My brother kicked us out after 3 months in the UK
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- Опубліковано 4 жов 2024
- My brother kicked us out after 3 months in the UK is the story of a family who went to live with another family member in the Uk and sadly got kicked out after their relationship ended acrimoniously. There is a lot of unpack and learn, enjoy :)
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He is even lucky, he was accommodated for 3 months. My cousin was in my house for 4 months and my shopping bill doubled. This guy was making 4 eggs at once, even my husband doesn’t eat the way he was eats, Making rice at 8.30am, our guest room is downstairs so he is raiding the fridge every night, I had to start putting my kids snack in my bedroom. To also shock you, he was on scholarship and was getting paid £1300 monthly, never did he contribute one penny! I have made up my mind, never again. I would rather assist in paying for a month rent than allow any staying visitors into my home again.
Lol... You tried
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That's very funny. LMAO.
Selfish goat! He was getting paid £1,300 monthly and didn’t contribute anything… ika 🤔😕
Upon all that, I still didn’t do enough. He is now in another country living alone and he is lamenting on how expensive things and bills are. I am just here laughing my head off.
@@niolasanni5539 There are just people like that in this world. Family or not, they just like to feast on other's even if they are getting money from elsewhere.....they never give out.if he was getting 3000 pounds.....he Will still behave the way he did. Folks back home do not understand the pressure we are under here, they think is all rosy.....my mum now does not want to talk to me because according to her I do not know how to hustle, just because am trying to work a decent job and pay off my bills. I think I will just have to delete and block all numbers relating to 9ja so I do not get depressed.
I told my husband we’re never hosting anyone comes from naija. Their level of entitlement is beyond me. 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Its shocking why is this ?
Lol well in naija we are not suffering like UK .a person who is ok in naija won't be calculating bills like in u.k
Well said!!
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i feel exactly the same- i need my space and life is stressful enough already
This is why I never host people. The only time I hosted an ungrateful "friend" , I regretted it.
The problem is that people get too comfortable when living/staying with someone else. Don’t matter if they are your brother/sister you should be uncomfortable at someone’s house if you are too comfortable you have a problem
Lol, I'll never forget when I was a kid, my parents hosted my uncle (father's brother) who came from Ghana with his girlfriend which unbeknownst to them he planned to bring her. One day, my mother was telling them that the dinner included rice. Within minutes, my uncle was telling my parents that his girlfriend only eats a brand called "Uncle Ben's" rice and was truly expecting my mother to accommodate her. My father strategically started giving my uncle directions to the store to purchase the rice for his girlfriend himself (lol).
Hello Kofie
Please, are you from Ghana?If so do in anyway know a very good lawyer?Thank you!
@@posherdough3158 Hi Posher Dough,
My family's Ghanaian and I was born and raised in the U.S. I'm afraid the only lawyers I know work for the state sector (Attorney General Investigative office work type role) or not practicing. Good luck to you though.
Thanks for your quick response
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The West is about going dutch. Nigeria is about you picking up the tab.
My family member relocated to Canada some years back. Their church pastor was helping drive them around. I immediately told him to offer the pastor fuel money. He expressed shock, and appreciation at the same time. He was not aware how expensive fuel is to a Canadian.
If I'm hosted by someone, I would offer to chip in. If the host then says there's no need, then the burden is off my shoulder.
People, please be sensitive to your host. Life abroad is not like living in Nigeria.
Been there and learned bitterly taking family in, trying to help them. Never again.
Same here sis. It’s not worth it. They never appreciate
I hosted my brother in law his wife and 3 kids for 50 weeks!They never contributed a single penny.To make matters worse my wife treated them better than she treated her own kids.It was hell.Never again!
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Chai coming from 9ja to UK or USA & staying with someone for 9 months without contributing? Haba that’s Ole’ Barawo!!
It's easy for people to say "l was kicked out" The question is "what did you do that made them kick you out"? You will not tell the story that will put you in bad light but will tell that of you brother to portray him as a bad person. You arrived from Nigeria accommodated you for however long you say he did. That tells me that he has a good ❤ but your behaviours must have been frustrating for him and his family if he has one. We all know our naija people!
I can’t help but laugh all through. Some Africans need to change this entitlement mentality. Africans in the diaspora should learn to say no, it could only cause minimal damaging effects. Instead of hosting visitors in your home, why not rent a shared apartment for the visitors and pay the rent for a couple of weeks and have them pay their bill afterwards. We just need to be blunt and upfront.
