My simplistic view on this: IQ (and other ways of measuring intelligence) = Potential EQ = Unlock the potential Is EQ really more important than IQ? If you do not have the ability to understanding something then it does not matter how high your EQ is, you still don't understand it. Which means that you cannot perform particular jobs. My complex view on this: Neither IQ, nor EQ, nor any other single set of abilities / intelligence determine if you will be successful or not. It is up to you to develop yourself in the areas as needed during various phases in life.
***** Most people in life never unlock their potential. Therefore if IQ is potential and EQ is what allows you to unlock the potential then it makes sense that for most people today EQ is more important.
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SUMMARY - Actualized - Emotional Intelligence - Why Your EQ Is More Important Than Your IQ The number one key for success is EQ smart people on a iq level are too much in the head to be able to have success emotions create success and healthy relationships eq is not being extraverted ---> eq tests online ---> book emotional intelligence 2.0 ability to recognize your emotion in yourself and in others and the ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and your relationships 4 pillars of eq 1. ability of Understanding your own emotions, labeling them, recognizing them, having a broader range of emotions 2. ability to control your emotions, to discipline, manage them 3. ability to read emotions in other people, empathy, being able to understand what they are feeling, being able to relate to that, understanding their point of view, stepping in their shoes 4. ability to manage your relationships, how are you communicating, interacting within them? the more eq you have, the better you do in life, the happier you are what is eq? anger management accountability instead of blaming others honesty and trust assertiveness and confidence communication stress tolerance decision making - being able to decide, pricrastinating flexibility - ability to flow with life presentation skills - ability to speak, motivate, inspire people listening skills - can you really understand people, can you really empathize with them reflecting them? It relates to your relationship, business, happiness if you are frantic, sad, depressed, angry, guilty shows a lack of eq because you first dont notice them and you dont have tools to manage them which impacts your outer world how do you develop eq? eq is highly developable techniques to master emotions: books, meditation, journaling there are many practical techniques to use emotions and self control are very important for satisfaction in life Thanks Leo
This video helped me a lot, Leo. I found I am slightly above average in emotional intelligence. Turns out this is what has been holding me back from my dreams: I found all this default behaviour inside of me: DEFAULT BEHAVIOUR-> Being suspicious of people Feeling something-like 'being insulted’ when not replied to Getting bogged down by hurtful words from parents Getting irritated by people from the past should they try to bully me Getting irritated by critical comments passed by people I have begun disliking Feeling the need to rush with work, rush to work, rush with my endeavours so that I don’t stay ‘left-behind.’ Easily breaking down in grief I am reactive to rejections
Hi Leo, emotional intelligence is a difficult topic to me. Since my adolescence my mind had became a caos due to my parents divorce and I could never deal with that. Even so, I have been trying to figure it out a way to 'heal' this bad feelings and somehow you are helping me! Besides that, I'm not an English native speaker, but I can understand almost all that you say, I mean, you talk very clear, is music to my ears! Thank you!!!
guru Leo, your talks help me get out of bed in the morning, and give me something to think about for the rest of the day, thank you for your wisdom and effort!!
@@mariotrevino968 man now u got me wondering i never saw that logo before until i just looked it up been watching his videos from the first one on. ngl kinda sus
1. I can identify my emotions and I am self aware (tick) 2. I'm average at controlling my emotions 3. I'm good at understanding other people's emotions (tick) 4. I'm bad at managing relationships - really bad - No anger management problems - I am accountable to myself but I do blame the world for some things - I'm honest with myself, lie to other people - I don't trust anyone! - I am assertive - I could work on my communication skills although I don't struggle with it (communication skills mediocre) - I am frantic and stressed around work, calm when around people (not working) - I am always judging myself and thinking negative thoughts - It takes a long time for me to make a decision - I procrastinate weirdly (I used to think I didn't have procrastination problems). Not directly (like I don't say, that's it I'm not working or I'll do it later) instead, I set up barriers to working. I go and eat lots of food so I don't have enough energy to work, I sleep late so the next day I feel too shit to work, I find some other distraction that I feel like needs my immediate attention (although it may not), I make myself depressed with some other irrelevant thing (oh I'm so fat or oh he doesn't like me). - I have super bad presentation skills - really really bad. - I'm a good listener & people think I'm a good listener
oh my, i identified with 99% of what you wrote!! it was weird cos it felt like i was reading myself. thank you contributor cos you held a mirror to myself but i must say i can see these conditionings fading as i expose them more and more to the light of truth and for that i give thanks first to the creator and creation that i am a part of and then secondly to my beloved Guru, sadhguru my love for showing me the way and being my guide. i love and adore you for that! i am now proud to include Leo and actualized. org. your spirit EQ and your IQ through lots of study and investment of both time and money you have reached out to selflessly share your findings with many and i am one of them for you have clarified many things that were obscure. thank you! Thank you! may your work continue to inspire many. mi also give thanks here to Mooji, my brother, Osho, my father in the sky! to Ekhart Tolle, my cousin for your humour and clear sightedness. To all of you i give thanks!
At first when you look at the video it looks like boring but when you listen to it. The guy in the video says things that are interesting. It's just that every time the video starts to play, it slightly shock me to the features of the guy talking.But In general, I appreciate what this man is doing. Keep up!
Great video. I do disagree with one thing you said "if you lack confidence then you are lacking in EQ" I know personally that after doing the NBI profile($300 profiling that professionals use) that I scored very high in being emotionally intelligent. However, I lack confidence. I scored highly in all 4 quadrants of the brain (scoring highly isn't necessarily a good thing, it just means this is how you process information). I have always been very unconfident but been able to manage my emotions with intuition as to how other people feel. I truly feel I am very emotionally intelligent. But it is not an easy brain to have. I feel the need to take responsibility for what other people are thinking about me.
Notice what happens in the moment the next time you feel unconfident or insecure. What you'll see is an emotional mess. Right? You can't be unemotional and insecure at the same time. Check it out.
I believe you can be unemotional and insecure at the same time. I am used to having low confidence and being insecure, and I don't see an emotional mess. What I see is that I am simply unconfident and insecure. It is a linear feeling that usually doesn't change. It doesn't change my outward emotions, or the way I act and I can usually redirect my thoughts. My go-to feeling is usually low confidence, but it certainly doesn't seem to me as ever being an emotional mess. I am intelligent enough to usually have an objective view of it. I am 25 yrs old, have a house, 2 reliable vehicles, and am a high level manager after working in this company for 2 and a half years. I achieved this with no help from my parents, and little to none post-secondary education. If the next time I felt unconfident and insecure (which is everyday) I saw an emotional mess I would not see the successes I have had so far in my life (not trying to have a big head about it just having an objective view of my life). Just my 2 cents.
Well Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton (me lol), Mozart had Asperger's syndrome, which is associated with emotional detachment and low EQ, but they were very successful, so i don't care about my EQ if i have genius level IQ
Isaac Newton einstein probably had emotions. Isaac and mozart are very rare cases and could maybe be atributed to luck. Meaning that their potential was used by luck, they are ofcource exeptionall and inteligent.
i did the test leo! and i got a 78 out 100, I'm quite happy with the result but theres a lot more to learn and improve… btw i agree with dead4uman! the incredibly so deep understanding in your insights is refreshing to wonder about, you have completely restore my full interest in self development! i felt stuck for a while in this amazing way of living life´s potential.
Sweet! Go live big! :) I don't know which EQ test you took, but on the one I took, a 78/100 would be considered low. I took the test from Emotional Intelligence 2.0 the book. It comes with an online survey code that you can use on their website. But your test might have used a different scale, so... then you might be alright.
I've learned to handle and control my anger really well. Before when I would get angry I would take it out on everyone around me but now I redirect the energy elsewhere
Wonderful simplification of a topic that I would have shredded into a chaotic 2 hour redundancy filled talk. I find it interesting that basically you are describing here (during your treatment of empathy) more than empathy itself but what Tibetans call, Bodhichitta (awaking one's own emotions to the suffering of others as well as 'self'). Then you go an additional step and explain how possessing such emotional sensitivity is helpful in all aspects of life. I am impressed that this can be done, in English, so rapidly. Good job on a very practical, yet quite deep video.
