Sometimes no matter how much you try to make someone happy it's not good enough or they just get plain bored with you. Except it and move forward,make your self happy first.
Dreads And Angels absolutely true , my ex recently started emailing me video of our happy times then pictures after he discarded me for his ex , I moved on begin to travel and just love my life happy , 8 months later he’s reaching out ! Our break up was bad so I’m surprised he’s very prideful so for him to let his guard down ! I’m shocked ! But my emotions are not the same ! So yes they do come back when you least expect it 👌🏽
Its Always when u dont want Anymore.. or when they already been with somone else. Thats the sad thing with love/breakups.. my ex left me because we argued alot (i thought) then a see here in a relationship right away with a ”just a Friend” shes been talking to over a year. He became single just a month before she broke up with me... i guess she took her chance to be with him..
10 months of being together, 2 months of no contact. You changed your hair, you go out with our friends, hell you humiliated me cause now everyone is against me, all those times I was so patient with you, protected you from touchy guys..I went through depression this summer and you left me. You said I played the victim and yet you overcompensate over social media about how happy your life is, when school comes back you’ll realize YOU lost me not the other way around. Go ahead, live this happiness you have chosen..when you feel left out and the group forgets about you, you’ll think about me and I won’t be there. You said we would grow old together, but only one of us had the willingness to do the work to get there. When I’ve risen higher than I’ve ever been you won’t be able to jump and reach a heart that’s too high for you to feel. I stay strong during no contact, silently shedding a tear of your memory but this is how it has to be because you chose this. I hope you can live with your choice because you lost, according to you, “the greatest and most caring guy” you’ll ever meet.
Hi Rory, It sounds nice to hear this hopeful video, but since I am going into month 7 and still no reaching out from him, this kinda sucks. He got spooked about our future together (kids etc.) since him childhood was full of trauma and he is workoholic so I think he distracts himself with work. But at this point my heart still hurts and at least I am moving forward with my life. Working on my emotional health and focusing on myself. I am letting him go. I see no point in forcing someone into something they don't want. To all people in no contact: Be brave and strong, it gets better with time with occasional downfall. I feel your pain. Sending love.
It's great to know that there's other people out there going through the same thing. I'm also is NC and as time moves on I feel more proud of myself for being that strong. I never thought I could do it but I have and it's a new found strength in myself. You'll feel the same way I'm sure. Stay strong and work on yourself because you are totally worth it. Never forget that.
Amen Rory great advice...we can't put our ex's on a pedestal - i many cases they are just as broken up as we are even if they were the ones who terminated the relationship. They probably also need to learn and grow and our affection was a cushion for them to escape the realities of who they actually were and we were used as an excuse in some cases for their unhappiness.
Yesterday after 9 months my ex and I met up, she had one of the most redicalous indirect direct approaches I have ever heard. I'm so glad I took the time to listen to and trust Rory!
What happened after? Did you get back together? An ex of mine also reached out after 8 months, asked me to go for a drink. We had fun, but I think I blew it by trying to move too fast... We both got pretty drunk :D
Mat Mk1 I just obsess over her having sex with someone else. She literally disappeared off the face of the earth nor is she on social media. Even when she was no posting of a new love.
Bryan Union I know man it hurts so much. It's like a complete cut off from something you've been used to. Gone on a split second. I wish I knew the answer to the pain but I don't. Everyone says time, just give it time. I'm definitely better than I was even just a few weeks ago, slowly the fog will clear I hope
Also, I broke up with my previous BF and I never contacted him after that. It's been 5 years (4,5yrs of relationship). What pushed me over the edge was the unhappiness for the last 3 years in the relationship and that he was so not growup adult. I broke up with him and he behaved horrible. He emotionally blackmailed me, yelling at me, ignoring me and then bargaining. I was also sad that I am hurting him with this breakup but my mind was set that i am not happy with him. After that I told him that I was still hoping that one day we would reconnect in more adult phase but he destroyed that hope with all the hate he threw at me. Then he blocked me on all social media (still blocked). And when I started to think i might be able to contact him, i remembered all the hate and was scared of it. I wanted to share my experience as a dumper. Now as a dumpee, I have both experiences.
At around what time into NC did you think to contact him? And what were the circumstances that led to you thinking to reach out? Thanks in advance, I would really appreciate it.
@@orevel it's hard to say that I would want to go back to him. But at least I wanted to contact him to see how he is and maybe to see that he grow up and appreciated me more. But his behavior disgusted me deeply on how he tried to manipulate me back into the relationship. And that got me scared of him. At that point I wanted freedom and acceptance and agreement from his side. To get space and refocus.
@@ColdAhhClips I was devastated for almost a year from the relationship and breakup. But I am deeply emotional person. In my case I think I wanted to reach out after that year. Once my heart stopped hurting. Or started to feel again. But when I found out that I am still blocked, I got over it. It seemed that I hurt him so much, that he still didn't want to talk to me. So if you blocked your ex or tried to manipulate them, give them whatever time they need. Sometimes over a year or more. If the wounds are really deep. Sending strength. You can do this. I am going through my own NC so I feel your pain. I'm in month 7. Still nothing.
Sometimes I listen to this and I feel like there's hope, and then when I remember what my ex said to me and I feel like there's no more hope he'll come back.
My ex broke up with me June and she reached out 5x since. I eventually asked what she really wants and if the last time she called was for closure. She responded "No, not closure closure & in regards to a relationship, I'm just doing me right now. Focusing on me but what do you want?" Bruh! Make it make sense. Smdh
I really love your advices. So far you’re the best relationship coach. You always provide both positive and negative possibilities that could happen in a relationship. Unlike other coaches that would give you false hopes for reconciliation or to have your ex back. My ex and I broke up 6 weeks ago. And I would say that healing is messy, one day you’re okay, one day you’re not. Healing has no timeline.
You are my favorite coach because you talk about self improvement it’s not all about your ex. You don’t say things that will raise my anxiety. you tell the truth and sometimes it’s hard love but that’s what some people need.
Thanks Rory. My ex reached out 2 weeks after dumping me apologising & asking forgiveness, wanting friendship blah blah blah ... that is when I knew he was uncertain. After small talk I went NC it has been 1 month & I feel empowered for some reason. When you are dumped for real your ex won’t return at all that is an ex 100% certain of their decision.... bear this in mind as hard as it may seem x
I don't think anyone is ever a 100% certain about his or her break up. Regardless, it's healthier to not expect anything from an ex and quickly move on by improving oneself and dating other people.
A month of NC and I have doubts she will contact me. Why? Because I think she saw the relationship as turning toxic and I was selfish and needy. It’s allowed me to grow as a person and work on self improvement. Every breakup is a lesson, so I would recommend you use it as a positive.
I contacted my ex after 4 years lol, and i have a big ass ego. But you get over shit and that mentality you have in the beginning with time. So yeah don't lose hope. This time a a girl broke up with me, and i don't know for sure if she will contact me eventually but all i can do is focus on myself and hope for the best. If it helps, think about it...I don't think it sounds realistic to think you'll never hear from or see your ex ever again. It can happen, but lets be real, I've ran into exes and people i never expected to see again dozens of times. And that's gonna be your opportunity to show off your change, and don't wait for it, it'll happen when you "least" expected. Good luck!!!
