In cognitive behavioural therapy there is an interesting model where you learn that the only way to control your emotions (and the resulting behaviour) is by being mindful of your thoughts. A lot of the internal chatter that goes on all day is bullshit if you really pay attention. A lot of it is internalized voices of other people, fears, doubts, ideology or things you've come to believe that don't withstand critical analysis. But if you aren't mindful, you just go with it and that stream of bullshit carries you through life, decides how you feel and how you behave. I'd argue that one of the most direct ways to control your emotions is a daily practice of meditation (or some other form of mindfulnes).
Excellent points here; I started to meditate every morning a couple years back and the difference it makes in what kind of day you have and how you react to things, especially stressors, is massive.
It’s so sad. Nearly everything Jocko talks about is considered by the APA as “toxic masculinity”. I hope the next generation does a sharp course correction.
I agree. We need strong male role models right now. The tide is turning slowly but it depends on the maturity of both men and women. There seem to be more and more younger women coming out that are over this 4th wave fem b.s and hopefully the men that have allowed themselves to become vegetable lasagna's will get their stagnant energy moving and stick up for themselves! Strong masculine energy is not toxic - it has the power to destroy what is toxic!
@@2DGorillaz192000 and you think Jocko is toxic? He is a perfect example of what it is to be a real man. We need real masculine roles not toxic masculinity
supersongi and you sound like whiny little fruit cake. I said it’s “SAD” that what he talks about is considered “toxic masculinity”. That’s not my opinion. That is according to the APA. I strongly disagree with the APA & am saying that I hope the “next generation makes a sharp course correction”. 😎👍🏼 thanks for playing.
Ghengis khan was taught to keep a blank expression by submerging himself upto his neck in a glacial stream. His was defined as cold face. It is essential to thriving in today's world.
@@TheCoffeeNut711 it's not about slaughtering people. It's about the prosperity his empire brought millions of others. It's about how he was willing to risk death and risk killing for his people. That's why we venerate warriors. like Genghis khan, Alexander, S.C Bose,. JOCKO.
I was in the Young Marines program when I was 13-17, and I remember something called "The Attention Game". We would stand in formation, at attention, while our DI's would attempt to make us break. If you broke, you PT'd until the last guy lost. I was always in the last third who did, but there was one guy who was a total statue that would have us pushing until we almost DIED.
Judicious use of your anger is spot on. If you pull it out when you really mean it, it is FAR more effective. This, I find, is also true of the use of the "F-Bomb".....Somehow, it has become the universal adjective. In today's society, it has become akin to saying "like" or "ya know".... If it is saved for when you really need to make a point.....it then carries more power. IMHO
I watch you while I do my workouts and after I appreciate all the advice I hope one day to meet you and express how much of your advice got me through my life and tight times specially not having a mother and a father. Keep it going 🏋🏽
Jocko willink what a beautiful personality I'm glad that ur military have such a classy people in their ranks thumbs up all day long to echoJ@(KO$$$$$100% ENCOURAGE
Thank you for your service and your sacrifice, brother. I know you can swim with the best of them. That's the last man in the room. I would piss off. And I think I'm a tough guy. Hahaha
I have trouble showing emotions or having any positive ones.. through hardships, I conditioned myself to place them second; but i'm not surviving anymore. I've been told I can be either a positive or negative leader from a very young age, and my purpose is to be exemplary, an immovable pillar for my brothers to rely on. All of my relationships are founded on my efficiency, and I am happy to make myself appreciated through my actions more than my personality, but would there be a way for me to recover from a past that I built myself from? Something that I can do alone.. trustworthy people to hang with is fine and all, but they're just not around yet
I really had serious difficulty controlling my emotions earlier today. I felt victimized, hurt, betrayed. Pain. Anger. That said, things went well. No I did not turn physically violent, I mean I am 40 years old. But at the same time feeling victimized is no joke. Tired of this western world man shaming.
Interesting. This idea of normal face is very similar to how you deal with most people with personality disorder traits. It's called the gray rock method: You appear as uninteresting as a gray rock so then they go away and feel like messing with someone else instead.