Well ... EQ is important because .... well emotions are information. Whenever you are trying to resolve a math problem and it doesn't work anything ... if you take a break , and get your emotions in check then ... something clicks , you get inspiration . Inspiration is what it sounds ... someone else in this universe is doing the thinking .... and you just get a piece of the information from nowhere . It sounds strange but ... really people who meditate in Asia get this fact very easily . When you rationalize ... you think with your head instead of getting information from somewhere else . Life is a game ... and someone does the thinking while others reap the rewards . It always was like this . We live in a Matrix where this stuff happens all the time . Like in the movie the Matrix . Why do I say emotions are information ? Well any sort of energy is information . When something changes like you move an object from A to B for example .... the information changes about that object ( the object is no longer in the same coordinates ) as well as it was done with kinetic energy . When you put a piece of paper in the fire, the paper burns generating heat, the information about that piece of paper also changes , it is no longer a piece of paper it is ashes . With time those ashes also oxidize ... and that is done with a very small amount of energy . The bigger the energy ... the bigger the information . The better you feel ... the more productive you can be . And it is also tied with your sexual impulses . Those who know this thing ... are more soft when talking, they are better listeners . Actually EQ and kindness are almost the same thing . I say almost because I am not 100 percent sure . But we do live in a matrix based on our sexual impuses .... and those who don't look at women as sexual objects are really winners of the game ... in many ways . A basic look at the game, how it works between people is the Karpman_drama_triangle . A third person always watches the conflict between two people . Do a search on that on google and you will see what I am talking about !!
There was also a book - enlightened garnder ... a very good book , who also says that information in your head comes with emotion . I'd have to say that everything that sourounds us is potential energy source and energy and information is the same thing !!
Interesting strategy to warp EQ through the Big 5. My EQ is only around 120 (90th percentile) but my IQ is 30 points higher (99.9th percentile+). You failed to mention the most important part. Having a high EQ doesn't mean you're nice. It means you know exactly what you're doing when you choose not to be, and how. It doesn't mean you don't experience anger, it means you understand how your anger impacts your decision-making process well enough to nullify any influences it would have. When you are filled with rage and you use it to organize a movement built on propaganda to mobilize the masses against your enemies, then you probably have a high EQ and IQ.
Women are "Emotionally Intelligent". Think of a man, and take away reason and accountability. You can notice this in all these new CEOs. There is no accountability, & they will hold your hand & cry with you about your shoes or puppies & environment. & when everything goes to shit, cry harrastment & blame everyone else. You can start doing it at any age. Narcisists & Psychos have very high EQ. That's why people like them.
Btw, You are obviously have low EQ. You should have blamed the Society or Toxic Masculinity... It's what a High EQ person would do. You could have brought some childhood trauma & abuse... Blame the White Christian Patriarchy in Education & Society. All that evil male Stoicism & their stupid Logic. Just tell people that all you want in the world is love & care. *Now, Go & Concur The World Tiger!*
I think IQ is just as important as EQ. Actually it depends on the nature of the job. Some jobs require high intellectual skills like scientists require high IQ and high EQ (persistence, collaboration, deep passion). It's easier to increase EQ than IQ. So it's good news for people with average IQ to succeed in life,by increasing their EQ. HIgh EQ people are likeable, which gives a solid foundation for influence ( leadership ). Basically high EQ people succeed by collaborating with others, motivating others, leverage their IQ with genie's IQ to accomplish a common goal.
+Maria Strela Natalia Sulaiman Dale Carnegie once said that 85% of your earnings come from your ability to deal with people (EQ i'd say) and 15% from your knowledge and creativity (IQ i'd say).
I dont believe the part about assertiveness and confidence being related to high eq. I've had encounters with a handful of full blows psychopaths and all were very assertive and confident 2 are in jail for life for murder, 1 raped my niece and 1 I caught having sex with her sons friend. My mom on the other hand is the sweetest thing anyone can ever encounter and comes from a family of extremely successful high achievers and has more eq then anyone ive ever encountered. She's also the least assertive person on this planet and lacks confidence at times
Yes, it's interesting that there are exceptions like this. One can certainly be confident yet callous or unaware or just a selfish asshole. Confidence and insecurity can also be developed situationally.
I like your e.g. Cody Williams... It seems to me that any action that leads to negative emotions later on a lot of the time reflects a lack of EQ because high EQ means you know what action is appropriate for your well being and others. Therefore a doctor sitting on a bus may not be afraid to stand up and help a man who has collapsed with chest pain. The doctor is highly assertive. On the other hand, a man who acts on a sexual impulse to do something that is against the law understands that physical pleasure makes him feel good for a few seconds or minutes, but doesn't realise that 1) there will be other consequences to his actions and 2) that these consequences will cause him prolonged negative emotions and unhappiness.
Hey Leo, I was wondering how I can raise my empathy level. In school they gave us a personality test and I have the rarest type of personality it is call "INTJ" and that told me basically that I lack empathy and I've been noticing that it is very hard to put myself in someone else's shoes.
Guys. improve your intelligence doesn't need to be hard (I used to think it did). I'm going to give you some advice now. Get a popular intelligence boost program called Rotogenflux Methods (do a search on google). Thanks to it I have increase your IQ of 20 points. I probably should not even be speaking about it cause I do not want lots of other guys out there running exactly the same game but whatever. I am just in a great mood today so I'll share the wealth lol.
Could you please make a video explaining the quotation of great scientist Albert Einstein as follows, "Knowledge is not a true sign of intelligence but imagination is"????
I like you, Leo, you tell me the truth... I suck at a lot of things but with your vids I can better fit myself to approach things/events...I like that... thank you...🖤
Leo I didn't found a more suitable video to ask you. I'm by far more sensitive than most men, and when I start feeling emotions I lose all my coldness and reason. For example: I met a woman, we had nothing in common, but with her I have had the most wonderful sex in my life, better than I ever imagined. Then I realized she is promised, but I'm already in love with her. Dont wanna forget her or what happened. I just want to stop suffering for falling in love so easily.
Dude, that's normal. If you have sex with the hottest girl in your life, of course you'll get butt-hurt if she ditches you. It's hard to burn that out of your system unless you've had sex with dozens of girls like her. That's really the only way to remove that. You need to create more options with girls.
hi Leo. i have a friend. she does really bad at emotional controlling. she knows very well what if she did as the way of being controlled by her anger or depression, but she still keeps on. she thinks it will make her satisfied and sometimes even happy, because she is making a revenge. if someone makes her unhappy, she will make him or her sad, even if she will be unhappy as well. i really want to help her. i am wondering why some people will do somethings even if they know it do harm to themselves.
I think most emotions works negatively in a person that's why Sociopaths and Psychopaths make very strategic decisions because of there lack of emotions.. same with high EQ normal individual who evaluates and manages emotions before making decisions w/c then leads toward their success.. but no one really knows exactly.. i'm just saying..
No I ain't studying to be a human. Be fucking creative and free and fuck CEOs, bankers, politicians and all that shit that doesn't matter because to you it's you who is the most important. And also I don't give a fuck about what others think, which is a very important thing.
@Victor, Lind Olsen Because "human" is some bullshit though in your head, where in reality we are creatures designed for constant evolution, so studying ourselves, is part of that design.
Being Human is Human Nature so studying for it means you need an adjustment ?? Was it you parents /family / friends/ community / state / Politics / school ???
