@@Hamza97 that's not what I meant. Your entire channel what I've seen is looks maxing and some self improvement of men. You made a vid about how society has left behind men, I forget which one. So men are outcast in a gender sense and you speak on that, why not the racial aspect? Do you think there isn't something similar going on in that sense? I'm genuinely curious and that's what I was trying to focus on. Not a looks maxing thing.
@@fionnleamy844 nope. Is making a thing about gender not division?? Tell me why you believe and stated that. It's ok for him to talk about gender based stuff but why do all you red pill types always do that and treat race as some holy and untouchable subject?? Do you hear yourself sometimes man?
Being in the friend zone is like losing an item you care about. When you stop looking for it, it will either return to you, or you will realize that ultimately it doesn't matter you lost it in the first place.
help me bro, i need advice rn i’m talking to a girl i had my intentions clear to her from the very first moment. she says i’m a great guy but she doesn’t wants to be in a relationship in a rush. she says that she wants to know me and also wants to let me know her better and then maybe start a relationship with her. i also tried being stoic and patient and she double texted me as well, she sents me snaps, and replies to my stories if i don’t text her. i’m soo confused. so am i friend zoned? help me :)
@@jootirmoy seems to me like she doesn’t know what she wants. It’s attention without intention. The attention is nice and probably fires up all those chemicals in her brain but she isn’t necessarily talking to you with the intent of pursuing any real relationship. Perhaps she likes the thought of sharing a level of chemistry with someone else but is too scared to really commit to you or just doesn’t want a relationship (with you). She is clearly friend zoning you if she said that stuff and although it may sound like you still have a chance, don’t force it. Double down on self improvement and make your future self happier first then the rest will come naturally.
@@jootirmoy sounds like she's wanting the benefits of a boyfriend without having you specifically be her boyfriend. As soon as a man she wants comes along, she will drop you faster than picking up a hot rock in summer. You need to let her go because all you're doing is causing yourself pain and stopping yourself from finding a girl who's actually into you. Women who are interested in you are interested from the moment you meet. There is no hesitation, no chase. It very easy to tell and they won't wait at all to claim you as a boyfriend. If she's telling you that you have to wait to MAYBE be in a relationship, then she isn't interested and is just looking for free attention and gifts.
Trust me, I was in the friend zone twice! But I managed to fight my way out of them. You just have to... disappear out of their lives, and improve yourself overall, physically and mentally. It also helps to smell nice, and dress nice, too. But don't overdo it. Key takeaway: "Less is more." You got this, Adonis! 🤜🤛💪💯
@@ayaan6624 Depends. Did she cause you a lot of mental distress, or emotional damage? Cause if she did, I'd drop her like a ton o' bricks. That's just me. It's your call.
@@mexicanson yah man , she told me stay with me , I want you to be my good friend, after destroying my mental health , she was telling me I love you but I am not ready for relationship, I am scared of relationship, s , I thought maybe she needs time , but today i got my answer , and it hurt my ego i am feeling worth less right now , she is also like below average girl but still i fall for her
@@ayaan6624 I went through the same thing 5 years ago, with this other girl I knew. She told me she didn't like me, and only wanted to be friends, but you could tell she wanted to be with me. Girls play games like that, and you can get yourself caught up. I'd ditch her. You could find someone better, in my opinion. When you do find the right girl, it should be easy like breathing. You like her, and she really likes you. Look for her heart condition, and never date anyone toxic. That's just bad for your health, my dude.
40 years ago I was put in the friendzone by 2 really nice girls. recently out of the blue I took them out on a dinner date to meet my wife after they got divorced and live alone or with their mothers. The nerd of yesteryear turned out to become a medical doctor who trains krav maga and has no debts, 3 houses, 3 luxury cars, travels abroad frequently and goes to the opera. Is this revenge or compassion?
I had this crush on a girl for few months and i tried to flirt with her and we had some good moments but then recently I found out that she likes someone else and I was disappointed at myself. Not like I can control what she feels. When I was sad about this news, she noticed it and asked me about it. I told her about herself but didn't mention it was her I was talking about so I got it off my chest and then she told me about the guy she likes and I feld embarassed to go through that. I got friend zoned when it's clearly not my intention. I'm gonna accept with humility that I got complacent on my self improvement while obsessing over a girl, someone who I wasn't even sure will stay in my life. But I promise, I'm going to disappear and work on myself, build a new and better personality not just to find love but to achieve self love. Thank you so much hamza for this video. This could not have happened at a better time. I'm grateful for this
As a teen feminine(ish) man who's been through childhood trauma and is shattered, where do you draw a line between being needy and finding comfort, understanding and a parent-like-figure in your partner/potential partner. Because sometimes it's gets too fu**in hard to deal with stuff all alone. I desperately need your take on this Hamza.
my past self can strongly relate to you homie from my experience you have to start loving yourself first giving yourself positive affirmations say no to people stay away from fake or toxic friends try to make your own decisons these are the basics that you can do to stop the "being needy and finding comfort" because i was exactly like this But now alhamdulillah iam good bhai
try and find a best friend who you KNOW you won’t fall for (for me, same gender cuz im straight) and vent to them. if the girl you want does want your attention, she’ll ask why you don’t talk as much anymore. then you hit her with the “i dont want to be friends, i wanna date you”. you probably get a straightforward yes or no. won’t 100% work on GETTING her but hey its a good way to find out her feelings i’ve found.
