If A Man Wants A 50/50 Relationship, THIS Is What He Means!
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As a man myself, this man is speaking straight up facts. Ladies, do not compromise on your relationships.
Keep chasing, begging woman to pay their bills. If a woman want me to pay her bill she gotta be the one who chase and beg me
@karlbeat okay incel.
@@karlbeatGo date a man
@@xfacme7815That’s facts. If the man has to pay for everything and he can actually afford to pay for everything he is the price not you.
I recently went through a tough breakup. My 7 year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been really hard for me. I still love my ex so much and can't stop thinking about him. I've tried everything to win him back, but nothing has worked. It's frustrating, and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I've been trying to move on, but I can't seem to get him out of my mind. I know it might sound strange to share this here, but I miss him a lot and just can't stop thinking about him.
I understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar situation when my 12 year relationship ended. I couldn't just let him go, so I did everything I could to win him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, and their guidance ultimately helped me to bring him back into my life.
Amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact them?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can help restore your relationship with your ex.
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Since childhood I always knew I was never going 50/50 none of the women in my family have ever been expected to go 50/50
50/50 is not a choice for most people. The average American does not make enough money for one person to work.
I don't know who these conversations are for. Also, if a woman has a college degree and she's so capable why would you want to sit at home and never make any money. Should a man just pay for your student loan debts trying to work multiple jobs.
What is the purpose of education?. I don't think it's about splitting the bills down the middle. It's about putting in 100 /100 effort for the family to prosper, whether That is somebody standing home or going to work as long as some important work is being done.
No one said women don't want to work in these 50/50 relationships because as you can see we all gots to work, however where the women's money is going to should not be the men's business. Especially if he wants children.
@@maiamiimaiam4343 If you are in a marriage or (long-term relationship and living together) where a woman money go is definitely your business. Men can't say in a marriage where his money goes is none of her business.
People will cynically say when it comes to dating women nowadays that your money is her money and her money is her money and men are not going for that. That is a sucker deal
My guess is people are smart enough to know this is a completely subjective matter, but want to broadcast their opinions as the objective truth in order to justify their chosen method of fulfillment in life. Some people justify their existence by fulfilling a role, and in this case a lot of people seem to have the desire to fill predetermined roles lest they face the horror of an arbitrary and meaningless life.
@@braelon370 I think you underestimate people's willful ignorance.
A lot of these conversations are men virtue signaling how masculine they are and how much of a provider they are.
And on the women's side it's them trying to shame men to provide them with a lifestyle that they don't really have to try that hard and go out into this world and workforce.
In my opinion, that is what most of these discussions are.
Both of y’all are contributors. Y’all are not providers. That’s ok. Go a 50/50 pick me. Oh but y’all don’t want her. Y’all want the women that y’all can’t afford, then you try to SHAME her into being with you.
50/50 relationships actually is exactly what makes relationships work long term...The problem is that most people including Internet dating influencers does not understand what that means...
By their logic 50/50 or fair trading means that both people are doing same exact tasks or exchanging same exact things 😆
Let me ask you this:
Do you getting scammed every time when you go to starbucks ?
Why not? You exchanging completely different things are you not? Lmao...
Same exact pattern goes with relationships...
An example of 50/50 relationship would be where a guy goes to work busts his arse there and pays the bills while women makes home a place where guy all he has to do is just chill and relax...
(You can switch genders or whatever if that offends you lol,but you get the point of this example)
50/50 relationships simply means exchanging things of equal value and NOT just where both people does same exact things which logicly is just bad work distribution lol
its fluctuates as well.
and on top of it, this is just beating a dead horse.
for these guys at the end of the day, you do your relationship or marriage, and ill do mine. its all about what you two are willing to agree with.
but believe you me if one person is not pulling their weight , it wont matter what agreement you have. it had better get fixed!!
But more often that not, it's never 50/50. The woman mostly ends up doing more.
These people just want to get the most they can from their partners with no efford back
I can pay you to make the house a home or interior design my home, but if you want to live in that home you got to pay 50% of the rent
@@richierich8628live alone bro 😂 it's called roommate and most women prefer female roommate to pay 50% rent because they don't have sleep with them or risk getting sa'ed. So, live alone and enjoy loneliness pandemic 🤭💀
Stephan thanks for this video.
Its not my job and i need one still
The minute you said it doesn’t work , you were not credible at all
You're having this conversation with the tackiest versions of 50/50 in mind. This is a bad faith discussion. You're simply discussing a bad version of 50/50 which is no different than a bad version of a traditional relationship. My friends don't get so focused fighting against what you disagree with that you forget how common it is for traditional relationships to fail.
Whatever your relationship structure. It has to be a version of it that is quality and mutually beneficial. There is no known relationship structure that satisfies the majority of men and women. If there were, we would see that be the most dominant relationship structure while lasting successfully.
Respectfully, I don't think you all have a good understanding of a healthy "50/50" partnership.
Amen❤🙏🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
Idk wtf he talking about in my experience it started out 50/50 and over time I most def was doing more, spending more money and still doing house stuff. So I feel like he pandering to woman
50/50 just means, the man wants to save money for his actual wife. He wants a roommate with benefits.
