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  • @helianabanes4875
    @helianabanes4875 Рік тому +87

    Dude. He did everything right for a few days! She straight up said while she was recovering, he didn't help her, and had no sympathy for her pain.
    Also eta :He deserved it. He had just passively aggressively insulted her, by saying she would find a new man to take care of her. She was just giving back to him, the same energy he was giving her.

    • @laleona1221
      @laleona1221 4 місяці тому

      Yeah that was misogyny

  • @Yume10605
    @Yume10605 Рік тому +47

    He a 💯 deserves her digs. You guy seemed to have missed he didn't help her during recovery at all and had no sympathy for her pain. He is selfish AH who wanted to keep her under his control by abusing her financially.

  • @AleeshaWeesha
    @AleeshaWeesha Рік тому +89

    After all that and he still didn't care for her while in recovery. He was willing to put in the effort to give empty apologies but not put in the smallest effort to care for his wife. Divorcing him was the 100% right choice.

  • @CodyJoel
    @CodyJoel Рік тому +283

    That husband was holding her back and he knew it too. It sounds like he was just super insecure and ruined his own marriage because of it. Like, you literally didn’t have to do all of this bro and you’d still be married. The fact that he didn’t help after her recovery was very telling, he doesn’t care about her. Also it’s rich her mother felt so strongly about plastic surgery when she has had it done, clearly projection. Even ex-husband’s mother was on OP’s side but not her own, sad. She’s probably one of those moms who are jealous of their own daughter. Luckily she has her awesome dad and aunt.

    • @MonicaLAllen
      @MonicaLAllen Рік тому +24

      Exactly the point i was coming to! He literally did nothing for her recovery, and then said i cant change the past but the no help on the recovery was recent!! He had already dipped out on the relationship.

    • @Kyotopearl
      @Kyotopearl Рік тому +6

      @@MonicaLAllenYUP. Wanted to keep her home relying on HIM. He already had a fragile ego. He would never be able to take her making more money than him PLUS having no control over her. I also feel like not helping her recover was spiteful and his way of punishing her. Good she got rid of that.

    • @DancerMusicanActress
      @DancerMusicanActress Рік тому +4

      Yeah he definitely didn't do everything right since the first incident.... Not helping at all during recovery is crazy

  • @animepix12
    @animepix12 Рік тому +104

    Her pettiness was more than justified. She spent YEARS in pain to give him kids and then he didn't want her to alleviate that pain because he was insecure. I totally understand the clarity she felt after recovering from the surgery and being painfree realizing he tried to take that from her

  • @Nathan_Bookwurm
    @Nathan_Bookwurm Рік тому +110

    This man (story 1) makes me so mad. You only make the money because SHE is sacrifising her career by staying home with the kids. You get to do your job better because you don't have to do anything in the house. You can rest (game) in the weekends and evenings, because wife already made dinner and cleaned the house. If she would have a job, he would've needed to cut hours to take care of the kids and household alongside her. And spend his gaming time to do chores. The money he makes is not his money, it's equally hers. It's disgusting he guilts her into taking a job to pay for a surgery she needs to get painfree... And then manipulates her to stay at home after she finds a job.🤦 She's justified in being petty. It was pure manipulation from his side to keep her dependent on him financially and physically (being in pain = needing husband)

  • @surewhatever8843
    @surewhatever8843 Рік тому +26

    In the first story, it was very telling that he did not care for her post-surgery even after he admitted his initial mistake, apologized, and committed to honoring their vows, specifically “in sickness and in health”. She had to recruit outside help for her recovery period. I see this a lot with couples, and I always like to inquire about how they would handle medical road bumps as they age. Almost 100% of the time, women are down to dress wounds, change adult diapers - whatever their spouse needs. Men? Nope, nope, nope...

  • @LilFeralGangrel
    @LilFeralGangrel Рік тому +46

    Story 1: The thing about trust is that once it's gone it's hard to get back, like the saying goes "Once burned, twice shy".
    And no she isn't being mean, the man tried to take away a surgery that would relieve a lot of pain, he also tried to trap her because he was deeply insecure.

  • @eric98292
    @eric98292 Рік тому +207

    Sam: "Pregnancy sounds hard"
    Every woman who's ever existed: No shit! 😂

    • @coolteamblt
      @coolteamblt Рік тому +3

      I did bark-laugh at that like Ms. Krabappel. I had kidney problems from the constant dehydration from constantly vomiting with my first kid. 🙃 I was 21.

    • @Aeisha-kf9hn
      @Aeisha-kf9hn Рік тому +4

      ​@@coolteamblt me too 3 boys vomited from the time I got pregnant to 1week after giving birth.i have no molars left now at 33😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😅😅

    • @peachesandpoets
      @peachesandpoets Рік тому

      If men had to do pregnancy you could get a free abortion with an oil change. There would be a punch card at bars where after 10 drinks you qualify for a free abortion.

