How to Love After Being Hurt (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

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  • @lisacutsinger7367
    @lisacutsinger7367 4 роки тому +279

    “The most loving thing you can do for someone is show them a good example.” 👏💯❤️👏💯❤️

  • @dbsk06
    @dbsk06 4 роки тому +193

    “It doesn’t matter how much I get hurt because I am going to keep doing this shit because that’s who I am” wow ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @DearSybersue
    @DearSybersue 4 роки тому +121

    Not allowing yourself to love again is giving your EX way too much power. Each experience we allow in our lives gets us closer to our desires becoming a reality. Look what you did in your career! Change your thinking to change your path. Believe you deserve love because you do! You got this Winda! ❤

  • @andreashields6983
    @andreashields6983 4 роки тому +153

    Aww! She is so adorable! I hope she finds great things in her future!

    • @qmulus1
      @qmulus1 4 роки тому +2

      If she lost the weight, she wouldn’t need “hope”.

    • @unicornbubbles2446
      @unicornbubbles2446 4 роки тому +4

      @@qmulus1 bruh chill

    • @qmulus1
      @qmulus1 4 роки тому +2

      @@unicornbubbles2446 It's true though.

    • @madridista703usa3
      @madridista703usa3 4 роки тому +1

      A buffet

  • @charlottesmith5760
    @charlottesmith5760 4 роки тому +137

    Matthew it's Obvious you are more than a Relationship Coach you are now A Life Coach! Love it❤👏👏🙌

  • @angelikakrawczyk1465
    @angelikakrawczyk1465 4 роки тому +64

    Ive been socially isolated for years due to ill mental health and being trapped in a toxic codependent relationship. I'm 6 months out of that situation, working, expanding my business, and most importantly making real connections. Matthew has truly changed my mindset and I've become a more open and exciting person - someone I'd want to be friends with. His advice works for forming friendships too, not just romantic relationships. I talk to people more wherever I am - maybe one day my Mr Right will be someone I start a conversation with, who knows. There is beauty in human interaction. Thank you Matthew for spreading wisdom.

    • @labibayoung5454
      @labibayoung5454 4 роки тому +1

      Well said Chiquita!

    • @DeadAngel14
      @DeadAngel14 4 роки тому +2

      Stay strong Angelika, you're making a great progress ♡

    • @madridista703usa3
      @madridista703usa3 4 роки тому +1

      Angelika Krawczyk You let yourself get isolated you let yourself get mental issues because of a guy that was your choice. The way I see it is that if it was that bad you should’ve let them go but you couldn’t that’s the problem with you women he cannot go of a man no matter how bad he treats you. Facts

    • @sonamyangden7898
      @sonamyangden7898 4 роки тому +1

      I’m Scorpio and my ex Sagittarius.... this story also belongs to me..... I have left the shit lately been 4 days.... I can’t go back and beg for nonsense again. I am happy now releasing a thorn out of my life. I love myself... I can feel you @angelika.

    • @angelikakrawczyk1465
      @angelikakrawczyk1465 4 роки тому

      @@madridista703usa3 how fucking DARE you?!?!? You have no right to judge me or my mental illness. Get the fuck out of this thread because there's no space for shame here!

  • @hikkrzminzzy5946
    @hikkrzminzzy5946 4 роки тому +70

    My husband broke my heart after I got pregnant and he just messaged me saying good bye and I’m sorry I’m not happy a week later I saw his Instagram he was enjoying a holiday in Hawaii with a young girl I was confused and just in shock so I was destroyed mentally emotionally
    I thought of committing suicide because I have severe morning sickness I was admitted in hospital for so I wasn’t mentally capable of having a child I was in shock I didn’t speak to anyone I only cried alone I was like on another planet
    😭
    I suffer from anxiety and depression 😭

    • @nezahatsevim
      @nezahatsevim 4 роки тому +25

      Hikkrz Minzzy So sorry to hear that! As Matt says, ‘We are bigger and stronger than any pain”. Keep strong dear lady. Think that you are not alone in this journey. Many other heartbroken women like you, trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Also as Matt says, now you owe showing a good example to your child. Show her love, happiness and strength. She will be so proud by seeing how strong her mother is 💪 🙏🏻😊

    • @Saimanayen1123
      @Saimanayen1123 4 роки тому +11

      Hikkrz Minzzy that is so terrible I’m so sorry you went through that. I hope you find peace

    • @zorelwood243
      @zorelwood243 4 роки тому +2

      please do contact ur loved ones/family/friends, if ur thinking about suicide : know that ure loved and the world needs you, reach to suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
      It sucks but you're gonna make it.

