if ur going through a breakup, watch this

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  • @ales_diary
    @ales_diary Місяць тому +5

    I hate to be the person who talks about their personal life in a comment, but this video really helped. I was broken up out of nowhere a couple of days ago after being together for two years. So thank you!! And anyone who is struggling, you are not alone!

  • @SouthernMelle
    @SouthernMelle 3 місяці тому +74

    Well….this is HIS loss! You are so right about everything you said. You keep being wonderful, beautiful, talented, caring, sensational YOU!! Hugs to you, Summer. Thx for being brave and caring for your girls out here and speaking out about a really difficult subject 💖

  • @jayd9621
    @jayd9621 3 місяці тому +19

    Summer, it is so natural and human to feel this way after a breakup. Please remember that you are beautiful like the sun on a summer day and this too shall pass. Thank you for sharing your post breakup wisdom with us. Sending you 🫂 and 🩷

  • @hauntedmadisonn
    @hauntedmadisonn 3 місяці тому +50

    girlies who cry together stay together ♡ thank u for sitting down and talking with me bestie

  • @sarahjohnson1105
    @sarahjohnson1105 3 місяці тому +100

    even if you do post about your partner while youre together, you never owe us an explanation if you do break up 💕 but love you so much for using this experience to help others, you're a strong and inspirational gal

  • @savannahk.2551
    @savannahk.2551 3 місяці тому +6

    I hope you are doing well through the breakup, I feel exactly the same with everything you said as I went through a breakup a few months ago, but having this mindset to focus on yourself is the BEST mindset and it’s his loss! ❤

  • @kalokairi625
    @kalokairi625 3 місяці тому +33

    I am actually going through a break up rn, and this video helped me so much!! Thank u & stay strong - i feel you 🥹

  • @484ABA
    @484ABA 3 місяці тому +16

    Damn she’s keeping us so updated! I would never expect it but it is nice

  • @triaunnaaa
    @triaunnaaa 3 місяці тому +42

    I’m happily married but did I sit and watch this entire video because it’s summer, yes!

  • @beezgs
    @beezgs 3 місяці тому +21

    I really felt you summer. sorry that you going through it again. life really throws shit at you when you least expect it. its all about what u choose to do with it. so i say grab it by the balls and transform it into gold. lots of love

  • @carlotta9964
    @carlotta9964 3 місяці тому +4

    Thank you for being vulnerable, you really didn’t have to tell us!!!But it means a lot that you’re sharing it with us

  • @samanthabarnier8395
    @samanthabarnier8395 3 місяці тому +3

    ohhhhh this timing, thank you for being vulnerable summer, this helped me.

  • @AmieOlsonalo
    @AmieOlsonalo 3 місяці тому +2

    Cultivating a relationship with yourself…yes, I love that and it’s so true that it takes time and energy just like your other relationships.

  • @abimaisy5352
    @abimaisy5352 3 місяці тому +12

    Love you girl !!! Long time supporter and don’t often comment, but always here for you ❤

  • @TrinaReadMusic
    @TrinaReadMusic 3 місяці тому

    I relate so much to suppressing myself, it’s amazing how we do this to ourselves in a relationship

  • @Hans12352
    @Hans12352 8 днів тому

    Summer!!! What spoke to me the most is when you said you were trying to conform into what the other person's ideal partner is. When you said not you were not able to be your usual funny-fun-normal self, I felt that!!!!! Thank you for sharing this with us

  • @abbyjoymiller7670
    @abbyjoymiller7670 3 місяці тому +27

    The timing is unreal

  • @MiaAsanobeliever
    @MiaAsanobeliever 3 місяці тому +4

    I am sry Summer about ur breakup. I really hope u find the right guy to make u truly happy.

  • @leticiavargas6245
    @leticiavargas6245 3 місяці тому +3

    You’re beautiful girl and too bad he lost it ! He’s not worth it and I’m soo gladly you got this strong even I know you cried and it’s okay but we here for you , you’re our big sister and we are your big family . I wish I can hug you 🫶🏼💕💕🥺

  • @kassidyann134
    @kassidyann134 3 місяці тому +3

    We love you and you deserve nothing less than perfection in your partner Summer. You are an incredible influence on your audience and are so fun to watch and listen to and you should never have to do that for someone else.

