song that came on that read "thought of you," asked to borrow a phone charger and we hung out for a bit the other day which was weird to say the least. I don't know what to do, and while I've been told the best move is to ignore her, she and I have class together twice a week so seeing her is inevitable. Again I still really love her and I'd do anything to get back with her, especially now that the semester is ending. What do I do?! I really need some help
JeRkEy952 I don't suggest being friends with her. It will only let you become stuck more than you allow and yes, that's a wrong move. Watch my other videos on how to get out of the friendzone if you think you're already deep in it with her. You can't ignore her since you're at the same class, but don't go out of your way to talk to her. Again, this stuff is in my videos where you'll get some tips: ua-cam.com/video/ydeES3WU1Uc/v-deo.html
I have same Problem with my ex girlfriend now,she asked me to be friends,and i said ok, but now i don't feel comfort and she tried to control me ,she wait my text if not she don't text me first,since yesterday i have changed ma mind i quit texting and calling her and i will continue at least 30 days and i will see what will happen, hope it will work ,Thank you Bro..
She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you bro🙏🙏🙏
I struggle to find any one video that involves no contact that applies to my situation;1) He started leaving me in July and came back over the summer for 3 weeks (separate occasions) and we were sleeping together over 2 months, he was saying he loved me and wanted to come home.2) We have 3 kids together. So he comes over every morning for the school run and every evening because I work in London.3) I don't know if I count the July era as the start of the break up or when he officially said he was done. exactly one month ago...4) I started no contact for 2 weeks (only speaking about the kids) and then he said "I want to stop all this and aim to be friends", since then we've been messaging jokes back and forth and acting almost like we were except for the elephant in the room , us not talking about feelings. I offer him a coffee each morning and then some days we text back and forth all day, other days we don't text much at all...5) We have been together 8 years, married for one. We have disabled children and debts together. He's moved in with his mum. I've watched so many videos and read so many books, now I'm all confused as to where I am. I sort of did no contact then he said he wanted to be friend, I agreed because us ignoring each other during the kid swap would leave me in tears each time when he wouldn't look at me or come in the house. I am a natural peace maker. So I'm guessing I should try no contact again and fade away like you said?
Sorry to hear that. If things seem hopeless and you're wanting to save the marriage on your own, my clients found their peace by having applied the tips similar to the ones I mentioned on these videos: ua-cam.com/video/F1nFUvtof7Y/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/lvH0STXVqdI/v-deo.html If you're still having trouble, consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
What should I do if I already accepted my ex to be his friend? I already did the No Contact Rule and updated my profile picture, but I don't what else I should do
Peppermint Cookie currently I’m in the same situation. All I could say is think about yourself make yourself better. Yes it’s tough. During the no contact focus on your own betterment meet with new people as he says . Definitely your opinion will change. You will be independent.
You just don't be friends with him. You don't have to honor it just because you agreed. it's what's best for you.
Maggie M. I accepted him to be his friends but idk what to do. I’m still doing the no contact and bettering myself and focusing on my studies
Since you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: ua-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/v-deo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: ua-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/v-deo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
@@peppermintcookie5531 Honey, don't pay this dude any money. Do indefinite no contact because you can live without your ex.
What if we have kids together, should we still be no friends ?
Do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
Brad I have been on and off with this person for three years. When we started out he showed signs of thinking about future etc. But when I asked him about it after going out for a year, he flipped out. He said he didn't mean to give me false expectations. And later we decided to stay friends only, which never worked, as we kept getting back. He cares about me a lot but he has some family problems which can't let him plan about the future yet. So he tries to never say he misses or loves me, but he doesn't mind meeting up. I recently told him I hated that. We got into an argument and I sent more messages. Then I deleted him from BBM and re added him so he would not read the messages. Now he has not added me back. Should I just let it go? Is it possible he has missed the invitation? I emailed this evening with no response yet. I am tired of the repeated hurt and break up but he really was a good friend too. Please help.
