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I don’t think Gen z is any more conscious of the passing of time or sad about our lost childhoods than anyone else, we just are the first to have an outlet to tell each other all about it through memes, videos like this, and tik toks getting existential. The thinking isn’t new, it’s the sharing of those thoughts.
You’re definitely right, but I can’t help but think the extent of gen z’s existentialism is abnormal… my boomer parents were very surprised to hear about it. Even older millennial family members were too. And to be honest, considering the world we’ve grown up in, it seems like a pretty fair response.
exactly this, no other generation has had a device give them notifications saying look at this 8 years ago when you where 12 years old and stuff... reminding you of old aspirations and goals.
As someone who has always wanted to pursue my dream job of being a comic book and growing up to watch social media eviscerate my motivation to be my genuine self.... my dream is now to be a comic book artist after I've secured retirement. Never too late.
I wish this was a common notion. The adults around me had me thinking I was too old for toys and general kid/teen stuff at 12. 13. 14. People that raised me both intentionally and unintentionally to be more ""mature"" than the kids around me. I'd rather have been an immature kid with a happy childhood than the "pleasure to have in class" kid without a childhood. People in general need to have more respect and kindness for children, because the only way they end up being awful or cruel is by the people who raise them. Tons of kids I've seen that were total sweethearts, gentle with their siblings and asking for hugs and in general being respectful to themselves and the world around them. It's not surprising when an abusive parenting system pushes out children that are either horribly traumatized, unable to function, or end up being a worse version of their parents/guardians. There needs to be a village, and people need to start realizing that children and teens are people actively learning about the world-please, give them grace and patience. Anything else will only make a copy of yourself you'll refuse to admit is cruel.
25 here. It’s literally up to us. We’re not responsible for the hand we were dealt. We’re responsible for what we do with it. I still think the “world is gonna end someday” but it’s up to us to decide if it’s gonna happen in our lifetime or not.
You nailed it. A lot of people like to point their fingers at other people because of their own problems. Life is difficult and hard but you have to navigate through it and keep on pushing through. It’s for your own survival. Don’t assume anyone to support you and if they did, what will you do once they are gone or out of your life? Keep up with the good attitude and you will be just fine!
nah the fact that you had to wait out the rain from 6 AM perfectly supports your concept, we might be waking up in the middle of a storm, but once it passes you still got a lot you can do with the day.
@@ProjectZ36 that really is the solution. we're in the middle of a storm, but we just need an umbrella. unfortunately though, some people will never get their umbrella.
I see y'all talking about getting an umbrella when it rains. A good point. I'd like to follow that up with "What can you do inside? Can you do those outside things inside? Maybe you don't have to have a sunny day to get things done and maybe that's ok"
@@thefourthdymensionmusic”I know. It’s all wrong. By rights we shouldn’t even be here. But we are. It's like in the great stories, Mr. Frodo. The ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger they were. And sometimes you didn't want to know the end. Because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad had happened? But in the end, it’s only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. *And when the sun shines it will shine out the clearer.* Those were the stories that stayed with you. That meant something, even if you were too small to understand why. But I think, Mr. Frodo, I do understand. I know now. Folk in those stories had lots of chances of turning back, only they didn’t. They kept going, because they were holding on to something.” Guess the quote?
@@Countchoexcept the whole reason there’s such concern over gen Z is because gen Z doesn’t put up with bullshit. Not boomer’s, not corporations, no ones. Gen Z refuses to work unless they get a living wage, they are refusing high education because it’s out of reach so they’re going into the trades, they acknowledge and work for the betterment of peoples mental health, and they reject the authoritarian abusive parenting they were raised with. There may be rivalry between generations as usual. But there is no denying that older generations and gen z are from two entirely different worlds.
@@trxphywaif than do something gen z here, and trust at any moment I'm low key ready to start a revolution I mean like today. What do I have to lose my 10 an hour job lol.
Gen Z got handed a crap shoot. My kid turned 18 during lockdown. Y'all had to cope with a lot of trauma and the world is still raging. Yall got time. Get together with other Gen z and figure out what life yall want to make happen in this world and government. Cause it will need your gen. My Gen X group is still a hot mess. Our parents are passing and were having midlife, identity crisis too. Sheesh. Y'all are a smart group. Rest up, plan and tackle. Y'all can make some amazing things happen.
im so glad more are recognizing that the things we've experienced are leaving us with actual trauma. im so grateful for my gen x mother, im so grateful she has listened to me my whole life, grateful for the upbringing she gave me, even though we both experiences so much interpersonal traumas its also so meaningful to me to see her have a more positive view of the future because i have always been so open and passionate about my beliefs and ideals. she's grown so passionate about unionization, thinking about being involved in the world in ways that would make change. she seems so much less stuck, much less willing to accept the world as it is i think ive noticed in general, as gen z grows older and is more outspoken and passionate, other generations seem to be growing more hopeful. and more willing to have different perspectives on the world. of course it will take time, as you say gen x is still a mess, still grappling with lifetimes of repressed and unmanaged trauma. but i think just the fact that ive seen so many being willing to start work on that trauma is a Huge change from older generations i feel so much less scared, now that im older and have more agency, and can see the world from a different perspective. and im grateful for my upbringing. even though it was rough, and many of the adults in my life seemed unwilling to discuss the problems i was seeing everywhere around me, they still kept me safe and tried to arm me with the skills i needed to grow into a person who can make a real difference not sure if that makes sense, im a bit long winded
@@daniel-ht4guand the whole lockdown thing was done so some old fucks wouldnt die and then they have the balls to complain about it? I didnt wanna go into lockdown for some old fart who rants on facebook all day how much they hate young people or about how degenerate gen z ist
really wish my dad would understand this instead of kinda just forcing me into the real world without considering how much shit is different for me than it was for him
@@OzzyIDV I understand and wish he would too. He may or may not ever get it. Please take care of yourself and make a plan. Find your people. You don't have to do this alone. Fam would be nice but it doesn't always work out. I send you good vibes ✨✨
I’m smiling at this because it was literally the same thing we said about our elders back in the day, 50 years ago. And I’m laughing out loud because it will literally be said about your generation by your kids and grandkids. The more things change, the more they stay the same.
@@vmj255 I am a Boomer. I started reading science fiction in 4th grade. My mother called it "Something Crazy". She sent me to a grammar school where the silly nuns never taught science. I decided to go to college for engineering in 7th grade. I went for Electrical Engineering and worked for IBM. My mother and I never talked about what I did. Now people use the technology to communicate about bullshit. Find an economist saying anything about the depreciation of this under engineered trash.
My mother sent me to a Catholic elementary school where the silly nuns NEVER taught science. When I started reading science fiction my mother called it "Something Crazy". I ignored her. I decided to go to college for engineering in 7th grade and won a National Merit Scholarship.
I'm turning 25 this week. I deal with the feeling of having "failed to launch" pretty often, but one thing that has helped immensely is seeing how my 50, 60, or even 90 year old relatives go through profound changes in their life. Decades long abusive relationships ending, changing careers with only 15 years left in your career, making new friends on your literal deathbed. We don't know what it's going to be like, and failure isn't real unless you think of it as the end.
I'm a bit older than you. I launched, and crashed back into the earth. Broke my spaceship and the astronaut inside pretty badly. I'm just barely starting to put myself back together again and plan the next mission, and you know what, I've decided that this time, I'm going to spend as much time as I want studying and working with mission control before I get back on that spaceship. My perspective has shifted. I have realized there are worse things that failing the launch, and that even these things are not irreparable failures, but just more painful set-backs. You are not alone, or "failing" at anything
you’re doing fine, there’s no such thing as “launching” since you live in your own timeline and pace like everyone else. just be present and do your own thing, that’s what matters the most alongside being alive
currently reading a book about some of my favorite art from the 80s/90s and realized pretty quickly that all the artists I admire didn't do anything of note until they were 32-35. i'm 25 right now and it was hella comforting
I think it's more because they were working very hard in those years. And with time and hard work they brushed their talent to the point where people could recognize their work. It's actually all those years that matters, not that they did it overnight. I think you already know this. I am just saying.
@@Anjali-dt1jf well duh i'm not just sitting on my ass doing nothing. I'm just saying it's normal to not receive "recognition" or 'success' (whatever that means to you) until your 30s
Yeah a lot of famous artists have very few «completed» works We are being too hard on ourselves Even those famous old rich dudes maybe only made 100 or so works, so it makes sense that we only have a few done when we are like 0.1 percent of their age
“You can have a good life, you can have a good day” 100% bro. I’m 39 and I wake up everyday determined to have a good day. To me, it’s all that matters. Just have a good day. If I have a bad day anyway, that’s ok. At least I tried.😂
If you have a good day every day, your having a good life. Its fine to put work into a better tomorrow but dont spend it all doing that. No one says on their death bed they worked more, they wish they spent more time with friend and family or doing that thing they loved.
Every day is a good day as you have a day on hand. Think about it how incredible is nature the fact that you can go out and see the world around you that we maintain. And that world is incredible. Think about the amount of people who you interact with every day and who you might be able to pass on happiness to by smiling to others. We have time and that is all we need.
@@bradentheman1373 if you can get some vitamins and minerals and or green juice for energy - some health food stores make fresh green juice for you - also in pill form rhodiola really helps with memory/focus/stamina/energy - i use it daily
56 and I cried on my 23 birthday because I didn't have a college degree, house, nice car, or even expecting a baby. I finally got the stuff, but the kids grew up before I have the other resources. Now they don't come around or call. I worked all the time, Life was not perfect. The house is falling apart, everything is dated, and too expensive to fix and the automobiles are old. None of it was worth it. Just go enjoy your life now. No spouse, kids, house. Live simple and free.
24 here, I know how you feel. I have a bunch of mental problems that have driven me to attempt suicide twice. When every day is a battle just to live, you don't have the energy to do anything else. There is no progress, no development - only survival. I'm sick of just surviving.
Never got invited to parties. Never developed any skills I could use in life. Never had the grades. Never had many friends. Never got used to talking to girls. I just feel like I've misssed my own childhood. Now I'm thrust into a world on the brink of collapse. Everything I cherished as a kid is destroyed. I am not sure I will be able to take care of myself, let alone a wife and kids.
Stop worrying about the things you cant or couldnt control, at the end of the day, the only thing you can do is change right now, and dont worry about what other people think, theyre just as valuable and insecure as everyone.
Coming from a millennial (I'm 31), and having experienced childhood before smartphones (I got my first smartphone at 19), I remember the speed at which time passed before all the distractions, and it sounds crazy but it went by way slower, and I didn't wake up 7 months later shocked that so much time has passed like I do now. You could get lost doing stuff online on your computer for a few hours but it wasn't the same as having it in your pocket absorbing every "free time" moment. Even things like waiting for the subway, waiting at the doctors office, that time just zaps away when you're using a phone. Before them we just stood there and existed. Anyways I believe this is a big reason as to why gen z feels like their life has gone by in an instant, you guys grew up with smartphones and ipads distracting you 24/7 and it really does speed up the perception of time. And also you're right, mourning the stage of life you just passed is a HUGE mistake. Especially because our perception of time DOES move faster now. You will wake up at 26 and wonder where the hell your early 20's went, and how all you were thinking about during that time was how you weren't a kid anymore and how you wish you were. And then when you're 30 you'll yearn to be 21 again, and the cycle continues until you're dead. Once you feel "comfortable" being in your early 20's and are feeling like you're owning up to what someone of that age is like, and has accomplished, guess what? You're not there anymore, you're 30 now! And now you have to spend your entire early 30's trying to *feel* like someone in their early 30's instead of just being yourself and appreciating life. 20 is extremely young and everyone will tell you that, but they also don't seem to also admit to you that if you don't appreciate it and take action for your life now, it will pass you by. Don't waste those years feeling uncomfortable with your age, just take the future seriously and take living in the moment just as seriously. No one feels like an adult until they're like 45 LOL
I do believe this generational issue was inevitable due to smartphones and other changes in culture. That being said, I'd like to think we still have time to change the trajectory for us and future generations.
@@NotKewl It means not living on autopilot. Realizing that you are right here, right now. Acting consciously instead of habitually going through your daily routine every day. It's called mindfulness and the more you practice it, the slower time goes.
I agree with every single word you said, that's what I was thinking about for a long time but couldn't articulate my thoughts clearly, thank you! Have a good day!
I'm 17... I've already known and have experienced time going faster the more we age. We mourn the first quarter of the day since it's the slowest, from there our perception speeds up and we're left at 40 remembering 20 as if it were yesterday. My parents and family tell me that a lot, so its frightening to think that everything so far has been wasted... This coupled with an uncertain present and future, no wonder we mourn what was supposed to be the best time of our lives.
So true, kudos for listening to your folks (to whom you're a credit). I swear your gen will be the one we all need. I'm GenX (no kids) but have nephews your age and they're where I was at 37 and see the world with the clarity humanity needs. Godspeed.
I’ve researched a bit why life feels like it goes faster as we get older, and the conclusion made me feel refreshed because it’s not as depressing as we think haha Life feels slow when you’re young; because new datas come to your brain everyday, since you just popped up from a womb with no memory and knowledge of anything XD As the time goes on, you get used to this world. You hardly gain a new data from your daily life because you have already learned things that you had to learn. If you keep doing the same things life will move faster. That’s why i’m sad about the newer kids tbh. They’ll feel their childhood was unexistent because all they do is scrolling on tiktok. So actually, we can control the speed of the time with our hands to some extent :D! Try new things, travel, meet new people. Have you ever felt like life became slower when something new happens? It’s peaceful really. Also, journaling also helped me to remember more and slow down life. When you journal, you remember the things you did so the day becomes more perminent in your mind.
@@romac9516 There are many awesome podcasts and therapists on UA-cam today that help me and hopefully many others from genZ to learn about what actually is important for live and not just random news all day about whether or not a girl in China can be trans or not 😂
its the best kind of positivity. toxic positivity is a VERY VERY real thing, and i used to be that kind of person, but not anymore. i had to learn some hard lessons, and right now im focused on growing myself and my own ideas more than ever.
23 here. The “people living on their own at a younger age” has probably due to the fact that the economy back then was LIVABLE. You could get an apartment, buy a house or whatever. Now, not so much. I feel a lot of this is bad timing so far. That Gen Z is the one suffering the most because of bad timing, with the pandemic screwing with people’s lives and education. I was LUCKY I graduated before it started but I went to votech after and it fucked with everything that I didn’t want to go back a third year. It’s an unfortunate situation yes, but I’ve got hope things will get better. Maybe in the next few years, but let’s celebrate when that comes. I still have plenty of growing to do myself.
21 here, hard agree, we have had to deal with SO much shit that other gens had way easier. lots of stuff is better than it ever has been but there’s the economy, the pandemic, tech is advancing and instead of helping humanity it’s just being used to abuse us and funnel more resources and opportunities away from us… here’s to hoping we’ll make the world grow along with us 🥂
Not a generational problem. Its a 20s problem. You don't have the context in your 20s to understand how time works because you haven't had enough of it yet. Once you have experienced more time and have about half of it left, you realize what is important and what is not. (Fulfillment is important, expectations are not) seeing folks die and get divorced in your 30s will wake you up real quick and you will realize plans are just plans, goals are just goals, and fulfillment is something you can experience every day if you try. You gotta go through that wretched decade to figure out who you are away from the influence of others and what will actually fulfill you. If you're still struggling, try talking to someone older than you.
