“Shut up Mom” - Fatherlessness, The Biggest Epidemic in America
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- Опубліковано 28 тра 2024
- Patrick Bet- David explains why strong fathers are the most important part of society. The fatherless crisis in the US affects millions of children and families, leading to various challenges and requiring a multifaceted approach to address.
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Its not just fatherlessness. The biggest problem is parents do not act like parents anymore.
It's too much work very few are willing to go through it like my mom and dad did.
Most of that came from emasculation of the father.
@@missthang4982it’s a clear observation, all the tv shows etc… I’ve seen women berate the husband..
And it's even worse if a single parent doesn't act like a parent. See, I fixed that for you.😉
@@missthang4982”im a stat girl” Yet yo ur discrediting all the stats pat has included that supports the claim to fighting against. 🤣🤡
I've been a criminal defense attorney for over 30 years, and never met a client with a strong father figure.
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That’s some strong observation and spot on!
Majority colored people ?
@@neverbeforeseenvideos2249 Poverty is the great equalizer. While I have represented a lot of people of color. My white clients in Kentucky had the same problems. It's not a race thing, it's a culture and poverty issue.
Really? Not even Jodi Arias, Chandler Halderson, Grant Amato? Get a break from this bullshit
Fatherlessness and mother’s mental health. Both are worth a conversation.
So true 👍
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This!
I think mothers are better mothers when a father is involved.
Lol
Delivering products with his kids. This is a 300 Million dollar Man. What he is teaching his kids, it’s worth its weight in Gold.
What he is teaching his kids is weightless... But it is worth the wait.
There is nothing more important than a strong father. People can say what they want, but a father is absolutely necessary. Without the father, there is no family. Period. And I do not want to hear anything about single moms.
Single Moms make Great Strippers ❤
Uhh water is more important uncle
If you are speaking of the Holy father you would be correct. I had a strong father but he was unholy. When I grew up I embraced my holy Father who should be the true leader of a family.
Pat, your journey is changing. I pray for your success. This video expresses an equation that requires introspection and direction. Great video. # Father of an Indian family 😊
@@Groovey-kj6eu we are talking about family Mr Groovey, not Biology
As a father, I now realize how important having a father in your life is. I grew up without my father as they were divorced when I was young, and when I moved with Father, he passed away a year later. I was fortunate to turn out the way I did, considering the circumstances. With my son, I see how important I am to him and his development. I will always do my best to shape him to be a good man
I had a very bad husband but he was a good father. I suck it up because my son needs a father and it was my responsibility as a mother to make sure he had both. I divorced him after my son was 18 and left for college and can see for himself and understand that it was not good for my wellbeing. My son is successful and is a good father and husband, all glory to God. His dad had passed away 10 years ago and I forgive him and got my friend to lead him the Lord a month before he pass away. God is good.
I’m hoping that your definition of teaching him to be a good man includes the fact that killing women and children is evil and demonic.
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@@Kanafa-lf2ys Most people already know that dawg.
Same boat. The amount of stuff I do with my kid daily and the noticeable progress she makes makes me realized how disadvantages fatherless kids are. The addition effect is how much better off the mom when there is a dad who can tag her out so she can get some rest.
I didn't grow up with my father. But I was very privileged to grow up with my grandfather. Hes taught me so much, including how to value myself.
One of the greatest mentors ...Its amazing how you can be mentored by a guy you never met , millions of miles away ..Thanks PBD
It’s two things: fatherlessness and fathers who are there but aren’t good fathers anyway
True
To some extent this is true but mostly not. I'm one (4th) of five sons in a family. I'm now 65 y/o. My father worked long and hard. Rarely was he able to personally be present for our activities when we were young. However, he was still present and asserted his influence. Only when I was older in my adolescence did I have the opportunity to spend more time and get to know/see who he was by going to work with him. Note, this time would be far below what today people consider the bare minimum at home involvement. I soon recognized my father was Never Absent! He was taking care of the necessities/provision for us to have close, a roof over our head, food etc., at the expense of his daily life energies, and the opportunity to be personally with us. He was always there! He never used the word "sacrifice" with regards to his family. Do you hear this mothers? Why? Because he gave of himself to something he held as a greater valuable them himself: His wife and children. From my father I learned I had value because I saw it in his eyes and what he did in action for us. He wasn't a perfect man but I thank God for the Blessing he was (RIP) in my life. Thank you Dad, Thank you!
The stat is.... A kid with even just an average father in the house is more likely to succeed. He doesn't have to be "good." He just doesn't have to be bad.
To some extent this is true but mostly not. I'm one (4th) of five sons in a family. I'm now 65 y/o. My father worked long and hard. Rarely was he able to personally be present for our activities when we were young. However, he was still present and asserted his influence. Only when I was older in my adolescence did I have the opportunity to spend more time and get to know/see who he was by going to work with him. Note, this time would be far below what today people consider the bare minimum at home involvement. I soon recognized my father was Never Absent! He was taking care of the necessities/provision for us to have close, a roof over our head, food etc., at the expense of his daily life energies, and the opportunity to be personally with us. He was always there! He never used the word "sacrifice" with regards to his family. Do you hear that mothers? Why? Because he gave of himself to something he held more valuable them himself: His wife and children. From my father I learned I had value because I saw it in his eyes and what he did in action for us. He wasn't a perfect man but I thank God for the Blessing he was (RIP) in my life. Thank you Dad, Thank you!