A recent analysis by Adam Chudhurski (2013) shows that without time constraints , the correlation between fluid intelligence and working memory capacity are largely reduced, and performance on fluid tasks becomes dependent on long-term memory; retrieval fluency, associative memory, and relational learning. Because Europeans emphasize speed and linearity in thought , they score higher on Raven's tests , however, without time any practical time limit (inter-day measures) a small percentage of individuals would do very well, at least through certain periods in development, in rarer cases exceeding between 1 to 2 standard deviations above there timed scores. This phenomena has been noted by high IQ (technically, high IEQ) societies. Conventional IQ tests are very carefully designed to be biased against certain minority groups. Currently many theorists of dual processing emphasize the importance of perception and associative-heuristic processes. Even the those who tend to downplay the role of perception on intelligence, like Johnathan Evans , acknowledge it's relevance to inductive thinking (feature-based induction). What IQ proponents have long taken for granted , is essentially, pre-analytic processing that accounts for designing the 'novel set' - which is then analyzed for structure. Tests such as the Raven's which provide relations in A,B,C form, and demand a subject to uncover underlying structure, take for granted , that elements of the set, [A, B, C], have been PROVIDED to the individual, and NOT SELECTED by the individual. In the pre-analytic phase of thought , the associative-heuristic system utilizes low level inductive and statistical based processes, to select elements to form a unique set. For example, [A,B,C]. After the set is structured, analytical thinking becomes relevant in uncovering the structural relationship between the elements (in this case, 1, +1,+1, between A,B,C). There is less argument towards the claim, as IQ proponents make, that a solution to a problem is 'novel', when none of the elements to solve the problem have been selected by the individual. In fact, with IQ tasks, the entire set of elements are spoon-fed to the subject, and the only thing relevant is analysis. (As if the cure for cancer is all jumbled up in one sentence, just waiting for someone to look at). Real world-problem solving requires relating broader concepts in viable permutations, through selective and analytical (IQ) processing. Novelty relates to the 'rarity' of an solution, not any particular process which it may be a result of. And Intelligence is a largely dynamic, developmental quality, that can never be pinned down by any test, especially rigid measures that are conventionally used. Maybe one day, we can infer a person's limitations from elements of structure, but that day has not yet come. For now, achievements (accolades) are usually better indicators of intellectual functioning
That's why I've never taken an IQ test. It think it would severely under-rate my intelligence and I don't want that kind of negative evidence holding me back from being as intelligent as I know I am. My intelligence depends a lot of a very high-level intuition. It's difficult to explain to people how I arrive at certain conclusions, but the conclusions come out very accurate. I've never enjoyed math, or puzzles, or logic problems because they seem too unimaginative for my tastes. So much mental processing happens unconsciously.
Actualized.org A person who is good at meditating is ABLE to RECEIVE cosmic messages that add to the intuition capability ---- improved concentration and therefore memory skill don't harm that either!
+sean chapman (SeanMcChapman) Don't be too obsessed ot concerned about measuring it by artificially created tests - before all, become more aware of its overall importance instead, that's the best way to start actualizing its potential and raising it to higher levels.
Emotional intelligence is also known as EQ. EQ means emotional quotient. The speaker is stressing on the importance of EQ over IQ. EQ is very important than IQ because, after a lot of research in 30 years, it is concluded that EQ is the key for having success and improving performance in business and careers than IQ. Life is mixed with emotions to become successful person which needs emotional intelligence more than IQ. People will assume that EQ is about sociability ,extrovert and being people's person which is not correct. Emotional intelligence is about something that dovetails very nicely with introvert.Definition of emotional intelligence is ability to recognize and understand your emotions in yourself and in others and ability to use this awareness to manage your behaviour and your relationship. EQ has four pillars which are knowing your emotions, controlling your emotions, knowing the others emotion and maintaining good relation with others. First two pillars depend on anger management, honesty, trust, assertiveness, confidence, communication, decision making if your low in any of these that sign that your having low emotional intelligence and negative thinking include in it. The next thing is we link work topics to judge the emotional intelligence which includes presentation, to motivate, to influence and listening skills. If you are not performing well in these things, then you must be having low EQ. We can develop EQ more than IQ. But it is longer process as it may take several weeks or several months to develop any of weak pillars of EQ. Stress can be controlled by meditation. Coaching, reading books can be useful to study your emotions as there are many techniques which help to improve EQ pillars.
Hi Leo, What book do you recommend to develop EQ? I don't need to take a test at this point... This video was my test and I failed miserably in a few areas. I appreciate it
Leo! you are fantastic. So much value here and in all of your videos.. I havent been this inspired to learn in years. I'm curious how you lay your thoughts out to package your message in the most effective way. Is that something you studied? framing/answering why something is relevant to us.. ect ect Is there a process you use? Any recommendations?
Umm He doesn’t strike me as having high EQ. He is SOOOO focused on 1) what is bad EQ 2) what a persons EQ score is (including his own good score). Note the positives and inspire more and much earlier.
This is what Jordan Peterson, a psychologist, not lke you, says on the subject. Answer by Jordan B Peterson, psychology professor at the University of Toronto, clinical psychologist, on Quora: There is no such thing as EQ. Let me repeat that: "There is no such thing as EQ." The idea was popularized by a journalist, Daniel Goleman, not a psychologist. You can't just invent a trait. You have to define it and measure it and distinguish it from other traits and use it to predict the important ways that people vary. EQ is not a psychometrically valid concept. Insofar as it is anything (which it isn't) it's the Big Five trait agreeableness, although this depends, as it shouldn't, on which EQ measure is being used (they should all measure the same thing ). Agreeable people are compassionate and polite, but they can also be pushovers. Disagreeable people, on average (if they aren't too disagreeable) make better managers, because they are straightforward, don't avoid conflict and cannot be easily manipulated. It should also be noted that IQ is five or more times as powerful a predictor as even good personality trait predictors such as conscientiousness. The true relationship between grades, for example, and IQ might be as high as r = .50 or even .60 (accounting for 25-36% of the variance in grades). Conscientiousness, however, probably tops out at around r = .30, and is more typically reported as r = .25 (say, 5 to 9% of the variance in grades). There is nothing that will provide you with a bigger advantage in life than a high IQ. Nothing. To repeat it: NOTHING. So yeaah... You don't know what you are talking about. It's sad how you profit with the ignorance of people.
On average, most "high IQ" ppl aren't THAT much smarter that it makes a real difference. They still need to work with "normal" ppl (even low IQ ones) to be "successful". Therefore they depend on the GROUP IQ, which they benefit from interaction with them. Otherwise they will be replaced by a similar IQ person. If you truly have really high IQ, e.g. Nicola Tesla, Isaac Newton, etc., you can become one of the most successful and influential people in history, even as those mentioned never married, and are know to have very little if any social relations...apart from business, like investors and such. ;)
My career in Engineering it was NOT necessary as it was right or wrong not oh that nice but I can't use that ??Sorry but EQ is created to allow those with low IQ another chance at not being called STUPID ??
Well, you can be "stupid" at various academic subjects (particularly difficult ones like math/science) and still be "successful" via being good with people. Think scam artists. ;) In a more normal circumstance, most organized productivity has jobs for various types of ppl. You can train some of the ppl with bad grades and such to do specific jobs really well as a TEAM, where deep profound knowledge is not required. At the same time, you can put an anti-social stuck up nerd in the basement and keep all the computers running where ppl hate him but still need him. lol
that's the wrongest video of actualised.com i've seen yet. firste of all there is no such a thing called "emotional intelligent", there's no empirical studies or a test or any other way to measure a thing of a bunch of things that can allow us to call them emotional intelligence, like we've done with intelligence, the best name for it is emotional skills or talents, and that's what goleman did, he took a bunch of important emotional skills, like the ability to read others emotions etc.. and concluded that they should be called emotional intelligence!! secondly, there's actually many researches on the differences that EQ makes in jobs, they use a statistal technic called meta-analysis. and the results (schmidt and hunter 1998) were: 7% in jobs that require personal contact (like saling etc), and 0% in jobs that need no "emotional skills"
damm dude I though I wouldnt find this comment and it was driving me insane. Thank you for a good explanation. You really put the nail in the coffin here. (DAmm I do be very late on this comment tho).
Hiiii & thank you very much for the video i love it :))))) , i have a question which is " How can i change my feelings from negative to positive? & do feelings change eternally? Or do they come back? Loads of Love :))))))
Hey leo, nice video. I m pretty good at the most of the examples you gane at 9-11 min of the video. I considered generally myself as having pretty good EQ, perhaps I m wrong. But what I know for sure is that I really such at taking desicions. Seriously it takes me as lot of time and thinking to decide between things. Any advice about that? Thank you
Hi Leo first of all thanks for all the great videos on different but related topics :P can u help me with understanding what emotions are in first place and how they differ from feeling wish u all the best x… new year
"IQ hasn't been found to be a good predictor of success in life or in business. In fact higher IQ tends to be counter-intuitive to achieving such success. A better predictor of success is Emotional Intelligence or EQ (one's emotional quotient)." Can you give references to those studies? For both sentences.
hello man stalking your vedios all the time specialy these one it's possible that i might have some of these facts asured but not all off them ? (EQ) it'ss like i have relly good speaking skills social too i can easely make good relations with other making friends i feel confident almost all the time rarely question my self, 90% of the time i am feeling good and positive about my self, i have a lot of emotional awereness i controll hanger really good, but sometimes a, assume some values and i relly belive them even if sometime emotionatly awere that they are not the same for everybody, i just stik to them without allmost questoning almost like a placebo that i puted in my self willingly , i do everything i am motivated to but, sometimes i am motivated for everything besides work hahaha... thatnk for listening to me Alexandre Leal from portugal ;-) you are the man what's your name actualy? Ps: maybe i have a good EQ but since the IQ it's not that big forget me for ortografical errors hahah
You talk about knowledge others gathered, and you offered zero solutions to help people. I feel sorry for the people who wasted their time watching this.
