The Fatherless Crisis In America
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- Опубліковано 15 січ 2023
- America has the highest rate of children living in single-parent households. Homelessness, suicide, and people with behavioral disorders are all linked to fatherless homes. In today’s video, Patrick Bet-David talks about the fatherless crisis in America and the consequences in society.
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I've worked in a maximum security prison for over 20 years, and the number of inmates who were raised by single moms or their grandmother alone is staggering. PBD's words ring so true.
I think its something like 75% same thing with male addicts, Alchoholics as well.
I’ve heard this from EVERY SINGLE corrections officer I’ve met.
Funny how the single parents in other countries don't raise felons. Thanks for the 2 cents Einstein.
@@amsterdamcowboy9738 Which countries, specifically?
@@amsterdamcowboy9738, of course not! The alpha male leadership role has already been made extinct in such feminized nations, which further fuels the feminization efforts. Only one problem, when the whole nation is feminized, you need us to come bleed and die to rescue you from the criminal types that your effeminate utopia has invited to take over the whole limp lot of you…Marx, Lenin, Stalin, Mussolini, Hitler, Ceausescu, Franco, etc.
Turns out, Jesus was right again of course, when He said “…we aren’t wrestling with flesh and blood, but evil spiritual powers and principalities in heavenly places…” As many have said since those words were spoken but ignored: “The only thing required for evil to triumph is for good MEN to do nothing.”
Keyword: “men,” raised with and by men who embrace all the God-given roles of fathers, husbands, sons, daughters, wives and mothers…rather than dictate against any of them as feminism does. This is Satan’s greatest strategy and it started on day one with Eve and will continue until the Whore of Babylon is thrown into the lake of fire by the returning King of kings who will restore the blessing and prosperity of godly obedience to the Law of the Covenant by following it as the ruler of the Earth, and enforcing Torah with a rod of iron (without wavering, as He commanded us to continue to do in Matthew5:17-19, 7:21-23 and 25:1-12 and defined in Rev14:12, etc…).
…as if there are no criminals in Europe and “other countries”-pffft
You can ignore reality but you cannot ignore the consequences that comes from ignoring reality
Truth in its purest sense 🔥🔥🔥
Preach!
This sounds like something Tom Sowell would say 👍🏿
Deep
my dude!
Single father of 2 here. I've had full custody of both my boys for 5+ years. Their mother was in prison for 3 years and was released in May of 2022. I was hoping she would make efforts to be in our kids lives and she did and it was great to see. They were happy to see her again. That hope was cut short when she overdosed and died in August 2022. Fentanyl was the culprit. RIP Lauren. I will sacrifice all for my kids. There are good fathers out there.
You're great dad, Godbless you.
Stay strong my man. I almost self-deleted and I'm glad I didn't. You are better off than I am. My kids used to love me,until she separated us and brainwashed them.
Hey i’d like to interview you… to get your story
Salute to you 👏
@@ShinkuGouki Use sorcery to take you children back. If you won’t use sorcery, you deserve what’s coming to you. Avoid westernised women.
In India, if a child is fatherless, it is supported by his maternal uncle, paternal uncle, Grandma and Grandpa form both sides. This is the advantage having a joint family that US citizen won't understand ☺️
Oh my god.. Patriarcchyyy
You also have a dowry system that murders and aborts female children so as not to pay dowry to prospective husbands. Mother Theresa saved female children from rubbish bins. Your orphanages are full of female children
@@JJ-lr9sv third world countries can only blame themselves for their poverty. Third world cultures are all patriarchal primitive pagan polygamous cultures. The women are kept ignorant and uneducated and subservient chattels. You all want to live in white Christian countries
This is why I prefer asian culture family values because they have none of this stupid single mom fatherless crisis what the west has no wonder why western men like me prefer a wife overseas raised with strong family morales
@@Will.Flavell that’s why so many men go to Thailand to get little girls that are sold by their parents
For the father's that never give up on your kids when you are being chased off. I salute you. 👑👑👑
The WOKE pushed single families, no-fault divorce, abortion and other anti-family policies. The WOKE universities, who set the standards for education, social sciences, journalism, etc.are pleased with the results. Woke destroys everything it touches.
I had the world's greatest father🙌 unfortunately my narc mom did a great job tearing down the family along with her narc friends in the Democrat party.
Men, if you can leave your mom's alone and enjoy your life. Modern wahmen feel life is supposed to revolve around them.
By this video alone, we know wahmen don't know how to raise strong happy healthy children. They Ditch the fathers because they want all of YOUR attention to themselves.
It's not fair that they are being chased off in the first place, absolute devilry imo. These women have gone from being a net positive for the kids AND the husband to being in competition with the husband and making his life harder.
It's not about the males...the FACTS are that modern feminism has pushed father's out of the homes‼️ told women there's always another man when you leave, that your kids don't need the dad around bc she's got it by herself, and she will break up a home bc he fk another girl he don't love and won't leave his family for 😒 kids come before your feelings
✊🏾
Fathers really are the backbone of a functioning society
Edit: Present fathers*
Yes but also mother’s. This is basically you saying no equality…God created Adam a wife to help him do his GOD TASK! If god didnt think adam needed help he wouldn’t have made EVE. In the eyes of GOD THERE IS EQUALITY
@@blackpanthar906
That's pretty powerful bruv.
@@ayuanabradford3206 wrong, Adam was lonely so they made eve from mans rib. Man came from god, women came from man. Stop telling false information on this comment thread. Liar. You are no equal to men, and that’s why we live in so much chaos. Women think they have the right to compete with men, while the kids suffer. SHAME ON YOU
@@ayuanabradford3206 yeah and how did that work out for Adam and humanity? Eve ruined everything. Kinda like modern society
@@ayuanabradford3206 I think boys need fathers more than they need mothers.
I'm fatherless and i become sad everytime when i see a kid and a father together
This whole conversation is the typical TradCon *intellectual dishonesty*
It's not _fatherlessness_ "problem"
It's *SINGLE MOTHERHOOD* , they are using "fatherlessness" as a *euphemism* for it to subtly shift the blame onto *MEN*
Blaming *MEN* yet again.
To the uninitiated and low IQ it seems indistinguishable, but it's a _semantic_ game they're playing, as to not upset the _female_ base.
You don't get to blame men for poor ♀ *CHOICES AND BEHAVIOR.*
This intellectual dishonesty is why the traditional conservatives will _keep losing_ and _keep making the situation worse_ .
Until you solve the _actual_ problem (hint: it's not the _men_ ) society will continue to collapse.
Enjoy the decline. 💊
This might be the most important social issue in the US, but unfortunately, there is no way that it is an easy issue to solve with straightforward solutions
I grew up in a home with an adultering father who ran up credit card bills in my mom's name then moved to Alaska. We ate out of trash cans. No child support for years. It's because of my mom that I made it and am the man I am today. She taught me to sacrifice. Btw she earned a master's degree while teaching french and comparative literature at University of California Irvine while raising two boys by herself. Thank you and R.I.P. Mom!
You had a good mom not everyone has that in a single parent home
Well done so proud of you and kudos to mum
Outliers are not the norm. Good for her, we're talking about the general.
You still can't deny these facts!
You were very lucky. My father was a demon
My dad was tough on me and I despised him at times but when I grew older I really appreciated it some of the lessons he taught me. Our relationship is better than ever
My dad was tough on me too, and I cut him out of my life! Stop having Stockholm syndrome for your abusive parents.
@@queenterraofarchrist344 men and women reacts to these things differently. Obviously your feelings towards your father are valid, but my life was prepared because because my father taught me how it is to be a man. He’s my best friend now and we can talk about anything. He’s helped me through trauma and we’ve talked about how he raised me and he had regrets. But he wanted me to be prepared for how cruel the world is for men out there.
Same here now been a parent myself realized the hard choices he had to make...
Asian have this thing called tiger parents and that's applied to both.
I cried because I am unable to get into my favorite university.
"You've done your best" That's feel like world to me at that time, I expect them to be mad at me and lecture me for like 3 hours and nagging but it turn out different.
@@gkagara that's the wierd thing about Asians who come to the west. They want their daughters to have a bunch of kids but at the same time want them to uphold the male standards of elite academic achievement and work.
Father's create structure and instill a sense of self, confidence and identity in their children. This is why they are so so important in a child's life.
Indians are surely blessed, I'm a 24 years old girl and I know if the world goes against me,I'll still be okay because I have my dad. He is my teacher, mentor, permanent support system, I could not ask for anything else . A dad is the cool shade of a tree under the scorching sun, everyone deserves the love of a father.
Not all Indians are blessed like you. For me Dad is a horrible person. He is like my worst enemy. Now he want to kick me out of the house along with mum.
Some Indian fathers sell their young daughters to be young brides.
America should listen to you
@@ZeroOne130you need to forgive ur mom for turning u away from him, watch Jesse lee Peterson and u will understand
I grew up in a fatherless home and envied friends who had their fathers at home. When they would complain about their fathers being strict by setting curfews, requiring to know where they were going, setting chores, giving discipline, etc., I would tell them how lucky they were. It showed that their fathers cared about their safety, success and wellbeing. Now that we are in our 30's, I hope they are appreciative of their fathers.