My emotions are too strong. I tried to control it even in the military. Although I made some progress I still find myself saying weird shit and I prefer to be silent, but when I start to speak its faster and faster. It's weird.
What age should I expect my son to be able to control his emotions? He's 5. I work in it with him but I never had a game like that to practice. So thank you! Ive only been reminding him in the moment but it's not that practical in the moment.
Christ is the greatest example of Extreme ownership. Proverbs 25.28 A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls. 2 Timothy 1.7 For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.
I lose control with my brother and I have a hole in the wall. This is the first time but It’s it the first time I lose control. I really hate that I was not myself for a few seconds. I want to change that.
Yeah, he got them not too long ago, he did one arm first then started the other arm. Some of the older videos you could see one arm and the other nothing.
Hello Mr. Jocko, do you mind putting English subtitles on your videos? I can explain, here in Brazil few people speak English and there are still less fluent people to watch their excellent videos. If you agree, I can put subtitles on your videos, but I really don't know how to edit your videos to accomplish this task. If you put at least English subtitles, you could get a large following. graciously Cesar Mello
ha I loved beating my kids up this way Jocko ;) Don't worry peeps, they all used to beat the shit outta me! Loads of fun, fits and giggles. Thanks JW and EC xx
Jocko has a way of acting like he's interested in Echo's thoughts but you can tell by his body language (ringing of the hands)- deep, yet "humble" JOCKO breaths as he's moving back and forth in his chair just waiting for Echo to shut up and move on. Dichotomy..
You're flirting with a girl at the club and AMOG starts to talk to her, picks her up and starts carrying her away. Keep it under control, normal face, don't show emotion.
This dude is clueless. You’re actually teaching your kids to be self-conscious and overly aware of every tiny thing they do. They will try to self-correct more which just leads to anxiety and frustration. You don’t teach your kids by correcting, you teach them by being a shining fucking example and getting the fuck out of their way. Clueless, overeager parenting is fucking everywhere. These people think they are so clever too. They can’t bear the idea that the best parent isn’t the one that tries to assimilate them.
Yeah, don't teach your kids self control and self awareness. It's not like they will ever need those things. Oh wait. Those are two extremely important life skills.
@@kaylag5043 You don’t need to teach what you’re already born with. Too many clueless people out there that pretend we are like computers that must be programmed.
@@MrSilus2000 You aren't born with every skill, you have to learn it. What's wrong with learning from another person? Kids are very impressionable, so teaching them good habits and skills at an early age will set them up for success.
@@kaylag5043 You are born with the foundation necessary to learn at an exponential rate. It’s not about having every skill, it’s about being adaptable. Kids have this, adults do not.
I practice this each day. Trying not to let things that ultimately don't matter get the better of me. Anything from work to games.
In cognitive behavioural therapy there is an interesting model where you learn that the only way to control your emotions (and the resulting behaviour) is by being mindful of your thoughts. A lot of the internal chatter that goes on all day is bullshit if you really pay attention. A lot of it is internalized voices of other people, fears, doubts, ideology or things you've come to believe that don't withstand critical analysis. But if you aren't mindful, you just go with it and that stream of bullshit carries you through life, decides how you feel and how you behave.
I'd argue that one of the most direct ways to control your emotions is a daily practice of meditation (or some other form of mindfulnes).
Excellent
Awesome, needed this. Thank you
The privilege in saying that is real
Excellent points here; I started to meditate every morning a couple years back and the difference it makes in what kind of day you have and how you react to things, especially stressors, is massive.
Bravo ,I didn’t even watch the video because your comment explained everything so well I feel like I have information I need
Sigh, there was no male figure like this in my life.
The Coffee Nut then go find some.
Same, I wish I had a mentor like Jocko growing up. Would be a better man today.
most men now have no role models in real life. we just have to stumble through and hope for the best.
I didn't know men like this existed. Now trying to model myself after him and a couple others so my son doesn't have to say the same thing.
Varun It’s never too late to be a better man.
It’s so sad. Nearly everything Jocko talks about is considered by the APA as “toxic masculinity”. I hope the next generation does a sharp course correction.
