4 ways women can test a guy to see if he is serious | 4 ways to know a guy is serious
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- 4 ways smart women test guys
How to tell if a guy is serious
The first test on this list is
Ask him what he’s looking for to test him
When a guys lingering. Contacting you, flirting, taking you out or asking to but you have no idea what his goal is. As long as he is the aggressor. Again this is to avoid being used so it works best before things turn sexual. Ask him whats he’s looking for.
A powerful way to do this is to catch him off guard. Get serious because it is serious. Don’t try to be flirty or cute. In this case doing so would undermine your personal authority. With a straight face with a tone of curiosity or even confusion, say can I ask you something? What do want from me?
A grown ass man should be able to answer this question and pass this test. Never screw a guy who gives you any version of “I don’t know as an answer”. Men who don’t know what they want shouldn’t be trusted until they do. Don’t let him flip the question on you. Don’t let him joke his way out of it.
If he says any version of...
I’m just having fun
I’m just looking to meet people
Not looking for a relationship
Don’t want anything serious
Just trying to kick it
Somebody I can vibe with.
Just making friends
Or Just seeing whats out there. He needs to be handled as a f boy. Don’t try to change his mind. If he thought more of you he would choose his words more carefully. A man that decides your only function is physical before getting to know you is more likely to say this type of thing than a guy who values partnership.
Say no to sex to test him and be ambiguous about when he should expect it. Or straight forward.......can he pass the test...continued
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I’ve done that for 4 years. Thousands have gotten me for free. Personal emails, dm’s, lives, and even phone calls. For years! Do you do yo damn job for free?
You forgot I’m just focusing on my career right now
@@KevHick heck no they don't do jobs 4 free
Kev Hick Talks Guys with Girls on
My mom cancelled a date with my dad (they had been dating a while) because she was sick. He showed up to her house with soup and flowers. She knew then he was for real and fell in love. And here I am. I would not exist if it weren't for roses and soup lol
🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
That is so cute. Your Dad is a true gentleman. I hope there are still men like your Dad these days. Men like your Dad should be an standard.
Sending you lots of love ❤️
Aww this made me smile! 😃
😂😂😂
That's so sweet!
If he says ‘ i just wanna go with the flow ‘ , go with the flow & leave 😂
Absolutely true 😂
LMFAO BRO
😂
Egggxactly‼️‼️
Uh oh I say that...
"The men who don't know what they want, shouldn't be trusted until they do." -Kev Hick
Brilliant.
And the kicker is: they always know what they want. They just don’t want [said girl].
So him saying he’s unsure is him saying no.
@@klickingkayasmr7585 Yep! That's why men prey on weak women.
@@helenarichard Yes Yes Yes
Betty Jones Yes, that’s why if I do get “hit on” or “slightly pursued,” I’m always skeptical. Which sucks....
Cause I feel like it’s cause they can sense that weakness (or kindness/gullible-ness) in me...😑
@@klickingkayasmr7585 On your last comment, I feel you so much, girl.❤❤
Ladies, the not having sex part WORKS. I have shooed off so many men with that one. I used to tell them straight up when I was dating. No sex. Some will try to make you feel bad for it, some will try to manipulate you, some will even just disappear. Trust and know these are exactly the kind of men you do not want in your life. Be GLAD if they disappear. Be glad!
That's only because someone got desperate. LMFAOO
My guy moved me and my newborn son in with him when he's not the father. He stepped up and became daddy and got us a house. That's love!!
That is golden.
That a good a man
He sounds like he was Heaven sent. . But, Always have your own employment.
Wow.
Take great care of him sis and never let him go! That kind of man is rare! You are blessed!
A man could do acts of service, FaceTime you, spend his money on you, come to see you in his downtime and still PLAY YOU. I’m living proof 🥺💔
Sorry gurl❤️
its the curse of being hot or 'sexy', it just makes them want to do more to 'get you'
True
@Beyondd Beautiful oh no :( what happened girl, what did he do? have you had any red flags or none at all?