@VALUETAINMENTMEDIA. scam
There is a common phrase in my Community that the Women love saying its Men aint Sh.t Idont need no Man now we see the results
if ur father stayed he would've been a bad person but since he doesn't then he doesn't get blamed. instead u glorified fathers. that's crazy
@@jeromeisaacs4428 or man say that we can't resist girls half of our age
Hence we must abandon family for enjoyment
American men don't have good repo in my country in terms of long relationship partner
People don't prefer them .
@Tami* man wtf I’m sorry dear . That’s really messed up.
I was a fatherless child, growing up without my father really hurt and I felt the effects even though I didn’t know what they were. I made a promise to myself that if and when I have children I’m going to be there and I have kept that promise. Cheers 🍻 to all of the real fathers out there that out their families over everything.
USA has no incentive to keep families together. Broken people are easier to control
Blessed
Alhamdulillah for Islam.☝💚
*“From among the portents of the Hour are (the following)…the drinking of alcoholic drinks will be very common, and (open) illegal sexual intercourse will prevail…”*
(Bukhari Volume 1 Hadith 80)
Also
*“The Last Hour will not be established until they (wicked people) commit adultery on the roads (public ways).”*
(Ibn Hibban and Bazzar)
And
*“The Hour will come when adultery becomes widespread.”*
(Al-Haythami, Kitab al-Fitan)
Well literally no one can dispute this. Alcohol is basically widespread and consumed by majority of people. Alcohol is glorified in the media, tv shows, music, social media etc. The exact same thing can be said about open sexual intercourse. With pornography being rampant in today’s culture it has led to the current state that we are all in.
However the statistics for this are shocking. About 41% of couples (one or both) have admitted to committing infidelity. This is for sure a clear cut prophecy coming true.
Furthermore there is more to this.
The Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
*“O Muhajirun, (emigrants from Makkah to al-Madinah) you may be afflicted by five things; God forbid that you should live to see them… if fornication should become widespread, you should realise that this has never happened without new diseases befalling the people which their forebears never suffered.”*
[Sunan Ibn Majah, Vol. 5, pg. 222-223, Hadith #4019]
The key word is “diseases”. How scary is it that STDs such as HIV and AIDS are rampant due to sex outside of marriage. STDs are already rampant because more than half of all people will have an STD/STI at some point in their lifetime.
It is so rampant to the point where we have STD clinics and campaigns about safe sex. Such diseases never existed in ancient times and in today’s world it is a normal occurrence.
*“There will be an abundance of illegitimate children.”*
(Al-Muttaqi Al-Hindi, Muntakhab Kanzul Ummaal)
This is a massive prophecy and is happening right here and right now. Right now if you compare a country like USA they have statistic which show that even in 2012 that 40.7% of children are born out-of-wedlock
So the numbers are ridiculous and this is a huge modern phenomena. This is a clear cut prophecy coming true.
Also
*“Divorces will be a daily occurrence.”*
(Allamah Safarini, Ahwal Yaum al-Qiyamah)
Well to be frank divorces are already like this in this day and age. People take divorces as a normal occurrence but we can let the stats speak for themselves. 41 percent of first marriages end in divorce. In America, there is one divorce approximately every 36 seconds. That’s nearly 2,400 divorces per day, 16,800 divorces per week and 876,000 divorces a year
The media has normalised divorces and now we talk about divorce like it’s nothing. But in actual fact the daily occurrence of divorces is a prophecy by Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم
@Moddafkr yeah. But this sick society don’t care about race anymore.
@@blackpanthar906 sad but true
I grew up in a Fatherless home. My dad was a press photographer and got leukaemia, he passed away when I was 7. I grew up with a gnawing sense of insecurity. I survived Fatherlessness against the odds. True mentors are rare. Thanks Pat, I value this tainment! Good content! I would like to write a book on the subject of Fatherlessness from my first hand experience. I give major credit to my dear mother who raised 2 boys on a teacher's salary.
The gnawing insecurity is no joke I’m trying like hell but damn that void is hard to fill as a man.
@@doctormudbone4432 Look up to men that you admire and build up the traits that you look up to in those men. As hard as it may be, that void can be overcome, not by filling it, but by carrying it as a reminder to do better and by changing the course of the legacy that your father left for you.
I wish you strength and willpower to overcome whatever insecurities your weak father passed on to you.
All the best to you!
@@MasteryOrderI appreciate your comment bro but to add context he wasn’t weak he didn’t walk out on my life he just unfortunately passed away when I was like 12.
@@doctormudbone4432 My apologies then for misinterpreting the situation.
I hope that you can find ways to overcome the missing mentor in your life and if you had a good relationship with him when he was alive, carry that in your memory and allow it to push you in challenging times.
All the best to you!
Sorry for your loss but having your father die...is different than being abandoned. Your father didn't choose to leave you....
Hats off to father who don't just fall for adultery
but prioritise kids too
amen
@@truthwithes6690u make me wanna fall for adultery
My twins just turned 18 I've raised them since birth there mother was a demon but gave me the greatest gift my children and I chose not to hate my ex and love my children
@@scottkraft1062no one cares
@professionalpookie your mom does she told me
My father was barely present due to work demands and then split from my mother when I was 8. My parents were both never around after that. I would not have succeeded in life had it not been for 4 adult men who stepped up at various points to be a father figure to me. A big shout out to all those adult men who are spending time mentoring and teaching struggling boys. You make a huge difference.
Men can’t do that now ‘cause they’d be considered a pedo.
@@miamitten1123 lol well that depends on the nature of the relationship. In my case it was a teacher who helped me land my first job, my scout leader who taught me responsibility, my band manager who taught me loyalty, and my band teacher who taught me discipline. There a lot of ways adult men can mentor that would not be considered “pedo” lol.
I understand and went thru something similar, a real man will raise boys that aren't his own and never even question it, I look forward to being able to help my sons lost friends later in life like many men did for me
@@darinlagarry3091 so true and today us men are labeled as toxic masculinity.
Thank you for sharing.
I grew up in a fatherless home. I never knew my father. I grew up in an orphanage without any family, family means so much to me now as a father and husband. It’s very important that a child has a mom and a dad ❤️ GOD bless all the orphans
I know so many orphans that are so much more well-adjusted then people with parents that’s sad
Thank you for being strong. Children will do better emotionally when they have both parents in their life.
You mentioned God, so I expected a crazy atheist to foam at the mouth. Guess they're hiding right now.
You know most people who grow up in orphanage homes or people who are orphans are more likely to be criminals go to prison do drugs abuse their own family be violent and steal. Trust I’ve heard story of kids in orphanage homes in schools they’re bad inside the orphanage they smoke fight bother people there are even juveniles who live in orphanages.
Feminists and socialists have been doing their best to destroy the man and family structure. We must destroy them instead to save our society and civilization.
Growing up without a father has broken me. I was prisoned, subject of violence on both sides, diagnosed with mental issues. Stop looking for a father model though, you only had one!
BOTH, MOTHERS AND FATHERS ARE VERY IMPORTANT IN CHILDREN'S LIFE, FOR THEIR MENTAL WELL BEING.
Fathers more, the data vindicates this.
NO. MOTHERS MORE, BECAUSE CHILDREN DO NEED THEIR MATERNAL LOVE, AS THEY'RE GROWING UP. IT'S VERY IMPORTANT TO THEM. DATA OFTEN PROVIDES FALSE INFORMATION.
@@RS-ln3ns"maternal love" is a myth
The numbers show that children from *single mother homes* do the worst compared to any other type of home. Fathers are the number 1 factor of whether your life will be easier and better.
For god sake you're literally watching a video of a man reading off why fathers are more important.
The fact that you disagree with data and choose feelings, tells me you're low eye-Q and emotional
Absolutely NOT....
He's only important to a MALE child because he needs training!
Not to be coddled.
Women are so uneducated about MALE yet they desire having them..
Just delusional 🤣
@@RS-ln3nsIt’s true we shouldn’t always take data at face value but either way parenting is very important. It seems silly to argue which one is more important.
It shouldn’t be a competition.
As a middle-aged man, most of the good things that are in me are from my father that I have learnt emulating him. Punctuality, emotional stability, physical exercise, learning to do basic vehicle and household electrical repairs, honor, etc. I am so grateful to him, and will definitely pass these things on to my children.
I wish I had that.
I got overt seriousness... Nobody even gon fuck with me 💀
Alhamdulillah for Islam.☝💚
*“From among the portents of the Hour are (the following)…the drinking of alcoholic drinks will be very common, and (open) illegal sexual intercourse will prevail…”*
(Bukhari Volume 1 Hadith 80)
Also
*“The Last Hour will not be established until they (wicked people) commit adultery on the roads (public ways).”*
(Ibn Hibban and Bazzar)
And
*“The Hour will come when adultery becomes widespread.”*
(Al-Haythami, Kitab al-Fitan)
Well literally no one can dispute this. Alcohol is basically widespread and consumed by majority of people. Alcohol is glorified in the media, tv shows, music, social media etc. The exact same thing can be said about open sexual intercourse. With pornography being rampant in today’s culture it has led to the current state that we are all in.
However the statistics for this are shocking. About 41% of couples (one or both) have admitted to committing infidelity. This is for sure a clear cut prophecy coming true.
