and thinking of all the good memories you made together, even now i still think about him and i miss our friendship so so much, but i had to let him go for my own well being (he didn’t pass away the way i worded it sounded like he did lol)
for all the people who are going through a really toxic friendship: get out of this fucking group or leave this person alone. once you realise how powerful and how important you are, you don’t need anyone. Find the happiness in yourself and not in other people.
I've had my share of toxic friends. It's annoying when they would disguise underhand comments as true compliments. Narcissist friends are the worst. I had a friend who talked about my weight and my choice to have a veggie burger and then screenshot our conversation and took it into a chat thread with people and talk bad about me and my body. A friend who is disrespectful to your boundaries but then would get mad when you tell them how they made you feel. In college, you learn a lot. this video was amazing you Sadie.
i went through something similar! it's so hard to understand why they behave that way because you know that you would NEVER do that to them so it's hard to understand why they would do it to you :(
Have you ever had a friend who only wants to know stuff about you and they do not open up on their end , They expect you to always be reaching out and when you tired and they also silent they keep texting you that your silence is too much for them ?.Its very draining
I'm a person who finds it hard to easily open up to others, I usually try to be friendly with them and as for me, them opening up encourages me to open up too, although it does take time. I'm js sharing u the pov of a person who's not easy at opening up
ive had my fair share of toxic friendship even in my university life and it’s been so hard because i didn’t think it would happen in my early 20s. But that’s good i found a group of very close friends. Thank you Sadie for this truthful video 🫶🏻💞
I have this friend that i am close with for like 6-7 years who like never motivated or supported me and always drained me by telling abt her everyday life ..even if i motivate her its never enough..Now that i know she was an energy drainer the whole time..I will actually start distancing myself..btw thank you so much ❣️❣️
I know this is really late, but this video made me realize it was not my friend who was toxic, it was me. I will now try to improve my friendship skills, and apologize to my friends. I would love to see a video of how to be a better friend. Thanks, Sadie! I will try to be better!
Sadie, your captivating videos never cease to impress! Your exceptional talent, delightful personality and entertaining content makes every moment an absolute joy. I adore you and your positive impact is undeniable. Keep shining and spreading the love 🥹💕
I related to so much about what you were talking about. When you talked about the friends who are always making fun of you but disguise it as humor I could think of so many times where that happened. I loved this video, thank you for sharing it!
so good! i have been realizing lately that it just isnt productive to try and force ppl to be who they are not, or to try and force a friendship to be what it cant. i even feel like i have been called out on a couple ways that i can be a better friend for others, and i feel super inspired to try and be a nicer and more positive person! thank you, sadie. you crushed it, as always
I have needed this video for yearsss and I am so happy you made this, your advice is so important to me and this video is going to help me so much iust like all of your other videos. I have gone through a lot wih friendships the past couple weeks so this video really did arrive at the right time 😂 Sadly, I can relate to all of this but this video just gave me confirmation that it's okay to let go of people who don't deserve me and vice-versa, so I love you so much and thank you for everything you do 🤍
omg THANK YOU for commenting this, this actually helps me so much bc i get a little scared to talk about these types of topics !! sending you lots of hugsss🩷
Sadie! I was really needing this video! Lately, my mind has been a mess, thinking what was wrong with me as I was not feeling completely part of my group of friends... This video helped me reflect on this, look at myself and people around me! Thank youu
You're so precious and so mature, its noticeable that you really put your energy into mastering your life and being the best version of yourself🥰 plus you give out advice with the best intentions, you're such a pure hearted soul, I love you, Sadie, you're doing great in life.💓💛❤
Hey Sadie thank you for letting us know the different types of toxic friendships and looking back now I think I also had a competitive friend in high school.
Absolutely LOVE this video Sadie! This is such an important topic! Not only is it essential to evaluate those in our close circles but to also assess ourselves and reflect on impact we're having on friends, partners, etc. Relationships of any kind are valuable and they can significantly impact our growth and overall wellbeing. This video is much needed. Thanks Sadie for being such an inspiration and role model to your viewers
OMG thank you! I sooo relate with what you were saying about your social battery and not being able to communicate digitally. I'm 19 and feel so weird because literally everyone I know seems to be constantly in touch with each other over snap. I just wayyy prefer spending good quality time together with ppl in person. I feel like you can gain way deeper, more valuable friendships this way but other ppl my age just don't seem to get it. Nice to know that I'm not the only one like this though so I'm grateful for you sharing that :) xxx
Preach girly, I feel like you have expressed everything I have been both experiencing and thinking about my own friends. It makes me sad.. each of my friends have a few of these characteristics… while I feel more akin to your personality type. You helped me gain some perspective and essentially confirm what I’ve been seeing and thinking… thank you.
Sadie tysm 4 making this video, I literally needed to hear this!! I'm 16 & I've been thru a friendship breakup lately that was painful & I made new friends but I still don't have a close one which causes me to feel lonely.. Anyways, keep going ur amazing & plz do more of these kinda videos, they're so helpful, lvysm 💕💕
you don't even know how much i love you! in this video i've realized that we are so similar and you made me feel less lonely. please make more videos like this or even a podcast you calm me down when you speak. ❣️
Sadie you could literally be my therapist. This video is so educational and important for everyone. Your definitely one of my role models and this video is like a big sister giving me advice (I’m about to go into high school) so this is going to be sooo helpful. Love you and have an amazing day! ❤
Thank you for this I find it so relatable! Most videos are so therapy-coded which are nice but as a young woman myself this is in my language! I made the mistake of befriending a real “pick-me”. We were besties at one point. I didn’t think anything of it because we would hype each other up all the time but it quickly changed when she married a guy i introduced her to, who used to crush on me (and all of my other friends, it’s not that special) in high school. She completely discarded me at one point for “not texting her for two weeks” and eventually blew up at me after I thought we fixed things. I didn’t know she thought so badly of me and it really did hurt. We made up eventually but the trust was never the same. The copying, secret competition, sly sneaky comments. She was always a “oh I’ll eat in front of guys unlike some girls” type of girl. I choose not to eat fast food and she will boast about how she does, like it makes her better or something 😅 I had a black jeep (that I had to get rid of), then years later she goes online and specifically picks out a black jeep, same year and very similar model. Don’t get me started with the petty posts online. I can see how she mentally struggles but I can’t be close to her anymore. We have drifted apart for the better.
