How To Make My Ex Chase Me

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  • @amberjohnson4287
    @amberjohnson4287 3 роки тому +871

    ‘They’ve been running and eventually they look back and realize they aren’t being chased, so they stop running’ 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

    • @ENFPerspectives
      @ENFPerspectives 3 роки тому +29

      🤣🤣🤣 that is a funny visual

    • @dshbhkt6186
      @dshbhkt6186 3 роки тому +5

      Xacly 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @davidhodgson5252
      @davidhodgson5252 3 роки тому +22

      I chased and now I quit chasing because They either like me or they dont

    • @namutebisharifah8621
      @namutebisharifah8621 2 роки тому +7

      @@davidhodgson5252 i stopped chasing him so he reached out am lyk not caring at all

    • @socal1772
      @socal1772 2 роки тому +3

      i bet youre the runner youre so beutiful

  • @The_Darrell
    @The_Darrell 3 роки тому +1680

    One thing I really appreciate about you, is how calming you are. Most of your viewers are probably panicking and stressed, but you definitely help people relax with your tone, and words.

    • @BrianRoss6
      @BrianRoss6 3 роки тому +60

      I fall asleep listening to him all the time very nice lullaby

    • @james.black981
      @james.black981 3 роки тому +22

      Oh heck yes. I totally agree. Lee could just read a phone bill and it would sound amazing

    • @gypsysummer1020
      @gypsysummer1020 3 роки тому +10

      Hes voice makes me sleepy... and i didnt understand totally will i feel relaxed now... thanks fornir advice.... but the thing is still i want my ex back 😔😥😪

    • @james.black981
      @james.black981 3 роки тому +5

      @@gypsysummer1020 it goes away in time, and you learn sooooooo much in the process about yourself and what it means to be you.

    • @Jolene.098
      @Jolene.098 3 роки тому

      So true

  • @kyipasbeautyminati4172
    @kyipasbeautyminati4172 3 роки тому +717

    I used to watch these videos desperately trying to get my ex back... But now i am married to another man who is far better than my ex lol

    • @nikki8789
      @nikki8789 3 роки тому +12

      Awesome!!

    • @antilaw9911
      @antilaw9911 3 роки тому +17

      Why married? A piece of legal contract paper does not assure your love will last. Marriage is a myth.

    • @kyipasbeautyminati4172
      @kyipasbeautyminati4172 3 роки тому +48

      @@antilaw9911 marriage is a big commitment, loosers don't do that.... A man wanting to marry you is one of the most respectful thing he is doing to you... Else he can just make you his gf sleep with u and leave... 😂

    • @xarmy5669
      @xarmy5669 3 роки тому +5

      Why are you still here then? Sorry to hear about your marriage aswell.

    • @kyipasbeautyminati4172
      @kyipasbeautyminati4172 3 роки тому +27

      @@xarmy5669 because i realized that once when you r suicidal for someone wont even mean a thing in one time and life doesn't end thr.... You can find better life after that... And you don't have to feel sorry for my marriage becoz i am happiest now... Feel blessed everyday

  • @greekmontana3008
    @greekmontana3008 2 роки тому +472

    I’m literally gonna make my ex regret badly and improve my life dramatically. The power of motivation and to prove someone wrong is absolute strength to me

    • @jft2nd
      @jft2nd 2 роки тому +19

      100% doing the same

    • @yangtzeling7468
      @yangtzeling7468 2 роки тому +18

      The very fact that you bother to make your Ex regret badly Clearly reflects you are still a slave to your Ex. 😂

    • @aljok6629
      @aljok6629 2 роки тому +51

      @@yangtzeling7468 yea but it gives him strenght to drastlicly improve him self. And in the end he will be back with his ex or he will not care about her anymore

    • @SA-kz6zc
      @SA-kz6zc Рік тому +25

      @@yangtzeling7468 Using tragedies as motivation is what seperates a strong person from a weak person. You're weak

    • @yangtzeling7468
      @yangtzeling7468 Рік тому

      @@SA-kz6zc and you are tragically dumb and pathetic.
      A strong person just moves on. They don’t need to hold on to the “ tragedy “ of a past relationship to improve themselves.
      The irony of your assumption is hilarious. But it proves you are not the brightest bulb in the room.

  • @tylerrock356
    @tylerrock356 3 роки тому +602

    Listen to him. I bought his break up kit and followed everything he said. My ex came back in 2 months and we are stronger than ever. It may not always work but work on yourself, follow his rules and Ignore the negative comments. you’ll be in the position to win.

  • @mfitzy100
    @mfitzy100 Рік тому +43

    “Chase yourself..”- great line and advice

  • @juliet3227
    @juliet3227 3 роки тому +312

    Honestly, I dont know how I could have gotten past my anxiety without Coach Lee.May God continue to bless you

  • @donovanbailey3333
    @donovanbailey3333 Рік тому +52

    It may not get your ex back. But you have no idea how much this helps get through the worst nights by giving some semblance of hope.

  • @dpatterson9540
    @dpatterson9540 Рік тому +36

    The first 2 days is like someone died but then each day gets better. I did what Coach said, and he started to notice I didn't care, that turned the tide and he asked me back and only in my terms so thank you for keeping me see it at a macro level.

    • @kagamitaiga9167
      @kagamitaiga9167 10 місяців тому +2

      its a worse feeling than death, i feel you 😢

  • @lindop3523
    @lindop3523 3 роки тому +195

    I have a great testimony to deliver.
    We got back with my ex and things are finally working out for the both of us now. Thank you Coach for the tips! They were not easy but worth it

    • @ohlalaxobeer
      @ohlalaxobeer 3 роки тому +2

      How long did it take ?

    • @ENFPerspectives
      @ENFPerspectives 3 роки тому +2

      🤣🤣🤣

    • @lindop3523
      @lindop3523 3 роки тому +31

      @@ohlalaxobeer It took Four months and we were in No contact for three months.

