Didn't realize that i needed to hear this. I shoud stop beating myself for making mistakes. Sometimes im really harsh and critical to me. I just really have to accept fact that im not perfect and that i am ignorant like rest. I even didn't realize that i had big hidden ego. Sometimes i repeat mistakes like idiot. Well at least i am learning...to not repeat next time...
I always have a mistake on my exam several times and motivate myself that it is a learning process but I kept making everytime no matter how hard I work, I nearly lost motivation, I'm really tired of myself. We have 5 subject exam and making and repeating the same mistake, I hate being me, being very Fool
i realized you have to accept the fact you make mistakes that’s the only reason who and what you are today. That’s what makes you higher you don’t learn from being perfect YOU LEARN FROM MISTAKES❤
I Already Accepted Every Mistake But Today I Remember MY Past Mistakes And It's Normal. Mistakes Will Always Come On Mind. Finally I Realised Everything But Whenever Past Mistakes Will Come Into My Mind "I WILL BLAME MYSELF" It Feels Good To Blame MYSELF:) I Don't Know Why Mistakes Don't Make Me Feel Bad Anymore I'm Finally Free :) Sadness Is Beautiful :)
When ever I feel down and my mind gets stuckup and can't think anything in the brain and low of past mistakes....affecting in the present......I am struggling to move ....I hear this vedio repeatedly it gives me strength to move forward....I will
The only thing I regret is being naive when I was young. I was often told by my mom that you should be like that, look at him/her already helping their parents and more, to the point where I developed this mindset that if that's what you think I am, I will just be one then, and that's how I ruined my life. I really wished to my past self that I shouldn't let those words to my head and tried to live for myself instead.
I needed this so much this after my viva in practical exam ... It was horrible i kep making simple mistake and professor kept scolding me . But after watching this i thik i did best at that given moment 😅
today was my first volleyball match, my first time on the team, i didn't hit a single shot, i just couldn't, my nerves got the best of me and i think i lost a few points for the team, we won second place but my teammate/captain told me that i got lucky..and that i didn't deserve to be up on stage with the trophy, i've been beating myself up for days now....and i didn't even have the school jersey so i stood out in the team, i feel horrible
Sir asa mere sath bar bar hora h ak hi bat ko lekr i was feed bad as you saying.i i was did,but its enough now as you motivate me tq sorry I am ignorent my mistake and never repeat its in life 😊
is that a sign of perfectionism in a person? to be perfect all the time? i cannot let go of a mistake i repeated twice and i’m still feeling guilty and regretting it
There’s a few things I regret but one in particular I just can’t let go. My regret comes from hurting someone I loved. They trusted me. It was a long time ago but I wish I could go back and do things differently.
I created an account with the secret phrase and everything then I added all my FUCKING funds about £23,000 from my other Wallets LATER THAT FUCKING day I was Logged out Right SO I singed in and BooM fucking JUST WOW all my Currency GONE right In Front of my Very Own Eyes I tried everything to get I back BUT just this phrase "SORRY CURRENCY NOT FOUND" I requested a immediate check to where my money had gone but Nothing.
@@Artificialtalk-y9x like I don't know why I thinking but... mistake is about relationship...that why I feard ..I want to stay single until my marriage...I literally not interested in any guy...but my past hunt me...si bad ...I feel guilty so much regret...what if my family know that my neighbour...what are they gonna think about ..when my marriage happen if my husband know this so much thinking and depressed 😔
It's not that I regret doing something, it's that I regret *not* doing something, and missed my chance. Its not even the first time I've made this mistake
Yep. Could have had a few beautiful girlfriends but was too shy, didn't know what to do, not in a good mental disposition. And now no more occasions. So much pain.
I'm too like that , I have this thing that I don't mistake I'm very kind , as the video said we are not amazing , everybody make mistakes , everybody . Just try to let go , it's hard but time heals .speaking of regrets it's just degree , sometimes small and big . Hope ur doing fine
I got suspended in 5 grade because some girl accuse me of proposing her. I didnt even do it and i dont know why i still blame myself for that@@m.Process
Maybe try to fix it somehow, talk to her or him when the emotions will not be such intense. This guy from video probably mean not to dwell on regret too much, but in my opinion it doesn't have to mean, not trying to fix, saying sorry, or whatevs which still can be done to certain situation
Same I hate myself for what I did it’s not about her forgiveness it’s about mine. Not hating myself so much to the point where I wish death upon myself
This is me.I have tortured myself so much that I look down on myself and don’t believe myself anymore. My esteem is so low and I can’t seem to move on and can’t even see how I am doing well at currently cos I have my eyes fixed on the past and feel I am being look down upon bcos of the mistakes I made in the past
I regret to compromise my values my ethics just to be like the World😶..And This regret kills me evryday that How Can i Did this mistake..Till now I Havent be so irresponsible for myself..That was act of carelessness..Also I have guilt that..Ive lost my trueself somewhere..Can I never be the same I was??