@@liyaah85 Long story short he love bombed me. I helped him and return he left me. Gave me silent treated..being hot and cold and inconsiderate of my feelings...I have learned my lesson. Never tell a man what you want in a man bc then it’ll give them the opportunity to manipulate you and pretend to be that man for you instead of being their true self and who they should be. How he treated me was all an act. He couldn’t pretend for much longer..only 6 months in. I’m a genuine loving person so to me it was hurtful but now I see him breaking up with me was a blessing in disguise! He was the one with 3 kids by 2 women and been married before. He didn’t mean me any good. Ofcourse I wish he would of just been honest and transparent instead of being deceiving and fake af but it is what it is! Never again tho!
If he says “I want to see where this goes”
“I’m looking to meet ppl”
NEXT!
Absolutely
Unless he's Brad Pitt...you don't wait around for ANY man! 😉
Yes facts
but i mean, if u dont know someone, u cant really say u want something serious cause it sounds like "..something serious from YOU'". and if i have only seen the guy once, i cant tell if i want that either
That's fine. Great! That's what Dating is. But my Ladies. No SEX until he's found you.
Ladies, always remember: "TIME and a good woman waits for NO man!!!" You must know your worth and never lower your standards. Always keep your head, heels and standards HIGH!!
For bad guys yes. For good guys no. Sometimes good guys display behavior that makes them seem like bad men but if you really want to attract this guy then you will do what he likes.
@@rjtheripper931 no❤️ it’s not about him your the prize your the priority 🥴
@@rjtheripper931 lol.
@@angelataylor7799 chileee 🤦😂
I can't keep my heels high if they make my feet hurt.
1. Ask him, "what is he looking for?".
2. Say no to sex.
3. State the type of communication that you prefer. (Ask him to call instead of text.)
4. Give him an opportunity to attempt to serve you using his finite resources.
* Not what is he looking for, What he wants from you specifically.
No man should ask me for sex unless I am already MARRIED to him. I had those types of run in here and there where I expressed that I was waiting until marriage to have sex; these men obviously failed because they stopped wanting to pursue me after that. At the same time, God covered me in the process. They were too ratchet for my taste anyways!
@@jennifersnelling1265 Amen
4. Tell him what you are looking for!
True. A good man will make life easier for you.
Literally just asking ‚what do you want from me‘ has saved me from so much drama.. 10/10 would recommend
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Same
These informations are saving me a whole lot of heartache and pain.
True that..!!
Facts
Ikr! Good man🔥
Yesss it sure is.
Facts
I was always taught that a man treats you the way that he feels about you, so if a man’s actions are not consistent with what he says, or if a man’s actions are inconsistent-period-keep it moving and be glad that you didn’t waste a lot of your valuable time. Your heart can heal, but you will never get back your time.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
5. Ask him where he sees himself in the next 5 years. If he doesn’t mention you or any of the things you’re looking for (ie. marriage, family, career plan, home ownership, traveling, etc.) then he doesn’t want those things and don’t allow him to waste your time.
Never take a man's number WOW so glad I peeped that early. He gave me his number and promptly asked me to come to his house after he was two hours late for our date. I never said NO so fast LOL
2 hours was he stuck in traffic
@@goldennightingale5791 He was in the area I was in...at a cigar bar. Taking his sweet old time.
@@akilahs3889 im not gonna judge him but that long as time hahah
😂😂😂😂
This is so true ‼️‼️
MYSTERY!! Stop being an OPEN BOOK on the First date. 😉
Absolutely! Kev Hicks teaches this in one of his videos. Don't remember which video, but in it he used the analogy of the series "LOST". Made a PROFOUND impact on me!
@@flooredjustfloored but bruh...the ending... :x
@@angelataylor7799 I'm a sis :) I never watched the series, but might be open to it since it's binge-watchable.
Do you recommend it?