To some extent this is true but mostly not. I'm one (4th) of five sons in a family. I'm now 65 y/o. My father worked long and hard. Rarely was he able to personally be present for our activities when we were young. However, he was still present and asserted his influence. Only when I was older in my adolescence did I have the opportunity to spend more time and get to know/see who he was by going to work with him. Note, this time would be far below what today people consider the bare minimum at home involvement. I soon recognized my father was Never Absent! He was taking care of the necessities/provision for us to have close, a roof over our head, food etc., at the expense of his daily life energies, and the opportunity to be personally with us. He was always there! He never used the word "sacrifice" with regards to his family. Do you hear that mothers? Why? Because he gave of himself to something he held more valuable them himself: His wife and children. From my father I learned I had value because I saw it in his eyes and what he did in action for us. He wasn't a perfect man but I thank God for the Blessing he was (RIP) in my life. Thank you Dad, Thank you!
Best gift my father gave me was loving and respecting my mother !
Very important for a child to see and feel.
@@Mbaby5187Indeed because how you treat your woman is how boys will treat thiers and girls will expect to be treated.
It’s the father who brings a total other side of life which I can’t provide as a mother… I am glad to have a loving and responsible father for my daughters…
You know even if he wasn't the best father, society will blame you for his shortcomings. I can see how there are more women not opting for a traditional family.
@@Andrina-fl9ef EXACTLY ...I am so sick of men getting praised for existing.. meanwhile women take the blame even when men take no responsibility.
Im glad we have mothers, too. Its a truly complicated puzzle - mostly i always arrive at the point that being a motherbis the most important thing one can do in this world.
However, its paid the least. Materially, of course - in the usual case.
I discussed with a friend that we should invest in mothers as a society. A capitalist structure doesnt care about motherhood, but we should. No mother should worry about how to pay her bills until her kids are raised.
Then again, you shouldnt do it for the money.
Tricky. In the end though, without mothers, no capitalism at all.
We need to build psYchologically informed and driven societies!
Be it in law, business, politics and personal matters.
It all starts with the kids. And the kids... come from mothers! 🙏
You are a Moral Example Yay
@@Andrina-fl9efmost today women are selfish
If any one of us 8 kids said "Shut up" to our mother we'd be dead. Ok, maybe not dead but we'd wish we were after my dad got us. There was no cursing, and no talking back. We couldn't even roll our eyes. But all in all, I'm so grateful for my upbringing. There were no blurred lines on how to behave and that in itself prepared us for the rules of life.
Edit after reading comments: Trust me, we respected/feared our mother as well.. We wouldn't dare talk back to her .With my parents, it was a double whammy situation.
Lol, yup! My dad dead and gone and I still wouldn't dare to tell my mom to shut up.
Did he protect you from becoming 🌈?
@@Therebelliousprince001 WTF is wrong with you?
Interesting and it has nothing to do with the "Dad" ...it's what was allowed and not allowed in the house. Both my kids are more worried about speaking back to me and no boundaries around their dad and we are a whole family.
My husband wouldn't need to do Jack if any of our children said that to me! Trust me!
My parents split after my brother and I were born. My dad was given full custody and he wasn’t perfect but I am SOOO grateful for the judge that gave him full custody! My dad taught me so much. He made sure we were educated and he also taught how to be a wife and take care of a home. Now im a happily married homemaker with a beautiful family! So grateful for my dad! I love my mom too btw!
My father died suddenly when I was five. I was never taken to his grave. I spent my childhood watching my older brother abuse my mum, who consistently tried to commit suicide in front of me whilst blamimg us both for my dad leaving her with us. I never recovered but take pride in being a good father to my beautiful 9 year old daughter. I lost a big part of my soul, but it's my problem not hers.
It’s possible to recover lost parts of your soul
@dmystfy still trying at 46. Thousands of hours of meditation, shamanic soul retrieval, eft, accupuncture, hypnosis. I've just purchased a piece of molvadite, and it's definitely helping too!
Trust Jesus; He truly is the answer. ❤ find a version of the Bible that works for you and let the pages come alive to you. The Father, Son & the Holy Spirit triune God is the best Father you could ever ask for. Let Them heal your heart, mind, body and soul. ❤@simondennis9460
People have a choice to not bring kids into this crazy, stressful, expensive world. The world is already overpopulated anyway.
"When your mother and father forsake you, the Lord will take you in" Psalm 27:10 my mom hated me and my father didn't want to rent with us unless my mom moved w us. I don't hate my mom, even though her mental illness accused my husband of raping our oldest (at the time only child). She did so much harm to everyone around her. The Bible and Jesus Christ was my only consolation. I had no one to talk to. I'd cry myself to sleep every night. I hope you find consolation in Jesus holy name, friend. We have a God sized emptiness in our hearts until we allow God to fill it. I believe if it weren't for God she wouldn't be stable. She's a good grandma but I find it so hard to say I love you.