  • @camerynlacy2425
    @camerynlacy2425 3 місяці тому +14

    Genuinely this helped me so much. I’m going through a breakup right now too and it’s so confusing and hard to understand but everything you said felt like you were talking directly to me 😮 he also said I love you very fast and thought we were getting married etc but shit did hit the fan. I love that you said life is hard and shit happens, we all know that but idk something about this video was comforting so THANK YOU! We will get through this and even if we’re not bad bitches back in the streets today we will be soon ❤

    • @camerynlacy2425
      @camerynlacy2425 3 місяці тому +1

      Also your hair looks so good like this I love it

    • @stargirledits
      @stargirledits 3 місяці тому

      Oh how I relate to this so much

  • @alexaanne
    @alexaanne 2 місяці тому

    Hey Summer,
    I just wanted to say I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I know it’s tough, but I believe in your strength. I really hope you find that special person who’s meant for you-your love is so genuine, and I can relate to how deeply you care. I have a feeling that in six to nine months, things will look a lot brighter, and that right person might just be around the corner. I've been following you since 2017, and I’ve seen you handle so much. I know this will pass, and you’ll come out even stronger.
    Sending you lots of love!!

  • @brookdyson
    @brookdyson 3 місяці тому +2

    praying for you hun. goin through the same crap. you are amazing and it will pass

  • @dominikasolecki
    @dominikasolecki 2 місяці тому

    I've been feeling so sad the past couple of days because of a guy and stumbled upon this video and I just gotta say wow. This has helped me soo much, thank you for being the big sister I always needed 💓

  • @saloniandlilaVEVO
    @saloniandlilaVEVO 3 місяці тому +143

    u dont understand i clicked IMMEDIATELY

  • @Elisa-ct8gd
    @Elisa-ct8gd 3 місяці тому +4

    Thank you Summer for being so real and vulnerable, this video is so precious.
    You are so pure and funny and you deserve someone as amazing as you.
    Btw I don't know why but I didn't had a great feeling about that men, even if I was so happy for you (I follow you since 2016 and I feel like we're friends 😂)

  • @kauleen_h
    @kauleen_h 3 місяці тому

    love this version of you summer🤍🤍🤍 so proud of you! + also NEVER lose your wild side pls!!! love that side of you sm

  • @amandapowellxo
    @amandapowellxo 3 місяці тому

    You are an amazing person!!! You are strong and you will get through it. The best is yet to come.

  • @caseygouws8434
    @caseygouws8434 3 місяці тому +3

    Recently been missing an ex ALOT, but this really helped me to put things into perspective. Stay strong girl x

  • @iownzyuh22
    @iownzyuh22 3 місяці тому +5

    This was so inspiring and was exactly what so many of us girlies needed, your friend was so correct, you have a strong loving light in you that we can all sense just looking at the way you carry yourself and you’d be robbing yourself and every person you come across if you let a man ever take that from you, thank you for your message today 🫶🏽

  • @laurenorlanddo
    @laurenorlanddo 2 місяці тому

    From someone who just got dumped by the person that I thought was my forever this video is so so appreciated and helpful, thank you always💛

  • @saloniandlilaVEVO
    @saloniandlilaVEVO 3 місяці тому +7

    i love you

  • @KatyaTeryoshkina
    @KatyaTeryoshkina 3 місяці тому

    I ADORE your true self!!! You are so fun, kind and crazy idk I wish I were you, girl
    Never ever feel like you need to change for someone

  • @hännahh-lemonade
    @hännahh-lemonade 3 місяці тому

    this has helped so much! It has really shifted my perspective on today, it's gonna be so much better because of your words

  • @victoriaamber5406
    @victoriaamber5406 3 місяці тому +5

    Hang in there, time heals

    • @Relax-Qc
      @Relax-Qc 2 місяці тому

      Hi how are you

  • @GracieDeboer-e1m
    @GracieDeboer-e1m 3 місяці тому +1

    when you said fred again i was like there is NO WAY. I have been watching you since i was a freshman in highschool (im a senior in college) and i always have related to you so much and i feel like we grew up together virtually like what?? thank you for being YOU

  • @margaret5687
    @margaret5687 3 місяці тому +5

    You look so so so gorgeous here! Keep your chin up, God loves you!