Thank you for talking about this I went through this recently and realized that I thought I had a true friend but I didn’t. Love you Sadie ❤I have been more happy with our that friend and have made closer friendships
I absolutely loveee loveee this video. I feel like I needed this for such a long time to evaluate the people who are bad in my life. Thank you so much for always radiating positivity and making me feel better, I feel like I have been a pessimistic friend and I definitely wanna change that. love ya♥
Okay Sadie, you are the friend I need because we have the same mindset and a friend I always wanted to have. We are on the same side. Sometimes, I want a friend like me. I also identify the toxic friends I have and when i slowly get away from them it felt so good. I don’t care if I have a small circle all I care is the quality.
i’ve been waiting for this one! so exicted! i love you sadie like i know you might not be seeing this but your truly an inspiration to me probably even one of my idol. i love you and your videos so so much 💗
thank you very much, you talked about the toxic realationships in all respects, that impressing, I will try to experience your advise when you said that you have to ask them what you need or what they have to avoid in our relationship. Maybe she is a good friend, I will test her and see .. thank u a lot SADIE
thank you so much for posting this video, sadie! you are an absolutely AMAZING and uplifting person, and i hope that you don’t have anymore friendship drama 😅 i had A LOT of drama this year, so this helped me a lot. also, i think that a video about sibling relationships would be helpful for a lot of people. omggg you should start a podcasttt! 😂
I have a friend being brutally honest with me recently. She said her friends thinks I am too political. And it upsets me because I dont feel accepted for who I am and not being appreciated for my care for the world. I used to appreciate that this friend can be brutally honest, but I been finding it hard to embrace her for being brutally honest. :'(
OMG.......I LOVE YOU GIRL!!!!!!!! I'VE NEVER SEEN YOUR VIDEOS BEFORE BUT TODAY I WATCH THIS AND I'M ALREADY LIKE AMAZED BY HOW AMAZING YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND HEARING THIS VIDEO HELPED ME SO MUCH AND WANNA LET U KNOW UR LIKE AMAZINGGGGGGG AND MADE ME FEEL A LOT BETTER!! LOVE YOU SO MCUH
Sadie this video was so well said, well put together, and very nicely edited! I love this, you are so well spoken and thank you so much for saying stuff that other people don’t typically talk about on the internet. You only spoke facts fr :) You are so awesome and I appreciate you so much 💖💖💖
This literally came out at the perfect time cause I've been going through friendship breakup too and it's been quite difficult not having close friends to discuss yourself to and with. Even though I'm not a social person much i do need certain people to be with but now that I've broken up with them it's been some difficult months after April. This vedio really helped me with that. Thank you so much sadie . I know it sucks that we are relating on such a topic but i hope for best to you and for everyone of us. Lots of love from India . 💕
Sadie, thank you so much for this video! I am going to High School next year, and this is going to be sooo helpful when finding new friends! Also you look so beautiful! ❤❤❤
I love videos like this you should totally start a podcast! Id be totally into that. And would u believe i found this video right after the first portion of this video literally happened to me (making jokes about you can calling sensitive) but thanks sadie ❤️
Hi Sadie! I’m just like you, I don’t like texting relationships, I prefer going out and spending time with friends. I didn’t grow up with an iPhone so that’s why
omg!!! i literally remember sending you a dm on instagram a few years ago, because i was so lost and sad due to a « toxic friendship ». you probably never saw it, but seeing this video is like a full circle moment 🫶🏻 i just know it’s going to help me so much. also; a toxic friendship is sometimes not anyone’s fault. it can just be an unhealthy friendship! and it’s okay. it just hurts realizing it. that’s exactly what i went through, and looking back at it, it was definitely like this! anyway, love you sadie! it really helps seeing you talk about this subject. i know how scary it probably is for you to post this since it’s quite controversial, but thank you so much. i’m very grateful for it. ⭐️💖🫧
I have a lot to say about this video! First, I was the pessimistic friend like 8 years ago. I suffered major depression and severe anxiety, trastornos alimenticios, I wanted and tried to 💀 myself, abuse (verbally, physically, seggsually and mentally) from my family and not family members too. I didn't have patents that cared for me (they would abuse me a lot), I was leaving in a poor and dangerous situation since I was born. I was full of hatred, scared, traumatized and insecure + I didn't have God either. I took my friends like my therapists, like a family. But in 12th grade they stopped being with me. At the time I felt to bad 'cause I thought they didn't care about me but actually they did. The only is that I was draining them! My thoughts during that time was "I would never do this them!" but of course, I didn't care about myself so I would have stayed with a pessimistic friend my whole life. After I got adopted 3 years ago by a new family and started to know God, I've changed COMPLETELY. I graduated from 2 careers, I'm depression free and God is helping me to control my anxiety. I see my past traumas like experiences now and OMG I feel sooo great! But hey, I had to lose everything first. That's how God works. I AM the incompatible friend. Now, this is something really important to talk about and I'm sooo glad that Sadie put this out (the only thing is that I don't know why is in a toxic friendship video 'cause it actually isn't in my perspective and I'll tell you why) I am an introvert (infj). After studying about how our brain and body works, I finally am confident on myself. We live in an extroverted world that ONLY glorifies extroverts and everyone knows this. This hurt us SOOO BADLY 'cause everyone see us like we have something wrong. There are people who called me "antisocial" but when they had a conversation with me they change their mind completly. We, introverts, work different. Extroverts usually have stregths that show on the outside but Introverts have their strenghts on the inside (and no one can see it except people who are close to