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I agree with everything you say, but as long as he has my children i remain scared and almost paralyzed in not knowing what to do anymore. the courts won't listen to me and anything he says is gospel without allowing my evidence-TRUTH. no contact with my children over 9 years. i wish i had an attorney like you 10 yrs ago. thank you for your insightful channel.
@@dawn1913 That's the problem they appear so believe able,because they are professional liars &know how to say it .I'm married to an absolute total narc,doesn't put a foot wrong outdoors so how can we get people to believe us.Im at the end of my rope now because I stupidly tolerated my narc for toooo many years.Blessings to you.
@@dawn1913 Hi dawn,my son is grown &married &thanks to my narc I don't have a good relationship with him sadly.You have my deepest sympathy Dawn &I wish you everything you wish for yourself. Xx
1. Fear you more than you fear them 2. They are the most scared 3. They have no sense of self 4. Fear being exposed the most 5. Fear that you're gonna fight back 6. They don't want you to not need them - want to be in control of you. 7. Fear that you no longer think they are relevant 8. You no longer think they matter 9. Fear the most that you are able to completely remove them from your life
I think the narcissist that I was with had the fear that I was going to expose him for what he was. He used to always tell me promise me that you will not say one word about what we're doing together to anyone because it would destroy my life.
“A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” - Karla Grimes
Yes but narcissists have a martyr complex which none of the online shrinks mention. It's not fake to guilt trip you, they definitely feel the victim. They feel so entitled that when one of their ploys doesn't work to get you to give them something they feel totally betrayed. They don't see that they were only trying to manipulate you, you failed to reciprocate when they gave you something cynically designed to to get something. They go around with a look that says I can't win, why are these people so mean. They cannot out themselves in the other person's shoes to see that what they are asking for is unreasonable.
@@peterlearner8594 yes so extremely true Wish i knew what the @nswer is They're impossible generally God bless you Hope you're away from the mdness now😔🕊️🍀🙏
I’m so over it & I’ve BEEN READY!!! I’ve lost 3 family members & been to zero funerals. I’ve always been present & supportive, even when they didn’t deserve it. I now have family who ignored me calling & I’ve flipped the script. I don’t want to talk to them!!! I’m living my life like it’s golden!!! 🤗🤗🤗
I had the complete opposite, when I fought back, It was like all hell was let loose at me. Myself and the kids barely got out with our sanity. We all carry damage.
Too true Rebecca! Freedom from toxic influence via self-governance and a strong, unshakeable sense of self is true liberation. Toxic people realizing they are unable to push your buttons, sway your opinions, or drive you crazy is like garlic to these vampires and it's fun to watch them squirm after every one of their failed cowardly attempts at attacking my self esteem.
OMG same thing happened to me too. I go to the hearing this coming Monday. I have NEVER been afraid of this narc. They were always afraid of me. Why at first I never understood. Later in it, they were just totally afraid scarred spineless person that yes with their flying monkeys and yes new supply thinks they are all this. Good. I honestly can care less and in my opinion it is what it is. I cant wait for this crap to finally be over and move the hell on away from this psyhocpath onece and for all. Good Riddens. Dont have time for the drama nor the B.S.
My ex threatened me with a restraining order. Narcs will try and weaponize the cops and whomever else to indulge their sickness. This is known as stonewalling. Don’t take it personally, you are dealing with a sick person, look at a restraining order as a huge blessing, good luck, know that you are loved
I have also experienced this, I was in the hospital when the neighbor and her monkeys went to court and lied about me being violent. I am extremely disabled and I tell her constantly barking dogs to shut up. I have called the police and told them she told me to go shoot myself. I have never been depressed or suicidal. These people turned everything around like narcissist s do, I am getting a counter restraining order against her soon. Our apts. Finally got a security guard and the police wave at me, so things can change for the better. Thanks for the positive messages from your videos.
Rebecca, the Wizard of Oz analogy was spot on! I didn’t realize what this was. I was living in fear snd didn’t realize it. I’m not usually a fearful person. I’m an overachiever, but why am I not getting past this? Fear of these scared and simple minded people?! No more. ❤️ You rock! Thanks very much for your help.
Im married to an Italian and now living in Rome with my Mother in Law due her earli Dementia, my Sister in Law is a Narsistic and my husband and I really struggling with her, Thankyou for sharing it is help us (my husband and I ) we need her to afraid to us. IM ready
@@deepdarkcocoa7956 Thankyou for the support and prayers, it means a lot to me, sending you positives energies. Lets have our chin up and educate more so that we all can be survived and handle well the situation.
I didn't know what a narcisist was until a cpl months ago. June would have been our 50th wedding anniversary. Shortly after the 10th, I took my 3 little girls and left for a weekend, then separated for life safety reasons. I could no longer trust him to tell the truth so no possibility of reconciling. Had to wait 3 yrs. for divorce. Found I could not pay a lawyer to present/defend our truth so represented myself. Fortunately, court counsellors and an excellent MD @ the children's hospital they fast tracked me to saved my children from overnight access before the court hearing! The youngest was under 2 yrs. when we parted so I spent the next 17 yrs. being dragged into court on one illegal/unnecessary lie after another. There was a showdown when the eldest turned 19 & he would not release her financial investment. The judge also ruled in such a way as to protect the children's money from the gov't Welfare Dept. ever taking it when I had to depend on them due to injuries/job loss. My girls each worked fulltime by 15yrs. and the eldest @ 47yrs is still in the career she began fulltime @ 161/2. I homeschooled them thru highschool & some elementary. The middle one earned a 4 yr. degree in 3.5yrs. & Grad with Honours in USA while we lived in Canada. She still works in her career @ 44yrs. Their father would lie against me to church ministers behind my back in both countries which cost me one night not knowing where they were in a fireign country. I'm just thankful I'm not dealing with courts today as they are very corrupted/politicized!!