I dont know if we are getting back together, but my ex reached out after 3.5 months and I never expected it. I did send a text message few weeks before that that said that I understood why she broke up with me, looking back at how I was. Said that I would love to catch up sometimes, that I wasnt gonna try to convince her to get back together. Just that it was weird if I never heard of her anymore after spending 7 years together. So she called weeks later, hearing the doubt in her voice and being a bit shy. And she asked if I still wanted to hang out because she was free next week. She also asked ‘you arent gonna try to convince me to get back together?’. Well to me it means she wanted to reach out and I left the door open for that by sending that message. Of course she is afraid Im gonna try to convince her, so got that of the table and honestly Im not gonna to. Im just gonna show her my improved self. I dont want to convince or reason somebody in being with me. If she falls back in love with me I’ll be happy. But if she doesnt its clear to me that there isnt anything else I could have done. It might still hurt a bit, but I want somebody that loves me and if she doesnt then its fine. I can move on then knowing I did what I could and I deserve better then to stay hung up on her. If years down the road she comes back I know it isnt for me, but because things didnt plan out the way she thought. Cant be a back up or second choice. So basically Im giving it my best now and its her getting a second chance with me. If Im not good enough now, Im not gonna wait arround.
swami dude I’ve considered apologising for my actions, but honestly I don’t think she would want t hear it and just move on. I’d like to think we could get back together and improve on ourselves, but would I want someone back who’s not willing to fight for the love? I see where you are coming from, outcome independence is key. Wishing you the best 💪🏼
Thank you, Rory. For being there and caring how we feel. The 2 month mark of the break up and start of no contact is tomorrow, it is still heartwrenching but in a different way now. I am doing good work on myself and I have come a long way but I do miss her so much. I hope she will contact me soon. Thanks again
Rory your work is awesome, never listened to a bad video yet, this is alittle motivation for every one going through heartbreak, every single ex has reached out to me to talk, date, one night thing bar my last because it was just recent, which I love her to bits, but the others years later one over ten years messaged me out the blue and asked if I fancied a drink, if you self improve, love your self, be the best version of your self, enjoy your life, laugh, shine like the sun they notice and want a piece trust me, that’s all I have for you today peace
Thanks for this Rory. Me and my ex recently attended the same festival and she asked to catch up. Everything went great, and after splitting up during the festival, we later found each other once again only this time, during the final performance, we held one another and came very close to kissing and potentially having sex as she said she was very turned on while with me. Fast forward two days later, and she's now apologised for her behaviour, saying she's sorry for leading me on but that she had a fantastic time. 'That's okay, I didn't feel led on. It's important we continue to see other people and get on with our lives". I've walked away, and continue to date. She needs to come to me if she wants me. She needs to make an effort. I'm great, I'm valuable and very soon, I'll be with someone fantastic and off the market.
@@troyesivan7069 Hey! The update is that I'm happy, I'm single, I've landed my dream job, I'm putting down a deposit on a house and I've got reciprocal interest in a few woman that live nearby. She moved on. I moved on. The world hasn't ended, and I'm feeling great!
I love that you talk about the Dumper being miserable! I'm so glad he is gone! He did me the biggest favor by breaking up with me....although at the time it was a freakish nightmare to be without him! Looking back after a year, he was soooooo selfish! He seemed like a really great guy, but he wasnt. He never made me a priority, ever! 50% of the time he cancel our dates because he was too tired, or had to help someone move, or his sister is making dinner, his brother wanted to talk to him, blah blah, blah..... He never made an effort for me. But he made me a ton of promises! And all the promises he never kept! It seems like he was trying to keep my interest so i wouldnt be available for anyone else. He only wanted to do his priorities. He didnt ever try to work on our relationship. Boy, was i the biggest dummy on the planet or what?! But he seemed like a really great guy! A really great catch But heaven forbid if you accidentally say the wrong thing, then he would disappear for weeks & months at a time. We never argued. Never cursed And I was never a priority in his life. Still, he seemed like a great guy...... I did learn that Actions do speak louder than words
Holy crap when my ex broke up with me, I handled it and agreed then the next day she did a 180 and was freaking out that I was going and wanted to follow me back to another state back home to live with me and I was confused. I never understood it till now, thanks Rory!
Rory,I have been watching your videos for the past year and half,also the DG. I used to long for your new video everyday. But not anymore. It is not because your materials aren’t good,I just feel I have moved pass the heartbroken stage, as well as the “ trying to get my ex back” stage. I am a new person now thanks to your knowledges,I am finally 100% ready to date again. Yeah, I am free! I am also here to command you on your great work,keep doing what you doing. As you can see,a lot of people need your unbiased and genuine help. God knows I was one of the thousands! I never wrote to you before,I did however wrote to the DG once and he was very helpful(I was lucky I caught him when he used to do it for free at the beginning). This is going to be my first and last time writing to you and the DG. I will use all that I learn from you and the DG to continue my journey. last but not least,THANK YOU for being there for us when we are experiencing the most difficult times,you and DG are deeply appreciated,and definitely won’t be forgotten! P.S Remember you said you hope one day we are going to stop watching your video? well I got there a few episodes ago,well eps 170 is just perfect for me. 😎
I can attest to this. I've been separate from my ex for a little over a year now. She's reached multiple of times and there have been a few moments where I've told myself, "Guess that's the last time I'll hear from her". Low and behold, I'll hear from her again. I just herd from my ex this past weekend actually. No need to get into details but its back to No Contact. Thank you on this video Rory. I'm a little uncertain myself at times too.
I am no longer interested in my ex, I have worked with myself and I feel amazing, were 4 difficult months but those videos helped me a lot, now I go out with old and new friends 🤣
Happy Birthday 🎁 My birthday is on 5 weeks time It’s going too be interesting if my Ex wil Reach out for my Birthday She did reach out over Christmas night last yr. That’s the only time she has reached out I’m in 11month break up It’s still hard for me 😩 Over Christmas when I broke NC she said she was happy too see me again on her next vacation So I’m in a real fuzz what too do I’ll be having a ph session with Rory soon
Thanks for your advice Rory, my ex left me for another guy, was in a relationship two days later. We were making future plans and I thought I was going to marry her. It's hard to believe she could just monkey branch like she did but I guess part of it is her masking her feelings and pretending everything is normal with this new guy to avoid the brake up struggle.
My ex seems to be going from relationship to relationship searching for happiness, I really feel sorry for her because I know she’s just a pump and dump at the age of 35, the shitty thing is I still love her, but there’s no going back for me, it is what it is, I am doing much better now, wish her the best, oh she dumped me out of the blue, that shit really hurt me
Thanks Rory,haven't heard from her for 4 months,we had such great memories and times together,I haven't contacted her either,my birthday is next month,not expecting any contact but there's always a change,I did my best to be a great partner. Time will tell,am moving forward. I was told I was to careing,go figure.
For the last few months I am following ur videos Rory...and with your every video I am growing ..... I am being closure to a better confident positive me.. now it doesn't matter whether my ex comes back or not..u have taught me to live on my own... thank u Rory
On week 3 of no contact and I haven’t heard from him but we do have a class together and today I walked by him and we said hi. Its not how I want it to be but a couple of weeks ago he intentionally would not look at me so it’s something.
After we broke up, my ex breadcrumbed for a week until it just stopped. Since then we haven't spoken. Three months after he blocked me out of nowhere, even though I didn't do anything. Seems like it's not hot and cold, but just cold and colder... Seems like he's certain.
Been 6 months. Recently she reached out and really missed me and even seen her the next day than she disappeared and we got into another tense separation. Like I don’t know what to do anymore
Always searching for a concrete answer. This video finally gave me that answer. After two years together, I kinda put her in the friend zone, then a month after that she ghosted me. Every 3-4 weeks I would send her a text, she never read it. I even ran into her at work once. 4 months after we stopped talking I sent her a message saying i've worked on myself and would like to keep in touch. She said she doesn't keep in touch with exes and blocked me. It's been 2 months since that happened, so a total of 6 months. No breadcrumbs, she never initiated contact, I didn't get any sense that she was hot or cold. Like you said, it's upsetting to hear that. This is the pain I need to get back to reality and move on. Thanks Rory
Hey Rory, my ex messaged me after a long time to talk and “clear some things up” which I apparently got wrong. She said she hopes we can get along in the future when we accidentally meet or even drink. Am I getting friendzoned??? I told her I’m not gonna be friends. We don’t even have the same circle of friends etc.
