After much self observation I figured this out in my 20s. From there I spent hours observing and correcting my thoughts, saying self affirmations to the opposite of every negative or non-self serving thought. It took months of steady work for me to undo most of that programming we receive from ourselves since childhood. The results were astounding. My confidence, charisma, sense of self worth, courage and charm exploded, but it was all natural, no arrogance, no fakeness, to trying. It was like turning into a Jedi. I eventually lost all those gains as it is very easy to slip back into the old programs, and I am just now, many years later, practicing to get that back ... I have a lot of work to do, its amazing how easy it is to have self defeating thoughts and how hard it is to fully get rid of them.
I get what you're trying to say and I agree, mostly. You seem to be implying that we all have that charismatic out there charmer inside of us just waiting to burst forth. Do we all have to be that guy? Maybe we do and I'm just broken on the inside somehow, I don't know. Is there no room in life for the invisible man, the behind the scenes loner? Maybe there isn't.
@@philphilips1020 I don't think you really do get what I'm trying to say. If you go into this thinking this is a guide on how to be a "charming, charismatic guy" you have entirely missed the point. Its all about stripping the false identity that you and your environment has defined you as, and allowing yourself to be closer to your *true* self. The self you are before all those layers of almost exclusively fearful and negative definitions became applied. This process starts in childhood, and there is usually one main, often traumatic, experience in your life that has come to define you. Its about whether you want to be the best version of yourself, stripped of the defining layers that have been used to cover yourself up. Jordan I think kinda misses the aspect where most of these definitions are fear based, and do nothing but hold you back. To your point though, one also has to be completely happy with themselves as they are, this is important, but most, truly cannot be, inside the wardrobe of definitions they wear. EDit: added important punctuation to the last sentence.
@@WaspMedia3D First off, let me just say that I am not a troll nor am I trying to be argumentative for drama's sake like social media is constantly programming us to be. I'm just an anonymous guy searching for answers. Who are we, or better yet who am I, other than the sum total of my experiences? You are correct, there were several very traumatic experiences in my childhood. My mother walking out of the family when I was 5 was one of them. It was not pleasant but it's part of who I am today. I'm not saying that this is the way it is, I'm seriously asking because I don't know the answer. Aren't we like recipes, made up of multiple ingredients which are the experiences? And just like recipes, the more ingredients added the more complex the flavor. Some flavors are more pleasant than others. My life doesn't have a very pleasant flavor, but neither can those ingredients be un-mixed. They've melded together over time and have become who I am. Please, correct me if I'm wrong because I'd love to rinse my mouth of this particular flavor.
@@philphilips1020 No worries, I welcome discussion - it has become a lost art in a world fearful of offending those who may become offended for no reason. I sense that fear in you, but on to my response. Yes. You are a flavour. But that flavour wasn't crafted by you. Don't you think you should have some control over what flavour you have to offer? Peterson's video is in a way saying that 95% of your "flavour" is just crap that you tell yourself, and that the environment has projected on to you. And that is also what I am saying. Would you not rather prefer to have free choice over what flavour you express? Note that (speaking a bit in metaphor here) if you are not in control of what flavours you have to be able to express ... something or someone else does. Humans are easily manipulated through the definitions that they have acquired of themselves. In order to truly free the mind from these potential manipulations, no matter how subtle, one has to relax those definition. Take fear for example. People who have defined themselves as fearful - (which is pretty much everyone, even if disguised as "practicality"), through this process, can easily be manipulated as the a perceived path to _alleviate_ that fear, which is always sought, is laid before them - a path that perhaps serves others more than yourself. The goal is to not strip away your entire ego (which is this wardrobe of definitions we create for ourselves), but to be able to find that place where you no longer serve it, but rather, it serves you. Does that make sense? (Edited for clarity)
@@WaspMedia3D I also am a fan of reasonable discussion and I appreciate your willingness to have this discussion with me. And no, it's not the fear of offending that you hear in my "voice". I always try to be precise in my writing because I want to convey my thoughts accurately so maybe that's what you are sensing. Freedom of choice scares me, even terrifies me sometimes. Psychology probably has a word for this but I don't know what it is, I call it 'choice lock'. It's like when you have too many programs running on a computer at the same time, it locks up. For example, my company flew me to Kansas City a few weeks ago to pick up and drive a new company car back to Florida where I live. This is not a regular occurrence, in fact it's the first time I've ever done this. Halfway back around Nashville I had to stop and get a hotel room for the night. After about an hour I was still in 'choice lock'. In order to choose, the pros and cons had to be weighed, cost vs. location vs. nearby restaurants vs. breakfast options vs. etc etc etc. Too many variables in the equation equals choice lock. The point I'm trying to make is that freedom of choice has its downside. To me, too much choice equals no choice. I hope that made sense but, from my experience, it probably just left you baffled. Sorry.
What a man, dedicating his life to share deep knowledge with simplified dynamics for free for everyone. That's a hell of a mission, imagine how many people Jordan Peterosn helped and saved so far, and how many he will still help after he dies, it's incalculable
One thing I've realized is that being able to show some degree of vulnerability is extremely empowering. Accepting one's weaknesses while actively working to improve not only makes one less susceptible to attacks on one's character, but also makes one appear more likable, honest and strong. Putting up a front of perfection and invulnerability can give one tremendous power, but that power makes one incredibly vulnerable. We are bound to make mistakes as imperfect humans and if you have been pretending to be infallible all along, even the most insignificant mishap can cost you your persona. On the other hand, if you right off the bat show that you are comfortable with your flaws, people will be less critical of you and you might even find yourself getting away with minor mistakes. On the other hand, when you present yourself as perfect and strong from the start, you draw attention towards your every mistake and imperfections whereas if you are honest about your flaws from the offset you will be better at connecting with others and be less susceptible to personal attacks on your character.