My problem is I’ve been in the friends zone for like 5 years and I just haven’t said anything because I don’t want our friend ship to end but I’m starting to get to my breaking point but she’s already with some one I just don’t have the balls to break out friendship
I don't really have anyone to talk to about these kinda things so it's cool we have a nice community built so people like me and Jeffrey can communicate confidently without being judged. Ever since I lived in the city growing up, having a girlfriend was my top priority because I felt as if I'd be lonely for the rest of my life. And with this centered focus on love blinded me with a false reality. I didn't go to the gym I ate trash (not literally) and I was lazy watching youtube and playing games. Eventually after 6 years we moved into the country which is really fucking lonely. All that sadness just built up into this giant anchor that will not let go of me, kept me in the position today. I'm not obese or anything like that- in today's terms I'm skinny fat and if I lost 7 pounds I wouldn't be on the overweight scale. To this day I'm ashamed I didn't find this channel sooner. Hamza truly I am grateful to stumble apon this channel! Today I will start a big change that will hopefully pay off big time. It will be a long hard journey to get used to good foods, exercise daily, and I'll eventually start reading since I wanna learn different things to help build money when I leave my parents house. Perhaps I'll try out meditating and journaling since it's something you've preached for a while.
I meet this girl in 2015 and we have good connections together but there is one problem she sees Me as her friend, I know I have the Power to win her heart 💙
I was with a girl for two years and we were like friends but I always had feelings for her and we used to talk every day she also was flirty ... But I was such a pussy to express it and I was about to do it and suddenly she decided to go back to her ex....but she kept me as the same friend again ... I couldn't control it... So I did what I had to do I told her that I loved her a lot and wanted serious relationship with her .. She was angry at me and said I should have said it earlier ( oh man! The regret ) she stopped talking for a week ... But guess what she became insanely attracted to me like never ever she texted me even though she had this guy and asked me to take her on a date ... But I rejected that since I don't want to be a cheater cheating with someone else's girl.... And she blocked me after a fight ... Still blocks me and unblocks me and blocks me it's weird ☕
Installed the strong app, but couldnt open your templates or save them.. each time when tapping on links, the app opens.but there's no templates. using android.
Helped me so much, but no really just gave a direction. Not gonna say which way, but i'm mentally ill not depresion anxiety it just makes me emotionless and sometimes bad person he helped me to realize some fundamental things tbh it's not that great with discipline i made great body and atract some girls. Big up....
I have a girlfriend and now yesterday she told me can we be friends? Like suddenly she changed .. all reasons she has is that she wants to focus on career and her mom is strict and all…. What should i do??
She had interest in me at first but I wasn’t in the mindset to be more friend but couple of weeks I started to get mixed feelings but she told me she cares for me but as me as a friend
I can agree with the first 1. After she said like that i should move on i did but i also started texting her less like maybe once every 3 to 2 days i send a message and then i saw shes initiating conversations and im not the one usually starting by sending the messages first(keep in mind i was the one always starting conversations) it just started happening i might give an update i might not
Have you ever considered uploading to LBRY? It is an actual free speech platform, not controlled by a big company (no yt bs). It is free and open source and you can auto upload videos there from youtube so no extra work to reach more people. Just an idea.
Not to be needy 🤣🤣🤣 After missing 16 years (whole the youth and young adult time) and after 16 years of rejection, dayly increasing desire, watching all others and never had any girl. I'm 32 years old and didn't even spend one weekend with a girl. I really wished, I wouldn't be born!
Hey man 32 years old sounds old, but you still have a lot of life ahead of you and it’s never too late to change things for the better. Being stuck in the mindset that you’ll never spend time with any girls is only stopping you from doing so, and it might seem crazy to think but little changes everyday can lead to big changes over a longer period of time and before it you could be a whole different man from your previous self unable to spend time with girls.
@@KingDemonBaka Hey man, thanks for your reply. I don't know, how should you catch up the best and most important time in your life? With this deficits in this age, you don't have any chance and I'm not interested in woman who are in my age and had all of these for 15 years with hundreds of men. They stand completely different in life, want children and search for a provider. And what do "over a longer period time" means in numbers? There are missing many thousands of days and every day that goes by makes all worse. It's a vicious circle. Women feel all the deficits.
Hey Hamza I have one question, how do you perform neck curls? Do you lie on the bench with the weights on your head, or do you kneel on the bench and put the weights on the back of your head?
Step 1: Dissapear (Give her some space, don't go around her too much.) Step 2: Create a new identity (A.K.A, a better version of yourself like Adonis for instance) Step 3: Make your intentions known (Don't play the mysterious type card too much otherwise the girl is gonna think you're just a creep) Step 4: Forget her and move on (If you want to be more than just a friend for her, just focus on yourself and move on) Enjoy
I learned focusing on your mission brings women to you, ever since I started focusing more on my mission to make self improvement based music, people not just women in my life are more respectful because I’m driven
Kudos to you my brother that’s right I’m more focused on improving myself and my YT platform and people have definitely been trying to grab my attention
I’d rather take a rejection upfront than be strung along, I don’t have the time. I think the best thing to do is to withhold your time and attention for women who are being flirty and romantic with you. If she’s not doing that, no attention for her. If she doesn’t care, you just move on.
I wish I could hear this much earlier At January 2021 I met aome girl, she was amazing, we connected on the first meeting. I remember how we used to cuddle together, watch stuff together. I was so happy with her. One time, we we're goofing around in bed and she kissed me in the forehead, and then instantly apologized. I was confused for weeks, because she never wanted to talk about it and I already was into her after that. Months later, still confused, I was friend-zoned. And yeah, I didn't leave, I stayed as her "friend" entire summer. At October I noticed she met someone. I was really envious at that time, like never before. I experienced so much anger and envy in my life that I questioned if it is really me. I couldn't believe I would ever in my life get so hostile towards someone else. After being kind of friend-zoned second time when she said she got into relationship with that dude, but "she won't leave me because I am her best friend". I was so broken thst I planned my suicide by jumping off a high building. The only thing keeping me alive was going to gym (it was my 3rd month of going regularly to the gym). At February 2022 I was on her birthday, well her boyfriend was there too of course. The only thing I remember was the album that dude gave to her with lovely photos with them. By that time when I was looking at these photos I was drinking vodka in high amounts, I got drunk, had a breakdown and got home. In March I was highly devastated by envy, constant anger and guilt for everything I've done wrong to the point that I cut contact with her. I was trying to see if she cares about me at any rate by that time. I didn't write anything to her - she never said anything to me since that. After being completely heartbroken I found the video made by Hamza and got into self-improvement. If I never found this channel, I think I would be dead by now. Thank you Hamza, you saved my life.
