I appreciate this video but I think this is a generational thing. The young women in their 20s today want a man to make 100K while they make 30K and have him pay all the bills and her debt. 100K is great for him alone but if she isnt contributing much financially that 100K aint enough for the both of them and this weighs on men.
More than enough it's called living within or below your means. If my man can only afford us living in a 2 bedroom so be it. I'd rather this then me having to work and help him pay bills for a 3 it 4 bedroom home.
But guess what happens when y'all break up...She won't wunna leave because she's paying the bills as well....If she ain't paying shit, she can't control shit
@@neneosei7168 you are probably a liability. No man needs a woman that's a liability. If a woman can't support her husband, I wonder what she is doing with the man. That's how those women end up cheating on the men because all she does is stay at home while the man is working. Stupid society. Selfishness
@@Emvevo212 taking care of the kids and home is a full time job. if he is treating her like a roommate she is more likely to cheat than with a provider man she will also respect a man also. ua-cam.com/video/X0Dfw-yeZQA/v-deo.html
It's the opposite, if a man is stingy/ broke a woman won't ever fully give herself to him. Around him she feels unsafe and unloved. That's why you see so many woman divorce their husbands or so many women not be submissive to their man. She doesn't respect him, because she thinks he doesn't show love. A way to a woman's heart is by protecting and providing for her.
@ymarrero23 Bullshit a Woman is supposed to be Feminine to begin with.Handling Money doesn't Dictates a Nature of Men or Women.Either a Woman is Feminine or not.And Provide doesn't mean a Man paying all the Bills.If a Woman lives alone.She's paying all the Bills.So Wtf Should a Man pay for everything when He's sharing everything down the middle with a Woman.For all that a Man can just live by Himself.Women like You don't value a Man.You just want a walking 🏧.Men ain't doing this kind of Shit no more.Even when Men do pay for everything They still don't get the proper respect and appreciation that They deserve.So Again What benefits are in it for Men to just be walking Wallets for Ungrateful Women.
@@mimia.4810 It's not the man's responsibility to heal a women. You have been taught on how to be a dysfunctional dependent women. If you're stingy, can't open your heart, that's on you as a woman. The other person can support you in opening your heart but don't confuse it with it being their responsibility. No, it's not. Learn to take some accountability for your actions rather than hiding behind the "women card". It's just an excuse.
That’s exactly how my husband and I work our finances. From day one, we had only one account. We would Argue about one over spending on miscellaneous items. One day I said since we can’t figure out this argument, let’s try opening our own separate accounts. All the money we make together goes into 1 account. Every pay period a certain amount of money is transferred to our separate accounts. Once you spend that money, that’s it. It took 3 years to figure out that that’s what works for us. Since making that decision, we have not argued about our finances AT ALL!!!
The man should pay ALL the bills. If you build with a man he will leave you trust me Save your money. Watch sheraseven on UA-cam about 50/50 and building men.
I had a EX girlfriend who she conned me into moving in with her. After awhile, her intentions to use me were very clear. I paid all the bills (every one) while she didnt work. Hell, after she even got out of "school" she even then refused to work. She even hardly helped with the house. Oh, by the way, she didnt have kids. She had the thought "youre the man, so you should take care of me" while I worked a hard labor job while she literally sat on her ass all day and dint do anything. I will never be used like that again, nor will I be financially abused. Thank god i found someone who at least contributes (she doesnt make as much as me, but she does what she can and I am ok with that). Oh by the way, she had the mindset (your money is my money, even though she didnt work for it. Glad i got out of that "relationship" even though it wasnt a partnership at all.
The only issue with the one that contributes will feel entitled to date other men and act single. The woman you provide for respect you and don't want to mess up. The one who contributes "reminds " you that you can't do anything without her etc... make you feel less off a man.
@@neneosei7168 LOL..yjays the stupist shit I ever heard. The one that doesnt contribute doesnt repect you at all. She thinks of you as your bank account, and thats all your good for. I have been there as the "provider". All she cared about was my money while she sat on her ass. Yeah real respectful.
If you are in a marriage and not thinking like a team, you will lose. Teamwork is what works. You get in where you fit in. All women that feel as though their husbands are responsible for all the bills, and you not having any responsibilities, that sounds like a child to me. A grown woman has responsibilities and not just to yourself.
@@latonyahall2086 That should never be the case. In a marriage, the man is gonna share his money. But the wife is gonna horde hers. No husband is going to sit and allow his wife to be broke when he has a means to do something about it.
@@latonyahall2086 That’s why people have budgets. But a MAN don’t move like that. If she didn’t marry a MAN, figure it out. A man shouldn’t need her. But her help should be appreciated.
I disagree on the rent/mortgage. This is the problem with people. Selfishness and disrespect. A marriage is a partnership. Both should be able to provide. If you can't provide for yourself then don't get into a relationship.
Partnership until y'all break up...Then she wont leave because she's paying half the rent! If you pay it all yourself, you can boot that bitch out anytime you want
The man should pay all of the bills if the woman is willing to live within the lifestyle that the man can provide and she is willing to split(50/50) her money with the man.
My father and mother have a joint account and they each have their own personal account. The major bulky bills my father took care of, like mortgage, car payments, trips, etc.. Stuff like clothes and food my mother took care of. They've done pretty well for themselves...I'll pass though, marriage seems like a scam these days.
Most places in the U.S. its not even feasible to live off 1 income. I argree you should do what's best for you. We can't live by what it should be. We have to love by what they actually are.
how do single people live alone? of course it's possible. Anything is possible if you put your mind to it. 2 lots of income means 2 lots of food,travel upkeep etc....
@@Kidimo_ You could also say living together paying all the bills is cheaper than living separate and you paying child support. As you would STILL pay your own expenses PLUS child support.
@@Zeus-dw1cx yea some women can def be like that and it a frustrating thing to deal with. But thankfully not all are like that. Just like there’s are tons of shitty dudes but not all of them are bad either. It’s just about finding the right person.
Rod has a point. I was raised like how he's saying. My mom paid one bill and dad paid the other because they were married. Rent, they put together. I was told I'm responsible for my own bills. I do not tell ANY WOMAN that I am seeing because I was raised you never ask a woman money to help with bills. Where this rule from the opposite sex comes from where if I'm Dating you, you have to pay rent, cell, etc. I feel is not what I was raised when Dating. If we eating together, no problem but I didn't buy her place, car, clothes, etc.
Amen Rod' I believe this why our community finances are suffering because were trying to operate as single people in a marriage. Every couple I know who combine their salaries together are in a much better finacial place Rod said.
I don't need no women living with me if I'm paying all the bills I live by myself........ Especially these black women they definitely don't want to do anything.
@jimmus the grimmace I agree , I'm not paying all the bills for no adult, I don't care if we're married or not. This is not the 1950s and 60s. Everything costs more these days and I feel like everyone one should do their part. If a woman feel like I should take her, then I should be able to claim her on my taxes as a dependent lol 😂, I don't care what nobody thinks, it's my money.
I agree , I'm not letting any woman stay with me for free , I don't care how fine she is. She is not a child, ain't no woman about to use me for my hard earned money . If you're not going to contribute, then you shouldn't be here. It's to many simps out here and I'm not one of them lol 😂
Yes, I agree with the last guy. That’s the only way I’m doing a relationship. I’m not about to argue with nobody about money 🤣🤣🤣 especially not somebody I’m supposed to be committed to and living with for the rest of my life.
I prefer the family pot idea. It’s easier. You want a separate account? Fine have one but it’s more like allowance you give yourself. But the bulk of the money comes out of one pot
That makes sense logically..The issue is, a lot of women these days dont care about logic...They NEED to brag to their friends that their man "pays all the bills"...Its not about logic, its about ego and feelings
I'd probably never spend my allowance at that point. It would take too long to build up depending on the percentages coming out. A second job would make me feel like I had a little more autonomy for certain ventures or hobbies.
@@Sijuwade lol with the ideology women shouldn't be working or schooling in the first place. Just staying at home bearing children born did you skip that part?
@@udbz7264 my lady works and she’s well educate. I met her in college. Those were her decisions. However, she still take care of her duties. That’s the difference between a traditional woman with culture and a modern woman. My wife is Ghanaian btw.