I agree. We need strong male role models right now. The tide is turning slowly but it depends on the maturity of both men and women. There seem to be more and more younger women coming out that are over this 4th wave fem b.s and hopefully the men that have allowed themselves to become vegetable lasagna's will get their stagnant energy moving and stick up for themselves!
Strong masculine energy is not toxic - it has the power to destroy what is toxic!
@@2DGorillaz192000 and you think Jocko is toxic? He is a perfect example of what it is to be a real man. We need real masculine roles not toxic masculinity
It will... to the other extreme... back & forth
What..? Are you agreeing with him or disagreeing? You sound like a hater tho.. and I will just consider you invalid.
supersongi and you sound like whiny little fruit cake. I said it’s “SAD” that what he talks about is considered “toxic masculinity”. That’s not my opinion. That is according to the APA. I strongly disagree with the APA & am saying that I hope the “next generation makes a sharp course correction”. 😎👍🏼 thanks for playing.
You are are a life saver jocko, Joe rogan brought you up again tonight. You are such a inspiration. Thank you ! Thank you
Ghengis khan was taught to keep a blank expression by submerging himself upto his neck in a glacial stream. His was defined as cold face. It is essential to thriving in today's world.
You couldn't have used someone who didn't slaughter so many people?
Where is your evidence for this?
@@TheCoffeeNut711 drugs
@@TheCoffeeNut711 it's not about slaughtering people. It's about the prosperity his empire brought millions of others. It's about how he was willing to risk death and risk killing for his people. That's why we venerate warriors. like Genghis khan, Alexander, S.C Bose,. JOCKO.
@@mortisdolus3356 I mean Genghis was a pyshotic nut case tho so maybe not the best example
Stoicism at its finest.
Now I'm craving prime rib.
lol
I was in the Young Marines program when I was 13-17, and I remember something called "The Attention Game". We would stand in formation, at attention, while our DI's would attempt to make us break. If you broke, you PT'd until the last guy lost. I was always in the last third who did, but there was one guy who was a total statue that would have us pushing until we almost DIED.
Jocko playing the game of faces!
A man knows
Judicious use of your anger is spot on. If you pull it out when you really mean it, it is FAR more effective. This, I find, is also true of the use of the "F-Bomb".....Somehow, it has become the universal adjective. In today's society, it has become akin to saying "like" or "ya know".... If it is saved for when you really need to make a point.....it then carries more power. IMHO
That reminds me of currency bacause the more exists of it the less it's worth. As you said, same for F-Bombs.
I watch you while I do my workouts and after I appreciate all the advice I hope one day to meet you and express how much of your advice got me through my life and tight times specially not having a mother and a father. Keep it going 🏋🏽
Does Echo have tattoos of muscle fibers?
Nishe Siel yep! Check his insta
He's a titan
Nope that's just how muscular he is
No, it's a tattoo he has on his arms. I bet he gets a kick out of this when people comment.
Nope the markings just appear when you get to a certain level of swole
Jocko willink what a beautiful personality I'm glad that ur military have such a classy people in their ranks thumbs up all day long to echoJ@(KO$$$$$100% ENCOURAGE
Had to watch this again as I lost my shit today. Temper = regret . Got to hit the pause button and detach.
Excellent explanation of real world psychological scenarios that encourage strength in the face of adversity.
You have changed my life in soany ways for the better. Thank you
Couldnt have been more perfectly timed
Laugh and smiles helps alot subconsciously and with social situations
I'm watching this, my wife just walked in, saw Jocko and she asked: "Matt Damon?".
Hope you corrected her with the sharpest of knife hands
@@murdered350 or the inside roll of paper towells
Maaaaat Daaaaaamon
Divorce her
@@sni1144 lool
Thank you for your service and your sacrifice, brother. I know you can swim with the best of them. That's the last man in the room. I would piss off. And I think I'm a tough guy. Hahaha
Thank you for this.
Echo Charles the game where you blow everyone up was lemmings. Good game
Thanks for the video. Now I know how to better control my emotions.
Good stuff! 🤘🇺🇸🤘
This is an area I need to work on in my life.
I think we all can use a lil of this advice!