    • @angelapaz
      @angelapaz 4 роки тому +6

      Damn, that sounds like a lot to go through all at once!
      What that guy did shows clearly the kind of person he is, nothing to do with you. I'm sorry you were blindsided at such a crucial moment in your life. But don't let him take what is yours, your mind needs to be guarded and fed good things. Keep listening and watching positive videos like this one. I know you can make it through this, because we humans have it us to go through much worse and still come out better and stronger. You got this! ... Sending you good vibes today. Xx

    • @dzailrulhafiq2824
      @dzailrulhafiq2824 4 роки тому +3

      Hikkrz Minzzy how are you holding up? Pls update us

  • @shawnthegreat4281
    @shawnthegreat4281 2 роки тому +2

    Women need to understand that heart break happens it’s a part of life you will get hurt you won’t pick the right guy off the bat. Pain and heart break is part of life push through it and keep going don’t let pain stop you from finding love. No risk no reward

  • @sarahdavies3690
    @sarahdavies3690 4 роки тому +51

    Thank you for this Matt, I’ve been hiding away for about 5 years now, after two very unhealthy relationships, I wasn’t thinking about the example I was showing my children. This has really struck a chord. To be braver. ❤️

  • @cottiechauncey
    @cottiechauncey 4 роки тому +12

    I'm crying my eyes out all through this vid! I'm in a kind of hell right now, terribly hurt and betrayed, I've been treated abominably and it's killing me right now - but I'm getting out of there, slowly but surely, agonizingly slowly - by watching other videos of yours.
    I recently found you - UA-cam plopped you bang smack in the middle of their 'suggestions' and I grabbed your vids like a drowning wretch. My heart is shattered....this has been the THIRD relationship that turned out to be anything BUT. I've been 'had', 'duped', 'played' and cheated on.
    And the bastard is a cold, unfeeling robot who has no GUILT for the pain he's caused me.
    But I'm finding a sort of consolation, watching this amazing Matthew Hussey - who the hell is he?! WHERE has he been all my life?!
    He's phenomenal, so uplifting, that I've almost found my validation, that I AM worthy dammit, I'm a loving, faithfull, supportive and sensitive lady who has been DUPED once again, by a little, cowardly, fraudulent 'man'. 😫

  • @breathebri
    @breathebri 2 роки тому +6

    “you are bigger than any pain”💗💗💗

  • @marisajane7229
    @marisajane7229 4 роки тому +20

    Wow I can relate so much to this woman. My fiancé passed away unexpectedly 4 years ago. I was crushed. It has taken me a long time to even consider dating and now that I finally am ready, I sabotage and resist. I find myself only attracted to men who either live in a different city or are emotionally unavailable. And I know that my fiancé would want me to find a wonderful person to spend my life with, he would never want to see me alone for the rest of my life because he died. I’m just really struggling with it.

    • @madridista703usa3
      @madridista703usa3 4 роки тому +1

      Marisa Jane Get back on that pogo stick girl you’ll be OK

    • @christopherlukassimpson3750
      @christopherlukassimpson3750 4 роки тому

      Marisa Jane I feel shattered and broken because the only time I gave love a chance, I end up feeling heartbroken, I’m scared and sad because I don’t think I’ll ever recover from this pain, but one day I pick up my pieces and move on with life, but still hoping to find a true love one day

  • @shahrzadmoadeli
    @shahrzadmoadeli 4 роки тому +53

    Thank you Matthew, got me thinking of this quote. Your joy is your sorrow unmasked. And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears. - Gibran Kahlil

    • @ivag.5398
      @ivag.5398 4 роки тому

      Wow what a beautiful quote

    • @christopherlukassimpson3750
      @christopherlukassimpson3750 4 роки тому

      Sharzad Modeli Angela Hernandez I feel shattered and broken because the only time I gave love a chance, I end up feeling heartbroken, I’m scared and sad because I don’t think I’ll ever recover from this pain, but one day I pick up my pieces and move on with life, but still hoping to find a true love one day

  • @blackbird3545
    @blackbird3545 4 роки тому +29

    Thanks Matthew you completed my final stages of healing after this video ..love and respect ❤️

  • @ga1998
    @ga1998 4 роки тому +4

    Thank you, I've been in constant abusive relationships since I was a young child. I am 35 and have been trying to avoid getting hurt all my life. When you are in constant fight, flight or freeze mode it can make you feel exhausted with life and disappointed in yourself. I've constantly lost myself because I have always been thinking about how I can keep people by pleasing them and not filling my own cup. This video is just one of many after a long journey to self acceptance. I needed to say this to myself today. "Who do I want to be?". For me, myself and I. Thank you Michael Hussey for always coming up in my feed when I've needed it in the right moment. I need to live after pain not die. My daughter needs to start seeing her mother live life. She's counting on me. Please continue to spread seeds of kindness everyone. It's the only reason why I'm here. Thank you Matthew Hussey.