Furthermore there is more to this.
The Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
*“O Muhajirun, (emigrants from Makkah to al-Madinah) you may be afflicted by five things; God forbid that you should live to see them… if fornication should become widespread, you should realise that this has never happened without new diseases befalling the people which their forebears never suffered.”*
[Sunan Ibn Majah, Vol. 5, pg. 222-223, Hadith #4019]
The key word is “diseases”. How scary is it that STDs such as HIV and AIDS are rampant due to sex outside of marriage. STDs are already rampant because more than half of all people will have an STD/STI at some point in their lifetime.
It is so rampant to the point where we have STD clinics and campaigns about safe sex. Such diseases never existed in ancient times and in today’s world it is a normal occurrence.
*“There will be an abundance of illegitimate children.”*
(Al-Muttaqi Al-Hindi, Muntakhab Kanzul Ummaal)
This is a massive prophecy and is happening right here and right now. Right now if you compare a country like USA they have statistic which show that even in 2012 that 40.7% of children are born out-of-wedlock
So the numbers are ridiculous and this is a huge modern phenomena. This is a clear cut prophecy coming true.
Also
*“Divorces will be a daily occurrence.”*
(Allamah Safarini, Ahwal Yaum al-Qiyamah)
Well to be frank divorces are already like this in this day and age. People take divorces as a normal occurrence but we can let the stats speak for themselves. 41 percent of first marriages end in divorce. In America, there is one divorce approximately every 36 seconds. That’s nearly 2,400 divorces per day, 16,800 divorces per week and 876,000 divorces a year
The media has normalised divorces and now we talk about divorce like it’s nothing. But in actual fact the daily occurrence of divorces is a prophecy by Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم
Then good for you.
Now how about a little help on your part to change this screwed up American family court system which awards the custody of children to the female parent by default.
Yeah, kids just need to learn to code these days.
It definitely hits home with this one . As a Single father raising a son after my wife passed away a couple years ago .
Every night we are at the gym working out together or riding bikes . He is doing amazing in school . He knows the difference between feels and reals . I teach him how to think and not let emotions control his life . At the same time he works cooks cleans for himself. High standards all the time . I take I very serious raising my son . He likes his steak 🥩 rare the only way it should be .
Respect to you...
@@VALUETAINMENT Why are you using a black child in the thumb nail for this discussion when the CDC reports that Black Father's are some of the most involved dad's. Why are you enforcing visual sterotypes Patrick!?
Good on you!
Salute to you.
@@Harold10ful He is using woke culture PR...part of the problem along with its insidious mockery of men.
I had to raise my daughter without a father ( he started getting in trouble with the law and I left. He was in and out of jail for over a decade. My parents helped me) no child support. She hates me for having to work. She ran back to him and his family now he just recently got out of jail. I sacrificed a lot for her. You never know what kids will do. Interestingly her dad was raised by his mom and grandmother.
Kids need time to see who is really the parent, I am sure it's temporary.
This whole conversation is the typical TradCon *intellectual dishonesty*
It's not _fatherlessness_ "problem"
It's *SINGLE MOTHERHOOD* , they are using "fatherlessness" as a *euphemism* for it to subtly shift the blame onto *MEN*
Blaming *MEN* yet again.
To the uninitiated and low IQ it seems indistinguishable, but it's a _semantic_ game they're playing, as to not upset the _female_ base.
You don't get to blame men for poor female choices and behavior.
This intellectual dishonesty is why the traditional conservatives will _keep losing_ and _keep making the situation worse_ .
Until you solve the _actual_ problem (hint: it's not the _men_ ) society will continue to collapse.
Enjoy the decline. 💊
This whole conversation is the typical TradCon *intellectual dishonesty*
It's not _fatherlessness_ "problem"
It's *SINGLE MOTHERHOOD* , they are using "fatherlessness" as a *euphemism* for it to subtly shift the blame onto *MEN*
Blaming *MEN* yet again.
To the uninitiated and low IQ it seems indistinguishable, but it's a _semantic_ game they're playing, as to not upset the _female_ base.
You don't get to blame men for poor ♀ *CHOICES AND BEHAVIOR.*
This intellectual dishonesty is why the traditional conservatives will _keep losing_ and _keep making the situation worse_ .
Until you solve the _actual_ problem (hint: it's not the _men_ ) society will continue to collapse.
Enjoy the decline. 💊
What do you know scientifically about the MALE?
Both THEIR biological NATURE and neurological wiring and the effects of testosterone on the brain,their fragility?
Your ONLY issue here was your ignorance about this.. Forgive yourself and try not to repeat 🙏🏾
I grew up with my mother. My mother is very strict 💀 But she's the best person in the world for me❤️❤️❤️❤️
Me too ..my mom is everything to me 😪
Same. Although mum is not strict with me. Not sure if that's bad or not. They only times she gets angry if i play excessively on video games since i never been good at studies at all.
@@ZeroOne130 well she is right, lovely mum. Make her proud.
No doubt mother's r equally important as father but not make it individual this is for universal law which humanity had discovered by practicing more than 10000 years how to support and brought up new generation to with love and care of couple now we in name of freedom rewriting society which is failed model in gernalised sence
This whole conversation is the typical TradCon *intellectual dishonesty*
It's not _fatherlessness_ "problem"
It's *SINGLE MOTHERHOOD* , they are using "fatherlessness" as a *euphemism* for it to subtly shift the blame onto *MEN*
Blaming *MEN* yet again.
To the uninitiated and low IQ it seems indistinguishable, but it's a _semantic_ game they're playing, as to not upset the _female_ base.
You don't get to blame men for poor female choices and behavior.
This intellectual dishonesty is why the traditional conservatives will _keep losing_ and _keep making the situation worse_ .
Until you solve the _actual_ problem (hint: it's not the _men_ ) society will continue to collapse.
Enjoy the decline. 💊
I have my son 3 days per week. He just turned 5. I fought to be in his life and went to court and got what I wished for. Things are going well im going to be there for my kiddo his whole life.
God bless you
Too many of us have to fight the court to be in our kids' lives. I've been there myself, and it's amazing how the system tears men. Thanks for standing up for yourself and your kid. It's not easy when everyone is after you. I have a 6 year old daughter. After 3 years of divorce court, I was able to get 50/50 custody. I tried going for the full 100%, but my budget won't allow it. The system is rigged, my friends. Stay strong and inform your male friends so that eventually, we can swing the pendulum back our way.
What is a mans perspective on staying with the mother of the child for the child instead of separation & shared custody? I know some women stay for the kids but do men do it as well? Genuine curiosity not judging
@@lt.2992 well men can't stay when the wife files for a divorce 80% of the time, you can't force yourself to be with a woman otherwise the court will just use it against you as evidence of you being 'abusive".
@lt.2992 I filed for divorce twice. The first time, my lawyer was a POS and dropped the ball on filling the papers and then got sick. . I thought that was a sign for a second chance. However, things didn't work out, there was too many outsides sources (family & friends) feeding her bad information. At the end I filed 6 month later again, myself, without a lawer, thinking I could do it without a lawyer. 2 days before court she lawyered up, and so did I. I wasn't able to see my child, who was 3 yrs old for the next 2 years. I missed fathers day, her 3rd birthday, that really messed with my head. Depression started to kick in. At the end I lost time with my child, almost the house I bought, and put over 150k for remodeling. Now she's getting money from me and her new daddy (the government) the lawyer don't give a fuck about you or your children. The judges don't give a fuck about your children well being (even though I had two female judges) she immediately moved into some strange dude's apt. And when I told the judge I don't even know where My daughter is staying cause she was hiding it from me, the judge said... maybe she's going to marry him. FUCK YOU JUDGES! What if he's a pedo, I have nothing but bad thoughts and the system is only helping women get away with making terrible decisions and hurting the kids future. Most men will die for their children to make sure they have a better future... most women don't see it that way. I have too many friends at the moment going through the same thing. Scary times for men.
Damn Pat, bringing me to tears over here. My dad came to the US with nothing, not knowing the language, not knowing anything in life except work hard. He perfected speaking English, and mastered Refrigeration as his skill set. He does amazingly well for himself as an engineer. While he was striving towards his goals, he had 3 kids to raise alongside my mother. Growing up, he wouldn't miss a day when I had a field trip, a little league game, basketball games in high school. He had always pushed me really hard, and the results are interesting. At 26 now, I went through the cycle most people go through with their parents: you idolize as a kid, demonize as a teenager, and then apologize as an adult because you finally have enough know how to understand the lessons that were being taught. I'm now an engineer as well like my father, but I'm going further by taking the teachings you've taught through valuetainment, and applying them in two companies I'm trying to get off the ground. He's proud that I'm moving to take the family torch even further. I wouldn't have achieved what I've achieved, if it wasn't for him being there...
Too many young men and women are pressured into becoming parents by society when they are not ideal to be parents. If we look at it obkecticily the world is very screwed up as we have 100s of millions of highly irresponsible, selfish and even destructive people have children. Ideally people should consider Tubal Ligation when they turn 13 years old and then reverse it only when they feel really ready. At a minimum all girls should be put on daily birth control pills starting at 13 years old.