@@Windperfire To be honest - yes. I haven't felt so good in a long time. I am actively changing my diet, sleep routine and working out hard. My gym results are getting better and better. I am also more used to being alone. I don't care about girls now, I am focused on different aspects of my life.
Usually if I get friendzoned, I simply say: "Sorry, I have genuine feelings for you and my intention is to date you. I have no interest in being platonic friend." What dudes say about that, the whole 'she'll chase you' thing is a bunch of horsehsit and that's not why you should do it. It's just about having selfrespect and choosing your mental health over a pity friendship
Currently i am on Step 3 , Tomorrow is the Time i will ask her out to Be in a Relationship , If it Worked then Very Well but if it doesn't. I Promise i will Completely forget her and Move on. Wish me luck Thanks Hamza For the advice
Recently, I gained some look-based compliments from women, like "You are in a better shape than XX months ago." From a random woman I just saw a few times when doing running cardio or "Your Face is so clean. What kind of skincare did you use?" from classmate. It's a good sign that I'm on the right path but that doesn't effectively mean I'm within my goal yet.
Happened to me with a girl who was originally into me. She friendzoned me when I didn't make a move but then a few weeks later she ran into me and my CUTE date. She started messaging and even calling me at night. All of a sudden she's asking me about the girl I was with etc I legit lost interest though at that point
A lot of women and a few simpy dudes will disagree with this but I had a girl try that "can't we just be friends ?" shit on me once. It took me a nanosecond to realize her game and told her "Nah, I'm good. Out of respect for my future lady, I don't keep women as friends" and walked away. She's either looking to keep you as an option or an emotional tampon.
Only way out of the friend zone, just move on to the next one. Live an awesome life. Hook up with other girls. You'll realize you don't need that girl. Small chance she'll change her mind when you aren't giving her attention and validation.
I totally agree with Step 1, but it isn't going to be two weeks. I disappeared from a girl who friend zoned me for almost two months now and still haven't heard from her. I've moved on though and if she really wants you in her life she will reach out.
I was hesitant to watch this video because I was scared of the hard reality of what's happening between me and this girl right now. But no, instead, I watched it and finished the video feeling relaxed and ready to change myself for the better. Everything you said in this video is spot on. Thanks
Wish this video came out months ago. I was going through almost the exact same thing Hamza was going through but I'm also glad through his other videos, I have indirectly been following these steps. And yes, I'm very glad about the emphasis on the final step. It sucks cus you may truly care about this girl but at the end of the day, if she doesn't actually value the attention you give her, (in a good way, not like simpy attention), it's her loss. To my other dudes going/who went through something similar, y,all got this. 💪
It’s rare for a girl to like you once you are FZ. Move on. There are thousands of girls to pick from. Even if she comes back to you. Don’t go for her. She didn’t like you for who you were.
You have one way to handle the friend zone Accept it and move on to the next girl, it’s a numbers game so don’t waste your time on the girl that friend zoned you
I got out of the friendzone. It was step 4 (just had to leave for good). Sometimes you need to take a step back and some time away to realise what an utter POS someone truly is. Right now you guys are just too caught up in the fantasy. After 2 months she tried to message me and pull me back into the friendzone. but I continued on ghosting her. She's going nowhere anyway.
As a man you shouldn’t have ANY women who disrespects you. If she doesn’t respect you maybe as a joke then it seems like shes just toying with you and doesn’t mind getting on your bad side.
Had a girl I was friends with at uni try to call me out for a random bike ride in the city once when I had so much shit to do. I remember getting straight to the point and asking her if it was meant to be a date or not. She got so confused and angry she stopped speaking to me completely. But it felt sooo good to finally not be strung along by some bimbo who’s never been told no in her life. Funnily enough she called me back a few months later. 😂 This red pill shit is real guys. Value yourself, turn your life around and women will flock to be part of your much improved lifestyle.
If a girl "friend zone", it's better to say: I respect your feelings, but I need to move on. I wish you all the best. Give me a call if you change your mind. But also don't count on her return. Just keep doing your own thing for YOU. She'll respect a guy more if he respects his own wishes and desires. 95% of guys would be her friend in hopes that she'll change her mind, don't be that ninety-five-percenter. I did this to a girl: 2 months later she called me. But then I was no longer interested in her.
So theres a little story that i experienced that i found great Once I started talking to a girl at school and one day out of nowhere she went to talk to another boy, that crushed my soul. So I started to get into self-improvement so i went away from school for a while to focus on other things (not self-improvement) but i came back different, so guess what, the same girl started hitting on me, i accepted but moderately without romanticizing or wanting anything serious, so I started hugging her (asking for permission and she always let me). I sent her a distance kiss in the air one day, this girl loved it, them one day the same guy was waiting for her, when she arrived i didnt lost any time, i took her under her arm and walked away, I held her hand and walked some more. Shortly afterwards the boy came up to me saying he was her boyfriend, like she never said anything to me about any boyfriend, after that she tried to come with this friendzone bullshit so I replied "It wasn't what you implied, but it's your decision" And blocked her, she was probably some unfhaitful bitch who will replace her in the first opportunity. And the best part is that i dont give a fuck, because its not my problem. Im glad that i didn't get attached before anything.
