When You Move On The Narcissist Will DO THIS

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  • Опубліковано 18 вер 2024

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  • @kimsanders8262
    @kimsanders8262 Рік тому +112

    5 months of no contact and I'm not on any social media. I have peace of mind.

    • @djw8504
      @djw8504 Рік тому +7

      I e been off social media for 3 months and it actually helps to heal for sure! Now he puts things on there to look like he was done wrong by my family and me. They are nasty!!🙏

    • @qwickvids1140
      @qwickvids1140 Рік тому +9

      7 months no contact and very very limited social media uce and i love my peace 🙌🏽 its addictive

    • @dargeo1406
      @dargeo1406 Рік тому +4

      I hope you place a camera around your door. These people like to hover around. You may be able to avoid the 2 am knocks on your door, have proof and get a restraining order if needed. I’m not joking! Be careful and stay safe! 🤗

    • @nobnos4010
      @nobnos4010 Рік тому +9

      It's been 8 months since going no contact. I too don't use social media. Silence, clarity, and peace of mind helped me with my continuing recovering.

    • @csnow1361
      @csnow1361 Рік тому +1

      Im proud of you

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 Рік тому +51

    It does not matter what the narcisists think, we need to keep going forward and concentrate on our healing.

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 Місяць тому

      Some of us want to know so that can understand their motives to protect ourselves and prevent being fooled again.

  • @dosmatrix4470
    @dosmatrix4470 Рік тому +25

    3months since she discarded me and about 5 weeks since no contact. I'm selling up most of what I own, putting the rest in storage, and taking off on an adventure for a while.

    • @gma729
      @gma729 10 днів тому

      Fkn A. Bro. Go have fun meet new girls

  • @etaokha4164
    @etaokha4164 Рік тому +10

    Move on dont look back. Enjoy your life

  • @michellawarren1715
    @michellawarren1715 2 місяці тому +3

    Six months No contact with my Narc: no:2....I brought a house, my work is doing well and I'm meeting new people. I'm over Narc: no: 2.. I went shopping, enthusiastically buying my super foods and suddenly I felt a presents then the image of him in my mind...took me a while to figure out who it was. I'm guessing that's this energetic connection we have. He's thinking of me.....regretting I'm gone ....

  • @kerrymetcalfe2737
    @kerrymetcalfe2737 Рік тому +33

    I've been on my own for 4 years but tomorrow ive got a date 😊 yes ive had few dates since but saw red flags and run 🏃‍♀️ lol hopefully my ex narc husband is so wrapped up with his new supply that he will leave me alone, if things do work out with someone else 🙏

  • @amandamcintyre888
    @amandamcintyre888 Рік тому +12

    I just left him a few weeks ago, I have been depressed and mad at myself for letting him verbally and physically abuse me. I was also threatened he would kill me. I really need a support group to help me through this.

    • @J87513
      @J87513 Рік тому +2

      Amanda you are not alone my fellow survivor!
      Just found out she’s a narcissist five weeks ago. Married eleven years with seven awesome kids that I absolutely love.
      A few years ago (obviously before I realized she’s a narcissist or even learned what narcissism was) I would have trauma when I saw two couples eating at a restaurant together or just walking on the street together and having a conversation etc. it was like somebody stabbed me in the heart because I would ask myself “Why can’t I also have that?”
      And now when I see the same thing it actually makes me feel so happy for these people who are having a friendly relationship together. It took me a couple years to get to this level but I believe the brain has its own way of dealing with trauma.
      Give it some time and you’ll find a real man in your life because that is what you deserve!

    • @la.mu.sa10
      @la.mu.sa10 Рік тому +2

      You're stronger than you think, trust me ❤

    • @csnow1361
      @csnow1361 Рік тому

      You are free darling .you saved your self .dv counsling works. I stayed ten years in. A half he threatened me and made his threats real he attempted to kill me threw me off the bed .kick me in my head .did to mych evil 🙈 to me and my family. He thrraren to burny home down .and he burnt me while i slept . Hes a fuckin monster .stay safe no contact get a proctection order. Start jourling god bless from one surviver to another 🥺🫠

  • @nicoleswe
    @nicoleswe Рік тому +26

    Yes!!! Divorce is finally starting. I am ready. Two years from now I know I'll be happy with someone else, with a family, healthy and happy. 17 years of my life I will never get back. But praise God moving forward those 17 years will mean nothing other than a learned mistake. I am ready to finally be free.

