It's probably not though. That's a kitchey line, but trama seems to lack consistent effects over time for modifying behavior. Who you are is mostly determined by your genes with environmental factors being one random, and two not consistent over time.
I really hope that people don't start trying to romanticize Niki's struggle or even pretend like they know anything about Niki after having watched this. She clearly would rather everyone, including her, to focus on her present activities and aspirations rather than the past. Respect the line, chat!
@Leonardo Newton a) what is wrong with people sitting on twitch and not talking? if anything, it should be the people giving them attention that you should dislike, not the people doing it. b) just because a streamer hasn't made their backstory public knowledge doesn't mean they don't have one. how many people do you know for sure that have had completely uneventful lives? c) why does a streamer need a backstory? do all of the streamers you enjoy have backstories? i obviously can't say for sure but I would highly suspect that this has more to do with the gender of the streamer than anything else.
@@thirtythreepi the difference is that there is no depth to the personality for those who sit and do nothing he isnt saying they have none but its the idea that they dont bother with it at all so at a glance there is none
@Leonardo Newton No offense, but you definitely haven't been exposed to many female streamers then. It's sad to see so many streamers with amazing skills and personalities get swept aside by ones who focus on catering to their male audience. It's not even a fault of the streamers (that's just survival), but rather a societal issue that a woman's physical qualities are more valued than their personalities. Even Nihachu, the awesome streamer that she is, was relatively unknown until she won Wilbur Soot's Love or Host. A lot of people still only know her from that. It's a lot better right now for women on Twitch than it was a couple years ago, but there's still a long way to go.
This was beautifully done by Dr. K. "You were wronged and it wasn't ok and you didn't deserve it and it doesn't make sense" I'm almost 100% sure that is the conclusion where he wanted to go MUCH sooner than he lead on.
This is simply gold. 1. Guest is super self aware, the talk went the best places really fast. 2. The analysis after the conversation just like a case review to learn to rekognize and help in these situations. 👌👌 One of the best interviews. I'm considering studying Psychology more and more thanks to you.
@@youtubeonly520 No clue where you are, but unemployment rates are incredibly low for psych majors here. It's also a science degree, not an arts one, just in case you somehow missed the last 50-70 years of scientific progress in psychology.
When they both started crying and Nikki finally kinda faced the truth about her childhood, it hits right in the feels. You can tell this was a suppressed emotion that that "voice" had told her for YEARS she wasn't allowed to feel. How the heck Nikki didn't burst into tears like crazy is beyond me. What an amazingly strong person. *wipes tears away* Anyways, back to watching the rest of the video x)
this was fucking beautiful, and has hit me places i didnt even know i had. abuse, selfdoubt, why i wanna please ppl, mental defense mechanisms like saying ''its ok'' when its actually not ok, addiction in family, ppl can fuckoff with telling me im good enough cuz ''i know im not'',. my brain feels fucked, and great at the same time. wtf ? WHAT DID YOU DO TO ME DR.K o.o
Hey bro, I'm on the exact same fuckin page right now. Unbelievable journey he took her and us on. My mind is fucking blown, and I'm looking forward to putting it back together.
I've been trying to do it, and honestly, it's pretty good. I had habits of being impulsive with my words and actions so it was nice to learn how to slow down
Its really important. Especially if youre a therapist trying to convey a certain message to people and lead them through a train of thought, to think about how you're going to sound to them. I noticed he does it a lot to decide which approach hes going to take to get a message across to whoever he is talking to
From experience, it can be harder to establish the new dynamic of pausing the convo in the existing relationships, but it's worth it. It's easier to establish it in the new relationships with people, so maybe a good place to start. People who are thoughtful will start to gravitate towards you, and people who have held their thoughtful insides hidden will begin to open up more to you, over time. Even people who dislike you & who you dislike can be understood better & interacted with better through this habit. Absolutely worth it.
As an abuse survivor, "57:40" helped me remember something I had learned from therapy. Neither I nor my therapist could change the past, but we were able to rewrite and transform the narrative I had for myself into something better.
That was such an amazing moment. We are watching her have an epiphany in real time. You can hear the catharsis, the emotional release, pour out of her. Just incredible to see
Watching nikki‘s content makes me sometimes uncomfortable, because she reminds me of myself. I have lots of similar issues. She makes me relate too much. That‘s why did not stop watching her. If you want to work on yourself, you have to dig on those unpleasant spots. Not everybody is fortunate enough to find a internet personality, that resembles you in some extend. I was really excited, when I saw this video (and worried). It was helpful, I‘m grateful for having access to such good and free content (,because I am broke and do not have therapist) c:
never read a comment more accurate. i still watch her but a part of me feels uncomfortable watching her because she reminds me so much of myself. seeing someone act so similarly to the way you do in so many situations seems so familiar and it can feel so oddly uncomfortable? watching this is so weird because i almost knew exactly how she’d answer the questions being given to her talking about the way she views herself because i see that in myself too
I would love to know why every single person/scenario I've seen Dr K talk to is so relatable? Is it because emotional turbulence has a very specific impact on humanity that it ties us all together in a similar way no matter who we are.
Wow, this may be overlooked and I’m sure many have said this and relate - but I am so thankful to have found these streams by Dr. K & every individual involved. Their time spent, hard work and rewards earned, obstacles included are graciously acknowledged. I feel like I’ve personally gained something by viewing this. Rarely do we experience something this palpable. No one can take this away because it was for me, the same way it was for each and every person who too gained as I did by viewing. Such an awkward way of saying thank you, but seriously I appreciate You Dr. K!