Love this comment. What a great dad.
A beautiful story! And such an unusual, lovely name! I have two engineer daughters and the third is STEM educated and work. Fathers matter.
But why wasn’t you this productive in your homeland?
@@landman1673
No one will ever know that, its like questioning what if gravity didnt exist what would the world be like? it didnt happen so no point in even wondering it as its pointless.
I presume your trolling so whatever but why be a prick to someone who done well, i mean immigration is a topic to be argued about and fair enough but if you go somewhere and welcomed and work hard and give back whats the problem?
It’s essential for a child or children to be raised in the environment of a functional father and mother. 🙏🏿
@@JJ-lr9sv agree, so sad 😞
This whole conversation is the typical TradCon *intellectual dishonesty*
It's not _fatherlessness_ "problem"
It's *SINGLE MOTHERHOOD* , they are using "fatherlessness" as a *euphemism* for it to subtly shift the blame onto *MEN*
Blaming *MEN* yet again.
To the uninitiated and low IQ it seems indistinguishable, but it's a _semantic_ game they're playing, as to not upset the _female_ base.
You don't get to blame men for poor female choices and behavior.
This intellectual dishonesty is why the traditional conservatives will _keep losing_ and _keep making the situation worse_ .
Until you solve the _actual_ problem (hint: it's not the _men_ ) society will continue to collapse.
Enjoy the decline. 💊
My father is a narcissist. Every moment with him was stressful and as an adult taking calls from him was stressful. There would always be a problem, someone father wanted to attack and bring a lawsuit against. The reasons were always petty.
I spent a considerable amount of time as a youngster extremely angry. The time would be spent reading in the public library to find out what was wrong with father and as a distraction. I'd plant fruit and nut trees along the canals and on public land, rather than be violent or commit vandalism, to occupy time.
When I left home the time was spent mostly working 14-18 hour days for some 20 years. After that there was no need to work, the properties and land were paid off, investments were there, savings sufficient etc. But keeping working makes life more bearable so it is more like 45 hours a week now and plenty of time is spent tending the gardens and land for a very high degree of self sufficiency.
Today, I'd rather be alone or spend limited time with truly loved ones. I hate controlling other people and hate people trying to control me. It is more about contentment rather than being happy, happiness is not really achievable.
Exceptions confirm the rule of course you will meet fathers who have certain anger issues. But the stats don't lie usually fathers do a better job raising children to be disciplined and respectful. You might have missed love in your early days but at least you didn't end up a criminal and it paid off. In todays day and age a father or father figure is more important for children than a mother, because a mother can teach love and empathy. A father on the other hand can teach these things to but on top of that discipline usually also comes from the father.
Wow! What a horrible waste if a life!
Oh well, at least you claim to be happy about dying alone after a pointless life with nothing to show for the future.
It's sometimes important to see how they were raised. They don't have good toolboxes either from which to draw from good personal experiences in their own youth.
So I guess you need to take your *red pills* and be honest and ask yourself...
_"Why did my MOTHER choose CHAD instead of a more reasonable man??"_
💊
@@DTreatz Mother didn't get to choose in an arranged marriage. Her life has been defined by working extremely long hours and being frugal. Teaching us self discipline involved making us write lines, 4XA4 sides everyday (so presumably the words would be with us when we needed them).
We are a selfish bunch today. We’ve bought the idea of ‘I deserve to be happy’ rather than ‘I need to be responsible for making my life, my marriage, my family work’… entitlement and quick fixes allow people to take the easy way out
This society won't last long
A culture of no one taking responsibility for their actions. Wether is corporate and political corruption, or things like abortion and racism. It can all be boiled down to people making poor choices and trying to escape having to face the consequences.
Not really. This is just the consequence of liberal policy. They have been pushing feminism so much that governments basically is even encouraging women to divorce as the justice system is heavily anti-men and the government is giving out subsidies for women to divorce... of course they are given fancy names like 'single mother subsidy' to compensate for the loss of income if a woman decides to divorce... that and the fact that their ex basically has to still provide for their living costs.... so yeah this is what happens if you encourage it. The boomers really fucked things up. But like everything in history it's a slow decline till you eventually start to realize where the fuck the good old times have gone and why the new generation are a bunch of mental basket cases. You don't need Sherlock for this one... just common sense, which especially judging from the past few years has been in extremely short supply. People like Peter Hitchens got depressed as he has warned about this for decades, but nobody wants to listen.
This whole conversation is the typical TradCon *intellectual dishonesty*
It's not _fatherlessness_ "problem"
It's *SINGLE MOTHERHOOD* , they are using "fatherlessness" as a *euphemism* for it to subtly shift the blame onto *MEN*
Blaming *MEN* yet again.
To the uninitiated and low IQ it seems indistinguishable, but it's a _semantic_ game they're playing, as to not upset the _female_ base.
You don't get to blame men for poor female choices and behavior.
This intellectual dishonesty is why the traditional conservatives will _keep losing_ and _keep making the situation worse_ .
Until you solve the _actual_ problem (hint: it's not the _men_ ) society will continue to collapse.
Enjoy the decline. 💊
*best comment
It's true. My son, who lost his father as an infant, would spend a day fishing with his grandfather and would come back good as gold and behave well at home and school. I asked my dad what he'd say to him, and he said nothing special, they just fished. This rang true b/c Dad was easy going and never raised his voice. My son would say, "Grandad is cool, I want to be like him." Every boy needs a good male role model.
No. Not a male role model. Their father.
@@TILLEYJS AGREED! I Just told my husband that. I don’t think this lady meant it that way, because her sons dad passed away. But kids NEED THEIR FATHER EVERY SINGLE DAY! NOT every other weekend. SONS ESPECIALLY NEED THIER dads EVERY SINGLE DAY!
🙂✌🏾❤ I can testify to that I was raised by a single women but learned how to be a man from my grandfather
@@sararlgarrett That's bs. If the father makes his present significant, even if it is one day a week ,it can be insanely influential for the children. The notion that fathers need to slave away in their houses is bs. The fathers need to make the bangs in the child's life. Strong impressions and strong experiences. This can even be done if the father is once a month present.
What this tells me is that a man can reach extraordinary levels as a single parent but rarely will they take on that challenge. Kudos to all the women that take on that challenge everyday and try their best.
I have been saying this for quite some time. In todays day and age a father or father figure is more important for children than a mother, because a mother can teach love and empathy. A father on the other hand can teach these things to but on top of that discipline usually also comes from the father.
The reason is simple, the custody of kids are generally given to mothers by default, even when the woman is the one committing adultery and child abuse. The justice system literally does not allow us men to be in the child's life as much as woman. Not to mention we also have to pay alimony to the latter.
Women DO NOT know how to raise children - how to raise boys to be Masculine (not mummy's boys) and how to raise girls to be feminine & chaste. Single mothers almost always emasculate their sons & pimp their own daughters.
Granted that they're hesitant at first, but when they take up the responsibility they don't back down. Ofcourse exceptions are always there. Like he said it's stats
That's cap the courts always side with mother unless she has a proven documented drug problem or a case of physical abuse
"You can ignore the truth but you can avoid it"
That’s truth
I'm from India. Have 3 kids. My husband got transferred to a different state for job. He visits every 2 weeks.Even if he is not physically present, i feel his influence on the kids is far more than me. I cannot imagine separating them from him. I feel woman can nurture and care all they want. But the sons always look at the father as their role model. I'm sure my daughter will look for a man just like her dad when she grows up. That's why choosing the right man to marry is soo important. Ofcourse,Treat a man right and he'll work towards becoming the right guy.
Congrats .. your family is happy ..
@peace of mind
Transferred? And he comes every 2 weeks ?
Ahhh double check
2 weeks with side chick
And 2 weeks with u playing daddy daddy
😂
@@Amalekkkkk i wonder what kind of twisted family do you come from to have such a twisted view? No wonder women are divorcing left and right in America. No woman will have trust in a person like you.
@@Amalekkkkk Bruh, India isn't west. Stuff like that is looked down upon and neighbours can easily find out. Any such activity becomes an issue and people would kick you out.
@@gabbar51ngh well said
I swear to be the best father I can be to my son. And the best husband I can be to my wife.
Just became a father last week. The world needs more strong fathers.
Congratulations!
Congratulations on being a father, you're definitely on the right track.
Patrick. This is the truth about the future of America. Fathers have a definitive role in the character building of any child. When a father abandons the child, the child is scarred for life.
It was nice of you to speak on this extremely important subject.
Or or the government and baby mama terrorist keep fathers away from children
Fathers don't abandon children, mothers break up homes
This whole conversation is the typical TradCon *intellectual dishonesty*
It's not _fatherlessness_ "problem"
It's *SINGLE MOTHERHOOD* , they are using "fatherlessness" as a *euphemism* for it to subtly shift the blame onto *MEN*
Blaming *MEN* yet again.
To the uninitiated and low IQ it seems indistinguishable, but it's a _semantic_ game they're playing, as to not upset the _female_ base.
You don't get to blame men for poor female choices and behavior.
This intellectual dishonesty is why the traditional conservatives will _keep losing_ and _keep making the situation worse_ .
Until you solve the _actual_ problem (hint: it's not the _men_ ) society will continue to collapse.