@@flooredjustfloored lol...yeah, idk if I ever even saw the end, but just remember everyone being like "WTF?" but before that I remember loving it, it was my great summer night guilty pleasure when I was younger :D
My boyfriend been tested about 2 years ago... Guess what?!? He seemed a KEEPER.. i thought jeez im blessed... (shutting my gut down, feeling something its fishy) moved together, everything looked promising until he started to show indifference, control over me and my house, things that i liked and made me happy, he slowly got them out of my life, i even stopped playing music because of his grumpy face, i had to do everything just for him to be "happy" and i was slowly dying inside, didn't felt like im living in my house, felt like i live in his!!
My advice is: MAKE SURE HE IS NOT FAKING THE SIGNS OF A KEEPER!!!
He has all the signs of a Narcissist. They will squeeze the life out of you. From experience. He sounds like my Ex. He probably had a secret life you didnt know anything about.
@@sharonarmwood8907 Yes he might, and now he is trying to convince me that he is changed but i can't bite that.
@@MM-er5gp Dont go backward . because he will find more reasons to hurt you. Go no contact its the safest way. The mask he wears has slipped and you have seen the real him. Next time always follow your gut. It never lies. When you see a red flag , just like a red stop sign. It means , Stop and proceed with caution! . Mine's at first I could have sworn he Was my Twin Soul ! At the end I had to pray to God and he got me out of that situation!
@@sharonarmwood8907 I won't! Thanks for your advice 🤗 Hope you are all good now!
@@MM-er5gp Yes. I am good. Be blessed in all you do!
"Guys who text are lazy." I'm feelin' that. I'm Baffled why men are reluctant to call. (If they did, they would 'hear' my smile.)
The last one I tried to talk to fought this one so hard. He’d rather type novels all day. I was beyond over it and started leaving him on read a lot before I told him I was no longer interested.
Men CALL Women they REALLY like. No calls...no real interest in you. Move on!
They dont call because they have nothing serious to say
@@Forexroadrunner Exactly! And...there just not that in to you. Men who REALLY like Women. Call. 😉
@Vibrant77 🤣🤣
Never throw your pearls to swine! 💜
Thank you universe
My dad told me this as a kid.
This is so important ladies. Do you notice how all these dating coaches focus on speaking to women instead of men? Protect yourselves ladies.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
The reason women are also a focus is because we are easy to manipulate. We have a biological clock which is often used to pressure us into wanting to have kids and marriage. We compromise more than men and often choose the position that gives us less(slave). That is why we are labeled by society as less valuable as we age.
I always immediately ask this question and if they say anything other than looking for a relationship I drop them. No explanation.
See 2 years ago I was this dumb 17/18 year old and should have known when a guy says “let’s see where it goes” that it isn’t going to go anywhere, I asked the guy I was dating was he looking to be in a relationship and he didn’t say no but he didn’t yes either he wasted 5/6 months of my time and for some reason I’m still mad about it because I should seen the signs and my gut feeling was telling me something but I ignored it
@@shutit4024 I see!!!
I asked this question and he said he wants a long term serious relationship, kids, family etc but his actions are NOT matching up with his words so far
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Match his actions.
@@romansworld8891 Yh very correct miss!where are you from?
Run
DEFINITELY wishing us all the love and honesty we deserve ❤️
Ladies don't waste your time if he doesn't want something serious and you do. Men don't sugar coat anything for us. If he states he wants to see where things go or he wants something casual don't bother. Men like that need to be put in the friend zone. Having sex with men like that is a waste of time.
Right... and then they get this "security" because they'll always have a "surplus" of any woman. If women would stop wasting their time and shut that down before it begins, maybe guys will realize that nobody's taking that mess anymore
@@Ndiya-Probly Give them a chance. He does not really know you . Don't listen to this fool !!!
@@Ndiya-Probly as a dude where is this surplus at because I am struggling to find a date and court a woman who will eventually be my wife. That's what I am looking for right now. I am trying to build something and have a dream in my mind.
@@rjtheripper931 I was referring to men who don't "know" what they want and or play games. Those are always the types of guys that have access to women for sexual whatevers. It's easier than a real relationship. But I am well aware that people such as yourself or even someone like me might not have that "success". There is always going to be someone to "sleep with" but not everybody is husband/wife material.
