Your Fear of Being Seen Trying Is Probably Making You Self-Sabotage

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  • Опубліковано 4 січ 2025

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  • @frutke
    @frutke 2 місяці тому +33

    "how disrespectful to you, to your inner child, to not get something you want because you're embarrassed or you think it's embarrassing to be seen trying".
    You said it all.

    • @RevelwithaCause
      @RevelwithaCause 2 місяці тому

      Nailed it! I am 50 and Realizing this NOW before it gets too late. I had 7 kids and now that youngest is in 2nd grade, get lots of ME time. Enjoying it!!

  • @DanielDogeanu
    @DanielDogeanu 2 місяці тому +8

    I don't have a problem with trying and failing, because I know that's the key to success. But the way other people perceive it, pisses me off badly! They behave like they already know everything, and make me feel stupid for not being there already.
    I once told a guy that I'm preparing for a programming interview and I have to learn really hard in order to get the job, and he was like: "But don't you already know?". I was totally shocked by what he told me! I was doing programming for 10 years before that point, of course I knew what the hell I was doing, but that doesn't mean that I didn't have to prepare for the interview. I tried to explain to him that programming interviews are absolutely brutal, and that I needed to rehearse the stuff I'm going to say ahead of time, but he made me feel like it was my personal failing for having to prepare for the interview. We are absolutely not friends today!

    • @kat.eleftheriou
      @kat.eleftheriou  2 місяці тому +5

      That's relatable! It helps to think of it being an inability to understand the nuance of your experience more so than it is a reflection of your worth or capability.

  • @TheMusicMakerLucas
    @TheMusicMakerLucas 2 місяці тому +3

    the sad part about having a big ego is never admiting that you are so good, or so bad, you did you best, or that was your worst. Its always the state of never getting there that keeps the game exciting for me, the whole trying thing for me as a person its always call for attention, until you feel that there's something that's actually yours. Set up a perfect action that doesn't come from a natural state of mind it always gets like "i am being controled" situation, the urge to be different and do things no one is doing just to remain singular to a essence that you want to achieve, but at the same time you will never, because doing would make you lose interest, or not... that's why it's called trying. Yeah, i rather try again, and again, than to admit that i got something i don't want. But i'm needy tho, you got me thinking.....

  • @jaketodd9232
    @jaketodd9232 2 місяці тому +8

    Great Vid! I'm slowly getting over the fear of being seen, in regards to making Tik Toks about my art, but comparison gets the best of sometime.

  • @Gealamusic
    @Gealamusic Місяць тому +1

    This video helped so much. I realised that I haven't been able to focus on studying for university because I'm afraid of seeming boring, too studious, nerdy when in fact, not only is there nothing wrong with being studious, not only can boring be a good thing, but also I actually want to be a nerd, I aspire to be a knowledgable and interested individual to the extent I can be. Because me studying might seem boring to others but it isn't to me.

  • @DominicHulsey
    @DominicHulsey 2 місяці тому +3

    Great message! The way you frame all of this really resonates with me. Thanks for posting.

  • @BuMohammed-q5v
    @BuMohammed-q5v Місяць тому

    Girl I come across your video and you’re amazing really amazing. And now I’ve to watch all of your videos ❤ keep it up

  • @yakorolevka3806
    @yakorolevka3806 2 місяці тому

    Thank you, what an insightful video

  • @underdogpsychosis2841
    @underdogpsychosis2841 2 місяці тому

    This resonated and helped a lot, thanks sister 🙌🏻

  • @the-comments-poet
    @the-comments-poet 2 місяці тому +1

    Destiny
    Where are we going? I should have asked. I did not
    Without thinking, without hesitation, I got in
    For I was not going anywhere, just coming from
    Choosing ferry over destiny
    Questions and decisions and doubts
    Mind untethered - Adrift
    You say you need a travel companion? I said
    I don’t have much to offer, but I have some talents
    Take me with you, I will share all
    Where are we going? I asked. There were no answer
    And the road laid ahead, unrelenting, unending
    Through barren lands and hollowed efforts
    In the desert, beauty is the enemy of the traveler,
    Do not wander for only purpose can keep you alive
    Spellbound, confined by the incessant rhythms,
    Obedient, I hang on. Where are we going?
    There. Always there
    Where hope is just around the bend
    There, just a little further
    Yesterday I died-
    Waiting
    So do not look for me there anymore
    For here is where I shall now be from

  • @mariedueck4992
    @mariedueck4992 2 місяці тому

    I ❤ your content!

  • @Bad_Object
    @Bad_Object 2 місяці тому

    Thank you!

  • @arunhussain2722
    @arunhussain2722 2 місяці тому

    Love this video. Thank you!

  • @saraf7224
    @saraf7224 2 місяці тому +1

    amazing video wow , i'll def be quoting youu

  • @happygucci5094
    @happygucci5094 2 місяці тому

    The opening alone 😮…
    I feel personally attacked in the best possible way.

  • @johndoe-rq1pu
    @johndoe-rq1pu 2 місяці тому

    There's no one within a 20 miles radius of me and I still suck at everything ^_^

  • @experiencelifelittleone
    @experiencelifelittleone 2 місяці тому

    Hello Kat.

  • @SilkyMilkyOriginal
    @SilkyMilkyOriginal 2 місяці тому

    10:22

  • @archaicminister2321
    @archaicminister2321 2 місяці тому

    What do you do when you have feelings for more than one person? Yeah. No easy answer there. I can try but don't want to try in front of my crush (that ironically hates me) so then my feelings are compromised. You ladies are all so lovable and men are lovable too because this would be a lonely planet without some support. They're all the sons of a women. The gals that I love. It's not so easy as a male. I don't want to leave and if I do leave I don't want to leave alone. You can do so mumbo jumbo and meaningful "I'll always be with you." It doesn't feel that way though when I'm jacking off. Don't mind my words. I'm trying to start my point of view at this point in time and maybe I'm way off. I love you all....probably to a fault as I'm forever alone. Speak to that dude please. We need help.

    • @archaicminister2321
      @archaicminister2321 2 місяці тому

      Couple typos but I've also been drinking. My meaning is probably lost because of it but whatever. Men are wired to fall in love. We put ourselves out there and it's for better or worse a competition for men and women. Why spend 10 minutes with you when I could spend 10 minutes with some other UA-cam guru? Nobody has patience. I've dated a gal for 8 years. I wish it were longer but whatever. I'm not scared of attempting to try. I ain't in high school. I'm trying to say you are all beautiful and I wish anyone of you would give me a second to explain. Not for sex. For love in all its form.

  • @dommccarthymusic
    @dommccarthymusic 2 місяці тому

    Thanks

  • @tobe_or_notbe
    @tobe_or_notbe 2 місяці тому

    I did. But now i accepted myself and ive started this little buisness on insta and tiktok..even though I post something that isnt perfect i srill post it. And u think that's healing my weird inclination towards being hidden

  • @carlmalone9694
    @carlmalone9694 2 місяці тому

    Hello Kat,
    I'd love to invite you on our PODCAST as a valuable Guest please. I think you have some extremely valuable insights and our viewers would love to understand some of your positive concepts better :)
    Looking forward to connecting with you))
    Greetings
    Anant

  • @talbrott
    @talbrott 2 місяці тому

    this is a very Gen X issue