What if you come off as "perfect" or damn near close and others attack you for it simply because that's how they see you? I'm just picking you're brain cause I like what you're saying
“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” Lao Tzu Our only hope for growth of our spiritual selves is, that we can start, and then continue thinking beyond our reptilian stem. Thank You "SHIMBO" for this thought provoking work. Will
We can work on our thoughts. I have been in a situation with all help or resolve is withheld from me for 26 years. I don’t mind them knowing what I think of them! MLK said “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends”. David said if it had been my enemy I could have handled it but it was my own that I went to the temple with.
I watch my thoughts but I can't do anything about them because the I that is watching my thoughts doesn't exist and that means character is an illusion.
Wow. I went through something very similar to everything JP is describing in this video. He is soo good at saying what he means. It’s that commitment to truth.
This happened to me recently. One day I woke up and was very more consciously aware of myself, what I would say though out the day and how I would act. I’m more aware now and think before I speak. I listen slot more than I talk. Sometimes silence says a lot about someone
You know I had that voice in me judging and criticizing and really didn’t know what to make of it. I went through something very traumatic a few months ago and at the moment I am trying to pick up the pieces that are left but in the process of putting back my identity, words and actions together I questioned everything. I questioned my values and foundational thoughts and really didn’t know which was the TRUE voice. I heard both of them as true. Heard the empowering and the Devils advocate voice in my head. Now with the help of this knowing I am not insane I can move forwards onto becoming better.
Videos like this are absolutely invaluable to mankind . We lost family , community, connection and meaning over decades of mental decay and PC narratives. This true , factual, solid wisdom is timeless and absolutely necessary now
Pat on the back to all who are here trying to better themselves, trying to understand what life is all about. You could have been watching something else... we wil succeed in our efforts. Thank God for Jordan.
Word for word is align with what's going on with me right now in life and what I must do. Awesome graphics and message. Can't thank you enough for this brother. Thumbs up!
JP I had a similar occurrence. My neutral judging side was silencing an argumentative side. What’d happened was that I’d just wronged someone (won’t go into how), and my conscience caught me in the act. My argumentative side had a million justifications for why my actions and the way I handled myself were actually NOT wrong (or tolerable, at the very least). My conscience won, and it quickly came to me that my only outlet for inner peace was by righting the wrong I just did.
I'm there. 5% but never feel so much calm and in control of myself while my world just collapse. Never was so scared but this time I choose to be courageous and I dive into my shadow.
I think he described what self awareness is generally like. It can get really bad listening to the critic if you have neurotic tendencies, though, the critic can make you believe you're no good and you might as well give up and die. But healthy self awareness can evaluate your behavior and check to see if it lines up with your values, and it is aware of tendencies you don't like and want to improve upon.
This is the first time I've come across you, your channel and this video and I cannot bring myself to believe that another person out there has exactly the same second voice as mine. This is crazy. I'd initially considered it to be the way brains and their thoughts usually worked, and then slowly came to realise that it was just me. And now, I spot a kin.
Yeah me to. I felt great after recapitulation so energetic but one must practice constantly even reminding myself when riding the fence and I am on the comfortable side of fence, but its tough when pushing the shadow to move for a little pain and uncomfortableness... Warrior Training on my on for 36 years started at age of 11. Thanks for having the knowledge and power of word. People need this ,I used this as a sort of slap on the mind and back. Self love is so beautiful and shows the natural world that we love it enough and respect and realize she is a part of oneself. Thank you ; Angel Finley ha banks
I'm high functioning aspergic and can relate to his experience, in that there there is no desire or compulsion to 'impress' others, or 'conform to the herd, and as a result I've often been compared to monsters, and the disordered (sociopaths, narcissists, psychopaths), by what I now consider, 'sheep'. This has come with the conundrum of being aware, and inscenmtivized by others, to consider my true self as being something that should be oppressed, but I do not subscrube to this line of thinking, and instead, I embrace my true self/monster, and have nurtured it within others. Nowadays
That is beautiful. I have found you, a nugget of gold in the pool of silver that is this comment section, surrounded by a sea of feces. Learn to put on masks if need be, but know yourself at all times. Because nobody in the entire world can be YOU. If YOU are not YOURSELF, then who are you? If YOU are not YOURSELF, you are nothing. If YOU are not YOURSELF, you are not even dead - you simply DO NOT EXIST.
I loved the way Shimbo pinned a hate comment not caring if it influences the perception of the video negatively & drops the video views & engagement. That's the real masculine confidence. Loved the video & animation. Jordan is rocking!
Nicely done. Important. In Buddhism we say there are '10 Unvirtuous Deeds'. And 4 of those are speech: idle speech, harsh speech, divisive speech, and lying (video above is essentially about lying). So we train the mind in part by talking less. Just meditating won't cut it. We talk less, we text less... and this is a major path to power, and a better life. Bonus factoid: Buddhists aren't necessarily vegetarian. Nor is JP. Many myths about the Buddha and Buddhism exist.
When I was young I stoppt talking a lot, because I noticed if I talk a lot a lot of unnecessary words come out. Now in my twentys I have realised that thats not a good idea. People tent to be foolish and if you don't practice talking, you will not get good at it. My self-confidence was very low, because I wasn't good at connecting to people too then. I belive it is wise to think about what you say first. But it is not wise to restrict yourself to only things "you are allowed to say" because at some point you will break. We can only learn by making mistakes, say unnecessary words and regret then maybe. We only grow through pain and shame, I guess.
Something about him saying being a good guy wasnt something inate, but that it took effort felt good. Never thought i was a good person, but i want to be and i do everything i can to be that person if only in others eyes. I get told by alot of people that im nice, kind, easy to talk to etc. People tend to like me well enough and people opening up randomly isnt uncommon, and i do lend an ear or shoulder when needed. But i do it because thats what a good person does, even if im not good i can pretend. I dont see that person they taek about when i look in the mirror, but hearing that being good isnt inate and that you only become good after all the work made me feel a little better.