Enjoy the decline. 💊
This all adds up. I should’ve been locked up as a kid, many times. My mom was always working, and we were raising ourselves. I can’t imagine leaving my little dude, no matter how hard this marriage gets.
My father was mildly strict, He lead by example like cooking, cleaning the house and doing other house chores. We had our disagreements but we solve them right away. I spent a few weeks at my cousins house during the summer time, My uncle was very strict, There was one tv in the house, He made us do chores everyday early in the morning. My uncle would reward us going out fishing, going to the movies and playing video games. I understand now my dad and uncle were the leaders to thier family.
If your father had chosen a good woman - a REAL woman, to have a child with than maybe he shouldn't have had to do all of those things - raising kids cooking and cleaning is for women, and working and setting rules and boundaries are for men buuut if you cannot even set them for yourself how can you ever set them for your child?
@@roserevancroix2308 Well said. These days men are just expected to do literally everything as if they are machines, cook men and protect from a burglar men
Meanwhile Asian kids: first time ?? 😂😂🤣🤣😆😆😁😁
@roserevancroix2308 nope! The father and the mother taught them well! House chores are not boys or girls stuffs. It's everybody stuffs. If you live in that house, everyone must give contribution in making sure the house is intact.
The father give examples to their boys and girls to contribute the housechores. Teach by example is the correct thing to do. The father helping the chores is an example and teach the kids how to respect his wife too.
@@roserevancroix2308 lol good luck finding that today
Even through a divorce, I fought tooth and nail to make sure I got 50/50. I was not gonna leave my kids with a single mother full time. The court system is stacked against us men, but it is beatable if you have resources. If you don't have money, then I'm sorry the system will screw you over. Unfortunately, serious changes need to be made to our system, including getting rid of no fault divorce. If you cheat or leave then you should be held accountable for your actions (86% of women initiating divorce). Men should not have to have 50k+ in lawyer fees just to be involved in their kids' lives....
Justin Di Vito sadly so true - I was one of those screwed but well said & God bless !
Justin divito. - doesn't matter whether 50/50 or every other weekend. What matters is you make the best with your kid. When he is with you that you are doing the best as his father
with him or her. Personally when a kid is less than 11 years old he needs more his mother. This guy is talking about fatherless fathers.
Truth
I spent around 25-30k and got my twin boys 25 days a month. Mom can't hold a job nor a place to live so I could have left it 50/50 but my sons were living in a car in a alley when with her. She lives with her parents now so she can claim she not homeless lol but the kids know. The kids always figure it out in the end. If not have the money yes the system RIGGED.
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Revelation 20:15 Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire.
"Salvation Prayer"
Dear Heavenly Father, I come to you, to confess that I am a sinner. I have done some things in my life that I am not proud of and I repent of my sins. I believe that Jesus died on the cross for my sins and that He arose from the grave and that He is alive today. I ask that you forgive me of my sins and come into my heart... I proclaim that Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior. AMEN...
I've been a pediatric nurse for 20 years, working all over the country and world. I have watched their capacity to handle difficult times just plummet. The kids without fathers involved are the least capable, most over emotional. I will see the difference between when mom stays the night verses when dad stays the night. Ladies, your kids are playing you.
Running into teenagers from chaotic single mother households is like running into death, they have no discipline or self control in any way. I advice to cross the road and walk on the other side.
When I was a kid I took two chocolates from a shop and came to my Father's office. I told him to pay the shopkeeper later. He told me that he will pay if I can add the price of the chocolates. I didn't know how to do decimal addition. He made me return those chocolates. It was so embarrassing. Today I am an Engineer and my knack towards mathematics started from that incident. Discipline has its rewards.
My father died when I was 3.He was 24 and my mother 24 as well. War in Yugoslavia started right after my dad died.I was lucky that I had so powerful mother,she was a bad ass till this day I never cursed infront of her.I m 36 now and I still have so much respect for her that I can't even light a cigarette infront of her.I look at her with such awe and veneration throughout my life and I always did.She was my father and my mother,she was like general.Wake up at 05:40 go to sleep at 21h.If she sees that my and my brother watch TV she would turn off the electricity in the whole damn house..And now...every day I m getting older and everyday I respect that woman more and more..Especially when I saw this statistics...Good job mom I love you 😍
Your mother is a real G.
I love it!
Dude, literally no one asked about this. The topic was about father's and the role they play? Why are you shifting the conversation?
@@TheTwinkiefoot Because despite the fact single mother households are so bad his mum succeeded.
The big difference is his mum didn't choose to be single.
The reason she was successful is because she did what men do and most women don't.She set boundaries and enforced them 👍
@@TheTwinkiefoot the conversation was also about that fathers are more successful than mothers in raising law abiding citizens, and he gave an example that not all mothers are weak, some are real alphas and know how to discipline their kid/s.
I'm a female and raised by a 2 parent family. I can't imagine not having my dad in the house. My dad was the first man I ever loved. He showed me my worth, he showed me what love was, he showed me what a good man was, he showed me, via my mum, what a relationship looks like, he showed me how I should be treated. He taught me about the male mind, how men think, how dangerous men can be and how to keep myself safe from those men.
Both sons and daughters need their dad.
Showed you how dangerous men can be huh? Interesting
@@ljthirtyfiver Doesn't say that anywhere. Try again.
@@Nicci82 your comment literally says that .
“He taught me about the male mind, how men think, how dangerous men can be”
@@ljthirtyfiver and where in that quote do I say my dad showed me?
Showing is a physical performance. Teaching is the passing of knowledge and experience.
My dad didn't kick my head in to show me that certain men can be violent, how to spot them and what to do if I found myself in those situations. He told me that certain men can be violent, how to spot them and what to do if I found myself in those situations.
2 very different things.
Withou dads, daughters become disordered and promiscuous, boys become weak or criminal.
At any cost we Indians put our effort to the highest level from preventing broken down.
Thank you for video. I lost husband when my child was just 7. And I see HUGE difference when child has both parents . It’s like a house where is child grow , but rood has just one side to protect you. It’s so sad that my child just has me no other relatives who give her love, attention and protect.
*I know the role my father played during my time of depression. He would not let me mope all day doing nothing or drop out of college. My mom on the other hand was a loving enabler*
Facts 💯 women can't raise men. They only lovingly enable them.
That is why it is important to have both energies. Both have a purpose for well balanced child.
You make a strong point. Something many may not want to hear, but it's necessary to learn from
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Revelation 20:15 Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire.
"Salvation Prayer"
Dear Heavenly Father, I come to you, to confess that I am a sinner. I have done some things in my life that I am not proud of and I repent of my sins. I believe that Jesus died on the cross for my sins and that He arose from the grave and that He is alive today. I ask that you forgive me of my sins and come into my heart... I proclaim that Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior. AMEN...
@@youtube_chaplain Hope you trying to reach your immediate family as well as people in your community. Js
Have we not all come across the young man who's been zombified his entire life with ADHD medication, who's trying to figure life out all on his own during his 20's? The one who's been treated as nothing but a burden for his entire life? The one who hasn't been raised, hasn't been taught, hasn't been loved, listened to etc. etc. It's a shame that this has become the norm for so many people in our society.
What's ADHD medication have to do with it?
What kind of piece of shit drugs their own children. Real garbage parents out there.
@@the_traveling_man4284 Sometimes it's used as a bandaid to fix a discipline issue.
@@the_traveling_man4284 a lot of times it's used as a Band-Aid for disciplinary issue..
@@TheHaterSedater I don't need to know about the medication I was diagnosed in the 6th grade however I wasn't written off for a behavior issue I was tested and I do legitimately have it. I understand that it was certainly overly prescribed to the point of South Park making an episode about it. I'm asking for it's relation in regards to the original comment
I've blown away 🥰🥰🥰, you're not just a father to your Kids but also for the nation. Bless ya men.
I'm a bw, and I grew up with just my father and two older brothers. Mr. Pat, you're speaking nothing but truth. My dad was hard at times when I was a teenager, but boy, oh boy, was his wisdom always on point! He saved me from so many tears. He and my uncle actually introduced me to my husband. Dad's are not important they are essential!
What’s a bw?
@@sunnywintermorning1941 black woman
100%
I absolutely hate it when people preface everything they say with a description of their physical characteristics. If your information is good, what you look like is irrelevant.
Why do u have to specify your race?
Don't discount the stepfather's either. My father ran out on my mom when she was pregnant with me & my stepfather married her when I was seven. Now I'm a total daddy's girl. That man is everything to me. He taught me how to fish, chop wood & so much more
It's really sad to see single-parenting becoming a new norm in the US. Having a father seems like a luxury these days.
I remembered that I had my moments with my dad when I was a child. When we finished dinner, we would sit at our porch and just spend time talking. I don't know since when did it change, but we stopped hanging out.
As I grow older, its either my father changed or I'm able to comprehend people's nature more, or both; but he became the kind of father that brings money home and that's it. All other things in the house must be done by me, my siblings, and mom. When one of my sibling or me made a mistake, my father would blame my mother for raising us wrong. He also demanded to be treated like the king of the house.
