Don’t overthink it. I was quite good at speaking to strangers and sparking up conversations with people.. and it still comes out occasionally. But then I got into the habit of overthinking and spending too much time self-assessing and becoming too introspective for me to be in that flow state. Now I’m a Jeffrey. But I’m working on changing that again. Keep improving you kings, especially when you don’t want to 👑
This is so relatable.. used to be so good at striking up conversations then became an absolute slob in terms of my attitude.. but only now have I got back into that old mindset.. been talking to delivery men, people while walking my dog - I don’t think we lose it cos I surely would’ve the amount of years I spent as that slob.
@@firstlast9846 I agree. I don’t think we lose it, we just repress it with bad habits and an unhealthy mentality. I agree that that can be changed by forcing yourself to interact with people. For example, at the supermarket i always queue for the till so I can converse with the person and ask them how their day is going etc. It’s good for you but it also makes their day because sadly not many people show interest in them. Made lots of friends that way as well.. some even became friends with my family and came to my sister’s wedding. The internet has surely ruined so much
Glad to know I'm doing something right. I used to be very anti social and timid around girls and when I started self improvement I would force myself to talk to people. And when I'm in a flow state its so easy to talk to everyone. Funny thing is that its always a little bit difficult to talk to girls out of nowhere and I would find myself trying to think of what to say but when I'm already talking to other people it becomes easier.
Good progress u will get in there but u gotta be fricking consistent, Im on this journey too, talking to girl is more easier , but most girl are kinda closed nowadays, they get bombarded message on ig so when they meet real guy talk to them they kinda surprised I guess
You know why Hamza is blowing up so fast? He speaks realistically. I stopped watching other self -help channels because it was affecting my mental health. All this talk about hoes, cars, mansions destroyed my patience.
Attract is kinda wrong, girls will never come jump on your lap if u just exist, u still need to approach them and be confident, if u the Biggest Chad but bad in convos, that doesnt work, but still self improvement is the way anyways
As a 15 year old going into sophomore year, being in the social flow is really good for anything. I've experienced this before and I made more friends in just a matter of seconds than when i was in 3rd grade-6th grade just by walking up and talking to people about random things. This is also coming from an introverted kind of antisocial person too. Definitely want to learn how to be in the flow more consistently
Focus on self-improvement. We'll reach the great male filter. We'll be on the top of the world. While enjoying the process from the beginning. Stay hard.
I don't really watch Hamza's self improvement videos that much I prefer to get to the work, but when I'm down I swear to God he always makes perfect video on the theme. These vids are quite encouraging, first of all they humble me, then it makes me self aware of situation forcing me to remember why I started and helps on starting "the engine" again. Thanks for being here for us.
I've been in the flow, and im still rn. With NoFap, i have so much energy and the urge to talk to people and be social ( im an introvert) and it turned out very good, i feel confident and i have quality conversations, a girl called me ''Very beautiful and very cute'' i bet that it was the confidence and the kindness (and i have no social media, it been 3 months)
Always listen to you videos when I am down to give me a push to keep going. The pandemic hit me hard. Already had a difficult time with my social and dating life, but at least I was working hard to change/improve my life. The pandemic hit me hard and got me depressed and noticed I started giving up on my dreams and spending to much time on social media (practically was in my room for a year because my mom had cancer and had a very week immune system). Now trying to get my shit together again. Moved out of my parents house, going to gym at least 3 times/week, studying in library and go to social event at least once a week to meet people. I did set restrictions to social media on my phone to prevent me spending a lot of time there. Also seeing psychiatrist. hope this will help me get out of this and get my shit back together
This video has helped me so much. I was a social person before covid but after the lockdowns I was very anti social. This video opened my eyes to work towards being more social and reawakened the social aspect of myself. This advice works one hundred percent. Thank you hamza.
Outcome independence is also something I would recommend. When you approach a girl, don't pressure yourself into thinking you must get her to be interested in you. That will just make you paranoid and will make you look desperate. And chances are your less likely to get the girl anyway because desperation is repulsive to women. Instead, speak to her without worrying about the outcome (getting her to like you). If she likes you, great and if she doesn't, then at least you had a good conversation. Plus, it gives off the allure of abundance which normally attracts women. Good luck men.
That's really all it is used this method today of just go in with the mindset of talking with women had a nice conversation be interested in them and ask for the digits as the end of you get them great if you don't then on to the next be cordial and leave.
What I have also noticed is to not force these things consciously. When you are on the path of self improvement, these things starts to fall automatically in their places. That is why self improvement is so focused upon.
This is Hamza at his best. I've been a little turned off by the militant videos lately, although he's made a good point that these apps are literally using our attention as their profit. But Hamza when it comes to embracing discomfort and speaking to women is the Hamza that knows best what he's talking about. Maybe in time he'll be able to solidify his beliefs on how to use social media and how to progress a relationship towards marriage, but we're all happy to be on this journey with Hamza of being self-reflective and hard-working. Thanks for being the man you are Hamza. I look forward to what you and your movement can create.
Two days ago I was in vacation here in Italy and my friend met a dutch girl, who didn’t speak english. She asked to bring a friend with him for her friend and he sent a picture of me and she said I was pretty. The date didn’t go that well (I’m short and she was really tall) but I realised that I got such a confidence boost from that compliment and that probably no one said that to me in years, I realised that I could be liked by someone. This self-improvement journey is changing my life.
Absolutely. Before even watching this video, I went to Best Buy earlier and said good morning and smiled at this lady in the entrance. Seemed like it made her day.
@@AG26498 It seems that people just make things too complicated like all these channels that talk about "game" and "seduction". Just keep it simple and friendly......the rest will either fall into place or not.
