I just found your video, and I HAVE to tell you that you made me so happy and proud.I'm a 69 year old Bi/gay guy. I came up in the 1970,s. I get how you were feeling. Now that you've come out life will get better and better for you. If you ever need to talk, I'm right here. Cheers
Matt, thank you so much for your story. I am an 83 year old gay man. I did not come out to anyone except a very few close friends until I was 60 years old. Shortly after I came out my friend took me to Provincetown on Cape Cod a very gay friendly town. We were walking down Market Street in the morning holding hands and this most wonderful feeling came over me that I will never forget. I CAN BE ME! I don't have to hide any more or feel ashamed. I wish your video could be seen by all young people (and their parents). I feel so badly for the young gay person who doesn't have understanding parents and friends.
I feel for you. I was openly gay as a elementary school student in the 1980's, during the heights of the AIDS crisis, when primarily gay men were dying. The bullying and discrimination from teachers and my community was intense, and continues today. But, as a little kid, I knew they were full of s***, and that has always helped me cope. Keep the great videos coming!
We have come a long way since my teen struggles in the late 1960's. I don't usually watch coming out videos, but I watched this one. My husband and I have been together for 30 years. We are radicals because we lived our life as no different than anyone else. Accepting oneself is the first step to loving yourself.
We are born gay and you can not pray the gay away. I am sooo... happy that you didn't take your life. I am glad you are in a good place now on the road to self love!
Can’t believe we still need videos like yours in 2023. can’t believe you in todays times had to how up feeling unacceptable. Feeling ashamed and insecure. Your feelings should be just accepted as part of the spectrum of human life. Life in general actually. With about 20 years of more life experience let me say: chances your life will be good and happy did just increase with you standing to yourself. I wish you all the best you deserve happiness and love.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are a beautiful person, Matt; never doubt that. I’m 76; grew up in a time when gay was defined as lighthearted and cheerful. Homosexuality was sinful, and as a Christian I felt that I would be condemned to hell for all eternity. It took me a very long time to come to grips with my homosexuality. But there was always something deep inside of me that gave me hope. It’s over twenty-five years ago now that I wrote this poem. I hope that it will help others who are struggling, for the inner voice that spoke to me is the same gentle voice that speaks to each of us, if only we listen. It is Love; and it simply desires to set us free. Peace, Richard I Have Already Set You Free When I was born so long ago I did not know what life would be. And as I grew my world grew too So many people here with me. But I was different, so I thought No one to tell what I did feel. Though close at hand, a world away My hopes and dreams were far from real. I did not understand my life Or why I had to live with fear. It wasn’t ‘til much later yet I realized that I was queer. A prisoner within my mind No one to tell my troubles to. No one but God, within my heart Did tell me then what I must do. “Be still, my son, for all is well Your life is what it’s meant to be. The babe you were, the man you are Was destined from eternity. “Do not regret what you’ve become I love you now in every way. Receive my love, then pass it on It matters not that you are gay. “My gift of life has honored you And what I ask is that you be A caring, giving, loving man I have already set you free.”
Your life sounds a lot like mine was. I prayed many times a day but it didn’t change anything so I’m glad I am a gay man and have had a great life you will to sweetie ❤️
Cool Video. I am coming up on my 15th year anniversary of coming out at 52. I grew up in Church Culture; 20 years Catholic, 35 years Evangelical. I was very into all things Christian; I even went to the Mission Field twice. I joined the Gay Christian Network. Things were good. Then something happened. I had a shift in my thinking. I de-converted. I went back into the closet as an atheist. Coming out as atheist seems more frightening than coming out as gay.
Congratulations on learning to love and accept yourself! It's SO easy for me to say how coming out in recent years is so much easier than it was 33 years ago when I started coming out, but the fact is even now it is a massive deal for some of us. One thing you said that made me smirk... "It's a huge part of who I am" One thing I've found is the longer I've been out the more I realize being gay is just a small part of what makes me who I am. Be careful of letting the gay tag define everything about yourself. I was like this for a while, denying interests that I was told didn't fit the community. Be yourself and don't limit interests and experiences in the name of being gay. I did this for a while and was TOTALLY miserable. I recently came out to anyone and everyone in my life which includes a very large antique car community, some snowmobiling friends and just varied acquaintances. I'm very proud of all of them for being supportive. There is no way this would have happened 30 years ago. Things are getting better! Good luck, life's journey is a blast and sometimes as scary as a roller coaster. My husband and I just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary... To this day I can't believe I can say that! Never thought it would become legal when I was young!!
I’m so sorry you had to go through this I’m straight but my family get mad at me because I believe being gay isn’t a sin love is love and nobody is mistake
I’m 68. I WISH I came out at your age. But it was a very different time back in the 70’s and not safe to come out. However I’m now happily married to a wonderful man I met about 20 years ago. We’ve been married for 8. Go out and have a great life my friend. Gay life can be great. Hugs.
Michael, it breaks my heart when I hear the mention of suicide as the remedy for solving the struggles of gay life. Thank God for your loving parents who had the foresight to intervene in your struggles mentally and emotionally. I am from a different generation and was never exposed to ridicule or harassment either in school, college, or the Navy that I was ever aware of. If people had thoughts or suspicions, they kept them to their selves. And, I took the position that what people thought and 'knew' were two different things. People can think what they want, but only 'YOU' can let someone know who you are! Looking back over the years, I had as many if not more 'straight' personal friends, and yes, family members who 'had my back', then gay friends. I am so glad that you have come to love yourself; that is paramount to accepting being gay and moving on with your life! I'm convinced that you will have a good life Michael, and you deserve it! Best Wishes Always, friend, Bob
I prayed for five years to not be gay. God didn't answer my prayer's because I'm not broken and we are fearfully and wonderfully made. It has taken me a long time to get here but I am so thankful. Unfortunate many conservative Christians say I didn't pray hard enough or long enough. Some people we will never be able to convince. Thank you for sharing your story all those years ago when i was in the midst of working on myself and navigating my own issues with fully coming to terms of who i was.
