As a LATAM, this is VERY common. I myself legalized my husband and I know many others who have been cheated on or dumped shortly after. Another common thing is the secret family that they have in their homeland.
I can’t understand this guy’s take on his baby after work. Between commute and working, I’m gone 12 hours a day, and I’m legit sad whenever my son is still napping when I get home because his face when I walk in the door is the actual highlight of my day.
I’ve made my guy food for work a lot, his coworkers get jealous but he would never ever share it because he’s like “that’s my food, they don’t deserve it” 😂
My cousins ex took her two babies for an afternoon visit to the park and ran to Canada (where he is originally from). She hasnt been able to find an attorney to help her get them back from another country. They are almost grown now and unfortunately were raised to NOT be nice young men. I dont blame the mom for being worried about him running with the baby.
@@shauntaal yes it's absolutely heartbreaking. Those are her only two children (she isn't able to have more) and she completely missed out on motherhood. When they were stolen the oldest was almost 2 years old and the youngest was 2 months old. They are now 15 and 17 and from what I've heard - already have criminal records.
Speaking as of 14:00, I am SO PROUD of her ability to draw a string boundary between her and the dad, while still making sure the baby never loses dad. She's such a great example for little girls and boys to look up to. It's hard to know when someone is lying to you, but knowing what to do when you find out is a life saver!!
There is something supremely, obscenely disrespectful about taking food FROM YOUR WIFE to share with ANOTHER WOMAN at work, who is clearly the target of an emotional or physical affair. TO THE EXTENT where she's going hungry... And then, worse, lying about it.
Riley I think you’re phenomenal and you’re going to find the perfect wife one day! I love hearing you share your logic and perspective. Honestly I think you’re going to find someone sincere and lovely that will match you ❤
Living in a red state it's also a breath of fresh air To know that there are normal men out there because you start getting to know a guy and he seems like a nice guy and then you find out that he believes drag queens are manipulating our kids and is so in da Maga and against COVID vaccines and things that they turn your arteries into rubbery Rubber band's but like if you've ever butchered an animal like if you go hunting or anything arteries are pretty rubbery and like rubber bands as it is😂😂
Hi Riley, if you're still in that headspace then write it down. When you do find someone, they're going to appreciate every moment that made you who you are and what led you to each other. Guaranteed your person will have felt the same way at some point so they will appreciate knowing you went through the same struggle but were still thinking about them when it was tough. They will love you for the good moments and the not so good so show them and yourself that you have faith. ❤
I think it's pretty common for girls to go through a "I'm not like other girls phase," but if you're still doing that as an adult and you're bashing other women while you're at it, then to me that's a pretty big sign of immaturity and internalized misogyny. I mostly work and socialize with men, and I don't see myself as being better than other women.
I’m 30, the only woman I say I’m better than is my sister 😂 it’s a running joke because when she was little she kept saying she was going to be taller than me. She stopped growing first. But to just go around acting like that? Wild.
Becoming an adult and embracing my femininity and basic bitch tendencies has unlocked a whole new way of life in loving myself for who I am, instead of the teenage phase of trying to be what you think other people want you to be. I have true friends who love me for who I am and I have never been more confident in myself. I see the Pick Me Girl meme and try not to hate on the trope, because I've been there. I think being a Pick Me is sad, because they are not comfortable in themselves, and I pity them. With the exception being, as you said, the kind of Pick Me that genuinely hates other women. But I think the nonoffensive Pick Mes should be shown love instead of derision, because being a Pick Me is, at its core, insecurity.
Or better than you treat yourself! There is *absolutely* ZERO reason for a new, breastfeeding momma to go without food ever! Especially when they're both working. This guy took full advantage of her, that's really disgusting
I bet when the husband found out the mistress was cheating too, he told her husband. The mistress sounds like a piece of work and I hope they deport her ass.
I’ve never used “I’m one of the guys” but I’ve always been the only girl around in a group of guys. I never had to tear down other women to do that. I think my personality style is just more masculine so it happens naturally.
The most disturbing part of the story was OP not eating lunch because she gave hers away to her husband because he wanted another lunch in addition to the one she already made for him, and she didn’t have enough money to make herself a new lunch. This is a nursing mother ffs. Why is she playing the role of the martyr so hard? What does she get out of it? This is setting a terrible example for her kids.
That is the part that infuriated me the most - SHE IS BREASTFEEDING!!!! He literally was taking food out of his wife AND baby’s mouths to feed his mistress! And then gives her a disease that could have affected her child as well!!!!! DISGUSTING human being!
Its devorce worthy, if it was me I'll also notify the company they work for ( when evidence is gathered) and let them know Edit: surprise surprise the pick me girl slept atound and spred her nastay std around , and has the audacity to call op the homewraker?! Maby one of the other MULTIPLE men she infected told fer fiancee Edit 2: just realised her ex fiancee probably found out because he most likely caught her nasty std , i hope she gets deported 🤮
The biggest lesson you teach your kids when you stay in a bad relationship "for the kids" is how to be disrespected and stay silent. I know this from experience. I had to apologize to both my sons last yr for this very thing. They're in their 20's now and both stayed for the kids in violent relationships where they were the victims and said nothing. My oldest son was ran over by his ex as the final act. I was caught on video she's facing 10 yrs in prison.
Omg!!!! Did your son survive the attack? I’m so so sorry your boys went through that, and I’m sorry YOU went through that believing that it was better than leaving (honestly, it’s not entirely your fault bc society has done DV victims and victimized spouses no favors in guilting them over leaving bc of fear of failure). I pray everyone recovers emotionally and physically from the trauma! You all deserve so much better😭
-Before edits and updates: Okay but there really wasn’t any solid proof he was cheating. -Girls who say they are “one of the guys” are absolutely not to be trusted. They will sleep with your partner in a desperate attempt at attention and validation. After update: UTIs can be caught from your partner not using protection. It’s great that she followed her gut
Riley is such a cutie... This is so common, i live in a town we call Lil Mexico. Huge pop. of Mexicans, mostly men, all illegal. They marry white women to get green cards, some are good people but many only want the green card. I feel bad for this girl, she needs to get some self esteem. Edit.. everyone notice how he only wants her back for what she can do for him...🙄
You guys are awesome and I think Riley’s note jar to his future wife is beautiful! I hope he finds the girl worthy of the love and who God has for him and he for her❤
As a woman who is one of the guys (cuz I'm a gamer) my gamer tags are usually male or gender-neutral because some people are just weird when they discover you're a single woman. I've always been a tomboy and just gotten along better with men than I do women. It's mostly because when I was younger, I wasn't into "girly" things. I watched and played sports. I lived in an apartment complex where there weren't many girls around. I was also bullied in one of the schools I went to by other girls so I just hung out with boys. I am every bit a tomboy who doesn't really care for dresses, makeup et al. I was always teased that I was going to be the gay of the family. Fun fact: nope! While I've had adult fun times with girls, being romantically involved hasn't been an interest to me. My guy friends who I game with, will gang up on anyone who comes for me or tries to be inappropriate towards me. One big parasocial family.