People need to have lived overseas to understand the cost of living...
Well I believe all these shenanigans will cause them to be flung out anywhere in the world even in Nigeria. As a visitor in the house, you should be aware of unwritten rules, observe the house carefully and abide by these, the time they wake up, morning devotions, lunch time and the rest of the unwritten house rules. If I buy a TV at a cost of 1million and a child comes to throw a sharp object because he wasn't taught to play without being destructive well it will be an issue. I still know a number of people who accommodate others who of course play by the house rules.
Why will his wife not be able to help around the house, if she was in her own house will she not engage in house keeping?
Some people believe that helping around the house is akin to being like a maid. However, it is just common sense.
I advised someone who thought like that recently, because it is annoying.
It's not actually entitlement it's culture difference and ease of lifestyle ,I can't imagine me having a house in naija and telling someone who is living with me to pay bills but in u.k u will be under pressure we actually live better in naija to some extent if u have some stable income in naija
He is even lucky that he lasted for 3 months, sometimes family members refuse to house the person. They will tell you, you are on your own if you come abroad. These stories are everywhere. That is why when you find someone willing to house you, you better start looking for work the same day you arrive. You better understand your stay there is temporary and no one is going to house you for that long without you contributing, and not feel some type of way about it..
YOU KNOW THAT SOME PEOPLE THINK THAT ABROAD IS LIKE NIGERIA WHERE PEOPLE STAY FOR FREE IN THE HOUSES OF THEIR RELATIVES WITHOUT CONTRIBUTING TO IT, BUT THEY DON'T KNOW THAT EUROPE IS ANOTHER WORLD.
EXACTLY...INDEED...I think after 3 weeks, time would've been up for me.
@@lkofie6670 ikr
i also blame the brother for hosting a numrous family like that. it enough to host your brother till he settle down then he can now invites his family on his own. Thank you phrankleen i really enjoyed it....
People in the diaspora have been too kind for far too long. Let's stop this behaviour of impressing people. Time to start saying NO!
They talk too much and show off brand name clothes when going home.
I strongly agree
AGREED...Stand up to emotional blackmail.
Well said!!!!
Phrankleen, the description of the little demons they call children, you finish me sha... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I don't understand why people host people, but don't make things clear to the individual. Then later on complain about the person (s).
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 OH MY DAYS! I’ve never laughed so hard. Straight forward & educative!
You cannot come visit me if you ain’t paying for your own hotel.
And if you’re coming from Naija just arrange for your own AirBnB. The best I can do is to be sure it’s in a safe area. Either family or friends…..Case closed!
AGREED
3 months rent free in England he's is so nice man if u know what I mean
I wish family would do their homework before they arrive abroad, their sense of entitlement is so annoying.
Notice how arguments and fights increase when family stay long term.
Some even have hell bent mindsets to destroy a marriage because of jealously.
Yep it has happened in my own family sadly!
@@vincentalakija5515
Sorry about that' 🙏🏼
@@fiae2897, It's alright we learnt the hard way and now know how to handle visitors that come to visit.
There are many hygiene horror stories. The worst I have seen is a guest flossing their teeth after a meal, right I the living room! Instead of a toothpick, this person used a floss!
The worst part of bringing a relative is them coming on a visitors Visa, and then changing their minds about wanting to go to school irrespective of the finances and Visa regulations! Some have the audacity to urge you to use your credit cards!!!
I fear this one
They must be mad!
OMG, my belly hurt so much from laughing ( Pinzaaa). Thanks, mate, you nailed it again
I love when you break into your Yoruba native tongue!! Its just sounds soo funny, even if I don't understand. It reminds me of the humourous creole we buss into back home when cheesed off!! 🤣🤣🤣
That’s what I always wanna hear 😂😂😂😂,he’s from my city; Ibadan.
Exactly
All you said is the truth. And those people that demand too much can't even even do it for someone else.
Even if the guest is contributing financially, there has to be limits . Plus people need to be aware of theirs type of kids they have. My son is on that age that he is very hard to listen . Knowing that I even avoid going to people places, until he frowns out of this behaviour ( he is 3) and is not bcos I don’t discipline him, which I do. I just don’t even want to be embarrassed.
