Notes on Friendships | overthinking, break ups, deepening relationships, friction
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- Опубліковано 9 січ 2025
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“You attract what you are, not what u want.” Really was a reality check for me.
This is also not true 😂 who is listening to this BS, she didn't even know Ben intentionally was going to divorce her😂😂😂😂😂
Stop deleting comments 😂
@@Dinhi-gq9rbknew it from the start a bride who twerks around brothers to niggas in Paris on her bachelorette and has suspiciously little footage is a flag.
Petition for Jenn to start a podcast
This would be perfect for her!!!!!
hopefully
YEEEESSSS
YESSSS
i loved that episode of a podcast she did a while ago, she neeeeeds to have her own!!!
"Reach out and do not be afraid to initiate" - the way I got my friends back and fix misunderstandings
You are literally glowing. I dont know how it looks inside of you, but I cant remember the last time I saw you looking so happy.
I always treat friendships as such an intimate form of relationship. And this video is such a breath of fresh air. I just love Jen 🥰
Thanks for this Jenn. I’ve been dealing with conflict with a friend and them fading out of my life for the last 1.5 years. She used to be one of my best friends. In that last part where you normalised that friendships do wax and wane, and that it’s their choice but also their loss, it was like you were speaking straight at me. Thank you for the video ❤
Hi there 👋
I'm the friend who's leaving a friendship, and it sucks. Believe me I feel like shit and am very aware that it's going to be my loss.
I've just been in a crappy crappy mental space throughout and couldn't handle anything anymore, not even the basics of being a functioning friend. Trying only made my mental health worse and didn't even work for my friend because all they got was the shitty hurtful version of me. I was just unable to be a person at that point and it had to stop, for my sake and for their sake. It was just too unhealthy. It had to stop.
I'm so sorry for the hurt
Not a target audience but I got recommended your channel a few times. Appreciate the articulation and the renewed energy.
“Envy just keeps one unhappy”
This is a fun and insightful video 💯
Jenn your hair issssss mesmerizing! I must say that in these past two videos I can feel some lightness in your spirit, like you are being authentically yourself and it looks great on you! 💓
I LOVE HER BLONDE ERA
please create a podcast, i’ll be the first subscriber and ill listen to it like its my religion. love u and im so glad to see that you’re doing better 🤍
Yes pls
Well if I didn't just need this exact video in this very moment. Currently in a bad overthinking thought spiral and really needed this. Thank you ❤
I’ve NEVER in my life seen your videos or have heard of you. But this video popped up on my feed and I think it was the universe sending me this 😂. I am also 33. Have struggled with friendships and had good times, but at this prime age have started looking within about my friendships and how I treat them and how they treat me. I’ve made so many new friends that have not worked out but that comes with age and the types of friends I want to surround myself with. I am loving my journey even if I am lonely at times 😊. I really want a good circle
Im older than u, let me write down few facts about friendhips that I’ve learned in life so far:
- The real ones usually happen naturally, each person put efforts into it, and truly wanna be in each other’s life
- Friends are like seasons; they come and go, that saying is true! If u’re lucky u’ll meet few who are like the air u breathe. They will go to that event they dislike just to make sure u’re not alone and safe!
- If u are the one who always keep putting more efforts to keep in touch with them, arrange a lunch, or even just a video call, something is wrong!
- If they only wanna be in ur life for certain purposes, that’s not friendships, that more just some kinda networking!
- The minute negative jealousy and negative competition taking over one person, most likely it’s gonna be toxic and u gotta leave! Sometimes it’s better let things go and move on! It’ll save u and most likely save the other person too! A chapter need to end in order a new one to start!
‘I am not insecure and envious of my friends or my family or anyone close to me no matter what my situation is.’ There I said it too. I am so happy that you talked about it today, because I have always felt it that way but never had the courage to say it boldly. Don’t know why these things need courage to be clear. ❤😊🎉 Well, you’ve unknowingly given me reasons to be proud of this trait in me today. Thank you, Jen. ❤️
I love your sisterly chats Jenn! I 100% agree you should accept people as they are but I'd like to add my own experience with the example you gave about having a tardy friend!
