Divorce Mauritania Style | Unreported World
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- Опубліковано 11 тра 2024
- Unreported World meets the women of Mauritania beating the stigma of divorce and throwing lavish parties to celebrate. Reporter Ayshah Tull finds out if divorce culture and women taking multiple husbands is as empowering as it sounds.
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In Mauritania it’s thought half of all women here get divorced at least once. In this West African country, steeped in Islamic heritage, local tribal traditions have normalised the practice of women ditching their husbands with many remarrying multiple times.
In the historic city of Chinguetti, Tull meets Teslem Milid who at the age of 26-years-old is about to celebrate divorce number four. With music, dancing and social media, Teslem announces to prospective husbands that she’s on the market. Most marriages here are still arranged by the women's parents, but Teslem says she’s determined to find husband number five herself. As the dust settles on the party Tull hears from Teslem’s mother, also divorced, that cutting the knot here still isn't without its risks.
Travelling from the desert to the capital, Nouakchott. Tull discovers the unintended legacy of divorce, including the high levels of divorced mothers struggling to feed their children. But despite the challenges some have found a way to support each other by creating a divorce economy.
Producer/Director: Wil Davies
Series Producer: Andy Lee
Executive Producer: Ed Fraser
Production Company: Channel 4 News
No moaning,just pure joy to get out of abusive relationship.Thank you,,Next
You're literally assuming there was abuse AND these ladies were just innocent victims.
@@ericpowell4350 if they are celebrating,,it must have been horrible situation they got outta I guess
Did you mean mourning 😂😂😂
It’s always the man’s fault ain’t it? And the kids suffer.
I can marry a divorcee or a single mother.
Marriage is not game that you get in when it’s good and jump out when in hard times.
Any society where divorce is celebrated should be the last place u got to find a wife.
As society becomes more matriarchal, the women become more promiscuous, divorce rates go up, single motherhood goes up, and the society stops progressing.
it most definitely wasn't abusive.
There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've found out that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort them out. It was a tough period, but we survived.
I really get why what you're saying matters, and I honestly want to find happiness too. I've got a partner, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine life without her; my love for her is strong. I really miss her, and I'm fully committed to bringing her back. We've explored different paths, like therapy, to fix things.
Releasing someone you love is always a daunting task, but in my situation, I had the support of a spiritual advisor who prevented the disintegration of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Your guidance is well-received. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; her absence is keenly felt.
You definitely should
I like the 'we' in your phrase.
When both partners in a relationship are committed to a long-term relationship,they work things out-not 'he' or 'she' work things out.
'They.'
'We.'
Very important!
'My ex husband shouted at me so I left'
🙆♀️🙆♀️ And now she's looking for husband number 3.
Daaaaaaamn gurl!
😂😂😂😂
This is not funny. They're married off very young...that's what happens when you yell at children...leave.
@@GOTravelhannel
Yes and no. Some are married off young but not all.
As an African too we've grown up in settings where our mothers and grandmas knew how to press those buttons and thorough beatings! We didn't leave.
Imagine if all women get shouted at in marriages, do we just walk out? She's looking for her 3rd husband, darling, the first two men can't be that wrong.
At times we need patience and proper hidaya in our lives because divorce isn't something to be happy about all the time. What about children sired in all those marriages? The cycle will continue as long as some of these women have glorified divorce to be a norm!
You also saw the woman who was divorced while pregnant and her child is now 4 weeks? There's no child support but this one got divorced because of being shouted at? Naaaaah..
@@_MuniraAli I understand "patience", every relationship should have that, did you realize how you contradicted yourself tho? Your moms and grandmas never had patience, and now you're wondering why others don't? You were a CHILD you couldn't leave, it wasn't about patience, make that very clear. No one should stay in a violent home, you used a terrible example
@@diamond4270
Maybe you misunderstood me. I meant while growing up under those women who resolved matters through beatings and yelling, we endured it and learnt alot too hence the strictness that they had made some people upright! I meant that if we handled that, can't someone bear some sabr? Some women in marriages really know how to yell and shout at their children and husbands. Communication is off. We've been raised differently and shouting at someone shouldn't be condoned as there are proper ways of handling issues but it shouldn't bring about divorce.
Imagine she's looking for husband number 3 and she'll get him InShaAllah. What if she's shouted at again, how much marriages and divorce will someone go through to finally come to her senses? It boils down to your upbringing too.