This is why having a job during the summer break was one of the best decisions that I've made, socially AND financially. I started working at a grocery store about a week ago, and I've started to interact with more people than I ever did. I've become a more social individual and that truly feels invigorating.
@Mr. M Everyone has the capability to be social and interact with other people, don't cap and don't be afraid of everything that you haven't even tried.
My mental health has improved 10 fold since I started following your advice, I thank you for helping me pull myself out of the rut I was drowning in and I wish our world had more positive role models like you for young men. Cheers hamza
I actually understand this. Last semester in college I had a dgaf attitude cause it was my last semester but also it was easy to get in a social flow cause I knew a lot of ppl on campus. Had a lot of excitement and fun. Need to get in that mentality again.
Literally today implemented Hamza's advice at the gym. Just simply said "we started working out together today and finished together" to a guy at the locker room. He was ASTONISHED and we went to talk about different splits we've done and how long we have been training for. I made this guys day and now I'll have a gym buddy. And everything just takes off from here
Thank you man! "Do the hard work, Especially when you don't feel like it" It's literally one of my favorite sentences this days Hope to be able to keep this vibe!
This is accurate, I have been working for 5 years now, my routine every single day is work, home, video games, exercise, food and sleep. I rarely go out and when i do i go for a specific reason. Meeting people online has helped but it's not as gratifying and pleasant as in real life
Self-confidence, outing experiences and being on this self-improvement will help you to get and retain the females that you want in your life. Thank you Hamza for this video.
It’s as simple as step 1. By going outside you already increasing your chances of meeting women way more than being indoors, you might not meet girls where you do your hobbies/activities but you might meet them on the way there (gas station, mall, restaurant etc)
This is literally my first ever comment on UA-cam, but I have to say what you said in this video felt so f*cking good. I didn't like your older vids this much but the recent ones are lit. I've quit social media a while ago and changed my gym (been going consecutively since 4 years) and due to quitting social media, I've got way more confident (especially after covid). I literally started this whole networking thing in the new gym intuitively and now some old man and adults started to 'respect' me and even start conversations with me for a regular basis. You talking about this now is mind-blowing for me. Thank you ! Keep it up guys, we are all gonna make it!
Bro you are so inspirational and so real. Even though, you will probably not read this comment I want to say that it is because of you that I started my self iprovement journey. I am at the beginning stage but I just want to say I am very grateful for the genuine content you put out. I can tell that you really try to help and inspire men. Thanks bro, and keep on doing this!🙏🙏🙏
Great start. Next steps: 3) Dress better and have some kind of style 4) Get in good shape (don't need to be jacked or 10% BF) 5) Spend money on a good haircut 6) SMILE (most guys don't do this enough or at all) 7) Ask interesting questions instead of boring ones. Practice this all the time. 8) Once you get good at conversations you need to learn how to tease/flirt 9) Ask for the date in person - women prefer bold guys who risk rejection 10) Always ask for contact info - you never know unless you ask
@@imrandoesthings sure. 7) take normal questions and ask in a different way. Ex. change "What's your favorite place to travel?" to "What's your worst travel story?". Change "Favorite music?" to "What song annoys you the most?" etc etc. Instead of asking about work, ask about hobbies, family, experiences, passions. Then instead of just asking "what" she likes, also ask "why" she likes it. 8) If she likes something you don't like, tease her about it. I like dogs so I tease a girl if she likes cats. I hate olives so if a girl likes them, I'll tease her about it. Treat her like you would a sister. Tease her about inconsequential things like her favorite music, not things about herself like her looks, style, or things that are really important to her. Those might offend her.
Hamza, can you please create a video on the pros and cons of moving out of our parents houses & when & should we do it as young men? I'm from a South-Asian household just like you where it is okay to live with parents until 30. But recently I've been in a rut & very depressed & want a change of scenery. Since you've achieved self-improvement by staying at your family's house you might've a better perspective.
I usually stay inside and work on my music all day. A couple weeks ago i started to go outside to read some self improvement books at the book store. Lots of people including girls approached me and we had a really good small talk. Even though you don't get girls by going outside you gon still be talking to some strangers and it improves your social skills a lot
Social flow is fucking underrated . I usually stumble in conversations when I'm overly conscious. but everyone seemed to percieve me as an extrovert. I didn't believe this and felt unconfident all the time. but one day randomly our class went to see an expo in a women's college ( welcome to India) but men aren't allowed usually but our professor got permission and we went there. I was excited but damn, after the expo ended, I just realized I literally talked to 20+ girls and I didn't even realize.(it was just normal talk though) I also talked to this girl I noticed when I entered the campus and I thought "if only I could talk to her" but I Didn't feel confident.. But the moment I entered the flow I didn't even realize I was talking to her and her group and then boom we're all laughing and then I got some chocolates as a parting gift. No other guys from my class got any lmao
Bro you are changing my Life rn And in am 16 year old german kid right now, i go to gym bc of you i gained More confidence. Keep up the good work i love you men.
This is something I have learned over time working at a large busy store while having social anxiety. During the first part of my shift I wouldn't really wanna talk to anyone or anything but as the hours went on and I had to speak to more people and was very busy I almost didn't even have the time to get all insecure and all of a sudden I would just naturally be communicating with many people with ease and those thoughts didn't bother me over time as I realized they were just holding me back.
This video honestly couldn't be better timed for me. After watching you Hamza, I have been on a mission to reorganize my life. I used to hate myself, I was lazy but now I got self-love. I'm a bit on the shorter side and just watching these videos of how height matters made me insecure. It wasn't until recently I started going out and meeting people. There are a couple people who may not want to talk but that's fine. I felt good being around people. I started to like minded friends. I'm happier than I used to be. I have a long way to go but I'm proud to say that I'm on the right track. Social media is terrible and I have started to cut down the time I spend on it. Edit: So it's the start of November and looking back at this comment I wrote is amazing. I've been able to achieve so much and I'm so focused on other stuff that women aren't even something I pay attention to. It honestly feels so good just being so organized and getting productive.
now way i just saw this comment exctly on the day before the start of November no joke like wtf great man so how things working out for u and any advice?