    • @ladyvirgo013
      @ladyvirgo013 Рік тому +3

      The divorce just started for me as well

    • @delf5724
      @delf5724 Рік тому +3

      Do what is best for you girl. You deserve peace of mind 🙏

    • @nicoleswe
      @nicoleswe Рік тому +2

      @@delf5724 thank you so much. I know it's going to be a long process but I also know it can't be longer than the 17 years I've already done.

    • @delf5724
      @delf5724 Рік тому +3

      @@nicoleswe I wasted 13 years.. left 18 months ago. Beginning will be rough but you will be ok trust me

    • @nicoleswe
      @nicoleswe Рік тому +3

      @@delf5724 oh man I hope so thank you so much

  • @Imnotyourdoormat
    @Imnotyourdoormat Рік тому +30

    Clint Eastwood found out the hard way about moving on from 1 of these hobgoblins in his..."Play Misty for Me" Movie.

    • @scottdunn2178
      @scottdunn2178 Рік тому +6

      He dealt with it in real life being married to that basket case Sandra Locke 😳

    • @stainless1175able
      @stainless1175able Рік тому

      @@scottdunn2178 He was asking for it. I love his work but he's a cheater.

  • @clydesmith2676
    @clydesmith2676 3 місяці тому +3

    I don't have social media so they can't watch me.

  • @yvettebrowner3421
    @yvettebrowner3421 Рік тому +14

    I finally decided I wasn’t doing anymore narcissistic games with him and I’ve moved on with my life, not looking for a relationship just ENJOYING ME. I need to file for a divorce, by the way it’s been 6 months 🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @shirleyvanderheijden5934
    @shirleyvanderheijden5934 Рік тому +5

    They want to know what you are doing,where as I am not interested in their life,but need to know their reaction to my absence and growth away from them! They are obsessed,nosey and competitive,even though I am not competing with them but with myself! Letting go is bliss away from toxic people! Peace and Freedom is priceless! Yes I care but not enough to let them destroy me and steal my identity,strength and joy!No regrets! No contact! No drama!

    • @ILENENETERER
      @ILENENETERER 11 місяців тому

      Mine moved so fast he remarried three more times, lived a miserable life, got cancer and died!!!!!! He was a cheater, lier, and all round evil person!!
      He divorced me, it was the blessing!!!!

  • @robertagardner7638
    @robertagardner7638 Рік тому +6

    Any narcissists I know were noticed as children. They were usually the golden child.

  • @elkelegros2398
    @elkelegros2398 Рік тому +8

    Been gone almost 4 years. So totally done hope my divorce is going thru Jan 2024 what a joke . anyway I am happy and doing great. Thank you Anushka you been my best support for the last 4 years.😊

  • @willdeanrobertson7102
    @willdeanrobertson7102 8 місяців тому +2

    I have had no contact in over two years and I am not on social media either so I don’t know how they would keep tabs on me and I don’t think they are. They have a new supply and that’s good. Thanks for the video.

  • @TonyZehnder
    @TonyZehnder Рік тому +6

    I simply refused the toddler to wrest control of the steering wheel. I shut off every available avenue of contact from this person, including losing shared friendships. This Ex has probably and correctly concluded that A: I don't care, and B: that I see thru the ruse. I don't even pity her...I have my own life to live.

  • @QldTechie
    @QldTechie Рік тому +9

    I have managed to be attracted to at least 2 narcissists in my life. The first one lasted nearly 15 years. She left just before she destroyed me. The most recent one has only messed me about for only 1 year. She's nearly 50 and has become a great disappointment to me.