@@tyleralan1470 to be fair properly trained psych professionals should have a professional persona that will differ very much from their personal. Like just because someone is trained to be a good psychiatrist doesn't mean they're free of mental health difficulties entirely themselves. But obviously if it crossed over into her practice that would not be good
@@thatguyeatingchips18 in my country you can only become a psychiatrist if you study medicine, is that the case for your guys' countries as well? she studies psychology, so here she couldnt become a psychiatrist, but she could become a psychologist like lily says
This was an awesome interview! I really appreciated you saying it's okay to mention things both in german and english. Interestingly I often had problems recollecting words in my mother tongue and knew them in english and it helped me that I had a safe space with my therapist where I felt comfortable interchanging speaking in my mother tongue and in english. And also both languages had words that felt better suited to explaining some sensations, emotions etc.
Man this girl is literally the same age as me and has gone through a hundred times more hardship and somehow still came out stronger and more determined than I could ever hope to be right now, I have so much respect for her fr.
This came in at such a perfect time for me! Even if it was only briefly discussed, this helped a lot in deciding if I still want to continue down the path of becoming a psychiatrist.
I see so much of myself in niki when she talks about her experiences and I really didn’t realize how bad some of the things I go through are. It took me hearing what I go through from an outsiders perspective to realize that what I go through with mental health isn’t normal so thank you for letting me see that
Let me just say this. I am in Niki's mindset. This is mental. I hear what she says and with a few changes of actors in her stories and comparesons we get exactly what I feel like. It terrifies me. I know that I need help yet I'm still sometimes denying to call and remind my sister to give me and my parents the phonenumber to a doctor. I'm not letting myself get care from peopleand when I do i question who I am and I start desperatly pushing them away hoping they'll stop caring. I want them to love and care about me and when they don't I've got suisadal thoughts and want to punish me for not being good enough for them. The voice is telling me disgousting things that the people that i found that care deny. I'm stuck and can't get out. I put a mask of "I'm fine" on with (PS DON'T CARE ABOUT ME) written in the smallest font there is. I want to screem for help but I don't 'couse I think I don't deserve it. I'm just friggn' 14.5 years old. I should be able to grow normally and be a free young spirit and I end up like so. I'm cold. I'm empty. I don't wanna feel like it. I don't wanna talk to myself in the mirror imagining I've got a Twich or an UA-cam channel where I can talk about how I feel freely or how i become the voice and tell myself in the mirror or throught texts to myself on instagram terrible things. I wanna be happy what in my mind would equel feeling happy and that I am only when I'm making other people satisfied and happy. Well shit. What the fuck am I supposed to do. Thanks for reading if you did and please don't and do care. Edit: I went to a psychologist and a test that I took said i have moderate depression. She also said that i should go to a psychiartrist do i can get fully diagnosed and get a medicine asigned. We'll see how it goes. Oh! And I just wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone who reads this through and the one's who commeted. So THANK YOU!!!
i’m like that too. i somewhat feed off of other people’s energy even tho i’m more introverted. if i know someone isn’t happy then i can’t be until they are. that’s why i have started to hate being alone in my room for too long, because then i’m just in my head the whole time. just please don’t end your life simply because you can’t find happiness or fulfillment in the present or near future. you have no idea what tomorrow brings.
@@osborne6363 es geht darum das es ein englischer Kanal ist und das bedeutet das nur ein Bruchteil der Menschen die es schauen Deutsch können und es BS ist einen Deutschen Kommentar abzugeben und nicht ob diese Streamerin es verdient hat bei Dr. K zu sein oder nicht.
This interview really helped me understand myself. "The moment"was when Niki was talking about helping other people and making something good out of what happened to her - I've definitely thought that exact same thing myself - and Dr. K explained the subtlety of how that discounts her intrinsic value. I've never thought of it like that before! 🤯 So thank you Niki and Dr. K for helping me realize that! Now I'll have to go think about it and work on catching that thought when I have it. 🙏
Her story made me cry because I hear the pain in her voice and I'm impressed by the fact that she got through it and got strong she is really a special person to me ❤️
i loved this so much. how lucky we are to get to experience a conversation like that. i laughed, i cried, i learned so much. im i awe of people like dr. k, i would love to have subtitles for his thoughts whenever he asks "can i think for a second?" :) and man what a wonderful person niki is
It's not a Dr. K strream withouth them both breaking down in tears at some point. As always amazing to see you do your work. A great inspiration to us all.
honestly i loved this. i loved hearing niki talk and for some reason, this interview felt so different from others. i don't know if it was their dynamic or whatever, but it felt so comfortable and open
This is an amazing interview in so many ways! Big ups to the interviewed for sharing so much and working so hard on herself, this is huge. Best wishes for the future.
She interpreted the bit of her group of friends talking over her and the 3 friends who let her talk into lore, the group being L’manberg and the 3 friends being the Syndicate. She talked about this in a stream, idk i just thought that was interesting.
I learned so much about myself from this. I didn't realize that I don't ever spend time to just be myself. I make myself someone that the other people want.
This is my most favorite interview, Niki has so much self-awareness. I'm pretty sure we can give credit to the fact that she has been with multiple therapists. So if you are financially stable, I highly suggest you go to a therapy, even if you "don't have" a problem. P.S. no, I'm not a therapist trying to fish for clients 😆
niki is so intelligent and self aware that she was practically her own therapist with the assistance of dr k edit: some of y'all gotta chill, im not discrediting or disrespecting dr k (I enjoy a lot of his content), like of course everyone gotta have problems that they can't fix alone, im just SIMPLY complimenting niki for being a smart individual
Dr K would say that everyone he interviews is their own therapist with some assistance from Dr K. The interviewee does most of the heavy lifting and Dr K mostly helps them work through it. Niki's self awareness has definitely challenged Dr K in a great way!
1) Is that some sort of an achievement in your eyes? 2) The most important thing was Dr K revealing the "I want to help people" as really meaning "My abuse is OK as long as I help people", which is a defense mechanism that legitimises the abuse and neglect that she experienced, keeping her from destabilising feelings of anger at having been mistreated. I think it's great that Dr K pointed that out.