Damnnn you’re right I’m 26 and just figuring this out. My rough decade was from 15-25 or so..I think it used to be younger for boomers. Fulfillment is key. Honestly I think it’s all about people. Were meant to be around others and have secure and trusting bonds. I hope more gen z realize this and try to nurture their close relationships. The “lone wolf” mentality is a path to misery
Hey can you help a 20 year old out? I used to be very social and had all sorts of things going on in my life but once I graduated from school I lost my groove and now I'm pretty alone and lost. How do I make friends and find new experiences as an adult? I know its weird to ask a stranger on the internet but I don't have any adults in my life to ask. Thanks.
@2-Squeaks I will do the best I can to help! Do you have any favorite pastimes? What were some things you enjoyed doing with friends in high school? You don't have to tell me, you can just reflect on it if you like. My favorite way to meet new people is to go somewhere that I will have a lot in common with new people. Concerts, we already like the same band and maybe kind of music, comicon, we're both nerds, if I did more outdoorsy activities I could meet someone on the trail. If you want to meet someone new at work or a party or a networking event or anywhere people introduce each other, you can say "Hello, I don't think we've been introduced yet, my name is _____" If you are standing in line to get into some kind of event, you can start an awkward conversation there too 🤣 one big key to making a new friend is to set up the next meeting with them. They say it takes 10-15 conversations with someone to start feeling like you are friends, which is part of why school friends and work friends are easier to establish. Volunteering is a great way to meet very nice people and do something together that feels very rewarding. I don't know if youngins still use facebook but every now and then i go to the events on there and I find interesting local events like free symphony in the park, programs at the library, dance classes, music festivals, open mic nights, comedy nights, and things like that. We also have things like plant swaps and art supply swaps at our library. Once you get one new friend who has other friends, maybe they will want to introduce you to their friends, and so on. The best ways to be friendly to a new person is to work very hard on remembering someone's name and use it, because that is important to people, and ask them about themselves and show you are interested in them by being a good listener, and don't be afraid to have a good laugh when it's time. Remember, the age that you are is one of the HARDEST ages to make new friends, it is a skill you are working on developing, you don't have a lot of organic situations to talk to someone 10-15 times so you may have to take some of those conversations to social media. You still have a lot of time to make new friends. I just recently became a karaoke dj and i have made more friends in the last year than i have in the last few, because some people who do karaoke are very serious about it and come every week and I am 36, so you have a lot of time left to meet new people. I think focusing on finding enriching activities that you enjoy, knowing you are a good person and it is okay if people reject you, not everyone has to like you because you don't like everyone right? And being confident that there are people in this world who are the right people to be your friend are out there and it will be really great when you find one another. Hang in there, you got the first step done, let me know if I can help more. I am excited for you too meet your people!
@@leotardbanshee Thank you so much for taking the time to respond to me, I appreciate having the support. I have signed myself up for a few things that I am interested in and am looking forward to seeing who they bring into my life. At the very least I'll have a good time doing the things.
I'm 25 and i have been obsessed with time for as long as I can remember. I always feel like i don't have enough time. And there is something to be said about the times in the world we are living in. Very well said, i fully agree. Thank you for reminding us the positive spin of this feeling/issue.
27 this year, feels like I was gonna be behind no matter how I went about it, misfortune and intense rumination upon it has been a reason for both my lag and internal understanding. So much time watching UA-cam just trying to wait for things to feel better. Things do get better but I still don't feel confident in myself and my ability to be an active participant in my own life though. Try to at least give yourself the time to let your mind develop and grow. I probably won't feel ready when I'm 30 but I will (hopefully) have a mostly developed brain.
I turned 20 near the start of the pandemic. It took me until 23 to really understand this and get going. I’m 24 and not everything’s panned out, but that’s just because everything worthwhile takes patience. Thanks for this video man
The problem for a lot of us is that during that 12-6 am, we *weren't* sleeping. Our entire generation went through shit, war after war, economic collapse after collapse, endless terrorist attacks, the destruction of privacy and the total annihilation of economic mobility and stability. We feel older than we are because we had to grow up so damn fast in a world not built for us. I was stressing over bills at 13! We saw from a young age what the world was like and about, and it was scary. It didn't feel right. A lot of us don't have the ability to have future goals and prospects. I can't just "go start a business" because I'm poor, I was born into a low class family. I can't get further education because the system left me behind, I don't have the grades to qualify (nor the money). I can't get a job because I never learned how to drive, I couldn't afford the lessons or the license fees (still can't). I was never taught the skills I need to succeed in life, and now I'm expected to "Just do it" in a system that's geared against me. Hell, my rent alone is 68% of my welfare payment. It just feels like we were all born into a big pit. Some of us already knew how to climb, a lot of us didn't.
The childhood we had was far better than any other generation before us, and this applies for whatever generation you are. We went through some shit but we're not special because of it.
Hate to say it man but every generation has faced war, economic collapse, corruption and greed etc on some level. This doesn't mean our experiences are not valid but it's not as if humanity has changed . We are just as passionate or hateful as we were 10,20,30, 40 hell 100 years ago. For your situation I'm sorry you where you are rn but hey things can and will change. Overall you just have to do what you can right ?
This is really sad to see for yourself. But I want to say that your value is not determined by the time in history you were born into. I live in Yorkshire in the UK. If you were born in the 1700s you were probably going to be working in a mine by 3, and be there for 17-18 hours a day, for six days a week. I don’t say that to say “you should be grateful for what you have” because what you’re talking about is very real. But there can be something to be said that this isn’t the first time whole generations of people had basically no hope for their lifetime. It’s not fair and it’s pretty bleak, but it might not be this way forever. You might find a way out of the dark. And even if you never feel like you do, it might help to read history and see what others went through. Before the 1900s it was greater than 80% odds your life sucked in some crazy major ways. But lots of people found ways to add meaning to their own lives.
That is very true. This was a well made video in general. But speaking of time, I still think both of them still exist even though we're in the present moment and some of us say that it's considered impossible to go visit them based on our current understanding of physics. I still personally believe that time travel to the past and future will still happen someday, and we'll have the free will to branch out unlimited streams (timelines) moving forward in the universe made by changes in the past, which is pretty beneficial. I say that because I would hope to have an opportunity to go back and not only change my own past, but I would fix everything terrible that happened in the last four years, sometime in the early 2020s after the pandemic occurred. I was thinking of sending my younger self a package from "the universe" that explains how to love myself, and then it includes a guide to creating an online non-profit organization that helps save society and humanity for our generation and many future generations to come. I once had a good idea for an organization that helps save the world earlier, but I eventually got too comfortable and lost my potential, which was something I never should have done in the first place. But for now, all we can do is to enjoy every moment we have, accept reality as it is here and now, and do the best we can to create a positive impact and a brighter future for ourselves. Until then, I promise to fix everything for us if I ever do get the opportunity to go back.
You're right. As a 23 year old with ASD, I will say. As much as I'm striving to be mindful and focus more on the now as I start my own 4-month summer self-improvement journey from June to September, I personally do believe that the past and future both exist even though we're all moving forward through these moments. As long as we all enjoy every moment we have here and do our best to make our world better, I still hope to someday get an opportunity to go back and change my past, and potentially branch out a new stream in the universe. And I would do so right before the very moment I pass away. I know that part sounds silly and off-topic, but I can't help but believe it's somehow possible. And I'm pretty sure everyone else felt the same way, considering that we're now living in a time of uncertainty. Don't worry. I'm already at peace. I'll do my very best to make a big, positive impact on our world as long as I live. Until then, we all must be aware and continue to push forward. I still have a lot of work to get done this year. So, I'll finally get on to it.
People always say "live in the present moment," but no matter how much I've tried I can't get any kind of grasp on the significance of the present. I'm acutely aware of every second that passes by as I type this, but it doesn't feel special or that perspective shifting to me. Even while meditating I can get a sense of the present, but most of it eludes me.
@@Padremeus Maybe I just haven't mastered it, but even after a lot of work I still feel like time is slipping away from me. I grasp the significance of the present, but if I never truly "feel" it then what hope for me is there?
Yeah, that's so sad :( And now either america, or russia may be on their way to start a world war 3 I'd do anything to not have to enlist, I would never cope with it... And the saddest thing of all, is the fact that in many countries people arent even allowed to be taught why war is bad, because of their government. I think i'm really lucky, in my country, we are taught about the harmful things we have done in the past, and written essays on why they were bad and why we should learn and not repeat them. War is really sad, and horrifying. There are no winners in war. I really don't want to have to go through that in my life time, but what can just one person do to stop that?
I think my childhood ended prematurely, I believe that had to do something with my maturity and growth, but it probably has to also do with the fact that I’m autistic. I always felt years behind my peers, maturity wise, I’ve had trouble connecting with people the same age as me. Mentally, I think I’m still in my teens, but I’m 24 now, and I realize that always going to be behind schedule, but I hope that some day I can feel the age I actually am. I sometime wish everything could stay the same, I don’t like change, but that’s reality, that’s life. The sun will set on our generation eventually, and I hope that we all can work towards a goal that can give us fulfillment. This is going to sound a bit depressing, but for a while, my only goal after graduating was to keep living, I’ve been going through depression ever since I turned 16. The reason I’m still here is because I wanted to stay for my family, I couldn’t just leave them behind. Im certainly glad the sun has not yet set on me, because I haven’t felt this much hope and happiness in a long time. :)
You're not behind schedule bro, there is no schedule. Maturity is what's inside your head. While it's good to try to understand others, pretending that you do understand them is always wrong - and so are your judgments of their maturity. There are many ways (dimensions?) someone can be mature. Emotional maturity is different from a mature character, same goes for social maturity and all the others. And connecting with others is hard, and will be hard - that's the world we are living in. But hard things can make you feel alive when you treasure your small successes. Happy to hear that you have someone to stay for. Treasure that, but don't give up on finding other things to live for.
I relate to this hard, but I'm so proud you're still here. I'm so glad this has given you some hope and I wish you the best for the rest of your day. 🩷🩷🩷🩷
Lol, 31 yr old here. First I thought with my nose up in the sky, what on earth could a 19 year old kid teach me? And then I watched the video and I thought dang.. you are right! I had the same fears and the same feelings being in my thirties and feeling like I missed out on my twenties. I guess it's not a gen Z thing, I think it's a thing from our modern society. Because life became so fast paced and we always have the thousands of possibilities in our faces of what life could look like, we start to panick as if we are running out of time. Thank you for teaching me two things: not be so arrogant toward young people and not panicking about the time passing by.
young people are struggling just as much as everyone else. we have our own challenges that not many people before have had to face, so we need just as much help, guidance, and support as we can get, same as anyone else.
As someone in the USA turning 24 this year I'd like to add a few observations to some points you've made here. Talking about older generations that "woke up earlier", there is a large part of that which had to do with being social and having social gatherings. Now our society largely prohibits social gatherings of young people (not that it doesn't happen anymore you just have to know someone whose parents are willing to host or finance such gatherings). Many industries have added to the complexity of their products/services, which in turn has increased their cost, which in turn drives away younger people who have to spend what time and money they have on their "future plans". This lack of social gatherings means that the day will be less productive due to lack of cooperation and so serves to take away motivation to even participate, like your efforts are being "wasted" or spent inefficiently in your youth. At least compared to prior generations. Then there is the perception of long term reward for participation in society, things like having a family, a place to live, or time to simply enjoy being alive after retirement. All of these either are impossible to achieve for most of Gen Z or they perceive that it is impossible for them to achieve such things when it is possible. This perception of long term reward (or more accurately lack of reward) reinforces the loss of motivation to participate in society. I feel this final point is really the "cherry on top" of all this which is that escapism is at its strongest point in history, even across generations somewhat, due to the emergence and expansion of the digital world. Gen Z and Millennials have closely witnessed this within their lifetimes and it overall has led to a realization that we are powerless against the systems previous generations created, and now it is just a matter of "how long can the snake eat itself before it dies?". We all know one person can't make the difference that must be made in the world, and simultaneously our opportunities to socialize and learn skills of cooperation (which is needed to make such a difference) are severely inhibited. All we can do is sit and watch as everything continues to cost more and give less. There is a lot more to say but I feel that I've gotten the main point across. If you read this far feel free to ask for explanations on anything I've said. Hopefully UA-cam notifies me of replies.
You make a great point. With the many changes in culture of the last 20 years, this generation has seemingly lacked the social interaction needed to live a healthy and fulfilling life. We've seen what this can do to many, and I believe it's our job moving forward to use the technology we've been given to strengthen social bonds as opposed to letting it separate everyone from each other.
I am just curious what yall thought millenials did to hang out back in the day. I will tell you most of it involved a bonfire out in the wilderness where I am from. There are tons of millenial nostalgia videos about this. We did have to rent movies and watch them together I suppose but it's not like any of us poor struggling college students in 2008 could afford to go to brunch or the bar. I lived in the most expensive part of my state, gasoline was 4 bucks a gallon and we still found a way to go night sledding together. We would have bob ross painting parties, we would play cards and board games. We were at each other's houses or apartments or out in the wilderness. I don't think it's the fact you don't have any options, it's that the options aren't instagrammable enough to give anyone else fomo.
Sure we are powerless right now but as the older generation die off, we will hold the power and can change society then, right now though, too many of them are still alive and they are greedy AF.
Realistically speaking, boomers were born from 1946-1964 so they are still from 78-60 years old, 15 more years when they die off GenZ + Melenial will be the major coalition and we can change policy then, so right now we must survive first.
I agree, a lot of people on the internet talk about how time goes by real fast and it's true but it just bugs me that they're on their phone all day long not doing anything and then saying that time goes by fast. I'm like that myself and I understand that I need to change this shit
The best way to change is to go to sea, so to speak. Place yourself under hardship and risk. If you survive you will be a real man, not some muscled guy with tattoos and a beard--they're all pussies every man Jack of them. Comic book stuff. You I'll find you won't need any special get-up at all. You will be able to accept challenges with quiet confidence. You will become dutiful, a benefit to others, temperate and eventually wise.
Im not allowed to leave my house by myself cause im a girl and could be sa'ed BUT I JUST WANT TO LIVE? WHY CAN'T I GO ON A BIKE RIDE?? LET ME LIVE!!! THATS WHY I'VE GOT NO FUCKING FRIENDS
as a gen z i always think about time, and sure its possible to live an average life and make it to 80 and take things slow but unfortunately thats just an average. a lot of people im seeing around me are having their lives taken from them and havent had the time to even do half the things they want to do, yeah its not even gonna matter when youre dead anyway but for some people being 20 could be 11pm, you never know when your time is up
Then do what you can now, so what if it ends sooner than you thought, you were here, and while you are here, you leave your mark, no matter how small. As easy and comforting as it can be to be pessimistic, and look at the world through a doomed perspective, if you want to have a fulfilling life one of the first steps to take is realizing that you should make the most of what you have.