I think even 70/30 would be great, I been with a lot of leches that don’t wanna pay a thing, they want you to handle all the bills, in my mind if she does not atleast invest the 30% into you then why would you as a man even give her the time of the day????? Men remember if you get married and pay 100% of everything, when she leaves you she will leave with 50% that she never invested into…… you have to treat marriage like a business is it an asset or a liability!
Yup. 70/30 *ONLY* if married WITH kids-that is if she plays her role completely. Other than that, 60/40 if the LTR stage, 50/50 if she has a high body count 😂😂😅
@@jowill3508 facts but these days bro women think because they see these girls on ig flights they gotta have it to but what they don’t know is most these girls is escorts sleeping with old men with boats … doing questionable things to seem successful… smh Society got a lot of women twisted
@@dieseldawg7132 Facts, it’s only gonna get more “brutal” for the sexes as time passes.. Men ain’t having the disrespect from women anymore and women don’t wanna be treated like doormats; it’s not the 1950’s where a single income could provide a nice middle class lifestyle so good luck to the women thinking it’s that easy 🤣💯
Facts, I agree as a man completely.. 60/40 in the LTR stage, 70/30 if married with kids. *Only* if she plays her role fully though, but I would have ZERO issues doing so if she does 🗣💯
Nah I won't ever pay for someone else's car unless it's paid off or I get that shit in cash nor someone's else's insurance she can get a job working 20 hour a week and pay that shit but I'm not gonna pay for someone else's depreciating asset
This is my issue the man wants the woman to pay half of the bills but then she have to cook 100% of the time, take the kids shopping 100%, do the kids hair 100%, do laundry 100%, kids school homework/educational well being 100%, clean 100%, baby wakes up mama have to be the one to get up, so it’s never fair. I feel if you want me pay half of the bills everything else should be 50%. If I have to pay 50% then you not the head of the house we are even. If your going to lead play the role fully don’t pick and choose.
Let's be honest, even In households that men pay all the bill women dont do 100% of the parenting, cooking, cleaning, that's has been a repeated fantasy. The reason why wives pay bills is because husbands cook, clean, and parent.
I pay all the rent and utilities..she handles clothes miscellaneous stuff and food… her car and car insurance is HERS and my car and car insurance is MINE we go half ONLY ON TRIPS…
@@sakibfuseini891 she buys the food for home I cover dates. I was living alone before her and I met so she covers extra which saves me a lot so she doesn’t have to pay any household rent and utilities. Just a principle I was taught to live by.I don’t know why guys get some bent out of shape when other men are providers. I was raised by men that are providers. If you can’t live on your own you should probably think twice about starting a family because if she gets pregnant it’s on YOU until she can work again and financial hardship is one of the leading causes of a breakup
i can easily afford all the bills and some . If I’m pouring all of my time, energy , effort, and income into the pot … I refuse to be with a woman who can only take out of it. i would still insist that my lady contributed . if im paying all bills & utilities … she has to fund Life Insurance Policies , Annuities , or Stocks for us .
@jimmus the grimmace I'm not paying all the bills for no adult, I don't care if we're married or not. This is not the 1950s and 60s. Everything costs more these days and I feel like everyone one should do their part. If a woman feel like I should take care of her, then I should be able to claim her on my taxes as a dependent lol 😂, I don't care what nobody thinks, it's my money.
@@neneosei7168 I think it should be 50 / 50 I pay half the partner pay half the bills I think people are selfish or lazy. A man is supposed to try to be financially stable. I hate to say this but I seen to many court shows problems with roommates Stealing or fighting ect.also living alone lonely can be a nasty feeling. Judge Judy Said get a cat I was laughing 🤣
@@neneosei7168 aren't you a grown woman or just a toddler and sweetheart you are not every woman in this world you ain't special good women are out there and you ain't one you live in a house pay for it or gtfo and stfu
@@neneosei7168 what if the partner does not leave and u still struggling while they have more money than u. You go to work just to pay bills and the husband still expects the most from u. When u ask for something they ask u what happened to your money? Explain that .
It’s no standard for marriage . It should be what the two people agree to with the ability and openness to discuss all thing at all times if initial agreement needs to be changed.
A man should only pay the bills if he has a woman who completely plays her role. If you're wondering what that role is you probably don't have a man paying all your bills. Have a nice day.😂
Why does a man should pay rent and mortgage? In which both the man and woman live in that house and apartment together. And don’t say because men are providers. Because both men and women are providers.
I’d really love to know what modern women think their responsibilities are in relationships today. If they exist, I never hear about them. All I ever hear is “the man supposed to pay for this,” and, “the man supposed to give that.” Women sound like children today. What exactly are these women doing FOR HIM, while all this bill paying is going on, for HER? We know it’s not cooking an cleaning, because that’s an insult today, right? And we know it’s not sex, maybe in the beginning, but certainly not long term. Even if it were all the above, how is that even remotely worth millions of dollars of his hard earned work over time? These women need to grow up, and realize a relationships is 2 way street. Otherwise they won’t stay relationships for long. Growing old and alone for women in this country is no joke.
Thing is when you lead with money you can die by it too. If your girl only cooperates you because of money you are literally paying for an illusion. The illusion that she loves you.
@@mimia.4810 true but the growth and expansion is going to be exponential. Gender roles are shifting; but you’re right men can’t get pregnant…… ……….yet 🫣
If he pays all the bills, does she do ALL the cooking, cleaning, dishes, windows, etc??? Of course the man cuts the grass or pays to have landscaping done.
I think both parties should pay bills. Because someone who lives for free don't see or feel the sacrifice the other person do. And usually ppl that don't work n help pay bills are also very self entitled n demanding and that's unacceptable. I had downstairs neighbors were the girl work and payed all the bills while the guy just plays video games all day for a whole year. When she argue with him about helping her paying bills he always made a big scene and played the victim. That is not fair in my opinion
Every man should contribute as much as he can, more than the woman imo. The problem is when some woman think the man should provide it all and she doesn’t have to pay any bills or one little bill lol
I agree , she's using my electricity, water , air , phone and sleeping under my roof. She's going to pay something, I don't care if we're married or not, she's not a child, she's an adult and I'm going to treat her like one, since she is an independent boss chick. How are you going to be independent but have a man taking care of you. It doesn't make sense.
@@CAdams93 exactly. What do they think gives them the right to expect to be a freeloader? Pu**y? Really? There are 4 BILLION other ones out there. We don’t have to put with such nonsense.
It's kind of ignorant to get married BEFORE discussing Money, Raising of kids, Religious beliefs... It's the irresponsibility of many men as they are dominant and are supposed to select the help meet. Talking about this AFTER tying the not is FOOLISH.
The problem is in the question. This question should not be applied to all men are to men in general. This question applies to each set of partners. Also, the fact this question exists is a problem.
Woman wanted equal rights and the ability to work and now they’re mad they are being held to the standard of a contributor. They should stayed in the house and let the man’s one income be able to provide. Once the gold standard disappeared and woman started working, it’s necessary for two incomes( unless your wealthy)
I've been married 30 plus years. When my wife and I got married I joined her bank account. Our pay checks when into that one account. For the majority of that time, I made considerably more money, but I developed a budget and from that main account some spending money was always transferred per paycheck for her to spend without my input. And over the years her bucket got bigger as she made more money. Now that we are empty nesters, her bucket is pretty nice, but I have made sure that we both participate in our respective 401ks, and our rental properties are also kept separate.
My parents have a great system. My dad pays the big bills and my mom pays for smaller bills, periodic vacations, invests, and steps in should a crisis arise.
As high as the divorce rate is I would NEVER pool all my money with somebody. IF they get mad at you or just wanna leave you they wipe you clean. I used to work at a bank and once you create a joint account with somebody they can legally take every cent in that account. Also if that person has there wages garnished or is on child support they will take that money from that joint account.
Which is why men actually have to learn the importance of marriage, and not having multiple marriage experiments. Getting on one knee in the name of just finding someone to be with. Not everyone should get married because we see everyone else do it. Actually know the woman you are thinking about proposing too. It should be no doubt in your head that this woman would do such things if you considering on taking that step. Ik anything is possible, but failed marriage is indicative of the decision making skills of the man always. Pooling money should be the least of your worries if youre doing it with the right person.
May I ask if there is a way that neither one can take money out the account without the others signature or authorization so that nothing like that wouldn't happen?
I would like all our money can go in the main account except our monthly allowances can go in our individual account. Or just one account that way we both see everything going in and out and where it’s going. If we have separate accounts it allows us to surprise each other with gifts and buy things for ourselves…so it’s less dipping into the main account for Nick Nacks and tic tacs.