I lives in Mauritania, to be realistic this country is not a place to get marry. Being a good man is not a guarantee for the survival of marriage in this country. The only thing that can make marriage stable here is for the husband to accept full control by the wife and her family members. Being a figurehead husband is the only thing that will make women comfortable to stay in the marriage.
This is ridiculous. There is no such thing. What is wrong with these women
even if the woman is educated?
If women are free to get divorce that means more chances to get away from domestic abuse. I think this freedom is fantastic compared to some other places where the consequences of trying to leave your husband could be dire.
Yes the religion allows divorce but what’s annoying is certain countries hold their cultural ways above the religion. Specifically south Asian and a few middle eastern countries frown upon divorce and the community shames you for it. It’s how our religion ALWAYS gets such a bad name when in reality our religion promotes peace and puts woman on a high pedestal. They do the complete opposite and constantly make us look horrible. I’m an African Muslim and thank goodness my country puts religion before culture. Woman would divorce their husband because he isn’t pleasing her in the bedroom lol 😂
" in sickness and in health , for richer ,or poor , for better, for worse '' ... so you mean these vows mean nothing ?
Lmao I doubt anyone would marry you. Damn girl, have you seen yourself in a mirror? 😂 at least get in good shape . 😂
@@pietrojenkins6901are you blind and stupid?
@@pietrojenkins6901 they aren’t christian are they, they don’t say those vows and divorce is allowed
We need to normalize this worldwide❤. No one should be allowed to stay in abusive relationships, be it man or woman...
It can not be normalized. The life conditions are not the same everywhere and the traditions. If you listen properly These women do not have an easy life as divorced. And even in countries where to divorce seems to be accepted the life for divorced women and children is not easy.
@@Flower-ck2bs It's a start for change. That's all that matters
@@Flower-ck2bs the life of a abused wife isn't easy either.
In Mauritania it is eomen who abuse the men, ask me how I know.
@Flower-ck2bs Not true. In Mauritania Divorced Woman are much more sought after than single women
That’s my ancestral home and our traditional attire. Thanks for sharing this.
Divorce is fine but there is a problem. Why fathers are not accountable for not supporting their children after divorce? Is there a law of joint custody? Why only mothers are responsible for children after divorce?
Darn... He couldn't have been that bad😂😂😂. Y'all too happy. Laughing with a sparkle in your eye😂
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😂
Imagine him watching this video 😂
@@behuman3801 y'all just petty.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Mauritanian women ! More power to you❤. I giggled when the lady said she left after being yelled at😂. Yes girl, no accepting that kind of treatment and attitude. It was refreshing to watch.
😂 they are sick
The Devil is a Deceiver, who makes everything bad looks. If am lying just take a look at the world. Marriage is secreted in the eyes of the lord God almighty.
@@karenkane2922 so people should stay in toxic marriages because marriages are* sacred?"
@@winniealwayo700 who normally yells more in general? Men or women? Now you still think yelling is "toxic marriage"?
Women have had enough😂
The conversation @ 15:35 was mistranslated. He said it was his wife that wanted divorce. This documentary is so biased, the women told you that they don't listen to their husband and you have the businessman in the beach telling you the women there require so much and you're saying you don't buy it!!!
He was a smooth talker, anyone with sense can see that.
Yes it was mistranslated, she wanted the divorce but he did say they speak to each other and are civil with each other. From a man's perspective, if a woman doesn't obey/listen to him, it's a bad thing. From a woman's perspective it means she gets to make her own decisions instead of obeying him like a master/slave relationship.
İ wish this van be pinned
Why get married?
@@piecelow2726you know absolutely nothing about a mans perspective. I wouldnt want snt of these women, they're all like gold diggers wandering from man to man being fake and only thinking of themselves, not even their children.
Divorce is never a good thing. Men and women need to be patient in a marriage. Divorce is not good for the children; it’s not something to laugh about!
Bro this womens gain only half knowledge because in the quran it's clearly said that divorse is not liked by allah,,, and so if they follow sharia then why this Illiterate womens don't allow their husbands for more wifes 😮
1 of the few sensible people in the comment section. Too many liberal 🗑 here.
You seem like a controlling hater. Divorce is a good thing if you don't want to die from an abusive spouse...
Never a good thing?