    • @niki0831
      @niki0831 3 роки тому +3

      That's awesome

    • @ags835
      @ags835 2 роки тому +3

      That's great! Wish you luck :)

  • @Daigo_Salto
    @Daigo_Salto 3 роки тому +174

    Everytime I get anxiety, I quickly open youtube and watch your videos. Your videos are very helpful to keep myself sane and be positive about things. Thank you coach Lee

    • @nateengida3806
      @nateengida3806 3 роки тому

      Broski don’t run to UA-cam run to the Bible

    • @sahiljarwal
      @sahiljarwal 4 місяці тому

      Same here brother 😅😅

  • @jocelynrazon1248
    @jocelynrazon1248 3 роки тому +98

    It is my 46th day of NC. My ex texted me today and told me he missed and wanted me back. I told him I am now on the moving on stage and all I want from him is to help me forget him. And I think I'll regret this in the next couple of days, but I am not going back to that toxic relationship again. Thank you so much your advices coach Lee. I can now close this chapter of my life.

    • @Dougstakes
      @Dougstakes 3 роки тому +10

      I’m not going to suggest powerful people, haha, but great job! That’s awesome how you can just choose your destiny and not have your ex choose yours

    • @tammycain8421
      @tammycain8421 3 роки тому +10

      WOW SUCH STRENGTH.

    • @tammycain8421
      @tammycain8421 3 роки тому +2

      @@Dougstakes perfectly put

    • @tammycain8421
      @tammycain8421 3 роки тому

      @Blythe Girl I know what you are saying but maybe she is right!

    • @nuriaalvarez6244
      @nuriaalvarez6244 Місяць тому

  • @coachevy2851
    @coachevy2851 3 роки тому +177

    I've always wanted to be therapist, counselor, or a psychologist...I've been binging on coaching videos for about a year. I must say Coach Lee is the best..I use to be intimidated to watch his videos cause he looks so serious, but once I started watching him I got addicted! I watch at least 4 of his videos before I go to bed..I even watch him before I come to work!! He leaves NO stone unturned!! He is so passionate about his coaching...it makes him so attractive! 🖤☺

  • @siasia483
    @siasia483 3 роки тому +204

    Almost 30 days of no contact and still nothing from him. At this point I don't really expect him to reach out anymore (although I desire it so badly). I miss him like crazy but let me tell you this, my obsession SLOWLY fades away. Finally I can focus on something else even if it is just for 5-10 minutes, but still, I feel relieved. Keep fighting people, I wouldn't have survived without all these videos, they kept me relatively sane.
    EDIT: he reached out on day 35. But I think I screw it, because he got silent again. The point is though, they DO reach out when you follow strictly NC rule. Good luck anyone!

    • @siasia483
      @siasia483 3 роки тому +3

      @@axelbriggjern3534 Thanks!

    • @ericvega3597
      @ericvega3597 3 роки тому +1

      What did you say

    • @siasia483
      @siasia483 3 роки тому +38

      @@ericvega3597 I kept it super short, he asked how I'm doing and I answered with simple "good, thank you". But I didn't screw it up with that response, as I initially thought. He reached out again three days after that and this time he actually wanted to meet and to talk to me. Therefore never lose hope

    • @luissantiago6077
      @luissantiago6077 3 роки тому +1

      @@siasia483 that’s awesome!! any updates?

    • @siasia483
      @siasia483 3 роки тому +37

      @@luissantiago6077 We were texting and talking on the phone for a few days, but he didn't really seem to be 100% sure if he wants to be in relationship again. I couldn't deal with that, my heart was aching every time I heard his voice, because the vision of being his friend or whatever was thousand times worse than not being with him at all. So I call the meeting off and asked him politely not to bother me. He was sad but he didn't try to talk me out of it, so here we are again: another 30 days of NC... (btw I still believe it was a good decision - it has spared me a lot of pain, I'm starting to heal).

  • @bensal2426
    @bensal2426 3 роки тому +101

    Day 26 of No Contact
    I’ve joined a boxing gym and working on my self care and fitness. It wasn’t easy at first but once you develop the idea of working on yourself during NC, you become stronger everyday. Stay Strong and Do NOT chase!

    • @sumanshah8871
      @sumanshah8871 3 роки тому

      Thank you sir I got lost love because of you. I am giving your number. You also help them.
      WhatsApp or call - +91-7665370054

    • @gypsysummer1020
      @gypsysummer1020 3 роки тому +4

      Help me out this feeling right now guys... 😪😥

    • @sobreezy2456
      @sobreezy2456 Рік тому +1

      Did she reach out?

  • @rovielynphotography9221
    @rovielynphotography9221 3 роки тому +34

    I feel so hurT coz he dumped me but listening to this motivation brings me who i am in God again.. My worth is comes from God not from anyone

  • @andrianaemile6528
    @andrianaemile6528 3 роки тому +109

    “Then they’re sick, and you’re better off without them” had me weak 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @zeroonezero7852
    @zeroonezero7852 3 роки тому +253

    Coach lee Everytime I thought about messaging my ex I came to watch one of your videos and it gives me the comfort & support to not be a dummy I thank you so much for your service

    • @jennyliew7179
      @jennyliew7179 3 роки тому +3

      That demon down there is a medium using voodoo ! Stay away people, they are working for satan!

    • @raypierce3205
      @raypierce3205 3 роки тому +4

      Man don’t be me Ctfu I got blocked

    • @RR-oy5mt
      @RR-oy5mt 3 роки тому

      @@raypierce3205 after how many days did you reach out ?

    • @raypierce3205
      @raypierce3205 3 роки тому +3

      @@RR-oy5mt probably like the 10 or 14th day. She didn’t reply at all basically forced her to talk to me by blowing up her phone. It all ended up to me being block I tried message her from a different phone and was told by her to stop talking to her. Shit hurt. Don’t be me

    • @RR-oy5mt
      @RR-oy5mt 3 роки тому +3

      @@raypierce3205 it was too soon, I’m 30’days in and I haven’t reach out. Coach Lee recommends to reach out after 75 days, it sounds crazy but we can do it, just stay busy

  • @brandylee2434
    @brandylee2434 Рік тому +28

    This video is two years ago and it still helping me out right now. Thank you coach lee. Let’s make sure we tip this guy! Life changing videos
    Prayers to everybody watching this and healing at the same time.

