You feel the withdrawal from Limerence. That’s why it’s so difficult. That doesn’t mean you don’t love her, but it explains some of the pain. I hope you watched the video all the way through.
wow 118 likes lol. Im still 7 months post break up of my 3 and a half year relationship and 2 years of living together. Im still in that cycle 😂 sometimes im okay, sometimes im not, dreams about her and flashbacks are coming back even though I dont think about her or doing something to keep me busy memories would just keep on popping up in my head. She texted a week ago but its nonsense (a statement intended to not be replied to) she was just giving me an info of something thats its not worth replying as per advice of the dating guy and the love chat as to not go for breadcrumbs plus I dont have credits to be able to reply to her (since im not using my phone for texts cause I technically dont have to text anyone, we have the internet for messenger 😂, only for youtube) and dont want to waste money to reply to a text that I know I wont get a reply back so its not worth replying to.
Honestly I wonder how many people would be stalking their ex, Suicidal or on depressive meds if not for this man. I think Coach Lee saves a lot of lives
I blocked my ex. Best decision I ever made. It was only then I was able to start healing. Before, it was a constant roller coaster of emotions, set off whenever I saw his face on social media, so any progress I had made in getting over him had been set back.
Black Vortex it’s been 2 months and my ex still has a picture of us on her FB and still follows me on IG. Sometimes I wish she had unfollowed me and did all the typical post break up stuff when everything was fresh. If she blocks me sometime down the line I’m sure it’ll reopen some wounds.
Couch Lee. What do you do when my ex new girlfriend reached out to me on fb to throw my ex under the bus. Apparently, they broke up for a week or so, so she reached out to me. Please help!! I don't know if someone of you had experienced this before, but that was a surprise for me. I got caught up in a conversation with her on messenger. I was trying to bring a little light to someone I thought was hurting, but all she did was opening my old wounds, just to let me know, that she went back to him! How stupid I am thinking that she was hurting 😢
Try having their picture randomly pop up on a dating app and knowing that they are very attractive and are definitely talking to other people. That's pain.
That's right my wife no been married for 34 years then she devoice me. It's been 3 years now. I haven't contacted her nor call. I've been in the no contact. I don't know now.
The main thing to remember is that we cannot read their minds. We may be feeling like it is hopeless and that they are extremely happy, whilst in reality they may be minutes away from breaking and reaching out
Thank you for this reminder! I have been struggling with this exact thing every day... My ego is screaming at me terrible things about what she thinks or feels about me. I honestly don't know that no contact will work in my case, she said after 1 year together that she wasn't ready for commitment suddenly and left... I'm trying to keep it together and focus on NC and on myself.
It’s sooo hard to date during this time with social media. People don’t Appreciate what they have until it’s gone. and it’s so easy for them to find someone else online.
I agree completely. Very well said. Social media and dating apps have ruined old fashion traditional dating. It’s horrible. People are with 500 likes rather than a face to face to conversation
Drew, it's sad, but it happens a lot! People who have been together for years have lost attraction to the other, and it is hard when one is so much in love, and the other fades. Take care of yourself, and don't ever give up on love. ❤️💙
To everyone suffering in silence, stay strong. I have been suffering for days, only finding comfort in Coach Lee’s video and a few others. Today, listening to this video, I’m struck by the realization that I’m not so sure I even want him to return. I have accepted the rejection, I have accepted his retreat. I embraced the grief and cried as much as I needed to. I allowed myself to feel all of my love for him and all of the pain of my heartbreak. Today, my chest feels lighter. I am more clear headed. I feel twinges of happiness and excitement for my future and the unknown. If you are not for them, that merely means you are for someone else! Good luck to all ❤️
You are not alone. I’ve been 2 months of no contact. It’s hurts to think they don’t care. But.. they will realize how they left things some day. You are not alone with the pain. I have been very up and down, crying often. Stay strong.
Throneless, I totally get it. I was with MY PERSON, her words for nearly 7 years. I was certainly not perfect but she led me to believe that WE were as close to perfect as anyone could be. Out of nowhere she dumped me in Sept. 2021. I reacted poorly and let her know how much she meant to me. Probably feeling sorry for me, she relented and came back to me. Actually knocked on my door to get the meeting started. We got back together for 2 months and of course she did it again, with the ole excuse of just feeling too much pressure. I could go on and on but it comes down to the fact now that I am beginning to feel as though I dont want her back. Like she says, it would be too much pressure! But this time I would be feeling the pressure as much as her!!!!
Thanks for your words of encouragement. I'm only into the 2nd week post breakup and it's killing me. I've never felt such emotional pain in my life. I'm glad you feel better and have taken it so well. Any updates you like to share since it's been a month from this post?
@@billyself9333 Omg that's exactly that happened to me. She broke up around 3 months ago and we ended up together again after a few days. Just before Xmas we got so close she decided to move in with me. By New Years Eve she broke up with me and moved out again. We were together for over 3 years and during that time there wasn't a day we didn't talk to each other. I've been trying the no contact strategy but it hurts so much :(
@@XKobe hey there! First of all, I’m very sorry for the grief you’re experiencing, I know you’re hurting. Has it only been a month? It feels like much more time has passed. Update, he has reached out… several times. He is still my ex. And I feel even better now than I did when I posted my original comment. Healing is not linear, it’s not a straight or paved road. I’ve still had to deal with hard days and I know there are more to come. BUT, I’m at peace. The one thing that helped me most was taking all that pent up love I was storing for him and give it to myself. Prioritize yourself. Set goals, crush them. Stay busy improving yourself. Evolve. I am so in love with who I am becoming and so excited to realize my goals and dreams. Keep moving forward, and you will get there too.
68 days now of NC. Some days are easier, some are really bad. It helps to know that I'm not alone in this and that there are other people who have had it worse but turned out completely okay and healed after. Gotta be strong! 🙏🏼
Hugs 🤗 sometimes I cry sometimes I smile but I always remember to pray and ask god for closure , my partner broke up with me because of trust issues we being together for 14 years he thinks I’m cheating now but I can honestly say I’m not doing it , I’m going through nc right now , just hoping for the best
@@selenaG57 aww 14 years! Hope you’re okay. Gotta be strong! I admire the strength it took just to write your comment. Virtual hug! Wish you healing and strength! 🙏🏼
It's really sad, how a person who you loved so much can turn out to be such cruel monster. I swear it really hurts, May God make them feel that same amount of pain they have caused the person who had loved them so much.
I feel the same way. Unfortunately I want him to hurt the way he hurt me. I want a woman to come into his life, treat him like a precious gem, he fall in love with her, then she tells him she wants to date other people and his heart falls out of his chest. Then he can call me and continue to apologize because he now knows how I feel. My "break up" is very new from a short relationship but it stings.
If your ex gf starts seeing someone else , just take that loss, learn from it and move on . If they go to someone its because theyre filling a void of insecurity and that shows lack of respect of the relationship
@@mclarencroft Everyone is different and those tend to be rebound relationships that end up failing more often than not. Just because they suppress their emotions and tell themselves they've moved on, doesn't mean they did. And those feelings are going to surface at some point down the line. Unless of course they're a psychopath, in which case, who needs them?
@@mclarencroft if a quality women has attracted and great intimacy for a person during a year of relationship. And if they break up. Are they willing to move on fast with someone else? What do you think if she is a quality person with some ethics.
Recently, I had a challenging split. The breakup of my five-year relationship a few months ago has been quite difficult. I still harbor a deep affection for my ex-boyfriend, and I can't seem to stop thinking about him. My attempts to win him back have been unsuccessful, and at this point, it seems impossible to be with anybody else. It may seem strange to admit this, but I miss him terribly and can't stop thinking about him.
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
Remember eveyone who is going through the breakup issues , trust the universe ,trust the god. You attract wot you are. Just imagine yourself being with him at the moment everyday morning as if its happening now and then let it go and put all u r trust in the universe. They will come back. If u r negtive then u will attract negative things. Everythin will be fine . Breathe in and out and dont worry about anything and focus on yourself
What if they found some else already. My was with me for almost 2 years. He wanted to propose, I said No yet...no ready...I was honest. He swore He loved me and I had his heart....really? Hr He moved to fast and he they been together for 2 months. However, I love your positive actitud and message. I took a screenshot of it, to read it everytime I am negative :(
Srimayavan Ganeshan why would you encourage someone to get back with someone if they don’t deserve it ? If they were good people they would still be together ..
No contact works guysss.I am now back with my Ex after three months of no contact.I have learned a lot and found myself during that time .Mr Lee help me alot.Don't know you see this comment but Mr Lee thank you so much. You help me through this journey. Now,I have a lot of knowledges how to keep a relationship healthy.
I thought my father’s death would be the largest grief I would ever have to deal with! Losing the love of my life is killing me. I’m good one day and crawling on the floor the next! I pray I get through this intact 🙏🙏
I started seeing someone too soon after my spouse died. I think I was still in shock and PTSD, trying to hang on to sanity. Being with him was a distraction from the pain of losing my spouse, and now I feel the full loss of my spouse as well as the loss of what the new person and I shared, which was what helped get me through that awful time. Well, I'm not through the grief, it's like I'm starting over- but now it's worse because this guy leaving me was a choice, not a tragedy.
So true.....that's the way I explained the pain to my daughter when my wife left me 2 months ago for a twice divorced man.....only the death of my mother was the worst heart break . Good luck to you and any other person reading this.
it doesnt matter if im sobbing, if im hitting a low point or im really jjst struggling, Coach lee always makes me feel calm and helps me think clearly and logically
Damn, bittersweet. These videos bring nostalgia to me. A year ago, I was crying with a pit in my stomach from being so hurt from him ending it with me. It took me 6 months until I started feeling like me again. And now I'm here today and I feel absolutely nothing for him, while I'm with my new partner who is amazing. Wow how life changes.
@@GRDiplomat No, because I broke no contact several times, even stalked him kinda? He eventually told me to go away and now he knows I'm in a new relationship so he never reached out.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
Day 26 of NC. Just when I’m teetering on the edge of despair, I click on Coach Lee to bring me back to some semblance of sanity. Coach Lee you are a gift to all man and woman kind🙏❤️
The best thing u can do is simple move on with your life, u can't predict If u guys will back together, Just let things go and enjoy the moment even if is bad, some days are easyer then others, eventually everything that is meant to be will be
cyberaga20, let me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you immensely. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation including yours myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Everyone!!! No contact rule rly works!!!! My ex contacted me after more than two month of silence!!!! He’s just testing water now because he’s curious why I’ve been silent and not chased him!!!! I bought Coach Lee’s emergency breakup kit!!! Wish me luck!!!!