Naw, it's not just that he cheated, lied, and did it again and again, for me, it would be how casually he treated my daily support efforts and literally USED MY EFFORT AND RESOURCES to impress this alt chick. Nope! I'd divorce, so he can clean up his own mess, but I'd want nothing more to do with the guy either. I mean, she was NURSING and SKIPPED MEALS for this result.
OP OFFERONG THIS DISGRACEFUL LUNATIC FREE FOOD AT HER MOTHER'S WHILE HE SEES THE BABY EVERY NIGUT AFTER WORK IS CRAAAZYYY 😭😭 I hope her family respects her boundaries and continues to help without pressuring her to get back with him. The backstories of the women in her family being destroyed by cheaters is heart breaking 😭
I used to be a girl who described herself as "one of the guys". At 15 I noticed boys didn't treat me the same anymore due to having gone through puberty. I was devastated tbh, but in time came to accept it. Now at 30yo I still oftetimes find it easier to talk to guys than girls but I wouldn't say "I'm one of the guys" cause it's largely impossible. Oh but I did get invited to a stag do (bachelor party) recently! I wear that as a badge of honour 😁
That’s a kind woman to be so nice to feed the man that cheated on her daughter, betraying his family. He’s blessed. BLESSED. To have so many people be that nice to him even though he ruined it all by himself.
Oh, surprise surprise. He wants his full time maid, cook, & caretaker back. He doesn’t give AF about her at all.🙄 Honestly, he doesn’t care about his baby too. A good dad would never stab the mother of his child in the back like that. Send his DA back home! Bye!!
What worries me most is the fact she was breastfeeding and got an STI anything like that can transfer to the baby. It a bodily fluid so he is not only halming his ex wife he could have halmed the baby with his cheating and not being careful. It's awful that his cheated but it's even worse in my eyes that he could have hurt his child. What if he had transferred a more serious STD.
Please don’t stay with people who did you wrong that you can’t forgive and they won’t change BECAUSE of the kid. The kid would grow up in worse state in that kind of environment
I get called one of the guys pretty often but I have to say I worked as a chef for 10 years with man only in the kitchen, the worker at the fish market again with mostly only man. My humor and such has changed a lot, got a thicker skin due to all the jokes and tricks they did. So yeah ik being called one of the guys VERY often.
2nd Story: OP, you're 21. You've got time, sweetie. If you don't want this man, leave him. You're not gonna end up alone. A lot of people don't even have their first serious relationship until their mid-20s. Date yourself for a while, OP.
@@pockyhunter187exactly! I was livid at that part bc I’m like “how do you know OP told when you’re literally sleeping with HALF THE DEPARTMENT?!?” Her little “indiscretion” was anything but discreet🙄
Just learned a new term today: pick me girls 😂. I was a tomboy/raised primarily by my father, played sports, joined the Army, etc. I struggled with having friendships with women because of the cattiness, gossiping(men gossip too, but different context), and the grudge holding, amongst many other things, or they tear other women down/apart because of their inadequacies/jealousy. I do have female friends, ones who are none of those things that I just mentioned because they're mature and professional.
I love love the okop show .Hi Sam 👋Hi John👋Hi Riley 👋.the first story:the thing with the food is a major no no in marriage cause we do all the cooking and cleaning etc.. out of love and caring for our husbands ,so if my husband was feeding his mistress my food well let's just say I would have reacted way more violently .op is a saint❤
And usually only a pick me will call herself “one of the guys”. Tomboys aren’t trying to be one of the guys. They hang out with who matches their interests and that’s often guys, but not exclusively.
I knew these people were Mexican( I am too). I make up my husbands clothes, lunch and I send him with something to have with his coffee when he’s at work everyday. It’s the way a lot of us are raised.
My heart broke for her! To have such love taken for granted! I’ve known many Mexican women who have this cultural upbringing to be the practical “backbone” of their families even while holding down their own jobs. They feed everyone (even us strays who come home with their kids🤭), they love everyone, and they protect everyone. It works in a family where everyone supports mama the same way, but in a household where she is giving with nothing in return, it’s devastating! Nobody (ESPECIALLY A BREASTFEEDING MOTHER) should experience such disrespect and heartbreak when they are going without to care for the needs of their family!
I bet that he looks like he belongs in a Mexican soap opera. That’s the only way that this entire story can make sense if this guy is that fucking gorgeous.
I use to hang out with mostly dudes, sadly they only hung out with me because they wanted more and I seriously just have a tomboyish mentality, I liked learning how to fix cars, skateboardng and other male oriented things. But I was stereotyped and have had partners in the past that felt insecure about having male friends. Tbh I'm indigenous and sometimes feel like I may be 2 spirited as I grew up having more than 1 tomboy phase. Some days I feel like a boy and others a girl so I think that putting all female/female presenting into the stereotype is unfair to those of use that just feel like a boy sometimes. Because I just enjoy boyish things and boys can be less dramatic. These days I don't have a ton of friends as I moved away from my home town and have struggled to make friends since but I have my boyfriend who I enjoy doing boy and girl things with.
You need to create a podcast with Big Protein as the eligible bachelor (with maybe 7 contestants), please!! You could have Riley describe what he’s looking for in a partner and a relationship, and potential participants could send in entries saying what they’re looking for and you’d choose from those. Then there’d be the usual 1 elimination a week, maybe the ones who stay would get a protein shake instead of a rose, until you have a girlfriend for Riley💞💞! !And you could have contests for them, like “Guess if this is a real entry into the Tear Jar or a Forgery!”, and that would partially determine if they get to stay.
Not a red flag, but a point of curiosity: you seem to need to be in a relationship. I’d wonder what drove that. But that’s an observation based on limited and curated info. You seem like a solid guy, you’ll do great (so will Riley) in the dating world.
