Hey Coach Lee, I just wanted to say that your work is very important and life saving. You are like a ray of light that saves me from the dark labyrinths of my mind. When I feel like my life has ended I listen to your videos and immediately feel a lot better. If I get my ex back or not, I will always appreciate your help and I will pray for you. Keep on rocking that hairstyle you handsome devil!
Yeah but bro can't be trying "too hard", gotta be high value...gotta care less n be an indifferent animal. Humans are all about status man, I don't know if we deserve love.
My ex actually walked in to the restaurant I own while I was listening to your video. After 6 months no contact I feel ready to show off my growth. No more chasing for me. I’m stronger and less anxious than I’ve ever been. Thank you!
Im here to tell you guys that NC worked! It took 32 days for my ex to reach out for some trivial catch up and he told me how he was feeling hurt and alone and how he felt he lost best friend. We had a very good talk and even tho we are now taking things slowly NC DID WORK! Believe in it. Dont believe what you think your ex thinks. It maybe very misleading. I was sure he is having a good time and forgot about me. Have faith! Have patience! Stay on track!
@@TelAlissa ah ok nice! I’m glad it worked out for you that way and that is best. I don’t think there is much hope for me as my ex only messaged me sporadically once or twice every week and we meet up once every two weeks but it doesn’t seem to going anywhere and this has been going on for two months 😞
@@islandvctr something happened. We met - my ex kissed me and tried to take me to the bedroom. I've refused because when I asked what was happening the answer was: "Let's do a revival". This was exactly 2 weeks ago. I refused and said that I am non the "revival" type of person and left. Got a text while driving home: " I am sorry - I shouldn't had..." The week after (a week ago) I was offered to have breakfast together and I was so happy about that. We never had breakfast together. Since last week no more messages. I am incredibly strong - I truly was dying to make love with my other half but resisted. I need an apology, I want to know If I'm loved or not. I stopped giving myself away for free ages ago... but the last 2 days has been incredibly hard.
no, I moved back home to London and she's in Italy. She texted me in August but then deleted the message... I am feeling better but not able to start a new relationship because it's still hurting @@joannab1692
People are so scared of being hurt - but no one has that power unless you give it to them! Heal your own wounds from childhood and you will be whole and ready for a healthy relationship 💖
Great advice, the problem is how? Speaking only for myself I can say that I for many years have desperately wanted to be happy within myself but 43 years of self hate and guilt makes it a challenge
@@fernandocabanillas8133 get to the root of the problem for which makes you dislike your emotions about yourself, start from there and then maybe others will reveal from within and whatever comes up that is what you start to work on. If it something that triggered from your youth like mom or dad siblings etc.
Three month update : i regret not doing No Contact longer and i regret somewhat letting him back in my life too soon. I didnt wait until he is back back, we just in limbo without any explanation and now it feels too late to ask " what are we ". Half of the feelings are definitely gone after all this time . We talk, we still somewhat close , we fight and we reconcile, but its no where near same. I am torn between " be patient , show him love, be his peace " and simple " let go " . My advice for all heartbroken souls would be to be patient. It only an illusion that you want him/her back. When they are back it will be a whole new can of worms to deal with and its hard hard hard . Do not rush, do not push. More time in NC - the better.
Let go. Don't hang on to something that you don't know "what are we?". You should not ever be in limbo. The other person knows damn well what they are doing. Stringing you along. Being too kind is not the way to go.
The best thing to do is to take a screenshot of coach Lee's face and save it as your phones home screen. This will stop from any attempt to break no contact.
Guys trust the no contact rule it works like a charm , thank you coach for the guidance and giving us hope Not just getting back our ex but to grow as a great partner to our significant other
It doesn’t matter if NC “works” because it’s your best option regardless of the outcome. Do it for yourself. If they want to try again, cool. If they don’t, cool.
It really is. A lot of these relationships people talk about on here sound like they're with personality disordered individuals. There's no winning with these types, and they'll push and pull you until you're emotionally neutered if you let them, then pretend to care and want you back just to do it again. Zero contact is the only way.
Such an underrated channel. You are the only relationship specialist on UA-cam that has made feel very comfortable mentally during times of great stress during my relationship.
Any type of manipulation that will involve your emotions or your decision making is usually a test. Always pick the strongest or more manly choice if involved.
I did the no contact, but not as a game or to get my ex back. He contacted me last Saturday after 3 months and said: We haven't spoken in a while, hope all is well with you. I responded: I'm fantastic and I hope all is well with you. That was it.
@@Redouku It's a long story about what happened. You're right about my response, but I'm uncertain if I want him back. That's how I'm feeling. I don't know if I can trust him again. I just feel if a man truly loves or cares for a woman he could never go that long without talking to her. All in all, no contact does work. 😊
If you are not interested in taking a bath, why do you care if it's to hot!! Coach you have said some classic lines, but this had me on the floor lol Coach I love your sence of humor and your genuine nature on helping people. In these trying times we all need this. God bless you brother.
I followed the NC rule. My ex contacted me for the first time since the breakup a few days ago. Then Silence. He sent a brief message tonight, like the ones he used to send me post breakup. So,… watching your videos, sometimes more than once. And with your help, I am staying strong. Coach Lee, you gave me your honest advice and loads of strength, starting from the 2nd day of my breakup. Your videos are a Blessing! Thank you!
I laughed into my tea when you said 'we have to still behave ourselves 😂😂😂 so serious. I'm learning to laugh again and find humour again. Thank you for what you do and the way you do it.
I would love to see you do a series on no contact with ex’s with different attachment styles. I believe the approach drastically varies when dealing with different attachment styles. I’d like to know your take on that!
I think as much as we may want our ex back. Its the best way to be. Concentrate on self. And if they want us back. Bonus. But its hard to get into that frame of mind
The problem I have with these videos, not just coach Lee's, is that there's a lot of overthinking that can happen here. For me, it was getting to the point of indifference. You truly have to not care about the outcome. I heard back from my ex after 520+ days. That was the second time I went into no contact. The first latest somewhere around 130 days I think. The point is, it's been so long that I don't care anymore about the "test". I let her message first 90% of the time. I'll keep it friendly but simple small talk. Hell, I just invited her to a concert. No different than I would've done with one of my friends. For me I'm keeping it slow in the sense of talking but I'm also setting up in person interactions (every now and then). Again, I do this because it feels natural. I'm so over the past and I don't care anymore. I've had so much time being alone and focusing on me that I'm really indifferent on the outcome. If my ex and I are able to rebuild from the ground up, cool. If not, then nothing has changed for me and all that happened was I exchanged a few text messages.
Soooo my ex broke NC after 27 days and wouldn’t you know it he was EXPECTING me to contact him first! Like I was the one who broke up with him🙄 And now he’s just sending bread crumb texts. Honestly I didn’t feel the way I thought I would if he contacted me. Kind of underwhelming 🤷🏾♀️
It's very important to know what to do when you begin to get to the point of possibly getting back together. Very delicate. Thank you for telling us what to expect and what to do about it.
My situation is a little different. The girl I was talking to was not necessarily an ex however we talked everyday and hit it off, had a great connection etc. We were building towards a relationship and was very close to one. However she broke it off, saying how stressful it was for her to balance school and work towards a relationship as we built a great connection & mentioned how she was broken. It didn’t make sense. However my intuition and my strong belief tells me one day soon she will reach out to me and this is not the end. These videos confirming this and giving me strength. We all have to stay strong.
No, Coach Lee it's not coming from a place of arrogance when you supported them through a tough time for quite a while, they didnt appreciate it therefore I ended it with them. It's coming from a place of hurt and protecting yourself. Going into no contact even though I ended it was for my own sanity and hope they realize they lost the only person who genuinely cared about them and fighting to keep you in their life. When it's always about them and they cant even ask you how your doing shows they dont give a f*** about you it hurts and is devastating.
Same. Broke up with them and it broke my heart to do it. Hurt me badly to hurt them. It was due to a lie he told. Never once did I ever feel better than him. I was protecting myself.
@@ENFPerspectivesMy situation is a little different in that he didnt give a damn I moved on. Oh well, my mistake caring about someone who would never care about me.