That last scenerio given sounds tight but It also explains why the guy had a better lifestyle than his coworker... he had another stream of income!!! Duh...
Each circumstance is different, you have to do what's best you the both of you. In some cases people may earn the same, and in some cases one person may earn significantly more . Regardless you work together. I personally think it's selfish for a woman to feel she shouldn't have any financial responsibility just because her husband's a good earner, and she has a well paying job. Who wants to be married to a selfish self-indulgent person? No one.
I think that's a great idea for you to pay the bigger bill especially if she is probably doing if not all, MOST of the cooking and cleaning around the house, ect
@@nunkap8874 that's a stereotype that you. Need to get rid off. Today's modern man is self sufficient. There isn't much that my wife can do that I can't do myself. Vice versa. There have been times where I pay the rent because I made more money. Other times roles have switched where she made more and took over the rent and I paid the other bills. In my opinon, true happiness is only achievable when a marriage is an equal partnership. Not equal in status, intellect, finances etc. Equal in the respect and duties of the bond.
@daustin439 u got me fked up 🤦🏻♀️😂😂😂 I'm a traditional female but ur a modern 50-50 man who's crying bc u don't wanna provide. Ain't nobody checking 4u ur a worker 😂 we over here like Alpha men the one who sign ur checks💯❗️
@@69Fabulosity you got me all wrong. I got mine, retired early, employed many, and am not stupid enough to pay for any pretty parasites. It’s all good!
@daustin439 any man that speaks like u do is just mad😂😂😂❗️Provider men are confident masculine & not aggressive 💯❗️Provider men got more than enough to provide for them and their family. Any man that has a wife and family and proud that they don't provide for their family are an embarrassment 💯❗️
These women talking like they are kids. Yall are providing for your kids that can't provide for their self. Two people marry should work as team to make sure the home is good. This traditional way of think is silly. Put all the money in a joint account and have two others accounts too. Pay all the bill from joint account. Because at the end of the day we as one. If she making more she can it can be 60/40 deposit to joint account Is vice version to the man.
Speaking on kids, if both husband and wife are busy working. Who will watch their kids? Most kids hate that their parents aren't there for them. This is why at least one parent must stay home (preferably the mother).
@@mimia.4810 I agree if both parents are working too hard it will be tough for both parents to raise the kids.but they both can take turns.all they have to do is know one another's schedules & day offs.fhen that can determine what happens from there.there are solutions for everything as long as both parties are willing to work with each other as a team to find ways to make things beneficial for both so It doesnt feel like one person is doing more than the other.cause one person cant do everything it takes two.if it was the 1950s then one income can work.but right now in this day in ages it take multiple sources of income to live and I'm not knocking the ones who still lives by the 1950s template if works for them then it does.but what works for one couple might not work for everybody.
How many procent is acceptable for a woman to pay per month. I we are going to buy a house eventually i would love to invest my money too. So i wanna know what is good for the balance of masculine and feminine energy in the relationship. We also have a house keeper. Ofc we still do things in the house and garden but yeah🙈
There are plenty other expenses in a marriage besides household bills. About the lady who made $250k, could've been saving towards retirement, insurance trips, future children etc while giving room for him to step into his masculinity as a provider.
She made 5x as much as him but wants him to pay…. He literally should be the one living for free based on “logic” and not on these stupid masculine and feminine arguments. It should come down to love. A union. Together, all the money and responsibilities. For example, imagine a queen marrying the son of a blacksmith or farmer. She can’t expect him to make as much $$ or have as much as him, but she loves him?
@Blissful Luxury Life. What he was saying is, when a man is paying for all the bills or regardless of the percentage 100/0 50/50 80/20 20/80 it's translated as MY MONEY HERS MONEY and it makes the FINANCES separate. Which is already bias when you are in a committed relationship. Yes everyone is entitled to their money (true) but not in a healthy dedicated relationship. Now, if both partners decided to STOP the 100/0 or 50/50 and ruled for 100%100% that excluded everyone trying to dictate their opinion and now it puts the relationship as ONE PERSON ONE SPIRIT ONE STRENGTH. There is no more he pays, she pays. It's now WE PAY FOR. As such, we can now move in a direction of WEALTH/PURPOSE/PROSPERITY/ABUNDANCE/PARTNERSHIP/LOVE with your partner not at his/her expense. To get practical Let's say I make $100k net as a man and you make $50k net. We set up ONE JOINT ACCOUNT as a couple. Every month we should expect $150k in that account. We wrote down the house monthly BILLS let's say mortgage/rent($3500) cars($500) Groceries($200) Credit card debt($1000) Kids clothes, both families, Travel etc...let's say all the monthly bills have a total cost of $8000 for both, we should have $142k left in our joint account once ALL the BILL are paid off. Secondly, each one have their own personal account. This is where the ALLOWANCE comes in. It works differently for every couple. It's based on what we decided to do with the rest ($142) in the joint account. Let's supposed we sat down, communicated and we agreed that we should have an allowance based on our expenses (I mean ALL we don't hide anything). Let's say all my monthly expenses are $ 2000 (including clothes, grooming, gifts for my wife etc...) and all your monthly expenses are $1000 (including make up, clothes, shoes, gift for your man etc...) WE CAN DEFINITELY INCREASE/DECREASE IT based on our needs. it's our LAW but it can be amended. AND if one or both party wants to live a lavish lifestyle, the money should come from your expense allowance. Thirdly, we have now $150k - $8000 - $3000 = $139k with that much money left we can decide to INVEST it in properties or SAVED it. let's say THE TEAM with the LEADER decided to invest $39k in one property. We have now a property that we lease/rent that brings say $3000 every month as a PASSIVE INCOME (just an example). we can invest in anything Knowledge/career etc.. See we have now $100k left sitting in our saving (JOINT ACCOUNT) EVERY MONTH. In 5 years with have $500,000 as a couple that we can do whatever we want with it. NOW, this plan can only works if you are with the partner that's meant for you not MR EVERYTHING or MRS TOO SPECIAL. The misconception we have here is, society brain washed all to think that we need to find THE ONE. "The one doesn't exist but making the person, the one you love become the one exist" from PAJ. Also we understand we are not perfect, and we decided to RELEARN, to HEAL, we want GROWTH, WEALTH, ABUNDANCE as a couple not as an individual. We respect each others opinion. BUT, it doesn't mean the man is not in charge. RESPECT should be the main focus for the woman and LOVE with DIRECTION, AMBITION, PROTECTION should be the main focus of the man. the issue here is the roles are reversed. Women now want respect more than anything and men are seeking love. THE PROBLEM for this plan is, the Western Modern women feel like PARTNERSHIP means 50/50. How a woman is entitled to a successful man money/assets but don't wants to be his partner for life? That's exactly what the man broke it down in the video! Here I will advice the couple to focus on the POLARITY ENERGY of the relationship. In other words, if the man is already in is MASCULINE ENERGY and the woman is in her FEMININE ENERGY fine! the paradox is, the Masculine/Feminine Energy polarity is unbalanced in most relationship today. the unbalance polarity begs the question: Should a man become masculine dominant before the relationship or in the relationship? unfortunately most men become masculine after the relationship ended. Should a man just accept his fate if he can't become a masculine dominant man and let the woman he loves in charge? Should a woman keeps her masculine energy to a feminine man she loves? PAJ
Someone had to do the books all bills house bills , but if she had Victoria Credit card and he has Best Buy they should pay their own and up keep their credit, but if your wife car gets repossess and she sees the car on the tow hook, thinking you paid etc bill she had to kno that you defaulted the cars should be in the house pile
I feel like there is no right way in how this should work , everybody got different situations . If their is no consideration on both ends it won’t work
Lol 😂 they claim their independent boss chicks, but they want men to take care of them like their kids, that's a contradiction. Megan thee stallion and Cardi B is messing with these women heads lol 😂.
In today’s economy, it’s impossible unless the man is earning at least $250K/yr… In order for a BW to obtain a man in that tax bracket, she needs to willing and/or able to compete
Honestly, no man should pay all the bills regardless if he's married or in a regular relationship. Both individuals have to pay for the bills together, its both of their responsibility.