Video idea// What if your ex breaks up with you because they say you didn’t appreciate them or “ taking them for granted” cause I know we still shouldn’t reach out but it makes us feel like we need to
Three years later l still love her and miss her incredibly. Work on myself as much as possible. I work everyday to distract myself, get out of an empty house and pay the bills. As time passes it hurts more and more knowing how unlikely it is we will get back together. One day at a time.....
Thanks man! This channel helped me A LOT. Been here since the first month of my break up with my ex up to now where I found someone better. Thanks for the advices the Love Chat! I would definitely put what I've learned into good use. :)
ok so this is gonna sound fucked up but this where i’m at. my bf and i dated for 2 years were both in our early 20s and then he broke up w me a month & a half ago and his reasons were that he felt too young to be in a committed relationship and that i was too clingy. 3 days later he started seeing another girl who he says he didn’t know but they’re in the same friend group so i find it hard to believe. from the outside they seem like a good couple and i feel like she is everything he wanted me to be which kinda hurts but whatever. at this point i don’t even want him back and i don’t want any sort of relationship w him BUT i want him to want me and come crawling back so i can reject him & i want his rebound to break his heart. i know that sounds messed up but can u please do a video on if that’s normal to feel or anything? love u soooo much!!!
I can answer that. No need for a video. You hate him and you're jealous. It means you need to work on yourself and stop fixating on him and what he's doing. What you are feeling are signs of immaturity no matter how valid you think they are. Good news is that people grow and so can you.
Hey, Rory my ex girlfriend contacted me after 4 months. She professed her love for me, she wanted to be friends. I told her no, she said she wouldn’t contact me again. We were together for 2 years. She said wasn’t ready for a relationship due to her depression? I just walked away and we into no contact again.
Remember it takes a couple seconds for them to reach out, text, call. You could get signs that they're about to reach out for a long time ,and still ahvnt heard from them. Or you could see no signs for a period of time and then all of a sudden ,they've reached out
Make a video, about " What if my ex keeps contact with my mother/relatives? " I'm trying to get over her, which I am doing great for the 1st month. Radio Silent, no social media, reading and studying a lot and hanging out with friends, but then she keeps contacting my mother... I can't block my mother. (I am not angry nor sad, I'm confused)
Ok so my ex showed up at a party that she knew I'd be at. Sees me. I lost a ton of weight, dressed better...etc. she acted as if she didn't see me. I played it off. Later comes to me to say that I look amazing. I keep it short and we leave. She later texted me that once again I look amazing and that I should keep it up. Then tells me that I felt good. I only half assed hugged her cause I wasn't trying to get that close but she almost jiu-jitsu locked me lol. What does this all mean?
Mine was hot and cold at first then just cold and seemed very certain. I am now 22 days into NC and each day is just panic attacks, waking up at nights just getting hit with the pain and confusion :(. But I know from my last ex she did tell me she thought of me everyday after the break up. Also my brothers ex came back close to 3 months and said she thinks if she made the right decision every day. In both instances me nor my brother took them back the damage was done.
Thanks for another nice one dating guy. My ex has gotten to me a few times after one month of the breakup and we also talked on phone and laughed a lot like we use to do while we were together. It’s a LDR and we never had a prob but he just broke up with that he prefs to have someone closer . I’m moving on but trying to do much healing.
I'm pretty sure my ex isn't certain, she has told me as much. But I'm also pretty sure she's not coming back, because she also told me she is determined to be the strong one and not give in to temptation. She doesn't even want to come pick up her stuff at my house because "she's not feeling strong enough yet to see me" and "she can't say goodbye to me again". Ugh. So I'm left here in limbo.
Heyy Rory! Maybe can you make a video about you ex wanting an ego boost by you reaching out ? Or in there mind they go through a time where no contact is making them more annoyed and makes them sad ?
My ex went with a rebound then left him and reached out to me 4 months after NC. But things are not gonna work between im perfectly fine but she is mentaly unstable. anyway dont give hope but dont wait for it either, grow, become stronger, and live your life
Wow this is what happened to me. My ex dumped me after 2 years together. We were in LDR for 3 weeks before breaking up, no big fight, I didn’t see it coming, I assumed it’s GRASS IS GREENER. cause he used to trying to break with me before when he got drunk 1 year ago, saying he wants to be free, be alone. (But he apologized the next morning, and we made up) I did beg and plead but it didn’t work. Then I accepted it, and decided to walk away. The first day, he sent me a text like how we used to, asking if I’m okay and stuffs. Then he wrote me again on the 5th day and then the next 2 weeks, and the next 2 weeks. The last one seems more distant tho. I think he realize that I don’t want to talk to him, so he tried to move on (I tried to do NC) so i’m not sure what I should do. He’s seeing a girl 10 days after we split up!! (He didn’t cheat) I’m so devastated and still want to get back. Hope someone could tell me what I should do. Now I restarted NC for 4 days. It’s been 1.5 months after breaking up. Sad like rain... 😭
No Contact! Act like you don't give a shit lol. Well that you have your life to worry about, which you should mainly concentrate on. But trust me as a guy, that's probably the most effective thing to do because it hurts our ego. Your value rises in our eyes without us even realizing. And don't worry about the other girl, I can tell you from experience it doesn't help. I slept with a girl a month after my break up and felt the same about my ex so...yeah don't even worry, For the most part it's only a distraction. Good Luck!
xxTOPGUN xx I’m not sure if my ex wants me back. The last few weeks before we split up he seems bored to death. Even if we always do something together, he’s always on his phone. Watching something or playing games.
6 months into divorced. No contact no nothing, unfriended on fb, instagram. Thing are clear as it is. Cant believe someone u love n love u can be so cold. Look like moving on is the only option.
My relationship of 7 months ended about a month ago, and I followed your advice on no contact. I recently started a new job and my ex texted me congratulating me. We have been texting for a few days, just chit chat and a bit of catching up. I kept the talks light hearted, and didn't make an effort to keep the conversation going if it died off. She's been initiating most of the texting but it's been about a week now. Should I make an effort to go back to no contact if I feel like she's texting me just to see if i'm still in back-up plan mode? I don't want her to think of me just as a friend, and the way the conversations are going I feel like things are heading in that direction. We've been talking quite frequently since the break up and I don't think there's been enough time for her to truly feel the break up. Should I tell her I don't want to settle for being friends because I think we're worth more than that, or just keep the casual conversations going?
Was there last night for that question it does suck and rory is right I had and ex long ago that I broke up with after saying she hated me calling me every nasty name and she came back after about 6 years after her bf left her for someone else thing is i was with my current ex at that point and she said she reached out to see how i was and after talking to me she realised that she still loved me and was in love with so it can happen just sometimes when you dont want it to and that played a part in my breakup and now that person who reached out to me while i was still with my ex has just got engaged after being with a new guy for about 4 months but i didnt want her back when she reached out so she caused some arguments in my relationship but iam happy she has moved on and found someone just would like to think my current ex will maybe do the same and reach out I mean the other girl did it after 6years and I never expected it and had completely moved on
@@GirlsOnTop_ that 1 did when we started talking again but read my other comment you'll see what happend at the end of my relationship but I didnt want her back I had at the start broke up with my ex because I thought I still had feelings for this other woman but I realised I didnt and that I had a good woman I think that may of stuck in her head for the rest of our time together so I doubt my ex will come back not this 1 anyway and thing is she was the 1 who made me feel like I wanted to get married I'd never felt that before
my ex gf for almost 3 years contacted me after going no contact after almost a month she just asked me to delete all our photos together on my fb..she blocked me already after breaking up with me, but today all of a sudden she just contacted me through email..what does it mean and what is the best reply or approach to this..thank you..btw love your vids and dating guy it helps me a lot
Oh he seems very certain... The more I give him space the more he will not come back...the more he realize stuff...and thinks it's good for the both of us...we are on ldr so...using only one app which I feel he already deleted... I haven't heard from him since he called me over a week ago...while he said he would be there for me when he broke up with me..he was and has been breadcrumbing me...there were times he acted like his old self but can feel he's holding back...currently going through health problems and this is not the time to lie to me and make me feel he's my support system...I even feel he feels relieved and liberated...broke up with me almost three months ago...and he's already MIA for more than a week.. How much more next month and the years to come...im not expecting him to come back anymore
Video idea: What if you suddenly cane across hard times like major life changes and it was the reason for a break up? Is it better to just let go because my ex wasn't giving me the support I needed or is it my fault for looking to him too often for emotional support and stressing him when he may have had his own problems? Should there even be a chance or is the trauma to much to over come?