I've seen a mom of seven children whose husband died when they were all young. Every child turned out to be respectful and responsible. She Raised her children right and corrected them when needed. I wish her husband would have lived and that all 7 would have got to know their dad. Some women can raise boys and girls alone who are awesome. It would have been easier with a dad as a team.
Exactly this.
True. My mom did that. But i wish someone was there to not let me do the wrong things, my mom couldn’t stop me. I still came out fine, but could’ve been better. Not her fault.
Your comment takes away than you think it contributes.
I too was brought up in the same situation, last of 3 boys now men and my mom tried her best but she still needed that masculine figure in the house, luckily we all saw her trying in her own way,
We ard all responsible, but seeds of my fathers memory shaped me. I know for a fact i would be better if he was still alive though I think I turned out okay
My dad left when I was a baby and thankfully my uncle stepped up and helped raise me in the early years. My uncle was my father figure, my rock my hero! He got me into sports and encouraged me to succeed. I had the greatest mother ever and she did everything to raise me! It was a struggle but both taught me work ethic! Every child should have an uncle like I did! He eventually married and had his own family and passed away in 2022.
I want to add that the grandparents can be important influences in a family. When we moved to our daughter's Town her house was in chaos, the kids were fighting and having tantrums all the time, her husband was sitting with his phone all the time, and she was the only one cooking, cleaning, doing anything. We started talking about the Commandment "honor thy father and mother", and that includes your grandparents, your aunts your uncles, your teachers, and anyone else who has authority over you. We started directing the children: set the table, ask to be excused from the table, carry your plate into the kitchen and scrape it; take out the trash, pick that mess up, let the dog out, don't roll your eyes at us, "what did you say?". Her family changed churches and with their improved religious instruction things straightened up within a few years. Her husband also changed for the better. He stopped yelling at her "in do it in a minute" meaning after you nag me a couple more times, then I'll do it sullenly. Our role changed to positive reinforcement and the parents were able to direct. Things are good now, praise God.
Well said, often the grandparents make a huge difference.
They are so lucky to have you. I wish this type of influence were always the case.
This is why being near positive family role models are pivotal...you helped save her and her marriage by giving her family community and accountability..salute
Can be? They're literally suppose to teach parents how to teach.
I spent so many years wandering around with no purpose when my parents split up. I found myself looking for direction and unfortunately idolizing the wrong people. I pray that everyone who watched this becomes the change that is needed for the next generations to come ✊🏽
I am so thankful for my husband. His parents divorced when he was 2 years old and hr never saw his dad. Even today, his dad couldn’t care less about him. But my husband is the most devoted father to our 2 boys, ages 14 & 10. They will never say that he wasn’t there for them or that he doesn’t love them. They are so lucky and so am I.
My boys will be about 4 years apart. Do your boys get along?
I wish my wife cared I was around.
He was more than likely influenced by a strong male role model uncle or other male. Even if a father isn’t present a positive male role model can be enough to keep a boy from becoming a criminal.
Awesome 🙏🏼❤️
Never Say NEVER 😎 Justin Bieber
As fathers, we need to raise up, & even TRAIN our kids, especially our young boys. Instill your belief system in them, teach them honesty & integrity!!!✊️
We as fathers NEED TO keep on our kids!!!
I'm not a Father but I've worked as a Childcare Provider and mentor, from newborns to 9th grade. I've recognized the lack of strong, caring Fathers and good, men in the family. The ramifications are obvious and the things happening in our society really hurts my heart, salute to the good Fathers, we are important fellas.
if the good men held the bad men accountable for abandoning their kids instead of making excuses our society would be better off. how about we jail men for abandoning their kids like they jail women for abortions
There are questions to ask before you arrive at Men abandoning children and the most important is: DID the Man marry the Woman before they had a child?. If he did not, then the foundation is already broken. Men take responsibility that they had prepared for
My baby momma kept my kids from me for 19 months til I finally got my day in court. The courts were still 100% biased against me. But since I’ve had my kids back in my life I have been the father my 6yo boy and 4yo girl need me to be and MORE. My relationship with my kids would make you think I never hadn’t seen them. They love and respect me more than anything maybe even more than baby momma. I love them more than life itself and I will show them til the day I die
Good man.
Should have been marriage, wtf is a 'baby momma' anyway.
Trash.
God bless you
Glad you're doing better with your life and with your children the fact is you must admit to the sin of fornicating with a young woman and causing those children.
Most single mothers are selfish. They also don't love their children, or they wouldn't go above and beyond to keep their children's fathers out of their lives.
If fate didn’t bring you a father, it’s because you don’t need one. To everyone with pain in their chest, you are warriors for your families. You have undiscovered strength within you. Stay strong.
I grew up without both parents. It sucks so bad that I always feel insecure and depressed
Sorry to hear that bro. Something that I started doing a year ago is every day I add one thing in my notes in my phone. I do one thing about myself, any other person and about the world that I’m grateful for. I originally wanted a list of things I like about myself I could read when I felt depressed and not I feel so much better in general.