@@freddygaulman5493 the only bills I have are rent ,car insurance ,light bill ,and my internet I never understood people that like buy shit from furniture stores or who buy cares they have to make payments in a month I would pay less than half of what I make in bills and still have money left over to save or maybe go out with paycheck to paycheck sometimes is just a Pointer towards terrible money management IE living well outside ones means
@@PCSPITTER4NY if she is raising you a family she would be SAVING you money for a childminder. And best type of investment is having your own family that mother of your child is raising. Leave a legacy not a tragedy. If you want respect from your woman this is the way to go. 50/50 is a roommate situation.
@@neneosei7168 lol. U a clown. No man should adopt a grown female. If u with me, you will work and pay some bills. Like most every relationship of all races
@@neneosei7168 btw my parents been married over 40 yrs, they both worked and split bills until my mom was 50, and then my dad allowed her to retire. Raised 3 black boys with no jail records. I would say that is what the black community needs more of
brian im in the same boat . women need us as they picking is slimmer... im doing it now easy but you ain't gonna come thru with a five year plan to stack and skate.
I'm not paying all the bills for no adult, I don't care if we're married or not. This is not the 1950s and 60s. Everything costs more these days and I feel like everyone one should do their part. If a woman feel like I should take care of her, then I should be able to claim her on my taxes as a dependent lol 😂, I don't care what nobody thinks, it's my money.
@@cutiep6425 I would be ashamed if my daughter depended on a man, once that man leaves you, you'll be stuck in the middle of nowhere. Women suppose to be boss chicks and Independent like Megan thee stallion said lol 😂
@@CAdams93 know!! women are not made to do as men …and she’s not depending on a man they can both work but she shouldn’t have to do nearly as much as a man if we were the same then we’d do the same …I’d be ashamed of my daughter if she’s in a relationship with a man and working just as hard as him she might as well be single ..unless that’s what she truly wants n long term women don’t want that maybe temporary but not long cuz we are women!! But good luck finding a submissive feminine woman who fuks u every night with a 50/50 relationship!! That mindset is why there’s constant divorces!!
So basically the dude in the white hoodie is not a true provider. He's deflecting on every question. I get what he's saying but that's not reality. If the man is the provider, then arguments wouldn't be a everyday thing. A man is supposed to take on the heavier burdens of the households period. It's not selfish of a woman to have that standard. It's not keeping money to herself for selfish gains. A lot goes into maintaining a household.
@@smoothgent1011 yes they can. As a grown person, you are doing it now. As a couple, you accumulate more bills so the man still takes care of the greater load while the woman handle the lesser load and even more if kids are involved. It's not hard to understand that.
@@smoothgent1011 I get that but this isn't about women NOT working. It's about the makeup of women. Yes, bigger and higher cost of living cities require more income so both parties should be able to make do with the responsibility of sustaining residency with their combined income. That goes without saying but the fact that a man should be a provider also goes without saying but I get it everyone's different and everyone's situation is different also..
I appreciate this video but I think this is a generational thing. The young women in their 20s today want a man to make 100K while they make 30K and have him pay all the bills and her debt. 100K is great for him alone but if she isnt contributing much financially that 100K aint enough for the both of them and this weighs on men.
@Lo Livingston 100k for a family of 2 is not enough in 2021.
More than enough it's called living within or below your means.
If my man can only afford us living in a 2 bedroom so be it.
I'd rather this then me having to work and help him pay bills for a 3 it 4 bedroom home.
But guess what happens when y'all break up...She won't wunna leave because she's paying the bills as well....If she ain't paying shit, she can't control shit
@@neneosei7168 you are probably a liability. No man needs a woman that's a liability. If a woman can't support her husband, I wonder what she is doing with the man. That's how those women end up cheating on the men because all she does is stay at home while the man is working. Stupid society. Selfishness
@@Emvevo212 taking care of the kids and home is a full time job.
if he is treating her like a roommate she is more likely to cheat than with a provider man she will also respect a man also.
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If a woman is stingy with money than I guarantee a man will be stingy with his emotions. Everything is connected.
It's the opposite, if a man is stingy/ broke a woman won't ever fully give herself to him. Around him she feels unsafe and unloved. That's why you see so many woman divorce their husbands or so many women not be submissive to their man. She doesn't respect him, because she thinks he doesn't show love. A way to a woman's heart is by protecting and providing for her.
@ymarrero23 Bullshit a Woman is supposed to be Feminine to begin with.Handling Money doesn't Dictates a Nature of Men or Women.Either a Woman is Feminine or not.And Provide doesn't mean a Man paying all the Bills.If a Woman lives alone.She's paying all the Bills.So Wtf Should a Man pay for everything when He's sharing everything down the middle with a Woman.For all that a Man can just live by Himself.Women like You don't value a Man.You just want a walking 🏧.Men ain't doing this kind of Shit no more.Even when Men do pay for everything They still don't get the proper respect and appreciation that They deserve.So Again What benefits are in it for Men to just be walking Wallets for Ungrateful Women.
@@mimia.4810 a stingy selfish woman is hard to love
@@petermulinzi1288yeah is not about money saw man give the woman woman take them shopping etc and she still not happy 😂money is not everything
@@mimia.4810 It's not the man's responsibility to heal a women. You have been taught on how to be a dysfunctional dependent women. If you're stingy, can't open your heart, that's on you as a woman. The other person can support you in opening your heart but don't confuse it with it being their responsibility. No, it's not. Learn to take some accountability for your actions rather than hiding behind the "women card". It's just an excuse.
That’s exactly how my husband and I work our finances. From day one, we had only one account. We would Argue about one over spending on miscellaneous items. One day I said since we can’t figure out this argument, let’s try opening our own separate accounts. All the money we make together goes into 1 account. Every pay period a certain amount of money is transferred to our separate accounts. Once you spend that money, that’s it. It took 3 years to figure out that that’s what works for us. Since making that decision, we have not argued about our finances AT ALL!!!
The man should pay ALL the bills.
If you build with a man he will leave you trust me
Save your money.
Watch sheraseven on UA-cam about 50/50 and building men.
That’s call COMMUNICATION.. you’ll be surprise how many couples lack that.. peope have gotten divorced of things like that..
@@neneosei7168 not true
@@dortcharmy11 lol dont even bother shes probably sexual depresed 😂😂😂
@@lovinglife995 I have been married 9 years.
If I pay all the bills then that woman gotta leave when I get sleepy.
Exactly
So does the man
@@latonyahall2086 Not if he's paying all the bills.
@@latonyahall2086 Most women already operate that way
And when y’all divorce she still getting half 😭😭
I had a EX girlfriend who she conned me into moving in with her. After awhile, her intentions to use me were very clear. I paid all the bills (every one) while she didnt work. Hell, after she even got out of "school" she even then refused to work. She even hardly helped with the house. Oh, by the way, she didnt have kids. She had the thought "youre the man, so you should take care of me" while I worked a hard labor job while she literally sat on her ass all day and dint do anything. I will never be used like that again, nor will I be financially abused. Thank god i found someone who at least contributes (she doesnt make as much as me, but she does what she can and I am ok with that). Oh by the way, she had the mindset (your money is my money, even though she didnt work for it. Glad i got out of that "relationship" even though it wasnt a partnership at all.
The only issue with the one that contributes will feel entitled to date other men and act single.
The woman you provide for respect you and don't want to mess up.
The one who contributes "reminds " you that you can't do anything without her etc... make you feel less off a man.
Did you pay her mortgage to when split you get nothing im sorry
Yea u making great husband
@@neneosei7168 LOL..yjays the stupist shit I ever heard. The one that doesnt contribute doesnt repect you at all. She thinks of you as your bank account, and thats all your good for. I have been there as the "provider". All she cared about was my money while she sat on her ass. Yeah real respectful.
and she didnt have kids. She just refused to do anything. I wont ver go through that again.
If you are in a marriage and not thinking like a team, you will lose. Teamwork is what works. You get in where you fit in. All women that feel as though their husbands are responsible for all the bills, and you not having any responsibilities, that sounds like a child to me. A grown woman has responsibilities and not just to yourself.
It Is A PRIVATE JOINT VENTURE AGREEMENT, if YOU Are MORE LIABILITY than ASSET. It IS OVER WITH BEFORE IT WILL BEGIN!!! BYE FELICIA!!!
Ok so what if your wife needs help at one point and the husband sitting on stacks and let the wife struggle
@@latonyahall2086 That should never be the case. In a marriage, the man is gonna share his money. But the wife is gonna horde hers. No husband is going to sit and allow his wife to be broke when he has a means to do something about it.