I am currently 2 months into NC. 3 months since she broke up with me. I have done a massive amount of work and possibly got the most productive 2 months of my life including a new exciting job lined up for October... but I cannot get her out of my head and its always resonating there. Its like a curse. I have the stupid little hope that she will reach out but im honestly skeptical. We didn't fight or argue, no cheating or non of that nonsense, we had awesome times together, and went through a lot with each other ending in the hospital at different times and taking care of each other, loss of a family member who was like my second mother, her mother losing her job, etc. However with my current job I couldn't spend much time with her. I would see her maybe twice a week and would always be traveling. I would drive 1.5hrs from work to her place to be with her for a few hrs at night (we both live with our moms so space was hard too me by). I know it was me not being there more often that made her call it quits... but Idk if all that was enough for her to doubt herself and one day reach out? We didn't end in bad terms and we both mentioned we didn't close the doors for the future. She has a normal 9-5 job and weekends off btw. We are both in our late 20s. Any comments?
You only have that one option...NC and stick to it. As hard as it is you have to be strong, keep working on yourself. Time and space. I am pulling for you bro.
@thelovechat Well I’ve been separated from my ex for about a year left at three months pregnant , but my daughter is five months old now and I see her on and off days but my ex told me she had feelings and I set up a date but next day said I can’t I love you as a dad but that’s it she completely backed off so now I’m just focusing on being a dad but any advice would help thanks
Trust me it can be years one messaged out the blue over ten years later wanting to take me out for a drink, go no contact, self improve be the best version of your self, live life to the max, laugh every second of the day , trust me they notice and will reach out to you, have faith stay strong, peace
@@justamannothingmore1999 Completely agree! I contacted an ex that I broke up with after 4 years!! lol But yeah, just hang in there and continue improving!!!
Bro be patient I had a ex I dated in high school we was together for 2 months then she cheated on me I broke up with her... She reach out to me 3 years later
My ex texted me after 2 months of NC, he said he misses me and when i asked him to talk to me over a phone call, he ignored my text and didn't reply. After 2 days he texted me asking me to send him my pictures, i haven't replied yet. Him ignoring me literally turned me off. i don't know how should i react, any tips Rory??
My ex and I were casually dating We got physical after several months of dating. And then I thought we would be more relaxed but he continued to be mysterious. I interpreted it as his disinterest in me so I mirrored his actions and started treating him coldly. He responded withq coldly towards me which made me begin to ignore him and then him ignoring me. I have apologized twice for my part in this whole ignoring situation and he excepts them but then is weird again I things quickly became awkward and uncomfortable again for no reason we stopped talking making iContact or even touching each other it has been so weird and uncomfortable for me being in the same dressing room with him and not acknowledging each other so I decided to move dressing rooms a month ago at this point he and I have to see each other but I’m really battling between making eye contact with him or turning my head away because I don’t want to obviously be ignoring him I want to set myself back into a neutral state I don’t know what he’s thinkingstarted to feel so uncomfortable in my changing room that I asked to switch into another changing room at work preparing for the shows that we put on every day. We rarely see each other passing by in between show cues and currently change our paths so that we don’t have to cross or we don’t make eye contact at all. I’m trying my best to do the no contact rule but it is very difficult it’s been a month should I still be ignoring him should I acknowledge him should I just casually make eye contact with him technically I am the one that left him so you would say I’m the dumper but I was really dumping because he was becoming cold to me so by default I dumped him but I have felt that he has been playing all the cards at what point does the no contact rule just not work is it too difficult when we work together and have to see each other every day? This is such a sticky situation for me please help My biggest fear is that another talk is not going to do the job. I’ve already apologized twice for things that he had equal part in and he always except my apologies but doesn’t take any on the blame himself I really did feel that she was a good one that has gotten away and that I somehow messed things up I feel like the last thing that happened was me saying very nice things to him and he did not respond to them and so I feel really the ball is in his court Do I lose hope and give this one up? If at all of there being any chances of him and I getting back together what do I have to do? I’m one step away from a voodoo doll whitch
Sometimes no matter how much you try to make someone happy it's not good enough or they just get plain bored with you. Except it and move forward,make your self happy first.
brian u i couldn’t agree more. I been there.
Dude we have the same initial lol
@@bryanunion5110 Hi Bryan mine is BTU.
Emotions are a momentarily incidents.
Just because someone say that they love you now, doesn't mean that they will feel the same tomorrow.
True...no matter how much and how long they try to prove to you...HE could only pretend for so long....6 years but can't keep his words..
Here’s to hoping gentlemen....and may we all find peace someday
Simple be patient! trust in time and space move on then they'll come back eventually
Dreads And Angels absolutely true , my ex recently started emailing me video of our happy times then pictures after he discarded me for his ex , I moved on begin to travel and just love my life happy , 8 months later he’s reaching out ! Our break up was bad so I’m surprised he’s very prideful so for him to let his guard down ! I’m shocked ! But my emotions are not the same ! So yes they do come back when you least expect it 👌🏽
And by that time you won't want them anymore... at least in my experience that's how it turned out.
Its Always when u dont want Anymore.. or when they already been with somone else. Thats the sad thing with love/breakups.. my ex left me because we argued alot (i thought) then a see here in a relationship right away with a ”just a Friend” shes been talking to over a year. He became single just a month before she broke up with me... i guess she took her chance to be with him..
@@LadyChar9 wow! I'm so happy for your success story 🙂
@@fuxk8673 update??
10 months of being together, 2 months of no contact. You changed your hair, you go out with our friends, hell you humiliated me cause now everyone is against me, all those times I was so patient with you, protected you from touchy guys..I went through depression this summer and you left me. You said I played the victim and yet you overcompensate over social media about how happy your life is, when school comes back you’ll realize YOU lost me not the other way around. Go ahead, live this happiness you have chosen..when you feel left out and the group forgets about you, you’ll think about me and I won’t be there. You said we would grow old together, but only one of us had the willingness to do the work to get there. When I’ve risen higher than I’ve ever been you won’t be able to jump and reach a heart that’s too high for you to feel. I stay strong during no contact, silently shedding a tear of your memory but this is how it has to be because you chose this. I hope you can live with your choice because you lost, according to you, “the greatest and most caring guy” you’ll ever meet.
Hi Rory, It sounds nice to hear this hopeful video, but since I am going into month 7 and still no reaching out from him, this kinda sucks. He got spooked about our future together (kids etc.) since him childhood was full of trauma and he is workoholic so I think he distracts himself with work. But at this point my heart still hurts and at least I am moving forward with my life. Working on my emotional health and focusing on myself. I am letting him go. I see no point in forcing someone into something they don't want. To all people in no contact: Be brave and strong, it gets better with time with occasional downfall. I feel your pain. Sending love.
It's great to know that there's other people out there going through the same thing. I'm also is NC and as time moves on I feel more proud of myself for being that strong. I never thought I could do it but I have and it's a new found strength in myself. You'll feel the same way I'm sure. Stay strong and work on yourself because you are totally worth it. Never forget that.
ponosticka I’m almost 6 months NC still have some bad days. I relate to what you say so much. It’s nice knowing not alone on this journey.
@@opheliasfoxx7429 I'm only 3 weeks
Ponosticka I am now on my 7 months of NC.. is there any progress in your case at present?
