When You Do This Shift The Narcissist Will Come Running

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  • Опубліковано 27 гру 2024

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  • @Luke-rn3sw
    @Luke-rn3sw 5 днів тому +62

    Mine called this evening after months of silence. She had "Found some books" "I'm moving out and wondered if you wanted them?" Not caring, I said I'll pick them up next week maybe?. Her reply: "Oh it's not for a few months yet". I just smiled. Textbook! She took twelve years, my money and my time. Now I know what she is, I don't care. I feel so much better now when two years ago, I had forgotten who I was. Hang in there my friends, You WILL come out the other side. Thank you Anoushka.

    • @TheIronman1508
      @TheIronman1508 5 днів тому +1

      After how many months she called?

    • @TheIronman1508
      @TheIronman1508 5 днів тому

      Was it a 6 month cycle?

    • @ChiragSharma-xi3he
      @ChiragSharma-xi3he 5 днів тому +2

      Means they always come back? My mom told about her to her family that she was playing victim card and was making me villain in front of her fam. She discarded me completely then it's been 6 months I just feel that I wasn't even existed in her life. She literally didn't even message me once. Means she will 100% come back after this as well?

    • @Luke-rn3sw
      @Luke-rn3sw 5 днів тому +3

      @@TheIronman1508 Not quite, it's very complicated and messy as it is for everyone. It could be Christmas as my focus was always her happiness, could be me concentrating my focus on friends and family issues that are far greater, Who knows? I was referring to them holding something that would allow them to keep hold in some way. Any way to test the waters to see if you are interested. I'm not. I was glad she texted? It was a good test for me as usually a text or a call would instantly make me panic. This is ongoing and I block intrusive thoughts daily but recently I have had long moments when I catch myself without these thoughts and feel sad they are on their way out?! Crazy, but that's my journey through this.

    • @TheIronman1508
      @TheIronman1508 5 днів тому +1

      @@Luke-rn3sw mine started talking with the new supply when she was already with me, she got the green light & went for the discard! Her fake good person mask totally fell off at the end Horrible really

  • @phoenixrisin2269
    @phoenixrisin2269 3 дні тому +5

    Who wants a narcissist to come running; unless they are running the opposite direction

  • @stylist62
    @stylist62 4 дні тому +5

    Unbelievable these toxic people exist, they are draining

  • @mac7775
    @mac7775 5 днів тому +37

    This is such a headache.!!! I just want to left alone and move on. This is really draining and taxing. Where did these people come from.??!! 😫

    • @gma729
      @gma729 5 днів тому +11

      They came from the depths of HELL

    • @WigSnatcher-xp4sg
      @WigSnatcher-xp4sg 5 днів тому

      @@gma729they came from broken families; they can be very evil but stop dehumanizing people

    • @joesevi7513
      @joesevi7513 5 днів тому

      ​@@gma729always told my ex that she had a demon in her. She was pure evil.

    • @lisaz4411
      @lisaz4411 5 днів тому +1

      @@gma729Let’s hope they return there where they belong

    • @silverfox7314
      @silverfox7314 3 дні тому +1

      THESE Narcesist are the Children of JezzaBell ..the exact same Evil spirits in them..the bibel tells us all about these kind of Humans ..very Interesting to read.. and whatt Narcrsist End up.. so tragic and pathetik Sad humans .so be and stay strong pray ✝️🕊❤ BEUTIFUL People .wish all merry blessed CHRISTMAS Holly days ..🎊🎄🎆

  • @SF2MJ
    @SF2MJ 5 днів тому +21

    It's been 3 months since the discard. I have started to recover. Feel stronger.
    Then all of a sudden yesterday I see 20 missed blocked calls from her on my phone. Her uncle messaging me asking me to contact her. Mutual friends telling me she contacted them asking them to ask me to call her.
    Her new supply she cheated on me with has already left her 3 months into the relationship. Straight away she is desperate to reach me. It's like she sensed I was getting stronger. She said to them she just wants me to be her friend. We were togther for 3 years. She sent our mutual friends pictures of her 4 kids i loved to forward on to me. Using my love of the kids.

    • @alexanderfinlayson3555
      @alexanderfinlayson3555 5 днів тому

      That is fucked up

    • @kryssis69
      @kryssis69 5 днів тому

      Total manipulation by proxy… the second assertion of control. Stay strong. No contact.

    • @lsnagxs_7822
      @lsnagxs_7822 2 години тому

      Classic Narc

  • @ritarekasi7688
    @ritarekasi7688 5 днів тому +17

    Mine brought home his new supply for the first time on my birthday. (We are neighbors) Very mature.

  • @steveanhiron6764
    @steveanhiron6764 5 днів тому +17

    A narcissist idea of marriage as an investment in the future is a misnomer .

