I love this saying that I heard years ago: "Smart women chose men that make their lives easier!" Why be involved with someone who makes you feel like you are constantly swimming upstream? It's draining😤😕😒as hell... Life is tough enough without that...A friend of mine mentioned the other day that toxic relationships can be just as comfortable for some people as good ones. Don't get complacent! Wake up!!!
Disposition, fascinating. Makes so much sense. Basically, be with a person who brings the best out of you and be the person who bring the best out of people. Thank you Susan, I have been learning so much from you!
+Marina Kurban HI Marina. I appreciate your note. I really wanted to do this video (and write the article) because it seemed no one was talking about this important factor. I'm pleased that it resonated for you! All the best. Susan
So true, they say that "opposites attract", but if your opposite qualities don't compliment each other, it can turn a relationship toxic. My ex was a deceitful person, and I am honest. I chose constantly to think the best, to believe the explanations, to blame myself for "misunderstanding" when the reality was he changed the goal posts to suit himself at every possible chance and blame me for trying to make him accountable. Toxic and not compatible. Some qualities need their opposites, others don't. I really like this idea of "disposition". Complimentary dispositions is definitely what I'm seeking, and you've given me a name for the idea I had in my head about what I wanted but couldn't quite articulate. Thank you!
Susan, I love your videos, I watch them every day. I just sent this one to my girl who broke up with me tonight. It was so spot on accurate I just had to send it to her. She talks about how important communication is in our relationship, but then she flat out refuses to engage in it. Ive never been more confused in my life. Thank you for what you do, you are awesome.
This really resonated with me. I never realized it but my last relationship didn't work because I ignored the fact that our dispositions were mismatched.
thank you thank you thank you, I gave it all and he was just negative, critical, manipulative and he used to say I was the light he was dark and was proud to be on the dark side, who needs that? its murky, slime , sticky unhealthy toxic energy...I am recovering at last from the mess.
I have an interesting anecdote to add to that. My ex brought out the absolute best of me, I was flying. She saw the best I could be. Then one day at the peak of this, she suddenly became indifferent and well, that was the end of that. Oh yes, I asked what had happened but she couldn't offer even one word, so I fired her on the spot. I mean, that was all I could be and it wasn't enough for her? I realised that I had always been the sunshine in that relationship. What she lacked, and it was alot, I more than made up for. In essence, I believed in myself and she was the fake catalyst. Yes, it was an illusion I had created for myself. I did the inner work and found during that time I lacked 'self', thats why I attracted her, and thats why all the above happened. I'm in a much better place now and the new girl is a full cup. I don't recognise the old me, he is gone, forever. God bless.
I like that you say you give ample information and communicate. That's where I come from and stressing communication and needs in a relationship. This one that's just blown up on me, my ex said she shouldn't have to tell me what she wants and needs and I should just know and would get hysterical about it when I said let's talk and learn each other through communicating with time.
Rich, that's magical thinking. Women wrongly assume a man becomes telepathic when he cares for them. Not so. We all assume until told otherwise. You're correct. This lady is not.
Rick, Ive been through the exact some thing with my woman, Ive literally begged her to communicate with me so that we can 'learn" each other, but it never happened. You are not alone brother
Susan you are amazing I wish I had found your videos years ago but in the positive light at least I finally did. Thank you!!!!! You have helped me in so many ways, you didn't draw a road map to steer me instead you opened my mind to realize who I am and what I have to offer. It is difficult but with your wisdom I don't feel lost in the darkness. I feel I can get back up after a set back and regroup and try another approach. Again thank you so much.
There's that saying "sunny disposition" speaks for itself :) I'd say in general i'm a happy positive person, I have my down days but externally I like to come across as happy and pleasant. My ex husband was a bit of a drama a queen, we'd be stuck in traffic, just regular traffic and his attitude was, we're never going to get out of this, blah blah blah, and I knew in a few minutes we would be out of it..They have to get you and you have to get them...
I know I'm late, but this is phenomenal advice. I have always felt that a great relationship is one where ur partner or yourself can humble yourself and not add fuel to the fire. Being patient with each other, although hard is wonderful. If I'm upset than he should be calm and vice versa.