I of course had that friend too, but I have a conversation about her about how I felt, including how I felt my time wasn't respected. She took it really well, said she was grateful I was open about setting this boundary and has been making an effort to be on time ever since. I let her know perfection isn't what I am asking but the fact she respected me and made changes was something I am super grateful for too! Of course, it depends on the relationship you have with that person and context but if you feel that friend is someone who would be receptive of this kind of talk and capable of making some changes, I would encourage others to consider this an option too :)
Wow... this is just what I needed to hear! So good, and on point! Thanks Jen for being so real, and for the advice!
JENN THE FIT IS GIVINGGG~ ty for all the great advice!!!
hi Jenn, always love your shine.
Although I have been watching you for a long time. It’s my first time commenting.
Very well presented here on this topic of friendship. And I love that you say everyone has different versions of ourselves in their heads.
Also want to share with you a philosophical phrase that I also agree with :- “I am not who I see I am. you are not who you see you are. I am who I see you are.”
So.. when are you gonna start a podcast?! 😁 I’ve watched so many of your vids like this and I’ve learned so much from you!
Always enjoy listening to your advice! Being in my 30s with a full time job/family, maintaining and even obtaining friendships have been incredibly hard. We all change and how we go through that change really affects relationships.
Also can I just say your hair is looking AMAZING !
🎉 omg. thankful to have double dose of therapy today. 🥺 One with my therapist and now Jenn's video. I needed this!
as a friendship geek myself, this is an incredible video. i love when you make content like this!
As a long-time viewer, I really appreciate the quantity and quality of insights you share with us. It's a goal of mine to be as articulate as you are.
People who I thought are my best friends are becoming more like strangers who I share memories with... none checks on me the moment I stop texting. Did this multiple times in the past 5 years and it always ends the same way. The thing that hurts the most is the time, love and effort I put into these friendships for more than half of my life, but at the end I am left all alone. Basically in a room full of people I love and thought are my family, I am in fact alone. I care less if we see each other on a monthly basis... you can live in the same city as me or on another planet. Talking and sharing various things in life are more than enough to feel I matter to you... but seems like I ask for too much and I never learn from being hurt over and over again.
Raise Your Hand If You Like Jenn ✋🏻
What you said about resentment really hit hard. I get it. I feel it deeply.
Nothing makes me happy more then Jenn’s videos ❤❤❤
This is what I needed. Currently going through a friendship hardship with someone close. What you say is so true and this is so good.
thank you so much jenn for this video!! I've been silently following you for a long time now and the topic of this video is actually what I've been pondering about for a while now. i'll definitely take notes from everything you mentioned in this video and see how it applies into my life. i really needed to hear everything you said in this video. thank you so so much. i hope and pray for your healing journey !!! 💖
Such a great video! All the advice are so on point, you truly give the best big sister advice. Which is the content I love the most from you :)
needed this! i've been rewatching your other videos on friendships. always so calming and helpful!
My friend broke up with me over an email, which seemed out of the blue and we lost touch. However, we managed to rekindle after 8 years through a chanced encounter and reconnection! Just go with the flow and a mutual understanding and learning to forgive each other is so key. The beauty in relationships is approaching it with love and kindness, instead of resentment.
