@@Zara7EDITZ i left it but became friends with them again when they changed into a better person. if its an online friend, its easy bc you just ghost them but if its an irl friendship then you should either confront them directly or just slowly start avoiding them more and more until you drift apart if you find confronting them difficult
Please know that people like this are mostly projecting their own insecurities. If you can, seek support from a professional or trusted family member/friend.
@@maisiekefali8127it’s better to have no friends , than to have “friends” that treat you like crap. Don’t worry I have like no friends but I’ve been way better
“You will never find a hater doing better than you.” - Something my dad heard on a podcast and keeps repeating, I wish I could remember the name though.
They call me a cry baby “why do you always cry” when there the ones that are doing it I haven’t done anything wrong to them I’ve been in the friendship group before all of them they make fun of me and my insecurities and don’t let me have other friends they run away from me and tell me to go away so today I did the right thing I left there group and found other really nice friends :)
number 4 and 5. I think its important to also realize some are more covert. like being invalidating about your feelings, pushing you to talk about something you don't want to (more subtle than drinking more, etc), try to manipulate you out of something because they want it. and when you bring up any of the said issues they may say they care but in person they show that they are actually excluding you and being secretive about it - all because you expressed your concerns
Hi there! Great point. This might include passive-aggressive behavior that is not always recognizable like some of the overt signs in this video. Consider reading an article we published on toxic friends for more context here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Same. I came back to my city after 6 years of being a uni student elsewhere and I had to start over aking firends and was in a rush and gave a second chance to a person I shouldnt. She keeps insulting, calling me, demand to go out in clubs which Im not into anymore etc.. I hope I can get ridd of her soon on a good note and make new friends. You are not alone in this there are many of us, please stay strong. Hapy new year!
@@LolasanimalsSame over here! She can make my life hell in like 2 steps and ill want to kill myself. I cant fix or get rid of her. People tell me to leave her but ik that its not that easy
Mine is: You need to let it go Need to let it go Ah to the nah to the no no no... Untouchable untouchable 😅 Because even if I tryna fix it she behaves like a child, blaming my other friend saying she's done something to my bestie 😭 (Daily drama mode on) Case 2: If I leave it, she again blames my friend saying sHe's sToLeN mY bEsTiE 🤧 Like.. Girl! I'm a human, not an object to steal 🤦♀ I'm. A. Human. Who was born to another human(my mom) and who's freakin 5 feet tall 😑
You’re welcome 😊. Thank you for sharing! Here's an article we published on when it's time to leave a friendship: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
I want to leave her because she is very mean and doesent let me do the things I enjoy, and she never gives me time alone. Thank you for helping me realize that ❤❤
Glad you found the video helpful! Consider reading an article we published on how to end a friendship here: www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-end-a-friendship/
When I was younger I had rlly bad acne, so I had bangs to cover it up. I one time I was on the playground swinging with my (supposed) best friend, and my bangs lifted up because of the wind. He looked at me and made a face at me. Even though I hardly have any acne anymore, he still calls me ‘acne bug’ I laugh when he calls me that, but deep down I think it crushes a part of my soul.
I just blocked one of my friends yesterday. I thought she was a great person but literally all of these things apply to her. Especially the second one, I'm so glad I ditched her for good
One time i tried standing up for myself then they called me dramatic and said i should kys and then blocked me everywhere and told the whole school about my secrets i truly did cry for 2 days straight
I've been reading and listening for 1 hours to understand, and now i really found it thank you for the examples, i get it more clearly finally i can get rid of toxic people with toxic and depressive behaviors. He is exactly teases me and says always something in his life wrong and accuses me why dont you write and gossips people. Thank you 🙏
My friend was so mean when we were not friends she teased me and embarrassed me and I remember I used to cry every time I get home. And now she hasn’t even gotten better
I used to be really close friends with two girls in grade 5 who we’ll Maya and Chelsea. We had this group chat named besties, and they left it one day and names it just the Lara(my name is Lara. They also excluded me from everything they did at school, and Maya, the ruder one of the 2, would make rude jokes about me when talking to Chelsea along the lines of, ‘oh well at least I’m not fat’ while looking me dead in the eye, and would find ways to sneakily physically abuse me. But if something happened and Chelsea was away from school, (she was frequently away) she would hang out with me like noting was wrong. She would also constantly call and text me and get angry when I didn’t answer, but when I called her without asking she would say it was so ride of me. Chelsea wasn’t as bad as Maya, and she kind of just stood and watched all this happened and occasionally pick on me as well. I eventually stopped being their friend over Summer break and just drifted away from them in year 6 and found better friends. The two people I became friends with used to be friends with Maya as well, and knew she was rude. Let’s call them Tracy and Sunny. One day, Tracy stopped being friends with me and Sunny and went back to being friends with Maya. Maya was still friends with Chelsea, but had made two new friends that we’ll call Abi and Mia. Mya, Chelsea, Abi and Mia all hated Tracy. On many occasions I saw Tracy crying and her new friends sitting with their backs to her. She wasn’t at our graduation, and I think they were the reason. I overheard Mia talking to one of her other friends and say that they all hated Tracy, and they didn’t want to be her friend. Luckily after grade 6 they all went to different schools. I hope that Tracy is now with better friends and that Maya, Abi Chelsea and Mia get what they deserve.
Hi there! Thank you for sharing your story. Maybe somebody reading this has been through something similar and can relate! Consider reading a few articles we published on toxic friends below: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/ www.choosingtherapy.com/abusive-friendship/ www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/ Hope this helps!
V (the ‘friend’) fits all of these categories. They always make me feel bad about myself, they always want my attention, they didn’t respect me, and made me the one who was bad, they always push me into doing stuff when i said i really don’t want to, ans they really disrespect my boundaries. It’s ridiculous how V acts. Even in my art class, my table group was going to have someone swap to a different seat and group and I volunteered immediately. Since i was (and am still) going through gender dysphoria and figuring out that i am trans, it helps that people call me by what i would like. V repeatedly kept calling me by my deadname and the pronouns that i hate. In a game on a sit we play where we get to pick our name, and i put my name as MyDeadNameIs*deadname*. They also said that they kept forgetting, and also they couldn’t believe in it because they are Christian. It doesn’t matter if you believe in it, it matters if you respect a person that believes in it and call them by the right things. V also chose to be a therian, and still hasn’t given me back the stuff i gave them because i was supportive. I really want to block them through out the summer, but my parents would get involved and it would be weird. Might i mention, me and V have been friends since 2nd year. I’m trying to let them go, but its hard, because we have hung out so much, and spent so many bonding moments together. Sorry for those who read this- im info dumping on a toxic friend.
