WE SENT 75% OF OUR DIASPORA INCOME TO FAMILY BACK HOME AND THIS HAPPENED...
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Thank you brother for bringing this up .From east Africa things almost sane in “religion”
Moral of the story, put yourself first and 'stop playing god'
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Indeed.
Im afr amer, my cousin married a Nigerian. He sent so much money to Nigeria that it left his wife and children struggling. Plus, he cheated on my cuz constantly. Now, they're divorced. And he has no money. He was making 6 figures in 80s. But has nothing now. He's in his 70s.
I wish i knew that line back when i would be a millionaire, but am 63 and i completely cut off my family we are in the uk now,what's upset me they cant even send a birthday card or xmas card and say thank brother or uncle or cousin,
I was born and raise in the carbibean and this is one of the things u are taught from a young age, and then as i grew u i realize its hogwash, because we have family members who left the island in the 60s and never look, but stupid me with a kind heart did the opposite, am 63 now and i cut off my family completely i had a major operation and only my help and that open my eyes with all the money and Barrels I send home and stil have to send money to take it out , i would better off financially, but i have my health and my strength and I am in my right mind only speak to two members of my family the rest don't so when i hear people say family is everything it pushed my buttons, i can tell u sometimes friends are
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The same thing in Jamaica!!! I’ve only just stopped it !!! I done it for 55 yrs ! And they wouldn’t stop so I’ve just blocked them all ! I’m now free ! Thank God I woke up !!!!!
55 years 😢
Ouch
Sis, I did the same thing. My Dad supported his sister in JA since the 1960s, when he died in 2017 I took over. I just stopped it December of 2022 because I realize that I was continuing the dependency and i'm now retired. JA family is just as bad as the Africans.
I've been doing this since 2003 sending money to s africa from uk. I stopped in sep 2022. I blocked everyone of them including mom and dad, and all siblings. They all live in my house that I build while in the uk But now mum is already telling my younger sis that after her death, she must take the house
@@shayscott7498- The majority of Jamaicans are descendants of Africans so it’s in the DNA. 😂 I understand your pain Sister. The entitlement is mind boggling. Blessings!
I am a monster in my family because I don’t send a dime. Watched one of my uncle who travelled abroad and played God to the family whereas he was not even legal where he was. After doing so for 8 years while dwelling in the shadow of the system he got arrested and sent back. The people he sent money to all insulted him. His own mother (my grand mother) destroyed him no one wanted him around instead he came and lived with me his nephew. Now it was my turn I travelled and blocked everyone while in the shadow of the system. Now I am legal but I only do something when it is absolutely necessary. The reason is our family back home tend to forget what you did for them the previous day or week or month and it becomes entitlement 101. It’s hard to do but it is the right thing to do. No one you caretare gives a fuck about you. You want to know their true colors keep talking to them and send nothing they will label you everything on this earth.
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So true!
Well said. The poverty mindset in Africa HAS to stop. We also cannot enable it
smart man😂😂😂😂
Wow.
I send my sister money in September for school sh made 4 children never work, she said DO NOT FORGET CHRISTMAS.. I SAD DO NOT EVER ASK ME FOR MONEY
My dad was always open to helping anyone and everyone. When he died people laughed at him and said he’s broke
My dad could’ve been a freaking millionaire
That's life.
Millionaire or billionaire... Still would have died anyway... If he did his goodness out of his love for christ.... Then trust me, you better be praying to live a selfless life like him...Jesus did good to man.. Man still hated him, humans generally are wicked but bible teaches us to continue in doing good.
Hes probably in heaven while they are laughing on their way to hell. Its important to do what pleases God than man.
@@23293if he went to a heaven you will never know😮
@@Stevo..That’s what you got from the comment 1 year ago. I wonder if you hold the same sentiment today?
Well I dated an African and come to find out the money he was sending was to cater for another wife there in Africa.