Yes, I did mistakes in my past that are disturbing me right now. Yes could have taken more calculated decisions.Yes, I am responsible for the wrong decisions I have taken in the past. Yes, I have hurt myself and my family because of my past decisions.but that was the best i could do at that moment, I had to take a one decision at that But unfortunately that decision didn't go according to my expectations. But I have to move on from here , still a lot of life that remaining and I can not stick to that one decision.
My biggest regret is how I mishandled a worker who almost _DlED._ I’m a high-ranking chef at a university and I was told by a student employee that her coworker (let's call him Dan) had been touching crew members too much. Not _that_ type of touch, just casual ones, like on arms or shoulders. He was always very outgoing and tactile at work. Still, I took him to my colleague’s office for a chat and told him he shouldn't touch anyone without consent. Just handshakes. I said we needed the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment, that he pretty much shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school. How he shouldn't tell his stories because they may be inappropriate to some degree to the other workers; funny to him only. I think he’s about 25, give or take. He seemed pretty quiet and uncomfortable during my speech. Answered a question or two with a nod and headshake. The only question he had for me was if anyone reported his touching; I said, "It doesn't matter." I guess that sounded a bit tough. After work, I saw some woman wound his legs with a knife and push him into the rocky lake below them. I felt for sure that was the end of Dan. I was so horrified, I passed out in shock. When I awoke from my faint, I actually thought Dan was dead. It was the worst feeling in the world, especially given my last moment with him. It made me realize I was kind of a jerk to him. Thankfully, I learned that he didn't die. The sharp rocks from the water only got his arms and legs, but not his neck, back, stomach, or chest; he got _SO_ lucky. In his backpack, the paramedics found a letter addressed to me. He wrote that he was so sorry for making his coworkers uncomfortable and that he never meant to. That he wouldn't have if he had known. That he wanted to make things right and redeem himself. He also explained that he had ASD and sometimes acted socially flawed, inappropriately jocular, and unfiltered, to his regret. Turns out he always chose to be quiet around people who seemed to not like him. He also wanted the person he discomforted to know he was sorry. According to the news, the woman tried to kiII him because she hated his personality and jokes. She even told him, as she stabbed him and went to push him off, that people would be better off without him. That no one would miss him. She was arrested and Dan was rescued from the lake, given CPR, and taken to the hospital. He barely made it. I realized that I was wrong about a few things. Yeah, I was right about how his filter and touches were a little out of bounds, but come on; just because someone makes a mistake, doesn't mean you gotta reprimand them, especially when they're truly conscientious. I should _not_ have spoken to him the way I did. I should _not_ have said to his boss (who was in the room with us too), “is there anything you want to add?” That was insensitive. I should _not_ have restricted him to handshakes and work/school conversations only. All or nothing isn't fair. I should _not_ have taken him to the office for a formal lecture. He didn't deserve that. He only meant to have fun with his coworkers, not make them his “trophies.” I should’ve been more patient and sensitive and only given him a very brief and gentle talk in the hall---just me. Besides, it's perfectly natural to causally touch or tap people *without* it being creepy; maybe Dan deserved a right like that, within reason and limits so he didn't go over them and discomfort anyone. If he felt awful enough about his mistake and our talk, it must felt SO MUCH worse after listening to that disgusting BlTCH, who I hope gets life. I gotta tell Dan how sorry I am for the way I treated him. He is not a bad guy or a creep.
Okay, but this what have happened is not your fault at all. I understand that being harsh for somebody who was soon after attacked made you feel like being part of the miserables around him, but it wasn't connected or correlating events.
@@gragram711So what? That's like saying "this person is suffering worse than you, so your pain doesn't count." If I feel the lecture and his horrible moment are related in any way, that's fair enough and has some truth to it. That's how I learned that I was a little too hard on him, considering what could've happened to him and the office being our _last_ moment. I don't think that's weird or wrong
@@johnrainsman6650So nothing. I am just saying you did nothing wrong in this story and from logical point of view you shouldn't feel guilty or regret. You took claims of your students seriously and reacted correctly. Unfortunately this person would have been attacked anyway. Obviously you can feel regret, it's psychologically very well justified, just saying that in this situation you did nothing wrong. If he hadn't been attacked, there's big possibility you wouldn't even notice his problem with boundaries
@@johnrainsman6650 just opposite, I am trying to show the point of view when he shouldn't feel so bad about all what happened since it would have happened anyway, not his guilt at all or bad choices
i really regret having dated this one person and its been haunting me... i just wish that relationship had never happened. i hope i can stop feeling intense disgust with myself and that person whenever i remember
hi same here but my case abit different almost got into a one night stand with a stranger i met online. i was depressed that time was at my lowest. glad it wast too bad but still bad
Hey guys Pls read this If your scared of something that happened on media than you have to forget it and you don't have to to be scared of the future OK. If you that feeling break it and you need to breath 3 times ok Don't worry about the future OK and don't look at the pass OK you can do it ok
Perhaps, if you knew then what you know now you would have done it differently. You are a different person today. Forgive yourself, & move on. You are doing great and heading in the right direction! Let go of yesterday.. because yesterday has already let go of you.
