I agree with this. I don't wanna be a jailkeeper. I can't deal with that stress - If I've lost trust, best to cut the relationship. At best, maybe we can be friends after something like this.@@eponack
If you feel trapped in your marriage, change your situation or break up... Don't cheat and give your partner the blame. Cheating isn't changing the feeling of being trapped. It only makes your situation worse.
First story: Op needs to leave. She's not willing to actually try and change. Therapy is doing nothing for her and is just being dragged through the mud. He can't "lose her" because he doesn't have her. A marriage is a 2 way street and a certain amouny of sacrifice and submission from both people is essential for a healthy relationship. He needs to let her go if she's not willing to live by reasonable rules, especially after cheating.
As someone who developed bipolar disorder after certain events in my life occurred: bipolar doesn't equal an excuse to cheat and I am blameless if I'm the person cheating. It shouldn't be an excused action. It's like he is saying all of these things are excuses for him to allow her to do this behavior because he was already painted as the bad guy. He doesn't want to be seen as the bad guy. He cares for her and doesn't want anything to happen to her but also doesn't want to be the reason for her continued mental health decline. This sounds like for OP it's an "I'm damned if I do, or don't" type of situation. To me, since they both need to prioritize themselves separately and come to an agreement they are ending things to work on themselves.
Bipolar disorder cannot get better by willpower alone. She must get medicated and therapists can't prescribe meds. Bipolars start to feel better from the meds and decide they didn't need the meds after all. This happens all the time because what's real is what's in her head. I've been married 35 years as a bipolar1 and it hasn't been easy for either of us. Cheating, gambling, sexual obsessions are all kinda typical in a bipolar1.
I have purchased a fleshlight for my husband. I have my own toys, so why shouldn't he? I, however, am absolutely not on board with either of us possessing replicas of our exes and I would hope that if we did have them and kept them, we would take that secret to the grave 😅
I asked my husband if he wanted a fleshlight when I was 8 months pregnant because I started to bleed when we had sex and it freaked him out. He also believed he was going to hit her head and hurt her, but of course, that wouldn't happen. I also knew that after giving birth, I wouldn't be able to have sex for at least 6 weeks, so we went months without sex. He said no and that it would be weird and inappropriate, but I was willing to get him one so he didn't feel neglected. I also don't see why women can have toys but it's taboo for men to.
I’ve honestly never encountered anyone that had a problem with men owning toys. Maybe I’m just not around those kind of women. I have met a few men that care about the reverse though. I personally don’t care. I would find it weird if it was molded after an ex though.
Just had the clone a willie chat with my husband, he found it hilarious... So we came up with an idea of cloning willies for widows... They pump up what should be stiff, (or if time allows its done "predeparture") a cast is then taken and after the funeral the widows gets a box containing her new husband toy. I suggested Widow Willies as the business name, my husband suggested Stiff Stiffs... Looking for other name options 😜🤪 Yeah we are very weird n inappropriate, and no, we don't care 🤷🏻♀️
If she is mentally capable of making excuses for her behavior, she is capable of getting a therapist for herself. She is NOT owed anything especially after betraying someone who loves her. She sowed the seed now she has to reap it.
29:29 As someone who owns a large number of adult toys, I have no problem with a male partner owning a fl*shlight, or any other adult toy tbh. I would also have no problem with a female or non binary partner having adult toys. I actually really enjoy using toys with a partner, as well as on my own, so I think it'd be very hypocritical of me to say "hey I've got this big collection of toys I can use / we can use together, but your not allowed to own any yourself". It does suck that there's so much stigma against men for owning adult toys, but hopefully one day that stigma will be gone and it will be socially acceptable for any adult to own adult toys free of judgement. ---- Personally I've never owned a "clone-a-w*lly", but I think if I ever split with the person who's part was "cloned" then I would get rid of it as soon as that relationship (situationship, fwb, etc) ended as I would feel way too uncomfortable holding on to something so intimate, especially once i got into a new relationship.
Omg 😂😂😂 tell me why I made a comment about what Sam was wearing and was hiccuping the whole time I actually stopped hiccuping when I saw your comment because I was holding my breathe 😂😂😂😂. Coincidence? I think not 😂😂😂😂.