    • @JoJo-uv2wl
      @JoJo-uv2wl 4 роки тому +1

      G A Relate on every level....take care of you & your girl 💕

  • @armedpatriot8558
    @armedpatriot8558 3 роки тому +4

    I'm a man, and even though I know this video was spoken to a crowd of women and maybe even intended for that audience, it genuinely spoke to me as well. I think every person on earth should take these words to heart ❤

  • @janelleberryman-nosik8246
    @janelleberryman-nosik8246 4 роки тому +10

    Matthew, how you responded to this woman was absolutely beautiful!!! Made me cry.... because it was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you for doing what you’re passionate about. You are an absolutely amazing man. Wish more men had your depth, your soul, your spirit, your insight, your empathy, your compassion, your creativity and your wisdom. I’m so grateful for you.

    • @madridista703usa3
      @madridista703usa3 4 роки тому

      Janelle Berryman-Nosik lol

    • @christopherlukassimpson3750
      @christopherlukassimpson3750 4 роки тому

      Janelle Berryman-Nosik heartbreaks isn’t really easy and it doesn’t heal faster, you feel broken, some people tends to lose their sleep, some their appetite for food is gone and nothing seems right to them.
      If you’re dealing with heartbreak and you’re feeling down, well we just want to let you know things would get better and you’ll be fine with Time, People express their pain in different ways and heal differently, the best way to fall back on track is courage and give love a chance again to coming, I hope I find mine too one day

  • @isabelc.perdomob.9839
    @isabelc.perdomob.9839 4 роки тому +47

    Man you made me cry.Thanks for this video Mathew, It open my eyes and see my situation from another perspective 😘😁

  • @sandrazevallos5077
    @sandrazevallos5077 4 роки тому +9

    Amazing message❤️ you have to change the goal. Not "I want to avoid pain" but "I want to be a Person that takes oportunities and I Do what I can to get what I deserve. Cause thats how I Show my love to the World."

  • @desertliving
    @desertliving 4 роки тому +23

    Im currently in the same situation as the lady , all my relationships have been failures, i have been betrayed more times than i like to admit. The wall i have put up is so visible i have not had a man approach me for fun flirting in a very long time. This video has come at a perfect time as im slowly beginning to bring down that wall after 4 years. I hope to see more videos on this topic, I know it will help many women ,and men, go about getting back out there in the battlefield of love lol.

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      @serhatcoskun4202 4 роки тому

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    • @ronhoek69
      @ronhoek69 3 роки тому

      @@serhatcoskun4202 Is he from royal decent and living in Nigeria by any chance?

  • @stayroxy
    @stayroxy 4 роки тому +46

    Can you talk about the same concept but in friendships . Sometimes I dont try to make new friends because of things that happened in the past .

    • @Mandy.S.
      @Mandy.S. 4 роки тому +4

      I feel like it would be basically the same for friendships, just tweak the advice a bit to fit how you are afraid to make or get hurt in friendships. ☺

  • @isaacyoungkwak
    @isaacyoungkwak 4 роки тому +3

    Matthew always makes me feel better

  • @silver_0447
    @silver_0447 4 роки тому +3

    I cried watching this because I felt exactly the same way.. thank you Matthew

  • @christyveronic
    @christyveronic 4 роки тому +3

    😭 I know those twins. Last time I saw them probably 14 years ago I was surprised to see them in this vid and brings back cute memories. It is amazing to see how they have grown to be great women and to have that love for each other. Thank you Matthew for your words and insights, to just go there and try again and not being scared even tho we were hurt so many times.

  • @katn8651
    @katn8651 4 роки тому +5

    This is something I really needed. I've put on this brave face, telling my friends that I don't need this silly vulnerable thing called "love" (I know how cliche that sounds). I've been telling myself that I would never give anyone the power to hurt me again. But dang it, Matthew! "Don't get hurt... It's kind of a boring goal."
    Well, crap.
    Boring is the one thing I can't stand! Lol.

  • @santamaria9094
    @santamaria9094 4 роки тому +29

    My tears won’t stop. This was so powerful I can’t thank you enough Matt. The only way to conquer fear is love

    • @mistertexaz
      @mistertexaz 4 роки тому

      Santa Maria ayyyaayaay Santa Maria

    • @madridista703usa3
      @madridista703usa3 4 роки тому

      Santa Maria Why do you women make it so complicated either he likes you are you down all of those conquer your fear love crap that’s issues you have to deal with little man breathe and see if you guys like each other it’s so simple

  • @devitara5378
    @devitara5378 4 роки тому +3

    I feel this is one of the videos that I related to. Thank you Matthew and team for constantly sharing positivity and being great role models for people.