The regret I have from my work is so bad that I need to move. And my motivations for the future have severely depleted. The wantings for myself are near zero.
@@gojosatoru3345...!! Wow, same here. It has devastated me mentally and physically. I am at such a loss.. I don't have a future, as I've only thought and known.
I punished myself for my past mistakes which was not really my mistakes. I just trusted wrong people in my life but i have been blaming myself for doing so. Now I'm slowly learning that everyone makes mistakes in life and that we have to forgive ourselves and never repeat the mistake again
True. This is a true feeling. Actually never fear your life. Surround yourself with like minded positive people. If you can't get one, just be one to you. You are your aura.
The fear is actually like, "I have made one already. What if I make one again?" That's how it actually is. Murderers don't always commit murder, one seeing everyone. It's all about situation. But you can always work on it. See every situation as new possibility of your way of dealing. I have recently had a big loss of confronting a narcissist, but it ended up having a job loss for me, because she fabricated it as if I am beating her up. It was a great loss for me leaving from a dream job of mine, from a dream place. My family says I was not good enough in working there. It devastated me. I was bullied and expelled. 😢 But don't know why I am living. 😅 Still thinking about it. I am upset, lost mind, but still living. 🤷🏻
I cheated on my wife and she left me. I totally deserved it, I was young and felt untouchable. Now I just feel like I'm radioactive. Who would give me a chance after what I did? How do I get past that, do I even deserve to get past that? I messed up, I admit to it. I apologize, immensely. But what real chance do I have to move forward?
God is your chance, he knows we're flawed but he still loves us , and everyone deserves forgiveness that's why he says Forgive just like how I forgave all your sin by Blood of Jesus, He created us and he knows us the best ❤
I lost my big toenail, i read that it grows in 1 year and 6 months, and it was because i was an idiot and i was moving the chair then it stood on my big toenail, now its purple and cut
how can I not regret i shouldn't have done that i shouted on my father and God knows what I said . it's the first time I even raised my voice on him and it's been along time i did that but that constant regret comes to me every night why you did that he spend his all life to give you better life i know he sacrificed everything just to see a smile on my face he always loved me more than my siblings and what I did what just soo much bad how mean i am . same day he came back to me at night and tried talking and he understood why I was angry and he just forgive me that easy i didn't deserve this . he deserves a better daughter 🥺
Thank you. This was what I needed to hear. I recently said something to my classmates that i regret and now I can't stop thinking about it. Cant even concentrate.
Ik this isnt something to overthink or feel bad abt but recently me, my (autistic) cousin , and my beother we throwing dirt-rocks at eachother just messing around and my cousin throws a big rock at my brother and hits my brother it the head so i get defensive and throw a rock abt 3/4 of the rock he threw at my brother, at him and it hits him right under his neck and it scares him and he jumps throwing his hands fast towards his chest wiping the dirt off and looking at me in a sad/hurtful way couple minutes later, i couldnt handle it anymore so i went to apologize to him(emotional part) when i told him im sorry and i shouldnt have thrown sum back he starts crying and starts hitting himself hard in the head while saying “STUPID STUPID STUPID” (hes calling himself stupid) and ive never seen him cry before so this starts making me cry and im not someone to cry, i dont remember the last time ive cried infront of someone though but this really got to me and i cant stop thinking abt the face he made:(
1. No, .. it wasn't 2. Yes, 3. Yes Im literally suffering 24/7 with insomnia, anxiety and severe depression. My mistakes didn't have to happen at all. It was my foolish thinking and attitude !! I cannot believe i lost it all...💔😫
I’ve done some bad things in my past and a lot of it I wish I could go back and fix. I’ve even hurt someone close to me and everyday I regret that the most. If there is redemption for the things I’ve done then maybe I can find peace
Same here...... there is no way to make ammends, . Nor learn from, .... my life was so altered in a way,.. I couldn't/cannot handle. You couldn't believe the circumstances of my mistakes
It's a sign of ego, wow! Never thought about it that way. Also if you accept that you have made mistakes and forgive yourself, you will forgive others for their mistakes as well. It gives you an opportunity to be more empathetic the next time someone does something to you. Hope I can move on from feeling guilty for my mistakes and also the person who is reading this! Be kind to yourself!
one day in high school i got mental breakdown after someone told to kill myself and after that i started only sleeping 2 hours or so a day and i started to hear and see hallucinations and i started to believe i was so special because of my hallucinations that was pure cringe
Not sure if I agree with the Personal Ego angle. Sometimes ... we regret about how our mistakes affected the lives of those around us. How is that personal ego ?