Same here toddlers hardly listen, it’s that age were they observing and exploring. And that uncontrollable tantrums, oh lord 🤦🏽♀️.
@@XoxoVictoria_ omg... the tantrum not so much as he knows what he will get once we are home, but we find it hard to stop him from touching peoples things and wanting to eat all the food lol . So I seriously I AVOID going to peoples houses like the plague . I told him until he listen to mummy and daddy better he will spend most of his time at home or just go to the park . I think he’s starting to get it. It’s summer here in the U.K. and he is missing out
When we get tired of being used and stop helping them. They call us Gatekeepers 🤣🤣🤣
Some people are just so full of themselves and have that sense of entitlement that I don’t understand
Phrankleen your delivery is so funny! I have to say our people can be hard to please. You try and help but it's never enough. The day you can't or you've had enough, they change. There is also a very nasty selfishness where they think if you give you have no needs or you will never have needs.
I missed this live meeen… Phrankleen you’ve spoken truth!! 😊
I’m watching this again, the McDonald’s demon children bit made me laugh out loud at work . 🤣
My ribs are aching. This is the plain truth and nothing more. I wish a lot of Nigerians listen to this. They are quick to say people abroad are stingy. I take it as an insult. I really want this video to reach every corner of Nigeria.
Yes yu are right this video needs to be send out to all those people that want to relocate and teach them a plan before coming abroad people expect to be feed always when going out too it’s not right Yu end up spending all yuor savings Don’t do it the culture back home but that’s back home Not abroad but it’s on yu let it happen
You're very lucky your brother gave you accommodation for 3 months...mine never even answered my calls right till date.I had to beg on Facebook for help and other childhood friends after being stranded at the Johannesburg international airport.4 years later I'm grateful to God for grace and excellent health.
My co-worker said her sister in law came to visit -pregnant. all day online shopping while co worker worked 12 hr shift. Sister in law did very did little house work . When she (sister in law) attempt to wash dishes she would suddenly get stomach cramps! Her brother (co worker’s hubby) would rush to his sister “ sit down , sit down” ( this happened several tines). coworker would have to do everything . Fast forward , sister in law was caught shoplifting - ran back home (after baby was born)!
😳. What!!!!
Na wa ooo
This episode is loaded. Good job Phrankleen!!
This man should be ashamed of himself for even writing to you. The problem is we do not like to offend others and end up asking crap. He would advise his brother that he will be only to capable to accommodate him and his family only two weeks and after that I will not be able to do more.
Mehn u will be good at writing a movie script phrank. Thanks for saying it like it is. I love u bro 😂 😂
You are a highly experienced person...RESPECT TO YOU MY BROTHER
Very educational for the host and the guest.
Kindly continue to EDUCATE certain folks. Thanks 🙏🏽 Franklin!
I have so much love for you Phankleen, you say it as it, many people are going through this.
How can a begger be choosy! Look, you want to be the boss, then pay the costs!
😂😂😂😂😂... Phrankleen... your sense of humour while telling stories is top notch 👌👌👌👌...mob love!!!I haven't laughed this hard in awhile...thank you!
This is great counsel to people being provided for or helped. It's all about boundaries at the end of the day.
Those who have ears have heard with grains of salt and a glass of water for their conscience.
Discipline, kindness and respect takes people a long way.
I was having a gloomy Monday and put this video on randomly. Oh my days! I haven't laughed like this in sooo long. This was too funny
Right on Phrankleen! Some people are senseless with their request for support.
Hi Phranklen, how I wish I can like this video multiple times🥰
I’M SURPRISED PEOPLE NEED TO BE TOLD THIS, IN THIS DAY AND TIME.
EVEN IF THE HOST IS A MILLIONAIRE, IT’S STILL A BIT TOO MUCH.
LORD HAVE MERCY.
I’ve had the “Daddy wa…” experience. As in, Daddy wa doesn’t like onions in his Jollof rice, Daddy wa doesn’t like vegetables in his fried rice. Wetin come concern me? So me I should change my style of cooking because of Daddy wa! E o serious! Using and dirtying the bathroom and not even trying to be decent is the one that annoys me the most! Those “pubs” is what gets me…Lol! 😆 I already don’t like hair. So you can imagine me staring down at them! Aaaargh!!!
I can relate to everything said!Especially the food nyamming, phone calling ones!! Good topics as usual! And the toilet gags... Lord!!