@@crizzy364 They are working out great. Academically its a bit on the rough side but we all have our highs and lows on that side. I got a great opportunity to co-op with one of the largest pharmaceutical companies in the world, so I'll be working from January till July until returning back to college in fall 2024. I wish you the best on your journey too! All I'm going to add is stay put and stay patient. Everyone has a different timeline. As long as you are working towards a goal, and get closer to achieving it each day, that is what matters, not how quickly you do it
Social flow state is very powerful. I remember a day, at a friend's house, there was this girl who I had never could approach if I was in a normal state. But I was there doing jokes, speaking and laughing loud. I was fun and all. And later in the day, she attempt to hug me but I was like "uh, please no, don't touch me" because it wasn't a regular thing for me. Like I've had the power of social skill of an Adonis but mental of a Jeffrey wtf bros, damn
Great video Hamza. You’re right, I’m not going to implement your advice, for now. I’m almost done with my Bachelors degree and still working on flight training to become a pilot. On top of that, training in the gym, and taking time for family, friends and my hobbies is extremely important. When I have more accolades, I’ll give this a try.
Thank you! Would be really useful a video on also ways to find people to connect with. Nowadays everyone keeps themselves closed and stays stuck on their phones, and there is a general lack of trust. It's really hard to find a way to make friends and talk with new people. Thanks
Yes! Deleted tinder/bumble, etc. just two weeks ago and feeling great! First days were a little weird, but my focus is now again on myself with less distraction !
@@reyesaldaojoseemilio4854 yeah, had like 20 or something in my first week, but not like a chad; quality of matches were not high :/ A lot of good looking girls are just instagram-follower-hunting; bored looking for entertainment without any serious commitment (not even for s**); just looking whats "out there" without any intent to date; ego-boost themselves after chad left them of read etc. most women on these dating apps are not there for dating; and the ones that are, are usually not high quality; and if they are, they "know they are worth of chad" (also applies to the low quality women) I've always wanted to learn drawing, to put more work into my fantasy writing and exercise the piano. Right now I do at least two of these things in addition to my law studies every day. All because before I wasted so much time on these apps. I want to focus on myself. Of course I do workouts like 4/times per week as well :), thankful-journaling, etc.
I have experienced that the courage and masculinity to just approach a girl in the real world and talk to them is at its lowest. You will be surprised by the amount of interactions and dates you can get by just doing so. Sky is the limit.
@@AmonGus-ml1fh omg do you not understand?!!!?!? It’s not as easy as you think. Not everyone is fortunate enough or lucky to have good looks as you. At least admit it’s not easy!
It comes right back down to self-confidence and self-love. Without those two things, you will be forever stuck in the same rut. We all can do this and Hamza is 100% real with it.
@@angryyoungman66 exposure, u can start small like talking to girls in your class about anything, maybe just a short conversation about something u studied, then the anxiety slows fades away, next time asking a girl in class wont make you anxious, but approaching a random one will, so start small than move to the next thing you have to be exposed to the things that make you anxious to get over them, and remember it aint that serious u fuck up dont know what to say or shake then what a day or two later she ll forget that maybe you too
Deleted my dating apps and it was the best thing I've ever done. Go outside, Talk to people. Don't look for relationships, Look for friendships and it will make it alot easier to progress.
Learning to get in a social flow was one of the most influential skills I have picked up. And it’s so incredibly easy to develop too - you can get very good at this in the span of maybe 2 weeks. I am talking top 15% of social people in 2 weeks. That’s how low the bar is. Literally, all you have to do is force yourself to sputter a 2-word conversation starter to the cashier when you go buy doughnuts from the store. Just literally say “so how was your day”. And at first you’ll be the most awkward person on the face of the Earth, and that’s okay. If you force yourself to do it, it’s no longer awkward when you get to the 3rd or 4th person. And then you can start talking about your day and the small, interesting stuff that happened to you - “so I saw this really fat kid earlier and he kindof looked like the Michelin man” or some dumb sht like that. And people LOVE it when you get into these types of small conversations. You will find yourself having people pursue you to hang out. This also applies to girls. It’s so easy to get started and get results, but you do have to stay consistent with it.
Hey man I really appreciate your comment! I've always had insane anxiety of interacting with random people (even though that's EXACTLY the man I want to be). I want to be a man who just talks freely to strangers about random things, men and women doesn't matter. Just having that flow you know. But I always feel extremely awkward and I end up not doing it. Some time ago I watched a lot of youtube videos about how to approach girls, what to say, what to do etc. and it just increased my anxiety even more and I didn't try it out even once. It just became this huge thing in my head and I become so increadibly self concious. So what you're saying is that even doing small things like asking the cashier how his/her day is will actually help me overcome this anxiety? This feels like something I could actually do, because it doesn't have any hidden purpose like when you approach a girl and are supposed to say this, say that, do this, do that. This one just feels so natural. Do you think this would eventually lead to me being able to actually going up to girls I find attractive in a natural way, not overthinking things as well?