I spent money on a game to get a character that isn't even my favorite character, and it's also a big number, around 38 USD, I know no one will care, but confessing this mistake feels better
I don’t know why I started smoking crack cocaine, maybe I was depressed and I needed to feel better or I was just bored and regretting that I moved from Chicago to Ohio. I miss my fun life and became a drug addict and now I don’t do it, butI regret ever trying it because I have depression and keep thinking about getting high again. Just to feel something.
I regret because I made a mistake that changed the course of my entire life. now how do I deal with that. it's extremely hard. I feel like ending my life
Finally..... a comment I can relate to. Same here. How are you now? I've called 988 many times ... I still cannot accept my mistakes that ruined my life..!!
One time, I made a mistake by trading something my sister gave me. I did it about a year ago, and I'm still regretting it because I don't know how to tell her, and I feel guilty because she was nice to me..
Didn't realize that i needed to hear this. I shoud stop beating myself for making mistakes. Sometimes im really harsh and critical to me. I just really have to accept fact that im not perfect and that i am ignorant like rest. I even didn't realize that i had big hidden ego. Sometimes i repeat mistakes like idiot. Well at least i am learning...to not repeat next time...
I'm in same stage of my life...
Same. Didnt occur to me thatI had a really big ego
same here, but is it different between male and female tho? a lot respect for man REALLY, u guys are awesome when u handle this particular thing❤
I always have a mistake on my exam several times and motivate myself that it is a learning process but I kept making everytime no matter how hard I work, I nearly lost motivation, I'm really tired of myself. We have 5 subject exam and making and repeating the same mistake, I hate being me, being very Fool
@@SlayBaseOne hang on there man, u should keep going, exam is like a tiny dust compare to the real job problems, god bless u! and don't give up!
Ego is the right thing to say.. We all make mistakes..
This made me feel so much better. Thank you for sharing.
i realized you have to accept the fact you make mistakes that’s the only reason who and what you are today. That’s what makes you higher you don’t learn from being perfect YOU LEARN FROM MISTAKES❤
I Already Accepted Every Mistake But Today I Remember MY Past Mistakes And It's Normal. Mistakes Will Always Come On Mind.
Finally I Realised Everything But Whenever Past Mistakes Will Come Into My Mind "I WILL BLAME MYSELF" It Feels Good To Blame MYSELF:)
I Don't Know Why Mistakes Don't Make Me Feel Bad Anymore I'm Finally Free :)
Sadness Is Beautiful :)
When ever I feel down and my mind gets stuckup and can't think anything in the brain and low of past mistakes....affecting in the present......I am struggling to move ....I hear this vedio repeatedly it gives me strength to move forward....I will
No matter what you try stop thinking your parents or relatives will.poke you on the same hurt 😢
Love this, thank you.
The only thing I regret is being naive when I was young. I was often told by my mom that you should be like that, look at him/her already helping their parents and more, to the point where I developed this mindset that if that's what you think I am, I will just be one then, and that's how I ruined my life. I really wished to my past self that I shouldn't let those words to my head and tried to live for myself instead.
OOF BRO past you is me right now bro. Help me get out of this mindset.
Someone please pray for me that i can release myself from this bondage and guilt that comes with it
I needed this so much this after my viva in practical exam ... It was horrible i kep making simple mistake and professor kept scolding me .
But after watching this i thik i did best at that given moment 😅
Thankyou so much i needed this kind of words!!!
but it wasn’t the only thing i could have done at the time. I had the choice and i chose the horrible act instead of the moral option
"Theres an expression in the wastes, Old World Blues, when someone is so obsessed over the past they can't see the present, much less the future."
today was my first volleyball match, my first time on the team, i didn't hit a single shot, i just couldn't, my nerves got the best of me and i think i lost a few points for the team, we won second place but my teammate/captain told me that i got lucky..and that i didn't deserve to be up on stage with the trophy, i've been beating myself up for days now....and i didn't even have the school jersey so i stood out in the team, i feel horrible
I lost 7K in earnest because of a bad decision I’m not able to come out of it. It’s killing me everyday
Thank you so much sir
I really need this...
Best message ever
Thank you so much this really helped ❤
I made 3 silly mistakes in my exam I was very depressed I knew those ans but didn't know what happened I needed this thanks bro
I have faced this alot and don't worry it's just a matter of weeks
Sir asa mere sath bar bar hora h ak hi bat ko lekr i was feed bad as you saying.i i was did,but its enough now as you motivate me tq sorry
I am ignorent my mistake and never repeat its in life 😊
Actually, right what you said but if our pattern did that,what should I do or tell to my husband
Thanks for this msg 🙏 😢
Damnn good advice.
It helped me ❤
I needed that😊
#3 about the ego is 💯. We are often easier on others but harsh on ourselves in these matters.
Really? I'm harsh on myself and everyone else.
is that a sign of perfectionism in a person? to be perfect all the time? i cannot let go of a mistake i repeated twice and i’m still feeling guilty and regretting it
@@h4rshita-r I feel the same way like you described
You're right.