This is all making the assumption you want to be "successful". Some people just care about truth and reality. They aren't here to be fake for their own financial benefit by changing what they feel to please others. Maybe it comes naturally for some, but for many you are asking people to basically be liars and that having intelligence isn't important...but in the world of science, it actually is very important to be able to have proper critical thinking skills, etc. Certain areas require IQ to succeed. Some might require EQ.
High IQ is inherent potential. EQ are skills you can develop. EQ develops through good nurture or training. IQ is the quality of your nature and is fixed. High IQ (being gifted) as a kid means you have different needs than other kids. When you dont meet these needs then you dont develop high EQ. So people with high IQ doesnt mean they are not as talented at EQ they just develop it differently than average IQ. But our society doesnt meet their needs and focuses on quantity rather than quality. That means it treats every child as if they are average. Its like being a salted water fish and being treated like sweet water fish. Thats why people with high IQ as you mention do not usually have high EQ. Their nurture is suited for average IQ children and so their EQ is not developed when they reach adulthood. Likewise average IQ people has better EQ when reaching adulthood cause their nurture was suited for their needs. Managers and high ranking employees (which is what is translated as success in society) are average IQ, High EQ. But world leaders, top sucessfull bussinessmen, master craftsmen and artists, revolutionary inventors, important scientists etc. Are all high EQ, High IQ. So IQ is how big is your potential and EQ is your tool to reach the maximum of that potential. So no its not one is more important vs the other, its both are important depending on your ambition.
No, IQ is also developed and it has nothing to do with potential outside of the logical type of reasoning that IQ tests. IQ above 140 actually means decreased potential for success. Too high an IQ makes one so cerebral that success outside of math and science becomes difficult. EQ is a better predictor of potential than IQ.
Actualized.org What you described as good EQ seems to me what a kid who had good parents and growing enviroment would be like. See all these nerds who are not able to get their life together? They were lacking something in their nurture and they lack EQ development in adulthood. See all these managers and confident people who are good and the socializing and networking game and become high ranking employees? They all had good nurturing and therefore good EQ. Correct me if Im wrong but this is what I understood. Also l need you to define success. I defined it as if you can do whatever you like to do in your life sucessfully without having anything to do with the social status it gives you in society. I think you mean success in the "orthodox" way where you climb the ladder of society. Its the same thing. If you have high IQ (and high EQ) and your goal is the society ladder then you will do better than someone who has average IQ in that area. Difference is that high IQ has fixed ideas and interests that you cannot change with "normal" education and so there are less % high IQ people having this goal. In that sense yes high IQ becomes a hidrance. However my point is that you can have high IQ and high EQ. Its just that gifted children need a different enviroment that is not given to them and they are treated like average (and also punished that they are not acting like average). That for them means poor nurture and therefore low EQ growth.
Agaga Gagag Not quite so. You are taking introversion to mean low EQ. I have high EQ but I'm also introverted so I have no interest in making lots of friends or climbing a corporate ladder. I love nerdy, solitary activities. I had a healthy childhood and I can understand and read people's emotions very well. IQ can also be changed. IQ is a really poor metric, IMO. The way it's measured it tests a very specific kind of logical reasoning which of course you can train yourself to be better at.
Actualized.org No I didnt mean introverted I meant socially akward and unconfident. Its not the same thing. What you describe in your video as good EQ is the opposite of socially akward and unconfident. You can be introverted and still be able to meet the social demands of society that you need to have success within it. By nerd I meant the classic manchild that lives in his mother basment with no abilities to succeed. Maybe nerd wasnt the correct word. But you cant tell me this guy hasnt got low EQ. And these people are the results of poor nurture. As for IQ I never really searched if it is fixed so you might be right. But I never heard of anyone with average IQ reach "gifted" status. IQ measures your reasoning and critical thinking and your ability to think out-of-the-box. Thats the very definition of intelligence.
Agaga Gagag Socially awkward and unconfident doesn't mean the person can't be successful. Many of the best scientists and mathematicians are hardcore nerds. Take a look at someone like Isaac Newton, etc. Nerds have so much power in the 21st century. You can rule the world from behind a computer screen!! But, yes, of course EQ helps and is a great thing to work on. EQ is correlated with success.
Redditor If I would have low EQ why would I even care about bonds or real relationships when I can't control my self. I would eventually stop on caring of others and I have the brains to do stuff alone anyway, thanks to my IQ. So does relationships really matter?
@@ytuser29834 what makes you think you would want relationship? Do you for relationship with a fly? No, its not worth it. I dont understand why you think everybody needs someone.
people with high iq's like that and low eq usually end up as complete messes, think of the nerd who locks himself in a room to make a nuclear reactor and can't related to anyone and is out of this world socially awkward
My simplistic view on this:
IQ (and other ways of measuring intelligence) = Potential
EQ = Unlock the potential
Is EQ really more important than IQ? If you do not have the ability to understanding something then it does not matter how high your EQ is, you still don't understand it. Which means that you cannot perform particular jobs.
My complex view on this:
Neither IQ, nor EQ, nor any other single set of abilities / intelligence determine if you will be successful or not. It is up to you to develop yourself in the areas as needed during various phases in life.
i think if you're not below average IQ a high EQ come's always in handy
***** True.
But in the end, hard work is still required. :-)
***** Most people in life never unlock their potential. Therefore if IQ is potential and EQ is what allows you to unlock the potential then it makes sense that for most people today EQ is more important.
But if you have no IQ, you might not even grasp the concept of EQ...
Hence my view that IQ is more important.
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4) Positive Psychology - What Is It & How It Can Transform Your Life
What about the other inelligences according to Gardner's theory? Are they connected (and how) to EQ? Does EQ support the rest?
SUMMARY - Actualized - Emotional Intelligence - Why Your EQ Is More Important Than Your IQ
The number one key for success is EQ
smart people on a iq level are too much in the head to be able to have success
emotions create success and healthy relationships
eq is not being extraverted
---> eq tests online
---> book emotional intelligence 2.0
ability to recognize your emotion in yourself and in others and the ability to use this awareness to manage your behavior and your relationships
4 pillars of eq
1. ability of Understanding your own emotions, labeling them, recognizing them, having a broader range of emotions
2. ability to control your emotions, to discipline, manage them
3. ability to read emotions in other people, empathy, being able to understand what they are feeling, being able to relate to that, understanding their point of view, stepping in their shoes
4. ability to manage your relationships, how are you communicating, interacting within them?
the more eq you have, the better you do in life, the happier you are
what is eq?
anger management
accountability instead of blaming others
honesty and trust
assertiveness and confidence
communication
stress tolerance
decision making - being able to decide, pricrastinating
flexibility - ability to flow with life
presentation skills - ability to speak, motivate, inspire people
listening skills - can you really understand people, can you really empathize with them reflecting them?
It relates to your relationship, business, happiness
if you are frantic, sad, depressed, angry, guilty shows a lack of eq because you first dont notice them and you dont have tools to manage them which impacts your outer world
how do you develop eq?
eq is highly developable
techniques to master emotions: books, meditation, journaling
there are many practical techniques to use
emotions and self control are very important for satisfaction in life
Thanks Leo
Sebastian thank you for summarizing all of these videos
I must admit, that are decent notes. @narasimha
How do you develop survival skills? EQ'S don't have the advantage.
three years ago i watched one of your videos and it helped me to have the courage to change the course of my life. thank u.
This video helped me a lot, Leo.
I found I am slightly above average in emotional intelligence. Turns out this is what has been holding me back from my dreams:
I found all this default behaviour inside of me:
DEFAULT BEHAVIOUR->
Being suspicious of people
Feeling something-like 'being insulted’ when not replied to
Getting bogged down by hurtful words from parents
Getting irritated by people from the past should they try to bully me
Getting irritated by critical comments passed by people I have begun disliking
Feeling the need to rush with work, rush to work, rush with my endeavours so that I don’t stay ‘left-behind.’
Easily breaking down in grief
I am reactive to rejections
Hi Leo, emotional intelligence is a difficult topic to me. Since my adolescence my mind had became a caos due to my parents divorce and I could never deal with that. Even so, I have been trying to figure it out a way to 'heal' this bad feelings and somehow you are helping me!
