When Stress Never Goes Down | Talking ADHD with
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- Опубліковано 2 чер 2024
- Join us for an extensive conversation with @JustaMinxin this video! We go over her previous diagnosis, personality disorders, Minx's frustrations with BPD, and more.
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0:00 - Preview
1:22 - Interview Begins
8:50 - Difference in diagnosis
18:30 - Personality disorders
26:59 - Dopamine vs Serotonin
30:56 - MDMA/Ketamine
23:28 - Opioid epidemic
42:56 - Medication
49:28 - Hunter vs Farmer
56:31 - Frustrations of BPD
59:02 - Dialectical Behavioural Therapy
1:06:28 - Managing the frustration
1:27:00 - "this too shall pass" meditation
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Today Dr. K interviews Justaminx and talks about BPD, ADHD, medication, and more! Healthy Gamer also talks about being a kid with ADHD, and more!
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"Lets talk about ADHD"
*30 minutes later*
"Do you boil your lettuce?!"
ADHD in a nutshell! :D
Exactly I love it 😂
I was literally going down into the comments to say basically this xD
@@weakamna That's a no brainer of course derp.
Conversation in a nutshell. Staying on topic is for homework
By the way lettuce gets bitter when it's spending more energy to grow the flowers than the leaves or when it's trying to grow too quickly
Man, when he talks about kids with ADHD being socially isolated but knowing how to be funny that resonated.
I felt that😭😭🥺
Hey, hey, hey hey. You're wrong.
I'm not funny
I like how everyone think they're the funny kid lol.
@@badplayer4348 being funny is a common social skill
What time was this at?
Interviews are back let's go!!!
Literally how I feel. I prefer the interviews much more than the reddit posts
@@marcomendex8780 I like the reddit posts but only particular subjects, I like the interviews no matter what they talk about
Awesome
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
I was sooo waiting for these interviews to return...
Dr. K is incredibly empathetic. "Yeah, that sounds like an impossible situation." That was a statement loaded with empathy and his actions were too. I'd love to see him and Brene Brown have a conversation one day. Did anyone else see how incredibly soft he got with her when he realized she was upset? I love this channel bc it's been so hard to find a therapist or psychiatrist that really understands, listens, connects, and wants to help you. It's so clear he picked the right path.
As a person in a grad program for counseling. His videos are extremely valuable to me. Like he exemplifies everything we discuss on a weekly basis in my classrooms.
Heat makes lettuce bitter. Try picking it first thing in the morning before the plant can get hot or keeping the plants in the shade during the hot parts of the day.
Thank you, this was the most important part of the lecture above :)
lettuce tastes a bit boring without the bitterness
@@AnarchistMetalhead you are not a morning person i see
Also if it has started to flower (aka bolt), it will turn bitter
Yess
here I thought I had a pretty good idea of what BPD is and does to a person, but listening to Minx and seeing her sadness and frustration really helped me understand how truly hopeless it must sometimes feel. really greatful she was brave enough to be vulnerable, so that we could all learn a little about such a misunderstood diagnosis. much love.
Huh 🤔 you might need VR for that to fully understand. Other than that leave it to the experts.
@@goliathbroodia942 what are you talking about, my dude?
@@dylan1160 Some need to explore first in order to truly find themselves before others. It may seem out of place but it would help the psyche of in a ever changing. World.
Christ, the moment when Minx started breaking down about not being able to control explosive emotions for no reason other than that something minorly inconvenient happened, or someone just BARELY scratched the surface of something slightly irritating. I've ruined A LOT of relationships that way. :(
I'm very sorry to hear that. That's why I love that Dr K. Puts in the effort he does to spread as much information and resources as he can. That whole section about learning and practicing forgiveness is such a big part. (Of course not all of it.) I sincerely hope you're on your own journey of self care and improvement.
Minx just can't help but generate content, no matter what the topic is supposed to be. The discussion about boiling lettuce was incredible
how
This girl is so funny, she's so blown away by lettuce I'm dying.
This was so entertaining
xD
Dr. K: And then where does the Adderall go after your stomach?
Justaminx: Out my *sshole
😂
"many successful women have BPD".
It's the rage.
*It's the RAGE.* And the urge to prove yourself all the damn time. It's like narcicism turned inside out.learning to turn the thermostat down but keep the rage at a low simmer is what makes the success stew.