If i talked to my friends the way i talk to myself, id be alone. Be nice to yourself, you deserve empathy too
There’s a few things I regret but one in particular I just can’t let go. My regret comes from hurting someone I loved. They trusted me. It was a long time ago but I wish I could go back and do things differently.
I'm in the same situation 🤦 I always wish I could go back and change things ! But I really need to let it go! It's jus difficult
that means there's growth, if we didn't have that feeling we would not recognize it and be able to grow from it
I created an account with the secret phrase and everything then I added all my FUCKING funds about £23,000 from my other Wallets LATER THAT FUCKING day I was Logged out Right SO I singed in and BooM fucking JUST WOW all my Currency GONE right In Front of my Very Own Eyes I tried everything to get I back BUT just this phrase "SORRY CURRENCY NOT FOUND" I requested a immediate check to where my money had gone but Nothing.
Sammme with me and I can't Stop crying and thinking about it and just destroying my life and my exams
I feel this deeply and nothing bad has even come from it yet!
Even when I stop thinking about my regrets during the day, they come back to haunt me in my dreams at night. 😢
Esa kya hua ya kiya aapne
If you will share with me than you will feel light,
I'm asking to you because I also want to share something
I really want to
@@Artificialtalk-y9xhi .. I also punished myself so long i can't share my thoughts with anyone I really feel depressed
@@Arpitaajhh
Yes please 😊
@@Artificialtalk-y9x like I don't know why I thinking but... mistake is about relationship...that why I feard ..I want to stay single until my marriage...I literally not interested in any guy...but my past hunt me...si bad ...I feel guilty so much regret...what if my family know that my neighbour...what are they gonna think about ..when my marriage happen if my husband know this so much thinking and depressed 😔
no one will ever know how much I needed this today 💔 thank you so much ❤😢
Same😭
Same here
"you're ignorant and flawed just like others" that was so funny and good to hear 😂😂😂
Yea right
Much needed, I laughed like "you got me there" 😂😂❤
😅
It's not that I regret doing something, it's that I regret *not* doing something, and missed my chance. Its not even the first time I've made this mistake
Same here. Apparently all the time lately :| imho not taking a chance of doing smth is much worse than regretting after
Yep. Could have had a few beautiful girlfriends but was too shy, didn't know what to do, not in a good mental disposition. And now no more occasions. So much pain.
This was so helpful. Thanks a lot
I’m obsessed with regret HELP
You've got intense ego according to research 😮
I'm too like that , I have this thing that I don't mistake I'm very kind , as the video said we are not amazing , everybody make mistakes , everybody . Just try to let go , it's hard but time heals .speaking of regrets it's just degree , sometimes small and big . Hope ur doing fine
I made a rlly stupid mistake a while ago and that pain has jus stuck by me and most nights I stay up and wonder y I did that, I needed this
Can I ask what it was
I got suspended in 5 grade because some girl accuse me of proposing her. I didnt even do it and i dont know why i still blame myself for that@@m.Process
@@m.Processme too.. Actually this is not to disturb.. But to know the extend of mistake.. How hurtful it could be. Whilst having ours in hand..😮
Same here. I try to forget it but I can’t stop thinking about it. It was very silly and and I made a fool out of myself in front of a hundred people.
@@anu14215 what did u do? May i know
Just ruined my best friend's life. ):
He was my everything and now he doesn't even wanna see my face. How can I even stop this regret?
Maybe try to fix it somehow, talk to her or him when the emotions will not be such intense. This guy from video probably mean not to dwell on regret too much, but in my opinion it doesn't have to mean, not trying to fix, saying sorry, or whatevs which still can be done to certain situation
The best thing you can do is let it go. He will forgive you .
Same I hate myself for what I did it’s not about her forgiveness it’s about mine. Not hating myself so much to the point where I wish death upon myself
@@akshatakorgaonkar6895 you can't guarantee that
I'll download this and set it as a sleep reminder tone and wake up alarm😂
I really needed it, thanks❤
This is me.I have tortured myself so much that I look down on myself and don’t believe myself anymore. My esteem is so low and I can’t seem to move on and can’t even see how I am doing well at currently cos I have my eyes fixed on the past and feel I am being look down upon bcos of the mistakes I made in the past
I regret to compromise my values my ethics just to be like the World😶..And This regret kills me evryday that How Can i Did this mistake..Till now I Havent be so irresponsible for myself..That was act of carelessness..Also I have guilt that..Ive lost my trueself somewhere..Can I never be the same I was??
I love the last point. So true it is excessive ego. ‘How can I do this’.. we’re all flawed
There are these two regrets I have and I think about them 24/7 like it's impossible to not think about them
May god always be with you. I hope something better in you for next. Good luck mate!