I have gotten to the point where when my friends talk about me behind my back, I'm able to say "It's normal, I'm fine" The currently kicked me out of the friend group, and I'm struggling with finding new friends because of my trust issues ✌👍
Thank you for sharing! Here's an article we published on how to cope with trust issues that you might find helpful: www.choosingtherapy.com/trust-issues/
Thank you for helping me understand these 5 signs of toxic people and i had to cut off this female friend because she felt like my attention is supposed to be to her only. She's a Gen X and I'm a Millennial and her 2 sons are Millennials like me. Her 2 sons are glad that I cut off their mom out of my life. I could totally understand their point of view because I wouldn't want no Millennial dude hanging out with my mom who is a Baby Boomer too much.
To be honest number two for me is very realistic because I’m kinda that person but it’s not up to the point where I don’t want you to talk to anyone at all it’s more of a case where you are clearly loosing interest in me and I’m trying to get it back and when you don’t feel interested it gets frustrating to me. So before you judge the person make sure you think to make sure you aren’t hurting them cause they are going to act out.😢
Mine does not respect my boundaries whatsoever. She forces me to hug her. If I say no she yells at me. She always makes everything about her. For example, if I fall and sprain my ankle she would say, “I sprained my ankle too!”
That's tough to navigate in any relationship. Thanks for sharing! Here's an article we published on tips for setting boundaries: www.choosingtherapy.com/setting-boundaries/
One of the girls in my class who I thought was my friend suddenly due to a small argument stopped talking to me. I've been with her since the start of the semester, and now, due to a small inconvenience, she completely decides to abandon me! I tried to talk, but she only gave one word replies... she still ignores me and makes faces at me... she talks to our other friends, but ignores me and makes me feel really alone and bad, like this is all my own fault alone! I can't talk anymore with her too because I feel so confused and left out... she makes mean faces at me, making it very obvious for me and everyone that she dislikes me... and the thing is she is very social and has many friends to hang out with, whereas I am kinda lone wolf! She talks to other people in front of me and ignores me like we didn't talk, share seats, and hung out with each other the whole year! This makes me feel very sad, but now i know that she is doing all of that to make me feel uncomfortable and troubled, and there's no real reason for her to behave like that... so, right now, I'm trying to get over with it and focusing on my studies.
Definitely a solid choice when it comes to protecting your boundaries. Here's an article we published on how to end a friendship: www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-end-a-friendship/
My so called best fried was continuously telling me that how bad my life was …i need to do job…being only mom and housewife ia shit….i started doing job…got tattoo, went on vacation….i called her told her 3 big things happened…she ddint care abt tattoo or anything..she was like ohhh how did u get job….why r u doung job it sucks…u dnt need that..thats it …i can sense the sadness into the phone…it was wild...
My bsf of 4 years is always insulting me and trying to get me to do things I don't want to do! She always treats my friends like 💩. I don't know how to tell my parents tho.
Hi there! Thank you for sharing. Consider reading an article we published on when to consider leaving a friendship here: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
That perfectly describes my toxic friend who i let go of today because there was no hope on saving it because the only thing he would do is act childish and hard to reason with.
Thank you for sharing! It's tough to make a decision like that, but your feelings and boundaries are important in a friendship. Just in case you need to see some of the other signs of a toxic friend, here's an article we published: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Yes, leaving the friendship. Thanks for your comment! Consider reading an article we published on how to end a friendship here: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
I tease my friend 24/7, but I don’t insult, I also text a lot, but don’t demand all the attention lol, I do respect my friend and her boundaries, and try not to be mean but I can’t help teasing…idk if I’m toxic or not 😭
Hi there! Thanks for sharing. Usually toxic friends aren't asking if they're the toxic friend if that tells you anything. However, if you'd like to read about other signs that you may be a toxic friend, consider reading an article we published here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Ok this is going to be a long one. Btw i put down 3/5. So basically I have this best friend who doesn’t exactly have the best home life. She has been kinda mean and it just makes me a little uncomfortable being around her because she rubs gross stuff on me as a “joke” that I don’t think is funny. Even after i told her to stop and not to do that. Something that you need to know is that I’m allergic to gluten, and this one time she took a cookie and made me smell it, and took a big bite and said, “are you jealous?” And I ignored her, but she was not saying this in an lol way but in a mean way. Mind you, we have been good friends for 2 years now and I’ve shared some of my big secrets with her. And it’s not that I don’t want to be friends with her it’s just that I don’t like when she’s mean, (which has been more recently) but I don’t know. Please reply because I am seeking guidance of what to do. Thank you!
Hi there! Thank you for sharing. If there are things in the relationship that push your boundaries, it might be time to review them with your friend. Here are two article we published that you might find helpful: www.choosingtherapy.com/setting-boundaries/ www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
My friends r always insulting me and blaming me fot everything or when i tell them smth they dont trust me so they check with someone else even though i was right. They also keep all their secrets and say i cant keep any when i have kept EVERY SECRET! except one with this one girl who has always been so rude but i didnt mean to say it at all i didnt know anyone was around! it makes me so mad!
Thank you for sharing! Sorry to hear you're dealing with friends like that. Here's an article we published on possible signs it's time to end a friendship: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/ Hope this helps!
My friend always make ships with everyone even though instead of my place she must be there and she literally insulted me many a times and she makes fun of my pimples Thank you mam for helping me discover my toxic friend Coz she always used to say that i feel that you are me bestie although I never felt it Thank you once again mam.
My friend has cancelled our plans 3 times in a row and this third time she said it’s because she doesn’t want to come over and she has a family member she hasn’t seen in years coming to her house
Thank you for sharing! It's hard to say the actual reason behind your friend cancelling plans. Consider reading an article we published on toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Thanks for sharing! Consider reading an article we published on toxic friends to see if you might be the toxic friend here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
I know my friend isn’t trying to be toxic and she loves me but she is being toxic without knowing it. 1. She hits, shoves, pulls my hair all the time and says “it’s just what best friends do” 2. She insults me, teases me, makes fun of me ALL THE TIME and also says “you’re not true friends if you’re not mean” 3. She interrupts me and I can barely talk 4. If I say something (not trying to be rude I’m probably in a bad mood) she gets upset and makes me feel guilty 5. She makes a lot of things abt her and always has something to vent about while I have to carry all of it with me 6. Gets upset when I don’t want o hangout with her because being around her is draining and I get anxiety 7. I don’t feel happy in this friendship anymore Should I end the friendship?