"Not going to lie, my grandfather used to take me to the cemetery as a child to visit his parents and grandparents. He taught me about their roles in our family's history, and we would pray and give thanks together. Now, I have a 1-year-old son, and I’m grateful for the awesome inspiration that I’ll be implementing. 🙏
My dad had custody of my sister and me, but he didn’t let us disrespect our mother. I can’t even begin to imagine what my dad would have done if I would’ve dared even *whispered* “Shut up, mom!!” to her!
Fathers react this way because he is defending the pussy..men care about their pussy than kids
I am a single mother. My ex husband, my daughter’s father only likes to be involved when he can come across as the “Disney dad.” It’s exhausting being both parents. I applaud you for raising strong children. I’m trying my hardest!
Pick better next time.
@@ChickityChicken thank you for the a decade to late advice. I can tell you have a hard time keeping your mouth shut…I can’t imagine knowing you in person 😂
Women have a hard time with accountability when it comes to picking the partner they breed with, unfortunately.
Maybe behind the scenes he's grinding to be able to give the child an experience when he shows up. As a man you don't just want to show up empty handed just to be in someone's face. He probably feels lesser than if he can't deliver something that he in his mind thinks is special.
Naw pick better its fucked up to date narcissists stop being a horrible romodel and get better.
As a soon to be 41 yo man who’s father abandoned us when I was abt 12. The absence of a father is detrimental. My mother was strong! She did her best. But 2 boys you need a father to 👊🏾 some sense into you. My sister though spoiled . You still see “daddy” issues with how she handles life. Now I am a father ( 8 months) hardest job in the world but I know my duty is TO BE A FATHER‼️🎯
Amazes me how women open their legs to Chads, have their children and then someone else (man) comes in to help cleanup the mess. Most men don't abandon their children/families. They are highly protective of them. There are only a minority of men who would leave but women find them attractive while looking past the "good guys." Only to come back later to the "good guys" after they gave it for free to Chad.
As a stepfather who never felt welcomed; it does suck, but last weekend I got a wake up call from the 15yr old. His father yelled at him and told him “he needed to respect him because he’s his dad” (his father was around but not around).Child in return said “ I(ME) am more of a Father than he his”. Broke me but I realized I did my job.
Thank you. 💖
Dude, this is disgusting. This isn't something to get a stepdad trophy over. That kid has a dysfunctional life. The praise you got is secondary to the mess of life he needs to be healed from. If you want to be honorable, teach him to not talk back to his father, no matter what. And stop jumping into single mom's life chaos. Shaking my head
Not sure about that one, no one knows the circumstances in the child's life. The father could of been a deadbeat abuser, so why should the kid respect him.
Hope every ones good either way
@@mikesolns1364Yeah that's a secondary issue. He can have a talk later with the kid about how much he should still? "respect" a guy that blew a load then ditched his family. Respect is EARNED and it doesn't matter who you think you are.
Kid is 15 and he's figuring things out for himself, as he should. He's giving StepDad the respect he EARNED.
Sounds like YOU have your own issues you're butt hurt about.
@@MissChievousRN Ok cat lady
If teaching a kid to be honorable no matter what isn't valuable to you, then you're part of what's wrong with the world today. And that says all one needs to know about your issues
I'm a father of a 7 year old boy who has severe adhd. Part of this is that he gets uncontrollably angry, and he literally cannot control himself.
Shouting at him, just didn't and doesn't work. When he's having an episode you have to learn to just try and manage his behaviour until he comes round.
It's pretty depressing having to manage a child behaving so badly.
My point is, sometimes when you see a kid melting down and behaving terribly it isn't always a lack of s father. Sometimes the kid just has a problem.
Yeah, I think people can get the wrong idea on conservative parenting and be ineffective. My son is similar and when I went too hard at him, it didn’t work. I do focus on spending quality time with him, and if he starts acting up, I find when I remove him from the situation and he has to calm down on his own. That’s the most effective..
BS you need to be firm but fair, kids don’t do that stuff unless they’re testing you or he is in charge of stuff you do and adhd is a diagnosis that does not mean you pretend you can’t parent your son because of a so called disorder that literally everyone has some sort of
Be sure to remove sugar products from the diet. You'll see improvements in his behavior.
Don't give me excuses. You as a parent should be able to diagnose him and control ALL of his actions- ADHD or not. Otherwise, if he messes up, it's all on YOU, you disgrace of a parent. I'm being sarcastic, of course. I hear you on this because parents being blamed for everything wrong the children does is ridiculous. Sometimes despite the best effort, the child will still succumb to peer pressure to make bad choices or poor decision making due to chemical imbalances, etc...
I think he's talking about in general, And I agree with him.
I met a Rabbi/Priest that works in a prison and asked him what all the prisoners have in common. He said majority never had a stable father in their life.
Pat is a stellar Dad, husband and host. People working at Valuetainment are fortunate.
Grew up without anyone or anything. Thank god I found myself 7 years ago. Now I'm wildly successful, healthy and fit. Love life. Stay Uncommon!