It did for me too but I was in no contact for 3 months and 22days and he reached out but it was casual he called 3 times and left a voicemail but I waited a few days and reached back out but idk I'm lost I love him and I want him back but he hasn't responded
"You have to give another person the opportunity to learn your place in their life".. Amazing how this can be applied into any kind of relationships. During this hard time, I m listening your videos every single day, first thing in the morning, last before going to bed. I'm not even sure "I want my ex back", however I see in this process you are pointing out an opportunity to heal. I sincerely thank you for this videos, I wish you a lot of prosperity, health and blessings for your work. Thank you 🙏🏻
Just to share, no contact period to me personally is supposed to regroup, recoup, recover and make yourself mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually stable again, so that once you know you are truly ready (you can always add an extra day to confirm) before you approach your ex. You need to ask yourself if you can stay calm, composed, unaffected and positive if your ex 1) ignores 2) rejects 3) reconcile with you. The key objective is be very sure that you're steady as a rock regardless the outcome. Hope this helps. And one more thing, you're gonna be fine.
I think that is better to not make the first step If you have tried everything before. I understand what you say, but It doesn't make much sense to reach out at the point you are describing.
Don't look backwards unless you plan on going that way. If it wasn't good then, it wont be good now. Take time to realize you are actually lucky to get out of something that wasn't right, and move on.
Words of encouragement for anyone in the comments going through a fresh break up ! Mine happened in October 2019 came across coach lee binge watched his vids they helped SUPERBLY ! I thought I’d never get over the pain and now I’m at a point where I have no feelings for that person at all ..it’s amazing ! listen to this guy ! please 🙏🏾 and whatever you do ..don’t use other people to distract you from them genuinely heal from the hurt so it doesn’t carry into your next relationship in the form of insecurities/trust issues !
It's been a year and 4 mos. I'm still not over him. We were married for 35yrs. I've tried NC but I always have something to say so I email him and he doesn't respond. I wish I could be strong.
Ericka T you know what, some people believe after treating others so bad that if they just remove a person from their life that they never have to apologize or change their behavior. They didn’t contact me but they didn’t delete me on social media either. Weird. They’re the last thing on my mind and it feels good 🙏🏾
True, sometimes you think back on the fun times. Then you get sideswiped by the horrible memories. There were more horrible times for sure. Really horrible.
I love how you discuss every single question that occurs in the mind of the dumpee that we don't ask to our friends anymore because we feel like those are silly questions / don't want to bother them / in some kind of way know the answer but still want someone to tell us lol. And that person to tell us is you! Thankyou coach Lee ♡
First UA-camr who's able to really drill down and explain comprehensible the dynamics of silence and why it's a first aid kid which should actually comes natural but there are are specific emotional involvements in relationships which makes us overlook this simplicity. If we were to compare it with an argument between friends we would be completely okay with some silence.
Yes, my ex lost her attraction. A big part of it was because of long distance. I mean the long distance also applied to me. I also was somewhat losing attraction, but I kept to the relationship because I'm loyal and believe you have to work on relationships, but a lot of people don't. It's easy come, easy go.
It’s such a relief listening to these videos. My Ex went from wanting to keep the communication lines open day after break-up to the 3rd day where he said he doesn’t want to communicate anymore and he wishes me the best. It’s been 2 weeks and the community in the comment section is really helping. I hope I can come back and add a success story to this.
Day 2 no contract rule, it is so hard, i cried today but I am stronger again after hearing from Coach Lee. I have assignment deadlines tonight and i have a lot of work to focus on. Stay strong people!
mine was 7 years, i finally find out , he has a wife. He said he couldn’t leave his daughters, and he’d live in misery. he’s got me blocked everywhere with his wife, she found about me. it been since April, i’ll never come back, He had left on my iphone his address. i told home to delete it, but he won’t,🤣
My ex is a terrible person, started talking to a married man, and a bunch of other dudes "the day we split". Dont date girls who smoked weed when they have asthma
Don't say dat...i hav asthma and i started smokin b cuz i am sooo stressed out wit my breakup...dat is y i felt d need 2 smoke. We get angry and frustrated and blame d opposite gender...but we r all in dis together. I am female and s'times i tink all men r d same. But who knows. Maybe God wil make my life better som day and show me dat i cud find a decent man who loves me 4me.
It's been 8 months I've walked away. No contact I'm just done. 30 yrs together 25 yrs of marriage, and unfaithful the entire time. The last injury just cut too deep. We are too far in and older now to keep going through the same thing like enough is enough. I blame myself for enabling and allowing so many things to slide. I was just in a dark place I wasn't ready. At this point idc if the lesson is learned now I'm never going back despite it's killing me because I've been with this person from the age 14. I'm just done... I have nothing left to say.
Yes, I'm doing great haven't backslide still no contact. I'm now a homeowner doing things all on my own and it feels good. I'm not dating i don't know how to just working on me. I discovered for the first time my favorite color is orange or in that tone. I went back to being creative drawing and painting. It's funny when I hear people say I didn't know you could do so and so...yeah I just didn't have the motivation because my light was dimmed. I went to France earlier this year, then to the alps where I tried skiing for the first time. Celebrated my bday with close friends. I planted some vegetables in my garden which I was able to cook with😂😂 now I'm planning my trip for next year to Korea, and Japan. I'm also going back to the Alps, and a few more escapes. I must say I'm blessed. Thank you for checking up on me.
Depends with the situation why would you like to wait for the person who abandoned you? when you move one, JUST MOVE On, don't do NC for you to get back together use it for your own sanity.
I would have happily moved on and was trying and then lockdown happened.. I'd made plans, going back to college and corny yes but Joining a gym with a specialist trainer.. I was getting in a good place, plus u can't date cause of the situation.. very frustrating..
I love when you tell the truth in convincing and convicting detail. Don't be scared to do that Coach Lee, this is what we need to hear. If your ex has kicked you to the curb, let them feel the feeling of missing you. Do not contact them. Not under any circumstances. Not for Christmas, not for their birthday, not for your anniversary. Not for anything. And when they respond to you in the future, do not respond to any flippant message that you received. They f***** up and they need to know it.
Once it’s ‘over’ it over. You can never go back, you have to move on. The process of letting go of the attachment you developed will be like going through drug and alcohol withdrawal for an addict.
This guy is such a healer🙏🏻 I’ve been struggling with this breakup for weeks, also knowing it was going to happen! Listening to this guy just makes me smile and feel that getting back to myself again isn’t too far away😁 Thankyou Lee👍
90 days no contact. My dreams and thoughts are still haunted by her. My house is full of her abscense. I want to forget her but my future was planned out with her being with me. So there isn't a tomorrow. Today is pain and I live in yesterday.
He broke up with me, I let him go. Not beginning anyone. I did my BEST to work things out, and wasn’t good enough. He’s too proud to admit all his wrongs so be it. There’s someone better for me out there who would truly appreciate me the way I deserve.
Im 2 weeks in and it's hard abit especially with this lock down here in new Zealand. I'm stuck with my thoughts all day everyday for another 2 weeks🤦♂️
April 21st it was supposed to be our 4 years Annivesary but he broke up with me. It all came in so sudden, totally devastated and shattered. He has blocked my no, blocked me in WhatsApp but he accepted my request my on fb. I don't understand what to think of it?.
same here 😕its been 12 days we are not talking...and not even declared as brkup...i am applying no contact and he is silent...and soon in 8 days will b compling 1 year.shld i send him a gift??
Silence means , she’s moved on , she’s dating , she’s working , she’s getting on with her life . You need to do the same , stop obsessing, stop contacting her , stop putting her on a pedestal,
I would like to say that NC rule it's working as well for short time relationship. Few years ago I had boyfriend who loved me so much, I felt that I just liked him and I didn't feel anything special. I broke up with him and he was so sad. We have been together just 5 months. In general he stayed no contact. I remember that after 2 months of NC he sent me message but I didn't reply because I though he should be with somebody who will truly love him. But after this he stayed NC all time for few months. In this time I understood how much I miss him and want him back. After next 7 months he sent message again and then I replied and we started to date again :)
LRD... Been 1 week today since I started NC. I'm going crazy, I'm not okay with these weird emotions. I wake up with gut wrenching pain and walk with it all day. It only goes away when I sleep. This cycle of being okay and not okay is killing me 😭 I just listen to you Coach Lee all day or whenever i think of him. I dont want to break no contact this time... this was his second chance and he messed up!!
It’s funny when I was in a relationship there were a lot of things about her I didn’t like. I wanted to end things myself a few times. But I didn’t. When she broke up with me I was shocked. I couldn’t believe it. All of the sudden I felt like I loved her and lost something amazing. When really I didn’t have those feelings during the relationship. She said slot of mean things when we broke up that hurt my feelings and made me feel self conscious. And the fact she hasn’t spoken to me or even made any effort makes me feel worse. I think I just want to know they miss me and are thinking about me. That I’m not all those things they said I was but all the things I was in the beginning of the relationship. I don’t think I want her back, just want myself back if that makes sense,
Robert, almost the same thing happened to me with the ex girlfriend… I just got out of a divorce in 2018 had to sell the house 50/50 split walk away with a good chunk of money… bought another house...I knew my ex gf years ago finallyhooked up with her we hit it off really good exercise together and a great dancer … I told her am not ready to get married again maybe in the future after awhile she was looking for excuse to dump me … she found iI know she has another boyfriend I told her am happy for her, but I am not, but no contact is what I am doing now… when one door closes, many will open up her loss… The last thing I told her I love you, set her free 😃.
The NC worked. After 90 days she reached out, although I thought she never will. We didn't get back together, she just wanted her things back. It's now around 9 months since the break up, didn't hear from her again. Stay strong, you'll be alright.
Ricardo Martins Who are you to judge? It doesn’t matter if he took six months or longer, he didn’t wimp out, or go crawling back on his knees to her, so that’s all that matter. I’ll say it again, GREAT JOB FAM!
Coach Lee ,you are amazing .I am in no contact for almost one month.And everyday is a struggle but when I listen to you it relaxes me .Your emergency break up kit is amazing .Thank you for all your help .
I have reached a state of depression and acceptance, my chest hurt and still hurts, our relationship lasted 6 months, I fell in love, I gave everything, at first it was the honeymoon, but then I felt that he had grown cold and that he was using me. I feel a little liberated with the acceptance, but I still think about him. It hurts to the core.
6 months was the length of my relationship too. He had “chased” me for years and I never took him seriously until I did and realized why I didn’t. He wasn’t on my level emotionally & maturity. Once the honeymoon stage was over about month #2 I started trying to get him to “grow up” in several areas of his life and while he and everyone else in our circle that had been telling him the same thing understood me, he just rebelled and eventually broke it off. Ok🤷♀️
I have been in no contact for two months one week. He blocked me but messaged me because he saw me post a message of my ante who is dead. He even called a friend to confirm when I wasn't answering him. Silence is golden. They will monitor you but in the end,you will know your life is better without them.
I would still be stuck handing my break up the wrong way. Your advice is a breath of fresh air when I was gasping to breathe and had no idea what to do next. Dude your helping so many people no matter what dynamic Ex or no ex you help all of us get through the toughest times of our lives. If it was easy we wouldn’t be watching or listening, just want to say thank you So much for keeping me focused. Still no ex but there is always hope for ourselves to be better with the right steps. Thank you!