us). There are terrible misconceptions and perceptions of introverts out there. Now, because we work different to extroverts, what drains an extrovert actually makes introverts charge our batteries AND viceversa. We like to see the world and beautiful things and have deep conversations with people but it drains us. (I even get sick sometimes). Trust me y'all. Everyone should start studying how Extroverts, Ambiverts and Introverts work so we can have a better place not for extroverts only but for Ambiverts and Introverts too. Please, is really hard for us to make friends and even get opportunities in a job. Now, Sadie mentions a LOT of stuff in this video that I'm SOOO glad she did. Most of this toxic friends can literally be DEADLY for other people. Please, take this seriously and analyze what she said during the whole video. Just remember to no hate other people 'cause that won't help you or them AT ALL. And please, be like the friends that I had. If you are getting drained, let those friends go with love and care so in the future, when they get better, they'll know you always cared about them which will make them heal. Be wise. Thanks for this video, Sadie. Just let me know if I understood something wrong! Have a good day everyone ♡
I'm having problems with a childhood bff, we've had a total of 3 years with no contact because of fights, exhaustion and so on. Now I've finally understood why I feel like I'm walking on eggshells when I'm communicating or with her, she gets angry without saying it and then proceeds to ignore me for months, I also understand now that it triggers me and is toxic. I set boundaries with her and told her - like I've done multiple times this year - to tell me right away because I don't know what I'm saying sorry to, well her experience but I don't know when it happens, when I do wrong because she waits for months to pass before she tells me anything. So I walk on eggshells because I don't know what will trigger her. She answered me and said she needs time to understand and thinks about my stresses and so on - I hate when people make assumptions about my capability -, I am mean and don't listen to her. I've really supported her, pushed her to try speaking up, talking to her parent about her situation at her other parent, fixed her a job offer from my brothers boss which she declined, I've given long long apologies where I lift her and shame myself because I know when plans doesn't go her way or anyone's way she gets upset with us. This has happened to often and I'm the problem all the time, I feel like she can't take accountability for how it affects us and I really don't know what to do. We've been friends from 9-23 years, old minus 3 years, our relationship has never ever been conflict free. I feel mean if I say bye, like I'm letting her down, but I need to also think about myself for once. My exes has been toxic but I never questioned my friendships.. I'm at a loss here😅
My best friends told me that I treat people who treats me badly better than people who treat me nice. I always joke that it makes them less defensive and it will be easier for me to revenge, but the reality is that I simply can't treat people badly, even if they hurt my feelings. The thought of unfriend people is scary and I just feel terrible to not respond with a friendly smile.
I am a high school student and i knew them (2 people) for at least 4 years then when my best friend left school for some personal reason they were the one who i was happy with after my best friend left but so, like i have been friends with them for almost 1 year they are also toppers but i am not a bad student, i am an average student i was doing good last year but for some personal reason i wasn't doin good at school and after some months like i am trying to catch up with school they are like mocking me, talks to me in a bad way and when i ask any questions they ignore me also when they ask me i always help them or give them information it wasn't like i used to behave bad or rudely with them. I started to feel like they r being toxic and then i started to look for toxic friends signs and then i got sure that yea they r now toxic friends and i should just get away from them. But ofc it's not easy as a kind and good person if someone tries to talk to me i can't ignore them it's so hard but i know i can do that if i try because i have too otherwise i will be affected by them and i cannot let that happen, i cannot let me be toxic Also whenever i tried to talk about my struggles or my feelings or that i went trough what they never used to listen to me but they used to share everything to me and i used to support them help them give them motivation etc I hope if anyone is going through this situation like me you will be okay you Can leave toxic friends you have to try i know it's hard but don't worry pray to Allah that if they are bad for you make them leave from your life hope you achieve ypur best in your life and in hereafter
About the friend asking you notes, that’s not really toxic if both of you help each other. That friend might genuinely need help, if you think helping academically is a competitive you might be for toxic friend. There’s nothing wrong with helping unless the friend only wants help and never help you. I hope that helps you process better. Other than that everything is quite accurate
Ok so I think I need to rank a bit. I have this friend who I believe is toxic in some ways and it’s starting to make me so upset and drained. A couple of months ago I really liked this guy but I’m pretty quiet so I never said anything. Maybe a month later she hung out with this guy and said she should set us up. 2 days later they hung out again and kissed( this was her first kiss btw) and she said she didn’t even like him. A couple of months later she added this mutual friend for fun and I told her that I though he was cute. Fast forward a bit they kinda dated/ talked but he ended up ending it and she was super sad about his and crying to me and my friends. Not even two days later she saw the guy she kissed and was talking about how cute he was. Maybe 2 hours later I had told her and some of my friends about this new guy in our grade that I think is really sweet, cute, and basically my exact type and now she’s talking about how she wants to ask of him number. She has also just made a bunch of “jokes” about me that didn’t really feel like jokes. Anyways I didn’t know what to do because the rest of my friend group is very kind and supportive but I feel like if I say anything to this girl that my good friendships will change.
