The story with the baby being tossed in the water, I was 10 months old and the floatie I was on flipped and I fell in the water. Took almost a minute for adults to find me and fish me out. I don't remember any of that, but I'm in my 40's now and still have nightmares of drowning whenever I get a stuffed nose. Doing that on purpose to a kid is evil!!!! 15:55
So very evil. The whole "they got her out safe nothing would have happened is BS!. That baby could have dry drowned in her bed that night if she had inhaled any amount of water.
6-7 seconds is so long for a baby to be underwater. She could have inhaled water, they could have been unable to find her. She probably won’t remember this, but I won’t be surprised if she has fears of water later. Total endangerment.
The snarky teacher... She's not being snarky. She's speaking to these idiotic parents who are the same mental age as the babies they are failing to raise. If you don't want your child to lose a bunch of tiny toys or sticky paper then do not send those items with your child. The mother in this situation is a nut job
I was thinking the same thing! I never was in daycare or sent my kids to daycare, but my aunt ran a licensed daycare from her home and I have friends that had kids in daycare. I thought it was known to never send any toys or keepsakes of your child’s to daycare and your child’s name should be written on any clothing item that they wear. If you kid wants to show off some Lego thingy take a picture of it and print it out for your child to show their friends
Let's break down a few things from story 1: 1. OP decided that she wanted to share the moment of her child being born with her sister over her husband (you know, the guy who helped create that new life?) 2. OP felt that for some reason, her sister is more deserving of being in the room when she gives birth over the father of the child, to whom OP is married (not just a baby daddy situation) is just sad. 3. OP stood firm that she wanted her sister in the delivery room instead of the father of her child. 4. When the sister's husband had a death in the family and she wouldn't be able to be there when OP gives birth, OP basically had the reaction of "But I wanted YOU in there, not my husband!" 5. OP only told her husband he could be in the room because her initial birth partner could not be there, not because she realized that her husband, the father of her child should be there with her. 6. OP got upset at her husband's response because she thought she was doing this amazing thing by finally allowing him to be in the room when they both know it was only because her sister couldn't be there. Her husband I'm sure was excited about being able to watch his child come into the world but that will forever be tainted by the fact that he was not her first choice when he should have been. OP basically was like "well, I hope you're happy. My sister can't be there so I guess you can be in the room with me" and then gets mad when the husband isn't jumping for joy at being his wife's second choice. 7. OP basically invalidates her husband's feelings and tells him he doesn't deserve to be a father when he wasn't jumping for joy when she told him he could be in the room after all. OP is an Ascon 1. Don't blame it on pregnancy hormones. Pregnant women seem to be given a pass for acting irrationally or saying awful things to people just because they're pregnant. Pregnancy does not mean that a woman is not aware of what their actions are and how they impact other people. When I'm PMSing (I actually have PMDD) and on my period, I know my hormones are going crazy but I try very hard to keep that in check. Why? Because I know that temporary hormone changes are not an excuse for treating someone else like crap. She did not care about her husband, the man who she vowed to honor and cherish the rest of her life. Yes, it is OP's body but that is not JUST her child and she is being selfish by not wanting her husband in the room for him to see the birth of his first child. She is 100% an AH and I hope she doesn't always treat her husband like he's not a priority to her.
The only issue with all of the is the actual reason she wanted her sister in the room was never explained. We do not know if there was a legitimate issue as to why she didn't want him in the room (other than just wanting her sister in the room).
When you sum it all up like this, she sounds very toxic, narcissistic and manipulative as all hell!!! Or at the very least super self-centred. “Oh it will be the greatest honour I could bestow upon you to be there at my birth.” Not the FUNDAMENTAL REQUIREMENT your partner should be there to see their child born.
Story #2: My sister would've caught these 🤜, not just got yelled at! OP needs a copy of that video & present it to the 🚔! 🤷🏽♀️ Big sis obviously needs taught a lesson before she actually kills someone for views. 🙄🤬
Story 4-the ironic thing is he wanted to be able to do something for her so he can feel useful…if he had set aside his selfishness and stayed with his wife when she needed him he would’ve been able to do that by advocating for her when the person she didn’t want there showed up.
