i dont have anyone
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- i dont have anyone and thats the reality of it
i hope one day i find my people and purpose
i love making videos and i read every comment (ill try to reply to as many as i can)
thankyou so much for the support and kind words means alot
I've got no family left and only acquaintances. You're not alone mate! ♥
How it is for me too really alas.
Your not alone
What's your name
John 11.25-26 Jesus said unto her I AM the resurrection and the life he that believes in me though he were dead yet shall he live and whosoever lives and belives in me shall never die believest thou this Amen
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Theo von once said being lonely is not feeling like you have nobody, its feeling that nobody has you.
And that’s so true I really like that
Ah yes that's renowned philosopher, Theo Von
I just feel lonely in crowds but when I live/work in rural locations out in the sticks I feel fine by myself
Love Theo Von
Join a gym 🏋️. Get some focus,meet people and improve your physical and mental health.
Stay strong brother. You're a good guy with a heart. You will find your way.
I'm 31 and never had anybody outside of immediate family. I come home everyday and no one talks to me, no one texts me. There's nothing. It's a very dull and unsatisfying existence. You just have to accept it for what it is. Force yourself to go walking/running at least 5km every day, go for a drive to the beach just for the fun of it, shop for some nice ingredients and cook something new at home. These are the things that keep me going.
Hello m8 , how was your day.
@@Mjk10957 G'day and thanks for asking. I had a good day yesterday. Went for a long walk in a nice bushland garden, bought a pie from the bakery and just relaxed. Exercise is a great way to distract from the daily worries of life.
Have you tried joining a local class or hobby groups? These are great ways to find like minded friends.
PLEASE TALK TO UR PARENTS .they will help.u got a whole life ahead go smash it have fun
@@greenkitty82 There's none that really appeal to me. I am stuck in suburbia with families and elderly people, and very few people my own age. Absolutely nothing to do here except go walking/running around the streets.
Get the gym.
Get running
Get a hobby
Get cooking healthy food
Be thankful you have a person to care for in your uncle
Be thankful for income. And a job
Treat yourself to a new wardrobe
Read a book
Get some counselling
Go swimming
Book a holiday in the sun and do it no matter what even if 3 days away
I gave my own son exactly the same advice..he's 24 and he is getting there!!thank you for this..xx
Yes gratitude and looking after yourself is the best medicine.
100% health is wealth. All great advice.
Chin up .do breath work. Look after your health .Good things will follow good luck
This. Especially the gym. Get yourself some muscles, I'm not kidding, people just start talking to you. It might sound ridiculous, but I'm talking from personal experience. I used to be overweight, fat, poor hair and hygiene, etc. I got myself into a gym though, focused on bodybuilding. I have almost completely transformed the way I look and suddenly, people started taking notice and people suddenly started talking to me. I now have a beautiful girlfriend, who I would have originally thought was way out of my league, I find it easier talking to other people, I'm physically more capable, I feel more confident in the clothes I wear, etc. Getting into good shape will change your life. Especially this guy. He's got a good jawline, tattoos, decent hair. If he got himself into a gym and committed for a couple years. The dude would be a fucking rockstar.
You don’t how brave you are m8, making these videos. You are both highlighting & helping so many young people in your position. We live in such a toxic, pressured social media led world.
Well said sir
Well said.
It takes some balls to say what you have mate,keep fighting the fight brother your day will come 👊🏼👍🏻
Keep your chin up mate, I've been on my own since I was 18 and I know it's hard but it will get better and eventually make you stronger,having my son changed my perspective on life and you will meet someone and have a family when time is right, I found exercise and gym helpful and positive,and also talking to people about it and getting it off your chest helps,I hope you feel better soon mate 🙏
I feel almost exactly the same way mate, thank you for posting these. They resonate a lot.
Just recently came across your vids. Don’t be so hard on yourself, not everyone’s life journey mimics eachother. I’m 37 and haven’t met my future hubby and maybe never will- but It doesn’t mean that having a family or a husband will suddenly make my life more fulfilled or is the magic answer. We have to work on ourselves first; our hobbies, our daily drive, family that we care about and also look at who we truely are outside of having a partner or kids. You will start to attract the energy you feel, and everything (in its time) will start falling into place for you. Every day is worth living, so don’t deny yourself the right to appreciate your life.
xx
Well said
No job nothing but rejection feel for you
I’m the same age as you and I love your message. Thank you 💚
Thanks guys ❤️😘
You've described how I feel bless you. Its good to hear you talk because it helps to realize I'm not the only one. I think a lot of people feel like this but cover it up. Thank you
..aww, I hear you buddy...I've recently lost my mum to cancer, it's really hard to get through it. Being active is good but take time for yourself also, keep talking and aim to do one or two small things that bring you joy, comfort and happiness each day. Best wishes 💜 p.s. I'm a midlander too!