@@ackerman7735 no, I don’t think so - I know so. I’ve been doing cold approach consistently for around 2-3 years. I have tried every way of going about it, and I can tell you with certainty that the easiest way to go about it is by getting into a social flow. Anything counts, no matter how small. Smiling at a stranger, or saying “nice shirt” counts. Saying “hi” counts. Do small things like that every day. In 6 months, you’ll likely have close to no social anxiety
@@father_mihai wow thank u so much! This is exactly what I needed to hear, that even smiling or saying ”hi” to a stranger counts. I didnt think it did. I thought that I had to start cold approaching the most beautiful women and being funny, interesting and attractive all at the same time which feels impossible for me to do right now. I will start very small, like asking people who work how their day is and stuff like that. But eventually I will need to progress further as only asking cashiers how their day is will not be enough to approach beautiful girls later on imo. So my question is, will I naturally feel more comfortable progressing things further, having longer conversations etc or will there be a point where I need to decide to start ”forcing it”?
@@ackerman7735 you will be “forcing it” every single day, just not by a lot. You need to push past what is comfortable in order to grow. This is the same with everything you’ll ever do in life. If you want to get good at anything worthwhile, there will be a “flinch moment” you’ll have to overcome. You’ll have to fight that little fight everyday. Good news is that the fight doesn’t have to be a death match.
@@father_mihai So much wisdom in your words. You’ve made me understand, like seriously it feels like I’ve unlocked a deeper understanding of life and what I’m supposed to do. Many many thanks and good luck on your journey as well!
Hi Hamza! Im Rasmus and im 13. I thought I should start working out beacause I feel like im too weak. Today I went to a near outside gym to work out. It was amazing, and I feel motivated to start going there more often. Thank you Hamza for the amazing content!
Talking to girls as human beings without the thought of having a love relationship with her in the first place. Greatest love story start with friendship. Plus you would not feel the anxiety and fear of rejection if you just think about being friendly.
I've started my journey of self-improvement 4 years ago and while I still have a lot to work on, the fact that I improved basically all aspects of my life has so much impact on how I'm received by other people. It's definitely worth it, but it's extremely difficult to find places you can go to to socialise without already knowing someone there. I have one such place and the gym. I don't approach women in the gym and there are only women who are already in a relationship where I go to to chill so that still doesn't provide opportunity to try flirting.
Being in a social flow is also a good path towards getting a promotion at work. They tend to promote the guy that makes himself known, not the guy that performs the best.
“Adonis attracts women like brown men attract bag searches”
Mans speaking from the soul with that one
Had me dying man!
@@helloimuzumakikira1 same🤣🤣
as a fellow brown man, yes, thats an honest analogy
As a bengali i can confirm, this is true
@@chadbinsigma Bengali brother's man
Don’t overthink it. I was quite good at speaking to strangers and sparking up conversations with people.. and it still comes out occasionally. But then I got into the habit of overthinking and spending too much time self-assessing and becoming too introspective for me to be in that flow state. Now I’m a Jeffrey. But I’m working on changing that again. Keep improving you kings, especially when you don’t want to 👑
This is so relatable.. used to be so good at striking up conversations then became an absolute slob in terms of my attitude.. but only now have I got back into that old mindset.. been talking to delivery men, people while walking my dog - I don’t think we lose it cos I surely would’ve the amount of years I spent as that slob.
@@firstlast9846 I agree. I don’t think we lose it, we just repress it with bad habits and an unhealthy mentality. I agree that that can be changed by forcing yourself to interact with people. For example, at the supermarket i always queue for the till so I can converse with the person and ask them how their day is going etc. It’s good for you but it also makes their day because sadly not many people show interest in them. Made lots of friends that way as well.. some even became friends with my family and came to my sister’s wedding. The internet has surely ruined so much
The pandemic and isolation probably didnt help you or I situation and we now have to relearn what we know will get us into a social flow state
@@lilbroomstick7914 absolutely
I agree
Remember guys:
"It's okay to be weak,but not okay to stay weak"
Not okay to be weak. Don't be weak.
If it was okay to stay weak you'll never change. Why would you? There's no reason to since it's not nessecary to change.
@@TvGunslingeRvT bro you are weak when you born.
@@chickengod9885good luck with that mindset when the war starts
@@chickengod9885maybe he means in past tense
Glad to know I'm doing something right. I used to be very anti social and timid around girls and when I started self improvement I would force myself to talk to people. And when I'm in a flow state its so easy to talk to everyone. Funny thing is that its always a little bit difficult to talk to girls out of nowhere and I would find myself trying to think of what to say but when I'm already talking to other people it becomes easier.
Good progress u will get in there but u gotta be fricking consistent, Im on this journey too, talking to girl is more easier , but most girl are kinda closed nowadays, they get bombarded message on ig so when they meet real guy talk to them they kinda surprised I guess
I agree
Same I literally don't know what to talk about
@@olympianlegacy just ask questions about anything or just learn about her
@@rasheemthebestfirstone3274 yeah that's what I usually do but then you run out of things to say if it's like a cold approach
You know why Hamza is blowing up so fast? He speaks realistically. I stopped watching other self -help channels because it was affecting my mental health. All this talk about hoes, cars, mansions destroyed my patience.
Indeed
Keep moving forward like eren uzumaki
@@marcopolo347 I'm never going to stop improving myself but there is good way and bad way to go about it.
Just Avoid materialistic gurus like someone who lives in Romania 🤔🤔
@@arturo4362 nah bro tate has a similar view as hamza, he just has different life experiences than hamza so there are some differences. He's aight
By improving yourself you will attract the high quality women you want, keep elevating Kings 👑
You're top comment on all his vids i swear 😭
@@kistreemaimc769 no fr 😭
You too bro. We're all gonna make it brahs
Attract is kinda wrong, girls will never come jump on your lap if u just exist, u still need to approach them and be confident, if u the Biggest Chad but bad in convos, that doesnt work, but still self improvement is the way anyways
I agree
"Adonis attracts women just like brown men attract random bag searcher"
bruh😂
hi map guy
Hi I really enjoy your content!