Ppl can friggen "dry drown"! Just because the baby did not drown in the lake doesn't mean she wouldn't drown in her bed later that night FFS. IT IS NEVER SAFE LETTING A BABY'S HEAD GO UNDERWATER! That sister has mental issues that need to be dealt with...
To be completely honest, if somebody were to do this to my child, I would press charges for child endangerment or something like that. It’s all caught on video. I have the evidence. This is absolutely unacceptable. I would immediately go no contact and block them. Id get a restraining order if I have to. I cannot fathom why people think this is OK.
Okay I neeeed to react to the Aunt one! The Grandmother saying the cousins should get blame good is BULLSHIT! Because the aunt was the one responsible for the baby!! There is no way around it she honestly should be reported for child endangerment! There is literal video evidence of it!!! And the Aunt was the responsible party of the baby at the time of the incident! Ohhh that story made me feel sick! I went swimming with my 6 year old Niece this summer and she was terrified of me leaving her side even with a life jacket I can’t imagine what this 11 month old is feeling! God poor baby…
5:18 : 1st story… op is 100% the ah. The sister could have been the first visitor that is just a special, being an auntie myself that is still one of my most cherished memories. She told her husband that he’s in the backseat of his own life. She also hurt his feelings and then told him to get over it. I’m astonished.
More couples should listen to this podcast! Dusty & Candy consistently demonstrate the simple ways they respect their partner. In the last story about the Mom vs. Preschool teacher; Dusty's perspective was very different from his wife's. Instead of disregarding Candy's point of view, he paused and reevaluated the story, recognized that Candy might have a point. He also recognized that the way he read the story might have clouded his PoV.
Story 7, I've been a teacher, and I have to admit, I would probably also be snarky if a parent asked me to search for a sticker. Our job is to keep the children safe. Asking us to wrangle twelve children while looking for a dumb sticker that could either be in the classroom or outside on a playground is just unreasonable. Moreover, I would think most parents would know not to send their four year old to daycare with a toy and expect it to come back with them. Most daycares won't allow that for that specific reason.
Story 1 OP is definitely the AH….is her sister going to help raise the child too? She was willing to withhold a major life happening from him for her own comfort, I’ve been pregnant three times and it doesn’t give you the right to be a narcissist. Story 2 police need to get involved. The teacher story, she’s got probably thirty kids to keep track of, I’m not sure that really was the tone, I think OP needs to realize you just can’t send stuff to school with your kid and assume it will be returned if it’s not labeled.
Sis would catch these hands immediately!!! She wouldn't have gotten half that story out before her lip, eyes and hair would be connecting with my hands BF can catch it too since he's more afraid about losing his living arrangements because why else would he side with SIL?????
In the second story, it might not be the mom manipulating the sun. I came out of a very abusive relationships with a narcissist, and found out later that he had been manipulating his mom to do those things to me all the manipulations that she did all the insults they were all so they agree with what you’re saying I’m saying it could’ve been him manipulating the mom to Disneyland too.
Last story: I am a preschool teacher. This story resonates with me on a personal level. This mother is absolutely an asshole and she paints the teacher as an uncooperative lazy person/passive asshole. Now, could she be. Absolutely. But let's dive into the life of a preschool teacher. Your first job is to make the parents feel safe and happy because you are now in care of their child. You have to make sure they go home in the same condition they came to school in, while making sure they have good hygiene, are fed, feel appreciated, and being patient with them, while following rules of statewide daycare rules and regulations and staying in compliance with that, while dealing with the little angels. After a long day, the patience of that teacher has been tested, physically and emotionally. Keep in mind that they are severely underpaid for what they do. And they have to do it with a smile and always stay positive when talking to a parent. Even when a child does get hurt or is sad for some reason. Now, I also don't think this parent is telling the whole story. This teacher has obviously had it with her. This must be a common occurrence. Maybe daily. Mom kinda sounds like she spoils her kid while being an entitled person. This poor teacher has to communicate with all the parents at the end of the day, then has to clean, disinfect, and reorganize their classroom before they can leave for the day, and this parent wants her to leave the classroom to go look for things while other parents are waiting to talk. Hence, the notes, which I guarantee are responses because of emails, texts, or portal messages from her daily. Another thing. Parents are told day one and are given pamphlets and other paperwork with all the rules, regulations, and materials list for the classroom. On that list is stuff kids can lose, choke, or destroy. Label everything that is there's with their full name: Cups, clothes, lunchbox, bag, and shoes. That list also includes no toys from home in case another kid takes it or breaks it. Or it gets lost. I don't think you can trust this parents word. They can write this where they don't look like the bad guy. Recently, I had a parent report one of our teachers for giving a problem about changing her kid, though this employee never complains, and ran into the mother in the hallway, and the mother said. "Oh, it's okay, I will take care of that." The mother then reported her for having an attitude when all she said was,"You sure, I don't mind. " and the mom replied,"Yes. " Parents are crazy sometimes. P.S. Stickers on shirts fall off. Also, kids take them off and put them on their hands and other kids' shirts. By the first hour, that sticker is destroyed. Or on the bottom of somebody elses shoes. Stickers come and go. It's a part of life.