Been doing biofeedback meditation and have been playing with using a simmering anger to move into a relaxed focus.
I've always loved the saying "this too shall pass". Given enough time it has never ever been wrong.
Well the only time that it ends up being not true is when you pass instead. And I have a feeling that you won't be complaining to anyone about it anymore anyway.
yes, that's because everything passes. even you.
Will pass straight gas 💨💨💨💨
disagree
@@jkleins2869 so my autistic aunt didn’t die?
Being a kid with ADHD when you’re my age was awful man. I only found out last year I had it when I finally saw a psychiatrist and so much shit made sense. When you’re a 27 year old and you were in school when mental health wasn’t really discussed or cared about, with a boomer ass Dad who only saw the things you couldn’t do the same as everyone else, shit was rough. I wasn’t able to perform in school the same way other kids were, but I was able to write a 211 page novel by 10th grade. Nobody ever ASKED me “why can’t you do your school work?” It was always “You need to do your school work like everyone else”. When I was in 10th grade, I couldn’t pass algebra because I couldn’t focus. So the schools solution was to take away my English class(where I was excelling), and replace it with another period of Algebra. When I continued to fail, because I was only given expectations and not support, things just continued to get worse and I’ve felt like a failure for the majority of my life. Therapy helped open the door and your coaching program is helping me walk through it. Things are finally getting better - I have an understanding of me and how I operate, I finally have some explanations, I’m not a failure, I’m just different.
Anyone out there struggling - keep trucking man. It doesn’t stay downhill forever. You’re not stupid, you’re not inadequate, you’re not less than anyone else because you don’t learn the same way as other people. You’ve got this ❤️
Thanks for sharing - I had a really similar experience in high school. My grades were terrible, so they would take away things that I actually cared about and was good at. It was embarrassing and only made me resentful.
For real bro. The look on my father's face any time I couldn't do something perfectly (even things he nor anybody else never taught me) was a look of unadulterated disgust/impatience/rage/disappointment/hatred.... (And the loud sighs, or the exclamations of "Oh my GOD", as though I was the worst person alive) I think that shit like this should be considered a crime. You can't even measure how much it fucks you up; it's seared into my neurons.
@@himbourbanist same happened with me 🗿
@@specialk8168 I feel you man. I’m a pretty “gifted” kid, I was top of my class all the way until I hit 9th grade where the idea of school kinda became something that didn’t interest me anymore. But I had set those expectations up my entire life so my Dad expected me to always be that straight A student, even if it wasn’t what I wanted. Constant feelings of failure, constant disappointment, punishment, both physical and emotional abuse, and a lot of other awful things have happened like my two best friends dying, one in high school and the other in my early 20’s didn’t help. But taking the good with the bad is a great way to find balance again, take your life back, and realize that expectations are bullshit. The only thing that matters is you and what you want to do with your life.
Just to ask did you have trouble with pronouncing words , difficult to understand sentences, therefor you would read the sentence over and over loose focus? I havnt been diagnosed with adhd but have with bpd , but I say words wrong, I don't understand thing, always had a hsrd time focusing , even reading, and maths , i always feel stupid. 😞
Can we take a minute to appreciate just how talented Dr.K is? I have been watching a lot of these videos, and it seems like no matter who he talks with, he always manages to bring light to some really important topics. When he and Minx deviate from the original lecture he still manages to cover new ground and bring everything back together in the end. I am so impressed by this man's capabilities Dr.K is really inspiring.
“When I cry, it brings color to my face & I’m kinda feeling cute right now.” Thank you for helping me understand why my tearful tizzies almost always end with me realizing that I’m not hideous.
"where does it go after the stomach" "out my asshole" when i tell you i BURSTED out laughing omg minx is so funny
Fucking classic. I laughed so hard.
Gardener chiming in: The greens we're used to getting at the grocery stores are typically much milder in flavour than what you can grow in your garden.
Part of this is simply chlorophyll which is bitter. The chlorophyll itself may have some nutritional value and indicates that the plant is more photsynthetically active, possibly more productive in terms of other nutrients as well. So there's a double edge there.