Besides that, I'm not an English native speaker, but I can understand almost all that you say, I mean, you talk very clear, is music to my ears! Thank you!!!
guru Leo, your talks help me get out of bed in the morning, and give me something to think about for the rest of the day, thank you for your wisdom and effort!!
Hahaha :) You bet man.
@@ActualizedOrg Leo my brother what is up with boy lover logo symbol of Actualized.org ch. my friend
@@mariotrevino968 man now u got me wondering i never saw that logo before until i just looked it up been watching his videos from the first one on. ngl kinda sus
I am obsessed with this topic. Glad I found this channel! Subscribed.
No way me too. Do you wanna be my friend perhaps we could
Great video. I am writing a paper on EQ for a communication class and this video really helped me understand the concept.
1. I can identify my emotions and I am self aware (tick)
2. I'm average at controlling my emotions
3. I'm good at understanding other people's emotions (tick)
4. I'm bad at managing relationships - really bad
- No anger management problems
- I am accountable to myself but I do blame the world for some things
- I'm honest with myself, lie to other people
- I don't trust anyone!
- I am assertive
- I could work on my communication skills although I don't struggle with it (communication skills mediocre)
- I am frantic and stressed around work, calm when around people (not working)
- I am always judging myself and thinking negative thoughts
- It takes a long time for me to make a decision
- I procrastinate weirdly (I used to think I didn't have procrastination problems). Not directly (like I don't say, that's it I'm not working or I'll do it later) instead, I set up barriers to working. I go and eat lots of food so I don't have enough energy to work, I sleep late so the next day I feel too shit to work, I find some other distraction that I feel like needs my immediate attention (although it may not), I make myself depressed with some other irrelevant thing (oh I'm so fat or oh he doesn't like me).
- I have super bad presentation skills - really really bad.
- I'm a good listener & people think I'm a good listener
***** thanks :)
oh my, i identified with 99% of what you wrote!! it was weird cos it felt like i was reading myself. thank you contributor cos you held a mirror to myself but i must say i can see these conditionings fading as i expose them more and more to the light of truth and for that i give thanks first to the creator and creation that i am a part of and then secondly to my beloved Guru, sadhguru my love for showing me the way and being my guide. i love and adore you for that! i am now proud to include Leo and actualized. org. your spirit EQ and your IQ through lots of study and investment of both time and money you have reached out to selflessly share your findings with many and i am one of them for you have clarified many things that were obscure. thank you! Thank you! may your work continue to inspire many. mi also give thanks here to Mooji, my brother, Osho, my father in the sky! to Ekhart Tolle, my cousin for your humour and clear sightedness. To all of you i give thanks!
Wow all facts same for me
At first when you look at the video it looks like boring but when you listen to it. The guy in the video says things that are interesting. It's just that every time the video starts to play, it slightly shock me to the features of the guy talking.But In general, I appreciate what this man is doing. Keep up!
Great video. I do disagree with one thing you said "if you lack confidence then you are lacking in EQ" I know personally that after doing the NBI profile($300 profiling that professionals use) that I scored very high in being emotionally intelligent. However, I lack confidence. I scored highly in all 4 quadrants of the brain (scoring highly isn't necessarily a good thing, it just means this is how you process information). I have always been very unconfident but been able to manage my emotions with intuition as to how other people feel. I truly feel I am very emotionally intelligent. But it is not an easy brain to have. I feel the need to take responsibility for what other people are thinking about me.
Notice what happens in the moment the next time you feel unconfident or insecure. What you'll see is an emotional mess. Right? You can't be unemotional and insecure at the same time. Check it out.
I believe you can be unemotional and insecure at the same time. I am used to having low confidence and being insecure, and I don't see an emotional mess. What I see is that I am simply unconfident and insecure. It is a linear feeling that usually doesn't change. It doesn't change my outward emotions, or the way I act and I can usually redirect my thoughts. My go-to feeling is usually low confidence, but it certainly doesn't seem to me as ever being an emotional mess. I am intelligent enough to usually have an objective view of it. I am 25 yrs old, have a house, 2 reliable vehicles, and am a high level manager after working in this company for 2 and a half years. I achieved this with no help from my parents, and little to none post-secondary education. If the next time I felt unconfident and insecure (which is everyday) I saw an emotional mess I would not see the successes I have had so far in my life (not trying to have a big head about it just having an objective view of my life). Just my 2 cents.
fgtyhr Look deeper. Insecurity doesn't come from thin air. It's not magic. It is an emotion/thought. This takes more mindfulness to see.
Actualized.org he probably has medium emotional intelligence *hehe*
+fgtyhr Stating you have 2 reliable vehicles in a conversation about EQ is a big insight i fear. :)
Well Albert Einstein, Isaac Newton (me lol), Mozart had Asperger's syndrome, which is associated with emotional detachment and low EQ, but they were very successful, so i don't care about my EQ if i have genius level IQ
I'm not sure about Einstein and low EQ, he seemed very emotionally intelligent to me.
Isaac Newton einstein probably had emotions. Isaac and mozart are very rare cases and could maybe be atributed to luck. Meaning that their potential was used by luck, they are ofcource exeptionall and inteligent.
pleep 5th Not really. Regardless, I would rather live a painful and be remembered by history than live a normal one and be forgotten.
I made science discovery or invention (with High IQ) so why do I need EQ then?
Einstein's iq was not that high?was it
i did the test leo! and i got a 78 out 100, I'm quite happy with the result but theres a lot more to learn and improve…
btw i agree with dead4uman! the incredibly so deep understanding in your insights is refreshing to wonder about, you have completely restore my full interest in self development! i felt stuck for a while in this amazing way of living life´s potential.
Sweet! Go live big! :)
I don't know which EQ test you took, but on the one I took, a 78/100 would be considered low. I took the test from Emotional Intelligence 2.0 the book. It comes with an online survey code that you can use on their website. But your test might have used a different scale, so... then you might be alright.
I've learned to handle and control my anger really well. Before when I would get angry I would take it out on everyone around me but now I redirect the energy elsewhere
In which aspects of your life do you redirect your anger?
I'd love to know so i could help myself.
Good job! I`m learning and studying EQ, and I agree with you, EQ it`s more important that IQ.
Wonderful simplification of a topic that I would have shredded into a chaotic 2 hour redundancy filled talk. I find it interesting that basically you are describing here (during your treatment of empathy) more than empathy itself but what Tibetans call, Bodhichitta (awaking one's own emotions to the suffering of others as well as 'self'). Then you go an additional step and explain how possessing such emotional sensitivity is helpful in all aspects of life. I am impressed that this can be done, in English, so rapidly. Good job on a very practical, yet quite deep video.
YES so true i have found people with EQ strong are quite successful then IQ
i just realized from this video that i have very low EQ!
Very informative, after listening mine is really low and it has affected my career and my life. Feeling like I have self destructed too.
Well ... EQ is important because .... well emotions are information. Whenever you are trying to resolve a math problem and it doesn't work anything ... if you take a break , and get your emotions in check then ... something clicks , you get inspiration . Inspiration is what it sounds ... someone else in this universe is doing the thinking .... and you just get a piece of the information from nowhere . It sounds strange but ... really people who meditate in Asia get this fact very easily . When you rationalize ... you think with your head instead of getting information from somewhere else . Life is a game ... and someone does the thinking while others reap the rewards . It always was like this . We live in a Matrix where this stuff happens all the time . Like in the movie the Matrix . Why do I say emotions are information ? Well any sort of energy is information . When something changes like you move an object from A to B for example .... the information changes about that object ( the object is no longer in the same coordinates ) as well as it was done with kinetic energy . When you put a piece of paper in the fire, the paper burns generating heat, the information about that piece of paper also changes , it is no longer a piece of paper it is ashes . With time those ashes also oxidize ... and that is done with a very small amount of energy . The bigger the energy ... the bigger the information . The better you feel ... the more productive you can be . And it is also tied with your sexual impulses . Those who know this thing ... are more soft when talking, they are better listeners . Actually EQ and kindness are almost the same thing . I say almost because I am not 100 percent sure . But we do live in a matrix based on our sexual impuses .... and those who don't look at women as sexual objects are really winners of the game ... in many ways . A basic look at the game, how it works between people is the Karpman_drama_triangle . A third person always watches the conflict between two people . Do a search on that on google and you will see what I am talking about !!