  • @jerrycheah7516
    @jerrycheah7516 3 роки тому +92

    I had 2 choices:
    Walk away and Risk Everything, or Stay and Try and Hold on to Nothing.

  • @pris_pris
    @pris_pris 9 місяців тому +36

    The first days to a week is HELL. It’s like you got the news that someone you love deeply died. Dreading everything right now but reading the comments here gives me hope. 😔😔😔

    • @Privilge05
      @Privilge05 5 місяців тому +3

      Literally.. I’m on day 6.. yesterday was probably the worst of this week. This comment hits home

    • @pris_pris
      @pris_pris 5 місяців тому +3

      @@Privilge05 hang in there…it DOES get better…I promise you…or he’ll come back to you..hang in there and know they’re thinking of you too.

    • @Goku19170
      @Goku19170 4 місяці тому

      Updates?

  • @mlong506
    @mlong506 3 роки тому +87

    4.5 months no contact. He was in a rebound and reached out to me twice while with her. Haven't heard from him since early Dec when he emailed telling me he was mad at me, lol. Stay strong people, just keep getting better for yourselves! 💪

    • @chinarose6056
      @chinarose6056 3 роки тому +11

      Just keep doing what ya doing. He is mad because you are doing what Coach Lee advised us to do. No contact. He didn't know what he had until he probably lost it.

    • @mlong506
      @mlong506 3 роки тому +7

      @@chinarose6056 Amen! Thank you for the reply.

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 8 місяців тому

      women should tell the new gf when this happens. just forward the screenshot to her. no one should be cheated on or used as a rebound unknowingly. emailing you is micro-cheating.

    • @Veev-zg8tg
      @Veev-zg8tg 6 місяців тому +2

      This is good and it works but,my X is a manipulative man. So he will block me and go and mess with another woman and then,when he is done with her? He will un block me and come back to me.
      Also he is a liar.
      So? Short story. I am DONE”. I am moving forward and DO NOT WANT him.
      I know my worth and better off,without him.

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 6 місяців тому

      @@Veev-zg8tg narcissistic abusive men like this should be exposed and publicly shamed

  • @havoc-ado
    @havoc-ado Рік тому +12

    The funny thing about the popular quote 'Curiosity killed the cat' is that it's only half of the original line. The full quote is 'Curiosity killed the cat, but satisfaction brought it back'.

  • @mamziemay1575
    @mamziemay1575 2 роки тому +25

    I NEVER chased, pleaded or begged. Gave him the break-up.
    And I always did work on myself, meditate, yoga, kayaking, gym, bicycling, have hobbies, family, friends, etc. Ex was gaga for me for years; we've had an emotional connection for years, then romantic/physical. Thought we both wanted the same thing, that we were each other's person.
    I'm leaving the country for almost two months, will have that country's sim card, so won't even know if he will contact me. Honestly, I don't think I will ever feel the same way towards him, after he pushed me away, after all we had been through just to be together. To say I'm crushed is an understatement. Want to do what they did in "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind" and wipe all memory of him from my mind and heart.

  • @MrChristianLoving
    @MrChristianLoving 3 роки тому +45

    Coach Lee deserves SO MUCH MORE subscriber activity. He's so much better than other larger UA-cam channels.
    He got my attention when he said NOT TO IGNORE the the ex during No Contact. Because that was the opposite of what is proposed by other big YT channels. But my instincts told me Coach Lee was right...HE WAS.
    Respond, but be neutral. Indifferent. It works fantastic. Reply, but don't initiate. Does the job of you not looking like an asshole or bitter AND it makes them keep coming back.

    • @richardharbron6086
      @richardharbron6086 3 роки тому +2

      Did it work out for you? Have you any examples of neutral responses. I find it so difficult to control myself and be in a state of confidence and neutrality with her, I feel 95% certain that she’s friend zoning me, we have a child together which makes the N/C so much more difficult for me, and I keep finding myself saying things to try and get the outcome I want when deep down I know it’s not going to work, I know it’s more likely keeping her in the relief stage (if she even cares enough or has any worry at all to feel relieved), and keep pushing her away. I do stupid things all the time like switching from hinting and trying to flirt, to being passive aggressive type behaviour, ignorant, back to trying to be nice and hinting at sorting things out. Some days I manage ok without getting texts, then others my anxiety ruins me and I feel pathetic and weak and so full of fear that I’ll never get her back and that someone else may have her attention already. I keep checking her Facebook profile and her Snapchat count and checking when she’s online etc. I’ve spent countless hours watching all of coach Lee’s videos and they help while watching them, but when it comes to putting the advice in to action, it’s almost like I’ve not yet seen a single video, it slips my mind and I almost do everything the opposite, or sometimes I’ll follow the advice for a very short period and before I know it I’m reverting back to doing the wrong things again through fear based emotions. I try to tell myself “f@@@ her, she can do what she wants, there’s no point in me trying” then boom, there I go again stumbling down the wrong path again. Sorry for this long message

  • @maria8943
    @maria8943 2 роки тому +46

    I listen to these every morning and every night to help me through the day.

  • @1stMarDiv4341
    @1stMarDiv4341 Рік тому +27

    Sooo…..I started watching your videos to get my ex back. Well, I got her back. Not totally, taking it very slow and had our second date last Thursday night. What I’ve realized:
    1) I felt better during no-contact. The first week was pure dog shit, but the next 23 days I felt free, empowered, and confident as hell
    2) I don’t love her anymore. And, to be frank, I can do a lot better
    3) I’ve lost 8 lbs. in six weeks but have added noticeable muscle development. Cut out processed foods and drinking. Dedicated myself to focusing on personal growth, but remembering to have fun as well.
    In contrast, it’s obvious my ex has done zero work. Rather than work on themselves, they’ve just been hitting up bars and drinking out with her girlfriends. And it’s obvious.
    It’s strange. Six weeks ago, I was a broken man. I thought I could never do better than her. Wow. I was wrong.
    Much love for your videos, Coach Lee.
    Update: we were going to meet again this coming Saturday, but I’m changing locations because I no longer want her and don’t want to lead her on. So the plan is to meet for a cup of coffee and I’m going to be honest and tell her it’s over. I’d say there’s no hard feelings, but there are (no animosity, though). And I’m not going to sacrifice the progress I’ve made to re-enter what ultimately was a toxic relationship.
    Also, down 13 lbs. overall but with added lean muscle mass. I feel amazing

    • @pawepetek7294
      @pawepetek7294 Рік тому +2

      That's great dude. I'm over 1 month after BU, but 2 weeks into No Contact. She hasn't contacted me yet, but I created an Instagram account a week ago and she started to follow me, watch my stories, like my posts. It's confusing to me but I'm not going to contact her. I'm meeting up with friends and visiting cool places, also seeing my therapist and I'm starting to work out! I want to be in a place where I love myself more than her. And maybe one day when she reaches out I will think about giving us another chance or maybe I will have outgrowned her by then. Anyways I'm so happy for you, take care.