The pregnant woman in the first story sounds at best super self-centred and at worst manipulative and narcissistic. She should be SOOOO SOOO grateful that the father of the child actually wants to be there at the birth. There are plenty of fathers out there who wouldn’t (I.E deadbeats). Also as a daycare worker myself, I can see the teacher’s frustration and points she made. She isn’t going about it the right way, but she is right about all the issues raised. Please parents stop letting your kids go in sick to the setting and spread the sickness to EVERYONE ELSE!!! Stop letting your kids bring toys into a building LITERALLY FULL OF TOYS!!! AND NAME EVERY SINGLE PIECE OF YOUR CHILD’S CLOTHING AND POSSESSIONS!!! It’s always the ones who allow their children to do these things that have the problems, not the ones who make our lives easier by following these simple steps.
Story 1: first OP is a HUGE a-hole for telling him he doesn’t deserve to be a father for not jumping for joy over being second choice. She gets no “what ifs” on this situation because if he was abusive, neglectful, bad in crisis, etc she would have said so. She provided no reason other than she preferred her sister to be there. Finally, shout out to OP’s friend. AT LAST a friend with common sense who calls out idiocy. Too many mamas boys for me to wrap my head around. Snarky teacher story: guess what OP. Stickers aren’t permanently affixed to items. To ask the teacher to look for it because your little dove was upset it fell off made you the AH. As a former teachers aide: put names on your kids property! The teacher is busy teaching not trying to take mental notes on what little Timmy is wearing every damn day. Sorry. I detest entitled parents who don’t use common sense and believe the world stops because the sticker fell off their kids shirt.
The kid wasn’t even one would the kid not have drowned? Would it water not have gone into her lungs? Do they understand that this baby would’ve died or could’ve died if it went slightly different?
OP is an AH. If it's a choice between the father of the child or her sister. Really not very good of you. Why do you think he doesn't deserve to be there. Shit thing to do lady.
My kids school forces the kids to take their shoes off in the gym mind u my kids are in 7th and 8th grade my daughters shoes was stolen due to this school refused to help and no punishment was ever put in place and they still make all the kids take their shoes off so it dosnt scratch the gym floor
Last story, from a teacher's perspective, a few points: Asking the teacher after school to look for a sticker is a bad move. this woman just spent eight hours chasing four year olds around a classroom, (alone, because admin thinks teacher-student ratios are a joke and IAs are for lazy people), is looking at at least another hour of work planning for tomorrow, or a staff meeting, or after school duty (our day does NOT end when the kids leave), and a parent that has already been a problem (sending toys to school and then asking about them after) wants her to look for a sticker? I promise you that this mom has been asked not to send toys for exactly this reason. Point two: I need everyone with kids to read this carefully. You are NOT going to know if you complaint has done anything. Here is what complaining about a teacher is going to do: 1. principal is going to panic. angry parents are a fucking nightmare. 2. panicking principal is going to pull teacher into a meeting and ream her out for 'unprofessional conduct' 3. teacher, now upset and also panicking, because parent-teacher communication is one of the metrics we get evaluated on, is, best case, going to be *extremely careful* around your child forever now. this is a kid with a Problem Parent. this kid doesn't get to take risks, this kid doesn't get to run on the playground, this kid doesn't get hugs from teacher anymore, the only thing your kid knows is that suddenly an adult who was previously friendly and kind is now distant and anxious. Teacher doesn't like me anymore. If you're really unlucky, that teacher is going to warn next year's teacher to Be Careful with that one, her mom's a nightmare. Nothing else is going to happen, because there is a massive teacher shortage and no one is going to fire someone willing to work with Early Childhood. The teacher now has a black mark with the principal, and admin will come down harsher on her for any other issues, but you're not going to know about it until she quits of her own volition. You never get told any of this because disciplinary actions are confidential and honestly none of your business. Please just set up a parent-teacher conference. Talk to your kid's teacher one on one before you involve admin. you have a much better chance of a successful resolution if you just communicate like an adult and give a very tired, very overworked person a little bit of grace.