@@Ndiya-Probly well would you agree that people like us deserve a chance because i believe that we are a majority of what is left over.
To be honest I’m becoming a high valued male. I’m at the point to where I’m dropping females if their values and standards don’t match mine. I date to marry and I simply know what I want. If she doesn’t feel or sound right.
NEXT or okay I see what this is.
💪🏾
That’s a real man!!! May I ask how old are you?
Kaykay’s Life thank you lol. I’m 28
I don't consider anyone a high valued male who still refers to women as "females." 🙄
I honestly belive that's so selfish ...you cant build a relationship working through differences..there is nobody in whole world identical ,sharing same values or beliefs or same attitude...😅first learn this bro ..
"Many immature guys and f-boys think compromise is a beta trait...it's not" - Kev Hicks
I'm so glad you mentioned #4. I'm talking to this guy and he knew I was sick for 2 weeks, he'd text me to ask me how I'm feeling every day but never offered to bring me food or anything like that. I didn't even think about that and you just made me realized he may not be that interested in me. Lol 🤔
He isn’t if he haven't visited you in 2 weeks
Baby you were sick for 2 weeks that sounds like corona lol of course he’s not gonna wanna come around...don’t be selfish like that lol 😂
@@Virgolicious_ lol I mean he didn't have to come in. He could've just put the some soup by the door or even Uber Eats 😔
The daily texts were good enough. He thought of your well-being everyday - that's way better than sending you the occasional meal
@@vvc_551 You know what you deserve and expected so if he did not do those things then address it but don't settle. You want animal crackers when you're sick ? A guy should be able to supply that for you.
That first question only works on a guy with healthy attitudes and emotional maturity. But I find using this question to be unreliable, because there are a *lot* of men who will answer that in whatever way they think you want to hear, and will keep up the facade and pretend to be good to you, until they’ve gotten what they want from you - whether that’s a little sex, or you being in love with them, or whatever. The more dangerous and possibly sociopathic a man is, the better he is at fronting about what he “wants” to manipulate you. So I really don’t ask this question anymore. I look to their actions, and/or take the lead and say what *I* want and am looking for, and see how they respond. A man who isn’t genuine can only step up so much...
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
He chocked on his wate when I responded to that question, I said I was looking for a long term relationship that blossoms from a friendship and ultimately marriage.
you said blossoms? lol
@@ratherbenapping10lol i did 🙃
I do the phone test..if he jumps..or says “don’t look in my phone” ...or holds onto it right DO NOT SLEEP W THIS MAN
Or when they keep their phones face down in case it rings so you can't see the caller's name
What’s the phone test?
I don’t do that. That’s not a method I employ.
Nah this is abusive, unpack that Cristina
Frequency and consistency of contact > length of time you've been in contact
SAY THAT!!!
Not giving up your goods will show their hands
Always!! Sometimes it hurts when they walk away though
Kiara We are all human, but I was the one to walk away from a man whom I thought wanted me only for sex, and it never hurt me at all. Feel grateful rather than hurt when God allows an unworthy man to reveal in enough time who he really is. Trust, that man won’t feel one bit hurt about you because he NEVER cared about you and had only one dishonorable intention for you.
Bertchel Hardin when they put on an act then switch up once they realize your not ready to have sex is what can hurt.. the connection we started to build wasn’t real because his intentions weren’t good
Kiara it is a natural human reaction to initially feel hurt and betrayed when someone you thought cared about you deceives you, but the key is to remember that you deserve better and that God spared you from heartache that could have lasted for months or years had you had sex with or ended up marrying an undeserving man. You can be able to move on a lot sooner and a lot easier by keeping at the forefront of your mind that you should only love and invest in someone who consistently loves and invests in you. People can put on an act for only so long, so be grateful that you were able to hold out while that greasy and grimy brother began to unmask himself.