This rough heavy metal guy supports you fully. Be yourself by all means and be happy and find a companion, because compaionship is what we need as living souls. Love ya, mate! ♥♥♥
Thinking of my own coming out, 43 years ago, your video makes me feel a bit sad, but the overpowering feeling is: PLEASE love yourself! Just like your parents love and support you! You're 'exposure' here deserves nothing but deep respect! And finally I feel glad to hear you say your own discovered conclusion. Because that's simply the truth. LOTS of LOVE, that's what I wish you with all my heart! ❤
Beeinig an old guy and prussian aristocrat, it has been not any easy way. It took me oer twenty years to live who i am. You made the right decision. Take all the love, the rights, and please, never give them up. We fought for all this such an long time. God bless you and your man, he may close his fist around You to protect, but never to tight.
I have never seen your videos before, but you popped up on my suggestion and I watched. I am so proud that you have reach a point in your life that took me 40 years to do. You brought a now 54 yo man to tears. please continue to do you. and know that you are not alone.
Took a lot of guts to make this video and from a 83 yr. old gay man I really applaud you for this. Many will say it is so much easier today than it was previously. Maybe acceptance is better but having to face the fact that you are not what 90% of the population considers normal still has not changed. Until the day comes that parents/grandparents and all others quit joking with their kids about boys having girlfriends etc. that fear of being accepted is still going to be there. So thank you for sharing.
You are a rescource and a sweet soul and a handsome! Your message found its way through to an 83 year old and her son. Please live and live and live as life should live! ♥♥♥ ♥♥♥ ♥♥♥
Easy to think how much better it is now than twenty years ago (when I came out) AND then it was easy to say it was easier than 20 years before when I was too scared to come out...reality is, coming out is always frightening, liberating, and takes courage! I am proud of you.
Thank you!! It’s amazing how much better it is now than just a short while ago. I know that’s not the case many places around the world. I hope my story resonates with someone ❤️
@@ajitadonismanilal9105 I am so sorry--the trauma you experiencced will live with you for a long time...at 58, I am still not fully aware of how much damage was done from the fear of coming out. But you keep working at it and IT DOES GET BETTER!!!
@@itsmichaelandmatt you are good to share your story and we are all bound together in a brotherhood forged from the experience of coming out as gay men. We need to hear each others' stories so we can remember we are not alone.
@@ajitadonismanilal9105 I ate away my anxiety too and carry an extra 150 lbs. I get it. I really do. I still have anxiety when I have to "out" myself. I teach at a university and I always slide in that I am gay just because I don't want to build relationships and then be "discovered." I get nervous every time--and nothing has ever gone awry in my life when I came out. It still makes me jittery.
Major love to you my friend. People don't understand the struggle is REAL. I lost my 2 best friends a short time apart to their demons, part of which I suspect are the same ones you've overcome. We need allot less hatred & more understanding in this world.
"There are people there who love you and that want the best for you, and I know it's so hard to see right now, but, God, there is light on the other side of the corner and you just gotta keep going." OMG, for those who don't know: Matt posted this video 10 years ago. Then, Michael responded to it with his coming out story. They're now married. I think there's something profoundly beautiful in two people coming together through vulnerability like this.
I’m so proud of you and your bravery. I went through the same thing almost 40 years ago. I was never suicidal but didn’t know how to figure out my sexuality. I was in denial for so long. I wanted the picket fence with a wife and kids but that just wasn’t who I was. It took a long time but I am who I am with just about anyone. I’m a psych nurse and sometimes just go along with it when patients ask what my wife does and how many kids we have. When I was growing up I didn’t know that gay existed. I just knew I was different and instinctively knew that I shouldn’t talk about it. It is so much more accepting for kids today. They have the internet…for better or for worse…and have resources. My life would be a lot different if I grew up in this world. I wouldn’t have lost my virginity at 27 lol. You are a great person for wanting to be a resource for people today. I see a lot of broken people in my work and they would benefit with someone like you in their lives.
I felt exactly as you did! Today I have zero support from my family, they do not even speak to me. I feel terribly! I totally understand you. I wish we could speak and share stories and just vent, 😢! You are lucky to have great parents
Everybody's coming out story is different and a lot of us, like you, have a hard time, in part because of societal expectations. It's ludicrous that people place so much emphasis on one's sexuality, even though homosexuality has been with mankind ever since we existed. It's a natural part of who we are, contrary to what evangelical Christians will tell us. I finally came out in the 1980s, after more than 10 years of hating myself for it. Now, at 62, I'm proud of who I am and proud of my more than 20 years relationship with my partner. I'm glad that your parents were there to support you. My parents died when I was 17, before I was able to tell them, but, I was disowned by my wider family for a long time when I did come out. Now, I'm strong enough to not care what they say, so they are mostly ignored. Continue to love yourself, love your man and love your family.
(IF) Only my Time Machine wasn't on the fritz. I would go back in time & wrap my arms around you... Matt; I've been 'OUT' for over 50 Years. Good to see this video pop up in my feed.
By coming out, it encourages others to come out. Thank You for putting out your story. If it helps just One person, then to have been a help in this world.
What a great gift this video is for those struggling with self-acceptance! You are saving lives and giving hope and what more could anyone want? Thank you for your honesty and courage. So much good will come from this!
G'day it's Steven from Down Under I'm not sure how I stumbled across your video today but I'm glad I did. As a father and uncle I love our kids no matter what they are. I think you're a brave young man and I wish you well. Stay strong and help others that need your guidance. All the best to you son.
I'm truly impressed. You seem to have given this amazing speedy in a single take out anyway I couldn't spot interruptions. Not even a consumed lawyer like me can do so!
Wow. I’m so glad your parents were so kind and did what parents should do. I’m 55yo and gay. I’ve had a partner for 23 years. You are strong. You are loved and you are so brave and special for being so open about your life. By making a video like this you will save lives and you will help countless others. I’m just a guy on the other side of the world who you’ll never know know or meet but I just want you to know that to is video is so special. Thank you for being so open and so willing to help others. Craig - Australia
A beautiful and important video that should be shown in every social studies high school class in the nation. Your message is right on the button. You are a totally worthwhile person who deserves absolute happiness. Also, you are very attractive!!!! Jim in Thailand.