Story 3- he is actually choosing the side for not disappointing his kids - not choosing his mom's side. And didn't he say that he did tell his mother that was wrong? I think he's trying to not disappoint the small child who could turn around and blame her mom for making it so she couldn't go to Disney.
I'm actually shocked that you haven't gotten a restraining order on your sister. I'm not kidding. OP: your sister goes near your daughter again and you're reading this, reach out to me. I will straight take care of her. Not even joking.
Story 1: I feel like everyone is judging the mom for wanting her sister in the birthing room with her. I feel like that is 100% her right. Her support person should be someone who she feels completely comfortable with and she knows will support her. In that moment it’s not about people’s egos. It’s about making the mother as comfortable and supported as possible. Some people just aren’t great for that role. Whatever the reason it is the mother’s right to choose who is with her. She is not an a hole for choosing her sister. He is not an a hole for being disappointed that he wasn’t her first pick. They are both a holes for the way they lashed out at each other instead of talking it through. So in my opinion they both suck.
RE: Teacher story. Sorry, Dusty, you're wrong here. Firstly, it's downright crass to suggest that parents are mere consumers. Teachers are doing a public service: they serve as government-sponsored sitters so the parents do not actually have to pay hundreds/thousands of dollars for someone else to watch them during the day. It's pretty clear in this story that the OP is the asshole. The teacher has 20-30 (possibly more) students to supervise, and I GUARANTEE that she does NOT have the time to find some sticker that, if it were so important, should have been kept at home OR, as was suggested, labeled. The fact that the kid keeps losing items should be a sign to Mommie that she should be more careful or start teaching HER child to take care of her things. (Shit, I learned that by age 3 or 4.). Regarding the teacher's possible attitude: does it ever occur to you parents that she's probably getting email after email, phone call after phone call about the same things? Let's take your client-consumer model, Dusty: why do restaurants put up a sign that says, "We are not responsible for lost items"? Yeah, exactly.
The story with the baby being tossed in the water, I was 10 months old and the floatie I was on flipped and I fell in the water. Took almost a minute for adults to find me and fish me out. I don't remember any of that, but I'm in my 40's now and still have nightmares of drowning whenever I get a stuffed nose.
Doing that on purpose to a kid is evil!!!! 15:55
So very evil. The whole "they got her out safe nothing would have happened is BS!. That baby could have dry drowned in her bed that night if she had inhaled any amount of water.
op should have her sister arrested for child endangerment.
RIGHT?! How is anyone ok with this?! SHE DROPPED A BABY OFF A DOCK!!
6-7 seconds is so long for a baby to be underwater. She could have inhaled water, they could have been unable to find her. She probably won’t remember this, but I won’t be surprised if she has fears of water later. Total endangerment.
Right? Dry drowning! @@Ashni1
Ngl I agree with the teacher in the last story 😂 bless that teacher
Momma’s boys stories give me PTSD 😭 biggest red flag 🚩 they hardly ever change 🤷♀️
Also was with someone like story 6 and for 11 years. Had enough and left, been 3 years and don’t regret it one bit!
