How to Stop Feeling Inferior to Others: Inferiority Complex
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Inferiority Complex: How to Stop Feeling Inferior
What up!
Today I wanted to touch on a topic that I've noticed a lot in the messages I've been getting lately.
We've all felt not "good enough" at some point or another and for a whileeee I struggled with this too.
That's why it kills me to see people not really valuing themselves and seeing their true self worth!
And for me I used to think I just wasn't anything special or worthwhile, I saw other people as "better at life" than me haha and that some people were just lucky and I wasn't one of them. Sucks bro.
Looking back it's insane that I used to think like that but I can see why my self-confidence and self-esteem was nonexistent haha.
So if you've ever felt not good enough or struggle with feeling inferior to others I've got the hook up.
I put together this video to give you some quick tips on how to CRUSH that feeling of not being "good enough".
And regardless of whatever negative self-image you have going on, you are and always will be more than enough. Remember that. - Навчання та стиль
You can't just TELL yourself those positive things, you have to live it. You have to make it a fact. You have to KNOW it deep down.
exactly, u cant fool ur mind.
Lol.... It pisses me off how naive you are and how dumb I am to prove you wrong. All I can say is, going through schizophrenia, your mind can be altered and tweaked. "Think therefor I am." Understand...? It's feasible in plenty of circumstances..
Well telling yourself theses things is better than believing negatively is it not
And yes you can fool and trick the brain that’s the best way to change. I like to smile when things go wrong so that my brain says, “what? You like this? Ok then everything is fine after all”. Yes you have to FEEL that tho.
@@avenger4891 is that the case? or is this another trick of the inferiority complex? constantly needing "proof". It sounds like ur combining intellectualization symptoms with inferiority complex symptoms.
Nah mate , doesn't work for me...
Sometimes, bad thoughts about myself just come in involuntary... It always happens when I'm around people, or when I'm the center of attention. I just feel like fkn disappearing , and my break shuts down. It's really hard for me to take part in social situations without feeling that I'm some sort of worthless piece of sht .
I know I can do much better ,but that itself becomes irrelevant whenever I take actions . Everything just sucks...
I cried when i found out this is whats been wrong with me all this time, im just so happy im not the only one. and that i can fix this
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No matter how much I tell myself I have worth, or anything positive, I cant believe it. ugh.
@Emilia Romagna, I've had the same problem in the past (mainly in High School). A few years later and I'm much better off. My personal recommendation would be to look back at all your past accomplishments, and if you don't know of any then my advice is to make some. Join a club, learn a skill (don't forget to study up on it to make it better.) Devote yourself and you'll have accomplishments racking up in no time flat. At the very least just remember that you were a winner since before you were born. You were the fastest, strongest sperm to reach and fertilize your mother's embryo. That means you beat 10,000's of potential beings just to be born. If you can beat the odds 10,000 / 1 then what can't you do when you put your mind to it?
+RenegadeElite101 This really helped. Thank you ; it's really appreciated :)
+RenegadeElite101 The only thing I've ever been good at was that example there, and being a disappointment to everyone. I'll always win the latter
you are awesome
@@RenegadeElite101 Omg thank you so much for this!!! Really needed this fam :)))
I've always struggled with feeling inferior to those who are more confident or outspoken than I am. Thank you for this video!
This made me cry...Cause I realized how much Ive been putting myself down and how its made my like turn for the worst at the moment. Thank you so much for the mirror tip. Im gonna try this out. God bless!
+Hannah da Great That's beautiful. I'm so glad it gave you a really cool moment of clarity. Yes :) God bless!
I like the topics you choose to talk about. You look like a humble, mature young man. Good job...
+J Aurelio Puente Thank you :)
PeakYourMind kinda helps when you're good looking though ...
you have achieved true self worth when you can brush off what they say without
FEELING the need to attack back.
(RM not saying anything back is NOT the same as not feeling the need to say)
I came here by accident, and I must say, after hearing this guy......I FEEL DAMN GOOD!!!