@@Pew23t69 tysm it really means alot :)
@@kkmjpkjb yes bro. I have a lot of sins to, that's how human being and that's how we learn and grow up. I hope you Will move on. See you 🤍
@@kkmjpkjbhow are you now brother same
@@BhanuSingh-j2s I'm still the same just a lil better
WELL, I WISH I HAVE TIME MACHINE TO FIX MY MISTAKE & MAKE IT ALLRIGHT!! 😢😢:'((((((()
Yes, I did mistakes in my past that are disturbing me right now. Yes could have taken more calculated decisions.Yes, I am responsible for the wrong decisions I have taken in the past. Yes, I have hurt myself and my family because of my past decisions.but that was the best i could do at that moment, I had to take a one decision at that But unfortunately that decision didn't go according to my expectations.
But I have to move on from here , still a lot of life that remaining and I can not stick to that one decision.
All thats makes a lot of sense.
Though it doesnt bring a loved one back when you left them for "ignorant reasons" 😢😢😢😢
True :)
Yes it's correct.
My biggest regret is how I mishandled a worker who almost _DlED._ I’m a high-ranking chef at a university and I was told by a student employee that her coworker (let's call him Dan) had been touching crew members too much. Not _that_ type of touch, just casual ones, like on arms or shoulders. He was always very outgoing and tactile at work. Still, I took him to my colleague’s office for a chat and told him he shouldn't touch anyone without consent. Just handshakes. I said we needed the workers to be comfortable in a good work environment, that he pretty much shouldn't talk about anything other than work and school. How he shouldn't tell his stories because they may be inappropriate to some degree to the other workers; funny to him only. I think he’s about 25, give or take. He seemed pretty quiet and uncomfortable during my speech. Answered a question or two with a nod and headshake. The only question he had for me was if anyone reported his touching; I said, "It doesn't matter." I guess that sounded a bit tough.
After work, I saw some woman wound his legs with a knife and push him into the rocky lake below them. I felt for sure that was the end of Dan. I was so horrified, I passed out in shock. When I awoke from my faint, I actually thought Dan was dead. It was the worst feeling in the world, especially given my last moment with him. It made me realize I was kind of a jerk to him. Thankfully, I learned that he didn't die. The sharp rocks from the water only got his arms and legs, but not his neck, back, stomach, or chest; he got _SO_ lucky. In his backpack, the paramedics found a letter addressed to me. He wrote that he was so sorry for making his coworkers uncomfortable and that he never meant to. That he wouldn't have if he had known. That he wanted to make things right and redeem himself. He also explained that he had ASD and sometimes acted socially flawed, inappropriately jocular, and unfiltered, to his regret. Turns out he always chose to be quiet around people who seemed to not like him. He also wanted the person he discomforted to know he was sorry. According to the news, the woman tried to kiII him because she hated his personality and jokes. She even told him, as she stabbed him and went to push him off, that people would be better off without him. That no one would miss him. She was arrested and Dan was rescued from the lake, given CPR, and taken to the hospital. He barely made it.
I realized that I was wrong about a few things. Yeah, I was right about how his filter and touches were a little out of bounds, but come on; just because someone makes a mistake, doesn't mean you gotta reprimand them, especially when they're truly conscientious. I should _not_ have spoken to him the way I did. I should _not_ have said to his boss (who was in the room with us too), “is there anything you want to add?” That was insensitive. I should _not_ have restricted him to handshakes and work/school conversations only. All or nothing isn't fair. I should _not_ have taken him to the office for a formal lecture. He didn't deserve that. He only meant to have fun with his coworkers, not make them his “trophies.” I should’ve been more patient and sensitive and only given him a very brief and gentle talk in the hall---just me. Besides, it's perfectly natural to causally touch or tap people *without* it being creepy; maybe Dan deserved a right like that, within reason and limits so he didn't go over them and discomfort anyone. If he felt awful enough about his mistake and our talk, it must felt SO MUCH worse after listening to that disgusting BlTCH, who I hope gets life. I gotta tell Dan how sorry I am for the way I treated him. He is not a bad guy or a creep.
Okay, but this what have happened is not your fault at all. I understand that being harsh for somebody who was soon after attacked made you feel like being part of the miserables around him, but it wasn't connected or correlating events.
@@gragram711So what? That's like saying "this person is suffering worse than you, so your pain doesn't count." If I feel the lecture and his horrible moment are related in any way, that's fair enough and has some truth to it. That's how I learned that I was a little too hard on him, considering what could've happened to him and the office being our _last_ moment. I don't think that's weird or wrong
@@johnrainsman6650So nothing. I am just saying you did nothing wrong in this story and from logical point of view you shouldn't feel guilty or regret. You took claims of your students seriously and reacted correctly. Unfortunately this person would have been attacked anyway. Obviously you can feel regret, it's psychologically very well justified, just saying that in this situation you did nothing wrong. If he hadn't been attacked, there's big possibility you wouldn't even notice his problem with boundaries
@@gragram711 well let me ask you this: do you not have sympathy for his remorse? Do you think he deserves all the guilt he feels?