Phrankleen you have to write a script on this episode. You have me laughing through the entire episode.
You are right on point. Bravo 🙏🏿
My sister’s boyfriend is Nigerian and they both live in the UK. His sister is currently visiting and she expects them to pay for absolutely everything.
And we have someone out here in the States that has housed people for six years they get from those idiots are backstabbing, disrespect and gossip all over the community.
Pharnkleen, 💯 on point👍 ppl must learn how to dance a yard before they enter abroad Manners and respect always never think that ur at home in someone else’s house.
LMAOOOOO....weapon of mass destruction....coffee edges bra...so DEAD! 😂😂😂
But jokes apart, spot on Phrankleen👊🏾👌🏾
Iwo bobo yii, o ni pami pelu awon stories yi, BUT they are 100% true, I live in London and I've see and heard most of these stories on your podcast. People are just extremely inconsiderate. Entertaining episode ma broda gbayi padi mii. 👍🇬🇧🇳🇬😎
“So what you’re telling me is that your wife is utterly useless” 🤣🤣 i almost choked on my biscuit when you said that!
The teeth brushing phrankleeen🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣I’ve missed your postings for a while but man….you got me cracking up. Too funny. The oral hygiene part is something else. This truth needs to be ran on at home TV networks as a PSA! Thanks for the laugh. Stay safe!
😂🤣🤣🤣thank you bro for reliviefing me from the stress I went through today....you made my evening..
Ur truly a February born, speak it as it is 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
It is not the children's fault, the parents are to be blamed. Most modern day Nigerian parents do not raise their children how they were raised. Therefore the children have no manners and show zero respect even to adults. Also they have some resentment and jealousy when they see people established abroad. So they are entitled due to jealousy more than anything else, therefore draining you not just financially but physically too. What they don't know is that this is not Nigeria and there are consequences for their wicked behaviour. Sentiments goes out of the window when stretched beyond your means.
The children are victims of bad parenting, in some occasions the parents instigate the children to misbehave in the homes of the host to get a reaction from the inlaw. That is bad parenting because you are corrupting your child/children's morals, distorting their sense of right and wrong.
YES...lol, I'm the same when it comes to children. I humor and laugh with other people's kids to a degree but I must RAISE MY OWN KIDS.
Phrankleen... Laugh don kill me. Going to someone's house doing Pashaposho. LMAO. 😂😂😂 Dem supposed do am jeje. That aside, everything you've said is the gospel truth. Bless up bro. 👍👊
Definitely
Never ever been even to stay with friends and family and not paid my way by contributing food and help around the house cooking and cleaning! It's how i was raised! As a child we would go and visit relatives for a weekend my dad would stock the fridge for a week. We never got the same courtesy back. My dad said thats them this is me
Phrankleen, my brother u dey talk true o. I go die o…..laugh don finish me o….🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’m so used to helping people it’s a part of me & I know people can’t so inconsiderate when you move them in.
Yes some come from Jamaica too i see it in my house with people I put up
Thanks
Bro, you should start your own TV show. You are wise and also damn too funny.
I see you bro. You're an inspiration yeah ✌
I laughed so hard men, you’re a character Phrankleen. Nice 1
Love listening to you bro!! Lolol You're a man of great reason and assertive humility. Much Respect!! Its the devide between cultural expectations and the reasoning and ettiquette maners of the western hemisphere!! Awesome man!! 👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾
3 months is too much now? Me from airport they blocked their number and NO one showed up at the airport.....so na feom airport my own huzzle start ahhhh i THANK THIS GOD OF MERCY!!!!!
I know someone that the same thing happened to. The "friend" actually invited them to the united states and offered to even wait for them at the airport but upon his arrival,the guy flaked out on him, never answered his phone and pretty much abandoned him at the airport.
Call it what you want but some people can only see others as mugs or victims there to be taken advantage off. The grift is strong.
They should Thank God that his brother hosted his family in that house for 3 months! If it were me their bums will be in a public shelter after two weeks!
In the shelter the next day😂
Not hosting anyone as its too expensive. Let them stay in a hotel.