  • @haydencampbell8171
    @haydencampbell8171 3 місяці тому +1

    Hi Summer,
    I have watch you for years now (even before the snapchat movie with Dylan) 😂. When I first started watching you, I was in a relationship for a long time that was EXTREMELY toxic. I thought that everyone was the same also after that ended.
    Then, out of NOWHERE, a super great guy appeared. He came from a completely different pool than those other guys! We are now getting married in May.
    I know the feeling, but the pool thing is SO true. Don't stop looking, just look somewhere else :)

  • @olichka_sil
    @olichka_sil 3 місяці тому +3

    I love you. ❤ Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. You have a beautiful future with someone so sooo special ahead!

  • @siriusprince
    @siriusprince 3 місяці тому

    love you summer, this is what i needed. lets heal together !

  • @josiegbuchanan
    @josiegbuchanan 3 місяці тому

    Hey summer, I watched this video when you posted and hadn’t got around to commenting yet, but I just hope you know how beautiful and deserving you are of a true man of God and a man who loves you and pursues you as SUMMER!! You will find that and I pray that you do! Just focus on the Lord and when you least expect it He will fill that hole. And you will find a man who lifts you up and loves you so well. I’m praying for you and I love you! Thank you for being so vulnerable ❤️

  • @raquelmachado8783
    @raquelmachado8783 3 місяці тому

    going thru a break up myself, this helped me tremendously. I smiled thru the whole video and it reminded me that everything will be okay. us girlies are too powerful honestly ❤ amazing video summer

  • @marinawickel6449
    @marinawickel6449 3 місяці тому +2

    you got this summer we love you!! 💗

  • @lenkageczova4195
    @lenkageczova4195 3 місяці тому

    Hey girl i dont know if you will see this but THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR CONTENT. You were the first makeup tutorial girl in 2016 that i watched and followed. You were the biggest idol to me and keeping up with your makeup is what got me into natural makeup and all that stuff. And I finally found you again. Thank you so much for everything, you helped me become who I am today. LOVE U! And I am here to stay.

  • @brunagarofalo5927
    @brunagarofalo5927 3 місяці тому

    thanks queen. also in deep shit, in the trenches after a break up, so being able to just sit by myself and relate to you without having to talk about my own situation feels really nice. we slay, we'll keep slaying, hopeless romantic girlies for the win

  • @katelynbelanger3218
    @katelynbelanger3218 3 місяці тому +1

    i have watched you for years and one thing i love about your channel is it never feels scripted, performative, etc. it feels like we’re on facetime. it feels like you’re a genuine friend (not in a creepy way 😭). you’re always honest with us when you don’t even have to share those private moments in your life. thank you summer for being a “big sister” to us over the years. ❤

  • @jackredmond5349
    @jackredmond5349 3 місяці тому +1

    Definitely great 👍 advice. I’m a strong believer in that everything happens for a reason and it’s good that if there’s struggles you find out now and not later down the line. It’s very important to have a good support system as to not feel alone. The most important thing I’ve learned after a break up is the importance of self growth because you can’t love anyone if you don’t love yourself first.

  • @isabelahoward
    @isabelahoward 3 місяці тому

    The way this came up at perfect timing. I don’t know if me and my boyfriend will last. Thank you girl. You’re a huge inspiration to me and the beauty, confidence and level of maturity and gracefulness you have with this gives me hope. Things are up in the air. They are uncomfortable. I just don’t know anymore and i feel alone
    Update: me and my boy hung out today. We talked. We were uncomfortable. I cried. But we both are okay. These past couple of months have been hard for me mentally and We’ve had arguments but we’re doing good. We’re back to us. But this video is still so important to me bc i literally had been feeling like i was going through a breakup and it helped me. Regardless relationships are hard and scary and sometimes messy. This is coming from someone who thought relationships had to be perfect or you weren’t “right” for each other. Time will tell. So will actions. And if it works out or doesn’t your value doesn’t disappear and u learn things u would of never learned before i know i did during this difficult time

  • @isabellaburton2454
    @isabellaburton2454 3 місяці тому +3

    needed this. just broke up with the guy i was with for 4.5 years. neeeeeeeded this.