Only discovered Peterson recently. I'm considered highly intelligent myself but this man is, in my humble opinion, one of the most intelligent minds on Earth right now. When he speaks, folks should listen. This isn't as "heavy going" as some of his talks, but useful nonetheless. I don't agree with him on everything, predominantly his views on Nietzsche who I think has been misrepresented in history. Even so I'd know better than to try to debate this man. Great Share; thanks!
That's so interesting. I remember thinking and going through alot of this same process. I can remember distinctly remember seeing a tree one day that my brother dad and I cut all the branches off. It was a big dead tree. I remember seeing it like a year or two later and that tree had grown back bigger and stronger with all the dead branches off. I remember thinking that's what I need to do.. loose the dead branches I'm trying to hold up.. so they can grow back stronger..
What kind of tree was THAT???... I think 1/3 rd of a tree has to be intact for regrowth to happen. ALL branches were cut off? And in the 2nd year the tree was bigger??? I highly doubt that was possible. Were you speaking metaphorically?
I don’t like to use the word “fundamental” in any context, because institutions undermine themselves, but I guess I can call it the things that feel fundamental, and feeling like changing oneself at a fundamental level. That’s what it’s like to cut off your dead branches and make yourself into a more robust tree per se. This is unfortunately exponentially harder to do the more chaotic your life is, and it’s even more unfortunate to realize that it’s not that hard to find people with greater chaotic qualities.
Yup. I have a podcast and used this approach. Had to get my true self aligned with what I spoke. It's simple and difficult at the same time, as you HAVE to look at yourself in third person as others do, in order to get out of your own rendition of yourself.
Job considered this exact thing. in fact, he concluded this Job 23:10 [10]But He knows the way that I take; When He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold. I also find it hard to speak to my elders because I can see the majority of my plans falling apart, not only as I say them aloud but also when I hear their advice... this isn't always the case. However, if all you're left with is 5 percent, that's a whole lot better than a bunch of fluff. very well said mister Peterson
keep making these types of videos. I’m not sure if you already have made a lot of videos familiar to this… but if you don’t. Then keep doing this. Its enjoyable
I was so sad when I heard Mr. J. P. Wasn’t a Christian because he was so smart and beautiful heart.. but.. He changed his mind about it and came out with it and was unapologetic. God bless you Mr. J.P. May God bless you all and the persecuted Christians and Jews. In Jesus name amen 🙏🏼
I believe he is heading down that path after him and his wife have struggled with their health the past few years. If you listen to some of his newer stuff he is starting to explore the Bible more. I felt the same way, there was a missing piece to some of what he says because he has left out a very important part human behavior, I can’t wait to hear God added in to his new speeches
@@tylnedriavalendorf You are not saved after death without Jesus to mediate before a righteous Creator for all the bad you have done in this life. None of us escapes death. None of us has lived a life without sin. The drama and suffering in life is all about man's quest for self determination and failing miserablly where the only hope is back to God through Jesus Christ. We are all the prodigal children in need of a Savior John 3:16.
What makes me weak is that we have to live in this world that is never going to get better. I'm told, that I'm supposed to be strong and bottling up my emotions, but then I'm contradicted by this because now I'm told that I should express my emotioms and not bottle them up. Now I'm just plain confused 😕
What in this world does not change? Ideas change, philosophy changes, even facts change over time. If we place our focus on something that is always changing we will get ever confused and lost. Inside of us, inside the heart is a place that is infinite, does not change, if we put our focus on that, then we can start to live in peace, not in pieces. Our mind is always very noisy, full of doubts, questions, but the heart has no questions, it is where love is felt, beauty is experienced. Over time we have mixed up the two, we now think that if we fill our mind it will give us answers, but it only gives us unrest. The heart is real, it is our greatest asset, because it contains all the values of life. All the darkness in the universe cannot extinguish the smallest of sparks.
I can relate to this monster I didn't think was there. Somebody ruined my life and wanted to take there life I had a breakdown and lost my mind palace and inner narrator (as I was a budding writer) I also have a heart condition and cannot work in the fitness industry because of them. Also on top of that I lost the love of my life through them - The list goes on. I realised they were just a fool there puppet strings they gave to evil entities. They have always been a fool they will probably always be a fool ( there is no such thing as a harmless fool - they are all dangerous they just need the right opportunity to prove it) The conclusion I had was if I took revenge I would still be broken there violations had past who they were had been found out they could no longer do me any more harm. God would hold it against me if I did not forgive and showing mercy would be credited to me so it was inlightened self interest to let it go. The last person I had to forgive was myself for trusting when I should have been perceptive. Why should we be afraid of being weak as long as we can observe the truth without a hidden alterial motive to warp our perspective. The fear of saying something that makes you weak is weakness and limits your understanding of what you are trying to convery. It seems taboo in society to openly criticize yourself. Many have condecending said to me oh your so down on yourself you should have a higher opinion. Perhaps we should be self deprecating otherwise we will wonder the earth with an unheathly ego . When I self deprecate it makes people really uncomfortable they think I have low self esteem. I would argue that it is they that have low self esteem to be critical of self is an excercise in liberation - a shedding of the skin. If your so afraid of your psyche you have to except yourself fully and show strength at all times. Of course there is a flipside to this where if we are willing to deprecate we should be able to pat ourselfs on the back. However this too can invite the ego to be greedly fed. So what is the answer? Well just simply say what ever I am I am and whatever I am not I am not. I simply exist and the only compliment I should except is a genuine one that is outside myself as to be self congraulatory is a stumbling block you can know your abilities without being self congratulatory. I have noticed in some areas of the New Age movement some people will tell themselves they are God even using his very name to describe themselves. Biblically we are told we are dust and are only living through the breath of God our only function therefore is to honour God and submit to a life without sin. The ego lies and sin lies as it warps our true image. sin is an absence of love and respect. that is all sin is. If you are Proud your cutting yourself off from your roots. I have issues I don't need to be popular. I have had a taste of popularity in the past you can lose yourself in it. What I haven't had enough of is prestige as I have not achieved excelence in my field. One day I will taste prestige then I will know weather to embrace it or discard it - I stuggle with this as I have not lived up to my potential something is in the way perhaps. WOW - I REALLY RAMBLED ON THERE. I moved to a new City and haven't made any new friends so probably spend to much time on my own.