ETA: what Sam said - if you feel like you need to “set” rules, then the agreement of a relationship has already been broken. I don’t feel like setting rules on an adult and watching. I’m not a baby sitter I didn’t know my husband was cheating until he forgot his phone at home and someone named “Sean” called. We didn’t know anyone by that name, so it must have been a landscaping client. Nope when I answered it, it was my friend who was DEFINITELY NOT named Sean! So yea, then I went a little crazy checking his phone until I couldn’t take it anymore. I didn’t deserve feeling like I needed to look through his phone and he didn’t deserve handing his phone over randomly so I could ask or call numbers. So, we ended it. I’ve never looked in another phone again. I don’t need that personal headache. Truth always comes to light
maybe i’m crazy but i wouldn’t want to be with someone who goes out to bars drinking alone in a regular basis. Going out with friends is one thing but that should even be on a more rare occasion once you’re at a point that your married and living together. I think the majority of your outings should be together, and if it’s a work night for one and the other is not working then they should be staying in with the spouse that’s supporting them… bipolar is a hell of a thing, and sadly a roller coaster i wouldn’t want to be on.. cut your losses now due to the cheating… that way when she really goes off the rocker you won’t feel guilty for wanting to leave bc of that. otherwise life & your relationship will become more of you being a care taker… i’ve watched my dad experience this with his gf! she’s good when she’s good but my lord it’s really bad when it’s bad, he doesn’t have a partner, he has someone he cares about that he has to CONSTANTLY worry about and walk on egg shells around. He’ll never leave her bc she literally couldn’t make it without him, and he’d never be able to live with hisself but it’s sad bc he deserves a partner. someone who keeps the house clean and grocery shops, and cooks dinner. He works, she doesn’t, he does all the errands, the house is rarely clean & she cooks when she’s doing ok… overall it’s not something i would wish on someone i care about
I've had long covid for about 2 years now. Besides the symptoms mentioned in the video, other symptoms make life difficult. Instead of your taste and smell coming back to normal after covid, you can develop symptoms named parosmia, anosmia, dysgeusia and/or phantosmia. To put it politely, everything tastes and smells like rotting meat, sewage and chemicals. Some people lose their smell completely. Others develop phantom smells and taste (otherwise known as olfactory and gustatory hallucinations). I swear the only thing out of all foods and drinks that I can taste anymore are Dr. Pepper and hot sauce lol. Everything else is disgusting and I live off of meal replacements for the most part. I'm also schizoaffective (I'm on the schizophrenia spectrum) and after I got covid, my symptoms that were once manageable became unmanageable and I developed very weird and scary hallucinations. It felt like I was being touched and sounded like people were breaking into my house every night for months, among other things. It was very scary and jolting. It took months to get taken seriously by doctors, and by the time I got an emergency spot in the psych ward, instead of staying for 72 hours I wound up in the for 42 days. It was one hell of an experience, and I still deal with long covid issues, but once I was taken seriously, things started to get better.
Honestly, once you find out they’ve cheated, the trust is broken, all bets are off. I don’t think respecting the cheater’s privacy is warranted when they haven’t respected their partner or relationship. Trust and respect boundaries until they show you a reason not to.
This woman is using mental health as an excuse. And idk I found the therapist weird for backing her and calling dude controlling. He’s being reasonable and making all the sacrifices to let her do what she wants. That’s not what therapy is supposed to look like.
I have bipolar type 2. If she had been diagnosed me genuinely wanted help, she would have started taking some medication and her therapist would have been a lot more focused on treating her than blaming OP. Seems like she’s using her bipolar as an excuse for everything, which is terrible. Bipolar is shitty but OP’s wife gives bipolar a bad name. I’m lucky and married to a wonderful and patient man, similar to OP and I got the help I needed. Also, porn isn’t cheating if both partners are on the same page. We don’t think porn is cheating.
18:48 Social work student here! The following is from the official diagnosis for Bi-Polar and I do not have the authority or credentials to diagnose a person. I do have the training to identify possible symptoms though! For bipolar a big factor is NOT the severity of your depressions but your manic episodes. A true manic episode lasts about 2 week, anything less is actually a hypo-manic episode. While hypomanic and depressive episodes happen in both type one and type two, a Manic episode is MANDATORY for a diagnosis of bipolar type one. Though type one can also have severe depressive episodes, depressive episodes are not required for the diagnosis but make it much easier to determine. Well, I cannot say it for certain, more than likely the reason they do not know if it is type one or type two is that they cannot determine if a Manic episode has taken place or not. Source: the DSM5-TR (Diagnostic Statistic Manuel 5th edition text revision) and the multiple hours I spent looking at that chapter and studying it for my midterm this semester.
No weird feelings towards flashlights.. It’s frowned upon women having toys as well. Too many times, I’ve been in conversations where the guy feels threatened by toys
Both my hubby and I have a very extensive toy collection... But I feel like if I had a clone-a-willy after a relationship ended it would become a voodoodic pretty fast
I definitely wouldn't care about my partner having a fleshlight as long as it was sanitary!! But yeah I wouldn't be okay with my partner's past partner's genitals kept, especially if used and not forgotten about. So if it was realized and tossed, nbd... But if they wanted to keep it. I'd have a hard time with that. So in that thought process I'd hold myself to the same standard tbh. I don't think partners should be overly jealous, but even with my personal openness in sexual matters, I'd have a hard time with this situation tbh.
20:30 Bipolar also takes a while to diagnose. I had concerns that I was bipolar and my psychiatrist told me that it can take months to a year to diagnose because my behavior has to be observed and studied.
When I met my fiancè in 2016, he was still using an old flip phone.🤨 When he finally joined the rest of the world in owning a smartphone😅, I set up all of his apps. Therefore, Ik all of his login info for EVERYTHING on his phone. I leave mine unlocked and he knows he can go thru it/use it any time he wants; but he doesn't bc we trust each other. I don't go thru his, either. It took til I was 36 years old to find someone who has only pure intentions with me.
I know someone who slept around and it led to a bipolar diagnosis. It was her manic episodes that she was sleeping around. No impulse control. Her husband stayed with her. She got the diagnosis, meds sorted, and they've been together a few decades since. From the start of this story I thought bipolar. They described bipolar symptoms and you incorrectly said classic toxic relationship. When she's level, she knows she only wants him. When she's manic she's got little self control. Oh and I agree he's a little controlling. Though I have not been in an unfaithful situation. But it's very condescending to have a spouse make rules about what the other can do. There might be things you want or need me to do or I agree to, but the word rule creates a power dynamic that feels icky. They obviously both wanting to leave, and I'm not saying that's wrong. Just that it's not a definite relationship ender.