The snarky teacher... She's not being snarky. She's speaking to these idiotic parents who are the same mental age as the babies they are failing to raise. If you don't want your child to lose a bunch of tiny toys or sticky paper then do not send those items with your child. The mother in this situation is a nut job
I was thinking the same thing! I never was in daycare or sent my kids to daycare, but my aunt ran a licensed daycare from her home and I have friends that had kids in daycare. I thought it was known to never send any toys or keepsakes of your child’s to daycare and your child’s name should be written on any clothing item that they wear. If you kid wants to show off some Lego thingy take a picture of it and print it out for your child to show their friends
Story 4 is nanners 😂
Let's break down a few things from story 1:
1. OP decided that she wanted to share the moment of her child being born with her sister over her husband (you know, the guy who helped create that new life?)
2. OP felt that for some reason, her sister is more deserving of being in the room when she gives birth over the father of the child, to whom OP is married (not just a baby daddy situation) is just sad.
3. OP stood firm that she wanted her sister in the delivery room instead of the father of her child.
4. When the sister's husband had a death in the family and she wouldn't be able to be there when OP gives birth, OP basically had the reaction of "But I wanted YOU in there, not my husband!"
5. OP only told her husband he could be in the room because her initial birth partner could not be there, not because she realized that her husband, the father of her child should be there with her.
6. OP got upset at her husband's response because she thought she was doing this amazing thing by finally allowing him to be in the room when they both know it was only because her sister couldn't be there. Her husband I'm sure was excited about being able to watch his child come into the world but that will forever be tainted by the fact that he was not her first choice when he should have been. OP basically was like "well, I hope you're happy. My sister can't be there so I guess you can be in the room with me" and then gets mad when the husband isn't jumping for joy at being his wife's second choice.
7. OP basically invalidates her husband's feelings and tells him he doesn't deserve to be a father when he wasn't jumping for joy when she told him he could be in the room after all.
OP is an Ascon 1. Don't blame it on pregnancy hormones. Pregnant women seem to be given a pass for acting irrationally or saying awful things to people just because they're pregnant. Pregnancy does not mean that a woman is not aware of what their actions are and how they impact other people. When I'm PMSing (I actually have PMDD) and on my period, I know my hormones are going crazy but I try very hard to keep that in check. Why? Because I know that temporary hormone changes are not an excuse for treating someone else like crap. She did not care about her husband, the man who she vowed to honor and cherish the rest of her life. Yes, it is OP's body but that is not JUST her child and she is being selfish by not wanting her husband in the room for him to see the birth of his first child. She is 100% an AH and I hope she doesn't always treat her husband like he's not a priority to her.
The only issue with all of the is the actual reason she wanted her sister in the room was never explained. We do not know if there was a legitimate issue as to why she didn't want him in the room (other than just wanting her sister in the room).
Yessssssss 😂😂😂😂. Shes a major asscon 1
@@shadowkissed2370 her reasoning was that “her sister is her best friend and she wanted to share this moment with her.” 🙄
When you sum it all up like this, she sounds very toxic, narcissistic and manipulative as all hell!!! Or at the very least super self-centred. “Oh it will be the greatest honour I could bestow upon you to be there at my birth.” Not the FUNDAMENTAL REQUIREMENT your partner should be there to see their child born.
That would be an immediate divorce for me
A great sign that you're doing something very wrong is when the people helping you are FOURTEEN YEARS OLD.
Story #2: My sister would've caught these 🤜, not just got yelled at! OP needs a copy of that video & present it to the 🚔! 🤷🏽♀️ Big sis obviously needs taught a lesson before she actually kills someone for views. 🙄🤬
Story 4-the ironic thing is he wanted to be able to do something for her so he can feel useful…if he had set aside his selfishness and stayed with his wife when she needed him he would’ve been able to do that by advocating for her when the person she didn’t want there showed up.
How do you not want the father of the baby present??
Ppl can friggen "dry drown"! Just because the baby did not drown in the lake doesn't mean she wouldn't drown in her bed later that night FFS. IT IS NEVER SAFE LETTING A BABY'S HEAD GO UNDERWATER! That sister has mental issues that need to be dealt with...
Story 1 dad is not the asshole. At all from the context we got.