I have been in toxic friendship! She was my Friend since we were little kids and When we became 13 we had alot of drama with eachother and we had enough so we stopped talking
Yes you are true and on point you've been around and there. These toxic people are way to needy of your personal time. Needing a hand or faver to borrow something or a loan. Long story short they are takers don't expect your Financial help to be paid back with out you having to ask for the loan money back or item lent to them they forget things real quick.
i love you so much sadie but i gotta disagree with two points you mentioned. I suffer from adhd which means my feelings are always hightened. i get too excited when i hear someone speaking about an experience that they had that i also had to the point that i sometimes cut them off to tell my story. thing is i dont do it out of hate or anything i am just worried that i might forget to tell them later because of how forgetful and distracted i can get ( also adhd symptoms ) but i do ask them to continue the story later. i just get so overjoyed that i cut people off sometimes. i promise this is not a hate comment im just trying to make a point because this can give so many people the wrong idea and turn friends into each other. i still love your videos and cant wait to see the next one!!!
I get you on the fact that you like to see your friends and not snapchat or text them all the time I also don 't like to text the whole day to my friends, I weither just hang out with them
I don’t know what to do. My friend only wants to be friends with “pretty girls or boys” and since I don’t fit into that, she doesn’t care about me as a friend. She took away my best friend because she thought she was pretty and constantly tells me about it. She also is a pick me and changes her attitude in front of boys and acts like she doesn’t know me or clings on to me if no one is around. She makes me mad because she makes me feel like I’m not enough but all my other friends think I’m in the wrong. I don’t know what to do.
I need help, I recently got out of a really good friendship and I was searching for basically what’s wrong with me. And I was almost some sort of way a part of each topic she said. Wow I don’t know how to be friends with people
i have known this friend for years. so when my birthday comes she doesn’t remember it at all it’s been like this for three years. Where I remember hers. she remembers her friends birthdays so there’s nothing wrong with her memory. Guess what her friends are the same month as mine it bugs me LIKKE? (I’m actually not sad about it just disappointed)
What would you say about a friend that shows they care about u more one to one but when around other people they don't give you much attention and make you feel like they are not listening to what you are saying?
I don't think I agree with mirror my friends. I am who I am and if they don't like me I don't hang out with them. I have strong beliefs in topics and nobody can change my mind about it. I mean nobody. But this is a great video. I stay away from toxic people. If I strong political or religious believe you can't convince me to have the same beliefs you do. If you change your beliefs to theirs, you're not being yourself anymore.
I don’t know if my friend ship is toxic but I think it is could you help me figure it out 1 she laughs and gives me a weird look when I have dirt or food on my face 2 she says things that make me uncomfortable and won’t stop when I ask her I usually have to ask a teacher to get her to stop (I met her at school) 3she says nice things and does nice things to me but sometimes I hear her talk to her other friends right after I ask or do something Ofc you don’t have to read this if you don’t want just I wanna know if my friend ship is toxic
I got a call from my friends baby daddy(also my friend of 8 years) he was upset she got custody of their daughter(good) but he said he was going to go to her house to “talk it out” I never liked the way he talked to her especially infront of their daughter he was close by I said let’s go get food and talk it out before you go there mad and upset……. Apparently I’m a whore I’m a slut and I wanted him the entire time(watching him cheat on her every other month for 8 years) lol 😂 we are no longer friends
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GUYSS thank you so much for the sweetest and honest comments, i appreciate you SOOO much. 🩷
You're welcome❤❤
Omg,is grace one of your toxic friend???
I don't think people talk about this enough. Friendship Grief is such a real thing
and thinking of all the good memories you made together, even now i still think about him and i miss our friendship so so much, but i had to let him go for my own well being (he didn’t pass away the way i worded it sounded like he did lol)
Right ?! Fr
for all the people who are going through a really toxic friendship: get out of this fucking group or leave this person alone. once you realise how powerful and how important you are, you don’t need anyone. Find the happiness in yourself and not in other people.
I've had my share of toxic friends. It's annoying when they would disguise underhand comments as true compliments. Narcissist friends are the worst. I had a friend who talked about my weight and my choice to have a veggie burger and then screenshot our conversation and took it into a chat thread with people and talk bad about me and my body. A friend who is disrespectful to your boundaries but then would get mad when you tell them how they made you feel. In college, you learn a lot. this video was amazing you Sadie.
i went through something similar! it's so hard to understand why they behave that way because you know that you would NEVER do that to them so it's hard to understand why they would do it to you :(
Or the subtle lowblows. People think they are so slick like you won't notice. 😂😂😂
Have you ever had a friend who only wants to know stuff about you and they do not open up on their end , They expect you to always be reaching out and when you tired and they also silent they keep texting you that your silence is too much for them ?.Its very draining
I'm a person who finds it hard to easily open up to others, I usually try to be friendly with them and as for me, them opening up encourages me to open up too, although it does take time. I'm js sharing u the pov of a person who's not easy at opening up
@@eeeeee1839 Yes , This is true but at times one sided friendships is hard , making efforts matter
ive had my fair share of toxic friendship even in my university life and it’s been so hard because i didn’t think it would happen in my early 20s. But that’s good i found a group of very close friends. Thank you Sadie for this truthful video 🫶🏻💞
right!!! i’m sooo glad you found great friends💝💝
exactly, I used to imagine my friendships to be sorted out by this time..🙃
@@kelseyhayes718 i hope it’ll get better for you ❤️🩹
Same, I thought people are more mature in their 20s 💀
@@archigal Me too !