  • @biancavelissariou
    @biancavelissariou 3 місяці тому +4

    Strange how that man felt off for me from the start

  • @sarahalston
    @sarahalston 3 місяці тому

    you are so strong, time heals❤️

  • @emily-sg2cu
    @emily-sg2cu 3 місяці тому

    I really hope you're okay summer! you're so special and I know you'll come out the other side to something much better x

  • @mckaylaperez6387
    @mckaylaperez6387 3 місяці тому

    I find praying and spending time with the Lord, hearing His voice, helps a lot. I find my identity through him and I have to remind myself all the time. I pray that God will close every door you’re not meant to walk through and open every door you are supposed to walk through. God has someone for you who will build you up, sharpening each other like iron sharpens iron. Summer you’re never truly alone, God is right there with you. He sees every sorrow and collects every tear - Psalms 56:8
    I’ll be praying for you girl 💗

  • @melissapando1107
    @melissapando1107 3 місяці тому +46

    This dude gave whack vibes from the start. Had loser written all over himself. Girl it’s just the pool you’re finishing in. You’re amazing. Get yourself a low key cool nerd. A small town family guy, someone with an actual career, someone you come home to on the daily, not these phony gay dudes fighting for some likes on the internet. Because you’re already a content creator/internet influencer you’re bound to attract the same type into your circle.. DO NOT. Take my advice, you’ll be wifed up in no time. Also, investigate their morals and values first hand the first few dates before making anything official. I always say, if someone is intimidated by what you should know early on then they’re not meant to be. Someone who is genuine and has nothing to hide and looking for the exact same thing in someone would love to have that conversation back with you early on. I know you mentioned being yourself is very important. Finding a balance is key while being self-aware that sometimes we too have to change little bits of ourselves to have a healthy, respectful functioning relationship.

    • @hannah_lucky7196
      @hannah_lucky7196 3 місяці тому +3

      This is awesome advice!!

    • @simplebe168
      @simplebe168 3 місяці тому +3

      That's actually good advice ❤
      We do need to slow down when it comes to dating
      Know the person and his character

    • @averyremillard7968
      @averyremillard7968 3 місяці тому +5

      "someone with an actual career" HAHA i love it

    • @rsncrllvea
      @rsncrllvea 3 місяці тому +1

      No ur SO right!! Spot on

  • @Mrsenchanted11
    @Mrsenchanted11 3 місяці тому +1

    I'm really sorry to hear about the break up. What I've noticed is how you said it seems like all men are the same and they all do the same shit to you. The thing is we don't meet people by accident. We actually choose them and they also reflect our mental state. It is not a coincidence if you seem to meet the same men, you subconsciously choose them. It seems like you need to heal something within to stay away from these men, as most people show who they are from the very beginning. I once read a quote that said 'they are not your type, they are your pattern'

  • @Amelia_Mont
    @Amelia_Mont 3 місяці тому

    You're truly the big sister must of us don"t have. We love you summer!! 💓💓💓

  • @lillanorvell6994
    @lillanorvell6994 3 місяці тому

    Wow I am obsessed with this video!! This was so encouraging and helpful!

  • @jvliakay
    @jvliakay 3 місяці тому

    Thank you again for all that you share with us. I know, at least for me, all of what you talked about is so much easier said than done. So I hope you are taking the time you need to work through this and to truly care for yourself. You are an amazing and strong woman and we are all so appreciative of you and are here to support you

  • @maryblake5170
    @maryblake5170 3 місяці тому +1

    This was so incredibly inspiring and your wisdom is admirable thank you for being you!! 💓

  • @viviannguyen3956
    @viviannguyen3956 3 місяці тому

    i’m so glad you made this video

  • @alaynaphipps4414
    @alaynaphipps4414 3 місяці тому +1

    Love you Summer, thanks for being so open and honest with us! Thank you for this video, it definitely helped me.