This is very difficult for me. Because i talk allot and think allot. My brain is a chaos. And almost everything that i think it will comes out of my mouth.. and that’s make me weak.. and maybe people will not take me serious or see me as a full-fledged person.
(Is he an empath? Or a narcissist? I don't know, anymore. Could he be both?) I DIE INSIDE. THE PAIN IS UNCEASING AND UNBEARABLE. I LIVE IN A STATE OF PERPETUAL TRAUMA AND PANIC. I CAN'T BREATHE. I DON'T BREATHE. I could die from the pain of missing my best friend. Or, actually, not really my best friend, but they guy whom I thought was my best friend... He betrayed and abandoned me, discarded me like garbage!!! (HOW THE FUCK COULD HE?) Replaced me for another. My mind can't fathom, my heart can't comprehend. I live in perpetual panic and constant longing... How could he not miss me? How could he do this to me? Did he just replace me, really, just like that? I'm dying inside. My soul is truly raped and my heart is shattered. REMINDER TO SELF, SWEET SOUL: This was a karmic friendship, meant to be there for a limited time (17-months-ish) to teach you, about yourself! About boundaries, about self-love, about self-respect, about self-worth, etc... About a whole plethora of magical, juicy, alchemical things! The universe, God, your guides, your ancestors, have pushed you, lovingly, in the right direction: into your own magnificent powerful magical freedom! When you let go. The universe will catch you. It’s talking to you. Let go of everything and trust the universe. It’s within you. ✨💫 Jesus said to her: “Mary.” She turned toward him and cried out, in Aramaic, “Rabboni!” (which means Teacher) - John 20:16💖 NOTE TO MY TWIN FLAME: Dearest twin flame, I’m working on myself, I am being 100% healed, on evert level, in every way. This is my purification process. I am doing this for me, for you, for us. I’m proud of myself, and I’m getting ready for you. I love you.
A good man is not that seperate from the bad man, a good man can turn bad with one choice. We mistake many strong men for being bad men just because they fight, but they stand for something and that is good. They may even kill but they stand up for what they believe is right and good. It is easier for some to be good, than it is for others. And one man's good is another's evil. As one man's land is peaceful his options to do what is deemed bad are vastly different from the man who's land is in a state of war. And then there are those of us who see everywhere as a state of war. The Timeless battle between purely evil against what is purely good will always go on as will the battle about what is actually good and what is truly bad.
Man, I was searching for someone to say this...it's no wonder that Jordan has discovered Jesus in the midst of his struggles in the last couple of years.
It's all you... the weakness the strenth, the split etc normal humanacentric stuff and 5 percent is enough in this respect. We just need enough root to grow from. Us humans can sometimes think we will break from all the bending like tall grass after a storm and of course some of us do. But most of us, over time recover, grow, fill ourselves back up. Pick a cliche. As long as there's a little root left. Say 5 percent. However our life and soul depend on the preservation of that bit of root in stormy times...
I admire many of the things Jordan Peterson says about various topics. His logic, reasoning and articulation are on point to my current knowledge. But this...this made very little sense to me. Trying to understand the mental dynamics he was going through is quite confusing. It seems that he benefitting for it but I don't see how that could help me in any way.
After much self observation I figured this out in my 20s. From there I spent hours observing and correcting my thoughts, saying self affirmations to the opposite of every negative or non-self serving thought. It took months of steady work for me to undo most of that programming we receive from ourselves since childhood.
The results were astounding. My confidence, charisma, sense of self worth, courage and charm exploded, but it was all natural, no arrogance, no fakeness, to trying. It was like turning into a Jedi.
I eventually lost all those gains as it is very easy to slip back into the old programs, and I am just now, many years later, practicing to get that back ... I have a lot of work to do, its amazing how easy it is to have self defeating thoughts and how hard it is to fully get rid of them.
I get what you're trying to say and I agree, mostly. You seem to be implying that we all have that charismatic out there charmer inside of us just waiting to burst forth. Do we all have to be that guy? Maybe we do and I'm just broken on the inside somehow, I don't know.
Is there no room in life for the invisible man, the behind the scenes loner? Maybe there isn't.
@@philphilips1020 I don't think you really do get what I'm trying to say. If you go into this thinking this is a guide on how to be a "charming, charismatic guy" you have entirely missed the point.
Its all about stripping the false identity that you and your environment has defined you as, and allowing yourself to be closer to your *true* self. The self you are before all those layers of almost exclusively fearful and negative definitions became applied. This process starts in childhood, and there is usually one main, often traumatic, experience in your life that has come to define you.
Its about whether you want to be the best version of yourself, stripped of the defining layers that have been used to cover yourself up.
Jordan I think kinda misses the aspect where most of these definitions are fear based, and do nothing but hold you back.
To your point though, one also has to be completely happy with themselves as they are, this is important, but most, truly cannot be, inside the wardrobe of definitions they wear.
EDit: added important punctuation to the last sentence.
@@WaspMedia3D First off, let me just say that I am not a troll nor am I trying to be argumentative for drama's sake like social media is constantly programming us to be. I'm just an anonymous guy searching for answers.
Who are we, or better yet who am I, other than the sum total of my experiences? You are correct, there were several very traumatic experiences in my childhood. My mother walking out of the family when I was 5 was one of them. It was not pleasant but it's part of who I am today.
I'm not saying that this is the way it is, I'm seriously asking because I don't know the answer. Aren't we like recipes, made up of multiple ingredients which are the experiences? And just like recipes, the more ingredients added the more complex the flavor. Some flavors are more pleasant than others.
My life doesn't have a very pleasant flavor, but neither can those ingredients be un-mixed. They've melded together over time and have become who I am.
Please, correct me if I'm wrong because I'd love to rinse my mouth of this particular flavor.