How about this , im 64 and have never connected with anyone in a serious long term comitted relationship. I am no longer interested. I like and prefer living on my own going what i want.
I'm 55 and I'm the same. Never found a connection with that one person, always lived alone, hate socialising so I just dont go anymore. I love living alone, always have, it's all I've known. But this young man sounds like he wants to be able to connect, and I hope he can find happiness because I think he's a lovely person
@@TimelordUK Yeah .
@@TimelordUK Maybe he doesn't. Maybe it's just what society has told him he should want.
@@laurencewainwrighttotally agree with you.
I feel for you as my own daughter who is 23 and has Autism and has no social life and gets very down by it. She is not able to work or go to collage as she struggles with being around people so is at home 99% of the time. It breaks my heart as she is so charming and funny in her own way, and I hope one day she will meet a nice guy that will accept her and show her love and respect. I have nothing but respect for you putting up these videos and being so honest about how you're feeling. I hope you have had a good day! ❤😍
Your daughter is just like me, are you sure I’m not your son (just joking lol 😂). Although I’m 21 I also have no social life due to autism, and anxiety disorder. I just try my best everyday I go uni, it’s hard but I just push through. Wishing u and ur daughter the best of luck! It’s not easy but hopefully things get better
Hello, I do understand what your daughter is going through as a diagnosed later in life AuDHD person myself. There are groups online or in person for neurodivergent people. Many people on the spectrum, as I do at times, think “I wish I was normal” and “I hate this condition”. But, what is normal in today’s crazy world? Also apparently, there are many famous & creative people on the spectrum!
Try get your daughter to reach out to the neurodivergent community in some way. Once she can find people who are very similar, then it will likely help her wellbeing in such positive ways. I hope that helps somewhat. All the best.
Sending you lots of love and hugs. sounds daft,but when i was really ill and very down i made a list each day of the things in life i had to be grateful for,it really does help when you see it wrote down and it makes you realise that you have more things to be grateful for than you realise,it helped ease my depression a bit too. Make sure you are out in nature each day too,even if its only for a short while. Maybe take a hobby up,that helps you mix with others or maybe some type of voluntary work,it can be very good for your mental health doing voluntary work in spare time.
My son is the same. It's so difficult, it stresses me out😢
I’m turning 40 next year and I feel you. It’s a hard place to be. Still haven’t found my future husband. The thought of having a family is dwindling rapidly. It sucks. But. If you have your health, you are doing okay. There are people that would give everything to have their health back. Appreciate yourself, you’re the only person that can drag you out of these dark holes. Just know that you’ve got this 💪🏻 we’re all gonna be okay
Burnout is really real and alot of us don't know it's happening until we're this deep in and struggle to get out. Prioritising yourself and your healing and happiness is super important. Being strong and saying 'no' to things you don't want to do, putting in boundaries is also super important. I think unfortunately, friends are hard to find in this day and age with how awful social media is, peoples expectations and anxiety levels rising - it's hard for us to reach out and try these things. Keep your head high and really prioritise you
I have seen a couple of your videos pop up on my feed now, and I couldnt scroll past again. I wish I could sit and vhat to you, tell you everything will be ok. Im so sorry to hear about your uncle, that must be so hard for you, Ive been through it with too many of mybown family members, so im sending you a big ((hug)) it also must have been so hard for you to lose your brother at such a young age, I cant begin to imagine how hard that must be. You dont need to inprove yourself as a person, you seem like such a lovely guy, i know its not easy but if you can, please try to be kind to yourself, youve not had an easy time of it and anyone whos walked in your shoes would find it tough. It shocks me to say this but im well old enough to be your mum lol i think, in my head, im still your age, and it feels like yesterday that i was suffering from similar thoughts (but for different reasons). I dont have answers for you as to how you can have the life you want, but what I will say is dont believe those insta stories about how everyone else your age is having a fantastic time, because I bet you theyre not. 27 is still so young, but i know to you, at this moment, it might not feel like it. Theres so much I wish I could say to you but theres not enough room here, and I dont want to bore you (trust me, my 18 year old daughter says Im reeeaally good at that lol). Have you considered looking into CBT, or bereavment counselling at all? It might help you, it definitely helped me when my baby daughter died when I was 24. Id be happy to chat to you to see if I can offer any advice, as a person whos suffered life long anxeity and mental health issues and somehow still in existance on earth. It hurts me to see young people suffering like this as a mum, you deserve the world and I really hope that things get better for you very, very soon
I hope you can find peace.
