Rough Sex is the New Normal?! Nearly 2/3 of Women Have Been Choked During Sex!
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- Опубліковано 11 чер 2024
- Today, we dove deep with guest Debby Herbenick into the critical conversations about rough sex, pornography, and the need for early, open dialogues on sexual health and digital safety. We uncovered the pressing issues teens face today from porn as sex education to the normalization of extreme sexual behavior and its mental and physical impacts. Plus, insights on managing exercise-induced orgasms and safeguarding against the risks associated with online image sharing. It's time to prioritize human connections and educate our young ones on healthy relationships and consent. Join us to explore more on how to bridge these gaps. Stay tuned, and don't forget to support and follow for more enlightening discussions.
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00:00:00 Introduction
00:02:19 Rough Sex
00:05:53 Difference Between a Kink and a Fetish
00:10:26 Choking, Slapping, and Hitting
00:20:43 Serious Health Risks and Neurological Impact of Choking
00:25:26 Consent and Communication in Relationships
00:29:25 How is porn contributing to the rise of Rough sex?
00:55:12 The Impact of Pornography on Young Kids
01:04:11 Exercise-Induced Orgasm
01:13:00 Parenting Tips
01:14: 52 Young people having less sex
01:17:11 Takeaway
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As a man, I hate the trend of women wanting rough sex all the time. For me it just takes the focus of the human connection away and turns it into more of a game where I have to check boxes most of the time instead of just getting to be natural on occasion. I also really hate girls saying "Daddy", just feels weird on a psychological level.
Amen on the Daddy issues. Basic ass dysfunctional psychology taking all the air out of the room.
304's are a dime a dozen these days.
Modesty is hawt...
It needs to be said because it doesn't feel like its being said at all. When engaging in rough sex, you need to talk with your partner before hand and set limitations and even set up a safe word. The reason for this is because you can get very much caught up in the moment and it can end badly and that can either destroy a relationship or worse. Please be careful people.
Good pointing. My safe word has always been “yes!, more please” not gonna lie….for some reason it doesn’t work most times
@@jomorrow1 You jest, but there are people who have died as a result of not taking it seriously. There are also women who want/like that kind of sex but also have trauma from previous experiences (sexual) so as a result they can end up reliving that experience if precautions are not taken.
Your comment did give me a chuckle however so kudos for that.
The partners I have been with consented to rough sex. They actually encouraged it. Do I need her to sign a legal document?
@@phillipnickerson Lol no
Have a conversation about it in a mature fashion; Mature and adult.
Do not have a conversation about it because you think it ruins the flow: Childish and immature.
The latter is how people get hurt, dont be stupid and just have the conversation with them. It only has to go wrong once.
Yo...50 shades of Gray...
Thanks for nothing.
In 2011 I was with a woman who enjoyed choking... I did it once. By 2016 every woman I dated eventually would bring up choking, rough sex etc...
All considered themselves as "subs".
So I pulled the Ultimate "Dom" Move and told them "NO"...😂
As soon as you said 2016 and choking I choked 🤣, wasn't 2016 the time of Harvey Weinstein? I swear even talking about rough sex amongst friends gave me the creeps. What if some butthurt ex came forward ' he r@p£d me' false allegations was something I know many were afraid of it back then.
Don't be choking anybody if you don't know WTF you are doing! You need to be VERY connected to your partner if you are going to have rough sex. It's incredible fun, but it's a balance between dominant expressive play and the moment-to-moment awareness to know where your partner is at, and remain connected to their point of resilience. I always built up my partners after playing too.
Rough sex is new norm because people got bored easily from intimate sex
Porn (anyhow in its current form and availability) destroys eroticism for whole generations. Which is sad!
✌😎 *What did Cinderella say when she got to the ball?*
Nothing, she started choking
LMAOOOOOO
Thank you for this great conversation! One of the best interviews you had, touching on topics that so many more people should be aware of. Keep up the good work!
Thank you for these sit down discussions!!
I will never ever find choking sexual. Never. I have been in plenty of fights and it naturally feels like an attack trying to choke or be choked. What's a soft choke???
NOT worth the risk! What's stopping a woman after "rough sex" from accusing that man of sexual assult or sexual battery? Look up the Trevor Bauer case.
It's called consent dude.
@@BrofUJu Got a written contract or consent form? Verbal is not worth a red cent.
@@frankeasterling3402 ok so don't hit or choke women, pretty basic solution
@@frankeasterling3402 in this “Me Too” era, a contract/consent form is necessary. 💯
@@BrofUJuthe woman can give consent, and then lie that they did not give consent.