The moment that you let go of of your fear and have confidence when you know you should, it changes who you are and you will never go back. That’s one genie can’t put back in the bottle and you won’t want to
Exactly, but we sane folks need to start spending less time figuring out what makes narcissists tick and way more time figuring out what makes us tick. Cut your losses ASAP. Get the heck away from them and never look back. Keep working on yourself, and remember, be strong, build yourself back up, and be happy! Life is short!
Depending on how long you were with a narcissist it becomes just your life. Stay long enough and you will eventually believe what they say. I did not even realize what was happening. Left after 22 years - hardest and best thing I ever did.
When you get rid of one another one pops up, best bet is to know what they are, education is the key to freedom, once youre educated you can see them coming..
Horrible experiences are traumatic and damaging to the soul. I think that's their goal. I am hoping to one day find strength again from the mental abuse I ran from.
I’ve been doing a lot of inner work. Not only am I no longer afraid of my narcissist husband (working on getting papers signed for a divorce), I’m no longer afraid of anyone with ill-wishes towards me and have become more willing to communicate my outlook and less hesitant to make decisions.
I’m ready!!!! I got used, harassed, made to live in fear, had my self-esteem pulverised, made to feel unworthy and less-than. I am worthy! I have a life after them and I am strong! Nothing they do will elicit any of those feelings from me anymore. They are pathetic, sad individuals!! Thank you Rebecca!
@@crystalanamericaninsicily yes i recently had this thought as well. What happens when we mirror them. Giving the exakt same answers, excuses...like oh your so sensitive, it does not matter, i got things to do, i dont always want to say hallo when i am here because you are busy, or you were not there (not true) or i only want to help, I feel sorry for them, i can only do what is in my capacity, are you sad? I helped so many people, i can not taste your cake you made for my bithday, my tooth hurts, you are crazy, arent you cold?, you look so pale, are you ok? (When in reality feeling really good and happy and having had so many compliments about lets say a dress from people), from recently you are pretty balanced, i am proud on myself about your achievements...to name some. Or how about the differnt masks? From toddler, to a so caring person to arrogant and busy to a devil in human form to the copy of the opposite sex. 😀
Hi Rebecca! You have, in this one video, brought the last 28 years of my life out into the light where I have now been able to get a good look at it, and WOW!!! I've been a literal pawn to her every manipulation, her gaslighting (Yes, I even had made up my own retort to her ever present, "No it's not!" I would shoot back "Call the sky purple every day, when I look up it's only blue!" My god, the hell my life has been and never knowing why, actually thinking I was really cursed. It is the emotional abuse which over the last year has begun to manifest itself into physical abuse, with her denying and laying out evil plots and plans as to why it is hopeless for me to even try to do anything about it! I used to be a very outgoing, positive, nothing I can't handle or do kind of guy, responsible and always willing to help, lots of friends and others seemed to always genuinely like seeing me, talking with me. About five months ago, I was feeling completely wrung out and stressed and very unhappy with myself, my normal state. I don't know why, but images and sounds and even smells all came rushing into my thoughts all at once and the feelings along with them. I remember saying to myself, out loud even, and thought it was someone else for a second because of how weird my own voice sounded, "I don't even know who you are anymore! I don't like who you've become." I was losing my mind and had begun to have episodes of depression and hopelessness and the occasional suicidal daydream began playing out in my mind unprovoked. I'm going to watch every single video you have here, probably more than once! You're the miracle I needed to illuminate every dark and depressing corner which was my entire life!!! I UNDERSTAND WHAT'S BEEN HAPPENING AND I FEEL HOPE INSIDE MY SOUL ONCE AGAIN!!! THANK YOU!!! I know, it's 11 months old, but it is new to me today and extremely powerful! I feel like I just won th lottery and the grand prize was Control Of My Own Life Again! Absolutely priceless!!! ❤
Me too . Recently been love bombed and ghosted.. I was in hospital suffering a stroke from emotional stress of my wife , marrying me and taking everything then demonising me to everyone around me . This has now been a pattern for over 20 years and 2 convictions for " domestic violence" which I admitted out of fear for my children and custody.. I'm now fighting my wife in criminal court against false aligations. I then 11 months later have my now ex partner love bomb me , move him out and me in to his house and his children.. I fell for all of it again .. until friends of hers next door felt sorry for me after I broke and she left and ghosted . It hurts .. I could literally drop dead from the stress and yet she still continues to try and hurt me like all my all my ex partners did . I feel very stupid, alone and beaten by the world . I'm male 39 and could face prison at the hands of one of these women. I'm very open and genuinely believe in allowing myself to be vulnerable or how can love be real and life worth living? I've realised that not knowing these traits has left me as a sheep to slaughter all my life . There is no help ! For the last 12 months I have and the professionals involved in my care have tried to get it but the waiting lists and lack for men . In all honesty these relationships have taken my children, hurt my family beyond repair and damaged my mental health serverly over the years , since I was a young boy .. my mother being the first perpetrator, allowing my step father to serverly abuse me physically. All these years, and what I now face for my lack of awareness . I always blamed myself, because I would break in the end and be so confused and broken, I made threats at myself and shouted , asked what i can do , felt responsible, never violent .. this is how they use the UK laws to manipulate justice and ruin so many men with genuine hearts .. keep hitting a dog with a stick it bites ... When we raise our voices as men or act out of emotion because a person has twisted us , we are blamed, demonised and disregarded by everyone around us . We are still human.