Should a woman whose life is in danger stay with her husband?
Should a wife whose children’s lives are in danger due to abuse from the husband stay?
Should a man or woman who has been forcefully pushed into a marriage and threatened and abused stay in that marriage?
I guess your answer to all these questions must be “yes” as you believe that “divorce is never a good thing.”
And I guess you are also the kind of person who would tell a mother who lost her child due to an abusive partner, “At least they did not divorce. Be proud of your now deceased child and grandchildren because they stayed in the marriage. Only that matters.”
I will never understand why divorce leads to the children not being taken care off specially by their fathers!?
This channel always delivers when it comes to off the beaten path cultural documentaries. Well done!
woe to man who leaves their woman because unable to please them while pregnant. woe on them
Thank you. I fould not agree better with you. You can see the pain and emotional damage in her eyes...
Many men in many countries do that or go and have several other women. The truth is those men truly don't love themselves enough to understand that his mates body changes and therefore buts his little pecker ahead of him self instead of learning his mate and how her body changes even her moods(emotions).
She is not a peice of dam meat or a object of mere pleasure when he desires any time.
Woe to women who does not listen to their husbands
Thats not why he divorced her. Shameful as well while shes heavily pregnant. What goes around comes around. @@hassanabubakar648
All I can say is WOW 😢 !
I feel pity for the innocent children caught in between
Bravo!
Of the many comments here, you are one of the few who has commented on the effect on the kids.
😟😟😟
Would you rather they be subjected to witnessing domestic violence in their home?
@@harrisre-nee3017 Your assumption if domestic violence is too general. So, its no good to make assumptions that are not applicable to every case.
The point that was made here was that if a person is not happy in their marriage, they should divorce. So that would suggestion selfish motivations on the part of the one suing for divorce - they are selfishly focused on themselves and not on the children's needs etc.
It’s like a baby momma/ baby daddy vibe, but they marry
It’s always good to see women supporting women. 💕
Not always - because women do sometimes support each other in doing the wrong thing, or at least, in doing negative things.
yea lets have women worldwide pay a higher tax so women can support divorcees and baby mamas welfare needs, daycare costs oh and they should fully fund early years primary school too instead of taxing men's properties and businesses.
Yeah bro 🤜🤜🤜🤜🤜🤜 , women's are getting out of hand,,,, this womrns thinks that marriage is all about love but in reality it is full of hardships,, what can u expect from Illetarates@@kreativeforce532
Prostitution women's supporting prostitution women's that's right😂😂😂
I am feeling sad for the children who are not taken care of by their father . Financial support is the least they can do.
No murder reports after a woman divorced her man because he shouted at her, this just shows that mauratanian men are mature and understanding. And these women don’t like being controlled, so sounds like Mauritania is the place for a woman who doesn’t like to be controlled😂. But it would be interesting to delve deeper into their reasons for divorce, and whether there are a lot of the divorced women that date married men there, just more insight into a life of a divorced woman there.
Mauritania has slavery. it was outlawed in 2007, but still widely practised.
He said it was right given to them by Sharia and the culture. So the women understood their Islamic right, therefore though it can be sad and unfortunate to be divorced there is no “until death do us part” or that cultural shame which is manifested in many cultures (including Muslim cultures)
Having said that I would also like to point out that in these countries there are NO sexual encounters therefor marriage is the only way of being intimate, so it might be shocking for people in some western countries, but if you think about the sexual encounters as marriages than it might be relatable.
طبعا لأنهم يطبقون الشريعة الإسلامية والتي تمنع أي علاقة جنسية خارج نطاق الزواج
This is wonderful. I never knew there were such levels of acceptance of divorce in Africa leave alone in a Muslim country. It is a process of life and there shouldn't been any shame to it and these women are showing us exactly that.
⭐⭐⭐
At least try to hide your anti muslim bias here please
Or is it a trend to try to bash islam nowadays
@@shaanakhtarkhan5621 lol. What is wrong with you? Where did I bash Islam or write anything phobic? Maybe learn to read properly before writing such a stupid and irrational comment to me. If you are trying to troll me, then, not today SATAN.
@@shaanakhtarkhan5621 Lol can't handle criticism? How Islamic lmao.
@@cameronguinn2360why do you hate people?
This can't be good. What makes a strong country are strong and stable families. If you have a weak family structure, it makes for a weak and the beginning to the end for any country.