Bertchel Hardin so true. Their true character always comes out
Nobody has time for someone who doesn't know what they want out of a relationship or even if they want one....
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Currently unemployed and he’s asked me to send him my resume for him to pass around.. and even helped me update it.. we are 2 months in
Well said!!!
Some people need to hear this plain and simply; not because they're stupid or have no morals/self respect; but because they grew up in highly abusive environments and still are unsure of how to move forward.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
It's true I'm one of them. I never had a guy really love me and it's left me w some doubts about myself. Honestly I was raised in a abusive environment it seemed like my mom loved that treatment and I seen her get beat by multiple abusers. And she still went back. Its a curse. I'm 41 now and it still hurts..
Asked a guy what he wanted on our 2nd date and he said he wanted to "just have fun & live in the moment" I told him i was looking for something serious and that he should no longer contact me since we wanted different things - he respected it. Until one night.. i called him over because I got lonely -- it was fun but a poor decision. I officially ended it the day after- no contact, deleted number, not going to message him again. Never letting this happen again.
Am sorry, I can't judge you but am glad you made a concrete decision ❤
Good for you 👌🏽
When you know better you do better 👌🏽
We all been there boo. Point is you stopped. Cause they always come back to make sure smh
Girl, don't call him anymore. You will find a good man out there!
I agree with these points the guy I was talking to failed all these points...he’s now blocked on EVERYTHING 🙋🏽♀️🤣🤣
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Thank you so much. I intentionally asked the one I'm with in the relationship if he could help me towards my car brakes. All he said was 'I pay bills and rent and my mom tracts my account and I'll be in trouble if I send you anything' 🙄That disappointed me and made me look deeper into the future how it'll be when we're actually living in the same roof. Believe how there are now. Dont think they'll change their ways later because there committed to you.
I could see if you are students and the money is not his, BUT if it us his money, he could have said he did not have it or gave you something. I am much older than you and I concur with you, how it starts is how it will be. I have paid more than my fair share of expenses because my other half felt no motivation to go above and beyond.
Are you a adult ? why is his mom tracking is account? 🤣🤣🤣
@@pinkkisses9290 what on earth is Wing with them. He does day his adult tho👀I don't think so
Facts
Damn he didn't even offer, even if he didn't have money, to come and at least take a look at the car or try to fix them himself 😡 NEXT!!!
I ask #1 on first dates. Aint got no time to waste.
Wow I wish I could be as brave as u
@@ericarb you can and you should
Facts
1) Ask him what he's looking for? (With a straight face and a tone of curiosity instrad of sounding "cute")
Ex: Can I ask you something? What do you want from me? Be honest. What do you want?
2) Say no to sex and be ambiguous about when he should expect it.
Ex: I don't have sex with guys I don't know and can't trust.
Tell him you don't want casual sex(or refuse him when he attempts to intiate) and see if he continues to stick around, contact you, and setup dates.(pay attention to frequency and consistency of the contact instead of the length of time you have been in contact.)
3) Ask him to call instead of text you
...or make some other compromise in the way that he pursues you if you find that his current methods are not satisfying.
Ex: This is too much to text so call when you have time(and give him 2-3 specific time windows that work best for you).
Let him know the contact method you'd prefer.
4) Give him an opportunity to save the day/ share some of your stress factors/ what you are going through
Men who want a real opportunity to love you will attempt to serve you and help you to make sure that you feel supported.
That doesn't mean take advantage of him.
This usually comes at some inconvience to him.
You're watching for his willingness to help in some way with issues.
The way a man is willing to share his finite resources(time/money/energy) to help you and to save the day is more indicative of his interest level and intentions.
The way he's willing to inconvience himself to make sure you feel supported by him. That can be by listening to you when you are sharing stress factors, offering help, nursing you back to health, bring you food when you don't feel well, coming over to cheer you up during down times, calling you even though he's a very busy business man, or making sure you have what you need by going out of his way for no benefit of his own.