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That happens alot!😢
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People back home are always broke 😂. My sister who are married too join the billing, last time I ask what exactly is the point of their husbands,they got angry. The wahala no dey finish, every week it's one thing or the other. They even started blaming my wife saying she's the reason I am complaining. I swear of Africa will get better it will start with those of us abroad saying no to billing back home
True what you told your sisters, but the same could be said of the men in the family...they should stand on their own to feet and provide for themselves and their families.
Good topic. i once came across a cameroonian woman at the metro station USA crying and as an african i was concerned. when i asked she said she had been married to a nigerian brother who stole her identity including social security etc and used it with his sister to defraud her(like open credit cards etc in her names). and now she was running to all these offices to sort her life out to prove that she is the one and that day she was overwhelmed by all this stuff. some people are something else!
My situation is the other way around. My ex wife made it a condition that if her family is not the pivot of our relationship then she would call it quits and that actually happened. I decided I wouldn't be blackmailed into supporting her family for free.
@L C she can have his money they are married but her Family have No rights to his money.
Good for you, and yes, I'm a Nigerian woman. I tell you, It's madness.
U did well brother
Good thing she at least told you her intentions and that you managed to get out of it eventually
This seems easy to say, but most Africans need to unlearn this ' save everyone ' mentality or even therapy!. Take care of your wife and kids first, then you can help where you can. Most of us are brainwashed.
I am happy that my husband has this mentality from the start. We have to take care of us first before others!
We are brainwashed for real, you send them money only for them to buy clothes 😢😢. No business ideas, you finance everything. No
Agreed grown folks need to take care of themselves and stop being leeches.
Thank you for sharing. My own brother duped me few days ago. Lied that he was abducted by some guys that collected the money that was supposed to be used for something tangible but he was lying. Meanwhile , I gave him money last year for a business so that he will stop depending on me but he didn’t use it for anything. Anyways, I’m not angry but it is the end of our relationship and my other siblings and mother supported me on that. At least I’m now free and can now concentrate myself. May God help us all.
HELPING PEOPLE BACK HOME WILL RUINED YOUR LIFE. I HAD TO FORCE MYSELF TO STOP. AFTER I STOP I FIND MYSELF SAVING A WHOLE LOT.
I am so glad that you are speaking on this major problem with black American women and African men who fool them into believing they love them, they get married, and they only what their papers. I went through that. It took years for me to get over this. I mean, a couple of decades, Cheating,, heavy drinker. I was much younger. He had my mind. I love him. I thought it was real but it wasn't. I suffered many years, causing me not to trust no man in terms of giving myself to them in terms of loving them and really left a scar my heart. So thank you for bringing this to the light..
Am so sorry for what you went through and hope you are in a better place today. Yes I used to see that happening a lot when i first got here and can really leave you broken.
To think that I am supposed to work hard and carry the bulk of the finances so that you can send money to grown arse people! People chillin drinking attaya ( tea) and buying fancy clothes for weddings, baby naming ceremonies, etc when you fly home while I am supposed to pay more of the expenses and keep a emergency fund so that my husband can help you? Nope! I will divorce you! Who needs dead weight? I have never met one person including family that I am willing to live in poverty for! If your family at home is more important than providing for your actual household than you need to go be with them! My home is not an Airbnb so the idea of family members staying for months is a no go!!!! I am not interested in financially providing for anybody! Not my family or his! If the woman is paying the bulk of the expenses while he is sending money home there is no reciprocity! Emergencies are different,but, not every month.She will never fully respect him as a man and provider and he will never be the leader of his home! A co-contributor will never be the head of the household!
Do people really think that everyone in Europe and America are rich? Or do they feel that the people in Europe and America owe them something? Do they not realize that people in those Western countries have just come out of a situation where they were just as exploited as Africans?
Extreme poverty is only ONE or TWO GENERATIONS ago in the West.
Four years we overlooked charging rent for a 2 bedroom property investment.. Finally we asked for 800 but endedd up 👆 receiving $600 one month later then the following month they moved out with outstanding utilities bills...