@@philphilips1020 No worries, I welcome discussion - it has become a lost art in a world fearful of offending those who may become offended for no reason. I sense that fear in you, but on to my response.
Yes. You are a flavour. But that flavour wasn't crafted by you. Don't you think you should have some control over what flavour you have to offer?
Peterson's video is in a way saying that 95% of your "flavour" is just crap that you tell yourself, and that the environment has projected on to you. And that is also what I am saying.
Would you not rather prefer to have free choice over what flavour you express? Note that (speaking a bit in metaphor here) if you are not in control of what flavours you have to be able to express ... something or someone else does.
Humans are easily manipulated through the definitions that they have acquired of themselves. In order to truly free the mind from these potential manipulations, no matter how subtle, one has to relax those definition.
Take fear for example. People who have defined themselves as fearful - (which is pretty much everyone, even if disguised as "practicality"), through this process, can easily be manipulated as the a perceived path to _alleviate_ that fear, which is always sought, is laid before them - a path that perhaps serves others more than yourself.
The goal is to not strip away your entire ego (which is this wardrobe of definitions we create for ourselves), but to be able to find that place where you no longer serve it, but rather, it serves you.
Does that make sense?
(Edited for clarity)
@@WaspMedia3D I also am a fan of reasonable discussion and I appreciate your willingness to have this discussion with me. And no, it's not the fear of offending that you hear in my "voice". I always try to be precise in my writing because I want to convey my thoughts accurately so maybe that's what you are sensing.
Freedom of choice scares me, even terrifies me sometimes. Psychology probably has a word for this but I don't know what it is, I call it 'choice lock'. It's like when you have too many programs running on a computer at the same time, it locks up.
For example, my company flew me to Kansas City a few weeks ago to pick up and drive a new company car back to Florida where I live. This is not a regular occurrence, in fact it's the first time I've ever done this. Halfway back around Nashville I had to stop and get a hotel room for the night. After about an hour I was still in 'choice lock'. In order to choose, the pros and cons had to be weighed, cost vs. location vs. nearby restaurants vs. breakfast options vs. etc etc etc. Too many variables in the equation equals choice lock.
The point I'm trying to make is that freedom of choice has its downside. To me, too much choice equals no choice.
I hope that made sense but, from my experience, it probably just left you baffled. Sorry.
The way he is able to verbalise his psychological phenomenology, truly fantastic. 👏🏻
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"He talk real good. He must be smart."
What a man, dedicating his life to share deep knowledge with simplified dynamics for free for everyone. That's a hell of a mission, imagine how many people Jordan Peterosn helped and saved so far, and how many he will still help after he dies, it's incalculable
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deep knowledge of what?
@@petergedd9330 your mom #owned
@@petergedd9330 Of human psychology and behavior
@@carlhallstrom4867 How can you be so sure ? Not even one person ?
One thing I've realized is that being able to show some degree of vulnerability is extremely empowering. Accepting one's weaknesses while actively working to improve not only makes one less susceptible to attacks on one's character, but also makes one appear more likable, honest and strong. Putting up a front of perfection and invulnerability can give one tremendous power, but that power makes one incredibly vulnerable. We are bound to make mistakes as imperfect humans and if you have been pretending to be infallible all along, even the most insignificant mishap can cost you your persona. On the other hand, if you right off the bat show that you are comfortable with your flaws, people will be less critical of you and you might even find yourself getting away with minor mistakes. On the other hand, when you present yourself as perfect and strong from the start, you draw attention towards your every mistake and imperfections whereas if you are honest about your flaws from the offset you will be better at connecting with others and be less susceptible to personal attacks on your character.
And you care about what other people think? About your mistakes and whatever bullshit? Fuck them, what the fuck hahahahaha
You can tell me whatever and I will piss at it in front of you and what? Bro.. opinions of other people doesnt matter.
Wow thank you so much for sharing
Thank you 👏 I have been trying to explain this concept for years.
What if you come off as "perfect" or damn near close and others attack you for it simply because that's how they see you? I'm just picking you're brain cause I like what you're saying
“Watch your thoughts, they become your words;
watch your words, they become your actions;
watch your actions, they become your habits;
watch your habits, they become your character;
watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”
Lao Tzu
Our only hope for growth of our spiritual selves is, that we can start, and then continue thinking beyond our reptilian stem.
Thank You "SHIMBO" for this thought provoking work. Will
We can work on our thoughts. I have been in a situation with all help or resolve is withheld from me for 26 years. I don’t mind them knowing what I think of them! MLK said “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends”. David said if it had been my enemy I could have handled it but it was my own that I went to the temple with.
Thank you William!
That's deep and simple. I love it
Thank you for sharing that quote by Tzu. It's absolutely correct.
I watch my thoughts but I can't do anything about them because the I that is watching my thoughts doesn't exist and that means character is an illusion.
I love him so much for his authenticity!!!!!!
His brutal honesty. ❤
Wow. I went through something very similar to everything JP is describing in this video.
He is soo good at saying what he means. It’s that commitment to truth.
Violence rarely fixes problems.
99.8% of Problems are solved peacefully
Thanks for watching everyone! I hope these words are as helpful for you as they were for me. Godspeed.
This is really good, man!
He is so amazing. I feel like this is me. I started watching my words, and didn’t have much to say.
This video deserves at least 10M views, so much value in it
I will always admire this level of transparency... I have it too... it's not easy sometimes
This happened to me recently. One day I woke up and was very more consciously aware of myself, what I would say though out the day and how I would act. I’m more aware now and think before I speak. I listen slot more than I talk. Sometimes silence says a lot about someone
You know I had that voice in me judging and criticizing and really didn’t know what to make of it. I went through something very traumatic a few months ago and at the moment I am trying to pick up the pieces that are left but in the process of putting back my identity, words and actions together I questioned everything. I questioned my values and foundational thoughts and really didn’t know which was the TRUE voice. I heard both of them as true. Heard the empowering and the Devils advocate voice in my head. Now with the help of this knowing I am not insane I can move forwards onto becoming better.