Awesome interview! I'd not heard of Dr. Herbenick before and now I'm very glad you had her on. Thank you for addressing these topics, Dr. Malik. Excellent show!
Pounding momentarily okay with me 😎❤️
How old are u
gotta be strong & independent so you can remain conscious
You will need the consent in writing, so the woman cannot say they did not give consent and accuse you of assault.
Hi Doc, I recommend taking a few seconds at the end of your podcast to re-introduce your guest. It will help everyone to remember their name, and the amazing things they have done.
im annoyed at every tinder date wanting choking during hooking up
how the hell you get matches in tinder as a man. I assume youre not in the top 10%
I see this as an absolute win.
As long as things are communicated and there’s safe words and mechanisms of safety, it’s all fucking awesome
I dare say that this is a result of the influence of internet porn which portrays and markets unrealistic and specific types of sex and abuse. The breakdown and decline in affection and sex between couples has resulted in the increased use of porn to offset the desire for sexual gratification (ask any person trapped in a sexless or low sex marriage / relationship).
Some women like it Rough, most like it gentle and Romantic.
Honestly, you'd be surprised how many like it rough as opposed to gentle and romantic. NOT rough to the point of hurting them but the 'roses and beautiful sunsets' are in the minority.
50 Shades of Grey sales says different!
What evidence do you have that women want it gentle & romantic?
Rough sex is mainstream because of media propoganda and porn. If you constantly show rough sex to a new generation, they'll think it's ok. It's not a hard question. So many movies throw in sex just because and so do shows as well, especially that show sex education on netflix that was available for everyone to watch, even children 😔. It's not like the human race is evolving to have rough sex in 1 generation with no outside force. If there wasn't so much rough sex in porn and in other media, it wouldn't be so popular. It doesn't take a scientist or doctor to figure this out.
Wrong!!!
@@NightLifeDJs1 actually not. If instagram could make kids think it's normal to do stuff like vape in school, I'm pretty sure it could condition them to think other behaviors are normal too
Next time explain and provide evidence
@@NightLifeDJs1 i find it very odd that your comment is highlighted too
This is really sad
The specific mechanism of Choking needs to be examined in order to establish whether this is consensual or otherwise.
I'm not built that way.
thank you !!!
What's not discussed, is how many wealthy men pay to get choked or beaten by dominatrix. Far more common than you might think. New York, LA, Hollywood, Miami,...
New York, Hollywood, Miami, and other big zits on the landscape are not representative of America.
I have recently learned that there is a thing called "a financial dominatrix".
The world has gone mad!!
These are top down trends, not bottom up!
Some group, somewhere, is feeding the degeneration of society.
For example how is porn free?
Some one is paying for all this infrastructure etc - who? And why?
As someone who was raised as a JW from 4-12 and who because of this religious upbringing became socially awkward and also wasnt allow to go to sex ed in school; i got my sex ed from friends and porn (at the time: Taboo staring Sharon Mitchell) i had hoped that youd emphasize more on how we need to have more public and honest conversations about sex, kink impacts on society relationships at a younger age vs just mainly focusing on the dangers of choking.
Very important video; a very informed and informative talk of two impressive ladies - thanks a lot to both of you!
Dr. Malik I thought it was interesting that at the end of the interview you connected growing sexual abstinence among young people with irl disconnection. Maybe that’s what the data is saying. But the first chunk of this interview implied young people’s first sexual experiences are likely going to be violent on some level, consensual or otherwise. Surely that’s a deterrent too.
Do I remember correctly, the french have long called an orgasm "le petit mort" meaning the small death?
Yes
Amazing how society is now compared to when I was in my 20's. And Dr. rena is hot 🔥 ❤
Sad and sick
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Choking is horrendous. That is a completely twisted and demonic form of sexual intimacy. Im not sure if there's any hope for this world...
To me there's nothing appealing about rough sex. I want sex to be sensual, erotic, passionate not some outlet for aggression, brutality, violence. I'm sure many other guys feel the same.
Indeed!!
Exactly! This whole choking thing is pretty dangerous.
Must be mostly men watching this channel would be interesting to hear from woman on this subject.
I'll just say this... brain doesn't appreciate lack of oxygen. For almost any length of time.
As someone who is interested in learning mindful energy orgasms with or withoit ejaculation, I'd like to hear more about the exercise orgasm .
Sex in a violent, angry society.
I watch porn every once in a great while. I’ve seen these videos where the women almost passes out. I thought one or two almost looked like they were dead. The funny thing is, I never see the women choking the men. It’s always the other way around. I would suggest if you’re in that kind of relationship… Run as fast as you can to the nearest exit and never look back.