Lowered positivity = draining friend. Thanks for sharing! Here are two article we published that you might find helpful: www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-end-a-friendship/ www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
My toxic friend: Ima call her Lexi. So I have LOTS of freckles that are natural. She called my freckles ugly. She also called by other friend flat & fat. Then once when I was crying over a boy (I never did it again bc her reaction was horrible) in a non pick me way (He dumped me for another girl) she tells me I should be happy for him that he got a new girlfriend and I’m being inconsiderate. WTH?! I’ve cried over her a lot of times. Whenever I say smth she talks to me and makes me feel stupid. Like when I got a new dog she said, “Like why are u so obsessed.” Again WTH?!
Lexi sounds like a toxic friend! Here are two articles we published that you might find helpful: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/ www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
I have this friend and when I told them really bad news they asked me for drawing ideas completely disregarding my news and then I said “yeah I cant go warm ups and stuff in my dance class because I get flashbacks and bad panic attacks “ and when she asked why I just said stuff then she went on to say I’m the weirdest person in the world because of it (this happened today) and a bunch of other stuff while I’m here literally putting my life in danger trying to get this girls family in jail💀💀 like excuse you Sorry for the long comment but I didn’t know if that was toxic or not🥲💀
Woah....sorry to hear about this "friend" of yours. At first it sounds like this friend might be uncomfortable with negative feelings but then the projecting came up with calling you weird. A better way to respond to a friend talking about panic attacks would sound more like this: "That must be scary, how can I support you next time?" One way to find out if this friend is toxic is letting them know how you feel when this happens. A supportive friend will work on changing a behavior that hurts you and a toxic friend will keep it up with no apology. We hope this helps!
A few of these things are right about my friend.. thanks for this. Now I’ve found out the better people to be around. (I’m just going to say “friend 1” and “friend 2” instead of their names) “Friend 1” has been ignoring me for half of yesterday, and apparently “friend 1” is only hanging around “friend 2” to make me happy, but I know now what’s going on. They had a huge fight yesterday, and I said maybe we shouldn’t be friends anymore, so too much drama didn’t happen, and that this trio thing just wasn’t working. Ever since, “friend 1” has ignored me, and I tried to text her, but she didn’t even read the text. As many people say, trios don’t work. 😔
Hi there, thanks for sharing! Many times, in trio friendships, triangulation can occur. It is a form of intentional or unintentional manipulation where people essentially rely on a “divide and conquer” strategy to address conflict, and it can occur in any type of relationship. Consider reading an article we published on triangulation here: www.choosingtherapy.com/triangulation/
Hi there! The first step is recognizing that you might be the toxic friend (you did that, so great job!). Change doesn't happen over night but making small changes can make a big impact. The end of this article: www.choosingtherapy.com/am-i-abusive/ does an excellent job going over ways to stop the toxic behavior. Hope this helps!
sometimes i feel like i cant act to my friend the way she does to me, if she says shut up i take it lightly, i think if i were to say shut up she would say you dont like me anymore? if she hangs up on me ill just call her again, if i hang up on her, she victimises herself and says 'im sorry, is that what you wanna hear, im sorry to validate someone like you your highness' or 'how about you just talk to your other friends, theyre better than me anyway, like, oh! *lists them out* sometimes when we play games, she says im really bad and stuff, and when i say 'oh im really bad at this game' she gets annoyed and tells me to stop complaining, she discriminates me for typing things wrong, and say that some of.my behaviours really annoy her, so i ask her what i could change, she doesnt reply, i try to make the friendship work, but it feels like she wants to tear it apart, yet she still calls me, when she says what do you want as response to hi, i ask her what going on, and i ask her ill mute myself on call so you wont hear me complain, is this what you want? she says is that want you want is very aggressive, sometimes shes really clingy but idk why she is suddenly not. her words really hurt me sometimesshe makes me feel like i cant do anything right. i really dont know what to do, i dont know how to end it if i need to. but im trying to fix it, it never seems to work because i feel like shes not helping. idk if im the toxic one or whether she is but either way idk what i should change, myself?? or the friendship?
Thanks for sharing! That's a tough call to make. Here are a few articles we published that might be helpful in navigating your decision: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/ www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-end-a-friendship/ www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/ Hope this helps!
Can you tell me if this is toxic; Touching me without permission (I already know this is but still) Making me feel insecure and then saying continuously that it’s a joke Competing with me and never feeling proud of my achievements. Always trying to get involved in what I do. Never lets me hangout with my other friends alone Always tries to get me to do things I’m not comfortable with like drinking underage, vaping and bullying others when they’ve done nothing (I’ve refused to participate in any of these but she keeps bugging me about it) I have a strong feeling they are but she threatens to share one of my biggest and most embarrassing secrets to the school. It’s something I’ve kept hidden for 15 years now and if I stop being friends with her she could ruin my time at school. She’s done something similar before but with another secret and I’m scared she’d do it again.
Thanks for sharing! It sounds like your bestie is an ex for a reason, Consider reading the article we published on toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
This girl think we’re “bffs” then she got my phone password and went through my phone all the time when we hang out, what she said was “it’s because we’re best friends” 😒😒😒
They call me ugly as a joke? They playfully hit me? They say I smell? They turn people away from me when they are mad at me?! They are ALWAYS mad at me for something stupid or something I didn’t do.. please tell me in comments what to do.
I don’t know what to think…my best friend since the 5th grade has always been there for me and I love her but ever since I got a boyfriend she’s Ben making me feel weird like once I tried to sit next to him and she got mad all because I didn’t sit next to her at lunch for one day! She also calls my boyfriend rude and that he says mean stuff to her but she’s always the one that starts it and one time she flat out ignored ME because she was mad at my boyfriend to the point where I started crying and she apologized and said that’s how she resets by not talking but it’s mentally draining and I hate it
Hi there! Thank you for sharing. There could be some jealousy going on here with a lack of communicating it to you in a healthy way. However, it's hard to say! Consider reading an article we published on toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Please answer this. So i have those 2 friends that I’m “really” close with. They didn’t know each other so i was kinda the reason why they became friends. So basically i felt left out because instead of them texting me they started ignoring me, hanging out without me, like i didn’t exist. What do i do, i feel like I’m their victim, because when i told them how i feel, they got mad, so i was the one apologizing. I know both of them for like 5 years 😬 😅
#6 They do or say something knowingly to annoy you. I knew this woman a long time ago who would say "We have to go now," when I was in line to buy something and would do the impatient dance. Also, this person made derogatory comments about Spanish people.