You just want to live for free
@@hughjanus2781woman now days don't want to do anything they live in fantasy world 😂
@@hughjanus2781 Thank you!
inequality is the basis for relationships
Depends on income
When men do half of the pregnancy and child birth. I will be paying half of the money.
So your man should just build you a house just cause he got you pregnant
The child owe you for pregnancy the man dont owe you
Get off of my comment when you don't understand the basics of things. No time to waste to explain it to you.
@@Random.sachen1 you cant make me get off your comment
"when men can do something that I know is physically impossible for them to do, then I'll go half with him". Make it make sense.
All true! Happend with my ex and I. Started 50/50 then he slowly just turned into a princess lol! I made most of the money, took care of the groceries and home. He could barely be bothered to walk our dog when I wasn't home. Then had the nerve to say things like "why don't you go put on some lingerie for me" 😅yeah- let me get right on that after cooking, cleaning, walking the dog and taking out the trash...oh also- wanna buy me some lingerie? Cuz I just spent all my money on our bills 😂😂😂😂
exactly!!!! 2 faced, fork tongued men like that, who baby themselves to the expense of a woman - they are on all time rise these days! Any woman will only lose if allowing such in her life! Sorry you went through that! We learn from our own mistakes, unfortunately, but boy do we learn!
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It’s typically (HINT: typically) different when a woman is doing more than a guy because the guy starts to take advantage of her. Whereas a man doing better (financially) than a woman is not really going to affect the relationship because woman will typically honor that more than anything.
@DandLucy,
He sounds exactly like my ex husband. Glad you are out of there
@mineandmine4528 you too! 😊
50/50 was the death of our marriage.
bcs yu were lazy
@@jumbo-mi4ve why don't you give birth to children? That would make it real 50/50. Dusty
You can't really change that.Having a kid isn't a favour you do to the man.Its something you do for yourself.A man simply happens to benefit from it.@@kanikakumari7219
@@jumbo-mi4ve because you spell like a 3rd grader & you’re a bum
@@jumbo-mi4ve Right. I think ALL women should require their man to pay ALL the bills and do housework. If he's not willing then don't give him any children. Let him be alone and childless. If he does those things in the beginning and then switch up, leave him.
BALANCE!!! Thank you, Stephan. It's so great to hear someone else usimg that word. Equity and equality are different.
Equality means complimentary of two. They create a one because of their complement complementary skills.
They want a beautiful woman, but they don't realise how expensive it is to be beautiful, skin, hair, clothes, nails, etc. And they still want 50/50
I don't need that superficiality, I need a functional Woman.
@@piggybank386well, I have seen a girl with 167 kg and a moustache that may fit your criteria!
By the way, her bf is paying for her everywhere lol because she has a disability and can not work
@@piggybank386 you know nothing about a woman then. Evryone says so untill they sleep with a woman who has hauiry legs, cellulite, etc. Only tampons and pads every month cost money.
@user-br9ru9nw8f Your beliefs creates your reality.
You are free to believe whatever you want to believe.
But you are responsible of the consequences from that free will.
So...Choose wisely !
Real beauty doesn’t need all of that
SheRaSeven1 talks about this all the time! Never do a 50/50 relationship. It is a scam and men will use and deplete you! Don’t do it!
It should also be taken into consideration this is the exact same woman that brags about taking advantage of men for their money and resources as well as constantly being unfaithful to her husband.
If you literally perceive this woman to be your personal "role-model", this definitely reveals far more about you than the ones you so passionately criticise to be honest.
Don't women use and deplete the man??? Every time??? Right
@@Fireslanga1 the woman usually does more than the man - cooking, cleaning, raising the children, running errands, etc. So it makes sense for the husband to be the provider/breadwinner.
@luxuryqueen42 bullshit not in today's world sorry. Yall deplete us that's why we die first. We do most the real work.
@luxuryqueen42 bullshit women don't do that shit today. No. Yall want a lifelong father. Hope your father is alive
I can never love a man who wants 50/50. It’s business, period
You are absolutely right! I got divorced because I couldn't stand being a woman and a man at the same time. Provide, be a mom, housekeeper, never again! Why do we need then a man? cook and clean for him?
Then 50/50 wasn’t your issue. If it was 50/50 you wouldn’t have been a housekeeper
That was not a 50/50 relationship, so you did not prove that a truly 50/50 relationship does not work.
@hughjanus2781 why is that ?
You was 80/20 girl
When people ask me why I'm single, its because of things like this
Good , stay single
you are waiting for your sugar daddy, aren't you?
Aint nobody about to take care of your grown a**. That's for the kids. Either you pay where you stay or stay alone.