Some of that is B & M, but most is D/s where it isn't painful. Choking is rear real, just choking with slight pressure for seconds is exciting for somd. 2/3rd's of the population aren't David Caradine.
this is very sad
So if any oxygen deprevation is bad for the brain, does that mean when you hold you breath like when going underwater that that is dangerous for your brain too?
For the most part a person cannot voluntarily hold their breath long enough to put them in serious danger. There are exceptions such as if a person hyperventilate beforehand.
I knew a woman once who actually wanted to be physically hurt. She told me unless she could see the bruises in the mirror don't bother. Of course it made me feel uncomfortable. Anyway a good time was had by all. 😊
For whatever reason women seem to prefer to be used like an object
Amazed at how many people in the comments keep make statements like rough sex isn't love. Um no s#!t... Have they never heard of hate f$@&ing? People don't have to be in love to have sex. Not everyone equates the 2. I wouldn't call myself someone who is into that but I've been with women who request acts like that which I don't want to perform and I just say sorry no thanks. But I don't act surprised.
Interesting topic Dr. Malik about rough sex! I believe it doesn't belong in bedrooms or pornography! It sends the wrong message between couples 💑
I'm a male. I experienced an orgasm during my leg exercise routine. My goal was to strengthen my core. A warm feeling developed in my pelvis area, which felt pleasurable while doing my routine at home. The pleasure mixed with the pain of the stretch routine, helped me to move quickly into doing my splits exercise, which was less painful because I was having this feeling of orgasm, the pain didn't feel so intense. Even now years later, when I do that particular exercise, I feel that feeling of wanting to orgasm during the rest period between the exercise and that feeling stays with me for at least 5-10 minutes after that specific exercise routine - while flaccid not erect - so yes does happen and this is the first discussion I've come to learn about this so great!
Sex is not good when someone gets hurt
50 Shades of Grey is the best selling fiction novel of all time - overwhelingly bought by women!
It is women who have this fantasy of force, not men!
It is nonsense to “consent” to choking and losing brain tissue! As a licensed Psychologist, I would diagnose this officially as aberrant/abnormal behavior! Dr 🚀
Yeah but with most people it is just simulated choking placing one hand around the throat and not squeezing too hard, not restricting air. More of just a domination display.
Not a fan of Herbenick but completely agree that choking has no place in the bedroom and people need to learn that the porn industry is not out to make them effective lovers.
This topic squicks me so bad I can't even imagine listening, but I do want to say that some people are definitely more mildly mannered... A quickie before tea...
One of my friends died while being choked during sex . Her partner was so upset he committed suicide.
Think these kids are probably really not doing this. Maybe 10%
What happen to kissing & romantic, touching.
Good afternoon Dr Reena, looking very beautiful hon ❤️
A fusion of both ruffy & gentle is the formula
How it is normal it’s depends on person choice
That seems disrespectful. If you care about someone, you want them to squirt, not pass out.
I'm so in the dark about things!
Rough sex has never been our thing and the idea of choking or being choked just blows m away.
So dangerous and I feel there are many other ways to be explore pleasure.
Thanks for bringing this up.
... are those stats just the USA ??
I am thinking about hormonal ! Exercise induced orgasms or just walking 🤷🏻♀️can happen.
Sex is a funny game every body plays in different ways
Lol what kind of chocking, I use light chocking and hair pulling, works wonders
Rough sex is not loving.
Sounds like rape culture, which can only be from porn fixation
This is similar to what they call ,the Stockholm syndrome,
It all comes down to trust, communication and consent.
It is humilitation plain and simple. This is where we are right now in this world and it is about to get worse.
A lot of this is what you get when you disconnect sex and emotions
No Thanks!
🚫 here
Sorry, Not my style
They spitting in each other's mouthes now
Well, if you get a masocist paried up with a sadist, isn't that good match? harmony? Yin and yang? Not my style, but isn't that true from a neurological psychological perspective? Or no? Then I question, should we really treat others not how you'd like to be treated? How about we treat others, how THEY would like to be treated? SOunds like a win win or am I just a psychopath lol. I'm not. Just curious and creative mind. I'm old enough to know I must question everything. Cuz we don't know jack. ;)
Good girl.
I guess I'm just some dorky dude that doesn't choke women, LOL
whoa y'all really be choking choking damn. I grab her neck but I don't try to choke. yall wild
Kissing and cuddling is okay. You should not be having partner sex until you are 18.
Anything on kidney stents, kidneys etc?
That's what they want!!!
Tricep pulldowns, I feel that all in the gonads
Punched😂 nah that's not normal.