+Green Chilli Hi there! Try to see what's causing this on-again and off-again dynamic which has become a cycle. It's possible that you're both too close to the situation to really see what's going on. So, take some time apart and give each other space for at least a month, okay? Don't be friends as it will only blur the lines more and make things more confusing. Go and do your own thing instead while you let him do his and make him miss you as well, in the process. So stay strong, all right? Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/5G1IRS-lCvc/v-deo.html
+Brad Browning thanks Brad. Yes that's what I am doing. I have been thinking long and hard about it, and I believe I don't want to get back with him again. A difficult decision but a right one. Wish me luck ☺ thanks again for your help
Me and my ex boyfriend were together for almost 9 months. He broke up with me before our anniversary. And we had wayyyyy more good memories and very less bad. Do you think he'll crawl back after a 30 days or earlier? We've been threw alot together (in a good way than bad). A week after i cried to him and crap he said he doesnt see a future..then 3 days later he said he does but in the far future. Im the best gf he ever had and same with me. He broke up with me bc of the "disrespect" which i didnt see and bc of our arguements. Our arguements were dumb so dumb. People at my age (15) are going threw wayyyyyy worse but he says stop comparing people to us. -__- i love him he says he loves me and says im always his baby. So i feel like there's an 80% chance of him wanting me back. Idk im lost. Help.
Symphony Taylor I've responded to your previous comments, please refer to those. :-)
Great video Brad, makes sense. I recently reconnected with my ex girlfriend since October 2020. We've known each other for like 12 years since 2009. I helped her out financially and she paid me back abit. We agreed to be friends. But I still like her and have feelings. Once I got news that she had a boyfriend the whole time and I thought that I might have a chance to rekindle, I was wrong. I Confronted her. Long story short, I did everything for that girl. And if she can't give me what I want, better I fade away slowly and not do anymore favors for her. She wants to remain friends with me. I took it again but I know in my mind I want more. No ultimatum here, me and her booth feel down because I spent way more time with her then her boyfriend these past 5 months. I didnt have sex with her because of covid 19. And I'm waiting on my vaccine first. Should I keep her around still, go cold turkey and not eliminate her completely yet and back of to have another chance with her?? The long history is what keeps this alive?
So in essence, you helped her out financially but what do you get out of it? If you want to take a risk, try to ask her out on a friendly date and see where it goes.
Sir but doing no contact rule they can feeel tht he is ignoring me tht means he is loving someone else
At this point ...and I really hate to say this, you may not have much choice. So yes, cut off contact for around a month. Okay? Besides, what do you plan to do if you don't cut off contact? Text your ex every now and then? That would only make you appear desperate and that's never attractive and keep in mind, your goal is to rebuild attraction, right? Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/9FQFScJOpac/v-deo.html
Sir She said me tht I like some other guy nd then she broke up saying tht I wanna b single then she said tht was a plan to test her bff.. when she broked up she knew I will go to her bff nd ask her about does she really like tht new guy then she wanted to check her bff wat she does nd she also wanted to check me for my trust.. then her bff said to me tht she likes tht guy nd she told me tht.. then now when I said many bad things to my gf she said it was a plan to test her bff... she thought tht I would never say sch bad things to her. now she is hurt by my words.. she is saying tht she wants to b alone donno Hw mch time but she wants to b alone.. now what should I do? she is now saying ki i love u only u don't have this much trust also.... what should I do?
sirrrr plssss help me wat tooo do
Hey, so my boyfriend broke up with me after a 8 year relationship (6 years living together). Right after the break up i made a lot of the mistakes your other video talks about. ( texting, calling, begging ext) We still have to see each other a lot this month to move all our stuff out of our apartment (which he currently is not stay at with me at this point- but most of his stuff is). When he comes over we usually end up talking and the conversations are nice and not about the relationship (a lot of smiling and laughing) and we sometimes hangout after he comes over (go get drinks). He also said once (after about a week apart) that we maybe could rekindle things with time (said this when meet in person), but then about a week and a half later said " its friendship or nothing" ( in a text message) . I agreed to be friends, and now i'm going to have to see him a lot and every time i do i feel great, but after he leaves i feel down again. Should i tell him i can't be his friend? how should i do that, if i want more then friends, and to get him back (and he said friendship or nothing)? advice?