Hi there! Thanks for sharing with us. Here's an article we published that might be helpful as you navigate the end of a friendship: www.choosingtherapy.com/losing-a-friend/
I feel so numb and don’t know what to say because the other day me and my 3 friends were talking and I really don’t know how but next thing I know one of them is kicking me in the stomach( not hard but not soft either) and one of my friends said “ look she’s fat” and I’m really insecure about that and I was so surprised because the friend who said that have been through everything together and I just feel so numb and sad and don’t know what to do
Thanks for sharing! It sounds like you have a toxic friend. Here's the full article to read more about the signs of a toxic friend here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
WARNING:HELP, I need help now, I have a toxic “BeStIe” who I can’t get rid of and it’s spreading to my other friends, your the only person I can think to coming to, please give me advice soon, I don’t have much time, also, they feed off secrets,never happy for me,ect, I’m in fourth grade, I am 9, she pretends to cry and tells the teacher on me, i just tell her I don’t wanna be friends, I need insane help,
Hi there! Consider talking to a trusted adult in your life to help you navigate this situation. You can read more about toxic friendships in an article we published here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
My friend calls me dumb, stupid, etc but in a playful way. At first I laughed it off but it got to a point where she calls me that every 5~10min. And I realized that she teases and insults the rest of our friend group eventhough they clearly don't like it. Is she doing that because she actually thinks I'm dumb or is she just insecure?
Thanks for sharing! It's hard to say, however, a good way to understand if a friend is toxic or not is to set a boundary. If they respect the boundary then the behavior was probably not malicious. If they do not respect the boundary, it's possible you're dealing with a toxic friend. Below, we've included two article that you might find helpful! www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/ www.choosingtherapy.com/setting-boundaries/
My friend called me clingy maybe I am... but, it just hurts to see them being more happy without me. I talk to them too much because im just too scared of losing them. Maybe they're right I should stop.
Hi there! Thanks for sharing. Here are a few articles we published that you might find helpful in your situation: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/ www.choosingtherapy.com/setting-boundaries/ www.choosingtherapy.com/anxious-attachment/ (goes into feeling clingy) Hope this helps!
Thanks for sharing! Roasting your friend is totally okay if you're both okay with it and it's the norm in your friendship. You can read more about signs of toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Plzz listen me i have 3 friends one is my relative and they are very toxic they just crossed my boundary they have no feelings that what i have been suffering they always tease me I could never say anything to them I can't fight myself always I shut my mouth I don't know how to deal with them they are like leech animal sucking my blood 😢
That’s tough, thanks for sharing 😌….here are some articles we wrote that you might find helpful while navigating a very toxic friendship: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/ www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-end-a-friendship/ www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/ Hope this helps ❤️
How should I leave it I’ve tried so hard to just ghost her but she lives less than thirty seconds away from me and she comes over every day and she fits everything in this video
this helped me discover my friendship was toxic, thanks
Glad you found it helpful! ❤
Same
Did you leave the friendship because I am in a toxic friendship but idk how to get away from it !!!
@@Zara7EDITZ i left it but became friends with them again when they changed into a better person. if its an online friend, its easy bc you just ghost them but if its an irl friendship then you should either confront them directly or just slowly start avoiding them more and more until you drift apart if you find confronting them difficult
Same
They make me cry in the school bathrooms
Please know that people like this are mostly projecting their own insecurities. If you can, seek support from a professional or trusted family member/friend.
Mee tooo🥲🥲🥲🥲
@@maisiekefali8127it’s better to have no friends , than to have “friends” that treat you like crap. Don’t worry I have like no friends but I’ve been way better
Bro they just projecting their insecurities, youre the top G, way superior.
“You will never find a hater doing better than you.” - Something my dad heard on a podcast and keeps repeating, I wish I could remember the name though.
They call me a cry baby “why do you always cry” when there the ones that are doing it I haven’t done anything wrong to them I’ve been in the friendship group before all of them they make fun of me and my insecurities and don’t let me have other friends they run away from me and tell me to go away so today I did the right thing I left there group and found other really nice friends :)
Thank you for sharing! So glad you found other really nice friends instead, you deserve it ❤️❤️
@@choosingtherapy thank you ❤️
Terrifying how accurate this is... low key want to send this to the toxic friend... i bet she would act clueless... thank you for this!❤
You are so welcome! Consider reading the full article here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
number 4 and 5. I think its important to also realize some are more covert. like being invalidating about your feelings, pushing you to talk about something you don't want to (more subtle than drinking more, etc), try to manipulate you out of something because they want it. and when you bring up any of the said issues they may say they care but in person they show that they are actually excluding you and being secretive about it - all because you expressed your concerns
Hi there! Great point. This might include passive-aggressive behavior that is not always recognizable like some of the overt signs in this video.
Consider reading an article we published on toxic friends for more context here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
I was crying because my relationships are so toxic and unhealthy and they made me feel like shit.
Same. I came back to my city after 6 years of being a uni student elsewhere and I had to start over aking firends and was in a rush and gave a second chance to a person I shouldnt. She keeps insulting, calling me, demand to go out in clubs which Im not into anymore etc.. I hope I can get ridd of her soon on a good note and make new friends. You are not alone in this there are many of us, please stay strong. Hapy new year!
This sounds exactly like my best friend. Thank you
Thank you for sharing ❤️
Same but don’t know how to say she will never talk to me again I don’t know what to do 😢
@@LolasanimalsSame over here! She can make my life hell in like 2 steps and ill want to kill myself. I cant fix or get rid of her. People tell me to leave her but ik that its not that easy
@@LolasanimalsSAME 😢
Can’t have a toxic friend when I don’t have any 😎
True
Mine is:
You need to let it go
Need to let it go
Ah to the nah to the no no no...