My mother said that he's always like that, I was just too young to know, and she didn't want to break that father-son moments I had with him. This breaks my heart and that hanging out moments that I cherished, become sad moments. Today, my father is more of a model father that I don't want to be. So except for bringing money home for my family, I'm doing everything in the complete opposite of what he had done to his family.
I'm happy because I know that both my wife and child seems to have enough fill of my attention. I know that they know that I love them. But because what I do to them are what my father didn't do to me, I also feel sad.
Hello
My parents are divorced, and I lived with just my dad as a kid. Even with one parent, I called it a zero parent household. Doesn't matter if you have parents when they have to sacrifice all their available time working.
True it doesn't matter who is your parents is. When they are working all the time and you with them 24/7 is bad also because they control all the thing's
Well it's the two working parent trap isn't it? Society has fallen for the lie, lost their purpose in marriage and shunned the nuclear family.
We can't earn a living wage in this oligarchy.
@@ty194 I actually watched a Ted Talk a few years ago where this lady explained that teen pregnancy became an issue in America when both parents working became the trend. I wouldn’t be surprised if this also led to the higher divorce rates as well. Even the idea of 9-5 is kinda mythical now as more businesses extend their operating hours. It all adds up.
That’s why the problem dominates in the US which is a capitalist nation. Where I grow up, parents didn’t work round the clock. In other parts of the world people prioritize spending time with their families over work, that’s not the case in the US
people dont really understand how important it is to have this discussion. i became a father at 20 years of age (im 26 now) and boy let me tell you it wasn't easy whatsoever. My father left when i was just 6 months, and it always stuck out to me as a little boy "how can a grown ass man just leave his bloodline like that, i made a promise to myself that ill never leave my offspring no matter how hard this shit gets. My boy is now 6, and plays sports and is number one in his class. needless to say...I'm a proud father.
One day he'll understand how lucky he is.
You became a father at 18, 8 years have passed yet your son is 6 years old?
@@louisgworld He's a great father not a great mathematician.
@@user-wh6fw2id9n lmao relax relax feels like almost a decade has passed. Let’s not get off topic 😂😂
That’s good for you. But what would you do if the state prevents you to be a father to your kid with. While the mother alienates the children from their father?
You went through this very well. Good job.
Hopelly grandspas should step in
I did that, cause I knew my single daughter was struggling, not easy at all, when I see my 2 grandkids happier, there I got my recompense.
I am a single father with full custody of my daughter since she was 9months old. This message brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for your kind words. I truly don't see it as service, it was a gift from God to be a father.
@Julian of course. How could I have her full custody ? That would indicate a court proceeding.. they just don't give children to their fathers
😢
you are a mere sperm donor in American feminist court's eyes
@Julian I understand what your saying! Thank you for looking out!
I remember first time I had to leave for work for 5 days straight, oh my God, was that hard? My 4 year old daughter hugged me tight and would not let me go for like 10 minutes, no lie, all she was saying is PROMISE ME YOURE COMING BACK DADDY…And looking at all these stats I’m shocked how can someone leave their daughter/son behind and live a happy life. I just can’t wrap my head around this.
People don't remember Nixon stating that black unity is the biggest threat to America in rhe 70s and plotted to destroy family units? Take accountability. Theres a reason this happened in the USA and not everywhere else around the globe
Agreed. Your comment makes me think about how that aspect is not always discussed. It’s not every single father that has been forcibly pushed away from their child by the mother. For the fathers who leave, who chose to not get involved , who can relocated , start new families and move on - I always wonder how they can.
It’s evil for a mother to block a child from their father unless the father is abusive and dangerous. It’s also evil for a father to abandon his own child.
Kids need both parents
@@lindab3340 Yet a man has to go to court to get visitation of his children.Women automatically have this right.
@@lindab3340 Women should stop letting degenerates knock em up. They think they can tame the bad boy.
Nobody forces fathers o leave. You can't force a grown man to do anything. They choose to leave. Most men today don't give a shit about their kids.
This is one of the best videos on Valuetainment...
Amen, EVERY Time I see a father and mother at the store, caring for their children, not screaming at them, I THANK them. AND tell them what a BEAUTIFUL Family they have and it's rare to see such care they have for eachother. AND I tell them I know' it's hard, but that from experience of having 5 kids who RESPECT us, it IS Worth it! That, it will come back at everyone sitting at the Thanksgiving table, and Holiday tables... GOOD Job Mom and Dad!
My dad came here as an immigrant. He worked hard for my mom, my brother and I to have a good life. He was hard on me, but he made me the person who I am. I am so glad I had a dad to raise me and that he never left and I appreciate him for being tough on me
Lucky you and blessed.
He was tough on you because life is tough. He was just getting you ready for life. Good father.
May ALLAH bless you, your father and your whole family.
At the park it is clear to see how much more fit and confident kids are with an involved father.
Facts !
And if your a dad at a park all the kids gravitate towards you and you end up running the whole park
Heaven and Hell are real... Is your heart right with God? We can not hide our sins from God. Jesus Christ loves you and He died for our sins. If you will REPENT of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, you will be saved and your name will be written into the Book of Life.
Revelation 20:15 Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire.
"Salvation Prayer"
Dear Heavenly Father, I come to you, to confess that I am a sinner. I have done some things in my life that I am not proud of and I repent of my sins. I believe that Jesus died on the cross for my sins and that He arose from the grave and that He is alive today. I ask that you forgive me of my sins and come into my heart... I proclaim that Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior. AMEN...
Lol this isnt like new info
@@wills242 Who said it was.
Thankyou GOD BLESS everyone 🙏
I grew up in a two parent home.My mother and father could not have loved,emotionally supported me and encouraged any more than they did. So I always had that sanctuary inside the home. But people must understand that that isn't enough for human beings. I felt that positive vibe to a lesser extent within the community. But as an African American, never from the society itself. And that's the sad part. Because it took me to live abroad in Japan to understand the four pillars of human existence. INDIVIDUAL, FAMILY, COMMUNITY AND SOCIETY. AND THE NEED FOR POSITIVE RECIPROCAL REINFORCEMENT AMONGST THE FOUR PILLARS. You cannot maintain harmony within the home if there is no harmony outside the home. The level of toxicity outside the home is astounding within American society. It has gotten worse over the last 50 years. You cannot have our politics continue to add to this toxicity without consequences. AS a means of access to power.You cannot have our social and other media platforms continue to tear people apart for profit.America has been an US VS THEM society since its founding. It is a breeding ground for psychosis and neurosis, in my opinion. I can remember when I returned with my father from Japan for the last time after his military career came to an end in 1969.Right then and there,I told my father that I had no desire to become a father. Especially if I stayed on American soil. That of course I would continue my schooling, graduate college and try to make something of my life. I told him that I felt America was a great country to work and make a living. But not to raise a family. He was not surprised by my decision.He even said that I had to feel it in my heart if this was the proper place to raise any children I might have. You see somethings are greater than the individual self, he said. You as an individual are but a small part of a much larger equation, he said. The only thing my parents asked of me was to act as a mentor to the future children and grandchildren of my older brother and younger sister. And even some of the youngsters in any future community I might choose to live in.I was 13 years old when I made this decision. And I have no regrets. And I kept my promise to my parents to become mentor to the children and then grandchildren of my brother and sister.
Even tho I don’t get along with my dad I’m glad I had him in my life he taught me how to be a man.
When you’re young, you idolize your parents. As a teen you villainize your parents. But as an adult, you humanize your parents.
I heard this the other day on Valuetainment, and it struck a cord. As we become parents, and learn more about our parent’s upbringing, we can start connecting the dots of their lives and understanding them a little better. I hope you find peace one day with your father.
When my father was alive, he was "just there", didn't really instill many lessons in me and always looked down on me and comparing me to my older sibling. It's not only physical absense, but also emotional/spiritual absense...
I feel you, I had a father who didn't teach me anything, was emotionally absent and would beat me very rarely rightfully so, but for the most part he'd just beat me for no reason with no logic, talking logic to him would get a bigger beating. I'm 27 now and obey rules a little bit too much, I'm agreeable asf, basically a robot, if someone hits me I don't get angry, have an extremely dulled emotional response with only anxiety as a driving force.
@One Man No need to be sorry he's fine now as an adult also don't call me kid. I don't care how old you are old man.
Ya some fathers are not perfect, you should look up to the heavenly father, who loves you no matter who you are.
Right! Non active fathers in the home, leave just as much damage as absent fathers.
@@1976athletico shall i send you to meet your heavenly father?
I've had to go to court over 100 times in the last 11 years, i have done nothing wrong. My kids moms addiction is still in control. The system wrecked me took everything from me. Yet i still fight om amd will never stop for my kid, he is amazing!!!
very, very interesting (and concerning). thank you for gathering the information and then sharing.
Father-power baby! I tell people regularly that men and women, dad and mom, have equal value but different roles. This is a powerful and much needed message in society today. Thank you PBD.