My ex and I have been together for 12 years, I made it one week of NC and due to the length of our relationship we have financial obligations to work out, I contacted him. He told me, he was glad NC was working for me, lol I went right back to NC. It felt very empowering! I am still devastated, but I am proud of myself for the fact that I didn't respond back with anything other than what I needed to say. I am making progress. Thanks Coach Lee!
@@lisat5666 I dont veiw it that way, not sure how he views it. NC is a good tool for moving forward as well, not just to get someone back. Getting him back is not guaranteed, so i dont view that as my emd goal. My goal os to recover from the breakup lol
I am the 1 who DUMPED & so proud of myself. Never thought I'd have the guts or confidence to do it but Prayer gave me strength. I realized I didnt really know him; & so I was in love with the illusion of who I Thought he was (who I Wanted him to be). My feet not on the ground therefore it was NOT love but my own stories in my head & dreams of I invisioned him to be. When truth woke me up, lies exposed & feeling used, I was hurt, then angry. Then calmness, common sense, & self respect kicked in. PRAYERS gave strength to get it DONE & 🚫 block him. Nope... glad to never hear from him. Miss him like I miss a pebble in my shoe. Thank you! 😊 life feels much better.
For those looking for positive hope, read this! Back in November 2020 my ex acted quiet and shut down for a few days. We had recently gotten engaged a few months prior. I finally asked her what was wrong and she broke down with everything. She had felt hurt and had "checked out" because we had been fighting a lot the last year, we were together for 2.5 years total at that point, she also was hurt by things I said at times. She was abused physically and emotionally by her parents as a kid so it affects her harshly to be abused emotionally. And there were an occasional argument where I'd say hurtful things, I'd ask her why she was bein such a bitch or asked her why she's even with me if she's always bickering about what I do, cuz from my view it seemed like she was always complaining but I finally saw it from her view that she just wanted me to be better and was trying to help me, especially since my words and our fights were hurting her. I was too prideful to think I was doin anything wrong, so I took it personally and it felt she was always bitchin at me for little shit but I should have payed more attention to what she was saying. She even warned my dumbass over the last year on a few occasions, that she was hurt and she wouldn't stay with me if I kept saying hurtful things. When we got engaged things were a tad bit better but I think it contributed to her "trapped" feeling, cuz I really hadn't fixed the core issues I had and she felt I wasn't gonna change, so she prob felt I was gonna marry her and end up getting worse and then she'd be trapped. So she ended up asking for a "break" but she mentioned she clearly loved me but couldn't do it. She said "if u were anyone else I'd not even consider it. We didn't have much space livin together so later in November she moved down the street into a trailer for a short 6mo lease so we could be apart. The problem was that she kept hitting me up to see her. We saw each other every few days. I was too available and we were both still emotional for months. I changed my attitude during that time and worked on myself, but our problem was that we kept seeing each other during a "break" and at times I was distraught and she would see that something was bothering me, then she'd make me talk about it and it was always about wanting to actually start making progress on workin on things or bein upset cuz it had been a few months and she still didn't trust me in that sense. I didn't want to talk about it but she could read my demeanor and see it bothered me and made me talk. Doin that during a time where we were both still emotionally sensitive was not goin well cuz it didn't allow her feeling of bein trapped to go away, it just made her feel more pressured. She also couldn't trust my changes so it was just a mess. At end of January I had 1 last talk with her and left her house, I intended to go into no contact cuz I told her if we were not gonna make progress then I needed to back away. She hmu a few times over the next week but I was short on response. Doin that made her overthink about things for a week or two, and at the beginning of February she called me to tell me that she doesn't think regaining trust in me was possible and that we should prob have space apart, actual space, and also end the "break" cuz we could never get back together anyways if we never really ended the relationship and continued to see each other during a "break" and actually had a while apart. She said "I don't want to dangle a carrot in front of ur face and get ur hopes up, and I'm tryin to be over it" and that really hurt but I agreed without bein a lil bitch and we started having space, aka no contact. She really didn't believe I could stay away lol That started Feb 4th. On the 9th she called me twice back to back cuz I didn't answer the first call, she told me my family hit her up as well as my baby momma. I thought it was weird for her to urgently call me to tell me that, and I guess my baby momma didn't know what was going on with my ex fiance so she had her number and called about something unrelated. The very next day, the 10th of Feb after only 6 days of no contact I got a heart dropping text, it was the first time it felt like I was never gonna have another shot. My bitter baby momma jumped into my business and had sent her screen shots of several year old messages of me supposedly cussin at my baby momma from back when I was with her, and my ex fiance saw it as emotional abuse. The problem was that I had told my ex fiance that before her I had never emotionally abused anyone before, to be fair I never realized what I had done was emotional abuse until my ex fiance told me when this all started months ago. So I hadn't intentionally lied to her about not bein emotionally abusive before, but she already didn't trust me and so this made her feel I lied intentionally. It was a mess, she said "I found out u lied to me again and I'm done. I can't believe anything about you. You need to just move on and find someone else, I wish you the best but I'm definitely not it" and I talked to her that day to try to explain that I didn't intentionally lie to her and that if I cussed at my baby momma years ago it was not only forgotten but until recently I didn't even know that was emotionally abuse. After that I hadn't heard from her for weeks. She texted last week Monday, March 8th, after 32 days of no contact she asked if I recieved a package of hers that she accidently sent to my address instead of her new house. I didn't answer quick enough and 5 min later she called to ask. Idk if she sent it here on purpose, but I told her she could come check cuz I wasn't home. At this point it had been 3 or 4 weeks since that incident and now she was totally bein nice, patient and almost sounded sad. She was prob surprised that I didn't bring anything up on the phone. I was polite and then got off the phone. Fast forward to 2 nights ago, 1 week later. I decided it had been 40 days of no contact and I was at a place where I've accepted things with her but still missed her. I decided to reach out cuz I had a strong feeling she still missed me and had feelings for me but was forcing herself to stay silent, her pride grew a lot since the breakup. I also was accepting of whatever response I might recieve. I texted her, "Hey, hope all is well with u and the kids. I'm doin just dandy like a dandelion. Hit me back sometime if u want." I kept it short and didn't ask any questions, I gave her the option to reach out to me. I also didn't text her any bullshit "memory reminder" text message lol And 45 min later my phone rang and it was her! I picked up and she was like, "your not supposed to do this" and she said it in a not serious flirty way. At first I didn't hear her and said, "what was that", she quickly said, "nothing!" with a flirty chuckle. Then she said it again where I could hear. We talked for 45 min before she asked if I wanted to come over. I sounded hesitant but was like, "ok I'll come by for few". We hung out and talked, watched videos with her on her phone, had fun and laughed. Layed on her bed beside her just chillin until 1130pm. I decided to head out after 2 hours and as she was about to lock the door behind me she pinched my nipple and ran away like a lil kid lol I gave her a lil titty poke back, said goodbye then left. We had fun. So basically I had a strong feeling that it would work out to break no contact, esp since she had called the week prior and her attitude and demeanor was much better, and it worked but I wouldn't recommend it, but I just had a very strong feeling based on the phone call a week prior and just had that vibe that I needed to reach out after a week or so. She may have contacted me later at some point, but idk if she would have had the balls to ask me to hangout or actually act like that so I had to give her a light push. I'm sure I just re-planted a seed and now I need to water it slowly over time. Wish me luck! And keep ur head up yall! Sometimes it's ok to break no contact after so long, esp if you're much more emotionally stable and if you've already been contacted and were able to get a vibe for how your ex might be feeling. It's not over yet, but I know what to do and I'm in a much more stable mind to do it without big mistakes.
@@hayday9224 lol I hadn't talked to her since Tuesday night and she literally just called me 10 min ago. I wasn't gonna contact her too much and figured I may have to make the contact a bit at first, but she just called. She's gonna call back again, she just had a work call she had to take.
@@hayday9224 yeah I went and hung out again last night after we talked on phone. She mentioned she still bein on process of healin, she is still hurt, but our time apart helped her not be so bitter towards me and now it's much more fun to be around her. She is much more silly and feels more comfortable bein her weird self around me, I'm weird and goofy too so that's prob why we always connected so well, cuz we match very well. She showed me this tictok about not bein able to be with anyone else cuz she would forever be comparing them to me, or something like that. Well first she said, "here's a tictok I was gonna send u recently, watch it" cuz she didn't send it to me durin no contact. But I'm happy with how it's going. Good luck to u too!