Untouchable untouchable 😅
Because even if I tryna fix it she behaves like a child, blaming my other friend saying she's done something to my bestie 😭 (Daily drama mode on)
Case 2: If I leave it, she again blames my friend saying sHe's sToLeN mY bEsTiE 🤧
Like.. Girl! I'm a human, not an object to steal 🤦♀
I'm. A. Human. Who was born to another human(my mom) and who's freakin 5 feet tall 😑
Same gurlll
Thank you so much I just left from a friend ship and my other friends were telling me I was in the wrong but this is literally them so just left
You’re welcome 😊. Thank you for sharing!
Here's an article we published on when it's time to leave a friendship: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
I want to leave her because she is very mean and doesent let me do the things I enjoy, and she never gives me time alone. Thank you for helping me realize that ❤❤
Glad you found the video helpful! Consider reading an article we published on how to end a friendship here: www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-end-a-friendship/
I can relate to your commemt. How did it go?
When I was younger I had rlly bad acne, so I had bangs to cover it up. I one time I was on the playground swinging with my (supposed) best friend, and my bangs lifted up because of the wind. He looked at me and made a face at me. Even though I hardly have any acne anymore, he still calls me ‘acne bug’ I laugh when he calls me that, but deep down I think it crushes a part of my soul.
Left my toxic friend of 2years.. currently living my best life! I used to think of myself as worthless. after I ended this, my self esteem went up.
Amazing! Thank you for sharing.
I just blocked one of my friends yesterday. I thought she was a great person but literally all of these things apply to her. Especially the second one, I'm so glad I ditched her for good
They manipulated me into thinking I was doing something wrong when I was just talking about something with my other friend when I was younger
One time i tried standing up for myself then they called me dramatic and said i should kys and then blocked me everywhere and told the whole school about my secrets i truly did cry for 2 days straight
I have been away from all of my freinds for two months. And trust me. Its the best.
I've been reading and listening for 1 hours to understand, and now i really found it thank you for the examples, i get it more clearly finally i can get rid of toxic people with toxic and depressive behaviors.
He is exactly teases me and says always something in his life wrong and accuses me why dont you write and gossips people. Thank you 🙏
My friend was so mean when we were not friends she teased me and embarrassed me and I remember I used to cry every time I get home. And now she hasn’t even gotten better
Thanks for helping me see that my friend is toxic😢
You’re welcome. 🥹
I used to be really close friends with two girls in grade 5 who we’ll Maya and Chelsea. We had this group chat named besties, and they left it one day and names it just the Lara(my name is Lara. They also excluded me from everything they did at school, and Maya, the ruder one of the 2, would make rude jokes about me when talking to Chelsea along the lines of, ‘oh well at least I’m not fat’ while looking me dead in the eye, and would find ways to sneakily physically abuse me. But if something happened and Chelsea was away from school, (she was frequently away) she would hang out with me like noting was wrong. She would also constantly call and text me and get angry when I didn’t answer, but when I called her without asking she would say it was so ride of me. Chelsea wasn’t as bad as Maya, and she kind of just stood and watched all this happened and occasionally pick on me as well. I eventually stopped being their friend over Summer break and just drifted away from them in year 6 and found better friends. The two people I became friends with used to be friends with Maya as well, and knew she was rude. Let’s call them Tracy and Sunny. One day, Tracy stopped being friends with me and Sunny and went back to being friends with Maya. Maya was still friends with Chelsea, but had made two new friends that we’ll call Abi and Mia. Mya, Chelsea, Abi and Mia all hated Tracy. On many occasions I saw Tracy crying and her new friends sitting with their backs to her. She wasn’t at our graduation, and I think they were the reason. I overheard Mia talking to one of her other friends and say that they all hated Tracy, and they didn’t want to be her friend. Luckily after grade 6 they all went to different schools. I hope that Tracy is now with better friends and that Maya, Abi Chelsea and Mia get what they deserve.
Hi there! Thank you for sharing your story. Maybe somebody reading this has been through something similar and can relate! Consider reading a few articles we published on toxic friends below:
www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
www.choosingtherapy.com/abusive-friendship/
www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Hope this helps!
Most of these are going on in my friendship
This just confirmed my friends were toxic. Id already left dont need that
V (the ‘friend’) fits all of these categories. They always make me feel bad about myself, they always want my attention, they didn’t respect me, and made me the one who was bad, they always push me into doing stuff when i said i really don’t want to, ans they really disrespect my boundaries. It’s ridiculous how V acts. Even in my art class, my table group was going to have someone swap to a different seat and group and I volunteered immediately. Since i was (and am still) going through gender dysphoria and figuring out that i am trans, it helps that people call me by what i would like. V repeatedly kept calling me by my deadname and the pronouns that i hate. In a game on a sit we play where we get to pick our name, and i put my name as MyDeadNameIs*deadname*. They also said that they kept forgetting, and also they couldn’t believe in it because they are Christian. It doesn’t matter if you believe in it, it matters if you respect a person that believes in it and call them by the right things. V also chose to be a therian, and still hasn’t given me back the stuff i gave them because i was supportive. I really want to block them through out the summer, but my parents would get involved and it would be weird. Might i mention, me and V have been friends since 2nd year. I’m trying to let them go, but its hard, because we have hung out so much, and spent so many bonding moments together. Sorry for those who read this- im info dumping on a toxic friend.
Nailed it.❤❤
I have gotten to the point where when my friends talk about me behind my back, I'm able to say "It's normal, I'm fine"
The currently kicked me out of the friend group, and I'm struggling with finding new friends because of my trust issues ✌👍
Thank you for sharing! Here's an article we published on how to cope with trust issues that you might find helpful: www.choosingtherapy.com/trust-issues/
Thankyou.
It seem that I don't just have a toxic friend.
I have a toxic Mother & 2 toxic sisters!
YES FRRRRR SHE DID THAT AND MUCH MORE TO ME
Thank you for helping me understand these 5 signs of toxic people and i had to cut off this female friend because she felt like my attention is supposed to be to her only. She's a Gen X and I'm a Millennial and her 2 sons are Millennials like me. Her 2 sons are glad that I cut off their mom out of my life. I could totally understand their point of view because I wouldn't want no Millennial dude hanging out with my mom who is a Baby Boomer too much.
I'm pretty sure I have attachment issues but I do feel like she is the only person that understands me
To be honest number two for me is very realistic because I’m kinda that person but it’s not up to the point where I don’t want you to talk to anyone at all it’s more of a case where you are clearly loosing interest in me and I’m trying to get it back and when you don’t feel interested it gets frustrating to me.