Coach Lee you are on point and another great video that you've made. I've gone 80 days of no contact so far, it's the longest I've gone considering on previous occasions I was the one to break the no contact rule usually within 2 - 3 weeks. It's been a tough 80 days, some days are easier than others but you do get through it. My ex will not reach out more than likely as she has the narcissistic traits. She thinks she is better than everyone else. If they don't value your absence they will not appreciate your presence. I get lonely at times, I miss that connection, to wake up in the morning with not having a text message and knowing someone cares about you is hard. Stay strong my friends, I too thought that I'd never stick to the no contact rule but this time it has worked for me even though in the past I broke it and regretted it afterwards. Love and hugs to you all out there and stay true to yourself. 🙏
I remember my ex told me when we were still together that ALL of his ex comes back begging for him to take them back. So no wonder if he'll expect me to beg for him which I won't. That's a red flag! I'm glad he said that earlier. I know now what's best for me. 😂
Yes my ex said the same. Exes chase him. Me never so he chased me instead. But haven't heard from him for one month now . Let's see who will be crying again
I once used your videos to actually get my ex back, and it succeeded. Unfortunately it still ended the same way as before. It goes to show that not everyone is capable of change. Now I’m just using these videos to comfort me. I’m going to move forward. There’s so many people out there that I don’t see why I should try to make a relationship work with someone from the past that has failed multiple times.
markpim8722. You are 100% correct. No Contact does work if at least one of you changes for the better. Why don't you get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome and it has strategies for every situation including yours. myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I got to say this is a terrific message. And I know from experience. This is spot on, and anybody who's dealt with a stuck-up ex who thinks she is suddenly better than you needs to hear this man's advice.
whether we come back together or not, I have to say you bro is a rock (now do not feel ego in that LOL). I mean it, these lessons are not only for a comeback situation, but It is also for life! I have read so many articles and watched so many videos, honestly keep it up bro! your videos are authentic, masculinity-free ( not like others where it is all about ego ...etc), and balanced opinion. High Five, keep it up!
I’m having a hard time to get over it ,, it sucks ,,, pray for me guys.... I have been bleeding for months.. I dont know when it will end.. this pain is strong...
He broke up with me 3 months ago. I haven't heard anything from him in over a month. I have been working on myself a lot. I have a job interview n ext week. I was feeling strong all day then the night came on and at first I wanted badly to reach out. I opened my messages and started to text. I deleted what I said. I never pushed send. Then, more tears were shed before I came to bed. Now, I'm watching Coach Lee videos. I could really use some advice right now. I do love my ex and miss him.
@@nexttytreporter2598 I d/l'd an app for singing. I love to sing. We are back together now without the label, taking things skowly. Thank you so much for your comment. I hope things work out well for you, too. Oh, and I'm pregnant with his baby. I am so thankful for where my life is at and exculited for our future together!
this video is so good, its exactly explained what my ex BF was trying to do while breaking up with me. It was a ego boost and he still want me to satisfy it somehow.
My ex reached out to me a few times during no contact, hot and cold, i dont get it, i waited a day to respond to his text. Nothing on Valentines day, I decided to take good care of myself and move on, what ever happens happens, who cares. Enjoy my life first.
T W1978 ever heard the saying true love hurts. It does. Would you want to be with someone who gives up on you when problems arise. Love is more complex than attraction, intimacy, and passion. All love hurts. It’s about finding someone who you believe is worth hurting for and both having respect and love for each other you’ll do anything for that person.
Mine was hot and cold.. wanting one minute not INTERESTED the other.. then texted he thought I should DELETE his number, so I went in to no contact and 4 weeks later, I actually did.. I thought it would look odd doing it straight away. But I feel like I want it to stay that way. I know him well enough to know they're is someone else hence the cold and that at some point it will not be working and they'll be fall out or with will lose interest..
Sometimes when i deeply think about my ex, looking constantly at her Messenger profile with the question "Does she unblocked me yet?" i watch one of your videos and it helps me to move forward in my day and not being an emotional wreck. I'm on day 45 today and i bet on my worth, so i will not reach out ❤
COACH LEE IS THE ONLY MAN TO LISTEN TO ON UA-cam IF YOU WANT YOUR EX BACK!! Good afternoon Coach Lee, your emergency breakout kit do work. I Used it and I got my ex back in 2 weeks. No Contact is the Power, thanks Coach Lee.
yeah same here this guy is legendary i'm still on day 5 with the no contact but i can tell that he knows what he's talking about i can't afford the breakup kit so i'll just listen to his videos instead i'll text my ex after a month and a half but for now staying away as coach lee says is the best
The whole reason I'm going no contact is because I know that I can't go through another fight like this in the future. I know if I'm the one to smooth this over he will just keep taking advantage of me. If NC doesn't work, reconciling wouldn't have worked either. It would be two dead ends. I'm just hoping no contact works.
If she's the one that ended it, she's probably silent because she's not into you anymore and possibly with someone else. Lick your wounds, grow from the experience and move on! She's not worth it...
@@dnap2526 You're right, but I'd say most of the time she's moved on. I feel so bad for theses (Mostly) good guys that had there hearts broken. I've been there myself and binge watched this channel and many like it looking for some thread of hope that i'd get her back. I never did hear from her again. God bless and lets all learn be better men form our experiences!
i feel comfortable enough to share my current experience. I dated this girl for 7 months and during this virus, she had time away from school and back home to think about herself. She got advice from friends and family and concluded that she was not happy with herself, that she struggled loving herself. She broke the news to me that being in a relationship wasn't for the best for her and she ended it 3 days ago. The pain is real because we had something great and she described it the same way and also mentioned that ill always have a place in her heart. the day after the break up was the worst. I ended up chatting with her and after telling that I would love to be that guy for her, she mentioned me having a place in her heart like I mentioned and after I asked if she would think about us again when the time is right, she said she would but for now needs time and space for herself. I haven't said anything to her all day and yesterday in respect to her wishes and pray that this will get better in the future.
@@canyoudothis556 I am approaching 4 months of NC. I haven't heard anything from her but i have turned the attention to myself. I can say that I'm getting better. I see my own value and worth. If she can't see that or can't get back to place where she can appreciate it then that is her loss. I'm about to start a new full time job that pays good, I've been watching my diet and working out some and have been hanging with close friends. Its all on her at this point. She gives the bare minimum and then we'll see what happens.
@@Coleslaw97 this is sad...my ex left 3 mos ago. Lied TO ME and ABOUT ME to all our friends while he was pretending to have a mental breakfown to my face, fishing for my sympathy and then sneaking behind my back to go be with this 17yr old pot smoking, alcohol drinking girl with no job and an ex drug addict/recovering alcoholic mother who lost those very kids to the foster care system, only got them back 3yrs ago and sees nothing wrong with a 37yr old man coming onto her daughter.....needless to say, upon learning this, I had him remove all his things from my house and promptly threw him out of my life. Man on a mission, we dont need a crystal ball for this one🙄 After 7yrs together through some extremely difficult challenges I thought we tackled as a team, and his promises to always work things out, he blamed me for his unhappiness after an unplanned pregnancy that left me with crippling pain during sex. He didnt help support me to recovery, i had to go ALONE to several doctors appointments to hear the same answers: We can't do anything. I had to sit with the SAME frustrations of no intimacy when all he could think of was what HE wasnt getting and coming at me with his hand out and threatening expectations, saying that 'one day I just won't ask anymore' as if he was doing me a favor with those very demands, never realizing that if he had remembered to hear and see me and help clean up a mess HE jointly created, before coming at me with his own selfish desires, what WOULDNT I have given or done for a man such as that? He asked SO much of me with almost no commitment in return. Talking about how he wanted children but never wanted to marry.....I gave enough of myself and probably too much because of the entitlement rather than gratitude we should have shared. This hurts to see but the brass tacks are this: If he wasnt happy or grateful and had no plans of putting in emotional effort, then I would NEVER be good enough no matter how much I gave and its not my job to fill a hole in anyone's soul. I forfeited a very important and vulnerable part of myself in trusting the wrong man, I paid the price, took the fall and am left holding that bag. I hope you can see the same for yourself and don't waste 7yrs like I did on someone who won't value me and trying to see what was already staring me in the face🤦♀️ LESSON: TRANSACTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE TRASH, SO RESPECT YOURSELF BECAUSE NO ONE ELSE WILL DO IT FOR YOU!
@@ajl577 I'm sorry to hear this all. 7 years is a long time and honestly, idk what id do if i found out that there was someone else. I have this friend who has a child and the father just doesn't care at all. Left her and has denied that the child is his. Pretty spineless if you ask me. She has met a great guy who is there for her and her son so I'm hoping the same can happen to you. I'm hoping that the future is bright for you. No-one deserves to be hurt that way and guys that do that crap need to be held accountable.
@@Coleslaw97 Thank you for your kind words. I was and still am devastated. I NEVER thought he would do ANY of this before I got a live show in front of me but all his 'minor' selfish behavior suddenly made sense. The thing that hurts the worst about this all is that I was REALLY happy and I never took him for granted 😭😭😭 I feel foolish for ever trusting him but I made that choice and no one else is sitting in the middle of this wreckage. He tried to force me to be friends with him and threw in my face all the things he prided himself on doing for me as entitlement to why I should continue to speak to or support him. He even tried to take back jewelry he gave me as gifts and threatened to contact law enforcement over it....which is not even legally enforceable but just the fact that he had the audacity to cheat and then pull that selfish act on me taught me to wise up FAST. All these nights crying alone in my bed while he's out pleasing himself reminds me never to be so foolish again. I learned Im not the first woman he did this to and I probably won't be the last. But this WILL be the last time I'm EVER used by that man ever again. Even though I may be the one crying now I know I wasnt the one who failed this relationship and all that's left to me is the time I have now. I'm trying to use it wisely and be smarter. Thank you for wishing me that healing because I need it.🥺
I had an epiphany. If ignoring someone is an effective way to make them give up, then when an ex ignores you, it's likely their strategy to enforce a no-contact rule - inadvertently or intentionally. This realization can be empowering, as it allows you to recognize their behavior for what it is and make conscious choices about how to move forward.
The worst is trying to heal from an intense trauma-bond, not only are having to process the pain from the break up but you're having to feel their emotions and pain simultaneously, it's just horrific. 😐💔
To everyone, we all deserve true love, sometimes it cannot be found on someone that we used to know or we used to loved. I just had my break up 3months ago,NC yeah, thanI decided to let go, I reach out on him for a final bye and thanks, but what I did get is not a nice response. Pretty bad, but anyways humility and kindness makes us beautiful. For all heartbroken pips! cheer up, pray and trust your own journey!