Mr. Phrankleen always feeding us with the fact💯💪🏽✊🏿✊🏽✊🏾
The laptop part got me man 😂😅😂😅😂😅😂😅😅
Phrankleen your descriptions are vivid and comical 😀😂
Some people are disgusting 🤢🤮
I can understand this situation from personal experience. Great story but so frustrating I know. Now I can see them coming. Thanks for sharing. Your best yet I think. James J in Limerick city Ireland
Well said, some people really lack common sense.
Love your story's!!! Great video❤🖤💚🙌🏿🙏🏿
Thanks 🙏🏾
When I stay at someone's place for an extended time abroad, I always make a point of chipping in for groceries, etc
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣oh my gosh
Bro, you’ve made my day . I laughed and riled on the floor aka my husband likes fried meat🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I just like your program. I watch it daily, and you always make bit real. Please keep up with good work.
He and his family needs a lot common sense.
I really don't know where the root of this entitlement culture emanates from. Beyond the topic you've just addressed, it cuts across relationships, marraige, friendships and family....and when you try to push back, they go philosophical and religious
@@macabara8819 Where did the politicians get it? I guess that's the question.
Their narcissism blinds them. They have delusions of grandeur.
Laugh and learn with Phrankleen. I laughed so hard I almost threw up my tea. Been there, done that. No lies told.
From the beginning to the end of this topic, I couldn't help laughing,even you too was laughing. Loved how you coined words to describe these unruly behaviour of these guests, My hubby's younger brother came visiting, from day one , his attitude was unbelievable. Guess what! I found dude lying on our bed, with tv on, under the duvet watching tv after offering him my son's room, sneak food to his room after we 've gone to bed, the lists goes on, you know why? THIS IS MY BROTHER'S HOUSE. The annoying part of all, he sees me in the morning and just pass , he expects me to greet him in the morning, he even complained to family friends that I don't vacummn his room.
lol banging in your host's house is something the hosts can never forget.
I've hosted before I always tell them if you feel the need or urge please go outside be adventurous there's a park that's never closed 5 min walk away go there n have fun.
@@CapreDiem42 Abi.
I wonder how we've lost all sense of dignity and self respect. The training in the 70s and 80s is to be self courteous and respectful. Does beggar has a choice? Such unscrupulous family should see themselves as beggars and stop imposing their wants on others. Eni ti o like iPad ko se mu iPad wa lati ile e. The host will gladly supply internet.
That man has a problem that he needs to fix him self. He and his wife need to be grateful that someone welcomed them to their house. The brother’s wife is not his servant! The wife invited what came to them. I will kick you out in 1 week with that attitude. Thank you.
Wow I really love this ur topic bro 🥰❤👌 keep it up
Phrankleen you’ve killed me on the mouth cleaning 🤣🤣🤣
Have an uncle who uses whichever toothbrush he finds in the bathroom. Demands how his dinner should be prepared. Never again in my home
My family and I watched this twice. 😂😂😂😂
My brother, U have said it all.
Phrankleen you killed me with laughter in this episode. Say it as it is let them hear,
You are so funny ! Konida fun okun omo iya . Never heard nothing like this in my life . You are so real . You cannot defeat women in their territory . You are so right ! Women for you ! Too much salt in the food ? Bedroom on fire ?
I can’t stop laughing watching this 😂😂😂
Grilled tilapia 🤣🤣, driving up the gas/electric bill as well 🤣🤣
It’s funny that people criticize Phrankleen calling him “westernized” a traitor, etc. Could it be that he tells the truth about some of these so called “cultural practices “ that lead to a sense of entitlement? The west is expensive! If you and your family are coming to visit for anything more than a few days you need to contribute something. Leave a little something for the increase in expenses. If 4 of you stay for 14 days those household expenses increase.Food, electricity, water,etc.. Be considerate! Nobody owes you anything! If someone saves me the cost of lodging and car rental by hosting me the least I can do is give them a small token of appreciation. I was told that was rude to expect friends and family to “pay” for staying in your home. This idea of what hospitality is and the obligations to family is a bit much. Nobody’s children can come stay at my home to go to school or for any reason. No siblings/ uncles/ aunts can come “live” while they get on their feet in America.And definitely don’t ask about coming to visit so you can have your baby here. My home is not a maternal health center.. I am not paying any family members household/ living expenses while you continue to make babies and live your best life flossing at weddings, baby naming ceremonies, etc. I am not a bank! My home is not a hotel! If they makes me Americanized/ Westernized I will be that!
You're blunt brother.........keep it up