Sonja f As I've said in many of my videos, including the one you've just watch, do not be friends with him right away. Cutting off contact is very important here since both your emotions, especially his, are still up and down and (which is to be expected) things will only get more confusing for you if you stay in touch. I suggest you get my Ex Factor Guide so you'll have a better understanding of things and why you ought to be doing it to increase your chances instead of sabotage it, dear. Things don't look grim as you think it is, six years is a long time, so use that as leverage by playing your cards right and not do the things I suggest not to. Okay? :-) The link is here: www.breakupbrad.com
Thank for the advice , I have more issues now , he told me he is hanging out with anyother girl and they kissed. :-( . He says he unsure about her. And I even told him I don't think I can be friends with him , if there no chance of more. This seemed to change his tone a bit , because now he is saying he is unsure about me that right now he can't say he don't love me or does. He's unsure, even cried talking to me about it. I'm trying now to just go limited contact ( because we still have to see each other once an while at least this month) I took all our pictures down, stopped looking at his Facebook, stopped texting (unless it's bills or apartment related) , stopped calling. I feel discouraged because of this other girl, but I think he need to know what it's like to be without me completely ( because it seems to affect him - the thought of being without me in his life) Any advice on this?
Sonja f Then all the more reason to cut off contact, Sonja. Believe me, you don't have to hear about what he's doing or who he's seeing right now. Don't be friends with him! Have you watched my other videos or better yet, get my Ex Factor Guide? These materials will help you have a better understanding of why you need to do the things you have to. Emotions at this point are up and down, so you two shouldn't be talking unless you want to have more confusion and arguments. Take care!
Kinda difficult since me and my ex work together..
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
The question is should i unfollow her on social media?
It shouldn't make any impact whether you do that or not. I suggest to focus on your own social media instead because the truth is, you can leverage social media to your advantage. Here's how: ua-cam.com/video/D1GpR5MApQk/v-deo.html
I agreed to be friends with my ex after the break up and I fought for 4 months for it. We were together for 4 months, he had get divorced a few months earlier and has a child. Since October we were on really good terms. I was patient and I was so happy about the progress. I thought we would be back together, because we ccommunicated like before. Iam so foolish. After 2 weeks of Christmas break he didn't have time for me. I texted him that I was missing him. "What do you want? We're just friends". He's been avoiding me since. He was away for another 2 weeks and he doesn't care to meet me. I love him so much and miss him. What did he think? That I stopped loving him? That I was so committed because I just want to be friends? I cannot stop thinking about him and I am hurt every time he doesn't want to see me. It is like being broken up with again and again :( Why can't I stop caring about him and his son? Why am I so stupid to think that he would fall in love with me!? I know that I should let him go before he finds another girl.
Ah, not very subtle, are you? :-) Go by the golden rules here as much as possible: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html It may or may not be too late, but it’s definitely time to move forward from those mistakes and not repeat those! Don’t be so hard on yourself, though, since this is a fairly common issue and most people are guilty of this at some point. If you'd really want to gauge your chances of getting back together (it may not be all doom and gloom after all) I suggest you take the free quiz on my website and answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
I tried no contact rule for 30 days then I tried to talk . But I get emotional any express my love . He just want to be friends. Because his ex girlfriend also want him back . She is nice girl. He don't want to hurt both of us . He want both of us as friends. But I miss him 🥺.
Be less available and continue to work on yourself. Apply the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
I have been friend with my ex for 3month during this time she once said she miss me ....but today I jus texted her saying "our breakup means alot to me, it has motivated me to make some changes in my life .I'll be off for a while u might not hear me for somtimes" can u plz suggest something on this
I'd still suggest to give the "no contact" rule a shot because that's still really your best bet, which will work in a sense where you BOTH will get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with each other when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Makes sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? Sometimes it does, but other times (especially if your situation is unique) it won't, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: ua-cam.com/video/obBIttQSak4/v-deo.html
Hi Brad. But if I stop being friends with her how can I get her back then? Should I wait until she reaches out first or something? I'm already on the reattraction phase and it seems like nothing works. She only wants to be friends. What should I do?