  • @matthewjosiah
    @matthewjosiah 4 роки тому +3

    Reframing that into "changing your goal" is key!

  • @FreeJulianAssange23
    @FreeJulianAssange23 4 роки тому +1

    It hurts so much seeing kindness. Thank you.

  • @claytonlutu4868
    @claytonlutu4868 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you mathew for the wonderful guidance you shared with the twins. Thank you twins for sharing and opening up your life! I am grateful for the inspiration and courage the twin stood up and bare her truthfulness for many of us to be encourage to dropdown our guard to be vulnerable and challenge our fears head on. Powerful!!!

  • @New-mg4zp
    @New-mg4zp 4 роки тому +17

    This man is amazing

  • @brunetteaztrid8421
    @brunetteaztrid8421 4 роки тому +15

    👌 Fantastic Matthew! so grateful that you get to share this with us. Amazing impact 🥂

  • @JELLOOOxD
    @JELLOOOxD 4 роки тому +9

    This video couldnt have popped up at a better time. Thank you, Matthew! 💕

  • @edelweissj.191
    @edelweissj.191 4 роки тому +7

    Incredibly powerful.

  • @milkixo3621
    @milkixo3621 4 роки тому +3

    I don't think this would just be for relationships but can also be for friendships as well

  • @watchme7076
    @watchme7076 3 роки тому +1

    Matthew
    Its not enough to be Competent at something
    Its your Internal programs that stopping you reaching your potential in this area of life or any area of life
    Something about your self worth or lack of it thats holds you back
    Fear if pain fear from getting hurt from self actualising in your life
    Change the program in everything you do

  • @erinpennington3119
    @erinpennington3119 4 роки тому +4

    I needed this. It is sooo hard to keep my gaurd down because I have been hurt so many times.😭💔

    • @christopherlukassimpson3750
      @christopherlukassimpson3750 4 роки тому +1

      Erin Pennington, I feel shattered and broken because the only time I gave love a chance, I end up feeling heartbroken, I’m scared and sad because I don’t think I’ll ever recover from this pain, but one day I pick up my pieces and move on with life, but still hoping to find a true love one day

  • @JoJo-uv2wl
    @JoJo-uv2wl 4 роки тому +2

    My physical scars of a bad marriage/divorce are healed but the mental ones are still controlling my life 12 years on 😫

  • @liniussvendsen9696
    @liniussvendsen9696 4 роки тому +2

    A powerful message to not only girls but for everyone

  • @dothihuyendothihuyen5421
    @dothihuyendothihuyen5421 4 роки тому +4

    I'll keep doing that shit because of who i am, thank you so much. I won't give up.

  • @KJC4321
    @KJC4321 4 роки тому +13

    After leaving my narcissist ex... I still hear his toxic phrases in my mind and having a hard time not listening to them. How do you overcome this?

    • @margaritam.9118
      @margaritam.9118 4 роки тому +4

      Maybe you should go to therapy? It’s hard to cope with results of psychological abuse.

    • @Traumatised311
      @Traumatised311 4 роки тому

      @@margaritam.9118 , No i think killing the person who caused you psycological abuse helps a lot better than going to psychiatrists who do victim blaming and give sleeping pills in the name of antidepressants

    • @KJC4321
      @KJC4321 4 роки тому +1

      @@margaritam.9118 yes I am going to therapy for it.

    • @shea88barbie
      @shea88barbie 4 роки тому +2

      carla j Give it all to God, pray to hear Gods views about you over his, God loves us & designed each of us special, beautiful, & good. Listen to positive affirmations on UA-cam, keep at it, it didn’t go over night but it’s definitely better. I had a Narc ex too. I recommend Reading a book by Joyce Myers titled Healing The Soul of a Woman. I bought mine at Walmart, you get it online too. Those things he said to you weren’t true, it’s a reflection of him. And if he said some things that were true but used them in a way to hurt you it says a lot about them as a human. They’re dealing with some demons. Pray for that person. Seek God dear. He can heal you

    • @KJC4321
      @KJC4321 4 роки тому

      @@shea88barbie thank you ! I will look into that book. Yes I've been listening to lots of positive healing podcasts and it helps but I still got those phrases :( god knows the truth

  • @gratefultammy
    @gratefultammy 4 роки тому +9

    Thank you Matthew for another excellent video of enlightenment . I see myself as not good enough , to be in a healthy thriving relationship . How odd that it’s come to this ?