Lol thanks
I feel like everyone’s always a step ahead of me... and i’m behind no matter how hard i work...
1) recognise your true self. Aligning your true self with your self image. Self image is when we tell ourselves crap over and again. Start telling yourself the truth.
adding this to favorites. Might need to watch it again when I feel weak.
craqqer thanks man, hope it lifts you up in those moments!
This is the first video I've watched from you.You seem like such a well educated person that's trying to help others.I subscribed. You come off as very genuine.
Icareaboutyourapple Hey! I appreciate that, thank you :)
Hi Martin! Thank you so much for this video! There has been a lot of drama at college with girls ( you know how that is) where they don't like you for no reason and it really brings me down. But this video helped me see the best in me so I can stop feeling like they have the power to bring or shake me down. Thanks Martin! You are inspirational and cute hahahah
Julia Haddad Yeah it's lame that some girls are like that but I'm stoked that this video helped! Hahaha thank you
This might sound stupid but I thought that loving myself was selfish. However, there is a huge distinction between a healthy selfish image and being arrogant and cocky. A healthy selfish image makes you more humble, whereas a superior self image causes you to be more selfish. Thanks Martin, you're awesome.
Thank you so much for this. I used to meditate daily to cope with pain, but through this ritual, I began to love myself for the first time. The stress of life and dealing with addiction made me lose sight and allowed me to forget that understanding of self love and self worth that so few people in this world seems to possess. Thank you again.
Thank you for this… I've had an inferiority complex when it comes to talking to UA-camrs, big or small… and I just posted what felt like an absolute embarrassment of a post on Tumblr where I talked about wanting to be this UA-camr's friend. Not because he's well known mind you, but because he seems like someone Id like to talk to on a regular basis… and I felt so embarrassed… but I went to a mirror and told myself "they're no different from you, they're a human just like you" and told myself that constantly until I calmed down about my post and felt better about what may or may not come out of him possibly reading that post…
That's amazing, a such a dope way to remember and recognize the truth. You're 100% right, they're human just like you.
When I was a child, I was told by everyone I was dumb and had no right to say anything. When I was hurt, it was 'normal', nothing new. When I was crying, nobody cared why - I was crying a lot. Until I took their game in my own hands, they stopped bullying me. But I told myself 'It's only me.' I started to believe them. Today I struggle to defend myself, because I think I deserve it. If I do a mistake, I punish myself so nobody else will do it. It hurts beating myself up the whole time, but it feels right. 'Because it's okay to hate on me. It's normal. Everybody does it, so I do it too to be one of them. .. The runt, but one of them.' .. I hate myself so much.
Feeling inferior isnt because YOU started telling yourself youre bad etc. The only reason we have this inner monologue is because we were taught/believed this because of the way others, usually our parents, teachers or peers in primary and secondary school treated us.
Nice video. Basically you have to upgrade your Mental Software and Optimize it for success
Wow, Martin! This is better than $5000 worth of therapy! Rock on!
You rock! :)
I have no self worth, it is what it is. Telling myself otherwise just makes me feel horrible because I know I don't deserve happiness.
My last job ended badly and although I think walking out was the best decision I could have made at the time my confidence was completely shattered to the point where I've actively feared getting another job for over a year thinking it will end the exact same way. I'm due to start my new job on Monday and although I'm absolutely terrified I feel this is the right step to get over my complete lack of self worth. I appear to be working with some genuinely nice people this time instead of the pricks I was working with before and I'm somewhat looking forward to it. I suppose what I'm trying to get at is, don't let one bad experience stop you from moving forward.
Wow sorry to hear you had to deal with that in the past but so stoked and excited for you new job! I love that. It's true. Same deal when you're dating people, it doesn't make sense for one bad relationship to ruin the rest! Good luck with your new job! :)
This is exactly one of the things i have been looking for , i am a soldier and in the army you just cannot run away from things that you think bother you cuz you stay with other in the same places and in it i had not been able to stop feeling like i am inferior one compared with other ones doing everything pretty well ,but lately i have tried to dig what causes me to feel that way . i am now trying to think logically than emotionally and finish things im doing well , see the reality( i used to be in my own weird painful world that kept bothering me ) . i am still trying . i think i have been better than before lately .