Amen Rory great advice...we can't put our ex's on a pedestal - i many cases they are just as broken up as we are even if they were the ones who terminated the relationship. They probably also need to learn and grow and our affection was a cushion for them to escape the realities of who they actually were and we were used as an excuse in some cases for their unhappiness.
Yesterday after 9 months my ex and I met up, she had one of the most redicalous indirect direct approaches I have ever heard. I'm so glad I took the time to listen to and trust Rory!
What happened after? Did you get back together? An ex of mine also reached out after 8 months, asked me to go for a drink. We had fun, but I think I blew it by trying to move too fast... We both got pretty drunk :D
Update?
Almost 5 months. But I’m slowly getting over it. The nostalgia though 😩😩😩
Stay strong man! You'll get over it
Five months too! Mines moved on already it sucks man, hold on in there
Mat Mk1 I just obsess over her having sex with someone else. She literally disappeared off the face of the earth nor is she on social media. Even when she was no posting of a new love.
Be patient bro work on self improvement
Bryan Union I know man it hurts so much. It's like a complete cut off from something you've been used to. Gone on a split second. I wish I knew the answer to the pain but I don't. Everyone says time, just give it time. I'm definitely better than I was even just a few weeks ago, slowly the fog will clear I hope
Also, I broke up with my previous BF and I never contacted him after that. It's been 5 years (4,5yrs of relationship). What pushed me over the edge was the unhappiness for the last 3 years in the relationship and that he was so not growup adult. I broke up with him and he behaved horrible. He emotionally blackmailed me, yelling at me, ignoring me and then bargaining. I was also sad that I am hurting him with this breakup but my mind was set that i am not happy with him. After that I told him that I was still hoping that one day we would reconnect in more adult phase but he destroyed that hope with all the hate he threw at me. Then he blocked me on all social media (still blocked). And when I started to think i might be able to contact him, i remembered all the hate and was scared of it. I wanted to share my experience as a dumper. Now as a dumpee, I have both experiences.
At around what time into NC did you think to contact him? And what were the circumstances that led to you thinking to reach out? Thanks in advance, I would really appreciate it.
@@orevel it's hard to say that I would want to go back to him. But at least I wanted to contact him to see how he is and maybe to see that he grow up and appreciated me more. But his behavior disgusted me deeply on how he tried to manipulate me back into the relationship. And that got me scared of him. At that point I wanted freedom and acceptance and agreement from his side. To get space and refocus.
@@ColdAhhClips I was devastated for almost a year from the relationship and breakup. But I am deeply emotional person. In my case I think I wanted to reach out after that year. Once my heart stopped hurting. Or started to feel again. But when I found out that I am still blocked, I got over it. It seemed that I hurt him so much, that he still didn't want to talk to me. So if you blocked your ex or tried to manipulate them, give them whatever time they need. Sometimes over a year or more. If the wounds are really deep. Sending strength. You can do this. I am going through my own NC so I feel your pain. I'm in month 7. Still nothing.
So, you broke up with him and expected that he'd to appreciated you more? Ok
Sometimes I listen to this and I feel like there's hope, and then when I remember what my ex said to me and I feel like there's no more hope he'll come back.
My ex broke up with me June and she reached out 5x since. I eventually asked what she really wants and if the last time she called was for closure. She responded "No, not closure closure & in regards to a relationship, I'm just doing me right now. Focusing on me but what do you want?"
Bruh! Make it make sense. Smdh
I really love your advices. So far you’re the best relationship coach. You always provide both positive and negative possibilities that could happen in a relationship. Unlike other coaches that would give you false hopes for reconciliation or to have your ex back. My ex and I broke up 6 weeks ago. And I would say that healing is messy, one day you’re okay, one day you’re not. Healing has no timeline.
You are my favorite coach because you talk about self improvement it’s not all about your ex. You don’t say things that will raise my anxiety. you tell the truth and sometimes it’s hard love but that’s what some people need.
Thanks Rory. My ex reached out 2 weeks after dumping me apologising & asking forgiveness, wanting friendship blah blah blah ... that is when I knew he was uncertain.
After small talk I went NC it has been 1 month & I feel empowered for some reason.
When you are dumped for real your ex won’t return at all that is an ex 100% certain of their decision.... bear this in mind as hard as it may seem x
I don't think anyone is ever a 100% certain about his or her break up. Regardless, it's healthier to not expect anything from an ex and quickly move on by improving oneself and dating other people.
When you said what comes after this break up is fantastic. I shed a tear or two..... It's hard but it will be fine. Thank you for this channel. 💖❤️💕
A month of NC and I have doubts she will contact me. Why? Because I think she saw the relationship as turning toxic and I was selfish and needy.
It’s allowed me to grow as a person and work on self improvement. Every breakup is a lesson, so I would recommend you use it as a positive.
Drakotar don’t lose hope. Improve yourself. I believe if love is real, she’ll give you another chance.
I contacted my ex after 4 years lol, and i have a big ass ego. But you get over shit and that mentality you have in the beginning with time. So yeah don't lose hope. This time a a girl broke up with me, and i don't know for sure if she will contact me eventually but all i can do is focus on myself and hope for the best. If it helps, think about it...I don't think it sounds realistic to think you'll never hear from or see your ex ever again. It can happen, but lets be real, I've ran into exes and people i never expected to see again dozens of times. And that's gonna be your opportunity to show off your change, and don't wait for it, it'll happen when you "least" expected. Good luck!!!
I dont know if we are getting back together, but my ex reached out after 3.5 months and I never expected it. I did send a text message few weeks before that that said that I understood why she broke up with me, looking back at how I was. Said that I would love to catch up sometimes, that I wasnt gonna try to convince her to get back together. Just that it was weird if I never heard of her anymore after spending 7 years together.
So she called weeks later, hearing the doubt in her voice and being a bit shy. And she asked if I still wanted to hang out because she was free next week. She also asked ‘you arent gonna try to convince me to get back together?’.
Well to me it means she wanted to reach out and I left the door open for that by sending that message. Of course she is afraid Im gonna try to convince her, so got that of the table and honestly Im not gonna to. Im just gonna show her my improved self. I dont want to convince or reason somebody in being with me. If she falls back in love with me I’ll be happy. But if she doesnt its clear to me that there isnt anything else I could have done. It might still hurt a bit, but I want somebody that loves me and if she doesnt then its fine. I can move on then knowing I did what I could and I deserve better then to stay hung up on her.
If years down the road she comes back I know it isnt for me, but because things didnt plan out the way she thought. Cant be a back up or second choice. So basically Im giving it my best now and its her getting a second chance with me. If Im not good enough now, Im not gonna wait arround.
swami dude I’ve considered apologising for my actions, but honestly I don’t think she would want t hear it and just move on.
I’d like to think we could get back together and improve on ourselves, but would I want someone back who’s not willing to fight for the love?
I see where you are coming from, outcome independence is key. Wishing you the best 💪🏼
2824000 Improving day by day. Thank you for your comment 💪🏼
Thank you, Rory. For being there and caring how we feel.
The 2 month mark of the break up and start of no contact is tomorrow, it is still heartwrenching but in a different way now.
I am doing good work on myself and I have come a long way but I do miss her so much. I hope she will contact me soon.
Thanks again
This is so true. My husband would change his mind daily. He’ll come back.
Rory your work is awesome, never listened to a bad video yet, this is alittle motivation for every one going through heartbreak, every single ex has reached out to me to talk, date, one night thing bar my last because it was just recent, which I love her to bits, but the others years later one over ten years messaged me out the blue and asked if I fancied a drink, if you self improve, love your self, be the best version of your self, enjoy your life, laugh, shine like the sun they notice and want a piece trust me, that’s all I have for you today peace
Thanks for this Rory.