She texted me on my moms birthday, she passed away last year. She wished my mom a happy heavenly birthday. I didn’t have a problem with it, I even responded and said thank you (insert nickname I gave her) 💚. An hour and a half later she texted again asking how I was doing? I told her I’m doing well thanks for asking. She never responded. I’m not really tripping over it, it’s cool. Just gonna leave it alone, got to focus on myself and make my happiness important.
Your videos have really helped me through a break up. When I’ve been messy I stick on a video and it’s reassuring to hear that there IS hope, IF I want. Thank you so much for your wise words. 1 month of no contact into the 2 advised and she’s liking my photos and stuff on social media - which is quite confusing.
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Ok so here’s how it went - He calls me out of the blue this past Sunday and the first thing he said(after he said hello) was ‘oh I see you unblocked me I’ve called numerous times and got the voicemail’ (he was never blocked) and then he goes ‘so why haven’t you called’ like I was the dumper! And I told him I was respecting his decision to break up. We didn’t talk long. So after we got off the phone I waited for a few hours and texted him ‘I’m glad you called’ and his response was ‘I wanted to hear your voice.’ I don’t know if I messed up all of my progress or not.
@Melinated Beauty ... you did great!! You’re just over analyzing and he is dumb founded because he views you with a new found respect. Let it sink into his head a bit...he will reach out. No pain, no gain... patience and you have him on a hook you just don’t feel the tug yet of him jumping out of the water with excitement because you are someone who he know respects and he’s figuring out who is this strong GF I walked away from and how do I fix it. NC and stay away. He is where he wants to be once he figures out he wants to be with you he will find away he’s not dumb. 😊
'Ticket to the wonderland ' 😂😂 Funny af Coach! I have so much gratitude for you coach. I was vulnerable to the level that i had suicidal thoughts and even was seriously thinking how i can do it. From those 3-4 months and now, i laugh on the things i did to get her back. 😂 This makes so much sense, have been watching your videos on loop since 4 months now. Helps a lot! Heartfelt gratitude to you ❣️
I called my ex after about 5 weeks of not seeing him (I chose to end it because in spite of him loving me, he wouldn’t invest into our relationship), and he was very much like you. His response to me asking him how he was: “well, thanks”. He didn’t ask how I was. It didn’t give me an incentive to continue speaking with him, so it’s just confirmed for me that I need to move on - which I will now. Bottom line, if they are reaching out to you, DO engage in a conversation unless you are completely not interested in them anymore. I was rejected many times in our relationship (‘I don’t want to commit to you’), and the other day was just one time too many. I love him to death, but I will not contact him again after getting such an indifferent response. I’m done.
Vesna wow thank you so much for sharing this story! I feel the same, it must have been freeing for you to realise that he wasn’t interested. I think one day he’ll realise what he lost and it will be horrible for him.
My ex and I had a bad breakup this time last year. I didn't handle it like I should have and we were on-again-off-again for a full year. Whenever there was a fight, I freaked out because I felt like I was losing him. He backed away and "broke up" over and over again. Enough's enough. While I love the man to bits, I'm exhausted and finally have to take the perspective that if he comes back, great. If he doesn't, that's OK too. Today I gave him a very quick text apologising for behaving irrationally and from now on I will respect his space to heal and work through his difficulties and I will work on my own. He responded say that he really appreciated it, and was glad we were on good terms. I will keep you guys updated either way! :)
if she reaches out then Good if she never reaches out then also Good Life goes on and there are so many women out there that will value you once you level up and be the best man you can be :)
Coach Lee -- you're awesome, and you have helped me so much since my breakup. Your videos and your kit are invaluable, and I encourage everyone who reads this to explore as many of Coach's vids as possible. That being said, I also encourage anyone who reads this to explore the different attachment styles. I recently did so, and for the first time since my breakup (7 weeks ago), I feel like I can finally let go and move on. My ex is a dismissive attachment style (the description matched her perfectly)... I think a lot of the time we (as dumpees) dwell on what we could have done differently, and we look back and say, "I wish I did x instead of y"... Looking at her attachment style, I now realize that there was nothing I could have done differently. For the first time in 7 weeks, I no longer feel regret, because I know this wasn't my doing. Some people just aren't matches... I can say with confidence that I will never enter into a relationship with another dismissive attachment style again. Their push and pull style, as well as their inability to open up just isn't the right fit for me.
You know, i called my ex today after few weeks of no contact, as i missed him and wanted to hear his voice. He, on the other hand, behaved exactly how you explained a person should behave if an ex calls them after prolonged silence.... so at this point i'm actually wondering if he's also watching your videos and following your instructions....lolol
His videos are based solely on men's reaction towards dumping woman. So if your the dumper you are not supposed to initiate contact, your ex is. Your ex is also doing a habitual habit all men do within the scenario.
How’s this for an update - I’ve blocked his arse on every single media platform I can think of, because after three and a half years of this emotional hell with him, I’m done. Completely done. I want absolutely nothing to do with him for the rest of my life. How’s that for NO contact? I bet he’ll probably try to crawl back now, but I totally don’t want him. Nah. My girlfriends were right. I took their advice for a change, have completely removed him from my life, and feel 1000% better as a result. Never again will I involve myself with a man who apparently wants me, but is ‘not ready to commit’. Next man who starts dribbling that kind of crap to me, I’ll be showing him the door - and then I’ll implement NO contact again, this time forever.
Broke up 2 months ago on Jan 9th, been in No Contact since Feb 3rd. She’s going through a surgery recovery, and when we broke up, she said she was hopeful to date again but couldn’t promise it... I’m planning on reaching out to her the 2nd week of April (our school spring break), because I need a Yes or No answer, and I feel like I deserve one too. Wish me luck guys 🙏
You see. You need to learn that there could be a possibility of her saying yes or no. Either way, if you’re mentally prepared to leave the past behind as memories, then you can do it. However, this will hurt if she says no. No contact will go to waste if you didn’t heal completely so that’s why you need to go No Contact to 100% heal.
It would be better to not reach out. She will be on her ass and that is the time when a person if they have a conscience l, it calls. Let her see what it is not having you there to change her dressings or empty her piss can.
I appreciate all the feedback, but unlike most breakups, I have a timeline of May-June being the “new beginning” after her surgery... so I Am gonna reach out to her soon, because we broke up from the stress of her recovery.
Can anyone help me.. Me and my partner broke up 1.5 Months back.. Baseless fights but main reason was her friends.. Which I was not liking.. She abuse me after I tried to convince her.. I waited 15 days then also she was continuesly abusing me.. She contacted me last week and was speaking politely asking about my parents me and life I didn't convince her this time..
Coach Lee, I really appreciate your content. I hope your business is doing well for you and I’ll be sending a tip your way. You’ve helped me so much, thank you. I would also encourage other people to support this man who is giving us his many words of advice for free.
Sometimes it’s not conscious! Or not intentional! Sometimes we make mistakes and then see how they respond. Then it becomes a test of sorts which goes both ways!
On day 103 of NC he showed up at a restaurant I was at and sat directly across from us!! We hugged and I remained confident, polite, and exuded my positive energy.
Been blocked for almost 4 months now. I still feel this strange 5d connection and I can't shake it. I know she has to feel the same but is with someone else and has been since day 1 of the break up
Thank You for this today!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ Coach Lee, you have given me the strength to get off of social media and to stay in NC for 5 months. When I feel weak, you put out a new video and I gain more strength...Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
@@nikhilgarg1326 No… he did contact me to tell me his new girl friend was an alcoholic and to give him time because she was crazy and he didn’t want her to do anything crazy to me. Two weeks later the home I was supposed to move in with him was for sale and sold the next week. He know lives with her. She is everything he supposedly does not like. I have not seen him since Aug of 2020.