Alhamdulillah for Islam.☝💚
*“From among the portents of the Hour are (the following)…the drinking of alcoholic drinks will be very common, and (open) illegal sexual intercourse will prevail…”*
(Bukhari Volume 1 Hadith 80)
Also
*“The Last Hour will not be established until they (wicked people) commit adultery on the roads (public ways).”*
(Ibn Hibban and Bazzar)
And
*“The Hour will come when adultery becomes widespread.”*
(Al-Haythami, Kitab al-Fitan)
Well literally no one can dispute this. Alcohol is basically widespread and consumed by majority of people. Alcohol is glorified in the media, tv shows, music, social media etc. The exact same thing can be said about open sexual intercourse. With pornography being rampant in today’s culture it has led to the current state that we are all in.
However the statistics for this are shocking. About 41% of couples (one or both) have admitted to committing infidelity. This is for sure a clear cut prophecy coming true.
Furthermore there is more to this.
The Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم said:
*“O Muhajirun, (emigrants from Makkah to al-Madinah) you may be afflicted by five things; God forbid that you should live to see them… if fornication should become widespread, you should realise that this has never happened without new diseases befalling the people which their forebears never suffered.”*
[Sunan Ibn Majah, Vol. 5, pg. 222-223, Hadith #4019]
The key word is “diseases”. How scary is it that STDs such as HIV and AIDS are rampant due to sex outside of marriage. STDs are already rampant because more than half of all people will have an STD/STI at some point in their lifetime.
It is so rampant to the point where we have STD clinics and campaigns about safe sex. Such diseases never existed in ancient times and in today’s world it is a normal occurrence.
*“There will be an abundance of illegitimate children.”*
(Al-Muttaqi Al-Hindi, Muntakhab Kanzul Ummaal)
This is a massive prophecy and is happening right here and right now. Right now if you compare a country like USA they have statistic which show that even in 2012 that 40.7% of children are born out-of-wedlock
So the numbers are ridiculous and this is a huge modern phenomena. This is a clear cut prophecy coming true.
Also
*“Divorces will be a daily occurrence.”*
(Allamah Safarini, Ahwal Yaum al-Qiyamah)
Well to be frank divorces are already like this in this day and age. People take divorces as a normal occurrence but we can let the stats speak for themselves. 41 percent of first marriages end in divorce. In America, there is one divorce approximately every 36 seconds. That’s nearly 2,400 divorces per day, 16,800 divorces per week and 876,000 divorces a year
The media has normalised divorces and now we talk about divorce like it’s nothing. But in actual fact the daily occurrence of divorces is a prophecy by Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم
I reckon just give the kid to the parent that ain't on meth. (Here in Australia 🇦🇺)
No no. Fathers are more important. Didn’t you watch the video.
If they had "equal" value, children of single fathers wouldn't be outclassing children of single mothers so hard.
Sounds to me like the data is clear, *the father matters MORE*
Accept reality. 💊
I applaud Pat for speaking up on this issue in a nation that is preaching the opposite. My respect for this man grows with each video I watch!
He is preaching "let's raise kids like the Chinese". Or didn't you realize ding dong?
@@amsterdamcowboy9738 How so???
@@amsterdamcowboy9738 you would do well to emulate them
@@amsterdamcowboy9738 I'm thankful when others (to my defense) get to respond first to people like you who post negative comments for no good reason.
this video is A decade old and the topic has been covered ad museum
My mum was not present. It was the deepest heartache ever.
I grew up without a father, it sucked. Until one day I realized we ALL have a father. The one true Father. Our Father, Who Art in Heaven.
God is your father he is great creator to all
There is a special love and affection when kids are brought up by both parents. I grew up with both parents; my dad was very tough while my mom was soft on us. We didn't like dad because of his straightforward decisions, but Alhamdulillah my siblings and I have come to realize dad had helped us greatly...
Alhamdulillah ❤️
🙏🙏
@clotshots9072 So true!
Growing up in with both parents is the sane growing up in single fathers houses. So don’t go and hate on with who leave their children.
@clot shots discipline is more important so don’t complain when women leave their children.
As a fatherless young man (21) I can tell you it's quiete hard. I was lucky I've never been a drug or alcohol addict, I quit my tobacco addiction about three years ago. Now I am on my way to coming back in accounting school and taking control over my future.
All the best for you future. Wish you a life filled with love, peace, success, bliss, happiness and harmony.
@@jaho9873 Thanks so much,I appreciate your kind words.
GOOD FOR YOU. WHEN YOU HAVE A CHILD LOVE THAT MOTHER AND GET MARRIED!
@@livlaughlove4646 No, I honestly I don't want a family. I feel good alone.
This whole conversation is the typical TradCon *intellectual dishonesty*
It's not _fatherlessness_ "problem"
It's *SINGLE MOTHERHOOD* , they are using "fatherlessness" as a *euphemism* for it to subtly shift the blame onto *MEN*
Blaming *MEN* yet again.
To the uninitiated and low IQ it seems indistinguishable, but it's a _semantic_ game they're playing, as to not upset the _female_ base.
You don't get to blame men for poor female choices and behavior.
This intellectual dishonesty is why the traditional conservatives will _keep losing_ and _keep making the situation worse_ .
Until you solve the _actual_ problem (hint: it's not the _men_ ) society will continue to collapse.
Enjoy the decline. 💊
father figure is so important.. My dad and granpa are very strict. In the past I always envy toward other kids who spoiled by their dad "why I don't got same treatment by my dad" Now the more I got aging and become an adult the more constantly I understand my dad..
Hi, I spend as much time with my sixteen year old son as possible, I always tell him I love and cherish him, I tell him I’m very proud of him, and I try teaching him to fix things around the house and the car, idk when to leave him alone, I crave his attention more than he craves mine! Idk why, we spend every other Sunday together for a dad and son relationship, I understand and agree with your video, Ty,
I am 48, and notice this phenomenon firsthand as a single man.
Very rarely do I find ANY single women at this age without at least one child.
In fact, I very rarely find single, childless women AT ALL regardless of age.
When I was growing up, we always looked at kids with divorced parents or single mom households as abnormal... We felt bad for those kids but knew it was the exception and not the norm.
Not anymore.
YUp that is the norm my friend, sad to see a society going down the drain!
The us will not be able to compete with other nations, because they have no values!
Trying to cultivate a society without men to raise their children, how can that put your people on top!
Laughing Out Loud laughable.
Very true. I am one of those 40 something childless women though. I'm glad I didn't have children, and enjoying my life and career, travelling and renovating my own home. However, the older I get, the more invisible I become as I DON'T have children (& certainly choose not to) but society doesn't seem to know where I fit in. This makes me sad, and somewhat of a different worth to society, though I am a tax payer and work in the community.
They've broken the family unit as an institution. 😔
who is they?
who is they?
@@IAintTheDaddyMaury if you ask that question, you weren't paying attention in class...
@@IAintTheDaddyMaury democrats and feminist
Heaven and Hell are real... Is your heart right with God? We can not hide our sins from God. Jesus Christ loves you and He died for our sins. If you will REPENT of your sins and put your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, you will be saved and your name will be written into the Book of Life.
Revelation 20:15 Anyone whose name was not found written in the book of life was thrown into the lake of fire.
"Salvation Prayer"
Dear Heavenly Father, I come to you, to confess that I am a sinner. I have done some things in my life that I am not proud of and I repent of my sins. I believe that Jesus died on the cross for my sins and that He arose from the grave and that He is alive today. I ask that you forgive me of my sins and come into my heart... I proclaim that Jesus Christ is my Lord and Savior. AMEN...
love your video!
I spoke out every place publicly I could online.
My own story surprises some people, a light Bulb went off in my head once I realized the big picture.
It’s heartbreaking because all they can do is make it better going forward.
I hope and pray they get it under control. I don’t really care. Who’s the blame. I just want it fixed and immediately like fix it yesterday whatever has to happen.
Thank you. For you video. We need more real Dads spending real quality time with their kids. It is important.
When I looked at the statistics for fatherless boys back in 2009 it shook me to my core and it was at that exact moment I took my life more serious. I didn’t want to be a bum or an embarrassment to myself or my mom who raised me. 14yrs later I have a beautiful family, my own home and my boys will never be without a father. Let’s do what our fathers couldn’t. Let’s be strong minded and raise men. Not boys who end up dead, in jail or drug addicts.
Your boys are blessed to have you.
Hope your wife dont destroy your psicology during this life...
@@iliaselbourji1865 why so negative? My wife is an amazing mother and spouse. Sorry you haven’t found that.
@@SaLvAdOriaN127 cz of experience and statistics...
@@SaLvAdOriaN127 When she divorces you, alienates your children against you, makes it difficult to have time for them as you pay for child support and alimony under threat of prison, get back to me.
I never appreciated my dad enough till I became an adult. I was worried once that my husband (boyfriend at the time) will leave me. And my always strict and straightforward dad said “if he leaves you, it would be better for you. Because only an idiot can leave a woman like you”. That was the best self-esteem boost ever. I still live with these words in my mind :)
We are poor by system but luckily we're happy that we have happy families. We considere parents as paradise
Thank you for this video
I’m a product of a fatherless home with a single mom. I struggled a lot with so many insecurities, self esteem, and relationship issues plus anger. I felt very loved deprived, and I looked for love in men. I had no proper guidance, and I repeated the same mistake my mom did, it was a very hard situation. My children also suffered a lot.
Once I turn towards my spirituality and gained some structured I was able to learn how a family should be and so I got married and life was better.
In America there are no set of value system for the family!