    • @Bella.45.2.47
      @Bella.45.2.47 Рік тому

      I’m going through my pain with a guy that I really liked and it’s still raw. I’m struggling 😐 I’ve saved your comment and I’m hoping to feel better again because I thought I had it great with this guy but it hurts that he’s moved on so easily.

  • @Freerydah73
    @Freerydah73 2 роки тому +13

    You talk very effectively. It really feels like you’re on our side. You deserve your success you have now.

    • @Freerydah73
      @Freerydah73 2 роки тому

      Thank you coach. I’m in the middle of trying to win back my ex. Very bad break up. Did it to myself by being weak and needy. I’ve been watching your videos and following your lead and I’m already seeing positive results. Not out of the woods yet but I can see some hope.
      You’re the best among so many coaches on UA-cam. Again thank you coach Lee!

    • @randommf3549
      @randommf3549 10 місяців тому

      ​@@Freerydah73update

  • @h3arty
    @h3arty 3 роки тому +121

    My ex blocked me and said he's dating someone :/ after things seemed to be going well... I blocked him back and deleted... Cos i was chasing... But my deal breaker is him dating someone new, I'm done for good. 100%

    • @aliciau2276
      @aliciau2276 3 роки тому +3

      Hang in there, bud. You got this.

    • @mylesm1494
      @mylesm1494 3 роки тому +2

      Pretty much dude

    • @RR-oy5mt
      @RR-oy5mt 3 роки тому +9

      It might be a rebound relationship, just give it time to fail and then wait for him to reach out

    • @astrostar7018
      @astrostar7018 3 роки тому +4

      @@RR-oy5mt I’m pretty sure he will and very repented.... rebound ’is just a banded

    • @RR-oy5mt
      @RR-oy5mt 3 роки тому +5

      @@astrostar7018 be ready when he comes back, play it simple and don’t chase, let him do 90% of the chasing

  • @TheGloryHole16
    @TheGloryHole16 3 роки тому +10

    Love the section with the ‘ Bird ‘ keeps skipping away if you get to close..but the more patient you are, the bird will let you get closer ! 👌

    • @mustaphaajibade6336
      @mustaphaajibade6336 2 роки тому

      Hello all thanks to Dr kingsley I'm so excited right now my broken relationship has been restored my ex husband is back after left me for another woman I was helped by someone He can also help you too....❤️❤️❤️💯💯💯

    • @mustaphaajibade6336
      @mustaphaajibade6336 2 роки тому

      WhatZapp hiM NOw🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @rjvillan
    @rjvillan 2 роки тому +22

    I've been binge watching your videos. You're the best at giving an explanation on the psychology about relationships, not only about getting an ex back but keeping them. Thank you so much!

  • @sawomirantoskiewicz9540
    @sawomirantoskiewicz9540 2 роки тому +9

    One video from coach Lee a day keeps the doctor away...
    Thank you

  • @growthwithvanessa
    @growthwithvanessa 3 роки тому +18

    Thank you coach Lee! You’ve really helped me get over my breakup faster than i have any others . I’m at a point now where…I don’t even want him back anymore . I feel happy single and on my own

  • @Himothy_xx
    @Himothy_xx 3 роки тому +19

    Walking away is the best thing for me and I’m proud of that . Going on 3 months with no type of communication. Feeling great about myself 💯💯

    • @Himothy_xx
      @Himothy_xx 3 роки тому

      @@dwightschrute8141 same my brother no contact, feelings a lot better then the last time I posted this. Self cure , and staying active

  • @michaelvargas82
    @michaelvargas82 3 роки тому +23

    Coach Lee is an amazing coach. His videos and calming words have made NC and my breakup a lot more manageable. Stick to No Contact, self improvement and become the best version of yourself in No Contact.

  • @jackbukowski9363
    @jackbukowski9363 3 роки тому +5

    Very legit guy. No b.s. He gives it to you straight. Seen a couple crappy coaches out there but this guy isn't one of them. he is the best

  • @ctgeorgia
    @ctgeorgia 3 роки тому +10

    Coach Lee... Can you imagine being his son/daughter? What an incredible wellspring of sage advice growing up!

  • @konstia79
    @konstia79 2 роки тому +13

    You have made my "crisis"period so calm and smooth. Sych powerful advises. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Following all your advice has made my heart to carry on to the right direction. .... rebuilding myself!!!

  • @a.fleming
    @a.fleming 3 роки тому +57

    I started dating other men, just to have fun and clear my head. Life is short and I REFUSE to chase, beg, whine or cry over him. If he thinks there's something better, then by all means, go get it🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @a.fleming
      @a.fleming 3 роки тому +4

      @@endywendy4065 Lord y'all are relentless! Not interested in your WhatsApp scam!!

    • @a.fleming
      @a.fleming 3 роки тому +1

      @@endywendy4065 I don't need help getting anybody back.... Where did I say that?

    • @a.fleming
      @a.fleming 3 роки тому +4

      @@mod511 Where did I say I need help? It's a thousand of y'all posting this under everyone's comments 🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @a.fleming
      @a.fleming 3 роки тому +3

      @@adamuarabiu5016 go away creep

    • @carmensmith1453
      @carmensmith1453 3 роки тому +1

      @@adamuarabiu5016 go away ...