Amazing speech Susan! Very wise and so true x Being a light for somebody at a longer distance is exhausting.. just experience this recently... we are no longer together.. x
I love your videos, clear, honest, empowering the self! No strategies or games! Just be who you are, empower yourself, change yourself if you want a different change outside! I would love to have a coaching session with you! Thank you 🙏🏻💖
My ex exactly and I ignored this for years and years and had four kids with him. the young guy im with today just 'gets ' me simple. My oldest daughter who is actually the same age as my parnter is going through the same thing and is so hard to see her suffer as i have for so long. I still say 'sorry' and i need to stop doing this as is a learned habit from many years to keep ex happy. You can only walk on 'eggshells' for so long. I can be who the hell i want for the first time in my entire life. now having similar problems with my only son who live with his dad now full time and brings all his shit to my place. I have shut off weekends with him for now until he realizes what he is doing as is very harmful for my mental well being which has taken a 'beating' over the years and is still recovering. And the poeple who unlike this video are living in DENAIL SIMPLE. why deny your own happiness and feeling secure and loved and cherished and valued and worshipped and treated like a 'goddess' instead of having SHIT dumped on you for so many years cause they aint happy. STUFF THAT. Live your life for you not a person who diminishes who you are but a person who brings out the very best in you not the worst.
Hi Colette, I read your comments after watching this video way back then, and you resonated with me as you do now. Dropping the habit of saying sorry is simply a matter of self talk. I did the same to myself for years by calling myself some dumb name whenever I made a mistake. I finally dropped that bad habit just recently. Took me about six solid months but I did it! Have you given any thought to attending some counseling with your children as a group? That could help you all undue your ex's pain maybe? I hope you are still with that cool you guy. We all deserve to be happy and adored! Im about to unchain myself from my mismatched disposition of a partner here very soon. Your words gave me some strength at 55! Be well , and good luck to you and yours.
@@FIGGY65 tried counselling when first left him, didn't work, prefer to talk to the few I do trust and attend a art class which helps, as have found art is therapy . My son does not stay anymore and have cut contact with three of them and only one i now talk to, who like me avoids her dad like the plague. Good luck to you, your going to need it. Been through hell, and sickness and homelessness to get where I am today. Still need a better place to live and I rent still at 52. One day at a time.
Susan. How u r always so spot on. How u got all the answers. Ur videos r so much empowering. It not only soothes the pain of breakup but also stimulates hopes that we can get what we deserve. There's absolutely no need to go back to a toxic, self centered, hot & cold ex. Can you also do a video on "how to get over the feeling when u r cheated upon" its the most painful form of break up.
Agreed! My best self is joyful and big-spirited and curious. Sounds great, but many people do not have room in their life for someone like me. Unhappy people either feel a) threatened or b) calmed by me, depending on how much they identify with their unhappiness. Either way, I want a partner who is also happy and big-spirited and curious.
i get ur point, were filipino/indians n yet we both compromise to understand each other, n lucky he accept my negativity n so am i, we sit down n talk after n we much love n understan for being true n real
Thank you for this video. I intuitively picked up on many dispositions on a woman that I had very strong feelings for. Her disrespectful behaviour confirmed my intuition. I thought that I could help her but it would have hollowed me out. The disposition was too great. Your video helped me further understand my actions. Many thanks Mal
Great advice distilled by wisdom and experience. No wonder, Susan, you are such a great relationship guru. Love is two persons in one and not about oneself--reach out to the person you love, give, encourage, cherish, nurture and strengthen each other. The Chinese character for kindness is 'Ren' is made up of two characters--on the left is the character 'person' (man) and the right two lines =so kindness is about 2 persons. I am really glad to have known you all this while and wish you greater success. Peter, Melbourne
+Peter Lim Thank you for your comment and for writing to me. Peter, what a beautiful post-with the inclusion of the meaning of the Chinese character, Ren. We all thank you for this share. So happy we've connected over the years. Your poetry and letters are always filled with information that enriches my life. Happy to know you enjoy this video!!