  • @studiocelestedesign
    @studiocelestedesign 4 роки тому

    Super powerful reasoning as to the Why and the Purpose behind getting up again and again and not letting anything crush you. 👍🏼

  • @watchme7076
    @watchme7076 3 роки тому

    Loving means Showing,Loving & Giving

  • @starryskies4284
    @starryskies4284 3 роки тому

    I love it when he is so straightforward and just points it out hey it's boring, it's bullshit. It really cures my insecurity love it

  • @91clarie
    @91clarie 4 роки тому +101

    Yo I've been dead inside for years, no biggie

    • @NaomiChambers
      @NaomiChambers 4 роки тому +2

      That is your choice

    • @Jazzybot
      @Jazzybot 4 роки тому +9

      You arnt dead, your numb because your ego says so. Now its time to love yourself and stop being a victim

    • @91clarie
      @91clarie 4 роки тому +17

      @@NaomiChambers clinical depression is not anyone's choice, being judgemental and ignorant like you is though

    • @jenclayton8844
      @jenclayton8844 4 роки тому +3

      I know the feeling!😢

    • @kaylang4166
      @kaylang4166 4 роки тому +1

      No human being is ever going to "fulfill you" or be your source of happiness. Look to Jesus for that. Secure a Bible and begin reading the New Testament and when finished with that half, go back and read the Old. You don't have to feel empty inside. Let Christ fill your heart with hope and love as only He can do. Then you can "love your neighbor as you love yourself." Find a Christian friend you can talk to. Please don't deny yourself a new start in life. Reach out to someone. You're special to God and He wants you to have a full life. Start with forgiving who ever hurt you in the past which isn't easy without God's help--kind of impossible really. A great book to read is "Total Forgiveness." It's helped me countless times to forgive those I didn't think I could, which brings peace to the soul..... Bless you, 91claire! I'll be praying for you. If you were born in 91, you're young and have so many years of joy ahead of you. I pray for your joy. :)

  • @claudiamota5394
    @claudiamota5394 4 роки тому +1

    That girl is so brave!

  • @Summer-hz6tn
    @Summer-hz6tn 4 роки тому +1

    I heard that! Show them what a powerful woman looks like! Love love love no matter what!

  • @annadambrosi5924
    @annadambrosi5924 4 роки тому +2

    I love how this is not necessarily just for relationships but for other aspects in life too thank you!!

  • @aimo8228
    @aimo8228 4 роки тому +3

    You and your team always help me refocus on the important things again. My goals sometimes change and then I get off track. Thanks so much, every video helps. 💖

  • @michaelapink
    @michaelapink 4 роки тому +22

    When does SELF-love come in to play. This is very "sweet" but how do women get past the idea that “It doesn’t matter how much I get hurt because I am going to keep doing this shit because that’s who I am?" I just think this sounds kind of like self-harm.

    • @AlyC92
      @AlyC92 4 роки тому +7

      If you put this together with all the things Matthew has said about dating. You see red flags? The relationship is toxic? Or your partner is abusive? Get out of there!!! It is not about staying with the source of pain. It is about keep going though you've eben hurt :)

    • @katc5292
      @katc5292 4 роки тому +4

      I don't feel he means keep doing the same thing. I felt that he was saying don't give up on the right one cause the wrong one hurt you ❤ you are right self love is very important

    • @smilejustbecause8275
      @smilejustbecause8275 4 роки тому +1

      @@katc5292 I love that. Wise words💕💕

  • @cuteandfluffypikachu3405
    @cuteandfluffypikachu3405 4 роки тому +1

    I’ve been burned to many times I broke a promise to myself that I wouldn’t let my guard down then I met the love of my life 7 weeks we dated after a week and now I’m getting burned again he’s been distant for the last 5 days he’s stopped saying I love you which is painful he hasn’t messaged me for 24 hour which isn’t like him I don’t know what to do about it I can’t stop the tears from falling 😭🥺😭🥺😭🥺😭💔💔💔💔

  • @kavithabnair4549
    @kavithabnair4549 3 роки тому

    Wow this person is so amazing ... every single word is creating an impact in my life....you are not just a relationship coach....you are something more than that..... Thank you so much Matthew Hussey..😊