Dr. K is the kind of man who can talk for an hour with the most self-aware and well put together person in existence and still make them cry with new realisations. Dude is straight up the god of his field.
I can’t believe how much I relate to this woman, and her struggles. My therapist said those same words “you’re so resilient” and although it made me happy it hurt that I had to be so resilient. But it’s true… it makes me who I am today and I’m proud of who I am. Even with my flaws.
This was really helpful, I realize I have so much in common with her personality and it helped me understand myself a little more, thanks dr. k, u the best
I find it strange that having been in therapy for so long, none of her prior therapists got her to what seemed like such a simple realisation (at least from the outside looking in).
I went through seven therapists over eleven years before finding someone who understood me and could make themselves understandable in return. There are a lot of mental health professionals out there who have massive blind spots, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing! but it can make a patient’s life more difficult. Plus, simple realizations like that take years to build up to-while previous therapists couldn’t get Niki there, they did help her build the foundations for where that realization would go. pogChamp all around! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
From her description it sounds like she previously did a lot of DBT and mindfulness training and she says she was hospitalized as well, and usually the goal is to stabilize people and releasing them back into society as soon as is safe so they can help another person and a bed is free. All of this to say that all the different types of therapy do really different things, and to me this sounds like psychotherapy? I might be wrong. But if she has never encountered a therapist that does psychotherapy but only ones that do things like CBT and DBT then she would've never had this conversation.
The best part of that segment is that how he made the meta comment, pushed the conversation towards that goal of the meta comment, and he knew that damn well. Man Dr. K is so good at what he does.
Can definitely relate to Niki in the way of the perspective of people caring about you. I constantly feel like attachment is risk and am very adverse to it even though we as humans need it. Attachment invariably will result in loss at some point in time. Whether it be drifting apart from friends, breaking up with romantic partners and saying goodbye to a loved one on their deathbed. It’s soul crushing but it’s a way to prepare yourself for the pain of loss.
I’d love to know that Techno is getting therapy, but I feel like he is much more private than Niki and maybe wouldn’t be comfortable doing it on stream
LITERALLY THE BEST GUEST EVER. THE AMOUNT OF TIME I PAUSED WHILE WATCHING THIS IS INSANE. SHE IS WAY TOO GOOD W/ UNDERSTANDING HERSELF. THE SHEER DETAILING IS INSANE. EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT. THIS IS THE VIDEO THAT I WOULD SHOW TO PEOPLE WHO WANT TO KNOW WHAT THERAPY/PSYCHOLOGY IS AND WHY IT IS IMPORTANT. 10/10 A HARD YET MUST WATCH EPISODE.
Interesting. I noticed how she already is very self aware and has learned much about herself already. So most of the stuff they were talking about was not really new for her. But the one time she gets something new and a different way of thinking about herself it starts a cascade of thoughts and feelings and she suddenly gets emotional and potentially overwhelmed.
I don't know Nihachu at all but already after 20 mins I feel like she is such a great person, I shed a tear after hearing her story. Makes me sad to hear that such positive, caring persons have to go through so much but at the same time so happy that she endured that
This was an absolutely beautiful conversation that at certain points felt genuinely surprised that I, a stranger on the internet, was given privy to listen to. Thank you Nihachu and Dr. K!
It helped me so much. Thank you so much. I can't afford therapy for now, but i'm so grateful for your work. I struggle with similar things. Thank you so much.
This is far more revealing of my own struggle than I thought it would be at first. When he mentions how only people with bpd can see anger at 80% smiling it really hit me. It explains why i feel like the only one who can and does point out when others are masking suffering and being disingenuous. I don't ever mean to use that against others, my instinct tells me they are in need of assistance.
5:00 I actually think that expressing myself in English kind of helps me to speak much more freely about any issues, because the words I say register as much less emotional than the same in my mother tongue. It's a very hard to describe phenomenon, but it's like the filter is just not there, I can say anything, good or bad, without it feeling very severe to me. Anyone else feeling the same?
Yes I feel the exact same way. Speaking about my feelings in my native language feels very uncomfortable and I also get that “assumption thing” that he said alot because I think that I am alot more “literal” if you can put it that way in english and I see less ways the things I say can be mistaken as. My journal/vent book is also in English rather than my mother tongue because of that. I think there’s really alot of people who feel like that^^
Hey wonderful people, I really love this community so I wanted to put up what I have suddenly been struggling with and see if anyone has thoughts I guess. So a lot has happened to me in the last 3 years, like graduated high school, left a cult, became atheist, been to New Zealand and South Korea for other 8 months each, moved away from home, got my first job, came out of the closet, got a boyfriend, went through therapy, and have almost completely changed my world and political views based on what I actually think and care about. So much more, but there are the highlights. So like, a lot of crap goes along with each of those seemingly good things, but also a lot of amazing things obviously. After all this, all I want to do I help people by expanding their views and helping them work through their own struggles. I have always loved learning about behaviors and the brain so I wanted to be a psychologist, but I have recently been told that most psychologists don’t work with patients like I want to do, and that therapists that do make nearly no good money even with a masters or PhD. And that the best paying is Psychiatrist but is much more medical and drug related and barely gets to interact with and work 1-on-1 with patience to get them the best treatments, but just diagnoses and prescribes, which I don’t want to be stuck doing. So now, even after all this amazing stuff I have worked through and figured out in my life, I am hit with the supposed fact that what I want to do isn’t really possible according to the info I was given. I am still going through with getting my associates in Psychology by next spring, but now I don’t know what I’m going to do with it that will support me and still let me work with people like I want. I’m at the point were I feel more secure hoping my writing gets through and I become a published author before I have to fully commit in grad school. Have I been fed bad info for the psych work place? Or are my worries and freak out justified?
she's such a sweet person and so self-aware, i don't even watch many streamers but i do wish her the best of luck on her career and things she wants to do, she deserves it
this episode really hit me hard, i relate to a lot of what was discussed in this interview. niki is an amazing person and definitely deserves all she has accomplished just this past year :')
My god. When Dr. K said that when its okay to care about Nihachu's self, and that makes things even more real and everything that happened to her not okay, aaaaah. Thank you for all this insight. I was just initially chilling, but ended up with great and amazing information for a character in my novel. Nihachu and Dr. K, you guys rule. 💕
Holy crap this interview helped me on so many levels to process stuff that same voice in my head told me I wasn't allowed to process. I am glad I recently found Dr. K. He's been amazing for mentak health.
the more i watch these streams, the more i wish for you to be my therapist. or even to have BEEN my therapist. it feels like a lot of things in my life would've taken a different route, really. thank you for doing your job so incredibly well.