I think it's because John doesn't talk about his life at all, so we only hear about Sam's life. To be fair he just doesn't screw bunch of girls at once, he just has rebound fwbs he leads on 😂 now we are hearing about Riley's love life too ❤
Ooof haha this!! When I’m binging the episodes is like, hearing a girlfriend’s name, to hear they became an ex in another episode or the list of exes names getting longer 😅😅I think John called him out for always being in relationships though LMAO
I feel like I need a timeline for the last story because how is she in her hometown after military training and working at a bar? Unless she’s reserves. Plus reenlistment bonus after first contract which would take 4-5 years
For the second story OP: I have a lot to say, so sorry for the rant. I'm also in a relationship with a long term partner, both of our first relationship (we are both 22 NB and we have been together for 8 years). Like every relationship it has ups and downs, but for me I think it's so important that there are so many more ups than downs, and whether or not a persons faults in a relationship can be resolved. I, for one, am not faultless in mine, and my mistakes come at a similar timeline to your boyfriends but are not quite the same. A year into our relationship, someone who I didn't recognize as being manipulative told me they loved me and was trying to convince me to break up with my partner, and being the nonconfrontational person I was, I tried to placate them and got myself emotionally confused. In college while we were long distance, I ended up getting super drunk and danced suggestively with someone else but that was resolved because I am Latino so I dance a ton with my hips and naively thought people who were coming onto me were just being nice (and being so deep in a relationship that I forgot I that it was possible for me to lead anyone else on.) I told my partner the next day that I had done it, but told them that I knew I shouldn't have done it, but didn't socially know why it wasn't okay for me to do that. Media had taught me that it was bad, I just didn't understand why it was bad when I had no intent to cheat or be sexual with another person: honest to god, I honest to god just liked dancing. (genuinely sometimes question if I have autism, or I am just naive because I forgot how dating works when youre not long term) Of course, these actions aren't great and I messed up doing them. However, my partner and I have established communication with eachother and will always try to talk through the situation and came to a resolve. I apologized, explained my thought process in both those situations, and we both realized that I had no malicious intent and that it was a mistake. And when it comes to things that are sexual like watching porn or being open with other people sexually (like texting friends about fetishes), we have talked about and established boundaries that we're comfortable with, have determined what we constitute as cheating, and have held ourselves to those boundaries. I think whether or not your partner is watching porn/using onlyfans isnt a redflag inherently based on what you've established in your relationship. I think it's a red flag whether or not its breaking those boundaries and he is actively withholding that information. If you can't get to a point in your relationship where you feel comfortable having these conversations, then it may not be the right relationship. I don't want to say 'leave them immediately' but if you feel the spark is dead and you have fallen into routine, I would, again, communicate that to your partner, or find new things to try. But from how you described it, it seems like having an honest conversation with your boyfriend is difficult. If you're not able to talk about these struggles with who you want your life partner to be, it may just not be the best fit for you, or you may just not have the maturity for marriage. Being with someone isn't a sunk-cost fallacy though: Just because you have been in a relationship a long time doesn't mean you have to stay in it. Good that you're taking a break, but I think it may be worth examining both of your communication styles and why you guys seemingly cant. Even being together so long, communication is STILL a must!!!
Depending on the group I’ve been considered one of the guys especially while growing up. I’ve always leaned more towards being a tomboy. Didn’t like dresses or anything like that. I did have a small group of female friends but it was we were the group of girls that wore boys basketball shorts, played all the sports and we were coordinated, we rode horses and just all round did wild kid shit. Just because we were “one of the guys” doesn’t mean we were into guys. We definitely were in two guys myself personally was never into any of those guys that we were hanging out with. Additionally until my sister was born it was just me and my older and younger brother. My rural street I grew up on had like 8 other kids around my age give or take a few years older or younger all of them were boys. All of them. I was the only girl for years until some of them started getting girlfriends.
45:06 Riley love exist for you I believe it can exist for anyone. As someone who spent the majority of my life not believing in love until I met my husband I promise it exists.
Just for the record, not not all infections that are treatable are curable. I found out recently I had sebhorric dermatitis and had lost my hair because of it but SD is an autoimmune that is triggered by certain things and it will never go away
In high school, I considered myself as "one of the guys" because I hung out with them a lot. I was seen as a lesbian because of it 👁👄👁 I mean, I'm sure the baggy T-shirts with hoodies, and cargo Capri pants didn't help either and the crushes I had on girls LOL but yet here I am in an almost 4 year relationship with a man 😅
I've been with the same person since I was 15, now 26 and I've never thought of being with anyone else nor have I ever felt like we've fallen out of love. we've had our ups and down, but never had anything like this. It just doesn't seem like the relationship you should continue.
I'm "one of the guys" because I grew up popping off the heads of my Barbie dolls, ATVing with my dad, and enjoyed woodworking. Guys, talking about getting friend-zoned. When a guy says you're "one of the guys" is the equivalent to a girl calling a guy "their pal". It's a curse gifted by society 🙃
Tf John. We fight for you to have Sam with you and then you abandon Sam and Riley? Smh we staying a toxic king here? 👀 I see you DI VORCE DI VORCE DI VORCE DI VORCE Bought a hoodie 😁 I appreciate yall I was always one of the boys. Had automotive class throughout highschool, the class had 3-4 girls and 15 dudes. Even with my DnD group with my bf, theres 1 other female in a group of dudes of 5 . I hate the whole women hating women and typically avoided female friendships that dont allow comfort. My best friend and I are similar in that field. Youll see us acting like dumbasses with unicorn masks, running around with pool noodles. Then go off and weld together some shit we broke 😂 Generally guys are down at 2am long boarding for like 7 or more miles with smoke sesh in-between. Women typically wanna do sleep overs and day activities. I like both things and as someone whos bi , im not going to not talk to people bc potential 🎉🎉🎉 time. Gender, sex, whatever doesn't really matter to me. How we vibe is what matters 😝 Sam, the only red flags ive picked up from all these videos is not texting back allegedly, keeping organized like taking out your trash when its overflowing, and show more empathy for people lmaoooo like that story bout that chick youre semi friends with and you said youll drop her off if it was within a time limit. It was a minute off and youre like, to the wolves you go little red riding hood" 😂 Riley, youre adorable. Thats it.