Videos like this are absolutely invaluable to mankind .
We lost family , community, connection and meaning over decades of mental decay and PC narratives.
This true , factual, solid wisdom is timeless and absolutely necessary now
Exactly
Pat on the back to all who are here trying to better themselves, trying to understand what life is all about.
You could have been watching something else... we wil succeed in our efforts.
Thank God for Jordan.
Jordan...NEVER gets old... what a friggin genius.
Word for word is align with what's going on with me right now in life and what I must do. Awesome graphics and message. Can't thank you enough for this brother. Thumbs up!
JP I had a similar occurrence. My neutral judging side was silencing an argumentative side. What’d happened was that I’d just wronged someone (won’t go into how), and my conscience caught me in the act. My argumentative side had a million justifications for why my actions and the way I handled myself were actually NOT wrong (or tolerable, at the very least). My conscience won, and it quickly came to me that my only outlet for inner peace was by righting the wrong I just did.
I'm there.
5% but never feel so much calm and in control of myself while my world just collapse.
Never was so scared but this time I choose to be courageous and I dive into my shadow.
This content is extremely well executed! Well done creator!
I think he described what self awareness is generally like. It can get really bad listening to the critic if you have neurotic tendencies, though, the critic can make you believe you're no good and you might as well give up and die. But healthy self awareness can evaluate your behavior and check to see if it lines up with your values, and it is aware of tendencies you don't like and want to improve upon.
This is the first time I've come across you, your channel and this video and I cannot bring myself to believe that another person out there has exactly the same second voice as mine. This is crazy.
I'd initially considered it to be the way brains and their thoughts usually worked, and then slowly came to realise that it was just me. And now, I spot a kin.
This is a really good animation! Great job
Wow, what a masterpiece, Shimbo!!!
Great job!👏👏👏
You give life to J. Peterson words.🤔🤪
I admire you!👍👏🥰
Thank you Dr. Jordan . You helped a lot to look at my self deeper, and understand. Great resource
Yeah me to. I felt great after recapitulation so energetic but one must practice constantly even reminding myself when riding the fence and I am on the comfortable side of fence, but its tough when pushing the shadow to move for a little pain and uncomfortableness...
Warrior Training on my on for 36 years started at age of 11.
Thanks for having the knowledge and power of word. People need this ,I used this as a sort of slap on the mind and back. Self love is so beautiful and shows the natural world that we love it enough and respect and realize she is a part of oneself.
Thank you ;
Angel Finley
ha banks
I'm high functioning aspergic and can relate to his experience, in that there there is no desire or compulsion to 'impress' others, or 'conform to the herd, and as a result I've often been compared to monsters, and the disordered (sociopaths, narcissists, psychopaths), by what I now consider, 'sheep'.
This has come with the conundrum of being aware, and inscenmtivized by others, to consider my true self as being something that should be oppressed, but I do not subscrube to this line of thinking, and instead, I embrace my true self/monster, and have nurtured it within others.
Nowadays
That is beautiful. I have found you, a nugget of gold in the pool of silver that is this comment section, surrounded by a sea of feces.
Learn to put on masks if need be, but know yourself at all times. Because nobody in the entire world can be YOU. If YOU are not YOURSELF, then who are you? If YOU are not YOURSELF, you are nothing.
If YOU are not YOURSELF, you are not even dead - you simply DO NOT EXIST.
I loved the way Shimbo pinned a hate comment not caring if it influences the perception of the video negatively & drops the video views & engagement. That's the real masculine confidence. Loved the video & animation. Jordan is rocking!
Very very good advice
Grrrrr reat animation man.
It just took me in like I've never experienced before with Jordan peterson
Nicely done. Important. In Buddhism we say there are '10 Unvirtuous Deeds'. And 4 of those are speech: idle speech, harsh speech, divisive speech, and lying (video above is essentially about lying). So we train the mind in part by talking less. Just meditating won't cut it. We talk less, we text less... and this is a major path to power, and a better life. Bonus factoid: Buddhists aren't necessarily vegetarian. Nor is JP. Many myths about the Buddha and Buddhism exist.
When I was young I stoppt talking a lot, because I noticed if I talk a lot a lot of unnecessary words come out. Now in my twentys I have realised that thats not a good idea. People tent to be foolish and if you don't practice talking, you will not get good at it. My self-confidence was very low, because I wasn't good at connecting to people too then.
I belive it is wise to think about what you say first. But it is not wise to restrict yourself to only things "you are allowed to say" because at some point you will break.
We can only learn by making mistakes, say unnecessary words and regret then maybe. We only grow through pain and shame, I guess.
Thank You!
Tyler Seitz.
To quote a line from the 4th Rambo movie:
"When you get pushed killing is as easy as breathing"
Absolute truth
Love the graphics to this too!
Something about him saying being a good guy wasnt something inate, but that it took effort felt good. Never thought i was a good person, but i want to be and i do everything i can to be that person if only in others eyes. I get told by alot of people that im nice, kind, easy to talk to etc. People tend to like me well enough and people opening up randomly isnt uncommon, and i do lend an ear or shoulder when needed. But i do it because thats what a good person does, even if im not good i can pretend. I dont see that person they taek about when i look in the mirror, but hearing that being good isnt inate and that you only become good after all the work made me feel a little better.
Speak truth in humility to all people. Only then can you be a true man.
- Sioux Proverb
I love his analysis on this very deep subject.
Only discovered Peterson recently. I'm considered highly intelligent myself but this man is, in my humble opinion, one of the most intelligent minds on Earth right now. When he speaks, folks should listen.
This isn't as "heavy going" as some of his talks, but useful nonetheless.
I don't agree with him on everything, predominantly his views on Nietzsche who I think has been misrepresented in history. Even so I'd know better than to try to debate this man.
Great Share; thanks!
Thanks💓for your videos, advice & sharing your truth & experience(s). On the looong road, but thanks.
The timing of this in my life...