I don't think the diagnosis makes it not toxic. It is toxic, and her mental health is a massive contributor to that. Regadless of mental health status and her mental illness that she has no control over, that doesn't get rid of the continuous damage that is caused by it. It sucks yes, but her actions have consequences regardless of the influence of a mental disorder
@@barryvanginkel2092This. I've met so many people who use their mental illness as an excuse and it's such a "look at me I'm a victim" mentality, I hate it. The relationship is still toxic regardless of what mental health issues she has.
Rules shouldnt be necessary in a relationship, just agree on whats healthy and whats not. Whats said about being at someones place after 00,00 alone, means she actually shouldnt see this person at all. If theres any attraction just avoid them and be open or break it off.
Well, I don’t know what a flesh light is, but sex toys tend to facilitate happiness, and follow one of my life rules for what’s okay: Does it bring joy? Is there zero negative impact for anybody else? Then it passes the sniff test! (But if it doesn’t literally pass the sniff test then actually it’s a no.) And they definitely shouldn’t be embarrassing for men or women or anybody!
VISION ENHANCED 💀😭Fleshlights are fair game.. just for the love of god clean them. Id have felt some type of way of one or two of my exes said they had one given other aspects of cleanliness. Also in the gfs defence, most people have a spot for their toys and no matter how long it’s been you just know where they are.
It’s gross cause they never clean them correctly. It was a short lived toy. I’ve heard a Reddit story where a dude messed his Willy from the lack of cleaning 🤮🤮🤮🤮
What I have to say about snooping on someone's phone is that I am against it completely, but if I were to see a seriously damning message pop up on screen in notifications I would probably go ahead and pick up that phone and start scrolling through it. So, for me, yeah other people's phones are off limits until - well, I believe Police Officers call it, as Sam said, "Probable Cause" to enter someone's property without a warrant; if they hear gunshots inside, for example, while the Police happen to be there, they investigate immediately. I'm not a cop but I do watch cop shows and True Crime stuff. Edit to add: Sam: "Every 4 years you're entitled to 1 cheat." Me thinking: "Jeepers Creepers! It sleeps for 23 years, and after his long slumber, he hunts for 23 days before falling asleep again."
Omfg the last story. As if you'd keep that. I had one once, and it was like one of the first things i got rid of after we broke up! Its not like they are easy to make either. The whole creation process has memories attached to it too. Actually insane
As a wielder of many dildos, I think it's perfectly acceptable for guys to have many fleshlights. I think the only thing that makes it "weird" is I feel like fleshlights don't have as many interesting molds compared to dildos. So it's like the same level of weird as a guy having 5 of the same shirt, a little bizarre but harmless.
The only time I think porn or sex toys are an issue is if it’s an unhealthy obsession, or our sex life is suffering because of it. Otherwise I don’t think it’s too big of a deal. But every one and every relationship is different :)
It’s a shame to see Sam get roasted bc to me it’s nice to see someone just being genuine and out there even though not everyone’s humor is for everyone. Freedom of speech and openness. That’s how we truly grow and thrive and not dwindle our own personalities. Also for those who like to roast; there’s a difference between open joking and total assholes
My ex had…has? A flesh light lol. He didn’t tell me I just went to use the bathroom and it was there on the sink!! 🤣 I had to ask what it was I was so innocent 😂 I def felt really weird. Like…you can’t call me?! If you need? 🤣🤣
No, for God’s sake, watching porn is not cheating. Now. If someone watches for hours a day and spends money on it, that’s a whole separate thing like any hobby becoming an obsession. But, no. Absolutely not. However, if one does feel that it’s a deal breaker, that must be communicated and respected from the start.
It all boils down to respect. Have open and honest convos about watching, texting, and toys with your partner early in the relationship and set ground rules. I think watching is cheating IF it is hidden. If you treat it like a dirty little secret, or do something outside of the agreed upon "rules" then it isn't respecting the relationship.
long covid can be basically like having pnemonia chronically its not a gerat thing. i have anxiety depression and adhd too and i am in a healthy relationship. but i am treated. if she isnt being treated for any of those i can attest you are a barely functional human o na bunch of levels, that with the long covid can legit rewire your brain. the cheating isnt excuseable but all those issues are legit and why not try and "fix" or get those things addressed and readdress the relationship. drinking will make it worse for sure. the sleep is depression point blank. i will say i am divorced bc of cheating but that was the final sign of being miserable. sex was used as an escapeism. the relationship may not be healthy but it sounds like a variety of things she hasnt addressed yet and if trigger are being a shut down method they will never be overcome. addressing the triggers and working on them is how they become less triggery. this is her internally. not the significant other. she may also be bipolar which is a diagnosis i was also given and all this getting addressed can significantly make a life so different. also has someone getting my counseling degree, a therapist should never "suggest" anything and i am guessing that it is the client either reading too much or percieving the therapist saying that. a legit therapist just asks questions and the client explores their thoughts and feelings and what feels right for them. the therapist has to be unbiased unless the client is endangered self or externally. then that falls into mandatory reporting.
ha i didnt hear the bipolar thing when i wrote before. yes more intensive therapy and medication will be needed. the sexual behavior is also part of bipolar where as she may be in sound mind and never do that.