You are confident that genuine people exist but not in your family... DON'T mix business with family stuff it will destroy the relationship...
There is a lady from my country who moved to the UK. She said she was on a 6 months type of stay something like that. However, she wanted to remain there so she signed to a dating site. She said she met lots of guys but majority wanted to just fool around. Anyway, she met this man and she told him upfront that for her she wanted to remain in the UK. The man was appreciative of how honest she was. They actually got married had 2 children and the rest is history.
Damn 😂😂😂
Oh,. My,.
Dude you are preaching facts!, They never discuss their success they always call and tell you when they are broke. Guys never fall for their emotional blackmail. Take care of yourself in diaspora.
Why do Africans believe that they must go live abroad to become better or make money, this is not helping us at all, there are innovative ways to come up with ideas that can help you make dollars anywhere in the world.
We need to educate ourselves as black people, this humiliation can't go on this way.
Yes. The funny thing is if you stay in Africa, people rarely ask you for money, because you can make it on a low-key without people catching on.
FACTS.....Every nation on the planet makes money right in Africa except for the African.
Capital. We don’t have the capital. There’s a huge amount of untapped potential on the continent we can’t utilize because of that small problem.
@@HarukiYamamoto You have to earn that "capital". You can be given millions of dollars, but if you lack some crucial skills, so your business will inevitably fail. Give yourself a 10-year period, where you try to get as much skill, experience, and capital as possible. You can always start small and take baby steps toward your long-term goal.
What are the innovative ways to make money?
We also need to protect our assets, especially from people back home. If you're barely making it, you should NOT be sending money home. Most people back home always elevate the level of suffering. Without a doubt, there's hardship in 🇳🇬, but we have to apply wisdom and learn from people's experiences. Never inconvenience yourself to please anyone. All the best!
Absolutely well said
Well said👍🏾👍🏾
PREACH!
@@jcmor4856
Exactly.
There's massive laziness, especially with youths who are always looking into shorts !!!😢😮
I really enjoyed this video, my husband is from the Caribbean and his sisters are seriously money hungry the only time they call is when they want something. I told him you come first u can’t leave urself broke because when u needed their help, they were nowhere to be found. They feel soo entitled to his money.
I am so glad you talk about these topics!
My God, where is the SOUL of those people. They are All fully grown, adults with no conscience or standards.
I really enjoy your Videos. I played Diaspora God for almost 2 decades and can understand you so well.
The entitlement of some parents are breathtaking. Some are after your paycheck If they can get access to it. It's a shame. Very common in the African Community. They never pass on wealth as other races. Bringing children into this world for their own retirement plan without no help from the get go.
I am going through this as we speak.
@@ao5624 I pray for your deliverance from their claws🙏🏾
@@titi9238 Amen! Thank you.
@@ao5624 Learn to say no. Don’t feel guilty at all. The real ones will I understand while the scavengers won’t
This is real deep truths of African and Caribbean that live aboard
PREACH!
Also Asians and Latinos...
This is definitely true in the Caribbean. I am a Bahamian and been doing it for the 16 years that I been America. However I didn’t let it negatively impacted my family but I could have saved more money.
Siz Run, run, run, like the OG Phrankleen said, leave him and make him pay child support. He could be supporting another family back home.
Maybe the lady in the letter should have the husband go back unannounced to what exactly is being done with all that money. Also, one rule is pay yourself. It may be ok to send money but if I send you $100 am saving for myself $150 to $200 .
This is the realest shit i ever heard from an African man. It’s a breath of fresh air to hear someone with common sense.
If her husband is 1st born or from a Polygamous family then this will be a hard nut to crack. A suggestion is for her to find something doing even part-time work so she can have savings (just in case) Thks Phankleen
She needs to use her part-time job and save money in an outside bank account; her marriage is going to be an Endgame towards Divorce.
Forever damaged behind this sort of thing, A child burned fears fire! Facts!
