What Do your Sex Fantasies Mean about you? Explained by Urologist
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- Опубліковано 28 лип 2024
- Sex fantasies can be a way for people to and express their desires and needs in a safe and private way. Depending on the individuals, it may be due to several reasons such as coping up with stress and anxiety. The meaning of sexual fantasies can vary greatly from person to person, but have you ever wondered what your sex fantasies say about you? Watch as Dr. Rena Malik explains everything you need to know about fetishes.
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00:00 Introduction
00:22 Sexual Fantasy
02:00 Common Sex Fantasies
03:37 Do men and women have different fantasies?
07:03 Paraphilias
10:34 Common types of Paraphilias
13:44 Takeaway
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The truth is some fantasies are best left a fantasies.
True!!! I learned that the hard way. 😂
No, doubt be very careful about what you wish for. Whats in your brain isn't likely how it plays out in real life.😊
@@DrAJ_LatinAmericaTell us your story
At this point in my life, I'd settle for a woman holding my hand. 😢
Omg that's really "Risqué " hope it doesn't go too far
Real
based and red pilled
My fantasy is to be 25 again, and have the libido and energy of my 25-year-old self again, too. 😁😅
But the knowledge and wisdom of you right now?
Me too ! To bad there's not a way to go back without having to take the blue pill ! Ah those were the goodbole days !
I'm 28, and wish I had the libido/stamina of 18. I went downhill fast/hard at 22.
@@pointerdogmarketing2197 I didn't start going down hill till I was in my 50s but thats life !
@@HinesEdventuresdon't really think it's applicable in his case
This channel has some of the greatest B roll on YT!
Excellent topic helping people to feel normal/ok about themselves! Good job, and I learned some new things! Dr Rocket 🚀
As usual, you are spot on. Thank you, doctor
This is very informative. Thank you!
Thank you thank you Dr Rena, finally the topic I was asking for.
Hi rena!! You do everyone a great service , thankyou! 😊
Dr Malik is quite excellent, would have to totally agree fantasies we all have but doing them truly have to be agreed on by both partners fully.
Everything is normal in someone's head, it's like an introduction into either you saying yes or no concerning what you decide or enjoy.... All it says about you is you either open that door in your mind or you do not...but the one theme is that it's based upon what you either like, love, want, or decide for pleasure; as long as you control whatever limitations you have then no problem at all, the main person that must be safe is you, in mind, body, and soul.
Doctor, thank you - cant really have a conversation like this in real life.
This is the best explanation of sexual fantasies I’ve ever heard. Many thanks.
My wife's biggest fantasy is to never be touched or sat next to on the couch.
Time for a new wife?
Thanks for the excellent topic Doc!!!! I hope you have a wonderful week!!!!!❤
I still haven't figured out why I can only find her g spot on my birthday
Because "G" stands for "gift" and you're getting one from her on your birthday! 😜
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😎😎
Go to the library, lol.
😂😂😂
Sorry to break it to you but she's probably faking it for your Birthday to have an extra ego boost. Hope I'm wrong but that's what I'd suspect.
Thank you for your content. It's all very informative. If it weren't so personal, I would offer personal feedback on some of your topics, but let's face it they're all very personal topics.
As I get older... they tend to vanish
And actually I see it as a good thing 🤷♂️
Seems like a diminish in life energy
I agree! Life is more peaceful with fewer fantasies.
Same
Disagree. I don't think this will ever change.
current age p lease
You present all your videos very professionally, and content is good and well explained. It's no wonder you have 2 million subscribers. I'm learning a lot from you. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing this Rena. A reflection for me after watching - Men I've worked with who experience erection problems, often when porn related, default to fantasies, to try and 'stay in in zone' / reach climax. I have experienced this myself too.
😮 mind-blowing facts. Is it abnormal not to have fantasies?
The book was called "Men In Love" by Nancy Friday. How well I remember it from 1980 or so. She followed it up with one about women's fantasies.
My Secret Garden
I’ve always felt sexualising doctors or nurses to be out of bounds within my mind but also logically realise they are just people too… it’s a paradox.
I saw a UA-cam short last week where a female voice off screen is asking a man on screen for a complex fantasy and at the end, he asks "do you know how many felonies you just put into two sentences?" and I laughed because been there done that. I guess I have been with the wrong crowd too many times because the one I ran into too often was rape with choking involved. I had to refuse the one that wanted to pass out from asphyxia. Sex in a crowded bar with a band was almost too much. There really are some complex mental issues out there, so be safe. That said, healthy individuals with normal fantasies are as common as can be. Just need a lot of trust and a safe word if need be. Last thing anyone wants is to be my age with regrets.
Thanks doc!