You are right, the country is so weak and poor because of what you just stated.
Exactly! Funny how divorce in Muslim countries is celebrated in the West, yet they are seeing the results and aftermath of single mums in the West, and are now promoting religion and marriage. This is nothing to be celebrated and it can’t be a coincidence, that’s it’s in Africa. Statistics don’t lie, so these women should be putting their children first.
Then treat the women well and it won't be weak
@@purplelove3666even man love wife so much they ( the wifes) will say they should deserve better
@@purplelove3666 -Its part of an ancient culture which is still alive and well today. If you don't first start to change the culture, it will be impossible to change the people.
There is nothing to be celebrated here...the trauma on the kids. There is a deeper issue for women or even men to marry and remarry so many times without accountability and the kids affected.
3:50
Asking for advice from a person who celebrates divorce and was probably divorced a few times.😂
I find this both refreshing and disturbing at the same time. I've remained single for most of my adult life after divorce and resent when I have to fill out paperwork and it lists, married, single or divorced for me to check one. I'm single period. But my honesty makes me check the box for divorced that might as well be a box that says failure, as that is how divorced is viewed in the United States, especially for women. A single mother raising her children and a single man raising his are also viewed very differently. A single mother is seen as having baggage and looking for someone else to help carry it. But a single father who has custody of his children that he's raising alone is seen as some kind of a hero and given special treatment in the workplace, because, you know, he's raising his children alone. All praise to him. The exact opposite of what a single mother faces in the workplace and in society as a whole.
Beautiful documentary… thanks for your work !!!
I wish they talked about why the women choose divorce if there are such dire situations afyer
The ones who’ve abandoned their children it’s obvious but am sure the reasons will be the same as everyone else in west eg infidelity, abuse, incompatibility, disputes, financial etc
@@LadyMulinfidelity is not common in traditional Muslim societies (bc also pple are aware it has punishments even tho the governments doesn’t follow that law ) but other things are possible. Especially abandonment of children after divorce.
They talked about that. Men don't provide, they just leave the women to survive with the children
Its the same worldwide "they aren't happy anymore" .. so they are looking for the next exciting thing
@@halalpolice7544Infidelity is not common because Muslim men can simply get another three wives, having a total of four wives at one time. This is still forced Infidelity because the wife is often threatened with divorce if she does not go along with it.
I'm willing to be divorced hundred times if I'm not happy with the husband so i support this women
Off course you're willing.
That's because you do not know how to manifest love.
Perhaps you've been used to romance, but never experienced love - that's why you're willing to divorce a hundred times.
Why get married then😂😂😂
Understand their religion.. men can marry 4 at a time.. men marry and divorce like anything.. why should women suffer all the time? Wife beating is also a norm in their religion.. I know a lot of women who get beaten almost everyday😢 at least this way they're freed
People like you are the reason alot of men are scared of marriage
@@joemol1274 don’t give up untill u found the right one lmao
let’s not forget that this is only a brief look into one tribe of the people of Mauritania. there are plenty of other tribes who are highly against this way of life.
Actually it’s 70% percent of Mauritania. The only one not following this are the tribes descended from Senegal, Mali. But the nomadic people make 70 %. Their are black and lighter nomads.
@@Akbgbvow again, that’s still only one tribe (berbers) even if they are the majority. Us Soninkes, Fulanis, and Wolofs still exist in the country and have different cultures from the berbers. My point is that this is just one culture in Mauritania.
@@lallatandia1117 and my point is that 70% is significant. I know that other tribes exist. I‘m mixed with Berbers and Wolof. The majority their is doing it and therefore u can say it’s common there
and that still doesn’t change that 30% of the population follows different cultures. it wouldn’t be an issue if this was just specific to berbers which again is ONE tribe 🤣. if you actually read my first comment you would see that I in fact did not say that it wasn’t common but that it was one culture out of many which is a fact. have a blessed day ☀️
@@lallatandia1117 well ok 😂😂 u too
Its so sad😢what the innocent children are caught in due to their parents divorce.😢
Fantastic 🇲🇷docu @Underreportred World good to see you back please continue posting more content
This was an amazing glimpse into a country, a culture very far from us; THANK YOU
No is bad for family and morals kids grow without father is worst human If ever read phycology
You bombed a country next to them.. its called LIBYA !