We've known each other for 35 years. Since we were in the 6th grade. We were best of friends as kids. I literally rode her home from school.on my handlebars of my bike so she wouldn't have to walk and carry her books. We reconnected, everything was wonderful. The issue was her holding me to standards she wouldn't hold herself to. It was the same argument over and over. Not respecting my feelings. So she broke it off because I expected her to be accountable for her actions and words. It has broken my heart. I fell in love with her the first day of 6th grade. Never fell out of love with her. I literally described what she was wearing that day, her mom pulled out the photo album, bam! I was exactly right. Tortured right now, but haven't had contact in three weeks
@@_missashleybanks_ Haven't spoken or had contact with her in 43 days. While I love her with every ounce of my being, I deserve to be treated with respect as well.
@@marinemike1559 You seem to be a good person, Mike. If you are okey with all you did, If you feel that you have tried everything to be with her, be calm. You have to respect and focus on yourself. I believe that, If she made the decision, you should't reach out first to her. That's my view of the things. You can't think that is all up to you to be with her. That If you don't talk with her, she would not be with you never. Things doesn't work like that.
@@Fmasx3TV today is day 84 of no contact. I think of her everyday, but I refuse to crawl back. She has to be the one that realizes that she was wrong, and then contact me.
@@Fmasx3TV I understand how you're feeling. When I'm working all day, I'm preoccupied, so it's fairly easy. It's being home after work that is difficult. I absolutely love and adore her, and have for 35 years. I fight the urge nightly to text or email her. She's also 1000 miles away. Just stay strong my friend. God knows it's not easy to do.
@@Fmasx3TV I understand. We were best of friends growing up. She was the drummer in the band that I was the bass guitarist in. She didn't like me being friends with an ex that we grew up with, so of course, I respected it. She lives 1000 miles away, and was going to dinners with her ex husband. I simply stated I thought it was wrong of her to do that after expressing her discomfort with me being friends with my ex. She actually agreed that she was wrong, but continued to do it. Was the same argument over and over again. I just expected her to hold herself to the very same standards she held me to.
All I can say is that I would be absolutely stuffed and more broken than if I haven't had these amazingly powerful videos to watch. I put them on when I weaken and feel like contacting, Love ya work Coach Lee. Deb King Australia
Literally answered all my questions . He liked my Instagram story thinking I would do something. Weeks later he removed me from Instagram. I did NC the day we Broke up before even watching your videos. Heartbroken but proud of myself
Coach Lee, I want to share something with you and the posters who are feeling sadness. My girlfriend called me and we chatted and told me her boyfriend from 30 years ago texted her out of the blue and asked her to go out with him for a coffee they met and talked and decided they were going to try to patch up the relationship . From that day on they are working on getting back together . He told her that he has been thinking and wondering about her. They have been in no contact for longer then the 30 years. he was a little afraid to contact her. They are both taking it slow and enjoying the time they are spending together. So hang in there guys.
Got back with my ex a few days ago... She had her new bf call me and cuss me out.. kind of not surprised.. clearly.i cared more for her then she did for me.. she thinks playing with people feelings is a game.. one day she'll learn the pain I'm feeling now... I will never trust an ex again
Hi coach lee..my ex girlfriend has not returned..tried no contact for several months..but wanted to thank you..I owe you for me being here today if not for you..I would not be here right now writing to you..thank you❤️
Coach Lee I was so tempted to contact my ex today for Valentine’s Day but I’m glad I didn’t, they didn’t contact me either. I went into no contact for over a month now and I wanted to end no contact by saying happy Valentine’s Day but I will wait. I’m not sure if I want to even contact them after not hearing from them. It makes me feel like they don’t care.
There are other good Love Advice coaches giving similar advice to Coach Lee, but how he says these things is some how more effective on me. It resonates. Thank you. These videos about no contact are my backbone sometimes.
He said we were too different, basically he was perfect and I was the opposite so he left. I felt sad but accepted without even think a second. Not a single word more and guess? He's seeking on me and I'm fine, I know what is hurt and I went through all the things he will learn to feel about being rejected from someone who gave him love, support and values.
@@nikhilgarg1326 hey girl, yes we are back together and now I'm the one who care less about the relationship. Of. He asked for it for so many times until he felt he was wrong and decided to work on his narcissistic issues. Not sure if he became a better person or I just don't pay attention on him anymore. We're about to complete 6 years of our history and this month I'm organizing his 40yo b-day party. Maybe some maturity has helped, all I know is that now he wants everything I wanted in the past but I'm enjoying my freedom of living alone in the beach, more than thousand miles away from him. Lol. Resilience is the key, you'll get everything you want if you stop asking for it, but instead just moving silently towards your goals and accept you can live with or without him. Good luck!
@@solanjedere sounds good that you guys are together. Mine is long distance relationship and she brokeup saying compatibility issues. Not sure if no contact helps getting her back as i am too late to inplement no contact!!
One minute I'm fine and the next I feel like I got punched in the gut.
That sounds typical. Watch my video on Limerence at m.ua-cam.com/video/uxtDBgc9Dws/v-deo.html to understand the withdrawal that you are going through.
@@RealCoachLee little confused about your comment. Neither on of us is in a relationship.
You feel the withdrawal from Limerence. That’s why it’s so difficult. That doesn’t mean you don’t love her, but it explains some of the pain. I hope you watched the video all the way through.
Oh I see what you mean now. I had to go back and watch it again.
Literally same. Just when i thought i was doing better it all came crashing down this week
Im tired with the never ending cycle of okay and not okay.
For real that's real talk
Yes that is never stopping
Sometimes I Just can't get my head around that she broke up even though I know and understand why.
me too. im only on day 5 of NC and it's been really hard. How's your progress?
wow 118 likes lol. Im still 7 months post break up of my 3 and a half year relationship and 2 years of living together.
Im still in that cycle 😂 sometimes im okay, sometimes im not, dreams about her and flashbacks are coming back even though I dont think about her or doing something to keep me busy memories would just keep on popping up in my head.
She texted a week ago but its nonsense (a statement intended to not be replied to) she was just giving me an info of something thats its not worth replying as per advice of the dating guy and the love chat as to not go for breadcrumbs plus I dont have credits to be able to reply to her (since im not using my phone for texts cause I technically dont have to text anyone, we have the internet for messenger 😂, only for youtube) and dont want to waste money to reply to a text that I know I wont get a reply back so its not worth replying to.
@@angel-pp5gj who are you asking ?
Honestly I wonder how many people would be stalking their ex, Suicidal or on depressive meds if not for this man. I think Coach Lee saves a lot of lives
This is so true
I blocked my ex. Best decision I ever made. It was only then I was able to start healing. Before, it was a constant roller coaster of emotions, set off whenever I saw his face on social media, so any progress I had made in getting over him had been set back.
I'm on buproprion. Cause of my ex. Almost hung myself early dec
@@percytwatwinkle3431 oh God PLEASE don't
That’s me. I’m actually wanted to commit suicide, but I’m here cuz of this man. And I’m fine :)
Give them something only you can give, your absence
Cy Colburn
Love This! 👍
Munar Esen
How do you mean your ex loves your silence? What is she doing to love it so much?
Munar Esen
You’re doing well to be rid of her. 👍
@Munar Esen For now...then she will miss you... Coach Lee knows what he is talking about. You are showing confidence by ignoring her.
Cy Colburn yesss !!!
My kings and Queens, don't stalk your exes profiles, shit's gonna hurt
I stalked me ex Facebook and she deleted all our photos. :-( your right it hurts. I'm gonna take break from Facebook from now on.
Black Vortex it’s been 2 months and my ex still has a picture of us on her FB and still follows me on IG. Sometimes I wish she had unfollowed me and did all the typical post break up stuff when everything was fresh. If she blocks me sometime down the line I’m sure it’ll reopen some wounds.
Couch Lee. What do you do when my ex new girlfriend reached out to me on fb to throw my ex under the bus. Apparently, they broke up for a week or so, so she reached out to me. Please help!! I don't know if someone of you had experienced this before, but that was a surprise for me. I got caught up in a conversation with her on messenger. I was trying to bring a little light to someone I thought was hurting, but all she did was opening my old wounds, just to let me know, that she went back to him! How stupid I am thinking that she was hurting 😢
It does if you not string enough emotionally
Try having their picture randomly pop up on a dating app and knowing that they are very attractive and are definitely talking to other people. That's pain.
“YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE UNTIL IT IS GONE!”
That's right my wife no been married for 34 years then she devoice me. It's been 3 years now. I haven't contacted her nor call. I've been in the no contact. I don't know now.
The main thing to remember is that we cannot read their minds. We may be feeling like it is hopeless and that they are extremely happy, whilst in reality they may be minutes away from breaking and reaching out
Thank you for this reminder! I have been struggling with this exact thing every day... My ego is screaming at me terrible things about what she thinks or feels about me. I honestly don't know that no contact will work in my case, she said after 1 year together that she wasn't ready for commitment suddenly and left... I'm trying to keep it together and focus on NC and on myself.
Bless you, very helpful, day 6 of NC. It was something great and would love to see it reignite🙏
They don't change there mind, especially when they have someone else..
I'd really hope this is true. 10 months no contact and I feel worthless again. . . She's probably not gonna reach out.
Ceesar Joust 10 months holy shit
It’s sooo hard to date during this time with social media. People don’t Appreciate what they have until it’s gone. and it’s so easy for them to find someone else online.
Yup so true. I honestly want to find a nerd at a church & be with her forever.
@@nalveyna I would like something like that ...
Easy come. Easy go.
@@weeeone me to! Love shouldn't be painful it should be beautiful x
I agree completely. Very well said. Social media and dating apps have ruined old fashion traditional dating. It’s horrible. People are with 500 likes rather than a face to face to conversation
It'll never cease to amaze me how easily some people can ruthlessly remove someone who loves them from their lives.
Drew, it's sad, but it happens a lot! People who have been together for years have lost attraction to the other, and it is hard when one is so much in love, and the other fades. Take care of yourself, and don't ever give up on love. ❤️💙
Easy to understand. Welcome to females. Concentrate on your self betterment.
Hurt people… hurt people.
It @FurryLove215it sure sounds like you went through a type of borderline narcissistic relationship AND behaviors. Stay Educated AND Dedicated...💪
I hope you are doing better❤@FurryLove215
To everyone suffering in silence, stay strong. I have been suffering for days, only finding comfort in Coach Lee’s video and a few others. Today, listening to this video, I’m struck by the realization that I’m not so sure I even want him to return. I have accepted the rejection, I have accepted his retreat. I embraced the grief and cried as much as I needed to. I allowed myself to feel all of my love for him and all of the pain of my heartbreak. Today, my chest feels lighter. I am more clear headed. I feel twinges of happiness and excitement for my future and the unknown. If you are not for them, that merely means you are for someone else! Good luck to all ❤️
You are not alone. I’ve been 2 months of no contact. It’s hurts to think they don’t care. But.. they will realize how they left things some day.
You are not alone with the pain. I have been very up and down, crying often. Stay strong.