Can anyone relate too? wrong not anyone can relate inferiority complex, inferiority complex is extreme of the extreme feeling of lack of confidence. my cousin is suffering from this he is even afraid of taking job interviews because of fear
This made me cry in the best way. I needed to rememeber this. Thank you
The way you talk makes me feel as if I should try even harder to improve as a person, thank you so much!! Could you recommend any book related to some of the things you usually talk about?
PeakYourMind I can't tell you how much this video and all of your other ones are helping me right now. I just started watching them and I'm already feeling a difference. My problem is that I don't believe I'm good enough and that anyone I talk to won't like me or care about me and I try so hared to overcome it but it is so difficult! But just by watching these videos I'm starting to learn how to love myself and become a better person... Thank you so much, you are amazing and I'm so thankful that I found your channel.
Ria Singer Wow that's beautiful, I'm so grateful that they've been helpful :)
Yeah I have the same problem as well.
this helps.. Gotta change my internal mechanism to be as positive as possible.. High self-esteem is key to eliminate inferiority complex.
I literally feel this every day... EVERYDAY...
You are wonderful. Your videos are so encouraging. It's great to see someone so positive and supportive:)
Thank you so much!! You have no idea how much I needed this right now!! Thank you!!! 😊😊
You're welcome!!! So happy it helped! :)
if someone calls you out and you feel insecure,
like with cutting hair
so no thanks my hair is beautiufl
-feeling the need to attack them means you feel insecure still andnot enough self worth in it.
-maybe before they said it you were starting to think it looks good
and after they say it you may feel down and suddenly even tho same hair , it looks worse for some reason.
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you have achieved true self worth when you can brush off what they say without
FEELING(RM NOT SAYING is not the same as not feeling)
the need to attack back.
Meet all their remarks by saying things not normally socially acceptable,
call yourself beautiful in front of other, say you will be rich in the future in front of others
it doesnt matter whether or not you or anyone belives it
But the act of saying it esp in a social settings really helps to reinfornce self worth.
Its like muscle memory training, at peak of the exercise when body is most tired = when the body will most remember the mototr functions you are doing
so if you wanna train a specific movement with good form, make sure to do it all the time
BUT most importantly to do it under the most extreme moments
I've been watching public speaking videos because I'm an auctioneer... (I'm auctioneering for my second time tomorrow)But the whole time I needed this. I am worthy.
YES!!!!!! OVERCOME!!!! GO BEYOND!!! PLUUUUSSS ULTRAAAA!!!!
2:42 theres 2 ways to build confidence
either tell yourself and build yourself
or
tear others down to feel better about yourself
like feeling insecure about just having given an awkward hug
so you go and say "Wow cmon now give me a real hug"
when the truth is you were emanating at least half of the awkwardness
so you blame someone else for it.= tearing down anothers confidence to build up your own
like im not awkward, she is
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As he said to build a tall tower
you either build it
or
tear down all the competition around you
Something to remember is... "O Son of Being! Thou art My lamp and My light is in thee. Get thou from it thy radiance and seek none other than Me. For I have created thee rich and have bountifully shed My favor upon thee." ~ Baha'u'llah, The Hidden Words. Baha'i Faith
Everytime you feel low remember eleminate the comparison
awesome. just having this watched made me feel better
NVMND That's what's up!! :)
I need help - so, I'm an art student right? I surround myself with other artists daily since I'm a student, and I can literally never stop comparing myself and what I do to them. It's literally gotten to the point where I feel unmotivated to draw because I don't think my stuff is good enough compared to theirs. It doesn't help that I always get teased about my work ethic by some of the other kids in my class, it just makes me feel worse. Please someone give me advice, I wanna feel good about my passion again.
ps - sorry if this comes off sounding whiny, i really don't mean it to sound like that.