@@KeisOnline you misinterpreted my entire comment, yes thats why you should do stuff now and enjoy your life while you have it, instead of taking things slow thinking you will live forever
@@regn4rd Apologies, it seemed like your comment was only expressing the "world sucks, who cares" feeling I've seen so much of in this comment section. I wanted to make sure people don't decide to just sit complacent and let things pass them by.
Love this. Great message and awesome video style! I am 28 and honestly feel like I JUST got my footing in life. It's never too late to start, truthfully.
Yes, focus on your hobbies and getting by to get beyond. Not a house or a perfect spouse or children. Then are anchors. Do invest in real-estate, but do not get attached to your property. I have plan to trade it up frequently until you are ready to trade down. Live simple live free.
Last part is not exactly true. Sometime in your30s, if you haven't developed skills for self-discipline and work you likely never will. I've seen several examples examples in my life. But that's no reason to give up hope and sounds like you've already taken a positive step.
Thank you for sharing this. To play on the analogy: if you’re worrying about your day, the stress really negates the positive effects of sleep. You’ll be too busy in survival mode to be refreshed and ready to go
Also 28, you're just living brother. Whatever lie you were sold about adulthood is just that. Life is about living and becoming yourself, not about the goals. Good or bad, experiences are the whole point of existence. Don't beat yourself up
@@phantasqLiving it’s realizing your youth and your life more broadly doesn’t end when you turn 30. Teenagers think their 20s has to be the best decade of their lives, and everything after 30 may as well be retirement from fun and enjoying life. But if you think of life like a video game, your teenage years are like the tutorial section, and your 20s are just the first level. And the first level of a video game usually isn’t the best one. You are still new to this whole living thing. Your going turn 30 one day and realize you have only just now started to understand what life is all about, and you have another 30 years to go before your bodies age really starts catching up with you. So take it easy, but stay busy, and find something you love to do.
30 here. A few things i wish i knew 10 years ago. 1. 10% of your paycheck should go into a portfolio of stock to grow. 2. You can be stupid in your teens and 20's. Once you hit 30, the world expects you to have it together. 3. Find what you love. Master it. THEN make a business out of it. Good luck.
@@TipeONegatyve Tried to. But things went sideways. Best tip, use every job to hone your skills for everyday life. There is always something to learn to take with you.
I'm a 17 year old dude. Due to circumstances, including living on a farm at least a 30 min drive away from any type of settlement, my countries driving laws stating that only persons that are 18 and older can drive, while my farm community doesn't have ANYONE my age in it, I think I've been robbed of my childhood. I was definitely a late bloomer, partly because I've been diagnosed with Asperger's and ADHD, but I've decided a while ago that I wouldn't let those diagnoses define me and subsequently beat myself up about failing socially at school, and so I had a very tough year or two after that, but it was well worth it. For the past 2 years, I think I've been caught up to my peers in terms of social ability, but I've never actually been given the opportunity to harness this. I've never been to a party, I've never drank, I've never spent even one night out on the town, I've never had a girlfriend, I have not spent the night at a friends house since I was 12, I've never been able to spend time with anyone of my own age unsupervised, I've never snuck out, I've never disobeyed my parents... And so I've been robbed of my childhood. My entire childhood consisted of me being unpopular at school and then coming home and playing video games, because there was no alternative. Even if I, today, actively made a concerted effort to go spend time with my friends from school and go eat at a restaurant or something, that wouldn't be possible, because everyone has the same problems regarding transport. It really sucks. My current hope is college - I'll be more free there, maybe I can finally have a childhood? But then again, my moral framework would stop me from wasting my parents money that they would be spending on tuition so that I can party and have a childhood when I should have already had one.
I know many talk against college but it depends on a lot of thing but college is definitely getting worse. If you do go join clubs and meet people there (preferable a club around a sport/ outdoorsy thing). Make sure your college isn't too woke or it'll destroy your experience
I’m 24 and i feel like my 20s just started like I finally let go of the unrealistic expectations that i wanted in my life and actually just have fun doing things I always wanted to do
I think big part of the “we’re missing our youth” talk from younger generations is we’re starting to experience time dilation in a world that is going faster with every year. You know how every subsequent year of your life you see life move much faster? Your first 20 years are much longer than your child’s in your point of view. So now at 20 realizing how fast life is starting to move, we’re scared. Cause tomorrow I’ll be 50, and I‘ll be flabbergasted as to where these last 30 years went to.
@@pumpkingamebox There are plenty of new things you can do for free or almost free. You can donate plasma a couple hours a week for $500 or more a month, if you really want to stop being broke go drive a truck for 55 cents per mile, you'll get unbroke real quick doing that. The key is to actually look for solutions to the problem.
@@giant0mantis Plasma is actually a good idea. I'll take you up on that. Driving however, nah. I'll just be switching sitting in my office chair for sitting in a drivers chair. That doesn't sound gratifying at all. lol
@@pumpkingamebox You'd be doing a more important job and making more money, and you wouldn't need to pay rent or other bills, so you'd be keeping even more of your paycheck.
A big problem I have seen everywhere but rarely hear talked about is the issue of older generations constantly saying: "Childhood is the best time of your life.", "School is the best time of your life.", "it only goes downhill from your twenties.", "Adulthood is when the fun ends.", "You wont have any free time as an adult.", "No time for friends as an adult.", "Adulthood is full of responsibilities.", etc. If you say this to children. Stop that sh*t. It has terrible consequences for children's mental health and its just not true. Maybe it was back in 1967 when you could afford a trip to the Maldives with a nickel, a strong handshake and some lint. But its not true today. Children are already having a terrible time growing up in this world, everywhere they look there is corruption, stupidity, more and more polarization and a world on fire with no collective effort to snuff it. Telling them it gets worse and you get a lot more responsibility when they are currently juggling 50 different school projects, trying to secure a future for themselves and worrying if they'll even be able to buy a home is a sure way to get them to question the point of living. And hell even if you have a diploma there's always a chance you'll get replaced with a bot anyway. Wasting years of effort.
This. I had a lot of goals for my future as a child. I wanted to do everything right because I seen how my parents messed up. They had lot of untreated addiction and mental illness and that caused all the kids a ton of pain. Hearing every adult at school tell me "Oh you think it's bad now? It's gonna get way harder". I thought I'll never make it. I didn't realize a lot of people are more functional than my family and that when I got older and away from that toxicity that it'd be a lot easier. I was convinced the world is more harsh than it is and that it'd only get harsher and people would only become less forgiving. Why instill fear in children about the future ? Especially kids who may already be struggling with the idea of the future.
20 here, turning 21 this fall and i’m not feeling ready for it. i think i’m about to go on leave from my job and take this summer by storm somehow. i love your analogy about life in a day
The summer I turned 21 I took a greyhound to LA and moved there with nothing but a backpack. That was back in 2018. Totally changed my life and was the best thing I ever did. I had to figure out for myself what I needed to do but knew I had to do something. Best time to act is in the present.
"So... understand... the wasted time always searching for those wasted years. Face up & make your stand realize you're living in the golden years." -Iron Maiden I wish i would have taken these words to heart before 30 years old.
Hey Lawson. Your words clearly come from the heart and I've always really connected with people who can do that. No melodrama, just you being yourself talking about what you believe in. I'm basically the exact same age as you within the exact same point in life. I turn 20 in less than a month and have started my senior year of college. I personally was always on a fast track. I skipped a grade in middle school, I'm in an honors program getting multiple minors with my degree, I have this awesome job where I get to work part time on multimillion dollar projects that are going to make a tangible difference for people who need it. To me, it was like my identity was attached to how quickly I could get through life compared to others. My mother passed away when I was 17 and I had to really reevaluate what all that meant. My grades plummeted by my standards (my GPA went to about a 2.5), I was at major risk of losing my scholarship multiple times. I didn't see the point in leaving my room half the times I'd wake up. Over the few years after that, I rebuilt myself to the point where I made the Dean's list the past two semesters just to barely be above the threshold needed for me to graduate with honors. That experience taught me that what I previously thought wasn't enough was more than plenty for me to have achieved. What was really strange about this to me is when I came home this summer and sat next to my Dad on the couch, I had nothing to say. No existential worries, no internal crises, no upcoming emergencies I didn't know how to tell him about. Life has gotten... boring, which is strange to say. It's like I got all my shit together and there was nothing else to learn, which felt wrong because of the vast possibilities of life. Your video's put into perspective that I've gotten really good at being asleep. I finally became a good student which is something I'd been clearly capable of my whole childhood but never actually did until college (if I was as good of a student in highschool, I'd be going to a better university than a public state school). Soon this episode will end, and some things will be the same. The skills I've gained cooking for myself and my friends (something I've learned I really enjoy), all the writing I did for myself and school and my job will be with me, plenty of the current lessons I know of self sufficiency, but I'm on the precipice of all the stuff I haven't learned yet because I don't have to know now but very soon will. There's a whole life that comes when you do "wake up", and plenty of it is difficult, but there's always more day to live until your body itself says you can't and puts you to sleep. I understand that what I'm saying is a different interpretation than perhaps your initial message, but it is the power within the flexibility of the metaphor. It's only 6am. Some people get up that early just because it's when they can do whatever they want specifically because they're expected to be asleep doing nothing. There's no expectations to 6am. We can be a fuckup for 2 whole hours and it'll still be 8. Life is never mastered and never conquered, it is simply experienced and at best loved. There's always more to be. There's also time for us to be less and take a break where we really need. Thank you for your insight.
Nobody is handed life well except for the majority of Boomers but that was a historical anomaly and nobody older or younger than them live there. Live your own life. 27 is the real start of the good times, sure nobody’s babysitting your ass but you have a cooked brain and the ability to at least not hamstring the rest of your life yourself. Please live, I can’t get over Gen Z’s absolute obsession with ‘now we must mourn being 15 Young Millennial here- it hasn’t been good times for about 30 years, we just need to adapt. Y’all sleep on finding Milennial mentors tbh, they’re the only ones who even know what you’re talking about. Gen X is busy being an aging rebel and Boomers are, you know.
Stop having expectations. I am 56 years old. Degrees are fine if that is what you really want to do in life. Otherwise, it is a worthless education that will keep you on the hamsters wheel with everything else you were told in society that would make you happy. Don't get trapped. Do invest in real-estate, but don't get attached to it. Houses and cars fall apart, spouses can get addicted, change and cheat. Kids are often ungrateful and leave and only return when they want your financial support. Honestly live simple live free, get a dog, ditch the technology except for work or plan a time to engage in it. Then just enjoy your life.
@@namedrop721true, one of my good friends is 33, I’m 26, and anytime I bring up existential dread about my future, hearing him laugh and tell me he remembers the same feelings at this age make me feel so much better. He went back to school at 27 and ended up not even using his degree for his career now. We need friends across generational gaps, it’s very healthy for your mind.
I'm the oldest of the zoomers and get so depressed thinking about 2014. Also kind of wild to think now some people won't remember a time before pop culture stuff like Rick and Morty the same way I can't remember a time before South Park.
no other generation has had to face the limitations of our environment like those today, and it impacts how we feel about time. im 30 and feel a little different, but i can commiserate.
Live simple live free. You do not need a house or a perfect spouse. Kids are not a grantee of company or help either. In fact, kids will demand you help them or you don't love them or are a loser not worthy of their precious time. 50% of kids are estranged from their parents. So why bother with 50% divorce rate or having estranged children. Life is short. You should enjoy as much of that life as you can. Plan for your future, but just your future. That way if you do have abundance you are in a better position to share. if not no major heart ache.
25 here. This is so true. I’m among the oldest members of this generation and yet I’ve been mourning my childhood since around the time I turned 18. It’s so real. I’ve been obsessed with time for so long.
Me and my husband feel so alone. We feel that it's hard to make and maintain friends, but when we do, it feels so good. I just wish it was easier to be social for our generation
@@heartsofiron4ever give me a break. I’m 25 and spent the last ten years playing like a child. Traveling the world. Dancing to great music. Falling in love. Exploring nature. You are still a baby. The world is yours to explore
Your video popped up on my feed this morning, I was intrigued, so I decided to give it a watch. That analogy was one I've never really internalized, but I'm rather glad I did. It ain't even 7:30 am for me yet and I feel ready to concour life. Thanks man, I needed this video!
Geriatric Millenial here. Gen Z has taken a beat down. We millennials were thrown into society with two wars and a global recession, so we can commiserate, but I wouldn't want to grow up in the society you all had to. It looks miserable. With that being said, what you have, is opportunity. If you have the ability to endure several very uncomfortable years, you can find a niche to grow in, and eventually rise to the top of. Because your generation is lagging, its actually easier to get ahead, because that will be your competition through life. There are opportunities in the less sexy occupations, especially trades. And if you realize you can outwork your competition into the top 10% of that field, you will be fulfilled in some fashion, even if its just financial. Like Lawson said, you have time. Failures in your 20's are cheap. So fail often until you dont. I wish you all the best. Growth requires pain. Those who can endure it, will get the most out of it.
@@LeftoverSundriesManyeah they’re chatting 💩. We’re in the early stages of global civilisational collapse. Gen Z won’t be dying of old age and will be witness to the madness to come.
Very true on being easier to get ahead in comparison to peers. All of my jobs I always did well in and had good relationships with supervisors because I just clocked in to go to work. There were a lot of people my age who clocked in to see how much work they could get away with not doing.
I find myself going over this concept in my head constantly. I think about moving out, I think about where I am in my career, I think about what I haven't accomplished. I'm turning 21 in a few months. My idols were successful and had a legacy by 23, I know I won't be there, I'm comfortable with that. I know I have time, but I know I have to work on it. Thank you for the reminder.
30 yr old boomer here, work hard in your 20's so you can enjoy your 30's. I worked my ass in my 20's, it was boring, it sucked, went to the gym and then I hit my 30's and boy I tell ya, things changed 180 for me, life started getting funner and easier, girls look at me more, you hit your prime in your 30's. My buddies at the same age who didnt work as hard is not seeing the same results as me.
Wow. This really resonated with me. As an ‘older’ Gen Z (24) I’ve been panicking as I turn older more and more. For all the reasons you mentioned. Like you, I also wanted to make music as a teenager and didn’t. There’s other dreams I’m working towards now including music and UA-cam, and though I’m working towards them I’m still worrying that nothing is finished yet. It’s funny, I connected so much with this video I actually anticipated something you said before you said it. Life is weird like that. Anyway, I appreciated this video. I enjoyed the background and that you filmed outside it adds an ambiance. I will continue where I have started!
17 is a baby. The thought that twenty year olds are afraid they’ve missed their chance to live is heartbreaking. Twenty five is just barely an adult, not over the hill. You have time, go live your life and do the things you want to do and don’t spend cycles and energy worrying you didn’t become a CEO before you were old enough to vote. Go live.
Its a split perspective in a broken world. In long forgotten human history being 16 meant trials and tribulations, becoming an 'adult' as soon as puberty and maturity allowed. Alexander the great made many of his main accomplishments in his 20s and died age 32. Just because modern science and technology allows us to live longer doesn't lift the burden of being in our prime and the push for greatness or despair as soon as mortality is fully understood. Some people in their 40s-50s still act like school children and some people seen as "babies" are ready to take on the world and already have a greater sense of responsibility than their peers. Lets stop categorizing eachother like school subjects and start treating eachother as exactly where we stand in life.