Thanks Jenn for these insights.. We need to make that effort to maintain our friendships 😄
So well said!! The friendship break up part hit every ounce of my soul. Thanks Jen! ❤
Thanks soo much for this video Jenn!! Literally this video dropped when I was just thinking about the friendships in my life and I love how u described everything, especially UNICORN FRIENDS aaaah I love that soooo much😍😍😍 totally related to everything you said. I feel im usually the friend who reaches out the most and when you said we shouldnt like keep tallies on who asked who and all that i was like OMGGGG. like for reals i was saying to a friend the other day you cant rely on things and friends to make things happen for you, like we have to try and reach out! I get people go through their seasons and most times alot of people have a lot on their plate and are busy but I cant help but wish my friends would ask me to hang first instead of me most of the time. I love the idea of writing all your friends and aquaintences down and ones u generally want to know more , thats soo helpful and brilliant. Love you Jenn! your advice and wisdom mean so much to me and its soo relatable. I will defz be watching this video when I need to remind myself about my friendships ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Love how you articulate yourself and always explaining ideas or concepts in simple ways. This video was insightful. Continue to be the unique, and amazing person that you are. PS: I love your energy.🥰
ever since 2021 you've been my coach from pregnancy to single parenthood, thank you for being here!
Jenn!! I’ve been watching your videos since I was 14 or 15 and I’m now turning 24 this month; you are like the big sister I never had and have been a role model for me all these years! Your drive, spirit, and insightfulness to all of life and its experiences are things I also see in myself. (Not to mention I am also a previous aggie!! 😂) Thank you for making the content that you make. ❤
Love, Janelle
this video is tooo helpful thanks Jenn!!! i def struggled a lot in friendship and i feel like this big-sister talk helps me navigate a lot better!!
I'm thinking I'm gonna have to come back to this video a couple of times in my life. Super insightful and helpful!
I stopped midway through this video to text my friend who I haven't heard from in a while. I'd been wondering how she's been doing but was reluctant to reach out. I took this as my sign!
So, did she replied...?
Love you so much Jenn! Definitely doing some inner work and continue to strengthen my friendships
This is such a great primer video that should be shown to everyone at multiple points in adolescence!
This video was soooo well written !!! Congrats Jenn. I love your content and have been following you for YEARS ! Lots of love from Switzerland
Friend are not easy to keep in touch anymore because this person ask for to much from you. When you have a family of your own it's not easy to keep in touch as before. Being there for each other doesn't mean you got to be there physically. Thinking of each other throughout our life is enough. ❤
It’s a bit concerning how many people liked this. I hope you find friends that are okay with the occasional check in a few times a year but it is not wrong or “asking too much” for a friend to be physically present in your life especially if you live in the same city. Some people such as myself value quality time and presence during important or even everyday moments.
@@jazmynnv5831Yeah, the “person asks too much” signaled to me, this person doesn’t have the capacity to show up in that friendship in the way the other person needs. To think someone’s asking for too much or that they’re too much is not kind. She should communicate that to her friend or possibly compromise and agree on a way to show up in the relationship that feels good to both parties.
I've watched every single one of your videos for years and yet they never appear on my recommandations ! I will continue to follow along !
So glad you’re back Jenn ❤ your videos just light up my day ✨
I’m going through the same situation with my friends right now. I needed to hear this video! Jenn is the best ❤
Jenn it's so good to have you back
Fantastic video and just what I wanted to hear today! Thanks, Jenn!
loved this so much! your heart to hearts with us have always been some of my favourite videos of yours
I love this new era for Jenn. I missed her doing this.
Hard to find friends with a genuine heart
Thank you, Jenn!! I needed to hear this at the present time in my life 🙂
I need more on this 😭 would love to hear more about how to be someone who never envies their friends 🙏
How did this video show up as I’m going through a friendship struggle 😭 love u Jenn!!!
Jenn you are genuine, thanks for betterhelp recco!
Love this, Jenn! You always have super great insights to share!
amazing video
i love your energy and enthusiasm, Jenn!
Love this! I really needed this reminder ❤
Friendship breakups are definitely rough, but what you said about it being okay to let a friendship end when that friend is hostile and defensive to you really rang true for me. My ex best friend invited me to Japan but when I arrived she ignored me the whole trip and hung out with her own friends, speaking Japanese and not talking to me. It was really confusing and when I tried to talk to her about it she was defensive and denied she was doing anything. I ended up catching an early flight home, I just couldn't bear it anymore. She reached out 4 months later to apologize and said she still considered me her best friend but I have cut that cord. It was probably harder than a romantic breakup.