Me and my ex recently attended the same festival and she asked to catch up. Everything went great, and after splitting up during the festival, we later found each other once again only this time, during the final performance, we held one another and came very close to kissing and potentially having sex as she said she was very turned on while with me.
Fast forward two days later, and she's now apologised for her behaviour, saying she's sorry for leading me on but that she had a fantastic time.
'That's okay, I didn't feel led on. It's important we continue to see other people and get on with our lives".
I've walked away, and continue to date. She needs to come to me if she wants me. She needs to make an effort. I'm great, I'm valuable and very soon, I'll be with someone fantastic and off the market.
Handled that like a boss, update?
Update?
@@troyesivan7069 Hey! The update is that I'm happy, I'm single, I've landed my dream job, I'm putting down a deposit on a house and I've got reciprocal interest in a few woman that live nearby.
She moved on. I moved on.
The world hasn't ended, and I'm feeling great!
My ex got till New Years to fix this or it’s wraps 😂
CJ Dior Lmaoooo same
Swear😂
I love that you talk about the Dumper being miserable!
I'm so glad he is gone! He did me the biggest favor by breaking up with me....although at the time it was a freakish nightmare to be without him! Looking back after a year, he was soooooo selfish! He seemed like a really great guy, but he wasnt. He never made me a priority, ever!
50% of the time he cancel our dates because he was too tired, or had to help someone move, or his sister is making dinner, his brother wanted to talk to him, blah blah, blah.....
He never made an effort for me. But he made me a ton of promises! And all the promises he never kept!
It seems like he was trying to keep my interest so i wouldnt be available for anyone else.
He only wanted to do his priorities. He didnt ever try to work on our relationship.
Boy, was i the biggest dummy on the planet or what?! But he seemed like a really great guy!
A really great catch
But heaven forbid if you accidentally say the wrong thing, then he would disappear for weeks & months at a time.
We never argued.
Never cursed
And I was never a priority in his life.
Still, he seemed like a great guy...... I did learn that
Actions do speak louder than words
He was married, I can see that a mile away
Not married. Avoidant.
@@airbubble. how long were you two together? did he ever reached out?
Thank you Rory, after an 11 year relationship, I really need to be thinking this way. To help get on with improving me 🌸
Holy crap when my ex broke up with me, I handled it and agreed then the next day she did a 180 and was freaking out that I was going and wanted to follow me back to another state back home to live with me and I was confused. I never understood it till now, thanks Rory!
Wow! I'm happy for you
Rory,I have been watching your videos for the past year and half,also the DG. I used to long for your new video everyday. But not anymore. It is not because your materials aren’t good,I just feel I have moved pass the heartbroken stage, as well as the “ trying to get my ex back” stage. I am a new person now thanks to your knowledges,I am finally 100% ready to date again. Yeah, I am free! I am also here to command you on your great work,keep doing what you doing. As you can see,a lot of people need your unbiased and genuine help. God knows I was one of the thousands! I never wrote to you before,I did however wrote to the DG once and he was very helpful(I was lucky I caught him when he used to do it for free at the beginning). This is going to be my first and last time writing to you and the DG. I will use all that I learn from you and the DG to continue my journey. last but not least,THANK YOU for being there for us when we are experiencing the most difficult times,you and DG are deeply appreciated,and definitely won’t be forgotten!
P.S Remember you said you hope one day we are going to stop watching your video? well I got there a few episodes ago,well eps 170 is just perfect for me. 😎
I can attest to this. I've been separate from my ex for a little over a year now. She's reached multiple of times and there have been a few moments where I've told myself, "Guess that's the last time I'll hear from her". Low and behold, I'll hear from her again. I just herd from my ex this past weekend actually. No need to get into details but its back to No Contact. Thank you on this video Rory. I'm a little uncertain myself at times too.
The last girl I broke up with I was a 100 percent sure. We are just not compatible and I wish her the best.
Together 26 years 4 kids and she has been certain from day 1. 4 months later and she is still certain. I'm doomed. I love her and miss her like mad
I am no longer interested in my ex, I have worked with myself and I feel amazing, were 4 difficult months but those videos helped me a lot, now I go out with old and new friends 🤣
He didn't wish me Happy Birthday. That's brought me back a bit.
Happy Birthday Nicole.....look me up on Instagram @royetin ❤
Happy Birthday 🎁
My birthday is on 5 weeks time
It’s going too be interesting if my Ex wil
Reach out for my Birthday
She did reach out over Christmas night last yr.
That’s the only time she has reached out
I’m in 11month break up
It’s still hard for me 😩
Over Christmas when I broke NC she said she was happy too see me again on her next vacation
So I’m in a real fuzz what too do
I’ll be having a ph session with Rory soon
Well then you get a Happy Birthday from me!
Thanks for your advice Rory, my ex left me for another guy, was in a relationship two days later. We were making future plans and I thought I was going to marry her. It's hard to believe she could just monkey branch like she did but I guess part of it is her masking her feelings and pretending everything is normal with this new guy to avoid the brake up struggle.
My ex seems to be going from relationship to relationship searching for happiness, I really feel sorry for her because I know she’s just a pump and dump at the age of 35, the shitty thing is I still love her, but there’s no going back for me, it is what it is, I am doing much better now, wish her the best, oh she dumped me out of the blue, that shit really hurt me
Thanks Rory,haven't heard from her for 4 months,we had such great memories and times together,I haven't contacted her either,my birthday is next month,not expecting any contact but there's always a change,I did my best to be a great partner. Time will tell,am moving forward. I was told I was to careing,go figure.
Hey, i'm exactly the same, not heard from her 4 months, My birthday is next month too.
@@plusultra5735 Happy birthday Cam mine is the 28th!
@@btu45nh My Birthday is The 28th Of August.
Guess what? I think I’m over it. Thanks Rory.
You did it!!
For the last few months I am following ur videos Rory...and with your every video I am growing ..... I am being closure to a better confident positive me.. now it doesn't matter whether my ex comes back or not..u have taught me to live on my own... thank u Rory
On week 3 of no contact and I haven’t heard from him but we do have a class together and today I walked by him and we said hi. Its not how I want it to be but a couple of weeks ago he intentionally would not look at me so it’s something.
After we broke up, my ex breadcrumbed for a week until it just stopped. Since then we haven't spoken. Three months after he blocked me out of nowhere, even though I didn't do anything. Seems like it's not hot and cold, but just cold and colder... Seems like he's certain.
His loss , plain and simple . Let it be . My ex girlfriend did the same . I have broken NC quite a couple of times but no more . Value yourself .
Ahhh so brilliant Rory!! Thank you ❤️. I literally get more excited when I’m notified of your videos than I do when I get texts from my ex!
Your videos are very calming, healing and therapeutic. Bless you for helping to keep me sane and not shoot myself. Currently the pain is excruciating.
Been 6 months. Recently she reached out and really missed me and even seen her the next day than she disappeared and we got into another tense separation. Like I don’t know what to do anymore
Always searching for a concrete answer. This video finally gave me that answer. After two years together, I kinda put her in the friend zone, then a month after that she ghosted me. Every 3-4 weeks I would send her a text, she never read it. I even ran into her at work once. 4 months after we stopped talking I sent her a message saying i've worked on myself and would like to keep in touch. She said she doesn't keep in touch with exes and blocked me. It's been 2 months since that happened, so a total of 6 months. No breadcrumbs, she never initiated contact, I didn't get any sense that she was hot or cold. Like you said, it's upsetting to hear that. This is the pain I need to get back to reality and move on. Thanks Rory
Divorce went final in November. It's done af.
Hey Rory, my ex messaged me after a long time to talk and “clear some things up” which I apparently got wrong. She said she hopes we can get along in the future when we accidentally meet or even drink. Am I getting friendzoned??? I told her I’m not gonna be friends. We don’t even have the same circle of friends etc.