@@herbertjacobs8422 he'll share after a whole tantrum and then ask u what happened to your money knowing you pay all the bills
@@latonyahall2086 That’s why people have budgets. But a MAN don’t move like that. If she didn’t marry a MAN, figure it out. A man shouldn’t need her. But her help should be appreciated.
I disagree on the rent/mortgage. This is the problem with people. Selfishness and disrespect. A marriage is a partnership. Both should be able to provide. If you can't provide for yourself then don't get into a relationship.
Partnership until y'all break up...Then she wont leave because she's paying half the rent! If you pay it all yourself, you can boot that bitch out anytime you want
Exactly.
If a woman doesn't NEED you as a man why should she take herself of the market etc?
Could be single
Get a roommate then instead of a woman.
@@neneosei7168 except I've been married for 14yrs. How does that fit into your nonsense? 🤣
The man should pay all of the bills if the woman is willing to live within the lifestyle that the man can provide and she is willing to split(50/50) her money with the man.
My father and mother have a joint account and they each have their own personal account. The major bulky bills my father took care of, like mortgage, car payments, trips, etc.. Stuff like clothes and food my mother took care of. They've done pretty well for themselves...I'll pass though, marriage seems like a scam these days.
It’s not so much marriage as it is peoples inability to change their toxic behavior.
No way. Joint account equal amounts. That’s it.
Equal amounts for bills, separate accounts.
@@daustin439well I earn more than 6 times what my wife earns. Still think it should be equal or should it be proportional?
@@avarmauk equal. She should have stepped up her game.
Growing up I didn't know which parent paid what because as kids it wasn't none of our business.
Exactly
Most places in the U.S. its not even feasible to live off 1 income. I argree you should do what's best for you. We can't live by what it should be. We have to love by what they actually are.
how do single people live alone? of course it's possible. Anything is possible if you put your mind to it. 2 lots of income means 2 lots of food,travel upkeep etc....
Marrriage = partnership. Parenership isnt always equal. but BOTH PEOPLE CONTRIBUTE.
Yes one person pay the bills the other person the house and children unless you can afford expensive childcare
@@neneosei7168 In my dreams
@@neneosei7168 childcare is less expensive than affording a non working individual with kids
@@Kidimo_ NOT true.
Check how much it costs to put 1 or 2 children in daycare?
How much did you see it was?
@@Kidimo_ You could also say living together paying all the bills is cheaper than living separate and you paying child support.
As you would STILL pay your own expenses PLUS child support.
It’s interesting how many modern woman want all the benefits of a traditional marriage but half the work.
Even if the woman makes as much as the Man,she still expects him to pay for everything.
@@Zeus-dw1cx yea some women can def be like that and it a frustrating thing to deal with. But thankfully not all are like that. Just like there’s are tons of shitty dudes but not all of them are bad either. It’s just about finding the right person.
Rod has a point. I was raised like how he's saying. My mom paid one bill and dad paid the other because they were married. Rent, they put together. I was told I'm responsible for my own bills. I do not tell ANY WOMAN that I am seeing because I was raised you never ask a woman money to help with bills. Where this rule from the opposite sex comes from where if I'm Dating you, you have to pay rent, cell, etc. I feel is not what I was raised when Dating. If we eating together, no problem but I didn't buy her place, car, clothes, etc.
Amen Rod' I believe this why our community finances are suffering because were trying to operate as single people in a marriage. Every couple I know who combine their salaries together are in a much better finacial place Rod said.
But the husband should kiss the ground she walls on for contributing because it's not her role but to expect it it's entitlement
I totally agree with him that, we go into a marriage to become us.. a unite a team!
I don't need no women living with me if I'm paying all the bills I live by myself........ Especially these black women they definitely don't want to do anything.
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@jimmus the grimmace I agree , I'm not paying all the bills for no adult, I don't care if we're married or not. This is not the 1950s and 60s. Everything costs more these days and I feel like everyone one should do their part. If a woman feel like I should take her, then I should be able to claim her on my taxes as a dependent lol 😂, I don't care what nobody thinks, it's my money.
I agree , I'm not letting any woman stay with me for free , I don't care how fine she is. She is not a child, ain't no woman about to use me for my hard earned money . If you're not going to contribute, then you shouldn't be here. It's to many simps out here and I'm not one of them lol 😂
@@CAdams93real men do 😂
@@MyCatsChannel841 Real men don't do that , simps do. The only people I take care of, are kids. I do not hand feed adults
Once I pay all the bills I have power in my relationship
You think you will🤣🤣
That don't mean she won't cheat. She might take advantage
Who told you that😂
Yes, I agree with the last guy. That’s the only way I’m doing a relationship. I’m not about to argue with nobody about money 🤣🤣🤣 especially not somebody I’m supposed to be committed to and living with for the rest of my life.
I prefer the family pot idea. It’s easier. You want a separate account? Fine have one but it’s more like allowance you give yourself. But the bulk of the money comes out of one pot
That makes sense logically..The issue is, a lot of women these days dont care about logic...They NEED to brag to their friends that their man "pays all the bills"...Its not about logic, its about ego and feelings
I'd probably never spend my allowance at that point. It would take too long to build up depending on the percentages coming out. A second job would make me feel like I had a little more autonomy for certain ventures or hobbies.
😂😂😂ya no
In Africa it is expected for the man to provide therefore take care all of the bills of the house. The woman has all the domestic duties of the house.
outdated, take your ass to work maam
@@nanagyambibi7426 How so if I’m making 300k as a business owner?
@@Sijuwade lol with the ideology women shouldn't be working or schooling in the first place. Just staying at home bearing children born did you skip that part?
@@udbz7264 my lady works and she’s well educate. I met her in college. Those were her decisions. However, she still take care of her duties. That’s the difference between a traditional woman with culture and a modern woman. My wife is Ghanaian btw.
This is the US, this ain't Africa.
I think even 70/30 would be great, I been with a lot of leches that don’t wanna pay a thing, they want you to handle all the bills, in my mind if she does not atleast invest the 30% into you then why would you as a man even give her the time of the day????? Men remember if you get married and pay 100% of everything, when she leaves you she will leave with 50% that she never invested into…… you have to treat marriage like a business is it an asset or a liability!
Yup. 70/30 *ONLY* if married WITH kids-that is if she plays her role completely. Other than that, 60/40 if the LTR stage, 50/50 if she has a high body count 😂😂😅
@@jowill3508 facts but these days bro women think because they see these girls on ig flights they gotta have it to but what they don’t know is most these girls is escorts sleeping with old men with boats … doing questionable things to seem successful… smh Society got a lot of women twisted
@@dieseldawg7132 Facts, it’s only gonna get more “brutal” for the sexes as time passes.. Men ain’t having the disrespect from women anymore and women don’t wanna be treated like doormats; it’s not the 1950’s where a single income could provide a nice middle class lifestyle so good luck to the women thinking it’s that easy 🤣💯
I don’t personally believe a guy should pay just everything but I don’t believe in 50/50. Nuhh uhn 🤚🏾
Facts, I agree as a man completely.. 60/40 in the LTR stage, 70/30 if married with kids. *Only* if she plays her role fully though, but I would have ZERO issues doing so if she does 🗣💯
@@jowill3508 I’m for the 60/40
Yea Jo Will, I agree wholeheartedly.
🤔providing isn't always financial tho rarely I hear this aspect discussed🤷
Woman is the help mate I thought
That’s religion
Yes,you can pay 100% by yourself or you can pay 50% with a spouse or partner 🤔
House, Cars, Clothes, & Vacation: Husband, Bills, Misc, Food:Wife
Nah I won't ever pay for someone else's car unless it's paid off or I get that shit in cash nor someone's else's insurance she can get a job working 20 hour a week and pay that shit but I'm not gonna pay for someone else's depreciating asset
This is my issue the man wants the woman to pay half of the bills but then she have to cook 100% of the time, take the kids shopping 100%, do the kids hair 100%, do laundry 100%, kids school homework/educational well being 100%, clean 100%, baby wakes up mama have to be the one to get up, so it’s never fair. I feel if you want me pay half of the bills everything else should be 50%. If I have to pay 50% then you not the head of the house we are even. If your going to lead play the role fully don’t pick and choose.
Let's be honest, even In households that men pay all the bill women dont do 100% of the parenting, cooking, cleaning, that's has been a repeated fantasy. The reason why wives pay bills is because husbands cook, clean, and parent.