You have no idea how many people you are helping. I studied a bit of workplace bullying and it amazed me to learn that bullying works in favor of the bully ~57% of the time. They NEVER work alone, those flying monkeys and the illusion of consensus are some of their main tactics while they hide behind titles or institutions or "policies". I am so grateful for your videos because you explain many more ways they are manipulative. It's always about "winning" at all costs.
You are so on it!! It's taken me so long to start understanding the principles you are so eloquently articulating. You cut right to the heart of it. Wish I'd found you ages ago. It would have saved me so much time and energy spent floundering. Thanks for being so generous with your brilliant insight!
I have failed in the fight with my 2 narcissistic sisters! I let them have the bulk of ou father's estate. Now they have power over me psychologically. "You are nothing," my sister said. They truly believe that, although I dont. Thank you for your wise counsel.
@@crencottrell7849 I will try to keep that in mind in the days ahead. I am just glad I broke off from them. I doubt that they will be back, because they know they have done wrong.
You can BET the FARM on this, CATCHING them on CAMERAS, (security and the tiny dashcam in your car) when you remind them to SMILE for them. The feeling you have afterwards is GOD SEND
the best weapon against any narc , toxic ,selfish person is too stop caring. the look on their face is priceless. especially when you realize they never cared about you from the start. funny how the table turn
I recently figured it all out after 6 years of total chaos and repeated physical and mental abuse by my soon to be ex wife! I am a master woodworker and after her keeping me at a very suppressed state I finally got back in the game and landed a 750,000 dollar project. This is when she went off the rails and did everything to block this and then convinced all of our friends that I was horrible and abusive. After doing some research it got me that she couldn't and wouldn't be able to let me gain back the status that I once had! I left her one morning without saying goodbye and I'm never going back to that toxic life ever again! It's my life and I will live it the way I want!
Oh my God! Thank you! Thank you! My mother in law is a covert narcissist! Me and my husband are in therapy now! It is so hard….my husband, his dad and his brother are so codependent and I’m the bad guy 😢…this helped me so much!!!
I have been in and out of the revolving door of a toxic relationship that I now understand was a Narcissist abuse relationship. I feel free for the first time in a decade. I really don't care. He doesn't live rent free in my mind anymore!! Or my house for that matter!
@@rebeccazung8530 I don’t know how , you might be surprised , but I am being honest with you, I wish that one day I can contact you and talk to you , I need it so much . Thanks to everything you do for us ❤️
I am SO READY! Beyond READY! Thank you so very much for all you’re doing! I’m still in the divorce process. My to be ex-narcissist was served 3+ months ago and still has not responded. This video has helped me understand why. Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Stacey My heart goes out to you I'm so happy that you are divorcing the narcissist I'm sending you love and light and many blessings stay safe and well asking the Angel's to wrap their wings around you and give you everything that you wish for 🙏🙏🙏💝💖💗💕💐🌹💐🌹🌹
Rebecca,this is by far the best video on narcissism I've seen you do.i was never scared of shoshanna.i played her too and beat her at her own game and her friends.shes not been seen around the complex lately and I don't care.
Thank you for your very inspirational message. This channel has been very comforting to me while healing from being involved with the Cluster B personalities and their abusive toxic spirits.
I'm ready, Rebecca, thank you Had enough, point of Had enough, of all types Of abuse, when I can't Think anymore about anyone or anything else, for 20 years, I'm ready now....
Many women get involved with narcissistic men. The emotional damage is pretty severe and takes time to recover. Cutting them off completely is the way to go. I shut down my FB, changed my phone number and email so he wouldn't have access to me post breakup. It was the right decision. Will pray for him and the other women he gets involved with.
Is Just so true.One of my narcissistic person was my mother.I suffered enough from her behaviour to the point I don’t care any more.Means whatever she say or do.I have my issues to work and no time for this what she do.Thanks for that video.
Please do a video on mother in laws or people you can’t physically remove from Your life. A video on how to detach emotionally from narcissism in families.
Can you please make a video on how to crush the narcissist that you have a six year old child with. She knows my daughter is the only love in my life, so she always used her to get back under my skin. Threatens to take her, threaten to file false police reports that I’m “crazy” “unstable” “unfit to be a father” etc. All things I know are not true, nor does she have any shred of evidence to back her claims, but her ability to manipulate ANYONE, keeps me terrified of her. Help!!!!!
I’m getting to know a relative of mine this way. It’s like reading why they are the way they are, why they made me feel the way I felt, and why I naturally just got tired, exhausted of their charades. I had enough. I even started losing weight!!!
Holy Texas Tornadoes! Beautiful Empowering insights on cracking those slimy life-sucking nutshells keeping you from sharing-life-forward. so spot on! Keep calm, Awesomeballs on, y'all.
I dealt with a narc last year and some this year. I never feared him and I was always suspicious of who and what he portrayed him self as. This is where things get hairy and out there crazy, cuz I walked away and he had his flock of flying monkeys helping him make my life and the life of others pretty miserable and messed up. The crazy thing was we did not realize what he was doing was outside of the perceived real world functioning. I was the one who figured it out needless to say I made his world a living hell every chance i got and blew him out of the water until he was only insignificant. In the mean time i had to learn 'tricks' of protecting myself, family, and life from his nefarious dabbling in crap. He is not able to hurt me or others anymore. I won't let him and yes I have finally been able to walk and be free. It is very liberating. It just seems like the times we are going through has created or made these people come out of the woodwork. I am like wth? So yes we are being tested big time. I am standing tall and not letting others control me or my life. It is like get your own life and self esteem people.