There was also a book - enlightened garnder ... a very good book , who also says that information in your head comes with emotion . I'd have to say that everything that sourounds us is potential energy source and energy and information is the same thing !!
Sounds interesting I'm going to check out that book and Karpman drama triangle~~thanks!
This sounds fascinating!
Thanks for video.
Bloody awesome video mate, can really see the value in EQ more so after this video.
Hit the nail on the head of every one. My EQ is terrible I’ve only just realised after 36 years!!!
So much wisdom Leo.
Your videos cost millions of dollars.
See how you can translate all your videos,
In different languages, like Spanish.
EQ is also important because many people don't have much IQ but oooh, they are equal, in this modern society. Aka to handle Stupid.
I see what you did there ;)
Are you talking about #JesuiCharlie campaign?
All men are NOT created equal so we have to create an Intelligence test that they can feel good about ??
Oliver Phippen no, we have to create new test to make people feel better about their low intelligence.
Amazing and I wish people starts to deal with subject seriously and teaching it in schools
clarity of thought is the twin to awareness of the shadows.
My therapist said I had high eq and so far I see only the downsides because I feel every thing 1000×
Interesting strategy to warp EQ through the Big 5. My EQ is only around 120 (90th percentile) but my IQ is 30 points higher (99.9th percentile+). You failed to mention the most important part. Having a high EQ doesn't mean you're nice. It means you know exactly what you're doing when you choose not to be, and how. It doesn't mean you don't experience anger, it means you understand how your anger impacts your decision-making process well enough to nullify any influences it would have. When you are filled with rage and you use it to organize a movement built on propaganda to mobilize the masses against your enemies, then you probably have a high EQ and IQ.
I really feel like my EQ has always been very low. My life has been a real struggle. I had behavior problems throughout my adolescence. I'm 58 now.
Women are "Emotionally Intelligent".
Think of a man, and take away reason and accountability.
You can notice this in all these new CEOs.
There is no accountability, & they will hold your hand & cry with you about your shoes or puppies & environment.
& when everything goes to shit, cry harrastment & blame everyone else.
You can start doing it at any age.
Narcisists & Psychos have very high EQ.
That's why people like them.
Btw,
You are obviously have low EQ.
You should have blamed the Society or Toxic Masculinity...
It's what a High EQ person would do.
You could have brought some childhood trauma & abuse...
Blame the White Christian Patriarchy in Education & Society.
All that evil male Stoicism & their stupid Logic.
Just tell people that all you want in the world is love & care.
*Now, Go & Concur The World Tiger!*
I think IQ is just as important as EQ. Actually it depends on the nature of the job. Some jobs require high intellectual skills like scientists require high IQ and high EQ (persistence, collaboration, deep passion). It's easier to increase EQ than IQ. So it's good news for people with average IQ to succeed in life,by increasing their EQ. HIgh EQ people are likeable, which gives a solid foundation for influence ( leadership ). Basically high EQ people succeed by collaborating with others, motivating others, leverage their IQ with genie's IQ to accomplish a common goal.
+Maria Strela Natalia Sulaiman Dale Carnegie once said that 85% of your earnings come from your ability to deal with people (EQ i'd say) and 15% from your knowledge and creativity (IQ i'd say).
I dont believe the part about assertiveness and confidence being related to high eq. I've had encounters with a handful of full blows psychopaths and all were very assertive and confident 2 are in jail for life for murder, 1 raped my niece and 1 I caught having sex with her sons friend. My mom on the other hand is the sweetest thing anyone can ever encounter and comes from a family of extremely successful high achievers and has more eq then anyone ive ever encountered. She's also the least assertive person on this planet and lacks confidence at times
Yes, it's interesting that there are exceptions like this. One can certainly be confident yet callous or unaware or just a selfish asshole. Confidence and insecurity can also be developed situationally.
I like your e.g. Cody Williams... It seems to me that any action that leads to negative emotions later on a lot of the time reflects a lack of EQ because high EQ means you know what action is appropriate for your well being and others. Therefore a doctor sitting on a bus may not be afraid to stand up and help a man who has collapsed with chest pain. The doctor is highly assertive. On the other hand, a man who acts on a sexual impulse to do something that is against the law understands that physical pleasure makes him feel good for a few seconds or minutes, but doesn't realise that 1) there will be other consequences to his actions and 2) that these consequences will cause him prolonged negative emotions and unhappiness.
Hey Leo, I was wondering how I can raise my empathy level. In school they gave us a personality test and I have the rarest type of personality it is call "INTJ" and that told me basically that I lack empathy and I've been noticing that it is very hard to put myself in someone else's shoes.
Socialize more. Also put yourself through more suffering and challenge. You'll gain empathy real quick.
+Actualized.org what is your MBTI Leo?
you mean INFJ
Guys. improve your intelligence doesn't need to be hard (I used to think it did). I'm going to give you some advice now. Get a popular intelligence boost program called Rotogenflux Methods (do a search on google). Thanks to it I have increase your IQ of 20 points. I probably should not even be speaking about it cause I do not want lots of other guys out there running exactly the same game but whatever. I am just in a great mood today so I'll share the wealth lol.
He has said that he is INTP in some threads on actualized.org
I am glad TheFray started making these videos.
HahahahahHH
Could you please make a video explaining the quotation of great scientist Albert Einstein as follows,
"Knowledge is not a true sign of intelligence but imagination is"????
I like you, Leo, you tell me the truth... I suck at a lot of things but with your vids I can better fit myself to approach things/events...I like that... thank you...🖤
Your videos continue to inspire my energy beyond words. I am very grateful to create my new world through such a positive connection in life.
Leo I didn't found a more suitable video to ask you. I'm by far more sensitive than most men, and when I start feeling emotions I lose all my coldness and reason. For example: I met a woman, we had nothing in common, but with her I have had the most wonderful sex in my life, better than I ever imagined. Then I realized she is promised, but I'm already in love with her. Dont wanna forget her or what happened. I just want to stop suffering for falling in love so easily.
Dude, that's normal. If you have sex with the hottest girl in your life, of course you'll get butt-hurt if she ditches you. It's hard to burn that out of your system unless you've had sex with dozens of girls like her. That's really the only way to remove that. You need to create more options with girls.
hi Leo. i have a friend. she does really bad at emotional controlling. she knows very well what if she did as the way of being controlled by her anger or depression, but she still keeps on. she thinks it will make her satisfied and sometimes even happy, because she is making a revenge. if someone makes her unhappy, she will make him or her sad, even if she will be unhappy as well. i really want to help her. i am wondering why some people will do somethings even if they know it do harm to themselves.
You nailed it. Thank you for sharing. Subscribed.
so EQ determines your happiness in life, while IQ determines your societal value?
I think most emotions works negatively in a person that's why Sociopaths and Psychopaths make very strategic decisions because of there lack of emotions.. same with high EQ normal individual who evaluates and manages emotions before making decisions w/c then leads toward their success.. but no one really knows exactly.. i'm just saying..
We are studying to be Humans... What went Wrong?
Because to be human we must fit into a mold.
TOPMAN 1 Wow
No I ain't studying to be a human. Be fucking creative and free and fuck CEOs, bankers, politicians and all that shit that doesn't matter because to you it's you who is the most important. And also I don't give a fuck about what others think, which is a very important thing.
@Victor, Lind Olsen Because "human" is some bullshit though in your head, where in reality we are creatures designed for constant evolution, so studying ourselves, is part of that design.
Being Human is Human Nature so studying for it means you need an adjustment ?? Was it you parents /family / friends/ community / state / Politics / school ???
How can I raise my communicating and interacting skill level. Could you please give me some tips.