I turned 22 just this month and have been having the realization that my life really is just starting so this video felt good like a confirmation that yes, there will be more to come
I'm 28. So it's like what, 7 AM? I should have just woken up, right? Nope. I suddenly need a full time job, work 60 hours a week, make 6 figures, own a house, have a family and a car. My time is already gone and I just woke up.
Did what I was told. I join the service then went to college. Put not one but two spouses through college. One spouse had a bad spending habit and cheated. Now the new spouse is an alcoholic, bipolar and cheated. I divorced, house and car falling apart, one kid disabled, the other kid resentful in college, and not coming back. I can't stand my job. Honestly what did I do it all for? I would have been much better off, single and investing in property. I am old tired and broke. I should have just got a small dog, lived simple and free.
Never gonna wake up. I'm in a concrete bunker with no doors or windows, chained to a bed. There's no way to even know if the sun has rosen up yet, nevermind actually being able to do anything about it
@@furiousdestroyah9999maybe start by changing how you think about yourself. Negativity is not going to take you anywhere. Go for a walk or dont, just do something that you like and stop being so unfair with you, we are all valued the same, regardless of what we do or think.
I'm a millinial who's 30 and a lot of my generation is also in the same boat. It also has to do with having to fight harder for anything productive, any education, any job, any car, any place to live, any relationship, any chance of living "the American Dream. We're getting tired of fighting for everything we need almost our whole lives. Everything you said really helps put a voice to what I'm feeling.
I’m 25 and I’ve been super stressed out lately. Your video made me realize that I’ve been living THINKING it’s already 7PM for me and I won’t be able to get anything meaningful done. Thanks, man, you really helped me ease the paralyzing fear. And I’m actually more motivated to do things, just in my own pace. This means more than you can imagine. Just…..thank you.
A guy i know got out of the air Force after 8 years. Applied to a fast food restaurant as a manager to live in small town by his family. Then still didnt get hired. Right now many jobs post jobs but dont hire people.
If you don't have retail or restaurant management experience they won't hire you. Lost prevention, security(not bars the pay sucks), armed car cash transport, UPS would hire you and the pay is similar.
23 here. I regretted not doing a lot of things I wanted to as a teen. I dedicated my youth to working and school. I put all of that ahead of doing things I enjoy. I've had a few months between graduating college and going into law school, and I've taken the time to work on things or get things I've wanted for a while. I've been living at home trying to help my family before I leave and focus on my college work. Now I'm enjoying myself while I have time, and I've realized I can make time for myself more than I thought I could. Enjoy your life the best you can. Don't fret over the little things. You'll thank yourself later.
around 6:00 (am ahah) you say "i still wasn't productive". as a generation our self worth is tied to success, for me it's hard to recognise a good day (for ex. hanging out in the sun and drinking a fun drink) as good, because i didn't do anything for the thing i'm studying for or chores at home. sometimes we need to clearly define what makes us happy, untied from our learned behaviour of kapitalistic influence. one unproductive good day doesn't mean that because of it, there won't be productive good days, it only supports the fact that the productive days will also be good.
This was honestly one of my favorite videos that I’ve ever watched it’s crazy because I’m 25 and I really needed to hear this. I’ve been trying to post more on UA-cam and when I woke up this morning I was kinda down because I’ve been trying to upload a video for like the whole previous day and it was still uploading in the morning but I found this video and it was a beautiful way to start my day focus on something else.
I think a lot of this also comes down to an immense emphasis on nostalgia content on the internet, making people reminise over the immediate past rather than actually being able to feel positive emotions in the present. I feel like a lot of my early teens its been like that until I realized one day that I was starting to really idealize the past that, in reality, wasnt much better than today. Yea idk just my opinion i could be wrong.
As an early teenager when i turned 13 it took me a good 2 months to stop getting stressed over time and getting older, im only 13 i have so much life to live, and sometimes i feel like im doing to much with my life From animation, to crochet, to game making, to writing, it feels like im juggling so much but honestly im having so much fun and i cant wait to get older and do even more things, go to college and learn coding and animation even better than before, im actually looking forward to the future while still taking it all in stride, its all about balance ig
@@DishonorableMentions452 lmao I guess I have the opposite problem: I feel like I'm not doing enough, or if I am doing something, it's not good enough. I wish that gen z collectively gets free therapy or something cuz we all need it 💀
I'm asleep because I would rather not be awake. Job market sucks, housing sucks, college prices suck. Dating sucks. Why would we want to be awake. Yet all of us know that it will eventually be our job to fix everything.
As a follow-up. I like the analogy. Our day is just beginning. The problem is today is tax day. So it's going to be a bit harder to have a good day. Don't give up though. Once the taxes are done. You could go get an ice cream.
You'll keep having this revelation over and over and over again. And it will be terrifying at times and motivating at others. "And you may ask yourself, 'well how did I get here?' "
Cool perspective. Keep in mind that things aren't as bad as it seems , things like the media even UA-cam always try to show the negative sides of things , the key is to always see the positive side because almost everything has a positive side. Example: people are afraid to lose a job but if you lost a job you gained time. The younger people also have the power of time , starting now if you always add to a pile it always grows larger as time goes on wether it be financial, physique, knowledge. Don't buy into what the media says
I fall into the teens just passed me by camp, I didn’t really do much and now I’m freshly 20. but I feel like my life is really just starting even though I may be a bit behind my peers. also happy birthday, come join us on the other side of the decade.
comparing early success to an early morning is truly relieving, just knowing that it's not a competition and you still have time to reach the finish line
i don’t think it will ever be too late to do something, i don’t think anyone is too old to learn something new or change. i’m 29 now and i feel like my twenties were such a chaotic time period of change and personal growth, and change is still going to happen moving forward.
I think the reason why so many people are worrying about this kind of thing is because of how the experience of time speeds up when you get older, specifically in hindsight. Our brains put the time passed in the context of all of the time passed in your life which is why to a 1 year old a day feels like 1/365th of their life while to a 10 year old its 1/3650th. But to make this fact less depressing it is important to remember that this mostly applies to hindsight, so if the one day in the example was yesterday for example. How you experience time in the moment, or ofcourse literally how much time you have to get shit done is still linear. Well how you experience time in the moment isnt really linear but at least it doesn't scale with age.
While this is true, I think it's important to remember that time also speeds up as we get older because we don't have as many new experiences. And while we can't change the proportions of time/life as we age, we can change the amount of new experiences we have. Thanks for leaving your thoughts!
@@LawsonTripp from my experience as an old, time flies when you are having fun and stands still at 3 pm on a tuesday but the proportionality concept is unequivocally true.
This is an excellent video Seriously makes me realize that I’ve inverted time the wrong way Regretting wasted time begets wasting more time But the time I have left is all up to me; which is the most terrifying part. When we were kids; the direction of our lives for the most part depended on the adults we were around But when you’re totally on your own for the first time; it gets scary, and responsibilities get heavier quicker. It’s an opportunity to become who you want to be; or die to the pain of losing who you were.
Good advice homie. I feel like it takes longer to get our money up in this economy/generation, especially in America when compared to older generations. Which means the it takes longer to get the come up going. But oh boy we still are gonna get our come up don’t you worry! And we’ll have more power through our money due to the ability and knowledge modern technology and internet allows us
I thought this was gonna bs one of those somber, "tough love" types of videos, which I thought I needed. But I needed this video more. For me, metaphorically, I'm not even getting ready for school yet. Life has begun. I appreciate this kind of motivational optimism, the internet needs more of it.
I'm 25 and have been thinking about "not letting time pass me by" since I was probably 20. Up until that point, it felt like time was going by at a normal pace. Once I finished up college and started working, it felt like time was accelerating. So this topic has been on the front of my mind for the better part of a few years now and it can be hard to shake but I think you did a great job summing up what matters. It's not how you start, it's how you finish. You might never be able to shake the regret of your past but you can always do the best you can with the cards you've been dealt now. It can be real easy for our generation to feel like we are constantly comparing ourselves to people who have more at an earlier age. But, there will always be someone more successful, better looking, more intelligent, etc. But therein lies the solution, in life you get to define your own success. If you are successful by your own definition, then no one can take that away from you. Not sure if any of that makes sense or helps anyone at all but I feel like I'm telling myself all of this stuff. The best years of your life are probably ahead of you. It's not how you start it's how you finish.
"Even if you're like.. 25 then you've still got a lot of time" Me watching this at 26: "Oh, guess I'm cooked" Good vid, man. This deserves at least 100k views
In your analogy, you can think of it like this. The first 5 to 7 hours of the day should be spent sleeping in order to have a productive day. Gen Z is spending that time doomscrolling - stop.
You're right! I'm turning 20 soon and I'm so angry at myself! I've wasted so much time! Sometimes I think, "I'm already so far gone, why bother now?" Because no matter how hard I try now, I'll never catch up to an alternate version of me who never downloaded Instagram, who never picked up a controller, who never gave in and always did the right thing. I haven't spent these years sleeping, but I haven't spent them really doing anything either. I've just been stimulating myself, gorging myself on content to numb any uncomfortable feelings. I guess my life is "okay" to most people, but inside I know I've wasted so much of my potential. From now on I just gotta grind and never stop! No more screwing around! I'll probably never fully redeem myself, but I'll spend the rest of my life trying.
I think gen z is obsessed with time because so much has changed for how many memories we have. We only remember so much of the boring days, but we certainly don’t forget what’s changed.
As a 28 year old, gen z gives me so much hope and anxiety it’s crazy. I wish I could be right there beside them pushing them to be the best they can be but I know I’m an unc at this point so it’s different.
In the same boat, 19 getting ready to enter my second decade of life. The past couple months I have had this underlying feeling that I couldn’t put into words but I think this video has given them to me. I want to wake up, to get out of my bed and start doing the things I’ve wanted to do, to start planning and stop dreaming.
you just wasted 9 minutes of my life
You are still sleeping.
Sorry man... sounds like you're still sleeping
That's better be sarcasm right there.
i eat food
@@johniscoolladwell i drink water
I don’t think Gen z is any more conscious of the passing of time or sad about our lost childhoods than anyone else, we just are the first to have an outlet to tell each other all about it through memes, videos like this, and tik toks getting existential. The thinking isn’t new, it’s the sharing of those thoughts.
Stuff changes. We evolve
You’re definitely right, but I can’t help but think the extent of gen z’s existentialism is abnormal… my boomer parents were very surprised to hear about it. Even older millennial family members were too. And to be honest, considering the world we’ve grown up in, it seems like a pretty fair response.
which honestly is such a massive improvement. being able to talk about that stuff is what sparks change
@@KodasGarden Speaking of which #stopkosa
exactly this, no other generation has had a device give them notifications saying look at this 8 years ago when you where 12 years old and stuff... reminding you of old aspirations and goals.
“is it too late to be {thing}?”
“my brother in christ, you are 16”
Thanks
As someone who has always wanted to pursue my dream job of being a comic book and growing up to watch social media eviscerate my motivation to be my genuine self.... my dream is now to be a comic book artist after I've secured retirement. Never too late.
I wish this was a common notion. The adults around me had me thinking I was too old for toys and general kid/teen stuff at 12. 13. 14. People that raised me both intentionally and unintentionally to be more ""mature"" than the kids around me. I'd rather have been an immature kid with a happy childhood than the "pleasure to have in class" kid without a childhood.
People in general need to have more respect and kindness for children, because the only way they end up being awful or cruel is by the people who raise them. Tons of kids I've seen that were total sweethearts, gentle with their siblings and asking for hugs and in general being respectful to themselves and the world around them. It's not surprising when an abusive parenting system pushes out children that are either horribly traumatized, unable to function, or end up being a worse version of their parents/guardians. There needs to be a village, and people need to start realizing that children and teens are people actively learning about the world-please, give them grace and patience. Anything else will only make a copy of yourself you'll refuse to admit is cruel.
This one made me cry
I was 16 6 years ago, I was 18 when Covid happened and idk where the time went
25 here. It’s literally up to us. We’re not responsible for the hand we were dealt. We’re responsible for what we do with it. I still think the “world is gonna end someday” but it’s up to us to decide if it’s gonna happen in our lifetime or not.
Nice job. It took me until about 30 to recognize that we should have been replacing the old guard, rather than trying to appeal to them.
You nailed it. A lot of people like to point their fingers at other people because of their own problems.
Life is difficult and hard but you have to navigate through it and keep on pushing through. It’s for your own survival. Don’t assume anyone to support you and if they did, what will you do once they are gone or out of your life?
Keep up with the good attitude and you will be just fine!
Replacing?! Why not learn from old guards and work together? Are you really smart enough to invent the wheel from scratch?
@@katlinshhumans without access to the OG wheel. Or even knowledge of it would still be able to reinvent it. It’s called convergent evolution 😂
eat the rich
nah the fact that you had to wait out the rain from 6 AM perfectly supports your concept, we might be waking up in the middle of a storm, but once it passes you still got a lot you can do with the day.
Oh the irony. You're right though. Gen Z just needs to feel like we have an umbrella and then we can stop being such doomers.
@@ProjectZ36 that really is the solution. we're in the middle of a storm, but we just need an umbrella. unfortunately though, some people will never get their umbrella.
I see y'all talking about getting an umbrella when it rains. A good point. I'd like to follow that up with "What can you do inside? Can you do those outside things inside? Maybe you don't have to have a sunny day to get things done and maybe that's ok"
@@samsabee2055 thats also a really good point. sometimes, the rain isnt the end of the world. the sun is still there, you just cant see it.
@@thefourthdymensionmusic”I know. It’s all wrong. By rights we shouldn’t even be here. But we are. It's like in the great stories, Mr. Frodo. The ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger they were. And sometimes you didn't want to know the end. Because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad had happened? But in the end, it’s only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. *And when the sun shines it will shine out the clearer.* Those were the stories that stayed with you. That meant something, even if you were too small to understand why. But I think, Mr. Frodo, I do understand. I know now. Folk in those stories had lots of chances of turning back, only they didn’t. They kept going, because they were holding on to something.”
Guess the quote?
"The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the second best time is now."
stop i’ll cry i love this book sm
nah the second best is 19 years ago
As an arborist I can confirm this is 100% correct
What book is this
@@jigglypuff2499the overstory
Turned 21 this year and it feels like Gen Z is potentially on the cusp of a generational revolution
every generation thinks that exact thing because every generation is fed a different form of activism and they think its them. it not.
@@Countchoyep gen x were fed the same lies
@@Countchoexcept the whole reason there’s such concern over gen Z is because gen Z doesn’t put up with bullshit. Not boomer’s, not corporations, no ones. Gen Z refuses to work unless they get a living wage, they are refusing high education because it’s out of reach so they’re going into the trades, they acknowledge and work for the betterment of peoples mental health, and they reject the authoritarian abusive parenting they were raised with.
There may be rivalry between generations as usual. But there is no denying that older generations and gen z are from two entirely different worlds.
@@CountchoI doubt it this time. The November election will be the trigger. If gen z is still asleep then we are doomed.