Amen! Perhaps the best message I've ever ♥ heard delivered from the heart and soul. Like so many who've commented, I'm old and can absolutely relate to your story. You and young people of your generation please keep advocating for understanding and kindness. Diversity should be supported and celebrated, not stigmatized and persecuted. Like a little plaque I saw years ago said, "I know I'm someone special, 'cause God don't make any junk!"
Tnx for reply. The Canal Pride was so impressive. More than 60 boats. Also a nice slogan this Year. # You Are Included. Have you ever been to gaypride in Amsterdam. In case you have not you should go. On you tube there will be a report so you can see for yourself. Btw where do you life. I see that you have a boyfriend that is chil and a cat. In case you want I can tell something more about myself and my boyfriend. Have a nice gay day 😊🐱
You will discover that you have experience that helps you to be strong, gives you the power to help others, and of course, gives you the capacity to be a fulfilled, happy human being. You don't need my support man, you are sufficient unto yourself!
I am so pleased for you that you were able to do this. I have only been out of the closet myself for the past five years. The difference for me is that I am 63 years old, and I have lived with this all my life because when I was young, this was just not doable. Coming out of the closet in those days would have had catastrophic effects on my life. Since I told the truth and came clean about my sexuality, I have had immense support both from my family (some of whom were already in on my secret) and more meaningful for me, every single one of my old school friends. They have been amazing and out supported everything I do. Just over a week ago many of them joined me on my first ever pride March. Things have so moved on from where I was at your age and I must admit that I am a little jealous that I could not have had that, but I am also eternally grateful that your generation are so much freer than my generation were. The struggle has been long and hard, but it has also been worth it just to see young people like you being able to have a life as a free and open individual.
wow... so well said... one of the best coming out videos I have ever seen... I went through the same when I was your age... and I'm 62 now... Thank you
I’m wondering why in 2023 anyone needs to feel this way. But it is what it is. I can connect with this video. Which me makes me even more frustrated with why our younger generation need to go through this ordeal. Should we in 2023 not be free to decide who we want to be? All I’ve got to say is Don’t waste your fking time on what everyone needs to say. Get up and out. Stand up tor you believe in. Stand up for what you want. You might hold back now as you feel you’ll be able to still live a status quo life. But you need eventually need to make a decision. Get out there and work on how you can make you life better.
It took GREAT COURAGE to make and post this video, THANK YOU. THANK GOD you didn't end your life. The world is a much better place for YOU being in it. YOU are good and valid person I hope you meet some one to LOVE and who will LOVE YOU for who you are. Take care and have a long and happy life. 💘💘💘💘💘💘
It's ok buddy. I went through the same situation like u did. Just remember God loves u and he doesn't make mistakes. He made u fir a reason because he has a special plan for u. Don't ever give up! We need u and God needs u! We all love u!!
I’m a bit older but wanted to say WELCOME TO THE FAMILY!! Great parents 🫶.. as we grow older and start to believe in ourselves or just get to a place where one just doesn’t care anymore life goes on .. thank you for sharing your story ❤❤❤❤❤
You are a truly awesome human being that deserves tremendous respect. Anyone with an ounce of intellectual moral honesty should be proud to call you their friend and consider themselves fortunate to have you in their life. I look forward to seeing more of your videos.
I thought that we had moved past this point, but alas, not. You are good, you are you. There is no one that judge you. Yet, we let everyone judge us. I feel your frustration. We were there too. It does get better. Believe in yourself.
Excellent use of words. I believe the best part of all of your words is "you're born gay". It is not a choice. I am so proud you chose to stay with the world. I am a retired middle school teacher who knew students who knew they were gay but closeted, students who were out and proud but mostly to kids trying to figure it out. I ate lunch in my classroom and as the school year progressed I found I had a "lunch bunch" eating their meals in my room with me, either from home or purchased in the cafeteria. One group of a specific year were proud to call themselves The Outcasts. About ten boys and girls and not all were there for being gay. Lunch became an open safe place. I am so proud you are here. I am so proud you love yourself. I am so proud you want to help. God Loves ALL of us though some say otherwise. I am in my mid sixties bit admire what you have already done and well as what you want to do. God Bless YOU, your family, your partner.👍🤟🥰👏
I also had a lunch bunch in my classroom, when I was a high school teacher, that became so popular that it became nearly unmanageable. I was a piranha with the other bigoted faculty who labeled me as a "fag lover". I told them to eat shit and ignored them. I know that the sessions were useful by the years later thank yous from some of the participants.
You are a beautiful, normal person who happens to be gay. You are worthy of all life has to give. You are fortunate to have loving supportive parents. All LGBTQ+ people are God’s children. Good lives all of you. God is Love. Not hate. Don’t let anyone convinced you otherwise. Thanks for sharing your story.
. . NOBODY CARES! That you are GAY! Good grief. What a self-absorbed narcissistic teenager…..typical. Quit acting as if coming out as gay is a big deal! It’s not…anymore! Ok? So…get over your IMMATURE self…..AND GROW UP! . .
Thank you so much for sharing your story. I felt like so many times you were speaking the words that my younger self so despirately wanted to say. Our experienced might have been separated by 20 years, but this touched me in a way no other youtube video has ever touched me. You're a beautiful person, Matt. And you deserve to be loved and accepted for exactly who you are.
You are a wonderful special person because God doesn't make mistakes, your honesty and love will save so many from the dark places we have experienced. Enjoy life to the full my Bro✌🏳️🌈🇬🇧 m
Congratulations on your positive growth! It sounds like you have some wonderful parents and it’s clear they have a very special son who is packed full of love. Please know you have a LGBTQ+ family of choice all around this world that love and support you. It fantastic that you have decided to make yourself available to other young people who may be experiencing the very same issues you have worked through. You are a valuable and important person. 🌹
Very brave and beautiful person and soul. I wish you the best in life. So proud of your bravery . I am here for you in support and as a friend and a part of the lgbt community
I'm so glad you found supportive people to help you through the ruff times. You are a beautiful person inside and out. I'm an older gay guy and how difficult it was being different from everyone else. Stay strong and I hope you find love and supportive relationship. I will follow your channel and look forward to seeing you happy from this day forward.