Throneless, I totally get it. I was with MY PERSON, her words for nearly 7 years. I was certainly not perfect but she led me to believe that WE were as close to perfect as anyone could be. Out of nowhere she dumped me in Sept. 2021. I reacted poorly and let her know how much she meant to me. Probably feeling sorry for me, she relented and came back to me. Actually knocked on my door to get the meeting started. We got back together for 2 months and of course she did it again, with the ole excuse of just feeling too much pressure. I could go on and on but it comes down to the fact now that I am beginning to feel as though I dont want her back. Like she says, it would be too much pressure! But this time I would be feeling the pressure as much as her!!!!
Thanks for your words of encouragement. I'm only into the 2nd week post breakup and it's killing me. I've never felt such emotional pain in my life. I'm glad you feel better and have taken it so well. Any updates you like to share since it's been a month from this post?
@@billyself9333 Omg that's exactly that happened to me. She broke up around 3 months ago and we ended up together again after a few days. Just before Xmas we got so close she decided to move in with me. By New Years Eve she broke up with me and moved out again. We were together for over 3 years and during that time there wasn't a day we didn't talk to each other. I've been trying the no contact strategy but it hurts so much :(
@@XKobe
hey there! First of all, I’m very sorry for the grief you’re experiencing, I know you’re hurting. Has it only been a month? It feels like much more time has passed. Update, he has reached out… several times. He is still my ex. And I feel even better now than I did when I posted my original comment. Healing is not linear, it’s not a straight or paved road. I’ve still had to deal with hard days and I know there are more to come. BUT, I’m at peace. The one thing that helped me most was taking all that pent up love I was storing for him and give it to myself.
Prioritize yourself.
Set goals, crush them.
Stay busy improving yourself.
Evolve.
I am so in love with who I am becoming and so excited to realize my goals and dreams.
Keep moving forward, and you will get there too.
Don't let someone tell you twice they don't want you
Ehhh, made that mistake.
@ArnelV same here made that mistake too. But that’s where I cut it off and I won’t let them waste my time a third time.
@@baggergurl16 Right on 🤘🏻
Julie, WAY TO GO, GIRL!! 👍
Facts.
68 days now of NC. Some days are easier, some are really bad. It helps to know that I'm not alone in this and that there are other people who have had it worse but turned out completely okay and healed after. Gotta be strong! 🙏🏼
Hugs 🤗 sometimes I cry sometimes I smile but I always remember to pray and ask god for closure , my partner broke up with me because of trust issues we being together for 14 years he thinks I’m cheating now but I can honestly say I’m not doing it , I’m going through nc right now , just hoping for the best
@@selenaG57 aww 14 years! Hope you’re okay. Gotta be strong! I admire the strength it took just to write your comment. Virtual hug! Wish you healing and strength! 🙏🏼
Literally, same here. Wishing you all the best, hope you feel happier and more healed than ever ❤️
You are not alone I left 6 yours ago
Its a lot! NC is mostly 1 month.
It's really sad, how a person who you loved so much can turn out to be such cruel monster. I swear it really hurts, May God make them feel that same amount of pain they have caused the person who had loved them so much.
I feel the same way. Unfortunately I want him to hurt the way he hurt me. I want a woman to come into his life, treat him like a precious gem, he fall in love with her, then she tells him she wants to date other people and his heart falls out of his chest. Then he can call me and continue to apologize because he now knows how I feel. My "break up" is very new from a short relationship but it stings.
I feel the same way cuz they just laughing and talking and eating shiting like normal
I don't understand too. it's worst like than an enemy 😭
Wow!!!
@@edeal9251 I'm going thru same thing how r u I read your msg it's very painful I'm so sorry
If your ex gf starts seeing someone else , just take that loss, learn from it and move on .
If they go to someone its because theyre filling a void of insecurity and that shows lack of respect of the relationship
You tell yourself that lol. Women move on faster than men.
@@mclarencroft Everyone is different and those tend to be rebound relationships that end up failing more often than not. Just because they suppress their emotions and tell themselves they've moved on, doesn't mean they did. And those feelings are going to surface at some point down the line. Unless of course they're a psychopath, in which case, who needs them?
@@mclarencroft if a quality women has attracted and great intimacy for a person during a year of relationship. And if they break up. Are they willing to move on fast with someone else? What do you think if she is a quality person with some ethics.
Good now they are someone else's problem, look at it that way. Go get some ass if you need too.
@@mclarencroft happy rebounds. Lol!
Recently, I had a challenging split. The breakup of my five-year relationship a few months ago has been quite difficult. I still harbor a deep affection for my ex-boyfriend, and I can't seem to stop thinking about him. My attempts to win him back have been unsuccessful, and at this point, it seems impossible to be with anybody else. It may seem strange to admit this, but I miss him terribly and can't stop thinking about him.
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without him, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring him back into my life if you're open to it, seeking help from a spiritual counselor might make a difference.
How did you find your spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?
His name is Father Obah Eze and he's an incredible spiritual counselor known for helping restore relationships.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable
I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤
Remember eveyone who is going through the breakup issues , trust the universe ,trust the god. You attract wot you are. Just imagine yourself being with him at the moment everyday morning as if its happening now and then let it go and put all u r trust in the universe. They will come back. If u r negtive then u will attract negative things. Everythin will be fine . Breathe in and out and dont worry about anything and focus on yourself
What if they found some else already. My was with me for almost 2 years. He wanted to propose, I said No yet...no ready...I was honest. He swore He loved me and I had his heart....really? Hr He moved to fast and he they been together for 2 months. However, I love your positive actitud and message. I took a screenshot of it, to read it everytime I am negative :(
This is horrible advice
Law of attraction
Srimayavan Ganeshan why would you encourage someone to get back with someone if they don’t deserve it ? If they were good people they would still be together ..
Srimayavan Ganeshan is
This man has literally done more for humanity than most noble prize winners, and I am actually not joking. Awesome Coach Lee
No contact works guysss.I am now back with my Ex after three months of no contact.I have learned a lot and found myself during that time .Mr Lee help me alot.Don't know you see this comment but Mr Lee thank you so much. You help me through this journey. Now,I have a lot of knowledges how to keep a relationship healthy.
congrats. was she alone or did she rebound and leave them?
Don't feed an ego when you can upgrade
Van Paul word💥
I've seen some exes few years later and ZERO attraction
What it means
I think this is true. But too hard to do in the early stages of break up 🙁
My sis always say that. But that is only ok if their ego is huge ..bcz normal person will take it as compliment or sugestion ..or whatelse.
I thought my father’s death would be the largest grief I would ever have to deal with! Losing the love of my life is killing me. I’m good one day and crawling on the floor the next! I pray I get through this intact 🙏🙏
Bart, give it TIME. TIME is a fantastic healer. God bless you..♥️⚘️
No one really talks about the grief, I think it's the absolute worse part of all of this. 💔
I started seeing someone too soon after my spouse died. I think I was still in shock and PTSD, trying to hang on to sanity. Being with him was a distraction from the pain of losing my spouse, and now I feel the full loss of my spouse as well as the loss of what the new person and I shared, which was what helped get me through that awful time. Well, I'm not through the grief, it's like I'm starting over- but now it's worse because this guy leaving me was a choice, not a tragedy.
Bart, how are you feeling now? 💛
So true.....that's the way I explained the pain to my daughter when my wife left me 2 months ago for a twice divorced man.....only the death of my mother was the worst heart break . Good luck to you and any other person reading this.
The grass is always greener to this generation of women.
it doesnt matter if im sobbing, if im hitting a low point or im really jjst struggling, Coach lee always makes me feel calm and helps me think clearly and logically
Dont know if everyone gets reply.or how long it takes.i cant find where my question went
I feel the same. Without listening to Coach Lee's videos I would be a mess. I gain a lot of strength and perspective my listening to him.
100%
i got coach lee on prlly 5 hours a day lol it helps a lot
How are you doing now?
focusing on a goal helps you get over a break up, for me its fitness right now
Mine too. But she goes to my gym haha
@@theaveragejoe6854 damn find a new gym
Did you move on from her?
@@theaveragejoe6854 request for for
Yep!! Nothing like having a great “revenge body” lol 💯👌👏🏅👍
Damn, bittersweet. These videos bring nostalgia to me. A year ago, I was crying with a pit in my stomach from being so hurt from him ending it with me. It took me 6 months until I started feeling like me again. And now I'm here today and I feel absolutely nothing for him, while I'm with my new partner who is amazing. Wow how life changes.
Love the AB pic lol but hope your doing well
Did the ex reached out to you at so e point?
@@GRDiplomat No, because I broke no contact several times, even stalked him kinda? He eventually told me to go away and now he knows I'm in a new relationship so he never reached out.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
God will heal you sir.. put it on God's hands 🙏
@@kanereallwhat is it that you did?
Update?
I've come to accept that he doesn't want a relationship with me. Constant stonewalling. I wish him peace and light.
People we love, that we really care about deeply just don't feel as we feel...and accepting it is hard but hey life and love are just something.
Day 26 of NC. Just when I’m teetering on the edge of despair, I click on Coach Lee to bring me back to some semblance of sanity. Coach Lee you are a gift to all man and woman kind🙏❤️
Did he ever come back?
“Don’t feed their egos!!!! 💯
Facts
AfricaN FuFu facts🔥🔥
Especially a narcissist
Yes yes. I always forget that..
Amen 🙏 🙌
The best thing u can do is simple move on with your life, u can't predict If u guys will back together, Just let things go and enjoy the moment even if is bad, some days are easyer then others, eventually everything that is meant to be will be
Johnny Flow amen
C'est la vie c'est la vie. Whatever will be will be.
I feel so helpless, sad and heartbroken 💔 people can be so cruel. One minute you’re lovers, then..strangers.
cyberaga20, let me recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit for you which will help you immensely. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation including yours
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
Not just strangers, it's like they're intentionally trying to hurt you.
Everyone!!! No contact rule rly works!!!! My ex contacted me after more than two month of silence!!!! He’s just testing water now because he’s curious why I’ve been silent and not chased him!!!! I bought Coach Lee’s emergency breakup kit!!! Wish me luck!!!!
It did for me too but I was in no contact for 3 months and 22days and he reached out but it was casual he called 3 times and left a voicemail but I waited a few days and reached back out but idk I'm lost I love him and I want him back but he hasn't responded
@@jasminemiller5843 buy Coach Lee's emergency breakup kit!!! he explains steps on how to approach the situation!!!!
@@yk8301 thank you so much I really appreciate your help ❤
So happy for you Y K!!!!!
So happy for you
"You have to give another person the opportunity to learn your place in their life".. Amazing how this can be applied into any kind of relationships. During this hard time, I m listening your videos every single day, first thing in the morning, last before going to bed.