You will hear from them when you start truly caring about yourself, move on to where you realize you are the prize. Focus inward … you might come to the conclusion that they were only a lesson or a bump in the road to get to what’s real…you will hear from them. The question will become “Do you want them” Just be patient ♥️
OK been together 7 years she walked out 6 weeks ago won't sign any paperwork won't move furniture out accuses me of sleeping with other women texts regularly and will not give answer if it's over pls help
100 % - Thumbs Up to the previous comment. About Coach Lee making available such important behind the scenes relationship psychology that woukd only be available if you lived two whole lifetimes and attempted it again without a single error. Without this all break ups could be extremely messy and where a glimmer of hope for a couple were to be available totally thrashed at 1st hurdle. Thank You very much Coach Lee.
Will your ex do something to test you to see if you will get mad about something you would normally flip out about like will your ex do something too see your reaction
My ex-gf broke up with me 3 weeks ago. She recently lashed out to me when I sent her flowers. However, 4 days later she a indirectly asked me to come to her house and build furniture for her. I declined and didn't carry on the conversation. Hope this was a good idea.
Hello Lee, just wanted to tell you that this is a great video. Like I told you before, I still love listening to you. You help so many people. God bless you! ❤
My separated wife has been testing me for the 3 months she’s been gone. Our therapist let me know the other day she knows I’m really working on myself and sees change. She still doesn’t believe it’s permanent yet as we have gone through many 3-4 month cycles. I believe if I keep this up another month and past her tests she’ll check back in. It’s a stark difference between how we were and how we are today. Never give up there is always hope. The more you build your value and give them space the more they will desire you and run towards you.
I did the dumping but she checked out months ago. Stopped texting stop calling not opening her door. So technically I moved out but she checked out last March. I’m considering that I am the dumped not the dumper!
He broke up with me , the next day I make my 30 day no contact calendar and he texts me the next day telling me he still cares and will always love me. I respond Thank you Michael. He says "My mom always called me Michael when she was mad lol" so I lol and that's it. Then 12 hours later he texts me Goodnight, I wait an hour and say Goodnight. Nothing from him today yet. I. White knuckeing waiting for something but I'm not gonna text.
My ex testwd me after 3 Weeks no contact by reaching out to set up a time to talk with her. I thought, ok this could be great. She calls me and starts crying saying she felt bad that she thought her family was being mean to me which they werent then followed that up with saying she heard I was "waiting around on her still." Ive never heard of this type of reaching out. I assume she was testing the safety net to see if i was still waiting?? I told her i wasnt waiting and also had been working on myself the whole time. So yhat was her test I guess.
Coach she just reached out yesterday after 1.5 months nc! Thank you so much for your content, it kept me from breaking and reaching out first. She asked me how I am and we talked quite a bit and it was really fun, she even complimented me several times on my looks or stuff I do good, but at the end she suddenly kinda stopped and just wished me a nice easter, so Im a bit confused if she really just wanted to see how I am or if she also missed me
Just a couple of texts that had nothing to do with our relationship. It’s been four months and I feel like I’m stuck in false hope for something that isn’t ever gonna come.
9 days no contact after my bf ask for space coz he's not happy anymore and he said the sparks are gone. It hurts so much it breaks my heart. We should be getting married next year 💔💔💔
The part where he talks about that you have to go reserve en behave your self is so true. Every time is screw it up at that point by first behave my self and than falling in to a rush and start the circle again and it push them only farther away :( It is so hard to behave yourself and to do not rush it.
zacharysms9, if she keeps breaking no contact, she misses you. Don't ignore her, but tell her you're in NO Contact for a reason, and you want to stick to the process. Tell her that, and see what happens.
She reached out with a simple congratulation because my favorite athlete, the one she hates, has won the championship. It was so random i didn’t expect it. I replied by a simple thank you. And that was the whole conversation Edit: we had a nice casual chat yesterday after a month and a half. It was more positive than the one i talked about first. There was an exchange and i think the ice had been broken 😋
@@borislavkovacevic6236 yeah i saw her few days after this chat. She was a bit shy at first then she told everything about her life in details. It’s been a week. Since and every two days she sends me random stuff on social media (idk if that’s her way to start a conversation)
@@elie_d7334 I would suggest to ignore her message once, say it's "accidentally" some other day when she reach out. Go out from just messaging. It is not ignoring, you have your life. Maybe it's not a good suggestion, you decide.
wittywinter9234 I'm sure it would not go over too well. I know if the situation was reversed, you would be affected by it also Yes, it could ruin NO Contact.
Hey Coach Lee, I just wanted to say that your work is very important and life saving. You are like a ray of light that saves me from the dark labyrinths of my mind. When I feel like my life has ended I listen to your videos and immediately feel a lot better. If I get my ex back or not, I will always appreciate your help and I will pray for you.
Keep on rocking that hairstyle you handsome devil!
Exactly we love you Coach Lee
@@ENFPerspectives yah😕😕😕😕
@@ycilmartha8456 stfu
One of the best coaches on the internet.Honest, real, no stupid tricks Love your videos!
I never had anyone come back
Bottom line: if they love you they'll move Heavan and Hell to be with you.
Yep.
Yeah but bro can't be trying "too hard", gotta be high value...gotta care less n be an indifferent animal. Humans are all about status man, I don't know if we deserve love.
Exactly
mine never even ever visited me we lived 500 km apart
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at this point I’m just watching these to keep my peace.
same!
Me too
My ex actually walked in to the restaurant I own while I was listening to your video. After 6 months no contact I feel ready to show off my growth. No more chasing for me. I’m stronger and less anxious than I’ve ever been. Thank you!
Story of my life .. my personal and bisnes growth game became stronger without him...and also that I realized my worth and deserve better
So, how it went?
that is just so cool...
Any updates yet?
Im here to tell you guys that NC worked! It took 32 days for my ex to reach out for some trivial catch up and he told me how he was feeling hurt and alone and how he felt he lost best friend. We had a very good talk and even tho we are now taking things slowly NC DID WORK! Believe in it. Dont believe what you think your ex thinks. It maybe very misleading. I was sure he is having a good time and forgot about me. Have faith! Have patience! Stay on track!
Not a peep
I’m glad things worked out for you! 😊 so did they say they wanted to get back together but you both are taking things slow?
@@TelAlissa ah ok nice! I’m glad it worked out for you that way and that is best. I don’t think there is much hope for me as my ex only messaged me sporadically once or twice every week and we meet up once every two weeks but it doesn’t seem to going anywhere and this has been going on for two months 😞
Allie so happy for you
@@jketfield Thank you!
It's so nice to know I am NOT the only one going through this shitty time in my life 💖
❤BE STRONG EVERYONE!❤
Break up club
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@@islandvctr something happened. We met - my ex kissed me and tried to take me to the bedroom. I've refused because when I asked what was happening the answer was: "Let's do a revival". This was exactly 2 weeks ago. I refused and said that I am non the "revival" type of person and left. Got a text while driving home: " I am sorry - I shouldn't had..." The week after (a week ago) I was offered to have breakfast together and I was so happy about that. We never had breakfast together. Since last week no more messages. I am incredibly strong - I truly was dying to make love with my other half but resisted. I need an apology, I want to know If I'm loved or not. I stopped giving myself away for free ages ago... but the last 2 days has been incredibly hard.
@jambogb Any updates about your ex? I hope it worked out.
no, I moved back home to London and she's in Italy. She texted me in August but then deleted the message... I am feeling better but not able to start a new relationship because it's still hurting @@joannab1692
People are so scared of being hurt - but no one has that power unless you give it to them! Heal your own wounds from childhood and you will be whole and ready for a healthy relationship 💖
Great advice, the problem is how? Speaking only for myself I can say that I for many years have desperately wanted to be happy within myself but 43 years of self hate and guilt makes it a challenge
@@fernandocabanillas8133 get to the root of the problem for which makes you dislike your emotions about yourself, start from there and then maybe others will reveal from within and whatever comes up that is what you start to work on. If it something that triggered from your youth like mom or dad siblings etc.
Three month update : i regret not doing No Contact longer and i regret somewhat letting him back in my life too soon. I didnt wait until he is back back, we just in limbo without any explanation and now it feels too late to ask " what are we ". Half of the feelings are definitely gone after all this time . We talk, we still somewhat close , we fight and we reconcile, but its no where near same. I am torn between " be patient , show him love, be his peace " and simple " let go " . My advice for all heartbroken souls would be to be patient. It only an illusion that you want him/her back. When they are back it will be a whole new can of worms to deal with and its hard hard hard . Do not rush, do not push. More time in NC - the better.