I'm definitely somebody who has a lot of self-awareness and also can read people very well. Because I pick up on things that sometimes other people just lose in passing, I am somebody that people tend to lean on or go to or even just talk to standing in a line waiting for something because something about me says that. So I also do what Dr. K said to Nikki, which is somewhat think I'm worth more the more people that I help. When he said that she had intrinsic value that hit me and resonated with me. I realize I kind of do the same thing. I feel like if I'm not always helping somebody or being the one that someone can go to, or going above and beyond and being that extra person that nobody's pushing me to be but I just kind of am, then I don't really have a ton of value. So if somebody doesn't need me or lean on me it feels like a bee sting. And I feel like I'm kind of worthless because I'm not helping somebody. It really has never occurred to me at this stage of my life and I'm around Dr. K's age, that me just being there even without doing something would be enough for somebody. No one's ever said otherwise to me but I just kind of always felt it. It''s crazy now where my thoughts are going realizing that was never the case.
the "You seem older than you are" comment reminded me of a meme from a fb page, where it follows it up with "yeah, thanks, it's the trauma."
i always use that response when people say that to me.
There’s also this meme about how to be a therapist: t r a u m a
It's probably not though. That's a kitchey line, but trama seems to lack consistent effects over time for modifying behavior. Who you are is mostly determined by your genes with environmental factors being one random, and two not consistent over time.
*Dr. K:* "Finally, a worthy opponent. Our battle will be legendary!"
Dr. Nikki and Dr. K
It absolutely was, holy fuck dude
Best Arc
Character development
if your therapist cries w you, they’re a keeper
Idk how but I read that as a creeper lol
@@m_ie8487 so we back in the mine, got our pickaxe swinging from side to side, side-side to side
No...
@@asmallguy6124 This task a grueling one
Hope to find some diamonds tonight (night, night)
Diamonds tonight
@@saad5590 Creeper?! Aww F**k
I really hope that people don't start trying to romanticize Niki's struggle or even pretend like they know anything about Niki after having watched this. She clearly would rather everyone, including her, to focus on her present activities and aspirations rather than the past. Respect the line, chat!
u sound like that guy
@Leonardo Newton a) what is wrong with people sitting on twitch and not talking? if anything, it should be the people giving them attention that you should dislike, not the people doing it. b) just because a streamer hasn't made their backstory public knowledge doesn't mean they don't have one. how many people do you know for sure that have had completely uneventful lives? c) why does a streamer need a backstory? do all of the streamers you enjoy have backstories?
i obviously can't say for sure but I would highly suspect that this has more to do with the gender of the streamer than anything else.
@@thirtythreepi the difference is that there is no depth to the personality for those who sit and do nothing he isnt saying they have none but its the idea that they dont bother with it at all so at a glance there is none
@@thirtythreepi Twitch thots are unforgivable, full stop. Try again.
@Leonardo Newton No offense, but you definitely haven't been exposed to many female streamers then. It's sad to see so many streamers with amazing skills and personalities get swept aside by ones who focus on catering to their male audience. It's not even a fault of the streamers (that's just survival), but rather a societal issue that a woman's physical qualities are more valued than their personalities. Even Nihachu, the awesome streamer that she is, was relatively unknown until she won Wilbur Soot's Love or Host. A lot of people still only know her from that. It's a lot better right now for women on Twitch than it was a couple years ago, but there's still a long way to go.
This was beautifully done by Dr. K. "You were wronged and it wasn't ok and you didn't deserve it and it doesn't make sense" I'm almost 100% sure that is the conclusion where he wanted to go MUCH sooner than he lead on.
Wait where was that said?
@@An1m0sity paraphrasing of the conversation around the hour mark
This is simply gold.
1. Guest is super self aware, the talk went the best places really fast.
2. The analysis after the conversation just like a case review to learn to rekognize and help in these situations. 👌👌
One of the best interviews. I'm considering studying Psychology more and more thanks to you.
I'm just about to finish my psych uni degree, there is a lot of writing but if you can handle that, it's super fun and interesting highly recommend
@@ItsConnor Thanks for the tip! Hope you do great on your finals then! :)
yesss get that meme degree
@@youtubeonly520 "Am I out of touch with education? No! It's those degrees which are memes!"
@@youtubeonly520 No clue where you are, but unemployment rates are incredibly low for psych majors here. It's also a science degree, not an arts one, just in case you somehow missed the last 50-70 years of scientific progress in psychology.
When they both started crying and Nikki finally kinda faced the truth about her childhood, it hits right in the feels. You can tell this was a suppressed emotion that that "voice" had told her for YEARS she wasn't allowed to feel. How the heck Nikki didn't burst into tears like crazy is beyond me. What an amazingly strong person.