I am sorry you lost your brother. He would want you to be happy I'm sure x❤
Same here mate. I feel hollow like people can just walk right through me.
Loneliness or being alone carries on throughout life. Now in my 70s my hubby is seriously ill, no family, no friends. Just me talking to a wall.
❤
How is the wall doing these days ?
@@dorkbrandon4422 it's not replied back yet!
@juliawigger9796
Give it time mate , mine eventually did but it turned out to be a complete arsehole
That would be my worst nightmare. Can’t u join something locally, like a support group, church, or something like that? I hope your husband gets better soon.✌️😃
Believe me, those work colleagues have all got problems. They just lie, or pretend things are great. People who seem happy and strong walk into a therapy room and burst into tears. Very few people are happy. Marriages are really, really hard, and a lot of couples feel trapped and suffocated and miserable, but they carry on because of money and kids and mortgages. People often stay together because they have to, not because they want to.
So,so true!
That's why there's no such thing as true love
Bang on!
@@Brandanmayhew there is such a thing, however when something is Forced, it has no grip over the ❤ and soul 🙏
I think a lot of people wear a mask out in the world. They may look or behave one way, but have loads going on themselves. I had a colleague coming in each day, smart suit, smiling etc turned out he lost his house and was living on a friend's narrow boat on the canal by himself and was really struggling. You have all of us.... your online family.
Unfortunately pixels on a screen from random strangers don't exactly cut it, I've lived alone for 16 years, no wife no kids and getting too old for it now...
Yes, even if people seem to appear to have perfect lives and they show things on social media doesn't mean they aren't struggling behind it. And comparison is the thief of joy.
@@greenkitty82 I don't use any social media for 15 years, deleted Facebook 2004, never had Instagram let alone tiktok Snapchat dating apps etc.
I'd wager that the people that desperately post their lives are in terrible positions begging for validation and attention because they can't love themselves from within lol
My advice for what's it's worth... the gym is a game changer.... it will change your mindset / outlook / confidence and will improve your life so much and your mental health... from personal experience it's the best thing I ever did 💪🏻
@pastandcurrent If you have the room getting a set of weights is not a crazy investment. I got a set for less than 200 euro last year and have got very strong :).
You don’t necessarily have to join a gym as they are not for everyone but I definitely would recommend regular exercise and eat proper food , cycling and swimming is what I enjoy and I definitely feel better after a swim .
Sending love sir. You’ve got this. I’m 38 and my life is still a shit show. Trying to beat addiction and keep falling. You’ve got this young man
You’ve got this too ❤️🫶🏽
There is someone who can help. Call on His name. He gives peace that the world cannot give. He brakes chains of bondage. He is the way, the truth and the life. May God bless you.
I’ve been there bro, and I’m truly blessed. I found peace in the Church and praying to overcome my problems. Be kind to yourself, you’re doing great.
I found myself in a rut recently. I was depressed and lost in life. I was never a popular person, but the few friends that I did have and had supported through thick and thin was nowhere to be found when I need them. I was the one who maintained contact, I was the one who checked in on everyone, but no one cared enough to check in on me. When one of them had finally messaged, it was only because he needed something. That period of time made me I realise that I don’t have a single real friend. I have walked from all of them, but here I am, alone. The last three letters of friend is the only truth you’ll find in friendship.
You've been a mug mate I've been their.
Its better to be rejected them to idolize other worst sinners than you
You’re not alone. Exactly the same as you. Each day is a living hell. You’ve got a good heart and keep smiling. ❤
If its any consolation i was unhappily married and i would have loved to have had your freedom. I wasted years with a woman i never should have married and eventually divorced. I love my life now and like you i dont see many people but the peace is fantastic! I married to be like my mates and it wasnt how i imagined it would be. The grass isnt always greener! Chin up!