@@pablodacosta8356because she doesn’t want to do majority of the work? Grow up
@@tarrius1210she says this because as the video said, she’d be the one taking care of her partner…
I appreciate this video Stephan. You're right. When I worked, went to school at the same time, and picked up our children by myself, I was exhausted, and the hubby still expected me to be intimate, but I was exhausted.😟 Years later, the Lord changed things around, whereas I had to be a stay-at-home mom because of circumstances, and I eventually excepted my role, and understood the importance of at least one parent being home for when the children ( a few of them were teens by then) got out of school, etc. Speaking on behalf of women and stay-at-home homeschooling moms, a think a stigmatism is put on us, because we don't bring anything to the table financially, and we're looked at as less valuable by some of our children and our spouse. Without the wife doing a whole host of things, the husband wouldn't be able to even manage all that we do, plus work a full time job. When my son started acting up really bad, I told my husband that he needed to step up, because he had been taking a back seat too long as far as parenting, and that I was exhausted. He used to tell me that I was a superhero , so I told him that I'm not a superhero, things were just thrown on me and I just had to deal with it the best way that I could, but no more. I told him if he didn't step up I was going to leave and sign over custody to him for our son. He then said "well if you leave, then I'm not going to be able to work this job". That made him quickly realize that with me sacrificing to stay home, he was then able to go to work worry free, work overtime if he had to, and he wouldn't have to question who was going to watch the children, feed them, help with homework (the ones who go to school), keep the house clean, take care of the children when they got sick, etc. So no it will never be 50/50 , because if I were to be put on payroll for everything that I do, I would be making more money than my husband.😂
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This is a good comment.
I agree with you. I told my husband the same. I grew extremely tired of his excuses, low provision, not stepping up with the family, etc. And dammit! I'm not your superwoman. He's figuring it out now.
I really dislike the argument of if I had to translate what I do in pay you would make more money than him? You can’t ask to be paid to watch YOUR CHILDREN!!!!! You get paid to watch OTHER PEOPLES CHILDREN!!!! Not your own. You also cook and eat the food also you aren’t just cooking for yourself.
Obviously men are expected to do more than pay bills or else you wouldn’t have threatened to leave. I don’t do ultimatums as soon as you threaten to leave me I would’ve told you to go and immediately put you on child support. I’m a business owner and can go into the office whenever I feel like with my daughter. That’s why I’m glad I don’t work for the best interest of someone else. No one can use that crap as an ultimatum against me.
I dont agree with 50/50, but to be honest, most guys are not making $80,000 so that salary is a bad example. And if they are, in some cities like NY, LA, SF, that's not enough to support 2 people. That being said, we are not taking into account the current economic state of the U.S. You're very lucky if you're living somewhere decent where rent is $1,500. These jobs aren't even matching inflation. If single people are complaining about the cost of living, then how do you think a man who's trying to pay 70% to 100% of the bills for two people or a family of 3 or 4 feels? Social media has everyone thinking that a 6 figure income is are soooo easy to obtain when the reality is that they aren't. The middle class is fading away and the wage gap between the extremely wealthy and most regular people is getting wider by the second. We have to be realistic about how finances before we to go into the relationships. The economy is not designed for everyone to be a high earner. It's just not. Opportunities are dwindling. Just look on the job boards. They are listing fewer and fewer decent career opportunities.
😂😂😂 if he loves you he’ll find a way. Stop financially supporting men and stop finding excuses for him!!! 🤢🤢
You're contradicting yourself.
I don't think you're contradicting yourself. I 100% agree with your comment. The world is too complex to have a cookie cutter for complex situations like this. It would serve most people, middle class and below to have a partnership where things are 50/50. And that means sharing portional responsibility for everything that makes up a couples life. That's cooking, cleaning, the kids, bills, whatever. This conversation is not a good one because he only used bad examples of 50/5p. He came up with a good example and just decided that paying bills based off % if salary isn't a good case for 50/50. It doesn't matter if a lot of people get it wrong. Most people do traditional relationships wrong too. That doesn't make traditional relationships a bad structure. It was held in bad faith with bad examples. No real world information involved.
well how about men get together collectively and use your bargaining power to demand changes?? if not, we are all going to be homeless and destitute because the wealthy men that can afford to pay 100% will continue to be greedy and take advantage of our economic situation until the kids will have to start working to help the parents with bills......which is happening here in seattle. I see many signs in stores saying WE HIRE 16 year olds....why? becasue rent and home prices are SKY HIGH out here, hell, even the dog has to work......so how far we will allow them to take this?????
You shouldn't think about relationships if you can't provide. Is she going to pay her hospital bill on her own during pregnancy? Why should a woman live with a man like that?
I make 80k, own my own home, and will not have kids. Why would I go 50/50? Lol. I can afford to stay single. I don't need a second income to survive.
Bcuz if u met a guy who also made 80k, wouldn't it make more sense to combine your incomes for 160k in the household.
Simple economics
@@Mental_Alchemist Question is why would he pay all your bills. Just for some CAT? Not worth it. For you to clean? I could pay a cleaning lady every 2 weeks. So you can cook? I can eat simple things or get take out.
I can't afford to be single. I need a man I am planning on becoming a film producer, screenwriter, author, become my own publisher and entrepreneur and I need a man; a black man . I can't afford to be alone and I don't want to be alone. I want a rapper and he has to be black because no offense I just don't date outside my race, so he has to be black and rich and we must go 50/50 I help him and he helps me. I almost got fired from my job last week making a mistake if this rapper helps me I guarantee him I will do the same for him.
@@Mental_Alchemistno because it’s never 50/50. Women end up having to do the majority of housework. Also there is no way a man would ask his dream girl to go 50/50 with him, so this just proves he isn’t really into her like that
@MariaLiLV that isn't true. My Dream Girl would be more than willing to go 50/50 with me. In fact 100/100 bcuz it's US against the world.