The easy way is never allow it from the start. From the beginning tell her I will only see her if we have a romantic relationship. If she brings up friendship, tell her we are either romantic or we will never see each other. If she rejects me at least I know it was never going anywhere and I saved myself time that could be spent with a woman who will be romantic. Men and women should never be just friends because she benefits and he doesn’t. I am not interested in listening to her problems unless I know sex is involved.
I remember when I really liked my ex and she left me, I was devastated for a long time. These days now I find it hard to ever think of going back to her, I realized relationships were a preferred indifference. I'm happy working on myself, looking into philosophy, and working hard on my academics. I can see things similar to this video in my life, and at this point when I think about my ex I realize I'm happy she left me, because it changed me to become a new person. One step closer to Adonis
I strongly resonate w u, glad you find a way to become a better person. My ex dumped me in 2019 and I wished to go back to her until I tried to contact her and she blocked me, 2 years of suffering ended up in 2 seconds, now I feel really grateful she crushed my heart bc I became someone stronger and better. Cheers! Keep focusing on the work!
If You are friends with a girl and she is asking for your help with something, for example, to change the bulb in the car then you have to ask for help from her, to clean the house or something 😅
One of the best things I ever realized when I was friendzoned that helped me move on? I realized the kind of man she wanted to date was not the kind of man I wanted to be. I realized I would much rather be in the friend zone with her than be in a relationship, because being in a relationship would require me to compromise my values and individuality.
It's quite crazy that this is what caused me to stumble upon you're videos a couple days ago. Now to see you post something about this it feels like you're directly talking to me. Seriously man, thank you. I'm excited to be a better person, and actually be a man. I love your content, keep up the hard work brother, Godspeed!
Hey Hamza, I'm curious why you never talk about race. Is there any reason why?
cant change/improve it so thinking about it isn't worth our time. Focus on what you can improve.
@@Hamza97 Hamza idk how to thank u bro , you've made my life a lot better through those hour long videos
If he makes a thing about race he is creating more division
@@Hamza97 that's not what I meant. Your entire channel what I've seen is looks maxing and some self improvement of men. You made a vid about how society has left behind men, I forget which one.
So men are outcast in a gender sense and you speak on that, why not the racial aspect? Do you think there isn't something similar going on in that sense? I'm genuinely curious and that's what I was trying to focus on. Not a looks maxing thing.
@@fionnleamy844 nope. Is making a thing about gender not division?? Tell me why you believe and stated that.
It's ok for him to talk about gender based stuff but why do all you red pill types always do that and treat race as some holy and untouchable subject??
Do you hear yourself sometimes man?
Being in the friend zone is like losing an item you care about. When you stop looking for it, it will either return to you, or you will realize that ultimately it doesn't matter you lost it in the first place.
frind zone = fu+k other girls until this girl wants you
help me bro, i need advice
rn i’m talking to a girl
i had my intentions clear to her from the very first moment.
she says i’m a great guy but she doesn’t wants to be in a relationship in a rush.
she says that she wants to know me and also wants to let me know her better and then maybe start a relationship with her.
i also tried being stoic and patient and she double texted me as well, she sents me snaps, and replies to my stories if i don’t text her.
i’m soo confused.
so am i friend zoned? help me :)
@@jootirmoy seems to me like she doesn’t know what she wants. It’s attention without intention. The attention is nice and probably fires up all those chemicals in her brain but she isn’t necessarily talking to you with the intent of pursuing any real relationship.
Perhaps she likes the thought of sharing a level of chemistry with someone else but is too scared to really commit to you or just doesn’t want a relationship (with you).
She is clearly friend zoning you if she said that stuff and although it may sound like you still have a chance, don’t force it.
Double down on self improvement and make your future self happier first then the rest will come naturally.
@@jootirmoy sounds like she's wanting the benefits of a boyfriend without having you specifically be her boyfriend. As soon as a man she wants comes along, she will drop you faster than picking up a hot rock in summer. You need to let her go because all you're doing is causing yourself pain and stopping yourself from finding a girl who's actually into you. Women who are interested in you are interested from the moment you meet. There is no hesitation, no chase. It very easy to tell and they won't wait at all to claim you as a boyfriend. If she's telling you that you have to wait to MAYBE be in a relationship, then she isn't interested and is just looking for free attention and gifts.
@@SEliteGuitarist99 w
Easiest tip. Reject the friendzone. If she says "we could be friends" just say "No. I am not interested in being just friends with you."
And then stop contacting her
Perfect response
Works like a charm, said this to a girl once, and she wouldnt leave me alone afterwards, after a while she accepted going out with me
@@jpebrz yeeeah
@@jpebrz and then you woke up
*Summary:*
- Disappear and Improve Yourself 👻📈
- Change your identity (😔to✝️🏋️♂️)
- Making your intentions clear ❤️
- Forgot her and move on 🚗💨
Thank you bro
@@ren.8137 Only Jesus can renew your heart.
@@ren.8137 From Jesus himself. He claimed that, and either he’s lying or telling the truth.
I accept it as a truth and He set me free.
@@ren.8137 Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.
@@ren.8137 He gave you the answer dude
Trust me, I was in the friend zone twice! But I managed to fight my way out of them. You just have to... disappear out of their lives, and improve yourself overall, physically and mentally. It also helps to smell nice, and dress nice, too. But don't overdo it. Key takeaway: "Less is more." You got this, Adonis! 🤜🤛💪💯
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Should I unfollow her on social media , or show her ,what I have become
@@ayaan6624 Depends. Did she cause you a lot of mental distress, or emotional damage? Cause if she did, I'd drop her like a ton o' bricks. That's just me. It's your call.