I am so incredibly proud of you for your videos. You are helping so many others, by highlighting such an important issue in young peoples lives. You are not alone, there are so many people in the same situation. I’m incredibly sorry to hear of the loss your Angel brother. You were so young and my heart goes out to you and your family. I don’t know if you had grief counselling when you were younger. I looked online and they have grief counselling free online, especially ones geared to under 25 year olds. The first one I saw was Winston Wish. Grief is horrendous at any age but for a child is heartbreaking. I hope you look into it. I think you helping your
Uncle with cancer is amazing. You need to take care of. You too. You can tell your such a caring young man. Take care Elle
Just stumbled upon your channel mate, I was in the exact position as you a few months ago, I was going to a bridge near me every single day crying wanting to end it but I realised life is beautiful and amazing, one day we ain't even gonna be here so please mate stay strong and stay positive ❤️
I have a canny feeling things are gonna change for you mate .
Me and a lot of us have gone through the trials like yourself .
It’s that cross road .
I can tell you’ll take the right path 👍
- retired therapist
It's so easy to get stuck in a rut, work, eat, bed , repeat. I've been there! Get out, get hobbies, do something for other people. Volunteer your time and energy to a good local cause. It opens so many doors. You have the power to change your life. Travel! Have a weekend away, go somewhere you haven't been before. Hang in there and look up
When you're feeling down mate, leave the concrete jungle behind for a day and make you're way to the mountains-woodlands, nature truly does clear the mind💪
I just stumbled across your video. My mum always told me that it was better to have one good friend, than lots of ‘friends’. Don’t waste decades like I did, looking in all the wrong places, trying to fit in and failing miserably. It only leads to sorrow and regret. I am happy to tell you that there is One that will never leave you or forsake you. His burden is light, He offers peace that the world cannot give. Call on his Name, repent and believe the gospel. Praying for you sweetheart.
I can relate. I would suggest going to as many clubs or group events as possible. Even if you have no interest in the specific activity, just go, what's the worst that would happen. Find book clubs in your area, film groups, art classes, boxing or mma classes, music groups, poetry groups, anything. I am 25 and literally have 0 friends, not 1 person besides my parents that I could even text. I am now doing what I have advised you. I am horrific at art and can't draw for shit lol, but it doesn't matter, i still go and enjoy learning, i am overweight and unathletic, but i still go to boxing, i have terrible speaking and social skills due to social anxiety and not having anyone to speak to, but i go to a public speaking group once a week. I am interested in movies and enjoy meeting up once a week to discuss a movie we have been assigned to watch, same for books. I guarantee there are a million different clubs or groups available for just about any and everything you can think of in your area. I highly recommend going to some. You'll meet literally hundreds of new people, perhaps gain some hobbies, and you'll become a more interesting person too. Good luck 👍
Stay strong pal. Exactly know where you're coming from .
Same similar situation
Mate, I feel you!
I live alone, not particularly close to my family and they lives miles away. My friends are married or none existent anymore... It can be lonely! You haven't gone wrong, you can't think that way
I fill my time with hobbies, I started running two years ago, I've built a home gym, go hiking or wild camping on weekends and bought a motorbike for nice weather days.
Baby steps though, just do something small each day that you have never done, change the routine a little at a time!
And yes mate, go for a spa day! I'm not ashamed to admit I love them!
Final thought, I love my job too, but I've made sure to turn off the work when I am done. No one talks to me about work outside work hours... It's okay to say No to people and have some time just for yourself
You are such a kind, sensitive soul, your eyes tell a sad story. This world needs people like you. It's extremely common to feel this way in this modern world and we have to navigate it the best we can. I'm sorry for your struggles, and thank you for being so brave to wear your heart on your sleeve and remind us viewers that we are not alone in feeling like this.
Trust me brother I was so lost but I found joy peace in happiness when I accepted Jesus 🙏🏻and I’m not the man that you would except to have let my heart open to anyone but I was saved and born again 4 years ago god bless and seek him my friend
This is very heart felt. I don't know how I came across your channel. I don't need a big network of people. I can tell you what helps me - camping has become a big part of my life. I do some of the most ridiculous camps however its my time to switch off from the daily grind. Have a few beers, cook some food and just chill. It really helps me and I look forward to every Saturday night getting out there. I now have a small community of friends who I sometimes meet up with and do group camps.
Cheer up mate ,your not alone you would be surprised how many people seem to be so happy on the outside but are really like yourself on the inside. Be positive your life isn't that bad .
Whoever started this trend on speaking out, is an absolute champ. I swear to god (as bad as this all is) it's so refreshing to see other feeling like me. I'm meant to be a military lad, I'm now newly single, I'm a gamer, I'm relatively young and yet.. I feel lost and confused too? Idk what's up with me tbh but I'm glad other people feel like me and I'm not alone.