    • @oceaniathecreator
      @oceaniathecreator Рік тому +2

      I'm pregnant now and I'm throwing up all the time

    • @keadeenmurphy4887
      @keadeenmurphy4887 Рік тому

      ​@@oceaniathecreator if it really is all the time, look into getting cariban with your doctor. It has been a lifesaver for me

  • @missromiea
    @missromiea Рік тому +58

    The insecurity of the husband made him treat his wife horribly. He wasn't supportive after the surgery, so her being petty is what he deserves.😂😂😂

  • @CM38110
    @CM38110 Рік тому +6

    The fact he said he was done after she tried to talk to him again after processing her feelings tells me all I need to know. And that's after all the things he did and said before that. She's entering her "I drink wine" era and good for her

  • @kidflash2fan
    @kidflash2fan Рік тому +26

    The thing about resentment and the first story is that a person can get over a quick stupid action but the offender doesn't get to minimize it ever.
    Anger like grief doesn't just go away comes in waves

    • @stormkive4356
      @stormkive4356 Рік тому +6

      exactly and when she was tryna process the anger in counseling to get over it, he just gave up bc he didnt want to face the wrongdoing he did. so to me, maybe he was bluffing and expected her to give in but hes the one who gave up on the relationship in the end

    • @Eruelle023
      @Eruelle023 Рік тому +2

      This! And the idea that he was expecting her to forgive him so quickly after breaking the trust. Unbelievable…

    • @carmy2155
      @carmy2155 Рік тому +3

      Literally. The offender doesn’t have the right to tell the person they offended to get over it.

    • @Gayonetta5000
      @Gayonetta5000 Рік тому +1

      I feel men like this truly aren’t capable of showing love. Like all it was lip service. And assuming he was lying about the insecurity stuff, all he had to do was speak. God, OP truly dodged a bullet. Dude sounds like a pill

  • @83gemm
    @83gemm Рік тому +91

    He literally was shocked she didn’t try to take him for more money in the divorce and said she’d have trouble finding a man to take care of her.
    Do you get what that says about how he viewed her? Apparently through their whole marriage.
    She was absolutely right to clap back and rub it in that she can take better care of herself than he did.

    • @HappyDayandLove
      @HappyDayandLove Рік тому +7

      He said she wouldn’t have a hard time not she will have a hard time

    • @HappyDayandLove
      @HappyDayandLove Рік тому +7

      Still crazy he referred it as “taking care of her” I guess though

    • @alexiatr
      @alexiatr Рік тому +9

      ​@HappyDayandLove even during the recovery he was unsympathetic, it was his chance but it was done

    • @HappyDayandLove
      @HappyDayandLove Рік тому +6

      @@alexiatr oh no , I agree . Just was stating what was said that’s all 😅

  • @WatsonAndDaughter
    @WatsonAndDaughter Рік тому +10

    I think you guys are way underplaying what happened in that first story. This woman went through YEARS of agony (her abdominal muscles were LITERALLY ripped at the seam in the front, meaning her abdominal organs were bulging through her muscles and her body could not maintain proper support or center of gravity) and her husband tried to keep a necessary medical procedure from her because of his insecurity. He literally wanted to keep her disabled to ensure she'd remain a stay at home mom. There's no coming back from that.
    Edit: Yeah no you guys are tripping. I can't wrap my head around any defense of the ex-husband.

  • @tqoftu1
    @tqoftu1 Рік тому +8

    Separation of the abdominal muscles in pregnancy is fairly common. It's called diastasis recti. It is correctable with surgery. There is a hole between the abs and it's as weird as it sounds.

  • @lexg9089
    @lexg9089 Рік тому +39

    As long as the pettiness doesn't evolve into straight toxicity and the kids don't get thrown in the middle (not on her said but rather on his side if he begins to resent her), I'd say she fed him the muffins he baked.

  • @emilyjohn2034
    @emilyjohn2034 Рік тому +5

    I feel like it’d be one thing if it was just a cosmetic surgery and his insecurities, but to put your insecurities above someone’s literal health is to me unforgivable.

  • @jasminereyes4675
    @jasminereyes4675 Рік тому +40

    I really like when you guys have Riley as a guest even if you have to wheel him in. Super chill dude

  • @Amberlily9207
    @Amberlily9207 Рік тому +13

    Honestly I don’t think it’s about the money, it’s about the break of trust. I personally am not a forgiving person, I hold grudges.