“I know it sounds like you should call CPS on me......but I bet you won’t”
Echo looking JAAAAACKED!!!!
I have trouble showing emotions or having any positive ones.. through hardships, I conditioned myself to place them second; but i'm not surviving anymore. I've been told I can be either a positive or negative leader from a very young age, and my purpose is to be exemplary, an immovable pillar for my brothers to rely on.
All of my relationships are founded on my efficiency, and I am happy to make myself appreciated through my actions more than my personality, but would there be a way for me to recover from a past that I built myself from?
Something that I can do alone.. trustworthy people to hang with is fine and all, but they're just not around yet
I just listened to podcast 71 again
I'm HANGRY NOW, BECAUSE OF THIS DIALOGUE ON Prime Rib, damnit man!
Emotional ppl are generally weak.
" I just broke you!" laughed so hard
thanks for this!
I really had serious difficulty controlling my emotions earlier today. I felt victimized, hurt, betrayed. Pain. Anger. That said, things went well. No I did not turn physically violent, I mean I am 40 years old. But at the same time feeling victimized is no joke. Tired of this western world man shaming.
Thanks, guys!
Its hard to show emotion sometimes after to many deployments and getting de sensitized to everything , it can make life more difficult
Endurance is not just the ability to bear a hard thing, but to turn it into glory--William Barclay
Good reminder for me. I'm always pissed off. I need to practice normal voice with increased vocabulary and less cussing. Great advice thx.
I'm calling DFS and we are ll coming over to play that awesome game. lol. good fun I understand.
I'm going to use this on the kids in my life
HONESTLY....
I CAN'T CONTROL MY EMOTIONS WHEN PEOPLE TALK ABOUT MY...
SKINNY KNEES!!!!
Don Alejo
Perhaps you should feed your knees more carbs.
But the real question is do you keep your ego in check when they say you’re jacked
Aren't you the one who commented on the 18 months to live video that you would cancel your skinny knee surgery if you had only 18 months to live?
damn this is cool
Build trust - team work.
If only Anakin could have heard this lol
Interesting. This idea of normal face is very similar to how you deal with most people with personality disorder traits. It's called the gray rock method: You appear as uninteresting as a gray rock so then they go away and feel like messing with someone else instead.
Being told to get on the other line at DMV! 😄👍
It’s about responding over reacting.
Gonna show this to my wife tonight.
My emotions are too strong. I tried to control it even in the military. Although I made some progress I still find myself saying weird shit and I prefer to be silent, but when I start to speak its faster and faster. It's weird.
Great video!
Lol I remember this podcast
💪🏼
What age should I expect my son to be able to control his emotions? He's 5. I work in it with him but I never had a game like that to practice. So thank you! Ive only been reminding him in the moment but it's not that practical in the moment.
@B. De Campo Thanks. Good advice.
Hey @jockowillink , if you’d get these episodes/podcasts captioned, I’d appreciate it. Thanks buddy!
good evening, echo
Christ is the greatest example of Extreme ownership.
Proverbs 25.28
A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.
2 Timothy 1.7
For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.
(puke)
Lmao.
I would agree with you. Y all can laugh and puke all you want. Don t expect every one yo agree with you
Who do you say that I am?
You are the Christ.
Here comes the sky wizard stories.
Does this apply when they are asking about your sister on the construction site?
When you have lack of rest you find out whos what lol.😢😢😢😅😂
04:10. Boss told me I was getting assigned to lead 2x of the lowest performing teams. She was wrong.
What’s the status of “Psychological Warfare 2”? Thank you.
I lose control with my brother and I have a hole in the wall. This is the first time but It’s it the first time I lose control. I really hate that I was not myself for a few seconds. I want to change that.
Even when the prime rib is overcooked and bland, look at your wife and scream in happiness, "YESSSS!!!" ;)
Interesting fact: topic related to control emotions got less views comparing to other videos from Jocko.
Everyone else has their emotions under control, obviously. We're the only ones that need work.
Damn bro, you can see the striations of muscle off of Echo's arm, what is he, like 3% body fat...
That's a tattoo of muscle fibers.