I’m so ready. Iv had no contact for almost 2 years and he still getting people to ask me questions. I’m lucky people telll him they can’t get in touch with me, lol cx
Education on this subject is so important. I can see why my significant other is in the shape she is in. The doctor feed drugs of Opioids has made this person worse. I could work with her in a relationship but when the drugs are taken and the vodka drank. This person is in pain. Bid time. A lot of woman are on these drugs. And it is not good.
Knowledge is key. Learning to deal with these insane delusion people is a daunting task that can wear anyone down. On top of too many docs pushing too many prescriptions for personality disorders of mentality ill patients. Adding alcohol just multiples the intensity of pills especially when the dose is way more than recommended. Mood swings turn into psychotic behavior, then false accusations fly. Hurtful Lies to smear, drag down, to ruin another's life and reputation seems to be the goal to suck the soul out of you. It's truly Demonic. Until now, I've never dealt with this crazy stupidity ever before. It's just unbelievable how someone can have so much Evil in their heart and mind towards others. Just Pure Evil. God Help Us All..
Great content. I wasn't afraid of "my narcissist" because it's "home" for me, my childhood with mom was the training field*. I'm actually hoping for this person to show up again with new deceiving strategies and new material for me to "need him" BUT I'm aware that he just can't. He's not coming back because he has no means to self-actualize the empty shell
Im ready, Im actually looking forward on confronting this person on Wednesday. My plan is to expose them by giving them examples of what they’ve done to merit my discomfort with the friendship.
I'm going to write a book about it. I've gone no contact. The last conversation with my mother she let it slip that I wasn't suppose to be here right now, I think she meant that because she sabotage every attempt I ever made to get sober at her house. I literally don't know why I'm alive right now.
I’m ready and I’ve already done all of this they really are nothing to me it’s like who they really don’t exist for me I feel great I’m who I’m truly meant to be I’m shinning so bright I make a diamond look dull
Your advice is intentionality confrontational and frankly seems to be not only wrong but predatory to the victims of narcissism Hope you get paid well to make people feel good about building failed relationships then paying you.
Being authentic and they can't sway you works for me...looking good to the world is very important to them. They take great care of their looks...tend to have plastic surgery...if you wipe them...they will try to take your money, your kids, anything they can
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I can't wait to meet you there!
I agree with everything you say, but as long as he has my children i remain scared and almost paralyzed in not knowing what to do anymore. the courts won't listen to me and anything he says is gospel without allowing my evidence-TRUTH. no contact with my children over 9 years. i wish i had an attorney like you 10 yrs ago. thank you for your insightful channel.
@@dawn1913 That's the problem they appear so believe able,because they are professional liars &know how to say it .I'm married to an absolute total narc,doesn't put a foot wrong outdoors so how can we get people to believe us.Im at the end of my rope now because I stupidly tolerated my narc for toooo many years.Blessings to you.
@@zitazita687 well aware! i hope you don't have small children with him, they really work their magic in the court room. i wish you well.
@@dawn1913 Hi dawn,my son is grown &married &thanks to my narc I don't have a good relationship with him sadly.You have my deepest sympathy Dawn &I wish you everything you wish for yourself. Xx
1. Fear you more than you fear them
2. They are the most scared
3. They have no sense of self
4. Fear being exposed the most
5. Fear that you're gonna fight back
6. They don't want you to not need them - want to be in control of you.
7. Fear that you no longer think they are relevant
8. You no longer think they matter
9. Fear the most that you are able to completely remove them from your life
Just like Kanye West
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Thank you for noting it. Very useful
I think the narcissist that I was with had the fear that I was going to expose him for what he was. He used to always tell me promise me that you will not say one word about what we're doing together to anyone because it would destroy my life.
To me, the most powerful and loving people are those who don't Need to make others feel small, scared, and insignificant.
Amen...
@@trengenius8024 this account is one week old. It appears to be an impersonation account.
Amen
I love that. Uplifting, for me.
Nope. Sometimes you need to fight fire with fire.
“A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.” - Karla Grimes
Yes but narcissists have a martyr complex which none of the online shrinks mention. It's not fake to guilt trip you, they definitely feel the victim. They feel so entitled that when one of their ploys doesn't work to get you to give them something they feel totally betrayed. They don't see that they were only trying to manipulate you, you failed to reciprocate when they gave you something cynically designed to to get something. They go around with a look that says I can't win, why are these people so mean. They cannot out themselves in the other person's shoes to see that what they are asking for is unreasonable.
@@peterlearner8594 yes so extremely true
Wish i knew what the @nswer is
They're impossible generally God bless you Hope you're away from the mdness now😔🕊️🍀🙏
I’m so over it & I’ve BEEN READY!!! I’ve lost 3 family members & been to zero funerals. I’ve always been present & supportive, even when they didn’t deserve it. I now have family who ignored me calling & I’ve flipped the script. I don’t want to talk to them!!! I’m living my life like it’s golden!!! 🤗🤗🤗
Ditto. It hurts for family to reject you because you dont meet their standards somehow. Ticks me off. I finally dumped my family.
You so deserve it beautiful soul that you are. Love and light to you 🙏💯❤
My heart is broken but I have to do that with my flying monkey children.
"They're just a gnat flying around" - that's when you know you've truly moved on... 😊😎
I’m ready! Finally releasing fear of this person. Learning to stand strong.
Evelyn Mason,You are beautiful 🌹🌷🌹,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!