You seem a cool guy bro
I dont have many close people either
My best advice is to get a dog
My chihuahua is adorable and my best mate
Hes great at meeting new people whilst out walking
Peace & love
I agree,since I got a dog, everyone talks tome,it's great 👍
Great shout, dogs are the BEST and yeah v good for meeting new people.
This fella seems proper sound, id love to have more mates like him
@@paddy_wax me too be strong fellas
Stay strong pal been there myself plenty times, nothing lasts happiness negativity bit morbid but also positive. Most helpful thing for me was getting back into marital arts and weight training
Keep ya head up, I’m 32 and have no real friends and only about 2 acquaintances I might go to pub with. Over the year I’ve lost friends for whatever reason and what I’ve learnt is no one is really your friend. People soon got jealous when they seen me winning in life. I actually love my own company
Your on the right path buddy just keep pushing through ❤
H mate I totally understand where your at everything u said I can relate to you as I've been there got the tea shirt I struggle even now with the over negative thinking ,remember its not a weakness in fact your very strong as your talking about it . I would advise to talk to your doctor they can help no shame in talking. Try not to compare yourself to others happiness comes from within. Stay strong brother 💪 it's hard I know.
You are not alone, I remember I used to feel so lonely, everyone seemed to have a full set of friends, except me! I'm a shy person, & my workmates thought I was stuck up! They started to invite me out for drinks afer work& going clubbing, so I felt alot better! Join the gym, you'll get to meet alot of friends there!! Good luck
Have you thought about counselling?. You say that your life changed when your brother died. Try Cruse bereavement. They will help you if you want to turn your life around. You can change the way you feel by changing the way you think. Not only does it help with your brothers death it will change other aspects of your life. Now that the bossiness is over...you are a lovely guy, you are handsome, hardworking and caring. All that l can tell from watching your video for a couple of minutes. It is OK to ask for help. Take care of YOU, much love❤
Maybe taking an evening class where you could nurture an interest and meet other like-minded people. A hobby where you can mix with others or volunteer somewhere where you could feel valued and helpful. I hope this helps, and I wish you better days to come.
Bollocks to that, that's what farty middle class people do
Focus on what you do have rather than what you don't have mate, you've got a job a roof over your head, a family, you drive & I am sure many other great things in life. Some people have nothing bro. No home, no job , no family. Keep ya head up 💪
Gratitude is a corner stone for happiness - very well said. 😀
Your not alone millions of people feel like you do exactly the same, exercise even though it’s hard to get you there you will definitely be better for it, and maybe do some volunteering because there are people definitely worse off than you and could do with someone nice like yourself to talk to, it’s also ok to take some chill time like you say watch a movie, look at people at work neighbours etc and see who else is struggling and maybe say hi, please don’t think you are alone, god has put you here for a reason god bless
I don’t know you but I feel this. Having everything around you but feeling lonely is the worst. I have family, a few friends, a job. I should be happy but I’m not. Never have been but that’s a chemical imbalance for you! Life is what you make it out to be, take each moment as it comes. Grin and bear it and hope that it’ll get better.. one day at a time x
I’m the same as you , I’m 58 , no family , friends and that feeling of loneliness
@@Vlogging.on.a.donkey I think we’re all looking for a high just to get us by.. I’m 24, 25 tomorrow. Just seems to get worse and worse but no one knows what tomorrow will hold we’ve just got to keep going and hope that the following day is better❤️ I used to really love photography & music. Music is free therapy🤗 sucks how you loose interest in things you used to enjoy because of a messed up brain! Do you have anything that gets you through the day? Keep on fighting
@@LornaDirection hi Lorna
I do work and the people there are so lively and happy , loads of people laughing but I just sit there saying nothing and feeling awkward . I come home and feel trapped , I just want to have a year travelling and experiencing new cultures
@@LornaDirection Happy birthday
@@Vlogging.on.a.donkey Yeah I totally get that. Or having to put on an act as no one wants to be around someone who’s sad. People say they’ll be there to support you but when it comes to the reality and the consequences of dealing with someone with depression etc no one sticks around. Just got to take it as it comes. Thank you!
I feel the same. I always think that once my mum isn't here, I won't really have anyone.