    • @daeclipse03
      @daeclipse03 Рік тому

      Her name jodie by any chance? Lol

    • @la.mu.sa10
      @la.mu.sa10 Рік тому +1

      How you doing? I hope you can heal fast, detachment and reality will save you, wishing you the best✨

    • @csnow1361
      @csnow1361 Рік тому +1

      Continue your journey of healing your mind heart soul. Four months in a half no contact .thanku self thanku. Father god

  • @johncrookston6111
    @johncrookston6111 Рік тому +7

    I don't do FB or anything else other than UA-cam
    Peace!

  • @DouglasEason
    @DouglasEason 5 місяців тому +1

    You are on point bout narcs😂😂😂

  • @AlwaysHope2019
    @AlwaysHope2019 Рік тому +10

    this may be true for some, but honestly the Supply he has now is right up his alley.
    she ain’t going nowhere and neither is he I highly doubt

    • @kimsanders8262
      @kimsanders8262 Рік тому

      Correct

    • @CL-we6hg
      @CL-we6hg Рік тому +3

      Good! Then your FREEE!!!!TAKE IT AND MOVE ON !!! THIS IS YOUR SIGN !! RUN FOREST RUN!!!😂🎉🎉🙌💪💯💯👍✨️🔑

    • @AlwaysHope2019
      @AlwaysHope2019 Рік тому

      @@CL-we6hg I ran along time ago and now that I’m educated on narcissism, I’ll never get myself in that mess again
      it’s amazing when you get away from them and educate yourself how fast feelings change
      i’m happier now, even before I met him 😊

    • @modernstrikeguns341
      @modernstrikeguns341 Рік тому +2

      Narcissist will always move on or get left, they can't love.

  • @lorithrall9847
    @lorithrall9847 Рік тому +9

    Last November. I was so doing really good, my energy was clearing ready to end the marriage in court because energetically DONE. My friend-Energy healer Dr W, passed away tragically. I was unable to proces. Everything stalled but I found you Anoushka and your lovely community.
    And moving forward
    I let him watch because he stopped For So long.Part of the abuse. Everything you say is True.Truth is my kryptonite. It's my cross to bear. Truth Teller. The tongue. My krypto. Thank you. The light in me honors the light in you.

    • @mistyblue2917
      @mistyblue2917 Рік тому +1

      So sorry for your loss, Lori.. wish you healing ♡☆ Please share who was this energy healer Dr. W?

    • @J87513
      @J87513 Рік тому

      Wow nice little story! Let the truth speak for itself.

    • @lorithrall9847
      @lorithrall9847 Рік тому +1

      Thank you dear. He passed away in Yellowstone. His name was Wayne.

    • @lorithrall9847
      @lorithrall9847 Рік тому

      Thank you. Hope you are doing well.

    • @mistyblue2917
      @mistyblue2917 Рік тому

      @@lorithrall9847 thank you for your response, wish you all the best! ♡☆

  • @dannyturczyn763
    @dannyturczyn763 5 місяців тому +2

    I'm doing the exact opposite I am posting on social media of what I'm up to that things are great things that I'm doing people that I'm involved with not intimately of course because there is no one but I am posting what I'm up to where I'm going what I'm doing why not I refuse to hide myself or my life will let Percy that I'm fine and I'm moving on my life because that's exactly what I am doing

  • @sophiarieber7558
    @sophiarieber7558 Рік тому +4

    okay........being a true empath, this absolutely breaks my heart!!!! And Miss Anoushka? I think you teared up a little bit there yourself!!.....oh my goodness! In spite of what I've lived through this past couple years, my heart still holds a place for him......I can "feel" what it must be like to come to the realization of what a HORRIBLE person everyone sees you as, and then to ask yourself the question "Am I really like that?" I guess this is what makes it so easy for them to play the VICTIM......that's what I had to deal with......the VICTIM.......oy......but it's a very hurtful experience, all the way around......God bless

  • @brunopannemans5729
    @brunopannemans5729 Рік тому +6

    Moving to new flat, but for. This i make time 😂❤🙄🤔😍

  • @DouglasEason
    @DouglasEason 5 місяців тому +1

    Seems like no contact will be a way to go

  • @stacey.adrianne
    @stacey.adrianne Рік тому +1

    That’s so funny that you said they’ll never say it because one time he actually told on himself when talking about his ex. I confronted him about messing with her AGAIN and he told me that he doesn’t want her but he could have her if he wanted to. He’s sick and probably said similar stuff about me but he can’t save me for later.