I'm not even sure "I want my ex back", however I see in this process you are pointing out an opportunity to heal. I sincerely thank you for this videos, I wish you a lot of prosperity, health and blessings for your work. Thank you 🙏🏻
Just to share, no contact period to me personally is supposed to regroup, recoup, recover and make yourself mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually stable again, so that once you know you are truly ready (you can always add an extra day to confirm) before you approach your ex. You need to ask yourself if you can stay calm, composed, unaffected and positive if your ex 1) ignores 2) rejects 3) reconcile with you. The key objective is be very sure that you're steady as a rock regardless the outcome. Hope this helps. And one more thing, you're gonna be fine.
I think that is better to not make the first step If you have tried everything before. I understand what you say, but It doesn't make much sense to reach out at the point you are describing.
@@victora.g.2708i hear ur point. Im just in 2 days.. but what if it goes like 30days or so and still i hear nothing?
@@AfaaqDarkorbitOwnedYouofcourse it takes time, others even lasted for a year
Don't look backwards unless you plan on going that way. If it wasn't good then, it wont be good now. Take time to realize you are actually lucky to get out of something that wasn't right, and move on.
Plain, simple, straight to the point. God damn all these word salads from coaches.
Hell yeah, exactly! 💪💯
If it was meant to be they couldn’t/wouldn’t have left. FATE
Words of encouragement for anyone in the comments going through a fresh break up ! Mine happened in October 2019 came across coach lee binge watched his vids they helped SUPERBLY ! I thought I’d never get over the pain and now I’m at a point where I have no feelings for that person at all ..it’s amazing ! listen to this guy ! please 🙏🏾 and whatever you do ..don’t use other people to distract you from them genuinely heal from the hurt so it doesn’t carry into your next relationship in the form of insecurities/trust issues !
It's been a year and 4 mos. I'm still not over him. We were married for 35yrs. I've tried NC but I always have something to say so I email him and he doesn't respond. I wish I could be strong.
Rocky Waters 35yrs is wayy too much attachment that is why you’re still hurting but it’s still not too late to get over it .. it’s possible
This is the best i read so far 👍. Mostly important is to not use other people to distract ur pain and sadness
Did they ever contact you back? I feel like it’s soo hard but I know I need to move on
Ericka T you know what, some people believe after treating others so bad that if they just remove a person from their life that they never have to apologize or change their behavior. They didn’t contact me but they didn’t delete me on social media either. Weird. They’re the last thing on my mind and it feels good 🙏🏾
I miss our memories, not him.
I realized how much I love him and how hard it is to lose him during no contact, but I don’t want him anymore
True, sometimes you think back on the fun times. Then you get sideswiped by the horrible memories. There were more horrible times for sure. Really horrible.
I love how you discuss every single question that occurs in the mind of the dumpee that we don't ask to our friends anymore because we feel like those are silly questions / don't want to bother them / in some kind of way know the answer but still want someone to tell us lol. And that person to tell us is you! Thankyou coach Lee ♡
First UA-camr who's able to really drill down and explain comprehensible the dynamics of silence and why it's a first aid kid which should actually comes natural but there are are specific emotional involvements in relationships which makes us overlook this simplicity. If we were to compare it with an argument between friends we would be completely okay with some silence.
3 years old this video is and it’s still helping people all over. Appreciate you.
Yes, my ex lost her attraction. A big part of it was because of long distance. I mean the long distance also applied to me. I also was somewhat losing attraction, but I kept to the relationship because I'm loyal and believe you have to work on relationships, but a lot of people don't. It's easy come, easy go.
Hey basil, are you guys together ?
If it's any comfort my ex didn't lose it with me - but I lost it with myself and so she left.
Same here..@@petecoventry6858
“You have to give people the opportunity to learn your place in their life.” 💯
It’s such a relief listening to these videos. My Ex went from wanting to keep the communication lines open day after break-up to the 3rd day where he said he doesn’t want to communicate anymore and he wishes me the best. It’s been 2 weeks and the community in the comment section is really helping. I hope I can come back and add a success story to this.
I'll just give you an update. Almost 2 years no contact and now I'm married to alcohol. Thanks for the advice
LMAO!!!
So funny, sorry to say🤭. Hang in there
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Day 2 no contract rule, it is so hard, i cried today but I am stronger again after hearing from Coach Lee. I have assignment deadlines tonight and i have a lot of work to focus on. Stay strong people!
Sweetie I feel your pain 4 days for me. We can do this
mine was 7 years, i
finally find out , he has a wife. He said he couldn’t leave his daughters, and he’d live in misery. he’s got me blocked everywhere with his wife, she found about me. it been since April, i’ll
never come back, He had left on my iphone his address. i told home to delete it, but he won’t,🤣
@@heidi1354 what happened.?
If she’s going on dates with other guys, I dont want her back ✋ 🛑
I do not want my ex--ever! I'm just watching these videos because the coach is soooo good looking!
Hehehehe 😆
Oh really 🤣😂
😂😂😂😂👌👌👠
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Hahaha he is...lets try the no contact on him🤣956-***-****
My ex is a terrible person, started talking to a married man, and a bunch of other dudes "the day we split". Dont date girls who smoked weed when they have asthma
You definitely deserve better
I’m sorry but the last sentence cracked me up 😂😂😂
Don't say dat...i hav asthma and i started smokin b cuz i am sooo stressed out wit my breakup...dat is y i felt d need 2 smoke. We get angry and frustrated and blame d opposite gender...but we r all in dis together. I am female and s'times i tink all men r d same. But who knows. Maybe God wil make my life better som day and show me dat i cud find a decent man who loves me 4me.
River Smith lmfaooooo
😂😂I feel attacked,I'm asthmatic but few puffs make me relax,I ain't like your ex though 😂😂
It's been 8 months I've walked away. No contact I'm just done. 30 yrs together 25 yrs of marriage, and unfaithful the entire time. The last injury just cut too deep. We are too far in and older now to keep going through the same thing like enough is enough. I blame myself for enabling and allowing so many things to slide. I was just in a dark place I wasn't ready. At this point idc if the lesson is learned now I'm never going back despite it's killing me because I've been with this person from the age 14. I'm just done... I have nothing left to say.
How are you dear
Yes, I'm doing great haven't backslide still no contact. I'm now a homeowner doing things all on my own and it feels good. I'm not dating i don't know how to just working on me. I discovered for the first time my favorite color is orange or in that tone. I went back to being creative drawing and painting. It's funny when I hear people say I didn't know you could do so and so...yeah I just didn't have the motivation because my light was dimmed. I went to France earlier this year, then to the alps where I tried skiing for the first time. Celebrated my bday with close friends. I planted some vegetables in my garden which I was able to cook with😂😂 now I'm planning my trip for next year to Korea, and Japan. I'm also going back to the Alps, and a few more escapes. I must say I'm blessed. Thank you for checking up on me.
Depends with the situation why would you like to wait for the person who abandoned you? when you move one, JUST MOVE On, don't do NC for you to get back together use it for your own sanity.
I would have happily moved on and was trying and then lockdown happened.. I'd made plans, going back to college and corny yes but Joining a gym with a specialist trainer.. I was getting in a good place, plus u can't date cause of the situation.. very frustrating..
@@misslanapford9169 I’m ok
I love when you tell the truth in convincing and convicting detail. Don't be scared to do that Coach Lee, this is what we need to hear. If your ex has kicked you to the curb, let them feel the feeling of missing you. Do not contact them. Not under any circumstances. Not for Christmas, not for their birthday, not for your anniversary. Not for anything. And when they respond to you in the future, do not respond to any flippant message that you received. They f***** up and they need to know it.
Once it’s ‘over’ it over. You can never go back, you have to move on. The process of letting go of the attachment you developed will be like going through drug and alcohol withdrawal for an addict.
True
This guy is such a healer🙏🏻 I’ve been struggling with this breakup for weeks, also knowing it was going to happen! Listening to this guy just makes me smile and feel that getting back to myself again isn’t too far away😁 Thankyou Lee👍
90 days no contact. My dreams and thoughts are still haunted by her. My house is full of her abscense. I want to forget her but my future was planned out with her being with me. So there isn't a tomorrow. Today is pain and I live in yesterday.
John McCarty ... It is very very hard but try stay busy and try not overthink! You are stronger than you think!
Feel the same,, seeing future with him and now seems like no tomorrow 😭
I feel you.
@@merceditatorreon9020 I think all of us who had a long steady relationship, go through this when we end it
I feel like they is no tomorrow again 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🔪
He broke up with me, I let him go. Not beginning anyone. I did my BEST to work things out, and wasn’t good enough. He’s too proud to admit all his wrongs so be it. There’s someone better for me out there who would truly appreciate me the way I deserve.
Im 2 weeks in and it's hard abit especially with this lock down here in new Zealand. I'm stuck with my thoughts all day everyday for another 2 weeks🤦♂️
Bud Bub think tho so are they more than likely
here also don't overthink too much that would make you feel better
1week🤦♂️
April 21st it was supposed to be our 4 years Annivesary but he broke up with me. It all came in so sudden, totally devastated and shattered. He has blocked my no, blocked me in WhatsApp but he accepted my request my on fb. I don't understand what to think of it?.
same here 😕its been 12 days we are not talking...and not even declared as brkup...i am applying no contact and he is silent...and soon in 8 days will b compling 1 year.shld i send him a gift??
You've hit the nail on the head coach if they found happiness somewhere else you should let them go and be happy for them
Silence means , she’s moved on , she’s dating , she’s working , she’s getting on with her life .
You need to do the same , stop obsessing, stop contacting her , stop putting her on a pedestal,
And how in the world do u know that?
That's not exactly true
I would like to say that NC rule it's working as well for short time relationship. Few years ago I had boyfriend who loved me so much, I felt that I just liked him and I didn't feel anything special. I broke up with him and he was so sad. We have been together just 5 months. In general he stayed no contact. I remember that after 2 months of NC he sent me message but I didn't reply because I though he should be with somebody who will truly love him. But after this he stayed NC all time for few months. In this time I understood how much I miss him and want him back. After next 7 months he sent message again and then I replied and we started to date again :)
Same situation for me, I loved her so much, but she got scared, didn’t feel as much as me....
@@vksander1412 give her time and try to keep no contact rule and try to learn life without her this time :)
Already since 10 December no contact man!
Since 7 November she broke it off, 2/3 month relationship.
Thank you for this story, it gives me hope
LRD... Been 1 week today since I started NC. I'm going crazy, I'm not okay with these weird emotions. I wake up with gut wrenching pain and walk with it all day. It only goes away when I sleep. This cycle of being okay and not okay is killing me 😭
I just listen to you Coach Lee all day or whenever i think of him. I dont want to break no contact this time... this was his second chance and he messed up!!