I believe it if u fight back they will run bullies only pick easy fights
That's it! I like this comment.
But I am soooooooo tired of all his bulshit that's what he is all about 24 7 365 60 plus years
@@rsbrinkman9168 i see you have met my husband
They run away like cowards and when they can't run they will shut down
I had the complete opposite, when I fought back, It was like all hell was let loose at me. Myself and the kids barely got out with our sanity. We all carry damage.
Too true Rebecca! Freedom from toxic influence via self-governance and a strong, unshakeable sense of self is true liberation. Toxic people realizing they are unable to push your buttons, sway your opinions, or drive you crazy is like garlic to these vampires and it's fun to watch them squirm after every one of their failed cowardly attempts at attacking my self esteem.
It's baffling how they are cowardly and diabolical at the same time.
This video gives me great comfort . Thank you for your time , it must be horrible to live life as a NARCISSIST.
Mine put an unfounded restraining order against me. His flying monkeys to my place of employment trying to talk to me. Filed for divorce this week.
OMG same thing happened to me too. I go to the hearing this coming Monday. I have NEVER been afraid of this narc. They were always afraid of me. Why at first I never understood. Later in it, they were just totally afraid scarred spineless person that yes with their flying monkeys and yes new supply thinks they are all this. Good. I honestly can care less and in my opinion it is what it is. I cant wait for this crap to finally be over and move the hell on away from this psyhocpath onece and for all. Good Riddens. Dont have time for the drama nor the B.S.
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My ex threatened me with a restraining order. Narcs will try and weaponize the cops and whomever else to indulge their sickness. This is known as stonewalling. Don’t take it personally, you are dealing with a sick person, look at a restraining order as a huge blessing, good luck, know that you are loved
I have also experienced this, I was in the hospital when the neighbor and her monkeys went to court and lied about me being violent. I am extremely disabled and I tell her constantly barking dogs to shut up. I have called the police and told them she told me to go shoot myself. I have never been depressed or suicidal. These people turned everything around like narcissist s do, I am getting a counter restraining order against her soon. Our apts. Finally got a security guard and the police wave at me, so things can change for the better. Thanks for the positive messages from your videos.
Rebecca, the Wizard of Oz analogy was spot on! I didn’t realize what this was. I was living in fear snd didn’t realize it. I’m not usually a fearful person. I’m an overachiever, but why am I not getting past this? Fear of these scared and simple minded people?! No more. ❤️
You rock! Thanks very much for your help.
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Im married to an Italian and now living in Rome with my Mother in Law due her earli Dementia, my Sister in Law is a Narsistic and my husband and I really struggling with her, Thankyou for sharing it is help us (my husband and I ) we need her to afraid to us. IM ready
My husband baby mama is one, so I can imagine the struggle honey. She HATES me but I can't stand her neither.😒 Pray for me and I'll pray for you.
Not all Italian, luckily, are like this as not all brits r like this...
@@deepdarkcocoa7956 Thankyou for the support and prayers, it means a lot to me, sending you positives energies. Lets have our chin up and educate more so that we all can be survived and handle well the situation.
@@narcfighters4434 it is very true not all Italian... we are all surrounding by Narsistic person everywhere in this world.
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I didn't know what a narcisist was until a cpl months ago. June would have been our 50th wedding anniversary. Shortly after the 10th, I took my 3 little girls and left for a weekend, then separated for life safety reasons. I could no longer trust him to tell the truth so no possibility of reconciling. Had to wait 3 yrs. for divorce. Found I could not pay a lawyer to present/defend our truth so represented myself. Fortunately, court counsellors and an excellent MD @ the children's hospital they fast tracked me to saved my children from overnight access before the court hearing! The youngest was under 2 yrs. when we parted so I spent the next 17 yrs. being dragged into court on one illegal/unnecessary lie after another. There was a showdown when the eldest turned 19 & he would not release her financial investment. The judge also ruled in such a way as to protect the children's money from the gov't Welfare Dept. ever taking it when I had to depend on them due to injuries/job loss. My girls each worked fulltime by 15yrs. and the eldest @ 47yrs is still in the career she began fulltime @ 161/2.
I homeschooled them thru highschool & some elementary. The middle one
earned a 4 yr. degree in 3.5yrs. & Grad with Honours in USA while we lived in Canada. She still works in her career @ 44yrs. Their father would lie against me to church ministers behind my back in both countries which cost me one night not knowing where they were in a fireign country. I'm just thankful I'm not dealing with courts today as they are very corrupted/politicized!!
Thank you for the free therapy. I now know what I'm dealing with after 10 years. WOW, have I ever turned the tables. I am FEARLESS. He is now fearful.
I'm ready to move on completely. Done and done, and no longer intimidated.
The moment that you let go of of your fear and have confidence when you know you should, it changes who you are and you will never go back. That’s one genie can’t put back in the bottle and you won’t want to
Exactly, but we sane folks need to start spending less time figuring out what makes narcissists tick and way more time figuring out what makes us tick. Cut your losses ASAP. Get the heck away from them and never look back. Keep working on yourself, and remember, be strong, build yourself back up, and be happy! Life is short!
I completely agree with you.
Depending on how long you were with a narcissist it becomes just your life. Stay long enough and you will eventually believe what they say. I did not even realize what was happening. Left after 22 years - hardest and best thing I ever did.
When you get rid of one another one pops up, best bet is to know what they are, education is the key to freedom, once youre educated you can see them coming..
Horrible experiences are traumatic and damaging to the soul.
I think that's their goal. I am hoping to one day find strength
again from the mental abuse I ran from.