  • @angelm6497
    @angelm6497 10 місяців тому +1

    I was left in such a mess that I have been in survival mode trying to keep my head above water.
    Ive had no interest in getting into a relationship until I get myself straight. Dont trally care about him, more my don,but then he has his claws in my son and my son keros reporting back to him.
    I told my don id nrver mske him choose between us, I would just ealk away. I am at the point where I will just ealk away from him too.
    I feel i have been ostirnt eith my son, giving him doace yo heal and get his life back on track, but noe he seems to be treating me the same way his Dad did. Perhaps it eill be better for me to zhut the doir on my don until he grows up and starts to understand how his behaviour toeards me is hurting me and damaging the relationship.
    In a eay it seems like I am throwing my don to yhe wolves,but he is sn adult and has made his own choices.

  • @seramarie76
    @seramarie76 Рік тому +1

    This is very true❤

  • @lenaleong4894
    @lenaleong4894 Рік тому +1

    Thank you

  • @TheDevineFempress
    @TheDevineFempress Рік тому +2

    At 8 months he showed up outside of my house … I wanted him badly sad to say …. But I told him offfff …. When I didn’t just capitulate to sweet talk then the threats

  • @ladyvirgo013
    @ladyvirgo013 Рік тому +3

    My husband doesn't stalk, im not on social media

  • @jacquelotts2616
    @jacquelotts2616 Рік тому +7

    Im doing way better than my ex narcissist he sold our house i made a dumb mistake felt bad i was leaving him so gave him our house he wouldnt give me anything from it made $180,000 but im sure hes goimg broke by now hes getting romanced scamned by a foreigner ges talking to she still isnt here after 4 years so yay hes getting his karma i have my own house now i bought in a really nice community merting so many other good people now my trauma bond to him is slowly going away took me 4 years to realize just how toxic he was

    • @milax2730
      @milax2730 Рік тому

      You seem like one yourself… Narc

  • @oCaliforniaBoy
    @oCaliforniaBoy Рік тому +2

    Good afternoon :) ❤

  • @tcbroussard9562
    @tcbroussard9562 Рік тому

    ❤️ you anoushka!

  • @J87513
    @J87513 Рік тому +2

    … I totally couldn’t care less what my soon to be ex-wife narcissist thinks but I just watch this video to know how to prepare myself to deal with her after we do get separated and divorced with children

  • @NightOwlGames
    @NightOwlGames Рік тому +4

    i imagine its waiting for me to have a new partner then it will message the new partner to smear me so new relationship gets destroyed.

    • @daeclipse03
      @daeclipse03 Рік тому

      That happened to me but the girl I was dating was a narcassist anyways smfh.

  • @bovwilliamstattooirons704
    @bovwilliamstattooirons704 Рік тому +6

    Is there any difference with a narcissist if they’re alcoholic …

    • @kerrymetcalfe2737
      @kerrymetcalfe2737 Рік тому +2

      Yeah they are worse and will use that as an excuse for their behaviour 🙄

    • @xyaeiounn
      @xyaeiounn Рік тому +4

      The alcohol is more of a symptom. This lady told me "You're my alcohol" because I let her be her real self. After drinking for a while she would eventually get mean, though. One night she hit me. She didn't remember it the next day, but knew it must have been bad. Seems like narcissists don't like themselves and alcohol breaks down the filters they use to function, but it lets out the devourer.