  • @n1njaxmae
    @n1njaxmae 3 роки тому +8

    I'm not even watching his videos anymore to get my ex back I'm just entertained.

  • @samhouse9143
    @samhouse9143 3 роки тому +26

    Man when Coach Lee said “Anybody would be happy to have you then why don’t they wanna be with you” that’s exactly how I felt. Why tell me I deserve better from you but you’re not taking the necessary steps to do better like I did but instead you left? I don’t get it.

    • @soilemacall7809
      @soilemacall7809 3 роки тому

      @@inspiredbyraya106 Not all of them this one that help me he is no scammer

  • @abhijitc251083
    @abhijitc251083 3 роки тому +9

    After my breakup, I now have a motivation: Money and building finances for my future.
    Thanks to her for pointing that out. I still love her, but I am far too uninvolved to respond even remotely favourably. And I need to focus on my family.
    Things will b much better for me, but she may or may not b part of that life I would have so loved to gift her.
    I pray she is happy and has clarity on everything she does.

  • @diablo8632
    @diablo8632 3 роки тому +53

    You've helped me a lot through my recent breakup, was really hard for me to lose a girl I've loved for 4 and half years now.
    Watching your videos has shown me not to panic like I did after did after the break up and focus on myself and let time do its thing and give her the space she wants. I miss her a lot and have really bad anxiety and the urge to message her 24/7 but you're videos have gave me the strength not to; I fear I've proper lost the love of my life though. I hope one day I can be happy alone or eventually she comes back. it's been about 2 months so far and I'm fearful she is now speaking to a mutual friend of ours in a romantic way (I really hope not).
    Wish everyone in the comments all the luck and happiness with whatever outcome come their way, hopefully it's one that makes you happy. and I thank you coach lee not only for giving me a different perspective and allowing me to focus on the mature response but also helping me slowly fix my mental health.

    • @stellajames4686
      @stellajames4686 3 роки тому +1

      There a powerful man who help me get my ex back in just 48 in spell his 100% sure after I contacted him he help get my lover back

    • @stellajames4686
      @stellajames4686 3 роки тому

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    • @stellajames4686
      @stellajames4686 3 роки тому

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    • @faithwealth615
      @faithwealth615 3 роки тому

      +1 ( 9 7 8 ) 9 3 5- 8 8 8 6.

    • @faithwealth615
      @faithwealth615 3 роки тому

      Chat me now on w ha t sa p p to know how

  • @The_Darrell
    @The_Darrell 3 роки тому +124

    I think I'm going to do indefinite no contact. I feel like I was putting in waaaaay more effort anyways, so that stopped as of 3 days ago (when I went no contact). The breakup happened a month ago, and yes, I admit I sent way too many texts/calls/emails trying to get her back. Over the last 3 days, I realized I need to respect myself and stop. She told me I treated her better than anyone else ever had before, but I was so good to her, she felt like I wasn't a challenge... What's that all about? I was her boyfriend, not a game show or video game. I thought a girlfriend would have wanted to have been treated incredibly well... If she reaches out months or years from now, I may consider a talk then if I'm single... if she doesn't, oh well.

    • @giginury5872
      @giginury5872 3 роки тому +40

      Please do not stop treating women right and start playing games because of what she said, she was probably using that as an excuse cause like coach lee said, she was no longer attracted.

    • @-KorruptionOfLight-
      @-KorruptionOfLight- 3 роки тому +11

      This is very similar to my situation and it confuses me.
      I was hearing often the phrases "I don't deserve to be treated this well" and "there is someone out there that is 100% suited to you" and after the breakup, she just expresses the want to be friends.
      It's baffling why a partner would think this way. It's like cutting your nose off to spite your face.

    • @chinarose6056
      @chinarose6056 3 роки тому +35

      She was playing you Darrell. She was putting you in the backburner incase it didnt workout with her new encounters. It is better that you move on. If she reappears again. Show her that you were happier without her. She deserves a badboy not a good one like you :) These women give us good women a bad name. It is so sad how some women and men priorities has changed over the years of the kind of relationships they are looking for.

    • @seannoneya7181
      @seannoneya7181 3 роки тому +1

      I recommend coach lees advice and corey Wayne work for men

    • @leodelicious865
      @leodelicious865 3 роки тому +5

      Keep being you...she wasnt the one. Very sad perspective

  • @micallll100
    @micallll100 3 роки тому +7

    Trust coach lee, no contact works
    He reached out after 2 months and we met up

  • @r.a.28
    @r.a.28 3 роки тому +42

    Ever since my breakup, I've been binging on these videos.
    Well, then I started re-watching them, slowly and with full attention, to actually understand and try to follow what Coach is trying to advise.
    I'm trying the NC rule myself, has been a few weeks. Hope it works.

  • @morgy1916
    @morgy1916 Рік тому +4

    it's been almost 2 months my ex broke up with me, but I only been in NC 2 weeks. I honestly did not know better until I started watching these things, on UA-cam. I hope I have not left it to late, but if I have at least I finally am showing myself and her some pride in my life.

  • @RR-oy5mt
    @RR-oy5mt 3 роки тому +170

    One month of NC
    She hasn’t reach out, I’m working on my self and becoming a better version of myself. I want her to reach out so bad

    • @mylesm1494
      @mylesm1494 3 роки тому +15

      Give it more time.should be sometime soon

    • @mylesm1494
      @mylesm1494 3 роки тому +5

      Watch the other video.. make sure you play it right or it might get difficult

    • @h2oboi531
      @h2oboi531 3 роки тому +34

      You work on yourself because you want it YOURSELF, not for her

    • @trevorharding3783
      @trevorharding3783 3 роки тому +9

      R R I just made one month of no contact. She hasn't reached out either, but she still has me on Google hangouts, so maybe she's either wondering if I'm moving or if I'm going to break first. I will not break. She's going to have to reach out to me.

    • @trevorharding3783
      @trevorharding3783 3 роки тому +1

      @@gildayu4390 That may be true, which could make the situation harder for both sides.