@@mexicanson yah man , she told me stay with me , I want you to be my good friend, after destroying my mental health , she was telling me I love you but I am not ready for relationship, I am scared of relationship, s , I thought maybe she needs time , but today i got my answer , and it hurt my ego i am feeling worth less right now , she is also like below average girl but still i fall for her
@@ayaan6624 I went through the same thing 5 years ago, with this other girl I knew. She told me she didn't like me, and only wanted to be friends, but you could tell she wanted to be with me. Girls play games like that, and you can get yourself caught up. I'd ditch her. You could find someone better, in my opinion. When you do find the right girl, it should be easy like breathing. You like her, and she really likes you. Look for her heart condition, and never date anyone toxic. That's just bad for your health, my dude.
40 years ago I was put in the friendzone by 2 really nice girls. recently out of the blue I took them out on a dinner date to meet my wife after they got divorced and live alone or with their mothers. The nerd of yesteryear turned out to become a medical doctor who trains krav maga and has no debts, 3 houses, 3 luxury cars, travels abroad frequently and goes to the opera. Is this revenge or compassion?
Imagine being that pathetic manchild, you’re actually looking for validation on UA-cam while claiming being successful
I think maybe you wanted to show off a little bit, but that may not be a big problem. Btw, you have a brazilian name, are you perhaps from Brazil?
@@Raul-oz5mg Portugal, the small country that had the greatest medieval empire including Brasil
@@jluis333 portugal caralhooo
lmfaoooo
I had this crush on a girl for few months and i tried to flirt with her and we had some good moments but then recently I found out that she likes someone else and I was disappointed at myself. Not like I can control what she feels. When I was sad about this news, she noticed it and asked me about it. I told her about herself but didn't mention it was her I was talking about so I got it off my chest and then she told me about the guy she likes and I feld embarassed to go through that. I got friend zoned when it's clearly not my intention. I'm gonna accept with humility that I got complacent on my self improvement while obsessing over a girl, someone who I wasn't even sure will stay in my life. But I promise, I'm going to disappear and work on myself, build a new and better personality not just to find love but to achieve self love. Thank you so much hamza for this video. This could not have happened at a better time. I'm grateful for this
I wished I found your channel 6 years earlier.
Me to my man
As a teen feminine(ish) man who's been through childhood trauma and is shattered, where do you draw a line between being needy and finding comfort, understanding and a parent-like-figure in your partner/potential partner.
Because sometimes it's gets too fu**in hard to deal with stuff all alone.
I desperately need your take on this Hamza.
Love yourself first
You need therapy first. Trust me. Work on yourself first. You are still so young seek therapy before opening up your trauma onto others.
my past self can strongly relate to you homie
from my experience you have to start loving yourself first
giving yourself positive affirmations
say no to people
stay away from fake or toxic friends
try to make your own decisons
these are the basics that you can do to stop the "being needy and finding comfort"
because i was exactly like this But now alhamdulillah iam good bhai
@@Dalabombana is there any free online therapy nowadays?
try and find a best friend who you KNOW you won’t fall for (for me, same gender cuz im straight) and vent to them. if the girl you want does want your attention, she’ll ask why you don’t talk as much anymore. then you hit her with the “i dont want to be friends, i wanna date you”. you probably get a straightforward yes or no. won’t 100% work on GETTING her but hey its a good way to find out her feelings i’ve found.
My problem is I’ve been in the friends zone for like 5 years and I just haven’t said anything because I don’t want our friend ship to end but I’m starting to get to my breaking point but she’s already with some one I just don’t have the balls to break out friendship
Update I blocked her and now I feel the best I ever have thank you
This video is all facts. I wish I had this a few years ago when I was going through this for the first time. Thank you for this man
I don't really have anyone to talk to about these kinda things so it's cool we have a nice community built so people like me and Jeffrey can communicate confidently without being judged. Ever since I lived in the city growing up, having a girlfriend was my top priority because I felt as if I'd be lonely for the rest of my life. And with this centered focus on love blinded me with a false reality. I didn't go to the gym I ate trash (not literally) and I was lazy watching youtube and playing games. Eventually after 6 years we moved into the country which is really fucking lonely. All that sadness just built up into this giant anchor that will not let go of me, kept me in the position today. I'm not obese or anything like that- in today's terms I'm skinny fat and if I lost 7 pounds I wouldn't be on the overweight scale.
To this day I'm ashamed I didn't find this channel sooner. Hamza truly I am grateful to stumble apon this channel! Today I will start a big change that will hopefully pay off big time. It will be a long hard journey to get used to good foods, exercise daily, and I'll eventually start reading since I wanna learn different things to help build money when I leave my parents house. Perhaps I'll try out meditating and journaling since it's something you've preached for a while.
A great lesson that you itself figured from your life.
Aspiration and motivation can be permanent if u admire yourself to be that person
mostly how you firstly act, acting as a friend will get you where you should end up, there is occasion that arent in the *norm* of it
This is so true. People come out of the woodworks when I start focusing on myself. It's like they can sense it.