Do not let strangers come into your family business and spread it to the world in the wrong way. Be smart
I don't know about celebration but my great uncle told me that is very normal. In rural communities' women had value for their labour. So marrying a woman meant free labour and losing a woman meant loss of free labour. Divorce didn't become a problem until women only stayed home to take care of the children and it became a matter of ego rather than survival.
The irony is half of the women now are breadwinners but still never claimed their leverage.
Ps before you celebrate Mauritanian 'feminism' you might want to look up how they force-feed their daughters like geese for pate. When it comes to misogyny the calls often come from inside the house.
Damn what are you talking about? How feeding a woman who just had a child is a bad thing? We Somali also had this culture until western culture come to us and shaming body become normalised.
@@halalpolice7544 what are you talking about?
Married at 12 years old OMG😢😢😢😢😢
😢. I almost fell off my bed.
Disgusting n child abuse
The partying was fun to watch but the women with children with no support from the men who gave them children was heart wrenching😢the Mauritanians need to be serious with life, divorce is a last resort not the 1st!😂
I enjoyed watching this so much I almost cried. Wonderful presentation. So very interesting. Excellent! A+
How can someone celebrate a disfunctional home. this is selfishness in the highest order. The children both of them brought to the world doesn't matter, is all about two egoistic failed man and woman. I'm sorry if i am a bit harsh, my point is thay can divorce but shouldn't be celebrated period. Because everyone is doing it doesn't make it right.
Exactly! They believe they are following Islamic law, but divorce is not promoted in Islam and one of the very things, that Allah has warned man and women about. They have a children’s prison there, so that tells you everything you need to know about this culture. Statistics don’t lie and both the women and men are selfish and very far from Islam. This “documentary” is another Western propaganda, where they are promoting divorce in other societies, when they are seeing the results of single mums and the effects on the children in the West. Divorce should never be celebrated! What message are they sending to the children? Lack of education, marriage counselling, responsibilities of elders in the community and accountability.
Celebrate for be able to remarried la
this is what I needed. Too funny.
I make a vow to love you until major differences do us part.😊😊
Islam allows it. Don't impose your beliefs on others.
@@GOTravelhannel Islam allows what?
@@ChadLucaprobably she mean Islam allowed divorce as both spouse can divorce each other
@@halalpolice7544 Islam doesn't allow a woman to be divorced sister, can you show me an authentic hadith? I know there are hadiths about newly reverted woman divorcing their wives when they just become muslim but not what this is saying.
@@ChadLuca Khula or khul is Islamic divorc of woman. The evidence for that from the Sunnah is that the wife of Thabit ibn Qays ibn Shammaas (may Allah be pleased with him) came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said, “O Messenger of Allah, I do not find any fault with Thabit ibn Qays in his character or his religious commitment, but I do not want to commit any act of kufr after becoming a Muslim.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to her, “Will you give back his garden?” Because he had given her a garden as her mahr. She said, “Yes.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to Thabit: “Take back your garden, and divorce her.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 5273).
From this case the scholars understood that if a woman cannot stay with her husband, then the judge should ask him to divorce her by khul’; indeed he should order him to do so.
Here divorce is a business. More Take income, more appartments rented...double household costs for kids.
Happy Divorce! 😊🎉❤
😢 easily this is freelancing $ex in short term marriage while creating children on the way. 😭
Not even close. At least the women are the ones choosing to divorce in Mauritania. In the west baby momma/daddy culture has woman chasing the man & having his kids with no hope of being his wife, all while he simultaneously has relations (& babies) with other women.
@@MANAL83how about women keep their legs closed until after marriage? How about women no accepting men who want premarital sex and children? How about we PUNISH adultery?
Tbh it’s a religious country and they believe in celibacy till marriage so many get married early but it doesn’t always last.
It’s like how most non-Muslims don’t stay with their first/second/third boyfriend forever. Sometimes people don’t find a suitable match till after a few tries. But they don’t have boyfriends they just get married straight up.
Love this. We need to normalize leaving situations that dont serve us. ❤
Nothing is about to "serve" you. I see why so many women are unmarried or just baby mothers. The mindset is pathetic.
THIS is NOT normalizing leaving. Very convenient and avoidant way to look at it. These women are clearly in difficulty and the fathers have no accountability for children they have fathered.