  • @Esteban_Narvaez_MD
    @Esteban_Narvaez_MD 2 роки тому +21

    I can't thank you enough for what you do, I've been suffering a lot, full of anxiety, and I was about to commit suicide, I felt lost, but watching your videos gave me hope, I even bought the emergency kit, and now I'm still suffering but I'm calm working in myself and having patience, letting time do its job and believing it can happen to me that she comes back. Thank you.

  • @sabajanjua9323
    @sabajanjua9323 3 роки тому +14

    Youre a wizard! Two things they said to me that resonated with me which you mention in your videos all the time, 1) “It is not you, it’s me;” (2) I will deal with it if I realize that the break up was a bad idea!

  • @lynx5603
    @lynx5603 3 роки тому +20

    Good damn!! breakups are like puzzled up rubicks cube you don't no what's going to happen next

  • @lemooncakee
    @lemooncakee 3 роки тому +41

    You are truly one of the best coaches out there! Thank you coach lee for your wisdom 😊

  • @d34285
    @d34285 2 роки тому +3

    I found it is important to heal first and then you will find your opinions will vastly change and you won't be thinking about your ex. Keep improving you!

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому +1

      David Southerland. That's a GREAT ATTITUDE. HEAL FIRST, then date. Never rebound! Good luck to you..

  • @coreylaughy1066
    @coreylaughy1066 3 роки тому +27

    No contact day 1: disabled social media (30days), phone number still viable form of contact. She moved out when I was at work. Just me and my cat now. Sent a couple texts hours after she left now I feel like a ghost. Been watching his videos since starting no contact. She came back once before, 7 days after no contact. I have become super disciplined in everything. Weird how much you can change after being an emotional wreck.

  • @tercsi1
    @tercsi1 3 роки тому +23

    Thanks Coach Lee! This video really helped me see why I should stay in no contact. I've been chasing for 2 months and I'm done.

  • @gabbymontoya2085
    @gabbymontoya2085 3 роки тому +28

    Yey I don’t miss him as much ..im glad I was tired of being disrespected and neglected

    • @RR-oy5mt
      @RR-oy5mt 3 роки тому

      Good for you 👍🏼

  • @Sihara.Liyanapathirana
    @Sihara.Liyanapathirana 2 роки тому +4

    After 30 days of no contact, we were back to talking. It’s been 9 days now, and I’ve realized I’ve gone back to being the pursuer. He is still unsure of what he wants and even though he says he wants to spend time with me more, he doesn’t want to be with me exclusively. I’ve decided to go back into NC for one more month. Let’s see what happens. Baby steps.

  • @HollyEisner
    @HollyEisner 3 місяці тому

    You always make such good common sense. Which is usually missing when a person is in the middle of hurt, pain, disillusionment etc., when we just cant think straight and cant see the forest for the trees, you are that steading, common sense voice. You are definetly doing what you are meant to do. You have helped me so much.

  • @buenaslaicasmarianas5763
    @buenaslaicasmarianas5763 Рік тому +6

    Imagine if both ex and I are watching these videos 🤯🤯

  • @23.27
    @23.27 5 місяців тому

    Sometimes Coach Lee just cracks me up. He doesn’t even try to be funny it’s just I find myself chuckling sometimes. 😭

  • @waynesalisbury
    @waynesalisbury 2 роки тому +4

    Coach Lee is the most calmest and honest person Ive ever had the pleasure of listening to. Many blessings to you sir🖐💪👍

  • @99craziichick
    @99craziichick 3 роки тому +15

    After my ex ignored me and shut me out of his life. When he breaks no contact and asks me "why don't you check on me" 😂😂😂

  • @robertwhitehead5886
    @robertwhitehead5886 Рік тому +4

    Fellow sufferers take heed.....the No Contact Rule is the KEY to all of this!!!

  • @skinner1790
    @skinner1790 27 днів тому +1

    been in no contact since march finally gave up but watch you videos for future relationships. i will NEVER beg someone again. i begged years ago she came back but she never fully came back she just used me until someone else came along she said leave me alone so i did. gave up better my self

  • @resurrection2983
    @resurrection2983 Рік тому +9

    Thank you very much Coach Lee...God sent me to your page and thanks for helping us grow...I appreciate all the knowledge you give....You have been an absolute GAME CHANGER in many difficult relationships....God bless you

  • @treasurediamond6304
    @treasurediamond6304 2 роки тому +6

    I love this coach he’s so straight forward with a straight face the entire time. He means business 😂😂

    • @lisabaughn
      @lisabaughn 2 роки тому +1

      I know! It's like how did the grim reaper become the world's leading love counselor? So funny. Much love to Coach Lee. Definitely a unique person in the world.

  • @thoomm
    @thoomm 3 роки тому +8

    You are the best Coach ive heard! Thank you for the quiet, rational yet compassionate and meaningful delivery!

  • @madeleine8507
    @madeleine8507 3 роки тому +64

    So...ex came back and now I don't know how to behave, lol. I'm holding back.

    • @inspiredbyraya106
      @inspiredbyraya106 3 роки тому +5

      Share your story pls. How long did it take and how and was he involved with someone else?

    • @rb879
      @rb879 3 роки тому +2

      Yeah tell more how long he came back?

    • @madeleine8507
      @madeleine8507 3 роки тому +8

      @@inspiredbyraya106 It was no contact for about one and a half month. He texted the day after Valentine's Day and we have just reconnected so I'm not sure exactly what's going on except he "missed me and he adores me". I'm not sure what's going on, lol.

    • @sumanshah8871
      @sumanshah8871 3 роки тому

      Thank you sir I got lost love because of you. I am giving your number. You also help them.
      WhatsApp or call - +91-7665370054

    • @darylwright3393
      @darylwright3393 3 роки тому +3

      Madeleine I can see why he came back...you are stunning with a great voice.

  • @sujatakhatun9119
    @sujatakhatun9119 3 роки тому +8

    He will never come back I know it's hurts💔🙂

  • @LiLgPnoy15
    @LiLgPnoy15 3 роки тому +18

    Coach Lee and Coach Craig Kenneth are the best I have ever seen.