You have taken the first step by talking about it mate. In fact it's really inspiring and courageous in my honest opinion. I lost my mum when I was 29 (2004) and my world fell apart, I ended up separating from my partner of 8 years not long after and then lost my job where I had worked for 14 years due to my long term Depression 6 months after that. So in 18 months everything had changed. I lost my brother in 2013 he was 48 and died from alcoholism. You are not as alone as you may think. Reading the comments and others sharing with you and encouraging you is so touching in a world where we have lost the friendships and community that we had a few decades ago. Subbed to your channel, take care and God Bless..
I felt like this during my late 20s/early 30s, and it really got me down. I started changing the way I felt in my mid 30s, and now, at 40, I couldn't be happier. Learn to enjoy your own company, and live your life on your terms. Don't rely on other people. I took up hiking, and through that, I got fit, met new friends, and had a new perspective in life.
Being on your own can be a really great thing.
My first advice would be to focus on physical health - healthy food, drinks, excersise, and gradually your mind will develop and be at easeeee.
I’m the same mate don’t worry about it. Take it as a positive!. Being single ain’t to bad!. It will come mate!. Trust me!!!!. I wouldn’t let this type of stuff worry you.
And I’m sorry for your loss!.
There is some really good advice on here from others, going to the gym is a really good idea no one from home can interrupt that time for yourself. My son is 24 and he got himself a motorbike 9 months ago and apparently it is seriously therapeutic just go out for a ride and then come back stress free. You do need to do stuff for yourself, dare I say this but you are too young to be burdened with responsibility for a dyeing relative. You are a young man and should be carefree at this stage in your life. Get out there lad and have some fun you earn it after going to work all week it’s your god given right! You only go round once……
Believe me - you're really not on your own with these feelings, I know that doesn't help you very much, but it's so true. What you said about watching people is very true - I've done that all my life, thinking that they look like they have a fantastic life, full of love and joy, with great family and friends - the reality is often much different, but at the time it makes you feel very lonely 😕 I really hope you start to feel better soon ❤
I feel exactly the same, I’m 29 and I have no life at all, no friends no family no boyfriend.. all I want in life is a family that’s all I want I don’t care about money or materialistic stuff I just want family and love! And seeing everyone else with their families and friends hurts me so much cos I feel like I’m never gonna experience it 😔 I’m alone every single day of my life and it’s killing me
You’re being real and are a good person. People can be quite shallow and not true to themselves, that’s why you can’t relate to them. All that you are giving to help will come back to. Stay yourself mate, you are really doing well under the circumstances you are in. Great you are speaking about this. I’ve got a good feeling about you and the great things you can offer to make this world a better place
It will get better bro seriously I’m the same 31yrs old no kids no wife been in same sector for 8-9yrs and it does get you down sometimes but my therapy is gym&music it just soothes me mate,find a hobby conversate with more people honestly theres so much of us in the same boat so sorry for your loss your bro would be mad proud of you for carrying on and taking care of your family 🫡💯
Have you thought about looking into seeking help from a doctor for help with your depression. Sometimes anti-depressents might help you . Celebrate small goals like getting up in the morning going to work . Try and get a massage once a month it will really help . Exercise is really good. Just prioritise your mental health. Try meditation deep breathing. I wish you all the best ❤
I know this isn't the same, but you've got us your UA-cam subscribers and people who empathize and sympathize with you. The fact you've made this channel and opening up is amazing and I think it's a strength you need to carry through your life.
Don't look at it as "going wrong in life". A lot of friendships are pure luck of timing and chance.
Create opportunities for yourself. Hobbies, travel. Step outside your comfort zone.
More likely to build bonds and you'll find a sense if achievement.
I wish you all the best 👊
You are a good looking young man with all your life ahead. Dont let the dark clouds get the better of you.
this helped me m8. you said something similar to what i say, u said "ive got nobody" i say that to myself more and more often.
been crying in my car more then i ever had, past 25 now being 28 i say it almost wanting to feel the pain in hopes to change me, makes men so angry literally just as i typed 'angry' i fought a tear back i want to smash my brain up and put it back together so i can remove my doubts and be happy willing to risk embarrassment, rejection to love someone. the quote "Misery is wasted on the miserable" helps me out.