I’ve had Covid 3 times, long Covid twice, and I still have long Covid. I’ve had a 100 degree fever since July. It sucks. It sucks, it sucks, it sucks. Doctors have no idea what to do for me, and it gets harder and harder to feel any kind of hope for my future. I get weak, feel faint, can’t stand, shiver uncontrollably, can’t think straight, am dead tired and in pain. I can count how many times I’ve left the house in 2023 on two hands, and I’ve only been able to leave the house by myself 4 times. The idea of drinking, partying, hooking up, or even going out without a shoulder to lean on feels impossible in this state. Now… maybe I have a worse case than she does, or maybe I’m just 34 and passed the need to party to feel alive. But I can relate to the depression. It’s really hard to feel this useless, and even harder to deal with the shame of not being able to contribute to the household. My partner has been an absolute saint, even when he is going through his own hardships. I cannot imagine cheating on him or doing wrong by him, especially not after all he has done for me. I’ve been a caregiver a few times in my life, and it is really hard, even when you truly love the person. I would never take that for granted. Still, I do not envy someone who has to go through long Covid only to have a genetic disposition for Bipolar disorder triggered. Losing control of my body has been hard enough; losing control of my mind and emotions would be devastating.
That’s a lot of therapy for one couple without any improvement. Maybe find a therapist who’s less complacent with late night boozing and sleeping all day?
I had an ex partner whose therapist told him what he wanted to hear. I thought therapy would improve our relationship, and it actually helped bring it to an end. I thought most therapists were like mine, pushing the client to self reflect and communicate needs/concerns in a healthy way, apparently not.
@@Cheryl-pi7bqYeah, I think it’s a bad sign when you’ve been seeing the same therapist for years and nothing ever changes. Mine calls me on all my sh#t and doesn’t let me forget any of my goals. So annoying (ha)!
Okay, I’ll answer the second story question. Guys can own whoever toys they want. I’ve dated guys who use them, and it’s usually not a big deal. Honestly it takes some of pressure off of being the only sexual release. Also, my partner doesn’t have any, and I’ve told him that if he ever wants to buy some, to just let me know.
In my opinion, if you're cheating, you don't deserve privacy on things relating to that. You've lost the right to privacy when you break that trust.
I agree.
I’m the other direction. If you cheat on me you can have all the privacy in the world; cause I’m done with ya. You’re now dead to me.
I agree with this. I don't wanna be a jailkeeper. I can't deal with that stress - If I've lost trust, best to cut the relationship. At best, maybe we can be friends after something like this.@@eponack
If you choose to stay with someone that cheated you have to move passed it or just leave
@@FirstLast-lw5wh You? As the person who got cheated on? I mean, the person who got cheated on is not the one who has to re-build the loyalty.
As much as it is nice with the guest hosts, it's best with Sam and John
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And Sophia lol I love her
I agree. Just Sam and John.
Yes!
Faxx
Why is he shirtless, not that I'm complaining or anything 👀
Hes wearing too much lol
I think he knows his audience 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
I was taken aback as well. But you know what, I just rolled with it. 😂
Probably lost a bet
If you feel trapped in your marriage, change your situation or break up... Don't cheat and give your partner the blame. Cheating isn't changing the feeling of being trapped. It only makes your situation worse.
First story: Op needs to leave. She's not willing to actually try and change. Therapy is doing nothing for her and is just being dragged through the mud. He can't "lose her" because he doesn't have her. A marriage is a 2 way street and a certain amouny of sacrifice and submission from both people is essential for a healthy relationship. He needs to let her go if she's not willing to live by reasonable rules, especially after cheating.
As someone who developed bipolar disorder after certain events in my life occurred: bipolar doesn't equal an excuse to cheat and I am blameless if I'm the person cheating. It shouldn't be an excused action. It's like he is saying all of these things are excuses for him to allow her to do this behavior because he was already painted as the bad guy. He doesn't want to be seen as the bad guy. He cares for her and doesn't want anything to happen to her but also doesn't want to be the reason for her continued mental health decline. This sounds like for OP it's an "I'm damned if I do, or don't" type of situation. To me, since they both need to prioritize themselves separately and come to an agreement they are ending things to work on themselves.
@pinkyspartycannon: Perfectly said!
I'm bipolar type 1. I don't get into relationships because I know I'll cheat. I'm just honest about my desire to be single. It's not difficult.
Bipolar disorder cannot get better by willpower alone. She must get medicated and therapists can't prescribe meds. Bipolars start to feel better from the meds and decide they didn't need the meds after all. This happens all the time because what's real is what's in her head. I've been married 35 years as a bipolar1 and it hasn't been easy for either of us. Cheating, gambling, sexual obsessions are all kinda typical in a bipolar1.
I have purchased a fleshlight for my husband. I have my own toys, so why shouldn't he? I, however, am absolutely not on board with either of us possessing replicas of our exes and I would hope that if we did have them and kept them, we would take that secret to the grave 😅
I asked my husband if he wanted a fleshlight when I was 8 months pregnant because I started to bleed when we had sex and it freaked him out. He also believed he was going to hit her head and hurt her, but of course, that wouldn't happen. I also knew that after giving birth, I wouldn't be able to have sex for at least 6 weeks, so we went months without sex. He said no and that it would be weird and inappropriate, but I was willing to get him one so he didn't feel neglected. I also don't see why women can have toys but it's taboo for men to.