I have a high EQ but a low IQ but I fell pretty sad
A recent analysis by Adam Chudhurski (2013) shows that without time constraints , the correlation between fluid intelligence and working memory capacity are largely reduced, and performance on fluid tasks becomes dependent on long-term memory; retrieval fluency, associative memory, and relational learning. Because Europeans emphasize speed and linearity in thought , they score higher on Raven's tests , however, without time any practical time limit (inter-day measures) a small percentage of individuals would do very well, at least through certain periods in development, in rarer cases exceeding between 1 to 2 standard deviations above there timed scores. This phenomena has been noted by high IQ (technically, high IEQ) societies. Conventional IQ tests are very carefully designed to be biased against certain minority groups. Currently many theorists of dual processing emphasize the importance of perception and associative-heuristic processes. Even the those who tend to downplay the role of perception on intelligence, like Johnathan Evans , acknowledge it's relevance to inductive thinking (feature-based induction). What IQ proponents have long taken for granted , is essentially, pre-analytic processing that accounts for designing the 'novel set' - which is then analyzed for structure. Tests such as the Raven's which provide relations in A,B,C form, and demand a subject to uncover underlying structure, take for granted , that elements of the set, [A, B, C], have been PROVIDED to the individual, and NOT SELECTED by the individual. In the pre-analytic phase of thought , the associative-heuristic system utilizes low level inductive and statistical based processes, to select elements to form a unique set. For example, [A,B,C]. After the set is structured, analytical thinking becomes relevant in uncovering the structural relationship between the elements (in this case, 1, +1,+1, between A,B,C). There is less argument towards the claim, as IQ proponents make, that a solution to a problem is 'novel', when none of the elements to solve the problem have been selected by the individual. In fact, with IQ tasks, the entire set of elements are spoon-fed to the subject, and the only thing relevant is analysis. (As if the cure for cancer is all jumbled up in one sentence, just waiting for someone to look at). Real world-problem solving requires relating broader concepts in viable permutations, through selective and analytical (IQ) processing. Novelty relates to the 'rarity' of an solution, not any particular process which it may be a result of. And Intelligence is a largely dynamic, developmental quality, that can never be pinned down by any test, especially rigid measures that are conventionally used. Maybe one day, we can infer a person's limitations from elements of structure, but that day has not yet come. For now, achievements (accolades) are usually better indicators of intellectual functioning
That's why I've never taken an IQ test. It think it would severely under-rate my intelligence and I don't want that kind of negative evidence holding me back from being as intelligent as I know I am. My intelligence depends a lot of a very high-level intuition. It's difficult to explain to people how I arrive at certain conclusions, but the conclusions come out very accurate. I've never enjoyed math, or puzzles, or logic problems because they seem too unimaginative for my tastes. So much mental processing happens unconsciously.
Actualized.org A person who is good at meditating is ABLE to RECEIVE cosmic messages that add to the intuition capability ---- improved concentration and therefore memory skill don't harm that either!
Leo whats the clip on your finger?
Is there any recommended EQ tests online I can take?
+sean chapman (SeanMcChapman) Don't be too obsessed ot concerned about measuring it by artificially created tests - before all, become more aware of its overall importance instead, that's the best way to start actualizing its potential and raising it to higher levels.
Emotional intelligence is also known as EQ. EQ means emotional quotient. The speaker is stressing on the importance of EQ over IQ. EQ is very important than IQ because, after a lot of research in 30 years, it is concluded that EQ is the key for having success and improving performance in business and careers than IQ. Life is mixed with emotions to become successful person which needs emotional intelligence more than IQ. People will assume that EQ is about sociability ,extrovert and being people's person which is not correct. Emotional intelligence is about something that dovetails very nicely with introvert.Definition of emotional intelligence is ability to recognize and understand your emotions in yourself and in others and ability to use this awareness to manage your behaviour and your relationship. EQ has four pillars which are knowing your emotions, controlling your emotions, knowing the others emotion and maintaining good relation with others. First two pillars depend on anger management, honesty, trust, assertiveness, confidence, communication, decision making if your low in any of these that sign that your having low emotional intelligence and negative thinking include in it. The next thing is we link work topics to judge the emotional intelligence which includes presentation, to motivate, to influence and listening skills. If you are not performing well in these things, then you must be having low EQ. We can develop EQ more than IQ. But it is longer process as it may take several weeks or several months to develop any of weak pillars of EQ. Stress can be controlled by meditation. Coaching, reading books can be useful to study your emotions as there are many techniques which help to improve EQ pillars.
Hi it was great! I am just bit confused that is cognitive intelligent same meaning with IQ?
Thank you for your video! I love your passion for personal development. Keep it up!
Hi Leo,
What book do you recommend to develop EQ? I don't need to take a test at this point... This video was my test and I failed miserably in a few areas.
I appreciate it
Leo! you are fantastic. So much value here and in all of your videos.. I havent been this inspired to learn in years. I'm curious how you lay your thoughts out to package your message in the most effective way. Is that something you studied? framing/answering why something is relevant to us.. ect ect Is there a process you use? Any recommendations?
Umm He doesn’t strike me as having high EQ. He is SOOOO focused on 1) what is bad EQ 2) what a persons EQ score is (including his own good score).
Note the positives and inspire more and much earlier.
your videos are amazing, i just have one question.
what if you are always physically reminded of your past, but you want nothing more than to move on?
True dat! Actually I was not aware that one could change their EQ level! So that is good news!
Leo I was hoping for a longer video on this topic although I will check out the EI 2.0 book you recommended. Thanks for the video.
This is what Jordan Peterson, a psychologist, not lke you, says on the subject.
Answer by Jordan B Peterson, psychology professor at the University of Toronto, clinical psychologist, on Quora:
There is no such thing as EQ. Let me repeat that: "There is no such thing as EQ." The idea was popularized by a journalist, Daniel Goleman, not a psychologist. You can't just invent a trait. You have to define it and measure it and distinguish it from other traits and use it to predict the important ways that people vary.
EQ is not a psychometrically valid concept. Insofar as it is anything (which it isn't) it's the Big Five trait agreeableness, although this depends, as it shouldn't, on which EQ measure is being used (they should all measure the same thing ). Agreeable people are compassionate and polite, but they can also be pushovers. Disagreeable people, on average (if they aren't too disagreeable) make better managers, because they are straightforward, don't avoid conflict and cannot be easily manipulated.
It should also be noted that IQ is five or more times as powerful a predictor as even good personality trait predictors such as conscientiousness. The true relationship between grades, for example, and IQ might be as high as r = .50 or even .60 (accounting for 25-36% of the variance in grades). Conscientiousness, however, probably tops out at around r = .30, and is more typically reported as r = .25 (say, 5 to 9% of the variance in grades). There is nothing that will provide you with a bigger advantage in life than a high IQ. Nothing. To repeat it: NOTHING.
So yeaah... You don't know what you are talking about. It's sad how you profit with the ignorance of people.
EQ < IQ in my career: engineering. So it's definitely dependent on your career field. -SV
I'm in I.t....but I work with a loooot of women. Both are important.
ronald t. fowler jr. Did you have to emphasize « loooot » and « women » is that supposed to tell us something Ronald Fowler Jr?
On average, most "high IQ" ppl aren't THAT much smarter that it makes a real difference. They still need to work with "normal" ppl (even low IQ ones) to be "successful". Therefore they depend on the GROUP IQ, which they benefit from interaction with them. Otherwise they will be replaced by a similar IQ person.
If you truly have really high IQ, e.g. Nicola Tesla, Isaac Newton, etc., you can become one of the most successful and influential people in history, even as those mentioned never married, and are know to have very little if any social relations...apart from business, like investors and such. ;)
My career in Engineering it was NOT necessary as it was right or wrong not oh that nice but I can't use that ??Sorry but EQ is created to allow those with low IQ another chance at not being called STUPID ??
Well, you can be "stupid" at various academic subjects (particularly difficult ones like math/science) and still be "successful" via being good with people. Think scam artists. ;) In a more normal circumstance, most organized productivity has jobs for various types of ppl. You can train some of the ppl with bad grades and such to do specific jobs really well as a TEAM, where deep profound knowledge is not required. At the same time, you can put an anti-social stuck up nerd in the basement and keep all the computers running where ppl hate him but still need him. lol
that's the wrongest video of actualised.com i've seen yet. firste of all there is no such a thing called "emotional intelligent", there's no empirical studies or a test or any other way to measure a thing of a bunch of things that can allow us to call them emotional intelligence, like we've done with intelligence, the best name for it is emotional skills or talents, and that's what goleman did, he took a bunch of important emotional skills, like the ability to read others emotions etc.. and concluded that they should be called emotional intelligence!! secondly, there's actually many researches on the differences that EQ makes in jobs, they use a statistal technic called meta-analysis. and the results (schmidt and hunter 1998) were: 7% in jobs that require personal contact (like saling etc), and 0% in jobs that need no "emotional skills"
damm dude I though I wouldnt find this comment and it was driving me insane. Thank you for a good explanation. You really put the nail in the coffin here. (DAmm I do be very late on this comment tho).
I love your explanations man!
Great explanation of EQ v IQ
so nice information.
but if you write on the bored it's will be more easy for our understanding plz
Awesome Leo! thanks.