So before you judge the person make sure you think to make sure you aren’t hurting them cause they are going to act out.😢
Thank you for sharing! Here's an article we published on toxic friends for further reading: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
I was right. My best friend is toxic
Leave it. You can't fix it because people can't be fixed
All fit her. I had to leave her cause she brought it on herself as an “April fools joke” on April 7th.
Thanks for sharing! Here's and article you might find helpful: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
Number 5 had me today
Mine does not respect my boundaries whatsoever. She forces me to hug her. If I say no she yells at me. She always makes everything about her. For example, if I fall and sprain my ankle she would say, “I sprained my ankle too!”
That's tough to navigate in any relationship. Thanks for sharing!
Here's an article we published on tips for setting boundaries: www.choosingtherapy.com/setting-boundaries/
One of the girls in my class who I thought was my friend suddenly due to a small argument stopped talking to me. I've been with her since the start of the semester, and now, due to a small inconvenience, she completely decides to abandon me! I tried to talk, but she only gave one word replies... she still ignores me and makes faces at me... she talks to our other friends, but ignores me and makes me feel really alone and bad, like this is all my own fault alone! I can't talk anymore with her too because I feel so confused and left out... she makes mean faces at me, making it very obvious for me and everyone that she dislikes me... and the thing is she is very social and has many friends to hang out with, whereas I am kinda lone wolf! She talks to other people in front of me and ignores me like we didn't talk, share seats, and hung out with each other the whole year! This makes me feel very sad, but now i know that she is doing all of that to make me feel uncomfortable and troubled, and there's no real reason for her to behave like that... so, right now, I'm trying to get over with it and focusing on my studies.
She sounds like a toxic friend. Here's an article we published you might find helpful in your situation: www.choosingtherapy.com/losing-a-friend/
Leave it 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
Definitely a solid choice when it comes to protecting your boundaries. Here's an article we published on how to end a friendship: www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-end-a-friendship/
Thank you so much now I can know who is my real friend or say Toxic friend, Thank you.
You're welcome!
I don’t want to be friends anymore with my best friend because I don’t feel good with her and makes me feel sometimes not enough….
My so called best fried was continuously telling me that how bad my life was …i need to do job…being only mom and housewife ia shit….i started doing job…got tattoo, went on vacation….i called her told her 3 big things happened…she ddint care abt tattoo or anything..she was like ohhh how did u get job….why r u doung job it sucks…u dnt need that..thats it …i can sense the sadness into the phone…it was wild...
My bsf of 4 years is always insulting me and trying to get me to do things I don't want to do! She always treats my friends like 💩. I don't know how to tell my parents tho.
Hi there! Thank you for sharing. Consider reading an article we published on when to consider leaving a friendship here: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
Uh.. you made me realize I was a toxic friend to my toxic friend...
Hi there! Thanks for sharing. You can read more about being a toxic friend to your toxic friend here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
That perfectly describes my toxic friend who i let go of today because there was no hope on saving it because the only thing he would do is act childish and hard to reason with.
Thank you for sharing! It's tough to make a decision like that, but your feelings and boundaries are important in a friendship.
Just in case you need to see some of the other signs of a toxic friend, here's an article we published: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
@choosingtherapy thank you too 😊
The way I can relate with ll 5 is scary. I think I need to ghost her then block her from all social etc..
Leave it? No. Leave them? Yes
Yes, leaving the friendship. Thanks for your comment!
Consider reading an article we published on how to end a friendship here: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
I relate to all of these signs..
While not necessarily toxic, but I'd avoid making friends with people that aren't very intelligent.
I tease my friend 24/7, but I don’t insult, I also text a lot, but don’t demand all the attention lol, I do respect my friend and her boundaries, and try not to be mean but I can’t help teasing…idk if I’m toxic or not 😭
Hi there! Thanks for sharing. Usually toxic friends aren't asking if they're the toxic friend if that tells you anything. However, if you'd like to read about other signs that you may be a toxic friend, consider reading an article we published here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Ok this is going to be a long one. Btw i put down 3/5. So basically I have this best friend who doesn’t exactly have the best home life. She has been kinda mean and it just makes me a little uncomfortable being around her because she rubs gross stuff on me as a “joke” that I don’t think is funny. Even after i told her to stop and not to do that. Something that you need to know is that I’m allergic to gluten, and this one time she took a cookie and made me smell it, and took a big bite and said, “are you jealous?” And I ignored her, but she was not saying this in an lol way but in a mean way. Mind you, we have been good friends for 2 years now and I’ve shared some of my big secrets with her. And it’s not that I don’t want to be friends with her it’s just that I don’t like when she’s mean, (which has been more recently) but I don’t know. Please reply because I am seeking guidance of what to do. Thank you!
Hi there! Thank you for sharing. If there are things in the relationship that push your boundaries, it might be time to review them with your friend.
Here are two article we published that you might find helpful:
www.choosingtherapy.com/setting-boundaries/
www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Thankyou for this amazing content, made me help feel lighter ❤❤
New sub❤❤
My friends r always insulting me and blaming me fot everything or when i tell them smth they dont trust me so they check with someone else even though i was right. They also keep all their secrets and say i cant keep any when i have kept EVERY SECRET! except one with this one girl who has always been so rude but i didnt mean to say it at all i didnt know anyone was around! it makes me so mad!
Thank you for sharing! Sorry to hear you're dealing with friends like that. Here's an article we published on possible signs it's time to end a friendship: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
Hope this helps!
girl this girl won’t stop spamming my phone all the time even tho i told her i don’t like calling her all the time
Sounds like a toxic friend. You can read more on that here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
My friend always make ships with everyone even though instead of my place she must be there and she literally insulted me many a times and she makes fun of my pimples
Thank you mam for helping me discover my toxic friend
Coz she always used to say that i feel that you are me bestie although I never felt it
Thank you once again mam.
You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing with us.
Consider reading an article we published on toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
My friend has cancelled our plans 3 times in a row and this third time she said it’s because she doesn’t want to come over and she has a family member she hasn’t seen in years coming to her house
Thank you for sharing! It's hard to say the actual reason behind your friend cancelling plans. Consider reading an article we published on toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
I somewhat feel like a toxic friend now geez-
Thanks for sharing! Consider reading an article we published on toxic friends to see if you might be the toxic friend here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Maybe I’m dramatic but once my friend was sarcastic to me and I actually thought she was serious and when I realized,it actually hurtee😢
You're not dramatic. Thanks for sharing! Here's an article we published that you might find helpful: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
I know my friend isn’t trying to be toxic and she loves me but she is being toxic without knowing it.