For the last story op should leave her bf. Never stay with someone for pity. I had a bf in highschool who I stayed with for fear of being alone and he wasn't very nice. You're young explore your opinions and enjoy your life because it's short. I'm now happily married and we just had a baby girl. You never know what the future holds but you'll really never know if you give yourself to someone who doesn't deserve you.
I don't think you have red flags, Sam, but I think you fall into relationships quickly lol. It might be good to not be in one for a while and focus on your own happiness and peace in being with yourself alone. Do some meditating and take walks just to enjoy the natural world. Don't work too hard either! Hope that helps!
come dudes, use your brain.... the dude being cheated on by his diseased pick me and let me eat the lunch your wife made for you girlfiend did not need anybody to tell him that she was cheating on him, all he needed was to develop some symptoms and have them checked out by his gp and remember that he hadn't been cheating.... sure somebody might have contacted him and spilled the beans, but he might just have put 2 and 2 together too
Did Sam just skip over the major first part of that update where the mistress is stalking/ harassing OP now because the girl’s fiancé found out about the cheating and broke up with her ?? 27:22 you can read it on the screen but he’s just reading the updates out loud
I grew up with 4 brothers so I'm very comfortable with men and not seeing men as an automatic romantic/sexual partner. Being essentially the only female "member" of my husband's band for many years as well, I didn't play but I was at every gig as driver/roadie/photographer for them until Covid happened and we split up. You can be a female hanging out with guys and not be a "pick me" girl or a wannabe groupie. I always told my husband that the minute a wannabe groupie became a problem between us (long before there was a chance that they would have sex) he needed to tactfully tell her to bugger off or I would leave. I also did the same to any guys who came on to me whether they were a band member, friend or audience member although there were a few times when he had to step in when an audience member got a little too grabby with me in a bar. Once he came to the front of the stage mid-song and konked a guy on the head with his guitar when the guy grabbed my boobs from behind while I was taking photos!
If you only count them eating lunch together. I would forgive it. If he built a bunch of lies on it just to have time with this coworker. It seems too premeditated. Hell no I would not forgive
So on the whole one of the guys thing. I have a friend who literally says ‘alright gentlemen’ almost nightly and I have to regularly remind him I’m a lady not a gentleman 😂 I don’t say I’m one of the guys but they sure as hell treat me like I am 😂
As a woman who has always worked in male jobs as in I worked at the lumber Mills I am the only female that pulled green chain at the Mill and all the years that it's been going most people said I was one of the guys. But I did not try to act like one of the guys I wasn't flirting with them or none of that stuff but we did have a camaraderie we did tell jokes and I didn't get butt hurt if they told female jokes.. but I also was not having relations with any of these men. And when we had parties that they brought their families I made sure to introduce myself and talk to the wife. I also did not go to work trying to look sexy that also makes a difference
I’m 100% a woman…. But I do seem to have better friendships, and even working relationships, with men. I’ve tried really hard to have friends of the same sex, but the only time that has been successful seems to be with other women who also get along better with men, and lesbians. After analyzing this for years, I have come to 2 conclusions: 1) that this may be the result of a lot of abuse I suffered early in my life from girl friends, and 2) that I communicate in a way that seems to align more with how my male friends communicate (specifically conflict resolution). Overall, I’ve just decided to be friends with anyone who is kind, thoughtful, accepting, and truthful… and to stop caring what other people think about it.
Everyone I've ever had a long term relationship with hasn't been good looking, but they were funny af. Sorry but I'm a cliche. If you can make me laugh I'm gone. I've gone out briefly with good looking men and forget that. I was 1 An accessory? Looked good next to them? 2 Supposed to be lucky to have them? Wtf? and other bs. I learned fast Edit oh and one was a chef. Cooking is a definite plus
We need Riley to break out of the TV and join Sam & John "in studio" since y'all are living in the same house now. Glad he's more comfortable being in front of the camera now.
@@OKOPShow HELL YEAH! 🙌 LETS GO, BIG PROTEIN !!!! 💪 I know y'all are probably settling in but hope you get your own green screen too. Also, please book Sophia into a vid soon. 🙏
I am one of the guys I am chic that loves working on cars, guns, football, all kinds of regional things like muddin I have been married for over 10 years. I also have my nails done and wear a full beat of makeup daily. I always get a long better with men no drama.
As a LATAM, this is VERY common. I myself legalized my husband and I know many others who have been cheated on or dumped shortly after. Another common thing is the secret family that they have in their homeland.
Read that as Late Ant To A Moth
*Correction::* “Another common thing is finding out that _you’re a secret_ to the family they have in their homeland.”
@@LLynneMSO TRUE
What does LATAM mean? Pardon for my ignorance if I’ve offended with my question
@@7ShadowMaiden7 Latin American
I can’t understand this guy’s take on his baby after work. Between commute and working, I’m gone 12 hours a day, and I’m legit sad whenever my son is still napping when I get home because his face when I walk in the door is the actual highlight of my day.
I’ve made my guy food for work a lot, his coworkers get jealous but he would never ever share it because he’s like “that’s my food, they don’t deserve it” 😂
Riley’s inbox is gonna blow up after this episode😆
I love that Rylie has a tear jar of sweetness. 🥹❤️❤️ Soo freaking adorable. 😭
The sti is honestly a blessing in disguise, it's treatable and actually confirms his cheating, there are no "what ifs"
My cousins ex took her two babies for an afternoon visit to the park and ran to Canada (where he is originally from). She hasnt been able to find an attorney to help her get them back from another country. They are almost grown now and unfortunately were raised to NOT be nice young men. I dont blame the mom for being worried about him running with the baby.
That is so sad to think about oh my gosh… :(
@@shauntaal yes it's absolutely heartbreaking. Those are her only two children (she isn't able to have more) and she completely missed out on motherhood. When they were stolen the oldest was almost 2 years old and the youngest was 2 months old. They are now 15 and 17 and from what I've heard - already have criminal records.
You legally need paperwork from the other parent to come or go from Canada. How the ex got away is insane
@@zahrai1235 Yeah. We have no idea how he was able to get them into the country. He had their passports but that's it.
Speaking as of 14:00, I am SO PROUD of her ability to draw a string boundary between her and the dad, while still making sure the baby never loses dad. She's such a great example for little girls and boys to look up to. It's hard to know when someone is lying to you, but knowing what to do when you find out is a life saver!!