@donanelson thank you! Love that book! Idk if you can tell but it's actually sitting on my desk
+PeakYourMind didn't you thought of something similar to praying to god?i just see similarities thats all.i remember old folks praying and words are similare
PeakYourMind great video and thanks for helping me overcome my inferior complex as I did feel like that compared to all the other people in my school cause everyone around me was already taking a class that was ahead of where I was at when they were the same age as me and I always felt like the person inferior because I wasn't as advance as they were. In return I was feeling jealous about their achievements and I acted like someone that tried to tear them apart not knowing because of jealousy towards their achievements. Being to now deal with these issues I now am feeling better.
PeakYourMind I need your help please help me...
Call me
THANK YOU for posting this!Subscribed.
+RapMuscleMan For sure!! Welcome man!
just discovered your videos and channel! i don't have as much time for youtube as I did before being a college student, but will definitely be checking in for new vids frequently! you're so awesome and helpful, keep it up :)
Natalie S Haha I totally feel you on that, but thank you! I'm stoked you like them! :)
Thank you for making this video. It definitely made my night.
Of course! Stoked to hear that :)
I see that peaking out...Psycho-Cybernetics!
What a classic, buddy! Maybe my favorite book of all-time.
Frederick0220 Haha yup! It's bomb!
I love your videos! So inspiring and encouraging!
Thank you for sharing your videos, they are really awesome! From the looks of it, you have been through all of this before and with the help of God have overcome it! It's nice to know that know you share what you have overcome with others. Keep up the good work! Blessings! :)
I hate that feeling of "i deserve it" it feels very cheezy and selfish or i maybe i'm just afraid of having that feeling
I like simplicity of your words, thank you for sharing and wish you and me to always find this moment of day of self worthiness
You're honestly such a great youtuber! :D This helped so much, thank you! :)
IndigoImogen Awh thank you so much!! I love that my vids have helped you out! :)
I have a suggestion, it would be nice if you made a video on overcoming past fears and failures. I'm pretty sure it'll make a difference in many people's lives for many struggle with that on a daily basis! PeakYourMind
Know that you are a spiritual being... "Dost thou reckon thyself only a puny form When within thee the universe is folded?" ~ The Iman Ali quoted By Baha'u'llah, The Seven Valleys, Baha'i Faith
With every video of yours that I watch, I become a better person. Thank you for that ❤️
AnimeFriendship Yeeeewwww! I absolutely LOVE that!!! :)
Yeah, when I was younger, I wasn't very good at socializing. So when I finally did have friends, I would try to be funny and make them laugh. And since I always talked a lot, I would talk a lot with my friends. But the teachers would always get mad at me for talking so much. So I gained a 'maturity' inferiority complex, thinking I was less mature than everyone else. So everytime I would see someone my age (that wasn't mentally disabled) acting less maturely than I, I would actually feel good about myself.
I just found your UA-cam channel and I love it!
+hillary ross Welcomeeee! Thanks Hill!
How about making a video about people who constantly make you feel this way for their own amusement
Probably one of my favorites of yours thus far!! Thank you for doing what you do!
***** Chantal! Thanks love :)
Dear Martin,
This is a great suggestion. It's a bit hard because I want to be true to myself, but the career that I am aiming for in the future, I feel I don't have those personality traits. I like to dream, but then when I come to reality, I'm like.. eh I'm not as outspoken as I thought I was, so I must try to overcome it. Maybe I should try to go for a career with my personality traits, because I always feel that I have to try harder for change.. However, you said self - worth is accepting who you are an improving along the way.. :D Haha, I will definitely try that, "I am worth it. We all are!"
+Samia Mehbub If you are going to pursue a dream, whether you think you are cut out for it or not, it should be a dream that you can be ok with trying for and not reaching.
Wow, what a beautiful human being you are. Thank you for sharing xo
Gonna set a timer to watch this every day, because I really need to get this through my thick fucking head.