As a 15 year old going into sophomore year, being in the social flow is really good for anything. I've experienced this before and I made more friends in just a matter of seconds than when i was in 3rd grade-6th grade just by walking up and talking to people about random things. This is also coming from an introverted kind of antisocial person too. Definitely want to learn how to be in the flow more consistently
I agree
I'm 16 and I still don't have any.
@@jorgealbertoop7952 dont discourage yourself put the work in
I wish I could be like that more often. But I just can’t stop thinking about everything too much
U bouta be a future incel that’s unfortunate
“Adonis attracts women just like brown men attract random bag searches” Lmao
Focus on self-improvement. We'll reach the great male filter. We'll be on the top of the world. While enjoying the process from the beginning. Stay hard.
I agree
Shoutout 1stMan!
Ay yoo
I don't really watch Hamza's self improvement videos that much I prefer to get to the work, but when I'm down I swear to God he always makes perfect video on the theme. These vids are quite encouraging, first of all they humble me, then it makes me self aware of situation forcing me to remember why I started and helps on starting "the engine" again. Thanks for being here for us.
„I’m literally more observant of the guys than actually the girls these days”
-Hamza
I've been in the flow, and im still rn. With NoFap, i have so much energy and the urge to talk to people and be social ( im an introvert) and it turned out very good, i feel confident and i have quality conversations, a girl called me ''Very beautiful and very cute'' i bet that it was the confidence and the kindness (and i have no social media, it been 3 months)
We livin same life ngl
Love this, we’ll done
Proud of you bro 💪 this channel has helped me in more ways then i can explain
no fap changes lives man!
Well done man! I am proud of you
Keep on Improving yourselves boys, you will eventually attract the girls YOU want ❤️🚀
rn I'm attracting a lot of dogs at the dog park. Improvement is improvement!
What if you’re 5’2 and chinese
I agree
@@fuarkk3611 Don't make excuses man, there is a woman out there for you
@@fuarkk3611 then do calisthenics and be a static god
Always listen to you videos when I am down to give me a push to keep going. The pandemic hit me hard. Already had a difficult time with my social and dating life, but at least I was working hard to change/improve my life. The pandemic hit me hard and got me depressed and noticed I started giving up on my dreams and spending to much time on social media (practically was in my room for a year because my mom had cancer and had a very week immune system).
Now trying to get my shit together again. Moved out of my parents house, going to gym at least 3 times/week, studying in library and go to social event at least once a week to meet people. I did set restrictions to social media on my phone to prevent me spending a lot of time there. Also seeing psychiatrist. hope this will help me get out of this and get my shit back together
This video has helped me so much. I was a social person before covid but after the lockdowns I was very anti social. This video opened my eyes to work towards being more social and reawakened the social aspect of myself. This advice works one hundred percent. Thank you hamza.
Outcome independence is also something I would recommend. When you approach a girl, don't pressure yourself into thinking you must get her to be interested in you. That will just make you paranoid and will make you look desperate. And chances are your less likely to get the girl anyway because desperation is repulsive to women.
Instead, speak to her without worrying about the outcome (getting her to like you). If she likes you, great and if she doesn't, then at least you had a good conversation. Plus, it gives off the allure of abundance which normally attracts women. Good luck men.
I agree
Turn it around and try to be interessted in her. Main thing about being interessting is often to be interessted.
That's really all it is used this method today of just go in with the mindset of talking with women had a nice conversation be interested in them and ask for the digits as the end of you get them great if you don't then on to the next be cordial and leave.
@Mr. M how can I forget about sex and marriage when they are part of one of my main goals, which is to be a husband and a father?
What I have also noticed is to not force these things consciously. When you are on the path of self improvement, these things starts to fall automatically in their places. That is why self improvement is so focused upon.
This is Hamza at his best. I've been a little turned off by the militant videos lately, although he's made a good point that these apps are literally using our attention as their profit. But Hamza when it comes to embracing discomfort and speaking to women is the Hamza that knows best what he's talking about. Maybe in time he'll be able to solidify his beliefs on how to use social media and how to progress a relationship towards marriage, but we're all happy to be on this journey with Hamza of being self-reflective and hard-working. Thanks for being the man you are Hamza. I look forward to what you and your movement can create.
Thanks for the advice bro
Bro I won’t lie, your videos have really been on another level lately. Mad respect Hamza.
I agree
Honestly this is such solid advice. You a gem Hamza.
Two days ago I was in vacation here in Italy and my friend met a dutch girl, who didn’t speak english.
She asked to bring a friend with him for her friend and he sent a picture of me and she said I was pretty. The date didn’t go that well (I’m short and she was really tall) but I realised that I got such a confidence boost from that compliment and that probably no one said that to me in years, I realised that I could be liked by someone. This self-improvement journey is changing my life.
I agree
VAMOOOOOS
Whats your/her height?
@@mehmeterciyas6844 I’m 170cm and she was like 182cm
@@jacopolobianco Lol she rejected you just cause of height
Love the content
Guys trust me. Just saying "good morning" or "evening" can make your day so much better.
I agree
Absolutely. Before even watching this video, I went to Best Buy earlier and said good morning and smiled at this lady in the entrance. Seemed like it made her day.
@@davidh9618 yes. And it's amazing to see that after a few times those poeple will also talk to you
@@AG26498 It seems that people just make things too complicated like all these channels that talk about "game" and "seduction". Just keep it simple and friendly......the rest will either fall into place or not.
This is why having a job during the summer break was one of the best decisions that I've made, socially AND financially. I started working at a grocery store about a week ago, and I've started to interact with more people than I ever did. I've become a more social individual and that truly feels invigorating.