My dad the best most loving father in the world!!!❤ he was a pastor and made sure we respected my mom and were responsible in school, home, and church. Dads are extremely important
You should know that fatherlessness doesn't mean that the father is not living with the child. It also means that the father has no parental skills, don't know how to communicate, teach their kids, take time to throw a ball or teach them how to mow the grass or change oil or support the child with words, etc....
So, why did she decide to spawn with this man? Was she considering her perspective offspring at all at the time? Most men work hard preparing themselves to be able to acquire, provide for and protect their perspective families long before he meets his prospective wife/mother of his future children. Many women only seem to have the children in mind as an after thought.
@@DFDX1001wow... Blaming the woman for the man's failures. Why wouldn't the man try to communicate with his children? Why would he choose to watch tv when his children were fighting and screaming and making a mess? Why would he let his wife do everything and then turn around to blame her for his children's fatherless behavior? She might choose him because he's a good husband. But sometimes a good husband does not make a good father
My son's dad died while he was growing up, but he remembered that dad did not ket anyone disrespect me. After his dad died I did not date, but made it my mission to give him as close to a two parent upbringing as I could, especially focusing on having good men around him. He played sports and was in boyscouts through high school. He got to do lots of adventurous things in scouts. The scoutmasters and coaches were awesome to him. Some of the little league dads would even take turns staying for his games and cheering for him
Luckily his pop pop stepped in and taught him so much about being a man and was always there for him. My son has grown up to be a good man that I am very proud of.
My boys would never have dared in front of their dad. My youngest tried it at 17, his dad wasn't there, & I put him out the same night. It hurt so bad I cried for days, but I couldn't do anything else, especially for his sake. Took awhile, but the day came he apologized, straightened up. Both our sons are strong men & in the ministry now, but it didn't come without a lot of pain, lots of discipline, a lot of love & a lifetime of prayer.
I had my two oldest girls four nights a month because I was on active duty and apparently aren’t able to care for my kids. My girls are 17 and 15…I tried and it broke my heart when my oldest said “Dad, I’m sorry what my mom put you through, and I’m sorry for treating you the way I did, I was being manipulated by my mom.” My two younger kids I get four nights a month and it’s very hard to want to stay in the area anymore, I’m tired of not only watching my kids grow up from afar but I’m tired of the women trying to degrade you every chance they get. Judges should not be in control of our kids future anymore, a jury should decide.
I have been in nonstop litigation for 4 years fighting to have the ability to play an active role in my daughter’s life and it’s been a nightmare. My ex left me and took our daughter with her when she was 7 months old and I couldn’t do anything about it because even though we had been together for over 5 years at the point, we never got married and in Ohio that means the father has zero parental rights. and moved 2 hours away with our daughter when she was 7 months old, and even though we had been together for 5 years, we never got married, and as a result I had zero parental rights.
To say the Family Court system is biased is an understatement.. it’s a giant charade and a money racket that does not care at all about a father’s role in raising children.
I finally was just able to get 50/50 visitation and custodial rights after my ex finally accepted a proposal that entailed that I would continue to pay the same amount I had been paying all along in child support, move within a 15 minute radius of her, do 100% of all transportation, provide all health and medical insurance, pay for 85% of all out of pocket expenses not coveted by insurance, and grant her as the final decision maker in all disagreements with medical, school, and religious decisions.
The crazy thing is that when she explicitly told me that she would eventually have sole custody after she met and introduced another guy to out girl months after leaving, I saw the writing on the wall and had offered almost the same exact deal (minus final decision making) and it was never considered nor entertained.
The amount of money that was spent towards court costs, attorney fees, GALs, and a Parental Evaluator exceeded 45k.. this is money that I worked hard for and saved for my daughters future. Instead it went to attorneys and pensions funds for the judges.
Some things are priceless tough.. and during these four years.. I missed my daughter’s first words, first steps, first Christmas, and countless other memories. Im couldn’t be happier that this is over and I can help raise my daughter. I feel so sorry for anyone going through similar situations because words cannot describe the mental and emotional pain and suffering that any parent feels who loves their child endures when they are cannot play an active role in their lives. M
Wow. Glad you could do that.
A friend of mine got broken in that situation. Lost everything and couldn’t recover.
as a 46 year old father of 8, who grew up with a singal mom, it hasn't been easy but I've done something right and still at it ✌️💚
Awesome 🙏🏼❤️
8 children? wow, I have no children and my life is still difficult and exhausting, how do you do it?
@@Jason-Austin it seemed more difficult when I was younger and I guess it was, but it's what we're supposed to do, honest communication, love and discipline follows those. don't listen to all the noise and BS, if you need advice ask another parent with happy adult children ✌️💚
@@Jason-Austin embrace the exhaustion, you don't need as much sleep as you think, your life will get way easier
Great video leading up to father's day. Dad's have a very very important role in their children's life.
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I did that once, my dad (RIP) knocked me into the next year. I don't even remember that year. My husband did the same with my son, he told me to shut my fing mouth and his dad almost tore the house down trying to get to him.
Fear is a good thing.
Not to that degree it's not. Do you think he respects either of you any more after that?
I told my mom to “shut up” several times because she has made incredibly selfish decisions which have negatively effected my life. Parents need some accountability. Also snapping and screaming on the top of her lungs for something so insignificant, this is constant.