The shadow self. It's in us all.
Oooh man. I can relate to this more than you know. I absoloutly love your lessons. I can't help it. Thank you thank you thank you.
This is so important, we are made in the image of God, so our words are very creative in positive or destructive ways.
That's so interesting. I remember thinking and going through alot of this same process. I can remember distinctly remember seeing a tree one day that my brother dad and I cut all the branches off. It was a big dead tree. I remember seeing it like a year or two later and that tree had grown back bigger and stronger with all the dead branches off. I remember thinking that's what I need to do.. loose the dead branches I'm trying to hold up.. so they can grow back stronger..
What kind of tree was THAT???... I think 1/3 rd of a tree has to be intact for regrowth to happen. ALL branches were cut off? And in the 2nd year the tree was bigger??? I highly doubt that was possible. Were you speaking metaphorically?
I don’t like to use the word “fundamental” in any context, because institutions undermine themselves, but I guess I can call it the things that feel fundamental, and feeling like changing oneself at a fundamental level. That’s what it’s like to cut off your dead branches and make yourself into a more robust tree per se. This is unfortunately exponentially harder to do the more chaotic your life is, and it’s even more unfortunate to realize that it’s not that hard to find people with greater chaotic qualities.
@@lynnodonnell4764 lmao
Wow this is very powerful❤ Thank you very much.. can I please have a reference to the full video.
Thank you so much Sensei! You are a blessing!
Yup. I have a podcast and used this approach. Had to get my true self aligned with what I spoke. It's simple and difficult at the same time, as you HAVE to look at yourself in third person as others do, in order to get out of your own rendition of yourself.
Great animation Ed!!
I appreciate the effort put into this video. Reading the texts helps
This whole video is amazing. I can't thank you enough. Powerful.
Oh spot on, spot on
Job considered this exact thing. in fact, he concluded this
Job 23:10
[10]But He knows the way that I take; When He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold.
I also find it hard to speak to my elders because I can see the majority of my plans falling apart, not only as I say them aloud but also when I hear their advice... this isn't always the case. However, if all you're left with is 5 percent, that's a whole lot better than a bunch of fluff.
very well said mister Peterson
Learn. Unlearn. Relearn.
A 3min speech that you'll need days to interpret and months to adjust.
Reminds me I need to do my VOICE workout training.xxxxxx
so true - say less, and make sure what you say is solid
Thank you.
Crazy 😧 Insane Doc.
Love ur sound effects
keep making these types of videos. I’m not sure if you already have made a lot of videos familiar to this… but if you don’t. Then keep doing this. Its enjoyable
I like it !
Thank you don you did a wonderful job here in this video.
A father for those who never had one.
Thank you
Saying the truth doesn't make a person weak. Showing more skin while people pleasing does.
David teaches the most important process anyone can go through is searching ones own heart.
Search yourselves gents, or the demons will run amuck.
The changing part reminds me of herrmanns hesse's steppenwolf changing
Sick video Brah. you`re an uzi brah.
I was so sad when I heard Mr. J. P. Wasn’t a Christian because he was so smart and beautiful heart.. but..
He changed his mind about it and came out with it and was unapologetic.
God bless you Mr. J.P.
May God bless you all and the persecuted Christians and Jews.
In Jesus name amen 🙏🏼
I believe he is heading down that path after him and his wife have struggled with their health the past few years. If you listen to some of his newer stuff he is starting to explore the Bible more. I felt the same way, there was a missing piece to some of what he says because he has left out a very important part human behavior, I can’t wait to hear God added in to his new speeches
What's wrong with not being a Christian?
@@tylnedriavalendorf You are not saved after death without Jesus to mediate before a righteous Creator for all the bad you have done in this life. None of us escapes death. None of us has lived a life without sin. The drama and suffering in life is all about man's quest for self determination and failing miserablly where the only hope is back to God through Jesus Christ. We are all the prodigal children in need of a Savior John 3:16.
Wonderful video. Thanks for creating and sharing it with us.
May I ask, how was this text animation made?
What makes me weak is that we have to live in this world that is never going to get better. I'm told, that I'm supposed to be strong and bottling up my emotions, but then I'm contradicted by this because now I'm told that I should express my emotioms and not bottle them up. Now I'm just plain confused 😕
We found out if you are about giving up we have some list to listen some meaningful if you are not laziness enough thank you everyone for sharing
Great Video, it's content as well as the animation. Keep it up!
If we all apply this, the comments section would be infinitely inferior, but the quality would be vastly superior
What in this world does not change? Ideas change, philosophy changes, even facts change over time. If we place our focus on something that is always changing we will get ever confused and lost. Inside of us, inside the heart is a place that is infinite, does not change, if we put our focus on that, then we can start to live in peace, not in pieces. Our mind is always very noisy, full of doubts, questions, but the heart has no questions, it is where love is felt, beauty is experienced. Over time we have mixed up the two, we now think that if we fill our mind it will give us answers, but it only gives us unrest. The heart is real, it is our greatest asset, because it contains all the values of life. All the darkness in the universe cannot extinguish the smallest of sparks.
I can relate to this monster I didn't think was there. Somebody ruined my life and wanted to take there life I had a breakdown and lost my mind palace and inner narrator (as I was a budding writer) I also have a heart condition and cannot work in the fitness industry because of them. Also on top of that I lost the love of my life through them - The list goes on. I realised they were just a fool there puppet strings they gave to evil entities. They have always been a fool they will probably always be a fool
( there is no such thing as a harmless fool - they are all dangerous they just need the right opportunity to prove it)
The conclusion I had was if I took revenge I would still be broken there violations had past who they were had been found out they could no longer do me any more harm. God would hold it against me if I did not forgive and showing mercy would be credited to me so it was inlightened self interest to let it go. The last person I had to forgive was myself for trusting when I should have been perceptive.