Ultimately, it's all about going through discomfort for the sake of progress.
Good shit bro
@@hashtagaroma7778 Thank you, man😁👍.
@Mr. M Everyone has the capability to be social and interact with other people, don't cap and don't be afraid of everything that you haven't even tried.
@Mr. M with that mentality, you will always fail.
Excercise, study, meditate, choose what you consume, produce.
Keep growing!
Love your videos. Funny, blunt, and meaningful.
thanks for this!!
Today first day in gym was great thank you Bro
My mental health has improved 10 fold since I started following your advice, I thank you for helping me pull myself out of the rut I was drowning in and I wish our world had more positive role models like you for young men. Cheers hamza
This is the best video I’ve seen in a while. One step at a time is the message I got.
Man i needed this
I actually understand this. Last semester in college I had a dgaf attitude cause it was my last semester but also it was easy to get in a social flow cause I knew a lot of ppl on campus. Had a lot of excitement and fun. Need to get in that mentality again.
Literally today implemented Hamza's advice at the gym. Just simply said "we started working out together today and finished together" to a guy at the locker room. He was ASTONISHED and we went to talk about different splits we've done and how long we have been training for. I made this guys day and now I'll have a gym buddy. And everything just takes off from here
nah thank you for this bro frfr
that social flow talk is absurldy important information, thanks hamza
You have no idea how much i respect you
Me aswell
Hey Hamza ! I just wanted to thank you for everything and to say that thanks to you these videos are more of a reminder now than a real “discovery”.
This is a pretty good video for me. Clicked it randomly but jeez.. hits the problem right away. Thanks bro
Thx man good video
Thank you man!
"Do the hard work, Especially when you don't feel like it"
It's literally one of my favorite sentences this days
Hope to be able to keep this vibe!
This is accurate, I have been working for 5 years now, my routine every single day is work, home, video games, exercise, food and sleep. I rarely go out and when i do i go for a specific reason. Meeting people online has helped but it's not as gratifying and pleasant as in real life
You got this bro🔥
are you living at home? or your own place? how old are you?
@@buak809 Living with parents and im 22.
Thank you for this insight, i knew it already but its great to get a reminder every now and then
I needed this.. thankyou
Self-confidence, outing experiences and being on this self-improvement will help you to get and retain the females that you want in your life. Thank you Hamza for this video.
It’s as simple as step 1. By going outside you already increasing your chances of meeting women way more than being indoors, you might not meet girls where you do your hobbies/activities but you might meet them on the way there (gas station, mall, restaurant etc)
@Mr. M those old women still count bro
@Mr. M well when life gives you lemons gotta be grateful for all you’re given get you that trad wife
@Mr. M pahahah bro
This is the channel I was looking for. Thanks for existing man.
this video is by far your best video Hamza , thank you so much.
This is literally my first ever comment on UA-cam, but I have to say what you said in this video felt so f*cking good. I didn't like your older vids this much but the recent ones are lit. I've quit social media a while ago and changed my gym (been going consecutively since 4 years) and due to quitting social media, I've got way more confident (especially after covid). I literally started this whole networking thing in the new gym intuitively and now some old man and adults started to 'respect' me and even start conversations with me for a regular basis. You talking about this now is mind-blowing for me. Thank you ! Keep it up guys, we are all gonna make it!
Good shit bro! 💪
Bro you are so inspirational and so real. Even though, you will probably not read this comment I want to say that it is because of you that I started my self iprovement journey. I am at the beginning stage but I just want to say I am very grateful for the genuine content you put out. I can tell that you really try to help and inspire men. Thanks bro, and keep on doing this!🙏🙏🙏
Thanks!
Thank you for this video Hamza. I needed this 🤙🏼
why is jeffreys right arm so huge 💀
Great start. Next steps:
3) Dress better and have some kind of style
4) Get in good shape (don't need to be jacked or 10% BF)
5) Spend money on a good haircut
6) SMILE (most guys don't do this enough or at all)
7) Ask interesting questions instead of boring ones. Practice this all the time.
8) Once you get good at conversations you need to learn how to tease/flirt
9) Ask for the date in person - women prefer bold guys who risk rejection
10) Always ask for contact info - you never know unless you ask
^this
Do you have any examples and explanations for 7 and 8?
@@imrandoesthings sure. 7) take normal questions and ask in a different way. Ex. change "What's your favorite place to travel?" to "What's your worst travel story?". Change "Favorite music?" to "What song annoys you the most?" etc etc. Instead of asking about work, ask about hobbies, family, experiences, passions. Then instead of just asking "what" she likes, also ask "why" she likes it.
8) If she likes something you don't like, tease her about it. I like dogs so I tease a girl if she likes cats. I hate olives so if a girl likes them, I'll tease her about it. Treat her like you would a sister. Tease her about inconsequential things like her favorite music, not things about herself like her looks, style, or things that are really important to her. Those might offend her.
Cooooooppppe
@@darrenwerlen4865 try it first
Great advice. Thank you Hamza :)
Great stuff wish I found this when I was younger. Excellent advice
Hamza, can you please create a video on the pros and cons of moving out of our parents houses & when & should we do it as young men? I'm from a South-Asian household just like you where it is okay to live with parents until 30. But recently I've been in a rut & very depressed & want a change of scenery.
Since you've achieved self-improvement by staying at your family's house you might've a better perspective.
I suggest living in an rv because rent is NOT worth it
@@AmazingRebel23 lol
@@SaitamaRusso thank
@Dekkal it's an rv
@@AmazingRebel23 it's cheaper in many south Asian countries.