Best line I’ve heard so far “don’t accept the bread crumbs , you deserve the whole ‘loaf’ and the damn table! 🙌🏻
It’s funny when I was in a relationship there were a lot of things about her I didn’t like. I wanted to end things myself a few times. But I didn’t. When she broke up with me I was shocked. I couldn’t believe it. All of the sudden I felt like I loved her and lost something amazing. When really I didn’t have those feelings during the relationship. She said slot of mean things when we broke up that hurt my feelings and made me feel self conscious. And the fact she hasn’t spoken to me or even made any effort makes me feel worse. I think I just want to know they miss me and are thinking about me. That I’m not all those things they said I was but all the things I was in the beginning of the relationship. I don’t think I want her back, just want myself back if that makes sense,
@@tedkartoffel it’s funny now that I remember I wrote this I’m almost embarrassed because I don’t care at all 🤷🏻♂️ 😂 plenary of fish in the sea 🌊
I can totally relate with this.
@@robertbeckham3091 amazing update bro. glad you're better. however i'm in the same space you were in 2 years ago.
Robert, almost the same thing happened to me with the ex girlfriend… I just got out of a divorce in 2018 had to sell the house 50/50 split walk away with a good chunk of money… bought another house...I knew my ex gf years ago finallyhooked up with her we hit it off really good exercise together and a great dancer … I told her am not ready to get married again maybe in the future after awhile she was looking for excuse to dump me … she found iI know she has another boyfriend I told her am happy for her, but I am not, but no contact is what I am doing now… when one door closes, many will open up her loss… The last thing I told her I love you, set her free 😃.
I'm there with you bro
The NC worked. After 90 days she reached out, although I thought she never will. We didn't get back together, she just wanted her things back. It's now around 9 months since the break up, didn't hear from her again. Stay strong, you'll be alright.
Trtt Fhreg
Great Job fam! Keep up the great work. 👍
Ricardo Martins
Who are you to judge? It doesn’t matter if he took six months or longer, he didn’t wimp out, or go crawling back on his knees to her, so that’s all that matter.
I’ll say it again, GREAT JOB FAM!
@@ricgmar No, you just cannot read. I went to NC after the breakup, then 90 days later she reached out.
@@renep7008 Thank you, I'm trying my best
Coach Lee ,you are amazing .I am in no contact for almost one month.And everyday is a struggle but when I listen to you it relaxes me .Your emergency break up kit is amazing .Thank you for all your help .
Thank you coach Lee .You are the one I go to all day everyday .I am not giving up hope .You give me hope everyday ❤️
I have reached a state of depression and acceptance, my chest hurt and still hurts, our relationship lasted 6 months, I fell in love, I gave everything, at first it was the honeymoon, but then I felt that he had grown cold and that he was using me.
I feel a little liberated with the acceptance, but I still think about him. It hurts to the core.
6 months was the length of my relationship too. He had “chased” me for years and I never took him seriously until I did and realized why I didn’t. He wasn’t on my level emotionally & maturity. Once the honeymoon stage was over about month #2 I started trying to get him to “grow up” in several areas of his life and while he and everyone else in our circle that had been telling him the same thing understood me, he just rebelled and eventually broke it off. Ok🤷♀️
As the dumper, there was no ego boost at all. Felt so awful. It actually feels like a surgery without anaesthetic to remove him from my heart.
We have the feeling that the dumper doesn't even care about the dumped
I have been in no contact for two months one week. He blocked me but messaged me because he saw me post a message of my ante who is dead. He even called a friend to confirm when I wasn't answering him. Silence is golden. They will monitor you but in the end,you will know your life is better without them.
I would still be stuck handing my break up the wrong way. Your advice is a breath of fresh air when I was gasping to breathe and had no idea what to do next. Dude your helping so many people no matter what dynamic Ex or no ex you help all of us get through the toughest times of our lives. If it was easy we wouldn’t be watching or listening, just want to say thank you So much for keeping me focused. Still no ex but there is always hope for ourselves to be better with the right steps. Thank you!
Keep going Im in a breakup since Thursday,shitty time of year for it to happen
Coach Lee you are on point and another great video that you've made. I've gone 80 days of no contact so far, it's the longest I've gone considering on previous occasions I was the one to break the no contact rule usually within 2 - 3 weeks. It's been a tough 80 days, some days are easier than others but you do get through it. My ex will not reach out more than likely as she has the narcissistic traits. She thinks she is better than everyone else. If they don't value your absence they will not appreciate your presence. I get lonely at times, I miss that connection, to wake up in the morning with not having a text message and knowing someone cares about you is hard. Stay strong my friends, I too thought that I'd never stick to the no contact rule but this time it has worked for me even though in the past I broke it and regretted it afterwards. Love and hugs to you all out there and stay true to yourself. 🙏
@@sophierobert7941 ... Still in no contact. Nothing has changed. It's been 150 days since my last contact and I feel alot better for it.
I remember my ex told me when we were still together that ALL of his ex comes back begging for him to take them back. So no wonder if he'll expect me to beg for him which I won't. That's a red flag! I'm glad he said that earlier. I know now what's best for me. 😂
Mine said that too, i looked at him smiled and said oh well I'm glad you will be the one who will come and beg sweetheart.
Mine said that too and she’s following me and my girlfriend of 6 years from a fake page. 😂
Patricia Ann Batis girl my ex was like that LMFAOO I was the exception I didn’t beg for him nor looked for him I’m still hurting but it’s okay
Yes my ex said the same. Exes chase him. Me never so he chased me instead. But haven't heard from him for one month now . Let's see who will be crying again
Narcissist !!!
I also dated a bloody bastard narcissist
He used to cachinate when I sobbed !!! 😠😡😤🤬🤬🤬
Day 3 of no contact. First two days was brutal. Can’t sleep can’t eat. Drowning the misery with weed.
I once used your videos to actually get my ex back, and it succeeded. Unfortunately it still ended the same way as before. It goes to show that not everyone is capable of change. Now I’m just using these videos to comfort me. I’m going to move forward. There’s so many people out there that I don’t see why I should try to make a relationship work with someone from the past that has failed multiple times.
markpim8722. You are 100% correct. No Contact does work if at least one of you changes for the better.
Why don't you get Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit. It's awesome and it has strategies for every situation including yours.
myexbackcoach.com/ebk
I got to say this is a terrific message. And I know from experience. This is spot on, and anybody who's dealt with a stuck-up ex who thinks she is suddenly better than you needs to hear this man's advice.
My ex texted me while I was in the middle of watching this. I thought I was seeing things lol
Wow great
Back together?
I wish I could bring that karma to me! Pray for me
This made me laugh. I hope we back back together :)
whether we come back together or not, I have to say you bro is a rock (now do not feel ego in that LOL). I mean it, these lessons are not only for a comeback situation, but It is also for life! I have read so many articles and watched so many videos, honestly keep it up bro! your videos are authentic, masculinity-free ( not like others where it is all about ego ...etc), and balanced opinion. High Five, keep it up!
I’m having a hard time to get over it ,, it sucks ,,, pray for me guys.... I have been bleeding for months.. I dont know when it will end.. this pain is strong...
Hope you are doing better now !
He broke up with me 3 months ago. I haven't heard anything from him in over a month. I have been working on myself a lot. I have a job interview n ext week. I was feeling strong all day then the night came on and at first I wanted badly to reach out. I opened my messages and started to text. I deleted what I said. I never pushed send. Then, more tears were shed before I came to bed. Now, I'm watching Coach Lee videos. I could really use some advice right now. I do love my ex and miss him.
Find something funny to focus on, singing will also help you feel better. Try to remain positive.
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@@nexttytreporter2598 I d/l'd an app for singing. I love to sing. We are back together now without the label, taking things skowly. Thank you so much for your comment. I hope things work out well for you, too. Oh, and I'm pregnant with his baby. I am so thankful for where my life is at and exculited for our future together!
@@barbiearnett136 congratulations for u :’)
this video is so good, its exactly explained what my ex BF was trying to do while breaking up with me. It was a ego boost and he still want me to satisfy it somehow.
@@marshmellow4855 Not for long. Trust me 🤦
My ex reached out to me a few times during no contact, hot and cold, i dont get it, i waited a day to respond to his text. Nothing on Valentines day, I decided to take good care of myself and move on, what ever happens happens, who cares. Enjoy my life first.
linda l do u boo, waiting on him to step up isn’t worth it. Real love doesn’t hurt you!
Maybe he just want to make sure you are still there loving him but he was not serious.
T W1978 ever heard the saying true love hurts. It does. Would you want to be with someone who gives up on you when problems arise. Love is more complex than attraction, intimacy, and passion. All love hurts. It’s about finding someone who you believe is worth hurting for and both having respect and love for each other you’ll do anything for that person.
He break up me by a text said better us to stop chatting should i reply him i keep silent and i didn't teven reply is it right ?
Mine was hot and cold.. wanting one minute not INTERESTED the other.. then texted he thought I should DELETE his number, so I went in to no contact and 4 weeks later, I actually did.. I thought it would look odd doing it straight away. But I feel like I want it to stay that way. I know him well enough to know they're is someone else hence the cold and that at some point it will not be working and they'll be fall out or with will lose interest..
Am tried seriously it's been a month now no contact. One minute am fine the other minute am down to hell
How it's going now?
Sometimes when i deeply think about my ex, looking constantly at her Messenger profile with the question "Does she unblocked me yet?" i watch one of your videos and it helps me to move forward in my day and not being an emotional wreck. I'm on day 45 today and i bet on my worth, so i will not reach out ❤
COACH LEE IS THE ONLY MAN TO LISTEN TO ON UA-cam IF YOU WANT YOUR EX BACK!! Good afternoon Coach Lee, your emergency breakout kit do work. I Used it and I got my ex back in 2 weeks. No Contact is the Power, thanks Coach Lee.
Darius, you are the man!
yeah same here this guy is legendary i'm still on day 5 with the no contact but i can tell that he knows what he's talking about i can't afford the breakup kit so i'll just listen to his videos instead i'll text my ex after a month and a half but for now staying away as coach lee says is the best
The whole reason I'm going no contact is because I know that I can't go through another fight like this in the future. I know if I'm the one to smooth this over he will just keep taking advantage of me. If NC doesn't work, reconciling wouldn't have worked either. It would be two dead ends. I'm just hoping no contact works.
It’s day 2 and I had a breakdown and almost broke NC. Thanks to these videos it helped me calm down.
I keep breaking no contact. 😩😩
If she's the one that ended it, she's probably silent because she's not into you anymore and possibly with someone else. Lick your wounds, grow from the experience and move on! She's not worth it...
It doesnt necessarily mean that dude
@@dnap2526 You're right, but I'd say most of the time she's moved on. I feel so bad for theses (Mostly) good guys that had there hearts broken.
I've been there myself and binge watched this channel and many like it looking for some thread of hope that i'd get her back. I never did hear from her again.
God bless and lets all learn be better men form our experiences!