  • @SteviiLove
    @SteviiLove Рік тому +27

    I'm only 6:27 so I may be wrong but I feel like it's a mixture of control and insecurity on the husband's part. I think he's deluded himself to thinking nobody else will find OP attractive, so by keeping her from having her mommy makeover keeps her completely reliant on him. In his messed up mind, she needs him, but if she gets the mommy makeover she'd easily be able to replace him.
    At least that's the vibes I'm getting.

  • @silverriku12
    @silverriku12 Рік тому +8

    Chronic pain is hell. To be relieved of it, and to know that the person that is supposed to love you and want you to not be in pain decided that you being in constant pain was less important than their insecurity? I'd be petty as hell

  • @carolynedwards9821
    @carolynedwards9821 Рік тому +11

    On the first story, yes I would get a divorce. Being in pain is horrible, I had major pain and had a hysterectomy at 27. So I feel for her pain

  • @AndengStuff
    @AndengStuff Рік тому +16

    The husband deserves that clap back. He'd been trying to subtly have her be dependent only on him because he's so insecure. he watched her struggle with pain for years just to give himself assurance that she wouldn''t leave him. He made self deprecating remarks on himself in hopes to garner sympathy during his apology and make OP feel guilty for beiing mad at him. the Let's do a post-nup shit was probably his last card. making himself look like the meek one while he's actually manipulative.

    • @Arbitraryusername
      @Arbitraryusername Рік тому +2

      This crap is so common, it’s disgusting. It’s happened to me(I only took a year off) and many of my friends that are stay at home moms; they use the fact that they are the only ones working as an excuse to “be the leader”(aka the abuser that only meets his own needs/wants) and completely discount their wives opinions. I was stubborn and fought tooth and nail to provide a good life for my daughter… meanwhile my ex skipped the country to avoid paying child support, stating he’s not paying just “because I put some cum in you”. So that’s what he thinks of his daughter… she’s “just some cum”. Never again will I ever stop working in a relationship… to the point I’m now a business owner and have all control of my entire life. Fuck that life.

    • @carolinascouser
      @carolinascouser 3 місяці тому

      Agreed. He wanted to keep that free labor situation going, and he could have worked on his own issues and improved himself so he'd be more likely to keep her, e.g. going to therapy, going to the gym, being supportive of her well-being and bodily autonomy, caring for her after surgery, but instead, he stole from her, provided zero support during her recovery, and tried to manipulate her into not returning to work. I'd rub his nose in it, too!

  • @StellaHershman24
    @StellaHershman24 Рік тому +50

    Personally I think OP's husband deserved the pettiness and more. She was in PAIN for YEARS her abdomen had SEPARATED, and he was going to jeopardize her relief for some stupid insecurities. They'd been married for 11 years, so he should've known better and communicated all of that to her, not sabotaged her. And then after her surgery, his parents helped her out but he didn't?? Then to make a comment about how she'll easily find another man to take care of her and that he's surprised she didn't ask for more than half?? THAT was backhanded and petty. It seems he only provided financially and thought she couldn't stand on her own and was only with him for his money. She's clearly more than capable of being independent, and he needed that reality check. He himself said he was a shitty husband and father, but thinks money makes a marriage. Fuck that. He deserved every bit of what she gave him.

  • @Adventures_with_PandaGirl
    @Adventures_with_PandaGirl Рік тому +15

    She found out the person she married was not who she thought he was. He's a selfish ah who locked down a baddie and tried to hold her down. He deserved everything and more.

  • @shilo6928
    @shilo6928 Рік тому +6

    I’ve had 5 pregnancies. Full abdominal separation. 7lb 15oz, 8lb 2oz, 6lb 6oz, 9lb 6oz and 9lb 4oz. I’m going another pregnancy and getting a full mommy make over

  • @toxickirstyx3153
    @toxickirstyx3153 Рік тому +2

    The fact the husband did not help her through post surgery, be there for his wife during recovery is very telling. Also, he didn't want her to have surgery? Do you enjoy your wife being in pain all the time whilst taking care of YOUR kids that you helped make? Good grief. Good lord, I don't have words. Throw the whole man away.
    My partner after my heart surgery, there were a few bumps that made me stay in hospital for extra 3 weeks, my partner sat with me every single day. I have high anxiety and this happened during covid where they did not allow visitors but allowed my partner in. I am grateful for hospital staff for putting up with me and my crying and my partner got me through the pain. Did not stop there, he helped me get home and made me relax for next 3 months. Hospital food is still yucky and would not recommend.

  • @insanepretty
    @insanepretty Рік тому +5

    I think OP (the first story) made the right decision sometimes there is nothing the other person can do to rebuild trust with you that is why you should think before making such big moves. OP did the thinking long and hard before deciding to become divorced, and there is probably a lot more to it that she is not just going to air on the internet that she worked through with her therapist. As far as sticking it to her husband for revenge I think it is well deserved especially since it seems he was trying to break her down to keep her. Just because you apologize it does not miraculously fix things and he was done putting in the work. Now she does need to be careful because the way she is progressing it could definitely easily get into the very wrong to do category.