Phrankleen! You the real deal! 👊🏾 👊🏾
Finally one of the few from over there that tells the got damn truth 😮
This was a great Storytime, I know of a few African American Ladies that were jilted in this manner (we call it the marriage game) However it only makes it hard for the truthful man or woman who really desires to date brothers and sisters from the motherland. Smh! Most would actually look at these marriage situations and know that they could really work if the person is upfront with their intentions. Most won't care about their marital status in the homeland if they are getting what they want :) $ But Once you play with someone's emotions and for free Ha haha, now that's the problem.
My coworkers married a Nigerian man now she found the divorce paper while cleaning the house. She is so heartbroken. Some one told her he got wife and kids back home. When she comfort him hw deny it. It been a lot going on. She is planning on going to immigration as we speak .
What's new, am surprised women are still falling for this nonscence in this day ND age, even women sending men money whilst they v never set eyes on them, Women learn to love ND respect yourselves, it's okay to live without a man until u meet a good geniune on and if that never happens it's also okay
@@tombimashri8149some people just can’t survive without drama. I can quarantine you, the same woman will reject a good because he doesn’t have drama
You speak the truth, you see things as they are....... that's a very high dimension of spiritual awakening..... thanks for the wisdom you give....
Thanks Mr. Phrankleen, this is an eye opener.
Truth be told big up Phrankleen.
Great conversation Phrankleen. You are definitely speaking the truth. Remain blessed 🪴
Phrankleen you are an authentic man. May God bless you. I appreciate your content.
Love the Content! You are getting straight to the nitty gritty! No filter! No Chaser! STRAIGHT! These are conversations that we need to have 😅
You are a pro my brother, I enjoy these videos. Eye opening all the time 👏🏾👏🏾 blessed to have you share your knowledge and awaken us from this slumber
Don't forget to look after yourselves everybody. Thank you Phrankleen. 💚💙💜
PREACH!
Tell them again until they truly hear you.
@@markwhittaker6866 Much love. 💙
Story of my life. I had to cut those family members out of my life. We only have one life to live folks.
Thank you so much for your continued help
Very wrong ideal, by sending all your money
Thanks for speaking out !!!! I hope everyone is listening and walking up !!!!
Phrankleen, u talk true my brother…👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Wow!!! Dude amazing content. I can relate to everyone of your videos. I have been in the U.S for 23yrs. Only been to Nigeria once. That’s a story for another day😂😂keep up the good work bro.
Phrankleen.i know a lady her sister was used by a african guy. He told her after they created 3 kids that he was leaving and in argument he said to her he got what he needed*papers*. She stabbed him. He is disabled now. She did 7 years.
😮 damn!
This is common amgost continnnential as well as Africans in the diaspora. I dont condone violence in any situation but at the same time he got what he deserved and let's see what his " Papers" can do for him now---
Maybe he said it to hurt her like many women can do too e.i its not even your kids etc
But us men dont go stabbing around , that was silly from him but crazy is crazy
@@cedkent2o11 no he said it cos it was the truth. He was using her for citizenship and after 10years and 3 kids getting what he needed he was done. Ruined her life
@@cedkent2o11 no excuses for liars who use ND hurt people
It stings deep to most of us who have been in those situations .Not only in Nigeria
Wow.. ive recently came across your video's so much truth.. love from South Africa.
This is the general mentality among Africans: a husband/wife doesn't see themselves as a family. So, the prefer listening or liable to someone out their marriage. Am yet to understand the rationale behind this if not for the fear of been bewitched by their so called 'family' known first to them. Or rather Africans find it to define the exact deferential natures of family.
Whoever Gid has blessed, NO HUMAN CAN CURSE! Once you harbour no evil towards them as extended family, the Creator keeps us from evil!
@@jaiyeolaolaribigbe6518 it may not always work that way. Some of the life happenings are bewildered. One must stay fortified, to overcome life trials!
Mr phranleen where were you all this years brother? Omg you just changed my mind set🙏🙏🙏🙏
Mr Phrankleen, is the Click Click part for me..that part was Legendary ..keep up the good work. Fact!