Video idea// What if your ex breaks up with you because they say you didn’t appreciate them or “ taking them for granted” cause I know we still shouldn’t reach out but it makes us feel like we need to
Loved this line 5:58 simply fantastic! 😄
Why doesn't anyone ever talk about having children with a ex?
Do a video on narcissists. Other than that, GREAT VIDEO as always brother
DG already did one
@@bryanplaysteppen1122 yea saw it. But I also would like Rory to do it too. His insights are great. Those are the two best breakup coaches in the game
No Reply link?
@@63MIJ63 it's his most recent video. Came out a couple days ago.
Three years later l still love her and miss her incredibly. Work on myself as much as possible. I work everyday to distract myself, get out of an empty house and pay the bills. As time passes it hurts more and more knowing how unlikely it is we will get back together. One day at a time.....
Dude in all honesty, but no ex in this world is worth to be missed for such a long period of time.
If my ex was in bed crying about me then she would reach out. 54 days no contact
Lonely Guy 5 weeks here 🇦🇺😭
any updates with your situation?
I've found someone new. :)
Clark Fernandez Glad to hear that Clark!
Thanks man! This channel helped me A LOT. Been here since the first month of my break up with my ex up to now where I found someone better. Thanks for the advices the Love Chat! I would definitely put what I've learned into good use. :)
ok so this is gonna sound fucked up but this where i’m at. my bf and i dated for 2 years were both in our early 20s and then he broke up w me a month & a half ago and his reasons were that he felt too young to be in a committed relationship and that i was too clingy. 3 days later he started seeing another girl who he says he didn’t know but they’re in the same friend group so i find it hard to believe. from the outside they seem like a good couple and i feel like she is everything he wanted me to be which kinda hurts but whatever. at this point i don’t even want him back and i don’t want any sort of relationship w him BUT i want him to want me and come crawling back so i can reject him & i want his rebound to break his heart. i know that sounds messed up but can u please do a video on if that’s normal to feel or anything? love u soooo much!!!
I can answer that. No need for a video. You hate him and you're jealous. It means you need to work on yourself and stop fixating on him and what he's doing. What you are feeling are signs of immaturity no matter how valid you think they are. Good news is that people grow and so can you.
Hey, Rory my ex girlfriend contacted me after 4 months. She professed her love for me, she wanted to be friends. I told her no, she said she wouldn’t contact me again. We were together for 2 years. She said wasn’t ready for a relationship due to her depression? I just walked away and we into no contact again.
Could you do a video about being in a rebound then seeing your ex rebounding again? So, about codependent people I guess.
I think that kind of person is not going to change they will do it over and over again to you and to all his/her relationship.
Pain & Suffering is the path to the dark side
Can we talk about if your ex broke up with you & she is depressed/ emotional numbness?
Damm right Rory.............Simply Fantastic!.......... it is!
Thanks a million Rory!
Remember it takes a couple seconds for them to reach out, text, call. You could get signs that they're about to reach out for a long time ,and still ahvnt heard from them. Or you could see no signs for a period of time and then all of a sudden ,they've reached out
I hate feeling like this. I'm left with all these memories of what was and what could have been. I want to find my peace again.
@@mrmarco259 thank you I'll check it out!!
When exes come back is not necessarily good news.
Make a video, about " What if my ex keeps contact with my mother/relatives? "
I'm trying to get over her, which I am doing great for the 1st month. Radio Silent, no social media, reading and studying a lot and hanging out with friends, but then she keeps contacting my mother... I can't block my mother.
(I am not angry nor sad, I'm confused)
Mac Oliver sounds like she’s still interested
Ok so my ex showed up at a party that she knew I'd be at. Sees me. I lost a ton of weight, dressed better...etc. she acted as if she didn't see me. I played it off. Later comes to me to say that I look amazing. I keep it short and we leave. She later texted me that once again I look amazing and that I should keep it up. Then tells me that I felt good. I only half assed hugged her cause I wasn't trying to get that close but she almost jiu-jitsu locked me lol. What does this all mean?
Mine was hot and cold at first then just cold and seemed very certain. I am now 22 days into NC and each day is just panic attacks, waking up at nights just getting hit with the pain and confusion :(. But I know from my last ex she did tell me she thought of me everyday after the break up. Also my brothers ex came back close to 3 months and said she thinks if she made the right decision every day. In both instances me nor my brother took them back the damage was done.
Thanks for another nice one dating guy. My ex has gotten to me a few times after one month of the breakup and we also talked on phone and laughed a lot like we use to do while we were together. It’s a LDR and we never had a prob but he just broke up with that he prefs to have someone closer . I’m moving on but trying to do much healing.
I love to watch your videos. You're always on point. Thank you
I'm pretty sure my ex isn't certain, she has told me as much. But I'm also pretty sure she's not coming back, because she also told me she is determined to be the strong one and not give in to temptation. She doesn't even want to come pick up her stuff at my house because "she's not feeling strong enough yet to see me" and "she can't say goodbye to me again". Ugh. So I'm left here in limbo.
Thank you Rory. Your videos helped me heal
Thank God My Guy is Very Certain💯💯💯
i love u omg. ur so smart & helpful
Samantha Mills you seem so cute
Heyy Rory! Maybe can you make a video about you ex wanting an ego boost by you reaching out ? Or in there mind they go through a time where no contact is making them more annoyed and makes them sad ?
Shout out to the discord boys, they are life saviors
Getting over a breakup is like reverse pregnancy. 😕
Ur still adressing us at 1am european time 😭
Ex still in rebound btw, i think she's really certain of the "right move"
My ex went with a rebound then left him and reached out to me 4 months after NC. But things are not gonna work between im perfectly fine but she is mentaly unstable. anyway dont give hope but dont wait for it either, grow, become stronger, and live your life
@@theherowedoneed tkt gros, pas de contact depuis fevrier :D
They don’t miss me just saw they have a new but mostly blank profile on Grindr lol
Wow this is what happened to me. My ex dumped me after 2 years together. We were in LDR for 3 weeks before breaking up, no big fight, I didn’t see it coming, I assumed it’s GRASS IS GREENER. cause he used to trying to break with me before when he got drunk 1 year ago, saying he wants to be free, be alone. (But he apologized the next morning, and we made up)
I did beg and plead but it didn’t work. Then I accepted it, and decided to walk away. The first day, he sent me a text like how we used to, asking if I’m okay and stuffs. Then he wrote me again on the 5th day and then the next 2 weeks, and the next 2 weeks.
The last one seems more distant tho. I think he realize that I don’t want to talk to him, so he tried to move on (I tried to do NC) so i’m not sure what I should do. He’s seeing a girl 10 days after we split up!! (He didn’t cheat)
I’m so devastated and still want to get back. Hope someone could tell me what I should do. Now I restarted NC for 4 days. It’s been 1.5 months after breaking up. Sad like rain... 😭
No Contact! Act like you don't give a shit lol. Well that you have your life to worry about, which you should mainly concentrate on. But trust me as a guy, that's probably the most effective thing to do because it hurts our ego. Your value rises in our eyes without us even realizing. And don't worry about the other girl, I can tell you from experience it doesn't help. I slept with a girl a month after my break up and felt the same about my ex so...yeah don't even worry, For the most part it's only a distraction. Good Luck!
xxTOPGUN xx I’m not sure if my ex wants me back. The last few weeks before we split up he seems bored to death. Even if we always do something together, he’s always on his phone. Watching something or playing games.
By the way when is your book going to be available? Would love to read it. Thanks Rory. Best Reguards. BRIAN from NH.
July 31st!
6 months into divorced. No contact no nothing, unfriended on fb, instagram. Thing are clear as it is. Cant believe someone u love n love u can be so cold. Look like moving on is the only option.
Chan Dara Cheav have u heard about MGTOW ( men going their own way ) look it up and thank me later . Good luck and keep ur head up
Walter Estrada i’ll do it. thank you so much.
Chan Dara Cheav it will give you clarity .. it helped me a lot . Welcome to the brotherhood
Do not go MGTOW
Michael Panayi why not ?