She would want to contribute to our generational wealth in all ways....spiritually, mentally, physically, and financially.....bcuz she could..it wouldn't be a question. She just isn't selfish like that. She's also looking out for US and not just herself.
It's 2024, women have rights now and she would be wise enough to know thst "traditional" relationship think is thst way bcuz women didn't have equal rights back then.
If my grandfather had known that my Mom & Step-dad were going to go 50/50 on the bills, he would have had a fit!!!! I will NEVER go 50/50 with a man. It didn't work out for my parents & only means that the man is NOT 100% committed!!! THAT would be appropriate for a friend, NOT for a husband.
All this male and female penny counting. Ladies, keep your own place for a peaceful life. 50/50 is what friends do, best to keep the 50/50 boys as an acquaintance. Learn to make more money or live on less and don't depend on someone or let someone depending on you to pay half their rent, utilities, groceries, and vacations etc.
Nice to know that you think women's lives should always be 10x easier and that they should always be able to eat, sleep, and not pay rent for as long as they live JUST BECAUSE THEIR A WOMAN. People like you make the world burn.
Men, always remember that she can take 50/50 in the divorce but won't put in 50/50 in the marriage...let that sink in...
I was with someone (first relationship) where we went 50/50 on everything (including groceries) and he actually got mad when I said that I needed to get a second job in order to keep up my portion because he made more than me..
Get this..
He was acting mad simply because I wasn't going to have enough time to party with him and he felt like it wasn't fair that he was going to have to go out less.
Can't make this up folks
My dad provided for my mum & 12 kids. Being a man. He taught my 6 brothers the same. Why do male species especially black men, find such a basic requisite so difficult.
Well the problem is that providing does not mean paying all the bills. This is a social construct. Providing for a relationship or family is ensuring the overall well being and support of the family.
People have gotten this misunderstood and thats why marriage rates are low. In other cultures around the world, women help and work to support their husband.
Exactly women were brought on this earth to be helpmeets for the husband
But unfortunately some women don’t see it that way
Read the Bible
12 kids is crazy, but if a man is providing are you in the kitchen, cooking and cleaning and being a housewife?
@@ProvocoTube yes if I’m married to him if not I have no business having 12 kids with him and no
@@ProvocoTube exactly. And remember this, being a provider does not mean paying all the bills. That's a social construct and the reasok why so mang men especially black men are poor and making minimum salary( look up aversge salary for male)
Also, in other cultures and earlier cultures, women support by any means. Whether thats 20, 80 or 50 percent they also support their man.
Women, not all, want you as man to pay for everything while they continue working and pursueing school.
Think brother.
I think this 50/50 convo would end if people would be real.
As a man, you should do your best to provide for and protect your wife. If you can't pay all of the bills then cover the major ones at least. With that being said your wife has to be ok the lifestyle that your income can afford. If not then she should bring some income in as well and not pressure you or make you feel bad about what you can't do.
Lastly, a woman who really loves you is not going to watch you continuously bust your ass and not try to help just because you are the man. This also applies to men when it comes to their women and any household duties. People who truly love one another work together as a team. What that teamwork looks like varies on their relationship.
But why is that way of thinking set in stone? It’s 2023 it’s women making more money then men now a days getting way more help in life then back then they equally was fought and should be given in all aspect of life. It’s sounds sexest that the man is suppose to take take of things naturally humans evolved and adept to changes in life.
true
@@quinezleebosbecause people still believe that the man is still the head of the family and the woman is his support. How can you expect total respect and submission if you're not providing and protecting?
This is the truth. My husband is all about 50/50 for the finances. But when it comes to activities for the kids it’s 90% wife 10% husband. I’m separating from the military medically, and I informed him, I cannot do 50/50 anymore as my income will drastically change. OMG…. he is beyond frustrated. He has two bikes, 1 car and he literally makes over 6 figures, but he’s comfortable with spending the way he wants. We shall see how this unfolds, but I’m not backing down. Definitely since I was offered a job near my mom (job would be temporary out of state and then I could transfer) and he said NO, because he doesn’t believe in a husband and wife living in different states. As I’ve told him, he cannot have his cake & eat it too. You’re gonna have to cover the bills in the home, but I’ll make sure I still cover my own personal bills. He really doesn’t like this at all 🤷🏽♀️
Sorry but man still can't give birth. Relationship between a man and a woman cannot be equal.
7 yr relationship was always Dutch 50/50 he was emotionally unavailable no love.
it was like that from the very beginning for you guys? ouch,sorry...but at least, from what I gather from your comment, you are no longer entertaining him..And yes- there is a HUGE correlation between a man''s emotional un/availability and feelings for a woman and his spending/money habits!! Huge and direct correlation! .I wish you a great New 2024!
then you need to pick a different man, not blame the 50/50...he could have paid 100% and ya'll still would have the same issue
@@carsonc29 Exactly. Plus, a lot of women who claim they were in a 50/50 relationship that did not work out are actually describing one that was clearly not 50/50.