As I get older they've diminished. My wife was very exploratory in our first 4 years of marriage. Got all the fantasy stuff handled. Now, after 20yrs, it's just down to business.
Lucky to still have business after 20 years
@@likearollingstone007 trust me, I'm thankful for it.
Stop juicing then it might work better..
Just saying
Divorce needed
@@damienmartin4860 divorce lol? Nah man. She's a good woman and still puts it on me 1-3 times a week.
I unfortunately let myself fall victim to the trap that is pornography. 20 years of using it as batten me to the point where fantasy became more and more bizarre, specific, and extreme. And while I still understand it's fantasy and don't actually have the desire to participate in a lot of these things, it has gotten to that point where they are intrusive and disruptive and negatively impact my actual sex life.
I have a few specific kinks that I think are ultimately harmless, but I'm on a journey now to try and let go of so many others. But that also includes trying not to beat myself up about any of it and indeed reminding myself that many times our fantasies do not actually reflect our own moral compass and who we are as a person. Having a fantasy doesn't make you bad even if it is something you might consider taboo
Ever since I started watching your channel, I've had this recurring fantasy about ...
Lame.
hype video, thanks doctor 😸
I wish this channel was around when I was younger. You could have saved me a lot of shame.
I think you got sadism and masochism mixed. Sadism is getting pleasure from inflicting pain, and masochism is getting pleasure from receiving it.
Love your channel
You are correct Doctor!
I love this channel 😁
Foot fetish is common among men but not with women as far as I know. But I haven't dated that many so I don't know. As an older guy having had a lot of bisexual experiences, it is very true that sexual fantasy does not always translate into actual experiences. And if it does, it may or may not be what you actually want.
It would be interesting to see how many people fantasize about a friend.
Or their friend's wife.
I do a lot. And it can feel hurtful for me as I can feel like a monster
@@nathanslay6342 Please don't let it make you feel like a monster :) If you're attraction leads you to people you've already built a trust and respect through friendship - I can't think of anything more pure and wholesome than that. It's a positive trait, in my mind.
For whatever reason, men and women don't always see eye to eye on this, and they don't have to. Nobody's obligated to return the attraction. But! That doesn't mean you can't feel that attraction and have that fantasy in your mind.
As a Demisexual, I only fantasise about friends 😂
No more fetishes, no more fantasies. Both very different. Done all of them and several that I shouldn't have done. Live and learn.
I am immune ; have been hypersexual since 5 - 6 , ever hated age limitation paranoyas , never needed fantasies rather did the facts. Golden Ratio ?
I've heard a number of women saying dreaming about someone else or fantasizing about someone else is cheating. I think that's ridiculous. Especially with a dream that you have no control over.
Well not dreaming but fantasizing is cheating
Because you're not loyal to the one you're making out with
Yeah some people call it emotional cheating. I guess it depends on the couple and it's good to have a discussion about what your partner considers cheating or unfaithful behaviour, as well as accepting that each might have different views on what is or what isn't. The goal is to respect each other
Yep, i mentioned a dream once and my gf got mad.
Heard several stories of women dumping a guy because she had a dream that he was banging someone else and she said thats cheating. Cant make this shit up. They are ALL crazy to one degree or another
I'd like to hear about the non-common/rarest fantasies and fetishes. I feel like I spend a fair amount of time in those places in my head. Naturally I'm not going to describe them, but let's just say they're out there.
I agree. I have a very odd fetish that only about 12 people on the internet share, it is simultaneously scary and exciting that others share my fetish.
@@YesIHaveManyProblemsThanksplease share
@@geno5169 Do you actually want to know? For starters I'm a furry, so I'm giving you a chance to walk away now.
Very interesting
Sadists inflict pain on others. You mixed them up.
It’s a true sadist who doesn’t inflict pain on a masochist.
She also got the acronym BDSM wrong:
- She said Bondage Dominance Submission and Masochism
- It really is Bondage Discipline Sadism and Masochism
@caseytaylor1487 it can be both
the opioid peptides in the VTA act as a disinhibitory mechanism to excite the mesolimbic dopamine system, facilitating the appetitive and motivational aspects of sexual behavior.
We need a video on SPH!
Thanks for these interesting insights. I think you mixed up the definition of masochism and sadism 😚
Thanks for the video.
You talked about people using fantasies to exercise control. You also talked about people fantasizing about being forced to have sex. Putting those together, I feel as if those who are having these fantasies almost seem to want to have control over someone who is forcing them. Am I understanding that correctly? Do you think that this situation is a result of some trauma in many people or is it just a random fantasy?