Love this video Jenn!! It’s getting me excited to journal tonight 😆💗
Thank you for this video, Jenn. You are truly amazing!
I could listen to this over and over
she is like an older sister to all of us!!
Omg yes podcast for Jenn !!!! 😍😍
Jenn is the internet’s therapist ✨🫶🏼
This is a really awesome video thank you so much Jenn!
Really needed this video and was thinking about this topic of late.you should definitely make a podcast.
Out of curiosity what was this recorded or exported with? Something about the FPS here is throwing me.
Ya something is wrong with the quality of the video
your videos are always here when I need life advice!
is it just me or is the video lagging? I have another video and it doesn't lag and its not my internet (500/500), my ram is on 33%, cpu 34%, (running a 3070 with 1440p)
The frame rate for this video is awful.
Thank you for saying it because I was wondering if something was wrong with mine
Thanks for pointing out. Thought it was on my end, though not a bother at all. Audio is very clear and crisp. 2nd listen ❤️
This is such a good video! Thank you for being transparent!
Wow love you! So I started listening outside and ended up not watching but watching the clouds and realized you NEED A PODCAST! That is all💕✨🙏🏽(watch you already have one smh)
Lots of people don’t have true friends. Lots of people are just there for the good times.
So much good advice in there!! Thanks Jenn!
Better help sponsor aside, really informative video ♡
Hi hi my husband & I are a few yrs older than you with 2 little ones… Soo most of my “friends” aren’t as such anymore…I just refer to them as my former classmates….bc we haven’t kept in touch since graduation etc. and didn’t reconnect or anything like that we tried but everyone’s “so busy” with work, life, babies etc… or just can’t relate bc we’re on different paths ….but oh well, it’s family that matters most now. Take care
Love your energy and the honest advice. Thanks Jenn for uplifting us. hope you’ve been a good friend to yourself too ❤
What a really good video!! Thank you, Jenn 🤍🤍
we need another what would Jenn wear 💟
Bring back the favorites videos! It’d be cool to see what you use as a mom 😊
I needed this.. Felt good after this video :)
Jenn is truly like the big sister I wish I had!
This video came at the right time 💞💞
I think if someone wants to walk out of your life, then let them. Wish that person well. You’ll find your people who give you the same energy. Also don’t ask why they ghosted, it’s none of anyone’s business but theirs. Most of the time when people ghost they’re going through personal issues. You’ll find your people ❤
Your conversation reminded me of a movie called Robot Dreams that I watched recently. Highly recommended!
My boyfriend and I have a mutual friend who is absolutely always late. He is the type of dude who tells you he is heading to ur place at 9pm but get there at 1 - 2 AM. We always try to hang out but since he always comes so late we either tell him we want to plan out a hang out if he wants to hang out same day and we will always plan so he comes earlier. He is a great friend and has been there for us for a long time even before we started dating, he is just not great at coming on time.
Hi Jenn
Thank you so much for the friendship advice content. I feel like advice on friendship is so rare on social media platforms. I would love to hear more of your insights on this topic. Your eye-opening advice is much appreciated. If you know of any good books on friendship, please recommend them as well. Love you Jen!
perfect timing. thank you💕
oh she's so back
Thank you jenn i needed this 🥺
Omg I loved these tips and your take on friendship!!!
commenting this to remind myself to watch this video when. I'm not busy, cause this feels important
Thanks for the pep talk Jenn!
I think you really confirmed I need a break from a friend. Sad because we’ve been close for a couple years but our friendship is more destructive than constructive now. It’s time for winter!😂
Hi I love you pls don’t stop posting I feel myself healing 🫶🏼
I recently fell out with my best friend of 18 years and the heartbreak is real 💔
so timely, thanks Jenn!
she is an angel