@@trxphywaif than do something gen z here, and trust at any moment I'm low key ready to start a revolution I mean like today. What do I have to lose my 10 an hour job lol.
Gen Z got handed a crap shoot. My kid turned 18 during lockdown. Y'all had to cope with a lot of trauma and the world is still raging. Yall got time. Get together with other Gen z and figure out what life yall want to make happen in this world and government. Cause it will need your gen. My Gen X group is still a hot mess. Our parents are passing and were having midlife, identity crisis too. Sheesh. Y'all are a smart group. Rest up, plan and tackle. Y'all can make some amazing things happen.
The pandemic also slowed down social development of kids.
It caused a lot more harm than many people wanna admit
im so glad more are recognizing that the things we've experienced are leaving us with actual trauma. im so grateful for my gen x mother, im so grateful she has listened to me my whole life, grateful for the upbringing she gave me, even though we both experiences so much interpersonal traumas
its also so meaningful to me to see her have a more positive view of the future because i have always been so open and passionate about my beliefs and ideals. she's grown so passionate about unionization, thinking about being involved in the world in ways that would make change. she seems so much less stuck, much less willing to accept the world as it is
i think ive noticed in general, as gen z grows older and is more outspoken and passionate, other generations seem to be growing more hopeful. and more willing to have different perspectives on the world. of course it will take time, as you say gen x is still a mess, still grappling with lifetimes of repressed and unmanaged trauma. but i think just the fact that ive seen so many being willing to start work on that trauma is a Huge change from older generations
i feel so much less scared, now that im older and have more agency, and can see the world from a different perspective. and im grateful for my upbringing. even though it was rough, and many of the adults in my life seemed unwilling to discuss the problems i was seeing everywhere around me, they still kept me safe and tried to arm me with the skills i needed to grow into a person who can make a real difference
not sure if that makes sense, im a bit long winded
@@daniel-ht4guand the whole lockdown thing was done so some old fucks wouldnt die and then they have the balls to complain about it? I didnt wanna go into lockdown for some old fart who rants on facebook all day how much they hate young people or about how degenerate gen z ist
really wish my dad would understand this instead of kinda just forcing me into the real world without considering how much shit is different for me than it was for him
@@OzzyIDV I understand and wish he would too. He may or may not ever get it. Please take care of yourself and make a plan. Find your people. You don't have to do this alone. Fam would be nice but it doesn't always work out. I send you good vibes ✨✨
Their elders proved that they are not worth listening to.
I’m smiling at this because it was literally the same thing we said about our elders back in the day, 50 years ago. And I’m laughing out loud because it will literally be said about your generation by your kids and grandkids. The more things change, the more they stay the same.
@@vmj255
I am a Boomer. I started reading science fiction in 4th grade.
My mother called it "Something Crazy". She sent me to a grammar school where the silly nuns never taught science.
I decided to go to college for engineering in 7th grade. I went for Electrical Engineering and worked for IBM. My mother and I never talked about what I did.
Now people use the technology to communicate about bullshit. Find an economist saying anything about the depreciation of this under engineered trash.
True
@vmj255 some things stay the same because they're ignored
My mother sent me to a Catholic elementary school where the silly nuns NEVER taught science. When I started reading science fiction my mother called it "Something Crazy".
I ignored her.
I decided to go to college for engineering in 7th grade and won a National Merit Scholarship.
I'm turning 25 this week. I deal with the feeling of having "failed to launch" pretty often, but one thing that has helped immensely is seeing how my 50, 60, or even 90 year old relatives go through profound changes in their life. Decades long abusive relationships ending, changing careers with only 15 years left in your career, making new friends on your literal deathbed. We don't know what it's going to be like, and failure isn't real unless you think of it as the end.
I'm a bit older than you. I launched, and crashed back into the earth. Broke my spaceship and the astronaut inside pretty badly. I'm just barely starting to put myself back together again and plan the next mission, and you know what, I've decided that this time, I'm going to spend as much time as I want studying and working with mission control before I get back on that spaceship. My perspective has shifted. I have realized there are worse things that failing the launch, and that even these things are not irreparable failures, but just more painful set-backs. You are not alone, or "failing" at anything
"failure isnt real unless you think of it as the end" is gonna be one of my new favorite quotes.
you’re doing fine, there’s no such thing as “launching” since you live in your own timeline and pace like everyone else. just be present and do your own thing, that’s what matters the most alongside being alive
The only way we can truly fail is inaction.
Failure is the greatest gift because it is when you truly learn. Without failure, are you really passionate about anything?
currently reading a book about some of my favorite art from the 80s/90s and realized pretty quickly that all the artists I admire didn't do anything of note until they were 32-35. i'm 25 right now and it was hella comforting
I think it's more because they were working very hard in those years. And with time and hard work they brushed their talent to the point where people could recognize their work. It's actually all those years that matters, not that they did it overnight. I think you already know this. I am just saying.
@@Anjali-dt1jf well duh i'm not just sitting on my ass doing nothing. I'm just saying it's normal to not receive "recognition" or 'success' (whatever that means to you) until your 30s
@@hmmimthinking that's what I meant actually
@@hmmimthinking also, what was the name of the book?
Yeah a lot of famous artists have very few «completed» works
We are being too hard on ourselves
Even those famous old rich dudes maybe only made 100 or so works, so it makes sense that we only have a few done when we are like 0.1 percent of their age
“You can have a good life, you can have a good day”
100% bro. I’m 39 and I wake up everyday determined to have a good day. To me, it’s all that matters. Just have a good day. If I have a bad day anyway, that’s ok. At least I tried.😂
I’m also 39- same mindset. Don’t worry- be happy👍🏻
If you have a good day every day, your having a good life. Its fine to put work into a better tomorrow but dont spend it all doing that. No one says on their death bed they worked more, they wish they spent more time with friend and family or doing that thing they loved.
to be happy, focus on day to day.
to matter in the final judgement, you must expand your focus beyond yourself and beyond one day
Every day is a good day as you have a day on hand. Think about it how incredible is nature the fact that you can go out and see the world around you that we maintain. And that world is incredible. Think about the amount of people who you interact with every day and who you might be able to pass on happiness to by smiling to others. We have time and that is all we need.
We‘re waking up with this one 🗣️🗣️🗣️
To ash and dust
😔@@rileymoore7025
We're wiping our brow and we're sweating our rust
I admire them really, Do not let the system use you up. Gen X got screwed over by greedy Boomers.
@@wolfiewoo3371 We're breathing in the chemicals
It feels like gen z is "cursed" with the need to be rich or ultra successful
We are. If you want to afford to survive you have to be grinding your life away at work or successful.
We are
@Will-fr9hg You can still live a comfortable life off a median yearly salary (for your state) as long as you are OK with not moving out
@@miguelpatino3856 see that last bit is the problem
@@miguelpatino3856 You’d have to be completely ignorant to say such a thing.
23 and life feels over, i'm tired
my life felt over when i turned 13, just am only a few years older and feel like i am just a dead man walking
@@bradentheman1373 if you can get some vitamins and minerals and or green juice for energy - some health food stores make fresh green juice for you - also in pill form rhodiola really helps with memory/focus/stamina/energy - i use it daily
56 and I cried on my 23 birthday because I didn't have a college degree, house, nice car, or even expecting a baby. I finally got the stuff, but the kids grew up before I have the other resources. Now they don't come around or call. I worked all the time, Life was not perfect. The house is falling apart, everything is dated, and too expensive to fix and the automobiles are old. None of it was worth it. Just go enjoy your life now. No spouse, kids, house. Live simple and free.
I didn't think I'd survive high school, but I'm still here
24 here, I know how you feel. I have a bunch of mental problems that have driven me to attempt suicide twice. When every day is a battle just to live, you don't have the energy to do anything else. There is no progress, no development - only survival. I'm sick of just surviving.
Never got invited to parties. Never developed any skills I could use in life. Never had the grades. Never had many friends. Never got used to talking to girls.
I just feel like I've misssed my own childhood. Now I'm thrust into a world on the brink of collapse. Everything I cherished as a kid is destroyed. I am not sure I will be able to take care of myself, let alone a wife and kids.
You wrote my life story
Same here. Except for the grades, though at the cost of having no friends. In fact, I'm alone.
Dude well you can’t change it either you wanna be 30 years old still regretting your young self will damage you bro
Sometimes i feel like this… and unfortunately i still am a kid.
Stop worrying about the things you cant or couldnt control, at the end of the day, the only thing you can do is change right now, and dont worry about what other people think, theyre just as valuable and insecure as everyone.
Coming from a millennial (I'm 31), and having experienced childhood before smartphones (I got my first smartphone at 19), I remember the speed at which time passed before all the distractions, and it sounds crazy but it went by way slower, and I didn't wake up 7 months later shocked that so much time has passed like I do now. You could get lost doing stuff online on your computer for a few hours but it wasn't the same as having it in your pocket absorbing every "free time" moment. Even things like waiting for the subway, waiting at the doctors office, that time just zaps away when you're using a phone. Before them we just stood there and existed. Anyways I believe this is a big reason as to why gen z feels like their life has gone by in an instant, you guys grew up with smartphones and ipads distracting you 24/7 and it really does speed up the perception of time.
And also you're right, mourning the stage of life you just passed is a HUGE mistake. Especially because our perception of time DOES move faster now. You will wake up at 26 and wonder where the hell your early 20's went, and how all you were thinking about during that time was how you weren't a kid anymore and how you wish you were. And then when you're 30 you'll yearn to be 21 again, and the cycle continues until you're dead. Once you feel "comfortable" being in your early 20's and are feeling like you're owning up to what someone of that age is like, and has accomplished, guess what? You're not there anymore, you're 30 now! And now you have to spend your entire early 30's trying to *feel* like someone in their early 30's instead of just being yourself and appreciating life.
20 is extremely young and everyone will tell you that, but they also don't seem to also admit to you that if you don't appreciate it and take action for your life now, it will pass you by. Don't waste those years feeling uncomfortable with your age, just take the future seriously and take living in the moment just as seriously. No one feels like an adult until they're like 45 LOL
I do believe this generational issue was inevitable due to smartphones and other changes in culture. That being said, I'd like to think we still have time to change the trajectory for us and future generations.
What does “living in the moment” actually mean?
thank you
@@NotKewl It means not living on autopilot. Realizing that you are right here, right now. Acting consciously instead of habitually going through your daily routine every day. It's called mindfulness and the more you practice it, the slower time goes.
I agree with every single word you said, that's what I was thinking about for a long time but couldn't articulate my thoughts clearly, thank you! Have a good day!
I'm 17... I've already known and have experienced time going faster the more we age. We mourn the first quarter of the day since it's the slowest, from there our perception speeds up and we're left at 40 remembering 20 as if it were yesterday.
My parents and family tell me that a lot, so its frightening to think that everything so far has been wasted... This coupled with an uncertain present and future, no wonder we mourn what was supposed to be the best time of our lives.
So true, kudos for listening to your folks (to whom you're a credit). I swear your gen will be the one we all need. I'm GenX (no kids) but have nephews your age and they're where I was at 37 and see the world with the clarity humanity needs. Godspeed.
I’ve researched a bit why life feels like it goes faster as we get older, and the conclusion made me feel refreshed because it’s not as depressing as we think haha
Life feels slow when you’re young; because new datas come to your brain everyday, since you just popped up from a womb with no memory and knowledge of anything XD
As the time goes on, you get used to this world. You hardly gain a new data from your daily life because you have already learned things that you had to learn. If you keep doing the same things life will move faster. That’s why i’m sad about the newer kids tbh. They’ll feel their childhood was unexistent because all they do is scrolling on tiktok.
So actually, we can control the speed of the time with our hands to some extent :D! Try new things, travel, meet new people. Have you ever felt like life became slower when something new happens? It’s peaceful really. Also, journaling also helped me to remember more and slow down life. When you journal, you remember the things you did so the day becomes more perminent in your mind.
@@larianne_d Yea, I am aware. Its a shame honestly
@@romac9516 There are many awesome podcasts and therapists on UA-cam today that help me and hopefully many others from genZ to learn about what actually is important for live and not just random news all day about whether or not a girl in China can be trans or not 😂
Ha! Wait until you get to your seventies and still remember being 20 as though it were yesterday! It will blow your mind.
This is the kind of constructive positivity youtube and social media in general needs a LOT more of
its the best kind of positivity. toxic positivity is a VERY VERY real thing, and i used to be that kind of person, but not anymore. i had to learn some hard lessons, and right now im focused on growing myself and my own ideas more than ever.
No they need to educate people on class consciousness. This is random babbling
Agreed!
i just realised he is pulling in every gen z whos scared of running out of time
23 here. The “people living on their own at a younger age” has probably due to the fact that the economy back then was LIVABLE. You could get an apartment, buy a house or whatever. Now, not so much. I feel a lot of this is bad timing so far. That Gen Z is the one suffering the most because of bad timing, with the pandemic screwing with people’s lives and education. I was LUCKY I graduated before it started but I went to votech after and it fucked with everything that I didn’t want to go back a third year.
It’s an unfortunate situation yes, but I’ve got hope things will get better. Maybe in the next few years, but let’s celebrate when that comes. I still have plenty of growing to do myself.
21 here, hard agree, we have had to deal with SO much shit that other gens had way easier. lots of stuff is better than it ever has been but there’s the economy, the pandemic, tech is advancing and instead of helping humanity it’s just being used to abuse us and funnel more resources and opportunities away from us…
here’s to hoping we’ll make the world grow along with us 🥂
Not a generational problem. Its a 20s problem. You don't have the context in your 20s to understand how time works because you haven't had enough of it yet. Once you have experienced more time and have about half of it left, you realize what is important and what is not. (Fulfillment is important, expectations are not) seeing folks die and get divorced in your 30s will wake you up real quick and you will realize plans are just plans, goals are just goals, and fulfillment is something you can experience every day if you try. You gotta go through that wretched decade to figure out who you are away from the influence of others and what will actually fulfill you. If you're still struggling, try talking to someone older than you.
Damnnn you’re right I’m 26 and just figuring this out. My rough decade was from 15-25 or so..I think it used to be younger for boomers. Fulfillment is key. Honestly I think it’s all about people. Were meant to be around others and have secure and trusting bonds. I hope more gen z realize this and try to nurture their close relationships. The “lone wolf” mentality is a path to misery
Hey can you help a 20 year old out? I used to be very social and had all sorts of things going on in my life but once I graduated from school I lost my groove and now I'm pretty alone and lost. How do I make friends and find new experiences as an adult? I know its weird to ask a stranger on the internet but I don't have any adults in my life to ask. Thanks.
@2-Squeaks I will do the best I can to help! Do you have any favorite pastimes? What were some things you enjoyed doing with friends in high school? You don't have to tell me, you can just reflect on it if you like. My favorite way to meet new people is to go somewhere that I will have a lot in common with new people. Concerts, we already like the same band and maybe kind of music, comicon, we're both nerds, if I did more outdoorsy activities I could meet someone on the trail. If you want to meet someone new at work or a party or a networking event or anywhere people introduce each other, you can say "Hello, I don't think we've been introduced yet, my name is _____" If you are standing in line to get into some kind of event, you can start an awkward conversation there too 🤣 one big key to making a new friend is to set up the next meeting with them. They say it takes 10-15 conversations with someone to start feeling like you are friends, which is part of why school friends and work friends are easier to establish. Volunteering is a great way to meet very nice people and do something together that feels very rewarding. I don't know if youngins still use facebook but every now and then i go to the events on there and I find interesting local events like free symphony in the park, programs at the library, dance classes, music festivals, open mic nights, comedy nights, and things like that. We also have things like plant swaps and art supply swaps at our library. Once you get one new friend who has other friends, maybe they will want to introduce you to their friends, and so on. The best ways to be friendly to a new person is to work very hard on remembering someone's name and use it, because that is important to people, and ask them about themselves and show you are interested in them by being a good listener, and don't be afraid to have a good laugh when it's time. Remember, the age that you are is one of the HARDEST ages to make new friends, it is a skill you are working on developing, you don't have a lot of organic situations to talk to someone 10-15 times so you may have to take some of those conversations to social media. You still have a lot of time to make new friends. I just recently became a karaoke dj and i have made more friends in the last year than i have in the last few, because some people who do karaoke are very serious about it and come every week and I am 36, so you have a lot of time left to meet new people. I think focusing on finding enriching activities that you enjoy, knowing you are a good person and it is okay if people reject you, not everyone has to like you because you don't like everyone right? And being confident that there are people in this world who are the right people to be your friend are out there and it will be really great when you find one another. Hang in there, you got the first step done, let me know if I can help more. I am excited for you too meet your people!
@@2-Squeaksyou peaked in high school and now you’re fucked, many such cases. Take solace in knowing you are not the only one
@@leotardbanshee Thank you so much for taking the time to respond to me, I appreciate having the support. I have signed myself up for a few things that I am interested in and am looking forward to seeing who they bring into my life. At the very least I'll have a good time doing the things.
I'm 25 and i have been obsessed with time for as long as I can remember. I always feel like i don't have enough time. And there is something to be said about the times in the world we are living in.
Very well said, i fully agree. Thank you for reminding us the positive spin of this feeling/issue.
Same here I’m 24 and have always been anxious about time and how fast it goes by. There’s never enough of it in a day
Holy shit these times suck.
Same here 25 years old.. I think we are subgeneration of 'Zilenials'
Me on the other hand there's always way too much time to kill. Running out of things and having to just stare at the ceiling is a daily occurance
27 this year, feels like I was gonna be behind no matter how I went about it, misfortune and intense rumination upon it has been a reason for both my lag and internal understanding. So much time watching UA-cam just trying to wait for things to feel better. Things do get better but I still don't feel confident in myself and my ability to be an active participant in my own life though. Try to at least give yourself the time to let your mind develop and grow. I probably won't feel ready when I'm 30 but I will (hopefully) have a mostly developed brain.
I turned 20 near the start of the pandemic.
It took me until 23 to really understand this and get going. I’m 24 and not everything’s panned out, but that’s just because everything worthwhile takes patience.
Thanks for this video man
Were fked
@@truthseek3017 nuh uh
@@truthseek3017 Finally, non doomer opinions.
The problem for a lot of us is that during that 12-6 am, we *weren't* sleeping. Our entire generation went through shit, war after war, economic collapse after collapse, endless terrorist attacks, the destruction of privacy and the total annihilation of economic mobility and stability. We feel older than we are because we had to grow up so damn fast in a world not built for us. I was stressing over bills at 13! We saw from a young age what the world was like and about, and it was scary. It didn't feel right.
A lot of us don't have the ability to have future goals and prospects. I can't just "go start a business" because I'm poor, I was born into a low class family. I can't get further education because the system left me behind, I don't have the grades to qualify (nor the money). I can't get a job because I never learned how to drive, I couldn't afford the lessons or the license fees (still can't). I was never taught the skills I need to succeed in life, and now I'm expected to "Just do it" in a system that's geared against me. Hell, my rent alone is 68% of my welfare payment.
It just feels like we were all born into a big pit. Some of us already knew how to climb, a lot of us didn't.
The childhood we had was far better than any other generation before us, and this applies for whatever generation you are. We went through some shit but we're not special because of it.
@@bryanfongo327 For a lot of us that's true, and no, it doesn't make us 'special', but a damn lot of us have had a horrible time
Hate to say it man but every generation has faced war, economic collapse, corruption and greed etc on some level. This doesn't mean our experiences are not valid but it's not as if humanity has changed . We are just as passionate or hateful as we were 10,20,30, 40 hell 100 years ago.
For your situation I'm sorry you where you are rn but hey things can and will change. Overall you just have to do what you can right ?
This is really sad to see for yourself. But I want to say that your value is not determined by the time in history you were born into. I live in Yorkshire in the UK. If you were born in the 1700s you were probably going to be working in a mine by 3, and be there for 17-18 hours a day, for six days a week. I don’t say that to say “you should be grateful for what you have” because what you’re talking about is very real. But there can be something to be said that this isn’t the first time whole generations of people had basically no hope for their lifetime. It’s not fair and it’s pretty bleak, but it might not be this way forever. You might find a way out of the dark. And even if you never feel like you do, it might help to read history and see what others went through. Before the 1900s it was greater than 80% odds your life sucked in some crazy major ways. But lots of people found ways to add meaning to their own lives.
@@flightlessboy4040Older generations didn’t have rapid access to information as we did.
I think being tired is a social thing now cause everyone I talk to says the same things. “I’m tired.”
real 😔
The past and future doesn’t exist;
All we’ll ever have is the present.
That is very true.
This was a well made video in general. But speaking of time, I still think both of them still exist even though we're in the present moment and some of us say that it's considered impossible to go visit them based on our current understanding of physics. I still personally believe that time travel to the past and future will still happen someday, and we'll have the free will to branch out unlimited streams (timelines) moving forward in the universe made by changes in the past, which is pretty beneficial.
I say that because I would hope to have an opportunity to go back and not only change my own past, but I would fix everything terrible that happened in the last four years, sometime in the early 2020s after the pandemic occurred. I was thinking of sending my younger self a package from "the universe" that explains how to love myself, and then it includes a guide to creating an online non-profit organization that helps save society and humanity for our generation and many future generations to come. I once had a good idea for an organization that helps save the world earlier, but I eventually got too comfortable and lost my potential, which was something I never should have done in the first place.
But for now, all we can do is to enjoy every moment we have, accept reality as it is here and now, and do the best we can to create a positive impact and a brighter future for ourselves. Until then, I promise to fix everything for us if I ever do get the opportunity to go back.
The constant now moment for the rest of time. Master mindfulness so you wont be on your deathbed wondering where all that time went
You're right.
As a 23 year old with ASD, I will say. As much as I'm striving to be mindful and focus more on the now as I start my own 4-month summer self-improvement journey from June to September, I personally do believe that the past and future both exist even though we're all moving forward through these moments. As long as we all enjoy every moment we have here and do our best to make our world better, I still hope to someday get an opportunity to go back and change my past, and potentially branch out a new stream in the universe. And I would do so right before the very moment I pass away. I know that part sounds silly and off-topic, but I can't help but believe it's somehow possible. And I'm pretty sure everyone else felt the same way, considering that we're now living in a time of uncertainty. Don't worry. I'm already at peace. I'll do my very best to make a big, positive impact on our world as long as I live. Until then, we all must be aware and continue to push forward.
I still have a lot of work to get done this year. So, I'll finally get on to it.
People always say "live in the present moment," but no matter how much I've tried I can't get any kind of grasp on the significance of the present. I'm acutely aware of every second that passes by as I type this, but it doesn't feel special or that perspective shifting to me. Even while meditating I can get a sense of the present, but most of it eludes me.
@@Padremeus Maybe I just haven't mastered it, but even after a lot of work I still feel like time is slipping away from me. I grasp the significance of the present, but if I never truly "feel" it then what hope for me is there?
As someone who is almost 40. Your life is just starting. Get off of your phone, be mindful, time will slow down a bit
As a 25 year old, I think it helps to allocate an hour+ a day if possible, to just sit outside and journal, write, read, anything that's non-digital.
So I'm supposed to be excited that I have a long life of being a wage slave? I do not consent.
@@roastbeef4918don't just accept that, work to be different, be the change
Nah time only speeds up
@@flakeyboy7009 i wonder why we see no change if this is undoubtedly a common opinion.
In 1918, a great many young men never even woke up.
1939-1945
Yeah, that's so sad :(
And now either america, or russia may be on their way to start a world war 3
I'd do anything to not have to enlist, I would never cope with it...
And the saddest thing of all, is the fact that in many countries people arent even allowed to be taught why war is bad, because of their government. I think i'm really lucky, in my country, we are taught about the harmful things we have done in the past, and written essays on why they were bad and why we should learn and not repeat them.
War is really sad, and horrifying. There are no winners in war. I really don't want to have to go through that in my life time, but what can just one person do to stop that?
@@BallistaBomber what are you trying to imply?
@@avroarchitect1793 They never grew old
@@avroarchitect1793that a lot of young men, some under 18, had their lives taken away in a brutal manner?
I think my childhood ended prematurely, I believe that had to do something with my maturity and growth, but it probably has to also do with the fact that I’m autistic.
I always felt years behind my peers, maturity wise, I’ve had trouble connecting with people the same age as me. Mentally, I think I’m still in my teens, but I’m 24 now, and I realize that always going to be behind schedule, but I hope that some day I can feel the age I actually am. I sometime wish everything could stay the same, I don’t like change, but that’s reality, that’s life.
The sun will set on our generation eventually, and I hope that we all can work towards a goal that can give us fulfillment.
This is going to sound a bit depressing, but for a while, my only goal after graduating was to keep living, I’ve been going through depression ever since I turned 16. The reason I’m still here is because I wanted to stay for my family, I couldn’t just leave them behind. Im certainly glad the sun has not yet set on me, because I haven’t felt this much hope and happiness in a long time. :)
because adolescence lasts until 25. that's how old i was when i found that out, even though i'd been on my own, off and on, since 15
You're not behind schedule bro, there is no schedule.
Maturity is what's inside your head. While it's good to try to understand others, pretending that you do understand them is always wrong - and so are your judgments of their maturity.
There are many ways (dimensions?) someone can be mature. Emotional maturity is different from a mature character, same goes for social maturity and all the others.
And connecting with others is hard, and will be hard - that's the world we are living in. But hard things can make you feel alive when you treasure your small successes.
Happy to hear that you have someone to stay for. Treasure that, but don't give up on finding other things to live for.
this is exactly me omg and I graduated a few months ago and my only goal has been to keep living I literally don't have a job rn 😰
Hugs to you my friend. I wish you all the best.
I relate to this hard, but I'm so proud you're still here. I'm so glad this has given you some hope and I wish you the best for the rest of your day. 🩷🩷🩷🩷
Lol, 31 yr old here. First I thought with my nose up in the sky, what on earth could a 19 year old kid teach me? And then I watched the video and I thought dang.. you are right! I had the same fears and the same feelings being in my thirties and feeling like I missed out on my twenties. I guess it's not a gen Z thing, I think it's a thing from our modern society. Because life became so fast paced and we always have the thousands of possibilities in our faces of what life could look like, we start to panick as if we are running out of time.
Thank you for teaching me two things: not be so arrogant toward young people and not panicking about the time passing by.
Thank you, miss. But respectfully, as a 25 year old, I still think you're a young person 😂
I'm sure every generation in history has had these feelings to some degree, nostalgia has always existed
@@bryanfongo327 it's just weird being the nostalgic one 😂😂😂 as a youngster I thought nostalgia is only for oooooold boring people
young people are struggling just as much as everyone else. we have our own challenges that not many people before have had to face, so we need just as much help, guidance, and support as we can get, same as anyone else.
As someone in the USA turning 24 this year I'd like to add a few observations to some points you've made here. Talking about older generations that "woke up earlier", there is a large part of that which had to do with being social and having social gatherings. Now our society largely prohibits social gatherings of young people (not that it doesn't happen anymore you just have to know someone whose parents are willing to host or finance such gatherings). Many industries have added to the complexity of their products/services, which in turn has increased their cost, which in turn drives away younger people who have to spend what time and money they have on their "future plans". This lack of social gatherings means that the day will be less productive due to lack of cooperation and so serves to take away motivation to even participate, like your efforts are being "wasted" or spent inefficiently in your youth. At least compared to prior generations. Then there is the perception of long term reward for participation in society, things like having a family, a place to live, or time to simply enjoy being alive after retirement. All of these either are impossible to achieve for most of Gen Z or they perceive that it is impossible for them to achieve such things when it is possible. This perception of long term reward (or more accurately lack of reward) reinforces the loss of motivation to participate in society. I feel this final point is really the "cherry on top" of all this which is that escapism is at its strongest point in history, even across generations somewhat, due to the emergence and expansion of the digital world. Gen Z and Millennials have closely witnessed this within their lifetimes and it overall has led to a realization that we are powerless against the systems previous generations created, and now it is just a matter of "how long can the snake eat itself before it dies?". We all know one person can't make the difference that must be made in the world, and simultaneously our opportunities to socialize and learn skills of cooperation (which is needed to make such a difference) are severely inhibited. All we can do is sit and watch as everything continues to cost more and give less. There is a lot more to say but I feel that I've gotten the main point across. If you read this far feel free to ask for explanations on anything I've said. Hopefully UA-cam notifies me of replies.
You make a great point. With the many changes in culture of the last 20 years, this generation has seemingly lacked the social interaction needed to live a healthy and fulfilling life. We've seen what this can do to many, and I believe it's our job moving forward to use the technology we've been given to strengthen social bonds as opposed to letting it separate everyone from each other.
I am just curious what yall thought millenials did to hang out back in the day. I will tell you most of it involved a bonfire out in the wilderness where I am from. There are tons of millenial nostalgia videos about this. We did have to rent movies and watch them together I suppose but it's not like any of us poor struggling college students in 2008 could afford to go to brunch or the bar. I lived in the most expensive part of my state, gasoline was 4 bucks a gallon and we still found a way to go night sledding together. We would have bob ross painting parties, we would play cards and board games. We were at each other's houses or apartments or out in the wilderness. I don't think it's the fact you don't have any options, it's that the options aren't instagrammable enough to give anyone else fomo.
So many of people today have become copy and pasted NPC’s who aren’t worth interacting with unfortunately.
Sure we are powerless right now but as the older generation die off, we will hold the power and can change society then, right now though, too many of them are still alive and they are greedy AF.
Realistically speaking, boomers were born from 1946-1964 so they are still from 78-60 years old, 15 more years when they die off GenZ + Melenial will be the major coalition and we can change policy then, so right now we must survive first.
I agree, a lot of people on the internet talk about how time goes by real fast and it's true but it just bugs me that they're on their phone all day long not doing anything and then saying that time goes by fast. I'm like that myself and I understand that I need to change this shit
The best way to change is to go to sea, so to speak. Place yourself under hardship and risk. If you survive you will be a real man, not some muscled guy with tattoos and a beard--they're all pussies every man Jack of them. Comic book stuff. You I'll find you won't need any special get-up at all. You will be able to accept challenges with quiet confidence. You will become dutiful, a benefit to others, temperate and eventually wise.
Im not allowed to leave my house by myself cause im a girl and could be sa'ed BUT I JUST WANT TO LIVE? WHY CAN'T I GO ON A BIKE RIDE?? LET ME LIVE!!! THATS WHY I'VE GOT NO FUCKING FRIENDS
as a gen z i always think about time, and sure its possible to live an average life and make it to 80 and take things slow but unfortunately thats just an average. a lot of people im seeing around me are having their lives taken from them and havent had the time to even do half the things they want to do, yeah its not even gonna matter when youre dead anyway but for some people being 20 could be 11pm, you never know when your time is up
Yeah fr
omg true
Then do what you can now, so what if it ends sooner than you thought, you were here, and while you are here, you leave your mark, no matter how small.
As easy and comforting as it can be to be pessimistic, and look at the world through a doomed perspective, if you want to have a fulfilling life one of the first steps to take is realizing that you should make the most of what you have.
@@KeisOnline you misinterpreted my entire comment, yes thats why you should do stuff now and enjoy your life while you have it, instead of taking things slow thinking you will live forever
@@regn4rd Apologies, it seemed like your comment was only expressing the "world sucks, who cares" feeling I've seen so much of in this comment section. I wanted to make sure people don't decide to just sit complacent and let things pass them by.
Love this. Great message and awesome video style! I am 28 and honestly feel like I JUST got my footing in life. It's never too late to start, truthfully.
Yes, focus on your hobbies and getting by to get beyond. Not a house or a perfect spouse or children. Then are anchors. Do invest in real-estate, but do not get attached to your property. I have plan to trade it up frequently until you are ready to trade down. Live simple live free.
Last part is not exactly true. Sometime in your30s, if you haven't developed skills for self-discipline and work you likely never will. I've seen several examples examples in my life. But that's no reason to give up hope and sounds like you've already taken a positive step.
Thank you for sharing this. To play on the analogy: if you’re worrying about your day, the stress really negates the positive effects of sleep. You’ll be too busy in survival mode to be refreshed and ready to go
Gerbert Johnson from the dollar store
Gerbites unite
Gerbitus americanus
Accurate
Not enough twink
gerbert johnson from the dollar store is spitting tho
I'm 28, this video was reassuring. Feel like I wasted my 20s but with your analogy it's still morning. Thank you. This helped alot :)
i'm 13 and you are old.
Also 28, you're just living brother. Whatever lie you were sold about adulthood is just that. Life is about living and becoming yourself, not about the goals. Good or bad, experiences are the whole point of existence. Don't beat yourself up
@@FyerBearwhat type of circular cope is this
@@phantasqLiving it’s realizing your youth and your life more broadly doesn’t end when you turn 30. Teenagers think their 20s has to be the best decade of their lives, and everything after 30 may as well be retirement from fun and enjoying life. But if you think of life like a video game, your teenage years are like the tutorial section, and your 20s are just the first level. And the first level of a video game usually isn’t the best one. You are still new to this whole living thing. Your going turn 30 one day and realize you have only just now started to understand what life is all about, and you have another 30 years to go before your bodies age really starts catching up with you. So take it easy, but stay busy, and find something you love to do.
30 here. A few things i wish i knew 10 years ago.
1. 10% of your paycheck should go into a portfolio of stock to grow.
2. You can be stupid in your teens and 20's. Once you hit 30, the world expects you to have it together.
3. Find what you love. Master it. THEN make a business out of it.
Good luck.
Did you make a business? Early 30s here. Still working jobs.
@@TipeONegatyve Tried to. But things went sideways. Best tip, use every job to hone your skills for everyday life. There is always something to learn to take with you.
@@derekfuqua1254 good advice. Here's hoping we escape wage slavery 🍻
Thanks for the advice I am really worried about how I’m gonna make it in the world. This gives me some hope.
@@drguineapig8755 Well, at least we'll know within the next year if any of us have a future. If we do, it'll be better than any of us can imagine.
I'm a 17 year old dude. Due to circumstances, including living on a farm at least a 30 min drive away from any type of settlement, my countries driving laws stating that only persons that are 18 and older can drive, while my farm community doesn't have ANYONE my age in it, I think I've been robbed of my childhood.
I was definitely a late bloomer, partly because I've been diagnosed with Asperger's and ADHD, but I've decided a while ago that I wouldn't let those diagnoses define me and subsequently beat myself up about failing socially at school, and so I had a very tough year or two after that, but it was well worth it. For the past 2 years, I think I've been caught up to my peers in terms of social ability, but I've never actually been given the opportunity to harness this.
I've never been to a party, I've never drank, I've never spent even one night out on the town, I've never had a girlfriend, I have not spent the night at a friends house since I was 12, I've never been able to spend time with anyone of my own age unsupervised, I've never snuck out, I've never disobeyed my parents... And so I've been robbed of my childhood. My entire childhood consisted of me being unpopular at school and then coming home and playing video games, because there was no alternative. Even if I, today, actively made a concerted effort to go spend time with my friends from school and go eat at a restaurant or something, that wouldn't be possible, because everyone has the same problems regarding transport.
It really sucks. My current hope is college - I'll be more free there, maybe I can finally have a childhood? But then again, my moral framework would stop me from wasting my parents money that they would be spending on tuition so that I can party and have a childhood when I should have already had one.
I know many talk against college but it depends on a lot of thing but college is definitely getting worse. If you do go join clubs and meet people there (preferable a club around a sport/ outdoorsy thing). Make sure your college isn't too woke or it'll destroy your experience
I’m 24 and i feel like my 20s just started like I finally let go of the unrealistic expectations that i wanted in my life and actually just have fun doing things I always wanted to do
I think big part of the “we’re missing our youth” talk from younger generations is we’re starting to experience time dilation in a world that is going faster with every year. You know how every subsequent year of your life you see life move much faster? Your first 20 years are much longer than your child’s in your point of view. So now at 20 realizing how fast life is starting to move, we’re scared. Cause tomorrow I’ll be 50, and I‘ll be flabbergasted as to where these last 30 years went to.
Time gets faster as you age because you've already seen everything. If you wwnt to slow time down, never stop encountering new things
@@giant0mantis hard thing to accomplish while being broke.
@@pumpkingamebox There are plenty of new things you can do for free or almost free. You can donate plasma a couple hours a week for $500 or more a month, if you really want to stop being broke go drive a truck for 55 cents per mile, you'll get unbroke real quick doing that. The key is to actually look for solutions to the problem.
@@giant0mantis Plasma is actually a good idea. I'll take you up on that.
Driving however, nah. I'll just be switching sitting in my office chair for sitting in a drivers chair. That doesn't sound gratifying at all. lol
@@pumpkingamebox You'd be doing a more important job and making more money, and you wouldn't need to pay rent or other bills, so you'd be keeping even more of your paycheck.
A big problem I have seen everywhere but rarely hear talked about is the issue of older generations constantly saying: "Childhood is the best time of your life.", "School is the best time of your life.", "it only goes downhill from your twenties.", "Adulthood is when the fun ends.", "You wont have any free time as an adult.", "No time for friends as an adult.", "Adulthood is full of responsibilities.", etc.
If you say this to children. Stop that sh*t. It has terrible consequences for children's mental health and its just not true. Maybe it was back in 1967 when you could afford a trip to the Maldives with a nickel, a strong handshake and some lint. But its not true today.
Children are already having a terrible time growing up in this world, everywhere they look there is corruption, stupidity, more and more polarization and a world on fire with no collective effort to snuff it. Telling them it gets worse and you get a lot more responsibility when they are currently juggling 50 different school projects, trying to secure a future for themselves and worrying if they'll even be able to buy a home is a sure way to get them to question the point of living. And hell even if you have a diploma there's always a chance you'll get replaced with a bot anyway. Wasting years of effort.
This. I had a lot of goals for my future as a child. I wanted to do everything right because I seen how my parents messed up. They had lot of untreated addiction and mental illness and that caused all the kids a ton of pain. Hearing every adult at school tell me "Oh you think it's bad now? It's gonna get way harder". I thought I'll never make it. I didn't realize a lot of people are more functional than my family and that when I got older and away from that toxicity that it'd be a lot easier. I was convinced the world is more harsh than it is and that it'd only get harsher and people would only become less forgiving. Why instill fear in children about the future ? Especially kids who may already be struggling with the idea of the future.
20 here, turning 21 this fall and i’m not feeling ready for it. i think i’m about to go on leave from my job and take this summer by storm somehow. i love your analogy about life in a day
The summer I turned 21 I took a greyhound to LA and moved there with nothing but a backpack. That was back in 2018. Totally changed my life and was the best thing I ever did. I had to figure out for myself what I needed to do but knew I had to do something. Best time to act is in the present.
"So... understand... the wasted time always searching for those wasted years. Face up & make your stand realize you're living in the golden years."
-Iron Maiden
I wish i would have taken these words to heart before 30 years old.
Hey Lawson. Your words clearly come from the heart and I've always really connected with people who can do that. No melodrama, just you being yourself talking about what you believe in.
I'm basically the exact same age as you within the exact same point in life. I turn 20 in less than a month and have started my senior year of college. I personally was always on a fast track. I skipped a grade in middle school, I'm in an honors program getting multiple minors with my degree, I have this awesome job where I get to work part time on multimillion dollar projects that are going to make a tangible difference for people who need it. To me, it was like my identity was attached to how quickly I could get through life compared to others. My mother passed away when I was 17 and I had to really reevaluate what all that meant.
My grades plummeted by my standards (my GPA went to about a 2.5), I was at major risk of losing my scholarship multiple times. I didn't see the point in leaving my room half the times I'd wake up. Over the few years after that, I rebuilt myself to the point where I made the Dean's list the past two semesters just to barely be above the threshold needed for me to graduate with honors. That experience taught me that what I previously thought wasn't enough was more than plenty for me to have achieved. What was really strange about this to me is when I came home this summer and sat next to my Dad on the couch, I had nothing to say. No existential worries, no internal crises, no upcoming emergencies I didn't know how to tell him about. Life has gotten... boring, which is strange to say. It's like I got all my shit together and there was nothing else to learn, which felt wrong because of the vast possibilities of life.
Your video's put into perspective that I've gotten really good at being asleep. I finally became a good student which is something I'd been clearly capable of my whole childhood but never actually did until college (if I was as good of a student in highschool, I'd be going to a better university than a public state school). Soon this episode will end, and some things will be the same. The skills I've gained cooking for myself and my friends (something I've learned I really enjoy), all the writing I did for myself and school and my job will be with me, plenty of the current lessons I know of self sufficiency, but I'm on the precipice of all the stuff I haven't learned yet because I don't have to know now but very soon will. There's a whole life that comes when you do "wake up", and plenty of it is difficult, but there's always more day to live until your body itself says you can't and puts you to sleep.
I understand that what I'm saying is a different interpretation than perhaps your initial message, but it is the power within the flexibility of the metaphor. It's only 6am. Some people get up that early just because it's when they can do whatever they want specifically because they're expected to be asleep doing nothing. There's no expectations to 6am. We can be a fuckup for 2 whole hours and it'll still be 8. Life is never mastered and never conquered, it is simply experienced and at best loved. There's always more to be. There's also time for us to be less and take a break where we really need.
Thank you for your insight.
27 and life feels over ! Like im older genz but it feels like i won’t be able to live the life that i desire
re-evaluate what u want, you could be delusional
Nobody is handed life well except for the majority of Boomers but that was a historical anomaly and nobody older or younger than them live there.
Live your own life. 27 is the real start of the good times, sure nobody’s babysitting your ass but you have a cooked brain and the ability to at least not hamstring the rest of your life yourself.
Please live, I can’t get over Gen Z’s absolute obsession with ‘now we must mourn being 15
Young Millennial here- it hasn’t been good times for about 30 years, we just need to adapt.
Y’all sleep on finding Milennial mentors tbh, they’re the only ones who even know what you’re talking about. Gen X is busy being an aging rebel and Boomers are, you know.
Put simply, no matter what circumstance you are in you can always change it.
Stop having expectations. I am 56 years old. Degrees are fine if that is what you really want to do in life. Otherwise, it is a worthless education that will keep you on the hamsters wheel with everything else you were told in society that would make you happy. Don't get trapped. Do invest in real-estate, but don't get attached to it. Houses and cars fall apart, spouses can get addicted, change and cheat. Kids are often ungrateful and leave and only return when they want your financial support. Honestly live simple live free, get a dog, ditch the technology except for work or plan a time to engage in it. Then just enjoy your life.
@@namedrop721true, one of my good friends is 33, I’m 26, and anytime I bring up existential dread about my future, hearing him laugh and tell me he remembers the same feelings at this age make me feel so much better. He went back to school at 27 and ended up not even using his degree for his career now. We need friends across generational gaps, it’s very healthy for your mind.
as a millennial I feel the same, but instead of 2014, I think about it for 2004. Lol
I'm the oldest of the zoomers and get so depressed thinking about 2014. Also kind of wild to think now some people won't remember a time before pop culture stuff like Rick and Morty the same way I can't remember a time before South Park.
Wait hold up no dont use rick and morty as an example yet pleasee im only 17 but still @@gingeralice3858
I’m 40 this year and I still look 20 physically and beyond 80s wisdom
@@DesiraeJ and so modest too!
@@boot-strapperthe satire 😆😆😆
no other generation has had to face the limitations of our environment like those today, and it impacts how we feel about time. im 30 and feel a little different, but i can commiserate.
Live simple live free. You do not need a house or a perfect spouse. Kids are not a grantee of company or help either. In fact, kids will demand you help them or you don't love them or are a loser not worthy of their precious time. 50% of kids are estranged from their parents. So why bother with 50% divorce rate or having estranged children. Life is short. You should enjoy as much of that life as you can. Plan for your future, but just your future. That way if you do have abundance you are in a better position to share. if not no major heart ache.
25 here. This is so true. I’m among the oldest members of this generation and yet I’ve been mourning my childhood since around the time I turned 18. It’s so real. I’ve been obsessed with time for so long.
Me and my husband feel so alone. We feel that it's hard to make and maintain friends, but when we do, it feels so good. I just wish it was easier to be social for our generation
You run and you run to catch up with the sun but it’s sinking.
feels like it, I don't wanna believe it, but I know it has sunk
@@heartsofiron4ever are you still breathing? It’s not over
How have you been sleeping...?
@@our.secret1130 I'm 15, it's over, my childhood is gone now
@@heartsofiron4ever give me a break. I’m 25 and spent the last ten years playing like a child. Traveling the world. Dancing to great music. Falling in love. Exploring nature. You are still a baby. The world is yours to explore
Wow that's very mature and wise, I'm 27 (oldest of gen Z) and I needed to hear this thank you!
Same I’m 26 and it’s hard to feel a sense of pride and self worth when I’m still figuring myself out and my frontal lob just kicked in.
Your video popped up on my feed this morning, I was intrigued, so I decided to give it a watch. That analogy was one I've never really internalized, but I'm rather glad I did. It ain't even 7:30 am for me yet and I feel ready to concour life. Thanks man, I needed this video!
23 and my moto is "learn to live, live to learn" dont wear it out
I had no idea how much I needed to hear that, got me feeling hopeful and shit😭😭
Need more of this kind of attitude in our generation. Thanks for sharing your thoughts man.
Thank you! It really means a lot.
Geriatric Millenial here. Gen Z has taken a beat down. We millennials were thrown into society with two wars and a global recession, so we can commiserate, but I wouldn't want to grow up in the society you all had to. It looks miserable.
With that being said, what you have, is opportunity. If you have the ability to endure several very uncomfortable years, you can find a niche to grow in, and eventually rise to the top of. Because your generation is lagging, its actually easier to get ahead, because that will be your competition through life.
There are opportunities in the less sexy occupations, especially trades. And if you realize you can outwork your competition into the top 10% of that field, you will be fulfilled in some fashion, even if its just financial. Like Lawson said, you have time. Failures in your 20's are cheap. So fail often until you dont.
I wish you all the best. Growth requires pain. Those who can endure it, will get the most out of it.
Yup, don't waste time in college get into a trade, best tip I can give to young gen Z men.
I wish it were as easy as just enduring a few years of discomfort; I've faced crushing adversity for nearly all 29 years of my life!
@@LeftoverSundriesManyeah they’re chatting 💩. We’re in the early stages of global civilisational collapse. Gen Z won’t be dying of old age and will be witness to the madness to come.
Very true on being easier to get ahead in comparison to peers. All of my jobs I always did well in and had good relationships with supervisors because I just clocked in to go to work. There were a lot of people my age who clocked in to see how much work they could get away with not doing.
Growth does not come from pain, nor require it, and there is no opportunities for the future. Totally pointless comment!
Thought this would be more like the funeral speech in Andor based off the title, but was pleasantly surprised at the wholesome message.
Same dude 😂
The title was reminding me of Marva’s “But we were sleeping..” quote
I find myself going over this concept in my head constantly. I think about moving out, I think about where I am in my career, I think about what I haven't accomplished. I'm turning 21 in a few months. My idols were successful and had a legacy by 23, I know I won't be there, I'm comfortable with that. I know I have time, but I know I have to work on it. Thank you for the reminder.
I'm 30 and both my parents are dead. One when they were 29...one at 50. You never know.
30 yr old boomer here, work hard in your 20's so you can enjoy your 30's. I worked my ass in my 20's, it was boring, it sucked, went to the gym and then I hit my 30's and boy I tell ya, things changed 180 for me, life started getting funner and easier, girls look at me more, you hit your prime in your 30's. My buddies at the same age who didnt work as hard is not seeing the same results as me.
Your buddies aren’t high value targets. Good on em
You're a 30 year old boomer who is referring to your 30s in past tense? 😂
yeah men in their 30s who have it together- is one of the attractive feature to the girls.
yeah i’m 22 and i’ve felt like it’s been over since I was 18
Wow. This really resonated with me. As an ‘older’ Gen Z (24) I’ve been panicking as I turn older more and more. For all the reasons you mentioned. Like you, I also wanted to make music as a teenager and didn’t. There’s other dreams I’m working towards now including music and UA-cam, and though I’m working towards them I’m still worrying that nothing is finished yet. It’s funny, I connected so much with this video I actually anticipated something you said before you said it. Life is weird like that. Anyway, I appreciated this video. I enjoyed the background and that you filmed outside it adds an ambiance. I will continue where I have started!
17 is a baby. The thought that twenty year olds are afraid they’ve missed their chance to live is heartbreaking.
Twenty five is just barely an adult, not over the hill.
You have time, go live your life and do the things you want to do and don’t spend cycles and energy worrying you didn’t become a CEO before you were old enough to vote.
Go live.
Its a split perspective in a broken world. In long forgotten human history being 16 meant trials and tribulations, becoming an 'adult' as soon as puberty and maturity allowed. Alexander the great made many of his main accomplishments in his 20s and died age 32. Just because modern science and technology allows us to live longer doesn't lift the burden of being in our prime and the push for greatness or despair as soon as mortality is fully understood. Some people in their 40s-50s still act like school children and some people seen as "babies" are ready to take on the world and already have a greater sense of responsibility than their peers. Lets stop categorizing eachother like school subjects and start treating eachother as exactly where we stand in life.
None of us have the money to “go live”
I turned 22 just this month and have been having the realization that my life really is just starting so this video felt good like a confirmation that yes, there will be more to come
I'm 28. So it's like what, 7 AM? I should have just woken up, right? Nope.
I suddenly need a full time job, work 60 hours a week, make 6 figures, own a house, have a family and a car. My time is already gone and I just woke up.
Did what I was told. I join the service then went to college. Put not one but two spouses through college. One spouse had a bad spending habit and cheated. Now the new spouse is an alcoholic, bipolar and cheated. I divorced, house and car falling apart, one kid disabled, the other kid resentful in college, and not coming back. I can't stand my job. Honestly what did I do it all for? I would have been much better off, single and investing in property. I am old tired and broke. I should have just got a small dog, lived simple and free.
You married a bipolar alcoholic and you're surprised she wasn't a decent woman?
Absolutely criminally underrated video.
Never gonna wake up. I'm in a concrete bunker with no doors or windows, chained to a bed. There's no way to even know if the sun has rosen up yet, nevermind actually being able to do anything about it
Are you good bro?
@@sauceboss4599 Nope
@@furiousdestroyah9999 We're all gonna get through this together, don't give up 🙏
@@sauceboss4599 I wish I could but every single turn I'm told to give up by everything and everybody.
I'm too tired
@@furiousdestroyah9999maybe start by changing how you think about yourself. Negativity is not going to take you anywhere. Go for a walk or dont, just do something that you like and stop being so unfair with you, we are all valued the same, regardless of what we do or think.
I'm a millinial who's 30 and a lot of my generation is also in the same boat. It also has to do with having to fight harder for anything productive, any education, any job, any car, any place to live, any relationship, any chance of living "the American Dream. We're getting tired of fighting for everything we need almost our whole lives. Everything you said really helps put a voice to what I'm feeling.
I’m 25 and I’ve been super stressed out lately.
Your video made me realize that I’ve been living THINKING it’s already 7PM for me and I won’t be able to get anything meaningful done.
Thanks, man, you really helped me ease the paralyzing fear. And I’m actually more motivated to do things, just in my own pace.
This means more than you can imagine. Just…..thank you.
what's in store for the rest of our lives if all we gotta do is work and revolve our life in it?
I'm old motherfuckers, and I'M AWAKE.
actually, it's time for my nap...
.same here
Bedtime at 9 lol
get this man in congress asap
This... is a bucket
A guy i know got out of the air Force after 8 years. Applied to a fast food restaurant as a manager to live in small town by his family. Then still didnt get hired. Right now many jobs post jobs but dont hire people.
If you don't have retail or restaurant management experience they won't hire you. Lost prevention, security(not bars the pay sucks), armed car cash transport, UPS would hire you and the pay is similar.
23 here. I regretted not doing a lot of things I wanted to as a teen. I dedicated my youth to working and school. I put all of that ahead of doing things I enjoy. I've had a few months between graduating college and going into law school, and I've taken the time to work on things or get things I've wanted for a while. I've been living at home trying to help my family before I leave and focus on my college work. Now I'm enjoying myself while I have time, and I've realized I can make time for myself more than I thought I could.
Enjoy your life the best you can. Don't fret over the little things. You'll thank yourself later.
around 6:00 (am ahah) you say "i still wasn't productive". as a generation our self worth is tied to success, for me it's hard to recognise a good day (for ex. hanging out in the sun and drinking a fun drink) as good, because i didn't do anything for the thing i'm studying for or chores at home. sometimes we need to clearly define what makes us happy, untied from our learned behaviour of kapitalistic influence. one unproductive good day doesn't mean that because of it, there won't be productive good days, it only supports the fact that the productive days will also be good.
This was honestly one of my favorite videos that I’ve ever watched it’s crazy because I’m 25 and I really needed to hear this. I’ve been trying to post more on UA-cam and when I woke up this morning I was kinda down because I’ve been trying to upload a video for like the whole previous day and it was still uploading in the morning but I found this video and it was a beautiful way to start my day focus on something else.
I think a lot of this also comes down to an immense emphasis on nostalgia content on the internet, making people reminise over the immediate past rather than actually being able to feel positive emotions in the present. I feel like a lot of my early teens its been like that until I realized one day that I was starting to really idealize the past that, in reality, wasnt much better than today. Yea idk just my opinion i could be wrong.
As an early teenager when i turned 13 it took me a good 2 months to stop getting stressed over time and getting older, im only 13 i have so much life to live, and sometimes i feel like im doing to much with my life
From animation, to crochet, to game making, to writing, it feels like im juggling so much but honestly im having so much fun and i cant wait to get older and do even more things, go to college and learn coding and animation even better than before, im actually looking forward to the future while still taking it all in stride, its all about balance ig
@@DishonorableMentions452 lmao I guess I have the opposite problem: I feel like I'm not doing enough, or if I am doing something, it's not good enough. I wish that gen z collectively gets free therapy or something cuz we all need it 💀
@@heart022 fr 😭
I'm asleep because I would rather not be awake. Job market sucks, housing sucks, college prices suck. Dating sucks. Why would we want to be awake. Yet all of us know that it will eventually be our job to fix everything.
As a follow-up. I like the analogy. Our day is just beginning. The problem is today is tax day. So it's going to be a bit harder to have a good day. Don't give up though. Once the taxes are done. You could go get an ice cream.
The worth of a day is the what you accomplish, not how much time you spend awake. Beautifully put.
You'll keep having this revelation over and over and over again. And it will be terrifying at times and motivating at others.
"And you may ask yourself, 'well how did I get here?' "
Cool perspective.
Keep in mind that things aren't as bad as it seems , things like the media even UA-cam always try to show the negative sides of things , the key is to always see the positive side because almost everything has a positive side.
Example: people are afraid to lose a job
but if you lost a job you gained time.
The younger people also have the power of time , starting now if you always add to a pile it always grows larger as time goes on wether it be financial, physique, knowledge.
Don't buy into what the media says
I fall into the teens just passed me by camp, I didn’t really do much and now I’m freshly 20. but I feel like my life is really just starting even though I may be a bit behind my peers. also happy birthday, come join us on the other side of the decade.
I'm the wrong audience..... UA-cam dropped the ball on this one
comparing early success to an early morning is truly relieving, just knowing that it's not a competition and you still have time to reach the finish line
i don’t think it will ever be too late to do something, i don’t think anyone is too old to learn something new or change. i’m 29 now and i feel like my twenties were such a chaotic time period of change and personal growth, and change is still going to happen moving forward.
I think the reason why so many people are worrying about this kind of thing is because of how the experience of time speeds up when you get older, specifically in hindsight. Our brains put the time passed in the context of all of the time passed in your life which is why to a 1 year old a day feels like 1/365th of their life while to a 10 year old its 1/3650th. But to make this fact less depressing it is important to remember that this mostly applies to hindsight, so if the one day in the example was yesterday for example. How you experience time in the moment, or ofcourse literally how much time you have to get shit done is still linear. Well how you experience time in the moment isnt really linear but at least it doesn't scale with age.
While this is true, I think it's important to remember that time also speeds up as we get older because we don't have as many new experiences. And while we can't change the proportions of time/life as we age, we can change the amount of new experiences we have. Thanks for leaving your thoughts!
@@LawsonTripp from my experience as an old, time flies when you are having fun and stands still at 3 pm on a tuesday but the proportionality concept is unequivocally true.
This is an excellent video
Seriously makes me realize that I’ve inverted time the wrong way
Regretting wasted time begets wasting more time
But the time I have left is all up to me; which is the most terrifying part.
When we were kids; the direction of our lives for the most part depended on the adults we were around
But when you’re totally on your own for the first time; it gets scary, and responsibilities get heavier quicker.
It’s an opportunity to become who you want to be; or die to the pain of losing who you were.
Good advice homie. I feel like it takes longer to get our money up in this economy/generation, especially in America when compared to older generations. Which means the it takes longer to get the come up going. But oh boy we still are gonna get our come up don’t you worry! And we’ll have more power through our money due to the ability and knowledge modern technology and internet allows us
I thought this was gonna bs one of those somber, "tough love" types of videos, which I thought I needed. But I needed this video more. For me, metaphorically, I'm not even getting ready for school yet. Life has begun. I appreciate this kind of motivational optimism, the internet needs more of it.
I'm 25 and have been thinking about "not letting time pass me by" since I was probably 20. Up until that point, it felt like time was going by at a normal pace. Once I finished up college and started working, it felt like time was accelerating. So this topic has been on the front of my mind for the better part of a few years now and it can be hard to shake but I think you did a great job summing up what matters.
It's not how you start, it's how you finish.
You might never be able to shake the regret of your past but you can always do the best you can with the cards you've been dealt now. It can be real easy for our generation to feel like we are constantly comparing ourselves to people who have more at an earlier age. But, there will always be someone more successful, better looking, more intelligent, etc. But therein lies the solution, in life you get to define your own success. If you are successful by your own definition, then no one can take that away from you.
Not sure if any of that makes sense or helps anyone at all but I feel like I'm telling myself all of this stuff. The best years of your life are probably ahead of you. It's not how you start it's how you finish.
"Even if you're like.. 25 then you've still got a lot of time"
Me watching this at 26: "Oh, guess I'm cooked"
Good vid, man. This deserves at least 100k views
In your analogy, you can think of it like this. The first 5 to 7 hours of the day should be spent sleeping in order to have a productive day. Gen Z is spending that time doomscrolling - stop.
You're right! I'm turning 20 soon and I'm so angry at myself! I've wasted so much time! Sometimes I think, "I'm already so far gone, why bother now?" Because no matter how hard I try now, I'll never catch up to an alternate version of me who never downloaded Instagram, who never picked up a controller, who never gave in and always did the right thing. I haven't spent these years sleeping, but I haven't spent them really doing anything either. I've just been stimulating myself, gorging myself on content to numb any uncomfortable feelings. I guess my life is "okay" to most people, but inside I know I've wasted so much of my potential. From now on I just gotta grind and never stop! No more screwing around! I'll probably never fully redeem myself, but I'll spend the rest of my life trying.
@@elliothungler396 ha 20. You have plenty of time. Don't beat yourself up, just pay attention to how you spend your time.
I think gen z is obsessed with time because so much has changed for how many memories we have.
We only remember so much of the boring days, but we certainly don’t forget what’s changed.
The analogy is apt. Who wants to get up and go to work? Enjoy the next two hours.
You’re brave out there with them cicadas
From an old ass millennial - trust me, you have time.
Time to do what?
@@truthseek3017seek truth
@@nickr688 I already did that.
Oldest of gen z is 27 not 26
As a 28 year old, gen z gives me so much hope and anxiety it’s crazy. I wish I could be right there beside them pushing them to be the best they can be but I know I’m an unc at this point so it’s different.
In the same boat, 19 getting ready to enter my second decade of life. The past couple months I have had this underlying feeling that I couldn’t put into words but I think this video has given them to me. I want to wake up, to get out of my bed and start doing the things I’ve wanted to do, to start planning and stop dreaming.