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I was reading your original comment . Thanks for the advices 🙏🏽
Let go. Don't hang on to something that you don't know "what are we?". You should not ever be in limbo. The other person knows damn well what they are doing. Stringing you along. Being too kind is not the way to go.
The best thing to do is to take a screenshot of coach Lee's face and save it as your phones home screen.
This will stop from any attempt to break no contact.
ahahahaha might just do that!
Best comment award ❤
LOL that’s real.
Who loves me is with me, and only person that is here right now is my son.
Guys trust the no contact rule it works like a charm , thank you coach
for the guidance and giving us hope
Not just getting back our ex but to grow as a great partner to our significant other
It doesn’t matter if NC “works” because it’s your best option regardless of the outcome. Do it for yourself. If they want to try again, cool. If they don’t, cool.
It really is. A lot of these relationships people talk about on here sound like they're with personality disordered individuals. There's no winning with these types, and they'll push and pull you until you're emotionally neutered if you let them, then pretend to care and want you back just to do it again. Zero contact is the only way.
Such an underrated channel. You are the only relationship specialist on UA-cam that has made feel very comfortable mentally during times of great stress during my relationship.
Any type of manipulation that will involve your emotions or your decision making is usually a test. Always pick the strongest or more manly choice if involved.
I did the no contact, but not as a game or to get my ex back. He contacted me last Saturday after 3 months and said: We haven't spoken in a while, hope all is well with you.
I responded: I'm fantastic and I hope all is well with you.
That was it.
I would have said , I’m good thanks how’s you . But again if your not bothered you just ignore them .
@@Redouku It's a long story about what happened. You're right about my response, but I'm uncertain if I want him back. That's how I'm feeling. I don't know if I can trust him again. I just feel if a man truly loves or cares for a woman he could never go that long without talking to her.
All in all, no contact does work. 😊
@@Amctothemoon Your right.
How are you doing
I got my ex back.
If you are not interested in taking a bath, why do you care if it's to hot!! Coach you have said some classic lines, but this had me on the floor lol
Coach I love your sence of humor and your genuine nature on helping people. In these trying times we all need this. God bless you brother.
I followed the NC rule. My ex contacted me for the first time since the breakup a few days ago.
Then Silence.
He sent a brief message tonight, like the ones he used to send me post breakup.
So,… watching your videos, sometimes more than once. And with your help, I am staying strong.
Coach Lee, you gave me your honest advice and loads of strength, starting from the 2nd day of my breakup.
Your videos are a Blessing!
Thank you!
update?
I laughed into my tea when you said 'we have to still behave ourselves 😂😂😂 so serious. I'm learning to laugh again and find humour again. Thank you for what you do and the way you do it.
Lol. Coach Lee has some hilarious moments. He makes me laugh and out of nowhere.
Had the same here 😂
He sent me a text saying Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
I really like your approach on not treating an ex like the devil. Instead you reveal the ex to be nothing more than a fallible human.
I would love to see you do a series on no contact with ex’s with different attachment styles. I believe the approach drastically varies when dealing with different attachment styles. I’d like to know your take on that!
There's a video on the subject by Personal Development School.
@@debless9572 I have actually watched most of her videos. I’m curious about coach Lees take on it. Thanks though 😊
How are you doing
I got my ex back.
Whxapp the helper of me
I am living my life without him now, not expecting him to come back again anymore..
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I think as much as we may want our ex back. Its the best way to be. Concentrate on self. And if they want us back. Bonus. But its hard to get into that frame of mind
@@insightstory5933 so you’re telling that single mom doesn’t deserve to be loved? Person like you needs LOVE, GOD BLESS YOU
@@jatzyhanna Ah don’t listen to them. No body can understand your struggle and what you’ve been through because everyone has unique experiences.
The problem I have with these videos, not just coach Lee's, is that there's a lot of overthinking that can happen here. For me, it was getting to the point of indifference. You truly have to not care about the outcome. I heard back from my ex after 520+ days. That was the second time I went into no contact. The first latest somewhere around 130 days I think. The point is, it's been so long that I don't care anymore about the "test". I let her message first 90% of the time. I'll keep it friendly but simple small talk. Hell, I just invited her to a concert. No different than I would've done with one of my friends. For me I'm keeping it slow in the sense of talking but I'm also setting up in person interactions (every now and then). Again, I do this because it feels natural. I'm so over the past and I don't care anymore. I've had so much time being alone and focusing on me that I'm really indifferent on the outcome. If my ex and I are able to rebuild from the ground up, cool. If not, then nothing has changed for me and all that happened was I exchanged a few text messages.
Coach you are right but for me "No Contact" made me focus on my self.
Soooo my ex broke NC after 27 days and wouldn’t you know it he was EXPECTING me to contact him first! Like I was the one who broke up with him🙄 And now he’s just sending bread crumb texts. Honestly I didn’t feel the way I thought I would if he contacted me. Kind of underwhelming 🤷🏾♀️
How are you doing
I got my ex back.
Whxapp the helper of me
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Narcissistic prick, most probably!
It's very important to know what to do when you begin to get to the point of possibly getting back together. Very delicate. Thank you for telling us what to expect and what to do about it.
How are you doing
I got my ex back.
My situation is a little different. The girl I was talking to was not necessarily an ex however we talked everyday and hit it off, had a great connection etc. We were building towards a relationship and was very close to one. However she broke it off, saying how stressful it was for her to balance school and work towards a relationship as we built a great connection & mentioned how she was broken. It didn’t make sense. However my intuition and my strong belief tells me one day soon she will reach out to me and this is not the end. These videos confirming this and giving me strength. We all have to stay strong.
She was lying. No girl is busy for the man she likes. She is busy WITH YOU.
What happened???
She met another guy. Don't be naive
May this day be filled with blessings, peace, hope, goodness and love as Christ has risen. Happy Easter to you my dearest 💕
No, Coach Lee it's not coming from a place of arrogance when you supported them through a tough time for quite a while, they didnt appreciate it therefore I ended it with them. It's coming from a place of hurt and protecting yourself. Going into no contact even though I ended it was for my own sanity and hope they realize they lost the only person who genuinely cared about them and fighting to keep you in their life. When it's always about them and they cant even ask you how your doing shows they dont give a f*** about you it hurts and is devastating.
Exprerienced the same
@@elmaswanepoel1598 I'm sorry you went through it too. Caring for someone shouldn't be taken for granted.
Same. Broke up with them and it broke my heart to do it. Hurt me badly to hurt them. It was due to a lie he told. Never once did I ever feel better than him. I was protecting myself.
@@ENFPerspectivesMy situation is a little different in that he didnt give a damn I moved on. Oh well, my mistake caring about someone who would never care about me.
@@ronmexico8383 I tried volunteering info about myself or talking about my day and he wouldn't respond.
Man no contact really works. Listen to coach Lee. This man is awesome. 6 weeks and my ex wants to see me.
She wife reached out was facing divorce
My ex and I have been together for 12 years, I made it one week of NC and due to the length of our relationship we have financial obligations to work out, I contacted him. He told me, he was glad NC was working for me, lol I went right back to NC. It felt very empowering! I am still devastated, but I am proud of myself for the fact that I didn't respond back with anything other than what I needed to say. I am making progress. Thanks Coach Lee!
he knows you went NC? doesn't that defeat the purpose of NC? He knows you're doing it to try to get his goat and to come back to you?
@@lisat5666 I dont veiw it that way, not sure how he views it. NC is a good tool for moving forward as well, not just to get someone back. Getting him back is not guaranteed, so i dont view that as my emd goal. My goal os to recover from the breakup lol
How are you doing
I got my ex back.
Whxapp the helper of me
I’m going through a break up right now and it hurts so bad.. my heart hurts I’ve cried off and on all day.
