The Reason You Can''t Break Your Trauma Bond
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- Опубліковано 27 лип 2023
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The Reason You Can't Break Your Trauma Bond
There is a missing piece that has you stuck in these bonds. The missing piece will help have less triggers and end patterns.
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HE FUCKING ABUSED ME.
He replaced me in an instant.
When he'd get mad/upset/hurt/whatever:
he'd give me the silent treatment.
REMINDER TO SELF:
Reasons for narcissistic silent treatment:
* Stonewalling
* Gaslighting
* Emotional immaturity
* Lack of interpersonal skill
* Victimhood
* Dysregulation
* Avoidant attachment style
* Doing to me, what was done to him
* Terrified of conflict
* Not knowing any other way
* Fear/panic/anxiety/terror
* Feeling incapable/not good enough
* Desperation
* Soul contract
* Mirroring
* Unavailability
* (c)PTSD
* Power over
* Regaining a (false) sense of control
* Punishment
But he never really cared about me.
He used me and discarded me.
Replaced me so easily.
The PTSD is unbearable.
The PTSD and the loneliness and the grief that he's given me...
Makes it so that I can't breathe.
I drowned. I suffocate. I die inside.
I'm in hell with no escape.
NO ESCAPE.
He raped my soul:
brutally viciously violently maliciously.
Every night: nightmares.
Every day: panic attacks.
I want to die.
Every morning I wake up in despair,
desperately praying to die.
I can no longer bear the pain.
He betrayed and abandoned me, discarded me like garbage.
I live in perpetual panic and terror and loneliness and longing...
I'm so alone in the world. I die of fear.
I'm so fucking traumatized and terrorized and terrified.
I'm dying inside. My soul is raped.
He's given me severe PTSD. Severe! Severe! Severe!
How and when will I ever heal?
God, as I walk through this hell and heartache and grief,
I pray you guide me and direct me and hold me and heal me...
Please please please please please HEAL ME! Please.
I won't be stuck in hell anymore. Enough is enough!!!
It's time to be free: in Jesus's name!
I’m giving my life to Jesus! 100%!
*PROVERBS 18:22
I FAITHFULLY PRAY
FOR THE HUSBAND
GOD HAS ORDAINED FOR ME!*
Praying for your healing...God is the ultimate lover, healer, counselor and friend. Fall madly in love with Him and heal yourself from earthly father and mother wound.
Once again, you nailed it. Healing trauma bonds is an essential part of creating healthy relationships.
Yes!!!
Been working on my trauma bonds. This hit home:
Need approval from the abuser...ouch. Learned that the hard way, but at least I learned.
I'm disconnecting from my only source of survival vs. I'm disconnecting from a traumatic relationship.
This video is GOLD
Thank YOU!
Thanks so much!
Because of everything I did leading up to right now, wnen I did learn about, "THE NARCISSIST/ SCAPEGOAT - FAMILY SYNDROME" when I realized this existed it evaporated like it was never there. I am now free.
For me "love "is magical word and "empowerment "is not a fake word
I trauma bonded with an older sister(7yrs) who bread crumbed me as a child but how sweet the crumbs were.
Later she rejected and ghosted me. It's been 9 yrs and she hasn't spoken to me
I recently ran into her at my dad's and later that day the pain hit me deep...wow.
But it will be ok
the confirmatory bark made me giggle lol 0:11
Thank you.❤
Truma bond and love is the most misinterpreted topic, love is a positive emotion and it is spontaneous but truma bond is a negative emotion it affect our body negatively, and it is imposed
Thats amazing i was right 👍 our inner child are latching on to them no matter what i was fighting a part of myself i .i am still fighting that part of me .i hope to be mentally free soon .😃
Brilliant 🙏
Wow, dear Candace, thank you so much for your wise words! ❤️🤗
Thank you!!!
This is gold 🙏🏻
Thanks so much
this so speaks to me
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Wow wow wow how is it possible for someone to know this stuff??? So powerful and insightful. Is anything of this presented in an online course, we can work at our own pace??
It's definitely family of origin and then the bully narc husband starts to just take over or take their place so to speak
Yes until you heal the original wound through the emotional imprint. Then the cycle breaks
It is a good topic, I just thought I haven't done enough processing or something. I think I just imagined this was normal or all there is despite not being particularly fond of how relationships were served up to me in my formative years. But now watching all these video's I'm starting to wonder about my relationship status, so I will just have see what happens next.
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Great video, Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together, it was a really bad phase but we got through it.
@josephregland its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
@josephregland kindly look her up online and you won't regret it.
Will the course be free of very loud dog background noise? I'm a HSP and loud noise hurts me.
Oh, I thought will hear something new..
It is new. You have never heard that before
I've heard of narcissists getting in through childhood wounds for years now. Ive also heard of Stockholm syndrome whereby previously "normal" ppl and ppl with secure attachment style and no real childhood wounding have been groomed, conditioned, lovebombed, hijacked or conned into becoming enmeshed with toxic types.
Also, due to their ability to regulate their own emotions, someone with a secure attachment is usually capable of helping a partner with insecure attachment to regulate theirs. So even if a secure adult falls in love with an insecure person, they can help their loved one feel secure and safe within the relationship.
There's many variations of this in relationships, I'm wondering where you sourced your "new" material from as it sounds very much like just doing inner child healing work without considering that it may not be you who is the problem, especially for children at risk from a narcissistic parent. How would this help a child at risk?
Then there's friends, co-workers, relatives, mentors, etc., who we can be influenced by to form toxic ties with if they're highly manipulative, charming and we're exposed to and insidiously compromised by them consistently. What comes first the chicken or the egg if someone was healthy, secure yet ignorant or naive regarding toxic types in the first place they may be trying to get along with someone wounded and get sucked into temporary abuse they can disconnect from more easily as I'm sure happens in many situations such as mentor, nursing and carer roles. What then? They may go back attempting to make sense of things, get closure, save others or expose the toxic type.
The narcissist "shared" delusion may not be shared but constantly challenged by the healthier partner till they're exhausted, upset and look like the problem to others. Idk, I just think there's more to this.
Thanks for sharing and inspiring, it's food for thought.
I'm also thinking, what if it's just a crush or a case of discovering unrealised potential you mistakenly attribute to another and mistakenly toxically enmesh with to secure it?
Sharing in narc idealisation is much like watching a movie of your unrecognised self in your full potential.
You can't watch it twice, it triggers your emotions, it changes you and you're never the same.
You rerun it over and over in your head until you eventually realise its shown you exactly what you need to bring out of yourself to fully live whereas the sad, horrible ending showed you what would happen if you didn't ...
神が好きだから宝物の聖書を大切に想っている事が原因で
聖書より強力な自分の心と言う凄い宝物に気づけない人達は神に魂を抜かれている現在です‼️魂なしゾンビ急増中💔
🧟♂️🧟♀️🧟 警戒
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