@@transcendent7lucidity pretty much..THEY picked a man that wasnt good..and he wouldnt have been good if he did pay all the bills (only difference is the woman would have been willing to put up with it since she is getting a free ride)..they just associate him being 50/50 as being the reason it didnt work out..I personally think women should want 50/50..cause most men out here who pay 100% of the bills WILL feel they have or should have 100% of the power in the household...I know thats how I would feel..if im paying 100%, then you as a woman have zero power or authority in household matters..how dare you give me UNEQUAL financial obligations then demand EQUAL power in the household...nope nope and HELL nope
ok then thats a love problem not a money problem tf
I needed to hear this, especially the 1st part about starting out 50/50 and then me as the guy ending up still doing less.
looks like these guys didnt hear about 4b movement and celibacy yet.
I’m automatically grossed out hearing about the woman shoveling the snow… yikes I hope she left.
50/50 is a joke, been married 27 years its more like 80/20.
Thats because you don’t run shyt. If you wanted 50/50 your woman would tell you no. You really have no say so lol
So 50/50 is actually not to be described that way. What you have been dealing with has not been 50/50, and that is the joke here.
50/50 does not exist in this planet. Somebody will always do more than the other.
Only desperate women will accept 50 ⁵⁰
Right. Desperate and dumb. Those types of women love their men more than their men love them.
@@sanyam8840 have you seen this economy? You can’t afford everything making 100k a year and only 20% of the population make 100k or more a year.
You sound like a sugar baby no one is taking care of you if you’re going to live under the same roof with your boyfriend/girlfriend y’all both should be putting in any man got to be desperate to date you fr😂
100% this 50/50 doesn't work. R.C Blake's talks just about the same thing
@@aniabrandt7 what part of 50/50 don’t work?
If it is actually 50/50 in every way, then it definitely works.
My husband wants the 50/50 relationship but then since I earn more money than him, Im 70 and hes 30. Gosh I didnt realize he would be this broke after marrying him. Ive come to realize that 99% of the stuff we purchased for our home came from my pocket and all the stuff for my kids were also my purchases. It can not be denied that some men these days are starting to get weak and feminine rather than masculine, not all men wants to stand up and be the provider. My husband thinks SAHM are lazy and that women should be working. But with our situation, Im seeing him now as a financial burden to me.
Do you think he married a 70-year-old for no benefit?
He means he wants to use you for all your labor, all your softness, and all the status and social capital you give him in his career and society. Worse, he means that he doesn't value any of those things or think they are equal or worth compensating. In his mind, the only thing of value is actual money, but that won't stop him from expecting you to be his mother, maid, therapist, chef, personal assistant, escort and prostitute. RUN.
@@worldadventuretravel First of all chef? 😆 that’s laughable most of you women don’t cook and make quick meals like spaghetti, hamburger helper, and burgers. Maid? For the most part you are cleaning up after yourself. Escort and prostitute is the same thing 🤦🏽♂️ also that’s a two way street why would you even bring up sex. Also sex isn’t every man’s top concern half the time women are in the mood for sex more than the man is.
so happy that real men are stepping up to the plate. everything discussed in this video is 100% accurate. A Man and A Woman are two totally different beings and we are wired differently. By NATURE women are nurtures, patient, caring, soft and feminine. That's her dominant position.. and understand if a woman is operating out of her masculinity it's because 1. she feels that's her only option. 2. Her femininity was misused, mishandled or not cared for properly and last her guy dropped the ball. Men by nature are Providers, Protectors, Leaders and Planners. ofc within both parties both energies exist.
Yea if gay men and studs didn’t kill this argument. It’s hella women on this earth who arnt feminine at all like 0% millions of them so u can’t say what’s natural humans evolved
Modern economics dictates a lot, not everyone makes 200K
And don’t forget women are the receivers !
Wmn only get this if they're are vrgns
Really convenient that women are "naturally" the ones getting all the benefits with no effort😂
Is almost like you made it up
In Africa there is no 50/50 African men are responsible ..❤.
Lol which part of Africa
They learnt quick
And they have 4 other wives FOH
That's a damn lie. They're lazy too.
Those men are dusty, too.
This is why I’m trying to leave my significant other because he wants to do 50/50 but I’m the only one who cooks and clean and he doesn’t. But I gotta work too? 🤣 fuck no.
Yes! You’re doing the right thing ❤
That is clearly not a 50/50 relationship then. If a relationship is 50/50, it is equal in every way, not just financially with a woman still doing all or most of the household tasks.
The man should be the sole provider if the woman is a stay at home mom and does all the housework. If there are no children and the woman is working the couple should split the bills pro rata, or in proportion to their income
Oh 😳 maybe he also wants
Another woman for himself
And another man for his woman
That's an honest 50 50
😂😂😂😂
Men if you paying all the bills please get you an account and put some money aside just for yourself if something goes wrong in the marriage because you will look like a real fool if it goes Vice versa. Some of these women not all are secretly putting money away for themselves just in case you mess up where she not losing everything. Next debate is joint accounts and separate accounts. 😂
We want that, we know that deep down. But we are affraid to admit it
I never dated an hour older man, even today in my 40s with my 15 years younger man I never paid anything.