  • @tacham4533
    @tacham4533 Рік тому +3

    What men don’t understand is that we can withstand soooo much, cheating,lying, even some abuse ( not that we should). But we can fall out of love in one moment and it doesn’t even have to be that big. And once we do, there is no going back, it’s just gone.

  • @La_Jozelyn
    @La_Jozelyn Рік тому +3

    Story 1 NTA he was selfish & was holding her back. She deserved better & went & got/did better✨

  • @imajinallthepurple
    @imajinallthepurple Рік тому +3

    29:10 "Only" 10 years but I basically was him. I told hubby if it happened again I was out. It did and I was. 1.5 years later and I'm still paying off that cr_p! 😭

  • @jessicaking2727
    @jessicaking2727 Рік тому +7

    So I was blessed enough to not only no gain weight but lost weight I started pre pregnancy at 145 and I’m 5’ 4” so I was not a big girl by the slightest I ended it at 135-140 but that “blessing” was also the biggest curse I could have ever had. I threw up every single thing I ate for 9 months had to get Iv infusions 5/hrs a day once a week. I was constantly on meds and always tired. You couldnt tell I was more than 3 mos pregnant (not even an able to ask me if I was if you didn’t know me. The day I gave birth. I didn’t need a tummy tuck but to this day after breast feeding 2 babies and having 2 babies in 18 mos I would have and still would kill for a breast augmentation!

  • @bloggs59
    @bloggs59 Рік тому +1

    Mine did the same, cleaned me out, house, car, both businesses. All in one fell swoop! Didn't see it coming. I divorced him but did NOT INFORM HIM (he was unaware for about 8yrs) & he kept sending ME papers to sign, (I kept "losing" the p.work) & ultimately I saved the next woman from waking up to empty bank accounts & jewellery boxes, house remortgaged despite being bought & paid for IN MY NAME & an empty space where a car had sat not 48hrs previously. That was 30yrs ago & still makes me laugh. Paybacks a bitch!

  • @michelegetfitmom4078
    @michelegetfitmom4078 Рік тому +1

    Mine split & I've never been able to get it fixed😊

  • @moonbyeol9130
    @moonbyeol9130 Рік тому +4

    I'm sorry but the OP's mom is disgusting. She literally said that gaming PC is more important than her HEALTH! FFS!
    I think OP did a right thing by divorcing. If she can't regain trust for her husband she won't be happy. Also he was really limiting her.
    I would say, the husband is NOT an asshole for putting in the tracker on purpose. Yes, maybe he should've confronted her about the casino after the first time. BUT! SHE'S AN ADDICT! She's literally sick, so him tracking if she's still feeding her addiction is not a bad thing. If I had a partner I wish he tracked my shopping addiction, because sometimes it can go too far and someone who can keep you accountable can really save you.

  • @ac6418
    @ac6418 Рік тому +3

    In story 1, she made the right choice and had a right to be petty. SO LONG SHE DOESN'T DO IT IN FRONT OF THE KIDS. That's the important caveat. He was insecure and took her out on her, and what he did was straight up toxic. She has every right to a bit of pettiness.
    He was also been petty by basically saying: 'Good luck finding someone to care for you'. I 100% believe if she didn't tell him her job, the moment he gets a new girl, he'll be calling to remind her how good he treated her and how he has a new squeeze that gets the benefit of being with him. Just to hurt her. It wasn't a good luck parting. It was just a butthurt man trying to act like he was the one in control until the end. Women do it too and they sound just as disgusting.

    • @mayaparamita2254
      @mayaparamita2254 Рік тому

      he didnt say that. he said good luck with job hunting. and it wouldnt be hard for her to find someone to take care if her.
      It's two things

    • @mayaparamita2254
      @mayaparamita2254 Рік тому

      she also said she told him she got her old job back and her salary is 3x his. It's there.

  • @LippyWitch
    @LippyWitch Рік тому +14

    I had this surgery in august and a redo last week bc of soem complications. i will attest that the abs being resewen up makes an incredible difference to the back, coming form someone with chronic back issues. i was up and moving within a week (prolly shouldnt of been lol). not every women break their bellies but often when you retain a shit ton of gluid or have large babies, this does happen. i think honestly if you get a c section (which is often part of the issues) they should automatically resewen the ab tear like they sew up the gouch tears ya know? just bc you cant see it doesnt mean it doesnt have health complications down the road and this happens. yes you do this after having kids bc it risks retearing if you have more. mine was about 17k out of pocket and is generally between 10-20k on average anything cheaper is out of country or black market and some docs will cover this with medical coverage. you have to go through physical therapy and prove it but that is a bitch and a half to do and you still may be denied. if my ex did that shit i would have dropped the peoples elbow. she did the right thing and he sounds like a douche anyways so petty on.