This had me in tears! You are an amazing person never ever ever ever stop being that amazing person! I for one am glad your parents saved you! You deserve to be here and to be a Happy Gay Man! 😀😀😀😀
wow , just wanna say im soo happy you are here with us today , you are very nice and wonderful . im an older guy im gay and i was very lucky too have a mother always there even when i came out she said she knew and loved me . that being said i hear soo many stories like yours its sad parents cant just love there child or freinds cant just accept your gay. i went through alot but i know you are happy and looks like in a relationship im guessing . mabey helping others like this is your calling . but good for you glad your here and hugs best of luck my freind
Much love to you man! Im 25 and just came out to my parents. All the things you talked about struggling with I went through too. Growing up in the south really made it hard trying to accept being gay. But slowly things are improving. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
Relating a story requires reliving the context around the story and the environment of the moment. I could see that in your excellent, kind, empathetic, and RAW video. Reliving the self-hatred. I know precisely how you felt. I once had a rifle barrel in my mouth- and was slowly squeezing the trigger - until I stopped. Not learning to think about not having a tomorrow, I rethought my disastrous decision to kill myself. I was twenty-two years old. I treasure the intervening forty-seven years, having lived those years as positively as I could. I met the man who would become my husband thirty-two years ago, in 1991. I don't deserve him, but I'm not giving him back! My family loves him - sometimes I think more than they do me. He's smarter, funnier, and more empathetic than I. Deciding to NOT put a hollow-point slug through my brain was the best decision of my life. No friend rejected me when I came out - in 1990. I hope you received love and affirmation from your family and friends when you came out. You seem like you would have been a good friend of mine; I hope your family believed you are the same loving man you were before you came out to them. And I hope your future encompasses your dreams and you can fulfill them. Best wishes to you - and thank you for sharing your story with us.
I am so sorry that you had to go through so much pain before you arrived to where you are today! I applaud your bravery. And thank you for sharing your struggle ❤️🫶🏼 I really appreciate you watching my coming out story and reflecting on. I feel seen!
One day, a couple of years ago, one of my children told me and my wife he had something important to tell us. We used to be evangelicals; I was an evangelical pastor. When my son came out to us, I had long left the church. Glad I did it. I saw my son’s pain when coming out. We embraced him and I said that what is important is love others as you want to be loved, do good, be far, and fight for those who have no voice. Jesus said in heaven we will not have gender, so if for Jesus gender is not transcendent, what is going to be important for us.
Such a moving video. You're a great guy and it's fortunate that you're now happy and have found yourself. Best wishes and may you leave the negative thoughts behind you forever.❤
This was beautiful and raw. You are so powerful and will help so many/have helped so many with these words. We are not a mistake; we make the world a brighter, more colorful place. Thank you for sharing your story.
Lots of thanks for sharing. :) Life is great after acceptance of who you truly are. Or, more truly, life becomes how it should be. With all the issues we all face, despite our sexuality, religion or other backgrounds, All the best xxx
Very interesting Mike. Re-posting your coming out story is a great idea that I wish many others would do. Constantly, UA-cam are suggesting coming out videos from 10 years ago. And I’m often asking myself that I wish I knew how they are currently. I know where you are, married to Matt and preparing to grow your family with children. It’s wonderful and I’m wishing you both the success of children while on this journey to make it happen. I’m still watching and send you both much love. Three hearts, one for each of you > ❤❤❤ ;)
Thank you so much Calvin. I really wanted to re-share this video as it’s how our relationship began (Michael and I), so I think it’s been quite cathartic to see it again 10 years later
i totally agree with you about re posting of 'coming out" storys and catching up with people who only posted the one video. i've often come across old coming out stories and attempted to google the person 5 or 10 years after the origional and found nothing or found a dozen unrelateed people with the same name.
First, that was a great video. I just wanted to hug you. I am really proud of you and your journey. You don't know how many young boys you are helping...drawing back from that cliff of self-destruction. You seem beautiful to me--inside and out. Embrace your sexual truth and contribute. Love is such a power. Use your powers for good. Finish college, find your love and maybe you can be a loving father to your boy in the future. Good on you, kid.
I'm so sorry that you went through all of that. I figured out that a God of love couldn't have made me gay,as punishment. Glad you seem to be happy. Hugs to your parents!
Loved your story. That is exactly correct to accept being gay is a wonderful thing to embrace. It makes you special since you are not part of the majority and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it or yourself. You explained everything very well. You are doing good in the world for expressing your true feelings and making this video for others who are depressed about their situation.
I just found your video, and I HAVE to tell you that you made me so happy and proud.I'm a 69 year old Bi/gay guy. I came up in the 1970,s. I get how you were feeling. Now that you've come out life will get better and better for you. If you ever need to talk, I'm right here. Cheers
Matt, thank you so much for your story. I am an 83 year old gay man. I did not come out to anyone except a very few close friends until I was 60 years old. Shortly after I came out my friend took me to Provincetown on Cape Cod a very gay friendly town. We were walking down Market Street in the morning holding hands and this most wonderful feeling came over me that I will never forget. I CAN BE ME! I don't have to hide any more or feel ashamed. I wish your video could be seen by all young people (and their parents). I feel so badly for the young gay person who doesn't have understanding parents and friends.
I feel for you. I was openly gay as a elementary school student in the 1980's, during the heights of the AIDS crisis, when primarily gay men were dying. The bullying and discrimination from teachers and my community was intense, and continues today. But, as a little kid, I knew they were full of s***, and that has always helped me cope. Keep the great videos coming!
You can say it here. The teachers were full of shit.
We have come a long way since my teen struggles in the late 1960's. I don't usually watch coming out videos, but I watched this one. My husband and I have been together for 30 years. We are radicals because we lived our life as no different than anyone else. Accepting oneself is the first step to loving yourself.
We are born gay and you can not pray the gay away. I am sooo... happy that you didn't take your life. I am glad you are in a good place now on the road to self love!