I have this friend that i am close with for like 6-7 years who like never motivated or supported me and always drained me by telling abt her everyday life ..even if i motivate her its never enough..Now that i know she was an energy drainer the whole time..I will actually start distancing myself..btw thank you so much ❣️❣️
Boundaries in friendships is soooo important. Otherwise you will be taken for a FOOL
Yep. Give people an inch and they'll take it a mile. I don't give chances anymore. I'm not going to be undervalued anymore.
I know this is really late, but this video made me realize it was not my friend who was toxic, it was me. I will now try to improve my friendship skills, and apologize to my friends. I would love to see a video of how to be a better friend. Thanks, Sadie! I will try to be better!
OMG WE WANT MORE OF THESE SIT DOWN VIDEOS SADIE 🤍
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Sadie, your captivating videos never cease to impress! Your exceptional talent, delightful personality and entertaining content makes every moment an absolute joy. I adore you and your positive impact is undeniable. Keep shining and spreading the love 🥹💕
i’m literally crying at this comment this is the sweetest thing ever. i love you sm !!! 🩷🩷
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Your a legend for posting this! Like being 22 years old like learning this was huge. I feel like college/post high school everything changes so much.
I related to so much about what you were talking about. When you talked about the friends who are always making fun of you but disguise it as humor I could think of so many times where that happened. I loved this video, thank you for sharing it!
so good! i have been realizing lately that it just isnt productive to try and force ppl to be who they are not, or to try and force a friendship to be what it cant. i even feel like i have been called out on a couple ways that i can be a better friend for others, and i feel super inspired to try and be a nicer and more positive person! thank you, sadie. you crushed it, as always
I have needed this video for yearsss and I am so happy you made this, your advice is so important to me and this video is going to help me so much iust like all of your other videos. I have gone through a lot wih friendships the past couple weeks so this video really did arrive at the right time 😂 Sadly, I can relate to all of this but this video just gave me confirmation that it's okay to let go of people who don't deserve me and vice-versa, so I love you so much and thank you for everything you do 🤍
omg THANK YOU for commenting this, this actually helps me so much bc i get a little scared to talk about these types of topics !! sending you lots of hugsss🩷
this came out at the perfect time 🫣 love you Sadie xoxo
ahh i’m glad i can help 😮💨💌
Sadie! I was really needing this video! Lately, my mind has been a mess, thinking what was wrong with me as I was not feeling completely part of my group of friends... This video helped me reflect on this, look at myself and people around me! Thank youu
You're so precious and so mature, its noticeable that you really put your energy into mastering your life and being the best version of yourself🥰 plus you give out advice with the best intentions, you're such a pure hearted soul, I love you, Sadie, you're doing great in life.💓💛❤
Hey Sadie thank you for letting us know the different types of toxic friendships and looking back now I think I also had a competitive friend in high school.
YES! some of these are hard to realize in the moment but i’m glad i can give some warning signs 💌💌
Beautiful video! You are wise beyond your years.
I'm 60 and this was helpful for me.
Absolutely LOVE this video Sadie! This is such an important topic! Not only is it essential to evaluate those in our close circles but to also assess ourselves and reflect on impact we're having on friends, partners, etc. Relationships of any kind are valuable and they can significantly impact our growth and overall wellbeing. This video is much needed. Thanks Sadie for being such an inspiration and role model to your viewers
OMG thank you! I sooo relate with what you were saying about your social battery and not being able to communicate digitally. I'm 19 and feel so weird because literally everyone I know seems to be constantly in touch with each other over snap. I just wayyy prefer spending good quality time together with ppl in person. I feel like you can gain way deeper, more valuable friendships this way but other ppl my age just don't seem to get it. Nice to know that I'm not the only one like this though so I'm grateful for you sharing that :) xxx
Sadie, I love you. You are a person who gives me positive energy
Preach girly, I feel like you have expressed everything I have been both experiencing and thinking about my own friends. It makes me sad.. each of my friends have a few of these characteristics… while I feel more akin to your personality type. You helped me gain some perspective and essentially confirm what I’ve been seeing and thinking… thank you.
love your girl talk videos sadie!!!!! it always make my day after watching your videos, ily so much, keep up the great work sadie 💃💗
Sadie tysm 4 making this video, I literally needed to hear this!! I'm 16 & I've been thru a friendship breakup lately that was painful & I made new friends but I still don't have a close one which causes me to feel lonely.. Anyways, keep going ur amazing & plz do more of these kinda videos, they're so helpful, lvysm 💕💕
i literally met the best friend in my life through your fandom
so off topic but the way your necklaces lay perfectly
you don't even know how much i love you! in this video i've realized that we are so similar and you made me feel less lonely. please make more videos like this or even a podcast you calm me down when you speak. ❣️
I 100% agree with the social battery. Thank you for having a UA-cam channel you have inspired many. Thank you. God bless you!
Sadie you could literally be my therapist. This video is so educational and important for everyone. Your definitely one of my role models and this video is like a big sister giving me advice (I’m about to go into high school) so this is going to be sooo helpful. Love you and have an amazing day! ❤
i needed to hear this so much more than i thought, i distanced myself from a now ex friend last year and i was still doubting my choice.
Thank you for this I find it so relatable! Most videos are so therapy-coded which are nice but as a young woman myself this is in my language!