Male/50 - Hanging leg raises, legs curled. Not friction, definitely internal. Non intentional & unexplained.
I'm not gonna watch this video (I'm your subscriber) and never would watch 'rough sex". All I need to know is that in the representation of rough sex it's always the women who are subjected to violence by men. It says a lot, and enough. (I'm a man)
Agree with you , kind of abuse.
Women have been historically been subjected to violence from men. Times change but people do not. These times will come again.
You are presuming.
A young friend of mine had never brought it up or initiated, but felt compelled to learn how to do it safely because of repeatedly having the girl request it.
It is not something I'd want to try, but some people do want it - mostly women.
Listen to what the doc is saying. (This is an INTERVIEW between medical professionals, not a demonstration!). Women are usually the ones bringing this in.
It's not normal to be violent , or rough. It's not based on love, loving care, or attentive caring Love. Otherwise based on negative , below zero attributes in relationships, that never last
That view is a bit myopic. Violence is ingrained in us evolutionarily - mammals, from kittens to monkeys play-fight constantly. It's not about abusing, but in a controlled environment, two consenting adults can play with these energies responsibly. To think that's not loving, is to assume you know what other people think and feel. Rough sex can be extremely connecting.
Well said, @ridwalkerg !
@@philosopher2kingCan you please cite studies on this? Thx
@@jaycarver4886 None baby, just a lot of loving experience.
being violent and rough is just as natural as love and sweet. Its just a preference of the two people involved, being opened minded and safety awareness.
What is the reference to VANILLA ?
It’s bland or not spicy.
@@mrnakatomi3078 Vanilla isn't bland actually it is rather strong. No one eats just pure vanilla for a reason. Wouldn't expect it to be spicy. Chocolate isn't spicy. Most things aren't spicy. So still not understanding the vanilla reference. It's really a question for the person who chose to use VANILLA as a descriptor. But thank you for your sincerity.
Good luck with your reasoning.
Its just a figure of speech. You seem to be overthinking it. It means plain or ordinary. Its an icecream reference. Not actual vanilla extract. Like vanilla is way less exciting than vanilla mixed with cookies n cream and cookie dough.
@@bigdoze172 It is not an ice cream reference. It's a vanilla reference. Actual vanilla bean ice cream is really good and flavorful. When did it start. Who started it. Who is using it. Is it a racial reference ?
YOUR NOT AFFRAID TO TALK ABOUT SEX&HAVES LOTS OF INFORMATION ABOUT THIS.I GIVES YOU LOTS OF PROPS.
I’m rock hard!!!!! 😂
These kids are really missing the point.
No, it is NOT normal.
Dr Malik I respect the hell out of you but the jokes are too easy so…
Choke me mommy Malik
Wth
I'll tell you why, people are adrenaline junkie
Sad and sick. The title alone is sickeningly sad and disgusting. Every sort of perversion with violence and life-threats is becoming more pervasive. Abominable. How is any of this acceptable? It’s the total opposite of anything related to love or being loving.
Probably a great video, but TOOOOOOO LOOOOOONG !! Just wish I had 1.5 hours to watch it. Hope you can break many of your videos that are over 30 minutes into smaller videos and also to keep our attention??
Sad.
🤮
? Is boostaro real Where is a good for a man
Retired LEO, 41 years. Being choked, slapped, hit and abused is not OK, nor is it normal. In my state we have a specific statue about choking, smothering, strangling. Short story, short. We will put you under the jail when she shows up and files a complaint.
Excellent comment Frank. I’ve seen the videos where the women almost die when they’re being choked. I have yet to see a woman choking a man. It’s really sad and scary.
That's a bit funny. As a male who was abused by a smaller female and I never raised my hand or anything else to her when she abused me, the LEOs, there was 5 of them who witnessed it, didn't show up to her charging hearing so she was let off scott free. Locally that is a huge issue based on research and interviews I've seen. Sorry but I was on the opposite side and I 100% believe that was based on my gender.
@@jdogswifty4372 That rests on a D. A. who did not issue the proper paper work that said you be in court on this date at this time. If officer did not show up it took one call to the Chief's office to rectify the situation.
God loves yall so much. I can prove it, He gave His only Son Jesus Christ down on to earth to die on the Cross FOR OUR SINS, so we could have a chance to be in Heaven
Why not advise - REDUCE CASUAL HOOKING UP …Ladies… LOWER YOUR BODY COUNT - then you would be doing these colloids a real service. 🤔🙏
@BH15829
Voice to predictive text often gets it wrong. You might have wanted a word like colleague, cohort, client, I'm certain colloid wasn't the word you intended. You can proofread before you post or send or go back and edit your comment or reply.