Can’t believe we still need videos like yours in 2023. can’t believe you in todays times had to how up feeling unacceptable. Feeling ashamed and insecure. Your feelings should be just accepted as part of the spectrum of human life. Life in general actually. With about 20 years of more life experience let me say: chances your life will be good and happy did just increase with you standing to yourself. I wish you all the best you deserve happiness and love.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are a beautiful person, Matt; never doubt that.
I’m 76; grew up in a time when gay was defined as lighthearted and cheerful. Homosexuality was sinful, and as a Christian I felt that I would be condemned to hell for all eternity. It took me a very long time to come to grips with my homosexuality. But there was always something deep inside of me that gave me hope. It’s over twenty-five years ago now that I wrote this poem. I hope that it will help others who are struggling, for the inner voice that spoke to me is the same gentle voice that speaks to each of us, if only we listen. It is Love; and it simply desires to set us free.
Peace,
Richard
I Have Already Set You Free
When I was born so long ago
I did not know what life would be.
And as I grew my world grew too
So many people here with me.
But I was different, so I thought
No one to tell what I did feel.
Though close at hand, a world away
My hopes and dreams were far from real.
I did not understand my life
Or why I had to live with fear.
It wasn’t ‘til much later yet
I realized that I was queer.
A prisoner within my mind
No one to tell my troubles to.
No one but God, within my heart
Did tell me then what I must do.
“Be still, my son, for all is well
Your life is what it’s meant to be.
The babe you were, the man you are
Was destined from eternity.
“Do not regret what you’ve become
I love you now in every way.
Receive my love, then pass it on
It matters not that you are gay.
“My gift of life has honored you
And what I ask is that you be
A caring, giving, loving man
I have already set you free.”
Made me cry 10 years ago and made me cry again today. Wishing you all the best.
❤️ feeling this just as much today as yesterday. It’s been a crazy ride
Your life sounds a lot like mine was. I prayed many times a day but it didn’t change anything so I’m glad I am a gay man and have had a great life you will to sweetie ❤️
Cool Video. I am coming up on my 15th year anniversary of coming out at 52. I grew up in Church Culture; 20 years Catholic, 35 years Evangelical. I was very into all things Christian; I even went to the Mission Field twice. I joined the Gay Christian Network. Things were good. Then something happened. I had a shift in my thinking. I de-converted. I went back into the closet as an atheist. Coming out as atheist seems more frightening than coming out as gay.
Congratulations on learning to love and accept yourself! It's SO easy for me to say how coming out in recent years is so much easier than it was 33 years ago when I started coming out, but the fact is even now it is a massive deal for some of us. One thing you said that made me smirk... "It's a huge part of who I am" One thing I've found is the longer I've been out the more I realize being gay is just a small part of what makes me who I am. Be careful of letting the gay tag define everything about yourself. I was like this for a while, denying interests that I was told didn't fit the community. Be yourself and don't limit interests and experiences in the name of being gay. I did this for a while and was TOTALLY miserable. I recently came out to anyone and everyone in my life which includes a very large antique car community, some snowmobiling friends and just varied acquaintances. I'm very proud of all of them for being supportive. There is no way this would have happened 30 years ago. Things are getting better! Good luck, life's journey is a blast and sometimes as scary as a roller coaster. My husband and I just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary... To this day I can't believe I can say that! Never thought it would become legal when I was young!!
I’m so sorry you had to go through this I’m straight but my family get mad at me because I believe being gay isn’t a sin love is love and nobody is mistake
I’m 68. I WISH I came out at your age. But it was a very different time back in the 70’s and not safe to come out. However I’m now happily married to a wonderful man I met about 20 years ago. We’ve been married for 8. Go out and have a great life my friend. Gay life can be great. Hugs.
Michael, it breaks my heart when I hear the mention of suicide as the remedy for solving the struggles of gay life. Thank God for your loving parents who had the foresight
to intervene in your struggles mentally and emotionally. I am from a different generation and was never exposed to ridicule or harassment either in school, college, or the
Navy that I was ever aware of. If people had thoughts or suspicions, they kept them to their selves. And, I took the position that what people thought and 'knew' were two
different things. People can think what they want, but only 'YOU' can let someone know who you are! Looking back over the years, I had as many if not more 'straight'
personal friends, and yes, family members who 'had my back', then gay friends. I am so glad that you have come to love yourself; that is paramount to accepting being
gay and moving on with your life! I'm convinced that you will have a good life Michael, and you deserve it! Best Wishes Always, friend, Bob
I prayed for five years to not be gay. God didn't answer my prayer's because I'm not broken and we are fearfully and wonderfully made. It has taken me a long time to get here but I am so thankful. Unfortunate many conservative Christians say I didn't pray hard enough or long enough. Some people we will never be able to convince. Thank you for sharing your story all those years ago when i was in the midst of working on myself and navigating my own issues with fully coming to terms of who i was.
This rough heavy metal guy supports you fully. Be yourself by all means and be happy and find a companion, because compaionship is what we need as living souls. Love ya, mate! ♥♥♥
Well said! Thank you ❤️
@@itsmichaelandmatt greetings from Italy I am Italian
Thinking of my own coming out, 43 years ago, your video makes me feel a bit sad, but the overpowering feeling is: PLEASE love yourself! Just like your parents love and support you! You're 'exposure' here deserves nothing but deep respect! And finally I feel glad to hear you say your own discovered conclusion. Because that's simply the truth.
LOTS of LOVE, that's what I wish you with all my heart! ❤
Beeinig an old guy and prussian aristocrat, it has been not any easy way. It took me oer twenty years to live who i am. You made the right decision. Take all the love, the rights, and please, never give them up. We fought for all this such an long time. God bless you and your man, he may close his fist around You to protect, but never to tight.
I have never seen your videos before, but you popped up on my suggestion and I watched. I am so proud that you have reach a point in your life that took me 40 years to do. You brought a now 54 yo man to tears. please continue to do you. and know that you are not alone.
Took a lot of guts to make this video and from a 83 yr. old gay man I really applaud you for this.
Many will say it is so much easier today than it was previously. Maybe acceptance is better but having to face the fact that you are not what 90% of the population considers normal still has not changed. Until the day comes that parents/grandparents and all others quit joking with their kids about boys having girlfriends etc. that fear of being accepted is still going to be there.