She looked after him too well and he took advantage. All he wants is a cook and she should cook him is a nut roast.
There is something supremely, obscenely disrespectful about taking food FROM YOUR WIFE to share with ANOTHER WOMAN at work, who is clearly the target of an emotional or physical affair. TO THE EXTENT where she's going hungry... And then, worse, lying about it.
Riley I think you’re phenomenal and you’re going to find the perfect wife one day! I love hearing you share your logic and perspective. Honestly I think you’re going to find someone sincere and lovely that will match you ❤
Living in a red state it's also a breath of fresh air To know that there are normal men out there because you start getting to know a guy and he seems like a nice guy and then you find out that he believes drag queens are manipulating our kids and is so in da Maga and against COVID vaccines and things that they turn your arteries into rubbery Rubber band's but like if you've ever butchered an animal like if you go hunting or anything arteries are pretty rubbery and like rubber bands as it is😂😂
Omg Riley is so sweet! That tear jar is the sweetest thing!
Hi Riley, if you're still in that headspace then write it down. When you do find someone, they're going to appreciate every moment that made you who you are and what led you to each other. Guaranteed your person will have felt the same way at some point so they will appreciate knowing you went through the same struggle but were still thinking about them when it was tough. They will love you for the good moments and the not so good so show them and yourself that you have faith. ❤
I think it's pretty common for girls to go through a "I'm not like other girls phase," but if you're still doing that as an adult and you're bashing other women while you're at it, then to me that's a pretty big sign of immaturity and internalized misogyny. I mostly work and socialize with men, and I don't see myself as being better than other women.
Said perfectly ^^^
I’m 30, the only woman I say I’m better than is my sister 😂 it’s a running joke because when she was little she kept saying she was going to be taller than me. She stopped growing first.
But to just go around acting like that? Wild.
Becoming an adult and embracing my femininity and basic bitch tendencies has unlocked a whole new way of life in loving myself for who I am, instead of the teenage phase of trying to be what you think other people want you to be. I have true friends who love me for who I am and I have never been more confident in myself. I see the Pick Me Girl meme and try not to hate on the trope, because I've been there. I think being a Pick Me is sad, because they are not comfortable in themselves, and I pity them. With the exception being, as you said, the kind of Pick Me that genuinely hates other women. But I think the nonoffensive Pick Mes should be shown love instead of derision, because being a Pick Me is, at its core, insecurity.
Never treat your partner better than they treat you.
Or better than you treat yourself! There is *absolutely* ZERO reason for a new, breastfeeding momma to go without food ever! Especially when they're both working. This guy took full advantage of her, that's really disgusting
I bet when the husband found out the mistress was cheating too, he told her husband. The mistress sounds like a piece of work and I hope they deport her ass.
She initiated all the affection? EACH MINUTE WE CONTINUE THIS STORY, THE MORE MY HEART BREAKS 😭
Omg Riley is so adorable 🥹 he’s gonna be the best husband to a very lucky lady ❤
I’ve never used “I’m one of the guys” but I’ve always been the only girl around in a group of guys. I never had to tear down other women to do that. I think my personality style is just more masculine so it happens naturally.
The most disturbing part of the story was OP not eating lunch because she gave hers away to her husband because he wanted another lunch in addition to the one she already made for him, and she didn’t have enough money to make herself a new lunch. This is a nursing mother ffs.
Why is she playing the role of the martyr so hard? What does she get out of it? This is setting a terrible example for her kids.
That is the part that infuriated me the most - SHE IS BREASTFEEDING!!!! He literally was taking food out of his wife AND baby’s mouths to feed his mistress! And then gives her a disease that could have affected her child as well!!!!! DISGUSTING human being!
Its devorce worthy, if it was me I'll also notify the company they work for ( when evidence is gathered) and let them know
Edit: surprise surprise the pick me girl slept atound and spred her nastay std around , and has the audacity to call op the homewraker?! Maby one of the other MULTIPLE men she infected told fer fiancee
Edit 2: just realised her ex fiancee probably found out because he most likely caught her nasty std , i hope she gets deported 🤮
The biggest lesson you teach your kids when you stay in a bad relationship "for the kids" is how to be disrespected and stay silent. I know this from experience. I had to apologize to both my sons last yr for this very thing. They're in their 20's now and both stayed for the kids in violent relationships where they were the victims and said nothing. My oldest son was ran over by his ex as the final act. I was caught on video she's facing 10 yrs in prison.
Omg!!!! Did your son survive the attack? I’m so so sorry your boys went through that, and I’m sorry YOU went through that believing that it was better than leaving (honestly, it’s not entirely your fault bc society has done DV victims and victimized spouses no favors in guilting them over leaving bc of fear of failure). I pray everyone recovers emotionally and physically from the trauma! You all deserve so much better😭
-Before edits and updates: Okay but there really wasn’t any solid proof he was cheating.
-Girls who say they are “one of the guys” are absolutely not to be trusted. They will sleep with your partner in a desperate attempt at attention and validation.
After update: UTIs can be caught from your partner not using protection. It’s great that she followed her gut
45:37 Sam’s face! Yall are the cutest friends😄
Riley is such a cutie... This is so common, i live in a town we call Lil Mexico. Huge pop. of Mexicans, mostly men, all illegal. They marry white women to get green cards, some are good people but many only want the green card. I feel bad for this girl, she needs to get some self esteem. Edit.. everyone notice how he only wants her back for what she can do for him...🙄
I'm still cringing at "Are you okay?... What's for dinner?" 💀💀💀
EXACTLY!!!!
I was RAGING when he said “poor me, now I have to eat out bc I don’t have time to cook”… gross
Riley that’s adorable ❤
You guys are awesome and I think Riley’s note jar to his future wife is beautiful! I hope he finds the girl worthy of the love and who God has for him and he for her❤
As a woman who is one of the guys (cuz I'm a gamer) my gamer tags are usually male or gender-neutral because some people are just weird when they discover you're a single woman. I've always been a tomboy and just gotten along better with men than I do women. It's mostly because when I was younger, I wasn't into "girly" things. I watched and played sports. I lived in an apartment complex where there weren't many girls around. I was also bullied in one of the schools I went to by other girls so I just hung out with boys. I am every bit a tomboy who doesn't really care for dresses, makeup et al. I was always teased that I was going to be the gay of the family. Fun fact: nope! While I've had adult fun times with girls, being romantically involved hasn't been an interest to me. My guy friends who I game with, will gang up on anyone who comes for me or tries to be inappropriate towards me. One big parasocial family.