These people had their customs before islam came to their country
It’s giving I’m marrying you but if you jeopardize me I’m out!
People just leaving each other 😂😂😂
Men creating baby mamas and leaving them or initiating divorce per the video. So the women celebrate it and prepare for the next husband
You should see the divorce rate of Lesbians, its worse !! its like 90% ...but Gay people is like %20
Their irresponsibility is in celebrating divorce.
It's not solely blamed on the women, It's cultury acceptable.
This is an innovation that's unlawful. They need Duas , prayers for them are Needed .
This is heart breaking; the partying is just a coping style and far from joy.
Some marriages can be hell but looking at a lady/woman that has divorced 3 times and still looking forward to another marriage, then such a lady need to work on herself.
Maybe, the selection of available men is poor.
Thanks for sharing. Insightful
This is not a flex.
It's a horrible reflection on the men why are they not working and providing for their families?? Not building the community or anything. 😂
@@itr1794 So the women play no role in the divorce when this “documentary” has stated it’s WOMEN who first instigated divorce and then throw a party and celebrate it. Women and men make up a society. If women build up their sons and guide them, along with the men, being a good role model, then their society will develop and they won’t need a children’s prison. The women are showing zero accountability here and have no sympathy or concern for their children. They are already looking for their next victim on Facebook and WhatsApp. Maybe they need to put their phone away and concentrate on their children. Motherhood first, or else, don’t be bringing innocent children into this cruel world. They can afford smart phone but not contraception.
@@itr1794the economy is pretty bad since the US poked their nose in and instigated insurrection and economic problems. But these women act like men are just to be used.
When divorce, with all its adverse effects on children gets celebrated, then that society has gone to the dogs.
I can confidently affirm that this reporter's demeanor will not be the same if it was the men celebrating divorce.
Western propaganda at play!
👍👍👍 video. Glad that there's no stigma attached to divorce and that these women throw divorce parties to move on and signify that they're ready for the next relationship and a plan to fend for themselves and children as the market for divorced women indicated. It helps that they have group support. Interesting. Thanks for sharing
Societal infrastructure should be paramount, especially in the interests of the children. Finding out that you're divorced via social media has to be devastating, especially when the father sees no obstacle in leaving behind his own child.
They making this crap up, nothing in the Quran says to celebrate divorce. SHAME ON THEM
Children are the one suffering the most as the need stability and scurity untill adults.
And even after to seg them up for life no family uite .
Sooo sooo sad .
I enjoyed this episode! It’s great to hear a positive perspective on divorce! I also appreciate learning the downsides as well.
It is great to see the roles reversed, Muslim men getting a taste of their own medicine.
Thank you for this for this video
I really like that woman celebrating divorce.❤😂
Divorce is positive. If people arent happy in the marriage anymore, its only a positive thing when they separate and are free to find happiness elsewhere
You're delusional.
If a person cannot find happiness within, they will never find it elsewhere, if by 'elsewhere', you mean another individual.
@@MuzorewaRatshikuni well if they aren't happy from within then staying in the marriage is not the solution either. They should divorce, separate and find happiness. Who cares how they get that happiness in the end.
@@ekg891 Your thinking is so twisted. You don't have a correct view of reality.
The reason the ladies are into their third and fourth divorces is proof that divorcing is not the way to find hapiness if one is unhappy in their marriage. It's a fool's erand to go 'elsewhere' so you end up in third amd fourth marriages, etc.
Finding happiness is a matter of having the life skill of how to be happy. It's about realizing that your personal happiness is not dependent on another person but on yourself alone. So those who have such a life skill can maintain happiness even when they are not getting their needs met from by their marriage partner.
But you are so shallow, that speaking of deep things like this just goes over your head.
@@MuzorewaRatshikuni so they should stay in miserable relationships instead? I agree that they should take some time out of being in relationships if every single one is failing. But the factors contributing to their failed marriages could also just be because men in that country aren't the best people to marry and because a lot of these ladies don't seem like they were educated so they feel the need to get married to find some financial support. Whatever the reason is, if they find themselves unhappy in the marriage, it's right to divorce. Regardless of how many times they have been married. It's better to do that than to stay in a bad situation. Your way of thinking is exactly why many of our grandmother's stayed in marriages that hurt them and made them miserable. I would have rather my grandmother remarry 4 times than to have stayed in that marriage she was in.