Thank you for these videos Hamza, genuinely
You are saving my life Hamza, Thank you
I meet this girl in 2015 and we have good connections together but there is one problem she sees
Me as her friend, I know I have the
Power to win her heart 💙
you are a life changer
thank you so much bro
Im gonna try this and if this works I'll go back and watch every hamza vid ever made
Lots of young men will benefit from this video Hamza, I'm grateful you're pumping out such great knowledge! 💪
Pumping ? Make Me Remember Crypto 😂
I was with a girl for two years and we were like friends but I always had feelings for her and we used to talk every day she also was flirty ... But I was such a pussy to express it and I was about to do it and suddenly she decided to go back to her ex....but she kept me as the same friend again ... I couldn't control it... So I did what I had to do
I told her that I loved her a lot and wanted serious relationship with her .. She was angry at me and said I should have said it earlier ( oh man! The regret ) she stopped talking for a week ... But guess what she became insanely attracted to me like never ever she texted me even though she had this guy and asked me to take her on a date ... But I rejected that since I don't want to be a cheater cheating with someone else's girl.... And she blocked me after a fight ... Still blocks me and unblocks me and blocks me it's weird ☕
Hi hamza, im actually in this situation rn. I will try my best to do what you said. Ik it will work! I trust you bruv
I praise all the messages you speak about. At this point I watch your videos to get a laugh hahaha
Wish I had this only a couple of weeks ago. Great advice I’m going to pass on to my friends
How can I schedule a private coaching call with you Hamza?
Installed the strong app, but couldnt open your templates or save them.. each time when tapping on links, the app opens.but there's no templates. using android.
What should you do for a friend that has masculine energy but you’re still attracted to her feminine traits
Yeah man I fucked up because I was to needy probably
Previously: out of the friend zone and into the creep zone
when you said what you msg your back with was so funny
Damn that girl was a boss. She literally didn’t care and let you burn slowly 😂😂
Helped me so much, but no really just gave a direction. Not gonna say which way, but i'm mentally ill not depresion anxiety it just makes me emotionless and sometimes bad person he helped me to realize some fundamental things tbh it's not that great with discipline i made great body and atract some girls. Big up....
I'm been in the friend zone for 20 years now.how do I get out?
Adonis😹
Done done and done
jeffery u got this!
tbf I kinda do want to be her friend
hamza advice is so good bro!
I have a girlfriend and now yesterday she told me can we be friends? Like suddenly she changed .. all reasons she has is that she wants to focus on career and her mom is strict and all…. What should i do??
She had interest in me at first but I wasn’t in the mindset to be more friend but couple of weeks I started to get mixed feelings but she told me she cares for me but as me as a friend
Any updates?
I can agree with the first 1. After she said like that i should move on i did but i also started texting her less like maybe once every 3 to 2 days i send a message and then i saw shes initiating conversations and im not the one usually starting by sending the messages first(keep in mind i was the one always starting conversations) it just started happening i might give an update i might not
"I don't want to be your friend, but I do want to take you out."
Wait did I hear that correctly?
9:03 i am dead 🤣🤣
Jeffrey you silly goose
Have you ever considered uploading to LBRY? It is an actual free speech platform, not controlled by a big company (no yt bs). It is free and open source and you can auto upload videos there from youtube so no extra work to reach more people. Just an idea.
why are you talking about instagram bro we all deleted it as you said😭
Not to be needy 🤣🤣🤣 After missing 16 years (whole the youth and young adult time) and after 16 years of rejection, dayly increasing desire, watching all others and never had any girl. I'm 32 years old and didn't even spend one weekend with a girl. I really wished, I wouldn't be born!
Hey man 32 years old sounds old, but you still have a lot of life ahead of you and it’s never too late to change things for the better. Being stuck in the mindset that you’ll never spend time with any girls is only stopping you from doing so, and it might seem crazy to think but little changes everyday can lead to big changes over a longer period of time and before it you could be a whole different man from your previous self unable to spend time with girls.
@@KingDemonBaka Hey man, thanks for your reply. I don't know, how should you catch up the best and most important time in your life? With this deficits in this age, you don't have any chance and I'm not interested in woman who are in my age and had all of these for 15 years with hundreds of men. They stand completely different in life, want children and search for a provider. And what do "over a longer period time" means in numbers? There are missing many thousands of days and every day that goes by makes all worse. It's a vicious circle. Women feel all the deficits.
@@danieldingi2577 move to South East Asia bro.
How do I get to the description
Hey Hamza I have one question, how do you perform neck curls? Do you lie on the bench with the weights on your head, or do you kneel on the bench and put the weights on the back of your head?
Step 1: Dissapear (Give her some space, don't go around her too much.)
Step 2: Create a new identity (A.K.A, a better version of yourself like Adonis for instance)
Step 3: Make your intentions known (Don't play the mysterious type card too much otherwise the girl is gonna think you're just a creep)
Step 4: Forget her and move on (If you want to be more than just a friend for her, just focus on yourself and move on)
Enjoy
Thanks for the summary
You are the nigga who used to comment on foreverworld's channel?😂
Thank u ,saved me too much time
Step 3 is a a big one let her know by flirting/eye contact/smiling
Good summary my guy I’ve really been inspired to make motivational just like Hamz it feels good knowing I’m helping other people
I learned focusing on your mission brings women to you, ever since I started focusing more on my mission to make self improvement based music, people not just women in my life are more respectful because I’m driven
This. Since I've been more focused on my self improvement, my career and personal projects, I get more respect and attention from overall people.
Thank you, that song has become an anthem of my life. Glad people like it
Kudos to you my brother that’s right I’m more focused on improving myself and my YT platform and people have definitely been trying to grab my attention
The thing is you start liking your career and girls doesn't matter that much on that point
Guys I've officially left the friendzone... Now we're not even friends
Good, good.
Good on you tbh. Don't let some b use you.
man.. I just love the honesty of Hamza, he literally explains his whole life, his mistakes.. mad respect!
I’d rather take a rejection upfront than be strung along, I don’t have the time. I think the best thing to do is to withhold your time and attention for women who are being flirty and romantic with you. If she’s not doing that, no attention for her. If she doesn’t care, you just move on.
Facts it’s definitely time-consuming and I don’t have time for that I’ve got a channel to grow! 💯👍🏾🔥
If a girl wont take you in your worst they dont deserve ur best. Stay up kings.