Yeah, he got them not too long ago, he did one arm first then started the other arm. Some of the older videos you could see one arm and the other nothing.
Would love to place bets on which one of these two if they went at it would be left standing
patrapper7 such forces colliding would colapse the galaxy
Jocko wins, hands down.
Hello Mr. Jocko, do you mind putting English subtitles on your videos?
I can explain, here in Brazil few people speak English and there are still less fluent people to watch their excellent videos. If you agree, I can put subtitles on your videos, but I really don't know how to edit your videos to accomplish this task. If you put at least English subtitles, you could get a large following.
graciously
Cesar Mello
I would recommend just taking up the task of sending email to his work email
Makes sense though
One emotion I can’t control is love...I’m such a romantic...what a blessing and a curse, right?
Huginn's Sight 😂😂😂 I used to call myself “romantic”, too.
@Huginn's Sight lmao....
@@bradywade7123 He's serious my friend.
@@chaddad1236 I've seen it firsthand I believe it.
you´re weak
Stifle your feelings and emotions.
So what are some tools for controlling emotions? All I heard was reasons to do it.
Many, but not all reactive emotions are ego driven.
Trying not to show emotions about how good this is. 😐
I need to learn normal face!
Is it me or does echo get bigger every video?
Geranan everything except his knees
@@Scotsdave Hahahahaha!! Nice one!
Gotta be the Molk.
💜🙏🇺🇲
Trejo ?
if u hold the number 5 in the video u can hear how he imitates a machine gun
ha I loved beating my kids up this way Jocko ;) Don't worry peeps, they all used to beat the shit outta me! Loads of fun, fits and giggles. Thanks JW and EC xx
Check
You guys are awesome but when are we gonna hear about your tren test cycles? ;)
Russ tren as in trenbologna sandwich?
SWOL IS DA GOAL SIZE IS DA PRIZE💪
Stoicism
I told my 9 year old about this game and she thinks it sounds great lol
It depends on how in sync they are with the culture they represent. Variable.
i control mine to an exstent
emotions are irrational
Jocko has a way of acting like he's interested in Echo's thoughts but you can tell by his body language (ringing of the hands)- deep, yet "humble" JOCKO breaths as he's moving back and forth in his chair just waiting for Echo to shut up and move on.
Dichotomy..
haha very true. that's also why he cuts him off often.
Women don't like emotional men.
FACTS.
I heard Jocko is second cousins with Chuck Norris. Hahaha
Now I want kids
18 people can't keep a normal face...
Now it's 55.
You're flirting with a girl at the club and AMOG starts to talk to her, picks her up and starts carrying her away. Keep it under control, normal face, don't show emotion.
Normal face.
Sir CampsAlot 😐
😙
he was Ok till he became obnoxious
Get made fun of because u don't go to the store. Lol i go to the store when i want. Lol
Wife cooking prime rib for you? Shit dudes... Gota b made up your wife cooks and cleans and looks good? Not real
One name this video should be called “Jordan Peterson” at least give some credit
This dude is clueless. You’re actually teaching your kids to be self-conscious and overly aware of every tiny thing they do. They will try to self-correct more which just leads to anxiety and frustration. You don’t teach your kids by correcting, you teach them by being a shining fucking example and getting the fuck out of their way. Clueless, overeager parenting is fucking everywhere. These people think they are so clever too. They can’t bear the idea that the best parent isn’t the one that tries to assimilate them.
Yeah, don't teach your kids self control and self awareness. It's not like they will ever need those things.
Oh wait. Those are two extremely important life skills.
@@kaylag5043 You don’t need to teach what you’re already born with. Too many clueless people out there that pretend we are like computers that must be programmed.
@@MrSilus2000 You aren't born with every skill, you have to learn it. What's wrong with learning from another person? Kids are very impressionable, so teaching them good habits and skills at an early age will set them up for success.
@@kaylag5043 You are born with the foundation necessary to learn at an exponential rate. It’s not about having every skill, it’s about being adaptable. Kids have this, adults do not.
NEVER show your emotion for your girlfriend because she will leave you.
Pretty sure you are NOT any sort of "male model"...but whatever folks need I spose....