I’ve honestly never encountered anyone that had a problem with men owning toys. Maybe I’m just not around those kind of women. I have met a few men that care about the reverse though.
I personally don’t care. I would find it weird if it was molded after an ex though.
I love that it's John and Sam today
Just had the clone a willie chat with my husband, he found it hilarious... So we came up with an idea of cloning willies for widows... They pump up what should be stiff, (or if time allows its done "predeparture") a cast is then taken and after the funeral the widows gets a box containing her new husband toy.
I suggested Widow Willies as the business name, my husband suggested Stiff Stiffs...
Looking for other name options 😜🤪
Yeah we are very weird n inappropriate, and no, we don't care 🤷🏻♀️
Those names are perfect.
Deceased Dicks 😅
I got a few for you, this is a fun challenge to think of.
Dearly dehardened
Memorial members
Casket cocks
Postmortem peens
The list goes on.
This is actually a Brilliant idea 😂 to be honest
You can go with both names actually, depending on material for the willies
If she is mentally capable of making excuses for her behavior, she is capable of getting a therapist for herself. She is NOT owed anything especially after betraying someone who loves her. She sowed the seed now she has to reap it.
Oh, I wish we could all blossom into beautiful bumblebees. ❤
The real question is, are you gonna sell the orange overalls! I like those way better than the love sweatshirt
Sam's not bitter at women for cheating at all 😂
He’ll always try again with another woman though 😂😂😂.
I’m ready to get my heart broken again 💔
@OKOPShow well that is pessimistic of you sam
John with the microphone "Im free". 😂 in tears.
29:29 As someone who owns a large number of adult toys, I have no problem with a male partner owning a fl*shlight, or any other adult toy tbh.
I would also have no problem with a female or non binary partner having adult toys.
I actually really enjoy using toys with a partner, as well as on my own, so I think it'd be very hypocritical of me to say "hey I've got this big collection of toys I can use / we can use together, but your not allowed to own any yourself".
It does suck that there's so much stigma against men for owning adult toys, but hopefully one day that stigma will be gone and it will be socially acceptable for any adult to own adult toys free of judgement.
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Personally I've never owned a "clone-a-w*lly", but I think if I ever split with the person who's part was "cloned" then I would get rid of it as soon as that relationship (situationship, fwb, etc) ended as I would feel way too uncomfortable holding on to something so intimate, especially once i got into a new relationship.
Well
I saw what Sam was wearing and got hiccups 💀 Thanks for that 👌🏿
Also if you haven't heard one less strap makes it fashionable 😏
Omg 😂😂😂 tell me why I made a comment about what Sam was wearing and was hiccuping the whole time I actually stopped hiccuping when I saw your comment because I was holding my breathe 😂😂😂😂. Coincidence? I think not 😂😂😂😂.
I thought he was wearing a dress at first
God, I can’t wait for the sexy Ok Op calendar this year.
I would buy it
ETA: what Sam said - if you feel like you need to “set” rules, then the agreement of a relationship has already been broken. I don’t feel like setting rules on an adult and watching. I’m not a baby sitter
I didn’t know my husband was cheating until he forgot his phone at home and someone named “Sean” called. We didn’t know anyone by that name, so it must have been a landscaping client.
Nope when I answered it, it was my friend who was DEFINITELY NOT named Sean!
So yea, then I went a little crazy checking his phone until I couldn’t take it anymore. I didn’t deserve feeling like I needed to look through his phone and he didn’t deserve handing his phone over randomly so I could ask or call numbers. So, we ended it.
I’ve never looked in another phone again. I don’t need that personal headache. Truth always comes to light
maybe i’m crazy but i wouldn’t want to be with someone who goes out to bars drinking alone in a regular basis. Going out with friends is one thing but that should even be on a more rare occasion once you’re at a point that your married and living together. I think the majority of your outings should be together, and if it’s a work night for one and the other is not working then they should be staying in with the spouse that’s supporting them… bipolar is a hell of a thing, and sadly a roller coaster i wouldn’t want to be on.. cut your losses now due to the cheating… that way when she really goes off the rocker you won’t feel guilty for wanting to leave bc of that. otherwise life & your relationship will become more of you being a care taker… i’ve watched my dad experience this with his gf! she’s good when she’s good but my lord it’s really bad when it’s bad, he doesn’t have a partner, he has someone he cares about that he has to CONSTANTLY worry about and walk on egg shells around. He’ll never leave her bc she literally couldn’t make it without him, and he’d never be able to live with hisself but it’s sad bc he deserves a partner. someone who keeps the house clean and grocery shops, and cooks dinner. He works, she doesn’t, he does all the errands, the house is rarely clean & she cooks when she’s doing ok… overall it’s not something i would wish on someone i care about
Sam looks awesome! ❤ love the shirt John x
I've had long covid for about 2 years now. Besides the symptoms mentioned in the video, other symptoms make life difficult.
Instead of your taste and smell coming back to normal after covid, you can develop symptoms named parosmia, anosmia, dysgeusia and/or phantosmia. To put it politely, everything tastes and smells like rotting meat, sewage and chemicals. Some people lose their smell completely. Others develop phantom smells and taste (otherwise known as olfactory and gustatory hallucinations). I swear the only thing out of all foods and drinks that I can taste anymore are Dr. Pepper and hot sauce lol. Everything else is disgusting and I live off of meal replacements for the most part.