But bro shes is so beautiful
@@Shibatsukiyomi3 doesn’t matter there is always better 🤷♂️ don’t be a munch
If you look at that statement from outside in, it's simply not true or helpful.
I wish I could hear this much earlier
At January 2021 I met aome girl, she was amazing, we connected on the first meeting. I remember how we used to cuddle together, watch stuff together. I was so happy with her. One time, we we're goofing around in bed and she kissed me in the forehead, and then instantly apologized. I was confused for weeks, because she never wanted to talk about it and I already was into her after that.
Months later, still confused, I was friend-zoned. And yeah, I didn't leave, I stayed as her "friend" entire summer.
At October I noticed she met someone. I was really envious at that time, like never before. I experienced so much anger and envy in my life that I questioned if it is really me. I couldn't believe I would ever in my life get so hostile towards someone else.
After being kind of friend-zoned second time when she said she got into relationship with that dude, but "she won't leave me because I am her best friend". I was so broken thst I planned my suicide by jumping off a high building. The only thing keeping me alive was going to gym (it was my 3rd month of going regularly to the gym).
At February 2022 I was on her birthday, well her boyfriend was there too of course. The only thing I remember was the album that dude gave to her with lovely photos with them. By that time when I was looking at these photos I was drinking vodka in high amounts, I got drunk, had a breakdown and got home.
In March I was highly devastated by envy, constant anger and guilt for everything I've done wrong to the point that I cut contact with her. I was trying to see if she cares about me at any rate by that time. I didn't write anything to her - she never said anything to me since that.
After being completely heartbroken I found the video made by Hamza and got into self-improvement. If I never found this channel, I think I would be dead by now.
Thank you Hamza, you saved my life.
I’m so glad you are here, man. You get to see how far you can go, how much you can achieve.
not your loss bro, trust me
How's it now good brother?
@@Windperfire To be honest - yes. I haven't felt so good in a long time. I am actively changing my diet, sleep routine and working out hard. My gym results are getting better and better. I am also more used to being alone.
I don't care about girls now, I am focused on different aspects of my life.
Usually if I get friendzoned, I simply say: "Sorry, I have genuine feelings for you and my intention is to date you. I have no interest in being platonic friend."
What dudes say about that, the whole 'she'll chase you' thing is a bunch of horsehsit and that's not why you should do it. It's just about having selfrespect and choosing your mental health over a pity friendship
Being direct of your feelings and intentions is basically the key to not stay in the friendzone.
I'm happy to have found this channel
I admit here, I am that Guy who sends paragraphs☠️
Currently i am on Step 3 , Tomorrow is the Time i will ask her out to Be in a Relationship , If it Worked then Very Well but if it doesn't.
I Promise i will Completely forget her and Move on.
Wish me luck
Thanks Hamza For the advice
I disappeared and she texted me 3 months later😂
Getting friend zone is not that sad its sader when she likes you back but you didnt realize and you realize it late
happened to me twice in the 9th grade
This was the case for me... *Sigh* I blew it.
@@zlion8620 Same man, same
Fr 😂
Feel ya
after this girl friend zoned me i started going to the gym and moved on and basically focused on my self and now i've gotten so much more girls
Yessir
Recently, I gained some look-based compliments from women, like "You are in a better shape than XX months ago." From a random woman I just saw a few times when doing running cardio or "Your Face is so clean. What kind of skincare did you use?" from classmate. It's a good sign that I'm on the right path but that doesn't effectively mean I'm within my goal yet.
Well done brother
You can actually get out of the 'friend zone' in one easy step: leave her alone & find someone who's actually interested in you.
So you guys just wanna be in a relationship with girls?
That sounds thirsty asf
Happened to me with a girl who was originally into me. She friendzoned me when I didn't make a move but then a few weeks later she ran into me and my CUTE date.
She started messaging and even calling me at night. All of a sudden she's asking me about the girl I was with etc
I legit lost interest though at that point
I did the whole venting thing to my Girlfriend and then she broke up with me, but then I used your strategies and I managed to get her back!
bro. careful with this
careful
@@rosenvladev9654 wym?
@@winstonooi4603 wym?
A lot of women and a few simpy dudes will disagree with this but I had a girl try that "can't we just be friends ?" shit on me once. It took me a nanosecond to realize her game and told her "Nah, I'm good. Out of respect for my future lady, I don't keep women as friends" and walked away. She's either looking to keep you as an option or an emotional tampon.
Tbh if you have been friendzoned its not worth the effort of getting out because you'll probably end back in it
Only way out of the friend zone, just move on to the next one. Live an awesome life. Hook up with other girls. You'll realize you don't need that girl. Small chance she'll change her mind when you aren't giving her attention and validation.
I totally agree with Step 1, but it isn't going to be two weeks. I disappeared from a girl who friend zoned me for almost two months now and still haven't heard from her. I've moved on though and if she really wants you in her life she will reach out.
Dont improve yourself for any female. Improve yourself for yourself
If you have Discipline, Patience and consistency, success is inevitable and foreseeable In anything you seek 🔱
shush
@@legeb80 shush
To whom shall I give the credit for the quote?
@@legeb80 sheeeeeeeesh
@@legeb80 Dude, have some class.
I was hesitant to watch this video because I was scared of the hard reality of what's happening between me and this girl right now. But no, instead, I watched it and finished the video feeling relaxed and ready to change myself for the better. Everything you said in this video is spot on. Thanks
Update? Did you get the girl?
I wish I had had this video a few years ago when I was down bad after being friend zoned. You’re doing God’s work here Hamza
Listening to your story I just felt how true the phrase "love is war" is.
step 1) stop a moving train to save a girl you have interest in.
edit:she got my life insurance and got w my brother.