Mom is ascon 2 for not choosing dad first. It is HIS child also. He deserves to be involved also
To be completely honest, if somebody were to do this to my child, I would press charges for child endangerment or something like that. It’s all caught on video. I have the evidence. This is absolutely unacceptable. I would immediately go no contact and block them. Id get a restraining order if I have to. I cannot fathom why people think this is OK.
OP not letting dad in the delivery room is a AH1
The story with the baby makes me so angry. Silent drowning is such a scary thing
That poor baby is going to be scared of water for the rest of her life.
She could have killed your baby for a freaking joke. No flipping way !!!!!
Okay I neeeed to react to the Aunt one! The Grandmother saying the cousins should get blame good is BULLSHIT! Because the aunt was the one responsible for the baby!! There is no way around it she honestly should be reported for child endangerment! There is literal video evidence of it!!! And the Aunt was the responsible party of the baby at the time of the incident!
Ohhh that story made me feel sick! I went swimming with my 6 year old Niece this summer and she was terrified of me leaving her side even with a life jacket I can’t imagine what this 11 month old is feeling! God poor baby…
Let’s retire “butt hurt.”
Mamas boy night!!😂
5:18 : 1st story… op is 100% the ah. The sister could have been the first visitor that is just a special, being an auntie myself that is still one of my most cherished memories. She told her husband that he’s in the backseat of his own life. She also hurt his feelings and then told him to get over it. I’m astonished.
Story 3 : I would be in divorce court by Christmas.
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Dusty & Candy consistently demonstrate the simple ways they respect their partner. In the last story about the Mom vs. Preschool teacher; Dusty's perspective was very different from his wife's. Instead of disregarding Candy's point of view, he paused and reevaluated the story, recognized that Candy might have a point. He also recognized that the way he read the story might have clouded his PoV.
Story 3 link brings you to story 4
Story 7, I've been a teacher, and I have to admit, I would probably also be snarky if a parent asked me to search for a sticker. Our job is to keep the children safe. Asking us to wrangle twelve children while looking for a dumb sticker that could either be in the classroom or outside on a playground is just unreasonable. Moreover, I would think most parents would know not to send their four year old to daycare with a toy and expect it to come back with them. Most daycares won't allow that for that specific reason.
Story 1 OP is definitely the AH….is her sister going to help raise the child too? She was willing to withhold a major life happening from him for her own comfort, I’ve been pregnant three times and it doesn’t give you the right to be a narcissist. Story 2 police need to get involved. The teacher story, she’s got probably thirty kids to keep track of, I’m not sure that really was the tone, I think OP needs to realize you just can’t send stuff to school with your kid and assume it will be returned if it’s not labeled.
Yes the AH. Shouldn’t be going at all! How dare MIL entry to take your kids without permission’ that is technically kidnapping
I mean story three, that is attempted murder on a child!
i mean two
Story 4, OP's dad is s scumbag and so is he. The insensitive apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
Sis would catch these hands immediately!!! She wouldn't have gotten half that story out before her lip, eyes and hair would be connecting with my hands BF can catch it too since he's more afraid about losing his living arrangements because why else would he side with SIL?????
I would press charges for story 1 😮😡🤬
Me and my mom said no In story two at the same time as you
28:30 go stay with your mom forever
In the second story, it might not be the mom manipulating the sun. I came out of a very abusive relationships with a narcissist, and found out later that he had been manipulating his mom to do those things to me all the manipulations that she did all the insults they were all so they agree with what you’re saying I’m saying it could’ve been him manipulating the mom to Disneyland too.
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Last story: I am a preschool teacher. This story resonates with me on a personal level. This mother is absolutely an asshole and she paints the teacher as an uncooperative lazy person/passive asshole.
Now, could she be. Absolutely. But let's dive into the life of a preschool teacher. Your first job is to make the parents feel safe and happy because you are now in care of their child. You have to make sure they go home in the same condition they came to school in, while making sure they have good hygiene, are fed, feel appreciated, and being patient with them, while following rules of statewide daycare rules and regulations and staying in compliance with that, while dealing with the little angels. After a long day, the patience of that teacher has been tested, physically and emotionally. Keep in mind that they are severely underpaid for what they do. And they have to do it with a smile and always stay positive when talking to a parent. Even when a child does get hurt or is sad for some reason.