How much of fantasizing about sex in a great location is less a sexual fantasy and more a daydream about life in general? For instance, someone who lives in a trailer park may dream about finding success and moving to nice house on a hill with plenty of land. That person is also likely to fantasize about having sex in that great home. To me, the sexual part of that would feel like an extension of the overall fantasy of achieving great financial success. Having sex on the back porch of a place like that with no one around for miles is probably more private than having sex in the bedroom of a trailer, so I wouldn't see that as exhibitionist. I would tend just to see the whole thing as a fantasy about being successful. Do you think that the success fantasy is necessarily sexual even when one isn't fantasizing about having sex?
8:46 i want those researchers to do an AMA
I'm very curious as to how this study would turn out if it were done in 2024...
Re.: The domination fantasy by women and men, my theory is this is engrained in the brain from 1000s of years ago, litterally from stone ages. But, how is it passed along to newborns!? I am stuck there.
Thanks
For me it is Asian women, Korean, Japanese and Chinese
me too. Asian women are just special
Don't forget about the Filipinas.
@blumpkinspicelatte4580 my sister-in-law is Filipina, I can't forget them even if I tried
I'm folloving a korean travel vlog and she is in Indonesia traveling There. In the last video, there was a beautiful woman of indonesian origin 😊❤ wow.
Just be careful not to fetishize. There’s a thin line between finding certain races attractive and taking it too far and being racist. If you like Asian women because you imagine them to fit stereotypes like being submissive or “exotic” etc, make sure those biases are not spilling into real life interactions.
Great ❤
Doc when are covering Topics tht relate to Fertility, & topics around it
I will have an expert on the podcast to cover it in the summer time likely!
Did he the study address or control for the fact that you’re telling people about the thing you’re asking them about? If a participant wasn’t aware of a particular fantasy I could imagine their responses being different once they are aware. In other words the study may be affecting the results. Did they discuss this?
My fantasy is where my girlfriend dresses up as a brick, and I dress up as the bricklayer.
Who's on top?
You madlad lol
Thank you Dr. Why are so many of us men obsessed with female feet?
👍
Nerves from the feet run close to nerves from the genitals in the spine. In some people the nerves run closer than in others.
There was a case described in medical literature, of a woman who had orgasms in her foot.
Foot fantasies are normal for a significant minority of the population. I prefer hands to feet, but as long as you get pleasure from your fantasies, you're doing a good job.
I'm not... 😐
Probably when you were a baby you spent too much time at your mothers feet🤷♂️
Very interesting speculation. Anyway, much more than 50% of men, like female feet. Many are obsessed with female feet. So much so, that there are many female feet websites.@@lxportugal9343
Is like to know why people like it too. I have zero interest in them. Maybe something to do with women usually wanting to be so clean and beautiful and feet are the opposite of that.
I have a very weird tendency. When I have s (even with a beautiful girl), I often fantasize about random girls I see in public on that random day. It's so weird; and it happens at least 90% of the times.
Fine presentation, and wise to stress the population and volunteer bias risk.
The word "creepy" has now left the vocabulary. 😂😂😂
How dare you kink-shame me? /S😅
Did you reverse sadism and masochism?
I wonder what my chocolate star fish fantasies say about me
Well now i feel worse because she didn’t mention my fantasy I must be a weirdo 😂
Hello from Boulder-Denver
Fantasies or fetishes?
I think they are different. Fetishes don’t have to be tied to fantasies
How about with nurses or PAs in a doctor's office.
Who liked my post?
Doc you missed out SPH
What would reality show if there were not only a like but also an eaculations button ?
Who else is here to read creepy comments 😂😅
This is the first thing that popped up after watching the P Diddy incident
Hey Doc, can plan B pills be used just prior to intercourse?
Isn’t sadism and masochism exactly the opposite of what she said?
Isn’t that a psychologist domain?
I'm fantasy about my therapist this feeling wrong is this a sin
What should I do
hmmmmm🤔🤔🤔, i wont tell mine
Nice. I believe if you are in a trusted relationship talking it out is best practice. Most folks do not. Uptight? I suppose that is accurate term. My 20 year wife is tight lipped. Before her I had relationships that were more rewarding with females that would share what they were wanting or fantasizing about wanting. As a good non-judgmental partner I would support and try to accommodate their desires/needs. My two cents
is being a virgin a bad thing?
I’m really self conscious about myself
NO, best off staying that way.
Too late ! You can only fantasize about it now.😂
What's bad is having sex with someone, who you don't feel safe with, or sexually attracted to.
You can have so much pleasure from exploring your sexual imagination, then when you meet someone right for you, you'll start to build up your experiences.
Also, some people are asexual, and they don't feel sexual arousal, or desire for a sexual relationship. And that's totally okay too.
It’s a Headache than can get Expensive.
Unfortunately society has this belief that it is when there's nothing wrong or inappropriate about it.