i herd you talk . im a 52 yr old man so iv experienced life . a tip for you is have goals in your life either go on hollidays to different places as i do think travelling helps clear the mind and gives new experiences .go for walks either in a woods or by the sea dont dwell on what people are upto just do what you want as its you thats important . having a woman in your life can be challenging so dont dwell on that .as for cancer get apricot kernals and get the body high in alkaline and starve the body of sugar .iv known people with cancer n their still here n thats what they did as they wanted to try the natural way .i hope that helps and dont bottle nothing up you have a channel here so use it n hopefully people will be kind and help you
I feel you pal.I won't go into a big monolog about what you should do. I'll just suggest one thing.Pick some charity that your can give your time to. Believe me pal when I say that you will find what your looking for and more, believe me.👊☘️
Talking to God Always helps bring me Peace and Comfort 😊 I Am sorry you are having a rough time right now, it will get better just keep going and if you fall get back up 🥹 Sending positive energy your way)))) Music helps as well…. Hugs and Love 🙏🫂🫶 it will be ok. YOU GOT THIS!!! 😁✌️💕
I also find that reading a Psalm before I start my day, and before I go to sleep incredibly helpful. The Bible is so our manual for life. 🙏❤️
I lost my brother tragically,i have hardly any friends,now,havnt had any friend here for two years,glad you can do something
You are who you are, I've had to except it,i don't like myself much or my life, never fitted in any where. Found it difficult to relate. I've lost my brother as a kid 12y old, lost my son he was only 23. My other son has mental health issues, me and his mum all live together still,we barely communicate. My parents are aging with mobility health probs my dad has signs of dementia. I'm struggling with arthritis and I'm self employed doing a physical job. I've been like you many times most weeks all my life 55years old now. The reason I'm self employed is my only way of getting through , can rest when i want, take a day off when i want. I sit in my van on my own, thinking and talking to myself. I don't like the human world but i can not escape. The only thing that helps me is being out with my dogs, working out and sleep. Pretty tragic at my age. When i was your age i wish I'd have taken opportunity that came my way,i let so much of it go. Don't be me when you are too old to change, time passes you by. Think of the future and what you have time to achieve. I know it's easier said than done. But i wish i could start again.
Keep your chin up mate. I think most people definitely feel alone quite often. Do your best to sit down one day and make a list of all the positive things you'd like to do in life and work to improve yourself in every aspect you'd like to. Just my bit of advice. It's helped me massively. I'm content in life, or at least well on the way to being fully content. These things take time though. One step at a time. You'll reach a point in life where you're fullfilled and happy. You just have to work at it. Good luck mate!! All the best. 😊
I have the same feeling. I am 24 with nobody, never been in a relationship since school. Only got a few friends that I don't see all that often. I regret not having a more social childhood and I feel I really did miss out on doing lots of things. It can be tough. I know how it feels, you can get very nostalgic for old times when you had lots of people around and then for whatever reason time went on and you lost contact with everyone from your youth. Best of luck.
I’ve been in the same boat for years mate. It’s really tough, tablets have helped a lot and some cbt therapy. I’ve had to learn to let go and I can’t control everything. You have to talk to someone, phone Samaritans or someone and get it all off your chest. Trust me it does help. Good luck big man
Also, take time and do things that make you happy. If you don’t want to do anything then don’t do it. It takes a lot of strength to let go but trust me it works
Hi dont feel so bad, i am 61yrs old i dont have any near by friends. i hear FROM PEOPLE when I phone them. you are not alone. When i feel really lonely i put on a youtube video eg truthofgod by Gino Jennings and then after watching i forgot about my loneliness. Cheer up son
Please dont give up on life things can and do change. You are unique there will never be another you there are so many women out there who would will love you for you and be so happy to have you in their life
Be kind to yourself my lovely, you're doing the best you can. You're a lovely guy and although you feel stuck right now, it won't always be this way. Do some things that make you feel good 😘 xxx
Lost my sister 7 years ago, it’s shit mate but you got to go on and live your life the best you can. I stopped drinking and hit the gym, when I was deployed I’m smashing 10k a day and lifting some good weights, 1 year on I’ve never looked back; best decision of my life. You hang on in there mucker, it’s ok not to be okay there’s a lot of people that are here for you fella, don’t ever feel you are alone. Stay safe and keep fighting.
Lost a big chunk of my family during covid. Being alone is a love/hate thing...not wanting to miss out on fun activities, but also realising how much drama most people come with and enjoying solitude. Seems like most people are really shallow
May I suggest a book called 'The Chimp Paradox by Prof Steve Peters. This book has changed my life. Good luck hon, you got this!!
I feel ya bro I'm older and you I lost my mum in 2018 and my brother took his own life 2 weeks after its fucking hard but you will get there and yes gym will definitely help but anti depressants ain't the answer we know why we are down and use and pain and struggle to rebuild ourselves bro.