I’ve been doing a lot of inner work. Not only am I no longer afraid of my narcissist husband (working on getting papers signed for a divorce), I’m no longer afraid of anyone with ill-wishes towards me and have become more willing to communicate my outlook and less hesitant to make decisions.
"you're not meant to be small" - WOW! felt that!!
I’m ready!!!! I got used, harassed, made to live in fear, had my self-esteem pulverised, made to feel unworthy and less-than.
I am worthy! I have a life after them and I am strong! Nothing they do will elicit any of those feelings from me anymore. They are pathetic, sad individuals!! Thank you Rebecca!
I am mostly there... I grew up with Narcissists... This is my first year learning about this. I found the key. Thank you!!
Big hug dear 🙏💯❤
SHOW NO FEELINGS OR EMOTIONS...when they try to hurt or belittle you.
Just hurt or belittle then 2x more. Worked for me. Finally got rid of that trash
@@ladyhanny7395 Perfect answer. Then smile. Whatever someone says to Belittle you...say the same thing to them.
@@crystalanamericaninsicily yes i recently had this thought as well. What happens when we mirror them. Giving the exakt same answers, excuses...like oh your so sensitive, it does not matter, i got things to do, i dont always want to say hallo when i am here because you are busy, or you were not there (not true) or i only want to help, I feel sorry for them, i can only do what is in my capacity, are you sad? I helped so many people, i can not taste your cake you made for my bithday, my tooth hurts, you are crazy, arent you cold?, you look so pale, are you ok? (When in reality feeling really good and happy and having had so many compliments about lets say a dress from people), from recently you are pretty balanced, i am proud on myself about your achievements...to name some. Or how about the differnt masks? From toddler, to a so caring person to arrogant and busy to a devil in human form to the copy of the opposite sex. 😀
Hi Rebecca! You have, in this one video, brought the last 28 years of my life out into the light where I have now been able to get a good look at it, and WOW!!! I've been a literal pawn to her every manipulation, her gaslighting (Yes, I even had made up my own retort to her ever present, "No it's not!" I would shoot back "Call the sky purple every day, when I look up it's only blue!" My god, the hell my life has been and never knowing why, actually thinking I was really cursed. It is the emotional abuse which over the last year has begun to manifest itself into physical abuse, with her denying and laying out evil plots and plans as to why it is hopeless for me to even try to do anything about it! I used to be a very outgoing, positive, nothing I can't handle or do kind of guy, responsible and always willing to help, lots of friends and others seemed to always genuinely like seeing me, talking with me. About five months ago, I was feeling completely wrung out and stressed and very unhappy with myself, my normal state. I don't know why, but images and sounds and even smells all came rushing into my thoughts all at once and the feelings along with them. I remember saying to myself, out loud even, and thought it was someone else for a second because of how weird my own voice sounded, "I don't even know who you are anymore! I don't like who you've become." I was losing my mind and had begun to have episodes of depression and hopelessness and the occasional suicidal daydream began playing out in my mind unprovoked. I'm going to watch every single video you have here, probably more than once! You're the miracle I needed to illuminate every dark and depressing corner which was my entire life!!! I UNDERSTAND WHAT'S BEEN HAPPENING AND I FEEL HOPE INSIDE MY SOUL ONCE AGAIN!!! THANK YOU!!!
I know, it's 11 months old, but it is new to me today and extremely powerful! I feel like I just won th lottery and the grand prize was Control Of My Own Life Again! Absolutely priceless!!! ❤
Me too . Recently been love bombed and ghosted.. I was in hospital suffering a stroke from emotional stress of my wife , marrying me and taking everything then demonising me to everyone around me . This has now been a pattern for over 20 years and 2 convictions for " domestic violence" which I admitted out of fear for my children and custody.. I'm now fighting my wife in criminal court against false aligations. I then 11 months later have my now ex partner love bomb me , move him out and me in to his house and his children.. I fell for all of it again .. until friends of hers next door felt sorry for me after I broke and she left and ghosted . It hurts .. I could literally drop dead from the stress and yet she still continues to try and hurt me like all my all my ex partners did . I feel very stupid, alone and beaten by the world . I'm male 39 and could face prison at the hands of one of these women. I'm very open and genuinely believe in allowing myself to be vulnerable or how can love be real and life worth living? I've realised that not knowing these traits has left me as a sheep to slaughter all my life . There is no help ! For the last 12 months I have and the professionals involved in my care have tried to get it but the waiting lists and lack for men . In all honesty these relationships have taken my children, hurt my family beyond repair and damaged my mental health serverly over the years , since I was a young boy .. my mother being the first perpetrator, allowing my step father to serverly abuse me physically. All these years, and what I now face for my lack of awareness . I always blamed myself, because I would break in the end and be so confused and broken, I made threats at myself and shouted , asked what i can do , felt responsible, never violent .. this is how they use the UK laws to manipulate justice and ruin so many men with genuine hearts .. keep hitting a dog with a stick it bites ... When we raise our voices as men or act out of emotion because a person has twisted us , we are blamed, demonised and disregarded by everyone around us . We are still human.
I am ready and I'm not afraid anymore 😌
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FEAR....Makes the wolf bigger than he is...
German Proverb
You have no idea how many people you are helping. I studied a bit of workplace bullying and it amazed me to learn that bullying works in favor of the bully ~57% of the time. They NEVER work alone, those flying monkeys and the illusion of consensus are some of their main tactics while they hide behind titles or institutions or "policies". I am so grateful for your videos because you explain many more ways they are manipulative. It's always about "winning" at all costs.