Heat stress, particularly when the plant's bolting process has been triggered, can also compel a chemical change that makes foliage more bitter. Not sure if this is a defensive mechanism or just a byproduct of the plant switching its energy into making flowers/seeds instead of leaves. Commercial growers, of course, try to avoid this in store produce as it definitely doesn't sell well.
Much of it is varietal selection and breeding which is based on several priorities.
- Marketing may have simply determined that more neutral tasting greens sell better. Homegrown mustards and arugula will be much spicier than the storebought stuff, too. People who grew up eating iceberg lettuce are not ready for that intensity. Growers may be selecting varieties and conditions that favour milder flavours.
- There are also logistic reasons influencing varietal choices: In the case of fruits including tomatoes, the produce is harvested under-ripe. Starches, which are structurally stiffer, haven't yet converted to sugars and the produce is sturdier for transport. They gas the produce with ethylene when it arrives in the region of consumption to force that conversion which would have happened on the parent plant. In the case of leafies, where ethylene would just rot them, they may have simply selected/bred varieties which are starchier or sturdier for any other reason. This doesn't directly undermine flavour, but if a farmer selling to an aggregator has to choose between shelf-life and flavour, they usually go with shelf life.
- The last market factor in terms of varietal selection is water weight, which is the profit motive at work. We pay for produce usually on weight. If they can grow something that grows fast and holds a lot of water, they can make more from their investment in volume than a smaller, more nutrient-dense variety that may not be padded with so much water.
Thanks, mate, that info is interesting, no sarcasm
In the mid 90's my little brother's elementary school teacher was a witch. She tried to force my bro onto Ritalin, but the problem was her. His doctor was like, "F-that, this teacher is NOT a Doctor." LoL. Doc prescribed placebos for my bro and miraculously the teacher was appeased. The sad thing is that my brother had to own the stigma of being called over the intercom everyday to "take your Ritalin" when he wasn't even on them. The problem was 100% a teacher who wasn't qualified to keep elementary school kids on task. Placebo can be an effective treatment for the patients, but he just needed motivation. That doctor was a Saint.
bully teachers are the worst. I'm an identical twin and we had a teacher blame us for not being able to tell us apart. wtf
@@chrischickering1959 That's ridiculous. Teachers need to understand the effect they have on the rest of their students lives. An immutable characteristic for you, but THEY, in fact, can learn to not be a A-hole. 💀
That’s a badass doctor. We need way more of professionals like that looking after our children… too many exist who exemplify a character that of the teacher.
Bro this runs deeper then u think. A lot of evil people in this world
How did this happen when you just listed at least 3 things that are illegal and go against HIPPA regulations? The intercom disclosing an individuals medication alone would have gotten the whole school sued...
Regarding similarities of ADHD’s RSD, BOD, and trauma, as well as the ADHD grief mentioned at the end of the video:
The BPD sounds really similar to the Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria that comes with ADHD, in a few ways: In BPD, RSD, and other trauma response situations, we’re way quicker to perceive a vibe shift (e.g., frame-by-frame transition of a smiling face to a scowling one), way quicker to react to it, and with a much more heightened emotional response. For RSD, this is most often manifested in being hypersensitive to the possibility that we are being rejected, that our friends secretly hate us, etc., and our emotional response (even when we are self-aware of what is happening, and completely assured that our brain’s emotional “guard dogs” are, in fact, barking at their own shadows) will be equivalent to what we would be feeling if the imagined rejection was actually real, and that baseline is higher on top of it. An easy explanation for this, is of course, the tragically high rates of rejection and isolation most of us with ADHD experience as children, from our peers as well as our family, teaching us that we need to be quicker to avoid another emotional disaster like the previous ones we’ve actually faced, so that maybe this time, we’ll be able to react quickly enough to fix the situation or cut our losses.