My relationship of 7 months ended about a month ago, and I followed your advice on no contact. I recently started a new job and my ex texted me congratulating me. We have been texting for a few days, just chit chat and a bit of catching up. I kept the talks light hearted, and didn't make an effort to keep the conversation going if it died off. She's been initiating most of the texting but it's been about a week now. Should I make an effort to go back to no contact if I feel like she's texting me just to see if i'm still in back-up plan mode? I don't want her to think of me just as a friend, and the way the conversations are going I feel like things are heading in that direction. We've been talking quite frequently since the break up and I don't think there's been enough time for her to truly feel the break up. Should I tell her I don't want to settle for being friends because I think we're worth more than that, or just keep the casual conversations going?
Second boom and was great last night with you on discord with the rest of the guys it was so insightful
Is there a way to preorder your book?
Was there last night for that question it does suck and rory is right I had and ex long ago that I broke up with after saying she hated me calling me every nasty name and she came back after about 6 years after her bf left her for someone else thing is i was with my current ex at that point and she said she reached out to see how i was and after talking to me she realised that she still loved me and was in love with so it can happen just sometimes when you dont want it to and that played a part in my breakup and now that person who reached out to me while i was still with my ex has just got engaged after being with a new guy for about 4 months but i didnt want her back when she reached out so she caused some arguments in my relationship but iam happy she has moved on and found someone just would like to think my current ex will maybe do the same and reach out I mean the other girl did it after 6years and I never expected it and had completely moved on
Robert Barton she left you 6 years ago? Now realize she wants you and still love you?
@@GirlsOnTop_ that 1 did when we started talking again but read my other comment you'll see what happend at the end of my relationship but I didnt want her back I had at the start broke up with my ex because I thought I still had feelings for this other woman but I realised I didnt and that I had a good woman I think that may of stuck in her head for the rest of our time together so I doubt my ex will come back not this 1 anyway and thing is she was the 1 who made me feel like I wanted to get married I'd never felt that before
my ex gf for almost 3 years contacted me after going no contact after almost a month she just asked me to delete all our photos together on my fb..she blocked me already after breaking up with me, but today all of a sudden she just contacted me through email..what does it mean and what is the best reply or approach to this..thank you..btw love your vids and dating guy it helps me a lot
You don't reply to such a message at all. Keep her in the no contact zone.
Guys, join the discord! It’s the best support group!
Oh he seems very certain... The more I give him space the more he will not come back...the more he realize stuff...and thinks it's good for the both of us...we are on ldr so...using only one app which I feel he already deleted... I haven't heard from him since he called me over a week ago...while he said he would be there for me when he broke up with me..he was and has been breadcrumbing me...there were times he acted like his old self but can feel he's holding back...currently going through health problems and this is not the time to lie to me and make me feel he's my support system...I even feel he feels relieved and liberated...broke up with me almost three months ago...and he's already MIA for more than a week.. How much more next month and the years to come...im not expecting him to come back anymore
Video idea:
What if you suddenly cane across hard times like major life changes and it was the reason for a break up? Is it better to just let go because my ex wasn't giving me the support I needed or is it my fault for looking to him too often for emotional support and stressing him when he may have had his own problems? Should there even be a chance or is the trauma to much to over come?
Let yourself be hurt. That means you are healing. Your brain is chewing information and soon it's gonna swallow it!
I am currently 2 months into NC. 3 months since she broke up with me. I have done a massive amount of work and possibly got the most productive 2 months of my life including a new exciting job lined up for October... but I cannot get her out of my head and its always resonating there. Its like a curse. I have the stupid little hope that she will reach out but im honestly skeptical. We didn't fight or argue, no cheating or non of that nonsense, we had awesome times together, and went through a lot with each other ending in the hospital at different times and taking care of each other, loss of a family member who was like my second mother, her mother losing her job, etc. However with my current job I couldn't spend much time with her. I would see her maybe twice a week and would always be traveling. I would drive 1.5hrs from work to her place to be with her for a few hrs at night (we both live with our moms so space was hard too me by). I know it was me not being there more often that made her call it quits... but Idk if all that was enough for her to doubt herself and one day reach out? We didn't end in bad terms and we both mentioned we didn't close the doors for the future. She has a normal 9-5 job and weekends off btw. We are both in our late 20s. Any comments?
You only have that one option...NC and stick to it. As hard as it is you have to be strong, keep working on yourself. Time and space. I am pulling for you bro.
I'm at the point where I'm ok if he doesn't come back. I just want to stop feeling sad.
Always hit like first than listen 🤗
@thelovechat Well I’ve been separated from my ex for about a year left at three months pregnant , but my daughter is five months old now and I see her on and off days but my ex told me she had feelings and I set up a date but next day said I can’t I love you as a dad but that’s it she completely backed off so now I’m just focusing on being a dad but any advice would help thanks
Do a video on - breaking up with a person and breaking up with situation P S nice video ✌️
Does that apply to someone with a level of NPD too? Sorry Rory, just curious. Thanks for all your work and help! Pulse.
1CAG u better run and never look back if you were with an NPD, u will never win that battle
Wow. Thanks for this. You're so smart.
it's been over a year. feels pretty certain.
Trust me it can be years one messaged out the blue over ten years later wanting to take me out for a drink, go no contact, self improve be the best version of your self, live life to the max, laugh every second of the day , trust me they notice and will reach out to you, have faith stay strong, peace
@@justamannothingmore1999 Completely agree! I contacted an ex that I broke up with after 4 years!! lol But yeah, just hang in there and continue improving!!!
Bro be patient I had a ex I dated in high school we was together for 2 months then she cheated on me I broke up with her... She reach out to me 3 years later
My ex texted me after 2 months of NC, he said he misses me and when i asked him to talk to me over a phone call, he ignored my text and didn't reply. After 2 days he texted me asking me to send him my pictures, i haven't replied yet. Him ignoring me literally turned me off. i don't know how should i react, any tips Rory??
Started doing theraphy and taking sleeping pill after breakup but i am doing great.
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My ex and I were casually dating We got physical after several months of dating. And then I thought we would be more relaxed but he continued to be mysterious. I interpreted it as his disinterest in me so I mirrored his actions and started treating him coldly. He responded withq coldly towards me which made me begin to ignore him and then him ignoring me. I have apologized twice for my part in this whole ignoring situation and he excepts them but then is weird again I things quickly became awkward and uncomfortable again for no reason we stopped talking making iContact or even touching each other it has been so weird and uncomfortable for me being in the same dressing room with him and not acknowledging each other so I decided to move dressing rooms a month ago at this point he and I have to see each other but I’m really battling between making eye contact with him or turning my head away because I don’t want to obviously be ignoring him I want to set myself back into a neutral state I don’t know what he’s thinkingstarted to feel so uncomfortable in my changing room that I asked to switch into another changing room at work preparing for the shows that we put on every day. We rarely see each other passing by in between show cues and currently change our paths so that we don’t have to cross or we don’t make eye contact at all. I’m trying my best to do the no contact rule but it is very difficult it’s been a month should I still be ignoring him should I acknowledge him should I just casually make eye contact with him technically I am the one that left him so you would say I’m the dumper but I was really dumping because he was becoming cold to me so by default I dumped him but I have felt that he has been playing all the cards at what point does the no contact rule just not work is it too difficult when we work together and have to see each other every day? This is such a sticky situation for me please help
My biggest fear is that another talk is not going to do the job. I’ve already apologized twice for things that he had equal part in and he always except my apologies but doesn’t take any on the blame himself I really did feel that she was a good one that has gotten away and that I somehow messed things up I feel like the last thing that happened was me saying very nice things to him and he did not respond to them and so I feel really the ball is in his court Do I lose hope and give this one up? If at all of there being any chances of him and I getting back together what do I have to do? I’m one step away from a voodoo doll whitch