I'm afraid of asking too much from the world and of people. I don't want to be isolated and self-absorbed, because I still like caring about others. I'm so afraid of being self-centered, that I learned to constantly ask people questions, afraid that I might bore them if I talk about myself. It's ironic though, because I enjoy listening to others. I know my perspective is my responsibility, but I've yet to find an answer to these blockages. Any suggestions are appreciated.
@louis for sure! Love YOU!
great video, it's very insightful. I also love how you have psycho cybernetics in the background. I'm reading that right now. loving it so far. thank you
Jana Love Yeeee! It's not the most organized book but there's a ton of wisdom in there!
I think it is important to see yourself as inferior to others. I find I respect people more that way.
This one kid is saying I'm a bully when really he is
Yooo good stuff. Had this clip saved and came back to it. I noticed you havent upload no more?
I am always so annoyed.my family always compares me to others and when other people put me down I feel inferior. I feel so frustrated and disappointed in myself and in my own mind I defeat that person in whatever then I realise that this is not the reality and I am so fucked up and it really elevates my anxiety level and I just keep thinking about it all day and feel even more inferior. I don't know what to
I am good at academics and other co-curriculurs too but no matter what I do I always feel I am lacking behind and no Matter how much I keep telling myself I am good enough there's always a lil voice in my head that counterattacks all my positive points and I don't know how to get rid over it
You continue to inspire and amaze me (: thank you so much! I was wondering, what is your mbti personality type?
I mean, yeah, you can lie to yourself over and over again by telling yourself your just as good as others. Doesn't mean it's true.
Everything is luck determined anyways, so better or worse is just a point of view.
This doesn't really help.
I tried telling myself that i can do it and that i can make it through college just like i have been doing in high school, i tried telling myself that looks don't matter and i can make friends with anybody, i tried telling myself that i'm smart enough to avoid embarrassing myself everywhere i go. But i have never been so wrong, i failed 4 courses in college and now starting over, i have no friends, and i keep embarrassing myself in front of people. And to top it all off i'm short and unattractive, things that will never change
You can tell yourself those things all day but if you don't believe them, they're not going to get you anywhere.
HERE'S THE TRUTH: The past doesn't equal the future. But if you decide things will never change they won't. BUT if you decide to get off your ass and start taking control of your life and changing them then they will. Look at anyone who has made something of themselves. Anyone has has had the odds stacked against them. I'll be honest, I used to think the same way you do. Find what you're good at, everyone has something, develop it and share it.
0:50 align true self with self image
many times wearing certain clothes puts you in a certain mood maybe being too cool for others , when true self may be goofy, so be goofy while looking like a cool cat(=aligning self image to true self)
1:40 you have to stop yourself from subconciosuly telling yourself who you are right now.
its a tactic Vic Secret models use on the run way
When wearing certain clothes they need to convey a cpsecific mood, and the clothing def helps just like costumes do for actors
it alllows one to be in the mindset they want to be in
in your case you have to constantly snap yourself out of it and tell yourself who you truly are
2:05 like with elliott hulse tell yourself you are whole, worth,powerful, complete
Hey great advice bro! Thanks so much, love you Martin :)
Positive affirmations can really be amazing! Great video!!
Right?! Thanks man. By the way, I got your e-mail I'm working on a reply!
PeakYourMind Sounds great man looking forward to it!
I don’t know why but I got into a fight with the popular girl who used to be my friend. I am just scared of going back to school because she doesn’t like me and I’m scared that she will make me feel left out by driving other girls away from me. She has so much poorer because everyone at my school is her friend except me. Dude I’m terrified what do I do?!
when are you writing a book?? you need too !!! beautiful smile and a beautiful mind!!
This vid was great. If you can do more stuff similar to this, like motivational, that'd be great
***** Thanks! Yeah for sure, great suggestion
This advice hasn’t worked for me. In fact, trying my best to apply it has increased my inferiority complex, which was already huge. Now what, please?
Just being loved and created by God for a purpose is reminder enough.