My Dad knew she was wrong and therefore didn’t intervene. Not all situations are the same. My parents are Indian btw, for context. There’s a lot of worse stuff but Im not sure if I can talk about it here..? My Dad is not a great person too. Im not ungrateful, Im a realist. But some parents need to be held accountable for their wrong-doings. Just because you’re 40 something doesn’t mean every decision you make it mature and right. And life will be a little different once you realize how many adults are not really adults, but just kids acting like adults in adult bodies
Sorry to say May be your mom is a narc . I see a lot in our Indian families. Btw I’m Indian. Too
@@vv-cv6ud she is a narc. I know she is, thanks though. Are your parents the normal strict indian parents lol?
Same thing narc parents... No accountability whatsoever
Sounds like he is encouraging you to be disrespectful to her. It suits him.
@@MD.orion1 no thats not what happening. Sounds like you grew up privileged with happy parents… not everyone has good parents. I obviously know the difference between good parents and selfish parents. You think everyone is all nice and happy? Bruh grow up experience the real world, its darker than you think but there’s some positivity. Be realistic.
I totally agree that fathers play a very important role in child rearing. However, sometimes it is better if the father is absent in the children’s lives. I raised my children as a single mother. Their father was an abusive alcoholic. At age 4, my son was asking if daddy was going to kill us. My daughter at 2 started barricading herself in her room. By the time, I divorced him when they were 6, all 3of us had ptsd. I got a restraining order and restricted visitation. My parents helped watch them while I worked. I put them in church programs and at the local women’s shelter. They have their issues and scars as both have panic attacks, but they have jobs and have both graduated from college. My daughter has been married for 10 years. The school teachers looked out for my children. One teacher told me that my kids were like normal kids because I got out. So a good father is very important but no father is better than an abusive one. I have remarried so they do have a father figure in their life, but they were starting college when I remarried
There are good dads out there, but the opposite can happen as well, and quite frequently. I have seen where the husband is the one telling the mother to shut up, so the kid does the same, and it is encouraged! Why do you think the women are single in the first place? Not in all situations grant you but very, very commonly!
I feel every word of this. I am not a perfect parent. I have yelled at my boys. They ( as teens) intermittently don’t respond until I do. My husband has blamed me for their ( not all) but intermittent not wanting to be around me on this dynamic. . But what I see over many years of these patterns is a forced role reversal by me to have the anger and volume level of a dad while being in a feminine role, desperately wanting to have been able to be secure in being the “ soft mom” knowing that the “ wait until your father gets home” was all I needed to say. Instead, it’s been about 20 years of undercutting and him garnering favor, sticking it to me for staying home and I feel resented. He was raised in wealth. I was not. I had a successful career where I was assertive, led teams and produced results. I set goals. I tried to instill this in our children. But what I’ve gotten from their attitudes is that I don’t have inherent wisdom or value or sage advice to give them because I don’t “work.” Now where is that dismissive attitude towards a mom coming from? I have many married friends who are SAHM with husbands who ( by appearances- of course, impossible to know inside marriages because you’re not allowed to talk about it) who have alpha male husbands who seem to enjoy being go getters and providers which allows their wives feel safe, secure and respected. They CAN be demure, feminine, soft. Their kids would never talk back, argue or condescend to them, especially in public. Moms need to feel secure to be strong in their nest. Without alignment there, it is intermittent hell raising multiple children ( especially boys) in their teens. They NEED strong men modeling, (not telling them) how to be successful, how to do it by example. Moms need the permission to be the soft landing because that is what they want- to be treasured. Dividing a child against their mother by not being on the same page, diminishing her purpose and reward after years of raising children is the worst pain, other than being displaced from her home (current situation). I needed to write these words down today. I feel alone, invisible and trapped in a cycle that I am desperate to break free of-I do not want this to be the pattern/scenario for the rest of my life. There is NOTHING more attractive than a man who does not make excuses, is confident, follows through on his promises, reveres and treasures his wife. As soon as the daily attitude is “I don’t have time for” or “I have to,” lies by omission or avoidance and prevent your wife( or children ) from questions about elephant in the room, you become a person, once full of life, who now sits in silence with her eyes down at the dinner table, knowing that no conversation about either challenges or even those dreams, plans you used to have are to be discussed together. Strong fathers AND husbands are essential.
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Maybe the couple has to take some kind of specific test before having kids to determine whether they are ready to raise them. Being a parent is a big responsibility but also a big blessing. God Bless our children with Wise parents.
I've never once told either of my parents to shut up or cursed in the same room as my parents. I think that's so wild that's the norm for some families.
I think children need both parents, I think single father and single mother are both very bad. In a two parents household the feminine has to balance the masculine.
As a girl who grew up without the father, I have more dignity to myself than any woman who grew up with a father. I know how I don't want to be treated.
This is timely. What about a father who does not back up a mom who is told that and worse when imposing consequences, like taking away a cell phone for back talk (with warnings) resulting in her calling him at work for help and consistency only to be told “ both of you, stop arguing” relegating her to being like the child rather than the authority or “I don’t have time for this.”