It’s extremely common for adults recently diagnosed with ADHD to actually go through a mourning process, grieving over the lost years and potentially avoidable trauma and misery, the wasted potential, the realization that we’ve been so complicit in our own bullying due to the internalized ableism we are only just discovering, longing to go back and comfort our past childhood selves are we wept over yet another inability to “just be normal”, etc. I just saw a post yesterday about the way adults tend to dismiss the grief of children over “small” issues such as a broken toy or a change of plans as “excessive” or “unreasonable” or “disproportionate”, while failing to consider their capacity to experience an adult range of emotions with only a tiny fraction of the perspective adults are privileged with: to them, this is actually the worst thing they’ve ever experienced, in their whole (short) lives, and their emotional responses are, in fact, quite proportionate to the cause. When we add the emotional dysregulation (affect lability, etc.) of ADHD, it’s all extremes, all the time, and often shifting too quickly for us to fully process at the time… and all of this begins to burst out when adult diagnosis breaks the dam. We spend our entire childhoods experiencing such crushing and confusing loss, in excess of the norm, while simultaneously having our desperate struggles to just survive discounted and mocked by those around us (even by well-meaning parents!), only to finally find out that it’s not our fault, to begin unpacking the misunderstandings and lies we’ve dealt with, to look up from the wreckage of our lives to see the overwhelming challenge of healing before us… yeah, it’s no wonder it’s so rare for ADHD to exist without comorbid ODD, anxiety, depression, and so on-how could it not?
Wow, this is EXACTLY how I felt after being diagnosed at 19. The feeling of healing and figuring out the whole neurodivergence thing while still also feeling the need to catch up to those who are neurotypical or even our own expectation is exhausting when we haven’t even yet gotten to process and grieve the past.
Very well put.
I was diagnosed with ADD when I was graduating tertiary education and felt the same exact way. Thank you so much for sharing
this is messed up because this fits me exactly but i cant di anything about it
Makes sense being that RSD is not a legitimate diagnosis.
Hearing Minx talking about dissociating for funsies hits me way too deep than I want to admit...
I am a male diagnosed with BPD and ADHD too and I definitely needed this today! Thank you Dr. K and Justaminx! 🙏🏼💕
Me too definitely needed this, I'm still waiting for a full diagnosis. I'm told I do have a neurodevelopmental disorder which "could" be ADHD.
Thanks to the Doc & patient today I now realise that my frontal lobe is smaller,thus why I have difficulty taking in information/communication & responding. Great 👍
@@micky749 that must have been so relieving and shocking to hear! I'm wishing you wellness and peace on your path to hopefully receive a diagnosis! You're not alone in this 🫂
@@heyguidance Thanks Samuel, much appreciated.
It was more relief than shock because now I know it's not my fault why I get stressed & angry so that's kinda good. I'll get my full diagnosis in September, hopefully
@@micky749 yeah, it was never your fault! I'm happy to hear that! Just a few more months then 🎉
@@heyguidance 👍
I freakin love JustaMinx. I'm glad Dr. K. also thought she was so fun to talk to.
I'm glad these videos are potentially being made again. Despite the recent controversy with the channel, streamers sharing their experiences with mental health is something that has a long-reaching effect for the community. Shows we all relate. There is a way to communicate these ideas without overstepping boundaries.. Transparency in the intended motivations for engaging in discussion and overt disclaimers
Nice pfp.
What was the controversy?
@@Mackieee There were a few youtubers calling out the doctor for blurring the line between patient/friend, claiming that Reckful's sessions for example were mishandled, and that there is more manipulation going on than meets the eye. It's a complicated issue. I personally believe despite the underlying incentives he's trying to do an overall good thing. We're all human and prone to corruption given enough power. When there are a lot of people being helped out for the better, we should give the man the benefit of the doubt, while insisting on reasonable transparency
@@disheveling ah I see. The guy can only do so much, hes not acting as a therapist and he makes that pretty clear.. these are all consenting adults just talking about their life experiences. Just because hes a doctor doesn’t mean he cant not be at work when streaming lol
Yeah, but hopefully it won't just be mostly streamers. Still, I'm glad interviews are coming back regardless
BPD is too cruel, man. I hope every person going through it finds happiness and peace ❤️
I was given Oxy as a pain killer after I had open hear surgery. I was surprised that the hospital let me leave without so much as a warning. If I didn't know anything about addiction, I could easily see myself having gotten addicted to Oxy.
To be honest when I had my teeth extracted they gave me painkillers, and now I get why people were addicted to them, you just feel great.
@@seorwhite3333 see, I felt awful when I was on that stuff after elbow surgery and never wanted to take them again
Not a doctor but I thought the issue with doctors prescribing oxy was that they were giving too high of a dose relative to the injury/recovery. Plenty of people have been on prescribed opiates for multiple years without abuse, but that can be dependent on the doctor’s discretion as well as the doctor/patient relationship.