1. She hits, shoves, pulls my hair all the time and says “it’s just what best friends do”
2. She insults me, teases me, makes fun of me ALL THE TIME and also says “you’re not true friends if you’re not mean”
3. She interrupts me and I can barely talk
4. If I say something (not trying to be rude I’m probably in a bad mood) she gets upset and makes me feel guilty
5. She makes a lot of things abt her and always has something to vent about while I have to carry all of it with me
6. Gets upset when I don’t want o hangout with her because being around her is draining and I get anxiety
7. I don’t feel happy in this friendship anymore
Should I end the friendship?
Hi there! That's a difficult decision to make. Here's an article we published that might help: www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
They got mad at me for no reason and Lowered my Postitivy. And she blamed me for things I DIDNT do. Then Guilt Tripped me back into a friendshop
Lowered positivity = draining friend. Thanks for sharing! Here are two article we published that you might find helpful:
www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-end-a-friendship/
www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
My toxic friend:
Ima call her Lexi. So I have LOTS of freckles that are natural. She called my freckles ugly. She also called by other friend flat & fat. Then once when I was crying over a boy (I never did it again bc her reaction was horrible) in a non pick me way (He dumped me for another girl) she tells me I should be happy for him that he got a new girlfriend and I’m being inconsiderate. WTH?! I’ve cried over her a lot of times. Whenever I say smth she talks to me and makes me feel stupid. Like when I got a new dog she said, “Like why are u so obsessed.” Again WTH?!
Lexi sounds like a toxic friend! Here are two articles we published that you might find helpful:
www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
@@choosingtherapy tysmm
I love this, but how do we recognize what healthy is? Cause idk what it looks like
I cry every night cause of these 6-4 girls i cant get over it.
Yes sadly ……
Thank you! Your such an amazing person with this advice! Your so kind!
You’re welcome…and thank you ☺️
Is means a lot you doing this your taking time out of your day! For some people you barely know!
@@fokionegolfopoulos thanks for being here ❤️
@@choosingtherapy thank you for the advice
@@fokionegolfopoulos you’re welcome
I have this friend and when I told them really bad news they asked me for drawing ideas completely disregarding my news and then I said “yeah I cant go warm ups and stuff in my dance class because I get flashbacks and bad panic attacks “ and when she asked why I just said stuff then she went on to say I’m the weirdest person in the world because of it (this happened today) and a bunch of other stuff while I’m here literally putting my life in danger trying to get this girls family in jail💀💀 like excuse you
Sorry for the long comment but I didn’t know if that was toxic or not🥲💀
Woah....sorry to hear about this "friend" of yours. At first it sounds like this friend might be uncomfortable with negative feelings but then the projecting came up with calling you weird. A better way to respond to a friend talking about panic attacks would sound more like this: "That must be scary, how can I support you next time?"
One way to find out if this friend is toxic is letting them know how you feel when this happens. A supportive friend will work on changing a behavior that hurts you and a toxic friend will keep it up with no apology. We hope this helps!
@@choosingtherapy thanks! I have stopped contacting with them because they just was very toxic
You're welcome!
A few of these things are right about my friend.. thanks for this. Now I’ve found out the better people to be around. (I’m just going to say “friend 1” and “friend 2” instead of their names) “Friend 1” has been ignoring me for half of yesterday, and apparently “friend 1” is only hanging around “friend 2” to make me happy, but I know now what’s going on. They had a huge fight yesterday, and I said maybe we shouldn’t be friends anymore, so too much drama didn’t happen, and that this trio thing just wasn’t working. Ever since, “friend 1” has ignored me, and I tried to text her, but she didn’t even read the text. As many people say, trios don’t work. 😔
Hi there, thanks for sharing! Many times, in trio friendships, triangulation can occur. It is a form of intentional or unintentional manipulation where people essentially rely on a “divide and conquer” strategy to address conflict, and it can occur in any type of relationship.
Consider reading an article we published on triangulation here: www.choosingtherapy.com/triangulation/
They make me cry in my room on the floor just bc of these
You deserve better. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Sign 1 and 2 describes my friend … this video confirmed my thoughts
Thank you for sharing ❤️ sorry to hear that
My friend literally try to stuck her feet into the toilet stall when I am inside just to get my attention and she seriously has no respect for me
I think I am a toxic friend. How do I change myself?
Hi there! The first step is recognizing that you might be the toxic friend (you did that, so great job!). Change doesn't happen over night but making small changes can make a big impact. The end of this article: www.choosingtherapy.com/am-i-abusive/ does an excellent job going over ways to stop the toxic behavior. Hope this helps!
So, it's so true 👍
You can read more about toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/ =)
Yup they are all toxic
I'm toxic now I finally know
Thanks for your comment. You can read more about toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
sometimes i feel like i cant act to my friend the way she does to me, if she says shut up i take it lightly, i think if i were to say shut up she would say you dont like me anymore? if she hangs up on me ill just call her again, if i hang up on her, she victimises herself and says 'im sorry, is that what you wanna hear, im sorry to validate someone like you your highness' or 'how about you just talk to your other friends, theyre better than me anyway, like, oh! *lists them out* sometimes when we play games, she says im really bad and stuff, and when i say 'oh im really bad at this game' she gets annoyed and tells me to stop complaining, she discriminates me for typing things wrong, and say that some of.my behaviours really annoy her, so i ask her what i could change, she doesnt reply, i try to make the friendship work, but it feels like she wants to tear it apart, yet she still calls me, when she says what do you want as response to hi, i ask her what going on, and i ask her ill mute myself on call so you wont hear me complain, is this what you want? she says is that want you want is very aggressive, sometimes shes really clingy but idk why she is suddenly not. her words really hurt me sometimesshe makes me feel like i cant do anything right.
i really dont know what to do, i dont know how to end it if i need to. but im trying to fix it, it never seems to work because i feel like shes not helping. idk if im the toxic one or whether she is but either way idk what i should change, myself?? or the friendship?
Thanks for sharing! That's a tough call to make. Here are a few articles we published that might be helpful in navigating your decision:
www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-end-a-friendship/
www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Hope this helps!