I am the best
Guys it's not to believe you're good rather disbelieve you're bad/inferior AND good. Look up Noah Elkrief on UA-cam. It'll make your life easier
bros"
first, is my appreciation for the video... as much as I have got it in my Psych class but there are some elements you brought up that elevated me.
second, for these two facts: the video itself and the copy I see (recognise) of Psycho-cybernetics on your table may I ask the rest list of your reads on that particular table.
I hope I am not being extra...
Thank you in advance
absolutely brill. thanks so much for this channel and video. great.
Thanks Lucy! You're welcome! :))
oooooh shiny hair!😲
Thank you so much for this insightful perspective. :')
+Tati タティ Yeah for sure :)
I would like to believe that I'm worth it ..but I don't believe that at the moment.
good teaching, then how to stop feeling superior to others? how to stop superiority complex? because people who feel superior tend to push others to feel inferior about themselves.
Really good video, congratz :)
Man I feel your energy, thanks 🔥🔝
I honestly love the purpose of this video, however, I sincerely do not believe that telling yourself that you have certain qualities matches with aligning with your true self.
Don't get me wrong, I believe you are right about the "alignment" part of the video, it's the closest thing to truth a person could deliver, still, you don't need to "self convince yourself", you need to give coherency to your personal story, that's what shapes your identity.
When we are young, we often build theories that in that particular moment are helpful ("i am guilt, my mother is the good person" - example) , these theories, once you grow up, remain inside of your brain, and they can potentially harm the perception of your self value.
Understanding yourself, giving mercy to your past, to your old fears, to your own self prejudices, giving them reasons that puts them to rest, that's what stops the inferiority complex to exist.
I honestly love the purpose of this video, however, I was sincerely a bit doubtful on the second half.
Don't get me wrong, I believe you are very right about the "alignment" part of the video, it's the closest thing to truth a person could deliver, still, you don't need to "self convince yourself", you need to give coherency to your personal story, that's what gives you freedom from the inferiority complex.
When we are young, we often build theories that in that particular moment are helpful ("i am guilty, my mother is the good person" - didactical example ) , these theories, once you grow up, remain inside of your brain, and they shape your self perception.
Understanding yourself, giving mercy to your past, to your old fears, to your own self judgment, giving them reasons that puts these old "ghosts" to final rest, that's what stops the inferiority complex to exist.
Great video, and the world needs more people like you!
But i have to ask, what's your education and why should we listen to you?
I'm not trying to insult you just having a hard time formulating the question in a friendly way.
rand0m0mg Thanks! Haha no I get it, I appreciate the question. My background is in psych, and I only like talking about things where I feel like I can add value to people. Most of my knowledge comes from studying this stuff like crazy. I've been super into psychology and self-improvement and I've been studying and applying this stuff to see how it works for the past 7 years. The rest of the stuff I like to touch on is from personal experience, what helped me.
PeakYourMind Thanks for answering, im currently studying psychology and group dynamics and it all seems very abstract, and i appreciate you putting all that abstract knowledge into practical use and easy-to-digest information in videos like this one. Keep doing videos, and for more views: republish, republish, republish!
THANK YOU , your videos are really helpful
Amela Sofradzjia You're welcome! :D
Thank you soooo much for all of those wonderful tips!
Lily Lenoire You're welcome Lily!!
Awesome Advice! I recommend the book "The power of your subconscious Mind" by Dr.Joseph Murphy, If you havent already read it, that is!
You're reminding me of Mike Shinoda x3
Well iam 14 year old guy and i know that its my adolescence but were i go to study as my tuition comes children from a top knotch schools and they are just to good
Just watching them makes me feel so back, inferior ,odd , outcast
This thought always is in my mind and i have constant headaches due to this
*adds to favourites*
I do feel like Im Unique, very much. But not necessairly as Good as some people So thats half of the story.
I tell myself this, swallow your ego so you can breathe confidence. Your ego gets weaker each time
Idk if it's gonna work on me. I've heard that a lot, i also tried. But ut's just doesn't go away. From time to time, it's like getting more and more empty words for me