So thank you for sharing.
You are a rescource and a sweet soul and a handsome! Your message found its way through to an 83 year old and her son. Please live and live and live as life should live! ♥♥♥ ♥♥♥ ♥♥♥
Nothing to be ashamed of, it’s perfectly normal
Easy to think how much better it is now than twenty years ago (when I came out) AND then it was easy to say it was easier than 20 years before when I was too scared to come out...reality is, coming out is always frightening, liberating, and takes courage! I am proud of you.
Thank you!! It’s amazing how much better it is now than just a short while ago. I know that’s not the case many places around the world. I hope my story resonates with someone ❤️
@@ajitadonismanilal9105 I am so sorry--the trauma you experiencced will live with you for a long time...at 58, I am still not fully aware of how much damage was done from the fear of coming out. But you keep working at it and IT DOES GET BETTER!!!
@@itsmichaelandmatt you are good to share your story and we are all bound together in a brotherhood forged from the experience of coming out as gay men. We need to hear each others' stories so we can remember we are not alone.
@@ajitadonismanilal9105 I ate away my anxiety too and carry an extra 150 lbs. I get it. I really do. I still have anxiety when I have to "out" myself. I teach at a university and I always slide in that I am gay just because I don't want to build relationships and then be "discovered." I get nervous every time--and nothing has ever gone awry in my life when I came out. It still makes me jittery.
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Major love to you my friend. People don't understand the struggle is REAL. I lost my 2 best friends a short time apart to their demons, part of which I suspect are the same ones you've overcome. We need allot less hatred & more understanding in this world.
"There are people there who love you and that want the best for you, and I know it's so hard to see right now, but, God, there is light on the other side of the corner and you just gotta keep going."
OMG, for those who don't know: Matt posted this video 10 years ago. Then, Michael responded to it with his coming out story. They're now married. I think there's something profoundly beautiful in two people coming together through vulnerability like this.
I’m so proud of you and your bravery. I went through the same thing almost 40 years ago. I was never suicidal but didn’t know how to figure out my sexuality. I was in denial for so long. I wanted the picket fence with a wife and kids but that just wasn’t who I was. It took a long time but I am who I am with just about anyone. I’m a psych nurse and sometimes just go along with it when patients ask what my wife does and how many kids we have. When I was growing up I didn’t know that gay existed. I just knew I was different and instinctively knew that I shouldn’t talk about it. It is so much more accepting for kids today. They have the internet…for better or for worse…and have resources. My life would be a lot different if I grew up in this world. I wouldn’t have lost my virginity at 27 lol. You are a great person for wanting to be a resource for people today. I see a lot of broken people in my work and they would benefit with someone like you in their lives.
I felt exactly as you did! Today I have zero support from my family, they do not even speak to me. I feel terribly! I totally understand you. I wish we could speak and share stories and just vent, 😢! You are lucky to have great parents
Everybody's coming out story is different and a lot of us, like you, have a hard time, in part because of societal expectations. It's ludicrous that people place so much emphasis on one's sexuality, even though homosexuality has been with mankind ever since we existed. It's a natural part of who we are, contrary to what evangelical Christians will tell us. I finally came out in the 1980s, after more than 10 years of hating myself for it. Now, at 62, I'm proud of who I am and proud of my more than 20 years relationship with my partner. I'm glad that your parents were there to support you. My parents died when I was 17, before I was able to tell them, but, I was disowned by my wider family for a long time when I did come out. Now, I'm strong enough to not care what they say, so they are mostly ignored. Continue to love yourself, love your man and love your family.
(IF) Only my Time Machine wasn't on the fritz. I would go back in time & wrap my arms around you... Matt; I've been 'OUT' for over 50 Years. Good to see this video pop up in my feed.
By coming out, it encourages others to come out.
Thank You for putting out your story. If it helps just
One person, then to have been a help in this world.
Thank you ❤️
What a great gift this video is for those struggling with self-acceptance! You are saving lives and giving hope and what more could anyone want? Thank you for your honesty and courage. So much good will come from this!
G'day it's Steven from Down Under
I'm not sure how I stumbled across your video today but I'm glad I did.
As a father and uncle I love our kids no matter what they are.
I think you're a brave young man and I wish you well.
Stay strong and help others that need your guidance.
All the best to you son.
Dude, you are an absolutely amazing person. If anyone says differently you don’t need them in your life.
I'm truly impressed. You seem to have given this amazing speedy in a single take out anyway I couldn't spot interruptions. Not even a consumed lawyer like me can do so!
Wow. I’m so glad your parents were so kind and did what parents should do. I’m 55yo and gay. I’ve had a partner for 23 years. You are strong. You are loved and you are so brave and special for being so open about your life. By making a video like this you will save lives and you will help countless others. I’m just a guy on the other side of the world who you’ll never know know or meet but I just want you to know that to is video is so special. Thank you for being so open and so willing to help others. Craig - Australia
A beautiful and important video that should be shown in every social studies high school class in the nation. Your message is right on the button. You are a totally worthwhile person who deserves absolute happiness. Also, you are very attractive!!!! Jim in Thailand.
My dear boy, you are NORMAL‼️
i’ve tried 3 times to end it all. Don't let the negativity win.
Amen! Perhaps the best message I've ever ♥ heard delivered from the heart and soul. Like so many who've commented, I'm old and can absolutely relate to your story. You and young people of your generation please keep advocating for understanding and kindness. Diversity should be supported and celebrated, not stigmatized and persecuted. Like a little plaque I saw years ago said, "I know I'm someone special, 'cause God don't make any junk!"
As a follow up to my first reaction. You are not alone. I or We here are always ready to listen... Welcome to the gayclub. Let us stay in touch ❤👍😃
I’m so happy you are here!
Tnx for reply. The Canal Pride was so impressive. More than 60 boats. Also a nice slogan this Year. # You Are Included. Have you ever been to gaypride in Amsterdam. In case you have not you should go. On you tube there will be a report so you can see for yourself. Btw where do you life. I see that you have a boyfriend that is chil and a cat. In case you want I can tell something more about myself and my boyfriend. Have a nice gay day 😊🐱
You will discover that you have experience that helps you to be strong, gives you the power to help others, and of course, gives you the capacity to be a fulfilled, happy human being. You don't need my support man, you are sufficient unto yourself!