  • @ezgicantekcorap4456
    @ezgicantekcorap4456 4 роки тому +3

    This video makes me cry because I think I am lost cause. I have watched every video you take and not just once because I want to move on. I was in love and we broke up. Whenever I thought I moved on, he showed up and I forgave him and he broke my heart again. After a while I realize I was in manipulative relationship but this didn’t stop me from loving him. However, I tried to date and I tried to move on and I met someone we dated couple of months but it didn’t work out because I was still thinking about my ex. I think I am not in love with him anymore, I am just obsessed and right now I pretty sure that I don’t want someone like him in my life. However, I try to meet new people and no first date makes me feel same as my ex and i’s first date. Also, this dating marathon makes me realize that I am only attract to guys who will hurt me eventually. Whenever I meet a good guy I only see him as a friend. I accepted that part of me and I know for sure now that I will not choose a guy who makes me happy. Anyway, I love your videos and your ideas I wish they worked for me, at least I tried 🤷🏻‍♀️❤️

  • @lazybeastz182
    @lazybeastz182 4 роки тому

    as someone with social anxiety and afraid of rejection this video was awesome to watch for motivation

  • @AltmannKatherine
    @AltmannKatherine 4 роки тому +1

    I’m literally crying. Thank you for this, I really needed this 🙏🏽

  • @blue_ambiance
    @blue_ambiance 4 роки тому +2

    He is so genuine 😍

  • @texasgal07
    @texasgal07 4 роки тому +5

    Sounds great. And I’m so messed up that I automatically think...”they won’t pick you if you apply. All the ppl who attend are pretty, thin and you wouldn’t fit in.”
    And this was a great vid though. Good message.

    • @brunnamclean477
      @brunnamclean477 4 роки тому +4

      Honey I've been twice. Women are of all ages, all sizes, all backgrounds. You'll do just fine.

  • @goddesoflibraries
    @goddesoflibraries 4 роки тому +13

    Hi Hussey...a good philosophy of getting back on the horse, but did you really listen to that beautiful woman?. I believe she mentioned she was physically abused in her last two relationships. She's a highly accomplished woman in getting her law degree. She wanted advice on healing and how long it can take and an approach on dating again, but with the permission to give space in her life for just her. She needs to work on herself a while.

    • @MassielMancebo
      @MassielMancebo 4 роки тому +3

      I completely agree with your comment. I think once you’ve been through any sort of abusive or toxic relationship, it’s important to get therapy, process those emotions, and also possibly detect any negative patterns one may have that could lead to falling into another one. It’s not as simple as “don’t be afraid to get hurt” someone could get seriously seriously hurt 😔

    • @goddesoflibraries
      @goddesoflibraries 4 роки тому

      @@MassielMancebo Yes you explain this so well. On further thought I was also thinking a good therapist could help her work through issues. Also, there may be cultural issues in that country that make things more perilous for women, but i have no idea. A pat answer is far less than any women deserves when it comes to surviving abuse.

    • @christopherlukassimpson3750
      @christopherlukassimpson3750 4 роки тому

      Diane S I feel shattered and broken because the only time I gave love a chance, I end up feeling heartbroken, I’m scared and sad because I don’t think I’ll ever recover from this pain, but one day I pick up my pieces and move on with life, but still hoping to find a true love one day

  • @wyethhan7434
    @wyethhan7434 4 роки тому +7

    Loving means more giving..I'm not afraid getting hurt again..!

  • @daniellecpetrovic7120
    @daniellecpetrovic7120 4 роки тому +7

    Brisbane,Australia needs to see you soon Matt! 💕💕💕💕🇦🇺🐨🦘
    Just love your channel,books and podcast!
    Also your complete honesty!
    I don't believe, in sugar coating anything eithier.
    The truth will set you free.
    I couldn't agree, with you more after watching this.
    We've all been hurt,but what doesn't kill us,makes us stronger.
    I'd rather have high standards and knowing my own worth than be in a less than stellar relationship or stay in a toxic one.
    Too many times,I've experience in my past relationships the same thing.
    Love yourself first and the rest will follow.🥰🥰
    Thank you Matt, for your constant hard work and may your success continue always.😘 Xxxx

  • @annichenxiaoyi
    @annichenxiaoyi 4 роки тому

    Yes, nothing hurt or bigger than you
    Love yourself

  • @TiffTheTyrant
    @TiffTheTyrant 4 роки тому +7

    Damn how did you find my deep existential problem like that on a Saturday afternoon lol

    • @madridista703usa3
      @madridista703usa3 4 роки тому

      Tiffany Zoe Existential Don’t ruin your life around a man and make it so complicated either he likes you or he don’t anything else that’s your issue you have to deal with it’s really simple you know he wants to fuck or he don’t

  • @kurisktan
    @kurisktan 4 роки тому +1

    amazing, my brother was right all along, I dated twice as much but he's been married for 3 years and I have just been dating for almost 10 years in bad relationships.