  • @mmm091000
    @mmm091000 5 днів тому +18

    This is so true unbelievable ! I thought yep done and dusted ! But hey hoo out of the blue I got a phone call ? Some bizarre reason ? Surely this ends one day 😂 thanks Anna

  • @Ameryarina
    @Ameryarina 5 днів тому +42

    Cool-videos! My five-year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, (but I really miss him)

    • @JessicaAnotii
      @JessicaAnotii 5 днів тому +2

      Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.

    • @Ameryarina
      @Ameryarina 5 днів тому

      It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?

    • @JessicaAnotii
      @JessicaAnotii 5 днів тому

      Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.

    • @JessicaAnotii
      @JessicaAnotii 5 днів тому

      He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.

    • @Ameryarina
      @Ameryarina 5 днів тому

      I just sought him up online thanks to your helpful information. remarkable
      I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and he's really genuine. Thank you again ❤

  • @steveanhiron6764
    @steveanhiron6764 5 днів тому +12

    I believe in second chance because we all carry the spark of divinity ( life / love ) but when it comes to experience with a narcissist,we’re is the Exorcist dictionary . How does one day this Anouska you help maintain my sanity , perhaps life . As does everyone else here . Thankyou

  • @peterknyk1942
    @peterknyk1942 5 днів тому +12

    Interesting, Anoushka! I’ve been making intense efforts with no contact and being generally “distant” with my thoughts or feelings about the narcissist and lo and behold I got a phone call from her today where she was wondering about my health issues etc. which is something she’s not done in months….do they have a 6th sense or a kind radar that makes them contact us when we are in no contact healing mode?
    This has happened before. It feels kind of eerie or creepy as there are times when she could have called and asked me if I needed help with anything that she didn’t.
    They seem to choose opportunities that allow for them the option to either get supply or affirmation /approval/approbation trying to show us how wonderful they are and that they still really care. To me it’s a whole lot of BS and certainly not genuine. I wonder if others have this experience. Thanks for bringing the subject up, Anoushka. ❤️🕊️❤️

    • @gma729
      @gma729 5 днів тому

      Their Evil, they're Demonic. Seriously

  • @gailesterly6919
    @gailesterly6919 4 дні тому +2

    Wow! You really hit home with this video. Sounds like you’re talking about me!😮he has love bombed me and once again I give and he doesn’t. I need to have a victory for once.

  • @QueenarahendyaQueenarahe-hl6om
    @QueenarahendyaQueenarahe-hl6om 4 дні тому +2

    After 3 months of no contact, he suddenly came with his family and wanted to marry me, I was speechless. 😅

  • @elsspruyt1275
    @elsspruyt1275 5 днів тому +5

    My bff for over 20 yrs gave me one of those silent treatments that made me very painfully realize she's a narcisist. I learned about narcisme and refused to anticipate on the silent treatment and after a whole year of silence I got flowers with an I love you card. 😮 (Her birthday was coming up....)

  • @Rockmachinemcc
    @Rockmachinemcc 5 днів тому +9

    You know what’s amazing every video you do you nail it right on the head every single time which is perfect. It puts my mind at ease that I’m not crazy.

  • @basicinfo2022
    @basicinfo2022 2 години тому

    4:25 once you get your power back 5:00 they think they own you 6:25 when you detach and stop reacting to them provoking you 7:55 limit contact and stop giving your energy to them 9:30 when the narc comes back....

  • @priyanidemel2493
    @priyanidemel2493 3 дні тому +1

    Thanks 🙏

  • @CookieMonster-hm8hx
    @CookieMonster-hm8hx 3 години тому

    Perfect advice - I have already taken so much on board, so this video proves everything is on track. Thanks for the clarity, and anticipating problems and providing solutions.

  • @user-yy9be9mi6n
    @user-yy9be9mi6n 5 днів тому +6

    This came at the right time! You are a dear!! Thank you

  • @anthonyperrow4421
    @anthonyperrow4421 5 днів тому +7

    Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 Anoushka and I wish 🤞 you a Happy New Year and a Fantastic 2025 🍾🥂🎆🎇🎊🎉♌️♌️♌️♌️

  • @TimeShine-w2h
    @TimeShine-w2h 5 днів тому +5

    If they have enough supply, they don't care ... they come back, when they are in search of new supply - first they check if any ex wants them back 😂 (usually not) ... or if your life improve so much, that now they see you 'high value' - they can get more from you ...

  • @moniquepeerboom2196
    @moniquepeerboom2196 5 днів тому +5

    there will always be a women who doesn’t know that hé is a narcissist who take him back, over and over again..😪

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 2 години тому

      That's damaging her... and eventually she will have to save herself.