Great videos by the way !!
yes, success is about relationships and manage emotions (hapiness) - steve jobs doesn't even have a college degree.
I wanna know how to label my feelings. I wanna know *what* I feel.
Is there any video of you saying how i do that?
Hiiii & thank you very much for the video i love it :))))) , i have a question which is " How can i change my feelings from negative to positive? & do feelings change eternally? Or do they come back? Loads of Love :))))))
Here is how:
How To Master Your Emotions - A Radical New Paradigm To Live By
Actualized.org Thank you very much
Emotions = Energy in motion
Life changing advice 🙏
Leo! I loved this video clip!
Hey leo, nice video. I m pretty good at the most of the examples you gane at 9-11 min of the video. I considered generally myself as having pretty good EQ, perhaps I m wrong. But what I know for sure is that I really such at taking desicions. Seriously it takes me as lot of time and thinking to decide between things. Any advice about that? Thank you
I will do a video on decision-making in the future for sure.
"Are you stressed? Are you always thinking of negative thoughts?"
Who doesn't lol!
can I use your video in a documentary we are making ?
life changing vidz bro, bless up
this really hit home
Hi Leo
first of all thanks for all the great videos on different but related topics :P
can u help me with understanding what emotions are in first place and how they differ from feeling
wish u all the best
x… new year
How can I get tested for EQ
You can be successful with a low EQ but you will never be fulfilled.
Tell this to Steve Jobs
@@TheRaven363 Steve jobs had friends and he had a best friend in his young years
"IQ hasn't been found to be a good predictor of success in life or in business. In fact higher IQ tends to be counter-intuitive to achieving such success. A better predictor of success is Emotional Intelligence or EQ (one's emotional quotient)."
Can you give references to those studies? For both sentences.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO
You said they have done studies and research. Who exactly is they?
Emotional Intelligence is a well researched topic in positive psychology. Check out Daniel Goleman. He is the granddaddy of EQ.
Thank very much for the information and the quick response.
hello man stalking your vedios all the time specialy these one it's possible that i might have some of these facts asured but not all off them ? (EQ) it'ss like i have relly good speaking skills social too i can easely make good relations with other making friends i feel confident almost all the time rarely question my self, 90% of the time i am feeling good and positive about my self, i have a lot of emotional awereness i controll hanger really good, but sometimes a, assume some values and i relly belive them even if sometime emotionatly awere that they are not the same for everybody, i just stik to them without allmost questoning almost like a placebo that i puted in my self willingly , i do everything i am motivated to but, sometimes i am motivated for everything besides work hahaha... thatnk for listening to me Alexandre Leal from portugal ;-)
you are the man what's your name actualy?
Ps: maybe i have a good EQ but since the IQ it's not that big forget me for ortografical errors hahah
Great informative video
For a dumb dumb like me you explain things so well!! :)
well done leo ;)
great,top , thank you leo .
But this does not answer the question of "why eq is more important than iq"
More like: "this is why *for me* eq is more important than iq"
I'm not going to lie I clicked on the video because of the creepy ass thumbnail 😂
Amazing Leo
You talk about knowledge others gathered, and you offered zero solutions to help people. I feel sorry for the people who wasted their time watching this.
Roger Smith i feel it did offer solutions, if you dont have the qualities stated in the video, you should realize it and work at it.
Lol complaining about your emotions on a video about emotional stability. Gtfo lol
Books names?
This is all making the assumption you want to be "successful". Some people just care about truth and reality. They aren't here to be fake for their own financial benefit by changing what they feel to please others. Maybe it comes naturally for some, but for many you are asking people to basically be liars and that having intelligence isn't important...but in the world of science, it actually is very important to be able to have proper critical thinking skills, etc. Certain areas require IQ to succeed. Some might require EQ.
What is yoir name? Cant find it
superb video
High IQ is inherent potential. EQ are skills you can develop.
EQ develops through good nurture or training. IQ is the quality of your nature and is fixed.
High IQ (being gifted) as a kid means you have different needs than other kids. When you dont meet these needs then you dont develop high EQ.
So people with high IQ doesnt mean they are not as talented at EQ they just develop it differently than average IQ.
But our society doesnt meet their needs and focuses on quantity rather than quality. That means it treats every child as if they are average. Its like being a salted water fish and being treated like sweet water fish.
Thats why people with high IQ as you mention do not usually have high EQ. Their nurture is suited for average IQ children and so their EQ is not developed when they reach adulthood. Likewise average IQ people has better EQ when reaching adulthood cause their nurture was suited for their needs.
Managers and high ranking employees (which is what is translated as success in society) are average IQ, High EQ. But world leaders, top sucessfull bussinessmen, master craftsmen and artists, revolutionary inventors, important scientists etc. Are all high EQ, High IQ.
So IQ is how big is your potential and EQ is your tool to reach the maximum of that potential. So no its not one is more important vs the other, its both are important depending on your ambition.
No, IQ is also developed and it has nothing to do with potential outside of the logical type of reasoning that IQ tests. IQ above 140 actually means decreased potential for success. Too high an IQ makes one so cerebral that success outside of math and science becomes difficult. EQ is a better predictor of potential than IQ.
Actualized.org What you described as good EQ seems to me what a kid who had good parents and growing enviroment would be like.
See all these nerds who are not able to get their life together? They were lacking something in their nurture and they lack EQ development in adulthood.
See all these managers and confident people who are good and the socializing and networking game and become high ranking employees? They all had good nurturing and therefore good EQ. Correct me if Im wrong but this is what I understood.
Also l need you to define success. I defined it as if you can do whatever you like to do in your life sucessfully without having anything to do with the social status it gives you in society. I think you mean success in the "orthodox" way where you climb the ladder of society.
Its the same thing. If you have high IQ (and high EQ) and your goal is the society ladder then you will do better than someone who has average IQ in that area.
Difference is that high IQ has fixed ideas and interests that you cannot change with "normal" education and so there are less % high IQ people having this goal. In that sense yes high IQ becomes a hidrance.
However my point is that you can have high IQ and high EQ. Its just that gifted children need a different enviroment that is not given to them and they are treated like average (and also punished that they are not acting like average). That for them means poor nurture and therefore low EQ growth.
Agaga Gagag Not quite so. You are taking introversion to mean low EQ. I have high EQ but I'm also introverted so I have no interest in making lots of friends or climbing a corporate ladder. I love nerdy, solitary activities. I had a healthy childhood and I can understand and read people's emotions very well.
IQ can also be changed. IQ is a really poor metric, IMO. The way it's measured it tests a very specific kind of logical reasoning which of course you can train yourself to be better at.
Actualized.org No I didnt mean introverted I meant socially akward and unconfident. Its not the same thing. What you describe in your video as good EQ is the opposite of socially akward and unconfident. You can be introverted and still be able to meet the social demands of society that you need to have success within it.
By nerd I meant the classic manchild that lives in his mother basment with no abilities to succeed. Maybe nerd wasnt the correct word. But you cant tell me this guy hasnt got low EQ. And these people are the results of poor nurture.
As for IQ I never really searched if it is fixed so you might be right. But I never heard of anyone with average IQ reach "gifted" status. IQ measures your reasoning and critical thinking and your ability to think out-of-the-box. Thats the very definition of intelligence.
Agaga Gagag Socially awkward and unconfident doesn't mean the person can't be successful. Many of the best scientists and mathematicians are hardcore nerds. Take a look at someone like Isaac Newton, etc. Nerds have so much power in the 21st century. You can rule the world from behind a computer screen!!
But, yes, of course EQ helps and is a great thing to work on. EQ is correlated with success.
If my IQ would be 190 I would not even care what my EQ is.
sorry
Redditor If I would have low EQ why would I even care about bonds or real relationships when I can't control my self.
I would eventually stop on caring of others and I have the brains to do stuff alone anyway, thanks to my IQ.
So does relationships really matter?
Tuuurtle not if you educate yourself. ;) but yes if you don’t educate and learn about your emotions.. don’t care don’t try yess youlll be :(
@@ytuser29834 what makes you think you would want relationship? Do you for relationship with a fly? No, its not worth it. I dont understand why you think everybody needs someone.
@@ytuser29834 what about keep working and making world better regardless of whether everyone else understands
people with high iq's like that and low eq usually end up as complete messes, think of the nerd who locks himself in a room to make a nuclear reactor and can't related to anyone and is out of this world socially awkward
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