I dumped my ex 4 years ago. He wanted that 50/50 crap but wanted ME to do the most of everything. Saying "I'm not paying for a woman to be with me. Then tried to come back to me this year with that same mindset. Only I had met a "real" man. He didn't believe in 50/50. He was always in tune with my needs and was a provider. We had to give each other space due to me needing to repair some things within me. I appreciate him more now. Mr. 50/50 can stay in his lane. I'm going with Mr. 100.😊
Love this ❤
You will notice 50/50 Dusties are losers in every other aspect of their life too.
I also got out of a 50/50 relationship yesterday and I hope I find a better partner.
@@priscillaagyemangduah4050 CONGRATULATIONS! Don't try to "find " anyone. Do you, love YOU and let him find you. It works out so much better that way.😉
And you Ms. 0
I don't need 50/50, just fair share of responsibilities and chores, if there is no fair share then there is always one side that leaches on the other
And most of the times it's the male not cooking, sleeping, sleeping with the woman and risking her body with pregnancy while expecting her to do everything like a beta male. Majority of the times, it's the male being a leaching and women burdening herself and resenting the 50-50 dusty
50/50 should only be talking after a divorce period..
Exactly 💯💯💯
You didn’t put 50% in but you want to take 50% out?
50/50 relationships don’t work, that discount doesn’t work out too well for men in the end
@@Kurio71 explain why doesn’t work?
Men will not benefit from a 50/50 relationship. If you want a home cooked meal after working 12 hour straight. Dont tell her she has to work as well. I promise you she will not have dinner ready every single night for you or havw breakfast made before you leave.😊
There are men who aren't going to be footing the bill for everything, but they also share the load around the household as well. It's not always the woman doing all the work around the home, plus working.
Even if you pay all the bills and help with housework she is going to get sick of cooking all the time. Also 12 hours? I’m not working a job with crazy work hours that’s what happens when you work for someone.
@@rgw1380rwIt’s crazy she says if you want a home cooked meal after you work 12 hours don’t make her work then you come home to spaghetti, tacos and hamburger helper 60% of the time and eating out 20% of the time 😆 and she may throw something together from scratch she saw on instagram the other 20% 😂
Id rather her work and I can cook. So just because she cooks and cleans maybe 1 hour a day that means she don't have to work? Get real lol.
@@user-ln9mn8xc5y "cook and clean maybe one hour a day" - how to say you don't know shit about cooking an cleaning w/o saying you don't know shit about cooking and cleaning 🤣🤣🤣
Only weaker (Beta ) males complain about paying the entirety (BEING THE PROVIDER IN EVERY ASPECT OF THE WORD), especially if he’s not in full innerstanding of what it truly means to be a protector, Alpha male, provider, MAN in every aspect of the word.
Oh we’re still using this corny shit in 2024, how old are you? 15?
cringe
The guy who invented the term alpha male, came out himself and said the hypothesis was flawed. The word is just cringe, kids see a cool word and run with it istg
For real. Alpha is so cringe these days. Sigmas are where it's at @@Aqotics
If you are a woman you should stop internalizing this alpha beta sh!t. Like seriously, the kind of alpha these people pretend to be is toxic. You should probably look out for the golden retriever man. Also avoid narcissists, psychopaths and sociopaths.
Most men earn way more than women, so how is 50/50 fair?
If you cant pay your half then you're going to be homeless
You should ask yourself why there aren't women who marry men with less money
@@richierich8628 If you can't carry and birth your half the children then your going to be childless.
Because you are an adult human being.
@@michelles7060 that’s not true at all. Female soldiers make the same as male soldiers. Female police officers make the same as male police officers. Female doctors make the same as male doctors. So on and so forth.
This is my marriage right now. We are dead! No relationship!
well how about men get together collectively and use your bargaining power to demand changes?? if not, we are all going to be homeless and destitute because the wealthy men that can afford to pay 100% will continue to be greedy and take advantage of our economic situation until the kids will have to start working to help the parents with bills......which is happening here in seattle. I see many signs in stores saying WE HIRE 16 year olds....why? becasue rent and home prices are SKY HIGH out here, so many homeless people on streets, in shelters, or quielty sleeping in their vehicles....wont be long till the dog will have to start working......so how far we will allow them to take this?????
Why wouldn't an independent woman want a 50/50 relationship? I think this is what confuses men.
If you really are self dependent, then you should want to be responsible for half.
Because a financially independent woman is not dependent of having a husband to support herself.
50/50 killed my 15 year relationship
I'm sorry for your loss
Killed my 17 year marriage
seems like other things killed it
How to be a simp 101
its a turn off she wont respect u be a ma and provide theres warning signs ladies look out for them 👀
😂😂😂😂😂😂 these internet influencers man I tell you
Young guys don’t listen to these weird dudes stack ya $ and do you until you find that one for you, you do not have to carry another adult simply cuz youre a guy a lot of dese dudes are pick me simps
No ur just incel bums
Equality doesn't mean women and men do exactly the same. It just mean they got equally validated in their strengths or what they offer. And what has somwone to offer is very individual doesn't matter if you are a woman or a man. Man and woman are supposed to compliment each other in order to form a solid team.
That headline is rubbish because you don't know what someone means by that. It's you assuming on it with your personal understanding. To get an understanding what someone means by that talk with the person directly.