*wipes tears away*
Anyways, back to watching the rest of the video x)
Is no one commenting on that glowing microphone? It's sick
Yeah I'd probably get distracted by it if I had one, that microphone is beautiful
this was fucking beautiful, and has hit me places i didnt even know i had. abuse, selfdoubt, why i wanna please ppl, mental defense mechanisms like saying ''its ok'' when its actually not ok, addiction in family, ppl can fuckoff with telling me im good enough cuz ''i know im not'',. my brain feels fucked, and great at the same time. wtf ? WHAT DID YOU DO TO ME DR.K o.o
Hey bro, I'm on the exact same fuckin page right now. Unbelievable journey he took her and us on. My mind is fucking blown, and I'm looking forward to putting it back together.
@@Pizzastealingninja Same thing here. I've gained so much insight from watching this video. Thank you Dr.K
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This was genuinely one of my favorite streams I’ve ever watched
Same, really touching 😊
Mine too.
Same here. 😄
Man this habit of gathering thoughts before starting to speak seems like a super nice thing to cultivate
I've been trying to do it, and honestly, it's pretty good. I had habits of being impulsive with my words and actions so it was nice to learn how to slow down
Its really important. Especially if youre a therapist trying to convey a certain message to people and lead them through a train of thought, to think about how you're going to sound to them. I noticed he does it a lot to decide which approach hes going to take to get a message across to whoever he is talking to
From experience, it can be harder to establish the new dynamic of pausing the convo in the existing relationships, but it's worth it. It's easier to establish it in the new relationships with people, so maybe a good place to start.
People who are thoughtful will start to gravitate towards you, and people who have held their thoughtful insides hidden will begin to open up more to you, over time.
Even people who dislike you & who you dislike can be understood better & interacted with better through this habit. Absolutely worth it.
As an abuse survivor, "57:40" helped me remember something I had learned from therapy. Neither I nor my therapist could change the past, but we were able to rewrite and transform the narrative I had for myself into something better.
57:40 and both cry. Such an amazing person Nikki truly is. And I don't even watch twitch.
That was such an amazing moment. We are watching her have an epiphany in real time.
You can hear the catharsis, the emotional release, pour out of her. Just incredible to see
I cried to 🥲
Loved this a lot. The people he interviews that are willing to be this vulnerable are incredibly strong, it’s seriously admirable.
Watching nikki‘s content makes me sometimes uncomfortable, because she reminds me of myself. I have lots of similar issues. She makes me relate too much. That‘s why did not stop watching her. If you want to work on yourself, you have to dig on those unpleasant spots. Not everybody is fortunate enough to find a internet personality, that resembles you in some extend. I was really excited, when I saw this video (and worried). It was helpful, I‘m grateful for having access to such good and free content (,because I am broke and do not have therapist) c:
If you’re looking for help, there’s this app called “youper” which really helped me
@@noashaham5438 I‘m in a good shape right now, but if I need help I‘ll look into it. Thank you for reaching out!
never read a comment more accurate. i still watch her but a part of me feels uncomfortable watching her because she reminds me so much of myself. seeing someone act so similarly to the way you do in so many situations seems so familiar and it can feel so oddly uncomfortable? watching this is so weird because i almost knew exactly how she’d answer the questions being given to her talking about the way she views herself because i see that in myself too
I would love to know why every single person/scenario I've seen Dr K talk to is so relatable? Is it because emotional turbulence has a very specific impact on humanity that it ties us all together in a similar way no matter who we are.
Ye I figured once I related to like 10 different interviews
pain is pain, mon ami
The human condition pog
29:09 This. I found that it was very relatable. People suddenly shutting up to listen to what you have to say feels weird.
I thought I was the only one that felt that way so I always thought I was the weird one
YEA SAME
I had no clue who she was going into this but she seems like such a lovely person, will definitely have to support her stream when I can!
u my friend sound like a simp
@@jae418 Why are you even watching this channel if you are like this?
@@jae418 And you sound kinda cringe.
@@DBZCinema2KHD did i hit a nerve?
@@jae418 Definitely cringe.
I honestly love how niki is so open and understanding of her past self
Wow, this may be overlooked and I’m sure many have said this and relate - but I am so thankful to have found these streams by Dr. K & every individual involved. Their time spent, hard work and rewards earned, obstacles included are graciously acknowledged. I feel like I’ve personally gained something by viewing this. Rarely do we experience something this palpable. No one can take this away because it was for me, the same way it was for each and every person who too gained as I did by viewing. Such an awkward way of saying thank you, but seriously I appreciate You Dr. K!
perfectly said! Took the words out of my mouth!
God I love Nikki. She is so sweet and strong. She’d make a great psychologist!
psychiatrist UwU and i agree!
hmmmm i disagree she does ALOT of blame shifting not a good trait to have
@@tyleralan1470 in what way? (not trying to be confrontational -just genuinely curious)
@@tyleralan1470 to be fair properly trained psych professionals should have a professional persona that will differ very much from their personal. Like just because someone is trained to be a good psychiatrist doesn't mean they're free of mental health difficulties entirely themselves.
But obviously if it crossed over into her practice that would not be good
@@thatguyeatingchips18 in my country you can only become a psychiatrist if you study medicine, is that the case for your guys' countries as well? she studies psychology, so here she couldnt become a psychiatrist, but she could become a psychologist like lily says
I want to be a psychiatrist too, this makes me so happy
fuck man. this made me realise some stuff with myself too. i relate to niki so much and what dr k said really helped me realise so much.
Yes, Niki! This was a crossover I never knew I needed in my life, but goddamn am I happy this happened. Such a good discussion!
This was an awesome interview! I really appreciated you saying it's okay to mention things both in german and english. Interestingly I often had problems recollecting words in my mother tongue and knew them in english and it helped me that I had a safe space with my therapist where I felt comfortable interchanging speaking in my mother tongue and in english. And also both languages had words that felt better suited to explaining some sensations, emotions etc.
Man this girl is literally the same age as me and has gone through a hundred times more hardship and somehow still came out stronger and more determined than I could ever hope to be right now, I have so much respect for her fr.