I made the mistake of befriending a real “pick-me”. We were besties at one point. I didn’t think anything of it because we would hype each other up all the time but it quickly changed when she married a guy i introduced her to, who used to crush on me (and all of my other friends, it’s not that special) in high school. She completely discarded me at one point for “not texting her for two weeks” and eventually blew up at me after I thought we fixed things. I didn’t know she thought so badly of me and it really did hurt. We made up eventually but the trust was never the same. The copying, secret competition, sly sneaky comments. She was always a “oh I’ll eat in front of guys unlike some girls” type of girl. I choose not to eat fast food and she will boast about how she does, like it makes her better or something 😅 I had a black jeep (that I had to get rid of), then years later she goes online and specifically picks out a black jeep, same year and very similar model. Don’t get me started with the petty posts online. I can see how she mentally struggles but I can’t be close to her anymore. We have drifted apart for the better.
step 1 towards healing my friendship trauma, you really do not know much this means to me, so thank you so much💜
Thank you for talking about this I went through this recently and realized that I thought I had a true friend but I didn’t. Love you Sadie ❤I have been more happy with our that friend and have made closer friendships
Yes brother!💛
I absolutely loveee loveee this video. I feel like I needed this for such a long time to evaluate the people who are bad in my life. Thank you so much for always radiating positivity and making me feel better, I feel like I have been a pessimistic friend and I definitely wanna change that. love ya♥
Okay Sadie, you are the friend I need because we have the same mindset and a friend I always wanted to have. We are on the same side. Sometimes, I want a friend like me. I also identify the toxic friends I have and when i slowly get away from them it felt so good. I don’t care if I have a small circle all I care is the quality.
Needed this video! Really happy to find it in the right time💗
Love you Sadie more strength to you❤️
i’ve been waiting for this one! so exicted! i love you sadie like i know you might not be seeing this but your truly an inspiration to me probably even one of my idol. i love you and your videos so so much 💗
thank you very much, you talked about the toxic realationships in all respects, that impressing, I will try to experience your advise when you said that you have to ask them what you need or what they have to avoid in our relationship. Maybe she is a good friend, I will test her and see .. thank u a lot SADIE
Your timing is immaculate! Been supporting you since 2017. Love yaaa!
thank you so much for posting this video, sadie! you are an absolutely AMAZING and uplifting person, and i hope that you don’t have anymore friendship drama 😅 i had A LOT of drama this year, so this helped me a lot. also, i think that a video about sibling relationships would be helpful for a lot of people. omggg you should start a podcasttt! 😂
I have a friend being brutally honest with me recently. She said her friends thinks I am too political. And it upsets me because I dont feel accepted for who I am and not being appreciated for my care for the world. I used to appreciate that this friend can be brutally honest, but I been finding it hard to embrace her for being brutally honest. :'(
OMG.......I LOVE YOU GIRL!!!!!!!! I'VE NEVER SEEN YOUR VIDEOS BEFORE BUT TODAY I WATCH THIS AND I'M ALREADY LIKE AMAZED BY HOW AMAZING YOU ARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AND HEARING THIS VIDEO HELPED ME SO MUCH AND WANNA LET U KNOW UR LIKE AMAZINGGGGGGG AND MADE ME FEEL A LOT BETTER!! LOVE YOU SO MCUH
this was probably the best advice ever Sadie, thank you so much! ❤
this truly truly came at the perfect timing and put my thoughts into words in such a perfect way. thank you sadie 💖💖
Thank you for posting this has really helped me check my behaviors as a friend.
Sadie this video was so well said, well put together, and very nicely edited! I love this, you are so well spoken and thank you so much for saying stuff that other people don’t typically talk about on the internet. You only spoke facts fr :) You are so awesome and I appreciate you so much 💖💖💖
i swear this video came at the best time for me! thanks sadie ❤
thank you so much for this vid sadie! 🤍🤍
SADIE. thank you so much for this! you have no idea how badly i needed this today 🥰🥰 you're an angel
Thank you for your honesty!
always!! 🩷🩷
Sadie you are such a genuine person on earth. I love listening to your videos and your personality!🥰💜
This literally came out at the perfect time cause I've been going through friendship breakup too and it's been quite difficult not having close friends to discuss yourself to and with. Even though I'm not a social person much i do need certain people to be with but now that I've broken up with them it's been some difficult months after April. This vedio really helped me with that. Thank you so much sadie . I know it sucks that we are relating on such a topic but i hope for best to you and for everyone of us. Lots of love from India . 💕
Sadie, thank you so much for this video! I am going to High School next year, and this is going to be sooo helpful when finding new friends!
Also you look so beautiful! ❤❤❤
I love videos like this you should totally start a podcast! Id be totally into that. And would u believe i found this video right after the first portion of this video literally happened to me (making jokes about you can calling sensitive) but thanks sadie ❤️
Oh Sadie you're inspiring!
Exactly what I need to help me choose and build good relationship with friends
You're inspiring😊
Best wishes for you❤️
Hi Sadie! I’m just like you, I don’t like texting relationships, I prefer going out and spending time with friends. I didn’t grow up with an iPhone so that’s why
omg!!! i literally remember sending you a dm on instagram a few years ago, because i was so lost and sad due to a « toxic friendship ».
you probably never saw it, but seeing this video is like a full circle moment 🫶🏻 i just know it’s going to help me so much.
also; a toxic friendship is sometimes not anyone’s fault. it can just be an unhealthy friendship! and it’s okay. it just hurts realizing it.
that’s exactly what i went through, and looking back at it, it was definitely like this!
anyway, love you sadie! it really helps seeing you talk about this subject.
i know how scary it probably is for you to post this since it’s quite controversial, but thank you so much. i’m very grateful for it.
⭐️💖🫧
omg!!! thank you so so much for this comment, it’s helping me a ton💌 definitely a bit controversial but soooo glad i could help🥹🤍
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts to this subject Sadie 💓 You are AWESOME 🌟🌻💕
It really is okay to grief and it's okay to be sad ❤😢
thank u for posting such a video, i needed it 😍☀️
100% on point on every single level! You are a gem! ❤
Can relate to this so much. Thankyou for the video 🫶 much love from Australia 🇦🇺
I have a lot to say about this video!