    • @Salicat99
      @Salicat99 Рік тому +2

      So my random back spasms are likely from this? My abs separated during my 2nd and 3rd pregnancies, and then my 4th ended up with a vertical c-section due to an emergency cord prolapse.

    • @be.A.b
      @be.A.b Рік тому +3

      Even just weakened abdominal muscles leads to posture and back issues.

    • @moniquedhooghe
      @moniquedhooghe Рік тому +1

      ​@@Salicat99yup, more than just likely

  • @tothewonder6248
    @tothewonder6248 Рік тому +25

    OP 1 DEFINITELY did the right thing and he deserved to have his face rubbed in her new life. She absolutely can do better not just because she deserves it, but because he sucks. OP 2 sunk cost fallacy. He should get out and he's NTA she can't be trusted,

  • @Neyfufu00
    @Neyfufu00 9 місяців тому +1

    0:17 instant divorce

  • @savanna8103
    @savanna8103 Рік тому +1

    I don’t think it was overkill because she said after she had surgery her husband was no help and seemed to have no sympathy for the pain she was in. A husband should never be indifferent to his wife's pain and vice versa.

  • @MelanieMacDonalDMELSPLAYLISTS
    @MelanieMacDonalDMELSPLAYLISTS Рік тому +1

    YEP MY STOMACH MUSCLES TORE APART & I WAS TOLD TO LET THEM KNOW 6MTHS AFTER I HAD STOPPED BREAST FEEDING ... I BREASTFED FOR 3YRS & THEN THEY SAID THEY WEREN'T OPERATING NOW ... THAT WAS 20YRS AGO & MY BACK IS CONSTANT AGONY 😐

  • @LevityBrevity
    @LevityBrevity Рік тому +10

    I was lucky 🍀 6lb baby, no stretch marks. I would have gotten a tummy tuck if I felt I needed one 🧡

    • @Nathan_Bookwurm
      @Nathan_Bookwurm Рік тому +1

      Mine were just under 8 pound and I have strech marks all over my breast + belly, and a huge wobbly pre-pregnancy belly. 😢 I'm thinking about a tummy tuck, but I first want to change my lifestyle a bit more to maybe try and loose a bit more fat and have a regular sport routine. Already got back to my original weight though so I doubt much changes so I'll have to either do it or live with a deformed belly. Which isn't bad cuz this belly gave life to two beautiful children, but had a mastectomy half a year ago so now my chest is flat as a rock so the belly kinda draws extra attention now 😁 I guess, when at some point it's going to drag me down mentally, the surgery will happen. (Especially cuz I also look like a male with a pregnant belly now, since I'm a transman)

    • @BarelySleeping
      @BarelySleeping Рік тому

      I had a 6lb with my first. I have stretch marks all over my boobs. I had a 9lbs baby for my second and didnt get a single stretch mark.

    • @bethanyhutter5433
      @bethanyhutter5433 Рік тому

      I had a 7lb and 8 lb baby. No stretch marks on my belly, but all over my legs and butt.

  • @furgaliciousss8844
    @furgaliciousss8844 Рік тому +3

    I was ready. Love listening to these while I do my work. Perfect for listening always look forward to your videos.

  • @halfway_hippie
    @halfway_hippie Рік тому +12

    For the first story, He absolutely deserved everything he got. I would have done the same. He’s lucky she wasn’t more petty.

  • @lisaifould665
    @lisaifould665 Рік тому +1

    I’ve had a tummy tuck and boob job, I’ve carried twins and breastfed, both my tummy and boobs needed repair work! It’s better if u can lose the baby weight too, recovery is better. Still don’t feel like I’ve the best self esteem but I feel better than when I was in my 20s 😅 100% worth it

  • @bridgetcooney5085
    @bridgetcooney5085 Рік тому +10

    Ya, she's rubbing ut in his face a bit, but he deserves it. ESPECIALLY after that "find another man to take care" of her comment. He was taking his own digs at her, hopefully he can can take what he gives. He's obviously not good enough for her, not because she has a higher earning potential, or because she's attractive, because at his core he's a small man who would rather keep her home and in pain rather than see her flourish.