I suggest you employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here : y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw
So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: ua-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/v-deo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
My ex said she wants to be just good friends with me...but now I have started the No Contact period...is it ok?
She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: ua-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/v-deo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
I am In Different Situation I am following No contact from 2 months MY Ex wished me on My birthday And Asked Me that She Wants to have Fresh start As A freind.. But She Is Dating Another Person.. And I know That.. So I Just Asked Her That It would Be Hard For both us Now I dont Wanna Be Your freind.I wish You do Well and Wish you best. Take Care of Yourself. Tell Me Sir Am I right or Not. I have Lots Of confusion in My mind
Wait for a better time before contacting your ex. This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ua-cam.com/video/hlikXIfMYN8/v-deo.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips. Good luck!
Hey, me and My girlfriend broke up about 3 months ago, and we started talking after a month. We talked about getting back together, but she said she was afraid, so we decided to see what happened. She wanted me to show her that I changed, so I did, I showed her everyday that I thought of her, that I love her and that I'll never make the same mistake. We kissed, went on dated, told each other that I love you. And 1 day she told me she got invited out by her friend.. and that she liked him a little, so she decided to go on that date, and then she told me that she wanted to see how it goes with him, something new... and I was heartbroken.. but I told her that I respect her and will always love her. And later she said that it didn't quite feel right to be with him, but she still wanted to try it out.. and I told her that she should just follow her heart and take some time to think about what she really wants. And she said that her heart lead to me, but she still wants to test something new with that new guy :( She confuses me, but I told her that I'll wait. But she does not want me to meet new girls and she said that I am her number 1, that nothing can come between us..
What should I do?! Help please
Sorry to hear that, man! Go through the basics of my 3R system here anyway. It's your best bet since your ex is likely rebounding: ua-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/v-deo.html Good luck!
BCPlays I know I’m too late, but she has you on a leash. Run!
What to I do now he has girlfriend I have done No contact rules after I accept his request to remain as a friend. And after no contact for more than a month I started talking to him as if nothing has happened, How do I end this friendship thing and makes him miss me and wants me back . I really wants him back 😭😭😭
Wait for a better time before interacting with your ex, however, don't wait around doing nothing. Take a leap of faith on a new path as well because you never know where life can take you, which may be better without your ex. Use this time to heal and prioritize yourself. But if it's been more than a year or so, make sure to check the signs if your ex has moved on, here: ua-cam.com/video/ZyJRphwDca4/v-deo.html This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: ua-cam.com/video/hlikXIfMYN8/v-deo.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/WVFZVqFDFV4/v-deo.html&ab_channel=BradBrowning now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in UA-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips as well as when to give up trying. Good luck!
It's not the friend zone if you've already been a couple before.
It's a different thing of course if you're the one who dumped this ex... but not if you've been the one who's dumped, man.
what if you and your girlfriend were working on something possibly very lucrative then she leaves but wants to keep a friendship/business partnership
Hi Brad, My name is Al. I have a unique/weird situation. I was in a relationship for 10 years and my ex express that she wasn't happy. She has insecurities and trust issues. I even suggested that we go to couples therapy and she didn't want to. In March of this year we broke up because she wanted space. I didn't want to do this but I respected here wishes. In the beginning of the split she would call me but the conversations were very short but now the conversations are longer (15-30 mins) but mostly about her job. We don't see each other (No Contact). Just the other day she told me that she's dating and moving on with her life. She been on several dates and none of them have worked out. She blames me for that because she doesn't trust anyone and she lies to her dates when they ask her if she still talks to me by saying no. I told her don't call me if its causing you problems. Her response was I can't stop just like that and you're my best friend. I love her a lot and she means the world to me. I'm respecting her by giving her space I want her back. I'm so lost. I don't understand how she's moving on so fast after 10 years. Do you or anyone have any advice?