Thank you Peter for sharing! ~~~ I have never thought of the word 'ren' in such an in-depth manner. It's certainly enlightening and something we should strive to be. Interestingly, the word 'ren', on the right side, the two lines- the bottom line is longer than the top one, supporting it; which makes it interesting and I only thought about it now. Thanks Susan! I was just absorbing the words of the video. I don't have any questions mainly coz I think I just need to jump out of my patterns instead of getting into thinking. ~~^^~~ Xx
Thank you Peter for sharing! ~~~ I have never thought of the word 'ren' in such an in-depth manner. It's certainly enlightening and something we should strive to be. Interestingly, the word 'ren', on the right side, the two lines- the bottom line is longer than the top one, supporting it; which makes it interesting and I only thought about it now. Thanks Susan! I was just absorbing the words of the video. I don't have any questions mainly coz I think I just need to jump out of my patterns instead of getting into thinking. ~~^^~~ Xx
Thank you Peter for sharing! ~~~ I have never thought of the word 'ren' in such an in-depth manner. It's certainly enlightening and something we should strive to be. Interestingly, the word 'ren', on the right side, the two lines- the bottom line is longer than the top one, supporting it; which makes it interesting. I only thought about it now. Thanks Susan! I was just absorbing the words of the video. I don't have any questions mainly coz I think I just need to jump out of my patterns instead of getting into thinking. ~~^^~~ Xx
+Kasandra H, I discovered Peter on social media. I can't even remember which site, as I have 15. He's lovely. A poet, and a kind soul. Deep as a human, and wildly generous with his support. Like yourself, he sends a note after he receives the Monday Motivation. I just live this aspect of modern life. I'd never have been able to connect with Peter or yourself, otherwise. Big hug to you!!
Your videos are so smart and authentic with very real situational advice. I really appreciate it. Yes, it is so important to not only know yourself but also to know what you can handle and want in your partner.
I thought it was him but I realize it was me as my disposition really stunk while separated and going into my divorce. My long time friend tried to keep it all cheery but perhaps he felt it was too much although I pulled out of the depression and confusion but by then, he was emotionally spent. He was positive, found solutions, gave me encouragement and constructive feedback. He was a friend. I miss him but we're in very limited contact.
Can you please give me a answer as to how you realised that was you in disposition with the guy? And how you break though and what course of action have you taken to changed your disposition? I been stuck in loop over and over again couldn't see a solution with a woman and how do you think I can help me & her change the disposition and saw the value in it. How do you get the point you willing to change and saw an opportunity in value to positive light? Thank you.
I always say I have an underlying temper but it’s hard to get it to the surface. If someone is bringing my temper to the surface consistently, it’s times to pack my bags and go
Thank god I found you. The other coaches weren't for me. Too many games...exhausting. It was game after game...total nonsense for a 47 year old like me. You're material works and makes sense.
Hi Susan you nailed it again. I have had people in my life that did let me be myself and feel at peace and I got along really well. But of course I always got to go for the complicated guy hahaha. Who is Grumpy disgruntled just generally unhappy. This little character start out quite Charming at first however. But you're right it is where you have to be the happy up one while they get to go around being grumpy and mean all they want. It keeps you on eggshells, you don't feel like yourself constantly people-pleasing. This video lets me know that I need to hone down on people that will accept my traits and treat me kindly. I'm tired of those Bad Boys. They may be fun but they'll wear you out trying to keep all the balls juggled in the air
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insights and experience. This was powerful, this is the most important part of a relationship. I will be on guard with this awareness. Blessings.
Hello, dear Susan, please give us tips how to always have healthy thoughts like you? It's hard to always be positive and have healthy thoughts like that for me and some people. That's why I always look for inspiration from you. Thank you.
"So it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever. You and me... everyday." The Notebook (2004)
This is one of your best videos! Seeing that this video was made 4 years ago Susan, would you add any other critical elements that are necessary for a successful relationship than disposition??!
Thank you Peter for sharing! ~~~ I have never thought of the word 'ren' in such an in-depth manner. It's certainly enlightening and something we should strive to be. Interestingly, the word 'ren', on the right side, the two lines- the bottom line is longer than the top one, supporting it; which makes it interesting. I only thought about it now. Thanks Susan! I was just absorbing the words of the video. I don't have any questions mainly coz I think I just need to jump out of my patterns instead of getting into thinking. ~~^^~~ Xx
+Kasandra H Thanks, Kasandra---yes, the bottom line is LONGER...I can sense you are an intelligent and perceptive person. I learn a lot from Susan. We have only one life and owe ourselves the duty to be free and happy. It's an ugly and miserable world--we have to find meaning within ourselves and make the best of our resources. My family and I live in Melbourne. I am mainly a composer and singer.