@@PCSPITTER4NY I surely disagree but then and again every household is different
what if there are no kids?
No woman I know cook laundry etc 100 percent of the time. Stop 🛑 the nonsense
@@PCSPITTER4NY that's a complete lie
I pay all the rent and utilities..she handles clothes miscellaneous stuff and food… her car and car insurance is HERS and my car and car insurance is MINE we go half ONLY ON TRIPS…
I most definitely can get behind this and as a woman I agreeee
She pays for her car and insurance. But she can’t pay for the rent, mortgage or utilities?! She live and use utilities just like the man.
@@cortezmiller1899 if he's happy with it why do you care
Do you both separate the food as well
@@sakibfuseini891 she buys the food for home I cover dates. I was living alone before her and I met so she covers extra which saves me a lot so she doesn’t have to pay any household rent and utilities. Just a principle I was taught to live by.I don’t know why guys get some bent out of shape when other men are providers. I was raised by men that are providers. If you can’t live on your own you should probably think twice about starting a family because if she gets pregnant it’s on YOU until she can work again and financial hardship is one of the leading causes of a breakup
Financial arguments only exists when one person tries to take from the other.
This!!! If your truly invested and love the partner, then it wouldn’t matter as long as both are contributing
i can easily afford all the bills and some .
If I’m pouring all of my time, energy , effort, and income into the pot … I refuse to be with a woman who can only take out of it.
i would still insist that my lady contributed . if im paying all bills & utilities … she has to fund Life Insurance Policies , Annuities , or Stocks for us .
@jimmus the grimmace I'm not paying all the bills for no adult, I don't care if we're married or not. This is not the 1950s and 60s. Everything costs more these days and I feel like everyone one should do their part. If a woman feel like I should take care of her, then I should be able to claim her on my taxes as a dependent lol 😂, I don't care what nobody thinks, it's my money.
@@CAdams93 @jimmus was a coward so they deleted their comment
The biggest problem will say this is not the 1960s and they are modern females but still Expect men to act like they in the 1960s
Spoken like a modern man that don't believe in traditional roles like being a protector and provider yet you still wants a traditional women GTFO😂😂😂
One partner should not have to pay for everything
Live alone then or get a ROOMMATE
@@neneosei7168 I think it should be 50 / 50 I pay half the partner pay half the bills I think people are selfish or lazy. A man is supposed to try to be financially stable. I hate to say this but I seen to many court shows problems with roommates Stealing or fighting ect.also living alone lonely can be a nasty feeling. Judge Judy Said get a cat I was laughing 🤣
@@arethaboddy4432 if I was splitting bills with a grown man I'm not gonna be faithful to him.
@@neneosei7168 aren't you a grown woman or just a toddler and sweetheart you are not every woman in this world you ain't special good women are out there and you ain't one you live in a house pay for it or gtfo and stfu
@@neneosei7168 what if the partner does not leave and u still struggling while they have more money than u. You go to work just to pay bills and the husband still expects the most from u. When u ask for something they ask u what happened to your money? Explain that .
It’s no standard for marriage . It should be what the two people agree to with the ability and openness to discuss all thing at all times if initial agreement needs to be changed.
Do not get married in 2023 fellas it isn’t worth it 😂💯
A man should only pay the bills if he has a woman who completely plays her role. If you're wondering what that role is you probably don't have a man paying all your bills. Have a nice day.😂
Not necessarily true
@@cortezmiller1899 You bugging, smdh!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yes 🙌
Man should pay rent/mortgage but everything else yall can work out. This is my opinion obviously....
What if the woman makes twice as much as the man? What if the mortgage payment is actually small?
Why does a man should pay rent and mortgage? In which both the man and woman live in that house and apartment together. And don’t say because men are providers. Because both men and women are providers.
Talk about gender equality, we live in 2024 not in 1950
@@cortezmiller1899maybe in yourrelationship 😂Harley no women want to do 50/50 it’s a bad deal
I’d really love to know what modern women think their responsibilities are in relationships today. If they exist, I never hear about them.
All I ever hear is “the man supposed to pay for this,” and, “the man supposed to give that.” Women sound like children today.
What exactly are these women doing FOR HIM, while all this bill paying is going on, for HER? We know it’s not cooking an cleaning, because that’s an insult today, right?
And we know it’s not sex, maybe in the beginning, but certainly not long term. Even if it were all the above, how is that even remotely worth millions of dollars of his hard earned work over time?
These women need to grow up, and realize a relationships is 2 way street. Otherwise they won’t stay relationships for long.
Growing old and alone for women in this country is no joke.
Perfectly said
Preach
Men were born to be providers women rear Children and should t have to do everything she gets 0 out it get outta here 😂
@@Keviekev115not😂
@@derrickravenell7787madness 🤪🤪
Guys: PAY ALL THE BILLS SO THAT YOU CAN CONTROL THE HOUSE...She can't tell you shit if she ain't putting anything on it now can she
Thing is when you lead with money you can die by it too. If your girl only cooperates you because of money you are literally paying for an illusion. The illusion that she loves you.
And what if she pay all the bills and he still thinks he rule the house
@@latonyahall2086 any woman who is crazy enough to pay all the bills going into 2023 is clueless
She'll be your slave? Why that..I want someone who can challenge my thoughts
Women agreeing with this is hysterical. They dont want any financial responsibility so bad they would give up their respect in return
whats going to happen to those "house duties" women talk about when we have automated sanitation? automated upkeep? automated cars...
Not everyone can afford that. Plus, women still have to be pregnant and child rear.
@@mimia.4810 true but the growth and expansion is going to be exponential. Gender roles are shifting; but you’re right men can’t get pregnant……
……….yet 🫣
If he pays all the bills, does she do ALL the cooking, cleaning, dishes, windows, etc??? Of course the man cuts the grass or pays to have landscaping done.
I like helping my love. Its fine to give and receive on both ends.
Yes money in one pot. 16 yrs married here. Finances are never in question because it's covered. I manage the accounts.
I think both parties should pay bills. Because someone who lives for free don't see or feel the sacrifice the other person do. And usually ppl that don't work n help pay bills are also very self entitled n demanding and that's unacceptable. I had downstairs neighbors were the girl work and payed all the bills while the guy just plays video games all day for a whole year. When she argue with him about helping her paying bills he always made a big scene and played the victim. That is not fair in my opinion
Every man should contribute as much as he can, more than the woman imo. The problem is when some woman think the man should provide it all and she doesn’t have to pay any bills or one little bill lol
I agree with Husband paying the mortgage
Women have some nerve. There is no reason she don’t cover half the rent too.
I agree , she's using my electricity, water , air , phone and sleeping under my roof. She's going to pay something, I don't care if we're married or not, she's not a child, she's an adult and I'm going to treat her like one, since she is an independent boss chick. How are you going to be independent but have a man taking care of you. It doesn't make sense.
@@CAdams93 exactly. What do they think gives them the right to expect to be a freeloader? Pu**y? Really? There are 4 BILLION other ones out there. We don’t have to put with such nonsense.
If the roles were reversed, then women would be complaining, so why should a man fall for the bullshit lol 😂.
Then a expect a manly masculine woman 😂😂
@@cutiep6425 as most are these days. Invisible adam’s apple hoes.
It's kind of ignorant to get married BEFORE discussing Money, Raising of kids, Religious beliefs... It's the irresponsibility of many men as they are dominant and are supposed to select the help meet. Talking about this AFTER tying the not is FOOLISH.
I would love to have your friends information for financial advice. That was pretty decent.
The problem is in the question. This question should not be applied to all men are to men in general. This question applies to each set of partners. Also, the fact this question exists is a problem.
Its not a problem. Finances should be discussed openly and people have to come to an agreement.
Woman wanted equal rights and the ability to work and now they’re mad they are being held to the standard of a contributor. They should stayed in the house and let the man’s one income be able to provide. Once the gold standard disappeared and woman started working, it’s necessary for two incomes( unless your wealthy)
I've been married 30 plus years. When my wife and I got married I joined her bank account. Our pay checks when into that one account. For the majority of that time, I made considerably more money, but I developed a budget and from that main account some spending money was always transferred per paycheck for her to spend without my input. And over the years her bucket got bigger as she made more money. Now that we are empty nesters, her bucket is pretty nice, but I have made sure that we both participate in our respective 401ks, and our rental properties are also kept separate.