I'm also schizoaffective (I'm on the schizophrenia spectrum) and after I got covid, my symptoms that were once manageable became unmanageable and I developed very weird and scary hallucinations. It felt like I was being touched and sounded like people were breaking into my house every night for months, among other things. It was very scary and jolting.
It took months to get taken seriously by doctors, and by the time I got an emergency spot in the psych ward, instead of staying for 72 hours I wound up in the for 42 days. It was one hell of an experience, and I still deal with long covid issues, but once I was taken seriously, things started to get better.
I wish you all the best.
I too wish you the best bud but try drinking purified water and quit the soda for special occasions only. Wishing you health.
Honestly, once you find out they’ve cheated, the trust is broken, all bets are off. I don’t think respecting the cheater’s privacy is warranted when they haven’t respected their partner or relationship. Trust and respect boundaries until they show you a reason not to.
The amount of tears I shed from Laughing while listening to your comments on the 2nd story🤣🤣🤣🤣
When I looked up at my phone and sam is... Only in an apron.
Interesting choice, gotta show off the merch though
Is it an apron or is it overalls?
Overalls.
33:04 I’ve been listening to the video and just now 33 minutes I in looked at the screen for the first time… WTF is Sam wearing? WTF did I miss? 🤷♀️
This woman is using mental health as an excuse. And idk I found the therapist weird for backing her and calling dude controlling. He’s being reasonable and making all the sacrifices to let her do what she wants. That’s not what therapy is supposed to look like.
I have bipolar type 2. If she had been diagnosed me genuinely wanted help, she would have started taking some medication and her therapist would have been a lot more focused on treating her than blaming OP. Seems like she’s using her bipolar as an excuse for everything, which is terrible. Bipolar is shitty but OP’s wife gives bipolar a bad name.
I’m lucky and married to a wonderful and patient man, similar to OP and I got the help I needed.
Also, porn isn’t cheating if both partners are on the same page. We don’t think porn is cheating.
18:48 Social work student here! The following is from the official diagnosis for Bi-Polar and I do not have the authority or credentials to diagnose a person. I do have the training to identify possible symptoms though!
For bipolar a big factor is NOT the severity of your depressions but your manic episodes. A true manic episode lasts about 2 week, anything less is actually a hypo-manic episode. While hypomanic and depressive episodes happen in both type one and type two, a Manic episode is MANDATORY for a diagnosis of bipolar type one. Though type one can also have severe depressive episodes, depressive episodes are not required for the diagnosis but make it much easier to determine.
Well, I cannot say it for certain, more than likely the reason they do not know if it is type one or type two is that they cannot determine if a Manic episode has taken place or not.
Source: the DSM5-TR (Diagnostic Statistic Manuel 5th edition text revision) and the multiple hours I spent looking at that chapter and studying it for my midterm this semester.
No weird feelings towards flashlights.. It’s frowned upon women having toys as well. Too many times, I’ve been in conversations where the guy feels threatened by toys
That’s sad bc the toys are your friend not enemies 😂😂❤
Oh my the laughs I made with the second part of the video. 😂😂😂
The "what do you mean?" Jennifer Lawrence edit was pure gold 😂❤❤
Sam.. your overalls are SO CUTE! you brought back the orange 🧡🧡🧡🧡
Both my hubby and I have a very extensive toy collection... But I feel like if I had a clone-a-willy after a relationship ended it would become a voodoodic pretty fast
Like you'd get rid of it 😂
The fact that I told my bf what the "gift" was gonna be just from the title with startling accuracy 😅😂
I definitely wouldn't care about my partner having a fleshlight as long as it was sanitary!! But yeah I wouldn't be okay with my partner's past partner's genitals kept, especially if used and not forgotten about. So if it was realized and tossed, nbd... But if they wanted to keep it. I'd have a hard time with that. So in that thought process I'd hold myself to the same standard tbh. I don't think partners should be overly jealous, but even with my personal openness in sexual matters, I'd have a hard time with this situation tbh.
20:30 Bipolar also takes a while to diagnose. I had concerns that I was bipolar and my psychiatrist told me that it can take months to a year to diagnose because my behavior has to be observed and studied.
When I met my fiancè in 2016, he was still using an old flip phone.🤨 When he finally joined the rest of the world in owning a smartphone😅, I set up all of his apps. Therefore, Ik all of his login info for EVERYTHING on his phone. I leave mine unlocked and he knows he can go thru it/use it any time he wants; but he doesn't bc we trust each other. I don't go thru his, either. It took til I was 36 years old to find someone who has only pure intentions with me.
🥺🥺 congratulations, that’s something I’m pretty sure we all want in life 😊❤❤.
I know someone who slept around and it led to a bipolar diagnosis.
It was her manic episodes that she was sleeping around. No impulse control.
Her husband stayed with her. She got the diagnosis, meds sorted, and they've been together a few decades since.
From the start of this story I thought bipolar.
They described bipolar symptoms and you incorrectly said classic toxic relationship.
When she's level, she knows she only wants him. When she's manic she's got little self control.
Oh and I agree he's a little controlling. Though I have not been in an unfaithful situation.
But it's very condescending to have a spouse make rules about what the other can do.
There might be things you want or need me to do or I agree to, but the word rule creates a power dynamic that feels icky.