  • @AzureNightsMusic
    @AzureNightsMusic 4 роки тому +1

    Wish he specifically did videos for men too! But this is great because it applies to everyone!

    • @JanelleFraser
      @JanelleFraser 4 роки тому

      I would love to hear what you want Matthew to cover for men?

    • @AzureNightsMusic
      @AzureNightsMusic 4 роки тому

      @@JanelleFraser Well, when I posted thisover a month ago I'd been struggling to get over my recent break up. I'd been in a really unhealthy relationship with someone that had narcissistic tendencies and used "gaslighting" frequently.
      This happening during lockdown really put me in a situation where I had to just deal with the feelings myself, without friends or family to distract me - I had to also see my ex partner in work, who was a colleague. I'd revisit this video to just remind myself that we all live and learn and to think of it as a massive learning curve.
      As a man, when I watch Matthews videos it really puts things in perspective how different male and female communication styles are and how different each's perceptions are in given situations. He's really good at giving down to earth advice to women from a male perspective, and I'd be interested in him doing content for men too i.e. communication, emotional intelligence. So that when I feel like I'm ready to put myself back out there again and start dating (not for a long time!) that I feel like I'm a better version of myself- like I felt every time I watched this video over the last few weeks.
      Women feel like they don't understand men, and men feel like they don't understand women - having content for both sides will be beneficial to everyone involved.

  • @Ninka1993ua
    @Ninka1993ua 4 роки тому

    That's so strong. I want to be a great example for my son. I couldn't go on being so miserable and weak with his dad. I imagined for a moment that our horrible relationship would become an example of what our son thinks is the norm and that's one of the things that helped me finish this.
    I am getting back on my feet now. And I want to be a self-worth person, courageous and yet sensitive. I want to raise my son teaching that the world is a good place, and although you can get hurt sometimes, it doesn't mean you need to close up from everyone. But at the same time, keep up to your standards and not let anyone ever cross your boundaries.

  • @lyndaposton2911
    @lyndaposton2911 4 роки тому +1

    Don’t believe in many things, but you actually make me me think I should. Cheers

  • @ibtissamlatachi4413
    @ibtissamlatachi4413 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you sooo soo much Matthew!! This simple mindset change just set me free from years of fear

    • @madridista703usa3
      @madridista703usa3 4 роки тому

      ibtissam latachi Years of fear of what did you ask visual up why do you make it so complicated either he likes you or he don’t

  • @monikaleszko5343
    @monikaleszko5343 2 роки тому

    Amazing !!! Love isn’t “ what can I get out of that person” and if it’s possible heartache …I quit !! No no
    Love is being the best version of yourself and no matter what happens …you survive anything because love conquers all!
    And fear is not how you live!!!
    Fear feels like death !
    Love and live to the fullest even if it means getting hurt !
    Good luck everyone 🙏❤️🙏

  • @Gabriela-ht7yz
    @Gabriela-ht7yz 4 роки тому

    My life will be better, thanks to you, Matthew Hussey! Thank you!

  • @roef4462
    @roef4462 4 роки тому

    I signed up the Home Retreat Program a few months ago, & I would say its one of the best gift I could ever give it to myself. The only thing that's disappointed me was Matt's team, I have to wait for at least 3 weeks to 1 month to get a response from them. And it was not helpful to me at all after a long wait. Personally I just feel that they are not sincere & authentic to help. Its very different from the energy I got it from Matt. But his IT team was great, they replied to me within a day or two. No matter what this is still a great program to join, it will change your life.

  • @Jazzybot
    @Jazzybot 4 роки тому +2

    Basically saying face your fears!

  • @KarmaGirlDreams
    @KarmaGirlDreams 4 роки тому +1

    Wow!!! Matthew Hussey gives the best advice! So brilliant and articulate! Truly moving So amazing!!! 🔥🔥🔥

  • @alisonporter7948
    @alisonporter7948 4 роки тому

    This video hit home, and I’m thankful to have heard it. 🙏🏻 I’m a woman of faith, and I believe that God has worked through you and that brave woman to help me really root the things out of my heart that’s holding me back to date and truly start reprogramming my mind. Thank you so much! ❤️ Keep up the amazing and uplifting and encouraging work, Matthew! 😊

  • @minordelta31
    @minordelta31 2 роки тому

    I absolutely love this but the fact of the matter is sometimes reality becomes too much and you may just not be able to be stronger... For some of us, it's just over.