@@SteveKiziak I’ve broke up with my ex and i haven’t moved on, just knew i had to do it even though I really didn’t want too
i feel comfortable enough to share my current experience. I dated this girl for 7 months and during this virus, she had time away from school and back home to think about herself. She got advice from friends and family and concluded that she was not happy with herself, that she struggled loving herself. She broke the news to me that being in a relationship wasn't for the best for her and she ended it 3 days ago. The pain is real because we had something great and she described it the same way and also mentioned that ill always have a place in her heart. the day after the break up was the worst. I ended up chatting with her and after telling that I would love to be that guy for her, she mentioned me having a place in her heart like I mentioned and after I asked if she would think about us again when the time is right, she said she would but for now needs time and space for herself.
I haven't said anything to her all day and yesterday in respect to her wishes and pray that this will get better in the future.
update?
@@canyoudothis556 I am approaching 4 months of NC.
I haven't heard anything from her but i have turned the attention to myself. I can say that I'm getting better. I see my own value and worth. If she can't see that or can't get back to place where she can appreciate it then that is her loss.
I'm about to start a new full time job that pays good, I've been watching my diet and working out some and have been hanging with close friends.
Its all on her at this point. She gives the bare minimum and then we'll see what happens.
@@Coleslaw97 this is sad...my ex left 3 mos ago. Lied TO ME and ABOUT ME to all our friends while he was pretending to have a mental breakfown to my face, fishing for my sympathy and then sneaking behind my back to go be with this 17yr old pot smoking, alcohol drinking girl with no job and an ex drug addict/recovering alcoholic mother who lost those very kids to the foster care system, only got them back 3yrs ago and sees nothing wrong with a 37yr old man coming onto her daughter.....needless to say, upon learning this, I had him remove all his things from my house and promptly threw him out of my life.
Man on a mission, we dont need a crystal ball for this one🙄
After 7yrs together through some extremely difficult challenges I thought we tackled as a team, and his promises to always work things out, he blamed me for his unhappiness after an unplanned pregnancy that left me with crippling pain during sex.
He didnt help support me to recovery, i had to go ALONE to several doctors appointments to hear the same answers: We can't do anything. I had to sit with the SAME frustrations of no intimacy when all he could think of was what HE wasnt getting and coming at me with his hand out and threatening expectations, saying that 'one day I just won't ask anymore' as if he was doing me a favor with those very demands, never realizing that if he had remembered to hear and see me and help clean up a mess HE jointly created, before coming at me with his own selfish desires, what WOULDNT I have given or done for a man such as that?
He asked SO much of me with almost no commitment in return. Talking about how he wanted children but never wanted to marry.....I gave enough of myself and probably too much because of the entitlement rather than gratitude we should have shared.
This hurts to see but the brass tacks are this: If he wasnt happy or grateful and had no plans of putting in emotional effort, then I would NEVER be good enough no matter how much I gave and its not my job to fill a hole in anyone's soul.
I forfeited a very important and vulnerable part of myself in trusting the wrong man, I paid the price, took the fall and am left holding that bag.
I hope you can see the same for yourself and don't waste 7yrs like I did on someone who won't value me and trying to see what was already staring me in the face🤦♀️
LESSON: TRANSACTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE TRASH, SO RESPECT YOURSELF BECAUSE NO ONE ELSE WILL DO IT FOR YOU!
@@ajl577 I'm sorry to hear this all. 7 years is a long time and honestly, idk what id do if i found out that there was someone else. I have this friend who has a child and the father just doesn't care at all. Left her and has denied that the child is his. Pretty spineless if you ask me. She has met a great guy who is there for her and her son so I'm hoping the same can happen to you.
I'm hoping that the future is bright for you. No-one deserves to be hurt that way and guys that do that crap need to be held accountable.
@@Coleslaw97 Thank you for your kind words. I was and still am devastated. I NEVER thought he would do ANY of this before I got a live show in front of me but all his 'minor' selfish behavior suddenly made sense. The thing that hurts the worst about this all is that I was REALLY happy and I never took him for granted 😭😭😭
I feel foolish for ever trusting him but I made that choice and no one else is sitting in the middle of this wreckage.
He tried to force me to be friends with him and threw in my face all the things he prided himself on doing for me as entitlement to why I should continue to speak to or support him.
He even tried to take back jewelry he gave me as gifts and threatened to contact law enforcement over it....which is not even legally enforceable but just the fact that he had the audacity to cheat and then pull that selfish act on me taught me to wise up FAST.
All these nights crying alone in my bed while he's out pleasing himself reminds me never to be so foolish again.
I learned Im not the first woman he did this to and I probably won't be the last. But this WILL be the last time I'm EVER used by that man ever again.
Even though I may be the one crying now I know I wasnt the one who failed this relationship and all that's left to me is the time I have now. I'm trying to use it wisely and be smarter. Thank you for wishing me that healing because I need it.🥺
I had an epiphany. If ignoring someone is an effective way to make them give up, then when an ex ignores you, it's likely their strategy to enforce a no-contact rule - inadvertently or intentionally. This realization can be empowering, as it allows you to recognize their behavior for what it is and make conscious choices about how to move forward.
The worst is trying to heal from an intense trauma-bond, not only are having to process the pain from the break up but you're having to feel their emotions and pain simultaneously, it's just horrific. 😐💔
It's an addiction. Break the Trauma Bonding AND soul ties...
To everyone, we all deserve true love, sometimes it cannot be found on someone that we used to know or we used to loved.
I just had my break up 3months ago,NC yeah, thanI decided to let go, I reach out on him for a final bye and thanks, but what I did get is not a nice response. Pretty bad, but anyways humility and kindness makes us beautiful.
For all heartbroken pips!
cheer up, pray and trust your own journey!
We've known each other for 35 years. Since we were in the 6th grade. We were best of friends as kids. I literally rode her home from school.on my handlebars of my bike so she wouldn't have to walk and carry her books. We reconnected, everything was wonderful. The issue was her holding me to standards she wouldn't hold herself to. It was the same argument over and over. Not respecting my feelings. So she broke it off because I expected her to be accountable for her actions and words. It has broken my heart. I fell in love with her the first day of 6th grade. Never fell out of love with her. I literally described what she was wearing that day, her mom pulled out the photo album, bam! I was exactly right. Tortured right now, but haven't had contact in three weeks
@@_missashleybanks_ Haven't spoken or had contact with her in 43 days. While I love her with every ounce of my being, I deserve to be treated with respect as well.
@@marinemike1559 You seem to be a good person, Mike. If you are okey with all you did, If you feel that you have tried everything to be with her, be calm. You have to respect and focus on yourself. I believe that, If she made the decision, you should't reach out first to her. That's my view of the things.
You can't think that is all up to you to be with her. That If you don't talk with her, she would not be with you never. Things doesn't work like that.
@@Fmasx3TV today is day 84 of no contact. I think of her everyday, but I refuse to crawl back. She has to be the one that realizes that she was wrong, and then contact me.
@@Fmasx3TV I understand how you're feeling. When I'm working all day, I'm preoccupied, so it's fairly easy. It's being home after work that is difficult. I absolutely love and adore her, and have for 35 years. I fight the urge nightly to text or email her. She's also 1000 miles away. Just stay strong my friend. God knows it's not easy to do.
@@Fmasx3TV I understand. We were best of friends growing up. She was the drummer in the band that I was the bass guitarist in. She didn't like me being friends with an ex that we grew up with, so of course, I respected it. She lives 1000 miles away, and was going to dinners with her ex husband. I simply stated I thought it was wrong of her to do that after expressing her discomfort with me being friends with my ex. She actually agreed that she was wrong, but continued to do it. Was the same argument over and over again. I just expected her to hold herself to the very same standards she held me to.
All I can say is that I would be absolutely stuffed and more broken than if I haven't had these amazingly powerful videos to watch. I put them on when I weaken and feel like contacting, Love ya work Coach Lee. Deb King Australia
Day 53 of the breakup. Day 8 of NC. Feeling strong and pretty laid back.
Update? :)
53 day of breakup and day 8 of NC WTH lol
Literally answered all my questions . He liked my Instagram story thinking I would do something. Weeks later he removed me from Instagram. I did NC the day we Broke up before even watching your videos. Heartbroken but proud of myself
Sarah, you will be fine. Give it some TIME, and get out of the house with your friends and have fun. Take care of YOU!!
Coach Lee, I want to share something with you and the posters who are feeling sadness. My girlfriend called me and we chatted and told me her boyfriend from 30 years ago texted her out of the blue and asked her to go out with him for a coffee they met and talked and decided they were going to try to patch up the relationship . From that day on they are working on getting back together . He told her that he has been thinking and wondering about her. They have been in no contact for longer then the 30 years. he was a little afraid to contact her. They are both taking it slow and enjoying the time they are spending together. So hang in there guys.
That guy waited 30 years.....
What are the updates
Got back with my ex a few days ago... She had her new bf call me and cuss me out.. kind of not surprised.. clearly.i cared more for her then she did for me.. she thinks playing with people feelings is a game.. one day she'll learn the pain I'm feeling now... I will never trust an ex again
Hi coach lee..my ex girlfriend has not returned..tried no contact for several months..but wanted to thank you..I owe you for me being here today if not for you..I would not be here right now writing to you..thank you❤️
Coach Lee I was so tempted to contact my ex today for Valentine’s Day but I’m glad I didn’t, they didn’t contact me either. I went into no contact for over a month now and I wanted to end no contact by saying happy Valentine’s Day but I will wait. I’m not sure if I want to even contact them after not hearing from them. It makes me feel like they don’t care.
exactly the same situation 😓
Same here
DONT DO IT!!especially on vday ...vday is for people in active relationships... wait it out ..he’s probably expecting it
Shawna T ur right thank u for the support
I do the same. Stay no contact.
My silence means, " you will never be able to hurt me again you dirt bag ".
Don't go where you are tolerated. Go where you are celebrated.
There are other good Love Advice coaches giving similar advice to Coach Lee, but how he says these things is some how more effective on me. It resonates. Thank you. These videos about no contact are my backbone sometimes.
He said we were too different, basically he was perfect and I was the opposite so he left. I felt sad but accepted without even think a second. Not a single word more and guess? He's seeking on me and I'm fine, I know what is hurt and I went through all the things he will learn to feel about being rejected from someone who gave him love, support and values.
Hey Miss, are you guys together ?
@@nikhilgarg1326 hey girl, yes we are back together and now I'm the one who care less about the relationship. Of. He asked for it for so many times until he felt he was wrong and decided to work on his narcissistic issues. Not sure if he became a better person or I just don't pay attention on him anymore. We're about to complete 6 years of our history and this month I'm organizing his 40yo b-day party. Maybe some maturity has helped, all I know is that now he wants everything I wanted in the past but I'm enjoying my freedom of living alone in the beach, more than thousand miles away from him. Lol. Resilience is the key, you'll get everything you want if you stop asking for it, but instead just moving silently towards your goals and accept you can live with or without him. Good luck!
@@solanjedere sounds good that you guys are together. Mine is long distance relationship and she brokeup saying compatibility issues. Not sure if no contact helps getting her back as i am too late to inplement no contact!!