It's cool that you are rather respecting her than envy her.
Nikki is a really strong person, and i'm really happy for her and what she had achieved, I love her content and wish her everything well :D
This stream should be named Dr. K deals with a level 30 charisma streamer Nihachu.
This came in at such a perfect time for me! Even if it was only briefly discussed, this helped a lot in deciding if I still want to continue down the path of becoming a psychiatrist.
Mee tooo
You are making me nervous because right now I have started my final dissertation in Psychiatry x)
@@stefanopaolini1345 That's awesome! I hope things turn out well for you!
I see so much of myself in niki when she talks about her experiences and I really didn’t realize how bad some of the things I go through are. It took me hearing what I go through from an outsiders perspective to realize that what I go through with mental health isn’t normal so thank you for letting me see that
Let me just say this. I am in Niki's mindset. This is mental. I hear what she says and with a few changes of actors in her stories and comparesons we get exactly what I feel like. It terrifies me. I know that I need help yet I'm still sometimes denying to call and remind my sister to give me and my parents the phonenumber to a doctor. I'm not letting myself get care from peopleand when I do i question who I am and I start desperatly pushing them away hoping they'll stop caring. I want them to love and care about me and when they don't I've got suisadal thoughts and want to punish me for not being good enough for them. The voice is telling me disgousting things that the people that i found that care deny. I'm stuck and can't get out. I put a mask of "I'm fine" on with (PS DON'T CARE ABOUT ME) written in the smallest font there is. I want to screem for help but I don't 'couse I think I don't deserve it. I'm just friggn' 14.5 years old. I should be able to grow normally and be a free young spirit and I end up like so. I'm cold. I'm empty. I don't wanna feel like it. I don't wanna talk to myself in the mirror imagining I've got a Twich or an UA-cam channel where I can talk about how I feel freely or how i become the voice and tell myself in the mirror or throught texts to myself on instagram terrible things. I wanna be happy what in my mind would equel feeling happy and that I am only when I'm making other people satisfied and happy.
Well shit. What the fuck am I supposed to do.
Thanks for reading if you did and please don't and do care.
Edit:
I went to a psychologist and a test that I took said i have moderate depression. She also said that i should go to a psychiartrist do i can get fully diagnosed and get a medicine asigned. We'll see how it goes. Oh! And I just wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone who reads this through and the one's who commeted. So THANK YOU!!!
i’m like that too. i somewhat feed off of other people’s energy even tho i’m more introverted. if i know someone isn’t happy then i can’t be until they are. that’s why i have started to hate being alone in my room for too long, because then i’m just in my head the whole time. just please don’t end your life simply because you can’t find happiness or fulfillment in the present or near future. you have no idea what tomorrow brings.
@@xrei. Thanks for sharing your point. I'm still fighting and don't wanna give up just yet.
hey. so this will probably sounds annoying but i j wanna say it. you. got. this. you. can. do. it. practice thinking positively! sending a hug
@@itsraineingoutside thank u so much! Your support means a lot.
Same. You're not alone in this fight, you deserve better
Ja super! Hätte nie gedacht, dass mal jemand deutsches mit Dr. K redet :D
Immer dieser eine Deutsche in den Kommentaren 💀
@@Konvecz was ist schlimm daran, sei doch froh dass Nikki so eine Chance bekommen hat?
@@osborne6363 es geht darum das es ein englischer Kanal ist und das bedeutet das nur ein Bruchteil der Menschen die es schauen Deutsch können und es BS ist einen Deutschen Kommentar abzugeben und nicht ob diese Streamerin es verdient hat bei Dr. K zu sein oder nicht.
people :answering questions quickly.
legends: thinking for a long second. lol
This is genuinely a good talk to listen to about mental health.
I felt like I watched Dr. K play rope-a-dope until his combo meyer filled to max and delivered his special ultra for the final KO
so happy to see nihachu got a good grade in therapy, something both normal to want and possible to achieve :)
This interview really helped me understand myself.
"The moment"was when Niki was talking about helping other people and making something good out of what happened to her - I've definitely thought that exact same thing myself - and Dr. K explained the subtlety of how that discounts her intrinsic value.
I've never thought of it like that before! 🤯
So thank you Niki and Dr. K for helping me realize that! Now I'll have to go think about it and work on catching that thought when I have it. 🙏
Her story made me cry because I hear the pain in her voice and I'm impressed by the fact that she got through it and got strong she is really a special person to me ❤️
if dr k was my therapist it would feel as if i could talk to him properly without shutting him out.
i loved this so much. how lucky we are to get to experience a conversation like that. i laughed, i cried, i learned so much. im i awe of people like dr. k, i would love to have subtitles for his thoughts whenever he asks "can i think for a second?" :) and man what a wonderful person niki is
It's not a Dr. K strream withouth them both breaking down in tears at some point.
As always amazing to see you do your work. A great inspiration to us all.
37:10
niki: im so sorry!!
dr k: but can you explain that to me?
what’s being done here is amazing. I’m so glad I watched all of this and I hope to watch more of your content.
honestly i loved this. i loved hearing niki talk and for some reason, this interview felt so different from others. i don't know if it was their dynamic or whatever, but it felt so comfortable and open
This is an amazing interview in so many ways! Big ups to the interviewed for sharing so much and working so hard on herself, this is huge. Best wishes for the future.
She interpreted the bit of her group of friends talking over her and the 3 friends who let her talk into lore, the group being L’manberg and the 3 friends being the Syndicate. She talked about this in a stream, idk i just thought that was interesting.
She did?
Techno, Phil and Ranboo widepeepohappy :DDD
@@jean.5557 Yeah, i remember seeing a vod or clip about it. I forgot where doe.
YEEEEHHHH
I learned so much about myself from this. I didn't realize that I don't ever spend time to just be myself. I make myself someone that the other people want.