Wish this video came out months ago. I was going through almost the exact same thing Hamza was going through but I'm also glad through his other videos, I have indirectly been following these steps. And yes, I'm very glad about the emphasis on the final step. It sucks cus you may truly care about this girl but at the end of the day, if she doesn't actually value the attention you give her, (in a good way, not like simpy attention), it's her loss. To my other dudes going/who went through something similar, y,all got this. 💪
Just got friendzoned,the pain went away in an hour 😂
W
It’s rare for a girl to like you once you are FZ. Move on. There are thousands of girls to pick from. Even if she comes back to you. Don’t go for her. She didn’t like you for who you were.
You have one way to handle the friend zone
Accept it and move on to the next girl, it’s a numbers game so don’t waste your time on the girl that friend zoned you
I got out of the friendzone. It was step 4 (just had to leave for good).
Sometimes you need to take a step back and some time away to realise what an utter POS someone truly is.
Right now you guys are just too caught up in the fantasy.
After 2 months she tried to message me and pull me back into the friendzone. but I continued on ghosting her.
She's going nowhere anyway.
The first tip worked so well. I ghosted her for two days and she got texted me. Exept this time i ignored it because she was disrespectful towards me
As a man you shouldn’t have ANY women who disrespects you. If she doesn’t respect you maybe as a joke then it seems like shes just toying with you and doesn’t mind getting on your bad side.
Had a girl I was friends with at uni try to call me out for a random bike ride in the city once when I had so much shit to do. I remember getting straight to the point and asking her if it was meant to be a date or not. She got so confused and angry she stopped speaking to me completely. But it felt sooo good to finally not be strung along by some bimbo who’s never been told no in her life. Funnily enough she called me back a few months later. 😂
This red pill shit is real guys. Value yourself, turn your life around and women will flock to be part of your much improved lifestyle.
If a girl "friend zone", it's better to say: I respect your feelings, but I need to move on. I wish you all the best. Give me a call if you change your mind. But also don't count on her return. Just keep doing your own thing for YOU. She'll respect a guy more if he respects his own wishes and desires. 95% of guys would be her friend in hopes that she'll change her mind, don't be that ninety-five-percenter. I did this to a girl: 2 months later she called me. But then I was no longer interested in her.
Do u guys being honest?
U guys believe a guy and a girl can be real friends without any weird intention behind?
I think NO
We are best friends with a girl who is in a relationship
So theres a little story that i experienced that i found great
Once I started talking to a girl at school and one day out of nowhere she went to talk to another boy, that crushed my soul. So I started to get into self-improvement so i went away from school for a while to focus on other things (not self-improvement) but i came back different, so guess what, the same girl started hitting on me, i accepted but moderately without romanticizing or wanting anything serious, so I started hugging her (asking for permission and she always let me).
I sent her a distance kiss in the air one day, this girl loved it, them one day the same guy was waiting for her, when she arrived i didnt lost any time, i took her under her arm and walked away, I held her hand and walked some more.
Shortly afterwards the boy came up to me saying he was her boyfriend, like she never said anything to me about any boyfriend, after that she tried to come with this friendzone bullshit so I replied "It wasn't what you implied, but it's your decision"
And blocked her, she was probably some unfhaitful bitch who will replace her in the first opportunity.
And the best part is that i dont give a fuck, because its not my problem.
Im glad that i didn't get attached before anything.
0:13 Jessica' s shoulders looking like More Plates More Dates
Thanks hombre for helping thousands of lost souls
The easy way is never allow it from the start. From the beginning tell her I will only see her if we have a romantic relationship. If she brings up friendship, tell her we are either romantic or we will never see each other. If she rejects me at least I know it was never going anywhere and I saved myself time that could be spent with a woman who will be romantic. Men and women should never be just friends because she benefits and he doesn’t. I am not interested in listening to her problems unless I know sex is involved.
I remember when I really liked my ex and she left me, I was devastated for a long time. These days now I find it hard to ever think of going back to her, I realized relationships were a preferred indifference. I'm happy working on myself, looking into philosophy, and working hard on my academics. I can see things similar to this video in my life, and at this point when I think about my ex I realize I'm happy she left me, because it changed me to become a new person.
One step closer to Adonis
I strongly resonate w u, glad you find a way to become a better person. My ex dumped me in 2019 and I wished to go back to her until I tried to contact her and she blocked me, 2 years of suffering ended up in 2 seconds, now I feel really grateful she crushed my heart bc I became someone stronger and better. Cheers! Keep focusing on the work!
Can we get some other self-improvement videos besides girls maybe? The concept is getting repetitive on this channel
ive watched so much hamza
i start hearing his voice in class its crazy
Damn Hamza got ice spice obsessing over him
@@youssafsu2307 lol
Me too :D
If You are friends with a girl and she is asking for your help with something, for example, to change the bulb in the car then you have to ask for help from her, to clean the house or something 😅
i usually work on myself im patient i know life will send me the right woman
Fax
One of the best things I ever realized when I was friendzoned that helped me move on? I realized the kind of man she wanted to date was not the kind of man I wanted to be. I realized I would much rather be in the friend zone with her than be in a relationship, because being in a relationship would require me to compromise my values and individuality.
Me: Starts watching Hamza.
Then something just snapped, something inside of me.
Cringe af
@@nirash8018 Very cool but idc
It's quite crazy that this is what caused me to stumble upon you're videos a couple days ago. Now to see you post something about this it feels like you're directly talking to me. Seriously man, thank you. I'm excited to be a better person, and actually be a man. I love your content, keep up the hard work brother, Godspeed!
its actually pretty funny that this video came out the minuite i got basically friendzoned