    • @maybugz
      @maybugz 3 роки тому +1

      Yeh apart from his squeaky voice

    • @micallll100
      @micallll100 3 роки тому +1

      Craig is horrible

    • @seannoneya7181
      @seannoneya7181 3 роки тому +1

      Coach Corey Wayne

    • @josephgodwin9653
      @josephgodwin9653 3 роки тому +1

      I like both. Clay rounds them out for the perfect trio for me.

    • @maybugz
      @maybugz 3 роки тому +1

      @@josephgodwin9653 yeh clay is pretty good. But I have to say Lee's vids got me through some dark times after my breakup. And coach Natalie on the other channel, she has a chilled out style like Lee has.

  • @joncarbone
    @joncarbone 2 роки тому +7

    Sexiest thing is strength and confidence. They want out, smile and show em the door. It works, I know from experience.

  • @9StickNate
    @9StickNate 2 роки тому +2

    I Heard this analogy:
    When you start a relationship; imagine you have a flower seed that represents your love for them and they have one for you. If you’re constantly „hogging“ the water can; their ability to grow their love for you is diminished.

  • @lesliejohns987
    @lesliejohns987 3 роки тому +17

    Why do I SAY I AM GRATEFUL ??? Because I Found the Love in Me therefore I became more attractive emotionally.. my looks actually were better I lost 15 pounds and I am still skinny.. it was never my looks it was Emotional attraction was gone because he was unhappy... So
    I AM TRULY A STRONGER MORE
    CONFIDENT WOMAN!!

    • @MaRiAm936
      @MaRiAm936 3 роки тому +2

      Good for you girl

    • @jhssmith2004
      @jhssmith2004 3 роки тому

      yes! congrats to you. i had an ex who said to me that i was the perfect woman but he still was not happy?! that relationship was hell for me and i told him so when we finally broke up. you can't make people happy.

  • @kevinlaranja201
    @kevinlaranja201 3 роки тому +10

    Its almost been a month now. Better myself towards God, and creating a whole new positive mindset. No contact is to better yourself no matter what the outcome is. They left, you didn't. Bulid your empire and hope for the best. I hope she reaches out, but its not my concern. I am my concern. When your broken up with bulid perspective on what happened and why, self care, independence, and loyalty to yourself and faith

    • @RR-oy5mt
      @RR-oy5mt 3 роки тому

      Stay strong, if you really like the person wait couple moths, then if you feel like reaching out do it. Life it’s all about risks

    • @kevinlaranja201
      @kevinlaranja201 3 роки тому +2

      @@RR-oy5mt 6 years we were together. I love her, but her deciding to leave and her not seeing me in her future. Right now, I'm learning to let go, letting go gives me the chance to better myself. Prepare for the future if she ever comes around to shownher change. Thank you all the best to you too!

    • @RR-oy5mt
      @RR-oy5mt 3 роки тому

      @@kevinlaranja201 for now focus on yourself, workout, go and adventures, hang out with friends. It’s hard but time heals everything. If you were jumped like me wait at least 75 days in order to reach out. If she is worth it reach out and ask her if she want to meet up for coffee.

  • @lesleytindall1786
    @lesleytindall1786 3 роки тому +12

    Quite hard in lockdown to be with friends and family and live on your own

  • @cfxxmaxxy1876
    @cfxxmaxxy1876 2 роки тому +1

    coach lee is the best breakup coach out there other coaches give illogical tips which will push exes far away

  • @eliswerekio
    @eliswerekio 3 роки тому +8

    I think I'm gonna stop by every coach Lees video and say thank you.. Thank you for your videos, they are really appriciated and you really help people. 🙌

  • @helenan866
    @helenan866 9 місяців тому

    I can't believe you've been in this profession for 2 decades you look so young 😮

  • @kevinvanhorsing5141
    @kevinvanhorsing5141 3 роки тому +4

    This guy's is so so smart that really got me thinking...ignorance is very daring...

  • @EvelienHaentjens
    @EvelienHaentjens 11 місяців тому +2

    "time is what works on them". I guess it can go both ways: either they miss you so much, they wonder if it was a mistake and that you might get away OR and I believe this happens a lot too, is that it will have the effect of "out of mind out of sight" and feelings will fade completely. I am afraid that in my case the later is the case.

  • @NotYourTypicalMermaid94
    @NotYourTypicalMermaid94 3 роки тому +72

    Awww Coach Lee looking very spiffy

  • @itsAuffy
    @itsAuffy 3 роки тому +1

    Coach lee works. She reached out after 29 days no contact (for the most part). She asked to catch up before we all left for thanksgiving break and then changed her mind the next morning. It’s been five days since the last text. I’m at the point where I’m committed to never contacting her ever again. I’m just grateful she reached out to me at all. That meant a lot. I’m satisfied.

  • @AzazelHash281
    @AzazelHash281 3 роки тому +9

    You really chill out the panic

  • @lilianamarques8242
    @lilianamarques8242 3 роки тому +15

    having my ex texting, calling, video chatting, reacting to my stories on social media and concerned with me feels amazing but it also feels like a damn game! I chased him for a long time... now it feels like, at times, he is chasing me but then he'll go days without saying anything... such a BS cycle.

    • @lilianamarques8242
      @lilianamarques8242 3 роки тому +4

      I do like it... that's the problem. We have 2 kids together and we're still married but not together. He's just all over the place. I'll watch them... thank you :)

  • @bumbleberryanimations5629
    @bumbleberryanimations5629 3 роки тому +8

    Can you do a video on the subject where youre in the wrong? Like you weren't the one putting much effort in or if you were too judgmental and weren't supportive enough but wanna show your ex that youve changed and regret doing that stuff?

  • @bellacabanting9880
    @bellacabanting9880 2 роки тому +9

    My ex boyfriend dumped me yesterday 😪 he said he cannot commit I even beg for us to fix it but he said he cannot☹️ It hurts so much hopefully one day I will no longer feel this pain

    • @lisabaughn
      @lisabaughn 2 роки тому +3

      We are all going through it with you. I'm so sorry this happened to you Bella. I'm sure you're a beautiful person! ❤️

    • @jerescot
      @jerescot 2 роки тому +1

      my ex gilfreind dumped me too, for fear to commit...I feel your pain 🥺

    • @bellacabanting9880
      @bellacabanting9880 2 роки тому +1

      @@jerescot I still cry everyday and I am even scared to go to bed😭😭

    • @bellacabanting9880
      @bellacabanting9880 2 роки тому +1

      @@gemma9507 hello love...I never talked to him again and I am so much happier now...I did focus on myself...how are you?