Can we have a part 2 please, I recognized myself alot in this one.
jesus this was alot to take in/follow i was thinking, damn only a short one of just over an hour, but there was so much more in here than longer ones
This is my most favorite interview, Niki has so much self-awareness. I'm pretty sure we can give credit to the fact that she has been with multiple therapists. So if you are financially stable, I highly suggest you go to a therapy, even if you "don't have" a problem.
P.S. no, I'm not a therapist trying to fish for clients 😆
In the middle of the whole process [video]
Dr. K: 'Aha! I've finally cracked open something about you, you worthy opponent!'
niki is so intelligent and self aware that she was practically her own therapist with the assistance of dr k
edit: some of y'all gotta chill, im not discrediting or disrespecting dr k (I enjoy a lot of his content), like of course everyone gotta have problems that they can't fix alone, im just SIMPLY complimenting niki for being a smart individual
@Some Words you dont need to have gone thru therapy for years to be self aware
Dr K would say that everyone he interviews is their own therapist with some assistance from Dr K. The interviewee does most of the heavy lifting and Dr K mostly helps them work through it.
Niki's self awareness has definitely challenged Dr K in a great way!
@@vizheroin Certainly helps
@@vizheroin calm down
1) Is that some sort of an achievement in your eyes?
2) The most important thing was Dr K revealing the "I want to help people" as really meaning "My abuse is OK as long as I help people", which is a defense mechanism that legitimises the abuse and neglect that she experienced, keeping her from destabilising feelings of anger at having been mistreated. I think it's great that Dr K pointed that out.
Dr. K is the kind of man who can talk for an hour with the most self-aware and well put together person in existence and still make them cry with new realisations.
Dude is straight up the god of his field.
I can’t believe how much I relate to this woman, and her struggles. My therapist said those same words “you’re so resilient” and although it made me happy it hurt that I had to be so resilient. But it’s true… it makes me who I am today and I’m proud of who I am. Even with my flaws.
This was really helpful, I realize I have so much in common with her personality and it helped me understand myself a little more, thanks dr. k, u the best
I find it strange that having been in therapy for so long, none of her prior therapists got her to what seemed like such a simple realisation (at least from the outside looking in).
I went through seven therapists over eleven years before finding someone who understood me and could make themselves understandable in return. There are a lot of mental health professionals out there who have massive blind spots, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing! but it can make a patient’s life more difficult. Plus, simple realizations like that take years to build up to-while previous therapists couldn’t get Niki there, they did help her build the foundations for where that realization would go. pogChamp all around! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
From her description it sounds like she previously did a lot of DBT and mindfulness training and she says she was hospitalized as well, and usually the goal is to stabilize people and releasing them back into society as soon as is safe so they can help another person and a bed is free. All of this to say that all the different types of therapy do really different things, and to me this sounds like psychotherapy? I might be wrong. But if she has never encountered a therapist that does psychotherapy but only ones that do things like CBT and DBT then she would've never had this conversation.
It's not therapists getting to realisations, it's the patient (YOU).
hoping to become a therapist hope to learn something here thank u dr k and team :))
Nikki (or is it Nicky?) makes very insightful and thoughtful response
Dr. K: **Shocked Pikachu face** Let me think for the 20th time
its niki :)
she has such an adorable laugh!! bringed me so much joy just hearing it
One of the best 'episodes' so far. Proud of both of them!
38:34 has got to be the most meta statement I’ve ever heard
This was just forshadowing lol
I think that multiple years of practice with Twitch "stars" gives you an easier access to the bigger picture.
The best part of that segment is that how he made the meta comment, pushed the conversation towards that goal of the meta comment, and he knew that damn well. Man Dr. K is so good at what he does.
Can definitely relate to Niki in the way of the perspective of people caring about you. I constantly feel like attachment is risk and am very adverse to it even though we as humans need it. Attachment invariably will result in loss at some point in time. Whether it be drifting apart from friends, breaking up with romantic partners and saying goodbye to a loved one on their deathbed. It’s soul crushing but it’s a way to prepare yourself for the pain of loss.
this was one of my favorites interviews, incredible
I know hed never do it but id love to see techno on here it would probably help him so much
He doesn't need therapy.. He's the Blood God.
I’d love to know that Techno is getting therapy, but I feel like he is much more private than Niki and maybe wouldn’t be comfortable doing it on stream
@@Rose-qw7if exactly
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LITERALLY THE BEST GUEST EVER. THE AMOUNT OF TIME I PAUSED WHILE WATCHING THIS IS INSANE. SHE IS WAY TOO GOOD W/ UNDERSTANDING HERSELF. THE SHEER DETAILING IS INSANE. EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT. THIS IS THE VIDEO THAT I WOULD SHOW TO PEOPLE WHO WANT TO KNOW WHAT THERAPY/PSYCHOLOGY IS AND WHY IT IS IMPORTANT. 10/10 A HARD YET MUST WATCH EPISODE.
My favorite Dr. K interview to date. thank you.
I cought it live but decided to watch from the begining later on youtube. Let the „later” become now :)
I love you guys!
Honestly, same, I saw that it was happening live but I decided that I wanted to watch the full story and really take time for it :D
This stream is very relatable and I'm glad bcs it makes me feel less lonely in this world 👌
Interesting. I noticed how she already is very self aware and has learned much about herself already. So most of the stuff they were talking about was not really new for her.
But the one time she gets something new and a different way of thinking about herself it starts a cascade of thoughts and feelings and she suddenly gets emotional and potentially overwhelmed.
Really like the theme, interesting guest and I'm actually German so this was fun to watch :)
Seeing niki and dr. K together brings me so much joy. Two of the most gentle and humblest people i know in twitch are together in one stream 😄
dude Niki literally speedrunning Dr K is so funny, he had to pause so much. what a great talk with a lovely & very smart person
I don't know Nihachu at all but already after 20 mins I feel like she is such a great person, I shed a tear after hearing her story. Makes me sad to hear that such positive, caring persons have to go through so much but at the same time so happy that she endured that
This was an absolutely beautiful conversation that at certain points felt genuinely surprised that I, a stranger on the internet, was given privy to listen to. Thank you Nihachu and Dr. K!