Hey Al, she may be forcing herself to move on. As much as you want to help her with her issues, understand that only she can work on that herself or if she wants to date around and however she copes with it, it's her choice and certainly not your responsibility. I don't recommend being friends with her. You need to heal and make her miss you and what it's like not to have you in her life. Watch the free video presentation about this on my website at www.BreakupBrad,com
My ex dumped me 2 weeks ago and we dated for 2 months but had a very strong bond so she wanted to be friends. We are 22 and she couldn't handle her life and trying to find a career/work on college and she had depression issues and thought it would be best to dump me. She really has no friends and I was the closest person she has in her life including her family and she still comes to me with her problems she's has epilepsy btw. We hungout twice as friends and it went well she said she still loves me but not as much as I love her and that she doesn't know if we will get back together because she doesn't want a boyfriend and wants to work on herself but still wants me in her life. Please help
goo boo It's not ideal to be friends with her if you want her back. Watch my other videos on this as well, there's a reason why I listed it as a mistake, and it's not based on theory but on professional experience. Also watch this: ua-cam.com/video/h2KzCNCwsbE/v-deo.html
But.. If I tell him that we can't be friends and start ignore him and then suddenly make contact after 30 days , wouldn't that make him confused about what I want?😕
You won't exactly be friends with him when you reconnect. You can be on "friendly terms" with someone without really being friends. Think of it as like talking to a stranger. You aren't really being friends with them, but you do make it a point to be friendly and courteous, right? :-) If you're not getting my guide, watch my other tips on how to get started on communication to make your ex receptive to contact. Good luck!
look I'm 17 and I really love my ex. and cannot stop thinking about her. she calls me every single day... video call and everything, but swear she don't like me....but shows every signs she does. she gets jealous and everything.....so what do I do...really want her back.
+Denziel Proctor The answer is staring you right in the face, man. Let her miss you, first. Okay? Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/bSs5qL85cSc/v-deo.html
What if they broke up with you over a month ago then randomly text you that they wearing your your shirts to bed that they love you then a week after that let's be friends and hang out? Its confusing
It is confusing. It's all part of the process when one goes through a breakup. Give it enough time where there's no contact between you and your ex for at least 30 days. A wide array of different emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this includes the likelihood of your ex giving you mixed signals. Watch this: ua-cam.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/v-deo.html This is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, so watch it to learn a few tips to help you on how to go about it: ua-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/v-deo.html
I tried to tell him I didn't want to be friends, but he kept insisting and wouldn't take no for an answer. I'm confused about how to move forward, and why his behavior is like this.
Stand your ground and don't respond unless you really have to. Your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you.The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him/her feel what it's like not to have you in his/her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important. You risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: ua-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/v-deo.html
hey Brad. I didn't make really any mistakes. I didn't beg or cry I just offered suggestions such as councelling. he agreed and then a week later he said he was done. I just let him walk out. was this a mistake? this was about 6 days ago. I think he's panicked because we dated a year and found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant. he said he loved me but wasn't ever in love with me and then asked to remain friends and I said no. I have initiated no contact and have only contacted him to grab me something when I was dealing with morning sickness. he stuck around and looked after me the entire night and leaned into me and subtle touched me. I could feel sparks there then he leaned away and sat somewhere else. I made the mistake and asked if he was back to dating and online dating again. he lied and said he wasn't. why would he lie? I got somewhat angry at him and he was on his way out the door and I apologized for my behaviour and told him I really appreciated his help that night. I he then said "we're still up in the air" and that he hasn't told anyone about us breaking up. he has contacted me a few times with jokes and asked me over but mainly for a booty call. I rejected the first time and then just ignored any further sexual advances. I went out and posted pictures on my Facebook using covert jealousy. but I'm wondering if I should just remove him from Facebook as well?
+celesteagw2 Hi there, sorry to hear that. What type of counseling? Was it couples or individual? Him freaking out due to your pregnancy may be considered a red flag. He may still need some growing up to do or he may not be ready for a committed relationship yet for whatever reason. It's hard to tell without knowing more of the story... consider signing up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Re Facebook, watch this for answers: ua-cam.com/video/_3tnSYEy0W0/v-deo.html
what if your ex-boyfriend uses you as a friend, but when you were together he never used you were his Queen?