+Peter Lim Hi Peter. You've sparked an interesting conversation here. I enjoy the fact that everyone can get to know each other. Thank you for your kind words!
If disposition is the issue. 15 year marraige. Still both committed. How do we fix it. Need more videos on this please. He's the day dreamer. I'm the black n white realist goal oriented results driven.
100% I feel that Emotional Intelligence is a course that should be taught at high school level, maybe earlier. Goes a long way in being successful with our relations with others.
When you find the ONE with the disposition that matches and you know it and all other conversations are fun, honest, open...you have opened the gates...that said, is there ever a bad time for all of this to happen...if divorced and split from...kids...all of the things that pile up in the previous life...but is still there to deal with. And you find the ONE or re-discover each other...can it work out? Do we get do overs or a chance to make it right?
We met so long ago in a business relationship and really enjoyed each others company for a few years before each going our own way but we all know when we know...you know? Then almost 30 years later we have started touching base, had lunch a few times and even had a charity golf outing together...Kids come first at this time, for both of us. I need to stay connected for the next chapter and hopefully its a great one! :)
Well, It is actually hard to know what the other persons disposition really is. So often what they display in the beginning is actually the opposite of their true nature. When you’ve invested years in a relationship, only to discover the true character he has been trying so hard to conceal... it is devastating. I find that I now just assume that someone’s initial presentation is the opposite of who they are, and i’m not willing to enter into anything beyond a few dates. I feel very jaded and mistrustful!! Help!
“You can only be somebody else’s light for so long.”
I found the X was constantly dimming my light to outshine me,
Shine on ✊
This video should be mandatory for every couple thinking about a future together. Amen Susan.
I love this saying that I heard years ago: "Smart women chose men that make their lives easier!" Why be involved with someone who makes you feel like you are constantly swimming upstream? It's draining😤😕😒as hell... Life is tough enough without that...A friend of mine mentioned the other day that toxic relationships can be just as comfortable for some people as good ones. Don't get complacent! Wake up!!!
You never talk nonsense. Amazing
True that. She is very common sense-oriented.
Disposition, fascinating. Makes so much sense. Basically, be with a person who brings the best out of you and be the person who bring the best out of people. Thank you Susan, I have been learning so much from you!
+Marina Kurban HI Marina. I appreciate your note. I really wanted to do this video (and write the article) because it seemed no one was talking about this important factor. I'm pleased that it resonated for you! All the best. Susan
"Disposition" I've been looking for this word since my divorce, thanks Susan!
being myself with someone is key for me.
Absolutely!
I knew that was what was always missing
OMG. I have been a "cheerleader" in so many relationships. Thank you for opening my eyes.
So true, they say that "opposites attract", but if your opposite qualities don't compliment each other, it can turn a relationship toxic. My ex was a deceitful person, and I am honest. I chose constantly to think the best, to believe the explanations, to blame myself for "misunderstanding" when the reality was he changed the goal posts to suit himself at every possible chance and blame me for trying to make him accountable. Toxic and not compatible. Some qualities need their opposites, others don't. I really like this idea of "disposition". Complimentary dispositions is definitely what I'm seeking, and you've given me a name for the idea I had in my head about what I wanted but couldn't quite articulate. Thank you!
Susan, I love your videos, I watch them every day. I just sent this one to my girl who broke up with me tonight. It was so spot on accurate I just had to send it to her. She talks about how important communication is in our relationship, but then she flat out refuses to engage in it. Ive never been more confused in my life. Thank you for what you do, you are awesome.
Always look at people's actions not their words. The man always has to work hard to pull it out of them or they won't talk.
The thing I appreciate in my relationships..is basic Honesty and Consideration.
Basic honesty doesn't exist. Honesty is honesty, wholly
This should be a mandatory video for everyone entering a relationship. Amazing to-the-point advice! Truth!
This really resonated with me. I never realized it but my last relationship didn't work because I ignored the fact that our dispositions were mismatched.
susan you are the most intelligent woman I ever seen on UA-cam , your words are so soft and warm
Thank you. Your advice is ALWAYS classy and on point.
thank you thank you thank you, I gave it all and he was just negative, critical, manipulative and he used to say I was the light he was dark and was proud to be on the dark side, who needs that? its murky, slime , sticky unhealthy toxic energy...I am recovering at last from the mess.