This is so spot on. I have watched it five times. I especially laugh at Mutumba, Babatunde, Chantel references. You can easily excel in stand up. Well done. Keep this up bro!
Awesome,true talk bro much appreciated
Thank you for exposing what we truly already know. Thank you for bringing it to the light. Because what does not come out in the wash will come out in the rinse. And will go around come around, and that's for everybody on the face of this Earth. We all have to reap what we sow.
Just opening your mouth for a minute- I knew the guy is Gambian😂😂😂
That’s my people
Good idea about the goal setting theme!!! gREAT IDEA
Fam, you betta PREEEEEECH!!!!✊🏾👊🏾💪🏾🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
This guy he left wife and kids in the continent its point blank my African American sister you’re being used by this guy 100%
This a beautiful topic
Thank you so much for what u do. God blessings.
Thank you baba phranko. Thank you.
Dude I have been a subscriber of your channel for a while now but damn, All I gotta say is thanks for the gospel.
Yo this is gold, my first intro to you.
Omo am a Fully Ghanaian! Thank you so much for the moral lessons.
I have seen this type of nonsense alot in North America.I am sorry for this sister because she really did not sign up for this type of foolishness which will only lead you to the poor house.While the west provides opportunities to build up,if your not careful,foolishness like this will cause you to waste your prime years and end up with nothing in the end.At some point you have to release when to drop the dead weight and leave certain folks behind especially blood sucking relatives.I have identified family members as my enemies and cut them off clean,i have zero regrets while stay thriving.Don't fall for the emotional black mail either,these are vultures and highly narcissistic
I just seen a video of an African lady who been working in the US for decades and sending money to her brother back home for decades to build her a house, plus taking care of the family. She did buy her land but the money for the house her brother stole it, he been sending her pics of another house being built 🤦🏽♀️ she popped up in africa unannounced and her house only had the foundation 3 floor house unfinished and damaged due to the rain, she cried cause she worked hard to retire back home in her own house, she trusted her brother and her brother was no where to be found.
Thank you so much brother, God bless you
The best and most honest truth for those in the diaspora.
Love u prankleen for d truth keep good look after u self
Thank you so much for this information
Phrankleen, you’re such a good story teller. Joke aside, l really appreciate you, I wish you were around during my time, some of our men are users. They would find some excuses to leave a woman, because they wanted their own tribe.But they have forgotten the law of karma.
Prankleen tanks for making us aware of all d low dodges they do to use people to get
Bro, l have only been watching your content for a few months now but nearly everything you verse about with reference to family back home is 100% true.
May the Heavens continuously bless all your endeavours.
Tell them. Tell them. Franklin. Thank you so much❤❤❤❤❤
You are very real bro,people home think you are they life insurance, Especially does who watch you to suffer,now want ur $,even though you give,keep complaining,trying to push they fulishness to you,thanks for eye opener
My first time here. Thank you 🙏
here in Australia tell them you are a nigeria especially among the african community they already ja pa...
@@diplomatdiplomat2800 why wont they Ja pa.. used them get paper leave them with two kids or less, take their hard earn money, then go back to Nigeria and bring some idiot that will end cheating on them.
Click! Click! Chanel the money to your project✅ Say Professor Phrankleen🙏🏿
You are saying the truth brother
I'm Panamanian, when I came to this country I started cleaning house, my stepmother was demanding money every month, I was making very little,I told her I will send what I can,she stop writing for year all angry ,when I was at home as a RN I will get paid 111.0,a month she demanded 80 dollars a month, when I got my RN license she demanded more money,when my dad pass she ask for 5,500.dollars for burrial,my sister told me their brothers buried him,I hated so much for the manipulations I stop talking to her and the rest of the family.
Best video I’ve ever watched
There’s the saying:
“..Fool me once… Same on You… Fool me twice… Same on ME!…”
The writer of the story said: “… I was young… I didn’t sign up for this…”
Ok… fine… lesson was learned… questions weren’t asked BEFORE marriage….