Glad you developed the courage to come out x
Proud of you young man!
Fine coming-out video, thoughtful and direct. You're very articulate, clearly explaining your feelings and your story. Well done!
Thank you for still being in this world.
I am so pleased for you that you were able to do this. I have only been out of the closet myself for the past five years. The difference for me is that I am 63 years old, and I have lived with this all my life because when I was young, this was just not doable. Coming out of the closet in those days would have had catastrophic effects on my life. Since I told the truth and came clean about my sexuality, I have had immense support both from my family (some of whom were already in on my secret) and more meaningful for me, every single one of my old school friends. They have been amazing and out supported everything I do. Just over a week ago many of them joined me on my first ever pride March. Things have so moved on from where I was at your age and I must admit that I am a little jealous that I could not have had that, but I am also eternally grateful that your generation are so much freer than my generation were. The struggle has been long and hard, but it has also been worth it just to see young people like you being able to have a life as a free and open individual.
bro you look like every grindr pfp I ever saw
wow... so well said... one of the best coming out videos I have ever seen... I went through the same when I was your age... and I'm 62 now... Thank you
I’m wondering why in 2023 anyone needs to feel this way. But it is what it is.
I can connect with this video.
Which me makes me even more frustrated with why our younger generation need to go through this ordeal. Should we in 2023 not be free to decide who we want to be?
All I’ve got to say is
Don’t waste your fking time on what everyone needs to say.
Get up and out.
Stand up tor you believe in.
Stand up for what you want.
You might hold back now as you feel you’ll be able to still live a status quo life. But you need eventually need to make a decision.
Get out there and work on how you can make you life better.
Wow ….you just took the first step now enjoy each day you have till it’s over be proud be careful be yourself …..
YOU ARE NOT ALONE 😱😱
It took GREAT COURAGE to make and post this video, THANK YOU. THANK GOD you didn't end your life. The world is a much better place for YOU being in it.
YOU are good and valid person I hope you meet some one to LOVE and who will LOVE YOU for who you are. Take care and have a long and happy life. 💘💘💘💘💘💘
It's ok buddy. I went through the same situation like u did. Just remember God loves u and he doesn't make mistakes. He made u fir a reason because he has a special plan for u. Don't ever give up! We need u and God needs u! We all love u!!
You are not a mistake. Do your best to stay healthy. Very smart young man.
I’m a bit older but wanted to say WELCOME TO THE FAMILY!! Great parents 🫶.. as we grow older and start to believe in ourselves or just get to a place where one just doesn’t care anymore life goes on .. thank you for sharing your story ❤❤❤❤❤
So proud of you! I wish I had your strength when I was your age. We are not mistakes. ❤
You are a truly awesome human being that deserves tremendous respect. Anyone with an ounce of intellectual moral honesty should be proud to call you their friend and consider themselves fortunate to have you in their life. I look forward to seeing more of your videos.
And I just wanted to watch people popping pimples! You’re awesome!!
I thought that we had moved past this point, but alas, not. You are good, you are you. There is no one that judge you. Yet, we let everyone judge us. I feel your frustration. We were there too. It does get better. Believe in yourself.
Excellent use of words. I believe the best part of all of your words is "you're born gay". It is not a choice. I am so proud you chose to stay with the world. I am a retired middle school teacher who knew students who knew they were gay but closeted, students who were out and proud but mostly to kids trying to figure it out. I ate lunch in my classroom and as the school year progressed I found I had a "lunch bunch" eating their meals in my room with me, either from home or purchased in the cafeteria. One group of a specific year were proud to call themselves The Outcasts. About ten boys and girls and not all were there for being gay. Lunch became an open safe place. I am so proud you are here. I am so proud you love yourself. I am so proud you want to help. God Loves ALL of us though some say otherwise. I am in my mid sixties bit admire what you have already done and well as what you want to do. God Bless YOU, your family, your partner.👍🤟🥰👏
I also had a lunch bunch in my classroom, when I was a high school teacher, that became so popular that it became nearly unmanageable. I was a piranha with the other bigoted faculty who labeled me as a "fag lover". I told them to eat shit and ignored them. I know that the sessions were useful by the years later thank yous from some of the participants.
I LOVE YOU !
You are a beautiful, normal person who happens to be gay. You are worthy of all life has to give. You are fortunate to have loving supportive parents. All LGBTQ+ people are God’s children. Good lives all of you. God is Love. Not hate. Don’t let anyone convinced you otherwise. Thanks for sharing your story.
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NOBODY CARES! That you are GAY! Good grief. What a self-absorbed narcissistic teenager…..typical. Quit acting as if coming out as gay is a big deal! It’s not…anymore! Ok? So…get over your IMMATURE self…..AND GROW UP!
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Thank you so much for sharing your story. I felt like so many times you were speaking the words that my younger self so despirately wanted to say. Our experienced might have been separated by 20 years, but this touched me in a way no other youtube video has ever touched me. You're a beautiful person, Matt. And you deserve to be loved and accepted for exactly who you are.
You are a wonderful special person because God doesn't make mistakes, your honesty and love will save so many from the dark places we have experienced. Enjoy life to the full my Bro✌🏳️🌈🇬🇧
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Thank you for sharing your story. Hooray for you! And for everyone who needs to hear what you are saying.
you are important just embrace you , love you
Proud of you, man!
❤ be proud u are free❤
Congratulations, bud. Welcome to the rest of your life.
Congratulations on your positive growth! It sounds like you have some wonderful parents and it’s clear they have a very special son who is packed full of love. Please know you have a LGBTQ+ family of choice all around this world that love and support you. It fantastic that you have decided to make yourself available to other young people who may be experiencing the very same issues you have worked through. You are a valuable and important person. 🌹
Very brave and beautiful person and soul. I wish you the best in life. So proud of your bravery . I am here for you in support and as a friend and a part of the lgbt community
I'm so glad you found supportive people to help you through the ruff times. You are a beautiful person inside and out. I'm an older gay guy and how difficult it was being different from everyone else. Stay strong and I hope you find love and supportive relationship. I will follow your channel and look forward to seeing you happy from this day forward.