Life is tough enough as it is. I love this saying: "Smart women chose men who make their lives easier!" 😀
This is a very important point. If someone doesn’t bring out the best in you, you’re probably not right for each other.
I have an interesting anecdote to add to that. My ex brought out the absolute best of me, I was flying. She saw the best I could be. Then one day at the peak of this, she suddenly became indifferent and well, that was the end of that. Oh yes, I asked what had happened but she couldn't offer even one word, so I fired her on the spot. I mean, that was all I could be and it wasn't enough for her? I realised that I had always been the sunshine in that relationship. What she lacked, and it was alot, I more than made up for. In essence, I believed in myself and she was the fake catalyst. Yes, it was an illusion I had created for myself. I did the inner work and found during that time I lacked 'self', thats why I attracted her, and thats why all the above happened. I'm in a much better place now and the new girl is a full cup. I don't recognise the old me, he is gone, forever. God bless.
I like that you say you give ample information and communicate. That's where I come from and stressing communication and needs in a relationship. This one that's just blown up on me, my ex said she shouldn't have to tell me what she wants and needs and I should just know and would get hysterical about it when I said let's talk and learn each other through communicating with time.
Rich, that's magical thinking. Women wrongly assume a man becomes telepathic when he cares for them. Not so. We all assume until told otherwise. You're correct. This lady is not.
still married and chasing her?
nice
Rick, Ive been through the exact some thing with my woman, Ive literally begged her to communicate with me so that we can 'learn" each other, but it never happened. You are not alone brother
Susan you are amazing I wish I had found your videos years ago but in the positive light at least I finally did. Thank you!!!!! You have helped me in so many ways, you didn't draw a road map to steer me instead you opened my mind to realize who I am and what I have to offer. It is difficult but with your wisdom I don't feel lost in the darkness. I feel I can get back up after a set back and regroup and try another approach. Again thank you so much.
I think this is the most important factors in comfortable long term relationship. Trust being the first.
Each time I watch even the same video, I learn something new! Thanks Susan! These are great information!
Thank you Victoria!
There's that saying "sunny disposition" speaks for itself :) I'd say in general i'm a happy positive person, I have my down days but externally I like to come across as happy and pleasant. My ex husband was a bit of a drama a queen, we'd be stuck in traffic, just regular traffic and his attitude was, we're never going to get out of this, blah blah blah, and I knew in a few minutes we would be out of it..They have to get you and you have to get them...
You have a very sunny disposition!
I know I'm late, but this is phenomenal advice. I have always felt that a great relationship is one where ur partner or yourself can humble yourself and not add fuel to the fire. Being patient with each other, although hard is wonderful. If I'm upset than he should be calm and vice versa.
Amazing speech Susan! Very wise and so true x Being a light for somebody at a longer distance is exhausting.. just experience this recently... we are no longer together.. x
I wish you well!
Disposition makes so much sense as a top quality for a relationship, I feel like I have that, thank you !
I love your videos, clear, honest, empowering the self! No strategies or games! Just be who you are, empower yourself, change yourself if you want a different change outside!
I would love to have a coaching session with you!
Thank you 🙏🏻💖
Susan you are the voice of reason and confirm my own logic and instinct. A pleasure to listen to you. Thank you.
Really profound yet simple advice for all relationships. Thank you Susan.
Thank you Kelly!
Such great insight! Thank you! Your short 5-min videos are so powerful and effective in delivering important messages.
My ex exactly and I ignored this for years and years and had four kids with him. the young guy im with today just 'gets ' me simple. My oldest daughter who is actually the same age as my parnter is going through the same thing and is so hard to see her suffer as i have for so long. I still say 'sorry' and i need to stop doing this as is a learned habit from many years to keep ex happy. You can only walk on 'eggshells' for so long. I can be who the hell i want for the first time in my entire life. now having similar problems with my only son who live with his dad now full time and brings all his shit to my place. I have shut off weekends with him for now until he realizes what he is doing as is very harmful for my mental well being which has taken a 'beating' over the years and is still recovering. And the poeple who unlike this video are living in DENAIL SIMPLE. why deny your own happiness and feeling secure and loved and cherished and valued and worshipped and treated like a 'goddess' instead of having SHIT dumped on you for so many years cause they aint happy. STUFF THAT. Live your life for you not a person who diminishes who you are but a person who brings out the very best in you not the worst.