I usually stay inside and work on my music all day. A couple weeks ago i started to go outside to read some self improvement books at the book store. Lots of people including girls approached me and we had a really good small talk. Even though you don't get girls by going outside you gon still be talking to some strangers and it improves your social skills a lot
Thank you so much for this. I’ve never had any social apps so I will keep doing this to everyone!! 🙏🏻
Epic video. Hamza at his best form.
Social flow is fucking underrated . I usually stumble in conversations when I'm overly conscious. but everyone seemed to percieve me as an extrovert. I didn't believe this and felt unconfident all the time. but one day randomly our class went to see an expo in a women's college ( welcome to India) but men aren't allowed usually but our professor got permission and we went there. I was excited but damn, after the expo ended, I just realized I literally talked to 20+ girls and I didn't even realize.(it was just normal talk though) I also talked to this girl I noticed when I entered the campus and I thought "if only I could talk to her" but I Didn't feel confident.. But the moment I entered the flow I didn't even realize I was talking to her and her group and then boom we're all laughing and then I got some chocolates as a parting gift. No other guys from my class got any lmao
Chad
Very good common sense advice, truly reminds us of what we should improve on in our lives.
istg i will implement this but the fear of getting rejected sets me back
Bro you are changing my Life rn And in am 16 year old german kid right now, i go to gym bc of you i gained More confidence. Keep up the good work i love you men.
This is something I have learned over time working at a large busy store while having social anxiety. During the first part of my shift I wouldn't really wanna talk to anyone or anything but as the hours went on and I had to speak to more people and was very busy I almost didn't even have the time to get all insecure and all of a sudden I would just naturally be communicating with many people with ease and those thoughts didn't bother me over time as I realized they were just holding me back.
This video honestly couldn't be better timed for me. After watching you Hamza, I have been on a mission to reorganize my life. I used to hate myself, I was lazy but now I got self-love. I'm a bit on the shorter side and just watching these videos of how height matters made me insecure. It wasn't until recently I started going out and meeting people. There are a couple people who may not want to talk but that's fine. I felt good being around people. I started to like minded friends. I'm happier than I used to be. I have a long way to go but I'm proud to say that I'm on the right track. Social media is terrible and I have started to cut down the time I spend on it.
Edit: So it's the start of November and looking back at this comment I wrote is amazing. I've been able to achieve so much and I'm so focused on other stuff that women aren't even something I pay attention to. It honestly feels so good just being so organized and getting productive.
now way i just saw this comment exctly on the day before the start of November no joke like wtf great man so how things working out for u and any advice?
@@crizzy364 They are working out great. Academically its a bit on the rough side but we all have our highs and lows on that side. I got a great opportunity to co-op with one of the largest pharmaceutical companies in the world, so I'll be working from January till July until returning back to college in fall 2024. I wish you the best on your journey too! All I'm going to add is stay put and stay patient. Everyone has a different timeline. As long as you are working towards a goal, and get closer to achieving it each day, that is what matters, not how quickly you do it
Right on, bro. #preach
Great advice
Social flow state is very powerful. I remember a day, at a friend's house, there was this girl who I had never could approach if I was in a normal state. But I was there doing jokes, speaking and laughing loud. I was fun and all. And later in the day, she attempt to hug me but I was like "uh, please no, don't touch me" because it wasn't a regular thing for me. Like I've had the power of social skill of an Adonis but mental of a Jeffrey wtf bros, damn
It takes time and you can still reject people
why did she hug you randomly?🤣🤣
Sounds like an NPC interaction, not buying it 😭😭😭
nahhh bro you aint ready for this if you rejected a hug ahaha
Bro got boundaries as a jeffrey
Great video Hamza. You’re right, I’m not going to implement your advice, for now. I’m almost done with my Bachelors degree and still working on flight training to become a pilot. On top of that, training in the gym, and taking time for family, friends and my hobbies is extremely important. When I have more accolades, I’ll give this a try.
your the best bro thank you
One of your best vids so far
Thank you! Would be really useful a video on also ways to find people to connect with. Nowadays everyone keeps themselves closed and stays stuck on their phones, and there is a general lack of trust. It's really hard to find a way to make friends and talk with new people. Thanks
That's the thing I noticed when I started going outside often
Yes! Deleted tinder/bumble, etc. just two weeks ago and feeling great! First days were a little weird, but my focus is now again on myself with less distraction !
Did you get matches on tinder bro?
@@reyesaldaojoseemilio4854 yeah, had like 20 or something in my first week, but not like a chad; quality of matches were not high :/
A lot of good looking girls are just instagram-follower-hunting; bored looking for entertainment without any serious commitment (not even for s**); just looking whats "out there" without any intent to date; ego-boost themselves after chad left them of read
etc. most women on these dating apps are not there for dating; and the ones that are, are usually not high quality; and if they are, they "know they are worth of chad" (also applies to the low quality women)
I've always wanted to learn drawing, to put more work into my fantasy writing and exercise the piano. Right now I do at least two of these things in addition to my law studies every day. All because before I wasted so much time on these apps. I want to focus on myself. Of course I do workouts like 4/times per week as well :), thankful-journaling, etc.
Bro. Fire and the hoodie givin Sith Vibes
I loved this.
I have experienced that the courage and masculinity to just approach a girl in the real world and talk to them is at its lowest.
You will be surprised by the amount of interactions and dates you can get by just doing so. Sky is the limit.
This only works if you’re a Chad, or visibly wealthy.
@@Juve-vo3ieThen become a Chad and stop whining
@@AmonGus-ml1fh you dont “become” a Chad. Not possible.
@@Juve-vo3ie Keep telling yourself that and you won’t 💀 why would you argue for your limitations instead of bettering yourself
@@AmonGus-ml1fh omg do you not understand?!!!?!? It’s not as easy as you think. Not everyone is fortunate enough or lucky to have good looks as you. At least admit it’s not easy!