First, I was the pessimistic friend like 8 years ago. I suffered major depression and severe anxiety, trastornos alimenticios, I wanted and tried to 💀 myself, abuse (verbally, physically, seggsually and mentally) from my family and not family members too. I didn't have patents that cared for me (they would abuse me a lot), I was leaving in a poor and dangerous situation since I was born. I was full of hatred, scared, traumatized and insecure + I didn't have God either. I took my friends like my therapists, like a family. But in 12th grade they stopped being with me. At the time I felt to bad 'cause I thought they didn't care about me but actually they did. The only is that I was draining them! My thoughts during that time was "I would never do this them!" but of course, I didn't care about myself so I would have stayed with a pessimistic friend my whole life. After I got adopted 3 years ago by a new family and started to know God, I've changed COMPLETELY. I graduated from 2 careers, I'm depression free and God is helping me to control my anxiety. I see my past traumas like experiences now and OMG I feel sooo great! But hey, I had to lose everything first. That's how God works.
I AM the incompatible friend.
Now, this is something really important to talk about and I'm sooo glad that Sadie put this out (the only thing is that I don't know why is in a toxic friendship video 'cause it actually isn't in my perspective and I'll tell you why)
I am an introvert (infj). After studying about how our brain and body works, I finally am confident on myself. We live in an extroverted world that ONLY glorifies extroverts and everyone knows this. This hurt us SOOO BADLY 'cause everyone see us like we have something wrong. There are people who called me "antisocial" but when they had a conversation with me they change their mind completly. We, introverts, work different. Extroverts usually have stregths that show on the outside but Introverts have their strenghts on the inside (and no one can see it except people who are close to us). There are terrible misconceptions and perceptions of introverts out there.
Now, because we work different to extroverts, what drains an extrovert actually makes introverts charge our batteries AND viceversa.
We like to see the world and beautiful things and have deep conversations with people but it drains us. (I even get sick sometimes). Trust me y'all. Everyone should start studying how Extroverts, Ambiverts and Introverts work so we can have a better place not for extroverts only but for Ambiverts and Introverts too. Please, is really hard for us to make friends and even get opportunities in a job.
Now, Sadie mentions a LOT of stuff in this video that I'm SOOO glad she did. Most of this toxic friends can literally be DEADLY for other people. Please, take this seriously and analyze what she said during the whole video. Just remember to no hate other people 'cause that won't help you or them AT ALL. And please, be like the friends that I had. If you are getting drained, let those friends go with love and care so in the future, when they get better, they'll know you always cared about them which will make them heal. Be wise.
Thanks for this video, Sadie. Just let me know if I understood something wrong! Have a good day everyone ♡
You’re an inspiration. Love you so much! ❤
unrelated but i love how active u are now
I'm having problems with a childhood bff, we've had a total of 3 years with no contact because of fights, exhaustion and so on. Now I've finally understood why I feel like I'm walking on eggshells when I'm communicating or with her, she gets angry without saying it and then proceeds to ignore me for months, I also understand now that it triggers me and is toxic. I set boundaries with her and told her - like I've done multiple times this year - to tell me right away because I don't know what I'm saying sorry to, well her experience but I don't know when it happens, when I do wrong because she waits for months to pass before she tells me anything. So I walk on eggshells because I don't know what will trigger her.
She answered me and said she needs time to understand and thinks about my stresses and so on - I hate when people make assumptions about my capability -, I am mean and don't listen to her. I've really supported her, pushed her to try speaking up, talking to her parent about her situation at her other parent, fixed her a job offer from my brothers boss which she declined, I've given long long apologies where I lift her and shame myself because I know when plans doesn't go her way or anyone's way she gets upset with us.
This has happened to often and I'm the problem all the time, I feel like she can't take accountability for how it affects us and I really don't know what to do. We've been friends from 9-23 years, old minus 3 years, our relationship has never ever been conflict free. I feel mean if I say bye, like I'm letting her down, but I need to also think about myself for once. My exes has been toxic but I never questioned my friendships.. I'm at a loss here😅
first ? love ur videos girl !!
AH thank you girlll💝💝
My best friends told me that I treat people who treats me badly better than people who treat me nice. I always joke that it makes them less defensive and it will be easier for me to revenge, but the reality is that I simply can't treat people badly, even if they hurt my feelings. The thought of unfriend people is scary and I just feel terrible to not respond with a friendly smile.
I love this video! Really useful. Thankyou Saidie～
can you also talk about how to find our people?like i find it really hard to just start a conversation with someone and then be friends with them
Sadie loved this video!! It seem like a podcast, I was listening while I was doing chorus around my house. Love u, kisses from Portugal 🇵🇹 ❤
I am a high school student and i knew them (2 people) for at least 4 years then when my best friend left school for some personal reason they were the one who i was happy with after my best friend left but so, like i have been friends with them for almost 1 year they are also toppers but i am not a bad student, i am an average student i was doing good last year but for some personal reason i wasn't doin good at school and after some months like i am trying to catch up with school they are like mocking me, talks to me in a bad way and when i ask any questions they ignore me also when they ask me i always help them or give them information it wasn't like i used to behave bad or rudely with them. I started to feel like they r being toxic and then i started to look for toxic friends signs and then i got sure that yea they r now toxic friends and i should just get away from them. But ofc it's not easy as a kind and good person if someone tries to talk to me i can't ignore them it's so hard but i know i can do that if i try because i have too otherwise i will be affected by them and i cannot let that happen, i cannot let me be toxic
Also whenever i tried to talk about my struggles or my feelings or that i went trough what they never used to listen to me but they used to share everything to me and i used to support them help them give them motivation etc
I hope if anyone is going through this situation like me you will be okay you Can leave toxic friends you have to try i know it's hard but don't worry pray to Allah that if they are bad for you make them leave from your life hope you achieve ypur best in your life and in hereafter
thank you so much for this video i feel a lot better coz my friends just all left me it was toxic
You give such good advice Sadie! I love your vids!!