+girly-drama-life!! lovely Hi... sorry, not sure I understand... what did you mean by uses you as his friend?
My boyfriend still in contact with Ex wife. Mind you they have no. Kids together. They follow and like each others posts on Instagram. I have told him countless times that I am very uncomfortable with them being friends. But it looks like I keep talking to myself. I most of the time feel disrespected. He always assures me that he is over her and he's not going back to her no more!!!
That's something that only you two can settle. If this is a dealbreaker for you, you can give him an ultimatum than constantly suffer because of what he's doing.
i broke up with my boyfriend 2 mouths ago because he like me and this other girl ...i have him for 8th period and he sat behind me i dont know how to talk to him anymore 😧
+Emily Rivas Whatever the case, don't take things too seriously now since your age is a period of growth and lots of changes. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care! :-)
Thank you im a A student btw.....his girlfriend broke up with him because they hadn't talked at all.....i dont know if i should make a move or move on? I still have feelings for him.
I’m currently friends with my long distance ex who broke up with me a few months ago (she already did no contact on me, before returning and asking to be friends) and considering doing no contact due to some recent friction. The problem is, we’re in a chatroom with a mutual group of friends, and I don’t really want to forfeit my space to her.
If I talk in the chat, she usually responds. We both have the more dominant personas in the group, so often when we interact we end up defaulting into this flirty banter mode that takes over the chat. Sometimes it goes smoothly, sometimes she seems to pull back mid conversation - like she suddenly remembered we aren’t together anymore, and other times she teases/taunts me in some rather hurtful ways (although she did that in the months leading up to our relationship too, so I don’t really know what to think).
Sorry to hear. The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then it's good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: ua-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/v-deo.html and ua-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/v-deo.html
Hey Brad,
I did the no contact rule after my ex boyfriend broke up with me for a week and a half and reached out to him again through text. I didn't talk about the past and kept the conversation upbeat and positive. We've been talking more again but he still seems cold and kind of distant to me. I think he still wants to talk because he always says at the end of the conversation to text him in the evening "if I want". He's also been complaining to me about how sad he is about having lost a "good friend" at the university he is attending and last night he was going on about how bored and lonely he was. He makes no mention of appreciating my support or saying he misses me though...yet he seems to want to stay in regular contact. Not really quite sure what to do at this point? At this point he's treating (and thinks of me) merely as a friend and I don't know what to do to get him to "open up" like he used to. And I don't want to overdo or push anything. He also seems to want me to contact him first and he's only reached out to me first once, what does that mean? I haven't brought up anything about the past and have been just keeping the conversations happy and positive even though he seems to be the depressed one now and it used to be the other way around before the breakup. Do you have any pointers about what I can do to get him back?
kuhlekatze Hello there, a week and a half is too soon to be talking again. Realize his words where he referred to you as a "good friend." I hate to say this but you're making things complicated and in danger of getting in the friend zone or becoming an emotional tampon so he can get over this very breakup with you. 5 Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Back Emotions during the first 30 days of the breakup is up and down, and this why it's best to stay away from him and not interact for a good while. You've simply haven't given him enough time to miss you. I suggest to cut off contact right away and stick to within the time I recommended. There is a time to be talking to him again, but it's not now because as I said, it's too soon. Get my guide so you'll get the complete details (it's too long to discuss on here) as to how to go about getting him back. Right now I really suggest cutting off contact for a month. Watch this free in-depth video presentation on my website for starters: www.BreakupBrad.com
hi brad. He broke up with me a month ago. I had a short temper that got a little bit over control. He said that he needed time to find himself and to work on his business. Wasn't going to see anybody any time soon. he said that he didn't love me just loved me as a friend. when that past week he was telling me that he loves me and i was his. i begged and pleaded him to take me back. He said we either be friends or nothing at all. so after that night I sent him a text agreeing with him that we both need to work on ohrselves. a week later I didn't have a ride to the airport and his mom sent him a text asking if he can take me. Well enough he took me. by the time I was getting ready to leave I broke down and asked to take me back again . He told me the same thing. We still talk. ice been gone for 3 weeks now. But the thing that has me confused was that he's hasn't taken down that Facebook photos or status in a relationship.. But on instagram yes. our mutual friends don't know that we ended things.