  • @StellaHershman24
    @StellaHershman24 Рік тому +2

    I was most definitely NOT waiting for this since I have a day off

  • @xristinarose2409
    @xristinarose2409 Рік тому +1

    Pregnant rn and def planning for a tummy tuck afterwards. Sorry but i dont want to be disgusted by my own body and cry every time i see myself nak3d. A friend of mine has also been suffering after pregnancy and doing a tummy tuck was one of the best things she did, she def recommended to everyone to take self care serious

  • @emarella1998
    @emarella1998 Рік тому +2

    I’m sorry but he didn’t support her in recovery!!! He broke her trust

  • @AngelinaTargaryen
    @AngelinaTargaryen Рік тому

    I always run here after part 1 hits on TT. I can't ever wait for part 2! 😂😂

  • @ayamimoon95
    @ayamimoon95 Рік тому

    1st Story:
    My Aunt got a full surgery after her 3rd child was 12years old. She was depressed with her body destroyed...after breastfeeding 3 babies and the last 2 where a C-section.
    Also, the doctors didn't do a good job with them that the scars where Awful 😞. My uncle was extremely supported and got her the information for her to get the surgery ❤

  • @FerventLotus
    @FerventLotus Рік тому +1

    Putting a tracker on the car is really no different than their cell phones pinging their locations. In addition, if he didn't find out about it now, eventually it may have led to financial trouble for him since if she's hiding a major gambling addiction, she could also be hiding credit cards she opened in both their names, refinancing or mortgaging things that are already paid off or almost paid off just to support her and her mother's addictions.
    He's already seeing the backlash of tax deductions for gambling. That probably wiped out a good deal of his tax return.

  • @PhancyPants12
    @PhancyPants12 Рік тому +3

    Story 1: Divorce that man. He doesn’t care about her. He only wanted what he wanted. He doesn’t give one fuck about his wife and her PAIN!!! HE GOT A COMPUTER INSTEAD OF GETTING YOUR PAIN TAKEN AWAY.

  • @terrieBTSOT7
    @terrieBTSOT7 Рік тому +2

    That first story is crazy? It feels so much like there is still something that the husband is hiding... right?

  • @thayerwilliams905
    @thayerwilliams905 Рік тому

    I fully anticipate doing a mommy make over after we know we're done with kids. He knows. My body has been a stranger to me since the first pregnancy.
    I didn't need surgery to fix my abdominal separation, but I did end up becoming an unplanned c section, and then the incision inside didn't heal properly. I was in immense pain for the next 11 months, all from one place in the scar tissue. The scar tissue then separated spontaneously and I ended up with a hernia the size of a golf ball in under 20 minutes. It hurt so much. I had no idea what was happening and was in line buying Xmas gifts at the time. So I ended up having a second surgery to do the hernia repair. It fixed the pain I'd lived with immediately. I then acquired new pain because the scar tissue inside was sticking to the muscle groups around it (adhesions) and pulling my pelvic floor muscles out of place. Did over 5 months of pelvic floor physical therapy just for that.... 6 weeks is the normal amount of physical therapy time.
    But all that was from just one kid. And doesn't even address the chest size changes or the massive stretch marks. We want at least 1 more. But as soon as we know the baby making factory is closed, I'm definitely doing some surgery to put things back closer to how I looked before. He just tells me whatever I want within reason for whatever our budget is by then is fine.

  • @laleona1221
    @laleona1221 4 місяці тому +1

    Maybe go back and listen to the one where the wife needed surgery but the husband stole the money. Your sympathies seem misplaced, and I question the take that once someone says sorry and makes a couple of reparative actions then the person they hurt should just shut up about it or leave. Love that you got all the updates though, thank you!

  • @daneeinglis1894
    @daneeinglis1894 Рік тому

    Yep the muscles separate, they can only stretch so far. A tummy tuck is more for loose skin that is so stretched that it will never go back. The line is low, above the pelvic bone. A breast lift is a whole surgery in itself. I had one during breast reduction surgery before my son was born (it was medically necessary)

  • @daneeinglis1894
    @daneeinglis1894 Рік тому

    Addictions are tough to deal with for both partners. My first partner, who I share my son with, has several, and like any addiction chasing the high becomes all they can think about. They'll lie, cheat, steal from everyone who loves them to keep getting that feeling.

  • @itsnicole11
    @itsnicole11 Рік тому

    Glad you referenced The Hunger Games 😂. I thought the same thing

  • @TheDCAUgothic
    @TheDCAUgothic Рік тому +1

    Traffickers also use airtags on potential victims.

  • @5kamon
    @5kamon Рік тому

    That first husband would witness her be in pain for years and he was fine with it.