Thank you for giving so much, Rebecca!
I AM READY!! Most definitely! 🙏❣️
You are so on it!! It's taken me so long to start understanding the principles you are so eloquently articulating. You cut right to the heart of it. Wish I'd found you ages ago. It would have saved me so much time and energy spent floundering. Thanks for being so generous with your brilliant insight!
I have failed in the fight with my 2 narcissistic sisters! I let them have the bulk of ou father's estate. Now they have power over me psychologically. "You are nothing," my sister said. They truly believe that, although I dont. Thank you for your wise counsel.
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Don't you EVER believe someone deliberately trying to devalue you/hurt your feelings Ms. Irene 😢😚
@@crencottrell7849 I will try to keep that in mind in the days ahead. I am just glad I broke off from them. I doubt that they will be back, because they know they have done wrong.
I’m right there with you. My sister stole from parents, convinced them I did it. Abused them, it’s all awful! Im praying for you!
Needed that motivation to stand in my power, thank you
And needs to go. Busted earlier then u thought.... SLAY
I was already ready. It's already done.
You can BET the FARM on this, CATCHING them on CAMERAS, (security and the tiny dashcam in your car) when you remind them to SMILE for them. The feeling you have afterwards is GOD SEND
Wow. Powerful. Ready. You never know how much time you’ve got. Well said
the best weapon against any narc , toxic ,selfish person is too stop caring. the look on their face is priceless. especially when you realize they never cared about you from the start. funny how the table turn
After watching this video I realized we need a movie staring Rebecca as the lead star the Narcissist Slayer. Lights , camera , action !
I am so ready!!!! Your channel is COMPLETELY helping me!!!
Fear. The AA fourth step. Fear paralyzes. You are helping me reclaim me
This was spot on. I'm going through a divorce right now, 20 yrs. Moving out Sunday!
Ready to stand strong finally. It’s only taken 8 months no contact to realise what I was dealing with. Thank god for Sam Vaknin.
Karin Bliek,So happy 😊for you
Who’s Sam Vaknin?
I recently figured it all out after 6 years of total chaos and repeated physical and mental abuse by my soon to be ex wife! I am a master woodworker and after her keeping me at a very suppressed state I finally got back in the game and landed a 750,000 dollar project. This is when she went off the rails and did everything to block this and then convinced all of our friends that I was horrible and abusive. After doing some research it got me that she couldn't and wouldn't be able to let me gain back the status that I once had! I left her one morning without saying goodbye and I'm never going back to that toxic life ever again! It's my life and I will live it the way I want!
So true, Rebecca....Strong! & Strenght
Thank you...x🤗
Nobody seems to understand how I am afraid of him, because he comes across so charming, but he is scary because he can make impossible things happen.
Oh my God! Thank you! Thank you! My mother in law is a covert narcissist! Me and my husband are in therapy now! It is so hard….my husband, his dad and his brother are so codependent and I’m the bad guy 😢…this helped me so much!!!
I have been in and out of the revolving door of a toxic relationship that I now understand was a Narcissist abuse relationship. I feel free for the first time in a decade. I really don't care. He doesn't live rent free in my mind anymore!! Or my house for that matter!
I am ready ! I don’t fear him anymore ! Thank you 😊
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@@rebeccazung8530 I don’t know how , you might be surprised , but I am being honest with you, I wish that one day I can contact you and talk to you , I need it so much . Thanks to everything you do for us ❤️
I am SO READY! Beyond READY! Thank you so very much for all you’re doing! I’m still in the divorce process. My to be ex-narcissist was served 3+ months ago and still has not responded. This video has helped me understand why. Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Stacey
My heart goes out to you I'm so happy that you are divorcing the narcissist I'm sending you love and light and many blessings stay safe and well asking the Angel's to wrap their wings around you and give you everything that you wish for 🙏🙏🙏💝💖💗💕💐🌹💐🌹🌹
If served in Nevada anyway they only have 20 days to respond or the else ! If they don’t the other party wins
Check your state and attorney
Rebecca,this is by far the best video on narcissism I've seen you do.i was never scared of shoshanna.i played her too and beat her at her own game and her friends.shes not been seen around the complex lately and I don't care.
Thank you for your very inspirational message. This channel has been very comforting to me while healing from being involved with the Cluster B personalities and their abusive toxic spirits.
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I'm so ready!! Thank you girlfriend!! You helped me so much ! 🙋🏼♀️
Yes Rebecca. “I’m ready!”
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I'm ready, Rebecca, thank you
Had enough, point of
Had enough, of all types
Of abuse, when I can't
Think anymore about anyone or anything else, for 20 years,
I'm ready now....
Many women get involved with narcissistic men. The emotional damage is pretty severe and takes time to recover. Cutting them off completely is the way to go. I shut down my FB, changed my phone number and email so he wouldn't have access to me post breakup. It was the right decision. Will pray for him and the other women he gets involved with.
Is Just so true.One of my narcissistic person was my mother.I suffered enough from her behaviour to the point I don’t care any more.Means whatever she say or do.I have my issues to work and no time for this what she do.Thanks for that video.
Please do a video on mother in laws or people you can’t physically remove from
Your life. A video on how to detach emotionally from narcissism in families.
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Can you please make a video on how to crush the narcissist that you have a six year old child with. She knows my daughter is the only love in my life, so she always used her to get back under my skin. Threatens to take her, threaten to file false police reports that I’m “crazy” “unstable” “unfit to be a father” etc. All things I know are not true, nor does she have any shred of evidence to back her claims, but her ability to manipulate ANYONE, keeps me terrified of her. Help!!!!!