It's so weird that people nowadays assume from one to all what others want, mean, think, feel etc.
Fucking talk with another directly!
If a man is head of his household 100% leadership then his providership should be the same way as a husband and leader of his household
If not married he should still be a provider at least
I was paying for 80% of the things, but soon discovered she doesnt want sex before marriage, so now Im not paying for anything until marriage. Im saving my self for marriage, that includes my money too.
Can't agree with my dudes view on this. 50/50 is simple as hell.
Yes..exactly..men make more..women..use more of their time..money..energy..😢..😢..women mental exhaustion..not attracted anymore..when treat a woman like cinderella..😢..true..right on..❤❤❤❤
Very well said.thank you Stephan for your great insight on this video
Everyone’s situation is unique. It’s a conversation that you should have.
All good!
The amount of simpsation in this comment section crazy😂😂
@@savantedrakeford7976 facts
This guy is giving me strong SIMP vibes
“Women look down on 50/50 relationships but want half of the stuff after the divorce.”
I saw this comment in the thread below and felt the need to repost it.
@@braelon370 Exactly if she don’t want to 50/50 keep that same energy if the relationship end.
the reason judges award women in their divorce, even when there is no kids involved is because the law sees cooking, cleaning, & laundry as physical labor, and women dont paid to cook, clean & wash their husbands clothes, if you marry a woman and she does most of the domestic labor in the home then the courts believe she should be compensated for her years of working
@@josiahbutler2254 How is a court supposed to keep track of how much physical labor the woman is doing? Does the amount of physical labor affect divorce compensation? Is it not also physical labor when men do the same tasks? Are they not rewarded the same? These some very illogical rules if they are real.
@@braelon370which men are actually doing all these tasks as well? When is the last time you or your homies gave birth? Men mowing the lawn once in two weeks cannot compare to the amount of physical labor women contribute in their families
Why should a man pay all the bills? For some CAT? Naw not worth it. Cooking and cleaning does not even take 4 hours a day. Stop being lazy.
50/50 means to me men provide the money and women provide the kids.
I dont care. Im paying all the bills i love providing for my lady.
50 50 for modern women, men take full responsibility only for wifey.
100% is for a traditional wife. Traditional wives do not exist in the USA anymore. 50/50 is for modern women.
This guy is specking Wisdom 👑 🙏🏻🗽
Let me sum this up....be alone men...even if you make 80k....be alone..it ain't worth it.
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🤣 Bro, they not fooling me with this insincere and uncharitable conversation. People have been mostly failing at traditional relationships. A large amount of Women wanted out of that lifestyle and men are exploring other relationships possibilities to accommodate that change, respectfully. Bro picked the worst possible outcomes to talk about 50/50. No matter the relationship style, we'll have to find a way to make it fair and mutually beneficial. It doesn't matter if you're traditional or progressive. You can fail at either one if you aren't good at being a team. Time are different, we don't have to rid the world of traditionalsim. But folks should try and be more understanding as people attempt to come up with different relationships styles that may fit their life morally and economically.
@@ShayMarquel well said💯
Single men keep other men single. Misery loves company
@chrzig554 why u think cuz a man is single he's miserable? Fuckin simp without a woman by your side. You can only speak for yourself and your simp mindset that u are miserable without a woman. I'm happier than ever. Fuckin as many as I want when I want to. I would never trade that for one woman lol
I agree about women being in our minds. Mine is always going. Well said.
Wild. I'll just say this. Paying one hundred percent of the bills while having a woman there, possibly adding to the financial burden, essentially coasting through life while I take care of EVERYTHING. Doing everything I can to make sure the house is taken care of and extra for her materialistic needs.
Or pay 100 percent of the bills while living alone and single as I have been for the past 7 going on 8 years. Yeah I'll take the latter option. Especially with how some of these women are in 2024.
Amd no before you call me sassy, or princess, or sparkle what ever yall say. I don't agree on 50/50. But I'm pretty sure most men, while providing for their lady would like his partner to do something other than love rent free and add to the financial burden.
But I'm getting ahead of myself. Ever since the bear vs man argument men, ALL MEN, have been labeled as dangerous, toxic, overly aggressive, and something to be feared. Countless, countless women telling us or posting on SM to "Not approach us at all, we don't need no man, and leave us the fuck alone." That doesn't sound like a woman that wants the protection/provision of a man. And before all this you had women cheating on their hard working husbands or boyfriends because they "worked" too much. Sweetheart, why do you think he's working so many hours? To keep a rough over your head, keep your hair done, your nails done, making sure you have the best clothes. Your man wouldn't have to work so much if you pitched in just a little help. 15 percent. Hell even 10 or 5 percent.
But I digress. The relationship and dating pool is scuffed. With women completely hating, fearing, and saying they don't need a man, I've given up on finding a partner and have strictly stuck to the single life. Good job. My own car. Me own place. I have everything I need. And for the record I don't hate women. It's the women that hate, fear, and use and hurt(Physically and mentally) us men.
Rant over. Stay blessed. Stay safe everyone.