@@ToxicHorsePucky another issue is a medical predisposition to opiate addiction, people can be addicted after one single dose and so giving someone like that oxy is real bad also taking it for years will cause chemical dependence and cause withdrawals if you stop
@@seorwhite3333 fr, I hadnt done any drugs yet when i got my wisdoms out. I was floating off the oxys lol. Now i look back like damn tg they didn't give me too many
Finally conversations again... been about time xD tbh the best way to learn this stuff.
Im in the beginning of the episode so far and i want to make one quick note:
As a kid with ADHD, my meds quieted the absolute storm in my head. Ive always equated it living in a train depot or trying to cross the road on the corner of a busy intersection. Theres a constant din of chatter, loudspeakers that are unintelligible, trains bustling by or cars whishing past, someone's radio is turned way up and i can't quite figure out where the music is coming from or when it'll be safe to cross the road, o just know i need to get over there and there is no pedestrian cross button.
Most days, about an hour after taking my meds, Rush hour in the depot slows down and that busy intersection goes from rush hour traffic to light traffic and now I can see the cross walk and now theres a button. Meds just make it easier for me to hear my train ticket being called or makes it like ive pressed the cross walk button and now I just have to watch for the walking man traffic light to light up.
More possibly to come!
Let me be honest with all of you…if I could get rid of my ADHD, I would!
Same
Same mate I take medication but in reality I would rather do an a single intensive surgery if it existed
Same, I was diagnosed 3 weeks ago, started taking medication and I'm starting to feel the difference
Same, I have ADD. And same with my autism, its exhausting af and many people don't really know how different autism can be. I have a milder form of autism and many don't believe I'm autistic. It's complicated.
Yeah but there was this weird story of someone getting shot on the head and when they got to the hospital it got cured? Or it like went away but it was A LUCKY shot forgot the story or name of the person.
Not saying you should but its weird and lucky it happend.
Oh my god this might be the funniest guest on this whole interview series. I'm gonna check out her streams.
I love how Dr. K felt it necesasry to write Asshole, draw an arrow to it, and then underline it mid-conversation.
As a prolific gardener who goes on tangents to anyone who will listen about garden plants, the veggie garden conversation cracked me up. It's every conversation I have, given enough time to drift to plants.. But also if your lettuce turns bitter it's usually because it got too hot and started to flower! Lettuce and most leafy greens like cold weather :)
Lettuce farmer here, bitter lettuce occurs when the plant begins to bolt, bolting is when the plant will produce a shoot and then flower to reproduce, bitter lettuce is fine, just a bit less delectable, to ensure your lettuce quality, you pick leaves for about a week and a half after plant maturation, and then pick the whole head, that or just pick the whole head early on, plants are fascinating:) also ADHD gäng y'all
1:24:07 That was touching, you can tell she needed to hear that. You're both wonderful people.
Realizing now at 22 that my "spacey behavior" throughout elementary middle and high school (which still tends to permeate through my college experience) is actually inattentive ADHD has been...frustrating but also very enlightening. My therapist four years ago diagnosed me with depression and anxiety and I kind of just rolled with it and didn't look any further into it. Cue me realizing that I face a lot of the same issues as my roommate who has ADHD then researching symptoms and being perplexed at how many of them lined up with my experiences exactly. It's easy to go undetected when I already struggle with the executive dysfunction that comes along with depression. I always thought that those with ADHD _had_ to have hyperactive tendencies but evidently that isn't the case at all. I've since learned that it's very undiagnosed, especially in girls/women. It suddenly makes a lot more sense as to why the various antidepressants I've used have never done much of anything for me--while SSRIs raise your serotonin levels, they actually simultaneously decrease the production of dopamine. Aka the neurotransmitter that those with ADHD lack. Sort of a recipe for disaster.
lettuce turned bitter because it essentially sprouted. I grew some lettuce before, in the heat they'll sprout which changes the chemical make up of the lettuce, making it bitter.
This is such a fun interview. Then again, that's two people with ADHD, how ever well managed. It's bound to be jumping around topics and be enjoyable to watch (that is, as long as no one is very depressed).
W8. Dr. K also has adhd?
@@Dayrunner13 yeah, is he?