I know it’s tough but time is going to help! Cry it out and do something you love. You got this! 🤗
You are like a therapist man. Great work and advise. Love the pragmatic approach you take. Very helpful instructional videos. Thank you
Coach Lee, you be putting us up on game forreal!! Praise God for you and your expertise! ❤️
If your wanting back and you loved them then you wouldn’t be dating/screwing anyone especially if thinking/wanting to get back
I am the 1 who DUMPED & so proud of myself. Never thought I'd have the guts or confidence to do it but Prayer gave me strength. I realized I didnt really know him; & so I was in love with the illusion of who I Thought he was (who I Wanted him to be). My feet not on the ground therefore it was NOT love but my own stories in my head & dreams of I invisioned him to be.
When truth woke me up, lies exposed & feeling used, I was hurt, then angry. Then calmness, common sense, & self respect kicked in. PRAYERS gave strength to get it DONE & 🚫 block him. Nope... glad to never hear from him.
Miss him like I miss a pebble in my shoe.
Thank you! 😊 life feels much better.
You seem bitter, crazy that you commented too. Weird flex.
For those looking for positive hope, read this! Back in November 2020 my ex acted quiet and shut down for a few days. We had recently gotten engaged a few months prior. I finally asked her what was wrong and she broke down with everything. She had felt hurt and had "checked out" because we had been fighting a lot the last year, we were together for 2.5 years total at that point, she also was hurt by things I said at times. She was abused physically and emotionally by her parents as a kid so it affects her harshly to be abused emotionally. And there were an occasional argument where I'd say hurtful things, I'd ask her why she was bein such a bitch or asked her why she's even with me if she's always bickering about what I do, cuz from my view it seemed like she was always complaining but I finally saw it from her view that she just wanted me to be better and was trying to help me, especially since my words and our fights were hurting her. I was too prideful to think I was doin anything wrong, so I took it personally and it felt she was always bitchin at me for little shit but I should have payed more attention to what she was saying. She even warned my dumbass over the last year on a few occasions, that she was hurt and she wouldn't stay with me if I kept saying hurtful things. When we got engaged things were a tad bit better but I think it contributed to her "trapped" feeling, cuz I really hadn't fixed the core issues I had and she felt I wasn't gonna change, so she prob felt I was gonna marry her and end up getting worse and then she'd be trapped. So she ended up asking for a "break" but she mentioned she clearly loved me but couldn't do it. She said "if u were anyone else I'd not even consider it. We didn't have much space livin together so later in November she moved down the street into a trailer for a short 6mo lease so we could be apart. The problem was that she kept hitting me up to see her. We saw each other every few days. I was too available and we were both still emotional for months. I changed my attitude during that time and worked on myself, but our problem was that we kept seeing each other during a "break" and at times I was distraught and she would see that something was bothering me, then she'd make me talk about it and it was always about wanting to actually start making progress on workin on things or bein upset cuz it had been a few months and she still didn't trust me in that sense. I didn't want to talk about it but she could read my demeanor and see it bothered me and made me talk. Doin that during a time where we were both still emotionally sensitive was not goin well cuz it didn't allow her feeling of bein trapped to go away, it just made her feel more pressured. She also couldn't trust my changes so it was just a mess. At end of January I had 1 last talk with her and left her house, I intended to go into no contact cuz I told her if we were not gonna make progress then I needed to back away. She hmu a few times over the next week but I was short on response. Doin that made her overthink about things for a week or two, and at the beginning of February she called me to tell me that she doesn't think regaining trust in me was possible and that we should prob have space apart, actual space, and also end the "break" cuz we could never get back together anyways if we never really ended the relationship and continued to see each other during a "break" and actually had a while apart. She said "I don't want to dangle a carrot in front of ur face and get ur hopes up, and I'm tryin to be over it" and that really hurt but I agreed without bein a lil bitch and we started having space, aka no contact. She really didn't believe I could stay away lol That started Feb 4th. On the 9th she called me twice back to back cuz I didn't answer the first call, she told me my family hit her up as well as my baby momma. I thought it was weird for her to urgently call me to tell me that, and I guess my baby momma didn't know what was going on with my ex fiance so she had her number and called about something unrelated. The very next day, the 10th of Feb after only 6 days of no contact I got a heart dropping text, it was the first time it felt like I was never gonna have another shot. My bitter baby momma jumped into my business and had sent her screen shots of several year old messages of me supposedly cussin at my baby momma from back when I was with her, and my ex fiance saw it as emotional abuse. The problem was that I had told my ex fiance that before her I had never emotionally abused anyone before, to be fair I never realized what I had done was emotional abuse until my ex fiance told me when this all started months ago. So I hadn't intentionally lied to her about not bein emotionally abusive before, but she already didn't trust me and so this made her feel I lied intentionally. It was a mess, she said "I found out u lied to me again and I'm done. I can't believe anything about you. You need to just move on and find someone else, I wish you the best but I'm definitely not it" and I talked to her that day to try to explain that I didn't intentionally lie to her and that if I cussed at my baby momma years ago it was not only forgotten but until recently I didn't even know that was emotionally abuse. After that I hadn't heard from her for weeks. She texted last week Monday, March 8th, after 32 days of no contact she asked if I recieved a package of hers that she accidently sent to my address instead of her new house. I didn't answer quick enough and 5 min later she called to ask. Idk if she sent it here on purpose, but I told her she could come check cuz I wasn't home. At this point it had been 3 or 4 weeks since that incident and now she was totally bein nice, patient and almost sounded sad. She was prob surprised that I didn't bring anything up on the phone. I was polite and then got off the phone. Fast forward to 2 nights ago, 1 week later. I decided it had been 40 days of no contact and I was at a place where I've accepted things with her but still missed her. I decided to reach out cuz I had a strong feeling she still missed me and had feelings for me but was forcing herself to stay silent, her pride grew a lot since the breakup. I also was accepting of whatever response I might recieve. I texted her, "Hey, hope all is well with u and the kids. I'm doin just dandy like a dandelion. Hit me back sometime if u want." I kept it short and didn't ask any questions, I gave her the option to reach out to me. I also didn't text her any bullshit "memory reminder" text message lol And 45 min later my phone rang and it was her! I picked up and she was like, "your not supposed to do this" and she said it in a not serious flirty way. At first I didn't hear her and said, "what was that", she quickly said, "nothing!" with a flirty chuckle. Then she said it again where I could hear. We talked for 45 min before she asked if I wanted to come over. I sounded hesitant but was like, "ok I'll come by for few". We hung out and talked, watched videos with her on her phone, had fun and laughed. Layed on her bed beside her just chillin until 1130pm. I decided to head out after 2 hours and as she was about to lock the door behind me she pinched my nipple and ran away like a lil kid lol I gave her a lil titty poke back, said goodbye then left. We had fun. So basically I had a strong feeling that it would work out to break no contact, esp since she had called the week prior and her attitude and demeanor was much better, and it worked but I wouldn't recommend it, but I just had a very strong feeling based on the phone call a week prior and just had that vibe that I needed to reach out after a week or so. She may have contacted me later at some point, but idk if she would have had the balls to ask me to hangout or actually act like that so I had to give her a light push. I'm sure I just re-planted a seed and now I need to water it slowly over time. Wish me luck! And keep ur head up yall! Sometimes it's ok to break no contact after so long, esp if you're much more emotionally stable and if you've already been contacted and were able to get a vibe for how your ex might be feeling. It's not over yet, but I know what to do and I'm in a much more stable mind to do it without big mistakes.
bro, thats impressive, good luck with the rest, you teach me something, especially, dandy like dandelion lol
@@hayday9224 lol I hadn't talked to her since Tuesday night and she literally just called me 10 min ago. I wasn't gonna contact her too much and figured I may have to make the contact a bit at first, but she just called. She's gonna call back again, she just had a work call she had to take.
@@QuinnLIFTS she clearly on to you keep the good work buddy, happy for you
@@hayday9224 yeah I went and hung out again last night after we talked on phone. She mentioned she still bein on process of healin, she is still hurt, but our time apart helped her not be so bitter towards me and now it's much more fun to be around her. She is much more silly and feels more comfortable bein her weird self around me, I'm weird and goofy too so that's prob why we always connected so well, cuz we match very well. She showed me this tictok about not bein able to be with anyone else cuz she would forever be comparing them to me, or something like that. Well first she said, "here's a tictok I was gonna send u recently, watch it" cuz she didn't send it to me durin no contact. But I'm happy with how it's going. Good luck to u too!