BUT…. after 5 years of stress & struggling… she left him… THEN… she RETURNED to the “same” circumstances WITHOUT changing the behaviors going on in the relationship… SHE WENT BACK FOR MORE WITH HER EYES WIDE OPEN! 🤨 And… she brought a child into the chaos… smdh
It’s NOT what he’s doing… It’s what she’s willing to LET HIM DO!… SHE WENT BACK… I’ve got no sympathies once that happen…
White lies... Dude doesn't love her. He was building his retirement back home. Just a thought
Yep! May even be planning to leave her once he’s built things up back home.
I wish u were here 20 years 30 years ago mybe people like myself and others could be further in life ❤❤❤
Great show Sir
As always, this is highly educative. Thank you! You and this 'sugar wall' naa ni nkan 🤣🤣😅!
This was one of your best lives top 10... thank you for always speaking the truth . This brought back old memories in my early twenties spinning big money on expensive liquor, clothes, food, Parties at my place every weekend. Just to impress people that knew he was cheating . Loaning money out that I never got back Maxed out one of my credit cards on his sister that just came here from Liberia only for her to smile in my face patting me on my back and sticking a knife in it. Hook her brother up with one of her best friends in the end he got killed by a machine at work never got a chance to marry this new woman krama is real. The ancestors never sleeps. Have a good weekend brother Phrankleen. Been riding with you a long time you taught me how to make Eba 🤘🏽👊🏾 ♥️🎈🎉🎊👍🏾✌🏾P.S. you are correct you're not exposing anything that is not on social media or by Word of mouth... 🤘🏽✌🏾
In foreign you MUST PAY YOURSELVES FIRST, NEVER GIVE OUTSIDE UNLESS ITS YOUR CHILDREN,
NOT PARENTS
NOT SIBLINGS
UNLESS THEY PAID YOUR FARE
PAY BACK WHAT YOU BORROWED TO REACH FOREIGN FIRST DEBT
AFTER ITS YOURSELVES BUT MAKE DURE HOUR RENT IS SETTLED
Save yourself ♥
Save dunds them travelling home open yourself your account
Send yourself money to yourself
Purchase property through your bank abroad...the bank will organise lawyers...
Its all legal and you don't need to worry
I enjoyed your Content & just Subscribed 🎉💯 STR8 OUTTA DC
Phrankleen, brother. I am so glad to see you again. I haven't seen your posts since the Covid-19 advent. I promised I would look to meet with you when visiting England. As I said in my comment about this issue, I sacrificed 25 years of my life, and practically lost everything. I had to start anew. The only things I have been able to save, thanks God/Allah are my higher education degrees, health, and America papers. As I told you I was even writing a historical fiction book about it, and I am almost done. It's in the last editing. I will definitely let you know when it' s published. We are all victims of what you're talking about. Diaspora Africans and our Descendant African Americans and Caribbean Africans. The truth is our families are the root cause of our mental corruption and hypocritical behavior. In one of my published articles, " Why Africa is Lagging Behind.", I covered a whole section on families pushing Africans to corruption. Thanks Phrankleen for talking about this painful subject. God/ Allah bless you, my brother.
Phrankleen this is woooord!
Thank you. 🙏🏾
And Black American people don’t call their mother’s bitches. Just to clarify. 🙏🏾 👌
Phrankleen you sound like a documentary in this particular video, my American sister's will be so out of control when our African brothers present them with some nonsense they think it is so okay by them.
Thank you so much
I love to watch your show its not only in Africa I am a guyanese I am here over 50 years I have help my brothers so much that today I am a widow and trying to make ends meet my brothers did what ever their wifes says they have nothing to show for it I did worse than most of these people talking about i feel their pain even my parents home is there its a dump i am not going to fix it guyanese are the same way 😢
It the same thing in Latin America! I stop helping any family. I enjoy your channel.
Thank You 🙏🏾
I never agreed to use anyones daughter to get my paper because what goes around comes around.