They obviously both wanting to leave, and I'm not saying that's wrong. Just that it's not a definite relationship ender.
Very insightful explanation.
I don't think the diagnosis makes it not toxic. It is toxic, and her mental health is a massive contributor to that. Regadless of mental health status and her mental illness that she has no control over, that doesn't get rid of the continuous damage that is caused by it. It sucks yes, but her actions have consequences regardless of the influence of a mental disorder
@@barryvanginkel2092This. I've met so many people who use their mental illness as an excuse and it's such a "look at me I'm a victim" mentality, I hate it. The relationship is still toxic regardless of what mental health issues she has.
It's both toxic and a diagnosis. And his being controlling is natural after having your trust broken.
Rules shouldnt be necessary in a relationship, just agree on whats healthy and whats not. Whats said about being at someones place after 00,00 alone, means she actually shouldnt see this person at all. If theres any attraction just avoid them and be open or break it off.
You can always unhook one of those straps 😉
That guy's wife is a manipulation artist😂
Right? A classic narcissist.
Watching is passive. Texting is actively taking part in the act.
Hope you’re doing okay, Sam 🫶 I look forward to your videos every day, and hope to hear about your date with the Australian lady soon!
Loving the fit Sam 🧡
What were they roasted for?
Lmfaooo 😂😂😂😂 y’all are too funny!!!
Hahahahaha 😂😂 I can't stop laughing at the games part!
Hard disagree on cheating allowance. 😂 20 years my guy and I have been together. Cheating would end our marriage.
Well, I don’t know what a flesh light is, but sex toys tend to facilitate happiness, and follow one of my life rules for what’s okay: Does it bring joy? Is there zero negative impact for anybody else? Then it passes the sniff test! (But if it doesn’t literally pass the sniff test then actually it’s a no.) And they definitely shouldn’t be embarrassing for men or women or anybody!
I need me some of them overalls for work!!!!💯😂
I am thoroughly enjoying Sam's outfit today 😍😜
Even in a 90 year marriage it’s a 0 cheating chances
11:38 it’s an ethical issue that can result in a suspension or loss of their license. And can generally be held civilly liable if sued.
VISION ENHANCED 💀😭Fleshlights are fair game.. just for the love of god clean them. Id have felt some type of way of one or two of my exes said they had one given other aspects of cleanliness. Also in the gfs defence, most people have a spot for their toys and no matter how long it’s been you just know where they are.
Clone a willy 😂😂😂😂😂😂 I just absolutely love this show ❤❤❤❤
Sam's been hittin that gym, we see you son
It’s gross cause they never clean them correctly. It was a short lived toy. I’ve heard a Reddit story where a dude messed his Willy from the lack of cleaning 🤮🤮🤮🤮
My man got the flesh thing for the 6wks of healing after I gave birth 🤣 that was the only time he used it & I was good w it
What I have to say about snooping on someone's phone is that I am against it completely, but if I were to see a seriously damning message pop up on screen in notifications I would probably go ahead and pick up that phone and start scrolling through it. So, for me, yeah other people's phones are off limits until - well, I believe Police Officers call it, as Sam said, "Probable Cause" to enter someone's property without a warrant; if they hear gunshots inside, for example, while the Police happen to be there, they investigate immediately. I'm not a cop but I do watch cop shows and True Crime stuff.
Edit to add:
Sam: "Every 4 years you're entitled to 1 cheat."
Me thinking: "Jeepers Creepers! It sleeps for 23 years, and after his long slumber, he hunts for 23 days before falling asleep again."
Omfg the last story. As if you'd keep that. I had one once, and it was like one of the first things i got rid of after we broke up!
Its not like they are easy to make either. The whole creation process has memories attached to it too. Actually insane
Don’t worry, you make me very proud 😊 I talk for us ALL!!!!!
Why does sam look like a thirst trap and john looks like a dad in FL 😭🤣
Yall are beautiful with the rose petals lol
As a wielder of many dildos, I think it's perfectly acceptable for guys to have many fleshlights. I think the only thing that makes it "weird" is I feel like fleshlights don't have as many interesting molds compared to dildos. So it's like the same level of weird as a guy having 5 of the same shirt, a little bizarre but harmless.
At least yall own up when the communiry calls ya out
are we selling overalls now!? 😊
They are so adorable 🥰
0:28 Wtf are you wearing Sam?! 😂
Is Sam ok, mans seems like he really tramatized 😂😂😂
The only time I think porn or sex toys are an issue is if it’s an unhealthy obsession, or our sex life is suffering because of it. Otherwise I don’t think it’s too big of a deal. But every one and every relationship is different :)
It’s a shame to see Sam get roasted bc to me it’s nice to see someone just being genuine and out there even though not everyone’s humor is for everyone. Freedom of speech and openness. That’s how we truly grow and thrive and not dwindle our own personalities.
Also for those who like to roast; there’s a difference between open joking and total assholes
Scrolling through looking for the flashlight answers 👀
I feel like me and my s/o would see them as collectibles, we're both ace but both somehow have received clones as 'gifts'
My ex had…has? A flesh light lol. He didn’t tell me I just went to use the bathroom and it was there on the sink!! 🤣 I had to ask what it was I was so innocent 😂 I def felt really weird. Like…you can’t call me?! If you need? 🤣🤣
Excited to tell yall my stories someday ❤
Laundry day, Sam? Not that I'm complaining or anything 😊
Edit: I had to look up what a "fleshlight" was. I'm still blushing! 🤣😳
Bipolar type 2 is fast cycling. The symptoms of dramatic changes happen more frequently than type 1
No, for God’s sake, watching porn is not cheating.