Aww this was so cute. I think things have changed for Riley since this right? You & ur future wife will now have this episode to look back on
I have heard so many cases of the side pieces killing the wife and I hope OP is safe.
Riley rizzed up Sam with those wifey letters 😂
Sam's red flag is he has no red flags lol 😂
Naw, it's not just that he cheated, lied, and did it again and again, for me, it would be how casually he treated my daily support efforts and literally USED MY EFFORT AND RESOURCES to impress this alt chick. Nope! I'd divorce, so he can clean up his own mess, but I'd want nothing more to do with the guy either. I mean, she was NURSING and SKIPPED MEALS for this result.
OP OFFERONG THIS DISGRACEFUL LUNATIC FREE FOOD AT HER MOTHER'S WHILE HE SEES THE BABY EVERY NIGUT AFTER WORK IS CRAAAZYYY 😭😭
I hope her family respects her boundaries and continues to help without pressuring her to get back with him. The backstories of the women in her family being destroyed by cheaters is heart breaking 😭
I used to be a girl who described herself as "one of the guys". At 15 I noticed boys didn't treat me the same anymore due to having gone through puberty. I was devastated tbh, but in time came to accept it. Now at 30yo I still oftetimes find it easier to talk to guys than girls but I wouldn't say "I'm one of the guys" cause it's largely impossible. Oh but I did get invited to a stag do (bachelor party) recently! I wear that as a badge of honour 😁
That’s a kind woman to be so nice to feed the man that cheated on her daughter, betraying his family. He’s blessed. BLESSED. To have so many people be that nice to him even though he ruined it all by himself.
Oh, surprise surprise. He wants his full time maid, cook, & caretaker back. He doesn’t give AF about her at all.🙄 Honestly, he doesn’t care about his baby too. A good dad would never stab the mother of his child in the back like that. Send his DA back home! Bye!!
That other woman has got the wrong end of the stick on who the homewrecker is
Riley is so cuuuuute
What worries me most is the fact she was breastfeeding and got an STI anything like that can transfer to the baby. It a bodily fluid so he is not only halming his ex wife he could have halmed the baby with his cheating and not being careful. It's awful that his cheated but it's even worse in my eyes that he could have hurt his child. What if he had transferred a more serious STD.
Please don’t stay with people who did you wrong that you can’t forgive and they won’t change BECAUSE of the kid. The kid would grow up in worse state in that kind of environment
I get called one of the guys pretty often but I have to say I worked as a chef for 10 years with man only in the kitchen, the worker at the fish market again with mostly only man. My humor and such has changed a lot, got a thicker skin due to all the jokes and tricks they did. So yeah ik being called one of the guys VERY often.
2nd Story: OP, you're 21. You've got time, sweetie. If you don't want this man, leave him. You're not gonna end up alone. A lot of people don't even have their first serious relationship until their mid-20s. Date yourself for a while, OP.
I want to make a tear jar now. 😢💕
Early guess: The mistress is blaming OP but I’m thinking it’s OP’s hubby who told Mistress’s hubby. “If I can’t have my way, you can’t either.”
I bet the fiance got the STI and figured it out.
@@pockyhunter187exactly! I was livid at that part bc I’m like “how do you know OP told when you’re literally sleeping with HALF THE DEPARTMENT?!?” Her little “indiscretion” was anything but discreet🙄
Just learned a new term today: pick me girls 😂. I was a tomboy/raised primarily by my father, played sports, joined the Army, etc. I struggled with having friendships with women because of the cattiness, gossiping(men gossip too, but different context), and the grudge holding, amongst many other things, or they tear other women down/apart because of their inadequacies/jealousy. I do have female friends, ones who are none of those things that I just mentioned because they're mature and professional.
I love love the okop show .Hi Sam 👋Hi John👋Hi Riley 👋.the first story:the thing with the food is a major no no in marriage cause we do all the cooking and cleaning etc.. out of love and caring for our husbands ,so if my husband was feeding his mistress my food well let's just say I would have reacted way more violently .op is a saint❤
There are pick me girls and there are the girls that are a bit tomboyish, or just like " boy stuff".
And usually only a pick me will call herself “one of the guys”. Tomboys aren’t trying to be one of the guys. They hang out with who matches their interests and that’s often guys, but not exclusively.
Riley is so sweet omg
That second story is about as real as my private island with a castle.
I knew these people were Mexican( I am too). I make up my husbands clothes, lunch and I send him with something to have with his coffee when he’s at work everyday. It’s the way a lot of us are raised.
My heart broke for her! To have such love taken for granted! I’ve known many Mexican women who have this cultural upbringing to be the practical “backbone” of their families even while holding down their own jobs. They feed everyone (even us strays who come home with their kids🤭), they love everyone, and they protect everyone. It works in a family where everyone supports mama the same way, but in a household where she is giving with nothing in return, it’s devastating! Nobody (ESPECIALLY A BREASTFEEDING MOTHER) should experience such disrespect and heartbreak when they are going without to care for the needs of their family!
45:50 it’s gonna be one of the Ok Family, one of the Ok blood family, Sophia. Haha just wait.
Riley, where do I submit my CV?
She needs to tell the man that the other woman is engaged to!
His red flag is that he thinks it’s ok to get a cheating pass. No sir it is not
I read the title and i knew what story this woluld be!
I bet that he looks like he belongs in a Mexican soap opera. That’s the only way that this entire story can make sense if this guy is that fucking gorgeous.
I use to hang out with mostly dudes, sadly they only hung out with me because they wanted more and I seriously just have a tomboyish mentality, I liked learning how to fix cars, skateboardng and other male oriented things. But I was stereotyped and have had partners in the past that felt insecure about having male friends. Tbh I'm indigenous and sometimes feel like I may be 2 spirited as I grew up having more than 1 tomboy phase. Some days I feel like a boy and others a girl so I think that putting all female/female presenting into the stereotype is unfair to those of use that just feel like a boy sometimes. Because I just enjoy boyish things and boys can be less dramatic. These days I don't have a ton of friends as I moved away from my home town and have struggled to make friends since but I have my boyfriend who I enjoy doing boy and girl things with.