I wish Dr K would share his note taking process during interviews
niki is absolutely amazing and thats honestly all i can say
damn why does this description of a shell feel so damn relatable :( it's comforting knowing other people have this mean voice
It helped me so much. Thank you so much. I can't afford therapy for now, but i'm so grateful for your work. I struggle with similar things. Thank you so much.
Man i keep being amazed by the work DR.K is putting into the community, incredible idea
This is far more revealing of my own struggle than I thought it would be at first. When he mentions how only people with bpd can see anger at 80% smiling it really hit me. It explains why i feel like the only one who can and does point out when others are masking suffering and being disingenuous. I don't ever mean to use that against others, my instinct tells me they are in need of assistance.
5:00 I actually think that expressing myself in English kind of helps me to speak much more freely about any issues, because the words I say register as much less emotional than the same in my mother tongue. It's a very hard to describe phenomenon, but it's like the filter is just not there, I can say anything, good or bad, without it feeling very severe to me. Anyone else feeling the same?
Yes I feel the exact same way. Speaking about my feelings in my native language feels very uncomfortable and I also get that “assumption thing” that he said alot because I think that I am alot more “literal” if you can put it that way in english and I see less ways the things I say can be mistaken as.
My journal/vent book is also in English rather than my mother tongue because of that.
I think there’s really alot of people who feel like that^^
Wow. That explains why I always talk about my trauma in English 🤔
Yo, I thought that I was the only one like this
What a crossover again. This was so insightful to watch. Thank you
Hey wonderful people, I really love this community so I wanted to put up what I have suddenly been struggling with and see if anyone has thoughts I guess. So a lot has happened to me in the last 3 years, like graduated high school, left a cult, became atheist, been to New Zealand and South Korea for other 8 months each, moved away from home, got my first job, came out of the closet, got a boyfriend, went through therapy, and have almost completely changed my world and political views based on what I actually think and care about. So much more, but there are the highlights. So like, a lot of crap goes along with each of those seemingly good things, but also a lot of amazing things obviously. After all this, all I want to do I help people by expanding their views and helping them work through their own struggles. I have always loved learning about behaviors and the brain so I wanted to be a psychologist, but I have recently been told that most psychologists don’t work with patients like I want to do, and that therapists that do make nearly no good money even with a masters or PhD. And that the best paying is Psychiatrist but is much more medical and drug related and barely gets to interact with and work 1-on-1 with patience to get them the best treatments, but just diagnoses and prescribes, which I don’t want to be stuck doing. So now, even after all this amazing stuff I have worked through and figured out in my life, I am hit with the supposed fact that what I want to do isn’t really possible according to the info I was given. I am still going through with getting my associates in Psychology by next spring, but now I don’t know what I’m going to do with it that will support me and still let me work with people like I want.
I’m at the point were I feel more secure hoping my writing gets through and I become a published author before I have to fully commit in grad school. Have I been fed bad info for the psych work place? Or are my worries and freak out justified?
I wish this would’ve went deeper for another hour or so. This was gold for me
she's such a sweet person and so self-aware, i don't even watch many streamers but i do wish her the best of luck on her career and things she wants to do, she deserves it
this episode really hit me hard, i relate to a lot of what was discussed in this interview. niki is an amazing person and definitely deserves all she has accomplished just this past year :')
My god. When Dr. K said that when its okay to care about Nihachu's self, and that makes things even more real and everything that happened to her not okay, aaaaah. Thank you for all this insight. I was just initially chilling, but ended up with great and amazing information for a character in my novel. Nihachu and Dr. K, you guys rule. 💕
Holy crap this interview helped me on so many levels to process stuff that same voice in my head told me I wasn't allowed to process. I am glad I recently found Dr. K. He's been amazing for mentak health.
the more i watch these streams, the more i wish for you to be my therapist. or even to have BEEN my therapist. it feels like a lot of things in my life would've taken a different route, really. thank you for doing your job so incredibly well.
this feels like free therapy for me lmao, I cried so much, I'm glad I found this
I am amazed, I could've never expected a conversation such as this
I'm definitely somebody who has a lot of self-awareness and also can read people very well. Because I pick up on things that sometimes other people just lose in passing, I am somebody that people tend to lean on or go to or even just talk to standing in a line waiting for something because something about me says that. So I also do what Dr. K said to Nikki, which is somewhat think I'm worth more the more people that I help. When he said that she had intrinsic value that hit me and resonated with me. I realize I kind of do the same thing. I feel like if I'm not always helping somebody or being the one that someone can go to, or going above and beyond and being that extra person that nobody's pushing me to be but I just kind of am, then I don't really have a ton of value. So if somebody doesn't need me or lean on me it feels like a bee sting. And I feel like I'm kind of worthless because I'm not helping somebody. It really has never occurred to me at this stage of my life and I'm around Dr. K's age, that me just being there even without doing something would be enough for somebody. No one's ever said otherwise to me but I just kind of always felt it. It''s crazy now where my thoughts are going realizing that was never the case.
Actually one of the best interviews
Bruh, went to check comments and realised I'm early
same lol
same bro
Same lmfao
Hello, brothers and sisters, may all of us enjoy the interview
you just stopped me scrolling xD I'll just thank you in advance
This was a really good session.
this video did not just make me realize that the reason I have so much anxiety about my current partner is that they genuinely care about me- I-
this helped me so much.. holy shit.
I LOVED LOVED LOVED this
We need her back
what a glorious episode, I really enjoyed watching it
Awesome upload. Unreal channel!