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому +1

      @@lisabaughn Lisa, he does NOT deserve you. You will be fine. Best wishes to you, honey. ⚘️♥️

  • @RobinetteWortham
    @RobinetteWortham 11 місяців тому +3

    No. My. Friend. No. Chasing he. Left. Me. Now. It's over. So. Move. On. When. Someone. Let's. You. Go. You. Don't. Owe. Them anything. Find something. Better

  • @vyshnava5092
    @vyshnava5092 3 роки тому +4

    I used to watch ur video whenever I loose motivation. I not only recover from my loneliness but it also help me to achieve some positivity. 🙏

  • @senatorarmstrong9459
    @senatorarmstrong9459 2 роки тому +2

    This is wisdom based and learned from experience. They say knowledge is power, and it truly is. I am grateful for all of this because it is currently helping me with my ex who isn't doing right right now mentally with familial issues and school.

  • @robertmorgan2642
    @robertmorgan2642 Рік тому +3

    I didn’t contact my ex after we met up for 6 days. She reached out and text me all friendly. I’ve come off Facebook temporarily today for at least a week to see if she misses seeing my posts. Wish me luck guys and gals as I want my ex back so badly.

    • @robertmorgan2642
      @robertmorgan2642 Рік тому +2

      After 5 months apart my ex girlfriend asked for us to try again. We’re back together and better than ever. So happy 😀

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому +1

      ​@@robertmorgan2642 GOOD FOR YOU! 👍

  • @stacym2201
    @stacym2201 3 роки тому +3

    I wish i had took Coach Lee's advice a year ago wen i was now broken up wit. I cud not handle d break up and i chased on and off for about 5mths. I did ALL d wrong tings. I cud not keep up wit No Contact. So i learned d hard way. Anyways...it's been over a year now...over 7mths No Contact...we both moved on and i'm stil lookin at these videos and stil become excited e'time i see a new video pop up. THANKS Coach...keep it comin. Good luck u guys.

  • @astrostar7018
    @astrostar7018 3 роки тому +8

    Coach Lee,.. you were borne to do what do. In a very brilliant way 👏👏👏

  • @jayrulez7808
    @jayrulez7808 3 роки тому +16

    Thank you Coach! You’re advices build my self esteem stronger every time I hear your words of encouragement! Self love brings value and confidence.

  • @shripadsawant1756
    @shripadsawant1756 3 роки тому +5

    hey coach feeling bad but this is to inform you that scambots are increasing in huge number 😰

  • @monicawylie3985
    @monicawylie3985 2 роки тому +1

    Right now I just learned that my ex is pursuing a hook up with someone and I feel destroyed. We had broken up three weeks ago and it feels like forever. As a matter fact it will be 30 days on month Monday that we haven’t been together. I need to live through this. I never wanted to go through this pain again. Maybe it’s better that we split up I guess. But I hold out hope. And your videos have been giving me comfort ever since. If I don’t get him back at least I have all of this information in case this ever happens to me in the future. I will keep listening thank you so much

  • @cynthiakwawu9388
    @cynthiakwawu9388 Рік тому +3

    Am going to do exactly what you say coach
    Just had a heartbreak
    2weeks ago
    Been calling him and texting him
    But am done doing that
    Am focusing on my self

    • @jannlewandowski5540
      @jannlewandowski5540 Рік тому

      Cynthia Kwawu, cynthia,stop chasing him. I recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation.
      myexbackcoach.com/ebk
      Good luck to you.❤

  • @adamdeveau6311
    @adamdeveau6311 3 роки тому +2

    Prior to me beginning NC, I whole heartedly apologized for my negative behavior, from the bottom of my heart. Not only to tell her the honest truth, but to also set me free from guilt. I meant it. She replied within 24hrs saying " I don't know if you wanted me to respond or not. I appreciate your words and thank you for sharing them." I replied within 24hrs saying "I hadn't put any expectations on you responding to my message , but I do welcome and appreciate it."
    What do you folks think?? Was my reply okay?!?!?

  • @mxsharkgang3246
    @mxsharkgang3246 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you coach for the dose of reality. We use to walk up to eachother alot at work but now it's not the same. I started NC but I been trying to get that fire back at work. Smh. I need to fall back..... hard working together.
    Edit: I texted him lastweek to see how he was since he didn't look 100%. He replied " hes ok. Going through some things. Making decisions in life"
    I never replied... I miss him like hell but... I know my worth. I'm crying less but its still tough to function at work since the breakup.

    • @mxsharkgang3246
      @mxsharkgang3246 3 роки тому +1

      @@axelbriggjern3534 I'll look for it thank you

    • @mxsharkgang3246
      @mxsharkgang3246 3 роки тому +2

      @@axelbriggjern3534 thank you Axel. Trying my best

  • @Nonamesansnom21
    @Nonamesansnom21 3 роки тому +10

    After three weeks of no contact, we had to see each other at work. I acted like myself, a happy and bubbly woman.
    After that he just deleted me off social media and still no word from him :/

    • @RR-oy5mt
      @RR-oy5mt 3 роки тому +2

      Don’t focus on social media just keep going on with NC

    • @faithwealth615
      @faithwealth615 3 роки тому

      Law of attraction really works out for me

    • @faithwealth615
      @faithwealth615 3 роки тому

      +1 ( 9 7 8 ) 9 3 5- 8 8 8 6.

    • @faithwealth615
      @faithwealth615 3 роки тому

      Chat me now on w ha t sa p p to know how

    • @Nonamesansnom21
      @Nonamesansnom21 3 роки тому +1

      @@axelbriggjern3534 well I was doing no contact. I did not expect to see him at work when I saw him. And I had no choice but see him the times I did. We didn’t talk or anything