@@Dayrunner13 He said he had attention problems and would have probably diagnosed as having ADHD if he was tested as a kid/teen. And trusting his own assessment combined with like ~80% of kids with ADHD keeping at least some symptoms for life, I'd say he's ADHD enough to at least be able to follow such a jumpy conversation without any problems.
@@Dayrunner13 he said "Im kind of ADHD too" at 1:31:00, not sure if he means it clinically though
@@Dayrunner13 Not at all LMAO. He explained countless times that people with ADHD have a "wind" mind, wheres he has a "water" mind
Dr. K the ultimate healer is now back on the battlefield.
Crit heal is our religion
Damn it Dr. K your ability to understand the people you talk with hits beyond the screen even. I'm getting feels despite not suffering from the same issues. AoE healing at it's best. What a Sweet Potato you are.
I love when he knows he has to be serious and handles that so well
BPD goes from you’re my one and only favorite person ever to i can’t stand your sight in a couple of minutes and back to i love you when angy resolves.. i dated a psychiatrist and she couldn’t deal with or understand me.. no human and not even god can deal with being around this. it really hurts to feel forced to distance yourself from everyone because of how unpredictable and alienating and hurtful this mental illness is
1:26:06 "idk, I just did what you did, idk what you were doing" DR K SO WHOLESOME
This has been beyond the most helpful interview I'VE EVER seen on your channel. Not to say the others are less helpful, BUT THIS ONE speaks a lot to issues I've struggled with and many of my friends have struggled with.
I really appreciated how he worked with her throughout the entire stream. He keeps up with her pace and has LOTS of patience, empathy, and active listening, and still makes all the right points in a near flawless execution. Completely impressive.
I feel that Minx will watch this stream back many times in her life in the future (I would) and learn A LOT from it each and every time. I rewatch streams like these when I need A DAMN GOOD reminder!
So many great topics in this video. The seriousness of casually being prescribed something you could potentially become addicted to, and then dependent on it to function. Getting stuck in "black" thinking and having an ENTIRE day be ruined by failure or rejection. And lettuce! :D
I also don't think people without ADHD really understand what it is like. It's not so much a lack of focus but rather a very intense, uncontrollable focus on a single thing at a time and an inability to split that focus. I have to tell my friends all the time that I can't hear them when I'm reading/talking/listening to something/someone else. When I take my meds, however, it allows me to more easily direct where that focus goes (on top of turning the air around me a little thicker so that I cant vibrate as much) but it still doesn't allow me to split that focus or TOTALLY control it.
Watched this live, incredible interview and an amazing level of openness from Minx that I never expected. Would love to see her back!
I was really interested to hear what Dr. K was gonna say about splitting Adderall. Oh well, I'm sure he'll touch on it in a future video.
Yeah i wish he'd finished his thought
Splitting pills can cause an issue with absorption. Basically, the pill might not work at all...or be way less effective than it could be if you didn't break it. It's not recommended except for specific pills that CAN be split bc they are super fast acting and so absorb quickly anyway. A pharmacist will be able to tell you if you should never split them or if it's a med that can be split in half. Lots of them can't be.
For a lot of medications the distribution of the active substance(s) isn't guaranteed to be equal throughout the tablet, one part of the tablet could contain all of it or none at all, or it could contain an imbalance of multiple interacting substances causing side effects.
So glad the interviews are back! These seem to help me the most! Thanks for the video!
Yesss finally! It's been awhile since we've done an interview
Yeeees! So excited to see interviews again!
im also on adderall (20mg extended release) and i agree it doesnt rly change my ability to focus, more like it helps me not procrastinate? like when i have a task i need to get done i can instantly get up and do it, rly improves my ability to prioritize my actions over whatever my brain is going on about lol
i like to explain it like.. it doesn't help you think, or focus, it just helps you turn your thoughts into actions.
so like instead of thinking about cleaning my room all day, i'll actually clean my room.
These descriptions are both very accurate for me too.
I'm very grateful to Minx for sharing what she did. The way she feels in relationships down to the way she talks to Dr. K mirror so much of my past experience, and I feel a little bit less alone for that. Thank you Minx.
Yay, interviews are back!