THANK YOU for writing this down in the comments!! ❤️
thank you
Lil Bro, your intelligence is intoxicating! Thanks for the words of wisdom. Im 52 and the "game" still exist. I see why women in my age group stop dating all together ❤. We are too old for games. Now where's my grand babies!?
🤣🤣
I guess there's a reason why guys like cougars. Lmao
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
What's interesting to me, is when I'm the one who's only dating to meet people, not looking for anything serious (this was when I was dating after just getting out of a relationship) the men I was dating eventually wanted relationships. Almost like they saw I was unbothered with getting their devotion, and then they wanted mine. I didn't get into a relationship until I was ready, but most said my confidence was both attractive and intimidating. Yet even those who said and showed they wanted to be in a relationship, didn't mean we were a good fit. I'm just saying this because the way I carried myself helped me filter out the wrong ones for me.
Thanks Kev, I realized that I always settled for any communication I could get, that's gonna change once I get out of school and start dating again.
Wow, I’ve been doing this and the guys that aren’t serious have made me feel like I’m doing something wrong, or not a good person. Thank you for the reassurance that I need to stay strong, and believe in myself. I’m aware of these ppl and should just block them to not miss my blessing of finding the right man. It’s been hard bcuz I’ve been kinda alone for a long time in life in diff forms of relationships/friendships/family. It’s a diff kind of strength when you have God as your best friend. You will be guided to good men that hopefully follow good intentions. Btw you and your wife look amazing together! God bless 💕
Keep holding strong dear. He will come to you 😊
Life of Dove🇯🇲🇯🇵 thank you 🙏🏾 💕
They are being manipulative
@@candacecasey5634 definitely! 💯
This advice is the best. Thank you Kev. Gotta stop excepting bare minimum ladies. These men better step and show they are serious or we're out.
I know IAM done with men I will never trust again its over I just can't be played with.
Ask him if he’s married too. Or if he’s with somebody. And him what kind of women he respects.This information he won’t volunteer to tell you.
Yes if he is divorce ask for a proof give him 3 days to bring those papers if he wants to see u again
Because man lie to much
Lest be aware and don't fall for their games
@@nancycortez1231 Asking to see divorce papers is a good idea.
This is some great advice! I feel like I found a keeper 🙂
Congrats queen. May you have a long and lasting love💞💖💞💖💞💖
🥰 I'm happy for you queen 😁
@@bluelotus4448 Thanks 😊
@@akilasmith6063 Thank you 😊
@@egyptianqueen4007 you're welcome
Bravo Kev Bravo, it's about time someone said this, women normally never hear how they can protect themselves. I would add that a man with infinite resources should be handled with the same care. I've found that rich men can be the stingiest on earth, just because he has money doesn't mean he'll share it with a woman, most often women never see a man's money, even after marriage.
Sandra Panici I concur
Ya I get that 😭😭 I was taught to never rely on a man but he can’t even get me anything or show me he cares
Oh my goodness! I have a male friend who makes time to call me/check up on me. He works a lot and has made the time for me without fail, even when I was in my dark moments and didn't have a favourable response. I respect him for sharing his time with me and respecting my boundaries.
@@latishamoody6886 I agree.
@Chassity Taylor He admitted that he likes me.
Yet he is still your friend..😂😂
@@David-ej1ps 😆 I do like him, but I do not want to date him.
@@ShiaGirl18 and herein lies the problem..lol
Never take a guys number, BINGO! I've had quite a few men approach me with this tactic and I always switch it back to them. Suggesting that they take your number instead shows their true interest and intent. Needless to say, most of them either never initiated a call or they started off contact with a random dry text just to see what I was doing. I've never taken a guys number and never will because I know from experience that its unnecessary. If he's truly interested in contacting you he wont wait around leaving the initial opportunity to connect up to you.
Exactly
Good advice! Although I’ve had guys lie to me and pretend they wanted a relationship to get intimate. I believed them especially as I’m usually single for years before next relationship so I’m usually overjoyed when someone who I’m into takes interest. I’m taking your advice from other videos to watch a man’s actions rather than words in order to judge their real intentions. I’m very happy I stumbled upon your channel, I’m learning a lot hopefully will stop choosing the wrong guys.