Now. If someone watches for hours a day and spends money on it, that’s a whole separate thing like any hobby becoming an obsession.
But, no. Absolutely not.
However, if one does feel that it’s a deal breaker, that must be communicated and respected from the start.
I agree, I love porn 🥺☹️😂😂
Story1 If she's cheating, she doesn't get to make demands, in my book.
I think more than setting rules, OP is trying to set boundaries to promote a healthier lifestyle for them both.
It's boundaries not rules.... Everyone in healthy relationship has boundaries...
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It's not illegal but you can lose your license over sleeping with your clients.
It all boils down to respect. Have open and honest convos about watching, texting, and toys with your partner early in the relationship and set ground rules. I think watching is cheating IF it is hidden. If you treat it like a dirty little secret, or do something outside of the agreed upon "rules" then it isn't respecting the relationship.
Loving the fit Sam
long covid can be basically like having pnemonia chronically its not a gerat thing. i have anxiety depression and adhd too and i am in a healthy relationship. but i am treated. if she isnt being treated for any of those i can attest you are a barely functional human o na bunch of levels, that with the long covid can legit rewire your brain. the cheating isnt excuseable but all those issues are legit and why not try and "fix" or get those things addressed and readdress the relationship. drinking will make it worse for sure. the sleep is depression point blank. i will say i am divorced bc of cheating but that was the final sign of being miserable. sex was used as an escapeism. the relationship may not be healthy but it sounds like a variety of things she hasnt addressed yet and if trigger are being a shut down method they will never be overcome. addressing the triggers and working on them is how they become less triggery. this is her internally. not the significant other. she may also be bipolar which is a diagnosis i was also given and all this getting addressed can significantly make a life so different.
also has someone getting my counseling degree, a therapist should never "suggest" anything and i am guessing that it is the client either reading too much or percieving the therapist saying that. a legit therapist just asks questions and the client explores their thoughts and feelings and what feels right for them. the therapist has to be unbiased unless the client is endangered self or externally. then that falls into mandatory reporting.
ha i didnt hear the bipolar thing when i wrote before. yes more intensive therapy and medication will be needed. the sexual behavior is also part of bipolar where as she may be in sound mind and never do that.
I’ve had Covid 3 times, long Covid twice, and I still have long Covid. I’ve had a 100 degree fever since July. It sucks. It sucks, it sucks, it sucks. Doctors have no idea what to do for me, and it gets harder and harder to feel any kind of hope for my future. I get weak, feel faint, can’t stand, shiver uncontrollably, can’t think straight, am dead tired and in pain. I can count how many times I’ve left the house in 2023 on two hands, and I’ve only been able to leave the house by myself 4 times. The idea of drinking, partying, hooking up, or even going out without a shoulder to lean on feels impossible in this state. Now… maybe I have a worse case than she does, or maybe I’m just 34 and passed the need to party to feel alive. But I can relate to the depression. It’s really hard to feel this useless, and even harder to deal with the shame of not being able to contribute to the household. My partner has been an absolute saint, even when he is going through his own hardships. I cannot imagine cheating on him or doing wrong by him, especially not after all he has done for me. I’ve been a caregiver a few times in my life, and it is really hard, even when you truly love the person. I would never take that for granted. Still, I do not envy someone who has to go through long Covid only to have a genetic disposition for Bipolar disorder triggered. Losing control of my body has been hard enough; losing control of my mind and emotions would be devastating.
hahaha. my god Sam. The outfit is just *chef's kiss*
Sam. We need a link to dem overalls ma dude
That’s a lot of therapy for one couple without any improvement.
Maybe find a therapist who’s less complacent with late night boozing and sleeping all day?
I had an ex partner whose therapist told him what he wanted to hear. I thought therapy would improve our relationship, and it actually helped bring it to an end. I thought most therapists were like mine, pushing the client to self reflect and communicate needs/concerns in a healthy way, apparently not.
@@Cheryl-pi7bqYeah, I think it’s a bad sign when you’ve been seeing the same therapist for years and nothing ever changes. Mine calls me on all my sh#t and doesn’t let me forget any of my goals. So annoying (ha)!
32:37
It was last year😂🤣☠️
I own my female toys and I’m all for my hubby having something fun! Why not! 🎉
19:10 bipolar II has what’s called hypomania which is similar to mania without the psychotic episodes.
Interesting apron 😮
The first red flag with a secret on a cell phone is a green flag to snoop
If there is strong evidence, you should further investigate.
It's best with just Sam, John, and Riley. But Sam...what the heck are those overalls bud
Wait, hold on. Sam, are you a descendant of a survivor of the Donnor party? I’m never going skiing in Colorado with you. Just in case.
I would make a clone willy of only one of my ex's 😂😂 it was beautiful and awesome 😅😅
Okay, I’ll answer the second story question. Guys can own whoever toys they want. I’ve dated guys who use them, and it’s usually not a big deal. Honestly it takes some of pressure off of being the only sexual release. Also, my partner doesn’t have any, and I’ve told him that if he ever wants to buy some, to just let me know.