Now, I also don't think this parent is telling the whole story. This teacher has obviously had it with her. This must be a common occurrence. Maybe daily. Mom kinda sounds like she spoils her kid while being an entitled person. This poor teacher has to communicate with all the parents at the end of the day, then has to clean, disinfect, and reorganize their classroom before they can leave for the day, and this parent wants her to leave the classroom to go look for things while other parents are waiting to talk. Hence, the notes, which I guarantee are responses because of emails, texts, or portal messages from her daily.
Another thing. Parents are told day one and are given pamphlets and other paperwork with all the rules, regulations, and materials list for the classroom. On that list is stuff kids can lose, choke, or destroy. Label everything that is there's with their full name: Cups, clothes, lunchbox, bag, and shoes.
That list also includes no toys from home in case another kid takes it or breaks it. Or it gets lost.
I don't think you can trust this parents word. They can write this where they don't look like the bad guy.
Recently, I had a parent report one of our teachers for giving a problem about changing her kid, though this employee never complains, and ran into the mother in the hallway, and the mother said. "Oh, it's okay, I will take care of that." The mother then reported her for having an attitude when all she said was,"You sure, I don't mind. " and the mom replied,"Yes. "
Parents are crazy sometimes.
P.S. Stickers on shirts fall off. Also, kids take them off and put them on their hands and other kids' shirts. By the first hour, that sticker is destroyed. Or on the bottom of somebody elses shoes. Stickers come and go. It's a part of life.
Dusty, please don't spread poo on the walls.
Dusty, this is the first time I don’t agree with you. She’s dealing with 30 of you. The teacher is placing the boundaries you talk so highly about.
I feel the teacher def had a snarky directed tone to OP with the notes. To specify the child’s coat and water bottle was an unnecessary jab
Act like a child get treated like a child
Exactly
The pregnant woman in the first story sounds at best super self-centred and at worst manipulative and narcissistic. She should be SOOOO SOOO grateful that the father of the child actually wants to be there at the birth. There are plenty of fathers out there who wouldn’t (I.E deadbeats).
Also as a daycare worker myself, I can see the teacher’s frustration and points she made. She isn’t going about it the right way, but she is right about all the issues raised. Please parents stop letting your kids go in sick to the setting and spread the sickness to EVERYONE ELSE!!! Stop letting your kids bring toys into a building LITERALLY FULL OF TOYS!!! AND NAME EVERY SINGLE PIECE OF YOUR CHILD’S CLOTHING AND POSSESSIONS!!! It’s always the ones who allow their children to do these things that have the problems, not the ones who make our lives easier by following these simple steps.
Story 1: first OP is a HUGE a-hole for telling him he doesn’t deserve to be a father for not jumping for joy over being second choice. She gets no “what ifs” on this situation because if he was abusive, neglectful, bad in crisis, etc she would have said so. She provided no reason other than she preferred her sister to be there.
Finally, shout out to OP’s friend. AT LAST a friend with common sense who calls out idiocy.
Too many mamas boys for me to wrap my head around.
Snarky teacher story: guess what OP. Stickers aren’t permanently affixed to items. To ask the teacher to look for it because your little dove was upset it fell off made you the AH. As a former teachers aide: put names on your kids property! The teacher is busy teaching not trying to take mental notes on what little Timmy is wearing every damn day. Sorry. I detest entitled parents who don’t use common sense and believe the world stops because the sticker fell off their kids shirt.
Story #5: Amy and Alan? Like Boy Meets World?
The kid wasn’t even one would the kid not have drowned? Would it water not have gone into her lungs? Do they understand that this baby would’ve died or could’ve died if it went slightly different?
OP is an AH. If it's a choice between the father of the child or her sister. Really not very good of you. Why do you think he doesn't deserve to be there. Shit thing to do lady.