  • @martemacdougall1985
    @martemacdougall1985 10 годин тому

    Unfortunately, this ex narcissistic man lives in the same apartment building. I may have to move. I have cut off all contact for the last 4 years but he often leaves notes on my door which I return back under his. Nothing will stop him crossing my boundaries or making comments if we run into each other. I don't react or say anything EVER. I am in a great place personally, I decided to walk the talk and made some healthy changes in my daily life. I feel really good and have reestablished my community with my church.
    I will continue to ignore this person and change residence if necessary. Thank you always for your intelligent message today. ❤

  • @nikos8677
    @nikos8677 5 днів тому +10

    She can't find me... she is blocked

    • @gma729
      @gma729 5 днів тому

      They are pure EVIL

  • @antoniocoelho9450
    @antoniocoelho9450 20 годин тому

    Tnx Anoushka
    Your words are gold
    Good help
    See you

  • @ragingspeedhorn
    @ragingspeedhorn 5 днів тому +7

    Mine knows better than to try… but strangely my friends have been messaged .
    Nothing to do with me 😎

    • @thomaskosmicki
      @thomaskosmicki День тому

      Smear campaigne

    • @ragingspeedhorn
      @ragingspeedhorn День тому

      @ yes, but It failed because I remained authentic and she had to reveal am ugly side to try to influence everyone.
      Now, she will assume all is forgotten as her new life unravels. Messages have turned from vitriolic fury to “ miss you guys!”. as she attempts to worm her way back in.

  • @willowtree73
    @willowtree73 4 дні тому +1

    What if they’re your neighbour who’s obsessed with you, let’s his dog poo in your garden, steals tiles from your backyard, makes noises every day and at night to keep you awake and alert, copies stuff (like my music or buying the same jacket as my ex boyfriend).
    I can’t just leave and find a new home, that’s financially impossible! I feel stressed all day, I’m not spontaneous at home anymore, I feel sick when he bullies us (me and my daughter). It’s a very toxic situation and I hope I’m able to move in the future! 😢

  • @basicinfo2022
    @basicinfo2022 2 години тому

    Surprisingly, this round of no contact has been over 5 months so far. He hasnt hoovered yet.

  • @shadowcapital
    @shadowcapital 5 днів тому +2

    Sounds like the same strategy for ‘Twin Flame’.

    • @lisaz4411
      @lisaz4411 4 дні тому +1

      The TF thing is just as toxic too

  • @andrewcraven7596
    @andrewcraven7596 5 днів тому +1

    She has just returned my Christmas presents, after myself trying to call a truce, accused of sleeping with numerous people, which is totally untrue. Brings me down as often as she can, I know in the eyes of God himself, that all these accusations are baiting me, as long as I know they are her manipulations and probably saying what she has been doing all along.
    We are now aware of their games and past life traumas..
    Detach, stay strong and know oneself...

  • @markkimball1569
    @markkimball1569 18 годин тому

    After more than a month of no contact, she sent me a message on Christmas Day to come see my son who’s home from the Marine Corps I didn’t answer. I’ll keep it between him and me and my daughter and then she got mad. Call me childish for blocking her.🎉😂 done with the toxicity👨🏻‍🚒🔥🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @LinMeulen
    @LinMeulen 4 дні тому +3

    Good for them. Bye stay away 🙄🙄🙏🏼🙌🏼

  • @SweepDailyWin
    @SweepDailyWin 5 днів тому +4

    💛💛💛

  • @lauralela4554
    @lauralela4554 4 дні тому +2

    Is it rude I just walked away and didn’t say a thing the mental abuse got to much and I had no choice

  • @lauralela4554
    @lauralela4554 4 дні тому +1

    I’ve walked away he’s blocked everywhere she has no access other than email which is blocked and goes to spam he made me so ill I believe this is a trauma bond I’m 4 months no contact I feel awful but there was no choice any advice do I keep going I do get urges ro go back

  • @woundedbutterfly
    @woundedbutterfly 3 дні тому +1

    I find your video interesting , but what my mind thinks is , if they didnt get this emotional validation as child and they crave and need it so badly then why not give it to them Instead of being selfish? Like maybe it will make them feel better if we give them something they always lacked, like empathy and emotional validation and reactions , if they need it just like a child needs it then why is everyone so against giving it ? If you would give it to a child why not to them , Cause they didnt get it as a child

  • @davsirf
    @davsirf 5 днів тому

    My ex narc showed up on my doorstep after being blocked. Not the first time it happen. A year ago he also texted his prevoius ex girlfriend on valentines day and writing i miss u and a red heart emoji. He showed me that bc i had hurt him with something. I was so angry and hurt. It just shows what a shithead they are

  • @sidewalkalfletcher1360
    @sidewalkalfletcher1360 5 днів тому

    Not in my case, I have gotten the final discard. I have been discarded at one year got back together after six months again discarded at 10 years back together after a year this final discard after 21 years is the final discard I have not been contacted because it took her 21 years to find someone like me. I got very lucky to realize she is a narcissist

  • @markkimball1569
    @markkimball1569 18 годин тому

    My new source is 42 never been married no long-term relationships my ex is 62 and he wanted to have children with her ! May not happen just saying😂

  • @jammyme20
    @jammyme20 5 днів тому

    can't agree more your VDO help me to got my own back I do love to watch your VOD thank a lot again 🫶🏼