I feel the very same i m 36 from malaysia dont worry mate u not alone😊
We are with you mate, don't even know you but stick with it because if you need anyone, iam here and so are many other people, it's not easy on your own, it never is but we can pull each other through whatever comes our way whether we know each other or not, I myself felt the same when I was 17 and homeless, it took me until I was about 27 to get my life in some sort of order but I did it and so can you!
Its like me, Im generally seen as a laid-back cheerful guy but I literally have no friends. My best friend lives miles from me, my dad has just been diagnosed with cancer, he also lives miles from me. I don't speak to my brother - haven't done for 7 years, my oldest kids have been raised by my narcissistic ex and barely speaks to me. I do have a partner and a young son but I also feel where you're coming from. I feel lonely as fuck with no-one to talk to.
I moved from South to North a year ago so my partner could be close to her family and I hate it. I hate the job, the clickiness of the Northerners. Yes they're friendly in passing but nowhere near as accepting or as diverse as Southerners. I do totally understand what you're feeling. Life really feels like it's just going through the motions. My little boy really keeps me going. Stay strong my friend 💪 Always happy for you to drop a DM if you need to chat 👍
I’m the same. I have a daughter so I’m busy with her and life in general, but no real friendships. Just acquaintances. For you, maybe try some fun classes, dancing maybe 🤔
Geez you have achieved the most important milestone yet TALKING 👍🙏🏻
Just come across your videos you are so brave telling your story hope things get better for you stay strong sending love and support 😊❤
Firstly mate. Respect for speaking up.
Secondly, you’re letting your mind and thoughts blur the reality.
You know, the hardest and most best thing a person can do it speak up. Because you’ll notice people you’ve never met or heard of, will be here for you. Never alone mate. Keep fighting and keep speaking. Big love fella
You seem like a nice dude man. I'm not close with a lot of people, I can have bad trust issues but it's because of how i've been treated in the past. You seem like you will get the closeness you need!
Can relate too a lot you are saying mate worst feeling ever being alone.
I hope you’ve been to the gym, best thing for you. Boxings a great sport to take up if you’ve not already. If you can it’s good to go away where you can go walks in nature, you can chill watch your TV with snacks, then walk & home to the gym. Sometimes we all need to make time for ourselves & take a break. Plus it’s not the quantity of friends, it’s the quality & you seem to have friends you can call on 👍. All the best bud 🙌.
I'm divorced. My only child lives with his partner in Finland.
I work in a busy place.
I love my blissfully boring life, alone, when I go home.
Used to my own company when not working, and love it.
Lucky to be alive, a lot of my family and friends have passed away.
And some took their own lives.
Suppose we're all different individuals though.
I'm just happy to be breathing, and pain free. 🤔
I’m a guy, a therapist and a big advocate of a spa day! Go for it mate. It can be a nice switch off. Do you like watching football? If so have you ever been to any non league games. That’s where I’ve found my community of people
Make a daily gratitude list Write down what you are grateful for that day however small it might be. It really works to help change your mindset.
Keep going man, i bet theres more people around you where you make a difference and you dont even realise it. Life is hard sometimes, keep going, there are people who love you, you are precious in this world. Thinking of you ❤ ❤ ❤ Respect for posting this, its a brave thing to do ❤
I've lost nearly all my family to addiction both my parents were heroin addicts i suffered abuse as a child my youngest brother is autistic and he is now getting into drug use my middle brother is jobless and living with me and im trying to get him on his feet and i have an illness that's been getting worse for the past 5 years but i still make the best of each day you need to overcome your anxiety and reach out and meet new people find new hobbies get yourself out of this rut your in you have so many options to improve your life bro you just need to change your mindset create goals and go for them you may need to take risks and go out of your comfort zone i joined the Army when i was 18 that got me away from all the fucked up shit in my life and set me on a path that squared my life away even with all the shit in my life im still happy and feel fulfilled its possible bro you just need to make the correct choices that will bring you happiness and fulfilment
I felt like this and then at age 32/33 I met my now husband. I had almost given up finding a nice partner. Don't give up, it happens when not expected. I wasn't looking that night I met him. Good luck, hope you find happiness x
It is very hard to go through what you are feeling but in several years you’ll be glad you forged your own path despite the difficulties….just stay true to yourself, many people are naturally introverted, deep thinkers. That is a strength. Ever heard the saying “speech is silver, silence is golden”.
They aren’t happy with their wives. Statistically they’ll almost certainly divorce
For most of them it will inevitably happen but time merely separates it until it does