😂😂😂ya no that’s a sour deal nothing for the women 😂
My parents have a great system. My dad pays the big bills and my mom pays for smaller bills, periodic vacations, invests, and steps in should a crisis arise.
As high as the divorce rate is I would NEVER pool all my money with somebody. IF they get mad at you or just wanna leave you they wipe you clean. I used to work at a bank and once you create a joint account with somebody they can legally take every cent in that account. Also if that person has there wages garnished or is on child support they will take that money from that joint account.
Which is why men actually have to learn the importance of marriage, and not having multiple marriage experiments. Getting on one knee in the name of just finding someone to be with. Not everyone should get married because we see everyone else do it. Actually know the woman you are thinking about proposing too. It should be no doubt in your head that this woman would do such things if you considering on taking that step. Ik anything is possible, but failed marriage is indicative of the decision making skills of the man always. Pooling money should be the least of your worries if youre doing it with the right person.
May I ask if there is a way that neither one can take money out the account without the others signature or authorization so that nothing like that wouldn't happen?
Yeah fuck that I’ll rather be single as a man ,be rich asf & have women who think like this wish they been got me
Why do these Modern woman think they deserve Traditional value’s ?
Women and men both are providers. People use providers for men as a financial being.
I would like all our money can go in the main account except our monthly allowances can go in our individual account.
Or just one account that way we both see everything going in and out and where it’s going.
If we have separate accounts it allows us to surprise each other with gifts and buy things for ourselves…so it’s less dipping into the main account for Nick Nacks and tic tacs.
Great video. We have to get those views up. Great content
My dude
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@@KDBowe ✊🏾✊🏾
I've watched a couple videos on this topic, and I think Rod puts it perfectly!
That last scenerio given sounds tight but
It also explains why the guy had a better lifestyle than his coworker... he had another stream of income!!! Duh...
Each circumstance is different, you have to do what's best you the both of you. In some cases people may earn the same, and in some cases one person may earn significantly more .
Regardless you work together.
I personally think it's selfish for a woman to feel she shouldn't have any financial responsibility just because her husband's a good earner, and she has a well paying job. Who wants to be married to a selfish self-indulgent person? No one.
Me I pays the rent and my wife pays the bills n that works for us
How’d you get stuck with that bullshit😂
@@bluesloose2606 lmfao
I think that's a great idea for you to pay the bigger bill especially if she is probably doing if not all, MOST of the cooking and cleaning around the house, ect
@@nunkap8874 that's a stereotype that you. Need to get rid off. Today's modern man is self sufficient. There isn't much that my wife can do that I can't do myself. Vice versa.
There have been times where I pay the rent because I made more money. Other times roles have switched where she made more and took over the rent and I paid the other bills. In my opinon, true happiness is only achievable when a marriage is an equal partnership. Not equal in status, intellect, finances etc.
Equal in the respect and duties of the bond.
@@OmniMale sure that works for you, but I'm not doing that. Sounds more like roommates to me.
I hear provider and I hear sucka
Nope u hear a traditional male something your not your a modern male a 50-50 dude instead 😂😂😂
@@69Fabulosity a traditional male for a non traditional female? Is this dummy day?
@daustin439 u got me fked up 🤦🏻♀️😂😂😂 I'm a traditional female but ur a modern 50-50 man who's crying bc u don't wanna provide. Ain't nobody checking 4u ur a worker 😂 we over here like Alpha men the one who sign ur checks💯❗️
@@69Fabulosity you got me all wrong. I got mine, retired early, employed many, and am not stupid enough to pay for any pretty parasites. It’s all good!
@daustin439 any man that speaks like u do is just mad😂😂😂❗️Provider men are confident masculine & not aggressive 💯❗️Provider men got more than enough to provide for them and their family. Any man that has a wife and family and proud that they don't provide for their family are an embarrassment 💯❗️
These women talking like they are kids. Yall are providing for your kids that can't provide for their self. Two people marry should work as team to make sure the home is good. This traditional way of think is silly. Put all the money in a joint account and have two others accounts too. Pay all the bill from joint account. Because at the end of the day we as one. If she making more she can it can be 60/40 deposit to joint account Is vice version to the man.
@ymarrero23 this not 1950s. Women has right nowadays
Speaking on kids, if both husband and wife are busy working. Who will watch their kids? Most kids hate that their parents aren't there for them. This is why at least one parent must stay home (preferably the mother).
@@mimia.4810 I agree if both parents are working too hard it will be tough for both parents to raise the kids.but they both can take turns.all they have to do is know one another's schedules & day offs.fhen that can determine what happens from there.there are solutions for everything as long as both parties are willing to work with each other as a team to find ways to make things beneficial for both so It doesnt feel like one person is doing more than the other.cause one person cant do everything it takes two.if it was the 1950s then one income can work.but right now in this day in ages it take multiple sources of income to live and I'm not knocking the ones who still lives by the 1950s template if works for them then it does.but what works for one couple might not work for everybody.
This is a question for women, and it was answered by one.
Whatever works
How many procent is acceptable for a woman to pay per month.
I we are going to buy a house eventually i would love to invest my money too.
So i wanna know what is good for the balance of masculine and feminine energy in the relationship. We also have a house keeper. Ofc we still do things in the house and garden but yeah🙈
There are plenty other expenses in a marriage besides household bills. About the lady who made $250k, could've been saving towards retirement, insurance trips, future children etc while giving room for him to step into his masculinity as a provider.
Translation: "I'm defending the sisterhood".
🤣🤣🤣
Stop…..
She made 5x as much as him but wants him to pay…. He literally should be the one living for free based on “logic” and not on these stupid masculine and feminine arguments. It should come down to love. A union. Together, all the money and responsibilities. For example, imagine a queen marrying the son of a blacksmith or farmer. She can’t expect him to make as much $$ or have as much as him, but she loves him?
Can you find out the name of that seminar your friend took
Mortgage 50/50 and if I bought my own house I ain’t adding no woman to my mortgage period
What is the name of the program? Or does anyone know what he is talking about that can explain in more depth how to do the allowance 🙏🏼
@Blissful Luxury Life. What he was saying is, when a man is paying for all the bills or regardless of the percentage 100/0 50/50 80/20 20/80 it's translated as MY MONEY HERS MONEY and it makes the FINANCES separate. Which is already bias when you are in a committed relationship. Yes everyone is entitled to their money (true) but not in a healthy dedicated relationship. Now, if both partners decided to STOP the 100/0 or 50/50 and ruled for 100%100% that excluded everyone trying to dictate their opinion and now it puts the relationship as ONE PERSON ONE SPIRIT ONE STRENGTH. There is no more he pays, she pays. It's now WE PAY FOR. As such, we can now move in a direction of WEALTH/PURPOSE/PROSPERITY/ABUNDANCE/PARTNERSHIP/LOVE with your partner not at his/her expense.
To get practical Let's say I make $100k net as a man and you make $50k net. We set up ONE JOINT ACCOUNT as a couple. Every month we should expect $150k in that account. We wrote down the house monthly BILLS let's say mortgage/rent($3500) cars($500) Groceries($200) Credit card debt($1000) Kids clothes, both families, Travel etc...let's say all the monthly bills have a total cost of $8000 for both, we should have $142k left in our joint account once ALL the BILL are paid off.
Secondly, each one have their own personal account. This is where the ALLOWANCE comes in. It works differently for every couple. It's based on what we decided to do with the rest ($142) in the joint account. Let's supposed we sat down, communicated and we agreed that we should have an allowance based on our expenses (I mean ALL we don't hide anything). Let's say all my monthly expenses are $ 2000 (including clothes, grooming, gifts for my wife etc...) and all your monthly expenses are $1000 (including make up, clothes, shoes, gift for your man etc...) WE CAN DEFINITELY INCREASE/DECREASE IT based on our needs. it's our LAW but it can be amended. AND if one or both party wants to live a lavish lifestyle, the money should come from your expense allowance.
Thirdly, we have now $150k - $8000 - $3000 = $139k with that much money left we can decide to INVEST it in properties or SAVED it. let's say THE TEAM with the LEADER decided to invest $39k in one property. We have now a property that we lease/rent that brings say $3000 every month as a PASSIVE INCOME (just an example). we can invest in anything Knowledge/career etc..
See we have now $100k left sitting in our saving (JOINT ACCOUNT) EVERY MONTH. In 5 years with have $500,000 as a couple that we can do whatever we want with it.