Why should we be afraid of being weak as long as we can observe the truth without a hidden alterial motive to warp our perspective. The fear of saying something that makes you weak is weakness and limits your understanding of what you are trying to convery. It seems taboo in society to openly criticize yourself. Many have condecending said to me oh your so down on yourself you should have a higher opinion. Perhaps we should be self deprecating otherwise we will wonder the earth with an unheathly ego . When I self deprecate it makes people really uncomfortable they think I have low self esteem. I would argue that it is they that have low self esteem to be critical of self is an excercise in liberation - a shedding of the skin. If your so afraid of your psyche you have to except yourself fully and show strength at all times. Of course there is a flipside to this where if we are willing to deprecate we should be able to pat ourselfs on the back. However this too can invite the ego to be greedly fed. So what is the answer? Well just simply say what ever I am I am and whatever I am not I am not. I simply exist and the only compliment I should except is a genuine one that is outside myself as to be self congraulatory is a stumbling block you can know your abilities without being self congratulatory. I have noticed in some areas of the New Age movement some people will tell themselves they are God even using his very name to describe themselves. Biblically we are told we are dust and are only living through the breath of God our only function therefore is to honour God and submit to a life without sin.
The ego lies and sin lies as it warps our true image. sin is an absence of love and respect. that is all sin is.
If you are Proud your cutting yourself off from your roots. I have issues I don't need to be popular. I have had a taste of popularity in the past you can lose yourself in it. What I haven't had enough of is prestige as I have not achieved excelence in my field. One day I will taste prestige then I will know weather to embrace it or discard it - I stuggle with this as I have not lived up to my potential something is in the way perhaps.
WOW - I REALLY RAMBLED ON THERE.
I moved to a new City and haven't made any new friends so probably spend to much time on my own.
On the process of reduction of weak behaviors. Would we not also loose those empathy traits that make us more social?
we think we wre born as good person and then became bad.Is wrong, we struggle to be good and this thought peace me a lot!
Amazing
This is very difficult for me. Because i talk allot and think allot. My brain is a chaos. And almost everything that i think it will comes out of my mouth.. and that’s make me weak.. and maybe people will not take me serious or see me as a full-fledged person.
(Is he an empath? Or a narcissist?
I don't know, anymore. Could he be both?)
I DIE INSIDE.
THE PAIN IS UNCEASING AND UNBEARABLE.
I LIVE IN A STATE OF PERPETUAL TRAUMA AND PANIC.
I CAN'T BREATHE.
I DON'T BREATHE.
I could die from the pain of missing my best friend.
Or, actually, not really my best friend,
but they guy whom I thought was my best friend...
He betrayed and abandoned me,
discarded me like garbage!!!
(HOW THE FUCK COULD HE?)
Replaced me for another.
My mind can't fathom, my heart can't comprehend.
I live in perpetual panic and constant longing...
How could he not miss me?
How could he do this to me?
Did he just replace me, really, just like that?
I'm dying inside. My soul is truly raped
and my heart is shattered.
REMINDER TO SELF, SWEET SOUL:
This was a karmic friendship,
meant to be there for a limited time (17-months-ish)
to teach you, about yourself!
About boundaries, about self-love,
about self-respect, about self-worth, etc...
About a whole plethora of magical, juicy, alchemical things!
The universe, God, your guides, your ancestors, have pushed you, lovingly,
in the right direction: into your own magnificent powerful magical freedom!
When you let go. The universe will catch you. It’s talking to you.
Let go of everything and trust the universe. It’s within you. ✨💫
Jesus said to her: “Mary.”
She turned toward him
and cried out, in Aramaic, “Rabboni!”
(which means Teacher) - John 20:16💖
NOTE TO MY TWIN FLAME:
Dearest twin flame, I’m working on myself,
I am being 100% healed, on evert level, in every way.
This is my purification process. I am doing this for me, for you, for us.
I’m proud of myself, and I’m getting ready for you. I love you.
Wow amazing editing. Interesting background, is it skin?
A good man is not that seperate from the bad man, a good man can turn bad with one choice. We mistake many strong men for being bad men just because they fight, but they stand for something and that is good. They may even kill but they stand up for what they believe is right and good. It is easier for some to be good, than it is for others. And one man's good is another's evil.
As one man's land is peaceful his options to do what is deemed bad are vastly different from the man who's land is in a state of war.
And then there are those of us who see everywhere as a state of war.
The Timeless battle between purely evil against what is purely good will always go on as will the battle about what is actually good and what is truly bad.
That gun text is cool af, what software did you use to make this video
I appreciate you
What is the name of the soundtrack?
I've been going through this for a while now
Reminds me a bit of she had no eyes so she chose me 🤔. Thank you for sharing video.
What song was used for this video? I quite enjoyed it's eerie, yet hopefully, sound.
If I weak I am weak..
Awesome animation
It sounds like The Holy Spirit leading into all TRUTH.
Man, I was searching for someone to say this...it's no wonder that Jordan has discovered Jesus in the midst of his struggles in the last couple of years.
Too be a violent person by nature, only tamed by circumstances. A coiled spring, that if let loose, acts.
It's all you... the weakness the strenth, the split etc normal humanacentric stuff and 5 percent is enough in this respect. We just need enough root to grow from. Us humans can sometimes think we will break from all the bending like tall grass after a storm and of course some of us do. But most of us, over time recover, grow, fill ourselves back up. Pick a cliche. As long as there's a little root left. Say 5 percent. However our life and soul depend on the preservation of that bit of root in stormy times...
Just my opinion of course. Take it or leave it x
I admire many of the things Jordan Peterson says about various topics. His logic, reasoning and articulation are on point to my current knowledge.
But this...this made very little sense to me. Trying to understand the mental dynamics he was going through is quite confusing. It seems that he benefitting for it but I don't see how that could help me in any way.
I would have liked for him to have given some examples of what sort of dialogue he thinks he says makes him "weak"
The truth is not weak.. it's wrong to hold back..you are weak for lying to yourself..
Hm, so what are those things that make us weak ? And what are those that make us strong ? How to get through that ?
beautiful, just beautiful.it is true.try it 😊