Just be what you wanna be! I'm gay, too. Kind regards from Germany!
This had me in tears! You are an amazing person never ever ever ever stop being that amazing person! I for one am glad your parents saved you! You deserve to be here and to be a Happy Gay Man! 😀😀😀😀
You are Beautiful how you are.Enjoy Live now.
Hope you will stay Strong.❤
wow , just wanna say im soo happy you are here with us today , you are very nice and wonderful . im an older guy im gay and i was very lucky too have a mother always there even when i came out she said she knew and loved me . that being said i hear soo many stories like yours its sad parents cant just love there child or freinds cant just accept your gay. i went through alot but i know you are happy and looks like in a relationship im guessing . mabey helping others like this is your calling . but good for you glad your here and hugs best of luck my freind
What a relief ay? Bless you little brother.
Much love to you man! Im 25 and just came out to my parents. All the things you talked about struggling with I went through too. Growing up in the south really made it hard trying to accept being gay. But slowly things are improving. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
Your awesome,live your life,to hell with the haters!!
Thank you for having the courage to share this ❤
you are a superhero for sharing. glad your parents were there for you. Sorry you had to struggle for so long. much love to you
🎉🎉enjoy life God dos love you, Love is Love ❤️ thank you for coming out today.
I'm very glad you are feeling better and good about you ❤
Relating a story requires reliving the context around the story and the environment of the moment. I could see that in your excellent, kind, empathetic, and RAW video. Reliving the self-hatred. I know precisely how you felt. I once had a rifle barrel in my mouth- and was slowly squeezing the trigger - until I stopped. Not learning to think about not having a tomorrow, I rethought my disastrous decision to kill myself. I was twenty-two years old. I treasure the intervening forty-seven years, having lived those years as positively as I could. I met the man who would become my husband thirty-two years ago, in 1991. I don't deserve him, but I'm not giving him back! My family loves him - sometimes I think more than they do me. He's smarter, funnier, and more empathetic than I. Deciding to NOT put a hollow-point slug through my brain was the best decision of my life. No friend rejected me when I came out - in 1990.
I hope you received love and affirmation from your family and friends when you came out. You seem like you would have been a good friend of mine; I hope your family believed you are the same loving man you were before you came out to them. And I hope your future encompasses your dreams and you can fulfill them. Best wishes to you - and thank you for sharing your story with us.
I am so sorry that you had to go through so much pain before you arrived to where you are today! I applaud your bravery. And thank you for sharing your struggle ❤️🫶🏼 I really appreciate you watching my coming out story and reflecting on. I feel seen!
Warm hugs!💞
One day, a couple of years ago, one of my children told me and my wife he had something important to tell us. We used to be evangelicals; I was an evangelical pastor. When my son came out to us, I had long left the church. Glad I did it. I saw my son’s pain when coming out. We embraced him and I said that what is important is love others as you want to be loved, do good, be far, and fight for those who have no voice. Jesus said in heaven we will not have gender, so if for Jesus gender is not transcendent, what is going to be important for us.
Such a moving video. You're a great guy and it's fortunate that you're now happy and have found yourself. Best wishes and may you leave the negative thoughts behind you forever.❤
What a wonderful message to young people nice job and thank you for being so open. I’ve been in your shoes.❤
A lot of courage and honesty ❤❤❤ enjoy your life proudly.
This was beautiful and raw. You are so powerful and will help so many/have helped so many with these words. We are not a mistake; we make the world a brighter, more colorful place. Thank you for sharing your story.
Thank you for listening. I’ve been learning a ton as I’ve lived my life more openly. Grateful to be here
Being your true self is the greatest thing in life ❤❤❤
Lots of thanks for sharing. :) Life is great after acceptance of who you truly are. Or, more truly, life becomes how it should be. With all the issues we all face, despite our sexuality, religion or other backgrounds, All the best xxx
Very interesting Mike. Re-posting your coming out story is a great idea that I wish many others would do. Constantly, UA-cam are suggesting coming out videos from 10 years ago. And I’m often asking myself that I wish I knew how they are currently. I know where you are, married to Matt and preparing to grow your family with children. It’s wonderful and I’m wishing you both the success of children while on this journey to make it happen. I’m still watching and send you both much love. Three hearts, one for each of you > ❤❤❤ ;)
Thank you so much Calvin. I really wanted to re-share this video as it’s how our relationship began (Michael and I), so I think it’s been quite cathartic to see it again 10 years later
i totally agree with you about re posting of 'coming out" storys and catching up with people who only posted the one video. i've often come across old coming out stories and attempted to google the person 5 or 10 years after the origional and found nothing or found a dozen unrelateed people with the same name.
❤ stay strong people
First, that was a great video. I just wanted to hug you. I am really proud of you and your journey. You don't know how many young boys you are helping...drawing back from that cliff of self-destruction. You seem beautiful to me--inside and out. Embrace your sexual truth and contribute. Love is such a power. Use your powers for good. Finish college, find your love and maybe you can be a loving father to your boy in the future. Good on you, kid.
Good on you for having the courage in being authentic and owning yourself. ❤
It's amazing how many of our stories are so similar. I've recently gotten there myself. But it's been hard! Thanks for sharing your story.
I'm so sorry that you went through all of that. I figured out that a God of love couldn't have made me gay,as punishment. Glad you seem to be happy. Hugs to your parents!
Awesome my guy! Sendin u crazy love from Palm Beach FL 😎
Much love and respect. Ive been thru a similar journey. You are a miracle!
Loved your story. That is exactly correct to accept being gay is a wonderful thing to embrace. It makes you special since you are not part of the majority and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it or yourself. You explained everything very well. You are doing good in the world for expressing your true feelings and making this video for others who are depressed about their situation.
Thank you so much 🫶🏼 really means a lot to hear!
Good for you, create the world of friends you deserve. Thank you you your parents ❤🙏
You are brave and finally on the road to self respect and happiness.
Powerful video. Thank you. Post more.