  • @AngelinaTargaryen
    @AngelinaTargaryen Рік тому +2

    The nerve of him telling her no divorce. Like excuse me sir, u don't get to decide that. MIL is awesome, her mom is trash tho. At this moment OP is NTA. No matter what the money was for, he had promised her and stole the money without even telling her, hid it, lied, gaslighted her. Then pulled the whole "it's my money BS". When he doesn't do sh!t at home or w/the kids. I hope she wakes up and sees he probably wasn't that great a dad or husband. Usually it takes something like this to see the red flags were there. Like his BS apology. Such a manipulation.
    I see you!
    Oh wife doesn't believe it either. Ope. Here comes the truth. He wasn't a great husband if he thought 3 young kids at home is not easy.
    He is cheating probably.
    Something more is going on for sure.
    Well I'm glad he wasn't cheating I guess...
    Red flag again. He doesn't want her to work cos then she will know he doesn't do sh!t for her but provide money and she doesn't need him anymore. Controlling her again. And he can't handle her being better looking and earning more than her. He is insecure AF.
    Her mom is such a hypocrite. Glad she has her dad and MIL.
    I don't think it's mean cos he deserves it. He wasn't even helping her through her surgery or recovery or anything, his mom and her dad did.

  • @Willowflower
    @Willowflower Рік тому +4

    Story 1: OP did the right thing, good for her.

  • @christinamitchell7849
    @christinamitchell7849 Рік тому

    6 babies later I definitely plan on getting a mommy makeover eventually. Eventually being key because you know, money. 😂

  • @CosticDragon
    @CosticDragon Рік тому +3

    I’m pretty sure the pregnancy was a higher risk than this surgery.

  • @peachesandpoets
    @peachesandpoets Рік тому +1

    Nah if you tell me any version of "I've apologized. If you can't accept it and want a divorce, whatever", then we can absolutely have a divorce. Fuck that. She's not mean. He doesn't care. She ripped her body apart birthing HIS babies and he didn't care. I'd rub it in.

    • @Arbitraryusername
      @Arbitraryusername Рік тому

      This sounds like my ex. After I had to go get stitches after her slammed my head into a glass shelf and ruptured my ear drum. “I apologized, you need to get over it.” I was losing my shit because of the situation i had put myself in and couldn’t stop crying (silent depressed crying). I wasn’t even allowed to fucking cry.

  • @balaia29
    @balaia29 Рік тому

    I have 2 children no tummy tuck needed. I followed an strict diet. Body snapped back every time

  • @StellaNana
    @StellaNana Рік тому +3

    Hi Sam, Hi Riley 😊

  • @stacieface7427
    @stacieface7427 Рік тому +2

    I want a tummy tuck and breast lift. Ive had 3 kids and 2 csections and can confirm that they can tear your abdominal muscles and they cant always fix themselves. My kids were 8.13, 8.13 and 9.4. The pain is shite! *Edit* when he said he had no sympathy he deserved all the petty 😁

  • @jenniferbillen5333
    @jenniferbillen5333 Рік тому +1

    Well get your tummy tuck before you leave him sweetie.

  • @rsstenger5113
    @rsstenger5113 Рік тому

    After 2 kids, my doctor told me the same thing. I never knew that this could happen.

  • @krislyncastillo17
    @krislyncastillo17 Рік тому +1

    Hot wheels are a nightmare to me. My husband got so into them I had to stop him. Waste of money. 1 story as a mom it is not easy. Yes sometimes things don’t go back into place and we have to deal with the pain afterwards. This is why even tho I have not had a tummy tuck or anything. I will never judge someone who does. Cause I know what it feels like to remember the body before and than after. I applaud moms. They go through so much. If they want to they should get it with no judgment. Your creating a human. And your body will change and it’s okay. And if with or without tummy tuck you will be happy… make whatever makes you happy.
    The fact that he doesn’t understand her and the pain she’s in it’s typical since he doesn’t know. SMH but he shouldn’t have remove the savings if she saved that up. She has the right to be angry.

  • @CosticDragon
    @CosticDragon Рік тому

    15:20 I’ve only ever heard of a post-nup from Boston Legal. I didn’t even know they were real

  • @Nukawin
    @Nukawin Рік тому +1

    "does this sound mean?" UM HELL NO. Ex Husband got off lucky imo.

  • @CosticDragon
    @CosticDragon Рік тому +1

    I could maybe understand if he asked her beforehand but nobody needs a $14k computer 😑

  • @candacestamper6769
    @candacestamper6769 Рік тому

    When you're dating an addict of any kind, you'll never be able to trust them. It's tough to get to the point where you leave someone you love, but if they aren't willing to work on their addiction, you can't trust them.

  • @KozeyLiving
    @KozeyLiving Рік тому

    I think its cool the OP was a foremsic accountant. Im in graduate school for forensic accounting

  • @Alexandra11090
    @Alexandra11090 Рік тому

    For story 2 -the only way I can think she would have owed money on gambling if she lost a lot is if she had winnings in one year and lost it the next year. Because each year is separate, losses can cancel out winnings in the same year, but wouldn’t from a past year.