Hi Colette, I read your comments after watching this video way back then, and you resonated with me as you do now. Dropping the habit of saying sorry is simply a matter of self talk. I did the same to myself for years by calling myself some dumb name whenever I made a mistake. I finally dropped that bad habit just recently. Took me about six solid months but I did it! Have you given any thought to attending some counseling with your children as a group? That could help you all undue your ex's pain maybe? I hope you are still with that cool you guy. We all deserve to be happy and adored! Im about to unchain myself from my mismatched disposition of a partner here very soon. Your words gave me some strength at 55! Be well , and good luck to you and yours.
@@FIGGY65 tried counselling when first left him, didn't work, prefer to talk to the few I do trust and attend a art class which helps, as have found art is therapy . My son does not stay anymore and have cut contact with three of them and only one i now talk to, who like me avoids her dad like the plague. Good luck to you, your going to need it. Been through hell, and sickness and homelessness to get where I am today. Still need a better place to live and I rent still at 52. One day at a time.
@@coletteannemaud1340 I wish you all the best! Stay with your art. It's awesome therapy, and you will survive. Thank you for you kind words !
Susan. How u r always so spot on. How u got all the answers. Ur videos r so much empowering. It not only soothes the pain of breakup but also stimulates hopes that we can get what we deserve. There's absolutely no need to go back to a toxic, self centered, hot & cold ex.
Can you also do a video on "how to get over the feeling when u r cheated upon" its the most painful form of break up.
Agreed! My best self is joyful and big-spirited and curious. Sounds great, but many people do not have room in their life for someone like me. Unhappy people either feel a) threatened or b) calmed by me, depending on how much they identify with their unhappiness. Either way, I want a partner who is also happy and big-spirited and curious.
i get ur point, were filipino/indians n yet we both compromise to understand each other, n lucky he accept my negativity n so am i,
we sit down n talk after n we much love n understan for being true n real
This is a wonderful foundation that will serve you both well. I'm very pleased to hear about this.
Very informative!! Thank u for sharing ur wisdom!!
U look absolutely stunning in this btw!! 🌸
All the Best~
Whispering Wind , So sweet! Thank you!. I appreciate your input. 😊
A great point to consider when looking for your next relationship. I will keep this in mind. Thanks Susan!
You're welcome, Victoria.
I never realized how important this is.
Excellent advice. You think this would be obvious to us all. But it is so often overlooked....
Thank you Susan
This is so important!
Thanks for drawing attention to it!
Wow!!! This is exactly what I'm looking for....
I'm glad, Sherry.
Thank you for this video. I intuitively picked up on many dispositions on a woman that I had very strong feelings for. Her disrespectful behaviour confirmed my intuition. I thought that I could help her but it would have hollowed me out. The disposition was too great. Your video helped me further understand my actions. Many thanks Mal
Great advice distilled by wisdom and experience. No wonder, Susan, you are such a great relationship guru. Love is two persons in one and not about oneself--reach out to the person you love, give, encourage, cherish, nurture and strengthen each other.
The Chinese character for kindness is 'Ren' is made up of two characters--on the left is the character 'person' (man) and the right two lines =so kindness is about 2 persons.
I am really glad to have known you all this while and wish you greater success. Peter, Melbourne
+Peter Lim Thank you for your comment and for writing to me. Peter, what a beautiful post-with the inclusion of the meaning of the Chinese character, Ren. We all thank you for this share. So happy we've connected over the years. Your poetry and letters are always filled with information that enriches my life. Happy to know you enjoy this video!!