It comes right back down to self-confidence and self-love. Without those two things, you will be forever stuck in the same rut.
We all can do this and Hamza is 100% real with it.
Those feelings are difficults to master
How does it take a beginner to start talking to girls and overcome his anxiety
@@angryyoungman66 exposure, u can start small like talking to girls in your class about anything, maybe just a short conversation about something u studied, then the anxiety slows fades away, next time asking a girl in class wont make you anxious, but approaching a random one will, so start small than move to the next thing you have to be exposed to the things that make you anxious to get over them, and remember it aint that serious u fuck up dont know what to say or shake then what a day or two later she ll forget that maybe you too
LETS GO! keep it up bruv
Love the fire background
Deleted my dating apps and it was the best thing I've ever done.
Go outside, Talk to people. Don't look for relationships, Look for friendships and it will make it alot easier to progress.
When you loose fear of rejection you have nothing to loose.
i love this channel. no bullshit, no holding back
this is so true man
Learning to get in a social flow was one of the most influential skills I have picked up. And it’s so incredibly easy to develop too - you can get very good at this in the span of maybe 2 weeks. I am talking top 15% of social people in 2 weeks. That’s how low the bar is. Literally, all you have to do is force yourself to sputter a 2-word conversation starter to the cashier when you go buy doughnuts from the store. Just literally say “so how was your day”. And at first you’ll be the most awkward person on the face of the Earth, and that’s okay. If you force yourself to do it, it’s no longer awkward when you get to the 3rd or 4th person. And then you can start talking about your day and the small, interesting stuff that happened to you - “so I saw this really fat kid earlier and he kindof looked like the Michelin man” or some dumb sht like that. And people LOVE it when you get into these types of small conversations. You will find yourself having people pursue you to hang out. This also applies to girls. It’s so easy to get started and get results, but you do have to stay consistent with it.
Hey man I really appreciate your comment! I've always had insane anxiety of interacting with random people (even though that's EXACTLY the man I want to be). I want to be a man who just talks freely to strangers about random things, men and women doesn't matter. Just having that flow you know. But I always feel extremely awkward and I end up not doing it. Some time ago I watched a lot of youtube videos about how to approach girls, what to say, what to do etc. and it just increased my anxiety even more and I didn't try it out even once. It just became this huge thing in my head and I become so increadibly self concious. So what you're saying is that even doing small things like asking the cashier how his/her day is will actually help me overcome this anxiety? This feels like something I could actually do, because it doesn't have any hidden purpose like when you approach a girl and are supposed to say this, say that, do this, do that. This one just feels so natural. Do you think this would eventually lead to me being able to actually going up to girls I find attractive in a natural way, not overthinking things as well?
@@ackerman7735 no, I don’t think so - I know so.
I’ve been doing cold approach consistently for around 2-3 years. I have tried every way of going about it, and I can tell you with certainty that the easiest way to go about it is by getting into a social flow.
Anything counts, no matter how small. Smiling at a stranger, or saying “nice shirt” counts. Saying “hi” counts.
Do small things like that every day. In 6 months, you’ll likely have close to no social anxiety
@@father_mihai wow thank u so much! This is exactly what I needed to hear, that even smiling or saying ”hi” to a stranger counts. I didnt think it did. I thought that I had to start cold approaching the most beautiful women and being funny, interesting and attractive all at the same time which feels impossible for me to do right now. I will start very small, like asking people who work how their day is and stuff like that. But eventually I will need to progress further as only asking cashiers how their day is will not be enough to approach beautiful girls later on imo. So my question is, will I naturally feel more comfortable progressing things further, having longer conversations etc or will there be a point where I need to decide to start ”forcing it”?
@@ackerman7735 you will be “forcing it” every single day, just not by a lot. You need to push past what is comfortable in order to grow. This is the same with everything you’ll ever do in life. If you want to get good at anything worthwhile, there will be a “flinch moment” you’ll have to overcome. You’ll have to fight that little fight everyday. Good news is that the fight doesn’t have to be a death match.
@@father_mihai So much wisdom in your words. You’ve made me understand, like seriously it feels like I’ve unlocked a deeper understanding of life and what I’m supposed to do. Many many thanks and good luck on your journey as well!
Hi Hamza! Im Rasmus and im 13. I thought I should start working out beacause I feel like im too weak. Today I went to a near outside gym to work out. It was amazing, and I feel motivated to start going there more often. Thank you Hamza for the amazing content!
Very informative video with nice editing and animations as always!
Seeing yuo grow from 300k to 50m is gonna be epic
I overthink all the time and am socially awkward so its pretty hard but like I'm learning, thank you for the adonis lesson
It's really sad how there's a growing group of people who think they can't change. Stay strong
Your videos are very encouraging and without fail brings me up back on my feet, thanks bro
Keep the work kings
Talking to girls as human beings without the thought of having a love relationship with her in the first place. Greatest love story start with friendship.
Plus you would not feel the anxiety and fear of rejection if you just think about being friendly.
I've started my journey of self-improvement 4 years ago and while I still have a lot to work on, the fact that I improved basically all aspects of my life has so much impact on how I'm received by other people. It's definitely worth it, but it's extremely difficult to find places you can go to to socialise without already knowing someone there. I have one such place and the gym. I don't approach women in the gym and there are only women who are already in a relationship where I go to to chill so that still doesn't provide opportunity to try flirting.
awesome vid
You’re such a great UA-camr.
0:33 “random bag searches😂”
Being in a social flow is also a good path towards getting a promotion at work. They tend to promote the guy that makes himself known, not the guy that performs the best.
You're doing great work Hamza!
Great video hamza