If anyone else was confused like Mynx (and myself) while he was teaching the meditation, he did switch the order: At 1:28:29 he starts by going up. When he does it again at 1:29:02 (really fast) he goes down, and again at 1:30:24 he goes down again, where Mynx expresses her confusion! So if that tripped up anyone else, you're not alone :)
after watching this and googling more about “borderline personality disorder”, and hearing dr. k mention “emotional dysregulation disorder” and thinking for a few months that i might have whatever “emotional dysregulation” is, i didn’t realize they are terms for the same diagnosis. because of this video i plan to get tested for borderline personality disorder/emotional dysregulation disorder.
I have two kids with adhd, with one of them medication works wonders, it's like night and day. Around 3pm is when the difference is most visible; without it he acts like he's kinda drunk but with a lot of energy, but I've been teaching him that the medication is a tool not a solution, and he needs to learn ways to manage his brain also without it (adhd is a family trait, we have LOTS of experience finding solutions). But with my other kid, I'm not dead certain the medication makes any difference at all; and it may turn out that with the second kid it's not actually a chemical thing at all.
Yeah, there’s something like 20% of us that meds just don’t help (at least the meds currently available). Dr. Russell Barkley talks about Sluggish Cognitive Tempo being a variant of/confused with ADHD (but technically distinct) that doesn’t respond to meds.
Thank you Dr. K!!! I love your interview videos so much!!! I never use exclamations, so that shows how much I love these things! I'm so glad that the whole Mr. Girl drama didn't phase you, and if it did it only was a means making sure everyone involved is engaged with in the most professional way possible.
Yaaaay, interviews, I love them so much, thanks a lot Dr. K
I often hesitate before watching the ADHD VODs as I don't really feel concerned, but I always end up learning things that could help me.
Thank you for doing these discussions again. I get so much from this. I can't follow your lectures but these conversations are knowledge and understanding gold for me. Thank you!
This was an amazing video. I am so glad that you are doing interviews again.
They are so helpful to me.
When you talk academicaly about a subject, it kinda helps and it kinda doesn't.
In an interview, we get so see a real person reclecting on stuff you say and it helps so much more.
Also thank you for all your content, it helped me so much in my life and if there wasn't for you, I probably wouldn't have access to this stuff
yay the interviews are back. those are my favorite videos on here
this really made me realize how much im relating to Minx's bpd struggles, tho I kinda just said to myself "enough" and closed myself away from people and all the drama that always happens, but now even when I would like to be social again I think all that trauma from many last attempts are holding me back making it sure that I don't forget what can and possibly will happen again...
These conversations with streamers or viewers are so beneficial to me. I don't have bpd, or ADHD but I relate to some of this and just learning how to think through things and understanding myself and the people around me is so beneficial. Genuinely every single one of these interviews/conversations has helped me in some way and I've seen them all!
Glad to see you are bringing attention to these common issues that I feel like are often overlooked. Personnaly I would greatly appreciate it if you could maybe also talk about dyslexia ^^
A masterclass in having a conversation with ADHD
This is becoming my favorite channel. I’m having a hard time now and your content helps me hold on until I can figure out how to get help
This was such a good interview! Really enjoyed the interaction between Dr. K and Minx, and it really was so informational to help understand BPD and ADHD!
Really insightful episode! Loved the chemistry between you guys.
I'm really happy I watched this today.
In terms of BPD, I experience all of the things that Minx explained - to the extend that I experienced all of the anecdotes she gave, to a tee, just this week.
I’m really uplifted with the knowledge this session gave me, and thanks for giving me some tools to work on it.
Thanks Dr. K and Minx.
Also for Minx, thank you very much for opening up. I saw myself in you so much and this really helped me! ♥️
PLEASE - Add "BPD" to the title! It was probably the most helpful video for me considering that I might qualify for both ADHD and BPD - and there is less content for the second one for now. Great video, much love
Nice to see interviews coming back.
This was soooooo good. Really related to Minx and her issues with relationships and BPD and wanting desperately to connect with people but being so frustrated and stuck with feeling things like anger and rejection SO HARD so just giving up and isolating. I cried in the middle of Whole Foods on this part when she was being so honest and emotional. I hope she can continue with DBT and getting help bc she really is a special amazing person. Dr. K saves all!! Thank you so much!!!!
Yess the interviews are back!!!
Dr. K is so good. I love seeing his interviews, and I think this has been an especially good one.