Brings tears to my eyes the way you talked to your daughter. Wish I had a dad like that. My dad was around, but just. He seemed resentful of his own children. I wasn’t wanted.
Excellent take on why masculinity is needed in every household.
❤ LOVE PBD on this topic! More 🏆 please 🙏
My father was a pastor who passed away due to covid. His teachings and corrections I always question. Thank God he was hard on me because I understand now what it means to be a man. By the grace of God, I have my newborn son. I pray God guides me like he guided my father.
My parents are still together 39 years strong, I am a father of a 3 year old and 1 year old boys, I believe I am blessed and lucky to have the foundations; I appreciate you taking the time to highlight this essential part of life 🙏🏼
Thanks PBD! Excellent take!
If GPA or formal education was an indicator of success then why aren’t those people the highest income earners. I went to 4 continuation high schools (kicked out of every one of them) and I’m a multi-deca millionaire at 41 years old. I would teach my sons to take risks early, literally the opposite of college, if they want to be highly successful like their dad. Just my two cents.
PBD, as a retired vet I thank you for doingbthis! Within the first 5mins of this video you had my teary ayed man! I can tell you're an amazing dad. I wish I had a dad like you growing up. This is why I admire you!
I’m a huge fan of this type of content. As an 18 year Air Force veteran who left to be a more present dad, I love this! Too many people hear this and think we’re saying moms aren’t important, but that can’t be farther from the truth. I event started interviewing dads who are entrepreneurs to talk about this same thing! Keep it up!
It’s so true. The one and only time my father hit me was when he overheard me talking back to my mom when I was about 16 years old. He cried afterwards and said “that slap hurt me more than you”. We both cried together.
Being raised by a single feminist mother with weak substitute fathers, I unfortunately had to learn many lessons late in life. I'm doing my best to instill proper values in my son. He is now attending Texas A&M with a 3.71 GPA iin computer science they only go to 4.0. He has 3 black belts lifts every day he is very responsible and respectful. His mother abandoned us years agoe. I have had to abandoned money ,ego, and women. It's worth every sacrifice. It's ade me a better person. I'm more proud of him than anything I have ever done.
This is so Valuable what you did! 👏👏👏Thank your support is priceless an precious ❤️🩸👁️👁️✅
Thank you PBD….you are a good father to your children👍🙏. Children who learned good behaviors at a very young age….will become good citizens🙏♥️🙏♥️🙏♥️
My dad was an aircraft mechanic in the US Navy in World War II.
He was also a boxer in the Navy and a quarterback for his high school.
If we told our mom to 'shut up', we would wake up on the floor.
My dad went to go get milk when I was a kid. Never saw him til 20 years later, and found out I had a little calf brother.
lol, hoping "calf" was a typo.
Translation: Your mom was probably a terrible person.
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@@bzb8554damn imagine leaving your child in the care of someone who is a terrible person, so much for being a “protector”.
@@apaddy5390 he clearly didn't want the child, therefore it wasn't "his." Learn how reproductive rights work, and keep up.
Man great video! My father is definitely the reason why I’m successful today. Reason why I don’t need validation from the world
infinite value from this PBD, thank you! I'm blessed to have my father in my life , wouldn't be an entrepreneur without watching him get up at 4am everyday...
I'm around this all the time, just this weekend i was with a bunch of boys, and mine were the only ones with a dad. My voice was needed to maintain any order at all, and i was very low key about it. This wouldn't be a problem if there wasn't a cultural thing going on where people want to reject and denigrate male influence. At least try to force yourself to fill that role (yes, fake it) if there isn't an older male around to help. I'm in no way saying don't be divorced or a lesbian, just don't be angrily contemptuous of social dynamics you don't/won't try to understand.
I know I'd be terrified at the thought of solo raising a daughter, knowing for sure id miss important stuff. Seeking help would be a desperate mission. The wild confidence i keep seeing on the other side of this is saddening.
I am as Iranian American came to America during Shah and when President Nikson passed away I took both of my children to Yorbalinda on first day at his memorial after 14 hours of waiting in line to show our respect to one of the best man who was very intelligent and good president specially he was good friend of Shah of Iran and we wanted to pray 🙏🏻 for him and show our kids how to appreciate when such great man passed away
Best thing I've seen in ages. Thank you. Shared.
My step mom who would pick me up 3 hours late after school not feed me breakfest lunch or dinner. As a 7th grader i was supose to make my own food. So when i tell her to shut up your not my mom......
Yep...a Dad can be a provider & around, yet not be there 😢
Pat had a conversation about boyfriends and relationships with an 8 year old?
Love Your content just sent this video to my dad! Ready to send it to my son’s ❤️
You so spot-on. Am a father of two daughters, and with all going on, you appreciate being around as a father - showing love yet setting limits - responsibilities they have got to use to ...
The worst thing that can happen to any child is losing his/her parents.
Man, those fatherless-home stats hit the heart 💔. All men need to see this!
PBD I can't think of a time were I haven't got value out of your video, I feel like every father should watch this video and understand how important we are for our kids.
Thank you Patrick for this great video. You are being a great father. It takes a lot of hard work to be a good parent..blessings to you, your wife and kids.