  • @lizogilvie8337
    @lizogilvie8337 4 роки тому

    This video was so much more than I thought it was going to be.
    I looked at the title and thought; that’s not me, but I’m curious to watch it.
    I learnt so much from this and will be using these ideas to move my life forward ...being a powerful woman for myself!
    Thank you x

  • @fatumaraafle5098
    @fatumaraafle5098 4 роки тому

    Thank you Matthew you really change my love life so I'm so grateful for having you as my favorite couch

  • @katjakranjec5676
    @katjakranjec5676 4 роки тому +5

    An amazing video, thanks, Matthew!

  • @unknownngif
    @unknownngif 4 роки тому

    I should've been at this meet, the same day we reach a year being together then 3 days later we ended it. No one can really know what's gonna happen until you learn from this amazing man and how to read signs. Be brave guys!

  • @Jay-ef2ii
    @Jay-ef2ii Місяць тому

    An important message. This Doctor knows his stuff (on love dating advice). 2024

  • @slyfly4829
    @slyfly4829 3 роки тому +1

    man i couldnt love again, its been 3 years and i have ghosted so many fricken women because once they show interest, its like i get scared or it just doesnt feel right. my ex did probably the nastiest things to me, kicking me out of our home and moving another man in after 8 years, calling social services on me out of no where and getting me arrested.
    my heart aches, its like the betrayal is a venom that is slowly killing me. i dont understand betrayal , i dont think i ever will

  • @ItsJennNotJenny
    @ItsJennNotJenny 4 роки тому +2

    Yes! This is so wonderful. I needed this reminder today. Thank you

  • @frenchiegonewild7264
    @frenchiegonewild7264 4 роки тому +3

    Love your work!

  • @bistravoda3687
    @bistravoda3687 3 роки тому

    Cried so much during this video.

  • @sweettoothmarie7304
    @sweettoothmarie7304 4 роки тому +1

    Some serious life coaching vibes from this clip!! 👌

  • @princessAdPa
    @princessAdPa 4 роки тому +4

    Thanks for making it more profound ;)

  • @cyziez1118
    @cyziez1118 4 роки тому +6

    Hey Matt! Are you ever coming to Australia? We’d love to have you here!

  • @pennyjin5012
    @pennyjin5012 4 роки тому

    You made me crying... I will do same... you are my best Matthew...

  • @sqoishicasette
    @sqoishicasette 4 роки тому

    Being scared and trying to avoid pain is actually what attracts people who are abusers and narcs because they can sense when you have pain, then they act like they understand you, will try to heal you, will try making you feel safe and tell you sob stories to make you trust them... Trauma bond with you and shit, then keep hurting you later when you walked into the trap... Fact that she already had a second abusive relationship is the voucher for this ... So he's right... Goal is to look for a good person and happiness not to avoid pain because if follow love the avoid pain is a part of the pact, you don't have to treat it like a separate issues...

  • @dinnarervina278
    @dinnarervina278 4 роки тому

    Thank you Matthew...your advise heal my pain ...yes...no body can stop me to find true love🤗

  • @melinalisi7038
    @melinalisi7038 4 роки тому

    Watching this video through tears

  • @sindhuchinniah4363
    @sindhuchinniah4363 2 роки тому

    Thank you Mathew Hussey 🤗

  • @tanikeisham3335
    @tanikeisham3335 4 роки тому +3

    Love from Manipur, INDIA💖

  • @ConstantlyCurvyxo
    @ConstantlyCurvyxo 4 роки тому +1

    I love that your the real life hitch

  • @prajyotgund8481
    @prajyotgund8481 Рік тому

    How beautifully you explained it mathew , so awesome ❤️

  • @GypsyRock
    @GypsyRock 4 роки тому +9

    3:33 that shirt looks good on him

  • @qqthantawan
    @qqthantawan 4 роки тому

    Started watching your videos since 2015 and I'm glad you are still around after all these years☺

  • @elenagrossi4414
    @elenagrossi4414 4 роки тому +4

    This is the wisest message I've heard in a long time. Thanks so much for your great energy and for constantly reminding us why it's worth doing our best.

  • @persephone8960
    @persephone8960 4 роки тому

    The answer is...if the guy who hurts you can move on to find a diff person to have fun or love.
    Why should u mourn as if you just receive a death of ur life. Move on. Find happiness. Forgive yourself. Give urself a chance to love again. Loving is a beautiful feeling. Go & feel it again. Love doesnt have to be someone else. Love can be loving yourself. Your family. Your dreams. Your goals. So go ahead. Dont stop here.
    You guys need to realise you cant expect a person to not hurt you. Neither can u guarantee you would not hurt anyone. At least learn to choose the people who will love you right and who will respect you as a person.

  • @genesisaguilar5338
    @genesisaguilar5338 4 роки тому +4

    Oh MY GOD i needed this today holy shit wow