Thank you Peter for sharing! ~~~ I have never thought of the word 'ren' in such an in-depth manner. It's certainly enlightening and something we should strive to be. Interestingly, the word 'ren', on the right side, the two lines- the bottom line is longer than the top one, supporting it; which makes it interesting and I only thought about it now. Thanks Susan! I was just absorbing the words of the video. I don't have any questions mainly coz I think I just need to jump out of my patterns instead of getting into thinking. ~~^^~~ Xx
Thank you Peter for sharing! ~~~ I have never thought of the word 'ren' in such an in-depth manner. It's certainly enlightening and something we should strive to be. Interestingly, the word 'ren', on the right side, the two lines- the bottom line is longer than the top one, supporting it; which makes it interesting and I only thought about it now. Thanks Susan! I was just absorbing the words of the video. I don't have any questions mainly coz I think I just need to jump out of my patterns instead of getting into thinking. ~~^^~~ Xx
Thank you Peter for sharing! ~~~ I have never thought of the word 'ren' in such an in-depth manner. It's certainly enlightening and something we should strive to be. Interestingly, the word 'ren', on the right side, the two lines- the bottom line is longer than the top one, supporting it; which makes it interesting. I only thought about it now. Thanks Susan! I was just absorbing the words of the video. I don't have any questions mainly coz I think I just need to jump out of my patterns instead of getting into thinking. ~~^^~~ Xx
+Kasandra H, I discovered Peter on social media. I can't even remember which site, as I have 15. He's lovely. A poet, and a kind soul. Deep as a human, and wildly generous with his support. Like yourself, he sends a note after he receives the Monday Motivation. I just live this aspect of modern life. I'd never have been able to connect with Peter or yourself, otherwise. Big hug to you!!
Your videos are so smart and authentic with very real situational advice. I really appreciate it. Yes, it is so important to not only know yourself but also to know what you can handle and want in your partner.
I'm sharing this video with everyone I know today! This is by far, easily, one of your top 5 videos on UA-cam. Thank you so much, Susan!
I thought it was him but I realize it was me as my disposition really stunk while separated and going into my divorce. My long time friend tried to keep it all cheery but perhaps he felt it was too much although I pulled out of the depression and confusion but by then, he was emotionally spent. He was positive, found solutions, gave me encouragement and constructive feedback. He was a friend. I miss him but we're in very limited contact.
Can you please give me a answer as to how you realised that was you in disposition with the guy? And how you break though and what course of action have you taken to changed your disposition?
I been stuck in loop over and over again couldn't see a solution with a woman and how do you think I can help me & her change the disposition and saw the value in it. How do you get the point you willing to change and saw an opportunity in value to positive light? Thank you.
I had a love who brought out the worst in me. I still love her with all my heart but now as friends. Great video.
So valuable
Great insights and advice- thanks Susan
True. The partner which brings best in us is the right partner.
I am happy to learn from you. Great topic. More improvement relationship topics please❤
Thanks Kim
I always say I have an underlying temper but it’s hard to get it to the surface. If someone is bringing my temper to the surface consistently, it’s times to pack my bags and go
Thank god I found you. The other coaches weren't for me. Too many games...exhausting. It was game after game...total nonsense for a 47 year old like me. You're material works and makes sense.
I know someone who can help you
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Hi Susan you nailed it again. I have had people in my life that did let me be myself and feel at peace and I got along really well. But of course I always got to go for the complicated guy hahaha. Who is Grumpy disgruntled just generally unhappy. This little character start out quite Charming at first however. But you're right it is where you have to be the happy up one while they get to go around being grumpy and mean all they want. It keeps you on eggshells, you don't feel like yourself constantly people-pleasing. This video lets me know that I need to hone down on people that will accept my traits and treat me kindly. I'm tired of those Bad Boys. They may be fun but they'll wear you out trying to keep all the balls juggled in the air
Omg yes. Being loved for all my weird quirks is so important to me! Let me be the failed rockstar I never got to be around you!
I love that video, it brings out a new view, thank you!!
Thank you for sharing your knowledge and insights and experience. This was powerful, this is the most important part of a relationship. I will be on guard with this awareness. Blessings.
Thanks for this one I am I the divorcing phase for the very reasons you explain here
Absolutely love u. Thanku...deeply. ur a TRUE blessing ❤
Hello Susan! What you said in this video was extremely valuable!!
I love your pod! You are amazing how you put things in to perspective and easy to understand!
You're the best, Susan. So enlightening.
I Loveeee this video. I have learn a lot!! Thank you, Susan💖
Oh wow, that's valuable and a crucial fundamental. Thank you! I'm going to share this with my crush later on. Only when there is some deposition 😂
You are so different in your advice. Very good at what you do.
What a powerful and well articulated video. Thank you!
Beautiful and inspiring words and thoughts. Thank you, Susan.