It's not a first offense if he lied about her not working there... its a final offense
If I was 30 years younger I'd offer Riley my leftovers too!😉😂😂😂😂
You need to create a podcast with Big Protein as the eligible bachelor (with maybe 7 contestants), please!! You could have Riley describe what he’s looking for in a partner and a relationship, and potential participants could send in entries saying what they’re looking for and you’d choose from those. Then there’d be the usual 1 elimination a week, maybe the ones who stay would get a protein shake instead of a rose, until you have a girlfriend for Riley💞💞! !And you could have contests for them, like “Guess if this is a real entry into the Tear Jar or a Forgery!”, and that would partially determine if they get to stay.
He doesn’t miss his family, he misses a live in maid, chef, and chippy🙄
Not a red flag, but a point of curiosity: you seem to need to be in a relationship. I’d wonder what drove that. But that’s an observation based on limited and curated info. You seem like a solid guy, you’ll do great (so will Riley) in the dating world.
I think it's because John doesn't talk about his life at all, so we only hear about Sam's life. To be fair he just doesn't screw bunch of girls at once, he just has rebound fwbs he leads on 😂 now we are hearing about Riley's love life too ❤
Ooof haha this!! When I’m binging the episodes is like, hearing a girlfriend’s name, to hear they became an ex in another episode or the list of exes names getting longer 😅😅I think John called him out for always being in relationships though LMAO
I feel like I need a timeline for the last story because how is she in her hometown after military training and working at a bar? Unless she’s reserves. Plus reenlistment bonus after first contract which would take 4-5 years
For the second story OP: I have a lot to say, so sorry for the rant.
I'm also in a relationship with a long term partner, both of our first relationship (we are both 22 NB and we have been together for 8 years). Like every relationship it has ups and downs, but for me I think it's so important that there are so many more ups than downs, and whether or not a persons faults in a relationship can be resolved. I, for one, am not faultless in mine, and my mistakes come at a similar timeline to your boyfriends but are not quite the same.
A year into our relationship, someone who I didn't recognize as being manipulative told me they loved me and was trying to convince me to break up with my partner, and being the nonconfrontational person I was, I tried to placate them and got myself emotionally confused. In college while we were long distance, I ended up getting super drunk and danced suggestively with someone else but that was resolved because I am Latino so I dance a ton with my hips and naively thought people who were coming onto me were just being nice (and being so deep in a relationship that I forgot I that it was possible for me to lead anyone else on.) I told my partner the next day that I had done it, but told them that I knew I shouldn't have done it, but didn't socially know why it wasn't okay for me to do that. Media had taught me that it was bad, I just didn't understand why it was bad when I had no intent to cheat or be sexual with another person: honest to god, I honest to god just liked dancing. (genuinely sometimes question if I have autism, or I am just naive because I forgot how dating works when youre not long term)
Of course, these actions aren't great and I messed up doing them. However, my partner and I have established communication with eachother and will always try to talk through the situation and came to a resolve. I apologized, explained my thought process in both those situations, and we both realized that I had no malicious intent and that it was a mistake. And when it comes to things that are sexual like watching porn or being open with other people sexually (like texting friends about fetishes), we have talked about and established boundaries that we're comfortable with, have determined what we constitute as cheating, and have held ourselves to those boundaries.
I think whether or not your partner is watching porn/using onlyfans isnt a redflag inherently based on what you've established in your relationship. I think it's a red flag whether or not its breaking those boundaries and he is actively withholding that information. If you can't get to a point in your relationship where you feel comfortable having these conversations, then it may not be the right relationship. I don't want to say 'leave them immediately' but if you feel the spark is dead and you have fallen into routine, I would, again, communicate that to your partner, or find new things to try. But from how you described it, it seems like having an honest conversation with your boyfriend is difficult. If you're not able to talk about these struggles with who you want your life partner to be, it may just not be the best fit for you, or you may just not have the maturity for marriage.
Being with someone isn't a sunk-cost fallacy though: Just because you have been in a relationship a long time doesn't mean you have to stay in it. Good that you're taking a break, but I think it may be worth examining both of your communication styles and why you guys seemingly cant. Even being together so long, communication is STILL a must!!!
Depending on the group I’ve been considered one of the guys especially while growing up. I’ve always leaned more towards being a tomboy. Didn’t like dresses or anything like that. I did have a small group of female friends but it was we were the group of girls that wore boys basketball shorts, played all the sports and we were coordinated, we rode horses and just all round did wild kid shit.
Just because we were “one of the guys” doesn’t mean we were into guys. We definitely were in two guys myself personally was never into any of those guys that we were hanging out with.
Additionally until my sister was born it was just me and my older and younger brother. My rural street I grew up on had like 8 other kids around my age give or take a few years older or younger all of them were boys. All of them. I was the only girl for years until some of them started getting girlfriends.
I would have reply to that text “at least my car can be fix, but your relationship DON’t”
I told you that the sweater will be amazing!!! Sold out and cannot wait to order my hoodie？。
45:06 Riley love exist for you I believe it can exist for anyone. As someone who spent the majority of my life not believing in love until I met my husband I promise it exists.
Just for the record, not not all infections that are treatable are curable. I found out recently I had sebhorric dermatitis and had lost my hair because of it but SD is an autoimmune that is triggered by certain things and it will never go away
In high school, I considered myself as "one of the guys" because I hung out with them a lot. I was seen as a lesbian because of it 👁👄👁 I mean, I'm sure the baggy T-shirts with hoodies, and cargo Capri pants didn't help either and the crushes I had on girls LOL but yet here I am in an almost 4 year relationship with a man 😅
I've been with the same person since I was 15, now 26 and I've never thought of being with anyone else nor have I ever felt like we've fallen out of love. we've had our ups and down, but never had anything like this. It just doesn't seem like the relationship you should continue.
I'm "one of the guys" because I grew up popping off the heads of my Barbie dolls, ATVing with my dad, and enjoyed woodworking. Guys, talking about getting friend-zoned. When a guy says you're "one of the guys" is the equivalent to a girl calling a guy "their pal".
It's a curse gifted by society 🙃
Can't believe riley is cheating on me and with a cheerleader,i'm a whole librarian chef , don't play😪
I would never do such a thing - Riley
Tf John. We fight for you to have Sam with you and then you abandon Sam and Riley?
Smh we staying a toxic king here?
👀 I see you
DI VORCE DI VORCE DI VORCE DI VORCE
Bought a hoodie 😁
I appreciate yall
I was always one of the boys. Had automotive class throughout highschool, the class had 3-4 girls and 15 dudes.