  • @catarina7145
    @catarina7145 3 місяці тому +3

    I clicked SO fast! Love you Summer!

  • @Arg31
    @Arg31 3 місяці тому +2

    First comment??? OMG
    Summer you are such a light I’m sorry you’re going through a hard time but just remember everything you lose is a step you take 💛

  • @sonnysunshine8607
    @sonnysunshine8607 3 місяці тому

    Keep being you summer 🩷✨

  • @AroaOndo
    @AroaOndo 3 місяці тому

    Thanks Summer! Such a good video. It’s so important to enter the dating space from a good place inside, otherwise it’s just toxicity that we attract in our lives ❤

  • @collettehansen8699
    @collettehansen8699 3 місяці тому

    i just had a break up and then we got together again a few weeks ago. But finding my inner light and knowing not to lose that and standing up for your light was everything that broke us when I lost it. SO SO true

  • @constanza657
    @constanza657 3 місяці тому

    THANK you for this video, you are so brave for showing us this!! you got this summer, if you keep your spark you will always be ok, i send you a huge hug and lots of love

  • @AliceHeranderz
    @AliceHeranderz 3 місяці тому +1

    We’re here for you summer !!!!!! ❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️

  • @kateamelia.
    @kateamelia. 2 місяці тому

    they just need to stop fumbling tbh. thank u summer

  • @aaldi
    @aaldi 3 місяці тому

    Te amo summer, amo escucharte y amo que des consejos tan sabios a tu corta edad, te veo desde el 2014 y siento que creci con vos de alguna manera. Nunca dejes de brillar!

  • @rocioramos7301
    @rocioramos7301 2 місяці тому

    This video helped me so much💗 Thank u Summer!!🫶🏼🥹

  • @Deletedaccount20191
    @Deletedaccount20191 3 місяці тому

    Oh my god I hope u just put urself first and know ur wroth is from ur self 🌸as uve grown with urself only u know u and u will find someone who will appreciate u and what uve seen and gone through and this is making u stronger

  • @MeganTaylor973
    @MeganTaylor973 3 місяці тому

    Such helpful advice! Sending you peace, happiness and strength 🥰

  • @veronicasimone6204
    @veronicasimone6204 3 місяці тому +1

    DATS OKAY BESTIEEE LETS GO FIND ANOTHER APARTMENT

  • @Sarah__garciia
    @Sarah__garciia 3 місяці тому

    Thank you for posting this, I know how hard it was for you💗

  • @-Cat_Skull-
    @-Cat_Skull- 3 місяці тому

    You are sunshine...Your time will come!!!

  • @savannahsnyder4978
    @savannahsnyder4978 3 місяці тому

    Going through a breakup too, this helped! We can get through this

  • @GabrielaManosalva-q8n
    @GabrielaManosalva-q8n 3 місяці тому +5

    it's the eclipse season.. i'm telling you. 🤕

  • @amandapowellxo
    @amandapowellxo 3 місяці тому

    Thank you!!!♥️ I needed this. Love you 😘

  • @blackbubba11
    @blackbubba11 3 місяці тому

    Someone recommended the Eat Pray Love's scene "So Miss Him" and that helped me SO much with my last breakup (:

  • @jillianmgarnett
    @jillianmgarnett 3 місяці тому

    Don’t let someone with ABSOLUTELY NO LIGHT AT ALL, dim yours… Ever!

  • @DelilahMatilda
    @DelilahMatilda 3 місяці тому

    I needed this thx summer ❤ I don’t know how I really knew but I havnt watch some of your recent videos because I’m going through some personal stuff myself but I kind of knew by your thumbnails that something was wrong with you too but I am so glad you made this video and were so open and honest. We’re all just learning and growing. The important thing is that if we’re hurting at least we knew we have a good heart, and only did the best we could.

  • @hollynicolevlogs
    @hollynicolevlogs 3 місяці тому

    Thank you!!!! for your vulnerability. This was a great video & super inspiring. Keep shining girlfriend you got it.