NOW, this plan can only works if you are with the partner that's meant for you not MR EVERYTHING or MRS TOO SPECIAL. The misconception we have here is, society brain washed all to think that we need to find THE ONE. "The one doesn't exist but making the person, the one you love become the one exist" from PAJ.
Also we understand we are not perfect, and we decided to RELEARN, to HEAL, we want GROWTH, WEALTH, ABUNDANCE as a couple not as an individual. We respect each others opinion.
BUT, it doesn't mean the man is not in charge. RESPECT should be the main focus for the woman and LOVE with DIRECTION, AMBITION, PROTECTION should be the main focus of the man. the issue here is the roles are reversed. Women now want respect more than anything and men are seeking love.
THE PROBLEM for this plan is, the Western Modern women feel like PARTNERSHIP means 50/50. How a woman is entitled to a successful man money/assets but don't wants to be his partner for life?
That's exactly what the man broke it down in the video!
Here I will advice the couple to focus on the POLARITY ENERGY of the relationship. In other words, if the man is already in is MASCULINE ENERGY and the woman is in her FEMININE ENERGY fine! the paradox is, the Masculine/Feminine Energy polarity is unbalanced in most relationship today.
the unbalance polarity begs the question:
Should a man become masculine dominant before the relationship or in the relationship? unfortunately most men become masculine after the relationship ended.
Should a man just accept his fate if he can't become a masculine dominant man and let the woman he loves in charge?
Should a woman keeps her masculine energy to a feminine man she loves?
PAJ
Someone had to do the books all bills house bills , but if she had Victoria Credit card and he has Best Buy they should pay their own and up keep their credit, but if your wife car gets repossess and she sees the car on the tow hook, thinking you paid etc bill she had to kno that you defaulted the cars should be in the house pile
I would like to have hear a wrap up of topic with respect to connecting listeners to resources or link to hear remaining of show would be nice🤷
She trippin lol
I pay all the bills and work with no help
I pay all my bills,but im not living with a woman, I will not get married either, and i don't want kids( had a vasectomy). My life,my choice.
I feel like there is no right way in how this should work , everybody got different situations . If their is no consideration on both ends it won’t work
If you get divorced, its 50 / 50 remember 50 / 50
As it should be !
Wow. When I hear "provider," I think "misogynist." That's been my experience.
Lol no wonder black women least desired on dating apps
Lol 😂 they claim their independent boss chicks, but they want men to take care of them like their kids, that's a contradiction. Megan thee stallion and Cardi B is messing with these women heads lol 😂.
being black has nothing to do with it, just say you're colorist and go
@@ariharris587 lol I’m a realist… the stats back up my statement. Stop being a sensitive woke snowflake
@@Yourbody_MYCHOICE a black woman must have turned you down before, maybe that’s your issue lmao no wonder ur on datings apps :(
@@ariharris587 naw… I don’t date black women. I follow the trend of the majority lol
Good stuff Rod!!👏🏼👏🏼
Imagine both having the same financial opportunities and she expects you to pay more and her keep hers. Good God the insanity.
My Ex made double my paycheck and I still paid for everything…. Thank god I left
@@Keviekev115 how do u even accept that
were u blindsided or drunk the whole time u accepted?
In today’s economy, it’s impossible unless the man is earning at least $250K/yr… In order for a BW to obtain a man in that tax bracket, she needs to willing and/or able to compete
He doesn't know if it's working or not. This individualism is what's wrong.
Well said Rod!
Thanks for the discussion! Goodluck with your channel 🖤
Actually the Government is responsible for everyone’s debt per 18 USC8 ALL DEBT IS THE OBLIGATION OF THE U.S….
🤔 it sounds awesome but keep in mind, they made the same amount that’s the only problem
Honestly, no man should pay all the bills regardless if he's married or in a regular relationship. Both individuals have to pay for the bills together, its both of their responsibility.
A woman believing that a man should pay all the bills and she should keep all hers is the type of freeloader it is wise to avoid.
Naw when a women gives birth she’s bringing life into the world and she’s the free loader 😂ya no 🙄🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️👎👎
Yup can’t expect a man that makes 50k to 15k a month in bills 😂😂
How tf do u have that many bills people are buying shit from renta a center and most be paying for cars to flex on people that don't gaf about them
@@jaredfleming5085 lol exactly....Fools got that many bills cuz they wanna show out instead of being smart and saving that money
@@freddygaulman5493 the only bills I have are rent ,car insurance ,light bill ,and my internet I never understood people that like buy shit from furniture stores or who buy cares they have to make payments in a month I would pay less than half of what I make in bills and still have money left over to save or maybe go out with paycheck to paycheck sometimes is just a Pointer towards terrible money management IE living well outside ones means
"If a man needs you financially then you don't need him "
Lol. I got my own house single. Aint no way a chick living here 4 free, sorry, no sucker over here.
@@PCSPITTER4NY if she is raising you a family she would be SAVING you money for a childminder.
And best type of investment is having your own family that mother of your child is raising.
Leave a legacy not a tragedy.
If you want respect from your woman this is the way to go.
50/50 is a roommate situation.
@@neneosei7168 lol. U a clown. No man should adopt a grown female. If u with me, you will work and pay some bills. Like most every relationship of all races
@@neneosei7168 btw my parents been married over 40 yrs, they both worked and split bills until my mom was 50, and then my dad allowed her to retire. Raised 3 black boys with no jail records. I would say that is what the black community needs more of
brian im in the same boat . women need us as they picking is slimmer... im doing it now easy but you ain't gonna come thru with a five year plan to stack and skate.
Studio apartments are now going for 1000 plus inflation out of control but I’m supposed to pay all the bills with no help? Fuck that.
If the man pays the mortgage than only the man should be on the deed
I'll take the biggest bills....
Wtf at 2:36 wow just wow dude makes 50k she makes 250k.Damm pimping 101.
I'm not paying all the bills for no adult, I don't care if we're married or not. This is not the 1950s and 60s. Everything costs more these days and I feel like everyone one should do their part. If a woman feel like I should take care of her, then I should be able to claim her on my taxes as a dependent lol 😂, I don't care what nobody thinks, it's my money.
You sound like you was raised by a single mother with no real "man" in the household. Either that or you're funds are low
If you want 50/50 don’t expect some feminine submissive woman expect a masculine one since she must do as much as the man
@@cutiep6425 I would be ashamed if my daughter depended on a man, once that man leaves you, you'll be stuck in the middle of nowhere. Women suppose to be boss chicks and Independent like Megan thee stallion said lol 😂
@@CAdams93 know!! women are not made to do as men …and she’s not depending on a man they can both work but she shouldn’t have to do nearly as much as a man if we were the same then we’d do the same …I’d be ashamed of my daughter if she’s in a relationship with a man and working just as hard as him she might as well be single ..unless that’s what she truly wants n long term women don’t want that maybe temporary but not long cuz we are women!! But good luck finding a submissive feminine woman who fuks u every night with a 50/50 relationship!! That mindset is why there’s constant divorces!!
@@cutiep6425 I'm not worried about the fuckin every night, it's women who give me that without a relationship lol 😂
Some woman are selfish. A woman making $250k and yet wants a man to “provide”… like woman… your providing for 4 families lol
I only split the rent with my girlfriend. I pay for everything else!
So basically the dude in the white hoodie is not a true provider. He's deflecting on every question. I get what he's saying but that's not reality. If the man is the provider, then arguments wouldn't be a everyday thing. A man is supposed to take on the heavier burdens of the households period. It's not selfish of a woman to have that standard. It's not keeping money to herself for selfish gains. A lot goes into maintaining a household.
An average person can't pay all of the bills
@@smoothgent1011 yes they can. As a grown person, you are doing it now. As a couple, you accumulate more bills so the man still takes care of the greater load while the woman handle the lesser load and even more if kids are involved. It's not hard to understand that.
@@YChef33 I live in NYc. Unless a man making 100k, it will be impossible for him to take care of most bills
@@YChef33 the times is different now. Next generation woman need to work unless the men is wealthy
@@smoothgent1011 I get that but this isn't about women NOT working. It's about the makeup of women. Yes, bigger and higher cost of living cities require more income so both parties should be able to make do with the responsibility of sustaining residency with their combined income. That goes without saying but the fact that a man should be a provider also goes without saying but I get it everyone's different and everyone's situation is different also..
Wow that was perfect.