Even with my DnD group with my bf, theres 1 other female in a group of dudes of 5 .
I hate the whole women hating women and typically avoided female friendships that dont allow comfort.
My best friend and I are similar in that field. Youll see us acting like dumbasses with unicorn masks, running around with pool noodles. Then go off and weld together some shit we broke 😂
Generally guys are down at 2am long boarding for like 7 or more miles with smoke sesh in-between.
Women typically wanna do sleep overs and day activities.
I like both things and as someone whos bi , im not going to not talk to people bc potential 🎉🎉🎉 time.
Gender, sex, whatever doesn't really matter to me. How we vibe is what matters 😝
Sam, the only red flags ive picked up from all these videos is not texting back allegedly, keeping organized like taking out your trash when its overflowing, and show more empathy for people lmaoooo like that story bout that chick youre semi friends with and you said youll drop her off if it was within a time limit. It was a minute off and youre like, to the wolves you go little red riding hood" 😂
Riley, youre adorable. Thats it.
For the last story op should leave her bf. Never stay with someone for pity. I had a bf in highschool who I stayed with for fear of being alone and he wasn't very nice. You're young explore your opinions and enjoy your life because it's short. I'm now happily married and we just had a baby girl. You never know what the future holds but you'll really never know if you give yourself to someone who doesn't deserve you.
no if you truly love someone there wont be curiosity of someone or something else. period. if you love them you wont need or want anyone else. smh.
I thought Riley was somewhere else all this time 😂
31:35 The actual homewrecker harrassing the wife. WTF.
I don't think you have red flags, Sam, but I think you fall into relationships quickly lol. It might be good to not be in one for a while and focus on your own happiness and peace in being with yourself alone. Do some meditating and take walks just to enjoy the natural world. Don't work too hard either! Hope that helps!
come dudes, use your brain.... the dude being cheated on by his diseased pick me and let me eat the lunch your wife made for you girlfiend did not need anybody to tell him that she was cheating on him, all he needed was to develop some symptoms and have them checked out by his gp and remember that he hadn't been cheating.... sure somebody might have contacted him and spilled the beans, but he might just have put 2 and 2 together too
Did Sam just skip over the major first part of that update where the mistress is stalking/ harassing OP now because the girl’s fiancé found out about the cheating and broke up with her ?? 27:22 you can read it on the screen but he’s just reading the updates out loud
Okay never mind, it just got incorporated into a later update 👌 guess OP had just written that short snippet beforehand 30:34
Riley, I volunteer 🙋♀️ for a try out dating. I'm about to give up on looking for someone.
I grew up with 4 brothers so I'm very comfortable with men and not seeing men as an automatic romantic/sexual partner. Being essentially the only female "member" of my husband's band for many years as well, I didn't play but I was at every gig as driver/roadie/photographer for them until Covid happened and we split up. You can be a female hanging out with guys and not be a "pick me" girl or a wannabe groupie. I always told my husband that the minute a wannabe groupie became a problem between us (long before there was a chance that they would have sex) he needed to tactfully tell her to bugger off or I would leave. I also did the same to any guys who came on to me whether they were a band member, friend or audience member although there were a few times when he had to step in when an audience member got a little too grabby with me in a bar. Once he came to the front of the stage mid-song and konked a guy on the head with his guitar when the guy grabbed my boobs from behind while I was taking photos!
If you only count them eating lunch together. I would forgive it. If he built a bunch of lies on it just to have time with this coworker. It seems too premeditated. Hell no I would not forgive
She is gaslight herself.
So on the whole one of the guys thing. I have a friend who literally says ‘alright gentlemen’ almost nightly and I have to regularly remind him I’m a lady not a gentleman 😂 I don’t say I’m one of the guys but they sure as hell treat me like I am 😂
a twist to first story.....turns out that it was the hubby who contacted co workers fiancee.
As a woman who has always worked in male jobs as in I worked at the lumber Mills I am the only female that pulled green chain at the Mill and all the years that it's been going most people said I was one of the guys. But I did not try to act like one of the guys I wasn't flirting with them or none of that stuff but we did have a camaraderie we did tell jokes and I didn't get butt hurt if they told female jokes.. but I also was not having relations with any of these men. And when we had parties that they brought their families I made sure to introduce myself and talk to the wife. I also did not go to work trying to look sexy that also makes a difference
Miss you John!!!
1st story: did you ever trust your husband? A lot points no also why did you stay after all he did? Your husband is a piece of work to say the least.
I wanna see Riley fully
When I was a middle schooler I thought I was a tomboy who was 'one of the guys' and was probably a little pick-me. Whoop-de-doo, I'm a trans guy now.
I’m 100% a woman…. But I do seem to have better friendships, and even working relationships, with men. I’ve tried really hard to have friends of the same sex, but the only time that has been successful seems to be with other women who also get along better with men, and lesbians. After analyzing this for years, I have come to 2 conclusions: 1) that this may be the result of a lot of abuse I suffered early in my life from girl friends, and 2) that I communicate in a way that seems to align more with how my male friends communicate (specifically conflict resolution). Overall, I’ve just decided to be friends with anyone who is kind, thoughtful, accepting, and truthful… and to stop caring what other people think about it.
Omg I love Riley …
Everyone I've ever had a long term relationship with hasn't been good looking, but they were funny af. Sorry but I'm a cliche. If you can make me laugh I'm gone. I've gone out briefly with good looking men and forget that. I was 1 An accessory? Looked good next to them? 2 Supposed to be lucky to have them? Wtf? and other bs. I learned fast
Edit oh and one was a chef. Cooking is a definite plus
We need Riley to break out of the TV and join Sam & John "in studio" since y'all are living in the same house now. Glad he's more comfortable being in front of the camera now.
IM OUTTTTT - Riley
@@OKOPShow HELL YEAH! 🙌 LETS GO, BIG PROTEIN !!!! 💪
I know y'all are probably settling in but hope you get your own green screen too.
Also, please book Sophia into a vid soon. 🙏
Can you guys link the episode with the guy who was cheating on his wife and planning to give the house to his girlfriend? I cannot find it.
16:21 id be ashamed of being on foodstamps or government assistance.
I am one of the guys I am chic that loves working on cars, guns, football, all kinds of regional things like muddin I have been married for over 10 years. I also have my nails done and wear a full beat of makeup daily. I always get a long better with men no drama.