  • @carlotta9964
    @carlotta9964 3 місяці тому

    You’re so so wonderful and strong ❤️

  • @Lavenderbaby
    @Lavenderbaby 3 місяці тому +19

    In your one video you said you were going on a date with him to church :) I pray that this breakup doesn’t cause you to pull away but rather that you keep reading the word and prioritize growing your relationship with Christ. He will give you the desires of your heart if you delight in HIM ❤😊

  • @juliec9531
    @juliec9531 3 місяці тому

    Summer, ugh i feel frustrated for you. Ive been there before being hurt by someone that you thought you would end up with. It really is hard. I think you hit the nail on the head though when you talked about how you werent quite being 100% yourself or worrying about impressing him with your personality or your appearance. This is the key i think to knowing you found the one: when you can be yourself around them- messy not looking cute, messing up in social situations, etc. your person will love you through all of those things. (Also, it might not be 100% like that initially because it takes time to build a bond with someone.) also, my advice is yes always challenge someone who quickly says they love you. You dont need to break up because of it but definitely challenge them on it and tell them youre not comfortable with it. If they dont seem to be ok with that, they might not be able to be a great partner

  • @caitlyngenteman9300
    @caitlyngenteman9300 3 місяці тому

    I love you Summer!!! You are so awesome.

  • @annabelampuja6710
    @annabelampuja6710 3 місяці тому

    thank you for this ❤ you def never owe anyone an explanation but I’m glad you did bc we love and care abt you! And can’t wait for you to find the one 🫶🏼 I’ve been mourning my ex for a while now, I dream abt him all the time ugh and it’s so frustrating cause I want him to leave my mind completely! The time hasn’t come yet but I can’t wait to find someone better. A forever partner. You saying “keep fishing” really pushes me to not give up 😊

  • @Alisonandlandon2040
    @Alisonandlandon2040 3 місяці тому

    Happy to see you showing up for yourself 🍂🎃 Hope to see you feeling better soon! 🍁Spoil yourself summer, you deserve it!

  • @waliduuu
    @waliduuu 3 місяці тому +2

    From morocco , keep going , I LOVE YOU ❤

    • @salmaaghiad2564
      @salmaaghiad2564 3 місяці тому +1

      Lmao moroccan too !! Love summer

    • @waliduuu
      @waliduuu 3 місяці тому

      @@salmaaghiad2564 marehba bik

    • @waliduuu
      @waliduuu 3 місяці тому

      @@salmaaghiad2564 marehba salma

  • @jasminscheer63
    @jasminscheer63 3 місяці тому

    I love you summer! The way youre dealing with this topic and event in your life is sooo inspirational to me! Ive been watching you since I was 11 and I feel like were growing together since your personality is so similar to mine. :) I love you so much Summer and I am sure you know it yourself that you got this!

  • @sydlee7238
    @sydlee7238 3 місяці тому

    making this my new morning hype video 👏 girl boss summer

  • @amandaashley4570
    @amandaashley4570 3 місяці тому

    I literally got the notification for this video right after we broke up

  • @gittheintjes599
    @gittheintjes599 3 місяці тому

    Saved this for when I might need these wise words again ❤

  • @harleelinks8459
    @harleelinks8459 3 місяці тому

    YUPPPPP. thought i found my person too but now i’m like what the hell was i on 😭😭😭love u summer always so relatable

  • @mariajainem4157
    @mariajainem4157 3 місяці тому

    I know this has nothing to do with what you’re saying…but gurlllll I NEED your lip combo! 😍

  • @Lissitchka
    @Lissitchka 3 місяці тому +4

    You look like Gigi Hadid here ❤ like a model. Also you will definetly find your husband!! 🥰😊🤍 or he will find you!!! Sending you love. This video inspired me and I needed it.

  • @danyfalcon
    @danyfalcon 3 місяці тому

    Thank you SUM ❤

  • @kendaljohnson7273
    @kendaljohnson7273 3 місяці тому

    Thanks for sharing🩷❤️‍🔥🤞🏽

  • @elinahermann3312
    @elinahermann3312 3 місяці тому

    Thank you so much for this video💜 kinda needed it