  • @brianarnold8666
    @brianarnold8666 Рік тому

    20:00 sounds like OP needs to take a finance class

  • @BananaJonesMom
    @BananaJonesMom 8 місяців тому

    She literally couldn’t take care of her kids as well as she wanted because of how much pain she was in and he wanted it to stay that way because he was so insecure. He deserved all her anger.

  • @stewartann816
    @stewartann816 Рік тому

    Meh, my pregnancy wasn't bad at all and my labor was GREAT with the epidural. Didn't feel a thing. I will say that I now have to get a chiropractor because my lower back is slightly twisted and they had to inject the needle in my back at an angle

  • @dvyneloveTTV
    @dvyneloveTTV 19 днів тому

    I dont think she's wrong for divorcing. I do think she's wrong for not handling it with grace and rubbing it into her husbands face. Im happy for her and yes she's that gurl, but elegance and grace is best

  • @maddison5154
    @maddison5154 11 місяців тому

    The husband said that's his money 🚩
    It's their money, does he understand how expensive child care is

  • @amphoteric
    @amphoteric Рік тому

    story 1: op's husband only wanted to control her. so glad she out of that situation after he showed his true, toxic colors! she has every right to be petty and rub it in his face because his goal was to make sure she didn't have money and was reliant on him

  • @heatherdickau5335
    @heatherdickau5335 Рік тому

    You just outed your mom on UA-cam about her tummy tuck. 🤣🤣🤣. You will be in so much trouble.🤣🤣

  • @FeatherstoneApothecary
    @FeatherstoneApothecary Рік тому

    I've been with an addict. the best thing was for us to split. I finally am able to have money for the things I need...like new clothes since I also shed over 100 lbs. if he'd agreed to get help we'd be happily married. but since he didn't I don't care what happens to him since it was over 10 years of torturous hell.

  • @jenniferbillen5333
    @jenniferbillen5333 Рік тому

    The petty is definitely justified after what he did and saying it would be hard to find someone was pretty insulting.

  • @AuntieBoo422
    @AuntieBoo422 Рік тому

    Let the Petty flow!!!!!

  • @lunav9827
    @lunav9827 Рік тому +1

    If she was gambling away our retirement funds hell yes. We are suppose to be working together to retire together & live comfortably . Like that’s crazy .
    Story 1 I’m glad the lady divorced her

  • @nuwa8858
    @nuwa8858 Рік тому

    Maybe the mother-in-law knows more about where the money went.

  • @Maykay524
    @Maykay524 10 місяців тому

    One about husband hiding the money for tummy tuck- don’t think she was being too petty or mean at all. It’s not just the trust thing. You glossed over one line and it explains exactly why she was still upset and couldn’t get other it. He almost kept her in constant pain for flimsy narcissistic excuses. I wouldn’t be able to get past that

  • @DaniS398
    @DaniS398 Рік тому

    Abdominal muscles are supposed to separate to make room for the growing uterus. Usually they come back together. Mine didn't but I'm still making babies so no reason to address it currently. On the last baby though, and getting tubes tied afterward and when they do that, they'll be closing a hernia. Until then I just push the bowel back in when they pop out. It hurts a bit but nothing to do about it currently.

  • @annt7384
    @annt7384 Рік тому

    Husband realizes how hard childcare is & would prefer not doing it.
    He just needs more time with the kids to get more practice. For divorce!

  • @dawnpalmby5100
    @dawnpalmby5100 Рік тому

    In the US u have to pay taxes on any winnings u got from gambling, no matter what u lost.

  • @claudiablanco13
    @claudiablanco13 Рік тому

    I hate how people belittle their wives when they are SAHM, raising children and taking care of a family is a hell of a job. Most of the husbands that complain couldn’t do it…

  • @SeeJthrive
    @SeeJthrive Рік тому

    I would love a mommy makeover, but haven't done it yet.

  • @shanac5404
    @shanac5404 Рік тому +4

    First one the husband decided to not do anything for the wife during her recovery from a surgery he obviously didn't support. Second one he stalked his wife without her knowledge. Seems pretty illegal to me!

  • @Neyfufu00
    @Neyfufu00 9 місяців тому

    8:19 yes he is a stupid selfish man for thinking that money was solely his. I still agree with divorce though.. you can forgive but you can never forget

  • @PincheBecky0Effsgiven
    @PincheBecky0Effsgiven Рік тому +2

    After her husband cheated and she tossed his a$$ out, my sister got a corset tummy tuck and lipo by the doctors from Botch. It was extremely painful, but she was very happy with the results. New boyfriend, better job and is doing great!

  • @DarkWolf22k
    @DarkWolf22k Рік тому +1

    Sam 👀 Where's the sexy merch you are supposed to be wearing for a few days? How else are we gonna celebrate Christmas on the last day?