Use the time apart to work on your own issues, but never be friends with an ex this early on. It's simply a bad idea to be friends. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at ua-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
What if i tell her “for now” when she asks if i wanna be friends
Then you're still in danger and risk never getting a chance to get her back.
This is so true.. i am trying hard to forget my ex, but still. Cannot because we are still good friends and help each other’s when needed, but sometimes, I am curious if he has someone in his life and start bothering too much about him. As long as he doesn’t have someone I am happy, but always have doubts if he gets someone. So, we shouldn’t be friends at all. Further, before my ex, the first boyfriend I had, had a bad breakup with me and I completely blocked him for more than a year, after that my feelings were fading away and now I have nothing for him, but for my ex, still have feelings because we are good friends and everyday reminds our past.
I think you both need to give it a time off, too. When a breakup happens, most of the time this means he has lost attraction for you, hence, it's a bad move to be friends with him. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at ua-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/v-deo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
hey...just saying the friend zone isn't being friends with your ex...its when your stuck being friends with someone who you want to date and it isn't going anywhere
Yes, obviously...otherwise why make all the fuss about the friendship? :-)
I told him that I couldn't be his friend because it wouldn't be fair to me. Then he texted back that he loved me and it was good talking to me one last time. I didn't text back because I don't want to say goodbye. Have I lost him forever Brad?
don't text or call nothing. Don't be friends. There's no need to be friends
You're BOTH most likely being emotional. Give stuff a chance to settle first and let him really miss you. Watch and follow the tips here: ua-cam.com/video/bSs5qL85cSc/v-deo.html
+Brad Browning I'm about 7 days in with the no contact. It's really starting to get to me now. Yesterday I wanted to text him "I miss you so much" but I know that's a no no. Is there anyway to get through no contact smoother?
What if you don’t love your ex anymore but still want to be friends or be a part in each others life could it work ?
Watch the vid for guidance, especially this latest version: ua-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/v-deo.html
Thank you very much!!!! Your work is amazing. I wish you the best in life !!!! Your words have a good effect on me, they give me more strength,thank you again!!!!
+Stela Enache You're welcome, Stela! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
It's kinda hard since we have to work together. So I have to be friendly instead of being cold like I want to be.
I hear you. It's tough indeed. Do your best to keep your conversation strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: ua-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/v-deo.html AND ua-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/v-deo.html
I don't want my ex back,i just want to be friends,her friends are my friends,so being friends is kinda a necessity
Give it time first for you both to process the breakup. So give each other space... and if you can still save the friendship, it'll happen with time. Good luck!
Brad Browning thank you for the advice
Hey Brad,I have been with my ex friends till like,yesterday when I decided that I can't do it like this forever hoping he might want finally get back with me. the only way to not talk to him through what's app or Facebook it was to block him from what's app and unfriend him on Facebook because every time when I said to myself I don't want to talk to him and want to move on and didn't had the power to tell him I have to stop talking to him,he would text me after two days and ask me how I'm doing and turn the world up side down for me again and made me talk to him again and be friends. Yesterday I made the mistake to tell him that I miss him and of course I didn't received anything back and I told him he is playing tough,he said he doesn't want to hurt me with what he could say back,so he didn't answer. that made me sad and I said to myself that it's better to hurt bad once than keep hurting every day. Do you think I did good? Do you think I should apply the no contact rule now? I wish I could just forget about him but,my heart refuse and I'm still thinking maybe I might have another chance to make him want me back like before because he said he loves and care very much about me but he is not in love with me. I need you and your advice again. Thank you for the last video. I love what you saying and your advices are important to fallow. Have a magnificent day Brad and thank you again.
+Stela Enache Sorry to hear that and I do understand where you're coming from. Anyway yes, your best option is still to cut off contact and at least let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, otherwise, he'll just take you for granted, okay? Take care!