How are you doing
No Contact Works ❤️
It took her 4 months to reach outt!
Though i have moved on!
Butt who cares🙌
She texted me on my moms birthday, she passed away last year. She wished my mom a happy heavenly birthday. I didn’t have a problem with it, I even responded and said thank you (insert nickname I gave her) 💚. An hour and a half later she texted again asking how I was doing? I told her I’m doing well thanks for asking. She never responded. I’m not really tripping over it, it’s cool. Just gonna leave it alone, got to focus on myself and make my happiness important.
Your videos have really helped me through a break up. When I’ve been messy I stick on a video and it’s reassuring to hear that there IS hope, IF I want. Thank you so much for your wise words.
1 month of no contact into the 2 advised and she’s liking my photos and stuff on social media - which is quite confusing.
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Stay strong and be smart when responding. Respond short and simple word.
Darn so Coach should I have not said I’m glad he called when he finally broke NC. Ugh I messed up! 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Ok so here’s how it went - He calls me out of the blue this past Sunday and the first thing he said(after he said hello) was ‘oh I see you unblocked me I’ve called numerous times and got the voicemail’ (he was never blocked) and then he goes ‘so why haven’t you called’ like I was the dumper! And I told him I was respecting his decision to break up. We didn’t talk long. So after we got off the phone I waited for a few hours and texted him ‘I’m glad you called’ and his response was ‘I wanted to hear your voice.’ I don’t know if I messed up all of my progress or not.
@Melinated Beauty ... you did great!! You’re just over analyzing and he is dumb founded because he views you with a new found respect. Let it sink into his head a bit...he will reach out. No pain, no gain... patience and you have him on a hook you just don’t feel the tug yet of him jumping out of the water with excitement because you are someone who he know respects and he’s figuring out who is this strong GF I walked away from and how do I fix it. NC and stay away. He is where he wants to be once he figures out he wants to be with you he will find away he’s not dumb. 😊
I just can't stop watching your videos. They speak to the issues.
In other words, make the water feel lukewarm when they test it.
We are both strong-willed!
I'/m going through something similar right now. You hit the hammer on the head on EVERY single one of these points.
When lee said no you know better your watching this video 👌🏿👊🏽
'Ticket to the wonderland ' 😂😂 Funny af Coach!
I have so much gratitude for you coach. I was vulnerable to the level that i had suicidal thoughts and even was seriously thinking how i can do it. From those 3-4 months and now, i laugh on the things i did to get her back. 😂 This makes so much sense, have been watching your videos on loop since 4 months now. Helps a lot! Heartfelt gratitude to you ❣️
I enjoy listening to coach Lee. Interesting facts..By the way I like the shirt, you are always elegant.
How are you doing
I got my ex back.
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What if it was a mutual break up and we both made mistakes throughout the relationship?
Just block them and move on
yes!
He texted after only a week of NC. He wished everything was amazing for me. I said Thank you, wishing you the same. That’s it.
give it more time. you gotta make him miss you
I called my ex after about 5 weeks of not seeing him (I chose to end it because in spite of him loving me, he wouldn’t invest into our relationship), and he was very much like you. His response to me asking him how he was: “well, thanks”. He didn’t ask how I was. It didn’t give me an incentive to continue speaking with him, so it’s just confirmed for me that I need to move on - which I will now. Bottom line, if they are reaching out to you, DO engage in a conversation unless you are completely not interested in them anymore. I was rejected many times in our relationship (‘I don’t want to commit to you’), and the other day was just one time too many. I love him to death, but I will not contact him again after getting such an indifferent response. I’m done.
@@BambiOnIce19 i can relate to your situation. At least youve done your very best. There will be no regret on your end in future, for certain.
Vesna wow thank you so much for sharing this story! I feel the same, it must have been freeing for you to realise that he wasn’t interested. I think one day he’ll realise what he lost and it will be horrible for him.
please give us an update
My ex and I had a bad breakup this time last year. I didn't handle it like I should have and we were on-again-off-again for a full year. Whenever there was a fight, I freaked out because I felt like I was losing him. He backed away and "broke up" over and over again. Enough's enough. While I love the man to bits, I'm exhausted and finally have to take the perspective that if he comes back, great. If he doesn't, that's OK too. Today I gave him a very quick text apologising for behaving irrationally and from now on I will respect his space to heal and work through his difficulties and I will work on my own. He responded say that he really appreciated it, and was glad we were on good terms. I will keep you guys updated either way! :)
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I wish you did coaching calls man lol
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pretty sure he does. He discusses calls all the time.
@@BillCollins0707 nah, he just has a video series you can buy
if she reaches out then Good
if she never reaches out then also Good
Life goes on and there are so many women out there that will value you once you level up and be the best man you can be :)
Coach Lee -- you're awesome, and you have helped me so much since my breakup. Your videos and your kit are invaluable, and I encourage everyone who reads this to explore as many of Coach's vids as possible.
That being said, I also encourage anyone who reads this to explore the different attachment styles. I recently did so, and for the first time since my breakup (7 weeks ago), I feel like I can finally let go and move on.
My ex is a dismissive attachment style (the description matched her perfectly)... I think a lot of the time we (as dumpees) dwell on what we could have done differently, and we look back and say, "I wish I did x instead of y"... Looking at her attachment style, I now realize that there was nothing I could have done differently. For the first time in 7 weeks, I no longer feel regret, because I know this wasn't my doing. Some people just aren't matches... I can say with confidence that I will never enter into a relationship with another dismissive attachment style again. Their push and pull style, as well as their inability to open up just isn't the right fit for me.
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Just in time, you knew i needed this video, didnt you? 😂😂 thank you Coach Lee!!
You know, i called my ex today after few weeks of no contact, as i missed him and wanted to hear his voice. He, on the other hand, behaved exactly how you explained a person should behave if an ex calls them after prolonged silence.... so at this point i'm actually wondering if he's also watching your videos and following your instructions....lolol
His videos are based solely on men's reaction towards dumping woman. So if your the dumper you are not supposed to initiate contact, your ex is. Your ex is also doing a habitual habit all men do within the scenario.
Hello vesna u funny
How’s this for an update - I’ve blocked his arse on every single media platform I can think of, because after three and a half years of this emotional hell with him, I’m done. Completely done. I want absolutely nothing to do with him for the rest of my life. How’s that for NO contact? I bet he’ll probably try to crawl back now, but I totally don’t want him. Nah. My girlfriends were right. I took their advice for a change, have completely removed him from my life, and feel 1000% better as a result. Never again will I involve myself with a man who apparently wants me, but is ‘not ready to commit’. Next man who starts dribbling that kind of crap to me, I’ll be showing him the door - and then I’ll implement NO contact again, this time forever.
@@BambiOnIce19 Good for you💪❤
Broke up 2 months ago on Jan 9th, been in No Contact since Feb 3rd. She’s going through a surgery recovery, and when we broke up, she said she was hopeful to date again but couldn’t promise it... I’m planning on reaching out to her the 2nd week of April (our school spring break), because I need a Yes or No answer, and I feel like I deserve one too. Wish me luck guys 🙏
You see. You need to learn that there could be a possibility of her saying yes or no. Either way, if you’re mentally prepared to leave the past behind as memories, then you can do it. However, this will hurt if she says no. No contact will go to waste if you didn’t heal completely so that’s why you need to go No Contact to 100% heal.
good luck!! :)
It would be better to not reach out. She will be on her ass and that is the time when a person if they have a conscience l, it calls. Let her see what it is not having you there to change her dressings or empty her piss can.
I appreciate all the feedback, but unlike most breakups, I have a timeline of May-June being the “new beginning” after her surgery... so I Am gonna reach out to her soon, because we broke up from the stress of her recovery.
Can anyone help me.. Me and my partner broke up 1.5 Months back.. Baseless fights but main reason was her friends.. Which I was not liking.. She abuse me after I tried to convince her.. I waited 15 days then also she was continuesly abusing me.. She contacted me last week and was speaking politely asking about my parents me and life I didn't convince her this time..
Coach Lee,
I really appreciate your content. I hope your business is doing well for you and I’ll be sending a tip your way. You’ve helped me so much, thank you. I would also encourage other people to support this man who is giving us his many words of advice for free.