    • @ladyvirgo013
      @ladyvirgo013 Рік тому +2

      My soon ex husband is an alcoholic too

  • @ninayesthisone
    @ninayesthisone Рік тому +4

    Hi Anoushka! I know this is not the topic of your channel, but could you maybe make a video about what it's like to transition from a girl to a woman? Aging is such an adventure, it's like you're becoming a whole different person. Would be so interesting to hear your prospective on this

  • @ForGodandKeiki
    @ForGodandKeiki Рік тому +1

    Anoushka, do u have a set time for your live chats? Thank u for putting out these vids of your knowledge for us to continue healing, getting stronger and overcoming 💪🏾✊🏽🙏🏾🙌🏽🤙🏽👍🏽👍🏽

  • @neilbuck8416
    @neilbuck8416 Рік тому +2

    but i married the narcissist

  • @patricksicard_psych
    @patricksicard_psych Рік тому +3

    Quantum physics and emotionality are mutually exclusive. I don’t buy into your theory Anna. I discarded my narc ex husband a year ago. He doesn’t even know where I live. I don’t use social media. He does know that I’m in a relationship with someone else because he contacted me and then I blocked him. He has NPD. I tolerated his twisted games for 7 yrs. It took me a long time to catch on because he’s covert with grandiose tendencies. I’ve never met such an evil, sick and twisted person like this in my life. No contact is great. As for him, I don’t care.

  • @JamesThomas-zl9er
    @JamesThomas-zl9er Рік тому +2

    Split 3yrs, no contact since November but her bff has been keeping up with my FB stories since December - about 70% watched.
    It’s weirding me out… why? I like the bff and her husband very much but neither have initiated a chat/call/visit so what’s going on?

  • @jonathandrake9433
    @jonathandrake9433 5 місяців тому +1

    Is the trauma bond shared between the narcissist and the victim? Does the narcissist feel the same disturbing bond as the victim.

  • @lorraineolivera24
    @lorraineolivera24 Рік тому +1

    I've been a Lil over a year NO CONTACT and do not envy the NEW supply. I know exactly what she's dealing with lmao 😅 The love bomb stage is over by now its been a year. Her life is in hell. I say they both deserve each other. 😆😌

  • @shelleyCollins-o6y
    @shelleyCollins-o6y Рік тому +1

    Mine cannot watch me he doesn't have computer or anything.. My guy is 79 yrs old do they still play in it all???

  • @thetruefusion7874
    @thetruefusion7874 4 місяці тому +1

    My question - my narcissistic ex that I've been for 3 years cheated on me and divorce me after immediately after 1 year of marriage, she has left her new supply after 2 years of being with him... will she try come back to me or is it a final discard ? I've been in no contact for 2 years now

  • @steenkristensen6351
    @steenkristensen6351 Рік тому

    HEJ SKØNNE DIG, JA JEG ER FLYTTET MIG JEG HAR SET Hvad det går ud på ,så ha en fantastisk weekend Anouska 😉 så du for lige ❤️ det har du fortjent 👍👍

  • @SerendipityK-d2z
    @SerendipityK-d2z 11 місяців тому +1

    Does it matter?

  • @user-fi8ep6lo8i
    @user-fi8ep6lo8i Рік тому +9

    Hello Anoushka, what does it means when a narcissist make a fake account and likes all your videos after 8 months of no contact? Thank you ❤

    • @soloman747
      @soloman747 Рік тому +2

      Wow. Your narc is a total weirdo!

    • @catbishop206
      @catbishop206 Рік тому +9

      A stalker that needs to be blocked from your social media and have a restraining order.

    • @user-fi8ep6lo8i
      @user-fi8ep6lo8i Рік тому

      @@soloman747 I don't know what's the purpose of that

    • @beemonroe4330
      @beemonroe4330 Рік тому

      @@user-fi8ep6lo8ithere’s no purpose to anything they do. They’re insane. Be glad you got away

    • @Hauntedlavender222
      @Hauntedlavender222 Рік тому +5

      It’s called hoovering/stalking.

  • @damianooi8261
    @damianooi8261 4 місяці тому +1

    But I have changed my phone number. Will they still watching me?