@@ekg891 Girl, you got your knickers in a knot!!!!!
You've been in a failed marriage haven't you? Or maybe a failed relationship? Judging by your thinking, you are not marriage material. You are too selfish! You expect your partner to make you happy - what a loser's mentality. Winners know how to be happy, inspite of their partners' actions or omissions. Such people are truly empowered to make a success of their relationships.
A good starting point, in having a happy relationship, is understanding that the relationship is an opportunity to work on yourself, so that if you find yourself unhappy in it, what can you work, in yourself, tp bring up your level of happiness? What changes of mindset, perspective, etc are required to keep being happy.
Whatever you do, if you have not yet grown up, as can be discerned from your comments, stay away from getting married. You're still a girl, not yet a woman. You still need to mature.
This video tickled my soul. I love it.
In Indonesia and Malaysia I think its the same thing, a divorced women is experienced.
You heard what she said...Tomorrow i will put on facebook and whatsapp that am divorced, fishing for a new candidate. At 26 married 4 times and divorced 4 times and she's being praised for that. Another ignorant will try to marry her again and the cycle will repeat again.
They get divorced because of dudes like you lol
😂😂😂😂
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Bruh she was sold off to some dude at age 12
@@notorio526 It isn't brilliant to marry, to begin with.
This is sad. It seems as though any adherence to Islamic principles is minimal, if not absent. Allah hates divorce and it should be the ultimate, last resort especially in cases of abuse. It's not a cause for celebration, especially when children are involved. This careless attitude isn't helping the women or men. The culture has taken over and any religious teachings about the sacredness of marriage has gone out the window.
Sad lifestyles. This country needs proper legislation for fathers to have some enduring accountability for children they have fathered.
The foolishness in some of the comments, I feel sorry for whoever will marry some of the women commenting.
im glad those women are so strong overthere and assertive to get a divorce if they feel like its needed.And are able to remarry ofcourse as they are vieuwed as experienced in running a household.
Teslem is very beautiful, she has her pick of the litter 💯
You're an excellent journalist
I love seeing different cultures❤️❤️❤️
I converted to Islam in my early 20's. I grew up as a Catholic and was taught Biblical Scriptures until I stopped going to church and made mistakes which cause me to return to a God - conscious life that I was influenced by through the Catholic church.
When I saw Muslim women covering themselves and appearing to live a God - conscious life, I considered studying and practicing Islam. My experience with studying and practicing Islam, was the reality that the morality taught about Islam, was that I could not EXPERIENCE MORALITY through the practice of Islam.
Muslim men can have 4 wives and can have unlimited divorces. What good is MORALITY when men can have unlimited divorces from 4 women, remarrying 4 women after relinquishing his marriage vows to his wives, one or more at any time.
In the practice of Islam, Women can divorce as many times as possible to relinquish her marriage vows to re-marry over and over again.
What good is MORALITY when men and women PRACTICE INFIDELITY??????????
I have returned to Our Holy Lord and Saviour, Yahushua, Most High since a failed marriage by Islamic practice. Our Holy Lord and Saviour, Yahushua, Most High is the way to the SALVATION for mankind, through Our Holy Father, Yahweh, Most High.
Thats what makes islam perfect: its the ONLY religion that allows women to divorce
The MOST HIGH GOD hates divorce. Period. When HE created Adam and Eve...it was 4 the 2 (male and female) to B-come one. You cannot "become one" with multiple people. That is Y there was 1 man for 1 woman. When HE created it.
This is nothing. A friend had to do Halala with two men, one was her husband’s cousin and the other the husband’s sister’s father in law.
Life too short. Ladies, enjoy and dance until dawn 🎉😂❤
This would have been a great documentary if you have also interviewed the Men that have married these Women you have interviewed. There is always a two side of every story especially marriage
I know this about divorce, but Im even more curious about the triangles in all the architecture
Damn that place is stark
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❤❤Thank you so much for showing us the survival mechanism of these brave souls. As you already know in some countries divorce happens to be a devastating loss of good reputation. It leads to generational poverty, alienation and self blame. Keep up the good work!!!
""REFRESHING ATTITUDE "" AND SCAPING FROM ABUSE SO WELL DONE TO THIS WOMAN... I'M VERY PROUD FOR THEM. THEY ARE NOT STUCK WITH SHIT MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP.