Sometimes it’s not conscious!
Or not intentional! Sometimes we make mistakes and then see how they respond. Then it becomes a test of sorts which goes both ways!
Your videos cheer me up. I love your no BS approach.
On day 103 of NC he showed up at a restaurant I was at and sat directly across from us!! We hugged and I remained confident, polite, and exuded my positive energy.
I'm really going through hard time in this no contact thing.. it's not been easy
Been blocked for almost 4 months now. I still feel this strange 5d connection and I can't shake it. I know she has to feel the same but is with someone else and has been since day 1 of the break up
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Thank You for this today!! ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ Coach Lee, you have given me the strength to get off of social media and to stay in NC for 5 months. When I feel weak, you put out a new video and I gain more strength...Thank you from the bottom of my heart!
Are you guys together now ?
@@nikhilgarg1326 No… he did contact me to tell me his new girl friend was an alcoholic and to give him time because she was crazy and he didn’t want her to do anything crazy to me. Two weeks later the home I was supposed to move in with him was for sale and sold the next week. He know lives with her. She is everything he supposedly does not like. I have not seen him since Aug of 2020.
@@pamelad757 okay. Not sure if i will get my ex back by no contact!!
@@nikhilgarg1326 How long has it been?
You will hear from them when you start truly caring about yourself, move on to where you realize you are the prize. Focus inward … you might come to the conclusion that they were only a lesson or a bump in the road to get to what’s real…you will hear from them. The question will become “Do you want them” Just be patient ♥️
Again, its just so much. Real love aint gonna hide behind games, arrogance,ego and pride
Gosh packed with lots goodies gotta watch three times at least!!! Thx coach! Slow wins the race.
I wonder if she is testing my ability to follow through on making the changes I said I will… I am.
My ex sent a colon :. Yes, he did I just ignored it for a month then he talked. Someone said he might have been seeing if I blocked him.
OK been together 7 years she walked out 6 weeks ago won't sign any paperwork won't move furniture out accuses me of sleeping with other women texts regularly and will not give answer if it's over pls help
Michael, why is she accusing you of sleeping with other women? If you're not, and you want her to leave, get a NO CONTACT ORDER.....
I have told him I messed up. It's been 4 weeks and I'm really hoping that he will take me back.
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Yes coach lee!!! I still have to comment on your last video and I will I’m just letting time pass but I will update on things
What if your ex is testing you while she is seeing someone new?
I just messed up with everything you said in this video seriously i messed up I really feel
I sometimes wonder this when my ex comments on my best friends Facebook account
100 % - Thumbs Up to the previous comment. About Coach Lee making available such important behind the scenes relationship psychology that woukd only be available if you lived two whole lifetimes and attempted it again without a single error.
Without this all break ups could be extremely messy and where a glimmer of hope for a couple were to be available totally thrashed at 1st hurdle.
Thank You very much Coach Lee.
It’s been 6 months now. I love her with all my heart but I feel like I’m out of every timeline I see of getting her back and it kills me
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This Guy is a super hero....
Will your ex do something to test you to see if you will get mad about something you would normally flip out about like will your ex do something too see your reaction
My ex-gf broke up with me 3 weeks ago. She recently lashed out to me when I sent her flowers. However, 4 days later she a indirectly asked me to come to her house and build furniture for her. I declined and didn't carry on the conversation. Hope this was a good idea.
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Good for you. Don't let her USE YOU...❤
Hello Lee, just wanted to tell you that this is a great video. Like I told you before, I still love listening to you. You help so many people. God bless you! ❤
My separated wife has been testing me for the 3 months she’s been gone. Our therapist let me know the other day she knows I’m really working on myself and sees change. She still doesn’t believe it’s permanent yet as we have gone through many 3-4 month cycles. I believe if I keep this up another month and past her tests she’ll check back in. It’s a stark difference between how we were and how we are today.
Never give up there is always hope. The more you build your value and give them space the more they will desire you and run towards you.
I move on, thank you
@@isahyahuza7362 No man its over, believe me, she don't deserve me ;)
@@mohammedumaru1555 Thank you so much i contact him
I did the dumping but she checked out months ago. Stopped texting stop calling not opening her door. So technically I moved out but she checked out last March. I’m considering that I am the dumped not the dumper!
He broke up with me , the next day I make my 30 day no contact calendar and he texts me the next day telling me he still cares and will always love me. I respond Thank you Michael. He says "My mom always called me Michael when she was mad lol" so I lol and that's it. Then 12 hours later he texts me Goodnight, I wait an hour and say Goodnight. Nothing from him today yet. I. White knuckeing waiting for something but I'm not gonna text.
My ex testwd me after 3 Weeks no contact by reaching out to set up a time to talk with her. I thought, ok this could be great. She calls me and starts crying saying she felt bad that she thought her family was being mean to me which they werent then followed that up with saying she heard I was "waiting around on her still." Ive never heard of this type of reaching out. I assume she was testing the safety net to see if i was still waiting?? I told her i wasnt waiting and also had been working on myself the whole time. So yhat was her test I guess.
Coach she just reached out yesterday after 1.5 months nc!
Thank you so much for your content, it kept me from breaking and reaching out first.
She asked me how I am and we talked quite a bit and it was really fun, she even complimented me several times on my looks or stuff I do good, but at the end she suddenly kinda stopped and just wished me a nice easter, so Im a bit confused if she really just wanted to see how I am or if she also missed me
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Hey! I know a lot of time has passed since your comment but may you please tell what was after that?
After a month of no contact/breakup he send me all my pics and letters with a note that honestly makes no sense.
I think I messed up when he contacted me and now he blocked me again. I didn’t do anything crazy, he just knows I still love and want him. *oops*
Just a couple of texts that had nothing to do with our relationship. It’s been four months and I feel like I’m stuck in false hope for something that isn’t ever gonna come.
9 days no contact after my bf ask for space coz he's not happy anymore and he said the sparks are gone. It hurts so much it breaks my heart. We should be getting married next year 💔💔💔
How has it gone so far?
He contacted me and said sorry, he said he still loves me but after 2days he broke up with me bcoz he had someone else 💔💔💔
@Ha Neul thank you..he contacted me after 26days and we're ok..then after 2days he broke up with me coz he found someone else. Yes he cheated on me.
The part where he talks about that you have to go reserve en behave your self is so true. Every time is screw it up at that point by first behave my self and than falling in to a rush and start the circle again and it push them only farther away :(
It is so hard to behave yourself and to do not rush it.
Thanks coach Lee, I’m being tested and if feels great now that I know how to handle it.
I'm sure my test will be coming🙄😂 I don't even think I should respond though🤷🏾♀️
I try no contact but she keeps reaching out with bs that doesn’t even matter it’s like wtf dude r u in or out
zacharysms9, if she keeps breaking no contact, she misses you. Don't ignore her, but tell her you're in NO Contact for a reason, and you want to stick to the process. Tell her that, and see what happens.
She reached out with a simple congratulation because my favorite athlete, the one she hates, has won the championship. It was so random i didn’t expect it. I replied by a simple thank you. And that was the whole conversation
Edit: we had a nice casual chat yesterday after a month and a half. It was more positive than the one i talked about first. There was an exchange and i think the ice had been broken 😋
Keep it slow and cautious.
@@borislavkovacevic6236 yeah i saw her few days after this chat. She was a bit shy at first then she told everything about her life in details. It’s been a week. Since and every two days she sends me random stuff on social media (idk if that’s her way to start a conversation)
@@elie_d7334 I would suggest to ignore her message once, say it's "accidentally" some other day when she reach out. Go out from just messaging. It is not ignoring, you have your life.
Maybe it's not a good suggestion, you decide.
What if my ex comes into a club and sees me dancing with another guy will this ruin my no contact ?
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I'm sure it would not go over too well. I know if the situation was reversed, you would be affected by it also
Yes, it could ruin NO Contact.
Thank you for all of this. I would be so beyond grateful if she just gave me another chance.i miss her so bad
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i freaked out and gave him clues and now he left again
Hey Coach! Could you do a video on avoidant attachment styles? I believe my ex was a dismissive, and from what I gather, many seem to be.
Same here! Great suggestion
@@fraserdougall8965 thanks Fraser