My Dad would have knocked out my teeth if I told my Mom to shut up! He was a wonderful father who taught us to "NEVER DISRESPECT YOUR MOTHER"!
Apparently you are a strong supporter of violence!
Does that teach you to respect your mother?
@@viktoriyaserebryakov2755 My Dad never hit us, but he let us know if we ever disrespected our mother, the consequences would be severe. It made me believe he would knock my teeth out if I ever did. Get a grip! Yes, this taught me to never disrespecty my mother.
@@martalefave3231 That's not what I asked. So YOU get a f"cking grip don't get mouthy at me. Read the question again.
A moral strong father who is involved in his children’s lives is by absolutely necessary
Patrick, it makes total sense that you have over 5M followers on your channel. Like myself, you are a no nonsense guy, and you address real life situations that are both relevant and impactful. I so appreciate this particular post on Fatherlessness in America ( and its ramifications). High, High Kudos to you, and I greatly applaud you teaching your kids the real meaning of Memorial Day.
Instead of treating your son or daughter worse than everyone else, you could find out why they told you to shut up and what the problems actually are in their lives and how you can make it better between the two of you, instead of taking some lofty, high & mighty, arrogant, hurt someone to get them back, petty BS which doesn't even uncover anything and is unethical, might makes right garbage, parent's should be above that, we all should be above that.
I've been watching valuetainment for years, but all him videos are directed towards marketing all of his companies now.
Yea fatherless .. not the corruption or the fact that 3 families own more wealth than the bottom 50% of all ppl ...
You're a good father Patrick. I pray for you and your family to have not just success, but peace and prosperity. God bless you, keep doing what you're doing.
This is one of the best videos that I've seen so far this year. Bravo!
I had a deadbeat dad but my grandpa who fought in ww2 took over and taught me to be a real man.
This is the biggest issue in the black community where upwards of 70% of children are from single mother homes. The incentive to divorce their husbands and leave the child of the father with no good reason so child support is waiting for them has ruined families in we America. Bring back real families with fathers.
Yep, destroying the black families. Also, child support is not a lot.
60 percent of marriages end in divorce in 5 years, so the white community has the same issue, just takes a few years longer.
This seems like a media based statistic. Every black father I know has custody, whether sole or shared, and play an impactful role in their children's development. Media 'always' exploits or exaggerates the statistics negatively regarding one specific community. Start paying closer attention to what you see/hear. Media will focus on the economically challenged within one community, which leaves an impression of all. At the same time, media will compare that to the behaviors of non-economically challengd in other communities. Once this is recognized you'll find behaviors, as a matter of available resources mirror one another.
I hope this is taken as an opportunity of enlightenment and not a condemnation. We have to stop the stereotypical divide.
Unfortunately 40% children in the US are born out of wedlock. They never had a father.
It's 80%...
Great job! Thank you for your leadership and awesome father example. Blessings ❤️🙏
Dear Pat, I’ve been following you for a very long time. Maybe from the very getgo. I’ve been blessed by you, first and foremost - and by your team as well. This segment about parenting is just GOLD. Pure wisdom. We’re parents to 14 children, ages 18 on up to 37. This will be shared with my children- as I often do -who themselves are starting families of their own. God bless you. And yes - FUTURE LOOKS BRIGHT 🏆
And these women still choose these men xdd
Single mom's are not Einstein's
Have a society that pushes men away from their kids unfortunately:
Absolutely got value out of this . Thank you PBD for enlightening us on the most necessary of topics
There's a reason why the family structure requires a father and a mother...nothing else will do.
I was fortunate enough to have both parents in the home while growing up. We were poor and went through many challenges, but my mother cared and nurtured us, while my dad worked hard to put food on the table.
However, that's not all he did. He was a man of faith, character, value and honesty. Those were all important attributes that he tried very hard to pass along to us.
My parents are no longer here, but their love and values continue to live on with us.
What better wealth and legacy can you bestow to your children?
Thanx mom and pop for everything...will always love you for it!❤️🌹🙏🏻
My dad would fire Chris Cuomo for being a liar and hurting his business's reputation.
Amen to that
😂 nice
I have no strong view on this. But this is a good one.
Did he cancel the live debate?
Not a fan of Cuomos past but I trust PBDs judgment on him
Dear Patrick,
Thank you for all the great content and even greater knowledge you share with so many time after time.
I am a first generation Cuban american from Miami FL and in my occupation as a local truck diver i pass right in front of Valuetainment Headquarters more than a couple of times a week on my way up to pompano from ft lauderdale.
I feel so proud n honored to see the very location where you produce the content that you put out to the masses because it truly is full of value, amazing lessons and spot on takes.
There is no such thing as Clickbait or deceitful clout chasing based content when it comes to your channel and for that I thank you.
You are a great role model and inspiration and i hope you continue to reap much success in all of your endeavors as it is much deserved.
God bless you.
This is my favorite video so far, thank you.
So grateful I have parents that raised me correctly! Thanks for reminding me how my Dad has also been that rock for me too!
Great video PBD , love being a father and all the challenges that come with it, when I was growing up my dad was my hero and still is today