Much love ladies, happiness first.
You are a cancer
I love this documentary and ones like it that focus on unique cultures from around the world. It's what I've always wanted to do and create as a world traveler. Why do some Mauritanians in the video speak Arabic and other French? Is it just based on the region they're in or from?
They all speak their own arabic dialect which is the official language of the country, and some also speak french due to the country being colonized by france so this language is still being used in media and by a big part of the people who are well educated.
In Africa it's like that. Locals are free to speak colonizers languages if they want but mostly local dialects
Thank you for sharing 😂😢❤
Thank you for teaching me.
Divorce is a liability, not an asset.
I would love to visit Mauritania
A society like this is messed up honestly. Family is so important for a society to grow.
amazing !
I personally think Mauritania culture is so liberating, no stigma or shame on being divorced or not being married. Most women spend most of their life time chasing after marriage, whilst the Mauritanians run from it. I do think there’s a level of hurt and pain they go through despite the divorce celebrations, but women all over the world can learn a few things from them. That divorce doesn’t mean you are damaged goods and that your life is over, it is actually an opportunity to start a new life and be optimistic about the future and be free. This is in no way to condone divorce but to move away from the limiting stigma of divorce in our societies.
Tbh I think this stigma is mostly in the west world. Alhamdulilah in Muslim world especially in Africa or east Africa divorce is not stigmatised and in Islam as both spouse can divorce each other it’s the best solution in some cases.
Mauritania is a place where slavery still exists.
I feel like you didn't watch the video. They are not running from marriage, simply leaving one to try to run into another.
I watched the entire video, I’m referring to the part of the video that says they marry young mainly due to poverty and there’s interventions to try and escape early marriage. As much as some Mauritanians parents encourage early marriage some parents are against it and send their girl child to activities that keeps the girl child away so that they enter marriage when they feel they want to and not because of societal pressures.
I watched the entire video, I’m referring to the part of the video that says they marry young mainly due to poverty and there’s interventions to try and escape early marriage. As much as some Mauritanians parents encourage early marriage some parents are against it and send their girl child to activities that keeps the girl child away so that they enter marriage when they feel they want to and not because of societal pressures.
These gals party
THIS IS JUST TRIFLING
More power to the women of Mauritania. Nothing keeps them in an abusive marriage, and they can even right away search for another husband . No stigma attached.❤❤
I've been divorced twice too. The second one was early this year. I am gonna tie the knot with my third one, Pakistani British. i hope he is the last one and won't take any divorce path under any circumstances.
Girl, slow your roll. You gotta put them through the vetting process before signing up for life in the Holy Matrimony.
My sister, is he muslim?
@@ChadLuca yes of course
The odds are not in your favor. If it doesn't work out can I come to your divorce party? I'll bring some good food.
It will soon be third ..what made you fail twice will surely happen again.
Perhaps in patriarchal societies, like those found in some Arab cultures, divorce can be a liberating experience for women, bringing them joy. Thank you for sharing your insight from a unique perspective..
They just jump to the next man.
@@deborahdean8867 🙃 Your point is valid
Same male child who is a product of these broken home grew up to marry these women and the circle of broken home continues. There should be serious teaching to the men and women how to manage family and relationship. There are hard and soft times. There is a leader in a family. U must submit to that leader. That leader in turn is a leader and should learn what it takes to lead. If everyone things they are equal in the eyes of family then challenges emerge
wow, all these men who leave their children like old clothes, while the mothers are just baffled that the men never asks after their children or visit them, because to them, they're children and not old clothes or garbage...
Mauritania got beautiful divorcees indeed!😋😂
It doesn't matter which religion or nation, if the MEN are USE LESS, All the Women in that Religion or Nation will be USE LESS.
Women will never be useless, they are a Direct manifestation of the Divine feminine. Nice try
The government should force all the man's to pay the bills for the children's when they divorce
Isn't Mauritania the place where slavery still exists as well.
Yes. It is the last stronghold of slavery from what I have read.
Marriage is bondage. Not sure why people choose the ball and chain. It’s like a dog with a collar
I hope alot of the young aspiring to get married know this.
Marriage is SOLELY to protect the rights of women and children.
But if you're married to hillary clinton and feminism you'll always be in bondage.
Fyi marriage is about teaming up with your best friend. If you dont know that you have interpersonal relationship problems