@@johnrainsman6650 just opposite, I am trying to show the point of view when he shouldn't feel so bad about all what happened since it would have happened anyway, not his guilt at all or bad choices
i really regret having dated this one person and its been haunting me... i just wish that relationship had never happened. i hope i can stop feeling intense disgust with myself and that person whenever i remember
hi same here but my case abit different almost got into a one night stand with a stranger i met online. i was depressed that time was at my lowest. glad it wast too bad but still bad
Hey guys Pls read this
If your scared of something that happened on media than you have to forget it
and you don't have to to be scared of the future OK. If you that feeling break it and you need to breath 3 times ok
Don't worry about the future OK and don't look at the pass OK you can do it ok
My biggest regret is lying to safe my ass. Other people deserve to hear the truth, even if I get in a little trouble.
same
same 😢 i told my parents that i lied but still feel guilty 😢 anyone know what to do?
@@Coopers_Aviationcan we be friends, I go through the same . Let’s talk
I have done lot of sexual sins and other sins how can I forgive myself and how will god forgive me
Never use WHY HOW in your mind. Just live happily.
Thank you I needed this right now ❤
Perhaps, if you knew then what you know now you would have done it differently. You are a different person today. Forgive yourself, & move on. You are doing great and heading in the right direction!
Let go of yesterday.. because yesterday has already let go of you.
"Your'e not that Amazing"😅 Love it
Great video bro l rreally needed to hear this thanks
The regret I have from my work is so bad that I need to move. And my motivations for the future have severely depleted. The wantings for myself are near zero.
Brother we are in the same situation...Oh wow..
@@gojosatoru3345...!! Wow, same here. It has devastated me mentally and physically. I am at such a loss.. I don't have a future, as I've only thought and known.
Just think and behave according to situation. Be logical rather emotional.
Yeah. And we all have done some emotional mistakes. Would like to forgive me, if I get a chance.
I punished myself for my past mistakes which was not really my mistakes. I just trusted wrong people in my life but i have been blaming myself for doing so. Now I'm slowly learning that everyone makes mistakes in life and that we have to forgive ourselves and never repeat the mistake again
Same
Please please tell the solution to stop this ,I am suffering from this type of problem very very very very very very very very very very very much😢😢😢😢
M help kr dunga ager help chiye to
The last one is on point...
But i don't think i have this big ego...the problem is I'm so scared of mistakes because they makes life far harder...
True. This is a true feeling. Actually never fear your life. Surround yourself with like minded positive people. If you can't get one, just be one to you. You are your aura.
The fear is actually like, "I have made one already. What if I make one again?" That's how it actually is.
Murderers don't always commit murder, one seeing everyone. It's all about situation. But you can always work on it. See every situation as new possibility of your way of dealing. I have recently had a big loss of confronting a narcissist, but it ended up having a job loss for me, because she fabricated it as if I am beating her up. It was a great loss for me leaving from a dream job of mine, from a dream place. My family says I was not good enough in working there. It devastated me. I was bullied and expelled. 😢
But don't know why I am living. 😅
Still thinking about it. I am upset, lost mind, but still living. 🤷🏻
The best 30 secs someone needs to hear when they can't get over their past.
Do you take personal sessions..
*Regretful*
Must needed thing for me..
Don't beat yourself up for a man that no longer exists
Yes we all make mistakes... Accept learn never to repeat again.. Thank you for sharing this !!
Point #3 hit me straight...I needed to hear this. Thank you bro!!!🎉
I cheated on my wife and she left me. I totally deserved it, I was young and felt untouchable. Now I just feel like I'm radioactive. Who would give me a chance after what I did? How do I get past that, do I even deserve to get past that? I messed up, I admit to it. I apologize, immensely. But what real chance do I have to move forward?
God is your chance, he knows we're flawed but he still loves us , and everyone deserves forgiveness that's why he says Forgive just like how I forgave all your sin by Blood of Jesus, He created us and he knows us the best ❤
I lost my big toenail, i read that it grows in 1 year and 6 months, and it was because i was an idiot and i was moving the chair then it stood on my big toenail, now its purple and cut
how can I not regret i shouldn't have done that i shouted on my father and God knows what I said . it's the first time I even raised my voice on him and it's been along time i did that but that constant regret comes to me every night why you did that he spend his all life to give you better life i know he sacrificed everything just to see a smile on my face he always loved me more than my siblings and what I did what just soo much bad how mean i am . same day he came back to me at night and tried talking and he understood why I was angry and he just forgive me that easy i didn't deserve this . he deserves a better daughter 🥺
😭😭😭😭same i felt , he deserves a better son, similar to my situation
Thank you. This was what I needed to hear. I recently said something to my classmates that i regret and now I can't stop thinking about it. Cant even concentrate.