I’m getting to know a relative of mine this way. It’s like reading why they are the way they are, why they made me feel the way I felt, and why I naturally just got tired, exhausted of their charades. I had enough. I even started losing weight!!!
10:30 is a fantastic point. Thanks for highlighting what life SHOULD be like.
Im ready! at last i was free from this kind of toxic relationship with this no soul person , a fake!
I’ve been ready and I have show them.
Thank you 🙏
Superb ending...Living in your power....!!
Holy Texas Tornadoes! Beautiful
Empowering insights on cracking those slimy life-sucking nutshells keeping you from sharing-life-forward. so spot on! Keep calm, Awesomeballs on, y'all.
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Would never thought she be scared of anything
It's all a facade, they are very weak cowards behind their mask.
Rebecca. I never want the other side to retain you as their lawyer. Great video.
They can never get over being exposed to the public
I dealt with a narc last year and some this year. I never feared him and I was always suspicious of who and what he portrayed him self as. This is where things get hairy and out there crazy, cuz I walked away and he had his flock of flying monkeys helping him make my life and the life of others pretty miserable and messed up. The crazy thing was we did not realize what he was doing was outside of the perceived real world functioning. I was the one who figured it out needless to say I made his world a living hell every chance i got and blew him out of the water until he was only insignificant. In the mean time i had to learn 'tricks' of protecting myself, family, and life from his nefarious dabbling in crap. He is not able to hurt me or others anymore. I won't let him and yes I have finally been able to walk and be free. It is very liberating. It just seems like the times we are going through has created or made these people come out of the woodwork. I am like wth? So yes we are being tested big time. I am standing tall and not letting others control me or my life. It is like get your own life and self esteem people.
"I'm So Ready!"
I’m so ready. Iv had no contact for almost 2 years and he still getting people to ask me questions. I’m lucky people telll him they can’t get in touch with me, lol cx
I'm so ready
Hollie Guillory,You got a lovely smile 😊!!
Education on this subject is so important. I can see why my significant other is in the shape she is in. The doctor feed drugs of Opioids has made this person worse. I could work with her in a relationship but when the drugs are taken and the vodka drank. This person is in pain. Bid time. A lot of woman are on these drugs. And it is not good.
Knowledge is key. Learning to deal with these insane delusion people is a daunting task that can wear anyone down. On top of too many docs pushing too many prescriptions for personality disorders of mentality ill patients. Adding alcohol just multiples the intensity of pills especially when the dose is way more than recommended. Mood swings turn into psychotic behavior, then false accusations fly. Hurtful Lies to smear, drag down, to ruin another's life and reputation seems to be the goal to suck the soul out of you. It's truly Demonic. Until now, I've never dealt with this crazy stupidity ever before. It's just unbelievable how someone can have so much Evil in their heart and mind towards others. Just Pure Evil. God Help Us All..
Great content. I wasn't afraid of "my narcissist" because it's "home" for me, my childhood with mom was the training field*. I'm actually hoping for this person to show up again with new deceiving strategies and new material for me to "need him" BUT I'm aware that he just can't. He's not coming back because he has no means to self-actualize the empty shell
Im ready, Im actually looking forward on confronting this person on Wednesday. My plan is to expose them by giving them examples of what they’ve done to merit my discomfort with the friendship.
Been deleting, cutting narcs out of my life .The peace is wonderful I should've done it years ago 🤗
I'm ready to not be afraid of them
I'm going to write a book about it.
I've gone no contact. The last conversation with my mother she let it slip that I wasn't suppose to be here right now, I think she meant that because she sabotage every attempt I ever made to get sober at her house.
I literally don't know why I'm alive right now.
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I’m ready and I’ve already done all of this they really are nothing to me it’s like who they really don’t exist for me I feel great I’m who I’m truly meant to be I’m shinning so bright I make a diamond look dull
This explains why they try to devalue you.
Great last couple of lines to sum up great talk. The power!
She's so gorgeous and bright
now i have no fear , im full of hope and strategies
Your advice is intentionality confrontational and frankly seems to be not only wrong but predatory to the victims of narcissism Hope you get paid well to make people feel good about building failed relationships then paying you.
I'm REALLY READY
Ashley Wallis,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!
Being authentic and they can't sway you works for me...looking good to the world is very important to them. They take great care of their looks...tend to have plastic surgery...if you wipe them...they will try to take your money, your kids, anything they can
Yes please.
Im ready.
Rebecca is 10/10
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Not absolutely love everything that you had to say today. It really helps me a lot.
It is supposed to say I absolutely love everything that you had to say today. It really helps me a lot. I don't like autocorrect lol
I am ready!
I'm ready I'm not so afraid as I'm in denial of what he is I know he will never change I have actually witnessed is behavior with other women
I'm NOT Afraid of Him ANYMORE!!!!!
One of my favorite things when the daily crisis antics started was to ignore them say I’m bored.
This is the best video from Rebecca zung. My God, i felt so soothed watching it. 🤗👌🙏❤️
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I’M READY
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On point for sure! Thanks for making a great video! Your videos sure shine a light on behaviors of the narcissist! Keep doing your thing! ;)
ready for the change
Your fighting spirit care n concern means the world to us.as I soon face divorce master n perhaps a judge you have kept me fighting. Thanks so much!
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This what I need that boost. I will get even but with intelligence.
Thank you Rebecca!!! My former partner needed to pick his horse and beat it every night at dinner. Such a waste of time. So negative!!
Catherine Friederich,You only deserve a good man 👨
Keep up the good work!
I like your change be bold love it now