Thanks so much Susan! I really needed this video
Dawn thank you.
Thanks Susan very wise
I LOVE this...thank you!!! ❤❤❤
This is the most helpful video for me! Thank you Susan!
Just what I needed to hear today! Thanks Susan.
This is so completely true. Love your videos!
Such a good point.
Great observation.
Thank you
Thank you for creating this insighted video. Really needed this.
A good disposition regarding money.
Omg that's what is ending my current relationship.. not understanding my disposition and how to calm me.. even after been told :( I will miss him so
Thank you very much.
GIVE and TAKE, UNDERSTANDING EACH OTHER ENJOY EACH OTHER CAN BE FANTASTIC WHEN IT WORKS CHEERS SUSAN 🌹🌹🌹🥂🥂🥂💎💎💎
Hello, dear Susan, please give us tips how to always have healthy thoughts like you? It's hard to always be positive and have healthy thoughts like that for me and some people. That's why I always look for inspiration from you. Thank you.
Can you make a video, giving some suggestions on how to get over from one sided love, even when that other person is your friend
"So it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever. You and me... everyday."
The Notebook (2004)
Wow, great topics, wise words, Ty so much for sharing, love and light to you nasmaste
Wow... eye-opening! Thank you!
Awesome video once again !!!
This is one of your best videos! Seeing that this video was made 4 years ago Susan, would you add any other critical elements that are necessary for a successful relationship than disposition??!
Your advice is so helpful!!
Thank you Peter for sharing! ~~~ I have never thought of the word 'ren' in such an in-depth manner. It's certainly enlightening and something we should strive to be. Interestingly, the word 'ren', on the right side, the two lines- the bottom line is longer than the top one, supporting it; which makes it interesting. I only thought about it now. Thanks Susan! I was just absorbing the words of the video. I don't have any questions mainly coz I think I just need to jump out of my patterns instead of getting into thinking. ~~^^~~ Xx
+Kasandra H jumping out of patterns we don't want anymore is a wonderful activity!!
+Kasandra H Thanks, Kasandra---yes, the bottom line is LONGER...I can sense you are an intelligent and perceptive person. I learn a lot from Susan.
We have only one life and owe ourselves the duty to be free and happy. It's an ugly and miserable world--we have to find meaning within ourselves and make the best of our resources. My family and I live in Melbourne. I am mainly a composer and singer.
Peter Lim You are welcome!!~
+Peter Lim Hi Peter. You've sparked an interesting conversation here. I enjoy the fact that everyone can get to know each other. Thank you for your kind words!
+Susan Winter My pleasure---everyone has their own experiences and views and I benefit from others'. I do enjoy this. Best wishes
susanji is so addictive
If disposition is the issue. 15 year marraige. Still both committed. How do we fix it. Need more videos on this please. He's the day dreamer. I'm the black n white realist goal oriented results driven.
100% I feel that Emotional Intelligence is a course that should be taught at high school level, maybe earlier. Goes a long way in being successful with our relations with others.
Makes sense
When you find the ONE with the disposition that matches and you know it and all other conversations are fun, honest, open...you have opened the gates...that said, is there ever a bad time for all of this to happen...if divorced and split from...kids...all of the things that pile up in the previous life...but is still there to deal with. And you find the ONE or re-discover each other...can it work out? Do we get do overs or a chance to make it right?
Each moment is a do-over. Yes, we do get second chances at love.
We met so long ago in a business relationship and really enjoyed each others company for a few years before each going our own way but we all know when we know...you know? Then almost 30 years later we have started touching base, had lunch a few times and even had a charity golf outing together...Kids come first at this time, for both of us. I need to stay connected for the next chapter and hopefully its a great one! :)
Excellent
this is so right
Very good point!
Thank you
So true!
Polarized, yup
Opposites attract yet repel eachother
Unavoidable ongoing friction is not worth the effort IMO
Well, It is actually hard to know what the other persons disposition really is. So often what they display in the beginning is actually the opposite of their true nature. When you’ve invested years in a relationship, only to discover the true character he has been trying so hard to conceal... it is devastating. I find that I now just assume that someone’s initial presentation is the opposite of who they are, and i’m not willing to enter into anything beyond a few dates. I feel very jaded and mistrustful!! Help!
Brilliant!