Bro my regret is too high 😭
Man I just can't get over the fact that I committed such shitty thing.. the regret is getting heavier and heavier.. I'm literally dying with guilt 😭😭
Suggest me books in this topic .. I’m regretting a lot and staying in depression
Ik this isnt something to overthink or feel bad abt but recently me, my (autistic) cousin , and my beother we throwing dirt-rocks at eachother just messing around and my cousin throws a big rock at my brother and hits my brother it the head so i get defensive and throw a rock abt 3/4 of the rock he threw at my brother, at him and it hits him right under his neck and it scares him and he jumps throwing his hands fast towards his chest wiping the dirt off and looking at me in a sad/hurtful way couple minutes later, i couldnt handle it anymore so i went to apologize to him(emotional part) when i told him im sorry and i shouldnt have thrown sum back he starts crying and starts hitting himself hard in the head while saying “STUPID STUPID STUPID” (hes calling himself stupid) and ive never seen him cry before so this starts making me cry and im not someone to cry, i dont remember the last time ive cried infront of someone though but this really got to me and i cant stop thinking abt the face he made:(
I am always anxious about the present for what I have been always in past.
BUT I feel like my public mistakes are worse than others and they see my as a freak
Tell this to the dide serving life in prison for killing someone
Thankyou so muchh. I'll be better. I'm realising my mistakes and I'll grow slowly but surely.
But you know with my knowledge I could have done better but didn’t..that eats me sometimes
1. No, .. it wasn't
2. Yes, 3. Yes
Im literally suffering 24/7 with insomnia, anxiety and severe depression. My mistakes didn't have to happen at all. It was my foolish thinking and attitude
!! I cannot believe i lost it all...💔😫
I’ve done some bad things in my past and a lot of it I wish I could go back and fix. I’ve even hurt someone close to me and everyday I regret that the most. If there is redemption for the things I’ve done then maybe I can find peace
Same here...... there is no way to make ammends,
. Nor learn from, .... my life was so altered in a way,.. I couldn't/cannot handle. You couldn't believe the circumstances of my mistakes
The problem with this regret is that I CAN'T BE BETTER NEXT TIME I JUST HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT 😭
It's a sign of ego, wow! Never thought about it that way. Also if you accept that you have made mistakes and forgive yourself, you will forgive others for their mistakes as well. It gives you an opportunity to be more empathetic the next time someone does something to you. Hope I can move on from feeling guilty for my mistakes and also the person who is reading this! Be kind to yourself!
Same ego, with me from childhood I was very disciplined person, but after this much of discipline I could not stop myself to did some stupid mistake
one day in high school i got mental breakdown after someone told to kill myself and after that i started only sleeping 2 hours or so a day and i started to hear and see hallucinations and i started to believe i was so special because of my hallucinations that was pure cringe
The reason for all my mistakes is my anger, which i can not control...
I am guilty for it ,,,and don't know how to solve,,😞
The way I deal with it is either by saying “if I have done that I wouldn’t have grown” or laugh it off
Nyn SSLC exam inu bit വെച്ച് enne pidichu I am regreting cuz ath nyn vecha bit alla ... Ente frnd vechatha enikk ath thannu nyn enthin ath vangi
i really messed up once tho i am trying really hard to forget about that, and i just hope that i can someday somehow forgive myself and forget it..
Why are guys who sound and look like this are my weakness. I Kno it's not acceptable but whatev but then I'm ignorant and flawed
Not sure if I agree with the Personal Ego angle.
Sometimes ... we regret about how our mistakes affected the lives of those around us.
How is that personal ego ?
When my family reminds me everyday of my past mistakes. What should I do? Though I tried hard to change myself . 😅
As for #3, that's just additionally "wow, I did this bad thing. **And** I'm ignorant and flawed. Man I'm so bad"
I spent money on a game to get a character that isn't even my favorite character, and it's also a big number, around 38 USD, I know no one will care, but confessing this mistake feels better
I don’t know why I started smoking crack cocaine, maybe I was depressed and I needed to feel better or I was just bored and regretting that I moved from Chicago to Ohio. I miss my fun life and became a drug addict and now I don’t do it, butI regret ever trying it because I have depression and keep thinking about getting high again. Just to feel something.
I regret because I made a mistake that changed the course of my entire life. now how do I deal with that. it's extremely hard. I feel like ending my life
Finally..... a comment I can relate to.
Same here.
How are you now?
I've called 988 many times ... I still cannot accept my mistakes that ruined my life..!!
Thank you so much for this knowledge,I needed it as I've been feeling depressed over the past.
This video helped me so much thank you i was relly sad bc i made a big mistake I’m still sad but not that much more thank you man❤
One time, I made a mistake by trading something my sister gave me. I did it about a year ago, and I'm still regretting it because I don't know how to tell her, and I feel guilty because she was nice to me..
I searched mistakes
Because i just did something stupid
I dont know why i keep making the same mistake over and over
I feel so stupid