The choice is yours but from my experience when I lost mine at 25 it didn't feel as good as everyone made it out to be and honestly it felt pointless like it wasn't the right time, if you choose too and that happens don't beat yourself up over it. We're not perfect and I certainly tried to wait.
If you want to wait till marriage I 100% recommend doing it! One of the things I do that helps is that even though I did it I never done it without condoms because STDs, child support slavery, or being helpless to save the unborn child is no fun and only my future wife will have the option of absolutely no birth control and I at least have that going forward.
I hope what I have said helps you and anyone else who reads this
Sadists enjoy giving pain, or others being in pain.
Ugh so I have not necessarily a fantasy seemed like a great idea I keep trying to do it with strangers on apps not of the sex I’m interested in I tried it hated it freaked out still tried to do it but constantly stoped myself tried it again over the years 4 more times hate it not aroused not enjoying it nada but I constantly keep trying to do it cus it seems like a great idea for about 5 min I’ve literally been on my way over and realized what I was doing and cancelled yes I have a therapist but is this a fetish? is my question
It sounds like you are trying to convince yourself of something you should do instead of actually doing what you want to do.
I literally don’t Wana do it it just seems like a good idea 🤷♂️
When it comes to the results of these studies, I suspect the details matter. It would be interesting, for example, to see the differences between "heterosexual male" vs. "homosexual male", etc. Also, when males say they want to have sex with a non-genital body part, are we primarily talking about the breasts (TF) or the armpit? I suspect the former. 😂
That just about covers all kinds of fantasies 😅
It’s best to keep fantasies in your head. In reality it creates nothing but problems and regret.
My only regret is me and my wife didnt try some of our fantasies i wanted to she did not ! Now 60 and the thoughts are still there but no action from her in yrs ! Marriage has been a dry run these last 15 to 20 yrs ! Good luck to those young married couples !
Thank you for leaving a link to sex therapists. I could use some help.
Turn on by body parts not nesesory considered sexual in nature ??
Like what ?
I'm from Quebec, ask me anything weird
Thank You Dr. Malik 😊 Sexual Fantasies are mind set; pornography is another person fantasies on film?
Many years ago a woman writer put out a book of men's sexual fantasies that she got by putting ads in various places. (She had an usual name like "Sunday"). It was such a hit that she then put out another book asking for women's sexual fantasies. Of course they were all very interesting but only people who could express themselves in writing were considered,. Also, it was only of folks who saw the ads asking for their contribution. What surprised her was that there was literally no women writing in saying that they had a rape fantasy of any kind. This must have been maybe 30 years ago.
The author's name is Nancy Friday.
Do you remember that book? It was 1980 or so
@@alg11297 Yes. It was called "Men in Love."
Oh how times hwve changed. Thus further proves that either women kept more to themselves for being embarrassed or shamed or the social engineering through media has really developed the minds of women today.
My Secret Garden
I asked my wife if she has fantasy’s ! She said no! I wish only she did! I fantasize about her and other things! I tell her about them too! Not all of them
She does she just wont say. Most women are like that and She most likely did all those things before she met you.
Pretty much everything i want these days revolves around CFNM and most prettymuch all i would make a reality.
Hello
I don't think I have fantasies I have not done, I was once in straight relationships with men before I knew who I was, all my fantasies at the time were me being a man and being with woman, I dated lesbians then found my wife, then involved her on how far she would tolerate me presenting as a man. My reality arouses me. We have many options on how to have sex which keeps it fun, but no more fantasies. Ecstasy
Still didn't say what it meant
When you talk in your sleep, God forbid you have any fantasies at all.
I feel a lot of guilt when I have a fantasy not involving my wife.
My wife put A1 steak sauce on me, it was weird. She almost bit me. We enjoyed Nutella though. Lol!
Do psychoanalysis to find out
The thumbnail looked like purple donuts. I thought it was a donut fantasy. Lol
That would be Homer Simpson's fantasy!
I found it interesting that fantasizing about having sex with another person is not considered cheating. I wonder if most people would agree. Having a fantasy about a celebrity, probably not. Having a fantasy about a coworker could be a problem for the relationship.
It depends if it becomes an obsession.
If a woman has the fantasy, it isn't cheating, but if her lover has the fantasy, then it is cheating..... so I have been told by women.
@@danielessex2162
Stop it, no one reasonable is saying that .
@valdius85 My ex-wife, two female cousins, an ex-girl friend, and several coworkers..... all women, makes sense they aren't reasonable. My ex-wife wanted to stab me one morning because she had a dream I was talking to another woman. She claimed it was the same as cheating.....
You are my fantasy Dr. Malik
Sadism == pleasure from inflicting pain on _others..._
Apologies for being insufferably pedantic, it's like a compulsion. ☺
no problem, appreciate the correction!