This is so eye opening. I'm trying to go to sleep right now but I had to comment on how this, at least I feel has given me a massive insight into my own issues. Certain stress loops where I'm ultimately trying to satisfy someone(s) and beating myself up for even thinking in this way, and affectively tightening my grip to the point where it hurts me, and doesn't allow me to enjoy every day as I should.
Thanks Dr K and thanks Minx (I know it's 7 months old now) I really think this conversation could help unlock a lot more enjoyment from life, and hopefully help me find the field I'm destined to be in and make the impact I have so desired instead of working as a means to an ends, again thankyou both.
I hope there are more videos about BPD in the future. I know ADHD, depression and anxiety are more widely spread and relatable, but this was so informative and empathetic at the same time... I've rarely seen both in videos about BPD.
Thank you so much for this stream, both of you.
Mynx, you give me hope. Thank you so much for being here.
Been dying for a new interview!!
Minx is so funny and I relate to her struggles. Thanks for the fantastic hour you guys!
As someone that has been diagosed with ADHD and has suspected for several years now that I also meet the criteria for BPD, I felt this entire session so hard. So grateful for this extremely validating experience.
I just found these. I've been binge watching. Great content.
Big love to Minx. Thanks for this interview.
on the topic of Oxy: I live in Canada and somehow it's gotten to be that oxy is covered by our healthcare but other non-opiate pain-killers aren't. So doctors are encouraged to prescribe oxy because it's dirt cheap compared to any alternatives.
I know someone who went through a major surgery, was prescribed oxy for the pain and ended up throwing it out and just pushing through with zero pain killers because she was too scared to use oxy because she has a predisposition towards addiction and everything else was insanely expensive.
That's fucked up, wow.
I see Canada is less than ideal in many more areas that I thought, lately. ^^
As someone with BPD I really appreciate hearing Minx open up about this. I’ve been watching her content for a while so it makes me feel better about myself because it’s really hard to not feel constant guilt for my past actions, so I really appreciate this interview ❤
This resonated with me a lot. Thanks Dr K and Minx♥️
Holy shit you're incredible. My sister has BPD and she has given me the surface level explanation a number of times from her lived experience, but I'm very analytical and need to see the abstractions behind it and the way you boiled it down to the "and" vs. "but" distinction and essentially being unable to do divergent thinking made it completely click. My sister did DBT a number of times and eventually stuck with it long enough for it to have had a profoundly positive impact on her life, and I actually went through the DBT Skills Workbook myself to learn a bit of mindfulness as I have ADHD and difficulty regulating my emotions, but it didn't quite do the same thing for me that it was able to do for her. It makes a tonne more sense now. I score in the 92nd percentile for trait openness and divergent thinking is basically my default way of thinking and I suspect compared to the general population I heavily over-index on it.
Thank you both for this
This is the most ADHD stream I have ever watch. In a half hour they went from talking about BPD and ADHD to growing lettus and potatoes with a lot in between lol.
I think both the interviews and the other content is good for different needs. And this was a entertaining and quite interesting interview.
always happy to see minx, even better to see her on this channel! felt like I related a lot.
ngl this has been one of the most fun interviews
Sounds like Minx has a great mom, she was 100% right about being careful with Oxycontin.
The idea that adhd medication doesn't improve focus as much as it improves our ability to change focus more easily is fascinating and something I must agree with.
Oh man this was an interesting chat. I have been adhd since I was very young but just officially diagnosed as of Monday. Now medicating. Emotional disregulation. That’s been one of my biggest challenges with this disorder. I feel so big. So much. So often.
never thought id see this collab!!
Grow your lettuce hydroponically, you won't even need the dirt. There are even "curtains" of butter lettuce you can hang anywhere with sunlight(and power for the water pump).
I gotta do this for my guinea pigs, tired of spending $15/week on lettuce alone.
This is my favorite episode!!
The medicine takes the noise away. Stops the super highway of input. Dulls the sensitivity to sound and light. I distinctly remember the first time I took it, just quiet, for once.
this was extremely helpful for me as i suspect i have a personality disorder, but yet it feels out of control. but in reality its not my fault, I cant help it and it just takes time to unlearn.
A new interview babyyy!
i was waiting for interviews!!!
Don't wacthing streams but consuming streamer's content on youtube, I love the Minx roleplays, but I am glad to know her being herself too with this video! She seems like a nice person to have around!
Thanks for sharing, Minx.