We don’t teach kids how to be a father or a mother and how to nourish and raise a family.
At age 18 I wanted to get married EVERYONE was saying it was wrong.
Marriage with proper guidance, from elders, support from peers can help people thrive!!
People have to learn respect, how to treat each other with respect and not encourage sex, like it’s a sports game. The schools are teaching about sex not teaching the values of family, of a spouse and of a mom or dad. People don’t know how to love or give love. There is so much superficiality.
I agree with wish you said about marriage. They were saying it’s a big risk because people do fall out of love, and might end up hating each other. It’s a serious decision to make in this type of world at 18, but you’re right that it might be well worth it.
My mom was a married single mom. My dad was on drugs and in and out of prison. When he was there he didn’t do much. I feel like I turned out similar to you, so having a father in the home can’t necessarily be the answer. I guess the father or both parents need to be well.
Better to be married than just doing what married people do. People so screwed these days they think right is wrong and wrong is right.
This whole conversation is the typical TradCon *intellectual dishonesty*
It's not _fatherlessness_ "problem"
It's *SINGLE MOTHERHOOD* , they are using "fatherlessness" as a *euphemism* for it to subtly shift the blame onto *MEN*
Blaming *MEN* yet again.
To the uninitiated and low IQ it seems indistinguishable, but it's a _semantic_ game they're playing, as to not upset the _female_ base.
You don't get to blame men for poor female choices and behavior.
This intellectual dishonesty is why the traditional conservatives will _keep losing_ and _keep making the situation worse_ .
Until you solve the _actual_ problem (hint: it's not the _men_ ) society will continue to collapse.
Enjoy the decline. 💊
Raised by my dad and stepmother who filled the role extremely well. My dad was working a lot to make sure I had opportunities, but when we did spend time together he was packing every bit of knowledge into that time as he could. I'm grateful for my dad. Most of my friends are fatherless and I can see the difference in life is huge. Especially if they don't pull their head out of that rut.
Same situation 💯
@GenXalldayeveryday and that why those men needed their fathers.
@GenXalldayeveryday and all those men are raised by single mothers so...
My dad was a great man, he was sweetest man in the world. Very kind but had his limits when you pissed him off. I miss him very much.
Thanks to you Patrick l followed your channel now for 7 years .So touching topics.Sir l have my kids in the USA when l came there l found Love ,my Mom my Daddy and my brother passed away so l am alone and moved back to Africa ,when l lived in America never had any bad reputation, never committed any crime ,never had even a Traffic police ticket .But when l applied for a Ds 160 just to Visit my kids in Texas and l had very good relation with them .l have two years attending phone video Visitation every Thursday with my kids .But l am
tired about this l am here my kids are there only the Government l guess separating me and them .They denied me Visa meaning my kids are gonna be taken to Foster care or orphanage yet l am alive Oh my God. I Love my kids and they love me. EVEN the CPS ( Child protection services) she always be on my side .These are some causes you see a person get in the country illegal l wanna be with my kids here back in my country or there or just reunite with my kids .So long l have my kids raise them .Whenever they look at me on our video calls they cry .But l see like its unfair. I was raised by both parents and l want my kids to be to .l hate this now
It's sad what's being done to our family units . It's a war to break families down .
STOP ALLOWING IT.....GET UP OFF THE COUCH.....STAND FOR SOMETHING, PLEASE !
WE NEED ALL 18-40 YR OLDS TO GET-UP AND GET-A-GRIP.....!
But why would they want to break up family units???
@@mr.anonymousmr.anonymous9856 depopulation. There is an agenda.
@@mr.anonymousmr.anonymous9856 it's a natural byproduct of a successful society. What goes up, must come down.
And its going to get much worst
I’m dead serious when I say this. I have no father but my mother also slept around. Even after I was born she had a different guy every weekend. I think she was a sex addict, she didn’t believe in birth control because she felt that real sex comes with risk of pregnancy. My mother got pregnant multiple times and used abortion as birth control. There’s three of us, all with three different fathers and only one of us knows who our father is. I’m the oldest, so while my mother was at sex parties, the club, looking for her next one night stand, I was my brothers mother. So, I never had a mother or a father. My mother was all about getting a load dropped in her. The pain of not having a dad never leaves you. But to know it’s because your mother doesn’t know who he is because she slept with so many different men brings a whole other pain that most ppl will never talk about.
I’m so so sorry. What a horrific experience 😔
Hope you had accepted the fate and took ctrl of your life....
Damn
Wow🙏🏽
I hope you break the cycle and heal from your wounds.
Great message! Much needed message!!!
Amazing Info right there!
I remember a time when multiple generations lived in the same home and worked together as a unit. It's not one particular thing, it's a series of things. I'm grateful for that time, for that feeling of community, where ppl looked after another person's child regardless of relation, if someone became ill the community rallied around them. I remember seeing families going to church on Sunday, it may be a different church but I remember that. Times have definitely changed.
I think generally the state of mind has changed. Alot more doom and gloom. Ima just raise my family n teach them to work on a farm
@@rajivpaul9122 that's cool, but do you think you can get them to stay and appreciate what you are trying to provide for them
@@pswhite2961 I think so. I think back to me as a kid, peak childhood just playing outside in the dirt with some sticks. I think the location on top of the responsibility will leave a positive affect
Thank the Boomers for this
The USA is a post feminist nation and has been one for decades. This has not been an overnight problem either. It’s going to take generations for the nation to not be gelded.
This is a true crisis indeed. Children need a father figure in their lives. Period. Without one, they have no direction, no guidance, no mentor. To all the dads out there keep fighting the good fight. You matter!
Yes, but also mother’s. This is basically you saying no equality…God created Adam a wife to help him do his GOD TASK! If GOD didnt think adam needed help he wouldn’t have made EVE. In the eyes of GOD THERE IS EQUALITY
Blame on america women they are un respect and ungrateful and rude they Don want to be true wives love their husband and don't want to have children
Children need both mother and father. Father is a strong features that child look up for to be independence, meanwhile mother is a soft nature that child learn to be kind. So that combination making the right man. At the least.
@@ayuanabradford3206 Women are not equal except intellectually. Feminism doesnt' fit in the sexist Bible where Adam is more in God's image than Eve, ergo he is more like God than woman. Women are not permitted to speak in the congregation of believers. The husband is the master, in the Judeo-Christian culture. You're a libearl trying to make God's way fit with Satan's. I maried a feminazi. Feminism ruined women. She acted equal, and that's why we had conflict. She broke her promise to submit. What man would marry a woman saying "We'll be equal"? That's nonsense. One will have the final word, or there will be time wasted to argue over who should have that word. That system is shit.
@@ayuanabradford3206Did you even read his comment?
That's literally what he typed. Stop trying to shame fathers
In America, I was bullied for HAVING a dad. . But I understood that it wasn't cuz they hated me, it was more because they hated their situations, many of them had single moms who earned more than what my two parent house hold made... But still , it didn't stop the name calling.
I still loved them but I never would have had that perspective if I never saw examples of tolerance and discomfort-tolerance from my father. It was like an insulation from the emotion of depression.
Because of having a father around, I was able to shrug my shoulders and see every bad thing as Temporary, and he never had to say anything.. just watching his actions was enough.
You can still live a fulfilling life without a father, but it's also a good thing if one sticks around.
I have worked in the division of family services and CPS for 20+ years. You wouldn't believe the thousands of horrendous cases that fathers (married and single) perpetrate against their children. Being a father alone does not suffice. Children need their fathers to be the "right" fathers! They need strong God-fearing fathers with the moral character, to lead by example.
No one talks about these things😢, neither people think that deep, we really need people like you to save humanity.
I'm over 50 and I'm still upset I never had a father. I know I would have made better decisions if I'd had a good father.
Same.
As a foreigner the concept of a “babymomma” or “babyfather” is so bizarre and weird to me. It’s also a concept I didn’t understand at first. Because in my culture who you have children with is the one you are married with.
And how normal it is. The term is used so casually is baffling
I am from India and the fact that some women in the west have no problem in having kids outside their marriage makes my skin crawl
@@arunasharma749 well the men are impregnating them and the men are the ones to ask for marriage. Men in the west aren't required by their parents to marry a woman
THATS WESTERN CULTURE THATS BEING PUSHED ON THE WORLD! You dont know how many times i go to the suprmarket seeing a child bitch out there mom and acting up in front of public. Sad!
One more thing... NEVER tell your child your their friend! Cause your NOT! I tell my kids, just what my father told me..."I dont need you to love me, i need you to RESPECT me, if you respected me as your father, love is a by-product of RESPECT!
An eye opener video. Great job sir🙏
Single mom here. My son dad think its ok not be present and just barely privide financially. He travels the country for work but doesnt think our son really needs a male role model in his life at the age of 4. His father comes from a two parent household. Why doesnt he want to be present and consistent with his son. I told him he can even get him on the weekends if he move to the state we are in. He hasn't even tried to make arrangements to move so he can have time with him..its crazy! When my son was just a baby he didn't even want to be around. He never change his pampers or feed him, but me thinking he would bond with him ..but he never really have. I still give him opportunities to bond with him but he wont budge. I haven't even put him on child support either. Smh idk whats in the water but somthing isn't right.