My kids school forces the kids to take their shoes off in the gym mind u my kids are in 7th and 8th grade my daughters shoes was stolen due to this school refused to help and no punishment was ever put in place and they still make all the kids take their shoes off so it dosnt scratch the gym floor
Wth? It's a gym, not a 5 star resort. Why are they worried about a few scratches? I have never heard of this
Last story, from a teacher's perspective, a few points: Asking the teacher after school to look for a sticker is a bad move. this woman just spent eight hours chasing four year olds around a classroom, (alone, because admin thinks teacher-student ratios are a joke and IAs are for lazy people), is looking at at least another hour of work planning for tomorrow, or a staff meeting, or after school duty (our day does NOT end when the kids leave), and a parent that has already been a problem (sending toys to school and then asking about them after) wants her to look for a sticker? I promise you that this mom has been asked not to send toys for exactly this reason.
Point two: I need everyone with kids to read this carefully. You are NOT going to know if you complaint has done anything. Here is what complaining about a teacher is going to do:
1. principal is going to panic. angry parents are a fucking nightmare.
2. panicking principal is going to pull teacher into a meeting and ream her out for 'unprofessional conduct'
3. teacher, now upset and also panicking, because parent-teacher communication is one of the metrics we get evaluated on, is, best case, going to be *extremely careful* around your child forever now. this is a kid with a Problem Parent. this kid doesn't get to take risks, this kid doesn't get to run on the playground, this kid doesn't get hugs from teacher anymore, the only thing your kid knows is that suddenly an adult who was previously friendly and kind is now distant and anxious. Teacher doesn't like me anymore. If you're really unlucky, that teacher is going to warn next year's teacher to Be Careful with that one, her mom's a nightmare.
Nothing else is going to happen, because there is a massive teacher shortage and no one is going to fire someone willing to work with Early Childhood. The teacher now has a black mark with the principal, and admin will come down harsher on her for any other issues, but you're not going to know about it until she quits of her own volition. You never get told any of this because disciplinary actions are confidential and honestly none of your business.
Please just set up a parent-teacher conference. Talk to your kid's teacher one on one before you involve admin. you have a much better chance of a successful resolution if you just communicate like an adult and give a very tired, very overworked person a little bit of grace.
Am I missing something? How is the baby not in danger of drowning?
Story 7, yeah, teacher is TA. Everyone can have bad days but continual attitude is unwarranted.
Story 3- he is actually choosing the side for not disappointing his kids - not choosing his mom's side. And didn't he say that he did tell his mother that was wrong? I think he's trying to not disappoint the small child who could turn around and blame her mom for making it so she couldn't go to Disney.
I'm actually shocked that you haven't gotten a restraining order on your sister. I'm not kidding. OP: your sister goes near your daughter again and you're reading this, reach out to me. I will straight take care of her. Not even joking.
Wonder if OP cheated and not sure if her husband is the father or not. Either way, she's a terrible wife.
Story 1: I feel like everyone is judging the mom for wanting her sister in the birthing room with her. I feel like that is 100% her right. Her support person should be someone who she feels completely comfortable with and she knows will support her. In that moment it’s not about people’s egos. It’s about making the mother as comfortable and supported as possible. Some people just aren’t great for that role. Whatever the reason it is the mother’s right to choose who is with her. She is not an a hole for choosing her sister. He is not an a hole for being disappointed that he wasn’t her first pick. They are both a holes for the way they lashed out at each other instead of talking it through. So in my opinion they both suck.
RE: Teacher story. Sorry, Dusty, you're wrong here. Firstly, it's downright crass to suggest that parents are mere consumers. Teachers are doing a public service: they serve as government-sponsored sitters so the parents do not actually have to pay hundreds/thousands of dollars for someone else to watch them during the day. It's pretty clear in this story that the OP is the asshole. The teacher has 20-30 (possibly more) students to supervise, and I GUARANTEE that she does NOT have the time to find some sticker that, if it were so important, should have been kept at home OR, as was suggested, labeled. The fact that the kid keeps losing items should be a sign to Mommie that she should be more careful or start teaching HER child to take care of her things. (Shit, I learned that by age 3 or 4.). Regarding the teacher's possible attitude: does it ever occur to you parents that she's probably getting email after email, phone call after phone call about the same things? Let's take your client-consumer model, Dusty: why do restaurants put up a sign that says, "We are not responsible for lost items"? Yeah, exactly.