Date after breakout .long breaks make you vulnerable and hungry for love ❤️
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
He gave me mixed signals the whole time 6:55 I finally told him "forget about me"
Same and straight up lied to me about 3 times before really showing his true colors smh
Melanie Hubbard the 1st time he said he wanted a relationship and wanted to see “where it goes”
2nd time I was having my doubts about him liking me so I asked him if he does and he said he does ( but he was lying)
3rd time he says he doesn’t know if he wants a relationship he said he does but at the same time he doesn’t
“I’ll get with y’all later” is always the best part of every video 🤣
U preached a sermon today, Kev! 👏🏽👏🏽
Well said and I love how it deals in maturity and not games or manipulation 🤗
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Watching these videos is like the talking to from my dad I never had. Bless you.
Bless you as well😁
I have this guy who will text everyday and it's annoying, last time he said he miss my voice that I should send him a voice message, I told him that if you miss my voice,then grab your phone and ring my damn phone, it's that simple! He called that day but since then he's still texting ,no calls! I will go a whole day without replying his good morning call cos am tired of texting now and then
Lmaoo I had to do the exact same thing until I told him I was over it.
@@zenobia7893 Lmfoaoaodkfoqo nahhhh yall really cracking me up in these comments
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Lmao I know it was stupid but only time and last time I had that happen.
Going through the same lmfao so lazy now a days. I rather you pick up the phone and call me. Instead of telling me you miss my voice like what?😳😳
I love your examples on what to say to a guy about not wanting to text and getting a phone call. I can't stand texting people back and forth I think it is boring and a big yawn.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
If he is telling you he wants you he wants you,players are always the first to say just seeing what's out there ..my man says yr off the market and told me straight he can get sex anywhere but hes looking for a real relationship
😬💯 noted yikes
I was this close to do something stupid and then i remembered this video. It really helped me. Im not gonna just sit around and wait for someone who is clearly not interested. Thanks alot!
Oh Lord! Thank you, I needed this video! You always seem to be in my head about certain topics! I’m thankful ❤️
Boss Kevin its MEN that need to be told all these valuable tips for success with quality women. Men are increasingly leaning toward thinking that ladies are desperados & dating is a one way street in their favor.
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This channel is so powerful. I’m getting very powered by listening and learning throughout.
Great info! Thank you!
I know that you’ve probably heard this a million times before, but your videos are very helpful... and therapeutic. I stumbled onto your channel whilst looking for a workout routine, and let me just say that you have done so much for my emotional and mental health in the last hour... THANK YOU! Keep doing what your doing I’m sure you’ve helped thousands, you might have even saved a few lives. Real talk
This was so good and right on time... when you weigh these indicators it's clear who has been wasting your time
Omg thank you kev. Couldn’t have posted this at a better time. After walking away from him due to lack of clarity he wants to talk tomorrow and I’m a very direct person and wasn’t too sure to just ask him what he wants from me cause I know it was be “too direct”
What I love about your channel is that AS A MAN you educate women on how to protect themselves, and self-identify a practical relationship independent of whatever the guy says. You teach us to be in control of what we walk into!
I naturally do all these things you said!! What I've realize is most men don't like honestly and think I'm a little aggressive.... but it works 😄
not just men but ladies in our lives and our family members also think this way if we're being honest about what we would put up with and what not. actually it's a widely used tactic to keep women "nice" so they can be used easily for sex, less wage more work, and family politics. this is how women are made "delicate"
I just had this happen today. He has only known me 5 days and because he's working here in town he wanted me to meet him at the hotel. Please. I'm not having sex, dont know you, and we have only converse 5 days and you claim you work for the police and couldnt find him no where by the number give or name. Ppl are crazy
I love how real and well spoken you are , Love your channel ! Thank you!
This is the legit question to ask. Thanks for pointing this out. Most of the immature dating channel is like don’t ask that question (just be casual).