None of that lol
I cover it all as a man
Tf
What if both make equal and even so, high income? Say $130K each. Why wouldn't that be 50/50?
i doubt two people who make $130k are even bringing up a 50/50 conversation, let’s be real
@@careforjusticealwaysHow would that convo look? I’ve seen people that make that much still fight over finances and money.
They want 50/50 when it comes to money but not the chores, child rearing, and every thing else then they want the women to be 80-100% and them 20% to 0. That is why it doesn't work.
@@LilithTheAquarian369oh yes they sure do 😂😂😂
Equality v Equity learn the difference
Finally, I feel understood.
Nah im sorry bro I'm going to have to disagree on you on this one you outta pocket you either pandering to women. Or you just don't understand what's going on in modern relationships.. my parents was 50/50 when I was younger my mama wanted dare let my dad come home I have him do all the work . And my father told me.. people like this guy that spitting out this nonsense is going to be part of the problem.
50/50 works trust me
lot of bums in this comment section
50/ 50 can work and does work..communication is key..of course - one makes more .Pay more..RICH people pay more taxes..Again - know person U dating or going to b in a relationship with ❤
Yea it can work if there is no birthing or taking care of any children. Sure
Men who actually can blink make more than the average woman. It really doesnt work at all.
When tf has Donald Trump paid taxes? He’s RICH
@@maiamiimaiam4343 Yah love constantly bringing up children. What’s your excuse not to work if you don’t have children immediately or once they grow up and become independent. Yah keep bringing up children like they stay two year old toddlers for the remainder of your lives. Do you know how expensive it is to clothe and feed three high schoolers alone with no financial help? They will be doing the blunt force of the cleaning anyway since that’s another thing yah like to throw around. Most men are not going to be able to afford taking care of all that especially if the kids play sports.
@@maiamiimaiam4343 Also stop acting like yah don’t want to have sex and yah don’t want to have children. So stop using your reproductive system as a bargaining chip it’s weird.
As far as I'm concerned, Pandora box is open and there's no closing it again. They're going to have to get used to 50/50 this is the world they wanted.
50/50 was not about money alone … men want to split bills but not household labor, childrearing and other chores - so no, women aren’t gonna get used to it. There’s a reason divorce rates continue to be high and 2/3 of divorces are initiated by women. No one has to put up with your bs clown
Yes!! ❤thank you for saying this
I agree
He paid for the mortgage because he mad twice what i made....and i was expected to pay for EVERYTHING else, no exceptions. He wanted me to pay $1000+ per month on groceries, i was suppose cook and clean, and if i didnt want to i needed to pay to hire someone to do it, because he wasnt going to do it..." why am i still worrying about food?"....i was working extra shifts as a nurse in order to pay all the utilities for a FIVE bedroom home, as well as a gardener and pool guy...every week id come home, have to dump water our of the trash cans left on the curb, or come home to dirty dishes with a full dishwasher because he just COULDNT do any of that....ALL for me to be called LAZY if i took just a mental or physical break for more than one day. And i was STILL called a gold digger, or that my expectations of men were "ridiculous". Any of his friend's wives who ere stay at home mothers, it was "they got so lucky, they should be living in a trailer park somewhere and theyre living such a lavish lifestyle"....i could go on and on, makes me sick so glad im out.
If he pays all of your mortgage .. be happy he’s doing something to keep a roof over your head
I hope
You got rid of that BOY not man. It didn’t even sound like he loved you. Hope you found better.
I wouldn't have put up with him AT ALL. I told the last guy I wasn't paying sht and I cut him off immediately. One thing a man is not going to do is disrespect me, not with his words or actions. It won't happen.
@@shayemoore If I have to pay for everything including private school tuition because no kids of mine will be in crappy public schools and I have to 100% provide for a woman that’s fine. But you WILL have a meal prepared and not that canned or boxed crap either a meal made 100% from scratch. Because if you are going to make quick meals like hamburger helper, tacos, burgers and spaghetti you need to work those meals can be made after you work and heck I’ll cook sometimes too. But if you aren’t making meals 100% from scratch on a consistent basis you need to work because quick meals are expensive in the long run.
@@hughjanus2781 No. You don't tell me what I can't cook. You WILL eat whatever I cook, or you can starve. What a man is not going to do is disrespect me just because he's paying the bills. You WILL get checked. As a matter of fact, I'll pay my own bills so I don't have to see your face. It's that simple. I don't need you. You must be used to dealing with desperate chicks. Men are scared of women with my mentality because we won't do sht their way, we'll just leave your ass.
Yall read all these books but the bible. Women worked
This man is the REAL deal!!
Economics
True story ..the other day at 3 am we sleeping and i guess the fridge flew open and everything came crashing down..the wife wasnt behind me with the a.r. butt naked like i was...what happened to 50/50 when she thought there was a break in and i had to possibly fight for our life?...she was in the room waiting for the all clear😂
Fam a 🤡
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😂😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣 This shit makes me laugh. Everyone dealing with something and usually its some BS drama they came with in their own head. take your percentages and opinions and shove 'em you know where!!
How many procent is acceptable for a woman to pay per month.
I we are going to buy a house eventually i would love to invest my money too.
So i wanna know what is good for the balance of masculine and feminine energy in the relationship. We also have a house keeper. Ofc we still do things in the house and garden but yeah🙈