Love you sadie ❤❤❤ AND i am in love with all your videos 💗
This video was AMAZING, thank you, please make more of these kinds of videos!
About the friend asking you notes, that’s not really toxic if both of you help each other. That friend might genuinely need help, if you think helping academically is a competitive you might be for toxic friend. There’s nothing wrong with helping unless the friend only wants help and never help you. I hope that helps you process better. Other than that everything is quite accurate
Ok so I think I need to rank a bit. I have this friend who I believe is toxic in some ways and it’s starting to make me so upset and drained. A couple of months ago I really liked this guy but I’m pretty quiet so I never said anything. Maybe a month later she hung out with this guy and said she should set us up. 2 days later they hung out again and kissed( this was her first kiss btw) and she said she didn’t even like him. A couple of months later she added this mutual friend for fun and I told her that I though he was cute. Fast forward a bit they kinda dated/ talked but he ended up ending it and she was super sad about his and crying to me and my friends. Not even two days later she saw the guy she kissed and was talking about how cute he was. Maybe 2 hours later I had told her and some of my friends about this new guy in our grade that I think is really sweet, cute, and basically my exact type and now she’s talking about how she wants to ask of him number. She has also just made a bunch of “jokes” about me that didn’t really feel like jokes. Anyways I didn’t know what to do because the rest of my friend group is very kind and supportive but I feel like if I say anything to this girl that my good friendships will change.
I feel you, I hate digital communication too, much prefer to hang out in person
I have been in toxic friendship! She was my Friend since we were little kids and When we became 13 we had alot of drama with eachother and we had enough so we stopped talking
Yes you are true and on point you've been around and there. These toxic people are way to needy of your personal time. Needing a hand or faver to borrow something or a loan. Long story short they are takers don't expect your
Financial help to be paid back with out you having to ask for the loan money back or item lent to them they forget things real quick.
i love you so much sadie but i gotta disagree with two points you mentioned. I suffer from adhd which means my feelings are always hightened. i get too excited when i hear someone speaking about an experience that they had that i also had to the point that i sometimes cut them off to tell my story. thing is i dont do it out of hate or anything i am just worried that i might forget to tell them later because of how forgetful and distracted i can get ( also adhd symptoms ) but i do ask them to continue the story later. i just get so overjoyed that i cut people off sometimes. i promise this is not a hate comment im just trying to make a point because this can give so many people the wrong idea and turn friends into each other. i still love your videos and cant wait to see the next one!!!
Ooooh I love the title of this video of toxic people 😁😁😁😁
All of these traits I am recognising in literally everyone I work with, its eye opening but funny at the same time 😅👀
I get you on the fact that you like to see your friends and not snapchat or text them all the time
I also don 't like to text the whole day to my friends, I weither just hang out with them
I don’t know what to do. My friend only wants to be friends with “pretty girls or boys” and since I don’t fit into that, she doesn’t care about me as a friend. She took away my best friend because she thought she was pretty and constantly tells me about it. She also is a pick me and changes her attitude in front of boys and acts like she doesn’t know me or clings on to me if no one is around. She makes me mad because she makes me feel like I’m not enough but all my other friends think I’m in the wrong. I don’t know what to do.
There's nothing wrong with sharing your notes! thats what school life is about :)
Hi Sadie good morning happy Saturday morning and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you and I loved your reset vlogs
I need help, I recently got out of a really good friendship and I was searching for basically what’s wrong with me. And I was almost some sort of way a part of each topic she said. Wow I don’t know how to be friends with people
i have known this friend for years. so when my birthday comes she doesn’t remember it at all it’s been like this for three years. Where I remember hers. she remembers her friends birthdays so there’s nothing wrong with her memory. Guess what her friends are the same month as mine it bugs me LIKKE? (I’m actually not sad about it just disappointed)
What would you say about a friend that shows they care about u more one to one but when around other people they don't give you much attention and make you feel like they are not listening to what you are saying?
I don't think I agree with mirror my friends. I am who I am and if they don't like me I don't hang out with them. I have strong beliefs in topics and nobody can change my mind about it. I mean nobody. But this is a great video. I stay away from toxic people. If I strong political or religious believe you can't convince me to have the same beliefs you do. If you change your beliefs to theirs, you're not being yourself anymore.
I appreciate the differences in my friends social battery
Thanks, I send you many hugs
You always look super beautiful
I don’t know if my friend ship is toxic but I think it is could you help me figure it out
1 she laughs and gives me a weird look when I have dirt or food on my face
2 she says things that make me uncomfortable and won’t stop when I ask her I usually have to ask a teacher to get her to stop (I met her at school)
3she says nice things and does nice things to me but sometimes I hear her talk to her other friends right after I ask or do something
Ofc you don’t have to read this if you don’t want just I wanna know if my friend ship is toxic
This video was so helpful and good thank you so much
The complainer and gossiper, the one that’s constantly throwing people under the bus
I got a call from my friends baby daddy(also my friend of 8 years) he was upset she got custody of their daughter(good) but he said he was going to go to her house to “talk it out” I never liked the way he talked to her especially infront of their daughter he was close by I said let’s go get food and talk it out before you go there mad and upset……. Apparently I’m a whore I’m a slut and I wanted him the entire time(watching him cheat on her every other month for 8 years) lol 😂 we are no longer friends