This is one of your best videos ever.! 👍 So straight forward, direct and clear. Couldn't come at a better time. Thank you and may God continue to bless you and yours.
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Thank you for clarifying the diffrence of intention and motive, between testing and being manipulative. This helped me seeing what is important to look at and how to get informed without playing
I find your voice so soothing like I low key get kinda sleepy when I watch these videos even though I need to be paying attention
Phew! A lot of this makes me feel relieved that I only date Christian men who are saving themselves for marriage (just like me). It’s nice to skip the stress of “is he just looking for my body?”!
Vibrant77 I go to a mega church in Los Angeles, that’s where I’ve met most of them. Gotta use discernment and be willing to cut them off, though- I’ve had some instances of a man SAYING he was practicing celibacy to get me interested, but then implying reasons why I should relax my standards 3 weeks later. 🙄 Boy bye!! 😂
Vibrant77 Hang in there, sis!! Try growing your circle of church-going type friends. They’ll introduce you to their Bible Study host and his best friend will be super cute and looking for his Godly future wife... or something like that! 🙏🏾
This info is 👌🏽 Especially about seeing the non-effort at the beginning. 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
The problem is some men play the part until it no longer works for them and its not always a time frame on how long they will play.
Thank you Kevin for continuing helping me learn!!!!! This video is so informative and accurate!
i appreciate your being straight forward, honest and true with your content delivery. Well done.
I am going to start dating next year and I NEED this! I didn’t have parents to teach me this stuff, so UA-cam is like my resource for everything. Your advice seems practical and wise. Thank you! I’m trying to absorb everything now. ❤️
It's hard to do. I'm almost 30 and only learning it now. Saved me from some heartbreak since then. Thank you!
when you believe that you deserve a good guy,that’s when you will attract him.Your brain will filter out the trash
Thank you Kev!! Great video!
There are some men who will temporarily to small favors such as being food etc, take you on dates and still don’t want anything serious so BE CAREFUL ladies
Thanks for always sharing your wisdom.
Wonderful insights, I have been testing these same tips myself. To hear them come from a man, it's definitely facts!
Thank you Kev for concrete, operational, and concise advice that does not involve games. It is very refreshing.
Yep! I never tried to test him, but my guy has passed all of these! The last one was so unexpected and I was so grateful. He brought cupcakes and my favorite candy to my job during that time of the month. And this was after I asked him to stay home because I knew he was tired after working all day.
Great Advice! Thankful for your wisdom
The guy I’m dating seems to do all this so I’m open to seeing where it goes... great advice 🙂
Thank you Kev for this message much needed to hear this😊🙌🏾✌🏽
always speaking straight facts. your vids keep getting better and better. thank you for your wisdom kev!!
Thank you for this Kev
I've told him my honesty and he finally spam calls me 😄😄
The part about what men are willing to share their FINITE resources on was great advice. Makes total sense
You're absolutely right with this one!
Great video thank you for making this ☺️, greatly appreciated
Yeah, when it comes to guys I've tried to date, they often refuse to talk to me on the phone. On the first date guys usually refuse to spend any money on me, and will take me somewhere to "talk" in their car, but it's to hook up. I hate that shit.
I wish you were around 10 years ago..........I don't have kids, but if I ever have girls I will Definitely be passing all this knowledge that wasn't shared with me.
P.S. I'm following all your podcasts. I love them all pls add more. Thank you for all you do for us woman.
Same and I’m only 20 just now learning about this but been through some grown unnecessary sh!t
I’m rlly glad I found your channel you’ve helped a lot!!
Especially right about the asking for help though. That’s so true. If a man likes you he will see it as an opportunity to show you he’s interested.
#2 is THE TRUTH! It sifts out the BS!
I call it a relationship "audit" , In the accounting profession an audit in short answer is a tests conducted to verify the validity & accuracy of your financial books. If we can audit or test our financial position, I will definitely be -auditing or testing a man or woman in my life🤔✨ that I am relating too.❤
I love how your videos are short and to the point. Thank you ♥️