I'm seriously so confused with my ex. We broke up exactly 1 month ago. but we talk every single day after we broke up. he keeps saying he wants to be friends for now and get back once we are better people but DOESN'T wanna cut our connections at all. He wants to keep in contact and force me to go out with him as "friends" but act like we are together. what is he trying to play? :(
+Guía Nadija I think I've just answered your concern on the previous/the same video with you asking similar issues in that comment, so please refer to that. :-)
I didn't want my ex back but I made the mistake of becoming friends again months later. He ended up crying because he realized I wouldn't take him back. It was weird and he started being a pervert. I had to block him on everything. I will never do it again.
Yes, be careful NOT to give your ex the wrong idea.
Brad Browning You are awesome for replying. Thank you.
What about remaining Facebook friends? My ex didn't delete block or unfollow me. I know this because she's looking at my stories.
It's only been maybe 2 weeks. Can she still "miss me" if she's hovering me on Facebook?
Brad, in principal this is great. But situations are different.
The core principles remains the same. Here's a quick overview: ua-cam.com/video/7JtmVbDkblw/v-deo.html
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my girl & I have been apart for a couple months now. she works at the same gym I train at & I started just not acknowledging her or talking to her last monday. after a couple days passed she messaged me saying she missed me & acting like there was a chance she wanted us to be back together. when I gave in & started talking to her she started acting like she then just wanted to be friends & "didn't know how she was feeling". she's now telling me she was us to be friends & "see what happens" "like we did in the beginning". I should say no, right? my case is pretty unique so idk if maybe she is being for real & I should actually be friends with her & see if our romance rekindles itself.
Tyler Jones Being friends is reserved for someone new so you can get to know them better and it's certainly not advisable for exes unless both parties are okay and don't really care either way whether they get back together or not. Ironically, the best way to get an ex back is to be friends in a sense where you are back in touch and are hanging out. The trick is how you escalate things from these events so she can't help but be subconsciously drawn to you. :-) My Ex Factor Guide offers just that; a step-by-step process of how to get into her psyche so she'll be drawn to you. My advice to you depends on where you are with her as far as progress is concerned. Have you recently started hanging out? If so, then definitely DO NOT bring up the topic of your relationship and just focus on showing her a good time. You need to strike a balance between not being available and not ignoring her. In short, build the attraction back up slowly, you need to be patient on this one. Check out my guide at www.BreakupBrad.com
Can ALL this apply towards a Long, truly invested relationship? I'm 2 and a half years out of a Almost 12 year relationship - birthdays, family deaths, anniversaries.. You name it. We talk on occasion, have even had some "Encounters" to get a quick fix in the intimacy department, have talked to one another About our current or new relationships and even share memes on occasion too. I was the one who ended the relationship due to a family death that hit me too hard and i was doing stupid, stupid things - I never felt like i could redeem myself and i was tired of her being hurt for so many years even After i was working towards making peace with my past. Now, almost 3 years later, i can't simply Move on, go cold turkey or think about my life in the future without her, not something i can shrug at after All that time was spent with her and move on to better things.. May be in denial or just stubborn here. It's such a complicated thing. She's with someone and I'm Happy for her, really.. But i find myself comparing myself to the new guy or wondering what he's got, ect. One thing i Did do was have that "One last talk" with her in person. I let somethings come out that was heard as a ultimatum now looking back But wasn't my intention, we talked about the uncertain future in regards to the both of us and it eventually boiled down to her needing to give this new guy a shot. So with tears in my eyes, i gave her a hug and we both went our own ways. Fast forward, I'm holding on to this.. Somewhat unrealistic idea that we'll get back together eventually.. But it's hurting me constantly. God, where's Steve from the Jerry Springer show to come haul me away? Haha!
These tips are for long, serious/committed relationships, yes. For now, though, you ought to check with a few tips here first: ua-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/v-deo.html My other videos should help out a bit, too but if you still need my help further on this, however, then you and I both ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis. Please check on availability first because I only have a limited number of clients I can realistically manage before I go into spontaneous combustion. :-) Here’s the link: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching