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Timestamps 1). Too much of a good thing 0:36 2). Are you sure 1:47 3). Puppet on stings 2:52 4). Trauma bonding 3:57 5). What now 4:55 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Here’s a brutally honest sign to: you clicked on this video. Now there are two reasons for that. One, you are just really anxious about your relationship, maybe you haven’t been treated right before and you are just looking for validation to make sure this one is the one. Or you know you’re in a toxic relationship and you want someone else to tell you because you know you should leave. Well if that second one is you, here’s your sign. It’s time to leave them behind and find someone better. You can do it!
But he wants to destroy me. And everyone thinks him and my other abusive ex are perfect saints,it's breaking my heart.💔 and my ex is love bombing me a lot but lies to me. He never hits me though. His wounds on me are psychological and invisible.😢. Everyone thinks he's great, and both him and my murderous ex are working together ( at least that's what he threatened me with.) Then he said," what if I throw you in jail?" " What are you going to do then?" Then he goes back to being nicer. It's torture. Because I can never guess what's coming next. And there's spyware on my phone. They keep doing it! I've gone through so many phones. I feel so trapped and defeated.
I have two ex's that want to hurt me. One threatened that he'd get the other one after me. I've tried to leave but they found me and I ended up coming back because my other ex sent people ( gang members) after me when I moved out on my own. There's no escape For me. It's too late
I was in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship for ten years. This exacerbated my existing childhood traumas. I wouldn't wish that experience on my worst enemy. 😔
26 yrs, mentally, emotionally, verbally financially and sexually abusive. I don't recall the love bombing, but I failed to set strong boundaries and got caught in the web of lies and manipulation. Still dealing with the trauma bonding
Bro that word for word describes how my childhood went for me. I’m still dealing with the fallout of it and I want to help my family who has gone through it while at the same time I could just walk away and start a new life at college. I’m still working out what to do
Ì would say a common sign is actual verbal abuse and controlling behaviour and constantly criticizing the other person, frequent anger, insults, demeaning the other person, frequently telling the other person they are incompetent or they cant do things, constant criticism, not wanting the other person to go out and do things, frequent ignoring or not listening, etc. Then refusing to acknowledge any of that. Also a very clear sign is in the home. There will be an issue freqently around Cleanliness. The person will either be a sloth or neat freak or combination to suit. It can manifest many ways, but often often involves them bringing those around them to task (very easy way to abuse others and come up with whatever complaints they like). Basically it's a convenient way for them to be a frequent Tyrant and abuser in the home.
My first relationship I did not realise was abusive until I got out of it. The reflections I underwent during therapy and being alone hit me hard that all those signs were true. I was blinded by what I thought was love because that was all I wanted. The most heartbreaking thing for me was I wish I knew back then how to stand up to him during the times I felt sad or terrified. I am in a much better place right now but there are days I look back at that person and wished I could help her. I hope anyone who reads this who has ever been in this similar situation, know you are not alone. There are good people out there who will listen and be willing to help.
Spent a lot of my childhood being brought up by emotionally abusive parents. Needless to say, it led to a lot of issues growing up and habits that thankfully with therapy and martial arts, I’ve been able to break. There is hope people. If nobody else does believe in yourself.
I can't get away from all the narcissists that I collect. I just have to remember that some are born that way it can be genetic. Some are made that way by their difficult life experiences. ❤
*Person with narcissistic tendencies here.* LOTS of therapy. Look at your own emotional and psychosocial tendencies as often as possible. Acknowledge the reality of how your brain works and find someone to help you find ways to work around it. Recognize that you don’t actually want to hurt people. Therapy. Seriously. A LOT of it.
I think it might be even harder if both partners are narcissists themselves and sometimes I worry that either I might be in a relationship with a narcissist or that I might be a narcissist myself. I know I have a lot of inner demons and sins that cause me to struggle with my relationships and even making new friends. 😢💔
Try living with a histrionic with a whole lot of borderline and narcissistic traits, like winning the cluster B jackpot... How on earth did I ever get this blind to have fallen for someone like that... He seemed so genuine and loving at first, felt like the luckiest woman alive and now I don't know what to do to get him to leave me alone, it's a nightmare..... 😢
Unfortunately this is definitely exactly what’s going on, been going on. I think my biggest challenge is my lack of support, I have no family and friends so I feel this is so extremely difficult and i know it’s not going to get better but there’s really no options for me.
The relationship was entirely online and confined to a mere four months in early 2021, but she demonstrated all five. I thank God He got her out of my life and I pray He's changed her for the better. Terrible first relationship.
So sorry to hear.. I hope you are okay now.. Your experience is kinda similar to mine just it wasn't only over online. And i am still recovering from that experience
I hope that the next relationships you'll have will be healthy ones! You all deserve a partner that loves you, respects your boundaries, respects your dignity and you as a person. You're entitled to feelings and they must be respected. Wishing you the best 💖
@@june756 sorry 😔 to hear that 😕. I am wishing you all the best 💖 you deserve. Hopefully the next relationship will be a healthy one and hopefully he'll respect you as a person. Remember you deserve the best
My PTSD turned into a C-PTSD after 5 years with a very, very abusive partner. All of these points happened at some point during it, and i'm so glad i'm out of it now.
This is the relationship/situation I'm facing right now with my boss. 5 long years with them gaslighting, love bombing, manipulation, lying, going around my back, and showing favoritism. I know I will be out of this situation by the summer and I'm so ready!
I can help you Document Incidents: Keep a record of specific instances with dates and details. Establish Boundaries: Set clear professional boundaries and communicate assertively. Seek Support: Talk to trusted colleagues or HR (human resources) to share your concerns. Self-Care: Prioritize self-care to manage stress and maintain your well-being. Know Your Rights: Familiarize yourself with workplace policies and your rights as an employee. Professional Advice: Consult with a professional advisor or HR representative for guidance. Consider Reporting: Report serious misconduct to higher management or appropriate authorities. Explore Options: If conditions persist, consider looking for alternative job opportunities. Remember, your well-being is essential, and no one should tolerate abusive behavior in the workplace. If needed, consult with professionals or legal experts for personalized advice.
This is like how it happened to me from my ex-gf. But I did let her go, cause to love someone that I care about, I must let the toxic relationship go and move on to restart a new beginning. I'm honestly lucky to have good lessons by your team, it did help me to realize. Thank you for this.
This video is everything i needed to hear. I knew everything the girl i was dating have done all these things but i always thought she did all these things unintentionally. I also have ADHD which made me fall in love with her intensely and it is much harder to leave her. She fake promised me things like she can't leave me at all even if she wanted and now she is withholding love. I am grateful for the friends who recognised this behaviour and told me to leave her. I started my ADHD meds again and now i am planning to leave her.
I am wishing you all the strength 💝 and courage you need! May this be the beginning of a new chapter in your life. Hopefully you'll find someone better who'll treat as greatly as you deserve. Wishing you all the best 💖
Same thing happened to me, but i get it myself, 'coz i don't have friends, and my mother is abusive narcissistic (my dad left us when i was 3). So, perseverance, stay strong. 🙂
It's amazing how this info extends into the workplace culture too. Not just for authority figures but co workers too who want to be their flying monkey.
Its only through you tube videos that I can learn what happend and why. Love bombing does not always come at the beginning. Some times its later on or depends on finances.
The timing upon the release of this video is perfect in my situation. I was working over weekend and I’ve only had the opportunity at this time to watch it. Thank you
It can happen in any type of relationship in any setting, not just romantic ones. I recently found myself sucked into a thing for maybe around 2 weeks (non romantic) before I realized and saw it. Even that short bit had me reeling for days and going back and forth with a ton of self doubt. I nixed it tho but even after doing what had to be done, there was still a lot of mental torment to push through. Not my first rodeo, but ya know they tend to pounce when you are having a vulnerable moment or going through a vulnerable season…(In this case I had a short bout of feeling lonely and there they were)…and that’s why it can happen to anyone who is simply a human being. Anyone.
Emotional abuse can destroy you. And when you're a dude, other woman believe you are less of a man for going through it. You're just stuck dealing with it...alone. IDK it will never happen to me again. I think the worst part are the rumors. Rumors can ger you killed. Sad fact of life.
problem is even after knowing it.....we just cant come out of it because we try to justify it with the brighter side tht they love us sometimes at least
@@H.Liddellif you do leave I'll be praying for you. Leave your devices behind because abusive partners are known to place parental monitoring software and maybe use Find My Device to track your location down. It keeps happening to me! Do yourself a favor and assume that nothing you write online is private. Might already know!! Watch your back now,,step out in faith and leave. Make a clean break. Now. Just in case he's on to your plan. Prayers.
Wow!!! You are describing my wife to a T. She has been verbally and emotionally abusive for a few years now. She insults me in front of our friends and makes me look stupid. I pack my stuff and was ready to leave. She was shocked and I told her I’m not dealing with her shit anymore. She finally agreed to go to counseling with me. She is starting to turn around now and realized she pushed me away.
The biggest insult my Narcissistic ex did to me was convinced me I was not only the entire problem in the relationship but I was the abuser and her leaving was her being freed from my 'grasp' . She for some reason wanted to stay and be friends though...which added to the immense levels of confusion I was experiencing. When I realised about a month after the discard I told her to move out and find somewhere else. She stonewalled me for the entire month before she left and turned extremely petty in her behaviour. I'd compare it to a spoilt child who wasn't getting her way. So glad she's gone but feel so sorry for the next person who let's her in.
But just to be clear this isn’t to say there won’t be rocky points in a healthy relationship. And like in the beginning where it says going to sleep worried, sometimes that is a personal insecurity problem to work out. Which I definitely had in the beginning of my relationship, bc I was insecure, but if you’re needing validation constantly that can be exhausting for the other person.
In the beginning I was "love bombed" then eventually became deeply involved with an abusive narcissist. This was many years ago. At the time, how was I to know? Now I have regrets because it hurt me emotionally and financially, and too many years were wasted on a relationship that went nowhere. In recent years, I've educated myself about narcissists and narcissistic abuse. Hindsight is 20/20 vision. I wish I knew then what I know now.
I know this is about romantic relationships although I feel like platonic relationships can also apply but holy crap this sounds a lot like the relationship I am in with my parents. I depend on them and they won't let me go. All these signs applied to them.
I'm so grateful this u tube channel exists. I've learnt so much from it. Thank you so much. Now I'm so angry that I've put up with so much abuse all of my life.‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
It is 100% impossible for me to ever be I an abusive relationship ever again. I simply refrained from ever having friends, or a girlfriend, ever again. Their are no rewards from any relationship worth risking abuse again. I have never been in so much peace, prosperity, resourcefulness, simplicity, and ease of living until I deleted the social aspect of my life. I last had, "friends," and a, "girlfriend," The 8th of August 2000 at 18:33. At 18:34, everyone was no longer a part of my life. I will never go back to being social again. Nobody knows me. That is the way it will stay. Angela abused me emotionally, physically, and financially.
@@clairelane3642 I cut them out way before 72 years of age. I think I was 31 years old. I probably saved myself a lot of grief by deleting everyone from my life back in 2000.
but still more complicated / thay could also withdraw from you and block and gohst you and youse that as a wepon , someone can even gasslight you into doing thees things and make you look like a abusive partner where thay rly are the abusive one complex control mechanisms ... this is way more in depth then you think and it should be double as long atleast ... this topic is hardcore to me
Final question. Can a person truly and genuinely understand a behavioral trait or concept, if said person has not experienced it for themselves? Everything in life is genuinely understood through experience. All the research and academic knowledge in the world will not hold water until one lives it.
Good nigt and good day - daily is not a sighn of love and affection. It's all about controle. Just don't respond once and see how they react. When they blow up on you because you don't respond immediately, you know you have to run.
All this sounds too familiar. I went through this; but *not* with my husband. With my brother!! (Long story...) Now that our parents are both gone, I hope to never cross paths with him again.
Could you make a video about when the manipulation leads you to give up your independence like encouraging marriage, moving in quickly, finding you a job in the same workplace etc etc. I know theres no right or ethical way to tell someone how to get out of abusive situations but when i wonder if theres any things to think about when trying to escape a manipulative relationship when its at its worst. I want the people who are deep in it to have access to this information. My friend is currently in this situation and I handled it badly. With how her boyfriend controls her, the words i said probably added to her reasoning. I may never talk to her again. She blamed me (advised by her current boyfriend) for being a bad friend and that she had to cut me off for that reason. I found out through someone else that the boyfriend then gave her an ultimatum. It was me or him. I handled it badly because my mental health was in the trenches and i took it to heart. Didnt say the greatest words to her. Shes cutting off everyone left and right. Theres less and less people who are able to mention the red flags without being cut off and i think it would be beneficial for all in similar situations. They may come across it because youtube is amazing like that. Thank you for this video though, its helping me understand alot. I know I should have made it alot less obvious that i was critising the relationship and just been a silent watchmen almost. I pushed her to cut me off because i didnt have the capacity to sensitively handle this. Because of realising that im determined to educate myself on topics of abuse and trauma and really understand the severity of these situations. I lost a friend that day and it haunts me knowing i can't help her anymore. I lost my chance. Thank you psyc2go ❤ you're doing wonders.
How do.we break the bonds and learn to walk on our own. when we spend a lifetime accept abuse too belong its so soul destroying 💔 Hope that for those affected and hide who they are they can breath and live again and find the acceptance community love and support they need to fullfill and rewrite their narratives with the vulnerability compassion and equity of bonding so that their future is beautiful If you tend to yiur souls they will live and grow and in time yih will achieve happiness and wellbeing
Please someone tell me it's going to be okay. I've been abused by a goddamn narcissist for over 4 months. Never been reciprocated, appreciated, always felt like a burden for expressing my needs, wants and desires. Got told i was things a big deal, that i needed to shut up. She was always there physically but never spiritually. I never felt her existence with me. Eyes rolled whenever i adressed something that bothered me. Never controlled her, never stepped in her life trying to control things, but at the end i only got irritated by a real irritating guy and wanted her to put a little distance. Guess what ? Got labelled as insecure and controlling and now i've been left...
This happened to me too. It’s not your fault, even though they try to make you feel like that. A normal person would respond to your concerns/needs/and wants with consideration and kindness. Not, “it’s not my fault you’re insecure.” I was told that too. All the while you’re trying to show them love and care. But at some point you break, I did. I blew up bc of all the dismissing my concerns and the built up little jabs, “that were jokes.” He ended it saying my intent was mean, but his was joking. These people are not safe and they have things going on in their head that need help from a therapist. Anyway , didn’t mean to rant but know you are not alone in this. Hopefully we will find someone that will truly respect and cherish us.
@@rhysdav70 I'm really thinking about reporting it to the police. It's mental, emotional and verbal and it's the person's family members as well. I've been harassed, hospitalized for self harm, then harassed for being hospitalized for self harm and just other bad things
@ConfusedRiver-ff6lh Got out one week ago. Live with pain now, looks like I developed autoimmune disease from the stress. Already had one, now I have two. I got out too late.
I have been accused of love bombing and gaslighting. Plot twist: my partner has paranoid schizophrenia. I've ACTUALLY never done or said the things he accuses me of. OFC I deny having done or said those things. Lovebombing? Yeah. I see the person behind the illness and despite being blocked and pushed away many times, I am still here for him because everyone else gave up on him. Family, friends, former partners. I can't blame them, schizophrenia is hard to deal with, especially for family and partners and he pushed everyone away because of his delusions of being psychologically abused. No one can really take those accusations for long when they didn't do what they're accused of. Trauma bond? Maybe. But who are we as society if we just walk away from the ones that need us most?
You can't save them. They have to want to save themselves. No one could save me from my 30-year marriage to a covert narcissist. Everyone saw it except me. I knew there was something wrong with him, but I always blamed myself, which is what he wanted me to believe. One of my children is currently living my exact life. I have tried to help her get out, she makes the same excuses I did for 3 decades. When I finally left, she took my ex-husband's side and didn't speak to me for nearly 6 months. She even considered never letting me see my grandchildren ever again. The person in the relationship has to come to the realization that they need to get out on their own. The more you push, the more you try to get them out before they are ready, the more you will become the problem. Trust me. Please just be there. Just love them in whatever moment they are in. Don't run away because it becomes too much, or they won't listen to you. They need you, in the good and bad times. I was abandoned by many people who promised to never leave me because they couldn't handle it. Being involved with a narcissist is a very lonely, sad, stressful, and horrifying place to be. We just need to know that we have someone we can count on. You are a wonderful person for wanting to help. It takes a strong person to see and speak the truth, even when we don't want to hear it! Many blessings and love to you. Also, please remember that once they get out, the battle will just be beginning. They will need you more then, than they do right now
Research support shelters. Slip a note with crisis numbers on it quickly and quietly to the person. Don't forget to advise them to leave old phone behind as the abuser will often load it with spyware that can give away the victims location! Give money and understanding. It might take awhile for her to get fed up enough to leave. Be patient, and listen. Encourage documenting the behaviour and only put that proof in a safe place! Like a friend house. Photograph bruises . Make copies. Smartest thing you can do. That's what I did. Pray for her safety. This can be life and death. Remember Chris Watts and what he did.😢. Tell her that she should try to keep him happy ( only for now) and to not be afraid to reach out from a friend's devices. NOT her own. Best advice on it I can give and I speak from experience. You're an awesome friend to care! Blessings.
You can give them a list of shelter phone numbers and crisis numbers. You can be supportive and document the abuse with photos of bruises. You can tell them to leave their phone behind because sometimes abusers put spyware on their phone that will give away their location. Find My Device should not be on. My stalker ex kept finding me because he did that. So it's very important that she uses a safer device to find resources! Prayers that she or he gets out safely! .
When you have a family together sometimes you cant just leave. What would happen to the kids? Where would you live? How would you afford groceries? If your partner is abusive due to their own trauma and mental health issues, it might be best for the family to help them recignize their behavior and reduce the intensity and frequency of the abuse over time.
Awww sounds just awful. U have my empathy and support. Get checked for sexually transmitted infections. Change all your passwords from a different device. But if you leave leave old ones behind because my cheating ex put spyware on my phone and sent gang members after me . He kept finding me. Trust me You don't want to take that risk. Make a clean getaway and remember Chris Watts and what he did. We are disposable to evil people. If this person doesn't value you then value yourself enough to reach out to someone you can trust. And leave your old device behind. It's not worth risking your safety. Hugs and prayers coming your way.
He's fully convinced me I'm the problem So I left Because I don't want to hurt him anymore, but then he keeps trying to contact me. He called my boyfriend and convinced him to let me "hear him out" He didn't let me get a word in edgewise, just garble about he needs a temporary break from me for his mental health. If I ever say I'm suffering too, he claims I "don't know the meaning of suffering" He also calls me a pathological liar, which I am unsure if I am due to memory issues and he calls me the r word all the time but says it's out of endearment I still am convinced I'm the problem and he's not aware he's harming me
I've only gone into a crazy twist. My phone and the person I was with phones kept going off about a sickness and said to get checked out. That was 2021 into 2022. I've been to the doctor’s office several times since, and I have not gotten back any bad results. It's 2024. Now and I can't lie, I have felt different but also. I don't do any of the things I would like to do. I don't like medications. I'm not smoking, drinking, not having sex, no masturbation, I don't watch porn, never really did in the first place, and not clubbing. I go and take walks, take pictures of nature and my grandchild. I've become scared of what to do. I also don't trust the information I get back from doctors because I really saw my information get switched around. So I also don't want to ever be intimint ever again it's already been two years. Oh, and it doesn't help that person flat out said to me, " Oh, you don't want to do that he'll make you sick. I also see my information is still being messed with.
There's spyware on your devices. 100%> you are possibly not safe yet. Get new ones from a store you don't usually go to and better yet get someone else to buy one for you that they won't recognize if you can. You are being digitally stalked. Get rid of old device before you buy the new one and beef up security and take a self defense course. All practical measures to take. Your safety is important! Don't ignore your gut instinct!
I just got out of a abusive relationship. She hit me a lot, controlled me, threatened me if i left or cheated, made me feel miserable, guilt tripped me when i took time away from her, aborted my child when i had no clue she was pregnant, and made me feel like the bad guy for leaving. I feel empty, depressed, and destroyed. Idk what to do.
Finally I know that I am not a weak hooman, thank god. I used to be a emotionally strong person until I fall in love, I got fucked up. Faild from everything, lost huge amount of good friends, lost original me and spend 2 and half years to recover from that abusive relationship. 😢
You can do it! I believe in you! Sending you love and kindness and support. It does get better. It just takes time. The memories will fade, along with the pain eventually. Ride it out and you'll get through this. Take extra good care of yourself. Spoil yourself. Distraction works too. 💛🙏💛
The real question I have is why all of a sudden this incredible movement with all these new concepts. People have always behaved in these ways. The consequences have always been the same. We are still looking for answers. What has changed? Do we truly understand the root cause?
Nothing to live for. Nothing to hope for. 999-trillion oceans of despair and grief. Rage rapes me. I feel suicidal. I don't breathe. I am submerged in frozen darkness. My soul silently wails. I have nobody. I'm all alone. Desperately. Lonely. Filled with anguish and terror. I can only pray to die. I don't know what else to pray for. All I feel is misery and desperation. Grief eats my soul. I cannot, do not breathe. He left me. Discarded me like last week's garbage. The despair is truly unbearable.
@GodHelpMe369 - Go to your local Public Library; get a book called “The Obstacle Is The Way”, by Ryan Holiday. Read it. Volunteer. There is always someone worse off than you who needs help. Good luck to you. You are not alone. 💐
I think I am in it. I’m trying to get out and I’m totally lost and I’m doubting my reality. Maybe she is right and I’m crazy and fcked up, but I think I’m in this type of bond😊
I terrible at goodbyes but I think my gf has a lot power over me and the relationship and has used almost all of these manipulation tactics at some point in the relationship. And I think I’m to the point where I don’t even think I have a future with this person and staying any further would do more harm to my mental health and me financially
If one doesn’t understand the true origin of said behavior, what is the outcome? What dynamics do all of these names create in terms of how to fix the named issue? Where do we get the answers as to how to help those with said behavioral issues and those being harmed by them? Is it a mental health professional? Is it someone else? If everyone can be labeled with a new name, what’s the problem? What’s the solution?
I'm so sorry.💔. I know it's so damn hard. I wish I could fix it all for you. Wishing you safety, peace and a way out when you're ready. Leave your devices behind if you leave. They might have parental monitoring software and spyware that gives away your location to him on them. It happens to me and I'm not out yet. Strength and power and peace to you my fellow survivor. We can do it! 😊
@@Stubbornclarity thank you. And, I'm having to leave my wife for her actions. Fortunately getting all my stuff was easy, and I've checked my phone, laptop, and external drive for monitoring apps. I'm good there
People claiming the other person to be a narcissist, are sometimes the narcisist themself. Let me explain. I know a man who was used to getting his way. Then one day he met a woman who didnt accept this and pushed her own desires through too and draw bounderies. He EXPERIENCED this as manipulation and control, because he was so used to be in control and getting HIS WAY ALWAYS. She set boundaries so he didnt get what he wanted always and EXPERIENCED this ak being controlled. While it was just a boundarie towards him. Its unbelievable, but people sometimes turn these stories 100% around. Think about it.
Emotional & verbal abuse is jst as devastating dangerous & far too prevalent for the lack of actual attention it needs for the archaic law's we have regarding this, stalking & TRO for most of the crimes ARE & CAN be prevented & lives saved, BOTH SEXES.
What if you are told? Only to dismiss them because you invested a decade or more. Got a shut-up ring and you are sure you can fix the person despite the obvious signs they will never change. You allow them to jerk you around like a puppet because you are so trauma-bonded you can't leave. Abusive relationships take a toll not only on the person in the relationship but on their friends too. It's not good being blown off and told - it's just how we roll. No need to worry. He/she is ruthless, but we work because I can take it. He/she likes that they can be fully themselves and I won't take offense. Now I ask you -is this normal?
You should make a vid for when the best time is to tell them how you feel. Just a thought because this is my last school year and I feel like I’m running out of time.
If only I knew this before she hurt me..... I would've left earlier... That wicked witch...she hurt me so much....and she had the audacity to say she loved me.. If you loved me... you wouldn't have hurt me. (I'm recovering slowly but surely.)
Very sorry you got hurt. She sounds awful. Healing will come with time. Keep being strong. Do not react to anything she does,no matter what! Otherwise she will claim you're an abuser. And any reaction will be her " proof". I wish you safety peace and healing.
@@Stubbornclarity I deleted all socials of her, I blocked her, and I even told her I didn't want to be friends with her when I dropped her stuff off. Now I can finally do the things I want to do without someone trying to manipulate or guilt trip me
@@cosmicboi1650 good for you!!! Nobody should ever treat you like that. So glad that you are out! Put yourself first for awhile then find a way to give back to those less fortunate because you got out alive and well. She sounds like a Jodi Arias. Glad and relieved that you are FREE! 😊
Could you make a video about different types of physical abuse. Because there are physical abuse that we might not see as physical like getting in someones face, and throwing, and spitting. Things we think "well, he hasnt hit me" and might brush off
There are many things and acts associated with an abusive relationship. What I find odd, is how out of nowhere they now have all these NEW names. Love bombing Gaslighting Narcissistic Personality Disorder I didn’t even have to type those out the first time Already programmed into this smart phone I’m 46. I’ve been involved with psychology since I was 17. Strange how those were not terms until recently. A “disorder” for EVERYTHING
It doesn’t matter. When you tell your mom about these red flags she will still encourage you to go for it. Too bad nobody warned you about her. Other than using the word “co-dependent.” Which is a “code” manipulative word in itself.
I think I was to blame of love bombing. :( She left me after 16 years and 9 years of marriage because I took it down a notch as I grew up and she missed it. Now I don't know what to do. I am beyond broken. :(
If you suspect you're in an unhealthy relationship, remember that support is available. Don't hesitate to reach out for help. Please consider sharing this video message
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Can you make a video how to help a person to exit an abusive relationship
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Timestamps
1). Too much of a good thing 0:36
2). Are you sure 1:47
3). Puppet on stings 2:52
4). Trauma bonding 3:57
5). What now 4:55
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Here’s a brutally honest sign to: you clicked on this video. Now there are two reasons for that. One, you are just really anxious about your relationship, maybe you haven’t been treated right before and you are just looking for validation to make sure this one is the one. Or you know you’re in a toxic relationship and you want someone else to tell you because you know you should leave. Well if that second one is you, here’s your sign. It’s time to leave them behind and find someone better. You can do it!
But he wants to destroy me. And everyone thinks him and my other abusive ex are perfect saints,it's breaking my heart.💔 and my ex is love bombing me a lot but lies to me. He never hits me though. His wounds on me are psychological and invisible.😢. Everyone thinks he's great, and both him and my murderous ex are working together ( at least that's what he threatened me with.) Then he said," what if I throw you in jail?" " What are you going to do then?" Then he goes back to being nicer. It's torture. Because I can never guess what's coming next. And there's spyware on my phone. They keep doing it! I've gone through so many phones. I feel so trapped and defeated.
I have two ex's that want to hurt me. One threatened that he'd get the other one after me. I've tried to leave but they found me and I ended up coming back because my other ex sent people ( gang members) after me when I moved out on my own. There's no escape For me. It's too late
I was in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship for ten years. This exacerbated my existing childhood traumas. I wouldn't wish that experience on my worst enemy. 😔
26 yrs, mentally, emotionally, verbally financially and sexually abusive. I don't recall the love bombing, but I failed to set strong boundaries and got caught in the web of lies and manipulation. Still dealing with the trauma bonding
Bro that word for word describes how my childhood went for me. I’m still dealing with the fallout of it and I want to help my family who has gone through it while at the same time I could just walk away and start a new life at college. I’m still working out what to do
Ì would say a common sign is actual verbal abuse and controlling behaviour and constantly criticizing the other person, frequent anger, insults, demeaning the other person, frequently telling the other person they are incompetent or they cant do things, constant criticism, not wanting the other person to go out and do things, frequent ignoring or not listening, etc. Then refusing to acknowledge any of that.
Also a very clear sign is in the home. There will be an issue freqently around Cleanliness. The person will either be a sloth or neat freak or combination to suit. It can manifest many ways, but often often involves them bringing those around them to task (very easy way to abuse others and come up with whatever complaints they like). Basically it's a convenient way for them to be a frequent Tyrant and abuser in the home.
Silent treatment is one of the worst!
My first relationship I did not realise was abusive until I got out of it. The reflections I underwent during therapy and being alone hit me hard that all those signs were true. I was blinded by what I thought was love because that was all I wanted. The most heartbreaking thing for me was I wish I knew back then how to stand up to him during the times I felt sad or terrified. I am in a much better place right now but there are days I look back at that person and wished I could help her. I hope anyone who reads this who has ever been in this similar situation, know you are not alone. There are good people out there who will listen and be willing to help.
Spent a lot of my childhood being brought up by emotionally abusive parents.
Needless to say, it led to a lot of issues growing up and habits that thankfully with therapy and martial arts, I’ve been able to break.
There is hope people. If nobody else does believe in yourself.
Spying on someone in their own home would qualify as abusive….
I go thru that
@stripsss999 Me too. 😢
It depends on how old you are.
It's happening to me and I am at my wits end. He's got spyware on my phone again!! I've gone through so many phones but he just keeps doing it.😢
We talk about how one can deal with narcissists, but what can one do if that one is the narcissist themselves?
I can't get away from all the narcissists that I collect. I just have to remember that some are born that way it can be genetic. Some are made that way by their difficult life experiences. ❤
@janice2992 Humans are selfish and narcissistic by nature
If you are aware you are one then you should be aware to correct your behavior.
*Person with narcissistic tendencies here.*
LOTS of therapy. Look at your own emotional and psychosocial tendencies as often as possible. Acknowledge the reality of how your brain works and find someone to help you find ways to work around it. Recognize that you don’t actually want to hurt people.
Therapy. Seriously. A LOT of it.
I think it might be even harder if both partners are narcissists themselves and sometimes I worry that either I might be in a relationship with a narcissist or that I might be a narcissist myself. I know I have a lot of inner demons and sins that cause me to struggle with my relationships and even making new friends. 😢💔
Living with a narcissist sucks
Most on this list are Narcissistic abuse actually. There is other kind of abuse that is also non narcissistic.
💯💯
Try living with a histrionic with a whole lot of borderline and narcissistic traits, like winning the cluster B jackpot... How on earth did I ever get this blind to have fallen for someone like that... He seemed so genuine and loving at first, felt like the luckiest woman alive and now I don't know what to do to get him to leave me alone, it's a nightmare..... 😢
@@GoWithDaFlowMocourage, sweetheart. You're not alone. Sending you strength and love
I live with narcissists and I can't escape, it is very hard
Sending all my love to anyone in this situation. Hope it gets better 🫶💔
Thank you so much. I'm living a nightmare.
Thank you..... ❤
Remember, abusive people are often also in need of a therapist. But this is not in your hand...
Unfortunately this is definitely exactly what’s going on, been going on. I think my biggest challenge is my lack of support, I have no family and friends so I feel this is so extremely difficult and i know it’s not going to get better but there’s really no options for me.
The relationship was entirely online and confined to a mere four months in early 2021, but she demonstrated all five. I thank God He got her out of my life and I pray He's changed her for the better. Terrible first relationship.
So sorry to hear.. I hope you are okay now.. Your experience is kinda similar to mine just it wasn't only over online. And i am still recovering from that experience
@@june756 God bless you, June; I pray you'll reach a day of full recovery from what happened to you.
I hope that the next relationships you'll have will be healthy ones!
You all deserve a partner that loves you, respects your boundaries, respects your dignity and you as a person.
You're entitled to feelings and they must be respected.
Wishing you the best 💖
@@june756 sorry 😔 to hear that 😕.
I am wishing you all the best 💖 you deserve.
Hopefully the next relationship will be a healthy one and hopefully he'll respect you as a person.
Remember you deserve the best
@@VamıkYalman Many thanks, Alejandro! God bless you!
I’m actually so happy someone finally recognised emotional abuse, I left my dad a year ago but he emotionally abused me and threatened harm sometimes
You can get assistance from people
You can call or get the police
Since he is threatening you
I watched my son being emotionally abused by his ex-wife. It was painful to watch.
My PTSD turned into a C-PTSD after 5 years with a very, very abusive partner. All of these points happened at some point during it, and i'm so glad i'm out of it now.
This is the relationship/situation I'm facing right now with my boss. 5 long years with them gaslighting, love bombing, manipulation, lying, going around my back, and showing favoritism. I know I will be out of this situation by the summer and I'm so ready!
I can help you
Document Incidents:
Keep a record of specific instances with dates and details.
Establish Boundaries:
Set clear professional boundaries and communicate assertively.
Seek Support:
Talk to trusted colleagues or HR (human resources) to share your concerns.
Self-Care:
Prioritize self-care to manage stress and maintain your well-being.
Know Your Rights:
Familiarize yourself with workplace policies and your rights as an employee.
Professional Advice:
Consult with a professional advisor or HR representative for guidance.
Consider Reporting:
Report serious misconduct to higher management or appropriate authorities.
Explore Options:
If conditions persist, consider looking for alternative job opportunities.
Remember, your well-being is essential, and no one should tolerate abusive behavior in the workplace. If needed, consult with professionals or legal experts for personalized advice.
I'm so sorry you've been enduring that so long. That's terrible. Best wishes to you.
Best wishes.
This is like how it happened to me from my ex-gf.
But I did let her go, cause to love someone that I care about, I must let the toxic relationship go and move on to restart a new beginning.
I'm honestly lucky to have good lessons by your team, it did help me to realize.
Thank you for this.
Thank you for providing explanation Psych2Go. Fed up with toxicity
This video is everything i needed to hear. I knew everything the girl i was dating have done all these things but i always thought she did all these things unintentionally. I also have ADHD which made me fall in love with her intensely and it is much harder to leave her. She fake promised me things like she can't leave me at all even if she wanted and now she is withholding love. I am grateful for the friends who recognised this behaviour and told me to leave her. I started my ADHD meds again and now i am planning to leave her.
I am wishing you all the strength 💝 and courage you need!
May this be the beginning of a new chapter in your life.
Hopefully you'll find someone better who'll treat as greatly as you deserve.
Wishing you all the best 💖
You have some true friends and hopefully you find the girl you deserve one day
Same thing happened to me, but i get it myself, 'coz i don't have friends, and my mother is abusive narcissistic (my dad left us when i was 3). So, perseverance, stay strong. 🙂
Ditto 🖤
It's amazing how this info extends into the workplace culture too. Not just for authority figures but co workers too who want to be their flying monkey.
"Open up to someone you trust" would be nice to have one of those
Its only through you tube videos that I can learn what happend and why. Love bombing does not always come at the beginning. Some times its later on or depends on finances.
Great video!
This is so true. The signs of narcissism in people is reality. Nobody deserves to be mistreated. Keep up the amazing work!!! 💖
The timing upon the release of this video is perfect in my situation. I was working over weekend and I’ve only had the opportunity at this time to watch it. Thank you
Personally, I'm not in this situation, bus as this was released, I was having a mental breakdown bc of something relating to this 😭
Same, the timing of the video was on point.
It can happen in any type of relationship in any setting, not just romantic ones. I recently found myself sucked into a thing for maybe around 2 weeks (non romantic) before I realized and saw it. Even that short bit had me reeling for days and going back and forth with a ton of self doubt. I nixed it tho but even after doing what had to be done, there was still a lot of mental torment to push through. Not my first rodeo, but ya know they tend to pounce when you are having a vulnerable moment or going through a vulnerable season…(In this case I had a short bout of feeling lonely and there they were)…and that’s why it can happen to anyone who is simply a human being. Anyone.
Emotional abuse can destroy you. And when you're a dude, other woman believe you are less of a man for going through it. You're just stuck dealing with it...alone. IDK it will never happen to me again. I think the worst part are the rumors. Rumors can ger you killed. Sad fact of life.
It's ok, though, Karma is getting her. Noone wants anything to do with her anymore...because they watched what she did to me.
problem is even after knowing it.....we just cant come out of it because we try to justify it with the brighter side tht they love us sometimes at least
This is where I'm at with everything right this moment. Last night admitted to myself that I'm in this situation. Now what do I do to get out of this
Exactly!!!! It's not always bad, sometimes they are kind! So it makes it that much harder to leave. :-(:-(:-(
@@H.Liddellif you do leave I'll be praying for you. Leave your devices behind because abusive partners are known to place parental monitoring software and maybe use Find My Device to track your location down. It keeps happening to me! Do yourself a favor and assume that nothing you write online is private. Might already know!! Watch your back now,,step out in faith and leave. Make a clean break. Now. Just in case he's on to your plan. Prayers.
Wow!!! You are describing my wife to a T. She has been verbally and emotionally abusive for a few years now. She insults me in front of our friends and makes me look stupid. I pack my stuff and was ready to leave. She was shocked and I told her I’m not dealing with her shit anymore. She finally agreed to go to counseling with me. She is starting to turn around now and realized she pushed me away.
The biggest insult my Narcissistic ex did to me was convinced me I was not only the entire problem in the relationship but I was the abuser and her leaving was her being freed from my 'grasp' . She for some reason wanted to stay and be friends though...which added to the immense levels of confusion I was experiencing. When I realised about a month after the discard I told her to move out and find somewhere else. She stonewalled me for the entire month before she left and turned extremely petty in her behaviour. I'd compare it to a spoilt child who wasn't getting her way. So glad she's gone but feel so sorry for the next person who let's her in.
But just to be clear this isn’t to say there won’t be rocky points in a healthy relationship. And like in the beginning where it says going to sleep worried, sometimes that is a personal insecurity problem to work out. Which I definitely had in the beginning of my relationship, bc I was insecure, but if you’re needing validation constantly that can be exhausting for the other person.
In the beginning I was "love bombed" then eventually became deeply involved with an abusive narcissist. This was many years ago. At the time, how was I to know? Now I have regrets because it hurt me emotionally and financially, and too many years were wasted on a relationship that went nowhere. In recent years, I've educated myself about narcissists and narcissistic abuse. Hindsight is 20/20 vision. I wish I knew then what I know now.
I know this is about romantic relationships although I feel like platonic relationships can also apply but holy crap this sounds a lot like the relationship I am in with my parents. I depend on them and they won't let me go. All these signs applied to them.
You could talk to children's services about getting emancipated if you're under age. If you're an adult save money.
I'm so grateful this u tube channel exists. I've learnt so much from it. Thank you so much. Now I'm so angry that I've put up with so much abuse all of my life.‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
I mostly try to avoid relationships, so that neither me or my partner would be like that.
It is 100% impossible for me to ever be I an abusive relationship ever again. I simply refrained from ever having friends, or a girlfriend, ever again. Their are no rewards from any relationship worth risking abuse again. I have never been in so much peace, prosperity, resourcefulness, simplicity, and ease of living until I deleted the social aspect of my life. I last had, "friends," and a, "girlfriend," The 8th of August 2000 at 18:33. At 18:34, everyone was no longer a part of my life. I will never go back to being social again. Nobody knows me. That is the way it will stay. Angela abused me emotionally, physically, and financially.
I get it. At age 75 I've cut out new and old connections and am happy with my cats!
@@clairelane3642 I cut them out way before 72 years of age. I think I was 31 years old. I probably saved myself a lot of grief by deleting everyone from my life back in 2000.
but still more complicated / thay could also withdraw from you and block and gohst you and youse that as a wepon , someone can even gasslight you into doing thees things and make you look like a abusive partner where thay rly are the abusive one
complex control mechanisms ... this is way more in depth then you think and it should be double as long atleast ... this topic is hardcore to me
Final question. Can a person truly and genuinely understand a behavioral trait or concept, if said person has not experienced it for themselves?
Everything in life is genuinely understood through experience. All the research and academic knowledge in the world will not hold water until one lives it.
Thanks for meaningful and valuable video as always ❤❤❤
Good nigt and good day - daily is not a sighn of love and affection. It's all about controle. Just don't respond once and see how they react. When they blow up on you because you don't respond immediately, you know you have to run.
i love watching this relationship situation type videos.
Even though I Don't Have A Partner😪.
All this sounds too familiar. I went through this; but *not* with my husband. With my brother!! (Long story...) Now that our parents are both gone, I hope to never cross paths with him again.
Could you make a video about when the manipulation leads you to give up your independence like encouraging marriage, moving in quickly, finding you a job in the same workplace etc etc. I know theres no right or ethical way to tell someone how to get out of abusive situations but when i wonder if theres any things to think about when trying to escape a manipulative relationship when its at its worst.
I want the people who are deep in it to have access to this information.
My friend is currently in this situation and I handled it badly. With how her boyfriend controls her, the words i said probably added to her reasoning. I may never talk to her again. She blamed me (advised by her current boyfriend) for being a bad friend and that she had to cut me off for that reason. I found out through someone else that the boyfriend then gave her an ultimatum. It was me or him.
I handled it badly because my mental health was in the trenches and i took it to heart. Didnt say the greatest words to her. Shes cutting off everyone left and right.
Theres less and less people who are able to mention the red flags without being cut off and i think it would be beneficial for all in similar situations. They may come across it because youtube is amazing like that.
Thank you for this video though, its helping me understand alot. I know I should have made it alot less obvious that i was critising the relationship and just been a silent watchmen almost. I pushed her to cut me off because i didnt have the capacity to sensitively handle this. Because of realising that im determined to educate myself on topics of abuse and trauma and really understand the severity of these situations.
I lost a friend that day and it haunts me knowing i can't help her anymore. I lost my chance.
Thank you psyc2go ❤ you're doing wonders.
This reminds me of Andrew Graves and Ashley Graves,
Such memories
Can confirm all these signs are legit. My ex has NPD and I was trauma bonded to them for 11 years. Break all contact if you can and find support.
How do.we break the bonds and learn to walk on our own.
when we spend a lifetime accept abuse too belong its so soul destroying 💔
Hope that for those affected and hide who they are they can breath and live again and find the acceptance community love and support they need to fullfill and rewrite their narratives with the vulnerability compassion and equity of bonding so that their future is beautiful
If you tend to yiur souls they will live and grow and in time yih will achieve happiness and wellbeing
You're a beautiful soul. I hope everything goes great for you!
P2G!! Longtime fan here! Love this channel! Would love to see a video on 'REVERSE GAS LIGHTING!'
Please someone tell me it's going to be okay. I've been abused by a goddamn narcissist for over 4 months. Never been reciprocated, appreciated, always felt like a burden for expressing my needs, wants and desires. Got told i was things a big deal, that i needed to shut up. She was always there physically but never spiritually. I never felt her existence with me. Eyes rolled whenever i adressed something that bothered me. Never controlled her, never stepped in her life trying to control things, but at the end i only got irritated by a real irritating guy and wanted her to put a little distance. Guess what ? Got labelled as insecure and controlling and now i've been left...
The leaving was a gift. You're free now. Best wishes.
This happened to me too. It’s not your fault, even though they try to make you feel like that. A normal person would respond to your concerns/needs/and wants with consideration and kindness. Not, “it’s not my fault you’re insecure.” I was told that too. All the while you’re trying to show them love and care. But at some point you break, I did. I blew up bc of all the dismissing my concerns and the built up little jabs, “that were jokes.” He ended it saying my intent was mean, but his was joking. These people are not safe and they have things going on in their head that need help from a therapist. Anyway , didn’t mean to rant but know you are not alone in this. Hopefully we will find someone that will truly respect and cherish us.
You guys have no idea how much I needed this video rn
Sorry to hear that u need to report it to the police is it physical or emotional or mentally
I witnessed it w my mum and dad
@@rhysdav70 I'm really thinking about reporting it to the police. It's mental, emotional and verbal and it's the person's family members as well. I've been harassed, hospitalized for self harm, then harassed for being hospitalized for self harm and just other bad things
@Taidhawn24.7 I don't know u well but I will always be here for u and psytogo is as well
@@rhysdav70 thank you so much!
Well chosen background music for this one.
The effort being put into the illustrations, especially the joker and Harley Quinn are hilarious and so cute😂
And all the ones Ive had did NOT lovebomb but started degrading slowly from the start.
@ConfusedRiver-ff6lh Got out one week ago. Live with pain now, looks like I developed autoimmune disease from the stress. Already had one, now I have two. I got out too late.
Your voice is peaceful!
I have been accused of love bombing and gaslighting. Plot twist: my partner has paranoid schizophrenia. I've ACTUALLY never done or said the things he accuses me of. OFC I deny having done or said those things. Lovebombing? Yeah. I see the person behind the illness and despite being blocked and pushed away many times, I am still here for him because everyone else gave up on him. Family, friends, former partners. I can't blame them, schizophrenia is hard to deal with, especially for family and partners and he pushed everyone away because of his delusions of being psychologically abused. No one can really take those accusations for long when they didn't do what they're accused of. Trauma bond? Maybe. But who are we as society if we just walk away from the ones that need us most?
Experienced same thing four yours ago. I didn’t know that time this happens as well. Even family does this as well.
Ive seen someone get loved bombed before, then they got yelled at the gifts from earlier was used against they and the partner made them feel indebted
How to save someone who's in a abusive relationship?...
Send them the video!
You can't save them. They have to want to save themselves. No one could save me from my 30-year marriage to a covert narcissist. Everyone saw it except me. I knew there was something wrong with him, but I always blamed myself, which is what he wanted me to believe. One of my children is currently living my exact life. I have tried to help her get out, she makes the same excuses I did for 3 decades. When I finally left, she took my ex-husband's side and didn't speak to me for nearly 6 months. She even considered never letting me see my grandchildren ever again.
The person in the relationship has to come to the realization that they need to get out on their own. The more you push, the more you try to get them out before they are ready, the more you will become the problem. Trust me. Please just be there. Just love them in whatever moment they are in. Don't run away because it becomes too much, or they won't listen to you. They need you, in the good and bad times. I was abandoned by many people who promised to never leave me because they couldn't handle it. Being involved with a narcissist is a very lonely, sad, stressful, and horrifying place to be. We just need to know that we have someone we can count on.
You are a wonderful person for wanting to help. It takes a strong person to see and speak the truth, even when we don't want to hear it! Many blessings and love to you.
Also, please remember that once they get out, the battle will just be beginning. They will need you more then, than they do right now
Research support shelters. Slip a note with crisis numbers on it quickly and quietly to the person. Don't forget to advise them to leave old phone behind as the abuser will often load it with spyware that can give away the victims location! Give money and understanding. It might take awhile for her to get fed up enough to leave. Be patient, and listen. Encourage documenting the behaviour and only put that proof in a safe place! Like a friend house. Photograph bruises . Make copies. Smartest thing you can do. That's what I did. Pray for her safety. This can be life and death. Remember Chris Watts and what he did.😢. Tell her that she should try to keep him happy ( only for now) and to not be afraid to reach out from a friend's devices. NOT her own. Best advice on it I can give and I speak from experience. You're an awesome friend to care! Blessings.
they have to save themselves- You can pray hard and stay ready tohelp when they are ready..
You can give them a list of shelter phone numbers and crisis numbers. You can be supportive and document the abuse with photos of bruises. You can tell them to leave their phone behind because sometimes abusers put spyware on their phone that will give away their location. Find My Device should not be on. My stalker ex kept finding me because he did that. So it's very important that she uses a safer device to find resources! Prayers that she or he gets out safely! .
When you have a family together sometimes you cant just leave. What would happen to the kids? Where would you live? How would you afford groceries? If your partner is abusive due to their own trauma and mental health issues, it might be best for the family to help them recignize their behavior and reduce the intensity and frequency of the abuse over time.
This is so relatable....I'm going through this right now plus infidelity 😢💔
Awww sounds just awful. U have my empathy and support. Get checked for sexually transmitted infections. Change all your passwords from a different device. But if you leave leave old ones behind because my cheating ex put spyware on my phone and sent gang members after me . He kept finding me. Trust me
You don't want to take that risk. Make a clean getaway and remember Chris Watts and what he did. We are disposable to evil people. If this person doesn't value you then value yourself enough to reach out to someone you can trust. And leave your old device behind. It's not worth risking your safety. Hugs and prayers coming your way.
He's fully convinced me I'm the problem
So I left
Because I don't want to hurt him anymore, but then he keeps trying to contact me. He called my boyfriend and convinced him to let me "hear him out"
He didn't let me get a word in edgewise, just garble about he needs a temporary break from me for his mental health. If I ever say I'm suffering too, he claims I "don't know the meaning of suffering"
He also calls me a pathological liar, which I am unsure if I am due to memory issues and he calls me the r word all the time but says it's out of endearment
I still am convinced I'm the problem and he's not aware he's harming me
I've only gone into a crazy twist. My phone and the person I was with phones kept going off about a sickness and said to get checked out. That was 2021 into 2022. I've been to the doctor’s office several times since, and I have not gotten back any bad results. It's 2024. Now and I can't lie, I have felt different but also. I don't do any of the things I would like to do. I don't like medications. I'm not smoking, drinking, not having sex, no masturbation, I don't watch porn, never really did in the first place, and not clubbing. I go and take walks, take pictures of nature and my grandchild. I've become scared of what to do. I also don't trust the information I get back from doctors because I really saw my information get switched around. So I also don't want to ever be intimint ever again it's already been two years. Oh, and it doesn't help that person flat out said to me, " Oh, you don't want to do that he'll make you sick. I also see my information is still being messed with.
There's spyware on your devices. 100%> you are possibly not safe yet. Get new ones from a store you don't usually go to and better yet get someone else to buy one for you that they won't recognize if you can. You are being digitally stalked. Get rid of old device before you buy the new one and beef up security and take a self defense course. All practical measures to take. Your safety is important! Don't ignore your gut instinct!
I just got out of a abusive relationship. She hit me a lot, controlled me, threatened me if i left or cheated, made me feel miserable, guilt tripped me when i took time away from her, aborted my child when i had no clue she was pregnant, and made me feel like the bad guy for leaving. I feel empty, depressed, and destroyed. Idk what to do.
Finally I know that I am not a weak hooman, thank god. I used to be a emotionally strong person until I fall in love, I got fucked up. Faild from everything, lost huge amount of good friends, lost original me and spend 2 and half years to recover from that abusive relationship. 😢
You can do it! I believe in you! Sending you love and kindness and support. It does get better. It just takes time. The memories will fade, along with the pain eventually. Ride it out and you'll get through this. Take extra good care of yourself. Spoil yourself. Distraction works too. 💛🙏💛
Thank u darling 😘❤
I love you, you are so strong and beautiful! God is good!
The real question I have is why all of a sudden this incredible movement with all these new concepts. People have always behaved in these ways. The consequences have always been the same. We are still looking for answers. What has changed? Do we truly understand the root cause?
Nothing to live for.
Nothing to hope for.
999-trillion oceans of despair and grief.
Rage rapes me.
I feel suicidal.
I don't breathe.
I am submerged in frozen darkness.
My soul silently wails.
I have nobody.
I'm all alone.
Desperately.
Lonely.
Filled with anguish and terror.
I can only pray to die.
I don't know what else to pray for.
All I feel is misery and desperation.
Grief eats my soul.
I cannot, do not breathe.
He left me.
Discarded me like last week's garbage.
The despair is truly unbearable.
@GodHelpMe369 - Go to your local Public Library; get a book called “The Obstacle Is The Way”, by Ryan Holiday. Read it.
Volunteer. There is always someone worse off than you who needs help.
Good luck to you.
You are not alone. 💐
That one was soooo on point. 😊💯☑️🤟good work coach.
I think I am in it. I’m trying to get out and I’m totally lost and I’m doubting my reality. Maybe she is right and I’m crazy and fcked up, but I think I’m in this type of bond😊
pray hard and watch you tube ( secretly )!
@@lucyt-c8092 what?
I terrible at goodbyes but I think my gf has a lot power over me and the relationship and has used almost all of these manipulation tactics at some point in the relationship. And I think I’m to the point where I don’t even think I have a future with this person and staying any further would do more harm to my mental health and me financially
@psych2go can you please make a video explaining reasons of why people have outbursts? Thanks.
If one doesn’t understand the true origin of said behavior, what is the outcome?
What dynamics do all of these names create in terms of how to fix the named issue?
Where do we get the answers as to how to help those with said behavioral issues and those being harmed by them?
Is it a mental health professional?
Is it someone else?
If everyone can be labeled with a new name, what’s the problem? What’s the solution?
Unfortunately for me...I've felt all of these over the course of things...this failing relationship...
I'm so sorry.💔. I know it's so damn hard. I wish I could fix it all for you. Wishing you safety, peace and a way out when you're ready. Leave your devices behind if you leave. They might have parental monitoring software and spyware that gives away your location to him on them. It happens to me and I'm not out yet. Strength and power and peace to you my fellow survivor. We can do it! 😊
@@Stubbornclarity thank you. And, I'm having to leave my wife for her actions. Fortunately getting all my stuff was easy, and I've checked my phone, laptop, and external drive for monitoring apps. I'm good there
@@josephjohnson8949 awesome 😎. I wish you the best. Happy trails
People claiming the other person to be a narcissist, are sometimes the narcisist themself. Let me explain. I know a man who was used to getting his way. Then one day he met a woman who didnt accept this and pushed her own desires through too and draw bounderies. He EXPERIENCED this as manipulation and control, because he was so used to be in control and getting HIS WAY ALWAYS. She set boundaries so he didnt get what he wanted always and EXPERIENCED this ak being controlled. While it was just a boundarie towards him. Its unbelievable, but people sometimes turn these stories 100% around. Think about it.
Thank you
Emotional & verbal abuse is jst as devastating dangerous & far too prevalent for the lack of actual attention it needs for the archaic law's we have regarding this, stalking & TRO for most of the crimes ARE & CAN be prevented & lives saved, BOTH SEXES.
What if you are told? Only to dismiss them because you invested a decade or more. Got a shut-up ring and you are sure you can fix the person despite the obvious signs they will never change. You allow them to jerk you around like a puppet because you are so trauma-bonded you can't leave. Abusive relationships take a toll not only on the person in the relationship but on their friends too. It's not good being blown off and told - it's just how we roll. No need to worry. He/she is ruthless, but we work because I can take it. He/she likes that they can be fully themselves and I won't take offense. Now I ask you -is this normal?
You should make a vid for when the best time is to tell them how you feel. Just a thought because this is my last school year and I feel like I’m running out of time.
Don't. Never let a narcissist know that you have figured them out, or they'll retaliate. Just go no contact.
If only I knew this before she hurt me..... I would've left earlier...
That wicked witch...she hurt me so much....and she had the audacity to say she loved me..
If you loved me... you wouldn't have hurt me.
(I'm recovering slowly but surely.)
Very sorry you got hurt. She sounds awful. Healing will come with time. Keep being strong. Do not react to anything she does,no matter what! Otherwise she will claim you're an abuser. And any reaction will be her " proof". I wish you safety peace and healing.
@@Stubbornclarity I deleted all socials of her, I blocked her, and I even told her I didn't want to be friends with her when I dropped her stuff off.
Now I can finally do the things I want to do without someone trying to manipulate or guilt trip me
@@cosmicboi1650 good for you!!! Nobody should ever treat you like that. So glad that you are out! Put yourself first for awhile then find a way to give back to those less fortunate because you got out alive and well. She sounds like a Jodi Arias. Glad and relieved that you are FREE! 😊
The classical music is brilliant! Thanks for the info.
Could you make a video all about trauma bond? If you can make it parental trauma bond that be better.
HEY GOOD MORNING MY FRIENDS AND TOXIC FAMILY WHAT IF THE ABUSER IS YOUR PARENT MOTHER THIS TOPIC IS MY MOTHER, HAVE A BLESSED DAY TEE 💯🙏
I totally understand you
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Could you make a video about different types of physical abuse. Because there are physical abuse that we might not see as physical like getting in someones face, and throwing, and spitting. Things we think "well, he hasnt hit me" and might brush off
After so much struggles I now own a new house and my family is happy once again everything is finally falling into place!!
I'm 37 and have been looking for ways to be successful, please how??
Thanks to my co-worker (Alex) who suggested Ms Claudia Vecchi Nese .
Hey, what's the solution for such situation. How can I get out of this.
Talk about maladaptive daydreaming plz
There are many things and acts associated with an abusive relationship. What I find odd, is how out of nowhere they now have all these NEW names.
Love bombing
Gaslighting
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
I didn’t even have to type those out the first time
Already programmed into this smart phone
I’m 46. I’ve been involved with psychology since I was 17.
Strange how those were not terms until recently.
A “disorder” for EVERYTHING
I need help…
Hii!! There im a new subscriber i watched your vids of 6 signs your freinds are not..real friends......❤😢
Love your content, but can I suggest that you proofread the subtitles? What's the point in having them if they don't make any sense?
yes all the way !
How do u make a loved one see that they are being abused and with a narcissist, how to I save someone from the emotional abuse
It doesn’t matter. When you tell your mom about these red flags she will still encourage you to go for it. Too bad nobody warned you about her. Other than using the word “co-dependent.” Which is a “code” manipulative word in itself.
I think I was to blame of love bombing. :(
She left me after 16 years and 9 years of marriage because I took it down a notch as I grew up and she missed it.
Now I don't know what to do. I am beyond broken. :(
Thanks Psyc2go
i have separated from my mentally abusive husband.
1:47 not my partner, but my family.
Hi! can you please do a video about 8 signs your parents are very abusive?... But you don't notice?..
I was about to request the same thing!!!!!
@@VamıkYalman Slay💅
Question. If you actually like this type of relationship, will you be considered mentally unstable?