Okay thanks ive been trying to figure it out but my friend matches them all to a tee. I proavly wint do anything though
Thank you so much ❤
You're welcome 😊 Here's the article we published to learn more about the signs of a toxic friend: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
@@choosingtherapy thank you I'll read it now
Can you tell me if this is toxic;
Touching me without permission (I already know this is but still)
Making me feel insecure and then saying continuously that it’s a joke
Competing with me and never feeling proud of my achievements.
Always trying to get involved in what I do.
Never lets me hangout with my other friends alone
Always tries to get me to do things I’m not comfortable with like drinking underage, vaping and bullying others when they’ve done nothing (I’ve refused to participate in any of these but she keeps bugging me about it)
I have a strong feeling they are but she threatens to share one of my biggest and most embarrassing secrets to the school. It’s something I’ve kept hidden for 15 years now and if I stop being friends with her she could ruin my time at school. She’s done something similar before but with another secret and I’m scared she’d do it again.
Ok but seriously this was exactly how my ex bestie is like fr
Thanks for sharing! It sounds like your bestie is an ex for a reason,
Consider reading the article we published on toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
This girl think we’re “bffs” then she got my phone password and went through my phone all the time when we hang out, what she said was “it’s because we’re best friends” 😒😒😒
Sounds like a toxic friend! You can read more about toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
They call me ugly as a joke?
They playfully hit me?
They say I smell?
They turn people away from me when they are mad at me?!
They are ALWAYS mad at me for something stupid or something I didn’t do..
please tell me in comments what to do.
Sorry about this bro
We’re okay now
4/5 yep that's why i'm mad at her
I don’t know what to think…my best friend since the 5th grade has always been there for me and I love her but ever since I got a boyfriend she’s Ben making me feel weird like once I tried to sit next to him and she got mad all because I didn’t sit next to her at lunch for one day! She also calls my boyfriend rude and that he says mean stuff to her but she’s always the one that starts it and one time she flat out ignored ME because she was mad at my boyfriend to the point where I started crying and she apologized and said that’s how she resets by not talking but it’s mentally draining and I hate it
Hi there! Thank you for sharing. There could be some jealousy going on here with a lack of communicating it to you in a healthy way. However, it's hard to say!
Consider reading an article we published on toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
my best friend has all of these traits and thinks she’s always right
Sorry to hear that. Thanks for sharing!
Please answer this. So i have those 2 friends that I’m “really” close with. They didn’t know each other so i was kinda the reason why they became friends. So basically i felt left out because instead of them texting me they started ignoring me, hanging out without me, like i didn’t exist. What do i do, i feel like I’m their victim, because when i told them how i feel, they got mad, so i was the one apologizing. I know both of them for like 5 years 😬 😅
Thanks for sharing about Toxic
You're welcome!
#6 They do or say something knowingly to annoy you. I knew this woman a long time ago who would say "We have to go now," when I was in line to buy something and would do the impatient dance. Also, this person made derogatory comments about Spanish people.
Well, i tried to fix it, but they're so controlling so yeah we're not friends anymore
Hi there! Thanks for sharing with us.
Here's an article we published that might be helpful as you navigate the end of a friendship: www.choosingtherapy.com/losing-a-friend/
I feel so numb and don’t know what to say because the other day me and my 3 friends were talking and I really don’t know how but next thing I know one of them is kicking me in the stomach( not hard but not soft either) and one of my friends said “ look she’s fat” and I’m really insecure about that and I was so surprised because the friend who said that have been through everything together and I just feel so numb and sad and don’t know what to do
Drama: so my “friend” js said “I used you for your money” then I walked home without saying anything
Thanks for sharing! It sounds like you have a toxic friend. Here's the full article to read more about the signs of a toxic friend here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
WARNING:HELP,
I need help now, I have a toxic “BeStIe” who I can’t get rid of and it’s spreading to my other friends, your the only person I can think to coming to, please give me advice soon, I don’t have much time, also, they feed off secrets,never happy for me,ect, I’m in fourth grade, I am 9, she pretends to cry and tells the teacher on me, i just tell her I don’t wanna be friends, I need insane help,
Hi there! Consider talking to a trusted adult in your life to help you navigate this situation.
You can read more about toxic friendships in an article we published here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
This helps me so much one of my friends did all of this to me😢
Sorry to hear that 🥹 glad you found this video helpful!
But I Always do have a problem or crisis 😀
Thanks for sharing! Consider reading an article we published with other signs toxic signs: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
My friend calls me dumb, stupid, etc but in a playful way. At first I laughed it off but it got to a point where she calls me that every 5~10min. And I realized that she teases and insults the rest of our friend group eventhough they clearly don't like it. Is she doing that because she actually thinks I'm dumb or is she just insecure?
Thanks for sharing! It's hard to say, however, a good way to understand if a friend is toxic or not is to set a boundary. If they respect the boundary then the behavior was probably not malicious. If they do not respect the boundary, it's possible you're dealing with a toxic friend. Below, we've included two article that you might find helpful!
www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
www.choosingtherapy.com/setting-boundaries/
My friend called me clingy maybe I am... but, it just hurts to see them being more happy without me. I talk to them too much because im just too scared of losing them. Maybe they're right I should stop.
Hi there! Thanks for sharing. Here are a few articles we published that you might find helpful in your situation:
www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
www.choosingtherapy.com/setting-boundaries/
www.choosingtherapy.com/anxious-attachment/ (goes into feeling clingy)
Hope this helps!
Well … I disagree with the first point , besties always roast each other , i wait for my bestie to roast me at times
Thanks for sharing! Roasting your friend is totally okay if you're both okay with it and it's the norm in your friendship. You can read more about signs of toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Wow this all describes my friend
Thanks for sharing! It can be hard to recognize sometimes.
Same
Thanks for sharing! Consider reading an article we published on toxic friends here: www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
Plzz listen me i have 3 friends one is my relative and they are very toxic they just crossed my boundary they have no feelings that what i have been suffering they always tease me I could never say anything to them I can't fight myself always I shut my mouth I don't know how to deal with them they are like leech animal sucking my blood 😢
That’s tough, thanks for sharing 😌….here are some articles we wrote that you might find helpful while navigating a very toxic friendship:
www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
www.choosingtherapy.com/how-to-end-a-friendship/
www.choosingtherapy.com/when-to-end-a-friendship/
Hope this helps ❤️
wow all my friends are toxic
How should I leave it I’ve tried so hard to just ghost her but she lives less than thirty seconds away from me and she comes over every day and she fits everything in this video